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The Forgiveness Party Waving the Flag Smuggling Medical Supplies to Cuba Among Friends

Editor-Manager Vinton Deming Proper Credit and Bedbugs Assistant Editor Timothy Drake Art Director t can be humbling and enlightening to learn that Journal readers often glance at Barbara Benton page two to find out what's on the editor's mind. Sometimes it's a sutprise to me Development Consultant I when I am at a conference or some Friendly gathering and a subscriber will Henry Freeman come up to me and begin talking about a recent column I have written. Often, too, I Marketing and Advertising Manager Nagendran Gulendran receive letters from those moved to respond to my ruminations. Production and Editorial Assistant Two communications this month deserve comment. First, a response to my "On Kenneth Sutton the Road" report from south Florida (FJMay). Miami Friend Pat Coons rightlv Secretary points out that I didn't quite get it right when I introduced Filiberto Diaz to you as Edward Sargent pastor of Iglesia de los Amigos. Filiberto, Pat writes, "was never pastor of the Bookkeeper James Neveil Iglesia, although he was among the founders and has played an active part in its Circulation Assistant work for many years." And, to set the historic record straight, the photo credit on that Tara Collins same page should have read, "Clara Diaz." It was Clara who snapped the photo, Development Data Entry using Pat Coons's camera; Pat stands third from the left in the picture. My thanks to Pamela Nelson Volunteers Pat for these corrections! Jane Burgess, Emily Conlon, Marguerite Clark, And now, in response to "Mightier than a Megazord" (FJ June) comes this from Gwen Neveil, Robert Sutton Friend Richard P. Moses: Board of Managers Irwin Abrams, Jennie Allen, Frank Bjomsgaard, Your report on the response of the Quaker Oats Co. to comments on the use of the Sue Carnell, Marguerite Clarlc, Barbara Coffin, Emily Conlon, Phoebe Cottingham (Asst. "Quaker" trademark brings two incidents to mind. Treasurer), Richard Eldridge (Clerk), At the age of 13 I found a newspaper ad promoting Old Quaker Whiskey as "friendly" to Deborah Fisch, Marty Grundy, Kitty Harrison, the taste, "friendly" to the body, and "friendly" to its user. Eleanor Stringham, then clerk of Robert Kunkel, Carol MacConnack, New York Yearly Meeting Temperance Committee, wrote the distillery, protesting (in Mary Mangelsdorf, Richard Moses (Treasurer), Jack Mongar, Lee Neff, Caroline Balderston Parry, Quaker fashion) this unwananted use of our cognomen. The letter in response was flat and Margery Rubin {Asst. Clerk), direct, saying that they had bought this trademark with the purchase of the western Mary Ellen Singsen, Carolyn Sprogell, Pennsylvania distillery, the trademark had a following and they had no intention of Robert Stauffer, Robert Sutton, Carolyn Terrell, discontinuing its use. Furthermore, any litigation on the matter only would serve to draw Wilmer Tjossem Honorary Manager public interest, which would enlarge their market. Eleanor Stabler Clarice The second anecdote may well be aprocryphal, but it does throw light on the way corporate leadership can operate. It seems that a rail traveler to the West Coast anived at his FRJENDS JouRNAL (ISSN 00 16-1 322) was established in 1955 as the successor to The destination, having discovered bedbugs in his Pullman berth. He immediately wrote the Friend (1827-1955) and Friends lntel/igencer president of the railroad, telling of his experience, as he was sure the railroad would want to ( 1844-1955). It is associated with the Religious take appropriate action. 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7 Waving the Flag 2 Among Friends Roberta Spivek Perhaps the best symbol for our nation is the care we give to 4 Forum one another. 19 Reports 8 A Visit to Burundi Carol Reilley Urner 21 Friendly Puzzle Friends in this violence-tom country are living out their faith 22 News of Friends and witnessing to reconciliation. 23 Bulletin Board 11. Smuggling Medical Supplies to Cuba 23 Calendar Katherine Baker 24 Books She found a meaningful way to act despite our government's embargo policy. 28 Mil•stones 13 The Heart of It 29 Classified Edward Hoare We must.find ways to talk with one another about the heart of Poetry our spiritual lives. 16 Called to Public Ministry 15 ..John's Prayer Landrum Bolling Peter Meister D. Elton Trueblood, 1990-1994, led an active lifo ofpubli c service as an author, educator, philosopher, and theologian. 18 The Forgiveness Party Grace LeClair and Bess Lyn Sannino This fomily looked for a better way to keep their neighborhood safe.

