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Iran, Syria: Smuggling Weapons To The weapons were to be transported through by maintaining a close relationship with the with Hamas’ interest in undermining Fatah, Gain Influence In The West Bank Jordan, from the Syrian border southward Syrian and Iranian regimes. As sectarian ten- especially as the Fatah-led Palestinian Na- CONTINUED FROM P. 1 to Al Karak, to circumvent the large security sions grew over the Syrian battle of Qusair in tional Authority engages in more peace nego- presence around the Jordan River Valley. The the spring, reports began emerging that some tiations with Israel that fail to acknowledge posite direction -- from Syria into Jordan fi nal destination of these weapons, according Hamas fi ghters had joined Sunni rebels in Hamas’ authority in the Gaza Strip. -- stand out. Jordan is already on high alert to the contacts, was intended to be Hebron in Syria against the regime. At that point, Iran for attacks, given its own history with jihad- the Fatah-run West Bank. had to worry about its leverage weakening Challenges To Iran And Syria’s Plans ist activity and the proliferation of jihadists The smuggling operations fi t with a pat- among Palestinian proxies in Gaza, Syria and Physically operating in the West Bank is in neighboring Syria. Moreover, Jordan’s at- tern that Stratfor identifi ed in November Lebanon, all while Iran’s main ally Hezbollah not easy, though. Fatah is the dominant party tempt to balance between supporting the 2012, when Palestinian contacts in the region was heavily preoccupied with trying to hold in the West Bank and controls local security rebels and maintaining a relationship with reported that Iran was working with Pales- its ground in Lebanon while fi ghting Sunni forces, who frequently arrest Hamas mem- the Syrian Alawite regime could make the tinian groups to try to transport munitions rebels in Syria. bers. The Fatah leadership will continue en- country vulnerable to attacks by militants on through Iraq and Jordan to the West Bank. To But Iran also sought ways to maintain deavoring to prevent Hamas from making either side of the confl ict. Jordanian authori- achieve this, Iran would likely work through its leverage among the Palestinians. Even as serious inroads in the West Bank that could ties have thus tried to reinforce security on Syrian intelligence and local Palestinian prox- Hamas tried to publicly distance itself from end up further threatening Fatah’s credibility. the Syrian-Jordanian border and have tightly ies. The Popular Front for the Liberation of Tehran, it was Iran’s supply of long-range Fajr- Moreover, Jordan’s increased security pres- restricted the movement of Syrian refugees Palestine-General Command, the group the 5 rockets to Hamas that nearly led to an Is- ence on the border with Syria, Israeli-Fatah in the north around the Al Zaatari camp, smugglers were allegedly affi liated with, has raeli invasion of Gaza at the end of 2012 and security collaboration and Israel’s heavy secu- had a close working relationship with Syrian intelligence, and it is plausible that members There are growing indications that Iran, Syria and their local would have been commissioned to transport the weapons from Syrian warehouses to the proxies may be attempting to build up militant capabilities in the West Bank. Though the secular, left-leaning West Bank to eventually threaten Israel. Physically transferring Popular Front for the Liberation of Palestine- weapons into Fatah-controlled West Bank will remain a key General Command is at ideological odds with Islamist Hamas, those ideological lines challenge, as recent arrests of weapons smugglers in Jordan have can be blurred in such operations, especially shown. Though Iran and Syria face many constraints in trying to when they are undertaken at the behest of the groups’ Syrian patrons. Hamas has a lim- spread militancy to the West Bank, their quiet efforts are worth ited presence in the West Bank, but it does noting, particularly as Hamas and Iran are now finding reasons to enjoy support in some of the surrounding vil- lages in the Hebron Hills, where the weapons repair their relationship after a period of strain. were likely to be stored. exposed a still robust relationship between rity presence around the Jordan River Valley Syria-Jordan-West Bank smuggling route. Iran And Syria’s Plans the ideologically opposed allies. With Egypt’s also make any route through Jordan highly For The West Bank Muslim Brotherhood politically sidelined, susceptible to detection, as the recent arrests where militants could try to blend in with Both Iran and Syria would like to build the Egyptian military bearing down on Ha- in Jordan indicate. thousands of refugees. up an additional source of militant leverage mas in the Sinai Peninsula and cutting off These challenges have not deterred Iran However, Stratfor’s own investigation against Israel. The Iranian regime grew con- the group’s supply lines and Syria’s Sunni and Syria from trying to use their local net- into the latest weapons shipment traveling cerned with the rise of the Muslim Brother- rebels in a stalemate with the regime, Hamas works to build up weapon caches in the through Jordan reveals a different target al- hood in the region that led Hamas to distance is likely to fi nd even more reason to remain West Bank so that eventually Palestinian together. Contacts in the area claim that the itself from the Iran-Syria axis. When the Mus- close to Tehran. Iran, meanwhile, is trying militant factions can try to ambush Israel smugglers caught Aug. 6 were Palestinians lim Brotherhood came to power in Egypt, to compensate for the sectarian challenges Defense Forces patrols. The inclusion of anti- from Syria who were affi liated with the Popu- and when Syrian Islamists were making confronting its allies in Syria, Lebanon and tank weapons and man-portable air-defense lar Front for the Liberation of Palestine-Gen- gains in their rebellion against the al Assad Iraq by widening its militant proxy network systems in these weapons shipments to the eral Command. The suspects allegedly were regime, Hamas calculated that in this sectari- wherever it can. Part of this strategy involves West Bank would be particularly alarming carrying weapons obtained from Syrian army an environment it was better to align with its building up a presence in the West Bank to to Israel. The threat has not yet materialized, warehouses in Sweida in southwest Syria. ideological allies than to risk alienating itself threaten Israel. This strategy also falls in line but these efforts bear watching closely.

children and working with Dr. Lazar, will whereas middle school might study goal- New Assistant Principal at Moriah create adult education seminars. There will setting, self-advocacy, or eating disorder pre- CONTINUED FROM P. 1 much like Aharon and his disciples did. be a book club on parenting-themed books, vention. Follow-up newsletters will go home Through this initiative, Moriah hopes to fur- and special guest lecturers who will discuss so that parents can further support these im- and Assistant Principal in the Middle School; ther elevate a warm, nurturing, welcoming parenting skills. portant lessons. her training, background and experience environment that above all, values peace.” Dr. Lazar is very excited and looks for- “I’m very excited about the new role. It’s make her the perfect fi t. With a doctorate in To pursue peace, the students will have ward to her new role. “Each grade is going a testament to our school board and the school psychology already earned, she is cur- to create a culture of peace. Selected parents, to have a different thematic focus, and I plan leadership that this position was created,” rently completing a degree in Educational students, and teachers will be the School on spending several hours over the course of Lazar says. “More than that, it’s a testament Leadership, and will be a certifi ed education- Life Team who will work to develop aware- the year in each class, working with the stu- to what the parent and school body stand al supervisor in the State of New Jersey and a ness of what it means and how to make dents,” she says. First grade might focus on for, and the successful partnership between licensed principal for grades K-12. peace, by promoting positive values from confl ict resolution, and they will use books Assistant Principal for Student Life is the Torah texts. School policies will be reviewed and stories as a springboard for discussion, CONTINUED ON P. 17 school leader, who is rooted in core Jewish and renewed. values and ideals, and uses them to focus on The second step is actually learning how every child’s social, emotional, ethical, and to be a Rodef Shalom through the prism of civic development,. It is a combination of Jewish texts. Dr. Lazar will visit classrooms hands-on training of students in meaningful to reinforce the program’s importance. Then and positive social interactions within the students will get hands on exposure to what ROSENBERG & ROSENBERG LLP school and beyond, preventing negative de- it means to be a Rodef Shalom. They will go velopments, and creating opportunities for on fi eld trips to a variety of institutions who ATTORNEYS AT LAW students to take on leadership roles in the pursue peace and compassion, such as soup local community. kitchens and food pantries, to experience This past July, Dr. Lazar attended a semi- fi rst-hand what chessed is and to engage in REAL ESTATE ‡ BUSINESS ‡ ESTATES & TRUSTS ‡ TAXATION nar at the Pardes Center for Jewish Educa- acts of tikkun olam. The fi nal stage is a two- tors, and plans on instituting Rodef Shalom year long peer-program, where students are LITIGATION ‡ TRANSACTIONSġ a unique program on Moses’ brother Aaron, trained to help their peers through peer me- as a role model. Biblically, Aharon is called diation programs. a Rodef Shalom, or “pursuer of peace,” and A Student Life Committee, made up of NEW YORK: (646) 233-‡ġNEW JERSEY: (201) 244-4420 students must fulfi ll certain criteria to be parents, has also been established to help considered “Rodef Shalom certifi ed.”By us- launch initiatives to build a positive school ing the program, students will learn valuable climate. They will enable parents to be HTTP://ROSENBERGROSENBERG.COM skills to resolve confl ict and create peace, more involved in school programs for their

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s the latest round of Mideast formation against the societies and has fought for you.” Shmuel Alef, 8:19- Apeace talks begin anew, we under- mores and values that surrounded 20 warns the people that there will stand the need to be realistic peace- Am Yisroel back in the pagan tribal always be war and taxes if they took makers, as those who understand the days, and the Torah was the fi rst on a king, and that doing so is an evil huge risks of making peace, and who document to ever discuss peace as thing to do. are pained by all the deaths and mis- a normal condition of life. Devorim So despite all the pain and tzaar, ery and stress that has gone before 20 makes it clear Hashem is our war- despite all that has gone before, be- and may well continue after these rior, and anyone who ever commit- cause of the chaos in the Middle East next nine months are spent talking. ted an aveyrah cannot be a soldier. that has nothing to do with Israel, After all, many in our community Even the order to murder Amalek is no matter how much our enemies have close relatives in the IDF, and problematical. See the Rambam in want to blame Israel for the coups no one with half a heart and half a Melochim 6! Devorim states that a against Morsi and Assad, and Erdog- brain wants more bloodshed. And Jewish army can’t lay a siege, pillage an’s fevered dream of a new Muslim certainly, the closer we get to a possi- or rape women in the cities of its en- Brotherhood Ottoman Empire being ble peace agreement, the more likely emies with impunity. The Torah also thwarted by, he says, the Israelis, we the terrorists will ramp up the vio- makes it clear that the rulers of the still, because we are Jews, must give lence to sabotage the talks...and we Jewish people need to have a sefer peace a chance. How many times a Jews will say, “Don’t bother.” Torah written and kept at their side day do we utter the phrase, “Oseh Sha- The Torah and Talmud are very to remind them that Hashem is the lom Bimromov, Hu Yaaseh Shalom clear about the pursuit of peace... ultimate power. Aleinu vi Al Kol Yisroel, Amen?”Does Tanach and Chazalhave always been As it says in Yehoshua 23:3-13, “A that phrase carry meaning? If it does, more concerned with peace than single man of you put a thousand of the answer is Rodeph Shalom, pursu- war. After all, the Torah is a reaction them to fl ight, for it is Hashem who ing peace. LETTERS TO THE EDTOR

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Former Yavneh Principal Leads A Prin- I found it interesting that she wrote up your sheitel and wardrobe, start at- I also feel that you should have inter- cipled Life in Israel (August 9), the ar- to a rabbi for her response, when she tending shul events and local meetings viewed the Republican candidates run- ticle mistakenly names Rabbi Gene should have spoken to some older without him—and make sure he knows ning in the special primary for US Sena- Kwalwasser as the Mashgiach Rucha- women who have been through this ex- that you’ve started checking out match- tor, not only the Democratic candidates. ni of Yeshivat Lev Hatorah which his act same scenario with their husbands. making sites to see which one suits your Your readers deserve to learn about ALL son, Rav Benjy, founded. While Rabbi Nagging does not work, and no, she is needs best and will help fi nd you the the candidates that were running at the Gene volunteers in the Lev Hatorah not his mommy. 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approved 890 new housing units in Gilo. tinue to mercilessly fi re deadly rockets at Force-Feeding Peace That news followed the Israeli Housing Israeli cities. What concessions have they Ministry’s recent approval of 1,200 new made? Absolutely none. By N. Aaron Troodler, Esq. were met with acclaim and adoration by apartments in parts of Jerusalem and in There are clearly a number of funda- the Palestinians. One man, whose brother, Yehuda and Shomron. mental issues that must fi rst be addressed uch to the chagrin Hosni Sawalha, was among the prison- The uproar that ensued was incredible. before a substantive and enduring peace Mof the internation- ers released after he boarded a bus near Although Secretary Kerry publically stated agreement can be reached. al community, Middle Tel Aviv in 1990 at the age of 16 and began that he had conferred with Prime Minis- During a recent visit to Israel, Majority East peace has remained stabbing passengers, killing one man and ter Netanyahu and had been assured that Leader Eric Cantor, the highest ranking elusive. Many well-respected diplomats wounding several others, echoed the sen- the new construction would not affect the Jewish member of Congress in history have tried their hand at facilitating peace timents of many of his fellow Palestinians peace map, he nonetheless felt compelled and the cousin of a Tel Aviv terror victim, between Israel and the Palestinians, but when he said “for sure, they are heroes.” to reiterate the American policy with re- observed that peace will only occur when none have succeeded. Palestinian Authority Chairman Mah- gard to Israeli settlements, noting that the Arab world goes through a “cultural Secretary of State John Kerry is the lat- moud Abbas said “We shall not rest until they are “illegitimate.” mind-shift” regarding Israel and accepts est diplomatic offi cial to take the plunge they are all with us,” referring to his desire Israel determines that it requires more Israel’s right to exist. and attempt to tackle this herculean task. to see all of the Palestinian terrorists freed housing for its citizens, announces plans The problem is that right now Secretary Over the past several months he has en- from Israeli jails. to construct new housing on Israeli soil, Kerry is trying to force-feed peace to Israel gaged in intense shuttle diplomacy efforts In recent weeks, rock attacks by Pales- and is the target of widespread condemna- and the Palestinians. Yes, peace is an admi- and made numerous overtures to the re- tinians targeting buses traveling in and tion? What other nation in the world is rable goal. But trying to compel the two spective parties, all in the hopes that the around the Old City of Jerusalem have told that it cannot build housing within sides to make peace is unreasonable in two sides would agree to return to the ne- become more prevalent and a number of its own borders? The notion that the in- light of the great divide that unfortunately gotiating table. Israeli passengers have sustained injuries ternational community can dictate when still exists. In a sign that persistence may indeed as a result. and where Israel can build is preposterous. Israel cannot be coerced into making pay off, Kerry got the Israelis and the Pal- Hezbollah boasted that it was respon- It is against this tenuous backdrop that peace. Until all of the outstanding issues estinians to agree to sit down with each sible for planting the explosives that re- the peace talks resume after a long hiatus. are duly addressed and resolved accord- other face-to-face for the fi rst time in three cently injured four Israeli soldiers near the Let us not forget that Israel has histori- ingly, it is highly questionable whether years. However, many are skeptical that Lebanese border. “We will cut the legs of cally made great concessions in an effort this new round of talks will yield any real the talks will bear any fruit. Israeli soldiers who enter the Lebanese to achieve peace. They reluctantly released results. In the days leading up to the resurrec- lands,” said Hasan Nasrallah, the leader of Palestinian terrorists and put them back We all yearn for peace. We want noth- tion of the peace talks, there was a whirl- Hezbollah. on the streets. Eight years ago they uproot- ing more than for our Israeli brethren to wind of activity that solidifi ed the doubt Israeli civilians were forced to run for ed the families of Gush Katif and forced be able to live in peace and harmony, with in the minds of many as to the viability of cover when a rocket was fi red at the south- them from their homes in an attempt to no fear of attacks by its Arab neighbors. the negotiations. ern city of Eilat. In response to the ongo- realize peace. They have instituted mora- But the peace that we crave is a lasting In order to help bring the Palestinians ing rocket fi re from Hamas, Israel carried toriums on new construction in order to and legitimate peace, not some half-baked to the table, the United States brokered a out an airstrike on Gaza. Referring to the seek peace. “peace” agreement that is rooted in mis- deal whereby Israel would release 104 Pal- incessant rocket barrage targeting Israeli And what concessions have the Pales- trust and misguided principles. Israel de- estinian prisoners over the next several citizens, Lt. Col. Peter Lerner, a spokesman tinians made? They continue to refuse serves better. months. The majority of these prisoners for the Israel Defense Forces, noted that to recognize Israel as a Jewish state. They carried out deadly attacks against Israelis “this is an absurd situation that would not continue to call for the destruction of the N. Aaron Troodler is an attorney and a and have the blood of innocent people on be tolerated anywhere else in the world.” State of Israel. They continue to breed in- principal of Paul Revere Public Relations, a their hands. Adding to the drama that threatened citement and teach their children to hate public relations and political consulting fi rm. Yet, when the fi rst 26 of these prison- to derail the peace talks before they even Jews. They continue to carry out heinous Visit him on the Web at www.PaulReverePR. ers were released, their homecomings began was the announcement that Israel acts of terror against Israelis. They con- com or follow him on Twitter: @troodler ME’ACHOREI HAPARGOD cil. With no claim of innocence whatso- gible ramifi cations of the fall-out is sad- A Light Unto The Nations? ever, his apologies fl owed immediately af- ly simple. The world of Jewish charity is ter the Attorney General’s announcement. no longer a level playing fi eld. The scan- By Robert Katz reasons, and who want to slay the nay- One week later, the Met Council already dals mentioned above are the only ones sayer dragons who questions the ethics announced the hiring of New York City known because the others have yet to need you to under- of Jewish charitable work on a seemingly Finance Commissioner David Frankel as break down, or be broken down. I stand why I am writ- weekly basis. If Willie can fall, then whom Rapfogel’s replacement. A case of the fox Whistleblowers have yet to whistle. ing this and why so can you trust? guarding the hen house? We shall see… There is no way to, God forbid, compare many of my colleagues The scandals have come fast and furi- And now, a question. Wasn’t ANYONE the two current events in terms of their are feeling the same ous. They have been dizzying- there’s that paying attention to the repercussions of importance in our lives, but for those emotions. word again: the Bernie Madoff scandal? who need a relevant analogy, there are “I am dizzy. I feel pained, depressed, • The Holocaust Claims Conference and Back in 2008, it was revealed that our many other charitable organizations tak- reeling and distraught.” And those aren’t its well documented missing $57 million most venerable institutions lost hundreds ing steroids. I fear that those of us playing even my words—they are what a colleague dollars to fraudulent and doctored claims of millions of dollars in a scam that could it clean will only suffer. As the Forward wrote me soon after the news broke. by in-house staff only be described as playing to the greed wrote: “Rapfogel’s abrupt fi ring amid the Willie Rapfogel was fi red from his long • The well-documented Yeshiva Univer- and hubris of our communal leaders. The disclosure of a criminal investigation into time position as CEO of the Metropolitan his fi nancial dealings could now make it Council (Met Council) on Jewish Poverty. harder to get government funds to poor Willie Rapfogel, noted champion of the Jewish leaders, both paid and volunteer, must represent the ideals Jews, some offi cials say.” poor, communal leader and mentor to so of their important communal organizations and they must serve as “Whenever you lose someone with that many, was removed by the Board of the kind of expertise, you lose a relationship Met Council from his position while on proper role models of ethics and communal behavior. base that was developed over years and vacation and is currently under criminal that provided signifi cant dividends to the investigation by New York State Attorney sity case and its alleged decades-long cover outcry was strong, but brief. Far too brief, community,” said Hank Sheinkopf, a Dem- General Eric Schneiderman for allegedly up of sexual abuse, resulting in a $380 mil- it now seems, for lessons have not been ocratic political consultant. receiving kickbacks from his dealings with lion dollar lawsuit fi led by 31 alumni learned, and the quick road to the quick The average guy loses. The hard work- insurance companies. Reports indicate • Sol Adler, long time Executive Direc- fi x of fi nancial gain seems to have won the ing, clean and dedicated professionals Rapfogel, already earning a salary of at tor of the East Coast’s most prestigious day, yet again. lose. The Jewish needy and poor are the least $400,000, may have received person- JCC- otherwise known as the “ 92nd street The supreme message of importance biggest losers. al kickbacks worth hundreds of thousands Y”, was recently fi red from his long-time here must be clearly understood by all, re- And no one, but I mean no one, wins. of dollars. position for having an extra-marital affair peated over and over again much as we re- This is not just another scandal. This with his assistant, whose son, upon re- peat the thirteen attributes of God’s Mercy Robert Katz has been a Bergen County resi- is not just another Ponzi scheme. This is lease from prison, was hired by Adler and at this time of year: dent for 25 years and has been a Jewish commu- a knife to the heart of anyone in Jewish ran his own 92nd Street Y vendor kickback If I may step down from my soap box nal professional since graduating Yeshiva Unver- Communal Service who tries to do right, scheme. Details have yet to emerge. for a moment, allow me to share with sity in 1985. He can be reached for comments at: who hold their heads high for all the right And now Willie Rapfogel at Met Coun- you another real diffi culty here. The tan- [email protected]

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 9 WORLD NEWS Poland Shechita Ban Update

Warsaw—The Jerusalem Post reports that bavitch Rabbis, Paris; Rabbi Gershon Men- Margolin and Polish Foreign Minister Radoslaw Sikorski del Garelik, Head of the Executive Commit- the EJA have also recently met with a group of European rab- tee Rosh of a Beis Din in Milan; Rabbi David demanded the res- bis and told them that “the Polish govern- Moshe Liberman, Rabbi of Shomrei Hadass, ignation of Polish ment is determined to fi nd a solution that Antwerp; Rabbi Azriel Chaikin, Former Chief Chief Rabbi Michael would restore schechita in Poland “despite Rabbi of Ukraine; Rabbi Yirmiyah Menach- Schudrich over his a ban on such slaughter that came into ef- em Kohen, Av Paris Beis Din, head of Divorce failure to lobby suc- fect in January. and Maase Beis Din Department; Rabbi cessfully to prevent The delegation from the haredi Rabbini- Berel Lazar, one of the two chief rabbis of the ban. [Decades cal Centre of Europe, with many members Russia. ago, Rabbi Berel Lazar Rabbi Benyomin Jacobs Rabbi Yisroel Yaakov Lichtenstein from Chabad, were told, “The Polish govern- Among those in attendance were Rabbi of Chabad and Rabbi ment will operate on all levels to reach this Binyomin Jacobs, chief rabbi of the Inter- Pinchas Goldschmidt had power battle for in Poland who have been hit hard by the rul- solution as quickly as possible.” provincial Chief Rabbinate in Holland, Rab- the position of Chief Rabbi of Russia— ing. The suit is also considered an infringe- The Rabbinical Centre of Europe (RCE), bi Yisrael Yaakov Lichtenstein of the UK’s which ended in a tie. They share the title.] ment on the right of the Polish Jewish com- based in Brussels, was established in 2000 Federation of Synagogues, and Rabbi Men- Both Schudrich and the local Jewish com- munity’s right to fi ght its own battles. (5760) at the request of communal Rabbis achem Margolin, General Director of the Eu- munity and Margolin have retained lawyers JPost also reported that the Union of Jew- throughout Europe “according to instruc- ropean Jewish Association (EJA). and are appealing to Poland’s Constitutional ish Religious Communities in Poland said tions of most prominent Rabbis,” who are Sikorski told them he “intends to submit Tribunal to have the ban overturned. The “that while Polish Jews believe the EJA has the supreme authority of the Centre, decid- a request to the court to judge the petition EJA hired Roman Giertych, a former far ‘every right to protest,’ it is ‘unacceptable ing its direction and also the source of its lodged by the European Jewish Association right politician whose faction, the League of that any legal or political initiatives from reliability. Among them are: Rabbi Hillel and receive a ruling on the issue as soon as Polish Families, is antisemitic. Giertych also abroad are launched without coordination, Pevzner OBM, Head of Committee of Lu- possible.” represents farmers and agricultural interests or at least consultation, with us.’” A Message To Our Community From Rabbis Adler and Krohn In the last issue of JLBC, we interviewed Rabbi Michael Schudrich in Warsaw about the schechita ban in Poland. This is a complicated issue involving Muslims, Jews, Polish agribusiness and hundreds of millions of dollars a year. At this time, schechi- ta has been stopped while the issue is on appeal to the constitu- tional tribunal in Poland, on the grounds of freedom of religion. The Stella K. Abraham Beit Midrash for Women See article on page in this issue for the latest update. In the meantime, Rabbi Schudrich spoke to Rabbis Adler and Krohn, of Yeshivat Har Etzion at Migdal Oz who have written the following letter to the Jewish community.

and Ma’ayanot Yeshiva High School for Girls Dear Community Members, Many of you are aware that the Polish Sejm (Parliament) recently turned back an attempt by the Prime Minister to legal- invite you to join us for an evening of Song and Inspiration ize kosher shechita. As a result, shechita by kosher butchers is currently prohibited in Poland. We are very disturbed by this turn of events. Following the advice of Rabbi Michael Schudrich of Warsaw, we urge you to communicate your concerns to the Polish Ambassador to the Erev Shira v’Hitorerut United States: Ambassador Ryszard Schnepf, 2640 16th St. NW, Washington, DC 20009, 202-499-1700, or via email to waszyn- [email protected] Rabbis Adler and Krohn have sent a letter reproduced below that you can use as a model. We encourage each of you to com- Motzai Shabbat, August 31st - First night of Selichot municate your concerns so that Polish Jews will again have ready access to kosher shechita. Kol Yisrael Areivim Zeh Bazeh.

with Guest Speaker Dear Ambassador Schnepf, It is with great pain that we write to voice our disappoint- Mrs. Shoshana Samuels ment regarding to the recent decision of the Sejm to reject a bill that would have allowed our Jewish brethren to continue Migdal Oz alumna, Yoetzet Halacha, Teacher at Ma’ayanot Yeshiva H.S. the practice of ritual slaughter, or Shechita. As you are aware, without shechita Jewish law does not al- low for a Jew to consume any meat or fowl. Therefore, in ef- 10:15pm—Women 11:30pm — Shiur 12:15pm– Men and fect, the decision of the Polish parliament to outlaw this prac- tice has put a signifi cant strain on the daily lives of Polish Jews. Only Men & Women Women However, the reason the writing of this letter is particularly Between Selichot &Tefila: Selichot painful is that, of all of the countries in the world, we would Erev Shira have hoped that the government of Poland would understand Approaching HaShem Minyan the danger of laws that target minority citizens for persecu- (bring a musical tion. Poland banned ritual slaughter in 1937, prior to World during the Yamim Noraim War II. It is chilling to think that 76 years later, the Polish gov- instrument!) ernment has not yet been able to overcome those elements who wish to lead the country backward in history. We kindly request that you do everything in your power to LOCATION: aid those groups within Poland and the European Union who are working diligently to overturn the ban on ritual slaughter. Ma’ayanot Yeshiva H.S. for Girls In so doing, you will have chosen to stand among those who not only refuse to forget the past, but who are also determined 1650 Palisade Avenue not to allow history to repeat itself. Teaneck, NJ Respectfully yours, Rabbi Yosef Adler Rabbi Beni Krohn Questions? Please call 212-732-4874 or email Sharon Rifkind at [email protected]. Rabbi Assistant Rabbi Congregation Rinat Yisrael, Teaneck

10 August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM WORLD NEWS BRIEFS

Iran Enhancing Naval Base TAU Will Offer Cyber Security Degree campaign to uproot terrorist infrastruc- cally deals with defense procurement in Port Sudan Raphael Kahan of Calcalist reports ture in the territory, and Egyptian military issues. An annual reshuffl ing, the article (INEGMA)—In 2008, Iran and Sudan that the Yuval Ne’eman Workshop for offi cials claim that as part of the campaign states, “underlines full government con- signed a military cooperation agreement Science, Technology and Security at Tel they recently attacked a jihadist missile trol over defense procurement decisions and in May 2013 the pace and scope of the Aviv University will launch a new under- team. The Mujahideen Shura Council in in the future.” More broadly, the personnel construction of Iranian naval and logisti- graduate and graduate program for stud- the Environs of Jerusalem, a Salafi st group shifts—which involved interventions by cal bases in Port Sudan were enhanced re- ies in cyber security in 2014. The degree based out of the Gaza Strip, blamed Is- Prime Minister Recep Tayyip Erdogan— markably. Sudan has become an extension will be awarded in conjunction with the rael for the raid on the missile team. The have been described as “the latest blow to of Iran’s proxy war against Israel, allowing university’s Faculty of Engineering and group took responsibility for fi ring the Turkey’s beleaguered offi cer corps.” Many Iran to use Sudanese territory as a staging School of Computer Science and is the rocket on Eilat, which the organization de- of the offi cers who were friendly liaisons ground for arms shipments to Gaza and fi rst of its kind in the world. The pro- clared was part of making “the Jews... pay to the Israeli military were arrested when Lebanon via the Red Sea and Egyptian Sinai, gram will include courses in information dearly.” Erdogan took power. Meanwhile Erdogan in addition to Khartoum’s support for Ha- security, computer science, international announced this week that the govern- mas and other militant Palestinian groups. law and the history of the cyber security High Holidays Interactive Map ment will clamp down on future anti-gov- fi eld Development of the cyber secu- Launched for Birthright Alumni ernment protests. Iranian Moderation rity fi eld has been declared one of the (JNS.org)—NEXT: A Division of Birth- (Honest Reporting)—Hassan Rohani major objectives of the Israeli govern- right Israel Foundation has launched its Coptics Under Attack proves his “moderation” by appointing ment. Graduates will fi ll meet the need 2013 High Holidays Initiative, featuring an As Scapegoats in Egypt as foreign minister the Holocaust deny- for quality personnel in the fi eld, which interactive map of more than 250 holiday (TIP)—The BBC reports on “a further ing Mohammad Javad Zarif. Zarif has suffers from a shortage of experts. Check services set to take place in more than 145 backlash” against Egypt’s Christians, who previously served as Iran’s ambassador to Point, Imperva, Elbit are some of Israel’s U.S. cities. The goal of the project is to em- have found themselves increasingly sub- the UN. David Feith (Wall St. Journal via cyber security companies. power Birthright trip alumni and others ject to physical attacks—up to and in- Google News) writes: “Iran Nominee Seen in the U.S. Jewish community to create cluding several murders—at the hands of As Olive Branch to United States,” blares a Hezbollah Ambushes Israeli Soldiers personal High Holidays experiences. The Islamists who support former Egyptian headline from Reuters. His appointment, on Border, Lebanese Media Reports map is available at birthrightisraelnext. President Mohammed Morsi. The outlet asserts Bloomberg News, “suggests the (JNS.org)—Lebanese media reports sug- org/highholidays and includes a resource notes that while “the Coptic Orthodox new Iranian president would like to break gest that Hezbollah was behind the explo- guide as well as small subsidies for Rosh Church is one of Christianity’s oldest,” Is- a 34-year impasse between the Islamic Re- sion that injured four Israeli soldiers on Hashanah meals and Yom Kippur break- lamist extremists have since July launched public and the U.S.” Avideo of a visit he the Lebanese border last week. Calling it the-fasts. attacks against Copts, “holding them part- made to Columbia University in 2006 an “ambush,” Lebanon’s Al-Akhbar news- ly responsible” for the army moves that shows Mr. Zarif sounding a lot like former paper, which is sympathetic to Hezbollah, Turkey Demotes Military Officers removed Morsi’s Muslim Brotherhood- President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, the describes how Israeli commandos crossed To Erode Their Influence linked government from power. Scores of Holocaust-denying fi rebrand that Tehran’s into Lebanese territory and were hit by an (TIP)—Turkey’s Hurriyet discusses re- Christian homes and buildings have been apologists like to portray as an aberration “explosive device containing four smaller cent promotions and demotions in the defaced and burned. Recently, a10-year-old in Iranian politics. devices fi lled with ball bearings.” The two country’s military, concluding that they girl walking home from Bible class was explosions had a blast radius of about 15 highlight the extent to which Ankara’s shot in the chest and killed, making her, Palestinians Dismiss Prisoner meters, enough to hit everything and eve- ruling Islamist Justice and Development according to Amnesty International, the Release as a “Bribe” ryone that moved within the blast zone. Party is succeeding in eroding the infl u- seventh Christian murdered in recent sec- Khaled Abu Toameh of the Gatestone Israel’s Defense Minister Moshe Ya’alon ence of army fi gures. The article specifi - tarian violence across Egypt. Institute notes that those who argue that said the soldiers were on a routine mis- the release of Palestinian prisoners boosts sion and inadvertently activated a land the standing of PA President Mahmoud mine, Ynet reported. “Our soldiers defend Abbas and facilitates the resumption of us and our borders, which is what they peace talks with Israel may be wrong. were doing last night. We will continue Many Palestinians regard the Israeli move to react to defend Israel’s borders,” Netan- as something that Israel was supposed to yahu was quoted as saying by Army Radio. have done anyway, many years ago. So the PA does not see the release of prisoners Iron Dome Protected Eilat as a conciliatory move on the part of the (TIP)—Israel’s Iron Dome anti-missile Israeli government. He predicts Abbas and system last week intercepted a rocket fi red Fatah will present the prisoner release as from the Egypt-controlled Sinai Peninsula a “huge achievement” by Abbas. But some and aimed at the southern resort city of Palestinians, including Abbas loyalists, see Eilat. The incident comes as analysts are the release as a bribe. There are also Pales- expressing pointed concerns that attacks tinians who see the release of 100 prison- from the increasingly anarchic Sinai may ers as a “minor” achievement compared to eventually force Israel to take direct action Hamas’ success in securing the release of on Egyptian soil against jihadists fi ring more than 1,000 inmates in return for kid- into the Jewish state. The Egyptian army napped IDF soldier Gilad Shalit. is currently engaged in a wide-ranging

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(JNS.org)—Secretary of State John Kerry and explicitly suggested that it could de- recently warned Prime Minister Benjamin rail peace talks. Kerry brushed aside sug- Netanyahu that the Jewish state might gestions that the new construction should soon face an international delegitimiza- derail negotiations, and emphasized that tion campaign, columnist Jeffrey Goldberg “if you resolve the borders of Israel—and reported for Bloomberg View. you can only do that also resolving the se- Secretary of State John Kerry also curity issues for Israel—you have resolved said that Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin any questions about settlements, because Netanyahu had been “completely upfront then you know what is in Israel and what with me and with [Palestinian Author- is not.” ity] President Abbas” regarding a recent But Kerry holds a trump card. announcement that Israel plans to build Kerry, according to anonymous sources new homes beyond the Jewish state’s 1948 cited by Goldberg, believes “the one thing borders. Kerry conveyed Netanyahu’s clari- Netanyahu fears as much as Iran’s nuclear fi cation that the building would be hap- program is the growing power of the in- pening “within the so-called blocs” that ternational movement that seeks to iso- are widely expected to end up controlled late, scapegoat and demonize his country.” by Israel under any realistic fi nal status Goldberg wrote, “There are some early agreement, and that they would “not have signs that Netanyahu is realizing the price any impact on the capacity to have a peace his country may one day pay for its settle- agreement.” ments, in particular those near Palestin- Palestinian diplomats had publicly ex- CONTINUED ON P. 13 pressed surprise at the announcement

12 August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM ISRAEL NEWS Petition Urges EU to Shelve “Legally Flawed” Settlement Boycott

By Edna Adato and Israel Hayom Staff The petition was organized by Alan Baker further warned that the EU’s de- According to the report, Kocijancic said Baker, Israel’s former ambassador to Can- cision effectively states that “the border the directive would have little bearing on A petition signed by 1,100 jurists, rabbis ada, who currently heads the Legal Forum is the 1967 line” and that as a result “the the issue of funding and that “not much and diplomats was sent recently to EU For- for the Land of Israel’s International Ac- Palestinians will fi nd themselves getting would change” from the 2007-2013 fund- eign Affairs Commissioner Catherine Ash- tion Division. Baker was quoted by The support from the EU and [will be] far less ing period when, of the 800 million euros ton and the European Union’s 28 foreign Jewish Tribune as saying that the 1,100 inclined to enter into negotiations on allotted to Israel, “less than .05 percent of ministers, urging them to rescind Brussels’ signatories included hundreds of lawyers, these issues. …That’s why I say in the let- the funds ended up in projects that take decision to impose fi nancial sanctions on as well as senior ambassadors, professors ter that the Europeans are undermining place in settlements.” Israeli settlements. The petition deemed and rabbis from Canada, Israel, the U.S., the negotiations as well as their own com- Nachi Eyal, director of the Legal Forum the EU’s decision “legally fl awed,” saying South Africa, the U.K., the Netherlands, mitments as a witness to the Oslo Accords for the Land of Israel, told Israel Hayom it was based on different interpretations Norway, Sweden, France, Italy, Australia, and as the draftsman of Resolution 242, that the petition “was the fi rst of its kind of international law that do not coincide Brazil and Chile. Among those who joined which talks about secure and recognized and it aims to serve as a tool for Israel’s with the reality on the ground. the protest are former Israeli Justice Min- boundaries. They’re acting in violation diplomatic efforts worldwide. The EU issued a new directive in mid- ister Yaakov Neeman, U.K. House of Lords of their own positions that they’ve main- “Instead of standing up for our histori- July calling on its member nations to limit member Baroness Ruth Deech and former tained throughout the years,” he told the cal and legal rights, the State of Israel and or suspend their cooperation with Israeli Israeli Ambassador to Washington Meir Jewish Tribune. its offi cials are cowering away and that is institutions operating beyond the pre-1967 Rosenne. Maja Kocijancic, a spokesperson for not how we can win this fi ght,” he said. borders, which include Judea and Samaria, Baker’s letter to Ashton protested the Ashton, said she was “unaware of Baker’s “The world needs to understand that there east Jerusalem and the Golan Heights. The “legally fl awed and incorrect assumptions letter,” adding that while the directive was is a deliberate deception is being perpe- new funding guidelines, which may spell regarding both the legality of Israel’s settle- only made offi cial some two weeks ago, it trated [by the EU] and that Judea and Sa- billions of dollars in losses for Israel, will ments and the status of the pre-1967 armi- was “already an ad hoc practice” by some maria belong to the Jewish people by their go into effect in 2014. stice lines as Israel’s border.” of the bloc’s members. historic right as well as by law.”

