PSYCHIC? -How to Tap Into the Hidden Powers of Your Mind
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ARE YOU PSYCHIC? -How to tap into the hidden powers of your mind
By Patrick Wanis
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www.patrickwanis.com 3 Contents
Contacting the other side ...... 6
The psychic connection...... …...... 9
How to make contact...... …16
How spirits try to contact us………...... ….37
Developing your psychic powers...... ….52
Developing your child’s psychic powers…64
In search of healing and closure...... …72
Contacting the departed… ...... ….....79
About the author……………...... ….89
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CONTACTING THE OTHER SIDE
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Psychic mediums like John Edward, James Van Praagh and Sylvia Browne have been communicating and receiving messages from the other side for many years. They are not the first ones to do it, and they are not the only ones who can do it.
Ancient Egyptian priests and priestesses, Chinese emperors, Greek oracles, Australian aborigines and people from many other cultures have claimed to communicate with souls that have crossed over to the other side.
And you can do it too! The ability to connect with and contact spirits is open to us all.
Connecting with your loved ones who have passed over can bring you closure, peace of mind and happiness.
So what is the secret? How do we contact loved ones that have crossed over?
In this book, I’ll reveal:
• The many ways spirits from the other side contact us • How to develop your sixth sense and psychic abilities as well as those of your children
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Let’s get started.
JK
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THE PSYCHIC CONNECTION
www.patrickwanis.com Everyone has at least one person who has had a major impact and influence on his or her life – one person who has played a leading role in defining and molding his or her personality, character and traits. For me, that person was my grandmother.
My grandmother lived with our family from my birth. We were extremely close. She would take care of me, and I would often stay home at night instead of going out with my family just to be with her. It was my grandmother who instilled in me my values and taught me love and compassion.
As most grandmothers do, she offered me more freedom than my parents. She would let me stay up later than normal and pretend she didn’t notice me peeking at the TV through her crocheted blanket when I was supposed to be asleep.
When she was ill, I would come home from elementary school during lunch to check up on her – home was just a five-minute walk from school.
By the time I turned ten, my grandmother was physically weak. Her eyesight was waning and she had heart trouble. A couple of times she was rushed to the hospital by ambulance.
www.patrickwanis.com One night, as we pulled into the driveway of our home after we returned from visiting her in the hospital, I said to my mother and brother in a matter-of-fact manner, “We shouldn’t cry if Nana dies, because there is the resurrection.” (We were deeply religious.) Somehow I knew Nana was going to pass away. I hadn’t spoken with any doctors and knew nothing of her condition. I just sensed that she was going to die, and at the time, I had no idea from where that thought came. She died later that night.
I never realized it at the time, but that was my first powerful psychic experience with my sixth sense.
THE SIXTH SENSE
The 1999 motion picture The Sixth Sense highlighted the amazing power of one human potential – the sixth sense.
In the movie, Haley Joel Osment plays a young boy named Cole Sear, who struggles to overcome his fear of the dead. He is a “freak” because he can see dead people.
He learns that the only way to overcome his fears and rid himself of the ghosts and spirits is to talk to them, determine what they want
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So what exactly is the sixth sense? It is our intuition, our instinctive knowing without rational processes. It is an impression, a hunch, a gut feeling.
Intuition is when we know and sense something but can’t explain it logically. We walk into a crowded room, see a stranger and feel instantly attracted or repulsed, even though we haven’t yet spoken. And we can’t explain why we feel what we do. It’s not the way the person is dressed or the way he or she looks. We just sense something about them that we can’t explain. That is intuition, the sixth sense.
My knowing when my grandmother was going to die was an example of my sixth sense in action. It has happened to me many times since then.
When I lived in Spain and was performing my stage hypnosis show, an agent got me a three-month contract in a hotel in Lanzarote Island. I arrived and was shown to my room.
www.patrickwanis.com I clearly remember walking in, and something – a quiet inner voice – softly told me, “Don’t unpack your bags. This place is not for you.”
Logically, that didn’t make sense because it was a beautiful and spectacular hotel – but it just didn’t feel right.
Lo and behold, just three days later, my agent called to say there was a glitch in the contract, and I was booked instead into the largest resort in Europe.
That’s intuition. This sixth sense is our psychic awareness, the door to receiving information from the universe, from Spirit. We all have it and we all can develop it.
The greatest key to turning on your sixth sense is to clear yourself of all the muck in your life – to let go of the past and forgive everyone; then you can fill your world with love and acceptance, which opens your psychic pathway to contacting the other side.
Later on in this book, you’ll learn techniques to help you develop your psychic abilities and power – as well as do-it-yourself techniques to contact loved ones who have crossed over.
www.patrickwanis.com The sixth sense uses all of our other five senses to communicate to us. That means the messages and information we receive may be in the form of a feeling, a voice, a smell, a taste, a sound, a thought, a vision – or even a puff of air.
THE INNER VOICE
Be aware that the inner voice that is your intuition is not the same as the inner chatterbox. In my AMI MicroMag Look Into My Eyes: How To Hypnotize Anyone, I explain the difference.
Your chatterbox is that loud, negative voice inside your head that says, “I can’t do it...”, “I am fat...” or “You’ll never be rich...,” “You’re stupid...” You’re ugly...”
Your intuition speaks to you in a soft, gentle whisper. It’s always positive – even if it’s heeding you to avoid a certain action.
The loud inner chatterbox comes from the negative programming we have had most of our lives, while our intuition comes from a higher plane.
Only by quieting and calming the loud chatterbox can we open ourselves to hear and
www.patrickwanis.com sense our intuition. Therefore, the more relaxed we are and the more inner peace we have, the more open and ready we will be to receive messages from the other side. Later, we’ll cover the various ways spirits contact us. First, though let’s look at some of the ways you can make contact with the other side.
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HOW TO MAKE CONTACT
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A medium is a person with highly developed psychic skills. Mediums have the ability to communicate with the spirits of the dead as well as with spirits and entities of other dimensions and planes of existence.
The earliest historical descriptions of mediums occur in Chinese literature written almost four thousand years ago. Ancient Asian emperors consulted these mediums – known as Wu – who claimed to communicate advice, information and insights given by spirits of the deceased.
There are mental and physical mediums. Mental mediums, such as John Edward and James Van Praagh, receive inner visions, experience clairaudience (hearing messages and voices) and access mental impressions (thoughts).
Physical mediums – such as Reverend William Stainton Moses – act as channels for physical manifestations initiated by disembodied spirits. Reverend Moses was renowned for phenomena such as levitation; table-tilting; mysterious sounds, lights and scents; and materializations of luminous
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CHANNELS AND CHANNELING
The 1990 motion picture Ghost was a romantic comedy thriller about Sam (Patrick Swayze), a murdered man who realizes that his death was no accident.
Sam must warn his wife Molly (Demi Moore) about the danger that she is in, so he tries to communicate with Molly through Oda Mae Brown (Whoopi Goldberg), a phony psychic who suddenly learns that her powers are real. At the end of the movie, Oda Mae allows Sam to enter her body so that he and Molly may kiss one last time.
This feat – in which a spirit enters the physical body – is known as channeling or trance mediumship.
