A Publication of The International Women’s Leadership Association
Goalsissue Letter from the Editor
Dear IWM Readers
Welcome to our “goals” issue. We are half way through the year, and the big question is… have you met some of the goals that you set out at the beginning of the year? If yes, that is awesome, but if not, the question now is why? What has been your experience so far since you set your goals? Is it easy for you to stick to them? Did you underestimate how much time you need? Or maybe the goal was not clearly defined, hence making it difficult for you to measure it now.
Anything regarding goals is tough, especially when you set it yourself and you have to accountable to yourself. Hence this IWM issue, which I believe will help you achieve those goals or set new ones that are even more challenging. This issue is packed with content that will support you and encourage you to be better at setting your goals and, even more so, at ensuring you achieve each goal you set out for yourself.
I wish you all the best - there is no harm in revisiting your goals and in making changes if need be. That is how we grow and develop, so keep your head high.
Best wishes
Let’s connect: GOals July/August 2014 contents
Georgina Waterhouse A Goal is a Dream with a Deadline 20 Suzana Petrozzi 5 Steps to Heart-Centered Goal Setting 22
Caroline De Kimpe Failing to Plan is Planning to Fail 25
Becky Paroz Goal Setting Made Easy 27
Chrissy B The Secret to Sticking to Your Goals 29
Elcho Stewart Goal Setting and Finances, Step-by- Tamera Swan Mason 10 Step 31
02 Letter from the Editor 04 Letter from the Managing Editor 06 TheIWLA New Member List 09 Editors 10 I Am TheIWLA
3 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 Letter from the Managing Editor
Dear IWM Readers,
I love this theme! I love this theme because I love setting goals. I was raised in a large household where, “What’s on your agenda for the day?” was as reliable a question as the sun rising in the east! We were encouraged to have daily goals.
Most of us have daily ‘rituals’: we rise at the same time, go through our morning routine on auto-pilot, walk out the door within a ten minute range, head-off in the same direction…and before we know it we are hitting the pillow at, or about, the same time each night. Rituals; they keep us honest, they keep us moving, they help us get the day-to-day demands crossed-off the list of things-to-do.
RITUALS! They are good, they are necessary, they are meaningful; but they are not goals! A life spent in rituals may be considered efficient by some, but I dare say such a life may have been lived with goals nev- er fulfilled, possibly never even defined or declared. WE MUST HAVE GOALS: we should not deny ourselves the splendor of them, nor should we allow others to steal them away.
As a write, the 2014 World Cup Soccer Tournament has reached the ‘win or go home’ stage. Most games have been won by the team having scored but one goal, or just one goal more than the opponent. ‘Goals’, in this application, define the very purpose of playing the game! ‘Scor- ing a goal’ is the indication of accomplishment, fulfillment, even the title of Champion. Goals, in all applications , are benchmarks of prog- ress - and they matter.
I ask you, here and now, what is your goal? Yes, you may have to think about it and it may be hard to put into words, but, can you see it, can you sense it, is it real to you in every way? Do you see it as possible? Have you written it down, do you have a plan, have you attached a timeline to it? Goals, though yet to be reached must be perceived as real and in real time. They must be viewed in your mind’s eye in living color and it is OK for them to be somewhat fluid in that as you move closer and closer toward them, they may need to be redefined – it’s OK to write them in pencil!
Goals can be personal; you don’t need permission to have them.
Think of your goal as your plan, your map. Your goal is what keeps you moving in the right direction. Your goal can be the North Star to your destiny, your vision. In the end, it will be having reached that goal, those goals, that will give you the courage to create new ones and to keep moving forward. Eventually, they may be your legacy.
Every journey begins with the desire to make the journey, followed by taking the first step, then another and another: declare your goal and write the plan. Between all the rituals of each day, remember that goal, close your eyes and see it and continue to take one step at a time to- ward it. Above all, be true to yourself and do it for you. But, if you think your goal is only meaningful to you and will never change the world, think again, dear Sister, for what any woman does, for what every woman does, cannot help but change the lives of many.
On behalf of all of us at TheIWLA, whose goal it is to encourage you to have goals, to empower you to achieve them, and to enhance the lives of others because of them,
My kindest regards, as always,
