Shalom Bayit ENDING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN JEWISH HOMES

Summer 2013 ~ Tammuz 5773

Support Groups Turning 21: Coming of Age Reflections on Creating Hope

Offered in San Francisco, Naomi Tucker, Executive Director Rabbi Howard Ruben the East Bay, Marin, and the I’ll take any opportunity I can for Head of School, Peninsula, all healing groups renewal. Beginning a new year, a new life Jewish Community High School of the Bay are free and open to women stage, marking a transition to a new phase – Creating Hope was an important evening who have been abused in a rituals that mark our growth are precious because of the power of stories. There is a current or past relationship. opportunities to re-envision ourselves, begin For details call our Bay Area story, retold by Ellie Wiesel, about the Baal Toll -Free Helpline anew or strengthen what is already there. In Shem Tov who had a ritual for seeking Judaism we delineate age 13 as the moment protection for his community. The ritual 1-866-SHALOM-7 of transition to adulthood. American culture included going to a special spot in the forest, celebrates that milestone at 21. Regardless of West Bay groups made possible by the lighting a fire, and saying a particular prayer. Jewish Community Endowment what year you choose, each is an opportunity With that ritual, the community was Newhouse Fund to pause and reflect – and personally, I’ll take protected. Then generations later - long after East Bay groups made possible by the them both, because those reflective moments the place, the fire, and the prayer were Civic Foundation and by a joint grant create openings for positive change. forgotten - all that remained of the ritual was from the Jewish Community Foundation As Shalom Bayit celebrates 21 years of and Jewish Federation of the this story about it. East Bay. Thank you! empowering women and teens, we are Telling the story protected the community.

exploring what it means for both individuals Wiesel concludes by writing, God created

and organizations to come of age with the humanity because God loves stories. So it was right tools to build healthy futures. In our the night of Creating Hope - I was mesmerized abuse prevention programs we ask: what tools by the stories we heard about a community Newsletter Editor do young people need in order to build a Abigail Taubman that needs protecting. Shalom Bayit was foundation for healthy relationships as they instrumental in transforming stories of fear enter adulthood? As an organization, we ask: and loneliness into tales of courage and hope. Shalom Bayit Staff how do our agency and programs reflect 21 I am grateful for Shalom Bayit's evening of years of experience? stories to remind me how much God loves Executive Director Naomi Tucker Towards Healthy Relationships those who tell stories and how much work remains to protect the dignity of all in our Youth Program Coordinator Turning 21 is a critical time. Young people community. y Zephira Derblich -Milea must suddenly be ready to face “the real Direct Services Coordinator world.” As parents we worry about our Upcoming Events Lisa Kahn -Tietz college graduates’ final departure from the August 6 th Regional Counselors nest: Will they stay “out of trouble”? Are they Safe At Home —SF Giants Annie Goldstein ready to support themselves, get a job, carve a Talia Korenbrot career path? When we pack our kids up for Jewish Heritage Night at the Ballpark (San Francisco) Aliza Rothman their next phase of life we want to send them Carole Siegel off with the right tools and skills. It’s critically th September 29 Community Educator important to make sure relationship skills are Celebrate Sukkot with Shalom Bayit Paulette Dolin on that list. Join us in creating a shelter of peace

Program Associate One of the key ways to prevent domestic (East Bay) violence in adult life is to ensure that children Abigail Taubman Oct 11 th -12 th ó Shalom: learn about healthy and unhealthy Love Shouldn’t Hurt Interns A Sabbatical from Domestic Violence relationships before they begin to form their Dafna Bearson Shalom Bayit’s annual sermon campaign, Cordelia Palitz own. Kids need exposure during their early Parshat Lech Lecha (Bay Area wide) adolescence, and reinforcement throughout th Shalom Bayit is a beneficiary of the their teenage years. If we don’t prepare young May 14 , 2014 Jewish Community Federation Creating Hope 22 nd Anniversary Gala of San Francisco, the Peninsula, people to know what they want, seek out (San Francisco) Marin and Sonoma Counties, healthy patterns, and recognize red flags, how a project of the Tides Center, and a can we expect them to create healthy Tickets, location & info: (510) 451 -8874, proud member of the San Francisco relationships? Domestic Violence Consortium. —continued on p.2 (650) 574 -7233 or events@shalom -bayit.org That’s why we chose to make that topic the focus of our and community members each year, Shalom Bayit is a name annual Creating Hope benefit dinner this year, highlighting the people recognize as a safe haven, a strong voice, and an voices of young people – along with experts in the field – to effective program making a tangible difference. Most share what they know about guiding youth towards healthy importantly, confronting domestic violence is recog nized as a futures. Jewish communal priority – and Shalom Bayit is a vital part of Creating Hope our community’s core services. With all these successes, the

