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Fifteen Years of Opening Doors Support Groups SHALOM BAYIT CELEBRATES 15TH ANNIVERSARY th Offered in San Francisco, This fall Shalom Bayit marked our 15 The healing spa theme of the event was a the East Bay, Marin and anniversary with a phenomenal celebration, Body reminder that in order to truly sustain each other, the Peninsula, all healing & Soul: Sustaining Ourselves and Each Other— we must also nourish and sustain ourselves. groups are free and open a healing spa and gala reception honoring our 15 At the gala reception and auction following the to women who have been years of service to the Jewish community. Over healing spa, KRON 4 TV presenter Henry abused in a current or the past 15 years Shalom Bayit’s programs and Tenenbaum (of Henry’s Garden fame) energized past relationship. For community of supporters have only grown the crowd as Master of Ceremonies. Opening stronger, and this was clear as we gathered to remarks by host committee co-chairs Roselyne details, call Bay Area th Toll-Free Helpline mark the occasion on October 7 and Marjorie Swig reminded us 1-866-SHALOM-7 at the Jewish Community Center in that abuse can affect any one of us, San Francisco. any time. As a mother-daughter West Bay groups made possible by Spa guests enjoyed relaxing team, the Swig family is a shining the Jewish Community Endowment massages, a nail spa, a healing example of passing on our Newhouse Fund, by Mount Zion circle led by our own Aliza commitment to violence prevention Health Fund, and by the Jewish Community Federation of San Rothman, and informative lectures from one generation to the next— Francisco, Peninsula, Marin and on Jewish healing. Dr. Neil Risch, and how one family can make a Sonoma counties. East Bay support director of the Institute for Human tremendous difference. group made possible by the Civic Genetics at UCSF, presented his This year’s honorees included Foundation. It’s a Family Affair: Host Committee chairs fascinating work on Jewish Roselyne & Marjorie Swig welcome guests founding seed funders Richard & Thank you! genetic diseases, the intersection Rhoda Goldman Fund and the of genetics and environment, and how we can Walter & Elise Haas Fund, along with Shalom increase community awareness to prevent the proliferation of genetic diseases affecting the GIVEIVE THE GIFT OF Newsletter Editor Jewish community. William Cutter, Zephira Derblich-Milea HOPE THIS SEASON founding director of the Kalsman Institute on Judaism and Health in Los Angeles, spoke about During this holiday season you Shalom Bayit Staff his book Healing & the Jewish Imagination. He can bring hope to families experiencing abuse in discussed how the Jewish community’s historical the home—and make a true difference in their Executive Director fear of stigma prevents our addressing difficult future. As respond to the season(Continued of darknesson page 2) Naomi Tucker health and mental health issues, including with our beautiful traditions to spread light domestic violence. throughout our homes and community, we hope Youth Program Coordinator From all these speakers we learned a great deal you will join us to help families in need. Zephira Derblich-Milea about communal efforts to heal the body and soul. Your tax-deductible gift today is a beacon of hope for our families, giving them the Direct Services Coordinator Aliza Rothman promise of safety and healing. If you have already contributed during the year In This Issue Regional Counselors to support