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feelings or incompatible opinions have to us from the beginning of time, all the way Worship in song seemed overwhelming. But breaking bread across the universe! As interest grows in the forthcoming together, singing, and taking time in quiet As does, by the way, God's Light. Friends General Conference hymnal, the worship to renew spiritual leading have Hymnal Oversight Committee would like to brought the project to near completion in a Dimitri Mihalas share with Friends an overview of the spirit of true unity. Champaign, Ill. process by which the hymnal is being Friends are deeply concerned about created. language. To achieve the goal of The committee first came together to inclusiveness, there will be instances of Mormon Heaven? consider a new hymnal in 1986, but it took pronoun changes or altered ve-rses as well as That the Mormons have baptized the hymns that retain traditional language. In several years of exploration by regional Jewish Holocaust victims into Mormon general, hymns and songs written since groups to begin to envisage a truly Quaker Heaven has been well publicized. Now hymnal. When 22 representatives of these 1960 have been accepted only if the comes news that they have also baptized groups came together at Pendle Hill in 1989, language is inclusive. Some old hymns will Shakespeare and Churchill. Could the we discoyered at least eight different former have completely new texts written by Journal please check whether George Fox, religious backgrounds. As participants Friends. As the MuSeWoGs learned through Margaret Fell, William Penn, Lucretia Mott, became aware of many other musical work and worship to validate each other's and others of our deceased Quaker free traditions formerly unknown to them, their religious experience, so it is our hope that spirits have been bapti.zed and bound into vision of a Quaker hymnal was enlarged. It the same process will occur as Friends and Mormon Heaven? This Friend is uneasy. became clear that any music that is meetings use and enjoy the hymnal. spiritually nourishing to Friends could be We truly feel that this new resource Mary Lou Mills Coppoch included in our hymnal, no matter what its (planned publication date August 1996), Tempe, Ariz. source. Both hopes and fears about a new which will include historical notes, biblical hymnal were articulated and acknowledged. references, suggestions for usage, and From these deliberations, the committee several indices, will enhance the spiritual was able to write Guiding Principles, which life of individuals and meetings, and that Tinkering with language have formed the basis for all subsequent Friends, more than ever, will be able to Prior to any large (mainly colonial) work. "Worship in Song." European involvement in Africa, most A Music Selection Working Group Frances N. Beer central and southern African peoples never (dubbed MuSeWoG) began its work in Clerk, Hymnal Oversight Committee thought of themselves as "black" or "dark." 199 1. This group is as varied theologically, Their languages, I am led to believe, geographically, and musically as possible. It contained the same metaphors of light and has met II times for three-day weekends. dark, night and day, good and evil as ours; Each piece in FGC's A Hymnal for Friends In the Light some still do. ( 1955) and Songs ofth e Spirit {1978), plus Being an astronomer, I have a special I find it deliberately perverse that when I hundreds of submissions from Friends affinity for, and interest in, light. The reason speak in purely spiritual terms of"light," or everywhere, was sung in its entirety with is clear: astronomers know all to well that "illumination" rather, and "darkness," or text and music evaluated separately and for we can never hope to touch, or experiment "ignorance," someone else should insist I compatibility. Out of more than 1,000, with, any celestial body. The distances, am speaking in terms of race. This is clearly perhaps half were brought back for second timescales, and energies are all too large, by not so, and as a Quaker I expect to have my examination. Meanwhile, over 40 hymns many orders of magnitudes, for puny word taken about this. and songs were selected for trial booklets, humankind to influence in any way. All we Now, can we get back to how to live with which have been circulated to many yearly, get to do is measure the light coming from our real differences, rather than our quarterly, and monthly meetings, providing these bodies passively. imaginary ones? How to tackle the problem much useful feedback for the selection I have colleagues who study galaxies at of why so many of one particular race end process. The number of hymns and songs the extreme outer reaches of the universe. up in jail, for example; rather than tinkering we would like to retain far exceeds the 300- Thanks to huge telescopes that can gather with my/our native language. plus for which there is space. Final selection enough of the faint light from these remote Paul Thompson is being made within a carefully considered objects, and to extremely sensitive detectors Shropshire, England topical organization of the hymnal, section to measure this light, these people can by section, again based on the Guiding analyze galaxies that are about I 00 million Principles. times fainter than we can see with the naked Spirit Wrestlers of today The selection process has been grounded eye. By carrying out very detailed analyses, throughout by a faithful commitment to seek they can deduce a tremendous amount of As Doukhobors, we believe in the God's will. The group has worshiped, very important information about those omnipotence, omnipresence, and shared, listened, and grown tender to one galaxies: their distance, the speed they move omniscience of God, the Creator, the great another as members have explored the many away from us (as part of the expansion of Eternal Spirit. Our understanding is that the facets of Quaker theology, varied practices the universe), how fast they rotate, their earthly manifestation of this great Eternal in our worship, differing attitudes toward mass, their chemical composition, their age, Spirit is pure, selfless, unconditional love, a language, the needs of different age groups, and many other kinds ofbasic information. spark of which is inherent in all living and widely varied musical interests and To obtain all this information requires a things. This understanding forms the basis experience of Friends. The MuSeWoGs tremendous amount of work by the research of our belief in the sanctity of life, and our have learned not just to tolerate all these workers. It may take weeks or months of respect for the integrity and diversity of differences, but to value them as part of the painstaking effort. But they don't seem to creation. wonderful fabric of the Society of Friends. mind at all. Because this light is precious, We believe that if this spark of love There have been times of tension when deep and worth the trouble: after all, it has come could be nourished and cultivated to its full