Our annual dinner on May 8th was a powerful evening, with next natural stage in our growth is to focus on strengthening young people and experts in the field teaming together to our core (think pilates) and increasing our reach. This means help us plan for a future free of violence. The sold-out crowd of both ensuring our infrastructure can support the communal nearly 300 people was propelled to action by our keynote needs that arise, and reaching out to those who may not yet speakers Esta Soler (Founder and President of Futures Without know about our programs. Violence) and filmmaker Jeffrey Brown (whose upcoming Some important infrastructure changes we’ve been working movie SOLD about child trafficking will premier next year), and on as we “come of age” include adding a new staff person to by young voices alongside them on stage. We were our team (Abby Taubman, our new administrative support entertained by talented students from Jewish Community High person), redesigning our offices to update technology systems School of the Bay. We heard from young women like Shira and renovate the counseling space for clients; and improving Chester and VanZanten sharing their personal stories of our website with a new site that will launch later this year. teen dating violence, and from teens as young as 12 spreading After 21 years of awareness-raising, healing, empowerment a message of respect. Their visions and voices were profoundly and education, Shalom Bayit has changed the communal inspiring and encouraged all of us to engage in the task of conversation about domestic violence in Jewish homes. As we guiding youth towards safe and healthy relationships. look to the future, our next task is to expand the tent of who is In this newsletter we bring you some highlights from that involved in building solutions. In the coming year several new wonderful evening: from celebratory photos (p.3) to one of strategic initiatives will help us broaden our reach to increase the powerful spoken word pieces shared from the stage (p.4), the effectiveness of our abuse prevention efforts. These include and a guide for teaching healthy relationship skills to young adult workshops on healthy boundaries, synagogue and people (p.5). We hope all of these pieces inspire you to pass agency protocols for responding to domestic violence, on a message of hope to the next generation. engaging more men to be a voice against domestic violence, and extending programs to segments of the community that Coming of Age as an Organization may not be aware of our services. We’ll be counting on all of

In our first decade Shalom Bayit was a small, all-volunteer you to help us grow in all those ways – and to spread the word task force, planning programs from our kitchen tables and about Shalom Bayit within your circles. Because if there is one meeting women in cafés when they called us to ask for help. hope I have for Shalom Bayit’s coming of age, it is that we We entered our second decade transforming that task force grow into our next phase of life within a strong community of into a strong professional agency, slowly building our staff friends. After all, as Golda Meir said about building Israeli team, board, and communal visibility. Now with offices on society, “I never did anything alone. Whatever was both sides of the Bay, clients in nine counties, and highly accomplished in this country was accomplished collectively.” effective programs serving over 2,000 women, teens, families y

Thank you to our In-Kind Donors (7/12 - 12/12) Jay Alec Sandy Lipkowitz A W ARM W ELCOME Wanyee Babitsky Suzy Locke BBYO Alex Madonik & Eve Sweetser Rachelle Blecher McKenzie River Corporation Please give a warm welcome to the newest member of Sue Blockstein in Berkeley our team: Abigail Taubman, Program Associate. Abby Congregation B'nai Tikvah 6 th Grade Jennifer Miller comes to Shalom Bayit committed to the mission of Contemporary Jewish Museum Elizabeth & Shawn Moyle ending domestic violence in the Jewish community and Lea Delson NCJW Women of Rossmoor in all communities. After receiving her B.A. in Carol Delton & Steve Zolno Seth & Lori Neumann Marta Erlich & Steve Freedman Anne Nicolson Community Based Mental Health in 2012 from Pitzer Lori Fineman PJCC Kesher Families College, Abby is excited to begin working with Sue Goldberg Vicky Prager activists, change makers, and healers in the Bay Area Rochelle Goodfriend / Susan Rancer who dedicate their lives to creating a violence free Goodfriend Design Robin Reiner & Fred Isaac world. Rivka Greenberg Joel Rutsky Carmit Halpert Saltzman & Johnson Law Corporation Brandy Higgins Randi Shafton Tammie Jeung Michele Stafford Abby can be reached at our main office at Jewish Community Federation Chad Thompson (510) 451-8874 or [email protected]. Women's Philanthropy Emily Toch Welcome, Abby! Judy Kitt Alice Webber & Steven Tobias Judy Kunofsky & Marian Wolfe & Scott Scheffler Mitchell Shandling Women of Isaiah Linda Kurtz Judy Yudof

Page 2 21 st Anniversary Celebration th May 8 , 2013 THANK YOU TO OUR CREATING H OPE S UPPORTERS Tamara Abrams Betty Denenberg Adler Hope & Noah Alper Rabbi Camille Angel / Congregation Sha’ar Zahav Anonymous