our programs, we thank you—and Mika Gustavson Shalom Bayit Celebrates 15 years…………... p. 1 hope you will think of us again during this Talia Korenbrot 2007 Contributors……………………………… p. 3 holiday time for a special year-end gift. Marjorie Swig Support Group Launches in Marin…………... p. 5 Please use the enclosed envelope today to send a Chanukah miracle to the women and Jewish Programs Specialist Welcome to the Federation Family…………... p. 5 children of Shalom Bayit. Or consider a Rebecca Schwartz New Peninsula Office Opens………………… p. 5 monthly pledge of $18 or more to spread Love Shouldn’t Hurt Interns Shalom Bayit receives Interfaith Award …… p. 5 light throughout the year (it’s easy—just Laiah Idelson check the monthly pledge box). Your gift Love Shouldn’t Hurt spans the globe……….. p. 6 Arrin Kaplan now will bring hope and healing to battered Chanukah Adopt-a-Family………………….… p. 6 women and their children for a long time to Who is The Tides Center?………………….… p. 6 come. Thank you! 15th Anniversary, cont’d from cover Thanks for an extraordinary celebration! Bayit’s co-founder, Sherry Brown-Ryther. All of us were propelled into action by the moving stories told by those affected by abuse, from a rabbi’s journey of leaving her abusive marriage to a father parenting his teenage daughter through a dating violence crisis. Their voices were a compelling reminder of how Shalom Bayit is a healing force for families remaking their lives in the aftermath of abuse. Body & Soul was a joyful, fun-filled event that also reflected the profound impact of Shalom Bayit’s work. Our tremendous thanks to 250 supporters, attendees, sponsors, speakers and volunteers who made Body & Soul a success. Collectively you helped us raise over $50,000 which will provide healing of body and soul to more than 60 victims of domestic abuse in the coming year, and ensure that young people will gain skills for leading healthy relationships. Over the past fifteen years, our efforts have opened many of the doors once closed to Jewish battered women. Where once the words “domestic violence” could scarcely be uttered publicly in a Jewish setting, today we are proud to have created many changes that pave the way for survivors of abuse to find hope and healing within our community. Our 15th year has been truly extraordinary—full of milestones and blessings. In one short year we marked the national publication of our teen curriculum; joined the San Francisco Federation family; launched a new support group in Marin, and expanded to open a Peninsula satellite office. With active Photos: Jennifer Abbe programs in five counties, Shalom Bayit is growing in leaps and Clockwise from top left: Susan Moldaw, Ingrid Tauber, & Bethany Hornthal; Event Chair Kate VanZanten & Auction Chair Carol Platner; Host Committee bounds. It is thanks to you, our community of supporters, that we Chairs Marjorie & Roselyne Swig with Executive Director Naomi Tucker (center), can open so many doors for battered women & their children. Harriet Tucker at Booksigning with Rabbi William Cutter; Ph.D.; Edward As a woman steps through our doorway, she moves from Zarin & Eric Weiss; Honoree and Shalom Bayit Co-Founder Sherry Brown-Ryther. victim to survivor; from despair to hope; from endangered to empowered. It is the opening of the door, the welcome, the promise of safe haven that transforms lives. As we look towards Three Cheers for our Volunteers the next 15 years, all of us at Shalom Bayit THANK YOU for We couldn’t do this work without your support! opening