Channeling is one of the most controversial forms of mediumship. It was extremely popular until the late 1980s. Channeling is not so popular today because many channels misused or faked their abilities. Some used their talents to start cults and gain power over others.
www.patrickwanis.com Channels are also known as trance mediums because they enter a deep trance state and lose consciousness as a spirit takes over the channel’s body and communicates through it. Channels often speak with unique accents and impart complex messages and teachings. These spirits frequently claim to be extremely spiritually advanced souls or super-human entities – angels, ascended masters or avatars. It’s believed that many of these spirits were either never human, or were once human but have now surpassed the human condition and have risen to higher dimensions. Channels generally do not communicate with everyday people who have passed to the other side.
The most popular trance medium (channel) of recent times was J.Z. Knight. Knight channeled an entity named Ramtha, who claimed to be the spirit of a 35,000-year-old ancient warlord from Atlantis. During a visit to Australia, Ramtha warned of a tidal wave that was going to wipe out the island nation. It’s good that never happened or Sydney would never been able to host the 2000 Olympics. Of course, Ramtha also gave many highly accurate readings.
When I was a radio talk show host in Australia, I had the opportunity to interview Penny Torres. Torres channeled an entity
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Penny began to breath loudly and rhythmically, swaying back and forth until Mafu entered her body. Her voice and demeanor changed dramatically. The voice became more masculine, deeper in tone, with an unrecognizable accent.
I recall asking questions about AIDS and why it occurs, and Mafu replied that it had to do with sexual guilt. Although most of Mafu’s answers were confusing, long-winded and complicated, there were some intriguing insights.
HYPNOSIS
Many people confuse hypnosis with psychic abilities, mistakenly assuming that being a hypnotist automatically makes you a highly evolved psychic.
Psychic power is a skill that needs development. From experience, I have learned to read people – I can usually tell who will or won’t be hypnotized in a show setting. In a hypnotherapy setting, I am often able to read the client while he or she is
www.patrickwanis.com hypnotized, receiving information and insights about him or her.
It is true that when you are under hypnosis, your psychic abilities are greatly heightened. When you are under hypnosis, it is possible for you to:
• Gain access to insights and information not normally available in the everyday waking state • Tune in to higher levels of your own consciousness (your higher self) • Make contact with those who have crossed over to the other side.
There are two primary parts to the human mind – the conscious and subconscious.
The conscious mind controls your ability to evaluate, while your subconscious mind acts as the seat of your emotions. You analyze things with your conscious mind, and your subconscious mind determines how you feel about those things.
The subconscious directs your behavior, creativity, wisdom and intelligence. It regulates body maintenance, breathing, blood circulation, digestion and tissue regeneration. The subconscious also controls your nervous
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From the subconscious also comes your subtle insights and awareness. It records everything you experience – physical and spiritual – and by accessing the subconscious mind, you become more psychic and can make direct contact with spirits.
Your psychic abilities are greatly enhanced under hypnosis because there are no distractions – you are relaxed and highly focused. Thus your sixth sense is heightened, and you gain access to the Akashic records, also known as the cosmic library.
ACCESSING THE COSMIC LIBRARY
The Akashic records are considered a type of universal filing system that records every thought, word and action that has ever occurred. That means anything you or anyone has ever thought or done is recorded, and stored on a type of astral plane.
The Akashic records are best described as a cosmic or collective consciousness, which is also known as the cosmic mind, the universal
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Some believe that the Akashic records make clairvoyance and psychic perception – including past-life readings – possible. Many believe that these records can be read or accessed only in certain altered states of consciousness such as hypnosis or meditation.
The late American mystic Edgar Cayce is believed to have successfully read the Akashic records. Cayce was a deeply religious man from Kentucky, who spoke with an angel as a child and even saw visions of his dead grandfather.
Cayce did his readings in a sleep state or hypnotic trance. He often seemed to know details about the lives of the people who came for readings and would diagnose cures for their illnesses. He treated over 30,000 patients.
CONTACTING MY GRANDMOTHER
One of my earliest, most vivid and powerful experiences of psychic insight and awareness
www.patrickwanis.com occurred during a hypnotherapy session many years ago when I was the client.
During the session, an issue arose regarding my deceased grandmother. While I was hypnotized, the therapist called out a name to me, a name that my grandmother used to call me when I was a child. The therapist told me the name came to him. He was able to visually describe my grandmother to me and said he could see her standing by my left side. This is an example of psychic connection, telepathy and use of the Akashic records that can occur during a hypnotherapy session. Now I often find myself able to do the same with my clients.
Surprisingly, during that hypnotic session, we didn’t deal with my grandmother’s death, only her presence, and it wasn’t until years later in another hypnotic session that I finally received closure and peace regarding her loss. Hypnosis is a powerful tool to help you develop your sixth sense. Hypnotherapy is a means of clearing the muck from the past, letting go of anger, bitterness, resentments, blame and shame. Once you are able to forgive yourself and everyone else, you will open the door to the spirit world, and to your psychic abilities.
www.patrickwanis.com The more inner peace you have and the more love and acceptance you cultivate for yourself, the more psychic abilities you will have.
MEDITATION
The 1993 motion picture What’s Love Got To Do With It starring Angela Bassett tells the true story of how Anna Mae Bullock grew up to become rock ‘n’ roll legend Tina Turner.
The movie opens with scenes of her family abandoning her and the church choir dumping her because of her unique singing style. The song she sings is prophetic: “This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine.”
Tina’s story is about the triumph of spirit and talent over endless obstacles and tragedies. She follows her own instincts, and through meditation and chanting discovers her own light, inner strength and courage.
Meditation is a powerful tool. It is a way to achieve love, peace and self-acceptance. It is a powerful way of contacting your higher self and enhancing your psychic abilities.
As mentioned earlier, the keys to opening up your sixth sense – becoming aware of the
www.patrickwanis.com messages that it sends – are stilling the mind and quieting that loud chatterbox inside your head. This is the primary purpose of meditation. Some say that prayer is when you speak to God and that meditation is when you listen to God.
The greatest challenge for most of us is to still the ever-working mind. Meditation is a way to stop those loud, racing, endless thoughts, doubts and distractions.
Many of our distractions come from our rushed, hectic world and our attachment to material things. And if you are like me, a highly analytical and active person, meditation is even more challenging. It was easier for me to engage in hypnosis – a form of guided meditation – and have someone assist me, so that my mind would quiet down and I could focus on the necessary issue or matter.
Nonetheless, meditation is one of the most powerful and effective keys to achieving an altered state of consciousness and awakening of our psychic abilities. Along with hypnotic and other trance states, meditation helps us access the right hemisphere of the brain, the seat of intuition and creativity.
www.patrickwanis.com The left side of our brain determines logical and rational thinking, analytical processes and verbal skills. The right brain is about random, intuitive thought, synthesizing instead of analyzing and processing things as a whole rather than as parts.
Our society tends to favor left-brain modes of thinking and minimizes the significance of right-brain modes. Left-brain people focus on logical thinking, analysis and accuracy, while right-brain people focus on beauty, feeling and creativity.
In general, men tend to be more left-brained while women tend to be more right-brained. Although many of us primarily focus on one side of the brain, we all use both sides.
The challenge with the way our society emphasizes the left-brain mode of thinking is that it doesn’t help us deal with emotional concerns. Logic leaves us helpless when trying to deal emotionally with the loss of a loved one who has gone to the other side.
