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LOCAL NEWSBRIEFS It all comes down to Man ciiarged loving yourself enough in bar assault; to fight for your life. two injured Our culture tells us not By Susan Jordan An violent incident took place at the to. It takes my breath Bachelor Forum. 67() University Ave., on Sept. •. Ange M. Lane of Rochester has been charged with assault, and the investigation away that we exist at is ongoing. Two men who accompanied him into the bar have not yet been charged. all, have survived in a Lane allegedly struck the co-owner ofthe Forum in the face with a motorL7cle helmet, society tbat wishes us breaking his nose. A bar patron was alleged­ ly hit with a bottle by another of the men. but has not yet pressed charges. dead.'' Capt. Ray Moshcr, Rochester Police Department haison with the gay communi­ — Michael Callan ty, told the Empty Cioset, "We don't know why they went in the bar or what was said. Witnesses are not being very cooperative. I'm convinced that it was bias-related; that the men went in there with the intent to do violence to gay people.' Mosher said that the investigating officer's report does ntit include references t(» anti­ gay epithets, and individuals involved can be charged only with assault Howevet Mosher said. "The Department and the District At­ torney's office are looking at it as a bias Still Life with Flamingos: cnrenij^e nf the Ciiiy crime, and we arc making sure that thc pro- iiiui l.esijiiin (.fitirettt/tui. /Hts^es Hit. P/jntt, hy I secuting attorney has full information." Ifh'fi Ma/uif/y Moshcr said that thc three men had allegedly been overheard outside the Forum making anti-gay remarks to patrons entering the bar When one patron replied to them, the>' foUowed him into thc bar, allegedly say- ''Pink Flamingos" Convention a success; j ing, "We're going to kick some fag ass." Lane's pre-trial conference court date is Oct. 10 at 9:30 a.m., before Judge Johnson. 500 attend wide variety of events Forum co-owner Arnie Pegish (who was! By Susan Jordan otherwise. They really took pan in the con­ not present during the incident), said, "Wei tion next year, Andrews replied, "Absolute­ Thc Rochester area has seen many "firsts" vention, too. have hired security, starting Sept. 13 I would! ly It's got to be done again. 1 feel 1 have a over the years; the women's movement, Tve received many letters and calls," An­ responsibility to the people who stood there also be very supportive of any effort to create: photography, xerography, the Mormon drews said, "and {>cople have been stopping a gay volunteer group which could patrol bar! Sunday afternoon and said *1 wish it wasn't religion and spiritualism all got their stan tn mc on thc strcet, telling me how much they over areas." the city or the general vicinity, (Must be enjoyed it. I haven't received a single Improved street Ughting is also under j something in the water). So it's not surpris­ criticism." Andrews said that although the consideration. ' ing thai Rochester saw what may have been convention did not break even financially, Ann Northrop Paul Scheib, president of the Gay Alliance the first-ever gay and lesbian convention on she felt that it was worth thc effort because of thc Gcncscc VaUcy, said that persons who Labor Day weekend. it brought so many f>coplc together, and add­ have experienced any type of harassment, The keynote speaker at the opening Around 500 people, some fft)m as far away ed greatly to gay and lesbian visibility ceremonies on Aug. 30 was Ann Northrop but do not wish lo press charges, should at as Portland, Ore., attended thc "Pink Flam­ Andrews said that, as far as she knows, the of ACT UP's "Safe Sex Six," who chose to least report the incidents to police. "You ingos and Purple Hearts" convention at thc convention was the fi»-st of its kind be arrested during the controversial don't need to give your name," he said, "but Floliday Inn Downtown. They experienced anywhere. "It was original in its scope,' she demonstration in St. Patrick's Cathedral last at least let police know that thc incident has a variety of workshops, panels, speakers, a said. "It dealt with everything — potitical, year, which pn>tested Cardinal John J. occured. They are concerned about stopp­ film festival organized by Pyramid Arts spiritual, social, emottonal What's impor­ O'Connor's homophobic and AlDSphobic ing anti'gay violence, and need to have am Center, dances, a banquet, concerts by Cris tant about the convention is that people left acts and sutements. accurate picture of the situation." | Williamson and fhrt Fure and thc Flirutions, their differences at home. There was a real Northrop began her talk by referring to thc excerpts from the play "Franny, Queen of communion. I've never seen so much hug­ recent study suggesting that the brain struc­ Woinen organize Provincetown." presented by Rochester (iay ging, kissing and communicating. We set a ture of gay men may differ from that of Summer Ihcaier and much more. A refrain loving tone at the beginning, and all 1 saw heterosexual men, which implies that heard owr and oxer again \\ as. "I saw so many was smiles." homosexuality may be biologically based. Take Back the Night, j pc<>ple I hadn I seen in years!" Andrews said that the workshop with the (See article in Newsfronts section.) Organizer Leigh Andrews said, "It went largest attendance (94 people) was Dr Jen­ Northrop said she was ''nervous, month of events extremely well. It was empowering, the nifer Lloyd's "Rummaging in thc Closet;' on delighted, confused and curious" about the A local organization. Women Acting most positive experience I've ever been lesbian and gay history. She added that many issue. "I have a different uke on it." she said. Against Violence (WAAV) is sponsoring i associated with. 1 thought the Flirutions other workshops showed comparable "What we'll ultimately discover when we Take Back the Night March on Oct. I, to pro^ wete just stunning — they're one of the attendance. test rape, serial killings, battering, child abuse finest acts I've ever seen, gay, straight or When asked if there would be a conven­ Convention continued on page H and all forms of violence against womenj The march will begin at 6 p.m. at Planned Parenthood, 114 University Ave., and will end at the YWCA, 175 N. Clinton Ave. Fight back Flirt on WAAV has also produced a month-Ion^ series of events which will address differenil aspects of woman-hating violence in ouij society. Thc first event, on Oct. 4. is a con-l feimce on "Power, Control and Other Dead-j ly Themes," sponsored by Alternatives foil Battered Women. It will be held at the HoliJ day Inn Holidome from 8:15 a.mm to 4:15l p.m., and the fee is S65. Por information call 252-7353 For a listing of the other events takin; place during the coming month, sec Calendar section, page 14. For a The Homed God of thc teoes involved, tec the interview Flirtations & Cri$ Williamsoin See page 12. Anna Ffcund and Mafsha Peonc of ^niAV imcnicii^ with Anna Freund reviews. paresis. See pi^ 11 Thc Wheel of the Goddess and MafiOu PtxKic of WAAV. Seepage 13 continued ' Susan Davkl

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October. 1991 THE EMPTY CLOSET editorial State and local news Born queer or not, we still need to come out Newsbriefs continued from pago I fenders against the policy arc supposed to By Susan Jordan l>e terminated from their jobs. The policy on the streets, who can only feel good in thc Ncwsfnmts section UJT details.) Oct. II. C:oming Out Day. is here again, ("manly") when the>''re destroyingsomcfine implies, and with all the rights that implies, Mortgage- also requires store supervisors and managers We can now say, if in fact the study pm- the third time it's rtilled an>und since Tve they t*an think of as inferior to themselves; whatever our sexual identity, race, gender, to maintain a work environment free of %es to be meaningful, that it is unfair to Queers query candidates: been edttor of the Fmpty Closet. This year someone their bosses and leaders and dad­ or backgniund. And thac holds true whether burning harassment. discriminate against us for being born queer the national theme is "Cioming Out, Staying dies and preachers will reward them tor gayness is proved to be bioh^gicalty deter­ Thc Gay Alliance of thc Gcncscc Valley The policy does not specifically mention Ihis is helpful to our cau.se, and the anger of Out, Being Out." destroying. mined or not. will hold a mortgagc-huming party and harassment on the basis of sexual orienta­ right-wing pn>pagandists like Cal Thomas at Some of thc voices urging us to doubt and open house from 5-7 p.m. on Oct. 12 at the Kverybody is surely aware by now that Let's get the poison of hate out ofour own tion. Tbe Pink Paper quotes an unnamed Political Caucus Survey part 1 coming out in large numbers is our only the \er> suggestion shows just how helpful it hate ourselves are the voices of people of GAGV Community Center, 179 Allantic Ave. secretary of Danny Wegmans as saying that veins at least. We have lo like and respect miglit Ix-. lUit we nuisi amcmber that the aali- chance for eijual rights, for survival as in­ g(M>dwill, who arc not vicious bigots, but All afc welcome to attend. The event will he does not get itrvolvcd in departmental By BUl Pritchard ourselves before we can change the t\ ni:i\ be much more complicated. And as dividuals and as a communit\. ^ci it's hard who are simpl) mistaken and misinform­ celebrate thc fact that the mortgage on thc matters, and **each store is autonomous." The Rochester Lesbian and Gay Political di>like/disrespect of others It's true that not lamlxia legal IXJensc- and l-dutation I iind has Political Action Committee, formed by the and it's sometimes dangen)us and so many ed. We may not be able to change the bigots, Community Center building was paid off in Slocum, a gay teenier forced to quit high Caucus has just completed its election year all pteople with same-sex lovers are righteous, poimed out. even if gayness is a " choice, that political caucus in 1989. makes the follow­ people are still M) afraid. They're supposed but we may be able to change the people of July, and will also celebrate Coming Out school because of harassment by self- ritual of surveying candidates for specific virtuous, likable or even sane. But none of is siiti no justification for depriving us of ing recommendations. The three potential lo be — that s what homophobia and goodw ill. Coming out is probably the most Week. proclaimed neo-nazi teenagers, took a job at locat races in an attempt to determine their us is shameful, oil. unlikahleor insane simp­ human rights. ratings are: strongly recommend (SR); homophobic violence dn: fttr effective way of doing that. It forces the per­ Wegmans in Dewitt to put himself through views on gay issues. There were many en­ rccommcnd (R); recommend with rcscrva- ly because we are lesbian, gay or bisexual. As I see it. it is a choice and it isn't. We NX'e are supposvti to live in a constant state son with homophobic views to look a queer school. One of thc harassers from his school couraging responses, some disappointments tions (RW): Republican (Rep); Democrat This year we have a new weapon to use dont choose in the womb, or at age five or Tax challenge of fear and shame. Our hne is supposed to in the eye and acknowledge what Ann Nor­ was also working at Vtfegman's, and he began and a few surprises. (Dem); Conservative (Conserv). in our discussions with straight friends and 15 or 50. to be lesbian or gay, to be attracted be unnatural, not "real" like heterosexual thrup of ACT UP calls "the big news — tha^ By Susan Jordan to harass Slocum. Other employees joined Candidates were asked questions dealing Judge of the Family Court family members, and with those who to the people we are attracted to. But we do I<>\e Ihe \ery idea makes me angry. Lesbian we arc actually human." Thc Ciay Alltance oi thc CicncNcc Valley in. and the harassment, in the form of anti­ with a variety of issues, ranging from cur­ Leonard E. Maas, Dem. R espouse the right-wing theory that being gay chse to act on that or to deny our sexuali­ and gay love is good and sacred, and so is Once they know that we are human — (CiACiV) is challenging the city s tax assess­ gay slurs, escalated, sometimes taking place rent levels of AIDS funding to suppori for Judge of the City Court or lesbian or bisexual is a "lifestyle of ty; we do choose whether or not to be out, our desire — in spite of al! those messages that they like, respect or lovc .someone who ment on the CiACiV C^ommunity Onter l"'9 in front of customers. civil rights legislation. They were also ask­ Prank P. Geraci, Dem. R choice." The LcVay study on thc brain struc­ to connect with others, to feel the same fn)ni our repressive, body-hating patriarchal is ga>- — it becomes harder and harder to ac­ Atlantic Ave. rhe hearing is set for (Kt 2-» Slocum spoke to store manager Pat Lynch ed if there were any openly gay or lesbian Melchor E Castro, Dem. R ture of gay and heterosexual men seems to pride heterosexuals feel in loving and being culturc. which condemns even straight sex­ cept the bigotry, harder and harder to deny at 10 a.m. in the court of Judge Andrew and assistant manager Ann Marie Littleboy. persons working on their campaigns. A large County Legislature (by district *) imply that there may be a biological factor loved, to desire the same freedom heterosex­ uality as something dirty. us civil rights, harder and harder to condone Siracuse, on the fourth floor of the Supreme who said that they were unaware of the number of them said yes to the latter ques­ 4th William Gillette, Dem. R in homosexual identity, which would make uals have to express sexuality, to demand the . Ihe truly shameful ones are the bigots, attacks on us. harder and harder to silence C:ourt Building, acn)s> from the VC'ar situation and would handle it. An unnamed tion, which is an encouraging sign that gays 6ih Ronald Pawclczak, Conserv. R being gay about the same as being born left- same openness and the .same civil rights that from Jesse Helms (Mr. Hatred himself) to the our voices. Let's make being homophobic Memorial. member of the management staff aUegedly and lesbians are continuing to be active and 8th Katherine M. Grady, Dem. SR handed. Asian, female, or anything else that straights take for granted We are human be­ brainwashed hate-screamers and gay-bashers even harder lhan coming outf Memhers of the gay community and sup­ told Slocum later "Vou must get used to it visible in local politics. 9th PhiUp D Schaefer. Dem. R is biologically determined. (See the article ings, with all the gd and all the bad that porters are encouraged to attend. (the harassment). It is the price you pay for Many of the respondents added their own 18th Diane R. Polito, Dem. R As a federal!) tax-exempt not-for-profit being different * comments to the surveys, expanding on their 20th Samuel J, Colombo, Dem. R organization, the (iACiV applied for city tax After two weeks during which the harass­ answers. Here are a few of them: 21st Nan Johnson. Sem. SR exempt status, but the application was ment subsided, it started again, and Slocum "! have always opposed discrimination in 23rd William J. Benet, Dem. SR denied. CiACA' President Paul Scheib told the again complained to Lynch. The harassment employtnent". . /'Further delivery of ser­ 24th Kevin B. Murray, Dem. SR Letters Fmpty Closei. "Our situation localh i> no continued, and the harasser one day told vices must be based on need, not on one's Conunissioner of Schools diflerent from other not-for-profit groups Slocum. '*i don't know what you're saying sexual orientation" - Kevin Murray. Presi­ Rachael Hedding. Dem. SR who own their own buildings, and do have to Pat Lynch. Ifyou fuck with my job, I will dent. Monroe County Legislature. Karen M Grella. Dem. SR up, and some of them are now adults, bring­ IS TIME FOR US. AS A COMMUNITY, TO keep me afraid no longer tax exempt status, such as the N62I C;om- find your ass and kill you." "(I) oppose discrimination on the basis of Greece Town Board (3rd ward) ing their bias and hatred into their TAKE CARE OF OUR OWN IN THIS I can be conucted by phone at 292-0361. munity As.sociation. Our statement of pur­ Forum attack Slocum then went to Dewitt police, who sexual preference." - Nan Johnson. County John Noble. Dem. SR communites. RESPECT. 1 do not advocate violence as a It is safe to leave a message if you so desire. pose is similar to theirs — to eliminate pre- spoke to Slocum and the harasser, but filed Town Supervisor As most of us arc aware, this cycle of iudice and discrimination, and defend Legislator, 21st district. means for this. I also do not advocate Manhew Knapp no report. Slocum contacted the Onondaga hatred and violence is perpetuated by misin­ human rights. We would appreciate com­ 'Elected officials should respond to all Penfield, Dr Harvey Chasser, Dem. SR unacceptable; renegade atucks on persons who participate {Ed. note: Pac Tac groups bave proved District Attorney's office, and they sent a let­ formation and society's "rules" regarding munity suppon. both at the hearing and also constituent concerns, it is incumbent upon Brighton. Sandra Frankel, I>em. SR in this form of "gay bashing." successful in other cities. The Pink Panther ter to the harasser warning that further our lives. While much is being done to at­ group in New York City was founded in in a letter-writing campaign." constituents to bring (their) concerns to the Thc remaining recommendations will What I do advocate, and would like to harassmem would result in criminal charges. tempt to change the non-gay community's 1990 in response to a rise in gay-bashing- legislators." - Samuel J. Colombo, County apcar in thc November issue of thc Empty need gay patrol present through your forum, is oiganized ac­ Scheib said that Mayor Thomas Ryan, who This endl the streets of Greenwich Village and Coloml>o's comment is very important to can be uken to the polls, which will list all called "Pac-Tic" patrols, trained by the pn)tlt groups from taxes, has granted tax ex­ Slocum says that the harassment is now I was extremely angry and saddened by community-wide and individual basis. have come to serve as a visible deterrent to this article. There werc some candidates who thc recommendations. The survey responses police department These patrols, made up empt status to three community groups, more subtle. Doors are opened in his face, the bias related violence which occurred iu 2. The message rhat this type of violent potential attackers of gays and lesbians. chose not to respond to our survey. Some of can be viewed by attending one of thc of men and women, could be a visible which did not need lo go through the pro­ and he receives catcalls from as many as 10 ihe Bachelor Forum on the evening of .Sept. and senseless action against our communi­ the candidates cited the laige number of PoliticaJ Caucus tncetings which are held thc presence outside thc bars in town. Imagine: cess of challenging the tax assessment. "We employees when he walks through thc back I While 1 was not in attendance that night. ty is never acceptable or cxcuscable NEEDS surveys that their offices receive and said second Monday of thc month, at 7.30 p.m.. gay Pac-Tac patrols monitoring activities in would like to oiganize a letter-writing cam­ section of the store. I did sp>cak with an eyewitness who saw the TO BE MADE KNOWN WITHOUT that they cannot get to them all. John at thc Gay Alliance, 179 Atlantic Ave. thc areas of thc bars, trained in how to deal Thanks for paign asking the May4>r to re-examine the A former Wegman's employee in the events as they unfolded. His story was one EQUIVOCATION! While those of us within Housel, a Conservative running for thc coun­ Thc Caucus will be meeting with Monroe with possible violence related situations. position taken by the city assessor's oiTice. Syracuse area was outed as a lesbian by a w hich did not fit into my ideas about the thc community know the truth of this, ty legislature seat in the 13th distnct, told County Executive Tom Frey on Oct. 7, at 8 Perhaps thc mere presence of these visible and overturn his decision," Scheib said. Wegmans assistant manager, who was subse­ society we live in. Perhaps 1 have become perhaps it is time to resute this in a positive, great gathering us that he would not reply! By not respon­ p.m.. and with his Republican challenger members of our community would help to quently arrested and charged with ag­ UK) complacent about my rights (correction: visible fashion. Gay persons of both sexes, ding, these candidates, some of whom are Bob King on Oct. 21, at 7:30 p.m. Both deter and decrease thc threat of violence To tha Editor: gravated harassment for allegedly making Ol R rights) as a gay man in Rochester But and of all colors, have worked too hard and Syracuse area incumbents, are ignoring thc gay communi­ meetings will be held at 179 Atlantic Ave. against us. While this is only a germ of an PRAISE FOR THE PINK FLAMINGOS AND anonymous phone calls to thc former I think not. too long to still need to fear violence and/or ty. Even those who responded somewhat Everyone is welcome! idea, it is one which could assist in making PURPLE HEARTS CONVENTION! employee. The "outer's " brother, a The very fact that three straight men felt harrassment when on the street, or in a negatively deser\'e more respect than 'hose Ifyou have not registered to \'ote. or know a safer, more pleasant night out for gay men Kudos to Leigh Andrews and her suff for Wegmans biased? Wegman s department manager, allegedly that they could enter a gay esublishment, huilding. While 1 am concerned about all who, after being reminded, did not respond someone who needs to, you must do so by and women, as well as fostering a sense of Rochester's first (of many, wc hope) Gay and drives past the former employee's house, and physically injure .several persons, and tcr- types of bias-related violence, 1 am going to By Susan Jordan at all. Oct. 6 ifyou want to vote in November N(» pride and empowerment for