4 July 1995 FRJENDs JoURNAL potential, true freedom, justice, peace, and on pushing the boundaries at home. "Ritual abuse is happening all over this security for all of the world's peoples could These people were friendly and country." be achieved. One hundred years ago, on accepting. They lived their lives helping and Do you know that some people in the June 29, 1895, these deeply held convictions caring, not hurting or killing. Maybe that's radical religious right are preaching about prompted several thousand Doukhobors to why the thought of this ugly bomb hurt. The satanic ritual abuse and claiming it's destroy their weapons, thereby forever people I knew in Oklahoma didn't deserve happening all over this country? Yes, the rejecting enmity and violence for love and this. What kind of person would do such a same folks who bring us homophobia, clinic common kinship. thing? violence, and the 104th Congress! In honor of this historic anniversary, we Whoever produced this devastation could Do you remember the case of the appeal to the peoples of the world to let us not possibly understand the people I knew in California child care worker who was all draw on the noblest in our respective Oklahoma. My friends possessed the charged with child abuse and jailed after a traditions and rededicate ourselves to the capacity to forgive even this horror. They lengthy trial and who is now out ofjail­ building ofa better world, not through the would never understand, condone, or excuse vindicated but her life and career in ruins? force of arms or threats of coercion but this senseless act of butchery, but, given Have you read the long article in the New through the recognition of, and respect for, time, they could forgive. It's this quality that Yorker (about two years ago) about a man the fundamental worth and dignity ofall makes them human. It's also the attribute who was accused of satanic ritual abuse and peoples, regardless of race, color, caste, or Jacking in those who committed this who confessed and confessed and creed, and through the responsible atrocity. confessed-and about the psychologist who stewardship of our global community. Harry H. Snyder III proved the man was so suggestible he could We the Spirit Wrestlers of today, Whiting, Maine be induced to confess to anything? reaffirming the faith and ideals ofour If satanic ritual abuse really is going on forbears and recognizing that peace is the "all over this country," I don't know why essential precondition for the success ofany On Mary Dyer our courts haven't found a case that will form of human development, pledge to hold up under scrutiny. continue the nonviolent struggle, together My brother Sam Burgess, in his letter (FJ Marge Schier with aU peoples of goodwill, for the ultimate March), makes some telling criticisms of the Levittown, Pa. review you carried of Ruth Talbot triumph of the power of love over the love Plimpton's book on the life of of power, and the establishment of peace, Mary Dyer (FJNov. 1994). justice, and freedom on our Mother Earth. However, there should be Doukhobor Centennial Coordinating no doubt whatever that Mary Committee Dyer was hanged as a Quaker, despite Sam's Box 760 suggestion to the contrary. Grand Forks, BC Canada VOH lHO She was hanged for violation of a law directed specifically at Quakers. The death penalty Capacity to forgive was enacted by the general court in Boston on October When I heard about the awful bombing 19, 1658, by a vote ofl2 to of the federal building in Oklahoma City, 11 , for "every Quaker who is Oklahoma, I thought about my long-ago not an inhabitant but found teenage trip West. It was ~e summer within the jurisdiction." Why foUowing the assassination of President else would the Reverend John Kennedy. We knew terror and sadness then Wilson, moments before the too. My parents sent me to Wyandotte, execution, urge Mary Dyer to Oklahoma, where the local Quakers needed repent, renounce Quakerism, help constructing a school. "Ask not what and thus save her life? It was your country can do for you, ask what you steadfastness in her faith that can do for your country." Anyhow, doing gave us our best-known things to help others lifts your spirit. That Quaker martyr, as well as one summer we all needed some lifting. of the most important persons I remember Max Newland, the unofficial in U.S. history in the foreman of this project. He taught me how establishment of freedom of to wear a Western hat like the Okies--the religion and separation of brim pulled up tight against the crown on church and state. both sides "so the rain poured out one place, instead of aU over." I remember Lany Robert S. Burgess Pickard, the minister of the meeting. I can Hanover, N.H. hear him in my mind today: "Violence begets more violence." "The only hope is in An accelerated trend? forgiving those who trespass against you." I drove for the first time over those hard­ Hard to believe There is an expression among Friends packed dirt roads- Lany's battered old van In the Forum letter headlined that I have recently encountered with rolling along at 70 miles per hour through "Recovering from abuse" (FJ March), there amazing frequency. Am I mentally slow, or the biggest com fields in the world This are two statements I find hard to believe: "I are we in an accelerated trend? My was wide-open heaven for a city boy intent am a survivor of satanic ritual abuse," and bewildered response follows, entitled