Forms and styles of meditation: There are primarily two forms of meditation, passive and active. Both help to access the right hemisphere of the brain and awaken our psychic abilities.
www.patrickwanis.com Passive meditation is allowing your mind to go blank, freeing it of all conscious thought. Active meditation uses symbols, mantras or chants to focus on one thought only, clearing your mind of all other thoughts.
In the movie What’s Love Got To Do With It, Tina Turner uses active meditation – she chants to tap into her reserves of inner strength and power.
The final result of both techniques is the same – freeing the mind from everyday thoughts and allowing you the opportunity to receive information via your intuition and higher self.
If you have a very active mind, with thoughts continually racing through your head, then the active method is probably best for you. If you are not so wound up and find it easy to clear your mind and relax, then the passive method will work for you.
With practice, anyone can use either technique.
On page 56, I’ll show you exactly how to meditate and offer a mantra for you to use.
The practice of daily meditation will also prepare you for the do-it-yourself-technique at
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SÉANCES
Harry Houdini is considered the greatest magician of all time. He once said, “If any man can escape the chains of death, it is I, Houdini.”
Of course, not even the great Houdini could do that, and he passed away in 1926. But for the last 13 years of his life, Houdini publicly took on the spiritualists, attempting to debunk those who believed that the dead could communicate with the living.
Using his skills of illusion, Houdini successfully duplicated the ghostly apparitions, noises and mysterious levitations of séances produced by the professional mediums and their spirits.
The greatest irony is that every year around the anniversary of his death, Houdini devotees hold a séance in the hope that he may make an appearance. He hasn’t yet – but the interest in séances remains strong.
A séance is a gathering usually led by a medium to deliberately communicate with
www.patrickwanis.com the dead. Some of the earliest recorded references to séances date back to the third century, to Porphyrios, a Greek philosopher.
The séance has evolved since its heyday in the early and mid 1900s, when it was characterized by dim lighting, drafts of cool air, rapping noises and strange lights that signaled the arrival of spirits.
Now, as the human consciousness has evolved, so too has the séance. We no longer need the loud, in-your-face, over-the-top special effects to convince us of the presence of spirits and life after death. Today, we seek the casual, relaxed and peaceful séance. We believe more in subtleties than in theatrical effects.
Psychic mediums like John Edwards and James Van Praagh now conduct large televised séances without the cheesy, over-the- top special effects. That is in effect what John Edwards’ Crossing Over and James Van Praagh’s Beyond television shows are – large séances, deliberately convened to communicate with the dearly departed.
In the world of mediumship, the séance is now more commonly known as a “calling.” The term refers to the deliberate calling out to a spirit to appear or make itself known.
www.patrickwanis.com Psychic mediums such as John Edwards and James Van Praagh are considered mental mediums, meaning that spirits primarily communicate via thoughts and messages to John and James.
That does not mean that spirits no longer make physical contact with us, as you’ll read later in this book. And séances that are being conducted privately on small scales do still result in physical mediumship and manifestation.
It is recommended to use an experienced medium and take the séance seriously. Although many commercial mediums will tell you that spirits do not control your life, won’t interfere with your free will, and cannot harm you, this is simply not true.
There are many horror stories of traumatic experiences by participants of séances. When evoking or calling a spirit (even of a loved one) there is no guarantee that he or she will show up. A spirit cannot be forced to communicate, and any spirit can in fact show up.
The determining factor is your energy, your mental and emotional health, as well as that of the participants and the medium. James Van Praagh and other mediums wisely advise
www.patrickwanis.com participants to pray before attempting to contact any spirit.
Surround yourself in a loving light – mediums refer to this force of good as the Light – and when the spirit appears, ask if it is from the Light. If it is not, it will promptly depart.
Remember, too, that a person who has passed from this life does not automatically and instantly become a higher being, and therefore many of his or her earthly traits will still be evident, including his or her positive and negative qualities.
While the structure for each séance will vary according to the medium that leads it, the basic structure consists of a circle, with male next to female holding hands. Prayers and blessings open up the session and invite only the spirits from the Light. Candles, incense and essential oils can also be used.
Most likely you will want to speak to someone specific who has passed over – to bring this deceased person through. But it doesn’t always happen this way.
If there is someone whom you have lost and wish to talk to they will know well in advance
www.patrickwanis.com of the séance of your desire to contact him or her, and if it is meant to happen, then it will.
That is one of the reasons why not everyone comes through in the readings that John Edward or James Van Praagh holds on television. Mediums state that they cannot control or determine who shows up. Neither can you. Therefore do not try and force it. In fact, it can be very dangerous if you force it, creating negative energy.
Simply ask out loud, “Is there anyone who wishes to speak?” You will receive a response. Physical manifestations such as sounds, knocks, bangs, temperature changes (cold or hot) may occur, or you will just sense the presence of a spirit.
A word of warning about trying to engage physical mediumship – allowing a spirit to enter your body. Unless you have had many years of experience, you will not know how to handle or control it. You may open up yourself to the spirit and not even know how to release it. And spirits have many times the physical strength of a human being. For this reason, it’s recommended that you have a trained medium with you when attempting a séance.
www.patrickwanis.com Successful séances can result in inner peace, closure, resolution, comfort, understanding and insight for you. Experienced mediums have helped trapped or disoriented spirits to go to the Light, the way to God.
There are many methods to use to contact spirits, and if the situation just described seems intimidating, relax. The do-it-yourself technique at the end of the book is a safe, comfortable, user-friendly way to contact the other side.
OUIJA BOARD
The Ouija board is a type of séance instrument. It is one of the most controversial methods of communicating with the other side because anyone can use it, and many psychics therefore discourage it.
The Ouija board dates back to 1854. Also known as the talking board, it became very popular in the 1960s, when interest in the occult enjoyed a resurgence. Today, it’s sold around the world as a board game.
The name “Ouija” comes from the French and German words for yes – “oui” and “ja.” The board is like a checkerboard, but instead of squares, it has the letters of the alphabet,
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Séance participants gently place their fingertips on a pointer (called a planchette) and begin to ask questions of the Ouija. The pointer moves and spells out the answers.
Many believe that the answers come from the subconscious mind of one or all of the participants. Some believe that the very act of using the board may invite malevolent spirits. Psychic and spiritual mediums agree that if your intention is pure and you surround yourself with love before beginning with the Ouija board, you will attract only good spirits. If you’re in doubt about the intentions of an entity, it is recommended to ask the spirit if it is from the Light – if it isn’t, it will leave instantly.
There are modern variations of the Ouija board, some of which are advertised as “psychic talking boards.” Like the Ouija, these can also help you to tap into the dormant powers of your higher self and receive guidance from the other side.
www.patrickwanis.com ASTRAL TRAVEL
Astral projection is the ability to rise out of your physical body and travel to other places both in the physical and spiritual world.
It is believed that the astral body is an exact replica of the physical body but it is made up of etheric elements connected with the life force and is part of your aura (the invisible electromagnetic energy field around your body).
Stress, depression and physical and mental illness all negatively affect the aura and in turn block our psychic abilities and awareness.
Astral travel usually occurs during sleep or altered states of consciousness through hypnosis, trance or meditation. It is believed that astral travel gives us the opportunity to meet enlightened beings that can help guide us on our spiritual journey and to acquire hidden knowledge through experience about ourselves, the earth and the universe.
