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PUBLISHER Richard Coltharp Contents 575-524-8061 [email protected] 6 GUEST 16 MUSIC SCENE • Smooth Sounds 29 CYCLES OF LIFE • Committed to Commuting COMMENTARY • An Classical guitarist opens school in Las Starting a new year of cycling by Fr. Gabriel EDITOR Unattended Death Cruces by Billy Huntsman Rochelle Elva K. Österreich Writing contest win- 575-680-1978 ner gets closure from 16 ARTS FAIR • Original Work 29 BODY, MIND & SPIRIT • Minimalism [email protected] surprising source Las Cruces venue opens in All the Rage March Asking for a spark of joy by Suzanne Barteau ADVERTISING 6 POSTCARDS FROM THE EDGE COORDINATOR • Journeying 17 CHROMATIC SCALE • 30 TUMBLEWEEDS • To Standing Rock Pam Rossi 575-635-6614 A visit to Arizona Ruidoso DAPL issue still in limbo by Morgan Smith [email protected] Strumming on Sacred Ground 6 LETTERS • Musical Moments by Marty Racine 30 PIPELINE UPDATE • Is it Over? DISTRIBUTION An encouraging moment in Standing Rock Sioux wait COORDINATOR New Mexico 18 ARTS EXPOSURE • by Suzanne Barteau Teresa Tolonen 575-680-1841 Gallery Guide [email protected] 7 EDITOR’S NOTEBOOK • Area arts venues listed 31 GHOST ADVENTURES • Show Visits All the Little Lies Las Cruces ADVERTISING SALES Growing relationships 19 ON SCREEN • World War I Travel Channel lms in Old Mesilla Silver City by Elva K. Östereich Turns 100 Ilene Wignall 575-313-0002 Fort Bayard spring lm series 32 BODY, MIND & SPIRIT • Grant County Events [email protected] 7 DESERT DIARY • begins Weekly happenings in Grant County My Valentine LAYOUT AND DESIGN How one man is many things 19 BUSINESS IN BUSINESS • 33 POLLUTION PREVENTION • Energy Work Stacey Neal, Cary J. Howard, by Patricia Skillingstad Morning Star NMSU engineering staff helps small Ryan Galloway Serving Silver City for 25 years businesses in T or C 8 MANEUVERING ELDERDOM • WEB DESIGNER They (heart) Animals 20 BORDERLINES • Gas Prices in Mexico 33 SUPPORTING ONE ANOTHER • Ryan Galloway Artists reveal comfort of creatures Protests over rising costs by Marjorie Lilly Crochet for Kids by Vivian Savitt Foster children reap benets of program COLUMNISTS 21 PUBLISHER’S NOTEBOOK • The Greening Marjorie Lilly, Sheila Sowder, 9 TALKING HORSES • I’m Talking to Myself of the State 34 HIGH PLACES • It’s a Bumpy World Scott Thomson, Bert Stevens, Jim The power of private speech Legislature looking at marijuana legalization Rock house mine hike in the Organs Duchene, Vivian Savitt Jennifer by Scott Thomson by Richard Coletharp by Gabrielle Teich Gruger and Fr. Gabriel Rochelle
10 SWEET TIME • Chocolate Fantasia 22 EXPLORING HERITAGE • Catholic or Jew? 35 BRONCO SUE • 2017 Best Western 1740-A Calle de Mercado Wild West Days, new kick-off time Finding Sephardic tradition in New Hat Maker Las Cruces, NM 88005 Mexico by Lisa Maue Custom headwear team creates 575-524-8061 11 LAS CRUCES FILM FESTIVAL • classics www.desertexposure.com Writer Comes Home 24 MAKING CONNECTIONS • by Jennifer Gruger Medoff student to receive award Human Systems Research by Elva K. Österreich Archeology in New Mexico 36 TABLE TALK • Caution by Elva K. Österreich A little salsa goes a long 12 TERRITORIAL CHARTER • way by Billy Huntsman Stepping Back in Time 26 RANDOM ACTS OF NONSENSE Sliver City celebrates a beginning • Granpa, P.I. 37 RED OR GREEN • Desert Exposure is published monthly by Lucy Whitmarsh Revisiting raising dad and distributed free of charge at choice Dining Guide establishments throughout Southern by Jim Duchene Restaurants in south- New Mexico. Mail subscriptions are $54 13 FOR THE LOVE OF ART • west New Mexico for 12 issues. Single copies by mail $4. Month of Celebration 26 GUEST COLUMN • All contents © 2017 OPC News, LLC. Twenty years of February love Wheelchair Rants 41 40 DAYS AND 40 All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced without by Mike Cook The view from a seated position by NIGHTS • Events Guide written permission. Cathy Ward For February and a All rights to material by outside 14 ON THE WALLS • Border Images little beyond contributors revert to the author. Views The convergence of borders and minds on 27 THE STARRY DOME • expressed in articles, advertisements, display graphics and/or photos appearing in Horologium, the Clock 46 ON THE TRAIL • Desert Exposure do not necessarily re ect Hostages in time Improvement Partners the views of the editors or advertisers. 