FRIENDS JOURNAL July 1995 5 "Cheerful Irony": later is still doing it. Bob also walks a picket marriage. Some Friends are quite proud of their line against armaments whenever a new When the issue of divorce does arise, we sophistication, warship is launched at Newport News should consider asking the couple to allow a A stance of some questionable worth­ shipyard, which continues to build nuclear clearness committee to meet with them prior They cling to the Spirit that gave forth the submarines and aircraft carriers. to the decision, just as a clearness committee Scriptures, Again, Bob insists he has a lot of help. meets with them before marriage. And ifthe While disclaiming the Scriptures the Spirit We too can help by sending contributions to divorce does happen, we could hold a gave f9rth! Peninsula Peace Education Center, 103 meeting for worship to acknowledge the Laura Lowder Duval Court, Hampton, VA 23669. We just event as a community, seeking God's Greensboro, N.C. hope he and his fellow peace advocates guidance. outlive the Cold War-military mentality until In these times, some Quaker couples are the peace millennium arrives. entering into sexual relationships without Thanks to Jenny Bob Smith being married. We should consider the The May issue was especially delightful, Virginia Beach, Va. possibility of bringing those relationships thanks to Jenny. Many thanks to Jenny for under the meeting's care in a form that is not causing such an avalanche of spiritual/ A close call marriage, perhaps calling it ''betrothal," mental product-for causing us to stop and asking that no children be produced, and ponder afresh what it is that we feel to be The letter from reader Silas Weeks (FJ perhaps making it time-limited. ''the meaning(s) of Quakerliness." January) calls attention to the fact that We should recognize the enormous As a birthright Friend, I can admit that Henniker, N.H., is the only place in this burden our current poor economy puts on frequently it is the convinced Quakers (and/ world with that name. Right, but it was young couples. Working to improve or the non-Quakers who really are Quakers close. There is a town in Germany named employment and social conditions is an but don't realize it) who help keep us all Hennikerdorf. extremely important way to strengthen thinking and questioning. I hope there will Herman Herst, Jr. couples and family life. be more "Letters to Jenny" in future issues. Boca Raton, Fla. It is time for Pacific Yearly Meeting to Each reader might do well to attempt such a recognize same sex unions. At least 11 letter, even if with no intention of sending it. monthly meetings in PYM have approved a It's like an assessment, a personal To love and nurture same sex union (or marriage) or a minute stating that they would perform such a (individual) state-of-the-meeting report, a I do not conclude, as John Woodbury locating of self along the journey. union. I have recently changed my mind seems to (FJ April), that Christocentric about the need to require the word Quakers and universalist Quakers use "marriage" in this regard. Same sex unions Sylvia Spotts different language but mean the same thing. Columbia, Mo. have a wonderful historical tradition of their In my opinion, as the words are different, so own, developed separately from that of are the meanings. There is theological heterosexual marriage. I no longer see Advocating peace diversity in the Religious Society of Friends, anything derogatory in calling it a "union," and it has existed in North American though I do not object to calling it a Upon publication of the I 20th issue of Quakerism at least since the split of 1827. "marriage" if the meeting approves. the Peace Advocate, a newsletter here in the This can be harmonious and enriching if we I usually make these points at the end of heart of the world's largest concentration of accept one another wherever each of us is on a talk giving much historical background, military might, Tidewater, Virginia, our our spiritual journey and cooperate lovingly and as I have not included any of that meeting thanked the editor for ten years of in carrying out the numerous testimonies information here, some may wonder how or diligence. that Christocentric and universalist Friends why I have come to these conclusions. I "I've had a lot of help," insisted modest hold in common. As members of the welcome correspondence or discussion from Bob Volckhausen-from his wife, Jane, and Religious Society of Friends, we are not · anyone interested. a few volunteers. But there's no denying called upon to think and believe alike in Bruce A. Folsom that Bob is the heart of the eight-page digest accordance with a uniform theology but to 2690 Great Highway #107 ofdevelopments that should concern all love one another and nurture that of God San Francisco, CA 94116 earnest seekers of peace in a trigger-happy within us and all Creation. world Peter Rabenold Bob points out that his is only one of a St. Leonard, Md. number of peace publications around the country aimed at reminding us that billions of dollars are still being wastefully, A lifelong commitment destructively S})(lnt on arms. Your recent article by Herb Lape (FJ FRIENDS JoURNAL welcomes Forum con­ The Peace Advocate was started by the May) prompted me to write. Marriage tributions. Please try to be brief so we Richmond Diocese of the Catholic church should be a covenant between two people may include as many as possible. Limit but now is supported by our Friends and God; it should celebrate sexuality, letters to 300 words, Viewpoint to 1,000 meeting, other churches, and individual equality, and service; and it should promote words. Addresses are omitted to main­ contributions. faithful, loving relationships that are tain the authors' privacy; those wishing A retired math professor at Hampton permanent. I believe marriage should be a to correspond directly with authors may University, Bob got involved by first lifelong commitment. For those who cannot send letters to FRIENDs JoURNAL to be attending a meeting of a peace group at a keep that commitment, separation without forwarded Authors' names are not to be Unitarian church, only to discover that the remarrying is an option. Should a meeting used for personal or organizational so­ editor wanted to quit. Bob volunteered to refuse to remarry a divorced Friend, that licitation. - Eds. keep it going-and 100 and some issues Friend would still have the option of a civil

6 July 1995 FRIENDs-JoURNAL ngthe Flag by Roberta Spivek

at all? The store doesn't have much of a deli section, and canned meat seems too depressing. I keep the canned com and beef, and add half a dozen fresh potatoes. Hamburgers, mashed potatoes, corn­ not a bad Fourth of July dinner. I ogle the strawberries and watermelons, but 'Happy don't have enough money-for her, or for the raspberries and frozen yogurt.I'd Fourth of come for. I decide to skip both our des­ serts, and pay for the groceries. July,' I The woman is still outside, talking to someone on a pay phone. She hangs up respond. I when she sees me. I hand her the bag of groceries. "Bless you," she says. mean it to "Happy Fourth of July," I respond. I mean it to sound both sincere and ironic, ourth of July, Center sound both that I know, or think I know, some of the City Philadelphia, Pa. ways this country has failed her. "I hope FI separate our news­ sincere and you and the kids have a good dinner." I papers and glass and take ask if she knows about a local women's them to the recycling col­ ironic. shelter run by activist nuns, and she says lection point, then walk