Andi & David Arrick Front row: Marilyn Waldman, Murry Waldman, Jan Waldman, Jeffrey Brown, Esta Soler; Honorary Hosts Leona and Rabbi Steven Chester, Rabbi Raphael Asher Event Chair Jan Reicher and Ingrid Tauber Top Row: Charene Zalis, Commissioner Nancy Kirshner-Rodriguez, Beverly Upton and Shira Chester Sweitzer Ms. Isabel Auerbach Sands Auerbach Sue & Ron Bachman Taylor by Jeri Photos Elaine & Bill Bachrach Anne Bakar / Telecare Corporation Mike Baker Marcy Ballard Cantor Roslyn Barak / Congregation Emanu-El Rose Barlow Barbara Barza Alla Gershberg, Donna Fogel, Jodi Magen, Jen Dash Sue Diamond and Linda Kalinowski Barry and Debbie Cohn, Rabbi Howard Ruben Rosyland & Dr. Robert Bauer Estelle Baum Wendy Bear Leslie Behar Evelyn Benas Ellen & Jon Benjamin Riva & David Berelson Susie Berg Diane & Ed Bernbaum Jane Kahn, Roberta Zucker, Nancy Goldberg, Elaine Binger JCHS students and Friends Jennifer Gorovitz, Susan Moldaw, Patricia Lurie Antonia Lavine, Jeffrey Brown Alain Bismuth Deborah Bloch Judy Bloom Barry Dubin Velia Frost Robin Reiner & Fred Isaac Rabbi Mark Bloom / Betsy Eckstein & David Heller Mimi Gauss Rabbi Debbie Israel / Temple Beth Abraham Rhona Edelbaum Gayle Geary Congregation Emeth Ellen Bob & David Waksberg Helene & Larry Edelman Ms. Jerilyn Gelt Deborah Israel Shirley Bob Dawn & Karl Ehrlich Marsha Gelt Tom Jacobowsky Rabbis David Booth & Sarah Graff / EILEEN FISHER, Inc. Alla Gershberg Corine E Kaddouz Congregation Kol Emeth Jill & Marc Engel Drs. Tricia & Richard Gibbs Jane Kahn & Michael Bien Michal Braker Rabbi Nat Ezray / Larry Ginsburg Ron & Stacy Kahn Robin Brasso Congregation Beth Jacob Candice Gold Rabbi Yoel Kahn / Congregation Beth El Randi Brenowitz Danice & Paul Fagin Dr. David & Cheri Goldberg Linda & Tom Kalinowski Anlee J. Brickman Sheila & Philip Faillace Nancy Goldberg Minouche Kandel & Rick Sheinfield Sherry Brown-Ryther & David Ryther Farella, Braun + Martel LLP Sandra Goldberg Sara Keyak Michael Brozman Rabbi Dan Feder / Cathy Dobbs Goldstein & Phyllis A Kimmel Stacey Calhoun Peninsula Temple Sholom Philip Goldstein Carol Kirsh & Thomas Gottlieb Ronnie Caplane Myra & Jerry Feiger Miriam Goodley Commissioner Nancy Kirshner-Rodriguez Abby Caplin & Ami Goodman Josiane Feigon / Sandra & Norman Gordon Michelle Ranes Klafter Ginny Carter & Larry Rosenberg Telesmart Communications Jennifer Gorovitz Pam Kramer & Rich Sigberman Madeline Chaleff & David Arfin Heidy Feinberg Rabbi Danny Gottlieb / Ruth Krumbein Rabbi Steven & Leona Chester Flora & Bob Feldman Congregation Beth Israel-Judea Linda & Frank Kurtz Ellen Cleary Suzanne & Elliott Felson Rabbi Roberto Graetz / Temple Isaiah April Lapidus Jane & Richard Cohen Rabbi Carla Fenves / Rivka Greenberg Diane Laub Barry & Debbie Cohn Congregation Emanu-El Cecille Gunst Antonia Lavine Denise Cohn Dr. Debbie Findling Susan Hamlin Barbara Leff & Arlene Singer Rheta Cole Sheila & Milton Fine Celia & Terry Harms Eva-Lynne Leibman Rabbi David Cooper Judi Finkelstein Elvia & Jerry Harris Sara Leslie Talia Cooper Sue Fishkoff Van & Jeri Hart Barbara Levinson Natalie Crouch Donna Fogel Norman Hersch Dan & Nora Levinson Valerie Curtis & Naomi Tucker Shelley Forrest Marilyn Higuera Ilene Levinson & Rem Van Tijen Rabbi Judah Dardik / Joanne Fox Marilyn Hoffman Lenore Levinson Beth Jacob Congregation Linda & Eli Frank Shelley Hubner Levinson Benefits Group, LLC Jen Dash Barbara Freeman Marsha Hurwitz Marilyn Levinson Susan Werchick Davis Bab Freiberg & Lee Bearson The Hutchinson Family Rabbi Chai Levy / Dayenu Judaica Rabbi Stacy Friedman / Jordan & Sarah Hymowitz Congregation Kol Shofar Sue Diamond & Martin Schenker Congregation Rodef Sholom Rabbi Me'irah Iliinsky Ruth Levy Page 3 continued from page 3 BREAKING SILENCE by Dyanna Loeb Judy Levy-Sender Rabbi Andrew & Karen Straus / for everyone who asks, why didn’t you tell anyone? Sandra Lipkowitz Temple Sinai of Oakland Barbara Loeb Alicia Sullivan & Michael Baumstein I dream Patricia R. Lurie Marjorie Swig Jodi Magen Roselyne C. Swig about picking the lock Marlene & Gadi Maier Kate Taffel the day he deadbolted me into our apartment Sharon Malone & Bob Kozma Nechama & Howard Tamler I dream about running downstairs Rabbis Sheldon & Janet Marder Laura Tannenwald revealing my swollen red black and blue face Rabbi Janet Marder / Rabbi Laurie Hahn Tapper to the guy at the borekas shop Congregation Beth Am Ingrid Tauber & Frank Taforo Heather Marlowe Louise & Craig Taubman Rabbi Jacqueline Mates-Muchin / Leslie Ticktin I fantasize about stumbling into the police station Temple Sinai of Oakland Michelle Ina Van Tijen blood not yet dried Katherine McCarthy Debbie Toizer under the skin of my forearms Rabbi Mark Melamut Tommy's Joynt before I showered the evidence Alexis Milea & Jerry Derblich Batshir Torchio & Dean MacDonald off my inner thighs Elaine Moise Mandi Toutsch bumps still protruding from my skull Phyllis Moldaw Harriet Tucker Susan Moldaw Beverly Upton & David Hill misplaced mountains Gale Mondry Kate VanZanten and telling them Barbara & Bob Morrison Madhulika Varma & Jonathan Terdiman his name Sheri Morrison Vogel-Denebeim Family Albert Nahman Plumbing Lisa Wagonfeld What if I told my teacher the truth? Mavis Nathan Shelley Waits Adrienne Oberstein Jan Waldman & Jeffrey Brown Sorry I can’t come to class or meetings all week. My Mary Rose O'Conner Murry & Marilyn Waldman boyfriend beat me so bad last night I can barely walk Ricki Oleon Rochelle B. Weil and my eyelids are so swollen I can barely see and Lauri Paul Rabbi Eric Weiss / Bay Area Jewish the blows impacted my jaw so hard that it hurts to Linda & Christian Peacock Healing Center chew. Karen & Brian Perlman Carol Weitz Carolyn Power Perlstein Beth-Ann & Marvin Wenger Carol & Tom Platner Barbara Whitgob I wake up Harriet Prensky & William Pomeranz Kathy Williams silence traps me. Lisa & John Pritzker Miriam Wolf & Dani Moskowitz I call in sick for a week. Anne Quaintance Rebecca & Rabbi Peretz Wolf-Prusan When my concerned program counselor sends me to Rabbis Lawrence Raphael & Julie Saxe- Mrs. Pearl Wolffs a therapist, Taller / Congregation Sherith Israel Mary Woten I say, Rebecca Ravel Michael & Jan Yaffe Claudia Miriam Reed Karen & Stuart Yasgoor “He just gets angry and yells sometimes.” Jan Reicher Charene Zalis She tells me Sue Reinhold & Deborah Newbrun Paul Zarefsky “Unless you want to leave him, there’s nothing I can Sherri Richards Roberta Zucker do for you.” Julie Robbins