14 ON STAGE • Directing Workshop by Bert Stevens Trail advocates get together to Desert Exposure is not responsible Community theater holds classes make plans for unsolicited submissions of articles or in Silver City 28 SUBORBITAL • artwork. Submissions by mail must include a self-addressed, stamped envelope for Along El Camino Real 51 LIVING ON WHEELS • reply or return. It will be assumed that all 15 ARTS EXPOSURE • Arts Scene On foot from El Paso to the Saving Amazon submissions, including email letters, are Latest area arts happenings spaceport Getting out of your comfort intended for publication. All submissions, by Elva K. Österreich zone by Sheila Sowder including letters to the editor, may be edited for length, style and content. Welcome to the community! As the chill fills the air... Alphonse Aversa, MD Dr. Aversa and his wife moved to Silver City to be near their daughter and to enjoy the slower pace and sunny climate. Dr. Aversa practiced and taught internal medicine We’vefor many years got in New York.you He looks covered forward to serving his new community. • Flu Shots Main Clinic Bayard Clinic Heather Schmidt, MD 1600 E 32 St 608 Winifred St Dr. Schmidt specializes in family• Medicare medicine.Wellness Originally Visits from Michigan,Silver City, she NM Bayard, NM recently moved here with her• Mentalpartner from Health Cranberry Lake, a small town in NY. She is happy to be back in a big city ... The Family Clinic Deming Clinic • Podiatry Meredith Moss,1380 HWY 180 E PA-C 1511 S Lime St Meredith practices family• medicine.Urgent CARE- She mostwalk recently in lived inSilver Tucson, City, NM Deming, NM AZ but is originally from Wisconsin.clinic She moved here with her beloved • Imagingdogs and to lab enjoy in thehouse Gila Wilderness. Accepting Silver City Deming 1600 East 32nd Street 1511 South Lime Street New See our website 1380for Highway more services 180 East Bayard and information www.silverhealthcare.org For All Clinics or Call 608 Winifred 5755382981 Street Patients! www.silverhealthcare.org CALL (575)538-2981 6 • FEBRUARY 2017 www.desertexposure.com GUEST COMMENTARY Writing Contest Follow-up
n November, 2016, Prinnie ceased. Female was dressed in years old, from a remote village “Prinnie,” he wrote. “Thank birth certi cate in the clothing of McCourt received an Hon- camo.” in Honduras. Her native language you for your response to my the girl. ICE contacted the Hon- Iorable Mention award in McCourt received something was Mayan. Her family was noti- communication about the UDA duran Consulate and was able the Desert Exposure’s writing even more important to her in ed and she is now back in Hon- in the desert. Your composition to obtain the next of kin infor- contest for her poem, “An Un- December, a reader’s response duras. There are photographs of got to me as this death did and mation. As to who pays for all of attended Death.” The poem was offering closure. A eld deputy her short life. There was closure. I wanted to ll in the blanks as this, it depends. In many cases inspired by a police report from medical investigator for Grant, It is a sad event, that is true, but, I felt that you needed closure. the United States taxpayers pay June, 2016, in the Deming Head- Hidalgo and Luna counties, life goes on.” — Mike Like you I have posted articles the full freight. light, “The body of a female, age responded to the poem in an Grati ed at receiving his email, in the local papers and there are “In our area, we typically have 13 to 17, was discovered by the email. McCourt wrote back to thank no responses. It seems to be a one or two UDA’s a year. I per- US Border Horse Patrol in the “The girl did not die alone,” him and received more informa- one-way ticket to the dark side sonally do not have any statis- desert east of Columbus, N.M. he wrote. “She was with others, tion and response. She told him of the moon.” — Mike tics on UDA deaths in our area No identi cation for the de- who left her there. She was 18 she had imagined the girl would So, encouraged, McCourt or their age or gender nor do I remain unidenti ed and be bur- wrote back with more questions, know how the decedent trav- ied in an unmarked grave and the which he graciously answered. eled from Honduras to Palomas. family would never know what “First of all, I work from My main response area is Grant Happy New Year! happened. She said she was in- home,” he wrote. “I am on call County and have occasional cas- debted to Mike for letting the and respond when there is an es in Luna, Hidalgo, and Sierra Year of the Rooster readers know what happened. unattended death. There was a county.” — Mike Beginning on Jan. 28, it is now the year of the Rooster per the Chinese zodiac. Postcards From the Edge People born in a year of the Rooster are Desert Exposure Travels considered obser- vant, hardworking, resourceful, coura- If you have guests geous, talented and from out of town con dent in them- who are having a selves. 