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m' 1 Wm - > flashBack: poliWrence rmones M Foto 0 25274 89137 Letter From The Editor What a dilemma, to dress or not to was. Shopping for a dress in drag is just another day at the mall dress? That is the question. The day for me now. Since I can do these things almost any time I want, spreads out before you as a perfect the thrill just isn't as big. And, I have other things I need to get opportunity to slip into the femme done, some of which seem to me to require a male approach. role. You have errands you can The third reason it's harder to dress is my old invention, gen- take care of as a lady and there is der inertia. I came up with this concept a few years ago. (If any- really no reason you shouldn't one else has I don't know about it.) Basically it means that dress up and enjoy yourself. But, when you are in male mode it takes an infusion of energy to you hesitate. You find excuses: switch gears and be a girl. In the beginning of a crossdresser's Oh, it's raining. Nah, I won't dress up days, the engine that drives the desire to get dolled up get out of the house till after and go across the gender border is the libido. It is a turn on to two since I started so late. No, get dressed up, so it is really easy to reach for the razor and it's no good dressing up now shave whatever you need to approach your feminine ideal. A I'm in the wrong frame of mind. I don't have anything really fun horny man will do an awful lot of things that he wouldn't even to do today while dressed. consider if sexual arousal wasn't a factor. As you grow into your For those who have the freedom to dress whenever we want femme persona you mature. Dressing is still erotic but it isn't these kinds of doubts and concerns often come sailing in to the be all and end all. You develop other satisfactions from be- keep us from dressing. Why are we plagued with these ing dressed, and while you can use your crossdressing to be- thoughts? What is the difference if we don't get out and about come turned on when you want, it is more like a comfortable till an hour later? Why should rain stop us? It doesn't stop most sex partner you have known for years than an exciting new rela- real women from going about their daily routines. Isn't just be- tionship with a sexy young thing. ing dressed fun enough? Buying groceries in drag should be So where does the energy to make that effort come from more fun than buying groceries in drab. Yet, we hesitate, and in then? You may find the necessary impetus in social activity the end we let that dressing opportunity pass. while dressed. Going shopping with a female friend is fun. I know that some of you are saying, "Is she nuts? Passing up Meeting a group of pals for an activity (clubbing, a piano bar, a chance to dress, who would do a stupid thing like that?" I re- dinner in some fancy spot) is still fun. I guess what I'm saying is, member when I would have said the same thing. Back when I it's fun to be out in a social situation with friends and the fact first came out of the closet, when I took that first tentative step that you have made plans may be enough to help you get the to a group meeting, I cherished each moment that I could wear energy to start getting dressed. I know that once I get started I femme attire in some sort of social situation. The end of the have no problem getting dolled up. All the excuses dissipate night always came too soon and I couldn't wait till the next faster than a drop of eye makeup remover in the hot sun and the month's meeting night. I'd plan my outfit for weeks. next thing I know I'm out there having fun. Then it's possible Now, and for the past couple of years, I find myself asking that I will suffer reverse gender inertia and not want to switch "the question." I will often have a day with no real reason to be back to male mode. I think anyone who has been to a conven- a guy. Why not be a lady? There's nothing stopping me. I have tion where they dressed for several days in a row will know taken the steps necessary to make my life "dressing friendly." I what I mean. can go to the bank, the grocery store, the bookstore, the office, What's the bottom line? This transgender stuff isn't simple. I wherever I want, dressed as I like. (At the place where the Re- think that sometimes, in some cases, gender inertia makes naissance office is located they prefer to see Angela.) What hap- people feel that they need to go further. If it is so hard to cross pened to make me ask, to dress or not to dress? the border because of all the shaving required, because you I believe there are a number of reasons. First, I don't have to don't have real breasts or because you don't look like a , focus all of my desire to dress on one specific point in time. By supermodel, then it is easier to decide that you must have some the time a monthly meeting of the local Renaissance group rolls procedures done or take hormones so that switching gears is around I will have already been out and about en femme easier. Stop for awhile and contemplate which gender is really around seven to eight times. Going to the meeting sometimes more comfortable. (Not more exciting.) What about the rest of feels like more of an obligation than a looked-forward-to event. your life? Is it going to assimilate more permanent gender shift- Second, as I grow older I find that my priorities have shifted. ing without a major catastrophe? If everything is green across No, they haven't shifted so far that I don't feel like crossdressing the screen then go for it. If it is better to stay primarily male and at all anymore, but a feeling of "been there, done that" has venture into feminine territory now and then, so be it. Whatever slowly descended upon me over the past few years. While you do, do it with care and guidance. Be comfortable, have fun, shopping for groceries in drag is still fun (more fun when a clerk be excited... and don't let gender inertia slow you down. calls me "miss") I am not so excited about doing that as I once * Lady Like Exploring & Expressing Femininity In this issue... Features Profile: Brenda R 4 This Princess had her dream come true. Foto Feature: Sally’s Hideaway 17 Brian Lantelme gives us an in-depth photographic look at the women who made Sally's famous Hormones & The Struggle Within. 23 Outspoken Brenda Lawrence gives us her take on a subject that seem to interest every transgender woman. Always A Lady 26 Lillian Farrell confesses she's learned her Main photo ©2001, Brian Lantelme lesson. Inset: Studio Lites, Denver FlashBack: Sandelle Kincaid 31 ISSN 1092-9207 ©2001 CDS, PO Box 61263, King of Prussia, PA USA Can a real girl be a drag queen? Absolutely! 1 9406. 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