Dennis Ross, David Makovsky In Back-Channel Talks Al-Monitor has learned that former US peace envoy Dennis Ross and Israeli American think tank expert David Ma- kovsky are involved in a back-channel process with a leading PLO offi cial in Ramallah. Palestinians and the rest of the world are aware that the 1993 memo- randum of understanding between the Palestine Liberation Organization (PLO) and Israel was the result of the Oslo back channel rather than the bilateral talks under way in Washington. At the time, the Israelis had not of- fi cially recognized the PLO, which was directing the talks in Washington. The back channel made sense in that Israel was able to talk directly to Palestinian leaders, despite not publicly recogniz- ing them. No such need exists today, but some believe that back-channel talks allow for alternative ideas and sug- gestions to be tested without having to offi cially present them and risk having them abruptly rejected. (www.al-moni- tor.com)

Kerry Warns Israel May Face Increased Isolation CONTINUED FROM P. 12 ian population centers... He met recently with some of Israel’s leading manufactur- ers, who expressed their worry that their products may one day be boycotted in Eu- rope, a worry he shares. Kerry, capitalizing on this anxiety, has warned Netanyahu in recent weeks that if the current peace talks bear no fruit, Israel may soon be fac- ing an international delegitimization cam- paign—in his words—‘on steroids.’” Ha’aretz reported the U.S. quietly sup- ported the EU’s recently issued directive. “You should know that we received sup- port for the new guidelines on the set- tlements from all the European Union’s member states,” an anonymous offi cial told Ha’aretz and added that his superiors said, “We’re also receiving tacit support from the American administration.”

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 13 LOCAL NEWS Jewish Home Bringing A Taste Of The Cory Booker, Steve Lonegan Holidays To Local Homebound Seniors Win U.S. Senate Primaries By Philip Berroll at Rockleigh, the senior residence operat- Newark Mayor Cory Booker aced the Lonegan, the former mayor of Bogota, in ed by JHF, and distributed by community primary in the race for the Democratic Bergen County. The High Holy Days are a time for volunteers. Depending on how many sen- nomination to take over the late Sena- “I am going to the U.S. Senate the prayer and refl ection, and for family gath- iors are on their route, they might pick up tor Frank Lautenberg’s U.S Senate seat: same way I came to Newark,” Booker erings. For many Jews, Rosh Hashanah a few meals, or a cardboard box fi lled to Booker is more than a local mayor. He said, “to be a positive agent for change.” dinners with other family members are a the brim. is a national celebrity, hob nobs with Booker received more than 60 percent much-anticipated part of the holiday ex- “For the most part, these are people the likes of Oprah, does The Daily Show of the vote; U.S. Rep. Frank Pallone Jr. (D- perience. who don’t have a support system,” says and Stephen Colbert, and his polling 6), received about 20 percent; U.S. Rep. Sadly, this pleasure is not always avail- Berkowitz. “Either their family is not living numbers were through the roof. Though Rush Holt (D-12) about 15 percent, and able to everyone. Homebound elderly in the area, or their kids are out of state, or Frank Pallone, Rush Holt and Sheila Oliv- state Assembly speaker Sheila Oliver (D- Jews without relatives in their immediate they no longer have any close relatives. So er gave it the old college try, Booker was 34) less than 5 percent. vicinity can fi nd themselves in depressing we become that support system.” in the touch down zone before anyone In the Republican primary, Lonegan isolation at what should be a joyous time The holiday meals project is an out- could blink. won handily with about 90 percent of of the year. growth of an existing kosher meals-on- On Oct. 16, in the general election, the vote. against Alieta Eck, a doctor from One of northern New Jersey’s leading wheels program which Jewish Home at Booker will face Tea Party favorite Steve Somerset County. Jewish senior care agencies is trying to Home operates year-round, in partnership address this problem. For the past two with the JCC in Tenafl y, the Y-JCC in Wash- agencies. “With the continuum of care that we’ve years, Rockleigh-based Jewish Home Fam- ington Township and Jewish Family Serv- “We ask them to refer some of their established—from outpatient services to ily (JHF) has been delivering holiday meals ices offi ces in Fair Lawn and Wayne. The people to us,” says Berkowitz, “people visiting nurse programs—we try to empha- to homebound Jewish seniors through program aims to go beyond similar initia- who get regular meals fi ve days a week but size keeping seniors at home, happy and its Jewish Home at Home program. Dur- tives offered by other Jewish agencies (it wouldn’t have it for the holidays or the healthy for as long as possible before they ing the High Holy Days, Passover and also delivers Shabbat dinners to seniors weekend. We’ve also reached out to area might need to go into hospitals or other Hanukkah, Jewish Home at Home volun- who are unable to prepare their own). synagogues to say, ‘If you have anyone in institutional settings,” says Berkowitz. teers visit elderly residents in Hudson, Ber- “We had gotten calls from people about your congregation or group who needs a The holiday meals program in par- gen, Passaic and Rockland Counties, lifting this,” explains Berkowitz. “The typical holiday meal, and doesn’t have a family ticular has brought great satisfaction to their spirits with the gift of a lovingly pre- Meals on Wheels programs don’t deliver gathering to go to, we would be happy to Berkowitz and his staff. pared, kosher repast. on weekends, and of course they close for provide it free of charge.’” “We get a really wonderful response “When we started this program for the Jewish holidays. We’re open 24/7, 365 The meals programs are just two of the from the people who receive the meals— Hanukkah in 2011, about 35 to 40 people days a year. We’re the only place to turn to many services provided by Jewish Home letters, phone calls,” he says. “It’s just a very signed up,” says JHF President/CEO Charles when the agencies where they typically go at Home, which seeks to help seniors who nice thing to do, and we feel good about “Chuck” Berkowitz. “But it kept growing, for their meals are closed.” live at home maintain their independence the responses we get from people.” to the point where we expect to have al- Jewish Home at Home has made a mul- and quality of life. The program also as- Anyone interested in joining the pro- most 200 people for Rosh Hashanah this tipronged effort to publicize the meals sists elderly clients with transportation, gram as a client or a volunteer can call year.” program, from putting ads in area Jewish medical treatment, bill paying and many Pam Windmeyer at (201)750-4230 or e-mail The meals are prepared at Jewish Home publications to contacting other Jewish other areas. [email protected].

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“What I don’t understand is why people Weinberg: Forget About Vouchers are so passionately against gun regulation. Even beauty salons are registered. If you It’s Not Happening Any Time Soon drive a car, it has to be registered and you have to be trained to use it before you get CONTINUED FROM P. 1 and Frank Pallone, who both ran for and of things about myself on the Internet a license. Owning a gun may be a constitu- lost the late Frank Lautenberg’s senate seat, and gun lovers say pretty nasty things tional right, but they need to be registered do not approve of vouchers because they about me, and they do threaten me. But and regulated, because there needs to be undermine public schools and drain their if you are threatened in your home, you a rational way of keeping them out of the resources. But all is not bleak. “We did put can defend yourself. I don’t think that hands of people who should not have them.” some money into technical aid for sectar- what happened in Florida would hap- State Senator Weinberg also serves on ian schools. Those funds had been cut by pen in New Jersey [the Trayvon Martin the N.J. Senate Health, Human Services 50 percent, and we’ve brought that funding “stand your ground case”], but I believe and Senior Citizens Committee (as Vice- back to where it was four years ago,” she that there should be instant background Chair) and on the State Government Com- said, admitting that there was much to be checks and training and licensing before mittee (also as Vice-Chair). She is a former done with little funding available. a gun is bought; that guns should be kept member of the Senate Commerce Com- Another issue discussed with the sena- out of the hands of people on the terror mittee and the Senate Judiciary Commit- tor was the possibility of creating a law watch list and people with a record of tee, and is an avid supporter of veteran’s that could protect agunot, chained wom- domestic violence. rights and benefi ts. en, from the recalcitrant husbands who refuse to give them gets. Weinberg is tak- ing a close look at the law in New York colloquially known as “The Silver Get Law,” to see if it can be passed through the NJ legislature without raising the issue of separation of church and state, as well as the halakhic issues of forced gets. The law in New York is non-gender or religion specifi c, stating only that any (including yeshivot and day schools), es- spouse who places an obstacle in an ex- pecially for students with special needs... spouse’s path to remarriage will get nei- “and,” she acknowledged, “there are prob- ther community property or custody of lems even with that.” the children. Parents of children in day schools and When asked if she believed that the yeshivot were hoping that the NJ legisla- Jewish community in Bergen County ture would pass a bill permitting school needed guns to protect themselves from vouchers in order to get them some much antisemites and terrorists, Weinberg re- needed tuition relief. “Tuition tax credits sponded, “I can’t account for those for are a better possibility, until we get over those feel threatened... In our society that’s budget problems,” she said. what we have law enforcement for. We According to Weinberg, getting aid to have a local county sheriff’s offi ce respon- non-sectarian programs in yeshivot and sible for keeping us all safe. One could feel day schools is problematic even this year, threatened by blogs that are posted by pas- but she says has been working to garner sionate gun lovers, but if someone wants the support of the president of the senate to buy a gun legally in this state and goes for the special-ed programs before the year through the licensing process—with no is over. instant background checks, which we are “I don’t believe a voucher bill can pass. trying to write it into the law—they can. The legislature even took away money That instant background check bill has slated for pilot programs, and it wasn’t a been sitting on Governor Chrisitie’s desk huge amount. If there was a voucher sys- for some time. tem, it would be a voucher for all private “I do not believe that people in Ber- schools,” she said, and it would “be used gen County needs guns to protect them- mostly in urban areas.” selves, but I can’t climb into people’s She, like others, including Rush Holt minds, hearts and souls. I read plenty A Selichot Experience At The Water’s Edge By Ahrona Ohring the color associated with the High Holy Day period, participants are requested to Teaneck—For the fi rst time in its his- wear at least one white garment or all- tory, the Jewish Center of Teaneck, 70 white, if possible. Sterling Place, will hold Selichot serv- Directions to the location of the Seli- ices, the penitential prayers recited in chot program can be obtained by calling preparation for the High Holy Days, the Center offi ce at (201) 833-0515, ext. 200 outside of the synagogue. On Saturday or on its website www.jcot.org in the Cal- night, August 31, an all-white, end of the endar of Events section. The site has am- Hebrew month of Elul, end of the sum- ple parking and is handicap accessible. An mer celebration of religious renewal indoor location is available in case of rain. will take place in the new section of Jackets are necessary as the area can be Overpeck Park near the amphitheater, breezy. on the terrace overlooking the water. The Jewish Center of Teaneck is a Mod- The evening will start at 9:30P.M with ern Orthodox synagogue, under the leader- Havdalah, the ceremony marking the ship of Rabbi Lawrence S. Zierler, with dai- close of the Sabbath, and continue with ly, Shabbat and holiday services. For more a reception which will be followed at information about facilities, programs and 10:30 p.m. by the Selichot service led by opportunities for learning, please call the Rabbi Lawrence S. Zierler. Center offi ce at (201) 833-0515, ext. 200 or Because white, as a symbol of purity, is visit its website at www.jcot.org.

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 15 LOCAL NEWS Rep. Bill Pascrell Invites the Editors

By Stephen Tencer though he is personally against abortion types’ unwillingness Special to JLBC except to save the life of the mother. to fund preparations Pascrell believes his job is to stay in for natural disasters, Paterson—Editors of several small area close touch with the people in his dis- there is little money newspapers met with Rep. Bill Pascrell of trict and help veterans, seniors, victims of left for new projects. the 37th Congressional District, a district mortgage foreclosures and fl ood damage, “They wanted to get that was re-zoned for last year’s congres- and anyone else who needs it to get help rid of earmarks, now sional elections and now includes south- from federal agencies—which is why he they realize that ern Bergen County, including parts of Tea- opened satellite offi ces in Englewood and some earmarks pro- neck and Englewood. About two dozen Lyndhurst. vided funds for es- editors and reporters participated, most While he has to deal with problems like sential local needs. from the area’s smaller weekly newspa- Syria, the Middle East, climate change, and Sequestration has pers. Some were veterans from long-stand- gun violence, constituent services are just cut at least 85 pro- ing hometown papers, some were young as important. “I want to be close to the grams that will affect everyone. But I’m go- Pascrell, who visited Afghanistan last staff from newer papers. A passionate fan people, so they know I care about them.” ing to be like a dog with a bone on dredg- year, is well-versed in foreign policy as of Peter Zanger, Pascrell says does not He laments that politicians who have nev- ing rivers like the Passaic and the Saddle well. “We can’t become isolationists, ei- believe in muzzling or misinforming the er served in local offi ce don’t understand River and building berms along their fl ood ther diplomatically or militarily. No one is press. And, shades of the high school and the need for the “boots on the ground” zones. I have had to get the Army Corps of considering the possibility of reducing our college teacher he was for 12 years, he sug- approach to serving. “In my offi ces, we lis- Engineers to do something about these commitments to Israel, but we are now gested that if they never heard of Zenger, ten to people’s problems and try to help problems.” building alliances with Muslim countries reporters should look him up. Pascrell also them.” He added, “Wait until I open my mouth to help us achieve our goals.... and as far said he reads as many local newspapers as He admits, “It is tough to get things in the governor’s race. Who in the federal as Turkey is concerned, they need to get he can to take the pulse of his constitu- done “because of inter-party and inter-area government gave them permission to use smart, and improve relations with Israel. ents. battles.” When the vast majority of federal Sandy money intended to market the But we are learned from our military inter- Pascrell’s district is highly diverse, with fl ood aid was slated to go to shore com- shore, to put the governor’s face in ads in ventions in Iraq and Afghanistan, and we recent growth in the Chinese, Korean, Japa- munities, Pascrell fought for aid to towns an election year? Who said that was an OK should not rush into Syria militarily before nese, Columbian, Jewish and Muslim com- like Hoboken, Moonachie, and Little Ferry. use of taxpayers’ money?” our intelligence agencies determine what munities. He has lived in Paterson all his “We have major problems there too, and As a member of the House Budget and kind of government each group there is life and loves that dynamic environment. if we don’t do something about them, it Ways and Means Committees, all areas of fi ghting for. The president has the right ap- He served two terms as the city’s mayor could get worse.” federal activity come under his scrutiny. proach, supplying only certain rebels with and represented it and its environs in the Pascrell voted to provide federal aid to “I am on the Budget Committee in order certain arms.” NJ State Assembly. He understands ethnic southern states that suffered natural dis- to harangue Paul Ryan and his lieuten- But Pascrell never gave a “rubber stamp” pride, being the long-standing co-chair of asters, but their Tea Party representatives ant, Congressman Scott Garrett.” (Garrett, to any of the president’s decisions. “We are a group of Italian-American Congressmen refused to help New Jersey when the state according to Votesmart.org is one of the not going to commit troops to Syria. You and a devout Catholic, who nonetheless was devastated by Superstorm Sandy. Ac- most conservative congressmen in the can bet on that. I would not be surprised respects a woman’s right to choose, al- cording to Pascrell, because of Tea Party- House, and represents a goodly chunk of if we could get the Russians to melt a little Bergen County, including parts of Teaneck, to permit a no-fl y zone.” Bergenfi eld and New Milford. He voted Concerning Israel more directly, he said against FEMA funding for Bergen resi- “There is hope for a two-state solution. We dents. He lives in Stanhope.) are closer than we have been in 13 years.” SEE THE NEW HIT SHLOMO CARLEBACH Among Pascrell’s top priorities is educa- At Camp David, Yasser Arafat walked away MUSICAL ON BROADWAY! tion. He believes the government should because he was looking over his shoulder, equalize opportunities for everyone and fearing that he could not sell such a deal provide incentives for the best educa- to his people or his allies and would be tion possible for each person, from pre-K shot. Just before Arafat died, Pascrell went through post-secondary schools. “Maybe to meet him with a delegation of Jewish not everyone needs to go to college. Com- colleagues as witnesses. The Congressman munity colleges are a fantastic idea... For was vilifi ed by some Jewish organizations some reason, we have almost made labor for meeting with Arafat in the fi rst place, a dirty word in America, but we certainly and was picketed by Arab-Americans for need plumbers and truck drivers. Such not protesting the Israeli settlements in jobs provide good income and satisfac- the second. “If you’re pissing off both tion to those who ply those trades. ...We sides, you must be doing something right,” are also short of doctors and others in the he said. The big problem is the cultural di- STEM (science, technology, engineering, vide. “Not understanding the local culture and math) professions and occupations, so is what got us into trouble in Vietnam. instead of providing more visas for foreign And calling for elections in Gaza got us Ha- STEM workers, who work for lower wages, mas control of the Strip. we should be doing a better job of educat- “International terrorism has caused ing our own people.” a signifi cant shift in our need to be pre- He said our school systems should also pared. We are no longer defending our- be doing a better job on Special Ed and selves from one country at a time, but ESL (English as a Second Language). “We from a multitude of widespread groups. need to provide more federal funding for Intelligence gathering is vital to our abil- Special Ed. They haven’t yet met their com- ity to defend ourselves. But, I voted in mitment. Special Ed kids should be able to the minority to limit the NSA. We are on work to their full capacities. ...The feder- a slippery slope. While the NSA was brief- ally run Race to the Top has some good ing members of the intelligence oversight incentives, but has supplanted some old committees, there were no adequate brief- problems with some new ones. ... Yes, we ings for regular congressmen.” The FISA have to measure what works, but we need Court, he says is suspect. While it is sup- less testing of students. What we need is posed to be independent, it consists en- more teachers and better programs. We tirely of Republicans, and they approve need to give teachers more latitude. When almost all warrants presented to them. I taught, I was always in trouble for push- Hopefully we can get some good legisla- CIRCLE IN THE SQUARE THEATRE, 50th St. west of Broadway ing the envelope. But students want their tion to correct these problems.” TELECHARGE.COM OR 212-239-6200 • SOULDOCTORBROADWAY.COM teachers to be leaders. ...The funds we put Asked about security measures in his into education are not costs, they are the CONTINUED ON P. 22 best kind of investment.”

16 August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM LOCAL NEWS Teaneck Boy Scouts Trek The Adirondacks

Teaneck—At the end of July, Boy Scout 30 years. This year, 13 Scouts and Scout- back to Floodwood. The second trek, led Troop 226, chartered to the Jewish Center ers from three countries (U.S., Canada and by James Sanders (who has served as Scout- of Teaneck, went to Floodwood Mountain Israel) and three states (New Jersey, New master of Troop 18 of the Lower East Side Scout Reservation in the Adirondacks for a York and Massachusetts) joined Troop of Manhattan), started at the Rollins Pond week of canoeing. Troop 226 has attended 226. Floodwood is unique among all the Canoe Base of Floodwood and paddled to Floodwood, owned and operated by the Scout camps in the Adirondacks in that it Tupper Lake, where they were picked up. Northern New Jersey Council, Boy Scouts has direct access to a network of beauti- Except for 45 minutes of rain at the very to going back to Floodwood next year! of America, nearly every year for the past ful ponds, rivers and lakes in the heart of end of the trek, we had fantastic weather. Troop 226 meets each Monday evening the Adirondacks. Although the camp is not The two trek groups agreed to meet on (except holidays) from 7:30 to 9:00 p.m. kosher, we brought along our own kosher Wednesday morning at the Indian Carry at the Jewish Center of Teaneck. The fi rst food, including Meal Mart and My Own between Upper Saranac Lake and Second meeting for the 2013-2014 season will be Meals shelf-stable dinners. Pond, thus permitting us to exchange ca- on Monday, September 9th. All boys ages Because of the size of the group, we noes and avoid carrying the canoes for this 11-17 are welcome to join. had to split into two treks, each of which mile-long portage (although the trek group covered a route of about 40 miles. The fi rst that started at Long Lake did have to do a For more information, please contact trek, led by Scoutmaster Daniel Chazin, portage around Raquette Falls). Everyone Daniel Chazin, Scoutmaster, 201.835.5338, was dropped off at Long Lake and paddled had a great time, and we’re looking forward [email protected]. NORPAC Hosts Congressman Albio Sires (D-NJ) In Highland Park, NJ (Highland Park, NJ)—NORPAC, the na- lative background on U.S.-Israel relations pieces of legislation tion’s leading pro-Israel Political Action and the future of sanctions on Iran. He were actively advocat- Committee (PAC), hosted a discussion pointed to his background growing up in ed for by participants event on U.S.-Israel relations at the home Cuba that strongly infl uenced his view on during NORPAC’s Mis- of Barry and Marcia Levinson in Highland discrimination and antisemitism. He has sion to Washington Park with Representative Albio Sires (D- publicly condemned antisemitic remarks 2012 and 2013, respec- From Left to Right: Lynn & Marc Hanfl ing, Ben Chouake, Rep. Albio NJ). Mr. Sires is the Representative of New made by Fidel Castro and has worked tively. Sires, and Barry & Marcia Levinson Jersey’s 8th Congressional District, one of to fi ght bias against the Jewish people This is the fi rst po- the most diverse and densely populated in abroad. litical event hosted by NORPAC in the 12 years prior. This event is one of two the state, covering most of Hudson Coun- Recently, Congressman Sires support- Edison/Highland Park area for 2013. NOR- which are planned for the area this year. ty, part of Newark and parts of Union and ed the passage of H.R. 850, the Nuclear PAC President Dr. Ben Chouake stated his NORPAC hopes to continue to attract lo- Bergen Counties. Iran Prevention Act of 2013, and H.R. 4133, admiration of Rep. Sires and his climb cal residents to these events, bringing In a room fi lled with pro-Israel attend- the United States-Israel Enhanced Secu- through the New Jersey State Assembly them into the fold of pro-Israel advocacy ants, the Congressman discussed his legis- rity Cooperation Act of 2012. Both these to the U.S. Congress, having met him and activism. New “OHEL Access” Centralizes Inquiry To All OHEL Services To better serve the community, OHEL Marc Katz, Director of OHEL Access programs for a child with a disability, privacy of their computer at home or a Children’s Home and Family Services has says “People in need are very often con- OHEL Access is staffed by professionals mobile device on the go. launched OHEL Access which provides fronted by the unknown of where, what of diverse expertise who can address the While OHEL is a vast organization improved accessibility, relevant infor- and how and seek answers and assist- need of any inquiry. serving thousands everyday through mation and immediate help to OHEL’s ance, and OHEL Access provides access The different points of inquiry of OHEL Mental Health, OHEL Bais Ezra, breadth of services. and information to the most appropriate OHEL Access cater to every person’s ac- OHEL Foster Care, OHEL Lifetime Care, This single point of access to all of services they need, in a much timelier cessibility and comfort level and through OHEL Institute of Training, Camp Kay- OHEL’s services includes Always on Call manner.” OHEL Access Live Help on OHEL’s new lie at OHEL and Etta at OHEL, OHEL Ac- 1-800-603-OHEL, Live Help Online: www. Whether an everyday adolescent or website, users can interface anonymous- cess now provides the community with ohelfamily.org and Confi dential Re- parenting issue, an urgent crises or trau- ly, immediately and in real-time with one point of entry to every OHEL service sponse: [email protected] ma, an eldercare need, or after school an OHEL professional – all through the available. Groups Gift Garrett With ‘Climate Change Denier’ Award

Teaneck Patch reports that last week “Climate change is one of the great- score — in denying that the problem living in a “fantasy land.” District Director Tuesday, environmentalists presented Tea est environmental challenges,” NJLCV even exists.” Rob Pettet accepted it in the Congress- Party favorite, Congressman Scott Garrett, Executive Director Ed Potosnak said, re- “I’ve heard from a number of experts man’s absence. He invited two representa- a unicorn-fashioned award for his “ex- marking that the Jersey Shore “will be no from both sides of the equation on this tives from the group into the offi ce for a treme, anti-science views.” more” if “aggressive action” isn’t taken. issue and to me, the evidence – the ques- discussion. Chanting, “It’s hot, Scott,” and fl ashing “As humans, we have created this prob- tion is still out there,” Garrett said in a 2010 “I’m a child of the ‘60s,” Pettet said. homemade signs outside the Republican’s lem and we have to stand up against it... interview with The Record, and added said “Even though I may disagree, I like to see Glen Rock district offi ce, The New Jersey Ninety-seven percent of climate scien- that he didn’t believe Congress should be people believe in what they believe in and League of Conservation Voters and Organi- tists agree, yet many in Congress either taking action until those “questions are out there doing it. ...I can promise that I zation for Action railed against the Sussex refuse to act or, worse, join Rep. Garrett answered.” can learn a little bit more and bring it back congressman’s views on climate change. — with only a 11 percent lifetime LCV The unicorn was a symbol for Garrett’s to the congressman,” Pettet said.

entire event was inspired and created by a goyim’ (a light unto the nations). While we New Assistant Principal at Moriah group of Middle School students.” Says Lazar, continue to invest heavily in educational CONTINUED FROM P. 7 tions,” Lazar says. “It was school-wide, and “We want more of that. Ultimately, it must technology programs and professional de- it was fantastic. Middle schoolers went into come from the students themselves. That’s velopment, we feel it is equally important, if school and home. Moriah has always been lower-school classrooms and talked about what this is all about.” not more so, to invest in the social and moral dedicated to educating the ‘whole child’ and upstanders like Moses, Ghandi, Martin Moriah’s Board of Trustees President Evan development of our children, inspiring them this new position and program will take that Luther King, Jr., and Harriet Tubman. Projects Sohn says, “Like many schools, the challeng- to become tomorrow’s leaders.” goal to a new level. were organized to highlight each child’s es of being a child in today’s world places Check out Sarah Abenaim’s blog: www.writ- “Last year, for Rosh Chodesh Adar, Moriah unique capabilities; there were books, sto- unique pressures on our children. This is es- ersblackout.wordpress.com had an ‘Upstander Revolution’ that taught ries, and facilitated conversations to focus on pecially true for Jewish children who carry “Of all the rights of women, the greatest is kids not to be bystanders in confl ict situa- pro-social skills and healthy friendships. The the added responsibility of being an ‘ohr la to be a mother.” Lin Yn-tang

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 17 LOCAL NEWS TEANECK’S “NIGHT OUT”

By Stephen Tencer the evening. Some danced and some just enjoyed the shade it offered. There Tuesday, August 6, the annual “Na- were interesting vehicles from the po- tional Night Out” was celebrated in lice and sheriff’s departments and from many communities in Bergen County the ambulance corps. Kids could enter and throughout the country. The cel- these exhibits or sit in the vehicles and ebration in Teaneck’s Votee Park started on the large motorcycles. A military at 5 p.m. and lasted until sundown, for tank was fi lled with several children the convenience of families with young at a time. The requisite badly wrecked children. Votee Park is the largest of Tea- car was on display to warn everyone to neck’s many parks. There was enough drive safely. The highlight of these dis- room to accommodate hundreds of at- plays was the landing and, much later, tendees without disturbing those who take-off of a helicopter. The excitement were using the park’s ball fi elds, tennis felt by everyone was in inverse propor- courts, and exercise areas. And the splen- tion to their age. But everyone watched did summer weather brought out a huge intently. crowd. And Chop Stix had a table full of By the end, tired parents were telling goodies, where you could easily chap a their overstimulated little children that kosher nosh. it was time to leave. As the sun went There was plenty of exciting enter- down, their parents managed to take tainment for the kids. Bungee harnesses their reluctant children home, where hung so that kids could jump high and they could all get a well-deserved rest. land on huge air cushions repeatedly. The braver ones gleefully did somer- saults while in the air. There were blow- up stairs to climb and slides to ride down. There was a long kid-size train that offered a ride along one side of the park. And there was face-painting done by really good artists, where the kids came out looking as scary or pretty as they desired, in accordance with their wishes. Lines were long at some rides because if one turn is good, several are better. Everyone was happy to wait in anticipation. There were many tables manned by a variety of organizations. The ones from the Teaneck school system included ACE, a program for high school students who are grouped into teams and assigned a hands-on, complex project dealing with architecture, construction, and engineer- ing. Dozens of students annually work with professional advisors who practice in those fi elds. The year-long challenge is rewarding to those who participate, and helps raise their performance in other subjects as well. There was a ta- ble manned by parents of students with special needs. At another table you could fi nd out abut the school system’s addic- tion prevention programs. The volunteer program to promote Fair Trade was well attended. The group is working with area merchants to let them know of the availability of Fair Trade products. Products that are pro- duced at a fair wage and under good working conditions. Air Cadets told youngsters and their parents about the opportunity to learn leadership skills and learn how to pilot a small plane. One of the teenage cadets is licensed to solo and his younger brother is about to be licensed. Perhaps the most valuable service of- fered was at a table where you could have your child, of any age, fi nger-printed and photographed for free. This information is sent to your local police department for use in case a child is missing. The table was constantly busy serving many families. A petition circulated by Mayors Against Illegal Guns was eagerly signed by dozens of mothers and fathers. Separating all this from a large ar- ray of safety vehicles was the band shell where music played throughout

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be aware that he is always in the pres- include elder abuse, criminal business Walls Have Ears ence of the great King of Kings, the all- practices, deceiving blind persons, sub- knowing God. verting the rights of the helpless, incest By Rabbi Tzvi piercing and perceptive verse: “Cursed be But it is not only from a spiritual per- and bestiality, and the acceptance of Hersh Weinreb he who strikes his fellow in secret—and spective that it is wrong to act demean- bribery. Quite a list, and one that has all the people shall say, Amen.” ingly in private. There is a practical aspect certainly not lost its relevance over the e all have our se- In no way does the Torah imply that as well to the importance of behaving centuries. Wcret lives. he who strikes his fellow in public is to properly even in secret. There always is I am not so naïve as to think that we I don’t mean to say that each of us has be blessed. Rather, the Torah recognizes the very real possibility that our secrets are required to act in an absolutely iden- a sinister side, which we wickedly act out the tendency humans have to reserve will be “leaked” and that things we were tical fashion in our “secret chambers” as in some deep, dark, private world. What the worst side of themselves for their sure would never be known will become we do out in the “real world.” To a certain I do mean is that we all act differently secret social settings, even when they embarrassingly exposed. extent, it is necessary and right that we when we are alone, or with a few close behave meritoriously in their public so- I know of no place where this is con- maintain a façade of sorts when we inter- intimates, than we act when we are out cial worlds. It is the façade, the contrast, veyed more cogently than in these words act in public. We all have, and need, our in public, among others. between public demonstrations of right- of caution, to be found in Ecclesiastes masks and personas. There is no one who is so behaviorally eousness and private acts of fi endishness (10:20): But many times, we go too far and in- consistent that he is the same person in that is cursed. Don’t revile a king, even in your inti- deed split our personalities between the the privacy of his own home as he is in Sinning in secret is particularly of- mate thoughts. Dr. Jekylls of our external visible behav- the workplace or marketplace. fensive in the religious personality. He Don’t revile a rich man, even in your ior and the Mr. Hydes of our inner sancta. Nor do I suggest that there is anything or she who believes in a God who is om- bedchamber; How well advised we would be to set as wrong with the fact that we each are two niscient, and who yet sins in private, is For a bird of the air may carry the ut- an objective for ourselves the words of persons, and perhaps even multiple per- guilty, not merely of hypocrisy, but of terance, the Daily Prayer Book: sons, depending upon the social context heresy. If God knows all, how can you And a winged creature may report the “A person should always be God-fear- in which we fi nd ourselves. delude yourself into thinking that your word. ing, privately and publicly, acknowledg- It is problematic, however, when we secret misdeeds can go undetected? Indeed, as our Sages say (Berachot 8b), ing the truth and speaking it in his heart.” act hypocritically, presenting a pious and The Shulchan Aruch, the Jewish code the walls have ears. To read more articles and essays by altruistic face to the world, while acting of law, opens with a statement recogniz- The passage in this week’s Torah Rabbi Weinreb, visit his blog at www. cruelly and crudely in our own homes ing that a person’s behavior, when he is portion which condemns secret vio- ou.org/rabbi_weinreb. and with our families. alone at home, is very different from his lence also gives quite a comprehensive (Rabbi Tzvi Hersh Weinreb is the Execu- In this week’s Torah portion, Parshat behavior when he appears before a great catalog of other sins which tend to be tive Vice President Emeritus of the Ortho- Ki Tavo, there appears a particularly king. And it urges the religious person to performed behind closed doors. They dox Union) What Threatens The Torah World And The Rabbinate? By Rabbi Yoel Bin Nun army service, I would only include those a Kohen who was prohibited from marry- Metziah 59b). ... (Translated into English by Rabbi Nathan- whose religious commitment is weak ing his divorced wife, would they write a The “perutzot (promiscuous)” among iel Helfgot, edited by JLBC for brevity) and may end up abandoning Torah ob- special type of get (get mekushar) so as to them say, “What can I do if the rabbis and servance during their service—since they postpone the effectuation of the divorce judges do not pay attention to me, and al- n Israel, it is not the IDF “draft decree,” won’t be asking the questions in Hilkhot in case he might have second thoughts. low the man to make demands and con- Inor the “equality of burden” proposal, Eruvin. Then being exempt would be- This also lasted a far shorter time than the ditions for giving the get? In such a case, nor even budget cuts or the elections for come a sign of shame, and the service in quickest get procedure in today’s rabbini- I have no choice and I will also fi nd my- the Chief Rabbinate that threaten the To- the IDF becomes a symbol of pride for the cal courts. self a man to live with, for I cannot carry rah world or the rabbinate in any way. If Torah world (even among non-Zionists). It is enough simply to look at the sta- such a heavy burden, the burden of raising the elite members of the haredi yeshivot This is what is correct from a Torah and tistics provided by the rabbinical courts children and my own personal burden, all will serve the public in some way, their To- halakhic perspective. ... themselves. In Israel, there are currently alone.” rah world will only grow and deepen. This So what is the real threat to the Torah 200 women who have not received a get And then, God forbid, there is adultery, will be especially the case with those who world? after a rabbinical ruling that the husband and it becomes viewed as justifi ed be- are talented, especially the talmidei chach- The women. Just the women. And they must give one. It is known, of course, that cause it is done out of a sense of “no op- amim among them. are not the women who join the body such a ruling in the rabbinical courts is not tions” available, viewed by many men and During my service in the IDF, circum- that elects the Chief Rabbis of the State given immediately and comes only after women as something akin to an “ones”—a stances forced me to engage in in-depth of Israel. They are the women who suf- many months and often years of delibera- situation in which one is coerced into a study of sugyot and halakhot that by and fer—the women who are abused and cry- tions. There are also 200 men whose wives violation, so much so, that many lawyers large are not generally studied, such as ing—the women who are agunot and are refuse to receive gets. However, these men and rabbinical advocates admit that such Hilkhot Eruvin, as I was obligated to con- refused a get. THEY are the threat to the can live with other women and even sire a reality can often spur the rabbinical struct an eruv in the fi eld during training Torah world, and they have the potential children who are halakhically kosher. If court to move with a bit more alacrity. missions and to check the eruv every Fri- (God forbid) to lead that world to its utter we examine the numbers of women who What did chazal state? “Whoever be- day. I also learned many laws of kashrut destruction. have not received gets from recalcitrant troths a woman, betroths on the (condi- and Shabbat in depth in the IDF, because Why? husbands whose cases are being stretched tion) of the acquiescence of the rabbis” that is where you confront unusual cir- As the Talmud teaches (Ketubot 2b-3a) out in the rabbinical courts, and who have (Gitin 33a). They found ways to uproot the cumstances. In the IDF one learns to live “Because of the modest women and be- not yet received a ruling, the numbers kiddushin (betrothal) and the nissuin (mar- by the Torah in all situations, even in dif- cause of the promiscuous women” the reach into the many thousands riage), if there was no other path available, fi cult circumstances, and on Shabbat one rabbis were lenient and accepted the What happens to the women who are such as in the case where a man sent his cannot simply call one’s posek. validity of a get that was not technically agunot, whose beloved of youth has aban- wife a divorce via an agent and then called If I had my druthers, I would test all of valid. doned them, and whose “ex” in many him back in the middle of the mission. the bnei yeshiva in the country in Hilkhot In the world of truth that Chazal in- cases already lives with another woman? Now all the rabbis in the world, all of Eruvin to demonstrate to the roshei yes- habited, one gave a get immediately. One The “tznuot (modest)” amongst them us, teach grooms to recite the formula, hivot that it precisely the most talented did not wait a month or a year. A man weep, and their tears reach the heav- “According to the laws of Moses and Is- and capable students who should serve in could return and marry the woman he enly throne because the gates to accept rael” under the bridal canopy. “Israel” is a the IDF. divorced and so there was no reason to “those who are oppressed” and the gates In the quota of those exempt from postpone the giving of the get. Only for to accept “tears” are never closed (Bava CONTINUED ON P. 23