those who both Lesbian Convention, held at the Holiday Inn parks in the road outside her home, every rori/e all persons in the bar, pointed out be most angry and provoked by this violence A Wegman's employee in Dewitt. N.Y. Should you, the voter be upset? Mad? vote, no voice. The gay community in this give and rcceive such a service. over thc Labor Day weekend. Not only was night. I\)lice say they can do nothing several important realities to me. within my own community. near Syracuse, has appealed to the Town of Who pays (or may pay) their salaries? You area is quite large. As an organized group of Therefore I ask that any member of the it well organized and coordinated, but wc Dewitt Police and the Onondaga (bounty because he is on a public thoroughfare I. While Bias Related crime comes and To a ceruin degree, this type of violence do* Who arc they supposed to represent? informed voters exercising our right to vote, community, of either sex, and any color, were made to feel welcome the moment we District Attorney's office to make a fellow Mari- Ellen Burris, Wegman's consumer af­ goes in waves, it is always with us. In reading has directly affected me, my female room­ Vou the constituent! It is, or will be, their our collective voices would be so loud that think about this proposal, and conuct me stepped off the escalator. Thc setting was employee stop harassing him because he is fairs director in R<)chesicr. was unavailable the 1988 Final Rcport of thc Governor's Tisk mate, and my gay friends. My roommate has job* What happens when you or I don't do we'd shatter the windows of thc offices of personally if you feel this would be an em­ safe and the selection of workshops was gay The complaint caused that individual to for comment. Ann Hyatt, Syracuse director Force on Bias-Related Violence. I was amaz­ had to endure threats and Uunts from men our job? We get firedf What makes an elected every public official who cho.se to ignore us. powering method to both deal with an ever- delightfully difficult to choose from. dcrsist, but the harassment is continuing. The of consumer affairs for the chain, ct>nfirm- ed to leam that, when polled, a sample who have clustered near the bar she attends. official or someone hoping to become one and we'd keep those w h<» would push u.s present problem, and contribute to thc gay Many thanks, too, to boch JoAnn Casey and Syracuse gay community plans an actton in ed to the Fmpty Closet that Wegman's has group of junior and senior high school My friends and I have been the uigets of ver­ any different? Nothing! What can you do? aside from ever getting there in thc first community. Perhaps we can meet and Kathryn Mclntyre who organized the "open response on Oct. 19. a sexual harassment policy, but said that she students suted that 86 percent to 100 per­ bal harrassment from both men and women Become an informed voter! place. The choice is yours; so too \* ill be the discuss ways to set up and set into motion mike.'' We were treated graciously and pro­ Joshua Slocum, 17. says that store manage­ had no information about it. or about the cent of them would accept neighbors from as wc have entered a downtown bar This nt) The Genesee Vallev Lesbian and Gav results. this service. fessionally and the musical needs for our ment has dofie nothing to stop the harass­ SkK'um case. other ethnic groups, but 69 percent to 91 longer is a case of trying to ignore, or using The decision to empower oneself is an in­ performance were met well to our ment, and that letters to Danny Wegman. The Syracuse gay community is planning percent of those polled would reject CAY the sundard "just keep walking" strategy. tensely personal one. Just for the record, this satisfaction. president of thc supermarket chain, have an action on CXt. 19. Organizers hope that persons as neighbors. This was a full three For myself, this is no longer accepuble. This is where 1 make my choice. My anger and pnKJuced no response. 100 people wearing gay T-shirts will walk >'ears ago; these students are now^ growing brings me to my third and final thought: IT Thank you to all! sadness have become the fuel which will Ro2 tk Barb of PARADOX According to Syracuse's Tbe Pink Paper through thc Dewitt storc pushing cans, as a demonstration ofthe numbers of gay and State and local news Wegman's has a sexual harassment policy which states that every employee has the lesbian people who patronize Wegman's. continued on page 17 The Empi\ Closei is published eleven times a year Advertising Policy: Thc Empty Closet does not right to a harassment-free workplace. Of­ -The Pink Paper (Syracuse) '• December and January combined) by the Empty Closet print advertisements that contain nude drawings or PrtM forth c Gay Alliance of Genesee >ftilley. Inc. Approx- photographs nor does it print advertising that sug­ im.ir( u iSiMi lopirs ot VAK\\ t«siK- arc Ut^inhuu-J dunnic gests that the person pictured in the ad is for sale or the first week of the month by mail in a piam sealed that you will get that particular person if you envelope. The publicalion of die name or phott^raph of patroni/e the estabiishnienl advertised any person or orfanizaiion in anicles or advenisitng is not Advertisements that are explicitly sexist racist or IheEmi Qoset THE GAY SOURCE an indjcalion ot the &exual or atfcctionai orientation a^ist Will be refused advertisements from organiza­ nf that person or the members of that organization tions or businesses that are sexist, racist, ageist or For publication submit news items letters stories. anti gay will also be refused Gay Alliance Peer Facilitators can help you by providing: The Empty Closet poetr\ and an hy mail f*T in person to the Fmpfy Ciitset office b> ihe I'Jih of ihe mt»nih Design services fi»r The jApinions of columnisls and other con- Yes, I want to D Subscribe! • Informaiion on Gay Alliance Events and material not '.diiu-ra read* are avdilable for dn add! iribiillnK writers arc their own and do not is availabie at... tional fer necessarily rcHecl Ihc collective attitude of Ihc Activities AIDS Rochester. Inc., Anthonys 552. Avenue Pub. Bachelor Forum. Border's Book /or (iirihcr tnfttrttmiiini /tU'tiw uriU' Ut I mfrty i hnn-t Gay Alliance of Genesee Valley or Ihe Empty n Renew! • Group Information Store. Cheesy Eddie's. Gay AlliarK;e Ger^esee Co-Op. Infinity, Jazztjerry's Uptown. t'nss f'J tttuntu Uv KiHtH'stt'r \l I tfitt' IJ^^ *n Closet. D 1 year: $10 ($18 Canadian; $20 International) Justice, Mama Tacone's. Mike's State Street Pub. Parkleigh. Pauls Grocery. Rochester \/» /itntfi fHrsi'it i ni\ sttilHs It itt fH' /iiiMliiHif • Referrals to Area Professionals Body Clubt Srtkvsrood Booka Sweet Stuff. Tara. Video Channel. Village Green Book Store. •"u IIIMHII u nllvn ni liifH'itfH'nmssmn fiyiHi IthitfH'rSitu The Empty Ctoset is the official publicalion of thc D 2 years: $18 ($35 Canadian; *38 International) • TVavel Information Wild Seeds Bookstore & Cafe, and Worldwide News. Gay Alliance of Genesee Valley Inc as slated in the by laws of that organization Its purpose is to inform Editor: • Or Just Someone to Listen the Rochester gay communiiy about local and na­ Name . tional gayrelated news and cventr;. to provide a Susan Jordan lllll forum for ideas and creative work from the local gay :: -J I communiiy: to help promote leadership in the com Address munity and lo be a part ofa national network of les­ Call 244-8640 V/TTY Do%«mtowii Presbyterian Chuich bian and gay publications that exchange ideas and ?eek to educate 462-0623 12! N. Pitzhugh St. (across from City Hall) 325-4000 P»Tt of our purpose is lo maintain a middle posi- 111 u! "SiiKe 1979 the DcmnlOMrn Uiuted PresbyteriaaChtircfa has be«n put of a •ion with respect to the entire community Wc must lypesctting/Printingi A ontr-ycar sut>scription includes 1! issues. Papers are mailed •I"—' iMtkmal network of Presbyteriui Churches wekoming bisenial lesNan. and >• careful lo present all viewpoints in a way that iikes into conwdcration Ihe views of all—women. Blue Heron Type & Design Co. in plain envelopes. Return to: E.C. PRESS, 179 Atlantic Avenue, gay people into hdl partic^>iliOB. As a 'More Light' (3iurch. we befieve that : ten. thoae of color, young and old. and ihose from Rochester, NY 14607-1255. EVENING HOURS: Sat/Sun 6-8 pm I wr.: such persons add insight to our Enth community, aad we vahie this new il- vaA6«tt*w!A< of life. lununatwn. Join us with your hght!" mtmmmtmmmmmmmmmmmm^tma^a^mimm^ Mon/Thurs 6-9:30 pm

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to TACi member Peter Stalc>', "make it ob­ Organizers unrolled a 35-foot-long copy vious that he wants us dead. Ttnlay's action of a 35-point national plan on AIDS to be PBS hit for Activists cover should stand as a waming — attack us and presented to Bush; they attached it to one Newsfroiits we'll attack back*" end ofthe barricade. The plan included calls -c:hcr>'l L. Coward. The Washington Blade for a cabinet-le\'el director of HIV to coor­ banning ''Stop Helms' tiouse witli dinate nati- may have -Lisa M. Keen, Karen Ocamb. The Members of an ACT UP/New York affinity Thc national headquarters of thc Public sexual orientation in men could be tested." Fund issued a statement welcoming "honest tcstors dispersed and spent thc rest of the Washington Blade ; Natalie Angler New group put a giant replica condom on the Ari­ Broadcasting Service (PBS) in Washington He said that his study "suggests that sexual scientific inquiry on issues regarding sexual day in the town, eating, talking to people, yf}rfe Times. ington. Va. home of Sen. Jesse Helms on D.<:. was thc target of a demonstration by gay physical link orientation has a biologic substrate;" it may orientation.' but waming that past 'biology and engaging in various activities such as vSept. 5. AIDS protest and lesbian activists on Aug. 22. A re-cent study has suggested that gay be "a cause or a consequence" of the size as stjciology" research has often been putting up pictures of people who have died The "Treatment Aetion Ciuerrillas " (TAG) Thc picket line and phone zap wcrc meant men's brain structure may differ fn>m that of the INAH 3. He added that both homosex­ discredited for drawing unscientific conclu­ fri>m AIDS. put the inflatable nylon condom, complete targets Bush to protcsi the banning of the documentary of heten>sexual men. The study's author is uality and the size ofthe INAH 3 may be af­ sions, in sometimes deliberate attempts at Amnesty Int'l Thrce members of ACH* UP climbed the with a recessed top, over thc entirc frtmt of Stop tbe Church from PBS stations nation­ not making claims that this has "proved" fected by "some third, unidentified scK'ial control. Thc Lambda statement also steeple of the South Congrcgation c:hure*h the two story house. Thc words "A condom wide, on the grounds that it "ridiculed" the that sexual identity is biologically determin­ variable." noted that "Even if homosexuality werc vacation home to hang a banner reading "ask not for who mandates aid to to stop unsafe politics. Helms is deadlier Catholic Chureh. ed. However the media is already ponder­ LcVay says that, as a gay man, he has been completely the product of free choice, there (sic) the bell tolls," in response to the than the virus " were printed on the Between 15(H) and 25m) AIDS activists The demonstratii>n also challenged thc ing the possibility of a "cure" for curious about what generates sex drive. would still be no basis for criminal, cocre'ive church's refusal to allow a rest tent for PWAs condom. marehed peacefully in Kennebunkport. Me. decision by many PBS stations not to air homosexuality. Howe\'er he says, his study is not the final or discriminatory penalties against same-sex jailed gays to be set up on an adjacent lot. Around 25 Six men and one woman participated in on Sept. I. to carr>' their message that "there Tongues Untied, Marlon Riggs' award- The study, re-leased Aug. .^0 in Science word on the cause of homosexuality, and he orientation. . . Homosexuality, since it clear­ Amnesty Intemationai announced on police in riot gear blocked their exit fn)m the action, which tup vacatton h4)me. I'P/Kansas City held a picket and phone zap Simon LcVaj-. a researeher at the Salk Institute this according to their own prejudices." regularity in all cultures, is an orientation clude a "compromise" resolution extending minutes, as several hundred protestors had put the condom on Helms* house "to Over 2()(J l(x:al police, state troopers and of Kansas City Public Television, a PBS af­ for Biologic Studies, who studied the LeVay said that it will take a long time to that is as 'naturaf as hetemsexualiiy ' thc group's human rights concerns to in­ chanted and shouted at police, and the three keep us safe fn>m Helms' politics, although Secret Service agents btiicked off streets; no filiate, on Aug. 20. because of their banntng hypothalamus, the part of the brain which understand the brain, but that once we do, "The fact that thc report talks about clude lesbians and gays. activists inside rang the steeple bell. Even­ regulates body functions such as sex drive, we would prefer if he abstained altogether." arrests were made. of Vmgues IhUied. society will have to decide whether to homosexual orientation as something innate Thc new mandate for thc Nobel Prize- tually the pnnestors removed the banner and sleep, body temperature* and appetite. The giant condtjm was made by Rooftop The protesnifs. who were bussed in from Members of the Gay and Lesbian Alltance "make a race of clones" or to preserve is good," said Andrew J. Humm of the winning human rights watchdog organiza­ were allowed to leave the chureh. to be Balloons, and cost S3.5(K). It was inflated by Boston. New York, Philadelphia. Portland. Against Defamation (GLAAD) and other gay rhe specific topic sexuality. said David Barr of Gay Men's Health Crisis. officers arrived three minutes later and they Natiotial Commission on AIDS' first report, He stated that the disease can be controlled mailing lists, or simply because of their dress alsi> seemed to be amused by the sight TACi ignoring the needs of women and people of "The media is just too squeamish about information he had about the individuals* ignoring the careful attentton to complex­ "But it doesn't really matter why people are* and appearance. by "behavioral changes." and that the pn>- sexual identity. C:onfirmat!on of identity ex­ members, reporters, and Helms' neighbors color with AIOS. Jeanne Vt hite. mother of anything that questions the church. " said ity in the study, mainstream newspaper gay or not gay. That's not the important Thc resolution commits Amnesty Interna­ tcsi fiarmcd Kcnncbunkpiirt merchants and isted only for gay and bi.sexuai individuals observed the action. Several neighbors said Ryan Vt'hite, sent a message which was read Kirk Evan Billet of CiLAAD The organiza­ stories headlined bn>ad assumptions about question. I haven't spent that much time tional to ' 'consider for adoption as prisoners was "a publicity stunt." He also said that he who had died of AIOS. and whose records the>* were angry and offended. One man said to the reporters, stating. 'If you had U>st as tion, in co<»peration with Queer Nation/New how the INAH 3 is definitely "key to gay thinking about where my .sexuality comes of conscience persons who arc imprisoned was mt>ve moved by the protest of had been collected by the <:enteI^ for Di.sease that people have the right to express opi­ many triends to AIDS as 1 have, you would York, has organized boycotts ofthe fundrais­ orientation." fn>m. I've spent a lot more time thinking solely because of their homosexuality, in­ unemployed peact up too." ing drives relied on by PBS. Ciay community reaction was generally about how I fit into this world I have to live cluding thc practice of homosexual acts in by the AIDS prt>test. saying, "When a fami­ his 2Z other subjects were- heten>sexual. violation of their civil rights. When asked Marchers proceeded at Walker s Point, "The bottom line is that if PBS plans n> positive, but fears were expressed about in. You can say, OK, there are differences in private between consenting adults, realizing ly is out of work, that's one 1 care very much i Itimately, LtVay could only compare- 18 gay what he thought of Helms, he said, "1 think where Bush's home is Ujcated. chanting 'We continue lo censor programming of interest future* abuses such as genetic selectitm. the way people are, and you can't punish fiilly that this decision increases thc difficul­ about." men with AIDS and six heier()sexual men he sucks." die, he goes fishing." and 'Health care is a to gay men and leshians. they can expect a •Everybody is talking about their gays for being biologically different. But, are ty of thc development of our movement in The protest marked the beginning of 3<) with AIDS with any amount of certainty I\>lice informed TACi aitt>rney John Zwerl- right, we need more than points of light * boycott of local affiliate fundraising drives." hypothalamus t«>day." said Torie Osborne of people going to ask, how can we detect many parts of thc world." days of dire'Ct action planned by AC:T IP He found that the vt>lume of INAH .-S in ing and TA(i member Dan Baker that their Police barricades stopped the marchers said Richard Jennings, executive director of the Lt>s Angeles (iay and Leshian Communi­ those differences and what can we do about Although thc compromise resolution con­ chapters around the ctmntry. to culminate in the hetenisexual men was more- than twice ty Services C.entcr "And the way they're do­ action was illegal, and ordered them to about one-half mile from the Bush house. As (iLAAO/LA it> " tains an "escape hatch" recognizing that a demonstration at the White House on Sept. as large as those of gay men and <»f women. ing it. with such campy self-deprecating remove the condom. They did so, and there- two ACT IP members beat a drum, hundreds Although PBS decided not to show Stop "The issue is not what causes sexual orien­ some Amnesty Intemationai sections may IxVay hypothesizes that the INAH .^ is "large humor is great, especially for a community were no arrests Helms was in North of protestors were carried on stretchers to tbe Church, affiliates may choose to obtain tation, but the reaction to it." said Frances have difficulty with thc new mandate due -Peter Erbland. Philadelphia Gay News. in individuals sexually oriented toward that has a reputation as size queens. I think (-an)lina at the time. the barricades, where they staged a die-in " the •iim from another distributor and show- Kunreuther of the Hetrick-Martin Institute to Vultuml backgn)und." gay activists .sa>- that Kd Bovce. Gay Comniunity News w omen (heten>sexual men and homo.sexual it's an extre-mely postti\'e and significant step TA(i members said that they staged the ac­ The protest was part of an ongoing project it independently in New York. "And that reaction leads to thc move is a major step in fighting govern­ women) and small in individuals .sexually forward for the gay and leshian communi­ tion lo draw attention to Helms' continued in which people arc mailing obituaries of -Jacob Smith Nang, Gay C(mtmunity .\eus suicides. It causes gay people to be beaten mental and other anti-lesbian and ga\' oppre-s- oriented toward men (heterosexual w«>men ty, because it directly counters the current attacks on AIOS funding, which, according people who have died of AIOS to Bush up. to be thrown out of their homes, to be sion on a worldwide IcvcL and homo.sexual men.)" right-wing homophobic ideology which says in incredible isolation .... If this work could -Keith Clark, Philadelphia Gay News FORD ro" Goor> r.AR f^ (;(>00 PHK-K PET Vanderstyne Ford of Avon, Inc. Club Mahara go NA/est Main Street Avon. NeNA/ York 14414 10-12 Washington Street PIZAZZZ Cindy Welch /^-i^\ oo^ ^-i-y^ I'l.i. I' 1.1 ^iM|) I .11 \ .'Ul W Safes Representative {flo) ZZo-Ol/1 — If we don!t have it, we'U get it —