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HOW SPRITS TRY TO CONTACT US
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Before trying to contact the other side, it is important to realize that spirits are already trying to contact us. Your inner state and consciousness – thoughts, feelings, beliefs and attitudes – will determine your experience. If you cultivate love, harmony and peace, your experience will be positive and empowering.
In my early 20s, at a time when I carried a lot of anger inside me, long before I fully understood the spectrum of the spirit world, my experiences were less than favorable.
Known as God’s little secret, Tasmania is a small, beautiful island state in Australia that offers everything from breathtaking wilderness, rain forests and snow-capped mountains to rugged coastlines and pure white sandy beaches. At one time, Tasmania was a penal settlement that housed over 400,000 convicts from the mother country Britain. It was also home to many famous shipwrecks, and of course, its original inhabitants were the Aborigines.
In the eyes of almost any psychic medium, Tasmania is the ideal home to many still wandering spirits and ghosts. In the southern
www.patrickwanis.com part of Tasmania alone, ghosts, spectres, apparitions and voices from the past have been seen and heard, in a variety of places within the eerie complex of Port Arthur – a former penal settlement.
My first experience with ghosts occurred while traveling in Tasmania. It was a blustery and rainy night as I checked into a historic hotel. I had been driving for almost two hours and was very tired.
I spent awhile chatting with some of the local patrons in the bar before retiring to my room. Sometime during the night I could hear voices and music. It sounded as if they were coming from a radio. I knew the bar was closed.
I tried to ignore the sounds, but they continued. I could sense something, but I didn’t know what it was. I began to feel uncomfortable. I forced myself to get out of bed and headed toward the bathroom because I thought the sound was coming from there. I opened the door, turned on the light – and the sound immediately stopped. There was no radio or stereo. I returned to bed.
Then something even stranger happened. I felt the presence of a woman right by my bed.
www.patrickwanis.com I was frozen. Then I felt the weight of the person sitting on the bed, and I felt a hand on my shoulder.
I couldn’t move. Straining to speak, I said, “Who are you and what do you want?” There was no response and I quickly said, “Leave me alone.” The spirit was gone instantly.
My encounters with less than favorable spirits gradually faded, never to return, as I chose to focus only on the good spirits and clear the fear-based emotions from my life and consciousness – anger, resentments, blame, jealousy and so forth.
ANGELS
The word angel comes from the Greek word angelos which means messengers. Angels are messengers from God.
Della Reese, who played Tess, the gruff but good-hearted supervisor angel in the TV series Touched By An Angel, sums up beautifully the roles that the angels play, saying the angels “don’t come to fix people in trouble. They come to teach them how to fix themselves. They provide assistance for people at a crossroads. If people see the hope, see that life is not all about oppression, depression and suppression, and have their
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Angels are messengers, and the major message they convey is love. Della Reese says, “Every week we get the great joy of being able to say God loves you, and that’s a great joy for me.”
Even if you have never had a visit from an angel, they are all around us, contacting us in many different ways. It’s believed that we all have a guardian angel by our side for our entire lives. There is truly much more to our world than meets the eye. If you would like to learn more about the angels in your life and how to recognize them, read my book, Angels are everywhere. www.patrickwanis.com
DREAMS
Spirits may also contact us in our dreams. In the Bible, God told King Nebuchadnezzar – through a dream about a statue – what would happen to Nebuchadnezzar’s kingdom. Subsequently, God gave Daniel the power to interpret that dream.
The dream was significant because its message was hidden in symbols. Other times, the message in dreams may be direct as in the
www.patrickwanis.com example in the Bible where an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream.
It is believed that when you dream about someone, that person is also thinking about you, particularly if the dream is highly emotional.
The dream may also be a message to you to contact someone. I once had a dream about a friend who lived far away and from whom I had not heard in a long time. In the dream, she appeared sickly and unhappy, having trouble with her boyfriend.
I called her to learn that the dream was accurate. She was overjoyed to hear from me, as I was able to offer her some support.
In another dream, I saw my then-girlfriend standing over me laughing and joking because she had cut her hair short and she knew I didn’t like short hair. Three days later, when I landed in Mexico to visit her, there she was with short hair. She had cut it just three days before!
Dreams are also gateways to receive messages from the other side. Many of us have experienced a dream where a loved one we have lost appears. The impact of this can be extremely powerful and uplifting, knowing
www.patrickwanis.com the person we love is close by, still within our reach, still available to us.
There is an important distinction to make here. In the case of a psychological dream, our subconscious mind is trying to resolve the grief of the loss. We dream about that person with no resolution, and we awake feeling sad, lonely, depressed, empty and incomplete – still grieving.
In the case of a dream where the spirit of our loved one actually makes contact with us from the other side, we awake feeling that the connection has been deepened. We feel whole and good about ourselves. There is a sense of being set free. The do-it-yourself technique at the end of this book will help you to achieve the same results.
INTUITION/INSPIRATIONAL THOUGHT
It’s believed that all spirits communicate by thought. Intuition often comes in the form of a feeling or as a thought.
This is often referred to as inspirational thought. The word inspire contains the
www.patrickwanis.com words “in spirit,” and so we often say, “I was inspired to do such and such.”
Many creative and visionary people who paint, write, draw or invent often refer to inspiration. The primary reason they receive this inspired information is because they are open to it. Later on in this book, you will learn how to develop your psychic abilities and open yourself to inspiration.
AUTOMATIC WRITING
Automatic writing is a form of mediumship in which a writer records information from the other side.
It can take two forms, automatic or inspired. In automatic writing, the handwriting is different from that of the writer. It can be in the handwriting style of the deceased person and it can come at an extraordinary speed. In inspired writing, the style of handwriting and expression is that of the writer, again potentially coming at an extraordinary speed. In both cases, the content is from a higher source, a spirit, and often is above and beyond the everyday knowledge or mental capacity of the writer.
www.patrickwanis.com The most well-known “channeled book” is A Course in Miracles that claims to be the modern day teachings of Jesus. This book teaches that the way to universal love and peace – remembering God – is by undoing guilt by forgiving others. The reason this book is so extraordinary is because the woman who was the primary channel – Dr. Helen Schucman, a clinical and research psychologist and tenured associate professor of medical psychology – was an atheist prior to receiving the inspiration to write this book.
VOICES
We probably all know a person or two who claims to hear voices or spends too much time talking to him herself. We are not referring to schizophrenics or those people who claim that they committed major crimes and atrocities because they heard a voice in their head. Spirits that communicate to us via voice do so primarily in three ways:
Direct voice: This form of contact from the other side is a voice that more than one person can hear.
This is not a new phenomenon. Saint Paul was traveling to Damascus when he heard a voice saying “Saul, Saul, why do you
www.patrickwanis.com persecute me? And the men that journeyed with him stood speechless, hearing the voice but seeing no man.”
The phenomenon of an external voice not summoned by a medium is also known as poltergeist phenomenon, usually referring to an unwelcome voice and spirit. A poltergeist is recognized as a ghost that manifests itself by noises, rappings and the creation of disorder. An intriguing story from 1889 tells the tale of a family in Clarendon, Canada, that had adopted an 11-year old orphan.