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stumble. [6] ping, the stealing of people, and not to You Shall Not Steal WHAT? But the parameters of stealing do not money at all. But it is perhaps Rashi’s end there either. Another means of steal- viewpoint that allows us to expand on the By Aliza Davidovit worth is stolen, the law has its safeguards ing from someone is by talking bad about defi nition of “stealing” most of all. For we and such “grand thefts” do not corrupt the them. And in contradistinction to secular have only to look at the most famous kid- “You shall not steal,” core of a society because society has a way libel law, this holds even if what is said is napping in the Bible to discover the many the eighth command- of correcting them. But chamas, Munk true. “Death and life are in the power of variances of stealing: The kidnapping of ment cautions us in explains, “leads society to its destruction. the tongue” (Mishlei 18:21). In speaking ill Joseph by his brothers and the subsequent the biblical Book of This word [also] means a crime committed of others, we are essentially stealing their sale of the young dreamer into slavery. Exodus (20:13). And so, through cunning or malice, a crime which fortune by poisoning the many paths they In kidnapping Joseph, his brothers stole implemented in most human justice has not the means to pur- may intend to walk down in life. How can many things from him: his potential to civilized societies, most people won’t walk sue….” [3] a person ever have a fair chance if mean earn a livelihood; his very identity which out of department stores with expensive Munk’s explanation, in regards to cun- was made up of his famil- trinkets they inadvertently slipped into ning and malice, leads us into another iar surroundings and fi lial their pocket and for which they “forgot” area of stealing that seems to fall beyond relationship; his time, in- to pay. But the funny thing is, many of us traditional defi nitions and that is ma- nocence and youth; his self- will pluck a few grapes in the grocery store nipulation, the strategic use of mind over worth and dignity; perhaps or grab a few nuts and pop them into our neighbor.[4] It is called genevat daat/”theft his ability to dream (for mouths. of the mind.” When one manipulates an- post-kidnapping the Bible No harm done, right? Wrong. A deeper other person, one is guilty of stealing away doesn’t recount any-more look into that apparently straight-forward another’s clarity of mind or innocence or of his prophetic dreams); eighth commandment reveals that it is emotions. For instance, it is prohibited to his reputation (for he was a much more encompassing and complex invite a person for dinner just to look kind stranger in a strange land); than it appears to be. On the scales of Di- and show good will if you know that they any heritance that would vine justice, the stolen grape may tilt the will turn you down. The Talmud states and damaging words knock down their have been bequeathed unto him; his per- scale against mankind and the defi nitions that there are seven types of thieves and, of opportunities even before that individual sonal ambitions; his pride; his comfort of stealing may hit man deeper than his these, the worst is the one who “steals the has a chance to grab for them? and leisure, etc. How the story ended is ir- pocket. minds” of people (Tosefta Bava Kama 7:3). Lashon harah, evil speech, also falls into relevant for our purposes here. We learn the price of stealing in the It is simply prohibited to imply some- the category of manipulation. Often, out As we have seen above, what people pre-diluvial story of Noah. God decided to thing that is not true to infl uence another of jealousy, people speak ill of others in a can steal from people has many nontra- destroy the world via a fl ood because “… person’s behavior. As Maimonides taught: cheap effort to manipulate an outcome. ditional currencies and certainly extends the earth had become fi lled with robbery” “It is forbidden to say one thing with That is regarded as stealing. The Talmud beyond grabbing for another’s wallet. (Genesis 6:11). In Hebrew, however, the ex- your mouth and to have another thing in thus cautions us that unless it is impera- And though most people would regard act word used in the biblical text, which in your heart.”[5] The world of nuance is the tive to warn someone about dealing with themselves as honest people who would English has been translated as “robbery,” is world of shadows, a world inhabited by a dangerous or dishonest person, silence never steal anything, the new defi nitions chamas (not to be confused with Hamas the dishonest whose words cannot with- is golden[7], for what is stolen by ill words presented should have us all reassessing or Chummus). stand the light of day. can never be repaid in gold. our behavior and evaluating whether eat- The earth had become fi lled with cha- Leading someone to believe something The hand and tongue indeed have a ing a few unpaid-for grapes is really harm- mas. “[It] is a wrong that is too petty to be that is not true is not only morally wrong lot in common; they are the only parts of less, whether minor manipulations are caught by human injustice…but if commit- and tantamount to stealing, according to the body which have the dual ability to really casualty free, whether a little gossip ted continuously can gradually ruin your Jewish law, but can also cause a whole be benefi cent and giving as well as hurt- is meaningless, whether condescending fellow man.” [1] In other words, it means chain of events which can ultimately re- ful and thieving. And it is no accident that words are just benign words, etc. Yes, it is “taking” something of an insignifi cant sult in the death of the victim. Imagine “the commandment not to use the name true, most of us would not actually kidnap amount which cannot really be defi ned such un-fortunate scenarios where a heart- of God in vain (a sin of the tongue) corre- someone and steal a whole person. But in as stealing. For instance, someone goes broken individual may have given up her sponds to the prohibition of stealing (a sin light of the above, perhaps we should en- to a market and tears off a grape and eats virginity or abort a baby because the ma- of the hand)—they are each the third com- tertain the notion that we may be guilty it—not much damage done. However, nipulator strongly implied he’d marry her; mandment on their respective tablet—for of stealing from each other one little piece then the next person comes along and or one may have spent one’s last dollar in the end every thief will resort to a false at a time. does the same thing, and so on. It is not because the manipulator strongly implied oath to deny his deed.” [8] The slanderous [1] Samson Raphael Hirsch. The Pentateuch. (Lon- long before the bunch of grapes, or that a lot money would be forthcoming; tongue and “crooked” hand either partner don, England: The Judaica Press, Ltd., 1989), 139. nuts or olives are diminished both in or one may have put their well-being into in crime or in Godly compliance. [2] hƩ p://www.torah.org/learning/jewish-values/los- appearance and quantity—and the owner the hands of a manipulator who does not In addition, using words in a hurtful tobjects4.html really has no one to blame for the theft. even posses an ability or skill he or she and condescending manner toward anoth- [3] Rabbi Elie Munk, The Call of the Torah: Nonetheless, the damage is done. Inter- coaxingly boasted about, whether they be er human being steals away their dignity Vol.1.Breishis, (Brooklyn, New York: Mesorah Publica- estingly, the Talmud states that the obli- a doctor, a PR person, a real estate agent, and often their confi dence as well. With- tions, Ltd., 1994), 94. gation of returning a lost object does not an intern or an athlete. The consequences out those traits of dignity and confi dence, [4] Rabbi Elie Munk, The Call of the Torah: Vol.2. apply to an object that is worth a trivial can be tragic, and thus long before it be- a man is robbed of his ability to face life’s Shmot, (Brooklyn, New York: Mesorah Publications, amount and chamas falls into that negligi- came illegal to produce subliminal adver- challenges with healthy courage. Simply Ltd., 1994), 281. ble category. Yet, it is still strictly forbidden tisements in America, the Talmud had al- put, begrudging some-one what is owed to [5] http://www.schechter.edu/AskTheRabbi. to steal or borrow, without permission, an ready prohibited such artful connivance. them is stealing. aspx?ID=131 item even of insignifi cant worth. The sag- This prohibition can also be extrapo- “Thou shalt not steal,” the eighth com- [6] http://www.chabad.org/multimedia/media_ es, point out that doing so was one of the lated from the negative commandment: mandment cautions. And just when we cdo/aid/1846964/jewish/A-Stumbling-Block-Before-the- sins, as mentioned, for which the Genera- “Do not place a stumbling block before the seem to have a grip on its larger meaning, Blind.htm tion of the Flood were punished. [2] blind” (Leviticus 19:16). For certainly, if we the medieval biblical commentator Rabbi [7] Rabbi Zelig Pliskin, Guard Your Tongue, Gross Rabbi Elie Munk points out that what cannot put a stumbling block before the Shlomo Yitzhaki, better known as Rashi, Brothers Printing Co. Inc., (Union City, New Jersey: makes chamas uniquely deleterious is fi g-urative blind person, evermore so we offers a pivotal exegesis for consideration. 1975), 166. that it leaves the perpetrated against with cannot “blind” someone to the truth and Rashi suggests that the commandment [8] http://www.chabad.org/kabbalah/article_cdo/ no legal recourse. When an item of great then further be the cause for him or her to here in discussion is referring to kidnap- aid/379526/jewish/The-Guiding-Hands-of-Torah.htm

Rep. Bill Pascrell Invites the Editors eral or state level to adequately face up to the problem. CONTINUED FROM P. 16 time to convince the chemical companies are pouring huge sums into Homeland And when the Congressman was asked to invest in adequate precautions, but, Security rather than fi ghting domes- why are we afraid to put white-collar Northern New Jersey, Pascrell said we have kicking and screaming, they have come tic violence and other crimes. We have criminals in jail, he said, “Because we’re extraordinary needs because the area con- along. gangs running parts of many cities. The Chicken with a capital C! We’re afraid tains many high-profi le targets. “One of “Crime may not come up as a top pri- violence and crime problems in our sub- that the big banks and other fi nancial my priorities is to get funds for the Port ority in polls, but the lack of jobs, health urbs are extraordinary and growing. We institutions are too big to fail. “I don’t Authority police and state troopers, to pro- costs, and crime are eating away at our have not allocated the resources needed want to run Wall Street, I just want them tect our bridges and tunnels, our large oil society. And we need a no-holds barred to deal with these problems. Local po- to play fair with the people. We have to and gas tanks in places like Elizabeth, and conversation about each of them. I have lice forces have been slashed all over the treat everyone equally. America is for our many chemical plants. It took some to put triple locks on my doors while we state, and I don’t see anything on the fed- everybody.”

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CONTINUED FROM P. 21 Zionists and Haredim, Moderates and Zeal- have told me that it is only permitted to It is a clear kal vachomer (a fortiori ar- ots—to make decisions—not about who teach Tanakh based upon the midrashim gument) that if the Talmud considered the reference to the rabbis who stand under will sit on the chair of Rav Kook, but rather of the sages. Listen carefully to what the sons of Eli as having slept with women the canopy with the grooms and brides. on the question as to what the Chief Rab- rabbis stated about the destruction of Shi- they prevented from procreating with But we do not stand with the women bis and the rabbinical courts should do, loh together with the Tabernacle that ex- their own husbands for a number of nights when they fi nd themselves in their diffi - because they are ultimately responsible for isted in Shiloh. until the terumah was paid (see Shmuel cult hour, when they request a get. and guilty of the adultery and tears of the In the book of Shmuel 1 (Ch 2:22) it 1:2:12-16)), the judgment of the rabbis and It is clear, that in the court of Torah, the suffering women. states: “Eli was very old and heard all that dayanim who postpone and prevent the burden falls squarely on the shoulders of Unfortunately those who should, do his sons were doing to all of Israel, and giving of gittin for months and years will the rabbis and their disciples, and if the not truly believe that the Master of the that they would sleep with all the wom- be judged the same way. According to the women who wait months and years, all Universe stands upon “the wall made by en who would congregate by the Tent of sages, delaying gets can be considered sim- alone waiting for their freedom, go and a plumb line, with a plumb line in His Meeting.” ilar to the actions of the sons of Eli, as they commit adultery, God will hold the rabbis hand.” They shut their eyes and do not see Rashi and Radak interpreted the text ac- harm the women who congregate at the responsible for that sin. the adultery that they cause and they do cording to its plain sense and then cite a mi- doors of the rabbinical courts—those who The tears of the modest women also not hear the cries of the “modest” women drash of chazal. However, most rabbis in our beg to receive a get according to halakha. will determine the judgment, and may It is for these actions and inactions that possibly bring on the destruction of the the Torah world and the rabbinate may, Torah world and the rabbinate. It is impos- So what is the real threat to the Torah world? The women. God forbid, be destroyed just as the Taber- sible to know which is more serious: adul- Just the women. And they are not the women who join the body that nacle at Shiloh was eradicated. tery caused by a sense of having no option, elects the Chief Rabbis of the State of Israel. They are the women Rav Yoel Bin Nun is the former rosh yes- or the tears of the women refused gittin, hiva of Yeshivat Kibbutz Hadati and a found- who will never be able to live with a man who suffer—the women who are abused and crying—the women ing faculty member of Michlelet Herzog of without a kosher get. who are agunot and are refused a get. Yeshivat Har Etzion, and a faculty member If the roshei yeshivot, rabbis, rabbinical at Yeshivat Har Etzion and other Torah in- court judges and poskim thought that they THEY are the threat to the Torah world, and they have the potential stitutions. He was one of the paratroopers would stand before the heavenly court and (God forbid) to lead that world to its utter destruction. who liberated the Kotel in 1967 and was in be held accountable both for the adultery the fi rst machzor that founded Yeshivat Har and the tears of pain of these women, and Eztion. Rav Yoel, as he is popularly known, is that their entire Torah would, God forbid, who have not received gittin. day only teach this according to the words a pioneer of the modern day study of Tanakh be turned against them; if they understood They only see a threat from women in- of chazal. The Talmud (Shabbat 55b) states: in the Religious-Zionist world in Israel and that the Master of the Universe stands “By cluded in the body to elect the Chief Rab- “Whoever says that the children of Eli sinned beyond and a leading thinker, rabbinic lead- a wall made by a plumb line, with a plumb bis, and quote what Rav Kook wrote about is mistaken…rather because they tarried and er, activist and educator in the Torah world. line in his hand” (Amos 7:7 see Bava Metziah women being elected or having the vote, did not bring the sacrifi ces of the women This essay originally appeared in Hebrew in 59a), and that they do not have protection, without understanding the full import of who had given birth (in a timely fashion) the June 20th edition of Makor Rishon. It ap- and everything is breached, they would the position of Rav Kook and his son, Rav thus causing them not to be allowed to be peared originally on the Morethodoxy blog immediately come together—Lithuanians Tzvi Yehuda, on this serious question. with their husbands, the Torah considers it at www.morethodoxy.org and appears here and Hasidim, Sefardim and Ashkenazim, For many years, rabbis and dayanim as if they slept with these women.” with the author’s permission.

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201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 23 DIVREI TORAH KI Tavo: there is also the kindness of Hashem praised Hashem who makes us happy Showing Appreciation that enabled the Jews to persevere. every day. They say he gives us peace. When Jewish soldiers with the Ger- Don’t they know about the murdering in By Larry Domnitch “And Hashem took us out of Egypt by a man army entered Poland during the Galicia and Poland where the old and ba- strong hand and an outstretched arm, First World War, and encountered the bies are not spared? Don’t they feel that The recitation that accompanies the with great awe, with signs and won- Jewish communities of Poland, the ‘Os- it’s not a time of blessings but of curses? bringing of the fi rst fruits (Bikkurim) in ders.” Devarim, 26:8 tjuden,’ (Eastern Jews) many could not That Hashem is punishing rather than the times of the Temple, from the seven Also mentioned are miracles within understand their inherent sense of joy making us happy. Don’t they feel that? I species of the Land of Israel to Jerusa- the confi nes of nature. The reference to in the face of so much suffering which pray with a sad soul and know that G-d lem is an act of joy and appreciation for Jacob’s fl ight from Laban, “The Aramite the war had caused them. How could won’t listen to my supplications. Then the bounty provided by Hashem. The sought to destroy my father,“ (Devarim they be so content in spirit? How could I heard the words in the prayers, (ki le- next sentence following the recitation 26:5) can imply that Laban’s intent was they dance and sing on their holidays? kach tov natati lachem.) ‘I have granted states, “And you shall rejoice in all the to destroy Jacob who was saved by The answer is that the Ostjuden rejoiced you a good teaching,’ Proverbs 4:2, and good granted to you by Hashem your Hashem, although not by open miracles. in their very existence as Jews. Though remembered that religion does not dis- God” (Devarim, 26:11). That passage can also be interpreted as lacking so much, they reveled in that solve suffering, but that it enhances and Whether it is a productive or a lean stating that ‘my father,’ Jacob, or per- precious legacy they possessed though purifi es moral feelings and that we can year, it is imperative to appreciate what- haps, Abraham, was a nomad, and with elusive to many of their Jewish critics go through times of trial. ever is received from Hashem. This Hashem’s help, despite the humble be- from Germany whose families had as- In today’s world it is easy to despair. message also applies to the text of the ginnings as a shepard and then the dire similated decades earlier. Like an incurable disease, Jew-hatred recitation as well, which recalls Laban’s challenges faced, became the father of A German Jewish soldier wrote the persists and poses increasing threats pursuit of Jacob, the eventual migration a nation. following of his impressions of the Os- to Jewry; From Iran to Syria, France to Egypt, the exodus of the Israelites, Throughout Jewish history, Jews have tjuden in a letter to his parents from a to Sweden to the UN and places in be- and their entry into the land of Israel. faced many threats to their existence Jewish town in Russia during the war. tween. Yet, as Jews, we can rejoice as The fi rst fruits picked and brought to suffering persecution at the hands of ty- The picture of suffering (of Jews in our ancestors who brought the fi rst Jerusalem were ultimately the results of rants and by empires that have risen and Russia and Galicia during the war) was fruits and recited the recitation. We can these events. fallen. The continued existence of Jewry in my soul when I entered the syna- thank our Creator who has carried us as The miraculous supernatural events despite all challenges over the past two gogue for services. The people were fes- Jews through the millennia despite the of the exodus from Egypt are mentioned, millennia is a miracle. Amid the travail, tive, peaceful as if there was no war and threats. The Never-Ending Process of Teshuva This excerpt was taken from Return: private matter between the individual hearts, and who possess neither the Daily Inspiration for the Days of Awe by and the Almighty. In my opinion, this is knowledge nor the under- standing to Erica Brown. It was reprinted with permis- because of the Jew’s typical modesty and hasten to save themselves.” sion from Maggid Books, a division of Ko- shyness. The noblest and most exalted Those who know how to repent are ren Publishers Jerusalem. Return is avail- feelings that the Jew experiences must those who can commune with their able at all Jewish bookstores and online. remain like the Ark of the Covenant, hearts, who can recognize with exquisite See www.korepub.com for more info. concealed behind the curtain. ‘And the sensitivity where they are falling short of curtain shall separate for you between the mark. The rest of us lie asleep even abbi Jonah of Gerona (d. 1263) called re- the holy and the Holy of Holies’ (Exodus when we are awake. We fail to save our- Rpentance a sanctuary, a place to escape 26:33). The sanctuary of the human per- selves. the intensity of sin. It is also the place to son is his emotional life, not his logical Rabbi Jonah offers us more than inspi- embrace the strength needed to fi ght our life. The Ark is with us in each person’s rational messages. To be efective, teshuva hardest inner battles and our stubborn emotional life, concealed behind the must move us all the way from regret to resistance to change. By calling repent- curtain.” a place of profound change. The change ance a sanctuary, Rabbi Jonah, in Sha’arei Sometimes this Ark is so concealed must make us so distant from where we Teshuva (The Gates of Repentance), trans- that it is not always easy to locate our once were, that we are actually able to in- formed an act into a space we can step sanctuary of repentance. Even though struct and guide others to avoid what was into and know that we are home and we we may be painfully aware of the need once a major source of personal tempta- are safe. We have returned to our essential to change, we may lack the tools, the tion or spiritual weakness in ourselves. It selves, the people we like best. We are at resilience, or the commitment to take is as if we were to look at an old photo- one with forces that usually rage within on the demons of a difi cult past or the graph of ourselves. We recognize the im- overtones of the book felt foreign to us, pulling us between good and evil, gen- challenges that come with the future. age and the likeness but also know that many rabbis, and they worried about the erosity and self-absorption, selfl essness Rabbi Jonah was deeply concerned with we are not that same person anymore. impact this would have on the faith of and narcissism. those who put of the process of change Rabbi Jonah presents the anatomy of an their fl ocks. When 24 cartloads of hand- Almost 800 years later, Rabbi Joseph and improvement, believing that such apology as an outline for transformation written volumes of the Talmud were put Soloveitchik, too, described the sanctu- individuals only intensify their own in his table of contents, offering twenty on trial in 1240 and then burned publicly ary of teshuva and how it envelops us on problems: “Deferment of repentance is steps that contribute to the process of in Paris two years later, Rabbi Jonah re- these holiest of days: found only among the ignorant, who lie true change. gretted his involvement in the initial “Jews do confess, but confession is a asleep and do not commune with their This list presents both the range of book-burning. Rabbi Jonah seemed un- emotions that it takes to enter the sanc- able to forgive himself for condemning tuary of repentance and the behavior a great Jewish scholar, perhaps believing that must emerge from these emotions… that this paved the way for future ecclesi- RABBI A. S. TEICHER Humility is essential for a complete un- astically driven book-burnings and anti- derstanding of sin’s infl uence. Without Semitic acts... it, we may just write of the dimensions Teshuva is a never-ending process be- of a problem, not discovering its deeper cause we are always changing and the causes and its far-reaching tentacles. The context of our universe is always shift- very last sentence in The Gates of Repent- ing. This does not mean that there is no ‡6,)5(,725$+ ance is a verse from Psalms that captures stable or true self—to disagree with He- the corrosive impact of sin: “The magni- schel Rosenheim; we know when we are ‡7(),/,1 tude of sin is too heavy for me” (65:4). Sin being true to ourselves. We need multi- weighs us down. It blocks us from moral ple opportunites for teshuva because our ‡0(=8=26 advancement, chaining us to a stubborn mistakes and errors change over time, soul, a recalcitrant heart. and our circumstances are fl uid. The self 0(*,/26 Rabbi Jonah knew the process of te- is not static and unchanging, even if our shuva intimately because he himself essential personalities may be well estab- needed it. In 1233, Rabbi Jonah instigated lished. Events change us. Relationships 742 Chestnut Avenue Teaneck, NJ 07666 a book-burning of Maimonides’ most change us. Decisions change us. Life 201-836-8376 [email protected] controversial work, The Guide to the changes us. Therefore, there can never be Perplexed, in France. The Aristotelian an end to the process of teshuva.

24 August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM OP-ED Understanding the Perks of Power Dr. Hal M. Lewis psychopathy or sexual deviance. Indeed, when standard on leadership, an idyllic paradigm of It would be naïve to suppose that either leg- the prophet Nathan confronted him with a par- perfection, the text begins with an assumption islation or systemic stricture can eliminate the (reprinted with permission of the author, this able about a rich man’s unjust treatment of an that the risk of abuse is endemic to the holding risk of abuse. And, as recent high profi le exam- article fi rst appeared on www.ejewishphilan- impoverished neighbor, David was appropriately of power. The goal then is to contain its nefari- ples have made painfully clear, Judaism’s insights thropy.com) appalled. He lacked neither a moral compass nor ous impact not to alter human nature. into these matters have not prevented Jews from Despite their portrayal in the media, the re- a conscience. As a leader, however, he was un- The Deuteronomic limitations on leaders being among the most egregious offenders. But cent spate of sexually charged salacious episodes able to get out of his own way; his proclivity for assume an enhanced resonance in light of an there is much to be learned from classical Jewish has less to do with lasciviousness and more do abuse stemmed from the very power he wielded. unprecedented study conducted by former Uni- teachings on leadership ethics that might con- to with abuse of power. Prurient as they appear Many will recall a more contemporary exam- versity of Kentucky psychiatry professor Arnold tribute, however modestly, to the tikkun (repair) on the surface these incidents, starring an assort- ple of this link between leadership and abuse Ludwig. Over a period of eighteen years Ludwig so desperately needed. The most effective place ment of politicos, corporate executives, sports of power drawn from the case of President Bill studied more than 1900 twentieth-century politi- to begin is so obvious it is often overlooked – the heroes, and religious offi ciants, should not be Clinton. In his 2004 interview with Dan Rather cal leaders. He uncovered a number of striking training organizational leaders receive through- dismissed as the work of sexually deviant out- on 60 Minutes, Clinton was asked how he might links between human rulers and alpha male out their careers. liers, but need to be understood instead as the explain his behavior during the infamous Lewin- primates. Common to both is what he calls the The highly regarded statistician, Nate Silver is result of unchecked leadership, something much sky scandal. The former President responded “Perks of Power,” tangible benefi ts that accrue to fond of pointing out that when it comes to prog- closer to home for many of us. with the now infamous words, “… just because the ruler (simian and human), simply by virtue of nostication, the very awareness of a particular I want to be clear; I am not suggesting that I could.” Like scores of powerful leaders before being the leader. These include: increased sexual proclivity is an important fi rst step in overcom- these offenses are not egregious sexual crimes. and since, Clinton was not unaware of his trans- access (which in humans results in more extra- ing associated biases. The same might be said of But I do believe that, lubricity aside, defi ning gression, nor did he aver that his behavior was marital affairs and polygamous relationships), leaders, from politicos to clergy, from CEOs to them solely as shameful sex scandals misses the somehow ethically acceptable. Indeed, he char- more offspring, greater access to resources, and fi rst responders. To avoid the untoward excesses point. acterized his actions as “morally indefensible.” increased deference and respect from followers frequently found among leaders one must fi rst Jewish sources have long understood a basic Mr. Clinton’s problem was not about sexuality, (Arnold Ludwig, King of the Mountain: The Na- be sensitized to the fact that exercising power truth; positions of leadership bring with them an but about the abuse of power that accompanies ture of Political Leadership). Ludwig’s analysis brings with it an increased likelihood of abuse. increased risk of abusing power. This does not leadership. is focused on political leaders but the evidence This is not just true for some, it is true for all. mean that those who aspire to leadership are Exploitations that manifest in inappropriate clearly suggests that similar conditions obtain Abuse is not the province of a deviant few. It is evil by nature, or that every leader is necessarily sexual activity often grab headlines and titillate in the corporate arena, the military, as well as a risk that must be recognized by everyone who an Anthony Weiner, Lynndie England, or Brett the curious. But they are far from the only ex- sports and entertainment, among several other holds power. No long-term solution is possible Favre, in waiting. But the holding of power— amples of leadership dysfunction. Anyone who sectors. absent such an acknowledgment ab initio. whether as a department head or governor, a has ever signed a paycheck, written a reference, When the Torah’s strictures are refracted The training and development of leaders is soldier or performance icon, a classroom teacher approved a vacation, diagnosed a patient or through the lens of Ludwig’s research, the con- a multi-billion dollar industry today. It includes or a clergyperson—increases the likelihood of counseled a parishioner runs the risk of abusing clusions are striking. Leadership has its privileg- everything from graduate degree programs to abusing that power. And clearly, as Lord Acton fa- power. Representatives of the military and the es and those privileges often include wealth and industrially-based leadership institutes, from ex- mously pointed out, the more power, the greater police, professors, youth leaders, parents, even access. Left unchecked they lead to exploitation, ecutive MBA’s to highly exclusive, by invitation the chances for abuse. only think tanks. Organizations, public and pri- According to the Bible, when the Israel- vate, large and small, provide training for their ites asked Samuel about establishing a Jewish Rarely, if ever do programs purporting to be about leaders. Google estimates more than 397,000 monarchy, he pulled no punches in detailing leadership training ever discuss the risks of power abuse separate entries under the heading of “leader- the consequences: “This will be the practice ship training” alone. It will hardly be surprising of the king … He will take your sons … for his in leadership. to know that only a fraction of these give serious chariots. He will take your daughters as perfum- treatment to leadership ethics in general, and to ers, cooks, and bakers. He will seize your choice celebrities, anyone who holds power or who abuse, and misconduct. Precisely because leader- the issues associated with the use and abuse of fi elds, vineyards, and olive groves … He will take is perceived as holding power has an increased ship is a condition precedent to abuse, protec- power in particular. Sadly this is true not only in a tenth part of your grain and vintage … He will likelihood of misusing the very leadership that tive measures are required. In proscribing sexual the corporate and for- profi t arenas, but in the take your male and female slaves … He will take defi nes them. As Jeffrey Pfeffer, Professor of and economic excesses (the very same areas that social sector, including the Jewish community, a tenth part of your fl ocks, and you shall become Organizational Behavior at Stanford University Ludwig found to be most prone to abuse by lead- as well. Rarely, if ever do programs purporting his slaves …” (I Samuel 8). In a nutshell, leader- wrote in the Harvard Business Review (July-Au- ers), and by insisting that the leader avoid haugh- to be about leadership training ever discuss the ship brings with it the increased likelihood of gust 2010), “Whenever you have control over re- tiness, specifi cally the fl aunting of privilege over risks of power abuse in leadership. Rarer still are mistreating others. sources important to others—things like money those (s)he is expected to serve, the Torah both programs of Jewish leadership that help those Perhaps the classic case in point is the tale and information…” you have power. And with acknowledges that abuse is inherent in the lead- who hold power to recognize that even when of David and Bathsheba, history’s most arrant power comes the increased likelihood of abuse. ership process and affi rms that such abuse can they are unaware of doing so they may be taking example of abuse of power. (If it’s been a while, To contravene such proclivities classical Jew- be palliated, that is, relieved without ever being advantage of their positions. spend a few minutes rereading the story – II Sam- ish teachings call for systemic controls designed fully cured. Rabbi Tarfon in the mishna of Avot (2:16) cau- uel 11:1-12:7.) As an individual David was a man of to counterbalance the risks of abuse inherent in Yet, as the case of King David makes clear, tions that while ours is not to fi nish the job, we considerable accomplishment. He was bold and leadership. The Torah’s restraints on the mon- even divinely mandated restrictions on leader- are not free to desist from trying either. While courageous, and a deeply sensitive human being arch, for example, stand out as an unapologetic ship often prove ineffective at curbing the abuse the abuse of power is bigger than any single as well; a poet, who purportedly authored 150 attempt to circumscribe the power often associ- that comes with human power. For this reason, member of the Jewish community, many of us psalms. But, as a leader, David thought nothing ated with executive privilege. “He shall not keep Jewish communities have historically organ- are in positions to insist that leadership-training of taking advantage of his power. He misused his many horses or send people back to Egypt to add ized in ways designed to forestall such excesses. programs deal with this issue head on. Doing so privileged position to pursue personal ends, con- to his horses … And he shall not have many wives Referred to in the Talmud and subsequent Jew- would be an important fi rst step. vinced that he could manipulate circumstances … nor shall he amass silver and gold to excess. ish sources as the system of ketarim (crowns), Dr. Hal M. Lewis is the President and Chief Ex- and control resources and outcomes in order When he is seated on his royal throne, he shall power is divided across a tripartite framework ecutive Offi cer of Spertus Institute for Jewish Learn- to get away with the most deplorable behavior. have a copy of this Teaching (torah) … Let it re- of religious, educational and political leaders. ing and Leadership. A recognized expert on Jewish Like many leaders, David believed that society’s main with him and let him read in it all his life … By circumscribing authority and insisting that leadership, he has published widely in the scholarly rules simply did not apply to him. Thus he will not act haughtily toward his fellows no single leadership type (keter) can amass too and popular press. His books include Models and David, however, was neither amoral nor anti- …” (Deut. 17:16-20). much power, the “ketaric” system seeks to at- Meanings in the History of Jewish Leadership and social. His actions, while despicable, must be un- The Torah’s pragmatism in this regard is tenuate abuses associated with leadership and From Sanctuary to Boardroom: A Jewish Approach derstood as a function of his leadership, not of signifi cant. Rather than impose an unrealistic its perquisites. to Leadership. www.spertus.edu/

should, by some miracle, Israel and the Palestin- rest of the region’s confl icts would quickly fall Reuters Kills ians fi nally agree to divide the land where they into place as well. Never mind that the region’s live…In public, Muslim leaders have tradition- seething cauldron of ethnic enmities pre-dated The Mideast Domino Theory ally railed against Israel, happy to fan ordinary the modern state of Israel by, uh, centuries. Arabs’ sincere anger about the plight of the Pal- Thanks to the domino theory, Israel could By Pesach Benson, Honest Reporting Iraq, with over 1,000 killed there in July alone, estinians—and perhaps defl ect criticism of their be blamed for problems well beyond its bor- many at the hands of al Qaeda. Tensions over own failure to make badly needed reforms. ders. One hysterical example appeared in Chris- Reuters recently broke with Big Media’s Iran’s disputed nuclear program have also risen, Arab leaders can no longer get away with tian Science Monitor a few years ago. This was muddled mantra that the Israeli-Palestinian while a struggle for power between Islamists this. This “core confl ict” idea also gave rise to the subhead: “Global stability can no longer be confl ict is the region’s “core confl ict.” and the military is playing out on the streets of the Mideast “domino theory” (also known as held hostage to the claims of Israeli settlers.” More than 100,000 people have died in the predominantly Sunni Egypt. Arguably, none of “linkage”). According to the logic of linkage, if Is- The dubious domino theory is dead and the Syrian confl ict and violence has fl ared again in these crises will come any closer to being settled rael and the Palestinians would make peace, the wire service fi nally acknowledges it.

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 25 OP-ED If Peace Never Comes, This Will Be the Reason by Deborah Danan One of the most important ingredients of a identities, such as entrepreneur, capitalist, and As an integral part of her identity as a Palestin- collective identity is the desire for unity, some- technological pioneer. There was also room for ian, it could be no other way. (edited for brevity, reprinted thing expressed in article 12 of the PLO’s 1964 negative phenomena to emerge, such as nihil- This is apparent on almost every level of with permission www.thetower.org) national covenant: “The Palestinian Arab peo- ism, defeatism, and, in some cases, an apathy Palestinian national society. More often than www.thetower.org.—[Mudar is an Arab ple believe in Arab unity. In order to contrib- verging on hedonism. This phenomenon ap- not, national and cultural events in the Pal- who believes there cannot be peace without ute their share toward the attainment of that pears in microcosm during coexistence initia- estinian territories are entirely concentrated the refugees’ right of return.] He is trapped in objective, however, they must, at the present tives like the one in Haifa, which are attended on collective goals. Whereas an American na- a psychological construct essential to his iden- stage of their struggle, safeguard their Palestin- by Israelis from across the political and social tional event, like a State of the Union address, tity as a Palestinian—a collectivist identity that ian identity and develop their consciousness spectrum. is just as likely to focus on individuals’ ability dominates the Palestinian mainstream. of that identity, oppose any plan that may dis- As a result, ...Israel has had some success in to pursue their dreams as on issues like secure One of the more tragic aspects of a collectiv- solve or impair it.” changing the concept of the “Arab enemy” and borders, in the Palestinian territories even the ist identity is that it stifl es those aspects of hu- After the Six-Day War, however, when Is- accommodating the Palestinian individual— most personal sphere—the spiritual—is rou- man behavior associated with the individual. rael gained control of the Gaza Strip and the the “other” beloved of the media and acad- tinely transformed into a collective political These include critical thinking, accountabil- West Bank, Palestinian identity became much emy—and his personal suffering. The Israeli issue. ity for one’s actions and the actions of other stronger, with the “long period of Israeli oc- mainstream empathizes with this suffering ...[i.e., A] singer at last year’s Christmas show members of the collective, the ability to make cupation… sharpening the national element and is eager to relieve it; partly because out of in Bethlehem delivered a heartfelt thank-you personal choices, and empathy toward “the in Palestinian collectivism… and push[ing] guilt and partly because of the desire to move in Arabic and English. The Arabic speech ended other”—particularly an adversarial other. As a the temporary Palestinian society toward a on with their (individual) lives. with the words, “By next Christmas, the state result, Palestinian collectivist identity may be collectivist-oriented culture.” ... according to By participating in co-existence initiatives, of Palestine will be ours.” This statement was one of the most diffi cult obstacles on the path Palestinian psychologist Elia Awwad and three Reuben, a settler from Gush Etzion ... was able notably absent from the English translation. to peace. Israeli scholars from Ben-Gurion University, to express remorse and even accountability ...Social psychologists know that trauma Perhaps the greatest achievement of the [who authored] “Individualism and Collectiv- for the challenges Palestinians face on a daily enhances collectivist identities. Connecting Palestinian people is the development of their ism in Two Confl icted Societies,” a 1997 study basis. Reuben wrote in an email that Israelis identity to an event in which a particular peo- national identity. The need to unite the multi- that examined the constructs of collectivism and Palestinians need joint projects to lower ple has been victimized is often essential to na- plicity of identities existing under the Ottoman and individualism in more than 3,000 Israeli the fears on both sides, the end of political vio- tion building. Thus, the trauma and suffering Empire, and to deal with the non-starter of Palestinians feel at the hands of Israel serve as pan-Arab identity required no small amount of a unifying factor and reinforces their collective intellectual energy, cultural development, and A future together will require not only identity. Much the same was the case with Is- carefully constructed theory in order to create painful concessions, raeli identity and the Holocaust. the “collectivistic-oriented culture” examined but a willingness of each side to validate the other’s story. “Palestinian identity is strongly infl uenced by today’s identity theorists. by a sense of victimization, which is evident In both practical and psychological terms, But when ordinary Palestinians and Israelis meet, by displacement and manifested as a collec- the role played by Israel and Zionism is of that’s not what happens. tive nationalistic identity,” says University of paramount importance to Palestinian collectiv- Nebraska anthropologist Michaela Clemens. ism. In 1977, Zuheir Mohsen, leader of the pro- Whereas other cultures might see refugee con- Syrian faction of the PLO, was explicit ... when and Palestinian high school students. They ex- lence of any kind, the end of incitement and cerns as a temporary issue, the Palestinians’ he said: “For political reasons we carefully un- plored values, historical interests, and attitudes the recognition that we are all human beings self-image as refugees creates and molds their derwrite our Palestinian identity. Because it is toward confl ict resolution. who deserve dignity, freedom and economic identity and, by extension, the confl ict itself. of national interest for the Arabs to advocate Students were asked to rate the importance prosperity. All of these elements have been Consequently, the right of return has come to the existence of Palestinians to balance Zion- of such concepts as family, friends, democracy, kept hostage to a political agreement which is be seen as an inalienable right akin to the right ism. Yes, the existence of a separate Palestinian peace at any cost, etc. The study concluded, unlikely to happen in the near future because to exist. identity exists only for tactical reasons. The es- “The strong collective consciousness of a new the maximum each side can offer is less than The extent to which this infl uences the tablishment of a Palestinian state is a new tool nationalism was clearly refl ected in the an- the minimum they can accept. It’s time to move confl ict is pointed out by Phillip Hammack, to continue the fi ght against Israel and for Arab swers of the Palestinian group…Whereas the ahead on the mutual humanization front. a professor of psychology at the University of unity.” Palestinian group expressed a coherent collec- [But...] Palestinians often cannot distinguish California, Santa Cruz. Hammack examines In the decades preceding Israel’s independ- tivist value system, including nationalism and between Israeli suffering and their own. As a identity and politics by studying adolescent ence, Palestinian national identity was mostly other in-group elements, in the Israeli group, result, rather than empathizing with the Israeli participants in Palestinian-Israeli coexistence concerned with factional politics based on trib- the values map is more mixed and ambiguous.” side of the situation and why certain Palestin- initiatives like Seeds of Peace and Hands of alism and parochialism (internally, this is still While Palestinian identity concretized into ian positions are unfeasible for them, the Pales- Peace. According to Hammack, the young peo- largely the case). The rise of a unifi ed national the group, Israeli identity, in contrast, moved in tinians ...[seek a]... quid-pro-quo. Thus, the no- ple who struggled to integrate the experience of consciousness began in reaction to specifi c po- the opposite direction. Over the past three dec- tion of reconciliation effective in Palestinian coexistence into their life stories experienced litical events, such as the Balfour Declaration ades, Israel has undergone a process of rapid society is not based on humanizing the other an identity crisis. “Palestinian youth,” he ob- and the League of Nation’s acceptance of Jew- individualization. This process has fragmented in order to make deep and painful conces- served, “identify with [an] ideology of struggle ish claims to the holy land. With Israel’s 1948’s what was once a unifi ed national culture into sions but on a concept known as sulha, or an and victimhood, providing a sense of solidar- Declaration of Independence—what the Pales- various social groups defi ned by indifference, agreement in which an offended party receives ity and meaning.” This identity is inextricably tinians call the naqba, or “catastrophe”—two opposition, and support for a collective na- compensation for the wrong he perceived was connected to their political extremism. “Nearly paths were forged and two national identities tional identity. This new, individualized society done. all of my Palestinian interviewees,” Hammack crystallized. was able to encompass a host of new, modern In a Haaretz article, a Palestinian PhD stu- says, “endorsed the practice of suicide bomb- dent from the University of Pennsylvania that ing as a legitimate form of resistance against the issue of Jewish refugees from Muslim coun- the Israeli occupation, identifying bombers as tries might be the key to reconciliation. ‘freedom fi ghters.’” Full reconciliation is refl ected in the sulha Paraphrasing Herbert Kelman, a professor ceremony where the payment is made. Now of social ethics at Harvard’s department of psy- I understand that those Jews already paid for chology, Hammack concluded that “large-scale the sulha, when they lost all their property shifts in collective identity may be necessary and were forced to disperse, just like us Pal- prior to any serious curtailment of the con- estinians. The conditions of the sulha have al- fl ict, as the confl ict relies on the reproduction ready been fulfi lled. If the Israeli government of negatively interdependent collective narra- publicizes that, the two nations will be able to tives.” progress to a process of true peace. We won’t In theory, coexistence initiatives enable par- feel that we are the only underdog, because the ticipants to forego ideological differences by al- 2 Donuts for cents! Jews from the Arab countries were victims. You lowing individuals to humanize each other and also experienced a catastrophe, and the time interact with mutual understanding. My expe- 99 has come to engage in a sulha and to stop kill- rience at these encounters, however, has been ing one another.” that, while mutual humanization has varying 1406 Teaneck Rd (in shopping area at corner of State St. and Teaneck Rd.) For her the refugee “debt” had been paid and degrees of success, mutual understanding is Teaneck, NJ 0766 the books balanced. 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(Reprinted with permission of Stratfor. example, the U.S. Embassy in Sanaa was built it is likely that the group’s bomb maker, Ibra- centered on regional militant groups that Visit www.stratfor.com) in accordance with the security standards es- him al-Asiri, has been able to solve the prob- have adopted the al Qaeda brand name, such Global, nonspecifi c threats such as those tablished by the Inman Commission. There- lems that affl icted his past designs. In fact, in as al Qaeda in the Arabia Peninsula and al that prompted recent U.S. embassy closures fore, it is designed to withstand bomb attacks a thwarted underwear bomb plot in May 2012, Qaeda in the Islamic Maghreb. and travel warnings have rarely proved cred- and armed assaults. Still, even well constructed the alleged suicide bomber turned his device As the threat persists, however, that fact ible. These precautionary measures appear to buildings are vulnerable to mob attacks like over to Saudi offi cials, and the device was re- remains that many warnings are issued for be the result of two separate threats, one at- the one directed against the U.S. Embassy in portedly of a different design from the one threats that never actually materialize. Warn- tack against an unspecifi ed U.S. embassy and Tunis in September 2012. Only the host country used in the failed Christmas 2009 attempt. ings can be invalidated by bad information, another against travel infrastructure—pre- security forces can provide protection against Threats to embassy buildings and airlin- deliberate disinformation or postponed or sumably an airliner. In response to the em- such threats. ers have been a persistent feature of the age canceled plots. This is especially true of glo- bassy threat, the U.S. government announced The threat to embassies has been a persist- of modern terrorism. While the tactics and bal, non-specifi c warnings, such as those Aug. 4 that it had extended the closure of sev- ent feature of the age of modern terrorism, tradecraft used to attack these targets have against U.S. embassies in the Middle East and eral embassies in the Middle East until Aug. 10 and so has the threat to airliners and travel- changed in response to evolving security pro- Asia in mid-2001. and that African posts would now be among ers. As for the threat to aviation, al Qaeda in cedures, diplomatic facilities and airliners In the post-Benghazi political environ- the embassies closed. In response to the air- the Arabian Peninsula has a history of failed have nonetheless remained desirable targets. ment, warnings issued by the U.S. govern- line threat, Washington issued a global travel attacks against commercial and cargo airlin- Jihadists will continue to be drawn to them ment are likely evidence that Washington is alert running from Aug. 2 to Aug. 31. The travel ers using cleverly disguised explosive devices. even as the jihadist threat continues to shift acting out of an overabundance of caution— warning and the closures have commanded While these devices have failed in the past, from one posed by the al Qaeda core to one no politician or bureaucrat wants to experi- the media’s attention and have led to much ence another Benghazi. Overreacting is seen speculation about the source and the cred- as preferable to the risks of failing to warn ibility of the threats, but more often than not at all. It is also important to remember that these threats fail to materialize. practically, the threat is more acute in places Most attacks against embassies have in- where al Qaeda franchise groups are active, volved a large vehicle bomb, an armed as- such as Yemen and Libya, than it is globally. sault or a combination of a vehicle bomb and Terrorism is an enduring reality. There armed assault. Such was the case with the were people planning attacks against U.S. U.S. Embassy in Sanaa, Yemen, in September embassies and international aviation before 2008. To mitigate the impact of a perceived these alerts were issued, and there will con- threat, the United States will close an em- tinue to be people planning attacks well after bassy, increase security and request that the the warning expires on August 31. The U.S. host country bolster its security presence at State Department has maintained a “world- the compound. wide caution” since 2001 that is updated eve- Many of the posts that were closed in re- ry six months or so. This means that people sponse to the August threats happen to have must not allow themselves to be caught up in very good physical security measures in place the hype that surrounds such warnings. Rath- due to their locations in the Middle East, which er they should keep terrorism in perspective poses higher threat levels to U.S. facilities. For and practice prudent situational awareness.