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Anna Freund and Marsha Peone of EC: Was their real interest promoting their righcs issue. The Oct. 10 event dealing with ami-choice agenda? the issue will involve harassment of women INTERVIEW: AF: I'm surc they're concerned about seeking abortions at medical clinics, and Women Acting Against Violence violence, but that doesn't seem to be their how law and the legal system treat this form focus. WAAV had to choose between being of violence against women. But it's one out silenced about the link between reproduc­ of 25 events. This isn't "Pro-Choice Month." ed Women Against Violence Against Women groups and the feminist direct action we had and taking a strong sund, even if it was two tive rights and violence against women, or This is a month of events on violence against By Susain Jordan began the lUke Back the Night marches; in the late '70s. months before the event. taking a stand. women, including the choice issue. The Take Back the Nighl March on Oct. there were two, in 1 think 1980 and 1981. AF: There's a hunger for feminist action. The important thing is the final analysis. EC: How can banning abortion not be a EC: WiU WAAV concinue as a group after 1. and the c\'cnts dealing with violence AF: Then there were no Rochesier mar­ MP: There's a need for it. Thc more Emphasis on when we took the stand has form of violence against women* when it October? against women which will he held ches for years until we gathered in October repressive society gets, the greater thc need detracted from the issue itself, which is that directly results in women's deaths? And how MP: Wc haven't really looked beyond this throughout C)cn)ber, were organized by 1989 to plan the February 1990 march. A lot is. reproductive rights for women is essential can they call themselves feminists when month. It has taken up a lot of energy and Women Acting Against Violence (WAAV). of people felt that Take Back the Night AF: The greater the need becomes to if women can make decisions and take con­ they're against safe medical procedure for time! Two memhers of the group, Anna Freund should be a regular event, not necessarily at analyze violence. If 1 look at this calendan trol of our lives. Its fundamentally linked women* and also against women having the AF: Hopefully a lot of the activities chis and Marsha Peone, spoke with thc Empty the same time every year I see a variety, but there s a common link — to violence against women — it involves right to make a moral decision — for or month will motivate individuals and Closet recently. EC: A decade ago the focus was morc or women responding to, defining and analyz­ dominance and male control. 11 's the against abortion? If we can't make moral organizations to further action. WAAV will EC: c;an you tell us what kind of gn>up less on pornography, and a split developed ing violence in our culturc. Including psychology and ideology of dominance. decisions, if they have to be made for us. continue in some form* and Take Back the WAAV is. and how it came into heing? between the women who were primarily responding to violence in Nicaragua, Male supremacy is a large part of violence then we'k-e noc being seen as hilly human. Night wilt concinue. i and plenty of others ''There's a hunger for feminist AF: It's a coalition of groups and in­ focused on opposing porn, and those who homelessness, etc. against women, and also part of social at­ To me, the point of feminism is to assert in the group are committed to that. dividuals concerned ahout violence against felt that that was only part of the larger pic­ EC: Does including so many different titudes like might makes right. women's identity and rights as human be­ EC: Are you optimistic about progress on women. The gn>ups include Alternatives for ture of woman-hating violence in our issues dilute the focus on violence against MP: The childrcn of the "Feminists for ings, which have t>een denied by a culture thc underlying causes of woman-hating and action,.. The more repressive Battered Women, Greater RtK'hester NOW, culture, and that trying for legislative solu­ women? Life" are as likely to be involved in violence based on male supremac>'. violence against women? There is so much Metro Act, Planned Parenthood, Rape Oisis, tions to the pn>blem of pornographic images MP: The purpose of the coalition is to as anyone else. AF: I definitely have a different feminist hatred of women in western culture, and it's the YWCA. and Peace and Justice Hducation of women and glorification of rape was play­ bring e\'erybody's focus and issues together. EC: What's the history of the involvement analysis, and the majority of the women in so deeply engrained, and the last decade of society gets... the greater the (enter (PJEC). ing into the hands ofthe far righl, with their AF: It gives the community a lot of options in WAAV ofthe group calling itself (very of­ the group are strongly concerned about right wing control has seemed to make all The gn>up started last January, huilding on censorship agenda. if they want to aa against violence, and adds fensively, in my opinion) "Feminists for choice. forms of bigotry more acceptable. need becomes to analyze the momentum fn>m the Take Back the Night MP: It's all tied together to our understanding of the complexity of Life? ' EC: Any comments about the Gannett MP: I think things are getting worse March in Fehruary 199(), and the communi­ AF: We're trying for a bix)ader picture of violence in our culture. MP: Susan Schnittman of that grcjup, in coverage of thc issue? because they're getting better. Men arc angry ty dialogue on violence against women held cultural violence, including the issue of pom EC: 1 wanted to ask about the conm)ver- her "Speaking Out " column for the Gannett AF: In responding to the "Feminists for because women are refusing to be victims. violence. If I look at this recently by NOW. and how women are portrayed in the media. sy concerning thc group's stand on papers, misrepresented us as if we were a Life" press release, and the anicle foHowing The backlash reaction will get worse — but EC: How did you two become involved? MP: Pcirn is a symptom, not the underly­ reproductive rights. single-issue group. that, Gannett printed an editorial criticizing lying down and being victims isn't the AF: lm a member of a group in the coali­ ing cause. AF: We've been criticized both for taking AF: "Feminists for Life" didn't become ac­ us for our pro-choice stand. One thing they answer. calendar, I see a variety (of tion, as president of Metro Act. Marsha's one EC: Marsha, as an individual, why did you a stand on reproductive rights and not uk­ tive in thc coalition until July, when said is that at>ort}on is a form of violence, AF: It's a lifelong struggle. Sometimes 1 of the "concerned individuals." want to get involved in WAAV? ing it early on. 1 think it would have been reproductive rights went on the agenda. 1 and that rapists and batterers don't ask vic­ feet that things are changing for the better. MP: I saw an ad in the personals section MP: I've always read a lot on feminism, better to take the stand early on and discuss question their commitment ro all of the tims if they're pro-choice. Other times I fight off a lot of despair about events), hut there's a common ol" the Cfannett papers, and I was the cmly but felt isolated. I went to the 1990 mareh the issues thoroughly. But I think we did the issues, because up to this point, all they've I feel they're falling into the trap of defin­ right wing reaction to the feminist move­ person who answered il! I was just ready to with my daughter. Why I became active was right thing in confronting the issue, talking. talked about is the issue of abortion. ing violence by defining the victim. They're ment, and lo sociai/economic change. But I link — women responding to, get going on something. through my own healing as a survivor of fo<:using on the woman, who is supposedly do political work because i believe in thc AF: Some women who had heen involv­ child sexual abuse. That radicalized me. I either pro-choice or anti-choice. That isn't capacity of society and individual human be­ ed with the 1990 march and the communi- need to direct that energy to keep this from the problem. I felt very angry about that. ings to change, and if 1 didn't believe that defining and analyzing t> dialogue decided to gather again. Very ear­ happening to the one out of three girl Reproductive issues certainly enter into I couldn't work on issues, including on ly in our di.scussions we talked ahout doing children who will be sexually abused in our domestic life and thc issue of rape. behalf of women. Nomething moix* than a march. society. At first I felt a need to focus on that, They also said that our campaign to I think we need to work ver>' hard to build violence in our culture." MP: Something more visihle and but working with the group. ! saw how it CONnNENIU FREEWHEELERS eliminate violence needs all the support it a sense of collective struggle. During thc '8()s educational. fits into the big picture. BiGYCLESHOP:^-PERSONAL FI-^NIESS CENTER can get. and doesn't need an "ideological lit­ in particular that was eroded — a sense of AF: At the original meetings there was a EC: Can you single out any ofthe upcom­ TIRES mus test " 1 feel that statement denies our collective action i^-as so strong in the *60s sense of wanting to look at violence from ing events that strike you as especially im­ power to be political on behalf of women. and '70s, with the civil rights movement, thc a hroader perspective. You can't do that in portant, or that need comment? miratra Basically thc>-re laying a "politically cor­ women's movement, the peace movement, • all sizes including Hybrid one event. You can march but you can't ex­ AF: One major event is the Power, Con­ • natural rubber rect" rap on us. We are a political organiza­ the gay rights movement. My experience amine issues in depth. We saw thc march as trol and Other Deadly Things conference, • much rounder tion, atid have a right to take a political locally is that we're more inclined in that the kickoff of a series of events. spcmsored by Alternatives for Battered • poiyamide casing srnws stand, women need to be political, if we're direction. In the last two years I've par­ MP: You could have a Take Back the Night Women on Oct. 4. BT ftust 3 cvrtEs going to end violence. Ciannett doesn't get ticipated in morc coalition work than ever Mjrch cvcr>- year Fvcry }'ear >'ou have to EC: It's great that so many events and ac­ the t^O^t, doesn't see che conttection. befoie. We have to continue to build on our lake hack the night again. tivities have beenplanned. It's unfortunate ri-;9Cj''.'f^ Ro.ifi Rf)ch?sr*'C rjY MhOV 473 '^^.'J-'i ThC*--*ISmi*eft view ckt^rixcs us of svlf- experieoees, like Ikke BSK^ tbeJ>jight and In-, EC: F.very night you have to take it that young women growing up today don't detcrminalion. I don't want to take up too ternational Women's Day. back . . .Over 1<) years agt) a local group call­ have access to the consciousness raising much space talking about the reproductive

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wmmmmmmm •X^ » # ' '7 I^f »i«f « THI: HMPI > CLOSin October, 1991 Convention October. 1991 THE EMPTY CLOSET 9 continued from pagc 1 "I've become a media whore," she laugh­ eventually compare heterosexual men and ed. "I was asked by a kid I worked with whether you really want to live — and I'm lesbian women and find them very similar, whether I get paid for media appearances. honest and diverse movement it we would one of those who do." we'll conclude men have been victims of I said no, of course I don't get paid. Thc kid adopt ^radical doubt.*" Replying to a question about how he testosterone poisoning." said, 'Then you're not a whofc -^ you're a He quoted Eric Beme as saying that radical staned singing, Callan said that he chose to slut!*" doubt refers to an attitudinal approach in Nonhrop works with the Hetrick Martin be like his mother, whom he described as Ending her ulk. Northrop said, "What a which everything must be doubled, especial* "nice-smelling, wearing fruity little aprons, Institute in New^\brk City, a social service ly ideological concepts and accepted ax> and education agency for lesbian and gay joy not to be closeted. I don*t want to who cooked and took care of you, arid was minimize the physic;|l or flnancial dangers, ionis« and which calls for "frequent ques­ supponive of tny music/' as opposed to his youth, and often speaks in schools. She said tioning of all institutioits." that *'lt's useless to lecture on civU rights to but the world would .be a better place and fother, who he saw as "cited, diny and grum­ "I ^led as an activist," Callan said, an audience that doesh't regard me as a we'd be happier people if we all came put." py" when he came home from work, and "because I lack the self-righteous gene. Ac­ human being, but as unnatural, perverted, A question and answer session followed. who was tone deaf and "encouraged my tivists need to be pumped up on moral cer­ disgusting, etc. So 1 try to answer questions Northrop was asked If she crosses race and singing oniy in the proper register." ciass lines in her talks at schools. "Yes," she tainty. I*m a on-onc-hand-on-the-ocher kind and suggest that sexuality is a spectrum. I Callan has cwo singing voices, one an replied. "It's more fiin in the South Bronx of guy. I examine tny beliefs, question tnyself do assert variety in the world, and this is a amazif^ treble soptano. "The souiuls I heard than the upper East Side. It's important to and assume the good faith of my critics. new idea to most people, and to pass along that 1 loved were the sounds of women's go in pairs, male/female and racially diverse, the big news that we're actually human be­ ''I realiaeed that people of good faith (like voices," he said. "My high register comes to give a variety of images. Oppressed ings ' my parems) can t>e utterly wrong (Le. about ftom the female pan of me that I very much populations identify with oppression, so in gayness), so what else can they l>e wrong love. It was a secret thing, and has taken a Northn)p said she wonders, if gayness is many ways it's easier in the South Bronx." about? What mi^t / be wrpng about? I hold lifetime to actually do it openty. Now 1 want proved to be biologically based, how soon When asked why the media ignores les­ up my little certainties and examine them to discover the male part of me too." To the right wing "prt>-lifers" will start saying bians, Northrop said, "As a journalist who Ann Northrop pholo hy Ellen Mahaffy Micbaei caiian photo hy T creum from every angle. If we realty want to change Callan, "androgyny" means integration, the that gay babies should be aborted. uses the media, I have two words: 'stupid' "I would have successfully committed and decided to go to trial and publicly the world, we have to meet people in the healthy balance of masculine and feminine "WiM this change our lives?" Northrop and 'arrogant.'" She referred to "thc intellec­ suicide." He said that it is imponant for ac­ place where they are — even people who asked. "Who knows — but it's amusing to humiliate the Cardinal, I'm amazeo tnat I'm selves. tual bankruptcy in the news business," and alive, and can't flgure out why. I think we tivists to acknowledge how far we've come devalue you. Some fights aren't winnable, watch people trying to rationalize the infor­ said "It makes me really angry. Why are les­ in a shon time. "Fags and dykes on TV werc and you have to choose your fights carefully. "Singing gets information past peoples' mation." have a long way to go, and a great deal of defienses," Caiian said, "and brings them bians invisible to the media? Ttiey only know unthinkable when I was a kid." "Whac I've leamed is, anger has ies place, Members of tbe Rocbester Gay Mens Chorus, wbo bad a display table and beta Referring to thc title of her speech ("From work to do. The cathedral action had a great together. It is political and can change the how to deal with men, don'c know how to effect and has been repeated all over the Callan said that he does not make TV ap­ like adrenalin, lc can geC you through a crisis, a workshop. plnHo hy Ellen Mtihtiffy Debutante lo Defendant"), Northrop said find lesbians. It simply doesn't occur to pearances based on what can t>e said in 30 world. If you say your truth, it may not be country. We wilt go back to the cathedral on but can't sustain activism over the long haul. Top 40, but you might change the world that in I960 her conservative mother made them." seconds, but because he envisions lesbian Only love can do that — the passionace belief her wear a button reading "If I Were 21 I'd Dec. 9 or 10, and will do it annually." with your truth." As an example, she cited thc time the Ron A member of the audience asked Nonhrop and gay kids watching and knowing that chac the world can change. VtKc for Nixon." "That shows you what kind there are others like them. "That was the On the subject of AIDS, Callan stated, Reagan Jlr Show in Los Angeles wanted her why she had decided to take pan in thc ac­ "It's often hard to maintain that, but I con­ "We're asked to make life or death choices of r>eighborhood I grewupin," shesaid. "In to appear, and offered to fly her in. She said most painful thing prc-Stonewall," he said. stantly check my pulse — have I crossed the 1960 I also knew that I loved women, and tion. Northrop said, "1 covered the AIDS without information. People throw up their that she tt>ld them, "You know, there are les­ epidemic as a journalist, and thought I "Feeling that no one ever felt like you, that line into cynicism? Km 1 approaching peo­ knew that that wasn't the coolest thing at you were all alone. The movemenc has shae- hands and look for a guru to make their bians in L.A." She suggesced chat they call understood. But when I went to work at ple with moral certainty and smugness? If choices for them. That's the quickest path that time, t frankly think it's a miracle that Inric < )sly)mcof thc L.A. Ciay Community Ser­ Cered Chat for all time.'' so, my ability to reach and change people any of us survive, given what's done to us." Hetrick Manin I found I knew nothing. 1 CO deach. Nobody knows your body like you. vices Center, adding tbat t Klxjrncs lover "us- joined ACT UP and got out on the streets. Callan said thac che second reason he is will be limited." Northn>p mentioned her crush on her se­ We need eo do our homework and make our ctl lo. be on "'l>obic (iillis. " Sure enough, "Cardinal O'Connor produces uncon­ scill alive is because of ehe feminise revolu­ During the question and answer session cond grade teacher Miss Bates ("an older own decisions. Generals emerge who shave Oslxirnc appeared on ibc prognini. trollable rage in me. He says chings like 'Con­ tion. "At 27, when I was diagnosed," he said, that followed his talk. Callan said that he had bltmde"). This was something that she off the complexity and say, 'I've done the Northrop added. "Also, it's true to say, doms don'c work' and 'Marriage wili procecc "I had feminist friends. I didn't consider expected his book (which challenges many homework. I'll tell you what to do.' couldn't talk about. "I go into schools to­ myself a serious feminist, buc chey gave mc sacred cows, like the use of AZT) would be without blaming thc victims, that we could you.* I consider chese homicidal stacemencs. "I don't have the answers. I feel like I've day and see kids who are out, have support a reading list, including feminise crickiues of trashed in the gay media. "But I was faulted be more visible if we were more visible, you He's a man who would prefer co see spent a decade dumping my confusion out gn>ups. take risks and feel good af>out Che healch care syscem. The main lesson of for not providing a rccip>c," Callan said. "The know? You have to be assertive. They (thc parishionci^ in cofflns Chan in condotns. so wc can all pick through the rag pile. If you themselves." feminism for me was, trust your oum in­ point of the book is that there isn't one. It media) have one name in their Rolodex from "The cathedral accion permeaced my cn- can pick something out and make a coat of Northn)p said that tm Sept. I she was stincts. Think, question, doubt, don't comes back to the feminist concept, trust the 20 years ago, and they'll keep on calling cire body and I knew I'd do chis in a very it, fine. Otherwise, go on to the next rag pile. planning to |oin the ACT UP demonstration bim. . assume the patriarchal system has your best wisdom of your body. Gay men, with drugs at Cvcorge Bush's summer home in Ken- commicted way. 1 just had co do it. it felt It all comes down to loving yourself enough Asked about thc attempted outing of Pete perfect. It wasn't an intellectual decision. I interests at heart." * and alcohol, have deadened their abihty to luhunkpori. Vk.. lo "screani al ilu- Pre-sidcni respond to their bodies." to fight for your life. Williams. Defense Department spokesman, just had to lie there to provoke thoughc in He said that lesbian feminism has been a "Our culture tells us not to. It takes my and foree some of these issues into the open Nonhrop said, "Outweek folded before it major pan of the mainstream feminist When asked if his book also applied to — AIDS and homophobia. It's fun — but it's the congregation. The Cardinal created the breath away that we exist at all. have surviv­ could out Williams, and Tbe Advoc€ite pick­ acmosphere of disturbance and tension with revolution. "Thc majoricy of Che movers and people who have cancer, other than people scary." with AIDS. Callan said, "We can generalize ed tn a society that wishes us dead. Especial­ ed up thc piece. (Secretary of Defense) all the cops, etc. Otherwise it would have thinkers — both cheorecical and grub ly for people who are sick, to counterdict She talked about infiltration of gay groups, Chene>' was asked abouc it and said chac workers — were lesbians. ForcunaCely, we and say that thc same personality and terrorism by police against AIDS and been a very quiec demonstration, under that message and fight back — it's incredibly Williams is a civilian, he doesn't live in che control. live in an age when feminise consciousness characteristics are found in all survivors. choice activists, as well as pressure by thc There's a personality profile: it's the bitchy hard and you need n» surround yourself with barracks, so it's not bad for morale." Nor­ "I could not let those homicidal is as radical in afiiecting che spirit of the times people who can support you." Catholic Chureh to stop the gay rights move- throp added that since che Gulf Wir. IOOO as Stonewall. Tbe u>orld can never be tbe patients who survive. Those who arc 'dif­ mcmr. Tlie ctiurcti recently succeeded in get­ statements go unansiveied. 1 had a ducy Co <^allan ended by saying, "Part of what I gay men and icsi|ians have been kicked out New York citizens co show chat they were samte." ficult' rather than passive: who -awr frisky ting most PBS stations to pull the documen­ and committed to fighting to stay alive. * do With radical doubt is once a week tcU of the military. lies. 1 felt as strongly about the cathedral pro­ Speaking about the poiitical paradox of another person in thc activist movement that tary "Stop the Chureh," which depicts the On outing, Nonhrop said, "It's an ap­ lesbian and gay unity, Callan said "It's built < In reply to a question about bow he views St. Patrick's Cathedral protest. "I'm one of test as I did about coming out. It was right, I like something they did or said — extra propriate strategy. As a journalist, 1 don't 1 had to do it." into human wiring that like prefers like. religion. C^altansaid, "Religion and spirituali­ the subjects (of the film)," she said, "and I ty make my skin crawl I'm in agony during p<.