doors toward hope, health, and healing for all. (List includes event volunteers as well as our regular crew) Jennifer Abbe ■ Kacie Borquez ■ Alexa D’Amato ■ Ravit Dagani ■ Lea Delson ■ Marilyn Dornhelm ■ John Ebel-Davies ■ Ruth Epstein ■ Chloe Farb ■ Sandra Fodrey ■ Lynn Gardner ■ Janette Gomes, CMT ■ Rivka Greenberg ■ Ama Dawn Greenrose, CMT ■ Amy Gup, CMT ■ Lisa Harbus ■ Laura Harder ■ Gary Jaffe, CMT ■ Amy (Uma) Kahn ■ Ron & Stacy Kahn ■ Channah Katz ■ Randi Kofski, CMT ■ Rachel Krug ■ Simon Levi ■ Stacy Mathias, CMT ■ Aaron Matzkin ■ Pablo McCord, CMT ■ Marcia Meister ■ Ethel Murphy ■ Alex Padilla ■ Linda Peacock ■ Ashley Platner ■ Nicki Platner ■ Brittany Rhodes, CMT ■ Chantal Saperstein ■ Ellen Schneider ■ Juliet Selk ■ Merry Selk ■ Danielle & Marat Shub ■ Carol Stone ■ Jennifer Tait, CMT ■ Andi Toll ■ Isaac Wilcox ■ Chris Williams ■ Shana Winokur ■ John Woodridge ■ Laurie Wright ■ Mindy Zimmerman ■ Shira Zucker ■ Body & Soul Planning Committee: Kate VanZanten & Linda Kalinowski, Event Chairs „ Carol Platner, Auction Chair „ Ellen Benjamin „ Michelle Booth „ Celia Harms „ Stacy Kahn „ Laura Katz „ Linda Kurtz „ Susan Moldaw „ Rebecca Schwartz „ Event Coordinator: Laurie Williams „ Honorary Host Committee: Roselyne & Marjorie Swig, Co-Chairs „ Hope Alper „ Ann & Irwin Bear „ Dr. Natalie Berg „ Diane & Ed Bernbaum „ US Senator Barbara Boxer „ Rabbi Steven Chester „ Myrna DeFreise „ Sue Diamond & Marty Schenker „ Cheryl Feiner „ Rabbi Stacy Friedman „ Denise & Ben Gage „ Linda Gerard & Danny Grossman „ Drs. Rivka Greenberg & Ken Stanton „ SF District Attorney Kamala Harris „ Minouche Kandel & Rick Sheinfield „ Barbara & Ron Kaufman „ Supervisor Alice Lai-Bitker „ US Representative Tom Lantos „ Sandra Lipkowitz „ Marcia Meister „ Councilmember Nancy Nadel „ Abby Porth „ Jan Reicher & Yossi Alouf „ Toby & Robert Rubin „ Dana & Aaron Sheanin „ Esta Soler „ Anne Steirman „ Jamie & Evan Traeger-Muney Page 2 „ Beverly Upton „ Rabbi Eric Weiss „

Thank you! Donations and Support Received January - November 2007 2007 Foundation Grants Ingrid Tauber, in honor of Sue Moldaw Martina & Michael Knee Rabbi Rosalind Glazer / The Wireless Foundation Arlene Kock Congregation Beth Israel-Judea,

Kol Shofar Thursday Morning Minyan in honor of Doron Lev Shomeret/Guardian: $540 Grants of $20,000 and greater Juan & Carol Korenbrot Dr. Erica Goode Anne Bakar / Telecare Corporation The Hadassah Foundation Eva-Lynne Leibman Rabbi Marvin Goodman & Ellen & Jon Benjamin Richard & Rhoda Goldman Fund Susan Leipsic & Bill Storch, in Kelman Michael Bien & Jane Kahn honor of Marjorie Swig Marsha Guggenheim Grants of $5,000+ Anlee Brickman Rick Liebman, in honor of Marjorie Daniel Guterman Jewish Community Endowment Judy Caplan / Windrix Transcription Swig Susan Hamlin Newhouse Fund Eva Chernov Lokey Sandra Lipkowitz Elvia & Jerry Harris, in memory of Jewish Community Federation of Congregation Etz Chayim Alex Madonik & Eve Sweetser, in Rosa Harris SF, the Peninsula, Marin & Pamela Rose & Steven Dinkelspiel memory of Eleanor Madonik Marilyn Higuera Sonoma Counties Rabbi Stacy Friedman / Ellen Marks, in memory of Shirley Lisa Hillman Jewish Community Foundation and Congregation Rodef Sholom Kroichick Victor & Lorraine Honig Federation of the Greater East Bay Bethany & Jim Hornthal of Berkeley Margalit Ir Mount Zion Health Fund Pam Kramer Alexis Milea & Jerry Derblich Yeva Johnson & Michael Potter Linda Kurtz Grants of $1,000+ Ann Myers Ann Kelly Shirley Meister National Council of Jewish Women, Wendy & Howard