If Peace Never Comes, defense. circuit. He remains optimistic and is convinced But even those Palestinians, like Khalid, This Will Be the Reason I don’t feel one needs to apologize for de- that the change he sees happening on a grass- who have accepted the existence and signifi - fending one’s family. We are stationed at roots level will eventually bring about larger cance of the Holocaust—...cannot separate it CONTINUED FROM P. 26 checkpoints for a reason. The moment I or my political change. But even he is unable to sepa- from the Palestinian collective narrative. An national identity, individual Israeli participants friends who serve in reserve units decide not rate the act of terror he committed from the example of this occurred on a coexistence are able to momentarily cast aside “zero-sum stand at checkpoints is the moment a suicide Palestinian collective narrative, and cannot trip to Yad Vashem in September 2012, during identities” and their own sense of victimiza- bomber turns up at Sbarro’s Pizza in Jerusalem accept responsibility for it. Apologizing would which Palestinians from the West Bank were tion. As a result, Israelis are able to ask ques- or at a nightclub in Tel Aviv. [I offered this apol- be an admission of guilt and, in the Palestin- given a guided tour in Arabic. After recovering tions without feeling that their own identities ogy because] there is a risk that Palestinians ian collective, there is no room for such senti- from the initial shock that such a thing as the were threatened. These questions, asked out of will come to believe only refuseniks or insub- ments. Perhaps as a result, Khalid organizes an Holocaust had occurred, the standard response politeness, guilt, and curiosity, often with apol- ordinates want peace. But I seek peace no less annual event in which Israelis and Palestinians was, “If they did it to you, how could you do ogetic overtones, are necessary in order to give than the insubordinates. gather to commemorate victims on both sides it to us?” Even for them, the Holocaust was a voice to the other. The individualized Israeli The revised apology, with its inherent am- of the confl ict and honor their families—in- merely the precursor to the naqba. The naqba, can listen to a Palestinian without negating his biguity, was less palatable to the Palestinians, cluding the families of suicide bombers. was, in effect, the result of the Holocaust. or her sense of self. and led to a heated discussion about the oc- Khalid is not alone in his sentiments. An This holds true even on the tactical level. At the closing session of a history and herit- cupation. The point that Ben was trying to Israeli once asked Ahmed Tibi, Israel’s most As mentioned above, suicide bombings, while age tour which took Palestinians and Israelis to make, while not outright rejected, was simply prominent Arab member of the Knesset, why not encouraged and often condemned by par- Bethlehem, one Israeli participant named Ben ignored. the Holocaust is not taught in Palestinian ticipants of peace movements, are nevertheless remarked that he was sorry he had served as a Khalid, a self-described “freedom fi ghter,” schools. seen as a legitimate form of resistance to the soldier in Bethlehem a decade earlier. Though was 14 when he was arrested for seriously “Teaching Jewish history,” Tibi replied, Israeli occupation. In a collectivist society built heartfelt, Ben’s “apology” was completely mis- injuring an IDF soldier with a Molotov cock- “would erase the Palestinian people.” Tibi’s on the idea of victimhood, struggle—rather construed by the Palestinian participants, who tail. He received a 15–year sentence, of which claim sounds harsh, even absurd, but given the than peace—is the ultimate motivating factor. saw it as an endorsement of insubordination. he served nine. Like many security prisoners, realities of Palestinian identity, it is largely ac- Peace, moreover, may actually threaten collec- They fi t Ben’s apology into their own narrative, Khalid renounced terror in favor of dialogue, curate. tive identity: If struggle is a prerequisite for in which the IDF and its actions are wholly ille- and is able to attribute this transformation to Theorists often conclude that collectivist peace, then any action that serves the struggle, gitimate. In their eyes, Ben was simply coming a specifi c moment. Khalid was in a roomful of identity is overwhelmed by concepts of “us” even terror and incitement, is likely to be per- to terms with this fact. high-profi le prisoners when the guards gave and “them.” In the case of the Palestinians, ceived as legitimate. Peace is sacrifi ced to the But this was not at all the case. Encounter- them a movie to watch. It was Schindler’s List. the victimized “us” depends on maintaining a collective. ing Palestinian individuals, Ben was able to By the end, Khalid says, there wasn’t a dry eye stable notion of “them” as a powerful and il- Individualization, then, is essential to peace. internalize the impact his actions had on Pal- in the house. He laughs as he recalls the sight legitimate oppressor. The idea that “they,” i.e., Economic development, education, and de- estinians lives, but still felt that these actions of tears welling up in the eyes of hardened Israel, might have their own history (or real- mocracy will hopefully contribute to a general were justifi ed. Seeing how his Palestinian terrorists. It was diffi cult, he says, for them to ity) of victimhood, struggle, impotence, and change in Palestinian collective identity. But counterparts interpreted his statement, Ben face the guards when he returned. Khalid, like legitimacy is incompatible with the Palestinian ultimately it is the task of the individual Pales- felt obliged to clarify himself in a series of Fa- the vast majority of Palestinians, had no idea collective narrative. As Clemens noted in his tinian to break free from the in-group, achieve cebook posts. Although he was sorry that the of the scale of the Holocaust. It marked a turn- study of refugee status and identity, “This na- psychological autonomy, and become an in- situation had forced him to serve in the West ing point for him. Suddenly, Khalid saw the tionalistic collective and individual identity of dependent agent and master of his own fate. Bank, he wrote, he was not sorry for protecting “other” in a new light and, most importantly, Palestinians may prove to be the strongest bar- This is the most important step on the way to the citizens of Israel from potential violence. he learned how to empathize with his enemy. rier to peace. The confl ict is viewed in zero-sum reconciliation. Ben was able to express remorse over the nega- He subsequently learned Hebrew and read vo- terms…. Either we are a nation or they are. They Deborah Danan is a Tel-Aviv-based journalist, tive implications of his army service without raciously about Jewish history. can acquire national identity and rights only at organizer of co-existence initiatives for Israelis surrendering his belief in Israel’s right to self- Khalid is now a regular fi gure on the peace the expense of our identity and rights.” and Palestinians

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barak in Egypt was due to the Tunisian hate education system, which refers to Israel’s Bad Neighborhood and Egyptian armies pulling the rug from the Jewish state as an inhumane entity under the feet of their despots. The third to be uprooted from the Middle East. By Yoram Ettinger, Israel Today so-called Arab Spring generated a wave of method is through foreign invasion, such Islam’s strategic goal has been to hope among those fi ghting for—or advo- as the removal of Saddam Hussein in Iraq spread Islam throughout the Abode of While the Middle East combusts, cating—democratization of Arab authori- in 2003. The Arab Spring created the hope the Infi del, peacefully or via the sword/ threatening vital U.S. interests, the U.S. tarian regimes. Now, following regime that another method might be developed: war/terrorism. Accordingly, Islam and attempts to clip Israel’s wings — the only changes in Tunisia, Egypt, Libya and Yem- change of government through reason- democracy, as well as Islam and peaceful reliable, predictable, stable, effective, en, and with a brutal civil war raging in ably clean elections… [However], crowds coexistence with the “infi del,” constitute democratic and unabashedly pro-U.S. Syria and increasingly fraught conditions are fi ckle beasts on whose back could ride oxymorons. fi refi ghter in the region. in Bahrain, Sudan, Jordan and Iraq…the re- all manner of unsavory characters…Morsi The 2013 Middle East—which is in- Western policy-makers and public- gion has already witnessed [disintegration was kicked out because of the armed creasingly dominated by the 14-century opinion molders welcomed the 2011 riots which] will reverberate beyond the Arab forces. Egypt would be back to 1952 when intra-Muslim chaos, uncertainty, shifty on the Arab street as an “Arab Spring,” map…Everywhere in the Arab world and [Gamal Abdel] Nasser was beginning to policies and horrifi c intolerance—is in- a people’s revolution and a transition beyond [the Arab Winter] has called into build his military dictatorship.” compatible with a 9- to 15-mile width toward democracy. However, Tunisia, question the viability of the nation-state.” A major axis of the Arab-Muslim tsu- of Israel, as espoused by the well-inten- Libya, Egypt, Yemen and Syria have dem- Amir Taheri, a columnist of the Saudi- nami—and the most critical obstacle to tioned U.S. administration. onstrated that the Arab street is experi- controlled daily Asharq Al Awsat, wrote intra-Arab and Israel-Arab peace—has The 2013 Middle East highlights the encing an Arab tsunami and a transition on July 5: “Even before it was fully under- been Islam, the only common denomi- tenuous nature of Arab regimes, policies towards intensifi ed chaos, totally unre- way, the Arab Spring was seen by some nator in the violently fragmented Arab and agreements and the absence of intra- lated to the Palestinian issue, which has Western analysts as the prelude to an Middle East. Since its inception in the Arab comprehensive peace. However, Is- been a regional sideshow. Islamic Winter…The coup against [Egyp- seventh century, Islam has been authori- rael is pressured to ignore the nature of In fact, Alexei Pushkov, chairman of tian] President [Mohammed] Morsi hints tative, coercive, repressive, demanding of its Middle East neighborhood and retreat the International Committee in Russia’s at…a military summer of chaos. In most total submission, and violently intoler- from the tangible mountain ridges of Ju- Duma, stated on July 4: “The ongoing cases, change of [Arab] governments has ant of criticism by Muslims, let alone by dea and Samaria—which constitute its events in Egypt confi rm that the so-called occurred in three ways. One way has been “infi dels.” Islamic regimes have always cradle of history and tower over Jerusa- Arab Spring has led not to democratic re- through the assassination of the ruler that regarded freedom of expression, religion, lem, Tel Aviv and 80 percent of Israel’s in- newal but to chaos…We can see this in dates back to the dawn of Islam…The sec- association and free market—the pillars frastructures—in return for an intangible Egypt, in Libya, in Syria, and in Iraq…The ond way is through military coup…With of democracy—as lethal threats. and tenuous Arab agreement. events in Egypt show that there cannot the disintegration of the Ottoman Empire Moreover, Islam has always consid- Acquaintance with the Middle East be a quick and gentle transition from an and the emergence of several new Arab ered itself to be divinely ordained to environment and its implications for authoritarian regime to political democ- states centered on newly created armies, dominate the Christian and Jewish “infi - vital U.S. economic and national secu- racy. There can’t be such a transition in changing governments through military dels,” condemning them to “dhimmitude” rity interests, while the U.S. withdraws the Arab Middle East countries.” coups became an established method. (accepting inferiority through peaceful and cuts its defense budget, warrants a According to the May 13 issue of the “Since the 1920s, Arab nations have ex- surrender) or annihilation. Islam has nev- stronger Israel, which is incompatible Singapore-based Today, “The beauty of the perienced around 40 coups—from Oman er tolerated “infi del” sovereignty in the with the proposed Palestinian state and Arab Spring seems to have given way to and Yemen to Algeria, Syria, and Egypt. Abode of Islam, as evidenced by Palestin- an Israeli retreat from the Judea and Sa- an almost unbearable Arab Winter…The The fall of Ben Ali in Tunisia and Mu- ian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas’ maria high ground.

Though we both are dedicated to in- cessionsin the name of peace. Our Friends The Mormons spiring our co-religionists with our faith, I learned that the Mormons have great Mormons do this in many countries even respect for the Jews and the State of Is- By: Rabbi Perry Tirschwell (Utah) Zion, consider their Temple holy with non-Christians. They do separate rael and truly want to help us. We should ground, and only allow people who are their humanitarian and religious arms, so work towards building bridges to the With large fami- pure in their eyes to enter it.Mormons people understand that the aid to under- LDS in our local areas, as these people lies, a deep love of were persecuted and killed, but are each privileged people throughout the world share some of our values, ideals, and con- Israel and the Jewish quick to point out that the persecutions does not come with any strings attached. cerns, and essentially are our allies. people,simultaneous of the Jews are unparalleled. Most of us associate the Mormon Executive Director of Public Policy dedication to our faith Like us, the Mormons also have 13 Arti- church with two “parshiyot”- the con- Nathan Diament and Director of State and engagement with cles of Faith, though we of course do not struction of the Mormon Center facing Political Affairs and Outreach Maury Lit- the broader world, dietary restrictions subscribe to most of them. Number 10 the Old City of Jerusalem in the 1980’s wack of the OU’s Advocacy Centermaster- and modest dress, and being misunder- states that “We believe in the literal gath- and the posthumous baptism of Holo- fully organized this important mission. stood (even by their coreligionists), Or- ering of Israel”.The truth is, as Jews, we caust survivors in the 1990’s. The church Together with my fellow participants on thodox Jews surprisingly have much in are not even certain that making aliyah uses its Mt. Scopus facility to inspire its the mission, Rabbis Lenny Matanky of common with one of the fastest grow- and relocating to Israel makes our list of own members with a love of Israel, and Chicago, Illinois and Shalom Baum of Tea- ing religions in the United States - the 613 mitzvot! is committed to not proselytizing in Is- neck, New Jersey (President and First Vice Church of Latter Day Saints (LDS), collo- Mormons are disproportionately rep- rael. The church also forbade these post- President respectively) of the Rabbinical quially known as the Mormons. I would resented in many walks of life, including humous baptisms. Council of America (RCA), and Pace Coop- like to share refl ections on this week’s just6 Mormon senators and 14 members LDS is governed by a president (and er of Memphis, Tennessee (a member of meetings,coordinated by the Ortho- of the House. Senate Majority Leader his 2 counselors), 12 apostles, and two the OU Board of Directors), I am indebted dox Union’s Advocacy Center, with the Harry Reid and presidential candidates groups of 70 elders. We met with 2 of the to these extremely talented profession- church and its political leadership in Salt Mitt Romney and Jon Huntsman are all apostles, and one of the elders. They pro- alsfor letting us help them build bridges Lake City, Utah. members of the LDS. The founders of vided and ate kosher food with us and of- with these important allies with whom There are 14 million Mormons world- JetBlue and Marriot Hotels, as well an fered to drive us to minyan at the Chabad we have so much in common. wide. There are 14 million Jews worldwide. increasing number of high level lawyers of Utah. Neither they nor we brought up 6 million members of each faith live in the and bankers, are Mormon. matters of theology. We spoke exclusive- Rabbi Perry Tirschwell is the new Ex- U.S., 3 million of which are centered in To be clear, there are certainly dif- ly about issues of common causesuch as ecutive Director of the National Council of one particular geographical area (the East ferences between the two religions. the increasing secularization of Ameri- Young Israel. After living in Boca Raton for Coast and Mountain states respectively). Amongst them are belief in the New Tes- can society, legislation, and how to keep the past 16 years where he served as the We both believe that we are descended tament and their savior, public school- our youth in our respective folds. founding Head of School of the Weinbaum from the 12 tribes of Israel. Around the ing (Mormons children study in public We met with Utah’s senators- veteran Yeshiva High School, Rabbi Tirschwell has age of 13, Mormons receive a personalized school and go across the street for an Republican Orrin Hatch and Tea Party returned to Bergen County. He was the Patriarchal Blessing which they consider hour a day of religious instruction), no freshman Mike Lee, as well as Lieuten- fi rst Frisch graduate to subsequently serve their life’s mission statement. houses of study or scholars because their ant Governor Greg Bell. Each of them as a rebbe at the school. Rabbi Tirschwell Like us, Mormons send their children religion is not centered around study, deeply shares our concerns for guaran- is a graduate of Yeshivat Har Etzion, Yes- away after high school forone or two has a short history, and does not require teeing religious liberties (e.g. not forc- hiva University, and RIETS, and holds years to experience spiritual growth, are exacting decisions of law. The Mormons ing religious institutions to provide a Master’s Degree in School Administra- committed to giving 10% of their earnings respect these differences.To address one benefi ts which are not in keeping with tion and Supervision from the College of to charity, and believe in abortion when of the misconceptions that many people their beliefs), maximizing constitution- New Rochelle. He is very happily married the mother’s life is endangered, there have, bigamy has been strictly prohibited ally-appropriate funding and tax breaks to Miriam, a speech therapist in the pub- was rape or incest, and other extenuating for over 140 years by the LDS and is only for religious institutions, and not pres- lic schools, and they have fi ve daughters, situations.Mormons call their homeland practiced by some splinter groups. suring Israel to make dangerous con- ages 14-24.

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would be wrenching enough. Besides, she refreshed. vainly searching for what was no longer REGRETS tried to convince herself, how could they Luckily, Brooklyn seemed less crowded there. Gone. It was all gone. The tickets, the By Estelle Glass possibly leave the packed car safely on the that Sunday and there was even a parking passport, the tefi llin. Everything from un- streets of the lower east side and visit her space just a few yards from the restaurant. derwear to sox, shirts and pants, medicine Esther put down the receiver. This time parents’ apartment. Ozi would just have to Although they were only a family of six tum- and sefarim, bedding and food, kipot lov- she refused to let her mother make her feel call his Bobbie and Zaydie and say his fare- bling out of the car onto the sunny street, ingly crocheted by various eager teenagers. guilty. Why couldn’t her parents understand wells on the phone. Really, it was the only they made enough of a racket for ten peo- Rina’s prized photos. All, all gone in a few how stressed out she was, how painful it smart thing to do. ple. Esther kept shushing her screaming moments. was for her to send her oldest child away for August 27th. The much anticipated day family but there was no quieting their noisy Three long days later when Ozi fi nally an entire year! Whose crazy idea was this, was here. After weeks of Last Times, the shouting. They just had too much pent up left for Israel, the many things he had lost she thought for the millionth time, who had last batch of laundry.... the last strains of emotion that needed releasing. had all been replaced. The airline had issued decided that it was a good idea to send a child his keyboard fi ltering through his bed- “Should I take my keyboard.”? new tickets. Len had driven to Philadelphia off, away from his family, to study for a whole room walls…. the last Shabbos together “Leave your leather jacket in the car; it and Ozi had been issued a new passport. long year in Israel? It didn’t make sense. He as a family, it was fi nally time to get on will only take a few minutes.” At the same time, Esther and the girls had was too young. She did everything for him. their way. Esther, Len and the four kids “Rina, Stop shlepping that heavy photo known just where to shop and what to buy. And the furthest away that Ozi had ever been (another last!) barely managed to squeeze album. You’ll show us your pictures from And what they didn’t really need. Yet, it was from his family was when he went away to into the family Oldsmobile. Everywhere Achva at the airport.” only when her mother died suddenly one summer camp. Now if she was lucky, she around them there was luggage; in the Yes, you would have to have been deaf Friday afternoon the following December would maybe get to see her fi rst born once trunk, on their laps, under their legs and and blind not to notice the Glass family. that Esther acknowledged how simple it over the next many months. crammed beneath their seats, wherever The restaurant was as empty as the street, had actually been to replace all those lost The last few weeks had been fi lled there was an inch of available space. As so ordering dinner only took a few minutes. objects. After all, stores are always stocked with the distraction of shopping. They they headed to the airport Esther real- Soon the group was exiting through the full with replacements for everything that had bought clothing and books and toilet- ized she hadn’t eaten a thing all day. She revolving door, with Esther clutching the we might lose or desire. Loved ones, she ries and food and she had spent countless was starving. Why not make a brief stop delicious smelling deli bags tightly. It was now realized; well, that was a different story. hours poring over suggested lists and try- in Brooklyn on the way to Kennedy Air- 12-year-old Michael who immediately no- Their absence was permanent, and they ing to cram every item into the allotted port? Ozi’s fl ight was scheduled to leave at ticed something was wrong. would be longed for and missed forever. luggage. Now the day of his leaving had fi - 1 a.m. so picking up some deli sandwiches “Someone left the car door open,” he How very sorry she was that they had not nally arrived, and Esther just did not have to eat at the airport would help to pass yelled. No, they couldn’t have… Esther raced stopped on that August day, so Ozi could say the strength for one more tearful goodbye those remaining anxious hours. Then he ahead, the others following fast behind. To- a last goodbye to his beloved grandmother. scene with her parents. The looming airport could relax and have a good night’s rest gether they peered in disbelief and mount- Esther knew that she would regret that deci- departure with just the immediate family on the plane and arrive at his new yeshiva ing horror into the car’s now empty interior, sion forever. NEW IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD wanted to have done we obviously did not chance to think about it. I’LL CALL YOU BACK need to have done anyway and we have To families who have sons or sons-in=law saved lots of money. The few who came here sitting and learning in Yeshiva: encourage By Mordechai & Nina Glick even consider using your skills. and never called back with estimates had so them to become contractors. Hopefully It is for that reason that we are totally many “extra” ideas of what really needed to from all of their learning they have acquired For the past 20 baffl ed by the service industry that we have be done in our house that they were busy the importance of being a mensch and re- years, since our chil- come across in the Bergenfi eld/Teaneck spending our money before we even had a turning people’s telephone calls. dren were in school area. It seems to be a common denominator full-time, Nina has amongst contractors, painters, gardeners, been a travel agent. She noticed that people etc. that they feel no sense of obligation to NOW IN PERFORMANCES! in Montreal would never check other sourc- return telephone calls or to keep appoint- es to see where they could get special deals ments they make. When and if they fi nally on fl ights and hotels and as an avid reader of show up they say they will either call back the NY Times from the day we left the States with an estimate or return to do a job and she would be amazed at the signifi cant dif- never again are they seen or heard from. ferences in prices vis-a-vis the States to those Being “New in the Neighborhood” we in Canada. She had not given any thought to asked several people for the names of con- the fact that most women in the travel in- tractors to do various jobs in our home. Fre- dustry entered because their husbands had quently the same names kept being thrown business connections who traveled exten- around—every time we would call these sively and they were able to swing business names we would leave a message on their in the direction of their wives. She also had answering machines and never receive a call not realized that friends who she assumed back. Common courtesy?—we think so— would begin to use her services had their amazingly there seems to be so much busi- own allegiances to their travel agents and ness in this area that the average contractor that it is only when an agent makes a mis- could not care less about receiving more Musical Director - MICHAEL LARSEN take that one looks to switching to someone business. What a lesson it is for all of our else. children who have struggled through school “Holds universal appeal! The show transcends matters of race or creed. Our family situation was such that our to get degrees which in many cases has led personal travel consisted of putting the kids them to a bleak job market. in the car at every opportunity in order to Why aren’t we directing our children He is a 10!” - Peter Filichia, NJ Star-Ledger drive to either Jericho, L.I. or Malden, Mas- to learn the art of plumbing, landscaping, sachusetts to visit grandparents. Rabbinical home building etc.How many people do we

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protected. the most obvious; French toast, make it Re-Purpose On Purpose Take an old framed picture you no into croutons; but I also use it to put under longer use, slide a piece of decorative pa- my meat when I broil. If you do that, you By Gail Hochman Have old crystal light containers? I per inside and use it to hold bottles of per- will avoid the grease that turns into smoke know we use a lot of them since we fume or other toiletries on your dresser or and it will keep your broiling smoke free!!! We are living in an age stopped buying soda. Here are some in the bathroom. I have taken beautifully Keep a piece of unused chalk in your sil- where things cost a lot of things you can do with them when they framed pictures and turned them into verware closet; It helps slow down tarnish money; I am fi nding over are empty: Shabbos candle trays. You can also use old time. and over that people tend Take off the wrapping that it comes framed mirrors to put your cookies and Don’t throw out your old eyeglass to discard things rather than re-purpose with, leave them plain or glue on some pick-me-ups on and serve as is; It makes a case. Repurpose it into an evening/wed- them. There are so many things that we decorative paper and use them for a desk stunning presentation. ding bag. You can glue on some beautiful can fi nd other uses for; everyday things organizer. I glued three together and use Use an old toothbrush (or a new one) crystals and jazz it up and it can become a that you would perhaps be very quick to them as a silverware caddy. You can also to clean your mushrooms and other veg- great bag to take to a party!!! throw out. I am happy to share some ide- fi ll them with rocks or beans and turn gies before using. I also use them to clean Let me hear some of your creative ide- as with you. Try them; you may be very them into Purim groggers. You can use my diamond ring and other hard-to-reach as; email [email protected] surprised!!! them to hold eyeglasses on your desk or crevices. A toothbrush is also very good Take an old cd case; glue it together on night table. If you need to mail a small ob- to clean around the knobs on your dirty Gail Hochman is a resident of Fair Lawn all 4 sides, slip your photos in the slots and ject that is fragile, you can use it to pack in stove or to get around faucets when clean- NJ; she has been married for 35 years and has then use it as a desk holder to corral all and tape it up and smack a label on it and ing. many wonderful grandchildren with whom your pens, scissors, etc. just send it off; Your object will be totally You can take stale bread and use it for: she loves to share her tips.

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Nancy announced it was time for recess, several trated above can just continue to do the When Did I Become ? students started trying to shove me out of same. However, if we do hold, if only mini- the way. Really? Six and 7-year-olds shov- mally, to the basic Jewish concept of “do By Nancy Silberman Zwiebach time before I experienced waitstaff also ing an adult? Or that in a movie theater, not do unto others that which you would expressing themselves with the same vul- when asking adults sitting behind me and not have done to yourself,” and have that everal weeks ago, I garity and, then, eventually, managers and holding a conversation at regular voice philosophy infl uence our own behaviors, Sentered my bank to even owners of establishments using four level to please be quiet, they deliberately then we will set the sterling example for try to solve a problem. A letter words as easily as saying “Have a spoke louder, not only interfering with us, children that seems optimal. young woman, whom I nice day.” but with everyone else around them. Or, I often think we can take a lesson from had never seen before, approached, asking Once, in a kosher market, shopping that when approaching yeshivas with my Rudy Guiliani. While perhaps not a fan of if she could help me. I showed her the doc- with my young daughter, the proprietor, arms full of various materials, both grown many of his policies, I think the way he uments I had and explained what I was on a phone within the confi nes of the men as well as students, allowed the door went about changing the social atmos- hoping to achieve. She looked them over store, was speaking with one of his sup- to slam in my face rather offering to help phere in New York City deserves a yasher and began to address me, saying, “Okay, pliers, shouting at the highest volume, ex- with what I was carrying. They couldn’t koach! When the city was overrun with Nancy ...” pressing himself in a way beyond anything even holding the door? Huh? crime and people were afraid to walk in I was quite taken aback! I could have acceptable. My daughter, shocked, turned On Sundays, I work in a program that the streets even in midtown, Guiliani been the woman’s mother, plus! Having to me and said, “Mommy, he’s wearing a is housed in a yeshiva. I sit in the offi ce chose to clamp down on the uninvited been distressed over the past number of kippah.” and have access to the PA system. Not too window washer people. I must admit it years at the increasing decrease of cour- Debating whether or not to say any- long ago, a woman entered the building, seemed ridiculous at the time, with so tesy and propriety in social interactions, thing to him, I did decide to approach approached my desk and demanded, “I much intense crime going on, this is what the way this woman addressed me par- him—and reproach him—saying, “You need you to page so and so and so and so!” is targeted to control? However, it was the ticularly astounded me, as banks, at least know, children are in the store.” (Not that I I got up to go to the phone that would al- proverbial stone causing a ripple effect. I thought, were still institutions of more would have wanted to hear it myself.) low me to do this, asked her to repeat the That one small act resulted in ever widen- formal conduct. He apologized and said he was just hav- names of the children she wanted paged, ing circles of civility until the city became I told the young woman that I was un- ing a very bad time with that company and and then added, politely, “It would have safely alive again. comfortable with her addressing me as he normally never spoke that way. Howev- been nice if you said, ‘Please.’” A number of years ago, I was asked by Nancy and would much prefer she call er, upon checking out, the cashier thanked WHOA! She scrunched up her face and a woman who had been the head of an me Mrs. Zwiebach. She said, “Oh, I didn’t me and said that they had to listen to that demanded, “What is your name?” She was Early Childhood department in a yeshiva know how to pronounce your name.” all day. The question is, if the owner of the upset with me and, obviously, wanted to for many years, to prepare a presentation My response was, “Then you should store doesn’t care about the verbal rude- report my insolence to my “superior!” Af- for her staff. She was concerned that the have asked.” ness his customers and employees hear, ter all, in her mind, I was “only” a secretary teachers weren’t treating the children with I remember the fi rst time I was in a res- how can he expect his employees to care and what right did I have to expect to be respect. I developed something called “Re- taurant and heard nearby diners speaking and guard their tongues? spoken to courteously. REALLY!! spect: It Goes Both Ways” and have pre- loudly enough to be heard clearly, using Where has civility gone? Yes, we live in To her credit, she did, it seemed, refl ect sented this workshop many times. I have extremes of foul language, resulting in my a more informal world—and to some de- on the interaction and offered an apology. even developed a parallel presentation feeling absolutely violated and shocked. I gree, that’s wonderful. I guess the issue is, However, this attitude, this way of ap- with the same name, but geared for ad- certainly wasn’t so naive as to think that to what degree? proaching people, and thinking of others ministrators to staff. The basic theme and some people didn’t speak that way, I’d just I wonder if it would be shocking to as being “less” and then speaking to them lesson of both is: if one wants to be treated never heard it in a publicly shared space anyone reading this to learn that once, in a disrespectful, demeaning manner, with respect, then one must treat others before and with such disregard to those in a fi rst grade classroom, when stand- where does that come from? with respect as well. around them. It didn’t take too much ing by the door at the time the teacher Interestingly, while I’ve been con- So, make sure you say please and thank templating writing about this issue for a you to your children and make sure they while, just recently several people, within hear you saying it to others. Hold the door; the context of informal conversations, smile! Offer help, when someone drops have addressed this very topic. Among something, help them pick it up. When them were some who have worked with in public places, speak in an appropriate Michelle Judith Boutique children and parents over many years and tone. When your children are in public VNLUWVWRSVVKHOOVKDLUDFFHVVRULHV are noticing the disturbing changes in be- places, remind them to behave properly haviors. Children more likely to present and to respect others’ rights. 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By Alyssa Colton MA, determine other families’ priorities, as each OTR/L & Aviva Lipner family’s needs and expectations are different, MA, OTR/L so families need to do that for themselves. It’s also important to remember that as children go ne of the many through various developmental stages, the pri- Ostruggles we orities may change. parents face is deter- To those of you who have never heard of mining how to set these recommendations before, or prefer a clear boundaries for our children and still allow more laid back family lifestyle, this may sound them space to make their own choices. When excessively rigid or infl exible. Rest assured that do I put my foot down with my child and when if you maintain consistency, the overall stress do I ease up and give them freedom to do what level in your home should signifi cantly de- they want? crease as your child with SPD will feel safe and Now imagine the child you are raising is a comfortable with the knowledge that he/she child that is constantly trying to control all knows what is expected of him/her. of his/her experiences. A child with a sensory Alyssa Colton MA, OTR and Aviva Lipner MA, processing disorder (SPD) often feels out of con- OTR are pediatric occupational therapists and trol and so these children try to control what owners of Kids’ Therapy Place, LLC and Kids’ they can and are many times referred to as “con- Therapy Toy Store [email protected] trolling” by those caring for them. Therefore, the dilemma of setting boundaries becomes even more confusing for their parents. As oc- cupational therapists, we often hear parents say that they feel badly for their children and their daily struggles and do not want to place “extra” demands on them by setting rules and boundaries. Yeshiva High School for Girls The rule of thumb is as follows: Children with SPD require at least as many boundaries and clear and consistent rules as those with an organized sensory system. They usually require Invites you to join us for our annual more rules and boundaries than organized kids. Children with SPD are need to control, there- fore, the clearer the expectations of them, the Community Yom Iyun more in control they will feel. If they know that every time they throw a tantrum, the rules will change, and that can be very scary for a child Sunday, September 8, 2013 – 4 Tishrei 5774 nervous about change. On the other hand, if the rules are always consistent, no matter how hard 9:30 AM - 12:30 PM they try to challenge their caregivers, they will Men and women welcome feel a sense of order in their lives. This will in fact, give them a feeling of control.