>ints if it's an adversary-. (If you're not com­ want double standards. As long as the Women should be free to prefer women and fortable talkmg to them, you can always send wouldn't defend the documentary — I have Supreme Coun says chac celcforicies have no vice versa. But there's a danger in separatism, invocations^ Applying my own political prin­ problems wich it — but it should be seen." Michael Callan ciples, I try U) respect where people arc com­ a pt^itcrard or leave a message on thc rij^t CO privacy, and as long as the tnedia do both male and female. Ic's a phase, ofecn im­ machine.) Wc usually t>nly hear trom each In spite of the problems and ot>scacles, pcfsonality stories about ccleforicies, 1 wane The closing ceremonies on Sepc. 1 includ­ portant, both for individuals and ing from. I iry to translate religious hoo-hah Nonhrop said. "Wecan win. We don't have into language accessible to me. These arc other when we're angry with each other. chem CO be bttnest about celcbricies who are ed a talk by Michael Callan of Thc Flirtations, movements, but it's a strategy, noe che They imight say something tbey like about to run away. Wr have enormous power by lesbian or gay and live chac life, and are wrie­ founder of the People with AIDS Coalition, ulcimate goal — which is co change che things she wants us to do, not what she standing up and saying who we are." wants God n> do. " yf>u. which is almost harder to hear than cen about as if chey were heterosexual. Role and author of the book Surviving AIDS. world and humanity, and make everyone criticism. Give yourself permission to ex­ She ioked about her and her partner's 15th models have tKMhing to do with iC; ic's about Callan has been HIV positive for 10 years. free' Callan said rhat he feels "unclean" lisicn- anniversary, also on Sept. 1. "I love coun­ press appreciation and gratitude. You might ntaking our existence in the worid a reality." Callan said that he had been asked co ad­ Callan said chat being forced Co work side ing to conventional religious statements, try western music," she said, "and our CW even get dates too!" Wlien asked about her atticude co organiz­ dress lesbian and gay unity. He said, "I'm by side has changed how gay men view les­ "after what organized religion has done to song of the summer is 'I Love You/I Hate ed religion, she responded, "I refer Co the alive to speak to you today for two rcasons. bians, and how lesbians view men. "There our people." He said that he has many dear You' — so I'm sorry 1 won't be at the Catholic Church as a cult group — and I The flrst is the courage of lesbian and gay has been growch," he said, "which gives me friends in organized religion, and has talk­ 'Healthy Lesbian Relationship* workshop. I don't mean to offend people. I just do it. 1 people who stood up and challenged no­ hope." ed with tbem, read books, etc. "1 just don't used to say 'the first five years are the applaud good work done in the name of the tions atx>ut us, and afflrmed that we could Callan noted Chat he is a "heretic" on AIDS have the religious gene any more than thc Twf* troittenfro»n tbe Women's Motorcycle Foundatif^n j^ititif* hardest; Nt>w 1 say 'the first 10 years.'" church. But che patriarchal institution of the celebrate our own gayness." issues. "My views are so constantly not self-righteous gene," he said. "I don't tbeir workstifop entitled, **Wby Leather Not tace." On a more serious note, Northrop said, church — the Politburo — is di^usting, one Callan, from thc Midwest, grew up "chok­ mainstrcam that they irritate both the understand the concept. This life is wonder­ plMittt hy l.llen Mulmff) "We need to create a world where wc exist, of the mosc oppressive forces around. government and the AIDS activism mafia," ful. Pay attention to it without eyes fixed on philosophically, emotionally, everything, as ed with lies" and tried eo commit suicide "Having Iain in che aisle of the cathedral, several times. **lf not for Stonewall," he said, he said. "We would have a better and morc the beyond. Therc arc a lot of people who human beings. Coming out and going to want to help me 'walk towards the light.' 1 work in the community really scared me. I find light where I am — you walk towards thought I was sacrificing my professional the light! " career, hut I was wnmg. Working with the Callan said, "I'm a very different person community has been the most enriching, than 1 was when I was diagnosed. I'd like fulfilling experience. MAKE OUR BAR YOUR BAR AIDS to go away, but it forces you to decide ANTHONY'S STORYBOOK ANTHONY'S 522 Let's Face It.... TUDOR PRESENTS: YOU Could Use Rain On The Recession !< Richard D. Stone and stucco Every Tues. & Sun... 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(;iick feels that her The Pink Flamingos and Purple Hearts success was due to frequent polling, pn>fes- conventicm provided the setting for a sionally prineed lieeraeure. and taigeting of political panel discussicm on Sept. I. The the people who were most likely co voce for panel consisted of Deborah Cilick. openly her She also seressed the imponance of suf­ leshian member of the New York State ficient fundraising. Assembly (represeming a sectitm of Manhat­ In closing, (ilick re-suted the imponance tan). Dick Dadey of The Empire State Pride of getting non-gay support. She said that the Agenda, and Tim Mains of the RcK'hester City gay and leshian community must stick Council. Ihe topic was day and Lesbian together when an openly homosexual per­ Politics. son runs for office, (ilick also encouraged Tim Mains began with a brief history of us to support those whc) choose to run. openly gay and lesbian political figures. riie primary mission of the l-mpire State Harvey Milk of San l-ranciscti's Btiard of Pride Agenda is to move the ga> and leshian Supervisors wasni the first. According to political agenda forward, according to Dick Mains, Hlaine Noble of thc Massachussetts Dadey. executive director. "We need to Ugislaturc was the "trailblazer" when she become more political if wc want a piece of hecame the first openly elected gay or ICN- the pie, ' Dadey said. The Pride Agenda lob­ hian politician. bies (or our concerns in Albany and is seek­ Mains went on lo di>cusN hi> campaign (or ing lo build a network of constituents across Kochester City Council, saying that he had the stale Specifically, they are currently sup­ emcred the race believing thai he wouldn't porting a ga\ civil rights bill, a bias-related Iri'l Fure ami Cris Williamson. photo lyy Ellen Mahaffy u in a> an openly gay candidate He attributeN violence bill, and a domestic pannership act. his success to the fact that he represented not White a domestic partnership act has the Legislature thinks that all of the state's gays linues his homily: "We must not respond to only the gay and lesbian community, but potential to benefit all types of non- live in New York <;ity. We must work in our haired, wieh haired" and "CFO in peace." as many other groups and individuals as well. traditional families, legislators are afraid that own communities and let them know that people are being dragged oul by the police. He said that for gays and lesbians to win pa.ssage of thc bill would someday lead to wc are all over the state." The Empire State On Dec. 10, 1989, ACT UP/New York and political campaigns, it is crucial to avoid he­ gay and lesbian marriage. This is a major Pride Agenda is located at 530 W. 2.^rd St.. WHAM (Women's Health Action Mobiliza­ ing viewed as a single issue candidate. One re-ason why the hill has not been passed. Suite 411, New York. NY 10011. Their tion) sponsored a die-in inside, and a must dexelop a broad, diverse suppon base. Dadey said that he is working to ensure that lelephone number is (212) 727-1291. demonscratton outside, St. Patrick's He .says that hoth he and Harvey Milk won lesbians and ga>-s aren't "dn>ppcd " fn>m the Following the official presentation. Tim Cathedral in New York City, to draw accen­ by repre-scnting many differe*nt pet>ple. bill in order to make it easier to pass. Main.s. I>eborah Glick. and Dick Dade>' cion to the AIDS crisis and the way the church has respoiKled to this crisis — by Mains added that in order for leshian and The Pride Agenda also opposes mandatory spoke with the audience informally and silence, or even worse, negative statemencs ga>' concems to get the attention the>' need, HIV testing of health care- workers, as does answered questions on an individual hasis. about sexualicy, eqiecially gay and lesbian * We mu.Nt have our <>wn voice at the table." I>eborah CJIick. She fears that punitive sexudicy. Cardinal O'Connor, for instance, iW contends that while supp(»n fn>m non­ measure-s ctmld be taken against those who has frequendy caUed homosexuality a sin. gay legi.slators is crucial, we need gay and tesc positive, (flick also said. "If y«Hi tesc has opposed "safe sex" and the use of con­ le^Nan re'prescntacives in elected positi«>ns. workers you mast lest pacientv" This would Film festival: doms, and has spoken out against women's Deborah Ctlick agreed with Tim Mains's lead CO constam re-testing of health I'are right to choose abortion. Over 4.500 peo­ statement that "we need our own voice at workcrN. She feels thaC thc enormous "Stop the Church" ple panicipated in the demonscracion, and the table." She gave a brief history of her amoums of time and mone>' lequired for thLs 111 were arrested. campaign in Manhattan. Like Mains, she t(M> would he better u.sed for AIOS education and By Melora MUler represented many differe*nc gniups and in­ universal precauti

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Due to pressure ({m>bably from the Catholic Church), nadonal PBS has pulled the show, and we are denied thc ri|^t to Flirt by day, flirt by night even view "Stop the Church " After seeing Tongues Untted " and ies "controversial" view of a nude dancer in semi-darkness, one might wonder what ehe hoopla here is. The ACT IfP accion itself was very con­ troversial. Going inside a church during mass might be considered the ulcimaee sacrilege to some. And ehe presentation by Altar figo is itself outrageous. It goes from the ir­ reverent humor of showing various every­ day church scenes with Tom Lehrer's "Vatican Rag ' in the background, to some very explicit statements and actions against the chure*h and what it stands for Many people feel that thc seriousness of the message that thc chure'h, and panicularly (Cardinal O'Connor, bave been irresponsible and even homicidal by their assaults on abor­ tion, homosexuality, "safe sex" and thc use of condoms, is enough to override the sanc­ tity of the chureh. Whatever yt)ur feelings, we have the righl to see this program. Postcards or calls to WXXI might convince them to show it in­ dependently. If not. perhaps TV Dinner Metro-Act's show on public access cable channel 12, might be willing to show it. The Elirtittious at tbe closi»ig ceremottles on September 1. Left fo ri^bt: fon Arterton, fimmy Rutland, Aurelio Pontes, Larry Champoux of the Pyramid Arts Cliff Townsend, Michael Callan. photo hy 7. Cretan Cenier otganized an excellent festival of con­ temporary films and videos of interesi to gays, lesbians and bisexuals as part of thc with a sarc~astic comment and a tongue-in- Gay and Lesbian Convention. One of these check look. For myself, a connoisseur of The Flirtations: shooting stars videos was "Slop the Church." At our view­ good sarcasm, the verbal vacation she took By Susan Jordan us on was worth it. First, take five voices, each possessing bian aunt and her panner, whose influence ing, the show provoked much discussion.. was strong in his life. Both ae che Sacurday Perhaps a, panicrl discussion before or after the Thc musical corticnt was outstanding. remarkable beauty and power on its own. From the haunting "Goodnight, Marjorie Combine in glorious a capella harmonies nighc concert and at the closing ceremonies show iPvouM ^'^^ some concerns about of­ on Sunday, the Flirts performed their version fending the public. As Champoux said, not Momingstar," "Surrender Dorothy" and ("SOs rock, do-wop. salsa, pop ballads. "Mother, Mother," ,t^ -the bouiu:;^ ;'*Tief» ' ; fl^spel. etc.) Add geiicrous helpings of wit. of Cris Williamson's * * Shooting Star;' * to show "Stop the Church" is.one wjiy of Williamson herself seemed to approve! tr>ing to say. ihatr the event never happen­ Queen • and "If I Lfve.^^thc'talented'enter- * mmancc.' feinihisi/tiberiitionist politics, and taincr ke^fhe audi^pcc ^ y^e^dUfc 9Cthei9 ^ reluciariCe ro mix earth coiies wrth pastels. • . The Flirts' uke on reality results in some ed. It did^ and we .should: he al?le to $ce wh^ seats. One bf the bij^tigfits Wa^s ai^ acoustic ^• funny quick-changes in f;Mniliar lyrics ("I sU happened and (o le^rn from it. , , Steam iintil you^re really (booking, and what version of "Circle Of Friends." which led to do you haye? No, silly, tiot Quiche Lorraine and hesitate/rd racher mascurbace/on Johnny an a capella 'Sisters Of Mercy.'^ ? uld be seen as a step down. Vt'ell. not so. Cris made it feel like we were at Carnegie Hall. The two and a half hour shows were pack­ ed with music. Mories. biting sarcasm, laughter, and applause. Tret opened solo to rock the audience. She was s<)on foined by Cris. who backed up the vocals and played synthesizer. Tret, an accomplished engineer and producer entertained the audience with Against rhe (irain." "That Side Of The Moon. " and "I Move I-or Love." She crank­ ed out "(iirlsAli Dance* and closed her set with the sexy "Tight Black Jeans." The show was very moving! <:ris and Tret returned to the roar of the crowd for the William.son set. That opened with "Shooting Star.' and really got the au­ dience moving in their seats. Cris told stories before every song: the only problem being the length o» the stories anti their ixrtiiience U) thc song. But Ois always brought us back The Flirts on Saturday nl^bt. pbntos lyy Susii/t Durttl Iff

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October, 1991 THE EMPTY CLOSET J3 sutanism is eniMely a pnHluct of Christian The Wheel of the Goddess tradition, and it is no coincidence that its The Horned God and the Great Goddess adherents are homophobes, rapists, woman- QUEEN OF THE NORTH Mermaid Vifgtn Inhabits: thernafine abyss, islands, ships, there any xssociation of impurit>- or sin with killers, racists, and often foUowen of ultra- By Susan Jordan vt>lved masquerading, sex^song and dance; polytheism and ehen moncMheism (spread by Pofwers: birth, magic emotions, senses, in springs A rivers, moon & stars. the rcpHHluctivc functions of dieties of conservative political movements. I'ltra- dJviduaUty, life-in-dcath, inception. 1lie belief in a cosmic Cireat (ioddess. as this gradually e>'olved int(» theater Tragedy conquese, rape and murder), the old em­ Egyptian: Isis. Semitic: Inan- either sex." rtghtwing spokesmen like Pat Buchanan are Coiofs: blue Ik emerald green. Lady of Beasts and Spirits, seems to date comes from the (ireek tragoida, "goat phasis on ehe sacredness of female creative na/Ishtar/Astarte/Asherah. Saint Virgin The monotheistic view of one omnipotent still playing the old game of diaholizing Element: water (atr). Mary/Nuestra Senora de back to thc Paleolithic or Old Stmrollers of and seen as potentially dangenms forces vicious, twisted lie was exposed for what it Stone: emcfald, sapphifc. pearl. Aradia. Celtic: Aranrhod/Maeghdean Mara. their firc-s, as small statues of women, or as rapist, woman-scorning figure of male- the new culture were male and upper-caste, which needed co be controlled and eurned is — the same old propaganda indented hy Symbol: cup. ark. mirrof; shell, net. Yoruba: Ycmxy2. \^Klun: La Sireruie. Aido images painted or carved on cave walls in suprc^macist myth/religion, who serves a and the pnucction of their privileged status Wedo. Pueblo: Uretsete. Dakini: White "Cua. inco the property of the men in charge the medieval church to justify genocide. Zodiac signs: Capricorn. Aquarius, Pisces. what may have been sacrc'd tribal gathering male diety that is "above" and "ts of powerful men. and all living things. Rather, (;an>l (Xhshom writes. "In time, (the) an- serpetn. salmon, unicorn. solstice to spring equinox. Fire Feast: Imboic diabolized and condemned. The denial of e\il and powerless, and with power and Civilization, suggests that female symbols the Horned (lod is the .son/male aspect of dn>gynou.s outUnik gave way to the radical­ (Candlemas). access to reproductive choice was t>ne very "g(M>dness** seen as residing only in a male QUEEN OF THE WEST. Winter ye found in cave-markings which he calls the (icKldess, whose cxul>erani vitality serves ly new vision of monotheism, which encom­ early method of controlling women's bodies tlfii\ who gives ihe natural world as a Hagge/CroDc. ihawers: strength, tbe body, notaticm; thc symbols for spring, for in­ her (that is, serves the life force), and who passed an association of power and and lives. Ciay male sexuality was also reward to his sons, to he exploited as the>- sustenance, death & tcanslbnnation. prophesy stance, include .salmon, flower and vulva. is pan of Nature, in harmony with its cycles. powerlessness with gender in a manner quite diabolized. and the Horned God. once the wish. Huropean culture was headed down & oracles. heaUng. QUEEN OF THE EAST. Amazon Hagge, The (ireat <*«>ddess wxs seen as the cosmic neither master nor slave. forc*ign to the polytheistic mentality' Sex­ Powers: mind, wilt, wisdom, action, protec­ defender of the life force, became the Chris- the road to the gradual destruction of life on Colors: dark green, black. power thc life force, within Nature'. She eerience and the of Nature was sacred and inhabited by Symbols: pentaclc, distaff, scythe, trident, Season: spring^ummer other rather than to male leaders, and em­ victims. and the i^arth-Mountain herself. One of her Natttre of the Divine, notes that polytheistic spiiits/ft>rces of life or death. Thc Earth spii^. cauldron. Stone: amethyst. pathy with women, nature and the female C:iearly. the transformation of a linear most ancient forms is that of the Horned religions did not neces.sarily link power and herself was a living organism. Human sex­ Zodiac signs: Libra. Scorpio. S^ttarlus. Syml>ols: sword, labrys, bow & arrow, cord, within themselves. Pagan worshippers went repressive. contn>lling scKiety into a har­ whipi (iod. gender in the same way that later uality was likewise seen as sacred. As Ikrot card: Queen of Pcntacles. undeiground, and some may have eventual­ monious, egalitarian society which Zodiac signs: Aries, Tiurus, Gemini. His image too. as an animal-masked m4>notheistic religions did. Ochshorn says. 'There was no dichotomy Beasts: pig. ewe. deer, wolf, snake, owl. ly been persecuted as "witches." celebrates all sexuality and al! forms of life, TUtroi card: Queen of Swords. dancer, is found in thc Palet>lithic caves, between divine 'body' and 'spirit.' nor was crane, spider, bat. She writes, "Usually, the exercise of divine is in the best longterm interests of lesbians Beasts: ram, bear, goat, raven, hare, hound, associated with the (loddess. sexuality, power was not seen as the exclusive Inhabits: forest, standing stones, hills, bar­ and gay men, as welt as of heterosexuals and rows & mounds, caves, healing wells, horse. animals and Naturc*. Arthur Hvans. in Wit­ pren>gative of either sex. and the ascriptitm the planet Earth herself. underworld. Inhabits: the wildemess, the road, the city. chcraft anti the Gay Cfmnterculture, writes. of p4»wer tcj dieties of one sex wxs rarely --«.: Egyptian: \(Udjet/Selket. Semitic: Ninhui Egyptian: Neith. Semitic: Ninshubui^fiViiath. "The homed god wxs especially linked wieh associated with thc inferiority of the sag, Damkina. Gicek/Crctan/Anafolian: Danacr- Gieefc/CietanAnatolian: Athena/Metia£inemis. male sexuality and often appeat^ with an other. . . And most cver. when erect, he is the polytheistic view were expressions of Ccrcs/Fauna/Acca Larentia. Saint: St. Anne. Candelaria. Etrurian: Minerva/Diana/Bellona. sometimes portrayed in ehc company of fear of female biology and sexuality." In­ Celtic: Ana/Danu/Cerridwen/Caiilcach Celtic: Monigane/Macha/Rhiannon. M>rub3: men, not women.' deed, the active sexuality ofthe goddess, not Thc Horned God Bheur/Banbha. Ibruba: Oddudua. Vodun: Oya. Vodun: Marinette. Dakini: .Syamatara. lo the Celts, the Homed <>ductive capacity, was seen as as lord of the Ayizan. Pueblo: Spider Grandmother (other Pueblo: Thought \W5man. Chinese: Pi-Hsia names, such as Ccrnunnos, "The Horned her grc-utesi power to nurture and pnrtect witches. The Native American crone goddesses: Our Grand­ Yuan-Chin/the Swordswomen. One." worshipped in Ctuul in Druidic times, humanity and ait life. deity ofthe life mother. Tlazolteod. Ix Chel, the Old Woman FULL MOON. Rules from q>ring equinox to force is now Who Never Dies). Dakini: Kali/Va- thousands of years after the hornell mas­ nnccted with gay male sex­ daughter served as the basis for the most ho­ QUEEN OF THE SOUTH. Tree Virgin/Virgin in Underworld. Powers: birth, Inhabits: underworld abyss, crossroads. uality. He is depicted on a bowl with cock ly, primordial cult in (irc'ck religicm. that of mountains. Tree of Life/Axis, farmlands. erect, chasing a y(»ung male shepherd. 1"he Demeter and Persephone. mystery, unconscious. scxualAneative energy, illumination, abuiulaficc, harvest. dcath-in-Ufc, harvest hills, orchards St groves. god l>ion>sus, as.sociated with Pan. had a As Ihe old, nature-connected, woman- consummation. Egyptian: Ncbt-hei (Nephthys). Semitic: /i<*rncd :i.s/>ee( a.s^o;ir. His undent ritir.tls in ceniere*/ faith ga\c wa>' to male-centered Colors: ned^ld. Litith/Qucen of Shcba. Greek/Cretan/ Element: firc (earth). Anatolisin: Pcrsephonc/Hclcn/Hckatc, Direction: south' £irurian: Proserpina/LiberaA''cnu&. Saints: Season: summer/fall. Mar>' Magdalene/Martha/the Black Virgins/ Stone: ruby. Nuestra Senora de Caridad. Celtic: Brtgit/ FabnGs & Findings Symbols: wand, torch, sheaf of wheat. Blodeuwedd, Yorul>a: Oshun. Vodun: Er- zulic. Pueblo: Naoisete. Dakini: Red Tara. Lrfl"^; - -• r\ Zodiac signs: Cancer. Leo, Viigo. . .'••> i< /// N-/7. TA r.,v< ^lsl\ I QUEEN w>\yANDsT Ikrot card: Queen of Wands. Chinese: Chih Nu. WANING CRESCENT Rules from summer QllEEN ^SWORDSJ Mtile witcb witb bis cat. Beasts: bull, dragon, cat. Uon, phoenix, solstice to fall equinox. Fire Feast: Lughnasa FABRIG WAREHOUSE mitchel I >»»^*^ (Lammas). pierson Jr.inc.