Kleckner Aaron & Marie Blackman Foundation Harriet Prensky & William Pomeranz Civic Foundation Contra Costa Section Jill Kneeter & Rabbi Edward Zerin The Ruben Law Firm Rabbi Drorah O'Donnel Setel Rachel Krug Jay & Rose Phillips Family Foundation Meg Schultz Karen & Brian Perlman Michelle Kuppich Bob Stallings Ellen Peterson La Casa de Las Madres Hadara Stanton & Jerry Hersh Individual & Corporate Linda Rae Paul Barbara Leff Harriet Tucker Rhoda Goldman Plaza Jo Anne & Hank Lerner Gifts Kate & Mark VanZanten Kathryn Rudman Robyn Lieberman & Asher Kotz Women of Temple Sinai San Francisco Interfaith Council Kate Lorig Miriam the Prophet: $2,500 + Miriam Schaffer Linda & Steve Mayne Chachamah/Wise One: $360 Ruth Adar Michelle Joy Schwartz Vivian & Steve McClure Sherry Brown-Ryther & David Ryther Leslie Behar Riva Berelson Marci Sherman Elaine Moise Linda & Tom Kalinowski Lydia & Doug Shorenstein Abby & Jason Porth Susan Moldaw Cheryl Feiner Carol Goldberg Harmon M. Shragge, Jr. Progressive Jewish Alliance Carol & Tom Platner Rabbi Avi Shulman / Temple Beth The Riley Center Marjorie Swig Ron & Stacy Kahn Minouche Kandel & Rick Sheinfield Torah Toby & Robert Rubin Holly & Jeffrey Ullman Anne & David Steirman Chantal Saperstein Rabbi Janet Marder / Cong.Beth Am Bonot Chalom/Dream Builders: Ron & Susan Stoltz Jewish Federation of the Greater $1,008 Gomelet Chesed/Benefactor: Temple Emanu-El East Bay Hope Alper $180 Rabbi Eric Weiss / Bay Area Jewish Dana & Aaron Sheanin Natalie Berg / Forest City Development Irene Abrams-Shatzki Healing Center Joan Sopher Rabbis Steven Chester, Jacqueline Afikomen Judaica Carol & Terry Winograd Jamie & Evan Traeger-Muney Mates-Muchin, & Andrea Robin Bacci / RAB Motors Linda & Kory Zipperstein Walter & Elise Haas Fund Wendy Bear Miriam Weil Berlin / Temple Sinai Madricha/Advocate: $108 Financial Advantage Ann & Irwin Bear Elisha Ziskind Rabbi Camille Angel / Congregation Sandra Fodrey Anne & Michael Becker Eve Bernstein & Alex Gersznowicz Sha'ar Zahav Ozeret/Supporter: $72 Chandra & Leonard Gordon Anonymous Albertsons Rabbis Roberto Graetz & Judy Judy & Jordan Bloom Camp Tawonga Mr. and Mrs. Robert Arenson Deborah Bloch Shanks / Temple Isaiah Bill Bandas Michelle Booth Celia & Terry Harms Linda Cantrell Congregation Kol Shofar Evelyn Benas Robyn Carmel Jewish Women International Leslie Berger Dorothy Chafets, in honor of Ellyn Kaschak, PhD Mr. & Mrs. Donald DeFriese Susan Diamond & Martin Schenker Debbie Black Barbara Levinson Laura Katz & Larry Farb Blue Shield of California Rabbi Steven & Leona Chester John & Terry Levin Laurie Earp, in honor of Erin R. Earp & Dylan G.R. Earp Carol Cantwell & Rachel Lanzerotti, in Cong. Beth Emek Kindergarten Class Barbara & Mort Levinson, in honor honor of Beth Freedman & Bonnie Dayenu Judaica of Mr. & Mrs. Bob Weil, Bert Lisa Elgazzar, in memory of Juan Jose Tocino Lenero Feinberg Marc Dollinger, Ph.D. Solomon, Gert Saunders, Jon Linda Cox Myers John Ebel-Davies Levinson, Gladys & Larry Marks, Anne Feld, in honor of Celia Harms Shelley Forrest Kay Daniels Ann & Stan Forman, in honor of Jack & Elisa Klein, & Zephira Derblich-Milea Hymie Mayer Kate VanZanten, and in memory Buffy Francisco Frances D. Green Linda Frank Marianne & Herb Friedman of Richard Kavich Michael Freeman, in honor of Denise & Ben Gage Marcia Meister Rivka Greenberg Van & Jeri Hart Marjorie Swig Ms. Jerilyn Gelt Rabbi Stephen Pearce / Brenda Gates-Monasch & Walter Danny Greene Congregation Emanu-El Hannah Hochstaedter, in honor of Naomi Tucker Monasch