to yes. the supermarket to buy gro- I hurry on to the video store, then look ceries. At the entrance, a back. She's still in front ofthe store, ask­ woman confronts me. "Please, miss," she with me; I'm as rich as Ross Perot, com­ ing someone else for food or money. Did says. "Can you buy me some food?" pared to her. "Corn on the cob or fro­ I help or hurt? Will she sell the food for She's about my age, thirtysomething. zen?" I ask. drugs? Does she even have children? But She's wearing wrinkled clothes and a "Either," she says. "Just meat and a who am I to judge her, just because I have worried expression. She may be high, or vegetable. Mashed potatoes or corn." money? I've been in tight spots myself, just hungry. "You don't have to give me I enter the store and head to the meat unable to buy shampoo and toothpaste in no money," she says. Usually, I pass by. I counter. A vegetarian, I've never shopped the same week. Once, stranded in an air­ know all the reasons not to give to the this aisle before. I decide on ground beef, port, short 20 dollars for a plane ticket homeless. suppressing my conscience, but I'm not home, I panhandled from strangers. It "What do you want?" I ask her. sure how much to buy. How many ham­ took me half an hour to collect 50 cents, "Something for dinner," she says burgers do a mother and four children until a man handed me a 20-dollar bill. quickly. "For the holiday. I got four kids," eat? The butcher has laid out "family But I've never been hungry, don't know she adds. But I've already made up my packs" of ground round, blood-red, what that means. And I always knew I mind. wrapped in plastic. I have six dollars in had a safety net, family and friends, un­ ''What do you want?" I repeat. I hate my wallet, and choose a three-pound pack derneath me. planning meals, don't know what to buy a of lean beef. A1> I near my apartment, a neighbor stranger for dinner. But I can't decide on the corn, canned hurries by, carrying charcoal. Everyone's "Some meat?" she says. "And some or frozen. Which is healthier, tastes bet­ celebrating or relaxing, with picnics, fire­ corn? Meat and a vegetable. Corn. And ter? I buy most of my produce organic works, a parade. Tonight I'll celebrate mashed potatoes." and fresh, from a natural foods store. I with friends from Tunisia and Israel and "I can't buy you everything," I say, choose two big cans of corn, then check Indiana, sharing baba ghanoush, home­ irritated, setting limits. "I don't have much out the fresh corn anyway: three ears for a made pesto, and beer. I wonder if the money." True, not true: I don'thave much dollar. Fresh corn would be a treat for the woman's kids will get to see the fire­ children. But how would she fix it? Does works, maybe wave a flag at the parade. Roberta Spivek is a Philadelphia, Pa., activist she have a pot? Stove? Refrigerator? "Bless you," I wish her silently, from a and writer. Apartment? Should I get the hamburger safe distance. l:l

FRIENDS JOURNAL July 1995 7 A Visit to Burundi by Carol Reilley Urner soldiers in Burundi are Tutsis. Instead of ety, should support one another as we bringing order, the soldiers turned on each seek to live out our testimonies in would guess that many Quakers don't Hutus everywhere: both those involved times of trial. even know there are Friends in in earlier killings and those who were So, in March of this year, my husband IBurundi. Though I now live in Africa, innocent. An armed group of soldiers in­ and I paid a brief, five-day visit to Burundi. I was only vaguely aware that Burundi vaded the Quaker compound and killed I was nervous about the trip. A few days itself existed until October 1993, when 36 men, women, and children, including before our flight Tutsis had murdered a tribal killings dragged the country into 8 pastoral trainees. Hutu government minister. When we ar­ chaos. Two months later, at Central and At yearly meeting, I felt deeply moved rived, David could not meet us at the Southern Africa Yearly Meeting, I first by the story of these Friends who had airport as planned because his car was learned there are Friends in Burundi: about reached out in love to the "enemy" tribe, blocked by a long funeral cortege. Hutus 7,500 members in over 60 churches. only to be brutally attacked by heavily­ had just assassinated a Tutsi colonel in Most Quakers in Burundi are mem­ armed members of that same tribe. I was return. Retaliatory killings were escalat­ bers of the majority Hutu tribe. For centu- even more moved when I learned that ing and there was a dawn-to-dusk curfew these Friends now asked in the capital. The evening after our ar­ us to enable tqem to be­ rival Hutu militants killed three Belgians. come healers in their rav­ These were the first whites deliberately aged communities. Sur­ murdered, and European and American viving Burundi Quakers diplomats and aid workers suddenly felt were already gathering more vulnerable. The same Hutus also themselves into crisis killed two more Tutsi soldiers, and that committees to distribute night we lay awake listening to the guns. relief to their homeless We finally met David the following neighbors, Tutsi and day, but it was only on the third morning Hutu alike. I felt a deep that we could take the planned trip to kinship in the Spirit with Gitega and the Quaker centers ofKwibuka these unknown Quaker and Kibimba. We didn't want to break men and women. I felt down on any ofthe roads near Bujumbura, the power of their love where, for the first 20 miles of our jour­ and the authenticity of ney, armed Hutu militants were said to be theirwitness. These were hiding among the trees. Groups of armed Friends who, even in soldiers or policemen stopped us every ries the Hutus have been dominated by times of severe trial, were walking in the few miles to check our documents. I the minority Tutsi tribe, but in 1993 Hutus Light. peered warily at the forests lining the elected one of their own to be president. That sense ofkinship deepened when I lonely road; it was, however, a beautiful Shortly after the world had hailed the met David Niyonzirna, executive secre­ drive. We soon left Bujumbura far below elections as free and fair, renegade Tutsi tary of Burundi Yearly Meeting. David us on the shores of Lake Tanganyika and soldiers assassinated the president. Hutus, had survived the massacre at Kwibuka by climbed into the green mountains, richly now 80 percent of the population, rose up hiding in a grease pit under an abandoned clad in banana trees. As we approached in fury. car. I realized then the danger in which the continental divide, we began to see Pastoral students in the Quaker settle­ Friends like David lived as they went the vast coffee plantations that