Soon after, the girl began to hear voices, and a newspaper reporter set out to investigate the phenomenon. At one point he took her to a barn behind the house, and the little girl called out: “Are you there, Sir?” Suddenly, from about five feet away, a voice was heard.
Afterward, the barn was carefully examined to determine if there was some sort of trickery or deception. All investigations of the barn proved to no avail.
The reporter then assumed that maybe the girl was a ventriloquist, so he asked her to fill her mouth with water so that she couldn’t project her voice. Again, the strange voice was heard.
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The phenomenon was once more witnessed by 20 neighbors who claimed that they all heard a terse voice in the vicinity of the girl, and claimed that the voice spoke out for quite a while and using foul language.
In the case of direct voice, the spirit speaks independently of the medium and heard by all present. In other words, the spirit does not speak through the medium nor use the medium’s larynx, although the medium may summon the entity.
It’s believed that the spirit creates the sound of a voice via an ectoplasmic larynx that the spirit activates. Ectoplasm is believed to be the visible substance supposed to emanate from the body of the medium during a trance.
Many popular mediums that engaged in direct voice in the 19th century were accused of being frauds because many simply projected their voices in the same way that a ventriloquist does. Today, direct voice is a rare occurrence.
Electronic voice: Almost inexplicable is the phenomenon of voices that appear on recorded audiotape when they were not heard by anyone during the recording
www.patrickwanis.com session. In other words, during a session there may be total silence, and yet when the recording tape is played back, unrecognized voices can be heard.
Researchers in this field believe that they may in fact be recording not only the voices of the deceased but also the voices of extraterrestrials.
In 1980, George meek, an engineer, and Bill O’Neil, a psychic, built Spiricom, an instrument that supposedly could be used to communicate with spirits of the dead. Many reported that the instrument didn’t work well, and others believed that maybe the only reason it worked with the inventors was because of Bill O’Neil’s psychic abilities.
Some mediums will encourage you turn on a tape recorder by your bedside just before sleep, and invite spirits to contact you overnight. The challenge with this is that again there is no guarantee which spirit will actually contact you. Even these mediums concede that you will have to experiment for a long time, up to many months, before experiencing success.
And then there is also the challenge of finding the time to play back the many hours of recorded tape.
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Internal spoken voice: The final way that spirits from the other side contact us via voice is with sounds and actual voices in our head.
One of the first encounters that prompted me to ask questions about the non-physical world and about life itself was a book I read in school by John Wyndham, author of The Day of The Triffids. The book was called Chocky. It tells the story of Matthew, a young boy. His family believes that he is just going through a phase of talking to himself.
Time passes and Matthew doesn’t get over it. He starts to do amazing and extraordinary things like counting in binary-code mathematics. His inspiration and talents come from the voice in his head of a spirit named Chocky.
What makes this book particularly meaningful is that Chocky imparts knowledge to Matthew by asking him many philosophical questions about life. And so it is with spirits – they can teach us many things in various ways.
www.patrickwanis.com PHYSICAL MANIFESTATIONS
Here are some of the ways spirits make their presence known to us:
Transfiguration: The medium’s face takes on the features of the spirit that is communicating. In the famous transfiguration of Christ, Jesus’ face was said to shine like the sun and his clothes became white as light.
Apports: Objects are materialized, seemingly from out of nowhere. Apports occur most often in séance rooms. .
Apparitions: These are what children refer to as ghosts – a slightly transparent body that can move through solid matter.
Psychic or spirit photography: Although not visible to the human eye when the photograph was being taken, spirits appear on the developed print
Chills and goose bumps: The experience of being in a room and suddenly feeling chills or goose bumps. Sometimes the temperature suddenly drops or a chilly breeze is felt.
Electricity and lights: This phenomenon involves electrical appliances turning on and
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DEVELOPING YOUR PSYCHIC POWERS
www.patrickwanis.com As we’ve already discussed, the single most important key to enhancing your psychic abilities and intuition and turning on your sixth sense is achieving inner peace.
There are two primary emotions, love and fear. When we experience fear, we believe that we are separate from everyone and everything. When we experience love, we feel we are connected to everyone and everything – that we are all one.
LOVE
Love brings us closer to God consciousness, and ego distances us from that blissful state. In a spiritual sense, ego means, “edging God out.” It is the ego that makes us feel that we always have to be right.
The more love we express for every living thing, the closer we get to God, and the more peace we have. The key then is to practice being kind rather than being right. If you apply this principal to all aspects of your life – past and present – then you will remove the blocks and obstacles to your potential. You’ll then be able to fully use all of your God-given senses and abilities.
www.patrickwanis.com MIND, BODY AND SPIRIT
The ancient Greeks believed in developing the whole person, emphasizing excellence in every part of life – moral, intellectual and physical. They believed in a healthy mind and a healthy body. They knew that the mind could not exist without the body, and that the body was meaningless without the mind. Accordingly, they placed equal importance upon athletics, music, art, mathematics and literature to build the body, stimulate the mind, and inspire the soul.
By lovingly tending to your mind, body and spirit and by working towards being whole, you will dramatically develop your psychic abilities and open wide the door to the other side, ultimately enabling you to contact those that have crossed over.
DIETARY CONCERNS
The food you eat affects your psychic abilities. The process of digestion requires a lot of energy. Foods that tire you, slow down your metabolism or poison your body, work against you. If your body is battling to digest food you cannot properly focus mentally or emotionally on anything else.
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Even if you have no interest in meditating or becoming a psychic, heeding the following suggestions will generally enhance your health:
Eat plenty of:
• Fresh fruits and vegetables • Fish • Lean poultry • Whole-grain complex carbohydrates
Avoid:
• Red meat • Sugar • Excessive salt • Bleached flour • Alcohol • Caffeine and other stimulants • Processed, packaged foods.
Drink plenty of water every day. Water helps to flush out toxins from your body.
MENTAL ATTITUDE
What you put in your mind is as important as what you put in your body. Negative
www.patrickwanis.com thoughts and fear-based emotions – like jealousy, anger, rage, resentment, bitterness, guilt, blame and shame – shut down the spirit and leave us in states of unhappiness and depression.
Focusing on the negative, complaining and listening to and exchanging gossip close our creative capacities. Avoid hateful, angry, depressed people. Avoid being critical and judgmental. Practice being loving and kind, and focus on the good things you want in your life.
CLEARING AND FORGIVENESS
Jesus said that the words that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these can make a man “unclean.” This applies as much to what is unspoken as what is said. Many of us tend to hold resentment, grudges and blame in our hearts.
Forgiveness is one of the keys to being set free. Although we may not realize it at the time, our enemies can sometimes prove to be our greatest teachers. And let’s face it – what we usually want is to get enemies out of our life. The easiest way to do that is to forgive and bless them.
www.patrickwanis.com Forgiveness will make you feel better. Practice it at the end of every day. Forgive those who have done something to you – or not done something for you. Grudges, resentment and other negative emotions rob you of joy and energy – and can even bring about physical illness.
Apply the principles of forgiveness and clearing to your past. Forgive the people who have wronged you. Release the stuff you are still holding on to – guilt, blame, shame, jealousy, possessiveness, resentment and bitterness. These negative fear-based emotions prevent you from realizing your full psychic abilities, and of course, from being happy and experiencing and expressing love.