Beth Johnston Executive Director TheIWLA would like to welcome: Kellie Aamodt Jennifer Benson Leslie Cedillo Jurena Davis Roni Aborn Tina Berglund Sue Chaffee Anita Davis-Defoe Lysa Adams Lisa Berrios-Moore Debbie Champion Marge Dawson Mae Adams Constance Bessette Jacqueline Chan Wendy Dean Debbie Adlof Danielle Biggs Sabrina Chandler Lisa Deavitt Madelon Albert Judith Billings Joanne Charette Colleen Delcamp Florrie Allen Andrea Black Mahshid Chartabian Lori DeMercurio Linda Almaraz Rae Boganey Amy Chavarria Sandee Denmark Maria Almonte Carolyn Bondy Cheryldene Chavis Cathey Deweese Rita Amachree Shaletta Borders Han Cherubini Clarice Doctor Diane Anderson Lindsay Brewer Theresa Chiarelli Dawn Dolan June Anderson LaTonya Bright Liz Childs Laura Drager Linda Anderson-Elliott Jodie Broadbent Robinet Christian Kathi Duffy Lisa Andria Heidi Brock Christina Christopher Nique’la Durham Gisella Angarita Jeanette Brookes Lind Chu-Mei Annette Dyas Laurel Archer Veronica Brooks Karen Church Tracey Eginton Saakshi Arora Annie Brown Laurie Clark Kathy Eickelman Deborah Arsenault Mary Brown Rose Clark Kelly Elkins Cheryl Arts Patricia Brown Tammie Clark Alicia Elliott Angela Avery Patricia Brown-Daniels Cheryl Clarke Julia Ellsworth Graciela Avila-Robinson Stacie Buchanan Beverly Clayton Debra Emmanuelle Tina Babcock Deborah Burke Charity Cochran-Murphy Lora Epperly Linda Backes Barbara Burton Theresa Cole Stephanie Ethe Brooke Bailey Susan Calderon Nancy Colyar Jennifer Fagbemi Susan Bakalar Sylvia Calderon-Lopez Shana Compton Vicki Falco Beatriz Baldan Rahmanda Campbell Sue Compton Mary Faris Tamilyn Banno Terri Campbell Monique Connor Patricia Faulkner Shelia Barbour Rena Canady-Laster Carole Cook Joan Fernandez Vaness Barlow Merle Cann Glenda Cooper Sherry Ferrier Carolyn Barnes Paula Cannon Sasha Cormier Beverly Flanagan Kathy Barnett Rudiana Carcani Judith Costa Wendy Flatt Anne Barr Theresa Carmenatti Vivian Covington Emma Fletcher Dorothy Barr Gina Carrillo Lisa Crane Nora Flores Susmita Barua Gia Carrozzi Kimberly Croft Jacquelyn Floyd Buffi BeCraft Julie Carson Angela Crovador Mary Forbes Vickie Beigel Hilarie Cash Diane Daniels Ruth Forbes Thelma Bell Jennifer Catalano Phyllis Darden-Caldwell Natalie Forest Frances Bellot Kathy Catarious Rosanna Davila Carole Franques
6 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 Janine Frazzini Amy Hanna-Eckenrode Kati Kemeny Kathleen Carter Martinez Micheline Freij Amy Hardy Ingrid Kepler-May Kathleen Martino Gwendolyn French Cynthia Harris Doreen Kerby Patricia Masuda-Story Michelle French Sarah Harrison Manju Khare-Nigam Tabitha Mathis Theresa Froehlich Charlyn Hasson-Brown Amanda King Erica McCain Amy Frost Marilyn Hays Sharon King Sue McCalley Dorothy Galloway Judy Henderson Debbe Kinsey Karen McCarthy Lilliam Gandara Ronda Henning Katherine Kitts Marie McCormick Shana Garrett Bobbi Hershberger Sharon Kleyne Donna McDonald Karen Garvin Kellie Hill Karyla Klimkiewicz Teresa McElhany Karen Gay Rachelle Hill Laura Kryger Karen McGhee Melinda Gay Roni Hochman Karenna Lakshmi Teria McGhee Debra George Lynette Holdsworth Erika Landau Terri McIntee Karrie Gibson Pamela Hooper Shea Larson Valerie McKinney Kathy Gibson Yvonne Houston Verleiz Lattimore Rhonda McLain Shirley Gilbert Michelle Hunt Thelma Lay Dianne McNair Ann Gilfillan Donna Hutcheson Maureen Leary-Jago Ashley McWilliams Brenda Gill Cessaly Hutchinson Jennifer Lee Rhonda Mellow Kathryn Gillette Emily Iker A. Michelle Legg Kathleen Menchey Michelle Gilman Anita Iskenderian Stacey Lemire Gladys Mezrahi Linda Golden Yvonne Jackson Nicole Levine Ambreen Milak Rita Gramann Linda Jacobson Cassie Levy Paulette Milliner Cathy Graves Dee James Margarita Levy Gloria Minney Sherry Green Melissa Janssens Evelyn Lewis Lori Minnis Sandra Greenblatt Carmen Jelly Susan Li Nancy Moniodes Sue Greene Catherine Jodar Gaby Lockhart Brenda Moore Kathleen Gresser Lorna Jones Kathleen Loth Joanna Moore Doreen Griffith Nancy Jones Donna Lotts Valerie Moore Kate Grohgan Susan Jones Francesca Lulgjuraj Renee’ Morgan Songeeta Guha Rachel Joyce Kimberly Lundy-Wilkinson Kizzy Morris Farzanna Haffizulla Kimberly Juda Elaine Mahler Irene Moser Deanna Hallman Debra Justin Nancy Maisonave Deborah Muehleisen Maha Hamad Terri Kamali Anna Manayan Janet Mueller Linda Hamilton Martha Karetny Kathryn Manchester Sharon Mulkey Cozetta Hammock-West Judith Katcher Maria Marcus Soledad Murillo Katherine Hammond Arvinder Kaul Mary Marrone-Polo Donna Nack Nadine Hanchar Martha Keller Bea Martin Anita Naves Adrienne Handley Mary Kelly Yvonne Martin Susan Nelson
7 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 Carolyn Neufeld Karen Qamar Julie Seering Jewel Thompson Melissa Nielsen-Thomas Suzette Rahn Jacqui Senn Doris Thurston Norma Nieto Celina Raimundo-Egeberg Christina Seo Lori Tippets Amaka Nwankwo-Igomu Celina Raimundo-Egeberg Jean Shackelford Donna Trainor Barbara O’Hare-Walker Elizabeth Rakis Swapnil Sharma Caroloretta Tucker Marcela Olivar Leonor Ramiscal Juanita Shell-Peterson Meg Turner Lillian Orlich Ashlie Randolph Beth Shepard Jessica Vaughan Maria Ortiz Vernetta Rascoe Lisa Sherman Robin Viggiano Maria Ortiz Darlene Real-Higginbotham Kathleen Shimmield Christine Walker Velma Osborne Pamala Reiter Joanne Show Ernestine Walkes Jana Ostrom Agnes Reyes Jan Sikes Cassandra Wall Susan Overbo Ronda Rhoden Jordan Silver Randi Ward Angela Owen Bev Richardson Annie Simon Veda Ward Peggy Pacella Tina Riffle Sheri Smith Judy Warren Diane Parsons Gail Riggs Valerie Spata Janet Watson Kristine Passalacqua Joyce Ringwelski Linda Stalters Elena Watt Kamini Patel Sandra Rivera Dawn Stebbing Rachel Weiss Aricka Peavy Juanita Roberts Jennifer Steffek Kimberly Welborn Lisa Peay Jessica Robinson Diane Stenerson Felicia Wheeler Mickie Pederson E. Joyce Roland Mindy Stern Terry White Cheryl Peltekis Shari Roll Tamara Stesney Carla Wiese Donna Perkins Joyce Romanoff Rowena Stevens Robin Wiley Marilyn Peterson Barbara Rospond Kathy Stevers Trinita Williams Lili Petricevic Jenell Ross Darlene Stewart Deborah Willis Suzi Petrozzi Eliza Royal Francie Stoner Beckie Wilson Zarhonda Phillips Diane Salava Anne Stout Dana Wilson Amy Picard Dena Salter Julie Straw Kristy Winder Traci Pinkney Susan Saltzman Lorri Streiff Emma Wisdom Karla Pippins Deborah Sanchez Yvonne Sum Angel Wood Dinah Pistole-Bivens Diane Sayek Lydia Swan Chevonne Woodard Debbie Pokornik Nancy Schaefer Anne Swartzlander Joann Woodruff Diane Pomerance Janine Schindler Melissa Swinson Maria Young Anita Pope Melinda Schoen Lanona Sykes-LeMaster Laurie Zakresky Jennifer Powell Anne Schulz Megan Templeman Saida Zardi Niru Prasad Amy Schumacher Renee Thalrose Shirley Pratt Colleen Scott Deborah Thomas Michelle Prinzing Eileen Scott Carol Thompson