provide ment ofKwibuka took in a group of terri­ about their work of relief and reconcilia­ Burundi with its major export crop. fied Tutsi refugees and gave them food, tion. David helped us sort out the history of shelter, and protection from Hutu tribes­ David acknowledged that his own life the intertribal conflict and the history of men. By doing so they endangered them­ was at risk. "I'll go back, of course," he Burundi Friends as we drove. Burundi selves, of course, since angry Hutu mili­ said. "I know that I may be killed, but I Friends, he told us, first gathered around tants were ready to murder as traitors any 3m not afraid of death. I just want people evangelical Quaker missionaries from Hutus who sheltered Tutsi neighbors. to know what we Friends are trying to do, Kansas (now Mid-America) Yearly Meet­ A few days later, however, the army and why we are willing to die, ifneed be." ing. These missionaries worked in Burundi moved in, heavily armed, to restore order David and those working beside him feel for 50 years, from 1934 until the govern­ in the area. The Tutsi refugees felt safe to strengthened by our love and support. ment forced them out in 1985. During leave the Quaker compound, since most They are also a little less vulnerable, a much of that period Burundi was gov­ little less likely to be targeted for killing, erned by Belgium. Belgian rulers favored Carol Reilley Umer is living and working in if it is known that people in the interna­ the Tutsi tribesmen, W atutsi warrior im­ Lesotho. She writes, "My concern is for the tional community are watching over them. migrants who moved down from Sudan enabling of Burundi Friends as they seek to I thought to myself that surely we, who and the north in the 14th and 15th centu­ live out our testimonies where they are. " are members of one small religious soci- ries and established dominance over the

8 July 1995 F RIENDS JOURNAL indigenous Hutu fanners. The Tutsis, al­ of men and women. ever, a skilled staff with 19 committed ways a minority and now about 17 per­ Our first glimpse of a Quaker com­ Burundians. Bones are set and wounds cent of the population, continued as rulers pound was the large, red-brick high school are treated. Family planning and mater­ and soldiers under the Belgians. They on a hill near Kibimba. There are no nal and child health clinics are function­ received European-style educations and students now. The government has turned ing, and there is a special program for were promoted as leaders for the Roman the building over to hundreds of home­ feeding malnourished children. Catholic Church, which soon claimed less refugees. Kibimba itself, once home The beloved Zairian nurse has been much of the population as members. The to many Quaker families and their neigh­ replaced by Susan Seitz, a plucky young Hutus, on the other hand, remained illiter­ bors, is a ghost town: a pitiful collection woman from Little Rock, Arizona. Two ate peasants and a pool for forced labor of roofless, crumbling walls. Soldiers Mennonite volunteers from the United on the huge Belgian coffee plantations. stopped us just beyond the ruins. David States are now helping in Kibimba, and a The Quakers developed good relations smiled and spoke with them in friendly third has been assigned to David in with the Tutsi royal family, and the king fashion. "We're trying to help them un­ Bujumbura, to help him with his yearly granted the missionaries large tracts of derstand that we are a peaceable people," meeting work and to "walk w_ith" him. land near the royal palace at Gitega and David explained to us later. Perhaps the bravest venture ofBurundi exemption from forced labor for their It was soldiers from this same unit Friends is their effort to set up peace Quaker converts. Soon there evolved who ravaged the area in October 1993. A committees in surrounding communities. Quaker schools, a 54-bed hospital, and prime target was the 54-bed hospital. Most They are bringing together all factions­ training in medical work, agriculture, and of the staff, and those patients who were and both Hutus and Tutsis- in an attempt mechanics. Dozens of Quaker meetings, able, had already fled when the soldiers to resolve conflicts before they develop built by Burundi Friends, began rising in came. One brave nurse, a woman from into violence. They hope to help former the villages around Gitega, Mutaho, and Zaire, courageously stood her ground and neighbors of both tribes work together to Kwisumo. By the time Burundi gained persuaded the soldiers not to destroy the rebuild homes that have been destroyed. independence from the Belgians in 1962 hospital or kill its remaining patients. At The hospital staff was involved in two there were 30 meetinghouses. the end of the killing time, this nurse village peace meetings the day of our These Kansas Friends brought more asked to return to her family in Zaire. visit. Susan Seitz told us she expected the than buildings and education. They When her taxi stopped for fuel in one in Kibimba to be difficult. During the brought profoundly democratic Quaker Bujumbura, soldiers pulled her from the previous week soldiers had seized a local structures: monthly meetings for business, vehicle. No trace of her has ever been Hutu and tortured him to death. In his clerks, and committees. They brought the found, and she is presumed dead. agony the victim had cried out for one of peace testimony and the advices and que­ When I asked what might be the great­ the hospital staff members. "He is my ries for daily living. And they brought a est present need at the hospital I was friend! He is a Christian! He will help Quaker concept of Christ Jesus that an­ repeatedly told, "A doctor." Without a me!" Now soldiers were asking for that swered profoundly the spiritual needs of doctor no major surgeries can take place staff member. Susan told us, "The sol­ dozens-then hundreds and thousands- and diagnosis is difficult. There is, how- diers have to learn they cannot touch us in