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(Photo by Jen Thomsen) DRIVEWAYS - GRADING - UTILITY TRENCHES DEMOLITION - RETAINING WALLS STUMP REMOVAL EROSION CONTROL Letter to the Editor TREE CLEARING TOP SOIL - FERTILIZER According to the news story, vir- not look WASP, Albuquerque and a h i a h o k .com An encouraging a h i @gmail.com tually every customer and employ- New Mexico have risen to the oc- ner omini a l- re ine moment ee in the store came to the support casion. of the assaulted woman, and the as- We have our problems – as we in New Mexico sailant was escorted from the store. who live here know better than You don’t have to be obsessed anyone – but still there is a spirit Dear Editor, with the Holocaust (as I am), nor of kindness and community and Many New Mexicans may not be well-versed in any such dark chap- diversity in New Mexico which I aware of an incident in Albuquer- ters of history, to appreciate how think is extraordinary, and shows que (reported Nov. 24, 2016) about encouraging this is. Even in the itself in this and many other ways. a (presumably Muslim) woman current atmosphere of bullying Let’s cherish and encourage this wearing a hijab (scarf) in a super- and racism stirred up even beyond and perhaps be an example for the market, who was verbally assault- “normal” by some politicians and rest of the country in these trou- ed by a hysterical woman telling “opinion makers,” which has result- bled times. her to go back where she came ed in sharply increased incidents of Jim Terr from, etc. harassment of anybody who does Las Vegas, N.M. 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EDITOR’S NOTEBOOK • ELVA K. ÖSTERREICH All the Little Lies Growing a relationship by knowing when to be honest
n a society with more and will call you later, or a million er one looks, the further back ndings is that to increase the ings are there at the foundation. more oversight, people trust other things about appearance it goes. The truth is there is so likelihood of honest behavior in There are times when a part- Ieach other less and less ev- and connection and wanting. The much to lie about that lies have business or personal settings, it is ner wants to know everything ery day. Some workplaces are problem getting worse are the always been used by people to important not push a person into about how you are feeling, but requiring satellite tracking on bigger, more important issues. protect themselves, to protect a corner but rather to give him sometimes all they need is reas- their employees, others have For example, you’re depressed others, because it’s easier to lie or her time. People usually know surance. “I’m ne,” is enough as reams of quali cations they de- and can’t get out of the funk, than to explain, to get what they it is wrong to lie, they just need protective buffering when inse- mand. you know there is help avail- want and any number of other time to do the right thing.” curity is behind the question. The problem is, the more re- able through various programs reasons. It’s not worse at all, it’s When in a loving relationship, “I understand,” demonstrates stricted our lives become and but to get that help, maybe you the same as its always been. lying becomes a trickier busi- care and concern, even if nuanc- the more rules are set up, the have to be suicidal. You make As usual, I have lost track of ness. There is a ne line between es don’t add up all the time. harder it becomes to be honest. that call and say, “I am thinking the point. Maybe it is just “think damaging yourself and others To me, Stone’s lies aren’t real- Following that, once you tell a about killing myself.” You get before you lie.” with lies and promoting trust. ly lies but details of empathy and little lie, it gets easier to lie, and the help you need but then you Research reported by the As- Readers Digest writer Chel- connection. It’s all in the thought there you are. The most honest are stigmatized and people treat sociation for Psychological Sci- sea Stone suggests sometimes and time and tolerance. If you person in the world has been you with kid gloves. They watch ence, found that people lie the honesty isn’t the best policy. She behave honestly, your words will sucked in to the lie machine. you, and sometimes might take most when they are pressed for lists ve lies that are okay to tell follow. Trust is at risk here, and every your rights away by having you time, when they don’t have time a partner. little lie degrades the connec- committed. to think about their answer and Shut down a ght by saying Elva K. tions between human beings. Or, you work for an insurance the need for truth-telling. “you’re right,” even if you don’t Österreich is For example, the popular habit company as an intermediary, “When people act quickly, they agree. editor of Desert of blaming the phone/Internet you have a