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Sexual Problems That Can Arise in Long-Term and Committed Relationships Christina Spaccavento Features Sexual Problems That Can Arise in Long-Term and Committed Relationships Christina Spaccavento Sexual issues arising in long-term relationships as they present The cycle of limerence is not the only factor contributing both sexual touch (stroking genitals, penetrative sex, oral sex) can often alleviate feelings of disappointment and improve self- in the therapeutic setting are examined in this paper. These to waning desire in long-term relationships. Individual clients and non-sexual touch (cuddling, holding hands, spooning). esteem while also restoring confidence in the couple’s ability to include the role of sexual desire and its relationship to the cycle may report additional factors: long working days, exhaustion, Communication can either increase or decrease intimacy have penetrative sex. of limerence, therapeutic treatments of sexual problems, sexual children, lack of privacy in the family home, relationship Hence it is important that the therapist understand the role Women often present for counselling when recovering from and non-sexual communication and the impact illness can problems such as anger at the other partner, or a significant life communication plays in the dynamic of the relationship in mastectomies, or during the course of other chronic conditions play, both as a contributing factor to sexual problems and in event. Mansell, Salinas and Sanchez (2011) cite other factors order to best facilitate the clients’ work. like chronic fatigue syndrome, depression, and cancers of the the process of sexual rehabilitation. including communication problems, substance abuse, anxiety It is common that clients lack the skills and attitudes female reproductive system: breast, ovarian, uterine or cervical. Permanent injury or disability and chronic conditions Sexual Desire in Long-Term Relationships and depression, certain medications, prior sexual abuse, required for discussing sensitive issues such as the specifics of gynaecological problems, or even a primary medical problem their sexual relationship with their partners (Bienvenu 1980). significantly impact a client’s ability to function sexually. Clinical experience shows that clients in committed, long-term such as Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD). It is Furthermore, research has shown a positive relationship The therapist will need to work with the couple in exploring relationships often present with complaints relating to reduced, therefore crucial that the health practitioner take a full sexual between the frequency and quality of a couple’s talk about sex alternative ways to achieve sexual intimacy, which may require low or non-existent sexual desire. Multiple physiological, and relationship history of both partners in order to fully (both men and women) and their level of sexual satisfaction the couple to broaden their sexual repertoire. psychological, emotional and social factors may contribute identify and understand all the factors contributing to sexual (Timm & Keiley 2011, Baus, 1987, Metts & Cupach 1989, In good case management, the therapist liaises in a to this phenomenon. Unresolved problems relating to sexual desire problems. Sprecher & McKinney 1993). This highlights the need for collaborative effort with the clients’ other health practitioners, desire can prove catastrophic to both the sexual and non-sexual Clients may experience the distancer/pursuer pattern in their counsellors to address and facilitate communication in the increasing the possibility of achieving a lasting resolution to aspects of a relationship. It is not uncommon that clients seek both the individual’s sexual difficulties (McCabe, et al. 2010) counselling only after years of conflict regarding one partner’s relationship. This occurs when one partner, the pursuer, seeks therapeutic session. sexual intercourse with the other, the distancer, who avoids or and laying the foundation for the couple to resume their pre- sexual desire and/or availability. The Link Between Relationship Issues refuses the sexual interaction (Betchen, 1991). The more the illness sexual relationship. and Sexual Difficulties Sexual Desire Defined pursuer pursues, the more the distancer distances and so on. It References There is no consensus on a definition of sexual desire. DeLamater is important that the counsellor works with the couple on the It is important to remember that working with sexual issues also Albaugh, JA and Kellogg-Spadt, S 2002, ‘Sensate Focus and its Role in Treating involves working with relationships. Sexual and relationship Sexual Dysfunction (Intimacy Issues)’, Urologic Nursing 22(6): 402 and Sill (2005) discuss two main frameworks in the literature. The causes of this pattern. Baus, PD 1987, ‘Indicators of Relationship Satisfaction in Sexually Intimate first and most common framework suggests that sexual desire is issues can exist independently of one another, but relationship Relationships’, paper presented at the Iowa Conference on Personal Relationships, Treatment of Sexual Desire Issues problems can cause sexual problems and sexual problems can Iowa City, IA an innate biological drive that motivates individuals to seek out Betchen, SJ 1991, ‘Male Masturbation as a Vehicle for the Pursuer/Distancer sexual stimuli or activity. The second framework sees sexual desire A number of techniques can be used to address sexual desire cause relationship problems. Relationship in Marriage’, Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy 17(4): 269-78 as an external force that manifests in the potential partner rather issues. 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It is important to understand that a diagnosis Mansell, D, Salinas, GD, Sanchez, A, Abdolrasulnia, M 2011, ‘Attitudes Toward Clients often cite a reduction in sexual desire for their partners coital massage—a powerful tool for couples working towards Management of Decreased Sexual Desire in Premenopausal Women—National after the relationship has passed from the initial phase (as early rebuilding their physical connection, which may have been of illness can disrupt both emotional intimacy and physical Survey of Nurse Practitioners and Physician Assistants’, Journal of Allied Health, sexual function. Many couples experience relationship stress 40(2): 64-71 as three months) into the committed and long-term phase neglected due to the distancer/pursuer relationship and/or other Martínez-Jabaloyas, JM, Moncada, I, Rodríguez-Vela, L, Gutiérrez, PR, Chaves, (up to two years and beyond). A common complaint, it can relationship problems. 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