SHALOM BAYIT BAY AREA JEWISH WOMEN WORKING TO END DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Winter 2007/08 ~ Kislev 5768 Fifteen Years of Opening Doors Support Groups SHALOM BAYIT CELEBRATES 15TH ANNIVERSARY th Offered in San Francisco, This fall Shalom Bayit marked our 15 The healing spa theme of the event was a the East Bay, Marin and anniversary with a phenomenal celebration, Body reminder that in order to truly sustain each other, the Peninsula, all healing & Soul: Sustaining Ourselves and Each Other— we must also nourish and sustain ourselves. groups are free and open a healing spa and gala reception honoring our 15 At the gala reception and auction following the to women who have been years of service to the Jewish community. Over healing spa, KRON 4 TV presenter Henry abused in a current or the past 15 years Shalom Bayit’s programs and Tenenbaum (of Henry’s Garden fame) energized past relationship. For community of supporters have only grown the crowd as Master of Ceremonies. Opening stronger, and this was clear as we gathered to remarks by host committee co-chairs Roselyne details, call Bay Area th Toll-Free Helpline mark the occasion on October 7 and Marjorie Swig reminded us 1-866-SHALOM-7 at the Jewish Community Center in that abuse can affect any one of us, San Francisco. any time. As a mother-daughter West Bay groups made possible by Spa guests enjoyed relaxing team, the Swig family is a shining the Jewish Community Endowment massages, a nail spa, a healing example of passing on our Newhouse Fund, by Mount Zion circle led by our own Aliza commitment to violence prevention Health Fund, and by the Jewish Community Federation of San Rothman, and informative lectures from one generation to the next— Francisco, Peninsula, Marin and on Jewish healing. Dr. Neil Risch, and how one family can make a Sonoma counties. East Bay support director of the Institute for Human tremendous difference. group made possible by the Civic Genetics at UCSF, presented his This year’s honorees included Foundation. It’s a Family Affair: Host Committee chairs fascinating work on Jewish Roselyne & Marjorie Swig welcome guests founding seed funders Richard & Thank you! genetic diseases, the intersection Rhoda Goldman Fund and the of genetics and environment, and how we can Walter & Elise Haas Fund, along with Shalom increase community awareness to prevent the proliferation of genetic diseases affecting the GIVEIVE THE GIFT OF Newsletter Editor Jewish community. Rabbi William Cutter, Zephira Derblich-Milea HOPE THIS SEASON founding director of the Kalsman Institute on Judaism and Health in Los Angeles, spoke about During this holiday season you Shalom Bayit Staff his book Healing & the Jewish Imagination. He can bring hope to families experiencing abuse in discussed how the Jewish community’s historical the home—and make a true difference in their fear of stigma prevents our addressing difficult future. As Jews respond to the season(Continued of darknesson page 2) Executive Director Naomi Tucker health and mental health issues, including with our beautiful traditions to spread light domestic violence. throughout our homes and community, we hope Youth Program Coordinator From all these speakers we learned a great deal you will join us to help families in need. Zephira Derblich-Milea about communal efforts to heal the body and soul. Your tax-deductible gift today is a beacon of hope for our families, giving them the Direct Services Coordinator Aliza Rothman promise of safety and healing. If you have already contributed during the year In This Issue Regional Counselors to support our programs, we thank you—and Mika Gustavson Shalom Bayit Celebrates 15 years…………... p. 1 hope you will think of us again during this Talia Korenbrot 2007 Contributors……………………………… p. 3 holiday time for a special year-end gift. Marjorie Swig Support Group Launches in Marin…………... p. 5 Please use the enclosed envelope today to send a Chanukah miracle to the women and Jewish Programs Specialist Welcome to the Federation Family…………... p. 5 children of Shalom Bayit. Or consider a Rebecca Schwartz New Peninsula Office Opens………………… p. 5 monthly pledge of $18 or more to spread Love Shouldn’t Hurt Interns Shalom Bayit receives Interfaith Award …… p. 5 light throughout the year (it’s easy—just Laiah Idelson check the monthly pledge box). Your gift Love Shouldn’t Hurt spans the globe……….. p. 6 Arrin Kaplan now will bring hope and healing to battered Chanukah Adopt-a-Family………………….… p. 6 women and their children for a long time to Who is The Tides Center?………………….