What 5,000Sex Phone Calls... Mary Had to Be Airlifted to a Hospital in $42 Per Call, Received a Call Back from the Casper
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November 23, 2018 | Volume XVI, Issue 14 North Gay Street, Baltimore). World AIDS Day 2018 Events Join the BCHD and their part- ners for breakfast; a musical BY BILL REdmOND-PALMER Street, Hagerstown). The mayor’s World performance by Davon Flem- Saturday, December 1st marks the 31st AIDS Day proclamation will be read at the ing; storytelling; the official annual observance of World AIDS Day. It’s opening of the city council meeting to let launch of the Undetectable = the perfect time to recommit to the the city know its citi- Untransmittable (U = U) cam- fight against HIV, honor those living 31st annual zens care about keep- paign; and invited speakers with the virus, and remember those ing Hagerstown educat- including officials from Balti- who have lost their lives. All listed commemoration ed and proactive about more City, the Maryland State events are free and open to the public. HIV and AIDS while re- Department of Health, and membering where we’ve come from. Num- the National Alliance of State Tuesday, November 27th bers make a statement so please attend and Territorial AIDS Directors. • 7 to 7:30 pm – World AIDS Day City if able. Please stay after the reading for RSVP at Bit.ly/2Q3sGud. Proclamation Reading, Hagerstown, City potential photo opportunities. More info at • 9:30 am – noon – More Hall, Council Chambers (1 East Franklin Bit.ly/2zgvBpQ. Than Three Decades: Inspir- ing HIV Discoveries Through researchers from across the NIH and other Friday, November 30th Basic Science Research, National Li- experts in the HIV field to discuss the role ary Taylor, Balti- • 8:30 to 10:30 am – World AIDS Day brary of Medicine – Lister Hill Auditori- basic scientific research plays in devel- more OUTloud’s Baltimore, hosted by the City Health De- um (NIH Campus, 9000 Rockville Pike, oping effective treatment and prevention associate editor partment. War Memorial Building (101 Bethesda). The event will bring together —continued on page 4 Mand ad director, and Adam Romanic, our web editor, were in a se- rious car accident in Wy- that predates hook-up apps or even the oming last week. Adam was internet. Customers responded to ads in thrown from the car, but miraculously the gay skin magazines and, for what we came through only with scratches. would now consider an outrageous fee of What 5,000Sex Phone Calls... Mary had to be airlifted to a hospital in $42 per call, received a call back from the Casper. She is nursing a man of their dreams. I became everything customer desired when ... Taught me loneliness experienced by gay badly broken leg, but is their suspension of disbelief would allow. they placed the order. A men decades before marriage otherwise on the mend. As it turns out, I had a way with words. competition bodybuilder. about gay men equality or “Will & Grace” We wish her a speedy My disembodied voice became so popular A leather daddy. A surf- would change the landscape. t recovery! that I soon opened my own company, Tele- er dude. A retired minor-league baseball It might be easy to reduce the calls to rotic, and it would become one of the larg- player who now works as a something frivolous, and often they were. h est gay phone sex companies volunteer firefight- But the need to be treated as a complete in the business. er. human being, capable and worthy of affec- I transformed It gave me tion and sex that wasn’t perverse or ugly or my sooth- enormous in- pathological was desperately needed, par- BY marK S. KING ing tones sight into the ticularly for men who were isolated outside The number might be a little low. Over the on the minds and of major metropolitan areas of the country. course of my “phone fantasy” career in the line into desires of gay Trust me, in the early 1980s – and most es- 1980s, I spoke to as many as ten custom- what- men. It provid- pecially during the dawn of AIDS – sexual ers in a given day, numbering in the many ever ed a window into fulfillment and genuine self-love was a lot thousands over the years. That’s a lot of man the lives of men harder to come by. heavy breathing. a around the coun- The podcast “Sexing History” recent- It began when I was a struggling ac- try