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9 the hospital. The hospital must remain a safe place for every­ one." I felt humbled by her defi­ ant courage. She is a good rep­ resentative for all of us, and de­ serves our support. Later, in Gitega itself, David showed us a small nursery school that Friends have started up. ''The teachers know that their first task is to teach Hutu and Tutsi children to live and play together, and to care for each The Friends other." meetiallghouae We also visited the Quaker near center at Kwibuka. It is 17 miles Klblmba from Kibimba and just across from the palace where Quaker missionar­ were looted, as was the center for Friends handicapped in its work because of loss ies once had tea with the Tutsi king. Here women. Some of the buildings have been of equipment. we saw the former pastoral training cen­ rented out to another church group for We stood with David in the red-brick ter and the memorial to the eight students use as an orphanage for refugee children. Quaker meetinghouse at Kwibuka. The murdered there. The school and the agri­ Others still stand empty. David reports interior is simple and similar to that in any cultural and mechanical training centers that the yearly meeting has been greatly unprogrammed meeting, except for the drum used to beat rhythms for the sing- . ing. Friends were planning to gather there on the next day for the first yearly meet­ ing since the killing days of 1993. Learning to Forgive We left Burundi with both admiration and love for Friends there. We also left K wibuka, where we had set reaction was revenge. But the Lord . with deepening concern, for the violence up a learning center, the sol- started to work in my heart. The Scrip­ continued to escalate. White foreigners A diers killed eight out of our ture verses say, "if you do not forgive, were evacuating. Tutsis were demonstrat­ eleven students. I also had to hide you will not be forgiven." Also, I was ing by the thousands. UN peace monitors when the soldiers came, because I uncomfortable with the grudge I held and aid workers with whom we spoke was with the students. We knew the against people. The Lord convinced expressed their fears for the country. Two people who had brought the soldiers, me that the way to get rid of this nights after our departure, marauding but we decided not to go and report feeling was simply to forgive and re- gangs of armed boys drove over 50,000 them, because we knew it would con- lease it I had also to exteriorize it Hutus from their homes in Bujumbura. tinue the cycle of revenge and kill- Before I forgave them, the attitude I In the face of the hatred and violence ings. So we forgave them. had whenever I saw them was fear of in Burundi- and in neighboring That was a shock to many people. them or to wish something bad would Rwanda-the witness of Friends may They said, "How can you do that? happen to them. But, when I fo.rgave seem fragile and potentially futile. Yet Why don't you take them to court?" them, I saw one of them. He dtd not this is the very witness we have always But we said we wanted to cut the evil want to see me; he hid himself if he been called to make, from the time of cycle of revenge. Because we knew saw me. But unfortunately, or fortu- George Fox and Margaret Fell onward. that if we went and reported them, the nately, I saw him and said, "Hello," The witness of William Penn, of John others would come and kill and then and shook his hand. The way I felt Woolman, and of Lucretia Mott might the cycle would continue and so forth. afterward was. . . free! I said, "Oh, also have seemed fragile and futile to So that has become a challenge to I've done it! Ah! Good!" all day. others in their communities, but such wit­ many people to learn that the way to When we distribute beans and other ness has, in God's hands, been instru­ help the country is to learn how to relief to people, regardless of what mental in transforming societies. It is the forgive. they have done, it is another act of kind of witness required of all of us who It has to start from the victim be- forgiveness. Some say, "I'm not able call ourselves followers of Christ Jesus cause the offender might think, "I have to do this." But I believe we have to and Friends of God. Cl done what I should have done." But encourage people to do it because it we must realize that we need to stop not only stops the killings but it also Burundi Yearly Meeting draws funds the killing and the person to start is helps people spiritually and psycho- directly from an account set up for that the Christian, because he has the les- logically. purpose by Mid-America Yearly son, he has the source, he has the Meeting. Those wishing to support the power. And that is what we have done. - David Niyonzima work of Friends in Burundi can send I admit it was very, very difficult I (Reprinted with permission from contributions in care of Mid-America was bitter and angry. My immediate Quaker Life, Apri/1995.) Yearly Meeting, 2018 Maple, Wichita, KS 67213. 10 July 1995 FRIENDs JoURNAL Smuggling Medical Supplies to Cuba by Katherine Baker

n the silence of meeting, the way had been made clear. I was moved to I breach the embargo on Cuba, having found previously no meaningful way to express my dismay with a United States policy I considered inhumane. I would carry medical supplies, although the pen­ alty for such an act of civil disobedience might be prison and seizure of my pass­ port and bank account. I needed to do more than receive form letters from the president and members of Congress. In addition to breaking the 34-year-old U.S. restriction on travel to Cuba, I would be defying the Cuba Democracy Act. Passed under President Bush, an economic padlock was clamped on Cuba by closing U.S. ports for six months to vessels carry­ ing goods of any kind to Cuba. During the 1994 exodus of balseros (rafters), President Clinton raised a sky­ Photos: high seawall around the island. Airline Cuba's departures from the United States to Ha­ children and vana were stopped, making it impossible commuters for Cuban emigres to carry dollars, gifts, make do or medicine to relatives legally, or tore­ with what they have. turn a parent's ashes to the homeland. The embargo and the decline in aid from the former Soviet Union have cre­ ated a devastating shortage of essential supplies that farmers, mechanics, and doc­ tors most need. My crime would be spend­ this beautiful island (possible then as a In political terms, the embargo is an ing dollars in Cuba and carrying in medi­ photojournalist), I found many splendid embarrassing failure for the United States. cal supplies. I would be giving solace to buildings of 19th-century Spanish archi­ Neither the CIA, after numerous at!:empts, and trading with the enemy. tecture crumbling to dust for lack of re­ nor eight presidents have so far been able I knew by telephone calls through pair material. Cubans were without many to depose Fidel Castro, despite what is Canada, before I actually witnessed the essentials, but they were not in dire straits. perceived in this country- and by many fact, that many Cubans have not enough Children did pot beg on the streets. Now, Cubans-as an economic failure of his food. Babies have lower birth weights ifthey do not hold out a hand, they look at system of socialism. . because their mothers are malnourished, you with beseeching eyes. The United States has a gross national