Along with clear and consistent expecta- Keynote Speaker: tions, we often recommend creating some kind of visual schedule. A visual schedule is the Rabbi Yaakov Blau, Talmud Chair schedule of the day, written, drawn or photo- graphed (depending on your child’s understand- Everyone for Themselves? ing). The visuals are vertically listed one at a The Role of the Shliach Tzibbur on Rosh Hashana time. As the child goes through each item on his/her schedule, he/she can erase or check off what was done. Sometimes an entire day is too With additional shiurim by members of our overwhelming for a child (or a parent for that distinguished faculty, including: matter), so we often suggest taking one part of the day to make one a schedule and then take Mrs. Rivka Kahan, Principal another part of the day to make another sched- ule. For example, have a morning routine sched- Rabbi Donny Besser ule and a separate schedule for the evening. In Mrs. Suzanne Cohen tova order to give the child some control, the parent Ms. Elana Flaumenhaft may want to offer two choices to a child regard- ing one or two items on the schedule. For exam- Ms. Sarah Gordon ple, at snack time you may ask the child “Would Mrs. Leah Herzog you like to have an apple or a granola bar?” This way, either choice is a good one for the parent Mrs. Melissa Kapustin and the child feels a sense of ownership over Rabbi Zev Prince the decision. (If you would like to see an exam- ple of a visual schedule, email us and we will And our school president: send one to you.) Mr. Menachem Schnaidman It is important to keep in mind, as with all good parenting, that the key is in picking your battles. Primary caregivers, together, should de- termine the most important priorities that re- This event is generously sponsored by the Staiman family in quire the most serious limits. For example, all commemoration of the first yahrtzeit of Mr. Staiman’s father, shana parents agree that it is never OK for a child to run into the street. Therefore, holding a child’s Shalom Tzvi ben Aharon, Sholom Staiman. hand in the street may be a rule that can never be altered. On the other hand, wearing a short- sleeved shirt in the winter, if a child is sensitive Ma’ayanot Yeshiva High School for Girls  to clothing, may not have to be the issue that x x turns your morning upside down. We cannot 1650 Palisade Avenue Teaneck, New Jersey 07666 www.maayanot.org

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hard. You have to remain focused, push Formula One Race A Part Of Acceleration the car to the limit without losing con- trol.” For Israeli Motorsports Meiri and Frank are counting on the thrilling experiences reported by freshly By Jeffrey F. Barken/JNS.org sible to the Israeli public. Because the mile-long racetrack in Eilat trained drivers, like Bakish, to fuel en- “Traditionally, you have to be very rich was not yet completed, the drivers were thusiasm for future motorsports events There is something different about tak- and well licensed to drive in the Formula,” sent to France to receive hands-on in- in Israel. ing a ride from Shlomi Bakish. Not only Meiri tells JNS.org. struction in preparation for Israel’s fi rst Already, the sport’s following is grow- can he get from Haifa to Tel Aviv in half As racetrack construction began in Formula One competition. ing at a remarkable rate. Nearly 4,000 the time, but passengers also don’t feel the Eilat, Meiri and Frank organized a new Training at the Zig Zag school con- spectators—mostly tourists and fami- road. The car accelerates without strain. method for recruiting and training driv- sists of grueling physical conditioning lies—attended last year’s race in Eilat, Unlike many Israeli drivers, Bakish doesn’t ers. Their efforts have created a pioneer courses, as well as a regimen of computer packing the stands. express rage when a slower car cuts him racing culture in Israel that is likely to in- simulator exercises. “A good driver needs The initial race in Eilat cost 6 million off. He sees his opportunity and easily spire similar programs around the world. to know how to push the car to the limit shekels ($1.7 million) to produce, but this passes on the right. It’s as though he’s driv- “The idea is drivers driving,” Frank of traction without losing control,” Bak- was partly due to the high price of start- ing in a race. tells JNS.org. “We want to give enthusi- ish tells JNS.org. “It’s a very thin line, and up construction and the need to pur- For the past decade, talented Israeli asts who have the talent to race competi- it takes time. You have to handle the car chase expensive licenses and insurance drivers like Bakish were stranded in traf- tively but who don’t have the money to gently. If you are brutal, it will punish policies. Now the price has come down fi c by an unpopular law regulating mo- participate in the sport the rare opportu- you.” considerably, costing the organization torsports. But new regula- For Bakish, who only 2.5 million shekels to host the an- tions approved in March participated in the pi- nual winter race. 2011 by the Knesset’s Edu- lot program and was “Last year we made a profi t,” Meiri cation, Culture and Sports ranked 3rd prior to the says. “Now we are more organized. After Committee have opened 2012 Eilat race, the op- the fi rst race, we also held a road show doors for enthusiasts of portunity to drive a in Jerusalem. These events have strength- Formula racing—which en- Formula racecar was ened the Formula culture in Israel and compasses several forms of the fulfi llment of a are encouraging more advertisers and open-wheeled, single-seat childhood dream. sponsors to invest in Israeli racing.” racecar driving including “The car is very com- Meiri and Frank, who have worked Formula Renault, Formula pact,” Bakish describes out a fi ve-year lease on the racetrack with One, Formula Two, Formu- his fi rst Formula Re- Israel’s Ministry of Transportation, have la Three, and World Series nault car. “Drivers lie ambitious plans. Currently, the racetrack by Renault—to get back in down inside a narrow in Eilat is used for part of the year as a the driver’s seat. The Jew- tunnel. You have to parking lot for new cars shipped to Israel ish state’s fi rst Formula wear special shoes; from the Far East. To attract internation- One road show, which took otherwise your feet al attention, Israel needs a larger, more place in mid-June, attracted will get stuck on the permanent facility. 100,000 spectators. Formula One Scuderia Ferrari team driver Giancarlo Fisichella drives a Ferrari F60 pedals. The engine has “We have a long-term goal of opening Formula Israel developers past The Tower of David and the ancient walls of Jerusalem’s Old City. an amazing sound, and a medium, 3,000 meter-long track in Is- Boaz Meiri and Ofi r Frank, the car can do 0-60 rael for courses and motorsport experi- instructors at the renowned Zig Zag driv- nity to drive a real race car.” miles per hour in around 3.5 seconds. Top ences,” Frank says. “In the future, we also ing school in France, and remarkably Every summer, Israelis are now invited speed is near 240 kilometers per hour.” want to be able to host teams from all “driven” students form the unique Israeli to submit applications to Israel’s Formula Bakish’s recalls an exhilarating experi- over the world so that they can practice motorsports team. training program. For only 300 shekels, ence in the 2012 race. during the winter.” When the Israeli motorsports law was roughly $100, every applicant receives a “Driving on the track is intense,” he re- Meiri says those driving Israel’s growth lifted, Meiri and Frank saw an opportunity special evaluation by Formula Renault calls. “You are claustrophobic, the safety in the motorsports scene have “surprised not only to build Israel’s fi rst professional professionals. Ultimately, a team of 30 belts are tight, and you can’t move any- all the skeptics with our professional- racetrack in the Port of Eilat, but also to ex- drivers is selected for formal training. thing but your head and hands. It’s very ism.” periment, and to democratize the Formula In 2011, nearly 3,000 drivers tried out hot. The combination of helmet, racing “Most importantly, our winning for- racing establishment. They are striving to for the program. The selection process suit, engine heat, no AC, hot Eilat weath- mula has changed the way fans interact make Formula racing affordable and acces- yielded a team of 20 men and 10 women. er and adrenalin makes your heart beat with the sport,” he says. Total Lift Bed Puts Patients In A Standing Position Invented in Israel, the hospital-grade bed can elevate a patient from a lying to a fully standing position—and all points in between.

By Abigail Klein Leichman “We have to ramp up production be- “This is the only bed in the world that cause we are getting approached from all can do all of this,” says Paz, a certifi ed pub- Israel 21C—The Israe- over the world — Germany, the UK, China, lic accountant by training and an entrepre- li-innovated Total Lift Japan and other countries,” says VitalGo neur by interest. Bed is a simple but revo- President and CEO Ohad Paz. Innovative weight-bearing system lutionary solution that “We believe that our product will even- Around 2005, Paz and his business part- could set a new standard of care in hospi- tually become the standard of treatment ner Ofer Parezky—who had worked on tals and rehabilitation centers worldwide. in hospitals and healthcare facilities, as the successful consumer goods in the past – Made by VitalGo Systems, the patent- concept has numerous advantages over were approached about designing prod- ed Total Lift is the only hospital-grade bed the beds used today. We can already see ucts to enable the elderly to “age in place” that can elevate a patient from a lying to a movement of the big companies trying in safety and dignity. Then, Paz’s father a fully standing position — and all points to imitate our concept and understanding was sent to a rehab center after suffering in between — for treatment and transfer the importance of early mobility.” a stroke, and the issue got closer to home. with no lifting required of the caregiver. He points out to ISRAEL21c that Total “We started with a showering product Two major companies are now dis- Lift not only prevents patient falls and that moves the person from a standing to Full Standing position tributing Total Lift in the acute-care and caregiver injuries, but also leads to shorter a reclining position. This was my fi rst pat- home-care markets in the United States. hospital stays because it allows patients to ent, and it was very complicated mechani- control system that shows the exact About 350 of the beds are in use there, get out of the prone position earlier and cally,” recalls Paz. “I said to myself, if we weight bearing of the patient by calculat- with a goal of tripling that amount next more often. Lying in bed for prolonged made a product like this for the shower, ing the amount of pressure placed on the year. The product is registered with the US periods has been proved to cause medi- why not for the bed?” footboard in relation to the patient’s body Food and Drug Administration and the CE cal problems such as muscle atrophy and The Total Lift Bed has a few patents, in Europe. bedsores. one of which is a unique weight-bearing CONTINUED ON P. 37

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By Yigal Cohen the ground. He her up. They thought of hypothetical ways wasn’t even a Jew, they could exact revenge, but knew that Recently, in Teaneck, a newly construct- and yet, he felt our the source of their frustration was more in ed stone wall fell between two properties. pain. the desecration of the Jewish people that The Steins had spent months working That night, it was set into motion, and there was no way with an engineer, a landscaper, and get- was Shabbat, and to combat that. No way, except to create ting permits from the Township, but the while Mr. Stein more awareness. wall didn’t last very long due to a defect was in shul, Mrs. We don’t need to look at the tale of in some prior workmanship. It bulged and Stein allowed the Kamtzah and Bar Kamtzah to understand bucked, and was fl ush against the neigh- landscaper’s words the damage “being an informant” can do. bor’s fence, without causing any damage. to pierce through We can actually look at our own commu- A landscaper was hired to repair the wall, her skin, until she nity, and our own actions. Although we to painstakingly replace each brick and dig felt uncomfortable don’t have a Beit Hamikdash that can be up a new foundation, but he was set on re- and wanted to es- destroyed, and we are already in exile, it ceiving the neighbor’s permission before cape, but didn’t may seem like we don’t have as much at making this effort, as he would have to in- know how. She stake, as much to lose, as the Jewish peo- fringe on their property. They met, and he sat outside on the ple of the Talmudic era had. But we have promised to replace everything as it had balcony, overlook- our reputations, our images. been, prior to the wall collapsing. Every- ing the upturned The next time you see your neighbor one seemed content. to go behind their backs. The wall was earth, the pile of fresh stones, the makings paving his driveway, and you are wonder- But then, an inspector from the Town- already being rebuilt, fences were being for a new, sturdy wall, and felt a suffocat- ing if he has a permit, stop before calling ship of Teaneck showed up at the Stein’s erected. They would each have their cov- ing squeeze in her throat. She glanced over the town, and speak to him yourself. But home. “Your neighbor called us to report eted space back. And yet, it wasn’t enough at her neighbor’s home, wondering if they then ask yourself why it even matters to a collapsed wall,” he said, pointing to the to placate anyone. felt peace from the lighting of their Shab- you in the fi rst place, and why it’s any of house next door. “I don’t see any prob- But then the most tragic thing of all bat candles, wondering if they even had your business what he does with his prop- lems… it looks like the work is already un- happened. There was a knock at the Stein’s any inkling of how their simple act of tale- erty. We live together in a community, and derway.” Mrs. Stein cringed. It was not the door, and it was the landscaper, standing bearing over a broken wall could birth so as neighbors, you will be sentenced to see- fi rst time a fellow Jew felt the need to go to there, raking his hand through his thick many negative thoughts about Jewish peo- ing each other on a daily basis. Why cre- an offi cial for something that could have hair. “It’s all under control,” he said, ges- ple. Could create so much Chilul Hashem. ate an awkward tension? Why harbor bad been (and was being) resolved between turing to the workers outside, “but I don’t She cried until her husband came home feelings? Why cause others to think badly them. There were always mumblings in understand how much you Jewish people from shul, and found her there, and said, about the Jews? the offi ce of how they didn’t understand fi ght. You fi ght even more than the gen- “My darling, what is it that pains you?” A wall fell, and it was being rebuilt, and why the Jews all reported each other— tiles. You go behind each other’s backs. “There are people among us who mock yet, Jewish people can still hate each oth- and why they all showed up to complain And you would think, after all you’ve been the Jews. My heart hurts because we have er. How will we ever rebuild the remains about neighbors applying for variances. through, after surviving the Holocaust, failed our God.” of our holiest Wall, which fell because of The Steins felt somewhat betrayed by that you would stand by each other.” His Mr. Stein comforted his wife, gave her baseless hatred, and a senseless inform- the neighbor, feeling that he felt he had eyes spoke his sadness, and he looked at sips of wine at Kiddush and tried to cheer ant? We haven’t changed. Eicha.

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By Gedaliah Borvick munities, and are easily iden- tifi able with their fl at roofs The and stucco facades. Over the Challenge years, many shikun buildings My client wanted have been renovated and ex- to buy a 3-bedroom panded; nevertheless most apartment within buyers shun purchasing these a ten minute walk of Emek Refaim, but apartments due to the build- didn’t have the budget to afford atradi- ings’ lack of curb appeal. tional apartment in Katamon or the Ger- Shikun Housing along Derech Chevron slated for urban renewal man Colony. Opportunity My client embraced the concept of buy- receive a larger apartment in a modern Tempering Expectations The Solution ing in a shikun building. She understood apartment building which boasts a lobby, Although this program sounds enticing, Although she was adamant about loca- that in addition to getting the most bang elevator, underground parking, mamads one should be aware that (1) not all shikun tion and budget, my client was fl exible on for your buck, these apartments can be (reinforced security rooms) and other buildings will be torn down and rebuilt, other issues, so we had room to get creative. a good investment for the following rea- valuable features. In layman’s terms, this and (2) even when these buildings are re- First, she was not afraid of buying an son: well-located shikun buildings have is somewhat akin to trading in your old developed, the “pinuy binuy” program is apartment in a non-elevator building. Sec- the potential to be torn down and rebuilt compact Chevy for a luxurious new exec- a drawn-out process which can take up- ond, although a sukkah balcony was pref- through various urban renewal projects, utive-sized Lexus. wards of ten years to complete. Neverthe- erable, it was not crucial. And third—and including the “pinuy binuy” (evacuation The “pinuy binuy” program has become less, for a family that is comfortable living most signifi cant—she was willing to pur- and construction) program. a popular trend in Israel’s population cent- in a shikun building and has a long-term chase an apartment in a “shikun” building, Many shikun building sare situated in ers as it is a win-win-win program for eve- real estate horizon, buying an apartment which tends to sell for 20% to 30% below neighborhoods that over the years have ryone: (1) the apartment owners, who re- that has “pinuy binuy” potential can be a traditional apartment buildings. gentrifi ed and are now considered prime ceive new, large and attractive apartments, golden opportunity. locations. Because these buildings are (2) the developers,who profi t by selling Background only three or four stories tall, they tend apartments that were built utilizing the Gedaliah Borvick is the founder of My During the 1950s and 1960s, the Mis- to have unused development rights. Con- previously unused development rights, Israel Home, a real estate agency focused rad Hashikun (Ministry of Housing) built sequently, there is a good possibility that and (3) the local authorities, as the pro- on helping people from abroad buy and sell numerous public housing projects, or a developer will cut a deal with the apart- gram provides a solution to the tremen- homes in Israel. To sign up for his monthly “shikunim,” for new immigrants and gov- ment owners to knock down the existing dous demand for housing, plus the shikun market updates, contact him at gborvick@ ernment employees. Shikun buildings are building and develop a much larger build- eyesores are being replaced with attractive gmail.com. Please visit his blog at www.my- located in many central Jerusalem com- ing. In return, each apartment owner will modern buildings. israelhome.com.

and only later tip toward accumulation policy, increasing both cash values and the Keeping Permanent Life Insurance (home equity and cash value). In the case total insurance benefi t. Similar to extra of a permanent life insurance policy, it principal payments that retire a mort- Permanent may take 15-20 years for cash values to ex- gage early, unscheduled paid-up adds ceed total premiums paid, depending on can be used to pay up a life insurance By Elozor M. Preil maintaining a permanent life insurance dividends* paid or investment returns on policy ahead of schedule. (Note: The IRS policy is actually continuing to pay the the cash value. (Dividends are not guaran- has strict guidelines on the tax treat- Permanent life insur- premiums. In order to fully realize the teed, and are declared annually by the in- ment of cash values. Paying up a policy ance is a descriptive term possible benefi ts, a permanent life policy surance company’s board of directors.) too fast might mean forfeiture of the for a group of policies de- must remain in force. It is a long-term fi - When deciding on the length of a tax advantages of cash values. Expert as- signed to remain in force nancial product, one designed to deliver mortgage, most consumers understand sistance is essential when using paid-up for the entire life of the insured. Most greater returns later in its lifetime. that a longer mortgage will mean lower additions to shorten the period of pay- permanent life insurance policies (such Although the comparison isn’t perfect, payments, but also results in slower accu- ments.) as whole life, variable life or universal life) buying a permanent life insurance policy mulation of equity. While the prevailing also feature a cash value account, and this is analogous to taking out a mortgage, in standard may be 30 years for a personal A life-long strategy unique combination of a lifetime insur- that an amortized payment (the monthly residence, many mortgage lenders will for keeping life insurance ance benefi t and tax-deferred accumula- mortgage or insurance premium) secures offer shorter and longer terms, allowing For some consumers, one of the tion can be a very valuable asset in a com- the ownership of a much larger asset (the borrowers to tailor the mortgage to their best ways to meet present needs for prehensive fi nancial program. But making real estate or the insurance death benefi t). personal preferences. life insurance and maximize the long- sure policyholders maximize the benefi ts Eventually, the house is paid off or the in- With permanent life insurance, the term value of life insurance may be to from permanent life insurance requires surance benefi t is paid to the benefi ciary, prevailing period of premium payments purchase a large term insurance policy some thoughtful planning and on-going but in both a mortgage and permanent is the lifetime of the insured (hence, the with generous conversion privileges. management. life insurance policy, early payments are term “whole life”). But consumers should The conversion provision allows the A signifi cant practical challenge in proportionally weighted toward expenses know that, just like mortgages, other time policyholder to convert some or all of periods are available for funding a perma- the existing term insurance to a perma- Referrals By: nent life insurance plan. Among the pos- nent policy (or policies) at a later date sibilities: 10-pay and 20-pay life insurance. (or dates) without requiring new un- We Refer LLC 201-791-1230 Instead of planning to pay premiums for derwriting. Depending on the terms of [email protected] a lifetime, most life insurance compa- conversion, this switch to permanent Gail Hochman nies offer policies that can be paid-up in coverage could occur all at once, or in shorter periods, such as 10 or 20 years. As several transactions over time, using with a mortgage, a shorter payment term one or more of the options listed above. • Nannies means a larger outlay. But cash value ac- For those with a long-range fi nancial cumulation will be accelerated as well. An vision, this strategy of buying term then • Housekeepers illustration of projected values for a 10-pay converting is a cost-effective way to ob- • Babysitters policy will typically show cash values not tain a life insurance benefi t now, and only exceeding premiums paid at the end retain the option to maximize its value • House Cleaners of the 10-year period, but often providing at a later date. a rate of return comparable to other con- • Baby Nurses servative, guaranteed investment choices. Elozor Preil is Managing Director at • Elder Care Wealth Advisory Group and Registered Unscheduled paid-up additions. Representative and Financial Advisor of This feature allows a policyholder to Park Avenue Securities LLC (PAS). He can No fee to you make irregular additional deposits to the be reached at [email protected]

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By Rabbis Yitzchok Adlerstein and Abraham Cooper since World War II. ed human beings, just as we expect that Reprinted with permission from the au- We have, baruch Hashem, built thriv- of them. Too often, though, we don’t think thors. This letter fi rst appeared in The ing, bustling communities, full of schools, in these terms and we do not deliver. The Jewish Press. shuls and social service providers. We in resulting chillulei Hashem, both miniscule the U.S. and Canada have learned to be and large, weaken our Torah values, erode os Angeles—Our job is to stay on top more confi dently assertive. Through the our shem tov, and potentially threaten our Lof trends around the world, advocating pioneering efforts of Agudah and the OU, future. We entirely understand the deri- for Jewish and for human-rights causes. we are a presence in state capitol build- sion and contempt displayed to non-Jews What would you do if you learned that a ings, in the White House and in Ottawa. by some Holocaust survivors. They expe- small group of people threatened to make Kippot appear on the heads of public of- rienced fi rsthand unfathomable atrocities, Yiddish on label reads: “Oil and water don’t Jewish life in our communities less invit- fi cials and in sitcoms, and Yiddishisms often committed by non-Jewish neighbors mix, Jews and gentiles should remain ing and secure? Would you be concerned don’t need to be explained to our fellow they had trusted. separate.” These fl yers were distributed in enough to learn about them, warn your citizens. We have built up huge amounts But we, the children and grandchildren Williamsburg, Brooklyn a few weeks ago. children about them, and try to blunt the of good will with many neighbors and of those survivors, know full well the dif- damage these people are doing? politicians and don’t think twice about ference between their experience and children spend years of their lives in what And what if “these people” turned out leveraging that hard-earned good will to ours—yes, even the difference between Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt”l, called the “medi- to be ourselves? The dismissive, uncivil, accommodate our needs. We ask for – and one group of people and another. We also nah shel chesed,” you want them to live in and disrespectful attitudes and behavior expect – that testing schedules will revolve know of many survivors whose personal a hospitable environment. too many of us show to our neighbors around our holidays, that garbage pickups experiences were also horrifi c and yet they But that will not be the case unless you threaten our collective future. Our job at will bend for Pesach, that parking tickets always displayed impeccable graciousness educate them better than they have been the Simon Wiesenthal Center is to stay on will not be issued when halakha won’t al- to all human beings. Some of us, however, educated until now in how to live respect- top of trends around the world. Our work low us to move our vehicles. continue to speak—and think—dispar- fully among non-Jews. Teach your chil- takes us around the globe, advocating for More important, we have come to rely agingly of every non-Jew. Besides being dren how different Americans are relative Jewish and for human-rights causes. We on the largesse of the government and our wrong in a Torah context, this attitude, in to, say, people in Saudi Arabia, Greece, or meet with world leaders, government neighbors for all kinds of support we now our opinion, is suicidal. It will bring ca- Spain. Speak to them about our great mis- offi cials on all levels, and elite cadres of take for granted: reimbursement for man- tastrophe upon us, as the realities of the sion of Kiddush Hashem, and the sever- civil society. We have seen the hydra of dated school services, textbooks, welfare new economy will mean more and more ity of chillul Hashem. Speak to them also anti-Semitism regenerate with renewed and housing stipends, grants for senior groups competing for a shrinking pot of about the practical consequences of being strength, too often met in the mainstream centers and special-needs children. To en- available public funds and resources. part of a minority whose future will be with apathy, even acceptance. sure that the perks keep coming, we build We are going to need to generate great- rockier without strong alliances with our Campaigns against shechitah need not upon our network with politicians, appear er good will from our neighbors. The near- neighbors. always be anti-Semitic, but they have been at the right public forums, and bundle con- daily allegations of fi nancial irregularities An aphorism of a previous generation inspired by Norwegian politicians who tributions—just like every other organized and cheating on government programs was, “If Jews won’t make Kiddush, non- simultaneously defended whale-hunting interest group. don’t help, making the forging of long- Jews will make Havdalah.” It meant that if while calling kosher slaughter “a blood Observant Jews are no longer seen or term coalitions that much more diffi cult. Jews, who have a special mission to live by orgy.” Some people may decide they are treated as a small, quaint, community Please don’t get us wrong. We are not say- Hashem’s instructions and be an ohr lagoy- not interested in the medical advantages clinging to its ancient ways on America’s ing that what we have described is the ma- im (a light to the nations), don’t live up to of milah, but when a national ombuds- margins. We are mainstream, swimming jority attitude in our community. Far from His expectations, He will use non-Jews man for children’s rights in Oslo tells you alongside others in a fi shbowl. Our neigh- it. It is a minority one, but it threatens to to remind us—sometimes in unpleasant to your face that it cannot be justifi ed as a bors, the media, and politicians pay at- engulf us all. ways. Today those words have addition- religious ceremony because it is a form of tention—not because they hate us but So why are we writing this? al meaning. If we won’t act toward our “barbaric abuse,” it is time to worry. because we are part of society’s fabric. No Because the attitudes children develop neighbors with Kiddush Hashem, we will Across Europe, the lid has come off the one should be surprised, then, that our about their neighbors is considerably be spurned and shunned by them. This demons repressed for a few decades after faults and foibles—true or exaggerated— more refl ective of what they learn from will impact negatively on so much that the Holocaust. Yes, you might say, but we are splashed across headlines and cable family than what they hear in school. We has been so important in the building of live in North America, far from those forms news. both had elders in our extended families our Orthodox communities. Bottom line: of overt and dangerous threats. But that is Most good people (and the bad ones are who survived the violent and genocidal Let parents lead the way in raising our our point. We live, b’chasdei Hashem, in in the minority) do not expect perfection. hate of Tsarist Russia and Nazi Germany. children to always show humanity and de- a bubble – one that we threaten to burst They do expect menschlichkeit and re- Yet we were inculcated to show derech cency. It’s time—for those of us who have ourselves. Not that anti-Semitism doesn’t spect—respect for laws and for the rule of eretz to all people, not only “unzereh.” not already done so—to mensch up. exist in the Goldene Medinah, but its harsh- law itself. They expect us to show pride in That is why we are taking this plea to Jew- Rabbi Yitzchok Adlerstein is director of est manifestations are mostly relegated to the appearance of our houses and streets, ish parents. As parents, you try to give your interfaith affairs for the Simon Wiesenthal the margins, and it has not derailed the and other good-neighborly behavior. They children every advantage. If, God forbid, Center. Rabbi Abraham Cooper is the associ- decades of remarkable Orthodox growth expect to be valued and treated as respect- Moshiach does not arrive soon, and your ate dean of the Center. Total Lift Bed Puts Patients In A Standing Position CONTINUED FROM P. 34 bed completely, is advantageous for peo- ple who are too ill to walk or are hooked weight. The more the patient is tilted up, up to myriad machines. the more pressure gets transferred to the “With our bed, there is no risk,” says lower extremities. Paz. “If you have some of the weight shift- This feature allows, for the fi rst time, ed for a few hours, it makes a huge differ- for three options – zero weight bearing, ence in not losing muscle tension, which partial weight bearing and full weight is the biggest problem. Every day in bed, bearing. Each option has important impli- you lose 1.5% of muscle tension.” cations for treatment, Paz explains. VitalGo recently launched its new To- “For patients in rehab today, it’s all or tal Lift Bariatric Bed, which can handle nothing—lying or standing—and the ther- patients weighing up to 1,000 pounds. apist needs to hold onto them and it’s dan- “It is already being used in the U.S. Some gerous. With our bed, you do it gradually, of these people have not stood up for step by step, and can measure the weight months or even years, and this is their bearing. This system is so innovative that fi rst opportunity to get out of bed,” says Total Lift in the 60-degree position we had to explain its benefi ts to doctors, Paz. and once they understand it they see its Bankrolled by private investors and navia and the United States. cialty writer and copy editor at a daily great potential.” based in Tel Aviv, VitalGo has an offi ce in Abigail Klein Leichman is a writer and newspaper in New Jersey and has free- The ability to transfer weight to the Florida and produces the bed piecemeal associate editor at ISRAEL21c. Prior to lanced for a variety of newspapers and footboard, even without getting out of from parts made in Israel, Turkey, Scandi- moving to Israel in 2007, she was a spe- periodicals since 1984.

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port cards feeds into the dread that many The Camp To School Connection of our children feel in one form or another when we take them shopping for note- to activity across a sprawling campus. In referred to theThe “relentlessness of ob- books, pencils, and calculators. school, our kids get 15 minutes of recess a ligation” in schools that emerges around Schools have a responsibility to look few times a day, at best, and some PE time homework and tests, and how this leads closely at camps as a model for what thrown in for good measure. They spend to stress and disengagement. We’reI’m the school day might look like. Schools a tiny percentage of their week outdoors, not arguing that homework is all-bad should ask the question, “What would and walk no more than a few steps from or that it should never be assigned, but need to be true for us to include more class to class. How can sSchools where we areI am advocating thatfor schools movement during the day, honor friend- incorporate regular movement is incorpo- to be more attentive to assigning home- ship better, and give our kids their eve- By Rabbi Maccabee Avishur and Shira Heller rated into the classroom and the daily rou- work that enriches and expands think- nings and weekends back?” Parents have tine to capture some of that camp magic?. ing, (that responds to students’ passions a responsibility to learn from their own emories of the mountains and lake Another difference has to do with how instead of snuffi ng them out) and that behavior during the summer, too. They Mare already beginning to fade. Closed- each institution approaches friendship. theyo give less of it, especially in the old- should ask, “What would it look like if my toed shoes are taking the place of fl ip- Camp is all about friends, and most camps er older (yes, older) grades. focus were on my child’s learning, growth, fl ops. The smell of sunscreen is dissipat- honor and nurture friendship in tangible A prominent distinction between and happinessenjoyment instead of my ing. Yes, school is around the corner, and and real ways. Friends are put in the same camp and school is that camp is very low child’s grades?” many of our kids have waxed a bit melan- bunk, they get to sit and explore/work to- stakes relative to expected outcomes for It would be appropriate at this point to choly. What is it about summer camp that gether during activities, and they play on our children. PMost parents, when their question ourmy implication that a more our kids love so much, and what can we the same teams. In school, teachers tend kids come home from camp, ask some enjoyable school experience is necessarily learn from that to inform our transition to separate friends so that the they chil- form of the question, “Did you have fun in a better one. Numerous research studies into the school year? dren don’t socialize and can stay focused camp today/this summer?” Rarely, in our suggest that school enjoyment is closely When weI talk to kids and parents on their work. What would be different if experience, do parents ask their kids the linked, as might seem obvious, to school about what makes camp so great, one of instead of shackling it, schools harnessed same question about school. The most performance as well as school behavior. the most common responses weI hear is the power of friendship to improve stu- common question asked from Septem- In addition, school enjoyment has been a Braveheart-inspired, “Freedom!” How- dent learning? ber to June is, “What did you do in school shown to lead to a reduction in at-risk ever, when weI investigate, weI fi nd that, Homework plays a big part in the bat- today?” to which the answer is usually, behavior and an increase in motivation in fact, the programs at camp are incred- tle for kids’ affection, too. Although some “Nuthin’.” Other common questions in- and achievement outside of school. It fol- ibly rigorous and scheduled. So freedom kids at certain camps are busy work hard clude, “Whereat’s your homework?” and lows, therefore, that having a better time is probably not the reason kids love camp. during their camp free time rehearsing “Don’t you have a test coming up tomor- at school is better for our kids. There are other things that make camp for a play, learning the Torah reading for row?” By asking these questions, we raise Rabbi Maccabee Avishur is the Associate great, and weI believe that these can be Shabbos, or preparing for another activ- the stakes for our kids and focus their at- Director for Teaching and Learning at Yes- translated into life back in the “real world” ity, this is work children have chosen. tention on academic achievement in the hiva University’s Institute for University- to make the school experience more en- They’ve identifi ed the goals for them- form of marks and grades rather than in- School Partnership. He can be reached at gaging and enjoyable. selves, and have the internal drive/moti- quiry and learning. [email protected]. One obvious difference between camp vation to spend their free hours working WeI don’t mean to suggest that learn- Shira Heller is a Program Manager at and school is the amount of movement towards thoseon goalswork. Other most ing should be low stakes. On the contrary, YU’s Institute for University-School Partner- our kids do. In camp, movement domi- kids, especially those in day camps, come there is little in this world that weI value ship and an Educator at Manhattan Jewish nates the day, from sports, to swimming, home in the evening with nothing hang- more than learning. Rather, weI mean to Experience. She can be reached at seheller@ to dance, to simply walking from activity ing over their heads. A colleague of mine suggest that our focus on grades and re- yu.edu. Helping Children Transition From Summer To A New School Year By Avigael (Stephanie) Saucier ized stay focused and on task as they get personalized such that the reader has a who works with children individually and Wodinsky, ready for school. For children who are greater understanding of expectations in groups at Teaneck Speech and Language Ph.D., M.Ed., M.B.A., GAC-ABA, GAC-AI able to read, a check-list may help them to and events. A personalized social story Center. manage getting dressed, preparing break- can be an effective any local children fast, and packing needed materials for way to show a child Mwill be headed back school. Predictable routines with visuals what he or she will to school in the next few for reference can help children with execu- experience in indi- weeks. For those with ADHD, Asperger’s, tive function diffi culties be more success- vidual situations. In anxiety, and other challenges, this transi- ful both at home and at school. Consider particular, they can be tion may be a diffi cult one. There are a introducing these routines before school very effective for chil- variety of strategies parents can employ starts, and practice them daily so that they dren with anxiety or to help ease the transition. Some of these will become the norm several days before social defi cits, as they include adjusting sleep schedules, setting school starts. help the child imagine routines, priming, and social stories. One of the biggest transitions children what he or she would Sleep affects mood, behavior, and cog- face each new school year is moving to a experience, and learn nitive ability. Many children have relaxed new classroom and learning the routines appropriate responses sleep schedules over the summer. In or- in each new class. For children who ex- or behaviors for those der to help prepare their brains and bod- perience these transitions with diffi culty, experiences. ies for the demands placed upon them some schools will facilitate the process of There are many during the school year, parents may fi nd priming the child for school. That is, the strategies available for it helpful to begin to transition to a sleep teacher or other school employee will al- helping children tran- schedule with appropriate bed and wake low the child to come before school starts sition from summer times at least a week prior to the start and show him or her where the classroom back to school. Adjust- of school. Doctors recommend approxi- is, perhaps which desk he or she will use, ing sleep schedules, mately 10 hours of sleep per night for where to put backpacks and line up, how setting routines, prim- school-aged children. For children who to change classes, etc. Some schools may ing, and social stories have conditions such as ADHD and sen- then allow parents to bring their children are all tools that are sory integration issues, as well as children back several times before school starts so fairly easy to imple- who take some medications, sleep can that the child will have familiarity with ment. Using some of be problematic. Regular sleep schedules, the environment and routines. This can these approaches may calming activities before bed, and limits lesson anxiety and help pre-teach those help to make the tran- on caffeine and electronics can all help who may have more diffi culty learning sition easier for chil- children to sleep better. new classroom procedures. dren and their families. Setting routines often helps children he Social Story is a tool created by Carol who need structure. For example, a pic- Gray that provides information to a child Avigael (Stephanie) ture schedule of the morning routine about situations, skills, or social interac- Wodinsky, PhD, MEd is helps children who tend to be disorgan- tions. Social stories can be created and a social skills therapist

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By Stephen Tencer the evening. Some danced and some just enjoyed the shade it offered. There Tuesday, August 6, the annual “Na- were interesting vehicles from the po- tional Night Out” was celebrated in lice and sheriff’s departments and from many communities in Bergen County the ambulance corps. Kids could enter and throughout the country. The cel- these exhibits or sit in the vehicles and ebration in Teaneck’s Votee Park started on the large motorcycles. A military at 5 p.m. and lasted until sundown, for tank was fi lled with several children the convenience of families with young at a time. The requisite badly wrecked children. Votee Park is the largest of Tea- car was on display to warn everyone to neck’s many parks. There was enough drive safely. The highlight of these dis- room to accommodate hundreds of at- plays was the landing and, much later, tendees without disturbing those who take-off of a helicopter. The excitement were using the park’s ball fi elds, tennis felt by everyone was in inverse propor- courts, and exercise areas. And the splen- tion to their age. But everyone watched did summer weather brought out a huge intently. crowd. And Chop Stix had a table full of By the end, tired parents were telling goodies, where you could easily chap a their overstimulated little children that kosher nosh. it was time to leave. As the sun went There was plenty of exciting enter- down, their parents managed to take tainment for the kids. Bungee harnesses their reluctant children home, where hung so that kids could jump high and they could all get a well-deserved rest. land on huge air cushions repeatedly. The braver ones gleefully did somer- Yeshiva University High School for Boys | The Marsha Stern Talmudical Academy saults while in the air. There were blow- up stairs to climb and slides to ride down. There was a long kid-size train that offered a ride along one side of the park. 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This information only MTA/Yeshiva University High School for Boys provides. is sent to your local police department for use in case a child is missing. The table was constantly busy serving many families. A petition circulated by Mayors For more information, call 212.960.5337, email [email protected] Against Illegal Guns was eagerly signed or visit www.yuhsb.org by dozens of mothers and fathers. Rabbi Michael Taubes, ‘76 Rosh Yeshiva | Head of School Separating all this from a large ar- Dr. Seth Taylor, Principal for General Studies ray of safety vehicles was the band shell where music played throughout

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in the future. You are correct to want to can see the advantage of a child seeing Dear Rabbi Sam demonstrate proper options when con- two adults have differing points of view fronted with confl icts. and opinions, while coming to a peace- By Rabbi Sam Frankel, greements with his peers or girlfriend, I Now let me respond to your specifi c ful resolution. Working with children, LCSW want him to have experience on how to question. Whether the disagreement is I fi nd that some of them struggle with deal with it and not to think that there’s about politics, sports or problem solving and confl ict resolution Dear Rabbi Sam, anything wrong about having divergent religion, it is the process and not the strategies. If you and your spouse are My husband and I opinions. What is your feeling about par- outcome that is signifi cant for your child modeling those skills through your dis- are very community ents fi ghting in front of their children? to witness. Therefore, if by “heated” you cussion, then I can see how that could minded, socially ac- Signed, were implying yelling, name calling, or be benefi cial. In fact, there are times that tive and very passion- Politically Pumped the like, then I would question the value teachers or parents may set up scenarios ate about our political views. We often and benefi t for your child to witness that for children to help illustrate for them have open discussions in front of our chil- reaction. It is important that children how to work out their differences and dren about important issues and many Dear Politically Pumped, learn respectful ways to share their dif- resolve confl icts. It is important for chil- times we do not share the same views. Your question is a very common and ferences without being aggressive or in- dren to see that relationships can handle This past Shabbos, in the presence of our relevant one. However, prior to answer- sulting others. opposing views, and people can grow 8-year-old son, we had a rather “heated” ing your question directly, Many schools, for example, may pro- from exchanging ideas in a thoughtful political disagreement. After Shabbos my I would like to put forth a general vide students with exposure to debate and caring manner. wife suggested that we refrain from argu- parenting principle to help guide the re- teams as a tool to illustrate how people Wishing you well, ing in front of the children. sponse. can have different opinions and points She felt that our son should not be ex- Our children watch us very closely, of view while being courteous and con- Rabbi Sam Frankel, LCSW Dean of Students at posed to our disagreements and disputes. and they learn more from what they see siderate. Yavneh Academy, Paramus, NJ. Private Practice in I, on the other hand, feel there is nothing us do than what they hear us say. How However, if you meant by “passion- Child and Family Therapy, Teaneck, NJ. To submit let- wrong with our son seeing us disagree your child sees you and your wife resolve ate” that you are both well versed in the ters for response send to: RabbiSam@jewishlinkbc. and have confl icting points of view. In confl icts and share different ideas could subject matter and respectful in trans- com. Contact Rabbi Sam at: (201) 928-1148; rebsf18@ fact, when he grows up and has disa- set the foundation for how he will react mitting your ideas and thoughts, then I yahoo.com