8 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 Meet the Editors
Lisa Mundembe-Chuma Editor-in-Chief
Lisa was born in Zimbabwe where she spent her childhood until moving to the UK when she was 16. She currently re- sides in Switzerland. The young founder of The Women’s Expo Switzerland and Inspirational Woman Magazine, she is keen to make a positive impact in the world by providing a platform that allows women entrepreneurs to showcase their businesses, discover opportunities for collaboration and build support systems with each other. Her goal is to play an active role in helping female-owned businesses thrive as well as to see businesswomen taking the role of mentor to girls around the world.
Lisa is passionate about being a positive influence and mak- ing a lasting impact on women’s lives. She has made it her responsibility to create an opportunity for women to be suc- cessful in business by supporting each other, standing togeth- er and encouraging them to complete each other while their own individual businesses succeed. www.womenexpo.ch
Laura Messenger layout editor and proofreader
A writer and researcher originally from the US, Laura has lived in Geneva, Switzerland since 2001 and splits her time between Geneva and the mountains of France’s Haute Savoie. In ad- dition to her work with Inspirational Woman, she has written on aspects of life abroad for JetSettlers and Hello Switzerland magazines. Her interests include travel and dance. Find Laura on Twitter @lauratheexpat and LinkedIn.
9 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 I AM TheIWLA
I AM Tamera Swan Mason 10 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 Planning and Realizing Your Goals
Hello, I am Tamera Swan Mason. It gives me great lofty. A goal can be something you want to have, pleasure to share with you my article on planning something you want to be, or something you and realizing your goals. It is our goals through- want to accomplish in your life. out life that keep us going, growing, reaching and striving; always for something better. As a But as life would have it, many events occur in our mother of three and grandmother of five, I have lives that somehow alter or impede us from ob- seen the various ways in which each one of my taining our goal. Eventually we have a tendency children and grandchildren have achieved their to feel silly and ridiculous and feel that this goal goals. As an author my articles have allowed me cannot be accomplished. After a certain age, the to realize my goal of writing and self-expression. excitement seems to vanish, and the adrenalin is There’s nothing greater than seeing your work no longer flowing. The exhilaration you once felt in print. Several years ago, my entrepreneurial is gone, and you look at this goal as pure folly. spirit really peaked, and I started my personal However, you continue to dream - only now the care products company called White Swan, sell- dreams are pictures of what could have been, ing Wild Rose Products. and as a result, you find yourself making all kinds of excuses as to why you did not go forward. Many individuals have found that setting goals is purely a waste of time. These individuals are When I was a little girl, my mother enrolled me in not interested in improving their lot or working piano lessons. I really wish I had continued with towards any sort of real sat- my lessons. My mother was isfaction in their lives. They very diligent in taking me to trod along, living their lives “Don’t make the mistake those lessons and paying the same way, day in, day for them. We did not have a out, constantly complain- that too many of us make lot of money, but she always ing that life never changes. and give up. That’s the found the money to pay for If you are one of these poor those lessons. But at some souls who feel that the life easy way out.” point, for whatever reason, I you live is really not what stopped going. Now, when you want, what are you doing about it? Life will I see someone playing the piano or hear a good only change if individuals are willing to make piano concerto, I wish I had stuck with those les- changes. sons. Don’t make the mistake that too many of us make and give up. That’s the easy way out. On the other hand, there are conscientious indi- In retrospect, I wish I had continued with those viduals who have definite ideas about what they lessons and could really play the piano. Many in- want in their life, and they have set goals that dividuals have regretted taking this course of ac- they wish to achieve. Are you one of these indi- tion. Well, it doesn’t have to be that way. I could viduals? still learn to play the piano.