Wendye Robbins In -Kind Support Provided by: Barbara Rosenberg I remember the first time I ever saw a man hit a ACT / American Conservatory Theater Lisa Rosenberg woman Afikomen Judaica Martha & Stanley Ross was in Israel 2 years ago, Amici’s East Coast Pizzeria Andrea Rouah Anonymous and when I asked my roommate to help me call the Rabbi Howard Ruben / JCHS Anonymous, in honor of Sandy Lipkowitz police Kitty Rudman BookShop West Portal because my Hebrew wasn’t good enough, Kimberly & Lisie Sabbag enJOY Event Design Marsha & Richard Sacks he brushed me off Fox Graphics Miryam Sas & Paul Whitmore “There’s no point. They won’t do anything.” Hair by Sharice / Sharice Smith Johnson Gail Schechter The Inn San Francisco Karen Schneider & Nacho Sanz-Pastor Eva-Lynne Leibman So I lay in bed quiet/stomach gnawing Rabbi Avi Schulman / Temple Beth Torah Dean MacDonald smell the borekas baking Theo Taft Schwabacher Merola Opera Program but never venture downstairs Rebecca Schwartz & Roger Feigelson Milk & Honey Catering Sue Schwartzman never open my mouth Peace in Mind Judaic Art / Eva Seligman-Kennard and have a taste Lori Greenblat-Wick Jacqueline Shelton-Miller Larry Rosenberg Photography Anne Shmitz & Aaron Kaufmann RuthKnits Dyanna Loeb is an MC, poet & dancer. She is currently Lynn Simon Anne Salsbury writing her first full-length poetry collection, to be Michele Stafford San Francisco Giants published by First Word Press in July 2013. You can find Anita L. Stapen Semifreddi’s Bakery her music and upcoming performance dates at Tracy Stettner Jeri Taylor Photography facebook.com/dynamic510 Collin Stone Trader Joe’s