client who is getting may attempt to do all they can Say “you look great,” imme- Exposure and connection/email for miscom- the services and care he needs in to secure a pro t — including diately so you don’t broadcast delighted to be munication both makes people the way he needs it. But as the bending ethical rules and lying,” negative thoughts when asked holding of ce feel technology is unreliable rules the company has get more University of Amsterdam psy- about potential negative quali- hours in Silver while at the same time makes and more constricted, you must chology researcher Shaul Shalvi ties like “do I look fat?” City. In 2017 the day changes legitimate technology failures nd creative ways to serve both said. “Having more time to delib- Deceptive affection can ll in and I will be there on the third seem like lies. client and insurance company erate leads people to restrict the even if you don’t feel a certain Thursday of the month (Feb. 16) But the little things have al- which sometimes involve lies. amount of lying and refrain from way at a given time. It’s OK to from 10:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. at ways been there, the white lies to But my hypothesis breaks cheating. say “I love you more than any- the Yankie Creek Coffee House. tell people they look great or they down here because the deep- “One implication of the current thing,” as long as the true feel- Please drop by and say hello.
DESERT DIARY • PATRICIA MCKAY SKILLINGSTAD My Valentine How one man is many things and love never gets old
orty years ago, I put in Retired Ernie has learned how a singles ad seeking an to relax for the rst time in his F“Appolonian/Dionesian life whether it is lying in the sun, X-Breed.” or learning how to play ping Thirty years later, to quote a pong with a grandchild. friend’s letter, “a gentle widower Domestic Ernie washes the observed Patricia’s ne quali- dishes for me, vacuums the ties,” and we found one another. oors and does all the RV dirty Since then, my life has been in- work. ordinately enriched: He cooks an occasional meal, Appolonian Ernie shares helps with the laundry, drives books and ideas with me. We me to innumerable errands with- have studied western history out complaint, and is learning and indian cultures together. Af- to sew so we can make crafts ter less than a year, I feel I have together. He even paints my toe- been happily RVing forever. nails! Dionesian Ernie has eyebrows Wonderful Ernie treats me like like Jack Nicholson. With his lit- a cherished equal, on the one tle forehead wiggle and a special hand I feel safe and protected, glint in the eye, he makes me and on the other we are strong feel like the most desirable of partners sharing a new life. He women. will do everything with me un- Strongman Ernie can break less I want some private space rocks apart with a mighty lunge and that, too, is granted with a Ernie and Patricia Skillingstad share a moment, holding their marriage together with humor and if they are in my path, and leap air. We can spend a day or eve- love. (Courtesy Photo) on a maddening bull to protect ning together in silent harmony. me when needed. He can (and ing to try all kinds of new things. tried out dreads. feline next to him. (Not me – I’m After a very long wait for does) x anything, usually with- He has braved the jumping chol- Animal Lover Ernie has on the other side - but he won’t prince charming, my life has out so much as a “honey-do” im- la at Joshua Tree, driven a tank searched all night for a missing disturb me either.) He worries become a fairytale romance petus. at the Patton Museum, gotten kitty, goes out at all hours to get about the welfare of the pets left thanks to the existence of one Adventurous Ernie, who had weighed on the huge scale at a fresh food and won’t turn over in at home and asks about them in very special valentine, Ernie never before left his farm, is will- morgue, grown his hair long, and bed lest he disturb the sleeping his calls. Skillingstad. 8 • FEBRUARY 2017 www.desertexposure.com
MANEUVERING ELDERDOM • VIVIAN SAVITT They Animals Two artists reveal the comforts of creatures