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Countering Anti-Abortion Also to celebfite Coming Out Week. 7 SATURDAY Gay Women's Alcoholics Ave., 7 pm. Secorul Wedr>esda)|L SATURDAY Vk»leiice: thte Coufis aad tfie Lawn pm. Open to all. THURSDAY TUESDAY SATURDAY Ar»onymous. St. LukeVSt. Simon 244-8640. WcMrkshop and discussion, sponsored by 19 Cyrene Church. 17 S. Fitzhugh St.. 8 After AIDS, AIDS bereavement sup­ Greater Rochester Coalition for Choice. SUNDAY 24 29 p.m. 232-6720. port group, 7:30 pm. Our Lady of Vic­ 7:30 pm. YWCA. 175 N. Clinton Ave. OCT Monroe County Family Court Ac­ WcHnen's Self Defense Course. Se­ f\>sith;ely Sobec 7:30 pm. For loca­ tory Church, 210 Pleasant St. The Gay Alliance off Genesee Free. 271-0877. Longterm Effects of Child Sexual Legal Tyranny and Judicial tion Symposium. Sponsored by 13 cond of six Saturdays. 9 am-noon, $40, Gay Time Hallovveen Dance. 8-11 tion call 4230690. 328-2220 (days) 6713777 or 248-3780. Villey (GAGV) is located at 179 Abuse. Conference and \A^rkshops Violence Against Women in Church Women United. 8 am-2:30 pm YWCA. 175 N. Clinton Ave. pm, 243 Rosedale St. Sponsored by or 442-8134 (evenings). Closed Lesbian Resource Center; Gay Atlantic Ave. Pteer facilitators Pornography: Before We Design sponsored by Adam Walsh Child Change. Issues of divorce and child (breakfast/lunch included). The Lodge FRIDAY 546-5820 GLAS and Open Arms MCC. $5 per meeting. AIDS, HIV and akoholism Alliance, 179 Allantic Ave. 7:30 pm. hotiine, Sunday-Friday 6:30-9:30 the Solutfon, What's the Problem? Resource Center. 8:30 am-4:30 pm, custody. 7-9 pm. YWCA, 175 N. Clin­ dt Woodcliff. $16. 454-1813. person. $8 per couple. recovery issues. Fourth or last Wednesdays. 442-0488. pm. 244-8640. 2 pm. Sponsored by Greater Rochesier Colgale Rochester Divintty School. $25. ton Aws. Free. Carpet Caretakers Golf Tourna­ 11 Rochester Lesbian and Gay Gay Alcoholics ArKMiymous. 7 pm. NOW. Unttarian Church. 220 S. Win­ (Lunch provided). 461-1000. Power and Control In leen Rela* ment. Shadow Lake. Fblkswing party at SUN DA Y Political Caucus. Every second Mon­ Unitarian Church. 220 S. Winton Rd. NATIONAL COMING OUT DAV. ton Rd. Free. 244-9963 (Barbara). tionships. Presented by Auvareness Tara. 153 Liberty Pole Way. Call Aron day. 7:30 pm. Gay Alliance. 179 Allan­ Lesbian l^rents Oroup, l-or current Martha Brown, Missy Davidson Theater of Family Services al Rochester. ONGOING M. Blocher. 654-5728. 20 tic Ave. 244-8640. and prospective mothers ar>d partners. and Barbara Johnston. * Together 7 pm. YWCA, 175 N. Clinton Ave. Support group for parents and Two Nice Girls. 9 pm, $10. Jazz­ For information call Lisa and Du^ at TUESDAY live in concert." 8 pm. $2-4 donation. SATURDAY Free 546-5820. friends of Jewish lesbians and beny's Uptown, 50 East Ave. 385-4496. MONDAY Wild Seeds Bookstore and Cafe. 704 TUESDAY SUNDAY gays. First Mondays. For time and kx:a- 1 Empty Closet deadline. Out and About Seniors Group. University ^e. 26 tion call Michele Ruda at Jewish Family Photographs, camera-ready ads. More Light Sapport Group for gay Vark>us activities. Brita. 647-9141. Take Back the Night march and ral­ Out and About. Tee Lake Falls 15 Service. 461-0110. or Elaine Elkins. 244-9030. Empty Closet layout and pasteup and lesbian people and friends. 12:30 Positively Sober AA Group, closed ly. Gather 6 pm at Planned Parenthood. (Adirondacks) backpack weekend. Call WEDNESDAY 244-4837. Women, Violence and AIDS. Spon­ Empty Closet copy deadline. Ar­ ol November issue. Noon to 5 pm. Gay pm, second and fourth Sundays. meeting for alcoholics only. AIDS 114 University Ave. March to YWCA, Bob, 442-7185. sored by Rape Crisis Service of Plann­ ticles, classified ads, letters to editor, non- Ailiance, 179 Allantic Ai/e. 244-9030. Downtown United Presbyterian Church, Women's Basketball. Monday nights. Rochester, 1350 University Ave. Every 175 N Clinton Ave. Rochester Lesbians of Color MONDAY 30 camera-ready ads. 244-9030. ' Breast Cancer: Developing 121 N. Fitzhugh St. 325-4000. Downtown United Presbyterian Church, Wednesday, noon to 1 pm. ed Parenthood. 6:30-9:30 pm, H4 Organization (RLOCO). New York Tlie Role of Women in Nicaragua Radical Responses to a Hidden Women and Violence in the Piareots and Friends of Lesbians 121 N. Fitzhugh St. Non-competitive University Ave. $15. 546-2777 City trip, Oct. 11-13. with STRUT (NYC 21 Ibday. Dinner and speaker, sponsored and Growing Epidemic. Military. Video and discussion spon­ and Gays* St. Luke's-St. Simon Cyrene hour, 7-8 pm; competitive hour after 8 Ibm Frey. Monroe County Executive African American lesbian group). $10. THURSDAY speaks to the gay community. Spon­ by Metro-Act. 6:30 pm. Third Bob King. Republican candidate for Workshop/discussion presented by sored by Peace and Justice Education Church. 17 S. Fitzhugh St.. 2:30 pm. pm. Call Ramona, 244-1640. THURSDAY 244-9564. GLBFA Women's Group. Gay. Les­ sored by Rochester Lesbian and Gay Presbyterian Church. 4 Meigs SL $12. Monroe County Executive speaks to the Sylvia Gasoi. 1:30 pm. YWCA, 175 N. Center (PJEC) and Rochester Actton Last Sunday. 865-0120. Presl^rterians for Lesbian and Gay Basic Training In Conflict Resolu­ bian Bisexual and Friends, U. of Political Caucus. 8 pm, Gay Alliance, 325-2560- lesbian and gay community. 7:30 pm. Clinton Ave, Free. Against Militarism. 7:30 pm, YWCA. Dignity/Integrity, St. Luke'sSt. Concerns, 6:30 pm. First Thursday. tion. Sponsored by Alternatives to Rochester. Every Monday at 7:30 pm, 179 Atlantic Ave. Gay Alliance, 179 Atlantic Ave. Spon­ Women's Halloween Dance. 8:30 175 N. Clinton ave. Frce. Simon Cyrene Church, 17 S. Fitzhugh For location call Pat, 244-8963. Violence Project. Oct. 11-13, 7 pm, WC 507. Beth Bailey. Poetry reading. Borders sored by Rochester Lesbian and Gay pm-1 am, Unitarian Church. 695 Empty Closet mailing of November St., 5 p.m. Every third Sunday, r>otluck Gay Alcoholics Anonymous, ck>s- FrieiKK Meeting House. 41 We<;tminster. Book Shop. 1000 Hylan Drive, Jay Political Caucus, Elmwood, Buffalo. Women only. A issue, 7-9 pm, upstairs at Gay Alliance, dinner dfter Mass. 328-9758 Gay and Lesbian support group. ed. St. LukeVSt. Simon Cyrene TUESDAY 461 1911 Scutti Plaza South. 6:30 pm. WEDNESDAY W.I.LD. event. 179 Atlantic Ave. 244-9030. Metropolitan Community Church, Third Presbyterian Church, 4 Meigs St. Church. 17 S. Fitzhugh St., 8:30 p.m. 8 16 243 Rosedale St., 6 p.m. 271-8478. First and third Mondays 271-6513. 2326720. TUESDAY Rochester Bisexual Women's Net­ Rochester Historical Bowling Hunter Davis. 9 pm, $8. Jazzberry's SATURDAY Recognizing Sexual Harassment. 22 SUNDAY THURSD A Y work meeting and potluck supper. 6:30 Society, Clover Lanes. 2750 Monroe FRIDAY Uptown, 50 East Ave. Workshop by Barbara Kasper. 7:30-9 pm. Second Sunday. Location, info: Ave.. 8:30 pm. 654-6461. ''Pushing Through.*' Play with 12 pm, YWCA, 175 N. Clinton Ave. Free. Looking Good But FeeUng Bad. 27 31 436-7409 or 271-0263. TUESDAY Men's WriHng Group (Gay Unites). 4 discussion to follow. Sponsored by Film. "Killing Us Softly," and discussion Gay Men's Cooking Groups 7:30 8 pm. Gay Alliance, first and third Women's Self Defense Course. Six Rochester Rangers sociai club, mon­ Pyramid Arts Center, endorsed by Metro- with Mary Lou Schloss.7 pm. YWCA, Empty Closet layout and pasteup HALLOWEEN.Witches. radical faeries pm. Fourth Sunday. 244-8640- Thursdays. For more information call Power Control and Other Deadly Saturdays (Oct. 12. 19, 26; Nov. 2. 9, thly business meeting, 8 pm. First Tues­ Act and Peace and Justice Education 175 N. Clinton Ave. Free. of the November issue. Noon-5 pm, and pagans unite! Men's Group meeting. Gay Alliance, 244-8640 and leave a message for Jeff Things. Conference sponsored by 16). Sponsored by YWCA and Greater day. Upstairs at Tara, 153 Liberty Pole Center. $12. For time and piace, call THURSDAY Health Care Proxy: Questions and 179 Allantic Ave. 244-9030. 179 Atlantic Ave. 7:30 pm. First and Lehigh, or write to Gay Writes, care of Alternatives for Battered Women Inc. Rochester NOW. 9 am-noon. YWCA. Way. Call Rangers hotline. 251-2122. 461 2222. Answers. Dr. Christine Bochen, Omega hike at Mendon Ponds. Meet third Sunday. 244-8640. GAGV, 179 Allantic Ave.. Rochester NY 8.15 am-4:15 pm. Holiday Inn 175 N. Clinton Ave. $40 (scholarships Rochester Gay Men's Chorus, 17 Nazareth College Faculty Noontime al Visitors' Ceriter, 2 pm. Gay Men's Alcoholics 146071255 Holidome. $65. 232-7353. available). 546-5820. Downtown United Presbyterian Church, Lecture Series. 12:30-1:30 pm. Room FRIDAY Anonymous, St. Luke's-St. Simon GLBFA Hotline. Thursdays. 8-11 pm. Conflict Resolution IVorkshop for THURSDAY "Blues and Rags." Theater, mime, "A Scream of Silence." Film and 121 N. Fitzhugh St. 7-9:30 pm. 13, Nazareth College Arts Center. Cyrene Church. 17 S. Fitzhugh St., Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Friends All God's Pteople. Oct. 4-5. Spon­ discussion sponsored by Metro-Act. 251-2077. 10 music, humor. Sponsored by Metro-Act. 8:30 pm. 232-6720. Association, University of Rochester. sored by Judicial Process Commission. 7 pm, YWCA. 175 N. Clinton Ave. 7:30 pm, YWCA, 175 N. Clinton Ave. Sexual Compulsives Anonymous. 7-9:30 pm. Episcopal Church Home. MONDAY Kate Clinton. Lesbian comedian. 8 Lesbian and Gay Youth of 275-8341 (ex. 5). Breaking the Ice. Support group for $7-10. Suggested donation $5-1QT.288-1492. WEDNESDAY For those desirir>g their own personal ^V'^ •i?.^v7727 pm. Marquee at the Tralf, Buffalo. $12 Rochester (LGYR). Group for people Drug/Alcohol Continuing Care women new to the lesbian community. Lambda Amateur Radio Club and sexual sobriety. 7:30-9 pm. For place Hull House Revival. Musical group, 28 in advance, $15 at the door. Call Em­ 16-21. meets Sundays 3-6 pm, GAGV, Program. Second day of two-day after­ First of five Thursdays. 7-9 pm. Gay Out and About. New York State 23 call 244-8640. 7:30 prn. Calvary St. Andrews Church, ma Bookstore, 1-885-2285. or the Tralf, 179 Atlantic Ave. 244-8640. care program offered weekly by AIDS Alliance. 179 Atlantic Ave. winery tours. Call Dave, 359-3337. Working with the Abuser. Film To BiGayLa. RfT. Every Tuesday night 7-9 68 Ashland St. 325-4950. Domestic Violence: Power and 1-852-0522. Women only. A W.I.L.D. Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Rochester, 1350 University Ave., for HIV National American Sign Language Country Western Line Dancing. FRIDAY Have and To Hold," and discusston pm. Alumni Room of Student Union. Marilyn Murphy. Author of "Les­ Control in the Legal System. Panel event. Friends Associatkm (GLBFA). U. of positive peopte who have completed an Literature Conference. Oct. 10-13, 7-11 pm. Unitarian Church, 695 presented by Vince Butler. 7-8:30 pm, Call 475-3296. bianic Logic," "Are You Girls Traveling discussion sponsored by Volunteer Rochester. Sundays, 7:30 pm. Morey inpatient or outpatient program. NTID. Call Jean Bondi-Wolcott, Elmwood. Buffalo. 1-885-2285. 18 YWCA. 175 N. Clinton Ave. Free. Gay Alcoholics Anonymous. 8 pm, Alone?" 8 pm. Wild Seeds Bookstore Legal Services Project. 7-8:30 pm, 402. Positive Recovery NA Group Clos­ 475 6705 (TDD/voice) or Dr. Laurie Mortgage burning and open Genesee Hospital. 224 Alexander St. Lambda Amateur Radio Club^ Din­ YWCA. 175 N. Clinton Ave. Free. ACT UP/Ulb»«em New \brk. Meefs ed meeting for addicts only 3:30 pm, .Hid i .(/(•. 704 Univt'r^iK Aw Frt't'. Brewer. 475-6843 fTDD/voice). Finger Lakes Social Group. Third house. Gay Alliance, 179 Atlantic Ave. ner/meeting. Call Dave, 359-3337. 232-3051. every Sunday night at 7 pm at Langston A/DS Rochester. ?350 Universify Ave. Hughes Institute. 25 High St., Buffalo. Tuesdays and first Fridays. For informa­ 442-2220 or (800)437-0157. Meetings free and open to public. tion contact Boxholder, PO Box 211. Out and About. Bicycling at Mendon WILD WIMMIN PRESEMTS 1-854-8020. Penn Yan NY 14527. Ponds, 7 pm. Bob. 442-7185. Lesbian Writers Group. Every third Drug/Alcohol Continuing Care Breaking tlie Ice. For women new to COMEDIAN ® Sunday, 1-3 pm. Gay AHiance, 179 Program. DAAA/DSAS sanctioned the lesbian community. Five Thursday SUNDAY EVENING Atlantic Ave. after-care program open to HIV positive evenings, beginning Oct. 10, 7-9 pm. people in recovery who have completed Gay Alliance, 179 Atiantic Ave. To fCA TE CLINTOW an intensive outpatient or inpatient pro­ register, call 482-5694. gram. Meets Tuesday and Thursday November 1, 1991 B 8 p.m. MONDAY each week. AIDS Rochester. 1350 University Ave. 442-2220 or Rochester Lesbian Action Coali­ (800)437-0157. MARQUEE AT THE TRALF B BUFFALO, NEW YORK tion, Gay Alliance lounge. 179 Atlan­ FRIDAY tic Ave., 7 pm. Third Monday. Tanya, Sexual Compulsives Anonymous. ONE SHOW ONLY 256-1202 5:30-7 pm. For location cail 244-8640. (ndeato ovolabls Ssptsfntosr 7) Client Open Discussion Group , OCTOBER 20 WEDNESDAY Gay-Lesbian Aitemative Socials. TIckoCi $12 ••-sorvieo choiga in odvonco $15atmodoor sponsored by AIDS Rochester Inc. for Every Friday. 8 pm-midnight, Sept. any HIV positive client ol AIDS Rodiester Woanen's Community through May. Universalist Church, 150 Rochester. Induding those in recovery, THE REICMNC MISS ROCHESTER Chorus, rehearsals. Pinnacle Place. Clinton Ave. South. still "using,** or with rw chemical 919 S Clinton Awe., 6:30-8:30 pm. 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U>cal News contiinicd from page .^ Ladyslipper Inc. in Durham, N.C, and will charges from gay activists that he had given Seek volunteers be featurcd in their 1991 catalog. in to conservative pressure. Ttiomas Stod­ Researchers at thc University crf Rochester Ladyslipper was already selling ttie tape at dard of the Xambda Legal I>efetise and Medical Center are seeking volunteers who Rhythmfest on Labor I>ay weekend in Ten­ EducatVLMi Fund said. "The ^wemor may t>e are in good tiealth and at low risk of acquir­ nessee, where Seale performed. She and ac- trying to satisfy too many constituencies ing HiV, the virus which causes AIDS, for companist/arranger Sasha Hedley tigned with ttiis. He can*t do it. At some point he ongoing studies of vaccines to prevent HIV tapes in ttie Ladyslipper tent after the has to sund up for basic civil rights prin­ infection. performance. ciples." For those who are interested, an Informal In addition to many local-performances Officials of the state Division of Human meeting is being held skt Strong Memoriai 'this year, Seale sang at the National Uesbian Rights said Sept. 20 that SUNY Buffalo had Hospital on Oct. 7, at 7 p.m. in room 1-*9041 Conference in Atlanta, and at Robin lyier s 60 days to appeal the order to the sute com­ (located through thc I>$ychiatry entrance off Southem Music and Comedy Festival, and missioner of human rights. un ^a Crittenden Blvd.) For further details contact has several appearances scheduled for fall Cuomo had issued executive orders in Shhiey Erb at 275-5744. and winter, including cat>aret shows in clut>s 1983 and 1987 barring state agencies from These studies are being conducted by the in Denver, Colo., with musician Linny discriminating :^inst gays and lesbians. The Inleciious IMease Unit under the direction Gaudi. Office of Gay and Lesbian Concems used of Dr. Michael ICeefer, director of thc AIDS On Nov. 10» Scale and Hedley will perform those orders as the basis for barring miliury Vaccine Evaluation Unit, and Dr. Raphael at Common Ground in Ithaca. In December, recruitment at SUNY Buffalo. But under Dolin, the principal investigator. Initial they will be back at Ja2zl>erry's Uptown, thc federal law, schools barring military recruit­ studies indicate that these vaccines stimulate site of ttieir successftil stiow last March, with ment arc ineligible for Department of desired imntune responses and are well a rather irreverent "Sex For Christmas" Defense funds, of which SUNY Buffato Full color pasten 14x22. 512 tolerated with no aparent side effects. Con­ stiow. rcceivcd S3 8 million last year. includes postage. Available by tinued studies arc needed for further clinical Cuts from thc album are being played on -Associated Prcss writinf^ Ciarico/leonard Associates, 12 Cascade DK, Studio 25. Rocbester ^*^«' sW* and laboratory evaluations. "Femtttist Magazine** and other programs on \Y 14614, or by calling 232-1540, The experimental vaccines being evaluated KPFK-FM, North Hollywood, Calif., accor- Skinhead gets state are prepared from an outer coat protein of dingto news dircctor Cindy Friedman, and prison term The candidates are Dr. Harve>- crhasier, the AIDS virus, and arc produced by recom­ Seale just received a request for an album running as an openly gay candidate for Town Aaron Lowe, one of the memt>ers of binant DNA technology (genetic engineer­ from Allen Black of "Alternative Currents" Supervisor of Penfield, and Dr. John Noble, BRASH (Buffalo Rochester Aryan Skinheads) ing). Since these vaccines contain only a pan on WAIF-FM Cincinnati. running for a Third Ward seat on the Greece wtio was convicted in ttie Highland Park gay- of the virus, and the vaccine preparation is Town Bi>ard. Both are running on tbe bashing in 1989, has been sentenced to one not made from infectious virus or infected Democratic ticket. Cuomo cops out and a half to four years in sute prison for human cells, there is no possibility that it F.ach candidate will receive a contribution violating ttie terms of his parole, according (J^ctotier 27th contains live or killed AIDS virus. Thercforc, on military ban of S5m the Pride Agenda. Dade>' said. to Assisunt District Attorney Thomas Rain- it is not possible that you will contraa HIV "We also are exploring thc possibility of Gov. Mario Cuomo has decided not to t>ow Morse. infection and AIDS from receiving this ex­ making other endorsements in Monroe stand l>ehind his own administration's order Lowe was arrested in April, along with An­ perimental vaccine. c:ount> legislative races." Dade>' said. So far, vaccines have been tested on sub­ barring miliury recruiters from a state drew Johnroe, another memtier of BRASH Creep S>t)otti jects who display no evidence of HIV infec­ university. convicted in the gay-bashing incident. Both tion and who are not deemed at high risk "It's a slap in the face ofttie gay communi­ were found in violation of parole for Golf tournament to acquire thc disease. The goal in develop­ ty.' said VC'illiam Rubenstein of the American associating with each other, and for frequen­ Carpet Carctakeis is sponsoring its first an­ ing a vaccine is to prevent KIV infection in Civil Libenies Union's (ACLU) Lesbian and ting the Monroe Ave. area, from which they nual golf toumament on Oct. 5 at Shadow healthy people, although studies in thc near Gay Civil Rights Project. had tieen barred. Lake. (in nlpYjnbrtknl orbtr bp tecause of thc afterwards at Tara, 153 Liberty Pole Way, ing the next few years. To qualify, you must military's rcfusal to admit gay and lesbian ARI rummage sale where trophies and door prizes will t>e pan l>e in good health, 18-53 years of age, and people into the armed services. The order Cliaba AIDS Rochestt^r Inc. (ARI) will hold a rum­ ofthe fun. For more information and open­ available for several brief clinic visits resulted from a student's complaint. mage sale on Oct. 5 and 6, from 10 a.m. to ing availability, please call Aron M. Blocher, throughout thc following year. On Sept. 20, Cuomo aides said that a sute 5 p.m.. in the parking lot ofttie agency, I350 owner of Carpet Careukers, at 654-5728. Cljanel law requiring that miliury recruiters be University Ave. allowed on any public campus stood in the "This event will l>e a scramble," Blocher Volunteers are coUecting "prc-enjoyed" says, "where the tjcst ball lives, so you need Scale's ''Sex" sells way of the Office of Gay and Lesbian Con­ ^nerchandise to sell, through Oct. 4. 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advantage. I preferred the youngest, four to in the park last week." Our interview made What 1 say has an effect. You undersund six — open, creative, eager. At that age the mc giggle. Your first erotic hero was I wish to be your advocate. As wc walk past Dear John toxins of class haven't shown much effect. Aquaman, a TV cartoon hero; you suspected the carrot man who is not as hot this season A few children always stick in the mind. a deeper link between Batman and Robin, (he looks tired, doesn't have the sunburn You were one. The image I retained was were drawn to Little Joe on "Bonanza" and that used to tum me on) and past the sweet By Eric Bellmann so vivid. 