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a little break from school academics and Bright Beginnings: Partnering With create new friendships. It is not uncom- mon for a child to lack the assertiveness Your Child For Academic Success or initiation skills to do this on his own. As parents, we may need to gently ‘push By Mark Staum, LCSW It is important for parents to under- in these areas. Teaching your child how to them’ to try out a team or get involved stand the particulars of their child’s create a nightly academic schedule, how with a school club. Informal experiences As the school year be- schedule. How many hours of learning to prioritize assignments, and how to or- can be very powerful to a child’s academ- gins, parents are often are in the morning? Are there any breaks ganize all of the information that they re- ic experience. confronted with mixed for my child to play outside? Is my child ceive from teachers can be very benefi cial Parents should help their children to emotions. The excite- going to be pulled out of class for aca- to keeping your child on track in school. identify appropriate outlets for relaxation ment and optimism of new beginnings demic support? Knowing the details of Parental reinforcement of these skills can and recreation. The challenges of the edu- can at times be challenged by the many a child’s schedule can help parents to also allow children to have an internal cational experience can at times best be questions and uncertainties that surround prepare their children for academic tran- sense of control when adversity arises. addressed when a child feels relaxed and the academic experience. Some questions sitions and potential diffi culties. Let’s The ability to master specifi c academic rejuvenated. Promoting physical exercise may include: take for example the parents of Reuven skills allows children to feel that they are or other forms of recreation can help a How will my child deal with new aca- who became deeply concerned that their capable to independently deal with chal- child to ‘recharge their batteries’ during demic surroundings? child was bringing home failing grades lenges if they arise. stressful academic times. Furthermore, How do I know that my child will be in English. As they assessed the issue, Helping your child to do their home- promoting healthy eating or a routine happy in school? they began to realize that Reuven was work is a way to join with your child in bedtime procedure can help the child to What will I need to do if my child strug- not receiving many of the academic sup- their academic experience. Beyond home- be physically prepared for a long day of gles academically? ports that were part of his original sched- work assignments, a parent’s encourage- school. How often should I be communicating ule! The ability of the parents to follow ment and positive reinforcement can These points highlight the importance with my child’s school? up with the school was predicated on assist a child to feel confi dent in his aca- of parental involvement in their child’s ac- These doubts and questions can often their understanding of all of the initial demic abilities. From a very young age, our ademic experience. By becoming partners be remedied by resolving to become a supports that had been originally estab- children crave the attention of their par- with our children’s education, we send a complete partner in your child’s academic lished for their son. ents. Additionally, the ability of parents to very powerful message related to our de- life. As in any many areas of child develop- Parents should assist their children in attend to the needs of their children rein- sire to be involved in a major part of their ment, parental involvement is crucial to normalizing initial adjustments. Entering forces feelings of love and warmth in our life. Identifying ways to work with our the academic success of children. Beyond a new grade presents many different aca- children’s minds. children can promote feelings of closeness the practical elements of securing the demic and social challenges. Workloads Encouraging your child to get in- between parent and child. These feelings child’s particular needs, parental involve- may increase, and as a result, academic volved in after -school activities can help of closeness can be utilized to bring out ment conveys the message of ‘I believe in struggles may arise due to new academic a child to feel more connected to the the inner potential of each child. you’ to your child. This belief can be very expectations. As parents, we can help our school. While participation may include helpful in helping the child overcome dif- children to plan accordingly for these ad- other family challenges, encouraging Mark Staum, LCSW, is the school therapist for ferent academic struggles. Furthermore, justment periods. your child to stay for something like a the PTACH program @ MTA. Over the past 10 years, serving as your child’s advocate can also Parents should work with their child on Thursday Night Mishmar can provide the Mark has worked extensively with children and ensure that specifi c problems are ad- specifi c academic goals that may require child with new opportunities to meet adolescents from various yeshiva high schools on dressed in a timely fashion. additional strengthening. While some new friends and to connect to a rabbi diff erent academic, emotional and social chal- I would like to present a series of tips as children will adjust to learning how to or teacher. Encouraging your child to try lenges. To learn more about Mark, please feel free to how parents can become ‘partners’ with take notes, organization and time manage- out for a team or participate in a club can to visit www.markstaum.com or contact him at their child’s educational growth. ment, other children need reinforcement also be a great way for the child to have [email protected].

on that particular statistic.) want whenever you want, then that is Study Shmuddy A study was done that nursing moms what is going to happen. If He wants you were less likely to get breast cancer. An- to live until 56 never having eaten an en- By Banji Latkin Ganchrow that long because in his 20’s he survived other study was done that nursing moms tire cheesecake in one sitting, that is also on whatever food he could fi nd in the for- were just as likely to get breast cancer. going to happen. The Mayo Clinic just est in Poland? Or, did he live until 104 be- Chocolate is good for you. Chocolate is So as this is the month of Elul, and the came out with a study cause he had no children to drive him cra- bad for you. A glass of wine a day is good high holidays are upon us, let’s put the that drinking more than zy? (I, personally, am going with that one.) for your heart. A case of wine a day is bet- studies where they belong (in a place that 4-6 cups of coffee a day Nothing good can ever come from ter for your heart (I made that up, but still doesn’t give us angina) and enjoy each day. could shorten the length of your life. Now, these studies. Should I stop drinking Tab think it’s true.) Juicing detoxes your body Be the best friend we can be, the best par- I do not know the specifi cs of this study, because saccharin causes cancer in labora- and makes you glow. Juicing deprives you ent we can be, the best person we can be just what my friends on Good Day New tory animals or should I continue drink- of certain nutrients and you are just hal- and hope that we are protected from the York were telling me. People under the ing it because the nice man at the Coca lucinating that you are glowing because bad and only know from the good. age of 55 should not drink so much coffee. Cola company told me that those studies you are hungry. Windex is bad for you. Car They could die. From nothing specifi c, but were bogus? (Or should I just keep drink- emissions are bad for you. Drinking water Banji Latkin Ganchrow is a Teaneck resident and it’s not good. I think that anxiety causes ing it because it’s curiously refreshing and is good for you, but drinking too much wa- writer who enjoys traveling across the country by car death in people that read all of these stud- the can is a pretty pink color?) There are ter is bad for you. It never ends. with her husband and three sons. She is also the au- ies. Did my cousin Bernard live until 104, people who live well into their 90’s who And I am convinced that it’s all in the thor of the blog holycrapimgonnabe40 and hopes to, in pretty decent health until the end, be- live solely on diet coke and cigarettes and cards, my friends. If God wants you to live one day, write a best-selling novel and appear on the cause he did not drink coffee? Did he live weigh 400 pounds…(I have no actual study until 86 eating and drinking whatever you Ellen Show. BECAUSE IT MATTERS offi ce!) them. Parents should not underestimate From Swimming Pools If only we could bottle up all the joys the importance of setting the proper of summer to get us through the grind mindset of their children when going To Classroom Rules of the school year. Making the transition back to school. Encouraging our chil- from summer vacation to the school year dren to foster a positive attitude toward By P’nina Seplowitz glee, thrilled that my son was enjoying the is not an easy one. There is an element school, and helping them embrace the great outdoors and having fun as a camper of fear that we are beginning something new year as a step toward independence, I received a note from sleeping in a bunk for the fi rst time. He new—new teachers, new classmates, and can make all the difference. Students my nine-year-old son in was playing sports, eating sugared cereal, sometimes even a new school. While the with a good attitude have a much greater sleep away camp this picking out his own mismatched clothes, new school year does offer our children chance of making the most of their edu- summer, which read as and catching slimy creatures. What 9-year- the opportunity to start fresh and reinvent cational experience and excelling. There- follows, “Dear Imma, I caught two turtles old boy could ask for anything more? themselves, we as parents play a large role fore, it is imperative that we promote the and a snake but don’t worry, I washed (I happen to be working at the same in shaping this new beginning. same excitement for school as we did for my hands. Please buy me Berry Captain camp that my son attends, but that is to- The classroom is not the only place summer vacation. Crunch. Love, AJ.” tally irrelevant for this article. And yes, he where our children learn. They learn CONTINUED ON P. 47 As I read this letter, I relished in parental did write me the note and sent it to my from the behavior of the adults around

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Prototype of the Israeli Bionic Contact Lens bionic contact lens Turns Touch into Sight invented in Israel

By Karin Kloosterman, Israel 21c Zalevsky says the sensation is similar to feeling a person’s face with one’s hands to Much in the way Braille allows people understand how they look. “We can do the who are blind to “see” the written word, same by touching projected images from a bionic contact lens invented by Israeli the camera onto the cornea of your eye.” researcher Prof. ZeevZalevsky “presses” images onto the surface of the eye to help Short learning curve the brain decipher through touch what If the lens lives up to its promise, it the wearer is looking at. could go way beyond helping people read. The lens, still in a prototype stage, uses Best of all, it is non-invasive. electrical signals sent to it from a small This approach differs from artifi cial transponder, clipped to a pair of glasses retinas being developed by companies using the bionic contact lens. The contact lens would be completely or downloaded to a smartphone. A regular including Second Sight. Artifi cial retinas “After a learning curve, people could different from the “Google Glass for the off-the-shelf camera, like the one inside use an impact camera connected with recognize a house, a door, a car, even just blind“ being developed by Israeli research- a phone, “looks” at a crosswalk, items for electrodes directly to the visual nerves after a short while wearing this technol- er Shy Shoham using visual sensors in the sale in the grocery store, or at a loved one’s of the eye. However, the connection ogy,” says Zalevsky. retina. However, both researchers say their face, and transmits the encoded image via holds for just a few years, and those born The revolutionary product, developed solutions can work together. the lens to the wearer’s cornea. The image without a developed visual cortex can- with Tel Aviv University’s Prof. Michael Bel- “The Bar-Ilan device concept,” Shoham gets translated into a tactile sensation that not benefi t from this solution. It is also kin and Yevgeny Beiderman, has more than tells ISRAEL21c, “is what is called sensory can be interpreted visually. invasive and provides images at very low humanitarian and medical applications. substitution —you replace one sense (vi- “The cornea has the highest density resolution of only a few pixels, says Zal- Fitted with an infrared camera, it also has sion) with another (touch on the cornea). of tactile sensors in the human body,” evsky. the potential to help law enforcers see in What we’re working on is a retinal pros- the Bar-Ilan University professor tells IS- Healthy eyes see at a resolution of complete darkness, says Zalevsky. thesis that tries to artifi cially activate the RAEL21c. about one megapixel. The bionic lenses original sense of vision. These different “There are 600 times more sensors in could provide a resolution of tens of thou- Other Israeli technology for approaches are complementary.” your cornea than on fi ngertips which are sands of pixels. the blind Another Israeli invention, OrCam, is an used to touch and read Braille. And since This new Israeli device still needs to Zalevsky and the tech-transfer com- image-processing/computer vision device there are so many tactile sensors in the pass clinical trials. But prototypes have pany at the university are hoping for a $1 that identifi es verbally what the wearer is eyes, one can actually sense and ‘feel’ an been tested on healthy people. After a few million to $2 million investment so that a pointing at. image at a very high resolution, helping minutes of learning how to associate actu- full system and fabrication process could Israelis are also developing new tools you really see with your eyes when you al images with the sensations they felt on be started. A beta version could be ready using sound and joysticks to help the are blind,” he says. their fi ngertips, they could actually “see” within two years. blind see. Israeli Tec hnology: Eyed by the Italians them give better services to their clients By Karin Klosterman, Israel 21c and companies, and make money in local and international markets. This year marked a dozen years that the The European Union as a whole is Is- Israeli life sciences and biomedical com- rael’s biggest trade partner. While Italy has munity has hosted its annual Internation- some business in Israel’s biomed sector al Biotechnology Conference—otherwise as a small part of the estimated $4 billion known as BioMed. of trade between the two countries every Taking place at the David Interconti- year, Italian fi rms are eager to learn more Israel’s biotech industry is attracting attention from all over the world. nental Hotel with additional seminars and about Israel’s secret startup sauce. networking opportunities at the Dan Ho- To that end, the Tel Aviv Italian Trade “The [Israeli] government gives the re- in Israel by income earned on patents— tel next door on the Mediterranean shore, Commission Offi ce helped bring 15 Ital- searchers help to stay working in Israel. says that coming to BioMed every year is BioMed is professional but small enough ian companies to the Tel Aviv event along In Italy, even if I have good research, I am a given. for deal-making and hand-shaking. with the country’s leading banking group, less able to advance it,” he says. “Most of “The main thing is that this event is This time around, event organizers the Intesa San Paolo Group from Turin. the funding in Italy is risk aware. They big, it is well-established, and well-known. gave a wider stage to overseas companies Nir Malah, senior trade analyst at the prefer to make a smaller return, but a sure Tech transfer companies can get a lot of looking to attract Israeli players, showing commission, says this was the bank’s fi fth return.” exposure here so we can present our new the two-way nature of Israel’s blooming year at the event. But it was the fi rst visit As for business scouting, “I am open- technologies,” she says. for Dr. Vittorio Grazio- minded. We can buy a new product, or Yissum currently has about 300 patent- li, head of laboratories offer to distribute Israeli products in Italy, ed or patent-pending technologies avail- for Centro Diagnosti- or manufacture them there,” he tells IS- able in life sciences, clean-tech and other coItalianio (CDI). RAEL21c. areas. The Alzheimer’s drug Exelon and CDI is a provider of Along with the international delega- Doxil for cancer are two of Yissum’s block- healthcare services, as tions, the event always attracts large com- buster successes, says Gavish-Fridman. well as clinical trials panies like Teva Pharmaceuticals, Israel’s The Misgav Venture Accelerator was expertise, in Italy and homegrown drug company that is now the there, too, representing its portfolio start- throughout Europe, largest generic drug company in the world, ups for which it helps fi nd funding, strate- the Middle East and as well as representatives from mega drug gic partners or buyouts. Dr. Vittorio Grazioli, head of labora- Dana Gavish-Fridman of Russia. It is the largest companies active in Israel, such as Merck. Some of the accelerator’s younger tories for CDI (Centro Diagnostico Yissum, the tech transfer lab in Italy in terms of Also at BioMed were the technology companies include ApiFix to treat ado- Italianio) at BioMed in Israel. company of Hebrew University. outpatients. transfer companies of all Israeli universi- lescent scoliosis; Leviticus Cardio, which biotech business. About 1,000 of the 6,000 “CDI came to scout for Israeli technolo- ties, including Yeda from the Weizmann provides a wireless solution for ventricu- participants at the three-day event were gies to implement into theirs,” Malah tells Institute of Science, Ramot from Tel Aviv lar assist devices; ProArc medical for a from foreign countries, predominantly the ISRAEL21c. “They’ve discovered the added University and BGN Technologies from non-medical and non-surgical treatment United States, Germany, Italy and Taiwan. value that Israel has in this sector.” Bar-Ilan University. for the symptoms of an enlarged pros- With over half a billion dollars in Is- Grazioli was particularly charmed by the Dana Gavish-Fridman, director of mar- tate; and Endobetix, an implant to divert raeli biomed fi nancing last year, business Israeli startup culture, saying that he wish- keting at Yissum, the tech transfer com- bile and pancreatic secretions, offering people and investors are keen to explore es he could see more of that spirit fostered pany of the Hebrew University of Jerusa- hope for type 2 diabetes remission and how Israel’s life sciences industry can help between academia and industry in Italy. lem—and the most profi table university weight loss.

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By Abigail Klein Leichman, Israel 21c “Other Israelis did very well in this year’s competition, too,” stresses Podolsky. It takes a lot of patience and dedication An Israeli robotics team from Ramat Gan to teach math and physics to teens with won a second-place award, and a team attention defi cit disorder. Igor Podolsky, from a high school in Misgav took third a 30-year-old Israeli who recently won an place in its division as well as the overall international robotics Olympiad in Con- grand prize for its robot, project poster necticut, is blessed with the right traits to and performance in the Olympiad. do his job well. And he thinks robots may “They didn’t even have their teachers just help him do it better. there to help them, as many other teams Working with Prof. Igor Verner from did,” notes Podolsky, like the proud educa- the Technion-Israel Institute of Technolo- tor he is. “I saw a great spirit of sportsman- gy, where he is earning a second bachelor’s ship.” degree in science education, Podolsky test- Podolsky moved to Israel with his par- ed out a robot-making kit from the Korean ents from Russia at age 7. He grew up in company Robotis as his entry in the 2013 the northern border town of Ma’alot, Trinity College Fire Fighting Home Robot graduating with honors from the electron- Podolsky in the Technion lab. Photo courtesy of the Technion-Israel Institute of Technology Contest and RoboWaiter Competition. ics and computers track at the local high “Our goal is to create a robotics curriculum school. ica. Rather, he returned to the Technion investigate if using robots can help allevi- for middle-school children using this kit,” This achievement qualifi ed him for for the Mabatim (Views) Program to earn ate attention and concentration diffi cul- Podolsky said. Atuda, a military academic program that certifi cation in science education while at ties.” His robot “Eddy” walked home with a allowed him to earn his mechanical en- the same time teaching at a private high Living in Petah Tikvah north of Tel Aviv, fi rst-place award from the humanoid divi- gineering degree from the Technion prior school for kids with learning disabilities. Podolsky has chosen to work in a fi eld sion of the RoboWaiter contest for sophis- to active service. He was an offi cer in the As a Technion graduate, Podolsky gets that is neither lucrative nor easy. Yet he ticated machines designed to help people Land Corps’ Experiments Unit, responsi- free tuition for four of the fi ve semes- calls his teaching career “pure pleasure.” with disabilities. Podolsky earned his own ble for studying the effi cacy of every piece ters, but most importantly he’ll earn the “It’s a challenge that is not for every- top prize for his performance at the Ro- of new equipment before use in the fi eld. credentials to see how teaching robotics one,” he concedes. “You need a lot of pa- botics Knowledge Olympiad portion of During his army years, he volunteered might enhance the education of his stu- tience. Even my pupils sometimes ask me the meet, which attracts 125 teams from to teach mathematics, physics and English dents. where I get the patience for them. Yester- around the world. at a Ramle high school. His English is vir- “Somewhere in the back of mind I al- day, we were working hard preparing for Under Verner’s guidance, a Technion tually unaccented, having had a language ways thought of teaching, and the degree the bagrut [matriculation exam], and one group last year won fi rst place with its tutor from an early age, and honing his I’m doing came up and it all fi t together,” kid got really frustrated and said he’s go- RoboWaiter humanoid, which team speaking skills with friends. he explains. “I teach math, and next year, ing home. I kept repeating, ‘You can do it.’ members demonstrated for U.S. President Unlike many freshly discharged sol- hopefully, robotics as well. I hope to con- Later that evening, he thanked me for con- Barack Obama during his recent visit to diers, Podolsky did not throw a knapsack nect those two. My professor [Verner] vincing him to stay. These are the things Israel. on his back and go trekking in South Amer- wants me to go on to graduate studies, to we live for.” TECH NOTES SSD vs HDD By Harold Nussbaum of permanent memory. During the early These days, most days of SSD, rumors fl oated around say- people buying laptops ing stored data would wear off and be as their primary com- lost after only a few years. Today this is puters need to decide not true; you can read and write to an between getting Solid SSD all day long and the data storage in- State Drives (SSD) or tegrity will be maintained for years. Hard Disk Drives (HDD) as the storage An SSD does not have a mechanical component. Which is better? There’s no arm to read and write data, it instead straightforward answer; each buyer has relies on an embedded processor (or different needs and you have to evaluate “brain”) called a controller to perform your needs, preferences, and of course, a bunch of operations related to read- your budget. 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By Benjamin Cohen are walking distance to Bamboo Garden. In the style of the classic Chinese restau- Seattle—The mild weather and ocean rants like Shang Chai (Aluv Hashaolm), the breeze are certainly great reasons to visit décor is quite dated and feels trapped in Seattle, Washington. the early 80s. Wallpaper and fake fl owers Hiking, sports, fi shing, just add to the motif. Yet for a week night and outdoor activities in August, it was quite busy. It seemed like are some of the many only half the patrons were kosher clien- extraordinary experienc- tele and the rest seemed to be there to en- es available in the north- joy vegetarian delicacies. west. However, just like (To be honest, I am not a fan of fake in many cities outside the metropolitan meat restaurants. Yes, I have an occasional New York are, a there is a lack of kosher Morningstar sausage now and then, but it food available in the downtown city area. doesn’t rock my world. You can spice and Most of the Yidden live in suburban areas dice tofu all you want, but it’s never going chewing gum to be found on the bottom lar in style to sweet and sour chicken we around the city and that is where you will to taste like hearty steak. I thought about of my bowl, but overall, the soup was de- would get back home at Chopstix. The fi nd the kosher food. using the ironing board in my hotel room licious and I was glad I tried it. For the sauce was a bit spicy so I am glad I opted Luckily for those visiting downtown as a grilled cheese maker but instead, I opt- main course I stayed away from items on for the mild. Seattle, there is the Bamboo Garden, the ed to go out and see what all this phony the menu that seemed obscure. Yes the There was also a wine list and beer one kosher establishment in the city cent- meat fuss is all about. ) shark fi n dishes intrigued me, but having menu I thought was unique, yet I did not er. It’s a vegetarian Asian restaurant with Now onto the menu... At almost 10 pag- never tasted shark fi n I was a bit squeam- see anyone ordering any liquor. For des- quite an extensive menu. If you are walk- es long they use the words pork, chicken, ish about imitation shark fi n. I opted for sert I received one complementary for- ing distance to the Space Needle then you shark fi n, and beef throughout the entire the crispy chicken in Szechuan sauce. The tune cookie unlike the ones in the NY area. menu. It was a little jarring to see the waiter asked me how spicy I wanted the These are made in-house by Bamboo Gar- word pork used so many times on a ko- chicken and gave me three options, mild, den and had much fresher waffl e staste sher menu. There was a little footnote at spicy, and hot. than the individually wrapped mass-pro- the bottom of each page indicating that I went for the mild with a side of fried duced fortune cookies we are accustomed all animal menu items are made of tofu. rice with mushrooms. I must say the por- to. For $26 including tip Bamboo Garden Phew, I was worried I had stepped into the tions were quite large and I could barely was quite a good value. My meal could wrong place! fi nish the rice plate. It seems like most din- have fed two people and one small child. For my starter, I opted for the corn ers were ordering several mains and sides As an avid carnivore, I would probably chowder based on the Yelp reviews I sharing them family style. The side of fried visit the other kosher eateries if I planned read as I walked to the restaurant. It did rice would be enough to feed at least four on staying in town for extended time. But not disappoint. There were occasional people. The main dish crispy chicken ar- for those visiting Seattle, Bamboo Garden chunks of tofu with the texture of Orbit rived at my table quickly and was simi- is defi nitely worth a visit.

Add half clove of fi nely chopped garlic, pepper. Blend it in. Good Taste Paella A La Diaspora about ½ teaspoon freshly ground pepper, Add to the pan four cups of the stock, ½ teaspoon cumin, ½ teaspoon paprika. the fresh thyme leaves and the bay leaf. By Lisa Reitman Dobi al for sweet, fresh tomatoes. Drizzle with olive oil and toss to coat. Stir to blend. 2 cups red bell pepper, yellow bell pep- While the chicken is taking on the sea- Stir in the peas. My mother grew up in North Africa. per, chopped soning, chop the peppers, onions, measure Simmer, uncovered, for fi ve minutes. Casablanca, to be precise. This was not by 5-7 cups chicken stock. Have this ready out the rice, pull the leaves off the thyme, Add the rice, stir to blend and lightly pat choice; during the Third Reich, Morocco and hot in a pot on the stove slice the sausage, rinse and pat dry the down so all the ingredients and the rice was one of the few open countries for fl ee- Freshly ground pepper. cilantro and the parsley. are just covered with stock. Simmer on ing European Jewry. My mother’s Morocco 1 teaspoon cumin total. Half for season- Heat the pan and add olive oil. Brown medium heat, uncovered. DO NOT STIR! was not the romantic Bogart/ Bergman va- ing the chicken, half for adding to the the chicken thoroughly on each side, so If you stir, you will activate and distribute riety, nor the National Geographic glossies pan later. that it cooks through. Put the chicken the starches in the rice. Stirring is what of camels dressed in colorful textiles, saun- 1 cup fresh cooked or frozen peas pieces in a bowl and pour all the juices makes risotto creamy. You want this rice tering across the desert. It was diverse, to 8 strands saffron from the pan onto the pieces in the bowl. to be fi rm, not creamy. say the least. She lived with a Jewish fam- 2 T fresh thyme leaves Heat pan again. Add olive oil. Sauté on- Add more hot stock as the liquid evapo- ily that had, on one side, fl ed to Morocco 2 ½ T sweet Andalusian paprika ions until carmelized. Add the peppers and rates before the rice is done. Cooking time during the Spanish Inquisition and, on the 1 bay leaf tomatoes. Sauté until soft. should be about 25 minutes. You can test a other, escaped to North Africa during the 1 cup chopped fresh cilantro Add freshly ground pepper, ½ teaspoon piece of rice from the top of the pan and Russian Revolution. The household lan- 1 cup fresh chopped parsley cumin, all the saffron threads, and the re- see if it is fi rm and done. guage and culture was French, as was the ½ cup pitted Moroccan olives maining chopped garlic. Sauté for several While the paella is cooking, chop the region. My point? I grew up with assorted Six thin slices of lemon minutes over medium heat . Never let gar- cilantro and parsley together. Right before cultural traditions, from Arab to Sephardic 1 ½ cups hard, dry rice, ideally Spanish lic burn. serving, garnish with cilantro and parsley. to Ashkenazi, to Russian, all coming across Calasparra, which is traditional paella Add the chicken and the juices. Add Toss the pitted Moroccan olives on top. through a Spanish and French fi lter. rice. In a pinch, you can use Arborio the sausage pieces and blend to coat the Garnish with lemon slices. rice, the type used to make risotto. meats. Bon appetit! Besseha!! And so, my Paella a la Diaspora: This dish requires a rice that soaks up Add 2 tablespoons sweet Andalusian Buen apetito! Enjoy! a great deal of stock. What you will need to serve 6: Paella pan or wide, 2-3 inch deep sauté If you have a fi ne extra virgin Spanish pan. olive oil, drizzle it over the entire fi nished Virgin olive oil dish. A top-notch, fragrant, fruity Spanish 1 package of Neshama brand or other cold-pressed olive oil will elevate the dish Kosher Andouille sausage, cut into ½ to a delicious new height. inch slices (Rabbinical Council of Cali- Notes on hot pepper and salt: If the sau- fornia, Star K) sage you select is not spicy, you can add 5 skinless and boneless chicken thighs, ½ teaspoon of cayenne pepper or more to cut in half. Try to avoid frozen chick- taste. en. The freezing process changes the Regarding salt: the stock probably has texture enormously. enough salt and, in the cooking-down 2 cups sweet onion, chopped process, there will be little, if any, need for 2 cloves of garlic, fi nely chopped additional salt. Salt to taste if necessary. 2 cups tomatoes, chopped. August is ide- Put halved chicken thighs in a bowl.

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edges of sandwiches. Cut sandwiches di- The Classic Tea Party, The Formal Event agonally in half. Place pecans on plate. Dip buttered edges of sandwiches into By Jeanette Friedman tea cups with interior tea baskets and you try to spread it, or you will tear the pecans. Arrange sandwiches on platter. lids to allow you to brew your own cup bread. Garnish with watercress sprigs. (Can be If you are a more formal, traditional exactly as you like it. Also available are Once you spread the slices with the made 8 hours ahead. Cover sandwiches person, or if you are in the mood for el- little chained objects called tea balls, spreads you’ve prepared, cut off the tightly; chill.) egance, try hosting a classic tea party. If that allow you to place the tea in a crusts and cut each sandwich into four Makes 8 servings. a dinner party is too fussy, and brunch is round metal basket that snaps shut and triangles or use a cookie cutter to create too early in the day, the classic tea may allows you to dunk it like a tea bag. unusual shapes. Tuna Salad Spread be perfect for a bridal or baby shower, a 1-6 oz. can albacore tuna, packed in birthday party, an anniversary, or even HINTS FOR THE Egg Salad Spread oil something called a wedding album party PERFECT POT OF TEA 8 eggs, hard boiled 1-1/2 tsp lemon juice (more about that below). Traditional tea Warm up your ceramic teapot with 2/3 cup mayonnaise 2 to 3 tbsp chopped fresh chives was served as a light meal between lunch hot tap water. 1 teaspoon mustard 3 tbsp mayonnaise and a late dinner, usually around 4 p.m. Boil a kettle of water on the stove. 3 tablespoons pickle relish 1/4 cup fi nely chopped celery When the kettle whis- 1 tablespoon chopped onion 1 tsp dried thyme tle begins to blow, pour Boil the eggs, plunge them into ice salt & pepper to taste the hot water out of the water and then shell them and mash Sprigs of fresh thyme ceramic pot, and add one them. Mix in mayo, relish and onion. Combine tuna, mayonnaise and lem- teaspoon of tea leaves for Mix well, and spread on the buttered on juice. Mix well. Stir in celery, chives each cup of tea you will bread slices. and thyme. Season to taste with salt and serve, plus one for the pepper. Spread on buttered bread slices. pot. If the pot has a strain- Soft Cheese and Watercress Tea Remove the crusts and cut into triangles er, put the tea leaves in Sandwiches (from ask.com) or other shapes. the strainer and pour the 2 logs soft fresh cheese (approx. 5.5 boiling water over the oz. each—such as Montrachet or farmer Herbed Cream Cheese Spread leaves. Let the pot steep cheese) at room temperature 8 oz. cream cheese, softened for at least three minutes 1/2 cup chopped watercress leaves 1 cup lightly packed fi nely chopped and up to seven minutes, 16 thin slices cinnamon-raisin, date fresh herb leaves (parsley, watercress, depending on how strong or whole wheat sandwich bread, crusts basil, chervil, chives or any combina- you like your tea. If you trimmed tion) let it steep too long, it will 5 tablespoons (about) unsalted butter, 1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice become too bitter. room temperature Dash hot pepper sauce You may also want to 3/4 cup fi nely chopped toasted pe- Paprika set up a coffee bar for cans Watercress sprigs (for garnish) In a mixing bowl combine cream those who think tea is for Mix cheese and chopped watercress cheese, herbs, lemon juice and hot pep- people who have colds. in medium bowl. Season with salt. per sauce. Mix well and spread on but- Spread mixture evenly over 8 bread tered bread slices. Remove the crusts THE TEA PARTY/ slices. Top with remaining bread. Butter and cut into triangles or other shapes. COFFEE BAR SET UP As usual, you will need to prepare in advance, or order in from your fa- Ketiva V'Chatima Tova vorite caterer or pastry shop. To do it right, forget To All Our Customers! the paper goods. Put out your best china cups, and understand that they But the Mad Hatter, Alice and the don’t need to match. Use your fanciest Rabbit, as well as the Cheshire Cat are platters, crystal plates and fl atware. Eve- not really part of the scene (though they rything should be as pretty as you can would make for a perfect children’s make it. You can buy printed napkins book tea party!) or use linens, decorate with fresh fl ow- To stay sane, you can set things up as ers and present a platter of fresh sliced a buffet, much as you would for a book fruits in season. (There is art for this.) party or cocktail party, and have little The coffee bar consists of a huge urn pots of tea kept at the correct tempera- of freshly brewed Columbian or French ture on hot plates, while the water boils Roast coffee, surrounding by cinnamon on Sterno fueled platforms. (There are sticks, peppermint sticks, chocolate cov- also hot plates that are two burner gas ered spoons, vanilla, fl avored liquors stoves operating on cans of propane that – amaretto, Sabra, Curacao, chocolate, will keep your water hot). You may want coffee, vanilla, and raspberry are great to present a selection of international coffee enhancers. teas that come from exotic places, or Don’t forget a huge bowl of whipped offer a selection of spice and fruit teas cream—and if you provide steamed that don’t contain caffeine. Some come milk, so much the better. Even the are tea bags wrapped in foil packets, and Queen of Hearts would approve. She can others come as loose tea leaves. afford it, and if you can, hire a chamber On the side prepare half and half or orchestra or a harpist. If not, that’s what a pareve substitute, milk, skim, lemon, CDs are for! lime and orange slices, sugar substi- TRADITIONAL TEA tutes, sugar cubes, honey, and different SANDWICHES RECIPES types of granulated sugars. Good quality bread baked fresh at your favorite bakery is the best for tea Brooklyn’s A WORD ABOUT sandwiches. Have your baker slice the Teens and Ladies Apparel ACCOUTREMENTS bread extra thin if he can, then spread Some teapots, like those found at a thin layer of butter or margarine on 203 W. Englewood Ave Asian markets, are made for loose tea the bread slices to prevent them from Teaneck, NJ 07666 leaves and contain strainers and bas- getting soggy. Make sure the butter is kets. Some shops also offer porcelain at room temperature and soft before 201-837-0203

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 45 FOOD Israeli Startup Introduces Gourmet Dead Sea Salt Kickstarter campaign for Naked Sea Salt meets funding goal in 48 hours; shows cooperation between Arab and Israeli companies.

By Viva Sarah Press Israel 21C the Arava Institute. The Naked Sea Salt campaign is also dding salt to your food is about to promoting regional cooperation. While Abecome much healthier and tastier working on the Tunick photo shoot, thanks to a new Israeli product that is Fruchter met West Bank Salt Company dubbing itself the “the world’s healthi- owner Sam Hallhu, who was using eco- est gourmet salt.” It’s known as Naked friendly methods to harvest salt from Sea Salt and the wholesome granules the Dead Sea for the Arab market. come from the shores of the Dead Sea. “We are proud of the results we have Entrepreneur Ari Fruchter, founder achieved with our Palestinian partner and CEO of the new social enterprise, and hope that together we can show worked with chefs, salt experts and en- the world a new path to regional coop- vironmentalists to perfect the new prod- eration,” he says. “The expertise they uct. The beautifully packaged salt-herb bring to the table along with their tra- mixes come in 20 fl avors, among them ditional manufacturing methods are a mint&sundried tomato; garlic&ginger; The salt-herb mixes key component to our having such as and green seaweed. Fruchter turned to come in 15 fl avors, successful product.” the crowdsourcing platform Kickstarter with fi ve more to follow. Naked Sea Salt is said to contain no to raise money for the production of 15 chemicals, additives, food dyes or artifi - initial fl avors. The company surpassed ISRAEL21c’s coverage of Tunick’s nude waters may raise some eyebrows. But cial refi nement of any kind. The salt is its opening funding goal of $10,000 photo shoot helped spike global inter- Fruchter says his venture differs from harvested from the Dead Sea and pack- within the fi rst 48 hours. est. other industries along the Dead Sea aged and produced in Haifa. “Our supporters have awed us with “I’ve been a big Dead Sea activist for shores because he is committed to envi- Fruchter says he has been approached their generosity,” says Fruchter. “Meet- years,” Fruchter tells ISRAEL21c. “The ronmental preservation of the area and by numerous retail outfi ts to put his salt ing our minimum order within the fi rst awareness that we’re creating is tremen- rehabilitating the tributaries that feed on their shelves. So far, he’s dismissed two days is incredible. It’s a compelling dous. We want to connect people more into the Dead Sea. all approaches. testament to the appeal of mineral-rich closely to the Dead Sea through the Fruchter has pledged three percent of “I really want to keep Naked Sea Salt salt, the enthusiasm it inspires, and the product and use it as a platform to learn his net sales to the Arava Institute for as a boutique operation. I’m not look- hunger for natural, healthy, top-quality more about it.” Environmental Studies. ing to take it into retail stores,” he tells salt that exists in today’s global mar- Internationally known for its health “For Naked Sea Salt to take such sig- ISRAEL21c. “I prefer to connect to the ket.” benefi ts, the Dead Sea was shortlisted as nifi cant action is a critical step in the customer.” Fruchter fi rst thought about shaking one of the new wonders of the world, right direction. Their dedication to the Although he met the initial goal, up the salt industry in 2011, when he serves a growing cosmetics industry and environment makes them a pioneer of Fruchter says he’s still focused on the helped bring American art photographer is in a dire environmental plight. sustainable practice in the region,” says Kickstarter campaign. He says the next Spencer Tunick to Israel to raise aware- Adding a new company that requires Clive Lipchin, director of the Center for goal is to reach $100,000 and produce an ness for the Dead Sea. In fact, he says the receding sea’s mineral-enhanced Transboundary Water Management at additional fi ve fl avors. Back to School, Back to Basics: Packing Nutritious Lunches Beyond PB&J By Eleana Kaidanian, RD not done so already, ditch the brown pa- lunch bag for healthy snacks per bag entirely and opt for a reusable including quick and easy bag It’s midway through insulated bag with a reusable ice pack to stuffers such as whole fruits August and we have keep foods safe and cool. and vegetables. However, if a lot on our minds. Try these nutrition sandwich combos you see your child is regularly Summer camp is com- on whole-wheat or whole grain bread returning an untouched apple ing to a close, the high that will have your kids forgetting about or what looks like a mushy ba- holidays are just around the corner and peanut butter and jelly, at least during nana, try cutting up fruits and yes, school will be back in session. With school hours. vegetables into ready-to-eat fi n- so much on our plates the last thing Egg salad with diced pickles ger foods. Ask your kids to help we want to think about is “What’s for Lox and avocado slices you put them in small reusable lunch?” Hummus with avocado (switch off containers, as they are more Just ask any school-aged child what with different varieties such as roasted likely to eat something they his favorite subject is and if he is too old red pepper, garlic, or artichoke fl avors) helped put together. If brown- to still have recess, most will respond Mozzarella cheese and fresh tomato ing is a turn off for your child, with “lunchtime.” Considering that kids Tuna salad with diced crispy apple add a splash of lemon juice on cut fruit Eleana Kaidanian is a registered dieti- spend over a third of their day at school, Mozzarella cheese, red peppers, pesto to prevent naturally occurring browning tian who earned her degree in nutrition a nutritious well-balanced lunch is vital sauce due to oxidation. from NYU and completed her clinical di- to help fuel their active day. Wild salmon salad with diced celery Still not full? Beyond the fruits and etetic internship at North Shore-LIJ. She With food allergies on the rise and Feta cheese, avocado, sliced olives veggies, try other healthy snack items is passionate about educating adults as more schools becoming peanut-free, we Veggie burger with sliced cucumbers such as popcorn, pretzels, trail-mix, well as pediatric populations on the sig- are encouraged to come up with more Goat cheese topped with fresh spin- granola bars or something more sub- nifi cance of nutrition and helping them creative brown paper bagged lunches ach leaves stantial with protein such as string modify their eating habits towards a than our parents. Better yet, if you have There should still be room in the cheese or yogurt. healthier lifestyle.