et’s relinquish those swiftly unravelling New driving a nail was a challenge. But fair or not, I ac- Year’s resolutions to Valentine’s Day sen- cepted it.” Ltiments and our ageless love of creatures. McDaniel’s life also involves challenge. Every Their allure, beauty, majesty and delightfulness summer, she participates in the Colorado Rocky — appearing in art since prehistoric times — are Mountain Bike Tour, a 400-mile trek with 40,000 feet present in the uplifting work of Silver City artists of climbing. Jan Fell and Chris McDaniel, both sexagenarians. She has spent the last four decades biking, hiking Fell, who has owned the Copper Quail Gallery for and camping with her husband Larry, a retired vet- eight years, describes the 17 other artists whose erinarian. work shows in the space as “true friends” and col- “We have a great life, but realize there isn’t that leagues in elderdom. much time left,” McDaniel said. “We want to make it Prior to moving to Silver City, she spent 20 years all count. And we also worry about the state of the living in Arizona’s White Mountains and recalls hap- world and do a fair amount of public service.” pily cutting wood with a chainsaw, bringing up her “Prior to our marriage, Larry handed me a copy of daughter, and observing and raising animals that James Herriot’s ‘All Creatures Great and Small’ and she would “never dream of eating.” It was there in said ‘this is how I want to live.’” rural Show Low that she taught herself to paint. Long before the couple moved to Silver City, they Beginning with traditional pen and ink drawings, had made several forays into the Gila Wilderness — over time Fell progressed to paint. eventually with their two children in tow. “I kept at it because it was so enjoyable,” she said. A Stephens College art graduate who also taught The nooks and crannies of Fell’s life allow ample in an inner-city school in St. Louis, McDaniel ab- space for her stunning wildlife paintings. Her acryl- sorbs the outdoors as a palette for her textiles. She ic miniatures — ranging from frogs and birds to por- began drawing, carving and stamping her cloth im- cupines and bats — are widely collected. Outside ages 10 years ago with painter Elli Sorenson serving the gallery, Fell’s home and studio also serve as res- as a mentor. idence to her two shelter dogs, John Doe and Clyde. “Elli taught me production and also to trust my “Animals,” Fell said, “are pure and each creature own instincts about design and color,” she said. plays its perfect part in balance with nature. As I fell McDaniel’s photography, along with illustrations in love with animals my spirituality increased.” from books and magazines, provides resource ma- Fell does not attend church, but “leans on God, terial for her art. and reads the Bible every day.” She photographed an Orsini’s viper during a cy- Both Fell, 69, and McDaniel, 63, express their cling trip through the French Pyrenees and was concerns about longevity and living life fully. Hav- amused to encounter snakes in France. However, ing spent the previous year caring for a sister who it is local ora and fauna that appear foremost in has Alzheimer’s Disease, Fell ponders her own mor- her work. tality. Like many elders, her approach to life has tak- On the Continental Divide Trail near Sapello en on more immediacy. Campground, McDaniel photographed agave in “It both propels and worries me. I’ve always been bloom to capture the extraordinary hues of its ow- a hard worker, but not an optimist. Now I treasure ers. They materialized on a tablecloth — a commis- — not just love — things that I never treasured be- sioned piece. fore: my time, my family and my pets.” Shortly before Christmas, McDaniel ventured “Also,” Fell said, “I don’t feel like I t in this world into Copper Quail Gallery seeking a gift for her son. Jan Fell at her Copper Quail Gallery, 211 N. Texas St. Although — I’m not a modern person. I am probably one of She felt an immediate connection with Fell’s work the eyepatch lends her a buccaneer aura, it serves as an aid against double-vision. (Photos by Vivian Savitt) the last two people in the world who loves to write and chose an owl painting for him. It is now part of letters. a small collection of Fell’s wildlife art that “sits on “I have a great deal of respect for elders, especial- his mantle in Durham, North Carolina,” McDaniel ly those that struggle with a cane or a walker and said. Desert Willow Stable still manage to smile and carry on with courage. Although the two artists do not know one anoth- Exclusive Care & Boarding The will to thrive — in people who have a lot going er, their mutual appreciation for animals and the against them — inspires me to be like that.” natural world serves as a bond and an anchor for 25 Years Experience Due to a weakening eye muscle, Fell suffers from them both. double-vision. 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Motifs from a recent tablecloth design. Chris McDaniel’s ber art, usually stamped on linen, Chris McDaniel and her dog, Kip, with a wintry includes potholders, throw pillows and napkins. agave in the background. In vet-speak, Kip is a An array of her work is at Blue Dome Gallery in mixed-breed with “hybrid vigor.” the Arts District and Bear Mountain Lodge. DESERT EXPOSURE FEBRUARY 2017 • 9
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