Bruce Gribens Lisa & John Pritzker General Lighting Corporation (Cont’d on p. 4) Roselyne C. Swig Jewish Community Relations Council Channah Katz Linda Gerard & Danny Grossman Page 3 Donors, cont’d from p.3 Elayne Grossbard Myra Green Janelle White Linda & Tom Kalinowski Ellen Gumbiner Cherie & Frederick Half Laurie & Chris Williams Gabriel Kardener Andrea Jacoby, in memory of Martin Bethany & Jim Hornthal Rabbi Bridget Wynne Ellyn Kaschak & Yvonne Jacoby Elizheva Hurvich, in honor of Aliza Gary & Linda Zellerbach Paula Keane Caroline Kahn Werboff Rothman Labowitz Reuben Zellman, in memory of Dawn Kepler & Mark Snyder Jonathan Kaplan Wendy Hussey Margaret Zellman Kukreja Jill Kneeter Diana Kennedy, in honor of Mark Joel & Helen Isaacson Alanna Zrimsek, in honor of Cissie Knitzvah Goldstein & Judy Reynolds & in Lior Jacober Swig & Ann Bear Barbara Lande Design honor of Josh Miller & Rachel Gold Helen & Irving Jarkovsky, in honor Laser Quest Dawn Kepler & Mark Snyder of Janie Gumpert Eva-Lynne Leibman In-Kind Contributions Steve & Ellen Manganiello Irving & Janice Katz Barbara Levinson Aaron Matzkin, in honor of Zephira Paula Keane Afikomen Judaica Liz Claiborne Derblich-Milea Rachel & Michael Kesselman Aimee Golant Judaica Mariah Sterling Silver Jewelry Jan Cook Reicher & Joseph Alouf Ken Kirsch Alternative Telecom & Networks La Méditerranée Joyce Leslie Schriebman Susan Kitchell, in memory of Avi-ously Delicious, Fine Catering Milk & Honey Catering Judy & David Schwartz Walter Kitchell Ann Bear Miriam's Well Victoria Treyger Joan Korin & Ronn Berrol Chloe Benjamin Nail Pretty Danny & Ninaya Laub, in honor of Berkeley Bowl Bobbi Naaler Chaverah/Friend Joel & Susan Stern Berkeley Jewish Women's Quilting Hiroko Nogami-Rosen Ackerman's Servicing Volvos David Lee & Barbara Petterson Group Peaberry’s Coffee Nicole Altamirano Deb Levine & Richard Foxall Blankets of Kindness Committee of Paramount's Great America Andrew Altman-Ohr & Stacey Henry & Eva Linker Peninsula Temple Sholom Peninsula Beauty Supply Roberts-Ohr Sheila Lippman Arlynn Bloom Peninsula Temple Sholom Cynthia & Paul Anderson Desmid Bendix Lyon Bob & Bob Pharmaca Integrative Pharmacy Anonymous Sharon Marks Bookshop West Portal Piazza’s Fine Foods Saul Arnold Ed Mendelssohn Bureau of Jewish Education Pinkies Nail Salon Rose Barlow Hilda Namm Café NS Carol & Tom Platner Renee Bauer & Laurie Zimmerman, David & Ellen Newman California Roof Management Punchline San Francisco in honor of Rosyland Bauer Linda & Christian Peacock Center for Professional Development Larry Rosenberg Photography Rosyland & Dr. Robert Bauer, in Robin Press & Michael Herzog The Club at the Claremont Resort Rosicrucian Egyptian Museum honor of Shaina Goper Judith & Harry Radousky, in honor Cole Hardware San Francisco Giants Alicia & Michael Baumstein of Debbie Mufelder Congregation Beth Israel-Judea San Jose Giants Marsha Lee & Norman Berkman Ellen Raff Peskin & Ben Heschen Congregation Emanu-El San Jose Museum of Quilts & Textiles Rabbi Andrea Berlin Sherri Richards Continental Caterers San Jose Sharks Jane & Bob Bessin, in memory of Sarah Richmond, in honor of Dina Lane Cornerstone Properties Schizandra Health Center Tina Kessler Barry Robbins CRM Construction Semifreddi's Paula Birnbaum & Neil Solomon Julie Robbins Cyn at Regis Salon Sharon & Orr Shakked Claudio Bluer Moe Rubinstein, in honor of Ida Gelbart Daniela Designs Six Flags Magic Mountain Rabbi David Booth / Cong. Kol Emeth Mr. & Mrs. Burton B. Ruby, in Dayenu Judaica Sky High Sports Kacie