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mayo for a sushi wrap Over the Kosher Kitchen Sink 5) depending on how daring your kid is, mine would bring chulent, kishka and Back to School In a Wrap leftover deli for a shabbos lunch on Mon- day wrap! By Rayzel Yaish Good leftover wraps: 6) And the always popular… leftover Inspired by a recent meal at our new lo- 1) shredded leftover brisket with salsa schnitzel drizzled with hot sauce and hon- cal kosher Mexican restaurant Burrito-lam or bbq sauce for a Texas pulled brisket ey for a fi re poppers wrap! (featured in this very paper a couple weeks BBQ wrap Chavie Hagler and Rayzel Yaish are two ago!), I was reminded that meals in a wrap 2) tuna, hard boiled eggs sliced, lettuce, Bergen county based full-time working are a good Back to School and work item green beans and Caesar dressing for a sal- mothers who have a passion for delicious to highlight. Much like a burrito encases ad Nicoise wrap food! We are delighted to bring you Over rice, veggies and protein in a neat package, 3) sliced hot dogs, baked beans and rice the Kosher Kitchen Sink. We hope enjoy wraps make quick work of a variety of left- for a kid friendly take on the popular burrito our tasty thoughts and will share your overs and can be tailored to the vegetarian, 4) salmon, rice, lettuce and shred- questions and kosher food ideas with us meat eater and everyone in between. For a ded carrot with some horseradish and at [email protected] change of pace and a neater eat- ing process cut wraps into thirds. Here are two quick and tasty op- tions and some leftover ideas us- ing any store bought wrap or soft tortilla. The Reuben Wrap: For each wrap, spread with mustard and Thousand Island dressing. Top with a couple of slices of corned beef and either sauerkraut or coleslaw, add a few thin slices of pickle. Roll and slice widthwise and wrap well for lunch. The Taco Wrap: Tabatchnik soup in the freezer section makes a good and eco- nomical pareve chili. One box will yield at least four-fi ve wraps. Leave chili in fridge over night to thaw. For each wrap sprinkle some shredded iceberg lettuce and sliced or chopped tomato and sliced or chopped avocado. Top with the tabatchnik chili and some cheddar cheese. Roll and slice widthwise and wrap well for lunch!

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When children hear us kvetch or speak disparagingly about carpool lines, extraneous school supplies, the dress code, or our ever growing tuition bill, let’s take a moment and remember that their little ears will internal- ize our banter into a real stressor. We do not want our children to feel responsible for something out of their control. The burden is on us to en- sure we deliver happy, excited children to school. Just as the summer months provide our children with the opportunity to fl ourish in various arts and sports activities, each new aca- demic year brings with it tre- mendous potential for growth and development and the gift of a new beginning. Shana Tova!

P’nina Seplowitz lives in Bergenfi eld with her husband and their three children. She is actively involved in the community and works as the VP of Sales & Marketing for an online magazine subscription company. P’nina recently authored her fi rst book of ju- venile fi ction and hopes to release her second publication before the summer.

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 47 BUSINESS SPOTLIGHT White, Yellow, Pink and Green Gold. Are They All Worth The Same Amount? JLBC Staff loyed with other met- als. The most impor- People always ask if the different tant one of course, colors of gold have the same purity and is price. Gold in its value. The simple answer is yes. Now we pure form can be will try to explain how they get their very expensive and unique colors and what makes them dif- most people would ferent. It mostly has to do with the oth- not be able to afford er metals alloyed with the gold while it to wear gold jewelry is being processed. every day. The sec- Any form of gold other than pure gold ond reason is equally as important: gold which creates the illusion that the dia- (24k) is alloyed with other metals. Alloy- is an extremely soft and malleable metal mond appears more yellow than it re- ing is a process that combines tow or which can be easily scratched or dam- ally is. In the 4 C’s of diamonds color metals to give greater strength or resist- aged, and the alloys actually make the plays a major role in the value and bril- ance to corrosion to the fi nished item. gold stronger and more durable. liance of a diamond so naturally people For example 10k gold has ten parts gold Yellow gold in 14k is usually alloyed would prefer a metal that compliments and 14 parts alloy, 14k gold has 14 parts with copper and zinc and white gold this factor. gold and 10 parts other alloys etc. It is is normally alloyed with a mixture of When choosing between white and often expressed as a ratio 14/24 or you Palladium, silver, and nickel. The white yellow gold, a strong argument can be might see the number .585 (signifying metals create the white color in the made to support either side. You can 14k) or 18/24 or .750 (for 18k) on a piece gold. Nickel is the cheapest way to alloy is more popular and trendy and often be rest assured that 14k white gold is of gold. white gold, but many people are allergic demands a premium. However, when it the same purity as 14k yellow gold. It There actually many other colors of to nickel so silver or Palladium are used comes to recycling gold for some extra all comes down to taste and preference gold. Grey gold is alloyed with manga- instead. Even though yellow gold seems cash they are both worth the same. and what compliments your style and nese, copper, and silver. Black gold is cre- be more pure than white gold, you might It’s fascinating to know that the rea- fashion. ated by using black rhodium. The least think it would make sense that yellow son white gold became so popular is be- known is probably blue gold, which is should command a higher price, but cause our everlasting love for diamonds. Garden State Jewelers have been serv- alloyed with Indium. But here we will white gold is often more expensive than When wearing a white gold band it com- ing the community since 2005. Their suc- discuss the two most popular colors of its yellow counterpart because it can be plements the diamond and can make cess is based on treating each customer gold: white and yellow. harder to fabricate to get that rich white the diamond appear more brilliant in with respect and honesty. Stop in or visit There are two main reasons gold is al- color. In today’s marketplace white gold contrast to its yellow gold counterpart, them online at www.gardenstatejewelers. SIMCHA DIRECTORY

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• Unless there is a problem, the fi rst set er. There are techniques that can be used Why Should I Take My Child of radiographs is taken when a child is 5. to guide the growth and prevent surgery The radiographs consist of a fi lm to view in the future. The dentition is also evalu- to a Pediatric Dentist? if there are any extra teeth that prevent ated at this time since the child has mixed normal eruption of the anterior permanent permanent and primary teeth. Space main- By Martha Miqueo, DDS age feeding, suckling, teething, and oral dentition and two fi lms taken to check for tainers can be used to preserve room and to hygiene. You want to prevent developing cavities between the posterior teeth. prevent extraction of permanent teeth lat- ave you ever nursing caries. Here are a few points to • Permanent teeth can start growing into er on. Bone expanders can also be used to Hthought about tak- keep in mind as your child grows: the mouth as early as 4 years old, but the create more space for the adult dentition. ing your child to your • The American Academy of Pediatric average age is 6. This is why the fi rst perma- Since children’s bones are so malleable at internist instead of Dentistry and the American Dental Associa- nent molars that grow in behind the baby this young age, this is possible without dis- the pediatrician? Prob- tion recommend that a child see a dentist teeth are called 6 year molars. Sometimes comfort. ably not, because your by the age of one. At that time there are usu- you see two rows of teeth in the mandibu- • Trauma to the oral cavity should be Pediatrician is some- ally 8 teeth in the mouth. Parents should lar anterior part of the mouth. That hap- evaluated promptly for the effects on the one who specializes in the growth and de- make sure that they have the information pens because the permanent tooth buds permanent dentition. Primary teeth are not velopment of children. necessary to protect these teeth and the de- develop in the bone behind the roots of the replanted, but permanent teeth should be Just like your pediatrician, a pediatric veloping bone structures. By the age of 2.5 primary teeth. Those roots may not have re- in a timely manner. dentist, is a doctor that has 2 to 3 years of or 3, all 20 primary teeth have erupted. At sorbed enough for the baby teeth to exfoli- • Between the ages of 12 and 16 most specialty training beyond dental school. A this time fl uoride toothpaste should be in- ate before the eruption of the permanent of the permanent dentition should have pediatric dentist also specializes in growth troduced, but it is necessary that the child teeth that will take their place. erupted, except for the third molars. They and development and how to deal with be comfortable rinsing and spitting. Tooth- • Sealants are a protective coating ap- can appear between ages 18 and 25. These and engage the child psyche. This special- paste should not be swallowed. plied to the occlusal or top surface of the teeth are often missing, impacted, and of- ist has the tools necessary to treat special • If you do not live in a community that tooth. These are usually recommended ten cause misery when they erupt. These needs patients, and the hospital experience has water fl uoridation, your pediatrician when the six year molars are fully erupted. should be monitored radiographically. to provide care in different settings when may have given your child a multivitamin One of the reasons that most adults have necessary. containing fl uoride. If not, your pediatric fi llings on these molars or have lost these Dr. Martha Miqueo is an Orthodontist Pediatric Dentistry is mostly about pre- dentist can prescribe a fl uoride supple- teeth is because they grow in so early, and Pediatric Dentist. She is a graduate of vention. The earlier you start, the greater ment. Children from the ages of 6 months when as a child they lacked the knowledge New York University College of Dentistry the chances that you will have a strong, through 16 should receive fl uoride supple- and dexterity to brush properly. and has been in practice for 20 years. She healthy, caries-free, life-time smile. An ex- ments if it is not in their drinking water. • At age 7, a child should be evaluated by has three children ranging in ages from 11 to pectant mother should seek a Pediatric The surgeon general has released a state- an orthodontist. It is important to check 18 and lives in Tenafl y with her family. Dentist to receive prenatal recommenda- ment in April discussing the many benefi ts and compare the growth of the maxilla Orthodontic Specialty #06134 tions of what to expect and how to man- of fl uoride. It is available online at ADA.org and mandible as they relate to one anoth- Pediatric Specialty #06248

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body esteem. As stated, people often confuse appearance, rather than complimenting Body Esteem vs. Self-Esteem the two and feel that their self-worth is solely the good we see in those we care about. related to how they feel about their weight There is still a concern, though, that even By Temimah Zucker women over the age of 30 reported body and appearance. This is what is called body with the knowledge of self-esteem vs. body image dissatisfaction, mostly likely related esteem, or feelings of self-worth about one’s esteem, how can we promote positive body Chances are if you to images promoted in the media. body and appearance. Self-esteem, rather, is image, not only in adolescents but in our- were to ask a young We are faced with billboards, ads, com- feelings of self-worth in relation to personal selves? I encourage you to fi nd something woman about her mercials, and fi lm that emphasize the idea achievements, attributes, characteristics and about your body that you love. Addition- self-esteem she would that “thin is in” and that to make it in this successes. To clarify this distinction it is vital ally, you can remind yourself of what your begin to discuss how world one needs to be a size 2 and constant- that we promote activities in our lives that body gives you. If you are dissatisfi ed with she feels about herself ly dieting and restricting. While it would be will lead us to self-worth: good deeds, charity, a certain part of your body, remind yourself in relation to her body. It is generally be- glorious to simply block out the media from hobbies—all activities, among many others, of what it does for you and how you are lieved that this has to do with the current our lives, we live in a day and age when this that allow us to feel good about ourselves. blessed with this. For instance, if an indi- conceptions posed by the media; a study is nearly impossible. There are some excep- When I was still in the deep stages of vidual is not fond of her arms, she should done by J.B. Martin in 2010 showed that 47 tions out there that promote a healthy body my eating disorder, my father and I volun- remind herself that these arms allow her to percent of elementary school girls felt that image, but most simply show individuals teered at a cemetery, cleaning gravestones hug her loved ones and carry out everyday magazines infl uenced their desires to lose who are a size 6 and still do not show those once a week. This activity encouraged posi- tasks. It may not be easy but sometimes weight and 69 percent said that the images who are a few sizes larger. When I spoke tive feelings about myself and what I was the key is reminding ourselves and others in magazines affected their concept of an alongside Dr. Ellen Haimoff at a yeshiva high doing to make a change and help others about what is on the inside and how lucky ideal body weight. This information should school in the Five Towns, she encouraged that did not interact with my appearance we are to have functioning, strong bodies. be of concern to all of us, not only to those the students to pay attention to the expres- or weight. I highly recommend fi lling one’s I still struggle at times with body image. who have a loved one suffering from an sion of models in ads—the waif-like models day with some form of charity or kindness To counter negative thoughts I remind my- eating disorder or disordered eating. What rarely seemed to be smiling or happy while as this will release positive thoughts. Then self that I defi ne what I believe to be beau- are the facts that we should know and how those few ads that showed men and women when negative thoughts creep in, you can tiful and that my body has not given up on can we counter this dangerous mentality? in a more “normal” size actually showed ex- look back at your refl ection and think of me yet, even when I put it through danger First, is it important to understand why pressions of joy. the good you do—this good that should during my eating disorder. I am not defi ned this is the current perception and get the As members of this community we know defi ne more of who you are than a number by my weight but instead by who I am as a facts straight about what is truly behind that we want health and happiness for our on a scale. The more positive thoughts non- person and what I do. Thoughts like these this trend? A study done in 1996 showed loved ones. So how can we avoid this whirl- related to weight, the better. Additionally, it encourage positive self-esteem and positive that the amount of time that an adolescent wind of diets and body image dissatisfaction is important to point out these characteris- body esteem. watches television or movies is directly cor- among not only adolescents but ourselves? I tics to show your loved ones that they are For other tips on body esteem and self-es- related to negative body image. Addition- believe the fi rst key to doing so is to remem- more than just a body. We often get caught teem email Temimah at informationTVC@ ally, a study done reveals that 67 percent of ber the distinction between self-esteem and up in focusing on compliments relating to gmail.com

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 49 FASHION Marc Joseph NY Crosses The River

By Jeanette Friedman strom’s and Macy’s and boutiques in Ber- pad inserts, each and every pair of Marc gen County. The duo recently opened a Joseph NY footwear is hand fi nished. Marc Joseph NY, a casual footwear boutique on Manhattan’s Upper East Despite the heady charms of high fash- company born in Brooklyn to a father Side, which features the company’s lim- ion, this dynamic duo hasn’t forgotten and his native New Yorker son in 2006, ited edition styles and their full line of their roots, and continue to embrace is expanding from its manufacturing footwear. Their loyal customers span Jewish tradition and values. They are base and New York and web-based busi- the globe. From U.S. and Canada to the very much a family brand, with most of ness into retail sales in New Jersey. The UK, Switzerland and Spain, Israel to Du- their staff comprised of extended fami- company prides itself on its traditional bai, and Japan, there is hardly a place on ly members. Says Joseph, “An advantage business values: trendy styles in casual the map where someone is not wearing we have, is that everyone shares similar footwear with an emphasis on qual- a Marc Joseph NY shoe! values, ideas, and strives for company ity and comfort in moccasins, loafers, The Marc Joseph NY brand is most growth as if it was their own. boots, booties, wedges and sandals for famous for its driving moccasins, un- Marc says, “For me, Marc Joseph is men and women. matched in design quality, comfort and by far the most exciting for its growth Marc Antebi, a successful entrepre- fi t. Creative director Joseph incorporates and potential which comes from pleas- neur with more than 30 years in glo- personality and character into every de- ing the end-user. This is also a family bal business ventures that ranged from sign. The use of his vast selection of ex- business—and with my sons handling manufacturing day to day products to otic colors, textures and skins, is attracts the day-to-day affairs, it gives me great closing deals with CEO’s of Fortune the Marc Joseph NY customer. “My goal pleasure to see our family brand grow- 100 companies, and his son, Joseph, the is to design shoes that are most unique ing and expanding every year.” company’s creative director, provide a however, practical in every sense. I put unique look and quality shoe for casual much effort making sure the comfort Since the day they opened, ten per- and business attire markets. In addition and fi t are perfect.” cent of profi ts are given to tzedakah, to the classics, they offer classics on Every pair of shoes is made by Brazil- and with a thriving business, they have, steroids...in funky new color combos, in ian artisans who have a sharp eye for de- thanks to God and hard work, been able animal prints, and other patterns. tail. 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50 August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM HISTORY Holocaust Resistance Of White Rose Group Remembered 70 Years Later

By Robert Gluck/JNS.org Five non-Jewish university students— today in an effort to fi ght for human Sophie and Hans Scholl, Christoph rights. He cited the example of Malala A monument to Hans and Sophie Probst, Alexander Schmorell, and Willie Yousafzai, the Pakistani student known Scholl and the Holocaust resistance Graf—and their professor, Kurt Huber, for her educational and women’s rights group White Rose at the University of launched the White Rose group as a efforts who was shot in the head and Munich in Bavaria, Germany. Credit: clandestine campaign against the Third neck in an assassination attempt by Tali- Gryffi ndor via Wikimedia Commons. Reich. The group exhorted the German ban gunmen on October 9, 2012, while Among the various events in Holo- people to stand up and fi ght for freedom, returning home on a school bus. caust history marking their 70th anni- risking their lives to reveal the persecu- History shows that in spite of the ex- versary this year—including the Warsaw tion of the Jews months before news ecutions, the White Rose leafl ets made Ghetto uprising, the Nazis’ failed assault reached the outside world. After a fi lm their way throughout Germany and Nazi- on Stalingrad, and a Washington, DC about the group was released in Ger- occupied Europe, were smuggled into march by 400 rabbis who urged President many, Newborn realized that people in Switzerland and Sweden, and from there Franklin Delano Roosevelt to rescue Eu- the United States knew next to nothing were sent to London. rope’s Jews—what stands out for author about White Rose. “Once they reached the West,” New- Jud Newborn is the White Rose episode. “The fi lm did not explain who they born writes in his book, “the leafl ets of were and where they came from, and why the White Rose were reprinted—now in they did what they did, it just showed the the tens of thousands—and dropped from Representation of White Rose leafl ets on a action,” Newborn said. “I realized English Allied aircraft over the cities of Germany.” German street. speakers needed a full-fl edged book that In the foreword to Newborn’s book, would tell the whole story of the White author Studs Terkel writes, “Whenever Newborn told JNS.org that the Scholls, Rose. It was that important and that in- I see a white rose, I think immediately in the only public protest against Nazism spiring and that surprising a true story.” of those two [execution victims, Hans since the Nazi Party took power, “pushed First published as Shattering the Ger- and Sophie Scholl], and of their hero- hundreds of leafl ets over a balustrade man Night in 1986, Newborn’s book took ism amidst the horror. They let us know in the University of Munich’s atrium so on a life of its own through multiple re- that even in Nazi Germany there were they came fl oating down over the heads printings and an international edition. some among the young, however few in of astonished students milling about be- Newborn is not the only one marking number, who represented the best that low.” the White Rose anniversary this year. The there was in the world.” “Why are members of the White Rose University of Nevada Las Vegas’s (UNLV) White Rose members Hans and So- so inspiring today? The injustice and Lied Library hosts an exhibit, “White phie Scholl, as well as Christoph Probst, oppression did not end when the Nazis Rose,” through Aug. 22 that focuses on were executed on Feb. 22, 1943. Alexan- were defeated. It continues to appear in those who resisted Hitler’s rule. After der Schmorell and Professor Kurt Huber many forms throughout the world in- UNLV, the exhibit, a collection of photos were killed on July 13 that year, and Wil- cluding right here in the United States,” and stories curated and created by the lie Graf on Oct. 12. Newborn said. White Rose Foundation, travels to Michi- gan Tech University. Professor Kurt Huber of the Holocaust Peter Michel, head of exhibits for the resistance group White Rose. Credit: German UNLV Libraries, hopes visitors to “White Federal Archives. Rose” will begin to understand there was In February, July, and October 1943, open opposition and resistance to the the Nazis executed the six members of Nazi regime among the German people the White Rose non-Jewish resistance to the Nazi regime—even in Munich, the group, which distributed leafl ets oppos- birthplace of the Nazi Party. ing Hitler. The founding historian of “Particularly for American students New York’s Museum of Jewish Heritage, to understand the history and role of Newborn travels around the country giv- student resistance in Nazi Germany, and ing his presentation on White Rose. He that university students risked their lives is the author, along with Annette Dum- to oppose and publicize the atrocities bach, of the book Sophie Scholl and the and genocide being committed by their White Rose, an animated narrative that own government, for which they ulti- reads like a novel. mately paid with their lives,” Michel told Whether presenting at a synagogue JNS.org. during the year or a campus event like Michel said he has been “surprised the 13th annual Dorothy Koppelman Me- and impressed” with the impact the ex- morial Holocaust Lecture at Rider Uni- hibit has made so far. versity in Lawrenceville, NJ, this summer, “I have talked to students who have Newborn said his dramatic multi-media been deeply moved, and shocked, and lecture program grabs the attention of who have indicated that they never listeners. “People are deeply inspired by knew about this, and how glad they are this story,” Newborn told JNS.org. “My we were able to provide them the op- program includes a number of images portunity to experience, however briefl y, that movingly put the story of the White this one moment in history,” he said. Rose in its time and place.” Michel hopes the exhibit will “make Newborn fi rst went to Germany in people more aware of the power and ne- 1980 to do his doctoral fi eldwork on the cessity of resistance, by whatever groups Holocaust for the University of Chicago. that are suffering persecution, be they “As I entered the University of Mu- Jews, Catholics, Protestants or any other nich’s vast atrium and saw a white rose ethnic or religious group.” carved in marble with the names of the “We hope that our students who visit members who had been executed carved this exhibit will afterwards have a better above it, including Hans and Sophie understanding of this history and per- Scholl and Willie Graf, I was moved to haps identify with other young people know that young people who resisted who have suffered and are still suffering the Nazis were being honored at the very from oppression,” he said. site where their most dramatic act of As part of his presentation, Newborn public protest took place,” Newborn said. talks about individuals risking their lives

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Children at Camp Shalom participated in “Swim for SINAI,” a summerlong Swimathon to raise money for SINAI Schools’ Scholarship Fund. SINAI Schools raised thousands of dollars thanks to the enthusiasm of the campers and generosity of the sponsors.

Camp Kef campers learn about kibbutz life, the theme of the week, while having fun as they enjoy a visit from a petting zoo on July 25. 52 August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM KIDS OF COURAGE Kids of Courage Leads All-Volunteer Trip for Nearly 500 to Orlando

Camper Freeda Sutton and Counselor Elisheva Parry rejoice Staff members dress up each day to match the camp’s Kids of Courage thanks and salutes all the courageous volunteers who and reunite at Newark Airport ahead of Kids of Courage’s theme. Here, Mr. Tinman shows his courageous smile with so gladly open their arms and homes to K.O.C. 9-day adventure a camper. he Hilton Double Tree Hotel at Sea- medications were administered on the your side makes fi ghting illness a lot eas- this: “Kids of Courage makes the impossi- TWorld in Orlando was awash with road per day -- which according to Kids ier to deal with. If not for Kids of Courage, ble possible.” bright orange t-shirts as nearly 500 mem- of Courage is more doses than an average hundreds of thousands of beautiful smiles bers of Kids of Courage arrived for the non- sized children’s hospital. Medical logistics and memories would not be created. It’s For more information about Kids of profi t organization’s annual 9-day summer personnel tagged along carrying oxygen truly a magical organization.” Courage or to make a donation, please visit adventure in August. Kids of Courage par- tanks and ice-cold water in the parks. When asked to sum it up, camper kidsoc.org. You can follow K.O.C. on your fa- ticipants, better known as “Couragers,” Campers and counselors couldn’t walk Racheli Herzfeld, from Teaneck, NJ, offered vorite social network at @KidsOfCourage. fl ocked to Florida on nearly 20different more than 5 minutes fl ights from 14 states and 4 countries. A without bumping into charter fl ight from Newark carried more someone in an orange than 30 oxygen dependent individuals. t-shirt offering them The fl ight has been labeled as a literal hos- water. “Every detail is pital in the sky. covered,” said coun- This unique organization was founded selor Ephraim Lieder- in 2009 as an all-volunteer program dedi- man, from Cedarhurst, cated to improving the lives of children NY. “When we pull up • HOSIERY fi ghting serious and chronic illness. Kids to a park, the logistics • HATS of Courage provides medically-supervised team is there waiting trips to children battling illness at abso- with wheelchairs and • HAIR lutely no cost to the children’s families, any other supplies we ACCESSORIES and acts as a much-needed respite for the may need.” children and parents alike. How does the group • EVENING BAGS “This is the most medically challenging do it? “Working out the • KIDS group that we’ve traveled with to date,” logistics of the trip is a said Dr. Stuart Ditchek, Kids of Courage’s near impossible task”, UNDERWEAR co-founder and medical director. “Because said K.O.C. Co-Founder • SHELLS of our expertise in traveling with serious and Head Paramedic illness, it’s essentially easier for us to travel Howie Kafka. “Every • PRE-TIED with nearly 150 medically challenged indi- year we’re amazed that BANDANAS, viduals than it is for most parents to travel a group of volunteers SNOODS with just one.” from all walks of life While in Orlando, K.O.C. adventured come together and pull • BETTER to Disney World, SeaWorld, Busch Gar- off what can only be STERLING dens, Nickelodeon Studios, Universal’s called a miracle.” Every style JEWELRY Island of Adventure, and Legoland, “The organization to fit every taste. among other attractions. Kids of Cour- goes as far as its volun- • GREAT age also arranged for an adaptive water teers take it,” added Dr. JEWELRY GIFTS sports day. Full quadriplegics who rely Ditchek. “We rely com- Every price on ventilators to help them breathe pletely on the generos- FOR UNDER $20 were able to jet ski safely for the fi rst ity of good people.” to fit every budget. • READING time in their lives. “It doesn’t matter The trip to Orlando how serious anybody’s condition might was Kids of Courage’s GLASSES be, everybody was able to participate fi fth offi cial summer equally”, said Ari Dobkin, the organiza- trip. K.O.C. also runs a tion’s program director. “We redefi ne wintertime adaptive ski what it means to live with a serious dis- adventure to Vermont, ability or chronic illness. There are no in addition to approxi- disabilities in Kids of Courage.” Camp- mately 30 days worth ers also enjoyed adaptive horseback rid- of activities throughout Serving ing, a wildlife petting zoo, and speed- the year. boat rides. “We have some- Bergen County Each camper on the trip was accom- thing to look forward SUN.-WED. Customers for AM PM panied by at least one counselor. Some to all year round”, said Monsey Glatt Plaza 10:30 -5:30 campers had assistance from two or even Jake Hytken, a camper 190 Route 59 Over THURSDAY three counselors depending on the sever- from San Diego who is Monsey, New York 10:30AM -6:30 PM ity of their illness. Kids of Courage also battling muscular dys- 25 Years! brought six doctors, and more than 20 trophy. “Knowing that FRIDAY nurses and EMTs. Around 1,200 doses of someone is always by (845)425-2508 10:30AM -1:00 PM

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 53 BACK TO SCHOOL Back to School Check-Ups: What to Ask the Pediatrician

(StatePoint) Between buying new juice. If you don’t like the options the school school supplies and meeting your chil- offers, pack lunch and snacks at home. dren’s teachers, back to school season is a Limit soda consumption. Each 12-ounce busy time. But parents should not forget soft drink contains approximately 10 tea- to prep for the school year by considering spoons of sugar and 150 calories. Drink- health and wellness. ing just one can of soda a day increases a Experts say the fi rst step is to schedule child’s risk of obesity by 60 percent. a visit to the doctor. • Exercise: Make sure your kids are get- “The start of a new school year is an ex- ting plenty of exercise. Turn off the televi- cellent reminder to take kids to the pedia- sion and make time for sports teams, gym- trician for their annual checkup,” says Dr. nastics classes and bike rides. Aim for at Thomas K. McInerny, president of the least an hour a day. American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). • Backpacks: Choose a backpack with To prepare for a healthy, safe and happy wide, padded shoulder straps and a pad- school year, the AAP is offering these tips ded back or a rolling backpack. Backpacks for parents: should never weigh more than 10 to 20 • Doctor’s visit: Make the most of your percent of your child’s body weight. visit to the pediatrician by making a list of • Getting there: Make sure your child issues to discuss. has the necessary gear for getting to • Immunizations: Whether you’re the school. Whether your child is biking or parent of a young child, a teen or a young walking, teach him or her about traffi c PHOTO SOURCE: (c) Monkey Business - Fotolia.com adult heading to college, ask your pedia- safety. For bikers, ensure helmets fi t trician what immunizations your child properly. Those who take the bus should • Bullies: A bully can pose a true threat • College health: For kids heading to is due to receive. Vaccines save lives and be instructed to stay seated and listen to a child’s physical and mental well-being. college, ask your pediatrician about coor- keep kids and adults healthy. to the bus driver. If the bus is equipped Your pediatrician is well equipped to an- dinating health care with the school. • Nutrition: Talk with your child’s pedia- with seat belts, children should wear swer questions about mental health, too. With a focus on safety and health, you trician and school about healthful food them. Teach kids how to respond confi dently to can help make this school year successful choices. You can ask the school to stock • Sleep: Children and adolescents need bullies and encourage them to tell an adult for your kids. the cafeteria and vending machines with plenty of sleep to be alert. A regular bed- when there’s a problem. Remember, bully- nutritious food, such as fresh fruit, low-fat time can help your child get on a healthy ing can occur online too. So keep tabs of More back to school health tips can be dairy products, water and 100 percent fruit sleep schedule. your children’s social media use. found at www.HealthyChildren.org. What Every Parent Needs To Know: Changes In The Classroom (StatePoint) Across the country, parents cognitive science about how we learn, us- ents can rest assured that teachers are getting the personalized attention they are beginning to notice that today’s class- ing cutting-edge digital tools.” increasingly equipped with new tech- need to improve their chances for long- room looks quite different from what they nologies that ensure their students are term success. experienced in their own school days. Personalized Learning From personalized learning technologies Education research has shown that in- to new educational standards, teachers struction becomes more effective when and administrators are using a variety of tailored to students’ unique learning styles WE HAVE ALL THE tools to ensure students are better pre- and needs. Personalized learning tends to pared to succeed than ever before. lead to deeper learning – which will help INGREDIENTS FOR In this era of innovation in education, students meet many of the new Common this school year will be particularly exciting Core standards. As classrooms continue in part because states will be piloting assess- getting bigger however, delivering that ments aligned to the Common Core State sort of individual attention to students be- Standards, the new set of K-12 educational comes more diffi cult. standards designed to improve students’ With this in mind, Reading Wonders readiness for college and future careers. was built using entirely new educational So just what do these changes mean for technology, offering interconnected plat- your kids? forms personalized for students and teach- ers and accessible across any device. Shift to New Standards Other digital learning tools use addi- • Honey sticks in 20 assorted flavors Schools nationwide are fi nding new tional techniques to help students suc- • Blackberry honey from Wild Pacific Northwest ways to provide individually tailored les- ceed. McGraw-Hill Education’s LearnS- Blackberry blossoms son plans while addressing the Common mart and FLEX Literacy, for example, • Pure raw honey from Israel in decorative jars Core State Standards, often relying on a each use “adaptive” technology to con- • FEATURING - Moon Shine Trading Golden Reserve Honey including California Pomegranate, Mexican new generation of educational technolo- tinually assess students’ knowledge, skill Coffee Blossom, Idaho Snowberry & more gies that help students learn and succeed and confi dence levels and to create a • Natural silan date syrup from Israel at their own pace. unique study path designed to help each • Jumbo Medjool Dates from Israel McGraw-Hill Education’s Reading Won- student in the topics and concepts they & California ders is one such tool. Available in both all- need most – a level of personalization • Honey candy , pomegranate digital and print/digital formats, it is the previously only available from a personal candy & more fi rst K-6 core reading program designed tutor. LearnSmart delivers this adaptive • Unique & elegant holiday arrangements specifi cally for the new standards. learning experience for a variety of high “Even before the advent of the Common school subject areas, while FLEX Literacy Core, we knew that preparing students for incorporates it into a comprehensive, the demands of college and careers required Common Core-specifi c reading and lan- setting a solid foundation in skills such as guage arts intervention system for stu- reading comprehension and writing,” said dents in Grades 3–8. Christine Willig, senior vice president of More information about new digital products at McGraw-Hill School Education. programs, including those designed specifi - “When the new standards reiterated the cally for the Common Core State Standards, importance of these skills, we saw an op- can be found at www.mheducation.com. portunity to build an entirely new program In this ever-evolving educational land- that would address the Common Core re- scape, keeping up with the changes can quirements, by leveraging contemporary seem daunting – but it needn’t be. Par-

54 August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM BACK TO SCHOOL Five Germ-Fighting Tips To Keep Kids Healthy This School Year

(StatePoint) School is a great place to trition it needs to fi ght off germs during day. But how many of learn, play and make friends. Unfortu- the school year. us really get them? To nately it’s also a great place for germs to “Some of my favorite healthy snacks are help fi ll the gaps, look get very well acquainted….with your fam- carrots, celery and apples. They are easy to for nutritional sup- ily! With 20 to 30 kids in a classroom and pack and extremely nutritious,” says Ram- plements supported even more on the playground, it’s hard to pone. “The trick is to create variety, be- by published clinical avoid the germs that cause such illnesses cause kids tend to grow tired of the same research, like those as colds, fl us and more. things quickly.” containing EpiCor, an Three-time Gold Medalist, wife and • Get plenty of exercise: Frequent, immune-strengthen- busy mom of two, Christie Rampone moderate exercise is important for good ing ingredient found knows the importance of good health. health and strong immunity. On a daily in many dietary sup- As captain of the U.S. Women’s Soc- basis, encourage kids to play sports, run, plement brands sold cer Team, she travels over two hun- bike ride or dance, all to keep their bod- in stores and online. dred days a year, often with her young ies fi t, hearts pumping strong and minds Rampone, who has children in tow. So stress, fatigue and happy. Better yet, join in on the fun your- battled Lyme disease, staying healthy are daily battles. Since self! which wreaks havoc Soccer champion, Christie Rampone with daughters Reece and Rylie. days off are not an option for Ram- • Sleep at least seven hours a night: Sleep on the immune sys- pone, she is offering fi ve “stay healthy” is crucial to good health, both mentally tem, has been using such supplements for and get a few minutes each day to relax tips that parents can follow all school and physically. A recent study showed that herself and her entire family. and recharge your immune battery. year long: when you get less than seven hours sleep • Don’t forget about you: As a parent, More tips to keep kids healthy this • Eat healthy: It’s no secret, a balanced at night, you’re three times more likely to your fi rst priority is usually the kids. school year can be found at www.epi- diet is key for a healthy immune system. come down with a cold or fl u. But you need to make sure that you also corimmune.com. By focusing on a variety of fruits and veg- • Take supplements as needed: Govern- take care of yourself too, especially dur- While you can’t avoid germs, you can etables and avoiding processed foods and ment recommendations call for fi ve to ing the chaotic school and work week. take steps to strengthen your family’s im- sugary snacks, your family will get the nu- eight servings of fruits and vegetables a Make sure that you drink enough water munity and overall health.

throughout the day.” juices. When drinking, alternate a glass of Tips To Avoid The ‘Freshman 15’ King recommends that breakfast be water between alcoholic beverages. You’ll quick and combine carbohydrates and consume less alcohol and fewer calories. (StatePoint) Trying to avoid the dreaded diet and exercise. some protein to help keep students feel- “Freshman 15” weight gain? While college ing full. Good options include whole-grain Exercise is an adjustment, it doesn’t have to mean Be Prepared toast with peanut butter, a low-fat granola Regular exercise pays dividends, help- an adjustment in your pants size. “Stress, anxiety and homesickness can bar and fruit, or a whole-wheat tortilla ing control weight, improve one’s mood all lead to overeating.” warns registered with hummus and an apple. and control stress. Many universities have dietitian nutritionist, Kristi King, spokes- excellent fi tness centers available for stu- person with the Academy of Nutrition and Cafeteria 101 dents, but you don’t have to become a gym Dietetics. The dining hall can be a friend or foe. rat to stay fi t. Instead of taking the bus or Before you snack, ask yourself why There may be high-calorie foods and over- driving to class, walk or ride your bike. you’re doing so. If stress, anxiety or sad- sized portions, but most universities pro- ness is a factor, take a study break to chat vide nutritious options too. Opt for foods Get Help with friends or go on a walk. that are baked, broiled, steamed, grilled or If you’d like help creating a healthy roasted, while steering clear of foods that meal plan, or want tips for controlling Smart Snacks are buttered, fried or swimming in cream weight, check to see if your university of- Late nights and stress can lead to binge- sauce. When fi lling your plate at the caf- fers nutrition counseling services. Regis- ing, so don’t keep junk food on hand. In- eteria, consider following the US Depart- tered dietitian nutritionists are food and In fact, the Freshman 15 is a myth. Fresh- stead, stock healthy snacks that combine ment of Agriculture’s MyPlate guidelines. nutrition experts, and they can help you man students gain only 2.5 to 3.5 pounds protein and carbohydrates. ace your health goals. on average during their fi rst year in col- Alcohol More tips to maintain a healthy weight lege, according to a recent study published Don’t Skip Breakfast “Alcohol is readily available and can pack your freshman year and beyond can be in Social Science Quarterly. But be advised, “Breakfast wakes up the metabolism on the pounds quickly if you’re not care- found at www.eatright.org. the same study fi nds that college students and provides energy to the brain and ful,” warns King. For students over 21, King Going to college means adjusting to a do gain moderate but steady weight dur- muscles for the day’s activities,” says King. recommends light beer and avoiding drinks new lifestyle. Don’t let the changes get the ing and after college. So stay vigilant about “People who eat breakfast tend to eat less mixed with regular soft drinks or sugary better of your health and wellness. Help Students Keep Organized Lockers This School Year (StatePoint) Parents can do everything food, and lost books. which books are needed. Arranging books in their power to provide children with Use durable, long-lasting locker shelves, to align with their class schedule also the proper tools and supplies to stay or- like the Five Star Stackable Shelf or Five makes it easy when students have just a ganized this school year. But when their Star Top Shelf Extender, to create addition- few minutes between classes. kids get to school, all preparations can eas- al space for school supplies. These locker Save locker space and time between ily get thrown out the window—or, into a shelves hold up to 100 pounds, so books, classes by magnetically storing pens and messy locker. binders and other supplies can quickly pencils on the locker door. The Five Star As the one piece of real estate students and easily be stacked or thrown into the Neo Storage Pocket has industrial-strength keep without regular parental review, the locker. magnets that ensure no matter how hard locker is often a place of disorganization Keep personal items and academic sup- the locker is slammed, the pocket will se- and a pitfall in the path to being and stay- plies separate for quick and easy access to curely stay on the locker door. Contents ing organized. both. With an organizer like the Five Star stay in place for an easy grab-and-go at the To help students get their lockers in or- Hanging Locker Shelf, students can store next locker stop. der and, in turn, keep them functional and a makeup bag or running shoes in the top organized for effi cient learning, follow compartment and textbooks, folders and Set a Schedule these quick tips: binders in the bottom, creating an easily Even with an organization plan in accessible space. place, it doesn’t take much for a locker to Shelving get cluttered all over again. Create a clean- Notepads, pens, papers and other eve- Easy Access ing schedule -- either weekly or even once- all unnecessary items are removed and all ryday items tend to get stuffed in the Books should sit upright in the locker a-semester -- to straighten up and reassess missing supplies are replaced. bottom of lockers without arrangement, to maximize space and be displayed with the contents of the locker. For more ways to organize a locker, visit leading to wrinkled assignments, smashed the spines facing out so it’s easy to see Include a weekly locker purge where www.MeadFiveStar.com.