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Thank you to Creating Hope chair extraordinaire JAN R EICHER , and to Honorary Host Committee chairs LEONA & R ABBI S TEVEN C HESTER .

Together with our many generous supporters and sponsors, you helped Creating Hope meet our ambitious fundraising goal of raising $100,000 to support Shalom Bayit’s programs. We are grateful for the community’s partnership in making healthy relationships a right and responsibility for all.

10 THINGS YOU CAN DO TO HELP PREVENT TEEN DATING VIOLENCE

1. Talk to teens about relationships – both healthy and unhealthy. Start this early and often. You can use Jewish text and teachings as a springboard for your conversation.

2. Teach young children about healthy friendships, peaceful conflict resolution, strong communication skills and healthy boundaries.

3. Counter harmful gender stereotypes by teaching girls and boys that beauty comes from within, that they are not defined by others, that every person is in charge of their own body, that it’s OK for boys to cry and express their feelings, and that respect is cool.

4. Ask teens what’s important to them in a healthy relationship – and then genuinely listen to what they have to say.

5. Give information about dating violence and sexual assault – not to alarm, but to inform. Remember that knowledge is power, and it’s good to think in advance about “what you would do if…”

6. Point out things you see out in the world – a movie scene, a music video, an argument you witness at the grocery store – and ask teens for their opinion on what they saw/felt/noticed.

7. Watch what teens are watching and pay attention to what is important to them. Share your opinions, and respect theirs too.

8. Empower kids with the tools they need to protect themselves, as well as the courage to stand up for what they believe in if they witness bullying, harassment or other harmful behaviors. Bring up topics like love, respect, control, consent, dating, peer pressure, and ways technology can help or harm.

9. Bring Love Shouldn’t Hurt workshops to your school, synagogue or youth group. Every teen deserves healthy relationships education!

10. Model healthy boundaries and relationships– in your own family, home, workplace, congregation and community.

Through interactive workshops for middle, high school and college students Love Shouldn’t Hurt helps young people recognize abusive behavior and gain the knowledge and tools to make healthy relationship choices in their future. Contact us to schedule a teen or parent workshop in your school, synagogue or youth group! [email protected] 510-451-8874

ONE IN THREE TEENS EXPERIENCES ABUSE IN A DATING RELATIONSHIP Page 5 Honorary and Memorial Gifts Shalom Bayit July 2012 – December 2012 In honor of Mr. & Mrs. John Taylor Honorary Gifts Mrs. Juliette Goldman Around The Bay In honor of Jesse Buckner Alper & Maya Raviv In honor of Naomi Tucker Ethel Zivotofsky Ms. Terry Pink Alexander Marcia & Jan Chaiken In honor of Cantor Roslyn Barak Susan Hamlin Jordan & Sarah Hymowitz Ruth Jaffee In honor of Ellen Benjamin Rabbi Judy Shanks & Jill Kneeter & Rabbi Edward Zerin Dr. James Gracer

In honor of Chai BBG #1728 In honor of Aliza Wiseman Elizabeth Mester Cindy Sharon

In honor of In honor of Christina Lila Woo Zephira Derblich -Milea Suzanne Sims Woo