Borquez honor of Shira Saliman Dewskin Studios Rabbi Shula Stevens Art & Sheila Braufman, in honor of Linda Salmon Sarah Dorrance Tree Stuber Zephira Derblich-Milea Norma Satten Eileen Downey Sugar Bowl Randi Brenowitz Lynne Schaer Embassy Suites Anaheim North Sweet Things Phyllis Brown, in honor of Sherry Rabbi Aaron Schonbrun / Full Court Press Taste By Two Brown-Ryther Congregation Beth David Garibaldi’s TheatreWorks Jenny Byers Rabbi Judy Shanks & James Gracer Toni Garrett Towns End Julia Caplan Phoebe Silver Brenda Gates-Monasch Naomi Tucker Barbara Casaretto Leslie Simon Garibaldi’s Veritable Vegetable Susan Cohen Anita L. Stapen Gathering Glass Studio Tiffany Watson Congregation B'nai Shalom Joan Steber Gleim Jewelers Laurie & Chris Williams Congregation Emeth Carol Stone Glow Spa Heidi Winig Copier Services Solutions Abigail Adams Stricker Glowimages Gina Yoli Donita Decker, in honor of Pam Kramer Diane Swanson Grand Bakery David Zebker Paulette Dolin Christine Taich Rivka Greenberg Betsy & David Eckstein, in honor of Marilyn Taubman Amy J. Gup Linda Kalinowski Andrea Toll Haig’s Delicacies Shoshana Ellenberg Holly Trief Karen Hecht Jill & Marc Engel, in honor of Bess Mintz Naomi Tucker Connie Ho, MD Drs. Charles & Lois Epstein Beverly & Jerry Turchin Infineon Raceway Thanks to the many individuals, Tammy Ferman Alice Webber & Stephen Tobias Julie Iny & Lewis Woods businesses and organizations who Rabbi Michelle Fisher Jessica Weddle J. Lohr Vineyards & Wines make our programs a success. Any Dianne Fohrman Abigail Weissman, in honor of JCCSF Spa omissions are unintentional. Rabbi Dan Goldblatt Congregation Sha’ar Zahav Jewish Vocational Service Mrs. Juliette Goldman, in memory of Women’s Chavurah Sharice Johnson Maurice Minkin Val Westen Kaiser Permanente George Goodman

Page 4 A ROUND THE BAY...Announcements & Regional Programs

Shalom Bayit Becomes New Peninsula San Francisco Jewish Community Office Opens Federation Beneficiary

After six years of successful The Jewish Community Federation of San Francisco, the operations based out of our Peninsula, Marin & Sonoma Counties has accepted Shalom Oakland office (and nine Bayit as a new beneficiary agency. Shalom Bayit now joins years prior to that with no the network of Federation-affiliated agencies that work together to build a strong Jewish community. As we mark and office at all), Shalom Bayit is th pleased to announce the celebrate Shalom Bayit’s 15 anniversary of providing Jewish- opening of a Peninsula-based focused domestic violence services, we can’t think of a better satellite office for client services. Thanks to generous donors on way to mark this milestone than by the receiving of this great the Peninsula, and with additional support from the Jewish honor. Joining the Federation family will bring important Community Endowment Fund, our long time dream of locating visibility and long-term sustainability to our efforts. We thank services on the Peninsula has become a reality. the JCF Board, Caring Commission, and professional