Everyone has a goal or a set of goals about some- I used to teach a course in personal develop- thing they would like to accomplish, whether it ment. As part of the course, I always asked my is outlandish and unattainable or realistic and students several questions when approaching
11 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 the subject of goal has been hoping for setting. I would ask and provides them them to close their with another chance eyes and envision to look at their goal their goal. Then I again. This is an ex- would ask them to cellent exercise to tell me what they use when planning saw. What did you your goal. see? Was the pic- ture very clear in When you set your your mind? Was it in sights on a specific color or in black and endeavor and re- white? Where did search all the pros it take place? Were and cons of mov- there other people ing ahead, you will in your vision? Who realize how impor- were these people, tant this project is to what were they like? you and what a dif- Describe them in ference it will make detail. Does your in your life. In the goal contain fame beginning you may and fortune? Was it feel stressed, afraid, simply a new home and totally incom- or a new job, a busi- petent about taking ness of your own, or on this new adven- a relaxing hobby? ture. However, those How did it make you who stick with it and feel? Have you seen this vision before? What give it their best will eventually be very satisfied challenges do you have to face to make this goal with the outcome. They will have realized their a reality? Are you willing to face these challeng- goal. es? Would it require any additional education or training? Would you have the support of fam- There are basic tenets that you must exhibit to ily and friends? How long would it take to real- make your goal a reality. First, you have to be to- ize this goal? Have you researched how much it tally in love with this idea. You have to see your- would cost? How would you finance it? Can you self totally immersed in the project. You have to see all these things clearly? Can you answer all feel what it would be like. A good actress must these questions? Where would you have to go first feel the part and become the person in the and what would you have to do to get the an- play to be able to be excellent in the role. Do you swers? With all these questions in mind, are you see yourself totally involved or just somewhat in- afraid to move forward? Do you feel it is just not volved? How did this vision make you feel? No- possible? If not, what is stopping you? I usually tice how the actress displays self-confidence as get a whole host of excuses that usually can be she steps out of the limousine. She is aware of worked out and overcome. However, as the ex- the fans that are cheering her on. Notice how ercise continues and the vision becomes clear- she waves at them, often throwing kisses. One er, it shows the individual just what he or she cannot help but admire her. While everyone will
12 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 not achieve this level of exposure, you can enjoy the same recognition by family and friends for your accomplishment, and the inner feeling that you receive will be no less than the great star. This accomplishment doesn’t have to be earth shattering; it could be something small that you have always wanted to do, to be, or to have. As you make your plans to accomplish your goal, be specific and map out every detail, no matter how small. Make a realistic plan, something you can work with and stick to at the present time. You may wish to divide your plans into separate steps. Items that can be accomplished right now Tamera speaking about her artiicle, Mirror, MIrror Look Inside, are called short-term plans. Long-term plans are published in Beyond the Body! Developing Inner Beauty. things such as the completion of education and training or acquisition of necessary finances. allow yourself to be sidetracked by your alter- The long-term items may put your plans on hold native plan and not reach your original goal. In for a while. establishing your plans, be persistent in de- veloping exactly what you want. Keep this vi- What are the problems you will face? How will sion of your goal foremost in your mind and be you handle them? Will you simply decide they focused. Everything you do should be in line are insurmountable and quit? The individuals with your goal. who make it in life are those who are not afraid Businesses always stress that one must put a to work through whatever life throws their way. timetable on completing a project or accom- There will always be challenges, and you must plishing a goal. This may be good for the normal learn to work through them. As you develop employee working a 9-to-5 shift. However, the your plans, always have an alternative plan average woman often finds with so much going ready to put in place when things don’t go on in her personal life - husband, children, job exactly as you had envisioned. An alternative and possibly aging parent - that this timetable plan is always a good idea; however, do not often may become a deterrent. This timetable often may pose a stumbling block and may even keep you from continuing with your plan. You must be determined to make it happen.
Another very important factor is that you have the support of family and friends. Many a goal has been lost, stamped out, or forgotten be- cause of the lack of support from loved ones. I have a friend who always wanted to skydive. At 75 years old she got her wish. She jumped out of an airplane. Her children and grandchildren were horrified. However, she was persistent and determined and followed through with her plan. Tamera at a signing for her book: Beyond the Body! Developing It took her years to finally realize it, but she did it. Inner Beauty
13 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 When the decision has been made and the mold has been cast, there is an old friend called money that may stand in your way. Do not allow the lack of finances to change your mind. When you are sincere and are following your God given talent, money will somehow always find you. Inves- tigate in the very beginning what this project is going to cost. Put a price tag on every little detail, and always add a little extra to handle those unforeseen expenses that al- ways seem to crop up unexpectedly. When I was teaching business subjects at a local college, I would tell my stu- dents to count every paper clip, because no matter how small they are, they still cost.
Throughout the years I have made a practice of setting aside one hour a day to do something that will move me closer to accomplishing my goal, even if it is only making one telephone call. This means I am not taking time away from my family and professional responsibilities. But my focus on my goal remains alive, and no matter how little was accomplished each day, I was still following through on what needed to be done.
Persistence, determination, focus, and follow through: the ingredients necessary for accomplish- ing any goal you may have.
The sun continues to shine on the progress of humanity and on those who believe it can be done and then do it!
14 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 I AM TheIWLA
I AM Luckisha Williams Townsend
15 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 I was born in Welch, West Virginia, the youngest of six siblings. My mom died when I was nine, and I then lived with my grandmother.
I got my first job in the summer of 1986 at a dental office. The dentist’s name was Dr. Lewis, who believed in me and helped me go to college after I graduated in 1987. I went to college for two years, and then in 1990 I moved to Co- lumbus, Ohio and lived with a college friend. I got a job at a dental center in North Columbus.
I lost my job and was jobless for about eight months before I got my job at The Ohio State University College of Dentistry. I worked there for two years, when I got married and was expecting my first child. From 1994 to 2001 I started Employ- ees for Christ (EFC). Our goal was to pray for students before their board exams. We also prayed for other employees and had Bible study. In 1997 I had my second son.
In 2000 the United States Oc- cupational Safety and Health Administration (OSHA) said that all employees who had contact with patients had to be certi- fied in cardiopulmonary resus- citation (CPR), so this was my chance to become an instruc- Luckisha with her “motivaiton”: sons Joseph and Isaac. tor. I would teach when we had classes at work and on the side teach classes for dental students when they were getting ready to graduate. My sister bought me the first manikins that I used for training the lifesaving techniques.
As this was happening, I studied for two years, and in 2002 I became an ordained minister.