… p. 6 come. Thank you! 15th Anniversary, cont’d from cover Thanks for an extraordinary celebration! Bayit’s co-founder, Sherry Brown-Ryther. All of us were propelled into action by the moving stories told by those affected by abuse, from a rabbi’s journey of leaving her abusive marriage to a father parenting his teenage daughter through a dating violence crisis. Their voices were a compelling reminder of how Shalom Bayit is a healing force for families remaking their lives in the aftermath of abuse. Body & Soul was a joyful, fun-filled event that also reflected the profound impact of Shalom Bayit’s work. Our tremendous thanks to 250 supporters, attendees, sponsors, speakers and volunteers who made Body & Soul a success. Collectively you helped us raise over $50,000 which will provide healing of body and soul to more than 60 victims of domestic abuse in the coming year, and ensure that young people will gain skills for leading healthy relationships. Over the past fifteen years, our efforts have opened many of the doors once closed to Jewish battered women. Where once the words “domestic violence” could scarcely be uttered publicly in a Jewish setting, today we are proud to have created many changes that pave the way for survivors of abuse to find hope and healing within our community. Our 15th year has been truly extraordinary—full of milestones and blessings. In one short year we marked the national publication of our teen curriculum; joined the San Francisco Federation family; launched a new support group in Marin, and expanded to open a Peninsula satellite office. With active Photos: Jennifer Abbe programs in five counties, Shalom Bayit is growing in leaps and Clockwise from top left: Susan Moldaw, Ingrid Tauber, & Bethany Hornthal; Event Chair Kate VanZanten & Auction Chair Carol Platner; Host Committee bounds. It is thanks to you, our community of supporters, that we Chairs Marjorie & Roselyne Swig with Executive Director Naomi Tucker (center), can open so many doors for battered women & their children. Harriet Tucker at Booksigning with Rabbi William Cutter; Ph.D.; Rabbis Edward As a woman steps through our doorway, she moves from Zarin & Eric Weiss; Honoree and Shalom Bayit Co-Founder Sherry Brown-Ryther. victim to survivor; from despair to hope; from endangered to empowered. It is the opening of the door, the welcome, the promise of safe haven that transforms lives. As we look towards Three Cheers for our Volunteers the next 15 years, all of us at Shalom Bayit THANK YOU for We couldn’t do this work without your support! opening doors toward hope, health, and healing for all. (List includes event volunteers as well as our regular crew) Jennifer Abbe ■ Kacie Borquez ■ Alexa D’Amato ■ Ravit Dagani ■ Lea Delson ■ Marilyn Dornhelm ■ John Ebel-Davies ■ Ruth Epstein ■ Chloe Farb ■ Sandra Fodrey ■ Lynn Gardner ■ Janette Gomes, CMT ■ Rivka Greenberg ■ Ama Dawn Greenrose, CMT ■ Amy Gup, CMT ■ Lisa Harbus ■ Laura Harder ■ Gary Jaffe, CMT ■ Amy (Uma) Kahn ■ Ron & Stacy Kahn ■ Channah Katz ■ Randi Kofski, CMT ■ Rachel Krug ■ Simon Levi ■ Stacy Mathias, CMT ■ Aaron Matzkin ■ Pablo McCord, CMT ■ Marcia Meister ■ Ethel Murphy ■ Alex Padilla ■ Linda Peacock ■ Ashley Platner ■ Nicki Platner ■ Brittany Rhodes, CMT ■ Chantal Saperstein ■ Ellen Schneider ■ Juliet Selk ■ Merry Selk ■ Danielle & Marat Shub ■ Carol Stone ■ Jennifer Tait, CMT ■ Andi Toll ■ Isaac Wilcox ■ Chris Williams ■ Shana Winokur ■ John Woodridge ■ Laurie Wright ■ Mindy Zimmerman ■ Shira Zucker ■ Body & Soul Planning Committee: Kate VanZanten & Linda Kalinowski, Event Chairs Carol Platner, Auction Chair Ellen Benjamin Michelle Booth Celia Harms Stacy Kahn Laura Katz Linda Kurtz Susan Moldaw Rebecca Schwartz Event Coordinator: Laurie Williams Honorary Host Committee: Roselyne & Marjorie Swig, Co-Chairs Hope Alper Ann & Irwin Bear Dr. Natalie Berg Diane & Ed Bernbaum US Senator Barbara Boxer Rabbi Steven Chester Myrna DeFreise Sue Diamond & Marty Schenker Cheryl Feiner Rabbi Stacy Friedman Denise & Ben Gage Linda Gerard & Danny Grossman Drs. Rivka Greenberg & Ken Stanton SF District Attorney Kamala Harris Minouche Kandel & Rick Sheinfield Barbara & Ron Kaufman Supervisor Alice Lai-Bitker US Representative Tom Lantos Sandra Lipkowitz Marcia Meister Councilmember Nancy Nadel Abby Porth Jan Reicher & Yossi Alouf Toby & Robert Rubin Dana & Aaron Sheanin Esta Soler Anne Steirman Jamie & Evan Traeger-Muney Page 2 Beverly Upton Rabbi Eric Weiss Thank you! Donations and Support Received January - November 2007 2007 Foundation Grants Ingrid Tauber, in honor of Sue Moldaw Martina & Michael Knee Rabbi Rosalind Glazer / The Wireless Foundation Arlene Kock Congregation Beth Israel-Judea, Kol Shofar Thursday Morning Minyan in honor of Doron Lev Shomeret/Guardian: $540 Grants of $20,000 and greater Juan & Carol Korenbrot Dr. Erica Goode Anne Bakar / Telecare Corporation The Hadassah Foundation Eva-Lynne Leibman Rabbi Marvin Goodman & Deborah Ellen & Jon