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Statute Fun Quiz Pick your favorite ice cream flavor: Vanilla Food Tests: Chocolate Butter pecan Banana Strawberry Chocolate chip Ice cream Analysis • If you like vanilla, you are colorful, impulsive, a • If you like banana, you are easy going, well risk taker who sets high goals and has high expectations adjusted, generous, honest and empathetic. of yourself. You also enjoy close family relationships. • If you like strawberry, you are shy, yet emotionally Gregarious, lives a hectic life. Easily suggestible, robust, skeptical, detail-oriented, opinionated, expressive, idealistic; a private person. introverted and self-critical. Easily made to feel guilty; • If you like chocolate, you are lively, creative, cranky, pessimistic, low self-esteem. dramatic, charming, enthusiastic and the life of the • If you like chocolate chip, you are generous, party. Chocolate fans enjoy being at the center of competitive and accomplished. You are charming in attention and can become bored with the usual social situations, ambitious and competent. A routine. Seductive, well-dressed, extroverted, easily visionary, a conqueror, enjoys being catered to, a influenced, a follower, intuitive, enjoys intimate go-getter, intolerant of defeat. relationships. • If you like butter pecan, you are orderly, perfectionist, careful, detail-oriented, conscientious, ethical and fiscally conservative. You are also competitive, aggressive in sports and the take-charge type of personality. Compatibility Chart If your favorite flavor is: • Vanilla - you are most likely to be compatible with someone whose favorite flavor is also vanilla. • Chocolate - you are most likely to be compatible with someone whose favorite flavor is butter pecan or chocolate chip. • Butter pecan - you are most likely to be compatible with someone whose favorite flavor is butter pecan, chocolate or chocolate chip. • Banana - you are compatible with all flavors. • Strawberry - you are most likely to be compatible with someone whose favorite flavor is chocolate chip. • Chocolate chip - you are most likely to be compatible with someone whose favorite flavor is butter pecan or chocolate The path in your life, May never be straight . Contain bumps and curves, Where many are great . Your personal experiences, Have shaped who you are . Embrace your mistakes, and each unique scar. There's always new things , In life we may learn. With every page, and chapter we turn. There's just one simple, but very important rule. Your passion for life, should be used as your fuel. Passion for Life As We Age, So Do Our Social Connections go running with, another whom you call to help you When you're young, you're yourself. When we get through a crisis. It can be fulfilling to have reach our 30's, most of us are raising small children friendships on different levels. and building a career. When you marry, have Thinking this way often requires a quite dramatic children, and/or pursue a career, you become other shift for women. Women seek friendships primarily people in addition to yourself. You're not just your for emotional connection, and for this reason, the core self anymore. You are Sally's mom, Chris' ending of a friendship can be as traumatic as a spouse, Company X's agent. You belong to each of divorce. But as we mature, we need to undergo a them, and they belong to you. subtle shift in the way we think about friendship. Career and family will devour the vast majority We need to think not in terms of emotional of your energy and time. And that's as it should be. sustenance but in terms of social connections for You will "lose" yourself for a while. Even the time the diverse roles you yourself now play. and energy devoted to our marriages will decline as the "cannot put this off" demands of young children How to respond to these life changes and career take center stage. Unfortunately, many Once you shift your thinking about friendship, couples decide at this point that they have "grown these simple steps will bring more people into your apart" and that a change of spouse is in order. life. Sometimes such a change is needed. Most often, 1. Go out and look for conspecifics. just time and patience are required—an A "conspecific" is someone who is like you, or understanding that you will return to each other as more precisely, like one or more parts of you. If the demands of career and children begin to you're a parent, that means other parents. If you're subside. a bookkeeper, that means other bookkeepers. If More importantly, your spouse, children, and you're a jogger, that means other joggers. You get career will bring you into contact with people who the idea. share those aspects of yourself but not necessarily 2. Accept invitations even if you don't want to others. This broadens your social networks, but it go. does not necessarily deepen them. These social Even if you're tired, even if you think you're going connections serve particular needs and may or may to be bored, just get up and go. Once there, refer to not last. And you shouldn't expect them to. You may point #1. find yourself socializing with the parents of your 3. Appreciate that what people look for in a children's friends. The connection you have with friend has changed. them is your children—the fact that you have To put it most simply, people just want company. children of the same age and interests. As your They really don't care if you are funny, entertaining, children age, graduate from school, and start their smart, interesting, or have really cool opinions. own lives, the connections you had to their parents They just want to be with people who seem to like may recede because they were not connected to being with other people and are open to being with your core self. them. The same can be said with coworker friendships. 4. Appreciate that social relationships in business What you have in common is your place of are based on rank and power. employment or choice of career. If those change, In order to build a career, it is necessary to form those social relationships may or may not endure. social connections to other people in your field or In fact, according to a related study, every seven place of business. And those who hold high ranking years we lose about half of our close network of positions or otherwise wield power are also those friends and replace them with others—a period of who can make or break careers. So don't be surprised time that typically corresponds to life events that or put off by the fact that these people are most redefine our lives. often the targets of social connection, and don't be We are all looking for a best friend—but that’s surprised if you find yourself pursued in this way as not really realistic as an adult. One friend doesn’t your status rises. These connections serve a purpose have to offer everything. I have a lot of friends I in your career like other connections do in other wouldn’t call if I was having a bad day, but I’d invite aspects of your life. Everyone needs successful them to play paintball. You can have one friend you mentors and well-wishers as they build a career. love to talk about fashion with, someone else you Just be sure to pay it forward as you rise. NO.82|Page 13 A very common dilemma that we face as we age: where did all my friends go? I am grateful to have cherished friends from childhood I talk with often but seldom see. I’ve also maintained college friendships formed nearly 20 years ago. Yet I hadn’t made a new close friend in years. Why We Find It Hard to Make Friends After 30 Where did all my friends go? include just family members, close friends, and other This isn't an illusion or a craving to turn the clock close confidants) decreased throughout adulthood, back to one's youth. A recent documented this very (c) The family network was stable in size from common phenomenon. The researchers conducted a adolescence to old age, and meta-analysis of 277 studies based on 177,635 (d) Other networks with coworkers or neighbors participants from adolescence to old age. The results were important only in specific age ranges. consistently showed that: In other words, even if you have thousands of (a) Global social networks (which include your "friends" on Facebook or Google+, the number of family, friends, coworkers, business acquaintances, close friends we have peaks in our 20s and then and so on) increased up until young adulthood and steadily declines. then decreased steadily, These facts may seem alarming. But they aren't. (b) Personal and friendship networks (which Here's why: صفحه 60 | شماره 82 Cinderella Adventure | Drama | Family - 13 March 2015 A live-action retelling of the classic fairy tale about a servant step-daughter who wins the heart of a prince.