Then I was told that if I were going to be teaching outside the college, it would be good to align myself with anoth-
16 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 er facility. After a long search, I found Grant Life Link. They let me teach for myself, but they also said I had to get the manikins that they used, which were a lot more expensive that the ones I had. So I used my credit card to purchase them. By the time my credit card bill came, I had the money to pay it off. I knew this is was what I was supposed to be doing. Teaching “It’s better to regret people how to save lives is one of the most rewarding things you can do. something that you did, than to regret something In 2004 I officially started a business called Increase Your Knowledge. I de- you haven’t done.” cided to get on the Web, but I couldn’t do what I really wanted to do with CPR, so I tried to sell personalized candles to have another stream of income. After about five years, I saw that the only thing keeping the busi- ness afloat was the CPR classes, so I shut down the candle website and went in search of a company to create a website where I could have a calen- dar to post my schedule for people to see. As I was doing this, the American Heart Association created a page for instructors to post schedules as well. Now I had two ways for people to find my classes.
This is the third year I have received the Best of Columbus Award for First Aid and CPR instructor for medical and dental assisting schools. And as of 2014, Increase Your Knowledge has been in business for ten years. I’m now in the process of expanding and looking forward to see what hap- pens next. What I would say to any- one who is thinking about starting her own business would be this: It’s better to regret something that you did, than Luckisha in her 10th year teaching BLS CPR to regret something you haven’t done.
17 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 I AM TheIWLA
I AM Patricia Woroch
Non-Governmental Organizations Have Much to Offer Society
As CEO of a large non-govern- the process of engaging and knowledge, NGOs can create mental organization (NGO), I encouraging voices from the public awareness of an issue or have come to appreciate and community. Often this occurs concern with ease. respect the role NGOs have through the role of providing a in the community. NGOs, re- bridge to the mainstream com- Each day I see the communi- ferred to as social benefit or- munity. Providing a space for ty impact of the organization ganizations or civil society or- volunteering, for philanthropy, I work with. I see volunteers ganizations, have been around or for advocacy ensures that from all walks of life engaging for a long time. Their primary mainstream community mem- with newcomers and support- role is to provide the means for bers have a voice. ing integration and cross-cul- expressing and addressing the tural understanding. I see the varied and complex needs of The collaborative relationship impact of private businesses society. Developing a civil so- between NGOs and government engaging with our organization ciety requires that individuals influences social policy that, in to provide homework clubs for representing society’s diversity turn, plays out in the communi- refugee children. I see govern- to have a voice in activities and ty. NGOs provide services with ment changing policy to reflect decisions. NGO’s must - and greater advantage than govern- messaging from those who are do -take a lead in ensuring this ment. They have greater flexibil- most vulnerable. I see a civil occurs. ity and independence and can society that reflects the best adapt rapidly to changing envi- of the community, with shared Whatever the focus, the very ronments; thus, they are able to goals and a commitment to nature of NGOs is part and respond to emerging situations working together. It makes me parcel of a civil society. The quickly. With their roots in the proud to be a part of the NGO mandate of NGOs facilitates community and extensive local community.
18 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 I AM TheIWLA
I AM Laura Shorette
You Set the Goal –But How Do You Achieve It?
When life’s circumstances tempting any project will never business that isn’t growing is brought me to the decision to be a success unless a team is dying; therefore, to flourish, a start my own company nearly involved, with clearly defined willingness to be flexible and 13 years ago, I realized having roles for each team member. nimble is fundamental. a goal or a dream, in and of it- Working cooperatively gener- self, was not enough. It required ates momentum. Lastly, tenacity is always the energy, focus, and the unyield- key. Starting is easy, but never ing effort to make something Also, we maintained our prima- quitting, never relenting to the happen. However, every grand ry objective to build a company naysayers is what generates idea will evolve as the lessons that was client-centric, but we the results. Too often, the mo- of goal setting are learned while continued to adjust the direc- tivation to pursue a goal can dealing with the reality of day- tion of the company to ensure fade when dealing with the to-day operations. we were relevant and capable struggles. Finding the self-de- of meeting the needs of our termination to continue the bat- First, the path to success is customers. Setting smaller, at- tle will always be the key factor never traveled alone. I was for- tainable goals (and achieving to achieving the objective. tunate enough to assemble a said objectives) generates ex- team of like-minded, success- citement within an organization. The best compliment one can driven individuals who shared When the culture of any indus- receive is a referral from a cli- with me the goal to take a “vi- try changes, a company must ent, and that’s the ultimate sion” and make a reality. At- remain fluid in goal setting. A goal setting.
19 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 by Georgina Waterhouse
“A Goal Is a Dream with a Deadline” (Napoleon Hill)
How can you measure how far you have come if you don’t know where you are going?
There are goals, and then there are goals with a capital G! Net a Porter founder Natalie Massenet said during an interview that visualizing her goal - seeing her sitting in her Net a Porter office surrounded by an energetic and passionate team - is what she strove for when starting the company, and it is the picture she visualized years before it was realized.
The power of the mind is really something else. How many times have you talked yourself out of doing something or made up enough excuses to do the one thing you need to do?
20 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 For those of you who have not already read the Break your big goal down into smaller goals, and book Creative Visualization by Shakti Gawain, I write them down. Evernote.com is a great online highly recommend it. Natalie Massenet read this tool to keep track of your goal and your prog- before she launched her company. It gives you ress, and you can even make project plans and the tools to help you visualize what you really share them online. want - be it in business or life. For someone like me, seeing the goal helps me to truly buy into it. Be realistic, and then For some people, writing it down works, and I totally unrealistic totally agree with this approach for setting goals for the week or year. But the big goal setting – Goal setting is practical. But dreaming pro- the Big Audacious Hairy Goal (as cited by Jim vides the building blocks for vision and inspi- Collins) -needs to be an inspirational picture, an ration. I am an avid fan of making time in your image you can hang your good days and bad week to step outside of the day-to-day goals days onto. to dream big - so don’t forget to “dream big sweetheart!” There is more to just drawing the picture and creating the goal and vision. You need to share Get back up this vision to bring it to life; you need to make sure others believe in it as well as you. Have you gotten to the end of the week and have not achieved what you had planned? Had Share it - loud and proud your goal setting exceeded your time and re- sources to achieve it? Try not to be too hard on Got a goal, believe in it? Then make sure that yourself. Dust yourself off, hold your head up you tell the people you love and respect - and, high, and start again. Most importantly, don’t most importantly, those who will keep you on try to do everything yourself - ask those around track and in the right mindset to get there. you for help, advice, and a kind ear when you are super frustrated. Break it down So remember, a goal is a dream with a dead- The Big Hairy Audacious Goal is great to have line. And by achieving your goals - no matter as your ultimate goal - but the chances of going how large or small - you are one step closer to straight to there from nothing are pretty remote. reaching your dreams.