leadership for your support and recognition of domestic While maintaining our main office in Oakland and our satellite violence as a critical issue facing our community today. services in “borrowed spaces” in San Francisco, Marin, and San Jose, the Peninsula office will provide a stable and confidential San Francisco Interfaith Council location for women on the Peninsula to access Shalom Bayit’s Honors Shalom Bayit services. Our new Peninsula home will be available for client counseling sessions, community meetings and support groups. At the 10th Annual Mayor’s Interfaith Thanksgiving Prayer The office will help reduce the complex arrangements we make Breakfast, Shalom Bayit received the 2007 Models of Hope each time our counselor meets with a woman in need of our Award honoring our work to end violence in San Francisco. services, traveling to meet each individual woman for support. The award, presented by the SF Interfaith Council, recognized We are grateful to many Jewish Community Centers, community initiatives that are models of inspiration and hope in synagogues and other agencies throughout the Bay Area who their quest to end violence of all kinds. “Among the many provide occasional free meeting space for this purpose, but it is impressive efforts of Shalom Bayit,” writes Interfaith Council not ideal for providing confidential counseling to victims of organizer Abby Michelson Porth of the Jewish Community abuse. In order to reduce barriers to accessing our services, it Relations Council, “is its utilization of Jewish healing rituals to was important for us to secure a private location where we can help survivors of abuse transform their lives within a spiritual meet with women in need of confidential counseling. The office framework, and also its coordination of more than 40 rabbis on will also strengthen our Peninsula presence, bringing our their Rabbinic Advisory Council.” Adds Rabbi Eric Weiss, programs directly to areas of need. Executive Director of the Bay Area Jewish Healing Center, The office will provide a regular, accessible local meeting “Shalom Bayit’s work changes location for clients and constituents, and greatly increase our the quality of life for our accessibility to battered women on the Peninsula in need of our citizens one family at a time, services. To reach our Peninsula office, call (650) 574-SAFE. every day of the year. Shalom Bayit is an unsung hero in our

community.” For more Warm thanks to Steve Kaufman, Holly & Jeff Ullman, information on our Bay Area

Rabbi Marv Goodman, Alternative Telecom & Networks, th and statewide interfaith clergy (L to R) Board member Ellen Benjamin, 15 The Jewish Community Endowment Fund, Anniversary co-chair Linda Kalinowski, Youth training initiatives, call and our many Peninsula donors who made this dream possible! Program Coordinator Zephira Derblich-Milea (510) 451-8874.

Marin Support Group Underway

After extensive outreach efforts over the past six months, Shalom Bayit launched our new Marin Support Group, facilitated by Aliza Rothman and Marjorie Swig. With six women participating from throughout the North Bay region, the group is providing critical crisis intervention, spiritual support, and domestic violence education for women who have been in abusive relationships. The group will run through February. Whether the abuse is past or present, the spiritual healing group provides a place for women to break the isolation they experienced as victims of abuse, and create community with others who share similar experiences. Together the group participants find healing and forge a path towards a life free from violence.

The group is provided in collaboration with the Bay Area Jewish Healing Center and is made possible by a grant from the Jewish Community Endowment Newhouse Fund, together with contributions from our many generous donors in Marin. Co-sponsors include Congregation Rodef Sholom, Congregation Kol Shofar, Family & Children’s Law Center, Marin Abused Women’s Services, and the Osher Marin JCC.