1 was certain somewhere I must to Wally Cleaver. Music, not film, was your potato pic ladii>. I tell you that I don't care how You're responsible for what happened. I have a snap shot of a gaggle of kids clutching entre to gay sensibility: you thought Rod \oiir lite turns out. I like \ou as you aa*. you was waiting on the front steps when your projects with you in front. I've looked high Stewart was gay. The first self-proclaimed art- not \vh:ti you do I hope that c<»vtTS most car pulled up. Platinum hair! You explained and low with no success; the image is pure gay celebrity you were aware of was Boy i>t flic bases. I will listen ;tnd olTer encourage­ later that the desire for purple hair, essen­ memory. It seems you continued to take George. Boy George? My God, that was on­ ment w hen \ou fret ;»l'Mnii sch(M>l. I-M>y triend.v tia! for your return to college this fall, re­ classes and maintained an interest in artistic ly last month* No. it was 1981 and you were c;ia'er or family. Nothing. I promise, will quired this intermediary step. I loved thc expression (children are natural artists; abili­ 11. A feeble chuckle fell from my lips. diminish m> Itindanietital attitude: uncondi­ look. At dinner you said I was the only one ty only fades with time). It's eerie now to I had a random list of gay culture figures tional love ^..^^ .*,.^. who had reacted with unqualified hear you recount that at various times you and you could not identify Leonard We settle down over coffee and I slip off enthusiasm. noticed me and saw my art work. You kept Matlovitch, David Kopay, or Darrell Yates my mark: little Jewish Mom twitches (you The two people who loved me uncondi­ Rist. On the other hand, you knew Kate can just as easily fall in love with a doctor), tionally were my aunt, who spoke a little Millett, Barney Frank and (my heart sings) and you let that one pass. I catch myself English, and my grandmother who spoke Blanche DuBois. You are my progeny. I toss when your eyes narrow as I prescribe work­ only German. Each woman was a refugee aside my list and enjoy lunch. We plan din- ing out as insurance towards successful who came to live, briefly, in our house. tier the following week. Over dinner, my pic­ future romantic endeavors. You say you feel ture of you acquires details: visits to San like Audrey Hepburn in "Funny Face ' We When we were together it was mostly smiles a discreet watch on me, sensing that we had and nods. I knew they loved me. I was com­ Francisco, a famiiy tragedy, a deep depres­ laugh a moment. When I was your age, more in common than a talent for art. I sup­ sion over an inability to master a frozen queens in the bars would nag me to stand fortable with them. Oma made dresses for pose you were considering who you were, my dolls, although I had already grown guil­ yoghurt machine, which engenders grave up straight, lower my voice, lose some seeking signposts wherever they might ap­ doubts about future employability. weight, so that men would love thc real me. ty over my tell-tale weakness and was self- pear. Today you tell me of a male couple on conscious. Her attitude of accepunce was I leam other things. You've never had un­ This job is going to require thought. your paper route; their diffeientness unsettl­ safe sex. So much for my jokes about Diet Wc ulk about movies, art. books. I grow beyond my grasp. What did I do to cam this ed you. How remarkable that we should love? I bumed my dolls and their lovely Coke versus "The Real Thing." You don t edgy when you say what you have rcad has meet again as adults. know what life was like before the plague; left you depressed. I agree that A Bqy's Oum clothes after she was gone. Gay writcis note that gay males are too I was intrigued when I leamed you'd be you can't miss what I've known. You know story and Tbe Lost Language of Cranes in often snipped out of thc life-loop dealing men who are HIV positive. You are not an themselves might also leave mc coW. I tell working in Rochester for the summer. I with parenting as well as its parallel track: hoped our paths might cross; the gn4>evine assimilationist; feminism is a given. Your you about White's recent biognqrfiical novel, mentoring. ^X^^ cast as consumers, taste- views on monogamy arc more racional than Tbe BeauiifulRoom is Empty, and Leavitt's leaked that you wete gay. I made a mental mal^rs, lightning nxte, and, of Uttc, care­ note IO visit you; see what you were like. I mine. Choosing your college aUowed you to earlier Family Dancing, both stronger givers, advocates. Our lives remain select a haven wheie you could consider works. I sec where we will begin, hi one did ntM. Gay society is notoriously ageist. challenges nutfkcd by restrtded oppor­ Like most old farts I have tolerance for thc your nacure, explore feelings you trace back smaR way your life can be «>IS noisy) and overwhelming, more so generational sharing. Can I give voice to in­ nowadays, when they are overfed and exer­ On a Saturday moming as we stroll on tbe Rock; it is filled with the idealism you sights that m^t benefit a yoiM^er man, find through the Public Market. I calculate my crave. (I shield you from the fact thar he will cised to threatening proportions. Am- a receptive ear? God knows tny friends and biviJeiici^and busyness kept mc away; I was words. I touch your arm and say, "John, I'm never write a second novel; he is dead from 1 end our day cuddled with the phone, shor­ thrilled you are gay." Actually 1 said it twice AIDS.) From my bookshelves I give you preoccupied with my own life. Then 1 ran ing up one another over the iolts from fobs, into you at Blockbuster Video and was stop­ to make certain you understood as well as Totem Roie. Mates. Messer Rondo, Tbe Movie lovers, parents. That's our version of fami­ heard. Every gay person should hear these Lover, Dancer from tbe Fiance, Tbe Swim­ ped cold. You grinned at me in recognition, ly. I chatted with you by the cash register at your face glowed with youth and charm, a words. Instead wc hear excuses, accusations, ming Pool Library, and Tbe Family of Max Blockbuster Video, assuming the same or apologies mired in anger and denial, Desir, tieautifully written t>ooks filled with face exactly as I remembered. I noted that vaguely guarded posture 1 take when talk­ at 21 you are taller than I. And you were endless mutations of "Well, maybe it will humor, honesty, sadness-, thc complex state ing with an inn keeper in Augsburg or a work out, maybe it won't be so bad," and of being known as gay. polite. farmer in Provence; they are picturesque I remember a drunken man in an Army we know the speaker really is thinking, You arc leaving. 1 remember how friends foreigners with whom 1 have little in com­ "tough for you." Underneath they believe sobbed at the side of the road after they uniform who reeled by at an art fair and ask­ mon, but the>' also know something about ed if I was Eric Bellmann. After I nervously we are handicapped, headed for a lifetime dropped their daughter at Cornell. Later, LIFE that I do not. Regardless of all that, I of unavoidable misery. Too often that at­ when the wife ulked about that with her owned up he gurgled that in Junior High he found you charming. I resolve to be brave; had been "teacher's pet." Teachers always titude is one we accept unconsciously. mother, the older woman're\'ealed that she. I'll take you to lunch. When we buy the lie that we are wor­ too, had cried in a parked car when her have pets. In recent years I gravitate to the We went to my current favorite dive. Anx­ odd children, those with eyes too close, or thless, second class, we may behave in ways daughter left home. Just when our children ious that I might fmd you boring, I armed that are demeaning and which will make us grow interesting, we watch them move away. who seem tense or distinctly quiet; delicate mysetf with a list of qucrstions: I'd interview children. I liked teaching on Saturdays. ill. I believe today is a better time for being I'm not your parent, lm your friend. After you. Long ago my friend Norman used that gay; there is wider undcrsunding, and that you leave, I repeat aloud to myself what I Those classes, unlike public school, were fill­ term as code for the most intimate ex­ ed with gifted children, recipients of ever>' may lead to greater justice. Tolerance isn't have said to you: "It will be all right. You perience: '*See that hunk? I interviewed him ceruin, life is not easy. Being homosexual are normal. You arc fine just the i%ay you isn't for sissies. There is a prayer that in­ are." You will not be allowed to believe the cludes the phrase. ". . . It is better to unders­ lies of less-than. I count my blessings and I und than to be understood, better to love thank God you are gay. 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me? How is your billing done? You want a preference. If we, as gays and lesbians, say dle cases in family taw and a few other areas monthly sutement. How long will this Uke? that it should not matter, then we must act (but no criminal matters) and chaige a sliding Lawyer-hunting like it does not matter. scale fee. How many cases do you have now? (The First, one must seriously consider the cost. You must qualify for all of the above ser­ more cases, thc longer it will take for your By Andrew S. Dunn, Esq. job to get done.) Have you ever worked with For the past few months 1 have been sug­ The average attorney in Rochester current­ vices, based on each organization's own ly chaiges amund $100 to $125 an hour This criteria. openly homosexual persons? How much of gesting that you, my avid readers, should a reuiner must I put up front? What is the contact an attorney if you have more ques­ usually includes phone calls (which add up Finally, ifyou find yourself in the position quickly.) of not qualifying for any of thc above, then hourly race? What things are/ue not covered j^ tions than my column answers. I have, as yet, For those who are on some form of public you can call thc Lawyer Referral Service and by the reuiner (including filing fees and not explained how to find an attorney. Let parking)? me rectify that right now. assisunce, you should try calling the Legat they wilt rcfer you to an aitomey in Aid Society (all of thc numbers are in the The mote questiotis you ask, the better in­ First, remember that your attorney should Rochester who has asked for referrals. Thc final ways of finding an attorney are formed you become, and the better choice be someone that you are going to be com­ you can make. fortable talking to openty. An attorney who by word of mouth (who has your friend us­ ed in the past for this problem?) or thc Next month I will be writing on the ef­ is a homosexual may not be the best attorney OUT LAW fects (legal and social) of spousal/lover abuse (sorry guys); and at the same time, just phone book (tast resort). You may want to ulk with several at­ in a homosexual relationship. If you have any because someone is straight does not mean comments or issues you would like to raise, that they will be homophobic. If you expect by Andrew S. Dunn, Esq. tomeys to see which one you can work with, and feel comforuble around. Remember too, please address them to me at this papcr. to have the same attorney for almost If there is a particular issue of legal con­ everything, then you should expect to talk phone book). Monroe County Legal however, that the attorney is going to be ac­ ting for you, but is not necessarily going to cem that you have and would like to know about the fact that you. the client, are Assistance Corporation, or the Volunteer more about, please drop me a line carc of homosexual. On the other hand, if the at­ Legal Services. It is important to have a be your friend. Find the person who will get what you want, not the person you iike. the Empty Closet, 179 Atlantic Ave.. torney is being hired for specific things (i.e. specsfic need or problem when calting one Rochester, NY 14607-1255- bankruptcy or house closing) then it may be of these services. Finally, ask questions. How long have you less likely that it will come up. If you make too much for pubtic been practicing? How long have you been doing this type of work? What can I expect? I will not. therefore, dwell on a person's assistance, but not much, then you can call How much do you think this is going to cost qualifications based on their sexual Main West Attomeys at Law, Inc. Thev han-

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How can a child make sense ofbeing caught Put another way, coming out is the pro­ Co love herself, but somehow not to love cess of becoming erue to yourself. In Chis ochers who are too much like her? Isn't it sense, ic is someching for everyone, not on­ \^liat part of amazing that we manage to grow up sane at ly lesbians and gays, thc process of know­ all? ing and honoring our own unique selves. As I vividly remember my pure and pas­ lesbians, we have morc garbage to fling aside sionate crushes on my second grade teacher. Chan most people do, because weVe had that Lesbia d.o you Miss Williamson, and my fourth grade diet of lies about our limitations as women teacher. Miss Darby. I would have done and queers. Unfortunately wc don't get any anything, anything in che world to piease extra time to do it in. So let's not waste any them. Yet, despite che innocence and puri­ morc time. Let's be out to ourselves and then cotne from? ty of this love, at seven 1 already knew thac to everyone else. Let's noc diminish ourselves by pretending to be something we're not. bians, we arc controlled by those fears, and I somehow had to Iceepmy fedingsa secret, By Barbara Debes Let's not degrade our rclationships by lying our power to be ourselves is greatly ^^kai people would Chink I -was .bad if they My title is the punch line from a joke about them. Let's love ourselves and em­ diminished. Wc give our power away. Fear knew. It makes me furious that my young about it man in a bar who keeps buying mind was messed with like thsu^ How power ourselves. drinks for cwo women at the other end of which is internalized is very toxic and poisons many aspects of our growth and desperately the second grade girls of the When wc come oul to others with self- the bar, despite the bartender telUng him he*s world need role models! love and pride, they very often make room wasting his money because they arc lesbians, happiness. Fear of things that are truly harmful is che I am furious that I was brainwashed to be for thac new informacion about us. If Chey rm using it to provoke you to think about untrue to myself for morc than half my life. pull away or alienace us, that is their pro­ coming out, and in coming out to move to helpful aspect of fear. It helps us make choices that keep us safe. However, fear of I am ever so proud and grateful that I final­ blem. It says nothing about us, and hopefuUy a different part of Lesbia, so tO speak. ly figured out chat I didn't have to believe our sharing with them makes it harder for VC^ hear and read about the political im­ the lie, and that I could be myself and be true them to hold on to cheir nonsense. Lies are peratives for coming out. If wc stay in the CO myself. The betcer I gec at it, the happier poison. Secrets are poison. They con­ closet where we arc powerless and invisible, I am. The happier I am, the morc convinc­ taminate us and make it impossible for us to we will continue to be oppressed b>' the FEELING FREE ed I am that happiness begins with being live fully. society in which we live and pay taxes. I true to oneself. Let us all heal ourselves of the poison and want you to understand why coming out is by Barbara Pcbes When we stop believing the lie and acting the lies. Let us all heal by tieing true to essential to your mental health. as if we believe the lie, it no longer has the ourselves, our loved ones, our friends, our At thc heart of this matter is my strong power to hun us. We stop being afiaid. Therc gay brothers. Let each ofus move out ofthe belief chat good menul health depends on our identity as lesbians is an irrational fear. is not a single person in this world I fear slums of Lesbia where people skulk around being true co oneself. This state of living in It is based on a big, ugly, stupid lie. A lie that knowing that I am a lesbian. Therefore, therc in shadows afraid to speak their names. Let's harmony with our truest self is sometimes says that we are not as good as other peo­ is not a single person in the world who can move out of the suburbs of Lesbia where called congruence or authenticity. We arc ple. A ridiculous lie that says ic is somehow make me afraid with the knowledge that I people lead double lives, denying their les­ true to ourselves when we know who wc arc perverse and sinful to love peopte who arc am a lesbian. bian community. Let's move to the heart of and do what wc want to do, when our like us. Nonsense* Think how stupid and sin­ Quite the contrary, 1 want people to Icnow Lesbia, where we are true to ourselves and behavior is congruent with our sense of who ful it is to teach people, including small that I am a lesbtan and that 1 am happy be­ each other, where we are proud and open we arc. I do not believe it is possible to be children, that is is somehow wrong lo iove ing a lesbian. It does not totally define mc, abouc who we are, where we introduce our truly happy unless one knows who she is other people who arc like you. What utter­ buc is an important part of me. I would not partners proudly. Let's please make it easier and then is true to that self — in thought, ly stupid nonsense. change it. I delight in being a woman who for others to be upwardly mobile in Lesbia word and deed. When we have honest rcla­ Can you imagine celling your daughccr, loves women. I feel blessed. by being friendly co one anocher, so thac tionships with ounelves, honest rclation­ "You arc beautiful and special. I iove you Since I am a lesbian who is very concern­ coming ouc is as easy as possible for chose ships with others generally follow. dearly and hope chac you will always love ed about lesbian mental heatth, I encourage who would be our neighbors. When we know and honor who we arc, yourself and clelighc in the beauciful and you to count your blessings. I believe that in Ai^ust, on a gocgccxis sutmy day at Her­ wc arc strong and powerful. Any time we lie special person you arc. But remember, it life is a gift, and that the way we say thank ring Cove Beach, I overheard a woman say, to ourselves or to others at>out who we arc would be very bsid for you to grow up to love you for chis gift is to live as honestly and as 'Tm so happy, I can'c cope." Tm sure or whac we want, it weakens us, robs us of women and lo be sexual with them." Of fully as we arc able. Being honest with everyone who heard her understood. Wc all our power and makes us vulnerable to fear. course, all too many of us never even heard ourselves abouc who we are fuels us in fin­ feel safer in Provincetown because in Pro- To thc extent that we dircctly or indircctly the first part of che message. Ic is absurd Co ding the energy to do whac feels righc for us vincecown we don'c believe the lies. Wj're deny chat we are lesbians, we limit our chink chat our culcurc ac least pays lip ser­ Co be doing. If we arc true Co ourselves, and ourselves l>eing true to ourselves. We hold potencial and self-fulfillment. vice CO che importance of self-esceem, and doing what we want to do, all the rest hands and feel proud. Wc leam what it feels If we arc frightened by what ochers will Chen screws up little minds teaching chat Jc follows. Wr have what we want, we can be like to live in Lesbia. Lesbia is wherever we chink of us if we are honcsc about being les­ is bad Co love others who arc most like you. happy. make it. Let's come out. Let's make it here.