Georgina Waterhouse is a Freelance writer and founder of jewelry brand DragonflyZurich.com. Combining her passion for writing with a love for beautiful jewelry, she has since been building her own unique brands and a client base for her two newly founded companies: The W Agency (communications, content, and marketing consultancy) and DragonflyZurich.com (luxurious personalized jewelry gifts, finished by hand and packaged with love). Favorite communication quote: “The most important thing about communication is hearing what isn’t said.” Peter Drucker, Austrian-American author. [email protected]| www.dragonflyzurich.com
21 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 by Suzana Petrozzi
Five Steps to Heart-Centered Goal Setting
In the past I used to shudder at the thought of setting goals. It all seemed too difficult and dry. For me, goals used to evoke feelings of anxiety in the form of avoidance and procrastination. I never had a particular structure around goal setting. What I wanted to achieve and accom- plish was always kept inside my head and never written down. And then I realized that the rea- son I didn’t like goal setting was because I was approaching goal setting in a wrong way.
I don’t believe that goal setting should be difficult. In fact, I be- lieve it needs to be fun, exciting, and even adventurous, which is why I prefer to make a distinc- tion between heart-centered and head-driven goal setting.
Heart-centered goal setting hap- pens when a goal is meaningful to us on a deeper level. We want to achieve something that we believe will have a positive im- pact on us and those around us. The more you can link your goals to your purpose, the more inspired you will be to com- plete your goals. In her book Creative Visualization, Shakti Gawain says, “In writing your goals, be sure to put down things that are real and meaningful to you, things that you actually want, not what you think you should want.”
22 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 Many people I work with set a goal, go for it, and achieve it - and then feel empty and indifferent. That indicates that the goal they set in the first place was head-centered: that is, a goal that they thought “should be, has to, ought to” be achieved without a deeper understanding of why they wanted it and whether it was something that inspired them because ultimately it was linked to their own purpose. The more a goal is linked to what is important to you on a deep- er, more meaningful level, the more likely you will strive to achieve it.
But even then, there may still be some avoidance or resis- tance to goal setting. Here are two important reasons why it is important to be persistent with goal setting: i) Shakti Gawain explains that setting goals helps you clarify what you really want. It brings you closer to realizing what is it that you really want to do, and then it can help you flow through life much more effortlessly and smoothly. ii) If you don’t start setting goals for your life and start get- ting some life direction through your goals, them someone else will.
To help you get stuck into goal setting here is a five-step heart-centered goal setting process that works for my cli- ents and me:
1. “Purge” all your goals. Get everything out of your system, no matter how crazy or outrageous you think they may be, by writing them down on paper. This is so impor- tant for two reasons. Firstly, you are giving yourself per- mission to finally start dreaming big. Secondly, the more you can get things out and on paper, the more you start to reinforce your big dreams.
2. Unpack each goal by asking yourself, “Why is this goal important to me?” You have to keep unpacking until the answer resonates with your core, your whole being.
23 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 3. Break them up into short- and long-term goals (you could do yearly, two-yearly, five-yearly, and so on). It’s great to break goals into different categories, as it helps you get clear on what you need to focus on now. You will see with time how those little steps of your short-term goals help pave way for the big long-term ones.
4. Prioritize your goals from most important to least important. Choose your top five short-term goals that you want to focus on now.
5. Apply SMART principles to your goals so that they are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely. Now start taking little steps to help your goals and long- term dreams come to life.
Here is an example of unpacking a goal. Let’s say my short- term goal is that I want to start meditating three times a week at 6 am for at least ten minutes. Now I ask myself, “Why is this goal important to me?”
It will help me build discipline and commitment. This will be my time to get clarity before I start the day, leaving me feeling fresher, more centered, and calmer. Suzana (Suzi) Petrozzi is a It will be my time in solitude to help fine-tune listening to my in- director, consultant wellness ner self. psychologist and life coach at Petrozzi I will ultimately feel less swayed by the day’s challenges and Wellness Centre. She is an expert in life’s curveballs, which means I will be left feeling more energized helping people step into their potential and live a life of purpose. She works to do what is important to me. with elite athletes, singers, actors, When I feel calmer and more grounded, I will be more pleasant in writers and other artists and helps my relationships with my husband, children, friends, colleagues, them move past obstacles to achieve and everyone else. Only good things can come out of this. optimal performance. I will be more driven, excited, and inspired to keep setting goals that are important to me. Suzi works alongside her husband John Petrozzi who is a chiropractor So now you are all set to start setting your mid-year goals. at their Petrozzi Wellness Centre One last tip: if you’ve set goals before but haven’t achieved in Leichhardt. Their centre them, that’s OK. Let go of judgment, regret, and disap- provides holistic services including chiropractic, psychology/life coaching pointment. And if you experience avoidance or procrasti- and massage to local community and nation like I did, there’s nothing better than the old “feel the beyond. fear and do it anyway!” The more you practice, the easier http://www.petrozziwellness.com.au it gets.