EXERCISE
Exercise helps to clear your mind, release stress, reduce anxiety, improves sleep and cardiovascular health. It also increases energy levels, raises your metabolism and helps keep you strong and youthful.
Feeling good about your body raises your self- esteem, and joyful exercise releases endorphins that make you feel happy – it’s a natural high. The better you feel about yourself, the less stress you have, the clearer
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Exercising outdoors in the fresh air and sunshine, close to nature, enhances the physical, mental and emotional bodies.
If your time is limited, at the very least practice slow, long deep-breathing every morning and every night for several minutes. This invigorates you and stimulates your thymus gland, which will also lifts your spirit and energy.
FRAGRANCES
There are various herbs and fragrances that are highly effective in calming and uplifting you and heightening your spiritual awareness.
They may take the form of essential oils, scents, incense and scented candles. While the list of fragrances is long, some of the most powerful are:
• Gardenia – invigorating • Lavender – balancing and uplifting • Lilac – calming and protecting • Rose – soothing and relaxing
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CANDLES
The act of lighting a candle and watching it burn and gently flicker creates a sense of peace and harmony, helping you to release the stressful thoughts of everyday life.
Candles also connect people on a spiritual level. Candles make a dimly lit room romantic, drawing people together. They soften the energy of the room, and their light evokes a soul connection among people. Candlelight offers beauty and warmth, drawing us closer to the spirit world.
It’s believed that spirits cannot see superficial light and are therefore instantly attracted to the soft light of candles.
Being surrounded by candles – or taking the time to watch one as it burns – will slow down your nervous mind and instill calm. This is, of course, ideal for meditation or preparation to contact the other side.
www.patrickwanis.com NATURE
Spending time surrounded by the beauty of nature is a wonderful and enjoyable way to open your psychic awareness.
By connecting with living things – plants and animals – and the four elements – earth, wind, fire and water – you connect yourself with the universe and spirit. Nature helps to heighten your five senses, which in turn, heightens your sixth sense.
And the ideal way to enjoy nature is to do it with the enthusiasm and innocence of a child. Children have an inborn love for all living things and the outdoors.
MEDITATION
We’ve already covered the importance of meditation in developing your sixth sense. Now let’s talk about the specifics – getting started.
Here is a simple and powerful meditation you can do in the morning and in the evening. If you begin with just one meditation a day, that’s fine.
www.patrickwanis.com This meditation exercise involves a mantra – repeating a pure sound vibration. This simple chanting meditation can open you to the spiritual nature of the universe and its limitless expression of the soul. It can help heal the body, mind and spirit, and prepare you for the do-it-yourself technique to contact the other side in the last chapter of this book.
Begin by making yourself comfortable. Sit upright, with a pillow or soft cushion underneath you if you wish. You may accompany the meditation with candles or fragrances.
Keep your space clean and free of clutter. The fewer things in the room, the fewer distractions you will have. If you cannot devote an entire room to meditation, then just clear away as much space as possible around you. Remember to turn off all the electronic devices that might interrupt your private time.
Now spend a few minutes focusing on your breathing and letting your mind settle.
Start by breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth. Focus on slowing down your breathing, directing it down deep into the belly or even deeper if you can.
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This simple preparatory exercise assists you in stilling your mind. When you begin the mantra, you will breathe in and out through your mouth.
The mantra for the morning is the sound “AH.” This is the only sound that a human can make without using the tongue, teeth, jaw or lips. Think of when a doctor asks you to “open your mouth and say ah.”
This pure sound is the sound contained in almost every name given by every culture and language to the name for God (Ra, Allah, Buddha, Krishna, Jehovah, and so forth). It represents the power of creation.
The mantra for the evening is the sound “OHM.” It represents or symbolizes gratitude.
It is best if you can say the mantra out loud. If there are people around who will think you have gone nutty (spouse, children, neighbors), then it may be best to say it internally. Either way, feel the sound in your body, let it vibrate in your chest and ribs.
Breathe in as deeply as possible. When exhaling the breath to make the sound, keep it going for as long as you can, until all the
www.patrickwanis.com air is expelled. Breathe in deeply, and once again make the sound as you breathe out. Let the mantra follow your breath.
Begin by doing this meditation for just five minutes a day. As you practice, you will find it easier and easier, and soon you’ll be able to do it effortlessly for 20 minutes or more.
Be careful not to dilute your energy or impede the meditation by questioning if you are doing it properly or not. There is no wrong way to meditate. Your will and desire will show you the way.
When you prepare to complete your meditation, gradually lower your volume until it becomes internal and then silent. When you have finished your meditation, allow yourself a few moments longer to enjoy the peace, harmony and silence. You should feel relaxed, alert and refreshed.
The rewards of doing this meditation daily are bountiful and further prepare you for your do-it yourself exercise to contact the other side.
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DEVELOPING YOUR CHILD’S PYSCHIC POWERS
www.patrickwanis.com Children are innately psychic. Until around the age of five, they function primarily from their subconscious minds. That’s why they are so highly creative, emotional, imaginative and intuitive.
A child senses so much more than most parents realize. A child is in touch with the energy of both his or her parents at a very deep level and can be emotionally scarred by arguments, criticism and a general lack of love, affection and compassion between the parents.
A child will sense coldness, distance or lack of love between parents. The child doesn’t have to witness it, hear it or even be in the same room. The child will automatically read the parent’s energy. This ability is the child’s intuition, psychic ability and strong telepathic connection with the parents.
THE WISDOM OF CHILDREN
Young children have a strong connection to the other side – and to their past lives. This is where they’ve just come from! That’s why so many children are born with amazing skills, have spontaneous recall of past lives or have
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Recently, I was visiting one of my best friends, Ellen, in New York. We were sitting at the table, laughing and playing with her gorgeous two-year-old daughter Gabrielle.
From out of nowhere, Gabrielle turned around and said to me haughtily, “Patrick, you are being silly.” Hearing this from a two- year old, I almost fell off my seat, and both Ellen and I couldn’t stop laughing.
Gabrielle has such a wonderful sense of humor and is so great at entertaining and bringing joy to people. She is truly wise beyond her years. I looked at Ellen and said, “Did you lose someone close to you when you were young?”
She said, “Yes, why?”
I replied “I sense Gabrielle is someone who has known you for a long time.”
Ellen replied that her mother says that Gabrielle has the very same sense of humor as Ellen’s grandmother who passed away. Ellen’s grandmother may have come back from the other side, and still wants to make people laugh!
www.patrickwanis.com Children’s imaginary friends are not always so imaginary – they often turn out to be spirit guides or relatives who have passed on.
NURTURING THE SIXTH SENSE
Unfortunately, many children’s abilities are squashed by disbelieving parents and society’s logical, left-brained thinking. To nurture your child’s ability, the first step is recognizing that those abilities exist.
It’s important to talk with your child about these things so that he or she knows that you believe psychic ability is normal and natural. Then your child will have the confidence to tell you about his or her experiences. Accepting the psychic experiences that your child tells you about is vital if you want to nurture those talents.
Don’t force children into too many worldly activities – namely the pursuit of material possessions. Guide them gently so that they can be useful members of our society, but where there are choices available, allow them to make their own decisions.