and some- ly invited me on the show to discuss the tor in Los Angeles and needed income. I times the planet, phone sex industry, intimacy, gay desire, went to work for a gay phone sex company, and into sex, in- and how HIV/AIDS altered everything. It the kind that doesn’t really exist anymore, timacy, and the —continued on page 12 Co-Publishers Jim Becker • Jim Williams [email protected] Executive Editor Jim Becker [email protected] [email protected] Associate Editor & Director of Marketing & Production Mary Taylor [email protected] Arts and Entertainment Editor Frankie Kujawa [email protected] Leather Editor Rodney Burger [email protected] Contributing Writers for Baltimore OUTloud Andre Shakti • Bill Redmond-Palmer • Brynn Devereau Charles Dudley, MPT • Chuck Duncan • David Egan David Placher • Dr. Eva Hersh MD • Elyse Buchbinder Frankie Kujawa • Gregg Shapiro • Jabari Lyles Janan Broadbent, Ph. D. • Jeffrey Clagett • Josh Buchbinder Lauren Lynch • Lee Carpenter • Linda A. Dominguez, Esq. Mark S. 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The opinions expressed in Baltimore OUTloud are solely those of the writers unless otherwise indicated and do not necessarily reflect the views of Pride Media, Ltd., and the staff. © 2018 – All rights reserved Chair of the Board of Trustees – Jim Becker President – Jim Williams Secretary and Treasurer – Mike Chase 2 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMBER 23, 2018 • BALTIMOREOUTLOUD.COM NEWS // local Transcending Manners Manners Barriers: Get Record Release Prepped on PrEP Party Join AIDS Action Baltimore for a Town Hall After a long wait, unabashedly queer Bal- Meeting on HIV prevention and pre-exposure timore-based noise-pop rockers Manners prophylaxis entitled “TRANScending Barriers: Manners are releasing their new EP, First Quality Sexual Healthcare for the Trans Com- in Line, on November 27th. “I like to de- munity,” on Wednesday, November 28th, at scribe Manners Manners as the Breeders Boosting empowerment and breaking the bonds 6 pm at the Waxter Center (1000 Cathedral if they were fronted by Elvis Costello,” said Street at Eager Street, Baltimore). Manners Manners lead guitarist and vocal- of homophobia, racism, and stigma in same The event will include dinner and a forum ist Jack Pinder. “It’s cerebral, emotional, gender-loving (SGL) men in Baltimore City to address the barriers faced by the trans confrontational songwriting, couched in • NETWORKING community in accessing quality healthcare heavy, 90s-influenced power pop.” services including PrEP and PEP. A safe Every 1st Wednesday space will be provided for trans folk to share • HIV EDUCATION their experiences in various health care set- Every Last Wednesday tings – and where workers, providers, and trans people can talk about the way forward. • SOCIAL EVENTS The event is free, but please RSVP at Monthly [email protected] to insure enough food. • ART CREATION PROJECT For more info, call AIDS Action Baltimore at 410-837-2437. Organizers say, “You are en- [email protected] • 410-837-5573 couraged to bring your friends.” t FB: New Horizons Baltimore • aidsactionbaltimore.org HIV Prevention Advocacy for SGL Men's Health supported by New Wave Singers: ViiV Healthcare's ACCELERATE! Program ‘Sounds of the Meet ‘Manners Manners’ Season’ The band will host a release party for their new record, with guests Homosupe- Enjoy the “Sounds of the Season” with the rior, Quattracenta, and Hexgirlfriends, on New Wave Singers, “Maryland’s premier Friday, December 7th at Metro Gallery GLBT mixed chorus,” and their new artistic (1700 North Charles Street, Baltimore). director Timothy East Gillham, at their two Doors open at 8:30 pm. “We recorded First holiday concerts on December 1st and 2nd. In Line in August 2017,” said Pinder, “so its On Saturday, December 1st, the concert will definitely very momentous for us to finally begin at 7 pm, at Immanuel United Church be able to release this EP and celebrate it of Christ (1905 Edmondson Avenue, Catons- with this lineup of queer and femme front- ville). On Sunday, December 2nd, the con- ed bands we love in Baltimore.” cert will begin at 4 pm at Grace United Meth- The band isn’t afraid to be as queer as they want to be, singing about topics ranging from transphobic sexual rejec- tion, to the perils of hero worship.