Talia Cooper In honor of Asher Zadikoff Sarah Lesser & Zvi Bellin One Billion Rising Jody Bloom

th In honor of On February 14 Shalom Bayit staff, board, and Mary Diamond Firstenberg volunteers took part in the One Billion Rising event at Jerri Firstenberg San Francisco City Hall, the largest global action in Memorial Gifts In honor of Gretel Gates history to end violence against women and girls. In memory of Felice Berkman Brewe r Brenda Gates-Monasch Women and men in 207 countries came together to Sherry Berkman In honor of dance and RISE up to express their collective outrage In memory of Evelyn Chaiken Brenda Gates -Monasch towards violence against women. Marcia & Jan Chaiken Gene & Susan Kaufman In memory of Paul Curtis In honor of Rivka Greenberg Claudette Greenblat Karen Friedman & David Marcus Shalom Bayit Board of Directors In honor of Marilyn Hoffman In memory of Linda Dannenberg Anne Salsbury & Jules Steimnitz Diane Claerbout In honor of Linda Kalinowski In memory of Harold Davidson Julie & Ron Bannerman Rivka Greenberg Michael Bien & Jane Kahn Hiroko Nogami-Rosen In memory of Deborah Edelman Laura Katz In honor of Cathy Kobel & Robert Altbaier In memory of David & nd Rabbi Steven & Leona Chester Blanche El -Bez 2 Annual South Bay Womyn’s Conference th Chantal Saperstein On March 9 Youth Program Coordinator Zephira In honor of Pam Kramer Derblich-Milea led a workshop on healthy Donita Decker In memory of Anne Feld Celia & Terry Harms relationships and setting healthy boundaries at San In honor of Linda Kurtz Jose State University. This was the second year that Leslie Friedman In memory of Nancy Feiner Jennifer Shy & Michael Feiner this workshop was offered at the South Bay Womyn’s In honor of Lizzy Myers Conference and we look forward to more in the Linda Cox Myers & David Myers In memory of Sam Gordon Ken Kirsch & Nancy Gordon future! In honor of the staff & members of Peninsula Temple Sholom In memory of Strengthening Leadership Peninsula Temple Sholom/ Robert & Mary Imberman Rabbi Dan Feder Malka Lozon & David Kahn Executive Director Naomi Tucker was invited to join In honor of Amelia Prather -Nahman In memory of Rita Robbins two Jewish leadership initiatives this past year. Locally, Albert Nahman Julie Robbins Cinti & Robert Cinti Naomi was part of UpStart’s leadership cohort for directors of small Bay Area Jewish nonprofits, a project In honor of Henry Reutenauer In memory of Jack Rogoway Lisa Kama Marion Rogoway & Julie Stine funded by the Walter & Elise Haas Fund. She was also accepted into the Bay Area cohort of Selah, a national In honor of Rami Richards & In memory of Moshe Rubinstein Kathryn Coy's Son Judith & Glenn Massarano leadership development program for Jewish social Sherri Richards Flynn justice leaders. Selah is a collaborative project of Bend In memory of Sarah Sheidlower the Arc: A Jewish Partnership for Justice and the In honor of Shalom Bayit's Staff Ruth Sheidlower Rabbi Marvin Goodman & In memory of Milton Sigberman Rockwood Leadership Institute. “I have loved being Deborah Kelman part of these two amazing programs,” Naomi writes, Maxene Bodin In honor of Dana Sheanin “Both provided valuable training and mentoring to In memory of Esther Sorokin Cynthia & Bob Rawitch deepen my leadership skills. It is a privilege to learn and Iris Sorokin In honor of Abby Taubman grow in a community of colleagues.” In memory of Orna Jane Sorokin Louise & Craig Taubman Iris Sorokin Noah Taubman

Page 6 Page 6 2012 Semi-Annual Report Thank you! (Donations & grants received July - December 2012)