If you raise your children so that they have a sense of self-worth, they will learn to rely on
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While most parents believe in some form of discipline for their children, be sure that any punishment that you may need to mete out doesn’t destroy your child’s fragile self- esteem.
NATURE
Encourage your child to love nature – to enjoy the flowers, trees and animals. Because nature is one of the most vivid expressions of spirit, it is important to appreciate it and natural surroundings.
Trips to the beach, the park, the forest and the mountains enable the child to connect with earth and open the channel to spirit. Helping your child to be aware of the beauty and magic of a summer breeze or a stormy day will open up and help develop all of his or her senses.
Developing the five senses helps to heighten the sixth sense. Spend time with your child outdoors. Guide him or her to listen to the wind or the sound of the birds and insects; to feel the air on the skin; to breathe in the wonderful aromas and fragrances of the
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In the process, you too, will be rewarded with joy and inner peace. You may gain spiritual insights, and the very act of sharing the beauty of nature and spirit at such a deep and magical level will help you to form a closer bond with your children and help you to open up your own psychic abilities. And these moments will become wonderful memories for your children when they grow up and look back on childhood.
As trivial as it may seem on the surface, growing plants, flowers and vegetables helps a child to appreciate and connect with nature, and at the same time helps to feed a child’s self-esteem. The more love and caring a child expresses, the more inner peace he or she will experience, and the more the child will be able to develop a psychic connection with the spirit world and with God.
IS YOUR CHILD GIFTED?
Ensure the child knows his or her strengths and good points. Always concentrate on
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You can introduce the concept of meditation to your child at the age of eight to 10 years. If your child isn’t inclined toward meditation, don’t force it on him or her.
You can begin with visualizations of colors, the color of the rainbow and playing a game, like playing on a beach or walking through the forest in their mind. It’s more fun and enticing to the child if you make it a game.
The child destined to use psychic gifts and talents is special indeed. There will always be something different about such children – a certain quietness and gentleness that provides a soothing presence.
These children will not be rough or excessively noisy. They will be the ones who will be observing and questioning. They will be particularly aware of other people’s feelings.
Normally children are very self-centered. They find it difficult to see things from other people’s point of view and feeling. Intuitive, gifted children will always be able to see things from more than one point of view. Or they may go to the other extreme and be
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It’s very difficult for a child to develop and maintain psychic gifts in our busy, stressful world. In our society, material concerns impinge very heavily on matters of the spirit. Also be aware that psychic abilities may become dormant in the early years of a child’s life, only to surface much later in life.
TRUST YOUR KIDS
Trust your children. They know who they are. They know what they are here for. They may or may not have conscious awareness of their talents and gifts, but if you treat them with loving care, their abilities will develop.
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IN SEARCH OF HEALING AND CLOSURE
www.patrickwanis.com The main reason that so many people want to attend the TV shows of John Edward and James Van Praagh is that they are seeking solace, closure and resolution. Many simply want to be told that their loved one who has crossed over to the other side is still with them.
For many of us, the message that the one who has passed still loves us is a great comfort. For others, a more complex resolution may be needed. Perhaps there was an unresolved issue, an argument, something left unsaid. Some of us simply want to say, “I love you” once more and know that we are being heard.
CLOSURE
The issue of closure is a key point in the story of Beauty and the Beast. Near the end of the tale, Gaston has just attacked the Beast, and he is dying. Belle rushes to his side, and the Beast is comforted in his last moments knowing that Belle cared so much for him that she chose to come back to him after being set free.
Belle blames herself for the Beast’s injuries and tries to comfort him. Knowing he is
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Very few of us are given the opportunity to say all that we wanted to say before a loved one leaves us. Belle was able to express both her guilt and her love, and the Beast could be comforted knowing how much Belle loved him. That is the closure and resolution that leads to inner peace.
When we are unable to achieve closure and resolution with a loved one who has passed on, the impact on our lives can be tremendously crushing and destructive.
When my grandmother passed away, I never cried. At the time, my family actually doubted my love for my grandmother. I was the only one who never wept at her loss even though she and I had been so closely connected.
What no one understood at the time was that I was in denial. I recall on many occasions thinking to myself but not telling anyone, that, well, my Nana has just gone on a long vacation.
Death to so many, particularly a 10-year-old child is inexplicable, almost
www.patrickwanis.com incomprehensible. It wasn’t until many years later that I understood the effect my grandmother’s death had on me, how deeply it impacted me. Because I had never really dealt with it or felt a sense of closure, it had prevented me from getting close to another person and having an intimate and meaningful relationship.
THERAPY AND CLOSURE
I was lying on the sofa in my hypnotherapist’s office. (Yes. hypnotherapists go for therapy, too.) She quickly and easily put me into a deep trance.
I don’t recall how we arrived at the issue, but the loss of my grandmother came up. I felt my grandmother’s presence – as if she were right there in front of me.
Suddenly, I was a child again, 10 years old, and I was screaming. And just like a little boy who throws a tantrum, I was kicking, screaming and crying, “Why did you leave me? How could you leave me? And you didn’t even say goodbye...I hate you...You are the only one who loved me, and you left me...How could you leave me? Why did you leave me all alone?”
www.patrickwanis.com Here I was, an adult, almost two decades after my grandmother’s death, and I was screaming and crying as if I were 10 again. For the first time, I faced the pain of the loss of my grandmother and its effect on me.
For the first time since her death, I opened myself to feel her again, to let her into my heart. Only then did I realize that I refused to get too close to people because I didn’t trust them – I feared that they too might leave me. It was still hard to forgive her for leaving me. I screamed out, “You didn’t have to leave!” and responded to the therapist’s gentle prodding with a child’s emotional, stubborn viewpoint: “Yes. She had a choice. She could have stayed.”
With the help of the therapist and the presence of my grandmother, I was able to realize that my grandmother had to leave – as all people do at some point. I was able to let her go, to set her free.
I also knew beyond the shadow of a doubt that my grandmother still existed on the other side, and that her spirit, her energy, and her influence are always with me.
Most importantly, I was able to tell her I love her and feel that it was OK for me to love and trust another human being again.
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I always recommend that when you’re dealing with deep emotional issues, it is best to work with a professional but, you can safely work on bringing about peace and making conscious contact with those loved ones via self-hypnosis and guided visualization.
A client of mine, Robin, had been working with me on setting herself free from the guilt and controlling grip that her now deceased mother had on her. At the end of one of our first sessions, she came out of trance and felt tired. Normally, when one awakes from a session of hypnotherapy, the patient feels energized and full of life. So, because she was tired, I knew that we had not been able to let go of all of the issue.
A few days later, Robin called me to tell me she had been feeling tired and depressed since our last session, and was worried. I asked her to relate to me what, if anything, she’d been dreaming about.
Of course, she had been dreaming about her mother, that her mother was cross with her, and her arms were folded tight, symbolizing disapproval.
www.patrickwanis.com I wanted to help her as quickly as I could. So I asked her to meditate daily, to connect with her mother, and to speak with her if it came up, and to visualize her mother relaxing her arms.
Robin called again a few days later, and she was ecstatic because it worked. She could visualize her mother relaxed and more approving of Robin. What had occurred was that the energy attachment between Robin and her mother had changed. A subsequent hypnotherapy session would reinforce that.