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 55 BUSINESS SPOTLIGHT Shia Getter: The Go-Getter In Israeli Real Estate

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56 August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 57 SPORTS Geerz Program Comes To Camp Mesorah

By P’nina Seplowitz ends! The camp’s large property is perfect for biking and with the permission of the his summer, Camp Me- camp owners, Ari Katz and Joseph Stan- Tsorah has incorporated sky, Donny guided by GEERZ, mapped a unique and internation- out and built mountain biking trails on ally successful leadership the camp’s grounds. More trails are be- mountain biking program called GEERZ. ing built and will continue to be built as The new program has never been seen be- the program grows. Camp Mesorah also fore in the Jewish camping world. GEERZ invested in high end mountain bikes in mountain biking program, imported from different sizes each with water cages and Israel, has both boys and girls signing up helmets to ensure the safety of the camp- for an all inclusive mountain biking work- ers. Over 300 youth will have benefi tted shop. Founded in Israel by Rabbi Nachum from Geerz at Camp Mesorah by the end Wasosky, originally of Pittsburgh, PA, of this summer. GEERZ is a program dedicated to devel- One camper said, “Mountain biking oping youth around the world to become makes me feel empowered.” How does bars and scoot forward on the seat, bend son as well. next generation leaders. GEERZ works to the GEERZ curriculum do this? After un- the elbows and attack. While climbing, Camp Mesorah is thrilled with the suc- make youth confi dent and strong in many plugging from all of today’s technologi- one’s mind might be fi lled with negative cess of the GEERZ mountain biking pro- areas including mentally, physically emo- cal distractions, campers suit up with the messages such as “I can’t,” “It’s too hot,” gram and is looking forward to expanding tionally, and spiritually, through the les- proper safety equipment and go on an in- or “It’s too hard.” That is precisely when the program next year with more trails sons of mountain biking. GEERZ utilizes tense ride through beautiful mountains. the curriculum kicks in and teaches the and more riders. the natural qualities that mountain bik- Then the campers are instructed to stop riders how to persevere. The campers For information about bringing GEERZ ing elicits and has developed a curriculum while they focus on only the guide. They learn that while riding, and also in life, to your city or how to become a partner, to teach and strengthen leadership skills are given a small snack and are present- there are many hurdles that might seem you can contact Geerz directly by email- in its participants. The curriculum is cus- ed with a ten minute leadership lesson. impossible to overcome. On the trail, the ing [email protected]. Be sure to visit us tomized for all ages and skill levels. The lesson demonstrates to the campers riders will be helped, encouraged, and at www.geerz.org. Lorem ipsum Donny Fein, a GEERZ board member how mountain biking skills and frame given the tools in order to succeed. Once and avid mountain biker who lives in Bet of mind while biking can be applied to they succeed, the guide will point out P’nina Seplowitz lives in Bergenfi eld with her hus- Shemesh, Israel, has brought the GEERZ one’s life. These lessons enhance their that for the rest of their lives, they will band and their three children. She is actively involved program and curriculum to Camp Meso- relationships, build their sense of self be able to look back at this moment and in the community and works as the VP of Sales & Mar- rah. Donny was excited to bring the pro- worth and increase their success. An ex- remember their success. Donny fi nds keting for an online magazine subscription company. gram to Mesorah but never expected the ample of this is learning to climb uphill that he is often approached by campers P’nina recently authored her fi rst book of juvenile masses he has attracted including hus- on a bike. A rider needs to be in an easy- and staff after the rides not just about fi ction and hopes to release her second publication bands of staff that come up just for week- low gear, keep a loose grip on the handle- the biking, but to discuss that day’s les- before the summer. The OĜ cial NFL Youth Flag Football League is Coming to Bergen County The American Instructional Football not be found elsewhere, is the incorpo- League has been in existence for several ration of speed and football movement years all across the country, but recently training, for every player and coach announced the creation of the The Ber- who participates.” Bergen County Parks gen County Flag Football League. Director, Ron Kistner says “A program September 15th through late Decem- as comprehensive as this one, which ber 2013, the league will have games provides a safe and fun way to play the every hour on sundays from nine am game of football is well overdue in Ber- to six thirty pm at Overpeck County gen County.” Park Football Stadium (located at the All players will receive: An offi cial Palisades Park Sports Complex, Roo- NFL Flag Jersey, fl ags & belts, skill in- sevelt Street, Palisades Park, NJ 07650). struction, a skill combine testing day, The season will also provide families and a minimum of 8 weeks of offi cial a fun festival type experience of bar- games. becues, music, and other fun athletic The league is a fi ve on fi ve non con- events, every Sunday to enjoy. Accord- tact league, open to boys and girls k-8. ing to the leagues press release “ the For more information and to register unique feature of this league, that can- visit their site www.AIFLAG.com Teaneck Junior Soccer Fall Soccer: Recreational program for 4 to 15 year old athletes, it runs from late Are you ready for some football? No August to mid-November its not Monday night and I am not talk- TOPSoccer: Recreational program for ing about the National Football League. any Teaneck boy or girl, ages 5 to 19, who The Teaneck Junior Soccer League (TJSL) has a mental or physical disability. The is providing Teaneck residents with the program normally runs during the win- opportunity to learn, play and enjoy the ter months. game of soccer. TJSL is a nonprofi t, all- Indoor Soccer: Winter indoor travel volunteer organization founded in 1986 soccer program for 6 to 17 years from De- to promote the sport of soccer in Tea- cember to March. Tryouts are required neck. and held each October. Games are on Since its inception, more than 20,000 Saturday nights or Sundays at locations children ages 4 to 17 have participated in across Bergen County. the league with over 800 children play- This fall, they will have 68 teams and ing each year. over 800 players participating in the TJSL sponsors three programs for Tea- league. Our season offi cially opens the neck children: week of September 8th.

58 August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM SPORTS The Newark Bears Orthodox Batboy, Joey Goffstein – Taking His Role to a New Level!

eaneck native Joey Goffstein, 17, who is was through minor league and independ- graphs –and even getting offi cial baseballs Tcurrently heading into his senior year ent baseball. As he got older, he began at- for them. He is admired by fans, umpires, at YUHSB, has loved baseball since he was tending baseball games more frequently, players and management alike. While two years old. His father often relates a sto- both major league and minor league. The Joey maintains relationships with current ry that in 1998, during the famous “Home Newark Bears, a formerly Atlantic League players both on Newark and other teams Run Chase” between Mark McGwire and (now Can-Am League) Independent team, in the league, he has spent off days in the Sammy Sosa, two year old Joey – often was a team Joey fi rst saw play with his fam- summer visiting former players and was Joey and Paddy Matera only wearing a diaper – would stand with ily, and then with his school. After that, recently in Wilmington, DE to see his old neck- give a pre-game spiritual pep talk to his face glued to the TV set (almost liter- Newark became a place where Joey found friend and ex-Bears player, Paddy Matera, the players, which was received warmly. ally), while holding a giant Mark McGwire himself spending more and more time as now playing for the Carolina MudCats - Joey relates how he has taught many of bat and would bang it on the ground every he loved the easy access one could have a minor league affi liate of the Cleveland the players about Judaism, some of whom time McGwire or Sosa appeared on TV. His to the players, some of whom had played Indians. Although Joey has looked up come from other countries and even other father thought he looked like “Bam-Bam” major league baseball. Before long Joey to many players and coaches, including parts of this country where they may nev- from the Flintstones cartoon. offered his services to the team and was former Major League player Ron Karkov- er have met an Orthodox Jew before. In thrilled when he was offered a job as a bat- ice who developed a teacher-student like addition to his offi cial job with the Bears, boy while still in elementary school. Now relationship with Joey, his true mentor is he has become the unoffi cial “go to guy” fi ve seasons later, Joey is the head bat-boy a former third round MLB draft pick An- when it comes to outreach in the Jewish and assistant clubhouse manager. Working thony Pluta who took in Joey as a little community. for the Newark Bears has provided Joey brother and taught him priceless life les- It is clear that this job has been much with great enjoyment, as well as knowl- sons both on and off the fi eld. Joey is also more than a job for Joey, it has given him edge of the sport only known to insid- known to have a close relationship to ex- the opportunity to learn about baseball, ers. He continues to cultivate his passion Bears manager Tim Raines, a former major but also be a source of Kiddush Hashem for baseball and is considering a career in league all-star and potential Hall of Fame to all those who interact with him. We sports management. This may perhaps in- candidate. at JLBC wish Joey the best, whether his clude working in professional baseball one Joey has always displayed his Judaism future takes him through professional Joey and Ron Karkovice day in a management capacity. proudly and represents the Jewish com- baseball or some other path. We know he Joey nurtured his love of the game At the recent Jewish Heritage Night at munity well as a Bears employee. Once will make his community proud and be and realized at a young age the best way Bears and Eagles Riverfront Stadium, Joey he had one of his Rebbeim – Rabbi Aha- successful, regardless of what he ends up to access baseball on a professional level could be seen helping out kids with auto- ron Ciment of Cong. Arzei Darom in Tea- doing! We Left as Just a Team, But Returned as Champions t is often said that your teammates are Amanda Nussbaum and Rebecca Nuss- derstanding of this. All of their Ithe best friends that you will ever have. baum of the Frisch School, Shana Adler practicing, however, has been In the case of the Silver Level Gymnastics from Ma’ayanot, Jordana Nussbaum from leading up to the big national Team (approximately level 8) from the Moriah, Jenna Besthof from Solomon championship at the end of United States Gymnastics Development Shechter of Bergen County, and Marissa the year. Center in Leonia, NJ, this is certainly true. Lindis who attends Bergenfi eld High At the end of June, the team Most of the girls on the team have been School. traveled to Palm Springs, Cali- doing gymnastics since they were three or The team practices about twelve hours fornia to compete in the IAIGC four years old, and they put a tremendous a week with the other levels at US Gym- (International Association amount of time and effort into the sport. nastics. Under the amazing guidance of of Independent Gymnastics The team consists of six girls from Tea- their coaches, Daniel Miranda and Ana Clubs) National Championship. The meet ver medal, for a total of thirteen medals. neck and Bergenfi eld, whose ages range Rita Nuses, the team has had a successful consisted mostly of teams from all over The team was certainly shocked, yet between twelve to seventeen. Although season, winning many of the meets that the United States, but also teams from elated to have done so well, and are the girls are from different schools, and they entered. Occasionally, the team had Canada and Bermuda. The team from certainly proud of all they have accom- are different ages, they have formed a very to miss meets on Saturday, because fi ve US Gymnastics collectively received six plished. The girls are working hard and tight bond both when they are competing, of the six girls are Jewish, but the coaches gold medals, four silver medals, and two hope to advance to the next level by the and in their free time. The team includes; and gymnastics association are very un- bronze medals, in addition to the team sil- beginning of the school year.

playoffs and sweeping the champion- be magical. After a mediocre regular sea- Fair Lawn B’nai B’rith Men’s ship series by scores of 10-0 and 14-2. son in 2011, The Blue Team turned things This team and its improbable run is even around in the playoffs and found them- Softball Report: Blue is Gold more remarkable when you discover the selves back in the championship series way in which they have won their four vs. The Mighty Menschen, a matchup of consecutive titles. Though this year may the two previous champions. After win- have been a dominant season, it was ac- ning game 1 in dramatic fashion, The tually the fi rst time The Blue Team ever Blue Team would have to wait a month fi nished in fi rst place, and the fi rst time to capture their next title because of Hur- they did not win their championship se- ricane Irene’s devastating effects. On Sep- ries in the full 3 games. tember 11th, The Blue Team won game 3 The Blue Team’s fi rst season was in dramatic fashion: the top of the 7th in 2008, when they won the “B” division ended with Ari Schwartzbard making a championship before moving up to the perfect throw from the deepest part of more competitive “A” division the follow- left fi eld to catcher and team captain Mo ing year. In 2009, despite a low ranking Oppenheim, nailing the would be go- seed, The Blue Team made a great run in ahead run at the plate. In the bottom of the postseason only to lose in game 3 of the 7th, fi rst baseman Gish Logan ripped the fi nals to The Mighty Menschen. This a 2 out, walk off, championship winning was the one and only time a season of hit as The Blue Team won back-to-back By JLBC Staff or league for multiple seasons or years.” theirs ended in defeat, a loss that would championships and avenged their loss The “A” division of the B’nai B’rith Soft- haunt them until 2011. In 2010, they cap- from two years earlier. hen discussing sports teams, the ball League just wrapped up its 27th tured the fi rst of their championships in The following year followed a simi- Wword “dynasty” is rarely used. It is season and The Blue Team won an im- this run, winning a tough 3 game series lar pattern with The Blue Team playing reserved for a team that, according to pressive fourth straight championship vs. The Raritan Bay Realty Burntees. CONTINUED ON P. 61 Dictionary.com, “dominates their sport in dominating fashion, going 4-0 in the The next two seasons would prove to

201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 59 The Bergen County 2013 Minyan & Maariv Directory • Info Provided by GoDaven.com and Dr. Yosi Fishkin • Full minyan details available at GoDaven.com • Name Address City Phone Website Rabbi Maariv1 Maariv2 Maariv Info Nusach Miscellaneous Rabbi Moshe Bais Medrash of Bergenfield 371 South Prospect Ave. Bergenfield http://www.bmob.org Follows Mincha on Sunday Ashkenaz Stavsky Ohr HaTorah 36 Rector Ct. Bergenfield 201-244-5905 Rabbi Sobolofsky 8:45PM Ashkenaz Rabbi Yaakov Beth Abraham 396 New Bridge Road Bergenfield 201-384-0434 http://bethabraham.org 9:05PM 10PM Ashkenaz Neuburger Minyan meets at Gate D on the lower level at Halftime by the Giants Stadium Mincha Minyan 50 Route 120 E. Rutherford Kosher food stand To subscribe to Minyan updates, send an email to artus- Artus Corporation 201 South Dean Street Englewood 201-568-1000 [email protected] Following Mincha (and 8:00 and 9:00 PM Ahavath Torah 240 Broad Avenue Englewood 201-568-1315 M-Th during winter months, and 9:00 and 9:30 PM during summer months) Rabbi Menachem Shomrei Emunah 89 Huguenot Ave Englewood http://www.shomreiemunahnj.org/ Sefard Genack Kesher: Community Synagogue of 509 Engle Street Englewood 201.227.1117 http://www.keshernj.com/ Rabbi Akiva Block The closest shul to Englewood Hospital. Tenafly & Englewood East Hill Synagogue 255 Walnut Street Englewood (201) 569-4008 http://www.easthillsynagogue.com Rabbi Zev Reichman 8PM Monday through Thursday Ashkenaz Yeshiva Ohr Simcha Of Englewood 101 W. Forest Ave Englewood 201-816-1800 Rabbi Strassfeld 9PM Ashkenaz Call first Entrance on first floor, bear left, walk straight to back of PCS Revenue Control 560 Sylvan Avenue Englewood Cliffs 800-247-3061 x1196 http://www.pcsrcs.com/ building. Ahavat Achim 18-25 Saddle River Rd. Fair Lawn 201-794-3927 www.ahavatachim.org Rabbi Uri Goldstein Follows Mincha (8:00 PM M-Th in winter) Ashkenaz Rabbi Yudin and Shomrei Torah 19-10 Morlot ave Fair Lawn 201 791 7910 www.shomrei-torah.org/ Asst. Rabbi Andrew 9PM and about 15 minutes after Mincha Ashkenaz Markowitz Rabbi Berel Bris Avrohom 3002 Fair Lawn Avenue Fair Lawn 201-791-7200 Ari Zaltzman Anshei Lubavitch Congregation 10-10 Plaza Rd Fair Lawn 201-797-4770 http://www.flchabad.com Rabbi Levi Neubort 9PM Mondays Ari Young Israel of Fair Lawn 11-05 Saddle River Rd. Fair Lawn 201-797-1800 http://www.yifl.org Ashkenaz Rabbi Jeremy Fall and Winter 8:00PM; Spring and Summer Congregation Darchei Noam 10-04 Alexander Avenue Fair Lawn 201-773-4080 http://darcheinoam.com Ashkenaz Donath immedately after Mincha Fall and Winter 8:00PM; Spring and Summer Sephardic Center of Fair Lawn 40-34 Terhune Place Fair Lawn cell 201-835-5170 http://www.sc-fl.org/ Edot-HaMizrach Sfaradi-Yerushalmi immediately after Mincha Rabbi Neil N. Young Israel of Fort Lee 1610 Parker Avenue Fort Lee 201-592-1518 http://Yiftlee.org After Mincha Ashkenaz Winkler Chabad of Fort Lee 808 Abbott Blvd Fort Lee (201) 886-1238 http://chabadfortlee.com/ Rabbi Meir Konikov 2200 Fletcher Avenue - 7th 201-585-5000 Ext November - February 5:00PM. Monday - Metallia U.S.A. Fort Lee Ashkenaz Best to call first for Mincha but defintely call first for Maariv Floor 14 - Josh Thursday. Call First Parker Plaza Minyan @ Cross 400 Kelby Street - 8th Floor Fort Lee 201-808-6376 Most days in the winter Ashkenaz River Bank Rabbi Shimon Bet Yossef 313 Tom Hunter Road Fort Lee 845-826 2006 (N.J) Edot-HaMizrach Moroccan Sefaradi Kehila Abergel Rabbi Chanoch Chabad of NW Bergen County 712 Ewing Avenue Franklin Lakes 201-848-0449 www.chabadplace.org Minyan for Shabbos and Yom Tov - allways call first Kaplan Mincha at Hackensack University 201-519-0321 Henry ** Minyan not active for the summer. ** Women`s and Hackensack Medical Center Hackensack Ashkenaz Medical Center Netzer Children`s Bldg - Room WC1W-15 (to left of main desk) 411 Hackensack Ave. - Lower Continental Plaza Hackensack Advanced Data Source Level University Plaza 1 University Plaza - Suite 120 Hackensack 201-742-5161 Ashkenaz Monday thru Thursday 1:45 pm Mincha Khal Adath Jeshurun of Paramus 140 Arnot Place Paramus 201-967-9898 www.kajp.org Rabbi Chaim Shapiro After Mincha (DST); 7:45pm (EST) Ashkenaz Weekly and Monthly Calendars posted on website Yavneh Academy 155 N Farview Ave Paramus 201-262-8494 http://www.yavnehacademy.org Ashkenaz Shacharis minyan takes place when school is in session. Beth Tefillah 452 Forest Ave Paramus 201-262-0356 http://www.cbtparamus.org Rabbi Daniel Wolff at Khal Adath Jeshurun of Paramus Ashkenaz Nusach Ashkenaz and Sefardi. Minyanim only on school days. Dr. Kalman Stein, The Frisch School 120 W. Century Rd. Paramus (201) 267-9100 http://frisch.org/ 5:15PM (Beis Midrash only) Multiple Minyan #1: Main Shul, Minyan #2: Beis Midrash, Minyan #3: Principal Mechina (Room 18), Minyan #4: Sefardi Beis Midrash. Yeshivat Noam 70 West Century Road Paramus 201-261-1919 www.yeshivatnoam.org Ashkenaz Call first to confirm. Bergen Regional Medical Center 230 E Ridgewod Avenue Paramus Rabbi Barry Schneider Ashkenaz (During Autumn/Winter months, the weekday first Shacharit Rabbi Laurence E. 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Local Residents Partner with Yashar LaChayal to Honor the Memory of Ari & Sari Horowitz East Brunswick—Less than a year ago, An extensive group of friends and friends turned to Yashar LaChayal when on September 15, 2012, several citizens of colleagues sought to develop a fi tting they were seeking to partner with a East Brunswick were victims of a tragic memoriam for the couple. These indi- suitable organization. accident outside the Young Israel there. viduals have worked tirelessly to honor The Ari and Sari Horowitz Memorial Among the fatalities were Ari and Sari their memory, by establishing a fund in Fund will support several Yashar LaCh- Horowitz, long-time residents and mem- partnership with the Israel-based non- ayal projects, including the Holiday Food bers of the Young Israel. profi t Yashar LaChayal, an organization Baskets for Families of Needy Soldiers and The Horowitz’s were ardent supporters that provides combat soldiers in the Is- the Needy Soldier Supply Closets. 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Fair Lawn B’nai B’rith Men’s Softball Report: Blue is Gold translate into winning championships? We may never know how they do it, but CONTINUED FROM P. 59 ing a comeback, The Blue Team still game 3 to lead The Blue Team to their 3rd The Blue Team is a true dynasty, the likes found themselves down by 2 runs, with 2 straight championship. of which is rarely seen in sports. mediocre softball throughout the regular men on base, and 2 outs in the bottom of So how does a softball team in the The current Blue Team roster is: David season, only to turn things around and the 7th inning. Jacob Dickstein stepped competitive B’nai B’rith league win all of Amdur (OF), Jerry Christal (OF,2B), Jacob reach the fi nals again, this time facing to the plate, and quickly had two strikes these dramatic games and four straight Dickstein (SS), Kevin Fillie (OF), Tzachi The Raritan Bay Realty Burntees, who against him, a mere strike away from championships? That is like asking why Haberman (2B), Lenny Himelfarb (DH), had revenge on their minds. The Blue defeat. In one of those moments where The Blue Team wears bright yellow uni- Gish Logan (1B), Etan Moskovic (3B), Mo Team lost game 1 and was down by a sig- time seems to slow to a crawl, the all-star forms. There is no one answer that can Oppenheim (C), Adam Schwartzbard (P), nifi cant margin in game 2, on the verge shortstop hit a frozen rope single to tie completely explain it. The team has a lot Ari Schwartzbard (OF), and Eric Wein of being swept. “Don’t ever underesti- the game and shift the momentum back of talent, for sure, but other teams have (OF). mate the heart of a champion” was the to the defending champions. The Blue talent too. Is the tea they drink every team mantra that day and it seemed to Team went on to win the game in the bot- game really magical? Perhaps. Or does For more information on the Bnai keep emotions in check, especially when tom of the 8th, and a week later pitcher the team-wide chemistry, bond, and gen- Brith Softball League, send us an email: things were looking bleak. After mount- Adam Schwartzbard threw a shutout in uine joy in playing together somehow [email protected]

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There is also brand-new Womens is offering the opportunity to be rewarded by Questions, or to volunteer to daven, lain, give a d’var pleasewould likerespond to be to notified this email. when The food information is available, will clothing donated by Brooklyn’s and Carlyz Craze. visiting a 22 year old man from Passaic who is in Torah, etc., call Rabbi Siev at (201) 287-8519 pleasebe kept respond confidential to this withinemail. the The organization,information willand no TPrivate and anonymous appointments can be made. Kindred Hospital in Wayne, New Jersey He requires or email to [email protected] bequalifying kept confidential questions arewithin asked. the organization, and no There are a few shopping dates left next week. visitors through the day and evening and the results qualifyingPLEASE LET questions US HELP are - EMAILasked. US TODAY! Please e-mail [email protected] of such visits is that his spirits soar. Visitors can be BIKKUR CHOLIM OF PASSAIC- [email protected] CLIFTON HELPS PLEASE LET US HELP - EMAIL US TODAY! or call (cell #, so no caller ID) 917-930-4059 to make male or female. [email protected]@aol.com an appointment. Please call Rivki Liberman at 917 903 1273 or email provide rides for Cholim and frail residents to medical her at [email protected] to sign up. appointments. Rides are available to local Passaic [email protected] TOMCHEI SHABBOS OF BERGEN COUNTY and Clifton destinations as well as to Hackensack, HEBREW In need of volunteers to pack and deliver. JEWISH FAMILY SERVICE OF Englewood, Manhattan and other medical canters FREE BURIAL HEBREW Please contact the following: NORTH JERSEY, LOCATED IN as necessary. For more information or to volunteer ASSOCIATION For packing Paula Cohen – [email protected] FAIR LAWN, IS IN NEED contact the Bikkur Cholim at 973-249-8811. requestsFREE that BURIAL you donate your used car (in any For delivering Steve Gutlove – [email protected] of volunteers who can deliver kosher meals to condition)ASSOCIATION , and help ensure that every Jew receives a homebound and disabled people living in Fair Lawn. BIKUR CHOLIM OF TEANECK proper Jewish burial. Your car will be towed away for TOMCHEI SHABBOS OF BERGEN COUNTY requests that you donate your used car (in any Meal deliveries are made Mondays thru Fridays, is looking for volunteers to visit the Jewish condition)free. IRS Tax , andDeduction help ensure as allowable that every by Law.Jew receives a Announces a new program for Bar and Bat Mitzvah between 11:30 am and 12:00 noon. Substitute patients at Holy Name Hospital on a daily basis and For more information, please call our office at girls. For information on how to commemorate your drivers for any weekday are needed, as well as Shabbosim. Volunteers must be 16 years or older to (212)proper 239-1662 Jewish burial. or e-mail Your [email protected] will be towed away for Simcha with a chesed project thru partnering with volunteers who can commit to driving once a week visit the hospital on their own. For more information free. IRS Tax Deduction as allowable by Law. Tomchei Shabbos, contact Andrea Fields at 973-371 on a regular basis. Please call Francine Cuff @201- or to volunteer please call the Bikur Cholim at 201- For more information, please call our office at 1771 ext 411 or [email protected] 796-5151 if you are interested in volunteering. 836-4950. (212) 239-1662 or e-mail [email protected] CALENDAR OF EVENTS

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201-371-3212 • WWW.JEWISHLINKBC.COM August 22,2013 - 16 Elul 5772 63 LIVE THE PARSHA PARSHA HIGHLIGHTHIGHLIGHTSS Put on a skit about: ķĻšĹ ĶĿĶĮšı ĺIJĶ Ňĭ Ňšİń ıŇĭ • A Jew bringing their bikkurim to Yerushalayim TheThe mitzvahmitzvah ofof bikkurimbikkurim – takingtaking thethe fifirstrst cropcrop (from(from thethe sevenseven (26:1-11). WORD FIND ! speciesspecies ofof tthehe lland)and) ofof one’sone’s farmfarm to Yerushalayim……MosheYerushalayim……Moshe tellstells KlalKlal • Blessings that the Jewish people will receive for Can you find all the UNDERLINED words on this sheet? YiYisarelsarel thatthat HaShemHaShem commandscommands themthem to performperform thethe mitzvosmitzvos withwith allall following HaShem’s words (28:1-8). ththeireir ““heartheart anandd soul”soul” andand thatthat He hashas mademade thethe JewishJewish peoplepeople a P D W L E T N E V A E H treasuredtreasured nanation…..Moshetion…..Moshe andand thethe elderselders informinform thethe JewishJewish peoplepeople LESSONS FROM THE to set up stonesstones afterafter theythey enterenter ththee landland andand writewrite onon themthem all thethe D E U R T N S U N O B E wordswords ofof thethe Torah…..ManyTorah…..Many blessingsblessings willwill comecome fromfrom listeninglistening to PARSHA HaSHaShem,hem, includingincluding food,food, children,children, cattle,cattle, andand protectionprotection fromfrom • Bringing bikkurim (26:2-4) – Take an item you J H A D R I B D G S R A eenemies……HaShemnemies……HaShem dedetailstails whatwhat willwill happenhappen ifif HeavenHeaven forbid,forbid, thethe worked hard to create or buy and give a portion JewishJewish ppeopleeople dodon’tn’t ffollowollow HisHis words,words, includingincluding beingbeing scatteredscattered all of it to someone less fortunate E T O R A H T U R T A R overover ththee woworld……Mosherld……Moshe encouraencouragesges KlKlalal YisraelYisrael to recognizerecognize ththee • The Recital over bikkurim (26:5-9) – Recall a kindnesskindness ofof HaShemHaShem andand keepkeep thethe mitzvot.mitzvot. kindness that HaShem preformed for you W C H U M A S H M N C T • Doing Mitzvot with all your heart (Rashi 26:16) – Focus on doing one mitzvah with more passion E P O R C L 6 P C E H L WHAT DO I MEAN? N E W I E L 1 E O R I D Circle the English word in the row that defines the Hebrew word. ıĸŅŨ Test Need a hint? Look up the word in this week’s parsha in the verse given. • What is the bracha to recite upon hearing I R A G N A 3 E R A M A ʤʬʧʰ 26:1 Inheritance Reward Payment thunder? A O T H A C D L N P S E ʸˈʲʮ 26:12 Tzedaka Tithes Corn • True or false: the bracha after eating a ʥʩʨ˝ˇʮʥ 26:17 My statues And His statues Statues pear is al ha’eitz. R T C T L E A S A Y S R ʧʡʦ 27:7 Slaughter Hurt Watch ʤʬʬʷʤ 27:13 The curse My curse Today WORD CMRLESAB (scramble) K S H H P R Y T R A E H ʬʠʮʹ 28:14 Right Left Center ASHRI, MBNRAA, SFRNOO, HHSIRC, HLAAARM U B L E S S I N G S L T ʸˇʰ 28:49 Bird Plane Eagle Hint: They have written commentaries on the Chumash READY, SET, TRANSLATE ĭĶŅĵĻį MIDDOS OF THE WEEK Draw a line from the Hebrew phrase to its English translation (excerpts from ŅĴšı ŇIJĸŅŨ). Ĺİį + ĭŅŨ = ? ĹĿ - ĭĹįĿ = ? ıņĿ x ĺIJŅĻ = ? Try to find time to learn Torah every day. ĺĶĻņ ĭŅĶ ĺİĭ ĭıĶ ĺĹIJĿĹ What can we say before You, HaShem, our G- ĶIJĹįĮIJ ŅŇľŨ d, and the G-d of our forefathers ņ + Ņ = ? ń - IJ = ? Ń ÷ ĵ = ? Ľ * Ĵ = ? ŇĻĭ ŅĮIJİIJ ŇĻĭı ĹĿ ıİIJĻIJ A person should always be G-d fearing ŇIJĸĭĹĻ ĵ”Ĺ ŅĻĭĶIJ ĺűšĶIJ IJĮĮĹŨ privately and publicly BONUS – Which vocabulary word above has the highest value? THREADING LOOM (ķľĶĻ): Ň ņ Ņ ń Ń Ł Ŀ ľ Ľ Ļ Ĺ ĸ Ķ ĵ Ĵ ij IJ ı İ į Į ĭ Preparing threads for weaving. IJĽĶńĹĭ ŋı ķĶĽŁĹ ŅĻĭĽ ıĻ Acknowledge the truth, speak the truth 400 300 200 100 90 80 70 60 50 40 30 20 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 True or False: you violate this melacha if you put IJĽĶŇIJĮĭ ĶńĹĭIJ within his heart, and arise early and proclaim thread in the loops of a pot holder frame.

ŇIJĸij ŀĸĹ ĺİĭı Ĺĸ Ňĭ ļİ SAFETY TIP OF THE WEEK WHO AM I ? Can you judge these situations favorably? For example, Reuven walks into shul late. Never go somewhere alone with another person I was born in the Ukraine. My greatest disciple’s Perhaps, his car didn’t start. without permission from your parents. first name was Nathan. I am a great-grandson of • A Jew driving his car on Shabbos. the Baal Shem Tov. • A car parked in a handicapped space that does not have a special handicap designation. HASHEM’S WONDERS • A cashier didn’t give you back enough change at the store. ıĽIJĸ @ Israel’s victory in the Six Day War @ A snail is able to grow its shell as the body of the snail grows. When you hear the Shofar, think about the @ The human body can absorb the nourishing content of food and Rambam’s words to wake up from your sleep and YOUR WEEK IN REVIEW Think about your past week and share the following things with someone: dispel the waste. be a better person. ™ A good thing you did for someone and/or someone did for you. Candlelighting in Jerusalem: 6:35pm © 2013 Russell Moskowitz [email protected] ™ Something that made you think about HaShem.

HASC, he spent wonderful times at a3-week how they were able to enjoy their summers Oh Camp HASC, Our Son’s Summer Home! Yachad/OU summer program run in conjunc- differently without their special needs child; CONTINUED FROM P. 1 tion with Camp Nesher.But this year, we want- how they were able to do things that they ed Zev to have the benefi t of a full summerex- simply could not do in the past. How differ- his fi rst-ever full summer season at Camp perience, yet sending him to HASC was not an ent their home felt without their child in the HASC in Parksville, NY. For those who don’t easy choice for us to make. house. How blessedly “normal” their lives were know, the HASC Summer Program was started We’dheard thatover the years, HASC had without their special child to have to worry in 1963 to provide services to developmentally- changed since we had been counselors 20 years about on a daily and hourly basis. Would we delayed children and adults. ago and that it was now geared to campers with be such parents? In Bergen County, we know many families more profound developmental disabilities Now that the summer is over, we can be with children who worked there, met their than Zev’s. By sending Zev to HASC, we would, honest and confess:the answer is…yes. spouses there, and who send their develop- in a sense, be admitting that our son Zev was We are now just like the parents we re- mentally-delayed children there. For us - who more profoundly disabled than we cared to member from our HASC days and we sound met at HASC and married–we have an inside admit. We couldn’t bring ourselves to do that. just like them, too.Zev came home looking joke about our two special needs siblings be- Then, since we’d had such positive asso- happy, healthy, even a bit taller. Our summer ing our shadchanim.In our case, both of us had ciations with the camp as staff alums, it was experience was changed forever. Without siblings as staff and campers in HASC over the hard for us to beexcited and motivated at the question, our summer was better for every past 25-30 years and felt close to HASC long be- prospect of becoming HASC parents. After all, member of the family, and especially Zev. We fore our son was born. write and now focus on helping Zev master wasn’t a main goal of the camp to give over- were able to do a number of things that we Having grown up with special needs sib- basic “daily living skills” such as dressing him- worked, exhausted, barely-able-to-cope parents were never able to do before as a full family lings, as young adults and later, as young par- self and personal grooming. Despite our being a needed summer respite from their develop- and with both adults present—like going bik- ents, we fi gured we knew it all when it came special needs “vets,” this prognosis was hard to mentally disabled child? Were we really going ing as a family. Our summer was calmer and to the world of special needs. Having pushed accept—and it will always be hard to swallow. tobe like those HASC parents?Not us. less stressful than prior summers, when fi nd- wheelchairs, changed adult diapers, handled After all, we’re his parents, not his counselors. It was hard for us to accept that we would ing things for Zev to do occupied major por- tantrumsas veteran HASC counselors and sib- Being told by well-meaning teachers and be going back to HASC, as parents this time tions of our daily routine. lings of special needs adults, we thought there case managers that your healthy-seeming son around. It never occurred to us prior thatwe Have we fully accepted our new status as wasn’t much anyone could teach us about will never learn to read and write is a direct hit would return to HASC as anything other than HASC parents? Yes, we have. We’ve gotten over developmentally delayed people.But we were to the gut. When you fi nd out your child will proud staff alumni. our initial misgivings. The benefi ts outweighed wrong. And our son, Zev, taught us that. never be able to absorb the basic tools required But after some deep thinking and late-night them all. And to HASC, we say thank you! We Zev is a sweet, handsome, outgoing boy to function at even the most basic levels of so- talks, we decided to take the plunge and apply. said thank you in person to Zev’sincredible who loves being around people (especially kids ciety—that he won’t be able to sign his name Zev was accepted, and in no time, it was time counselors and thestaff who made the sum- his own age, teens, and young adults). Heloves or read directions—the most normal dreams to go to camp.Now that he’s back home, by all mer such a special one for us,but we want to going to shul, loves singing and davening, and parents have for their children vanish into thin accounts, he loved HASC from the minute he say thank you again in print. Thank You! Thank enjoys being treated like everyone else. His air. He can never drive a car, read a book, fi nish arrived,was a star camper(that did NOT surprise you for turning us into proud HASC parents formal diagnosis has never been anything but school...We strugglestill to create new dreams us!)and had a wonderful summer.We were over the course of the summer. Now we are “Global Developmental Delays” although we to replace thoseshatteredby his diagnosis. never really worried about Zev while he was at complete alumni of the total HASC family ex- feel that he is partially autistic or “on the spec- Zev currently attends the self-contained camp. We knew he would love it. We also knew perience—from being staff, to our HASC shid- trum” as those in the fi eld like to say. Over the special-ed program atthe Benjamin Franklin that he would be loved, and he was, indeed. duch and marriage, and becoming HASC par- last few years, his teachers have stopped prom- Middle School in Teaneck and we feel blessed We remember our days as HASC counselors ents. We proudly wear all of these titles…and ising us that he will one day learn to read and by the teachers he has.Before we sent Zev to and hearing from our campers’ parents about are looking forward to next summer.

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