Ten Important Research Findings on and Choosing a Marriage Partner Information Brief, November 2004 David Popenoe and Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, The National Marriage Project http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publications/pubtenthingsyoungadults.htm

1. Marrying as a teenager is the highest "having children is still one of the least known risk factor for divorce. desirable characteristics a potential People who marry in their teens are two marriage partner can possess." The only to three times more likely to divorce than partner characteristic men and women people who marry in their twenties or rank as even less desirable than having older. children is the inability to hold a steady job. 2. The most likely way to find a future marriage partner is through an 5. Both women and men who are introduction by family, friends, or college educated are more likely to acquaintances. marry, and less likely to divorce, than people with lower levels of education. Despite the romantic notion that people meet and fall in through chance or Despite occasional news stories fate, the evidence suggests that social predicting lifelong singlehood for college- networks are important in bringing educated women, these predictions together individuals of similar interests and have proven false. Though the first backgrounds, especially when it comes generation of college educated women to selecting a marriage partner. (those who earned baccalaureate According to a large-scale national degrees in the 1920s) married less survey of sexuality, almost sixty percent of frequently than their less well-educated married people were introduced by peers, the reverse is true today. College family, friends, co-workers or other educated women's chances of marrying acquaintances. are better than less well-educated women. However, the growing gender 3. The more similar people are in their gap in college education may make it values, backgrounds and life goals, the more difficult for college women to find more likely they are to have a similarly well-educated men in the future. successful marriage. This is already a problem for African- Opposites may attract but they may not American female college graduates, who live together harmoniously as married greatly outnumber African-American couples. People who share common male college graduates. backgrounds and similar social networks 6. Living together before marriage has are better suited as marriage partners not proved useful as a "trial marriage." than people who are very different in People who have multiple cohabiting their backgrounds and networks. relationships before marriage are more 4. Women have a significantly better likely to experience marital conflict, chance of marrying if they do not marital unhappiness and eventual become single parents before marrying. divorce than people who do not cohabit Having a child out of wedlock reduces before marriage. Researchers attribute the chances of ever marrying. Despite the some but not all of these differences to growing numbers of potential marriage the differing characteristics of people partners with children, one study noted, who cohabit, the so-called "selection

- 1 - effect," rather than to the experience of active singles and cohabiting couples, cohabiting itself. It has been hypothesized according to the most comprehensive that the negative effects of cohabitation and recent survey of sexuality. Forty-two on future marital success may diminish as percent of wives said that they found sex living together becomes a common extremely emotionally and physically experience among today's young adults. satisfying, compared to just 31 percent of However, according to one recent study single women who had a sex partner. of couples who were married between And 48 percent of husbands said sex was 1981 and 1997, the negative effects extremely satisfying emotionally, persist among younger cohorts, compared to just 37 percent of supporting the view that the cohabitation cohabiting men. The higher level of experience itself contributes to problems commitment in marriage is probably the in marriage. reason for the high level of reported 7. Marriage helps people to generate sexual satisfaction; marital commitment income and wealth. contributes to a greater sense of trust and security, less drug and alcohol-infused Compared to those who merely live sex, and more mutual communication together, people who marry become between the couple. economically better off. Men become more productive after marriage; they 9. People who grow up in a family earn between ten and forty percent broken by divorce are slightly less likely more than do single men with similar to marry, and much more likely to education and job histories. Marital social divorce when they do marry. norms that encourage healthy, According to one study the divorce risk productive behavior and wealth nearly triples if one marries someone who accumulation play a role. Some of the also comes from a broken home. The greater wealth of married couples results increased risk is much lower, however, if from their more efficient specialization the marital partner is someone who grew and pooling of resources, and because up in a happy, intact family. they save more. Married people also 10. For large segments of the receive more money from family population, the risk of divorce is far members than the unmarried (including below fifty percent. cohabiting couples), probably because families consider marriage more Although the overall divorce rate in permanent and more binding than a America remains close to fifty percent of living-together union. all , it has been dropping gradually over the past two decades. 8. People who are married are more Also, the risk of divorce is far below fifty likely to have emotionally and percent for educated people going into physically satisfying sex lives than single their first marriage, and lower still for people or those who just live together. people who wait to marry at least until Contrary to the popular belief that their mid-twenties, haven't lived with married sex is boring and infrequent, many different partners prior to marriage, married people report higher levels of or are strongly religious and marry sexual satisfaction than both sexually someone of the same faith.

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