JK
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CONTACTING THE DEPARTED
www.patrickwanis.com Contacting a loved one who has crossed over can bring about closure, resolution, inner peace, greater self-love and the feeling that you are always loved. This will enhance your sixth sense and psychic abilities.
This chapter provides a self-hypnosis exercise that helps you to contact a deceased loved one and bring about closure, resolution and peace of mind.
This is your opportunity to say the things you might not have been able to say while your loved one was alive. With this technique, you can resolve outstanding issues and become aware that your loved ones are always close by.
Set aside 30 to 40 minutes for each session. You may have success and achieve all that you need and desire in just one session, or it may take more to bring about a deep hypnotic state and connect with your loved one who has passed. You might want to schedule it as a regular appointment so that you will actually do it.
This routine is as important as an exercise routine – you have to be committed. If you are truly willing, if your desire is strong enough and if it is in your highest good, then you will make contact with the other side.
www.patrickwanis.com You may choose to record this script with your voice, play it back as a way of hypnotizing yourself, and then proceed with the remainder of the technique – the visualization portion.
Now find yourself a quiet place or room where you will be alone, at peace and at ease. Make sure no one will interrupt you. Unplug the phone. Turn off the cell phone, pager and any other electronic devices that might interrupt you. It’s best to sit up with pillows to support your back. If you choose to lie down, you will probably fall asleep if you are tired.
If you desire, you can pray before you begin. Make it a simple prayer thanking God for healing what needs to be healed and revealing what needs to be revealed.
Now begin to look up until your eyes become tired. Take a long, slow, deep breath, in through your nose and out of your mouth. Fix your eyes on a light or spot on the ceiling, and when they become tired, just close your eyes.
Now imagine a liquid light beginning on the top of your head and slowly working its way down your body. As it passes over each area
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Imagine the light moving slowly down your entire body – from the top of your head down to your forehead, eyes, cheeks, nose, lips, chin, throat, back of your head, back of neck, shoulders, upper back, middle back, lower back, arms, forearms, hands, fingers, chest, stomach, hips, thighs, legs, knees, calves, ankles, feet and the tips of your toes.
RELAX YOUR MIND
Now tell yourself how relaxed you are. Become aware of the sense of relaxation quieting your mind and body.
Now allow your imagination to run free. Imagine that it’s a beautiful day. Choose one of the following: a walk down a mountain, a walk along a beach or a stroll in your favorite park or reserve. You can even combine all three, starting with the mountain.
Now imagine that you are slowly walking down the mountain, and with each step you take, you are becoming more and more deeply relaxed.
www.patrickwanis.com Become aware of the ground, the trees, the sky, the air, the sounds and the fragrances.
When you reach the bottom of the mountain, it leads to the beach, and as you casually walk along the beach, you see that the sky is your favorite color.
Notice the warmth of the sand beneath your feet, the sound of the waves, the smell of the sea breeze and the moisture in the air.
Walk up to a hammock stretched between two trees, and gently recline on it. The hammock gently sways back and forth, back and forth, and each time that hammock sways, you’re becoming more and more deeply relaxed.
MEETING YOUR LOVED ONE
Now imagine that you are entering a temple, an ancient holy temple. Here you feel safe, secure, and comfortable.
As you move through the temple, you notice a golden light from the sky, and you follow it to a room. You are now inside this room, and again you feel totally safe and secure.
www.patrickwanis.com You pause and then give permission to the golden light to enter and fill the room. In the light you are safe, and you now invite your loved one to gently enter in the room next to this one. A sheet of warm glass separates the rooms.
There is so much that you want to say to this person but have not had the chance. You allow your thoughts, words and feelings to flow freely. Now you are totally free and safe to express everything on your heart and mind.
You begin to speak. You can ask questions and listen for answers. It is important here to ask any and every question you might have, and listen for the answer, which may not necessarily come in the form of a voice but rather as a thought.
After saying all that you want to say, you can now add, “I love you and bless you.” You may wish to add “and I forgive you” if you feel it is relevant. If you have any anger, blame or resentment then it is imperative that you work towards forgiving this person, even if you begin by expressing the anger and hurt.
Release anger and rage, then seek understanding for the motivation behind the
www.patrickwanis.com person’s actions, thus leading to forgiveness. Understand that it is you who is holding onto any blame or guilt towards this person, and now you can forgive him or her completely. If you can, say the words, “I love you.”
You notice that the glass separating you and your loved one begins to turn to liquid, and it melts away momentarily. Now reach across and take this person in your arms. Give your loved one a big hug, feeling the love and warmth between you, and once more, say, “I love and bless you, and I release you.”
Listen for him or her to do the same. If he or she does not release you, you are still holding on to a negative emotion toward this person. At your next session, you can go back and work again on forgiving this person and setting yourself free of resentment.)
Before saying goodbye, thank him or her for all the things he or she has taught you, and for helping you on your spiritual journey. If you choose, you may also blow a kiss as you wave goodbye, knowing that he or she is always close to you.
www.patrickwanis.com HEALING AND CLOSURE
If you follow this technique and still find internal resistance to forgiveness, seek out the help of a professional, because you have other blocks that may require a professional to help you gain the insight to set yourself free – and your loved one on the other side.
Know too, that as you heal this relationship with your loved one who has passed, you are healing yourself and opening the door to healing with friends and loved ones who are still with you.
You now move from this room into another room. As you step inside, you see a liquid light, the light of love. What color is it? You begin to step into the liquid light of love, allowing it to penetrate all of your body, filling every cell with love. When you feel it has completely done its work, you move to another room.
And as you step inside, you see another liquid light, the light of healing. What color is it? You begin to step into the liquid light of healing, allowing it to penetrate all of your body, healing every cell in your body. When you feel it has completely done its work, you move to another room.
www.patrickwanis.com This room has a large Roman type bath. The water is the perfect temperature, and it is clean and pure. You step into it. The water bathes you, cleanses you and washes away the past, setting you free.
You spend a short while here, and when you feel the bath has completely done its work, you step out and gently dry yourself. You feel renewed and revitalized. Your body feels good. Your heart is light and your mind relaxed and peaceful.
COMING OUT OF TRANCE
Now you are ready to come out of trance. Say to yourself: “In a moment, I am going to count from one to seven, and I am going to come out of my trance. When I say the number seven, I will open my eyes and I will feel absolutely wonderful, empowered by this wonderful experience. I will feel better than I felt all day, better than I felt all week, better than I felt in a long, long time. I am ready for another happy day.”
Now count to seven slowly, and take long, slow, deep breaths. When you finally open your eyes, just lie or sit there for a moment before you continue with your day, feeling
www.patrickwanis.com proud of the wonderful achievements you have made.
Using this technique, prayer or meditation, you can experience the beauty of blessings and forgiving yourself and others.
When you are able to contact those who have crossed over to the other side, their resounding message will be one of love and forgiveness for yourself and others - the source of all happiness.
JK
www.patrickwanis.com ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis is a Celebrity Life-Coach and Human Behavior and Relationship Expert. He is an international speaker, clinical hypnotherapist, and Neuro-Linguistic Programming Practitioner with degrees in communication, human behavior and journalism. He appears regularly on television and radio and teaches around the world. Wanis coaches and works with various celebrities such as Hulk Hogan. More than four million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish: Click here. Visit him at www.patrickwanis.com
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