Page 5 Adopt-a-Family

Thanks to YOUR wonderful generosity over a dozen Shalom Bayit families this year celebrated a great Chanukah miracle as our staff delivered toys, gifts, clothing, food and other surprises to fulfill their holiday wish lists. Thank you to our Adopt-A-Family sponsors: Berkeley Midrasha, Carol Platner, Claremont Hotel & Resorts, Lori Fineman / Women’s Shalom Bayit American ORT, National Council of Jewish Women—Contra Costa Section, P.O. Box 10102 Susan Rancer and friends, Sandra Lipkowitz & the SF Mah Jong girls. Oakland, CA 94610 You bring light to those coming out of darkness, and warm the hearts of our www.shalom-bayit.org children as we give them a Chanukah like no other. www.love-shouldnt-hurt.org Phone: 510-451-8874 What is The Tides Center, anyway? Helpline: 510-451-SAFE or Many of you may wonder about the nature of Shalom Bayit’s relationship with the Tides Center, or 650-574-SAFE why their name appears on your statement when you make a donation to us. Based in San Francisco, the Bay Area toll-free helpline: Tides Center is an organization dedicated to providing fiscal sponsorship to small social justice 866-SHALOM-7 organizations. For a small income-based fee, Tides provides our nonprofit tax status and many administrative services such as accounting, payroll, HR, health insurance, liability coverage, and more. A team of specialists processes our grants and donations, ensures Rabbinic Advisory compliance with all laws governing nonprofits, maintains due Council diligence in regards to our finances (including an annual audit), Steven Chester & Stacy Friedman and provides experts in many areas of nonprofit management. Co-Chairs These invaluable services enable small agencies like ours to Leslie Alexander focus on the programmatic work we do best, while maintaining Camille Angel Melanie Aron the highest fiscal accountability. As our nonprofit status is Pam Frydman Baugh through Tides, Shalom Bayit is legally a “project of the Tides Allen Bennett Center,” and our staff are Tides employees. Though there are Mark Bloom over 300 Tides projects, Shalom Bayit maintains a unique David Booth Front row: Zephira Derblich-Milea, Sonya mission and advisory board. Here, Shalom Bayit staff is Karen Citron Watson, Naomi Tucker, Liming Tjandrajati. Micah Citrin Back: Aliza Rothman, Alex Vazquez, Allen pictured with some of our Tides team at a recent project David Cooper Abiva, Ivana Tjokro, Irene Lei meeting and luncheon. Thanks, Tides for all you do for us! Lavey Derby Kim Ettlinger Nat Ezray Love Shouldn’t Hurt Dan Feder Yitzchok Feldman The Youth Program at Shalom Bayit Rosalind Glazer Dan Goldblatt Love Shouldn’t Hurt reaches adolescent and young adult Jews (ages 11-21) in the greater Bay Area with Marv Goodman abuse prevention and healthy relationships education. Since 2002, over 2,400 youth have participated in Sarah Graff Roberto Graetz our workshops. Margie Jacobs This year we reached 450 youth and youth educators, and led more parent education workshops Burt Jacobson than before, reaching over 60 parents of teens. Workshops offer strategies for abuse prevention and Stuart Kelman Noa Kushner healthy relationship development among teens. Parents learn how to talk to teens about relationships, Chai Levy identify warning signs of abuse, and help those who may be in an abusive relationship. Sheldon Lewis In March we debuted our long awaited national curriculum on Jewish teen dating violence Jane Litman prevention. Love Shouldn’t Hurt is now being used all over the world, including Australia, Canada, Janet Marder Jackie Mates-Muchin England, Israel, New Zealand, and in Jewish communities across the US. Our Sydney Mintz successful Bay Area program will now be helping Jewish youth around the globe to Laura Novak-Winer prevent dating violence before it starts. Elisheva Salamo Julie Saxe-Taller Many thanks to The Hadassah Foundation, Blue Shield of California Foundation, the Jewish Community Miriam Senturia Foundation & Federation of the Greater East Bay, the Richard & Rhoda Goldman Fund, and Verizon Judy Shanks Shula Stevens Wireless for providing vital support to bring Love Shouldn’t Hurt to Jewish Communities everywhere. Mimi Weisel Eric Weiss Bridget Wynne ish List Don’t forget to bring us Advisory Board those old cell phones! Ellen Benjamin New computers Michelle Booth You will be helping to provide 911 W Phone Cards Celia Harms emergency phones for Gift cards to Safeway, Ellyn Kaschak, PhD battered women, and raising funds Laura Katz Albertson’s, or Trader Joe’s Kate VanZanten for Shalom Bayit too!

Honorary Members: Deborah Edelman, DrPh Inkind and financial contributions are fully tax deductible. Minouche Kandel, JD Please send your gift to “Tides Center / Shalom Bayit” Pam Kramer at PO Box 10102, Oakland 94610 Roselyne C. Swig or donate securely online at www.shalom-bayit.org Page 6