24 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 by Caroline De Kimpe
“Failing to plan is planning to fail”
(Alan Lakein)
To be successful, you don’t start a business without a business plan. You need to know what success looks like, what you want to achieve, what actions you need to take and how you are going to do it. Equally, if you want to reach a goal you need a goal setting strategy.
Making a list of your goals and creating an action plan will be your road map that leads to getting what you want... Be mindful and not discouraged, you might not reach every goal you set out to achieve. But, I do guarantee, it will give you purpose and direction.
The key to goal setting is to set them right. It’s like driving, if the map you are reading the directions on isn’t detailed enough you will never find your way and reach your desti- nation.
25 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 Example how most goals are set: “I will lose weight”, “I will go more to the gym”, “I will be more healthy” …
Goals need to be affirmative and concise. Every goal must have these three parts:
1) Present tense 2) Measurable and specific 3) Due Date
Following the format: I lose 10kg of body weight by Au- gust 2014.
After setting your goals, you need to have daily reminders and a plan to keep you accountable.
Here are 8 tips to help you reach your goal:
øø Print off your goals and stick them in places where you are daily reminded (your fridge or bad room mirror).
øø Take a photo of your goals with your phone and save it as your screen saver.
øø Put the “due date” in your phone with reminders leading up to that date.
øø Share your goals with your friends and family and ask them to support you.
øø Create a “help line” for dark times Caroline De Kimpe is an expert at knowing what employers are looking for and how to best position yourself øø Climb back on the horse when you fall off! Don’t give up! To- to obtain your dream job, with more morrow is a new day. than ten 10 years’ Australian and international experience in HR & øø When making a decision, ask yourself if your choice leads you Recruitment. She is a board member closer to, or further away from your goal. of the IABC (International Associa- tion of Business Communicators) øø Create a celebration! Plan to reward yourself when achieving and Dutchlink (a representative body your goal. of the Dutch community in Sydney). Caroline focuses on helping people Don’t beat yourself up if you haven’t done everything you move forward, whether this is in their personal or professional life. wanted, as long as you can tick some off and you can add www.newhorizoncoaching.com.au other achievements you are on the right track!
26 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 by Becky Paroz
Goal Setting Made Easy
The main reason we set goals for ourselves is to inspire achievement within a time frame, rather than “one day.” When we set a goal, we put the desires that we hold within us into an ordered thought that takes physical form via writing it or saying it out loud.
In order to set goals, there are a few rules to work with to maxi- mize your ability to succeed in achieving these goals.
Firstly, the goal needs to be an “I” statement. This can be every day. Now your goal statement looks like “on DD/MM/YYYY difficult for someone who is al- I will have…” ways there for others’ needs. You cannot make goals for oth- Pick a timeframe that works for you, such as an anniversary date ers. You can only set goals for or an interesting set of numbers that you like. Or simply pick a yourself, so start with an “I” date - three months, six months, a year from now - that gives you statement such as “I will have a timeframe to aim for. …” or “I will achieve …” Thirdly, the goal needs to be achievable or realistic. That doesn’t Secondly, you need to give mean it is not a stretch for you to achieve, but it also means that yourself a timeframe. It doesn’t it is not impossible. As an example, if you have mobility issues, matter if you don’t meet the running a marathon may not be an achievable goal for you. How- timeframe, just that you set ever, participating in a marathon is not impossible. Be aware of yourself an end date. This helps the language you use to create the goal so that it is possible. Re- you move closer to the goal. If member you are setting these goals in order to achieve them, so you think about a goal in terms when you first start, take it easy on yourself. If you want to climb of “one day” or “later,” you will Mount Everest, start with a few smaller goals in a timeframe that be waiting for that “one day” is achievable, then work up to bigger, more challenging goals.
27 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 If we take climbing Mount Everest as an example you should now be starting to see how the goal of the goal you wish to set, here are the type of needs to be in simple language, be about you, goals you could use to reach the ultimate goal: have an end date, and be achievable. Practice with goals you know you will achieve, such as By 5 July 2015, I will have participated in a three- “On Christmas day this year, I will make a three- hour fun run. course meal for my family”. Of course you can achieve this, but as you practice achieving your By 23 September 2015, I will have finished three goals, it will become instinctive and easy for you marathon runs of a minimum of 25 miles each. to construct a goal that stretches you. If you are the type who likes to write things down, write By 14h March 2016, I will have successfully each goal on a separate card and place them climbed three mountains (insert names – be as spe- around your house on the refrigerator door; on cific as you can). the mirror you use every morning; attached to your computer screen. Refresh your intentions On 18 October 2017, I will climb Mount Everest to by reading the goal, say it out loud if you need the first base camp. to, and visualize celebrating your success when you see it achieved. Within each of these goals, there can be smaller goals, such as training hours or distances you Celebration is a key cornerstone of the goal-set- wish to achieve each month as you build to- ting success story. Take the time to reward your- wards the completion of the bigger goal. After self for being you, especially when you achieve all, you aren’t going to achieve the first goal, the a goal. It could be as simple as a cookie or a three-hour fun run, if you don’t train for it. glass of wine. It could be taking yourself out to an expensive restaurant or enjoying a pamper Keep in mind, too, that “I want to learn to fly session. like a dragon” is a wish, not a goal, despite how much we might want it. Take the time to reward yourself for being an achiever, for reaching your goals, for choosing You can alter the details, but with these samples, every day to work towards that goal.
Becky Paroz has 20+ years in the construction industry. Becky’s company Queen B Project Systems offers the development of systems for the construction industry, as well as traditional project delivery. Becky won the QLD Project Management Achievement Award (Community Service) in 2012 for her volunteer work in the creation and delivery of the IPMA Young Crew global workshop (2011). She has added writing to her list of achievements and is contributing to Professional Women Publishing (www. pwnbooks.com) in order to inspire and empower women globally. Becky is known for her use of humour to challenge everything. She is motivated to pass on her lessons learnt to assist and educate the next generation of leaders to become high achievers like herself. She challenges herself racing cars, learning stand up comedy and studying quantum physics in her free time. [email protected]
28 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 by Chrissy B
The Secret to Sticking to your Goals
Most people have goals in life, from losing a few pounds to getting married to starting their own businesses. Goal setting is good for us; it keeps us busy and active and focused on something. But why do many never seem to reach their goals?