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« 6 their HIV status before a year or two ago? about HIV and AIDS, as well as numerous Greater RtKhester AIDS Interfaith Nettvork How many don't know their status even years of life experience. The time when a (GRAIN) provides lay and professional care » » now? Most of the almost one million peo­ young person's decision-making process is through healing and memorial services; train­ ple in America today who have HIV do not developing is the time to leam which ing of friendly visitors for visiting homes, By Jeff Kost know it. They are tiving healthy lives and behaviors will minimize risk of HIV. Now. hospitals, hospices and prisons; informatton J don*t know anyone who has AIDS." probably are not thinking **what if. . .?" Don't wail until she or he is 18 or 21. They about pastoral resources and advocacy on '*! don't shoot up drugs and Tm no/gay." Condom distribution in the schools is a need this infonnation now. behalf of people affected by AIDS. 889-8050. ''I don*t need to wear a condom. I know potentially progressive measure in the fight Monrrte Community CoHege maintains an who Tm having sex with, and they aren't to halt che spread of HIV. But a condom in AIDS Resource Library in the Lenjy V. Good sick." ever>' teen's hand (unlike an apple a day) is AIDS Library, UM)0 E. Henrietta Rd. 424-5200. "I don't. I don't. 1 don't." Sound familiar? not enough by a long shot. It is the respon­ Strong Memorial Hospital provides a com­ It should. It sounds like a lot of adults who sibility of parents and teachers to provide in­ DIRECTORY plete range of HIV medical care, including ac­ have not been educated about HIV and AIDS. formation and education on HIV. Abstaining cess to experimental treatment protocols, and But this column is not about adults. This is from sex is one sure method of preventing Free testing for HIV exposure is available HIV testing. Also provides individual and about teenagers — adolescents between the sexually-transmittable HIV. "Just saying no" from New York State: call l-8up psychotherapy Training of health care ages of 13 and 19. This population desperate­ to injectable drugs and steroids will prevent (l-8fessionals also available. Infectious Disease ly needs HIV information before it is too late. HIV through sharing of injection equipment. provide AIDS-related services are as folU>ws: Clinic, 2-5-0526 IXpartment of Psvchiatr)-, Informatton that could save their lives. But if a teen is engaging in sexual relations AIDS RtKhester, Inc.. 1350 University Ave., 2-5-33"'9. AIDS Training Project. 2'75-5693. A great deal of controversy surrounds this or using IV drugs, even the first time, pnnides education, referrals to appri>priate After AIDS. AIDS bereavement support issue. Hardly a day goes by when there is not especially the first time, giving someone a ser\'ice ;mencics, client and family ser\'ices, ad­ gn>up. Meets Wednesdays, "'r^O p.m., at Our a letter to the editor about this topic. Con­ condom could save their life. Condoms are vocacy for people facing HIV-linked Lady of Victory C:hurch. 210 Pleasant St. versations occur daily among teachers, a tool. The avaitablility of such a tool in con­ discrimination, and other services, including 6^1-3"'^- or 248-3*^80 parents, law makers and health providers junction with counseling and guidance is finunctal assistance and a public education about how much HIV information should be vital to curtailing the spread of HIV. speaker bureau. 4-4 2-2220 V/TDD (business presented lo teens. Should condoms be line) or -»^2-22 \7TDD (hotline). AIDS distributed in the schools? Who should be Helping Peopie with AIDS. Inc. is a non­ primarily responsible for teaching sex educa­ AIDS UPDATE profit \ olunteer organization that raises mone\- tion, parents or teachers? Where does to fund those who provide services to Hl\'- BULLETIN morality fit into the picture, and whose by Jeff Kost infected individuals. HO. Box 1543. Rochesier morality should be used as a model? There N.V. 14603: hotline 98"'-l853. are hundreds of answers for e\'ery question. The issue of teens and HIV was address­ Cay AUiance of the Oenesee Valtey peer New HIV test Let's review the hard facts. In New York ed recently in an ABC Afterschool Special. facilitators can proxide referrals to physicians The Toshiba Corp.. of Tokyo, Japan, has state, as of March 1991. there were 86 cases "In the Shadow of Love: A Teen AIDS Story " and sei^'tce agencies. Person on duty Sun­ announced that it has developed a simple of reported AIDS in persons between 13 and After the program aired. AIDS Rochester's day/Friday 6:30-9:30 p.m. Message machine test for lll\ and other gene-deficient 19 years of age. Not a staggering statistic, hotline received many calls from students, other times. 244-8640. diseases. considering the bigger picture. But take a teachers, parents, and others who watched .MDS CfH}rdinari(tn Fntject of Monroe The new test is said to be more accurate look at thc next age group, 20-29 There are the special. The array of questions from a Cepari- than those already in existence, and pro­ 6,091 cases. A remarkable leap in number of variety of age groups shows that there is still nK'nt of Health and AIDS Institute of New York duces results in only one hour, according to AIDS cases. When is it believed that many a good deal of education that needs to be (State Department of Health) provides infor­ researchers, as op{>osed to thc IO hours of these people, 20 to 29, became HIV done. This program was a good start for mation, education and training, and maintains needed for existing tests. positive-' W lien thc\ were Ix-twccii 15 ;"id some, a goximate- Rochester offers regular "AIDS 101" classes Until the last few years, itiformation about >X'ashbum Library; suppon groups; social ly five years to develop the sensor Kunitada HIV focused on it as a disea.se of intravenous in conjunction with its volunteer orienution work and case management serxices. Em­ Shimotono, chief of the National Cancer drug users and gay men and their sex part­ workshops. phasis on early intervention for all aspects of Centers Virology Division, said the new ners. If you didn't fit into one of those nar­ "Reach one, teach one." It is everyone's HIV and AIDS 24 *-9

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As mentioned in last month's Empty join in cultural and outgoing activities with Thanks also to Tom for "truckin" the Men's Chorus Claset, RGMC has moved its rehearsal space other lesbians of color beautiful furniture donated to the GAGV and office headquarters to the Downtown RLOCO invites lesbians of color to join Center by Don and Len. Thanks guys» we ap­ preciate and applaud your efforts. The summer lull has been broken by the United Presbyterian Church, 121 North Fit­ Brooklyn's STRUT organization in New Vork advance of the holiday season for the zhugh St. Thc new Chorus Line phone on Oct. II, 12 and 13. The weekend will Rochester Gay Men's Chorus. Preparation numher is 42^ '"(^'^ii begin on Friday with a welcome reception Out and About has begun for the fall concen season, which, and roommate match-up. On Saturday the among other activittes, includes two mini program includes brunch; discussion on For October. Out and About plans only concerts being performed on Sept. 28 at 2 RLAC ot:ganizing and goals; poetry reading; mini- one e\cnt, a two night backpack to Tee Lake p.m. and 4 p.m. workshops, dinner and more. Oct. 13 ac* Falls to view the fall foliage, Oct. 11-13. The concerts will be performed at the Rochester Lesbian Action Coalition is tivities will include a discussion on roles, This was organized in response to a well Fairport Baptist Senior Citizen Residence and working toward getting Lucy Blue TYemblay emotional and spiritual needs. 110 includes attended Labor Day weekend backpack. the i/nited Presbyterian Senior Citizen xo Rochester to perform. Come to the next food and shelter RLOCO asks all interested Four people from Out and About joined II Residence. RLAC meeting (third Monday of October, 7 women to call Diane at 244-9564 before Oct. from New York's Sundance and two from The c:horus is pn)ud to introduce its new p.m., at the Gay Alliance of the Genesee 7. Binghamton, on the seventh annual Pharaoh musical director, Dr Theodore F. Ashizawa. Valley. 179 Atlantic Ave.) if you*d like to get Lake backpack. Dr Ashizawa has been signed on for the involved in this fun project. Political Caucus Tee Lake Falls is the highest in the Adin>n- I99M992 RGMC season. He brings a myriad During our September meeting, the agen­ dacks at n)ughly 400 feet. From the car, the of past experiences to enrich RGMC. da and particulars for "Breaking the Ice" The Rochester Lesbian and Gay Political hike in is appn)ximately seven miles, a gtHxl were discussed. ^'Breaking thc Ice"' is a sup­ Receiving his diploma in choral conduc­ (Caucus will be hosting two meetings with easy day. The trail passes Tee Lake and its port group for women new to the lesbtan ting at the Julliard School of Music, Ted is the candidates for Montx>c County Executive lean-to. typical of the area, and follows the community. This * 'coming-out' * support presently a full professor of music at the in October outlet for three miles to the falls. A pool at group will meet for five consecutive Thurs­ Cienesee (^immunity College in Batavia. He Incumbent Tom Fre>' will discuss his views the base is reachable if desired. If interested, day evenings, beginning Oct. 10, from 7 to is also the founder and director of the Ars on issues facing the gay community on Oct. contact Bob at 442-7185. (Some equipment 9 p.m. at the GAGV. Any woman interested Nova Singers of Batavia. and has received 7. at 8 p.m. Republican challenger Bob King available.) in joining the gmup should call 482-5694 New York Senate and Assembly Citations of will be speaking on Oct. 21, also at 7:30 p.m. if not already registered. Commendation for 20 years of Both meetings will take place at the Gay musical/cultural service to the community. Now that people have been re-energized AlHance Building. 179 Atlantic Ave. Everj'one Among his pers

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Looking ahead, our December cof­ December, and rumor has it that they will Finger Lakes feehouse will be a holiday party and we*re Breaking the Ice seize the stage again sometime in mid-spring. starting plans for a Valentine's Dance on Feb. Some of the other special socials that are 15. currently in the planning stages include our '* Breaking the Ice" is a support group for By IMck Nielsen OMEGA is a state-chartered organization annual New Year's Eve party and a pre- women new to the lesbian community. The Our Finger Lakes Gay/Lesbian Social committed to recognizing and meeting the VUentine's social mixer This year we are try­ group will meet beginning Oct. 10 for five Group continues to grow even more than we unique needs of older gay men and women ing for a lodge at one of the local parks. It consecutive Thursday evenings, from 7 to 9 reported to you last month! We had 70peo­ in the greater Rochester community. We will be a potluck dinner (each person to p.m. at the Gay AUiance of the Genesee ple in attendance at our last meeting from welcome members 35 years of age or older bring a dish to pass). After dinner there will Valley, 179 Atlantic Ave. The format will be all over the entire Finger Lakes area. to join us in our activities. Guests are always be the ever popular board games, maybe a small-group and large-group discussion. We have formed a steering cotnmittee to welcome. little singing, a nice cheery blaze to snuggle Topics include: identifying oneself as a les­ plan programs, events and meetings. Vffc have For information about OMEGA, write to up in front of, and of course what cheery bian, internal and external homophobia, had some very fine programs, and loolc for- us at P.O. Box 23042. Rochester, NY. 14692. blaze would be complete without hot cocoa relationships, etc. Any woman interested in wared to a lot morc. Or. call Jan at 223-1748, or Larry at and some fresh popcorn? The second annual joining the group, who has not already sign­ We also have formed a newsletter commit­ 442-8270. GLAS picnic will be held in July and August. ed up, should call 482-5694, as enrollment tee, which has just printed and sent out to is limited. Even though GLAS started out last year as our members a very fme newsletter. Lesbian Writers Group a Friday Night Social, it has quickly grown We started out thinking we would have to begin to encompass a broader range of ac­ one meeting a month, but we are growing By Susan Reedy tivities. It's jusc one more way to celebrate so, and everyone is so eager and excited, that The Lesbian Writers Group (LWG) will GLAS our diversity as people. The cornerstone of wc are now having two meetings a month, meet on the third Sunday of each month at GLAS is and will continue to be the Friday with other special events a possibility in the Gay Alliance of thc Genesee Valley, 179 By Dale Brown Night Social. So if you'd like to stop by for between. Atlantic Ave., to share recent poetry, prose, a visit and maybe sit back and relax for a We are now meeting on the first Friday and fragments. Our next meeting is Oct. 20. The GLAS (Gay Lesbian Alternative spelt. . . come on down to the LUac Palace. Completed pieces may be read in a sup­ Socials) 1991-1992 season has begun and and third Tliesday of each month, at the such a season have we got for you! In addi­ Remember the GLAS Friday Ntght Social same time and location. As always, our portive, community environment. Works in meets weekly from 8 to 12 p.m., mid- progress are also welcome for reading, to tion to the weekly Friday Night Socials wc meeting location is kept secret and is only have many special acrtivities planned. September through May. We meet at The known by our present members. Come on receive suggestions for revision or simply to Universalist Church, 150 Clinton Ave. South. and join us, you won't be sorry you did. and try them out on a friendly ear. October's On Nov. 2, GLAS in conjunction with For further info please call Gary at 482-6365 meeting will be at 1 p.m., downstairs at the Open Arms MCC will be sponsoring a dance. you won't believe how great we are doing Our "Gay Time Dance" will take place from (voice) or Dale at 232-6031 (voice and TDD). out here in the Finger Lakes Area. GAGV. See you soon! The September re-organization meeting 8 p.m. to 11 p.m. at 243 Rosedale St. Admis­ For more information you may contact sion is »5 per person or $8 per couple. As Boxholder. P.O. Box 211. Penn Yan, NY. was fortunate enough to have Susan Jordan as speaker on the subject of joumaiism as a this is extremely close to Halloween, feel free 14527, or by calling (315)536-7753 and ask­ to wear a costume* ing for Sam Edwards. Confidentiality is wdting style. She gave helpful advice on the LRC Why gay time, you ask? Why, it is really guaranteed as always. writing of articles, columns, and reviews. After the presentation, members shared quite simple actuaUy. We all know those kind The Lesbian Resource Center, an organiza­ some of their own creative writings of of people who will probably be late to their tion that provides opportunities for lesbians Omega poetry, fiction, lyrics, and thoughts. own funerals, right? Right! to socialize, leam, and compare notes, will The LWG is a group interested in the sup­ On Nov. 2, from 8 p.m. to 11 p.m., GLAS have its October get-together on Oct. 23 at OMEGA Coffeehouses are held the first port and motivatton of lesbians in their quest and Open Arms MCC will be sponsoring a 7:30 p.m. Saturday of each month from 8 to 11 p.m. for written expression. Any lesbian in­ dance at 243 Rosedale St. in the feUowship The group meets downstairs in the Gay These coffeehouses give us a chance to meet terested in pursuing writing is welcome to hail. OOPS! Did I say fellowship hall? How AUiance of the Genesee VsiUey Community informally for games, music, snacks, and attend meetings. silly of me* I really meant the ballroom. Ex­ Center, 179 Atlantic Ave., on the fourth or conversation. On Oct. 5, we plan to have a cuse the slip (of the tongue) dear! last Wednesday of the month. V^ch this col­ speaker as well as the usual aaivities, and Admission is S5 per person or S8 per cou­ umn in the Empty Closet for each month's there will be no charge (the regular charge GAGV Coffeehouse ple. Being that it is so divinely close to HaUo­ program. is $2 for members, »3 for guests). Members The Saturday night coffeehouses have ween. costui »^,*s are always iii style, so In October, the Rochester Women's Com­ ate especially encouraged to bring non- resumed at the Gay AUiance, 179 Atlantic remember to set aside Nov. 2, grab your dan- member guests to this event. munity Chorus wiU join us for an evening Ave., every Saturday night from 8 p.m. to cin' shoes and your boogie. 