LavenderMagazine.com 3 contents JANUARY 13-26, 2011 | ISSUE 408 | WINTER WHAT-TO-DO 20 40 46 Photo by Philip Hussong Photo by Mike Hnida Photo by Christian Alsing DIALOGUE Review 46 Get Outta Town 8 A Word in Edgewise 28 On the Townsend 50 Through These Eyes 10 Letters 53 Lavender Lens: Lavender’s First 12 Queer As Folks BAR Thursday 32 Advertiser Guide COVER FEATURE 32 Bartender Spotlight BACKTALK 14 St. Paul Winter Carnival 34 Showcase 55 The Network Commemorates 125th Year 35 Lavender Lens: The Black Guard 56 LavenderMagazine.com Calendar 17 Winter What-To-Do Holiday Party 59 Classifi eds 36 Lavender Lens: Lavender’s 60 Community Connection NEWS ThirstDays 61 Dateland 20 Big Brothers Big Sisters of the 37 Calendar 63 Consider the Source Greater Twin Cities Welcomes 38 Lavender Lens: Blue Moon Ball 64 Ms. Behavior GLBT Community 38 Lavender Lens: Bobylon 65 Cartoon: Trolín Behaving Bradley 22 39 Passing: Joseph Yankovich 66 Yellow Pages Advertiser Index 23 Lavender Lens: Lavender’s Out in the Stands CUISINE 24 Big Gay News 40 Off the Eaten Path: Best New Restaurants 2010 ARTS ON THE COVER 26 On the Record: 2010 Year in LEISURE Photo by Tom Maloney ON THE WEB WandaWisdom.com THE ORIGINAL PODCASTING DRAG QUEEN New Year's Resolution: Watch Wanda's Holiday Movie! 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Pickup at one of our distribution sites is limited to one copy per person. 6 LAVENDER JANUARY 13-26, 2011 WRITERS IN THIS ISSUE Meryl Cohn Julie Dafydd Ed Huyck Justin Jones Jennifer Parello John Townsend Bradley Traynor Carla Waldemar LavenderMagazine.com 7 DIALOGUE A WORD IN EDGEWISE Slouching Toward 2012: I Resolve… It may seem a bit late to be discussing New Year’s If that was last year’s resolution, and the thing’s interred in your resolutions, but they never should be undertaken kitchen junk drawer, pick up your pencil, grit your teeth, and note what in a holiday haze of eggnog and Jack Daniel’s—the level of resolution you wish to achieve: “Stellar”? “Outstanding”? “Ca- euphoria of mercantile excess. They better are con- pable”? “Competent”? Perhaps “Adequate” is a more sanguine choice. sidered in the promising dawn of the New than the But adequate at what? The reason people announce a New Year’s receding accusations of the Old. resolution is not to improve themselves, but to have moral, higher- How exactly to craft your commitment to the Uni- ground-than-thou bragging rights over others—those who are aware verse? What to take on, tackling not too much as to you haven’t begun Chapter Two of your novel. fail, yet not so little as to invite ridicule? The delicate line here is choosing a goal that is attainable, yet will “I will write more on my novel” is grand, but metastasizes to gran- impress them. “I will make my bed every morning” has the poten- diosity in the cold light of the reality that you didn’t write a line in tially double drawbacks of being neither attainable, nor—should you 2010. “More”? Typing “Chapter 2” neither will hold up in your inner actually realize it—granting you any social cachet. Court of Ethics, nor survive the beady-eyed scrutiny of those who What achievement, performed as promised and adequately, would know your nugatory work habits. elicit cheers, and swath your brow in laurels? As you read this, we’ll be well into the fi rst month of an already-dimin- I personally have not found such a one—yet—but by putting off a ished 2011, so you can take some relief in realizing by starting this late to commitment long enough, you fi nally will breach 2011’s Winter Sol- make a resolution, you already have that many fewer days to fail. stice, and once again be too caught up in holiday consumption to take So, take out your pad and pencil. If you still use either of those on any weighty commitments. Whew! tools, you just might resolve to cave in, and buy a smart phone. Then, Now, with a hoist of frozen eggnog and Jack, pay it forward to learn to use it. 2012. E.B. BOATNER 8 LAVENDER JANUARY 13-26, 2011 LavenderMagazine.com 9 DIALOGUE LETTERS Daniel Boyer’s Sister Thanks Lavender ship in the community, for obvi- If Reitan gets killed, suffers Thank you so much for all the December 16 Laven- ous reasons. All I ever wished from posttraumatic stress syn- for, however, was a small piece drome, and/or suffers perma- der magazines sent. The cover article and pictures on of acceptance. nent injury by having his limbs my brother, Daniel Boyer, were absolutely perfect! I I feel that as teenagers are blown off, at least his family will have been sharing the magazines with his many family continuing to struggle with know that it was for American members and friends from Michigan. What a lovely their sexualities and their freedom and GLBT equality. places within the gay commu- PHIL WILLKIE Christmas present for all of us. At a time that has been nity, it should be the duty of diffi cult, it has brought such happy thoughts and the bear community to make Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Repeal memories! Give our gratitude to all of your staff. its presence known, and to give Logical To paraphrase our First MARY ANNE PUTT teenagers hope for acceptance and love within the gay commu- Lady on the day her hubby be- came President, “I am proud to having the bear community as nity, no matter what they may be an American today!” Millions a constant reminder of a better look like or act like. As much as of us across the United States future. I thank the bear community, I are thrilled to see the American When I was in eighth grade, just wish that I could’ve been a “Berlin Wall” of prejudice and I was in my awkward stage. I part of it more. hatred fall with the repeal of gained a little bit of weight, my As a gay teenager living Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.