In a nutshell, it’s because their goals just seem too far away.
29 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 Let me give you an example. For over ten years, somewhere where you will see it daily, and do I’ve wanted to speak a third language. It’s more something about it today. And then tomorrow, for work purposes than for enjoyment, but I’ve do something again, and so on. seen over the years how useful it would be to me. At the start of every year, I would set myself Do you want a new job? How about today you do the goal of learning that language. I would be- a bit of research about what’s out there; tomorrow, gin and then stop. I was always too busy; there you note down a few of the vacancies you’re inter- were always other priorities. And then I would ested in, and then the next day, contact one or two get frustrated with myself for “giving up.” of them?
But this year, I discovered an interactive online Do you want your relationship to improve? How app that allows me to do just a bit each day, and about today you pay your partner a compliment; to- I’m actually enjoying it. I don’t always have an morrow, you sit down next to him while he’s watch- hour to study, but I can dedicate a few minutes ing TV instead of spending time online, and the next a day. And even the app itself comes up with day, cook him his favorite meal? little reminders saying that it’s proven that just ten minutes a day is enough to learn a new lan- Small, consistent steps are far more effective and guage. achievable than large, elaborate ones that are few and far between. Oh, and by the way, if you were thinking So what’s the secret to achieving your goals? about postponing some of your goals until January Do a bit each day, whether it’s ten minutes a day because you think it’s now too late in the year, think like me or an hour a day. It really doesn’t mat- again. You can still achieve lots, so start today, and ter – you just need to take a step daily. Always before you know it, you’ll have a long list of things keep your goal fresh in your mind. Write it down you have achieved before the end of the year.
Chrissy B is the TV presenter of the Chrissy B Show, a talk show whose underlying theme is to bring people happiness within themselves, their careers, health and relationships. www.chrissybshow.tv.
30 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 Common €ENTS by Elcho Stewart
Goal Setting and Finances: Step-by-Step
We hear it often enough: Dream big; reach for the stars; believe and achieve; ask and receive. While we all aspire to reach higher heights with determination, goal setting re- quires strategic planning. Financial goals are not dreams. Dreams are hopes, but goals are planned for, and effective
31 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 financial planning requires a step-by-step approach. The difference between the two is like wanting to take a trip and actually setting out on the journey. If you have no pre- determined destination or, if you do have a destination in mind, maps to show you how to get there, you are already in for some surprises. Money and surprises do not usually mix well. Not only should we believe in order to achieve, but also we need to prepare to receive by asking the fol- lowing:
What do we want to accomplish financially?
The Web abounds with examples of how you can set fi- nancial goals. Most websites agree that you need to start by identifying what your ultimate financial goals are. Some of these sites have drop-down menus for various types of goals: saving for a car, house, or travels; retirement saving; debt elimination; renovations; child’s postsecondary edu- cation and/or wedding. Brainstorming with your partner is helpful and can be revealing because it helps you to be- come aware of what each other is thinking. Furthermore, you can hold each other accountable. This step is the dream component of goal setting. After that, reality sets in.
How realistic are your goals?
Your goals should be in keeping with your income capa- bilities; otherwise they are, once again, dreams, and unre- alistic ones at that. For example, it is pointless to save for your child’s education or wedding before starting a family. It is equally pointless to save for a luxury automobile at the expense of your basic needs: food, clothing, and shelter.
Do you have the right priorities?
Your goals might be reasonable; however, part of your strategy is to make sure that they are approached in order of priority. You might simultaneously want to reduce debt and save for a home. Putting more money toward paying down the high interest debt and less toward saving toward the down payment on a home might be the better course to take. Likewise, think carefully about the merits of mak- ing those accelerated mortgage reduction payments that are made at the expense of steadily contributing to your retirement plans.
32 INSPIRATIONAL WOMAN MAGAZINE | goals issue | July - August 2014 How many goals? What resources will you need to make it happen? Don’t overwhelm yourself. Experts agree that it is better to begin by setting five or six goals. Your financial advisor is your best resource to It feels better and is more practical to focus on help you plan for your goals. She will be able to fewer, more attainable goals before moving up to connect you and your partner to the right team of more challenging ones. For example, once you professionals, giving you a more holistic, team- have experienced the thrill of a (debt free) vaca- based approach to money management, sav- tion saved for, it becomes an incentive to save ings, and investing. for other items or get prepared for opportunities that might come your way. Are you ready to set and achieve your financial goals? There is a reason why so many lottery How soon do you want to accomplish it? winners of large sums lose most of their money within five years. Purchasing a lottery ticket is Categorize your goals into short-term, medium not preparation for fiscal responsibility. It is best term, and long-term ones. Once you have your to plan to reach your financial goals. Part of the priorities in order, determine what portion of your planning process includes knowing the next step budget will be attributed to each goal. Remem- in the goal setting process. Remember, if you fail to plan, you are likely planning to fail. “Purchasing a lottery ticket is not preparation for fiscal Elcho Stewart is a Financial Security Advi- responsibility.” sor/ Life Insurance Broker, and the Managing Partner at Weblife Financial. She is licenced to sell investments products as well as life in- surance, and living benefits solutions for some of Canada’s most major financial institutions. ber that you might be able to set aside less of Elcho is a financial columnist for several publi- your net pay for retirement savings, thanks to cations in Canada under the headings: Money dollar cost average (that takes advantage of Talk$ and Money Wi$e. She is also the cre- ator and moderator of Femmeonomics-911®, consistently frequent deposits) and the value of a dynamic money-management workshop for compound interest that grows money over time. women. [email protected] | www. weblifefinancial.com
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