Etz Chayim / Tree of Life Anne & Michael Becker Ozeret/Supporter Judy Ganz Emily Blanck & Daniel Weiss Gayle Geary $20,000 and greater The Amgen Foundation Rachel Brodie & Adam Weisberg Michael Goldstein & Debbie Gold Grossberg Abrams Foundation Anonymous Rabbi Shula Stevens Calmann Eve Gordon-Ramek Walter & Elise Haas Fund Andi & David Arrick Susan & Bill Epstein Rivka Greenberg Jewish Community Federation of Evelyn Benas Rabbi Nat Ezray / Reyna Greenfield BlackRock San Francisco, the Peninsula, Congregation Beth Jacob Congregation Emeth Sisterhood Anne Grenn Saldinger, PhD Marin, & Sonoma Counties Marianne & Herb Friedman Rabbi Michelle Fisher Mika Gustavson & Rich Berlin Mount Zion Health Fund Stella & David Goodwin Nanette & Richard Freedland Rabbi Jason Gwasdoff / Joe & Barbara Gurkoff Temple Israel in Stockton Hannah Hochstaedter Wings of Peace: $5,000+ Mr. Marc Haugen & Ms. Jill Goldring Jeff Haas Phyllis A Kimmel Marilyn Higuera Jewish Community Foundation & Wendy & Howard Kleckner Rabbi Corey Helfand / Andrea Jacoby Federation of the East Bay Stephanie Lauter Peninsula Sinai Congregation Caren Kaplan Joel & Helen Isaacson Jewish Community Endowment Mary & Andrew Lesser Paul Kivel & Micki Luckey Newhouse Fund Myra K. Levenson Rabbi Debbie Israel Bertie & Sam Krieger The Hadassah Foundation Barbara Levinson Rabbi Margie Jacobs Barbara Loeb Verizon Wireless Hopeline Sandra Lipkowitz Kitty Kameon Rabbi Jacqueline Mates-Muchin / Barbara Kaplan Ronnie Mannos Healing Angels: $2,500+ Temple Sinai of Oakland Robin Keller, Ph.D. & Dawn Margolin June McKay Civic Foundation Linda & Steve Mayne Mark Geliebter, MD Peninsula Temple Beth El Marcia Meister Rabbi Stuart & Vicki Kelman Rabbi Daniel Pressman / Barbara Kirsch Bonot Chalom/ Elaine Moise Congregation Beth David DreamBuilders: $1,000+ Anne Nicholson Commissioner Nancy Kirshner-Rodriguez Karen Robbins Catherine & Fred Ross-Perry Joan Korin & Ronn Berrol Rosalie Eisen Bonni & Steve Schiff Adrienne & Martin Segol Judith Kunofsky & Christine Glastonbury, MD Teddy & Bruce Schwab Mitchell Shandling David Shaw Susan Moldaw Shir Hadash Men's Club Barbara Shufro & David Steuer Elizabeth Landers Lisa & John Pritzker Arthur & Elizabeth Spander/ Beverly Upton & David Hill Ellyn & Rachel Levinson Newman Memorial Fund of the Kate VanZanten Desmid Bendix Lyon Shomeret/Guardian Jewish Community Foundation Nicole Maderas Wendy & Jeremy Verba Jane & Richard Springwater / Midrasha in Berkeley Sarah Weisman Ruth Malkin Klion Springwater Coven Janet Surkin & Bob Stillman Judy Windrix Lisa Miller Family Foundation Sheri Morrison Tehiyah Day School 7 th Grade Diane & Joshua Wirtschafter Anne & David Steirman Offer Glass Marian Wolfe & Scott Scheffler Ilene Weinreb Pam & Albert Palitz Chachamah/Wise One Jennifer Wolfe / Women of Temple Sinai Palo Alto Rosh Hodesh Group Stanley R. Wolfe Foundation Wanyee Babitsky Roberta Zucker Linda & Christian Peacock

Randall Benway Dr. Eleanor Zuckerman / Carole Perl Chaverah/Friend Meredith J. Goldsmith Drs. Eleanor L. & Stanley Susan & Mike Rancer Bethany & Jim Hornthal / Zuckerman Philanthropic Fund & Don & Susan Allen Michelle Ranes Klafter The Hornthal Family Foundation the Lisa Zuckerman Gamshad Anonymous Marilyn Rosekind Rabbi Micah Hyman / Family Philanthropic Fund Rabbi Melanie Aron Kibbie Ruth & Jim Granucci Congregation Beth Sholom Rabbi Raphael Asher / Merrylen Sacks & Bruce Irvine Linda & Frank Kurtz Madricha/Advocate Congregation B'nai Tikvah Nancy Schneider Kate Lorig Florence Bamidele Aliza Shapiro Sue Adler-Bressler & Dave Bressler Lumina Foundation Ellen & Jon Benjamin Leslie Simon Michele Brenner Marlene & Gadi Maier / Lillian Madeline Benson Shirley Solomon Linda Cantrell Knell Philanthropic Fund of JCEF Betty & Jack Bernstein Carol Stone Victor & Lorraine Honig Rabbis Sheldon & Janet Marder Congregation Beth Israel-Judea Diane Swanson Ronna Honigman Karen & Brian Perlman Rachelle Blecher Tim & Chris Taich Linda & Tom Kalinowski Robin Reiner & Fred Isaac Susan Blockstein Nechama & Howard Tamler Kehilla Community Synagogue Kathy Williams Nicole Bloom Claire D. Taylor Kol Shofar Thursday Minyan Carol & Terry Winograd / Denah Bookstein Temple Israel in Stockton Bertie & Sam Krieger Winograd-Hunter Family Fund Karen & Steve Bovarnick Chad Thompson & Naomi Hatkin David Lee & Barbara Petterson of Silicon Valley Community Art & Sheila Braufman Susan Weber Deborah Lesser Foundation Elana & Stuart Citrin Lisa Whitmore Midrasha in Berkeley Dr. Valerie Curtis Wendy Winter Alexis Milea & Jerry Derblich Paulette Dolin Miriam Wolf Gomelet Chesed/Benefactor Julia Olsen Rabbi Natan & Sarah Fenner Amy Wollman & Gerry Berkowitz Dana Pepp Adi Reicher Alouf Helen Field Rabbi Bridget Wynne Arlene Saidman Anonymous Dianne Fohrman Karen Yencich Rebecca Schwartz & Roger Feigelson Cantor Roslyn Barak / Barbara Freeman Ethel Zivotofsky Elihu Welber & Jan Herr Congregation Emanu-El Anne Fuchs-Chesney Judy Yudof Charles Schwab Foundation