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There Is xio diaxige to call 454-1234! tic Ave.. Rocbester, NY 14607^1255. Ads tviil 14607. who wUl write: to appreciate. Available itmnediately. Rent not be accepted over tbe telephone. very affofdable for the right guy, also reduc­ Follow the voice instructions to place an ad. You will instantly be assigned a voice box number. The system will ask you to recite your ad for the paper. Tbe Empty Closet tvill not accept Housecleaning. Four hours per week, GWM, 26, well buih. 5'8*', would like some tion in rent available for miscellaneous Then you will record your SCANBOX greeting. The SCANBOX lets callers that don't have the paper browse through the ads. This alk>ws you to entice the classified ads by mail unless tbey are ac­ Saturday afternoon. Own transporution, friends or some fun. I like running, racquet- chores. Call Joe at 787-1285 evenings, or scanner to stop and respond to you» before your ad is published! The last recording is your VOICEBOX greeting. Once a caller responds to your ad in the companied by a name and telephone $5/hour. 328-233L ball, chess, reading and classical music. anytime weekends or leave message. number Tbe number tvill not t>e publisb­ Could someone please write, I really need paper, or your SCANBOX ad, they are directed to your VOICEBOX. This is where you can ask them to leave information you want to know. You will not Development associate. Fundraising pro­ ed, but tve will call to confirm tbe ad someone. Cannot write other prisoners. Quiet, professional gay male, 31, seeks be asked for your name, address or lelephone number! This service is totally automated and 100% confidentiai. Your ad will also appear in the next issue fessional sought for statewide lesbian and placement. Roger Hampton 02564-032, P.O. Box 33, responsible^ non-smoking gay tnale to share gay political oiganization based in New York of The Dathis Oulde an.cl Ff>eetljcne IVfagazlne. Wt accept pers€>nal ads, but tbe eulvertiser Terre Haute, IN 47808. two-bedioom apartment, Monroe/Culver City. CoUege degree and two years* ex­ area. $260/month includes utilities, must use bis or ber otvn box number or ad­ perience lequtred. Responsible for f:vent dress. Ule publish personal aels from 23 year old Black man is in prison, and washer/dryer, basement storage. Call planning, direct mail and major donor pro­ is looking for a friend to write to. Color or 461-0454. prisoners rm a space-available basis. Ifyou gram. Some p.r work also. Strong interper­ LISTENING AND batfe a problem witb a pen pal, let us kuf^w. age do not matter. AU letters will be CALL 971-9977 TO RESPOND TO ADS sonal skills required. Applications due answered. Henry Jackson Jr., #206-501, P.O. Rooms for rent. All-gay residence. The Empty Closet cannot be held responsi­ 10/25/91. Salary based on experience. In­ RESPONDINO $1.50 per minute will be charged lo your phone bill ble for anyflnancial loss or physical injury Box 45699, Lucasville, OH, 45699-0O01. S250/month includes all. Laige rooms, close terested candidates apply to: Executive to downtown. 254-7566. tbat may result from any correspondence. Director. Empire State Pride Agenda, Room TO PHONE ADS M myncvnelsBob.BIWM. HI guys. ky>king to meet GWM 26, Hiv-f, hairy body. GWM, 35, 511", 165 lbs., blue eyes, brown 29. k»kJng fcx ottier GM or other cross dressers or TV. beard and mustactie, Roctv 411. 530 W 23rd St., NY, NY 10011 women hair. Would like to meet other gay people for MEN BM. Plec»e give me a caR. wouto ike to get togettier with ester dty, brown tiair. brown WOMEN and people of color urged to apply. It is possible for you to use our #6363 ottiers interwed inllngerte. or eyes. Looldng for... you be ttie friendship and correspondance. Andrew For rent ttiose ttiat appreckite Inge- judge. #4128 Announcements Austin, 081153 B-126, Holmes Correctional new Confidential Date-Line MWM 45, 195 tx.. B)-curious. rie. #6336 25years oto. looking for M rm 32, GWM. protos- would Ike to meet others fbr I kwe sports, music and spM- Mwr a clean, honest, fumy wFto Institution, PO Box 190, Bonifay FL 32425. Condo, sale/rent. Two bedroom/two bath. Personals System w^ith or tjorol and aociaMy activa. I'm safe fun. #6615 HI SWM tooking tor BM. tuailly, rm 36. 6tr. attractive Peer fsicilltators. Answer thc Ciay Alliance kx>Mng Ibr a BIM Of GM. I look 18-24, fbr first time experience, GM. tooking for monogamous stiosft^Dedoland priMjtettmes wth. Serious reples only. hotline on a regularly scheduled basis, both Situations wanted Near Ridgeway Ave and .Mt. Read Blvd. Call without having a copy of the forward to heahng trom you MWM brownhair.6'lM90t». rd Hke to tale wtth someone buddy. #6124 Free! Pen Pal. I am a very lonely man seek­ ar»d toldrKl to you soon. looking for guysttiot would Ike wtio is curious and woukd fte #4643 evenings and during daytime hours. Ciood 227-2175 newspaper in front of you. to have some fun after mid­ togettogettierduiVigttieday MWM 25,61*. 200 tos,seek­ U 21. attractive, seeks 24-year-old lesbian feminist activist ex­ ing friendship, responsible caring person. ! night, rm dominate. #4492 only: #6322 ing another BTWM. lB-22. to young female, any roce. for listening skills a must* Will train. If in­ BIWM 29,5-&M 75. looking tbr tielp wth a flrst time fantasy. perienced in fundraising, volunteer recruit­ am 5', 91 lbs., aged 29. Please write, you will HI rmaGWM,21,brown/ flrst time cKperience and rela- Unfurnished apartment. GUde St. near WiiH IHE PAPER: readthrough other 8M or GM. htarested in #4119 tkxvNp. Must be feminine. terested, call the p f. line 244-8640. leave a ment, program directing and management, be pleasantly surprised Tony Cook, 209-170, meetino and developing brown, clean stiaven and message on the tape. A peer facilitator will Emerson and Mt. read. Two bedroom (up­ the ads to find the boxholders frfendihp* OTKJ maybe more. clean cut. I am looMng fbr Young proTesstonal, mid 20's, #4693 seeks employment with like-minded people PO Box 45699, Lucasville OH 45699 per), off-strcct parking, no pets. $375 plus. ottier 21-30 year okM or 6-0*. 200 tos.. muscutev biito, Wf 25, te)okkig for ottier get back to you. that interest you and note their couples %tftio ore krtterested in lookhigtorlWfif'iieeiyaerience in a company/organization. PO Box 201, HI my rxime ii Rarx^. i'm fiomaie to stiare nrst tlma ex­ Call days 726-3721, evenings 254-0647. getting togettier ar»d tiaving with submissive male or perience wfth, must be dean Alfred Station, NY 14805. Fun-loving MBS 25, '^TM.W sense o! humor box numbers. Then . call a MWM. 57", 37. looWng for a goodtime. #644S couple. #4112 Word processors and layout volunteers mole oompantorwr»*>. Some­ and honest. #4092 Straight-acting, into \\»)rkrngoul. making new 971-99T7* from your phone (it SWM 30. well built, sissy for Empty Closet. Willing to donate at least one v«/im whom I can talk ofK( GWM with uniform fantasy, HI rm an attracttve, nice friends, outdoors, travel, and looking for a must be touch tG«ie). Follow the tfiore qoectal tlma* witti. seeking BWM for day or nlc^t tiouseboy 4ave. seela domi- figured, outgoing WF. I'm kx3k- two hours a month. Some computer ex­ MA7& tirrwfun. #4483 nanf GM to serve and obey. sincere person who wants a down-to-earth #4091 perience needed; will train in Wordstar No Personals voice instructions ta'respond to MVni 25. submMve. attrac­ HI GWM, 5*6', dk. brown MUlTICOM-4 a MF or SF. TNs woukJ rclationship. Not into games. Will answer all. rm a GBM. 24, S'lO', defkiiely t>e a fbst tkne erqpe- tive, trtm body, seeki okter. tK*. dk. brown eyes. I enfoy THIS AREAS HRST A^D layout experience needed 244-9050. an ad. If the boxholder has giving worm oD mottoges. 105tos.. lookin g for someorte rienoe fbr me. I %voiid pfefer please only serious minded people write. dcxnlnafeWM.45-66,lnloBatO. LARGEST FRe£ Do you know your HIV status? Com­ activated the Confidential #4472 Gh/e me a col day or riigr^. around tfte some age for a ttiat no men repty to thb od. If Bernard Gaston, #150-217, PO Box 45699. If you know a GAY, LESBIAN ANO BISEXUAL tong term rakittonihip. #4089 youoefc terested. pleose tfwe NAMBLA seeks understanding for men and munity Health Network, 244-9000. hn a MM, 31. very trand- COMPUTtR me a col. #4518 Connection, you can talk with Bi-ct«lous WM, 32. attractive. l.ucasviUe. OH i5C>99-0001 some. looUng fbr phorm tun. HI rm24yearsold,blond/ BULLETIN BOARD SVSTEM boys interested in consensual relationships. child who is on green. I'm looking for a mon streMitacttog. mosctJne. 6*2'. HI rm a SWF, 26. fong that person directly at their hdhie. mole or femate and of ony AVAILABLE 24 HRS A DAY Our monthly Bulletin features news, fiction, J.O- Group. Why play with yourself, by fcBce. Leave flnt rvame OTKI who's masculine, rugged. 180tos.. seek s some 20-30. for lafonde hdr. blue eyes, very yourselP Join hot, like-minded men and BiMI. 25, like sports, nature, outdoor life. Or, you can leave a message Snd best time to cal. #4«M good kx>king. 24-30, wtio oon NCfH 24 UNES Itl fkst time encounters. #4088 pretty. )utf tooldng for another letiepi. pictures. Mailed discreetly Subscribe? the street, fenxJe wtio is Just OS curious OS Looking for someone to share my life with. appreckite a big Iseouttful Computer 473-4070 SWM seeks SWM. BKcurtous. $2S/year NAMBLA, PC) Box 174. New York share safe fun. Founded June 1986. Please even change it if you'd like before HI t'maSiWM.midaas.in queen. #6472 me atxxjt ttiat flrst tkne expe­ I am real lonely and need a true friend. good fthope. 5*9*. 160. I work Voice 442-1669 your^. 18-25. #6078 rience. #4601 NY IOOI8. send a SASE for details. Boxholder, Box introduce them to it is actually delivered to the box out ttvee times a week. I txsve HI lama28yearoldWM. Won't you please write. Will answer all. BIWM nr«d2as.5'8'.kiterested HI mynonnebStiawn.I'm 10514, Rochester NY 14610. holder. red tKiir. a mustoche and tooUng to get togettier wth in meeting some or GWM into beord. Looking for guys 18-40, ottier wM over 40. for a poe- GWM 27 seeks same. 30-50. 22, very attractive, petite, Cherokee, #236-035, PO Box 45699, The Center. golf, cyckng. movies. BOs. or tooking for anoTher female tor Men Interested in personal growth and ttvat lice ttw leather and levi stote fbst time encounter, must for tielp in learning B&D I'm wtiatever. #6068 GWF, professional, seeking healthy, suble LucasviUe OH 45699-0001. scene #6665 be very clean and very dte- 5*9", 166 fbs.-dean shaven and flrst time tantosy and frtertd- increasing self-esteem wanted for a group. wrmotrr THE PAPER: call creet. #6461 hiv-. WWi someone experi­ MWM 40.6*2'.200tos..straight stito I prefer someone wtio b The "group for men" is professionaUy led woman between 35-45 for longterm rela­ 271-7670•^-r^^ \i\ \\ BHVM 26. kxMng fbr ottiers. enced as I am a true novice. Ixjt Bi-curious, clean, tieanhy clean, decreet, and femkikie tionship. Please write PO Box 60594, Young, educated and very lonely. 24, 971-9977* and use the 1&-26. for good tmes. #6649 GWC 39 and 40. seeks od- Those ttiat are obese, into and dhKT'eet, wont t^rst time also #6499 and offers a confidential setting. Call vonturousandunintitoltedGM tieavy S8iM, or tKtbituai sub­ encounter. #6069 Rochester NY 14606. 5*11", 158 lbs., red hair, green eyes. Will SCANBOX feature. SCANBOX HI lm a curious male. 21. or BM, for fun times. Must be GWF 40 s, rm o responstole. 442-2986 for information. U hniir« S-4rJ H ' M?- 5'6*. 150. good shape and stance obusers need oot professional person, caring. answer all. Please reach back. Larry Cash. ck»an and discreet. #6459 app*y. Being safe is a must. StAMnlKrfva BfWM, 30 s. nice — - I — I 1.1- I, _, " plays through all of the active good tieafm. looking for other composs*orKjfo ond totaHy Art liUUI 3 I >6a vfluTH iMvifc»-.;jg-i Friendship it a deflrvfe. rek> looking, nice bocty. sttaigfitt GWF, 38, seeking Ufcmate, not just a sex 150-946, PO Box 45699, LucasviUe OH curlotMiVMafas to thate a good BWM 29. 5'8', bfown/blue, acting, seeking select men tionest. into quiet times ana Rider wanted one way to Los Angeles Calif. personal ads in your area of friendship with. Must t>e cteon tooking for ottiers wto wocrid tkxishtp e o defintte possibility fun or»d dinners, my sign b •V: 45699-0O01. for the right man. #631% over 40 for fantasy. Discretton Small car to share expenses, driving and partner. A woman, kind, considerate, nurtur­ preference. and discreet. 18-22. #6647 like to experience and fiave a a a must. #6039 Cancer. No Bl orstrai(/Tts need ing, romantic, warm, humorous and sen­ good time #6453 SWM kite 30's. wisning to apply. tf you poMess ttie same WM 29. seeks a SWM or •IWM 61*. 175 tos. biorxile qualities, please cal me. cross-ctmntry experiences. Leaving early- BIWM 160 lbs.. 6 0', very moot BWM Of MWC wtw cme sitive. Aware of her own needs, able to BM^.23-33.ror first time expe­ tKiir. t>lue eyes, f erijoy ttift out­ #4435 mid December. Please leave message on Roommates/ OR: call our FREEd^mo line at rience. #6646 straight acting, looiting for around ttieir iate 30s to mid doois . hiking, swimming, PtWng discuss them, and willing to hear mine, able ottier BIWM 20-30. for discreet. 40'5 for fun and mutual plea­ and temg woks. I find trim toned BV seeks BF for firat flme answering machine. 244-8297. Ilissa. 263-7900 to try It out and get a GWM 25. 6'. 180. dcvk hotr. safe get togethers. #6444 sure Must tiave open mind experience, no smokers or to give herself to her partner, in all dimen­ dark eyes. italk»^ descent dofk tiaired men wifh IgtTtt eyes arid not into gome ployirvQ. very attroctK^. It you ore be­ coupies please. #6411 sions, not just her physical presence. A Housemates f^ fongjae s^^^m beforc you Lookirig for a professional, fi- My name is Brkan. rm 25 StKxJd be healthy and very Making it Perfectly Queer. Second na­ r>anck»y secure good looking and I wouki Ike to meet a ntoe tween 25-37. and meet or discreet #6314 come cto«e to the above de- Allartton kadies.Hi Imo tional interdiscipUnary graduate student con­ wi>man who takes pride in and enjoys her q^ally^ it. mole who li tn good shape. man to tdR in teve with.#6443 bkxide.blueeyedfemale.21. THE UOOMMATE NETWORK INC. Look­ GWM 58*. 140tos.. mt o most scriptton. please feei free to home. Is capable of making a committment, #6642 HI rriy name It Brton lm a respond to this ad. #6024 tooking for somebody wtio b ference on Ciay and Lesbian Studies, to be ing for a roommate or a place to live? Give sports and music. Looking tor mterested ki gdng out and ftfWM 32. 6'. brown hair, 29 year ofcl BiWM tooktro for a big man to take core of me. held at University of Illinois at Urbana- but is not in a rush ro do so. Understands us a call—wc can help! Wc are Rochester's physically frt guy. 20-&. for HI Imayounglooking40+ hewing a good tkne. I dont brown eyes, seeks omars. 21- #6263 tiave a car so ts tiord fbr me c:hampaign on April 2-4, 1992, seeks presen­ lifetime happiness is achie\'ed by working 40. fbr good times and k>ts of friendship and good times. maia. 5'8*, 145 lbs., and corv roommate referral service. 325-4643. MOV- TO #6440 HI ) m o 32 year oto WM. sidered cute, fm tooking for a to get around and meet new together, ir doesn't just happen. I believe I fun, I'm anxkxjs to hoor from people, but if you're Interested tations 8-IO pages in length. One-page pro­ Gay and Alone? you.o*v® fTieacol. #663) txown hair, brown eyes, 6'2'. special person, no hustlers possess these qualities; they are more impor­ iiWM Professtonal. 35. 60'. 190 tbs. If you're a WM. 18-30. pieose. #6022 give me a con. and if you're Bl. posals should be submitted by Jan 15. 1992. Gay male housemate needed for a three- SEA: TK;: PRESS Bf-caaioiis WM. 25. kx)king for 175 tos.. good toounct. good thorsopius. #4343 ttiat wotid enfoy ttie pkKBures Good tooking WM seeking to Cris Mayo. Dept of Education Policy tant to me than looks or age ! am not a super bedriKjm apartment in the Ciharlotte area. In­ ame€ BiM. for good tfrnas. If body, tooking lot a decreet, Of a fUl body hot oil n^. ttien • A maiching system that works. straight octtng. tiealth con­ Sonne, stroic^ acting. #4004 GWF 21. shy. tionest and sirv dyke. 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Washer-dryer, dishwasher, • Let us help you find someone. TVs and men in tf»e Rfoct^ester masKige and good times. female. #4025 by hearing all the new ads before tual phEKisures. #6223 tos.. kicking ibr skicere indi- GWF, early 30s, attractive, honest, gentle, microwave, New York Times, antiques and ama. Please cal #6623 #6414 vtelual kiterested ki a kasttog MWF looking to start a Paula de c;helly. 473-3050. GWM 37. S'6'. 125 lbs . dortt kindhearted, easygoing. Not into drugs, they get printed. HI GWM. 125. dork br9#^ •IWM 50-K 165 lbs.. 5-10'. reuftlonship or friendship. friendtfiip reksHonst^ wtth a much more. 1370 includes all. Terri, tiair. doric brokvn eyes, very tyown hair, brown eyes, and SF or lw#. ttib b my flfst time clean, ok^. eriioys good stonot. Locking tor ttie some experience, I am Ibkty attrac­ Call today for a free brochure. times after 2am. Ghfe me a you're open, tionest and cor­ HI Imo straight mole. 21. tive. 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