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Live in the North Bay? Know someone Three Cheers for our who might need our support? VOLUNTEERS (July 2012 - present)

MARIN W OMEN ’S S UPPORT G ROUP Sally Aelion Dafna Bearson Coming this fall to a confidential Marin location. Lee Bearson Shalom Bayit For women in abusive or controlling relationships (past or Laura Bingham P.O. Box 10102 present). A supportive gathering of women and experienced Tamela Broer Oakland, CA 94610 facilitators offer hope, help and healing in a Jewish context. Leona Chester www.shalom-bayit.org Valerie Curtis www.love-shouldnt-hurt.org Co-led by Shalom Bayit and the Bay Area Jewish Healing Center Diane Davies Phone: 510-451-8874 FREE; childcare provided. Susan Davis

For more info or to sign up, call Shalom Bayit toll free at: Sam Dolin Helpline : 510-451-SAFE or (866) SHALOM-7 650-574-SAFE John Ebel-Davies (866-742-5667) Bay Area toll-free helpline: Josiane Feigon Heidy Feinberg 866 -SHALOM -7 Lori Fineman Rabbinic Advisory Everyone has the right to be… Liana Hersh Council Marilyn Hoffman Deborah Israel Corey Helfand Jackie Mates-Muchin SAFE AT HOME Zara Jaffe Co-Chairs Stacy Kahn

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Camille Angel ✡ Melanie Aron Eva-Lynne Liebman Rafael Asher ✡ Ryan Bauer Come schmooze at the ballpark with us! Allen Bennett ✡ Josh Berkenwald Jodi Magen th Mark Bloom ✡ David Booth Tuesday, August 6 , 2013 ♦ 7:15pm Lamda Chi Mu Shula Stevens Calmann ✡ Ari Cartun Steven Chester ✡ Karen Citrin Marcia Meister Micah Citrin ✡ Yonatan Cohen Bring your family and friends to join the Shalom Bayit Miriam Reed David Cooper ✡ Mychal Copeland contingent for Jewish Heritage Night at the Ballpark. Menachem Creditor ✡ Judah Dardik Robin Reiner Michael Davies ✡ Lavey Derby World champion San Francisco Giants will face off Jamie Rose Aderet Drucker ✡ Dennis J. Eisner against the Milwaukee Brewers. Melly Rosen Nat Ezray ✡ Dan Feder ✡ Ted Feldman Yitzchok Feldman ✡ Joshua Fenton Linda Schireson Carla Fenves ✡ Stacy Friedman Reserve your tickets now! Carole Siegel Pam Frydman ✡ George Gittleman Dan Goldblatt ✡ Marv Goodman (650) 574-7233 or [email protected] Iris Sorokin Danny Gottlieb ✡ Roberto Graetz Jeri Taylor Sarah Graff ✡ Nicki Greninger Chaya Gusfield ✡ Jason Gwasdoff Kate VanZanten Micah Hyman ✡ Me’irah Iliinsky Debbie Israel ✡ Margie Jacobs Burt Jacobson ✡ Valerie Joseph Shalom Bayit Wish List THANK YOU Yoel Kahn ✡ Stuart Kelman to the many individuals, Dean Kertesz ✡ Noa Kushner Gift cards for food and basic foundations, businesses and Susan Leider ✡ Chai Levy necessities (Target, Safeway, etc.) Sheldon Lewis ✡ Michael Lezak organizations who make our Laptop Jane Litman ✡ Dana Magat programs a success. Harry A. Manhoff ✡ Janet Marder Sheldon Marder ✡ Mark Melamut In -kind & financial contributions We couldn’t do this Alissa Miller ✡ Sydney Mintz without you! Katie Mizrahi ✡ Philip Ohriner are tax deductible. Daniel Pressman ✡ Howard Ruben Elisheva Salamo ✡ Julie Saxe-Taller Please send your gift to “Tides Center / Shalom Bayit” at SaraLeya Schley ✡ Avi Schulman PO Box 10102, Oakland 94610 or donate securely online Hugh Seid-Valencia ✡ Miriam Senturia Judy Shanks ✡ Rebekah Stern at www.shalom-bayit.org Don’t forget Andrew Straus ✡ Laurie Hahn Tapper Mimi Weisel ✡ Eric Weiss to send us Peretz Wolf-Prusan ✡ Bridget Wynne those old

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