and hospitals are out of pharmaceuticals. During Fulgensio Batista's regime, product of $5.95 trillion; Cuba's is an I packed my luggage with tubes ofantibi­ Havana was known as "Sin City." Prosti­ estimated $17 billion. The U.S. embargo otics, aspirin, antiseptic prep pads, and tutes lined the streets. After the 1959 Revo­ is analogous to the fat, spoiled bully on soap, hoping 40 pounds might be some lution, Fidel Castro sent them to school to the block strangling a starving, skinny kid slight help. learn another trade. If there were prosti­ over a crust of bread. Five years ago, on a previous tour to tutes in 1989, they worked covertly. I saw Senator Christopher Dodd (Conn.), re­ not one. Now, because of the massive cently chair of the Senate Foreign Rela­ Katherine Baker is a writer who attends shortage of everything, prostitutes are tions Subcommittee ofthe Western Hemi­ Abington (Pa.) Meeting. Her book about the numerous again and solicit circumspectly sphere, said, "It is totally an anachronism lives ofCubans, No Gas, No Soap in Decem­ in tourist areas. I spoke with three who in 1994 that we are perpetuating policies ber, is published by Five Corners Publica­ were prostituting themselves for dollars that are three decades old." tions, Ltd., Plymouth, Vermont. to buy food for their families. In world opinion the United States

FRIENDS JOURNAL July 1995 11 An apartment building In Old Havana

ment moved toward free enterprise. A farmer's market was established permit­ ting produce to be sold by individuals, thereby closing many black markets. In the first two months, about $40,000 changed hands, lessening the shortage of rationed food. However, the dearth of medical supplies and everything else con­ tinues. In Havana, I heard Juan Antonio Blanco, founder of the Felix Varela Cen­ ter, a nongovernmental think tank, say: People wonder why U.S.-Cuba relations have not relaxed with the end of the Cold War. It's because the problems have very little to do stands alone. For the third consecutive A pensioner, Cesar Lopez Francisco, with the Cold War. They have little to do with year, the United Nations voted to lift the talked about the anguish of seeing two communism or socialism or even with the embargo. Only Israel voted with. the sons float offto Florida, taking with them personality of Fidel Castro. They have more United States against. The vote was 2 to his only grandchild. He said, "They to do with the Monroe Doctrine of the last 101, with 48 abstentions, by nations fear­ wanted a better life. I could not say 'don't century-that the Americas should belong to ful oflosing U.S. subsidies. go.' I don't think I will see my pretty little the U.S. I flew from Philadelphia, Pa., to Maria, again . . . maybe when she is grown The United States still believes it has a Cancun, Mexico, and then to Havana. In and getting married." manifest destiny to bring its brand of civiliza­ addition to medical supplies, I carried a tion to the southern part of the hemisphere. Cesar, intellectuals, and workers say, The problem with our Revolution is not so message from an emigre living in Florida "We must try another way without losing much that it became a communist revolution to a sister living in Havana whose son had our free education and health systems. as that Cuba wanted a path independent from floated off to Florida, on a raft of truck Our ideals of social responsibility must the U.S. inner tubes with six other Cubans, in not be sacrificed for the greed of capital­ search of a better life. The ba/sero's aunt ism when the embargo is lifted. Why? I divided my welcomed contraband of in Florida had received notice that her Tell us why the U.S. government hates medical supplies between a pediatrician nephew had been picked up by the U.S. us." and a general practitioner. Then it was Coast Guard. The stated intent of the U.S. restriction time to go home. United States citizens When I located his family in Havana on travel is to prevent dollars from cross­ enter or leave Cuba easily, but returning (mother, wife, toddler, and cousins), they ing the Florida straits. Actually, it is an home through immigration can be a huge were jubilant to hear, at last, that he was effort largely fueled by Cuban-American problem. In 1984 the Supreme Court up­ safe. But their joy was tempered by learn­ hardliners who lavish campaign contri­ held a ban on travel with a fine of$50,000 ing he was being held at the U.S. naval butions on key lawmakers for the purpose and up to ten years in jail. base in Guantanamo, Cuba. of bringing down Fidel Castro, creating a Although I was moved by the spirit, it They looked upon Guantanamo as a two-party system, restoring pre-revolu­ was with some trepidation that I reen­ concentration camp secured by two fields tion property, and opening private busi­ tered the United States at Raleigh, North of landmines. The first field was planted nesses. It is said, "When Cuba is opened, Carolina. To my surprise and relief, the by the United States to keep prisonei:s in. there will not be enough shoreline for all immigration officer smiled and said, The adjacent field had been planted by the new buildings. Miami will move 90 "Hello, welcome home." I had a brief Cuba to keep Cubans from trying to get miles across the Strait." conspiratorial feeling we were partners in into the base. One ba/sero has lost a leg in For want of a better reason for con­ a justifiable crime. his futile attempt to escape from tinuing the embargo, Cuba's human rights It seemed too great a stretch of the Guantanamo. violations are cited. What greater human imagination to think he deliberately dis­ I talked with Cubans in villages, on rights violation can there be, aside from regarded the stamp of Cuba. When I country roads, in shops, in pharmacies actually bombing them, than the deliber­ searched the many stamps in my pass­ (green [herbal] medicines only), and in ate aim of starving the Cubans, or depriv­ port, I found no stamp ofCuba. It was the cane fields. They are tired of being asked ing them of medical supplies? Havana immigration officer who had been to make sacrifices, to work harder and More U.S. citizens are joining in ask­ my partner in crime, hiding the fact that I have less. They use metaphors to describe ing, ''Why? What is the purpose of this had breached the embargo. shortages: "If we have a hammer, we embargo?" How much longer will we Now, in the silence of meeting, I have have no nails. If we have a tractor, we ignore thousands of Cubans who awake mixed feelings ranging from guilt to tri­ have no gas. Ifwe have an ox, we have no hungry to have "Rooster soup"- a cup of umph. Triumph wins when I think of the seed. If we have x-ray machines, we have sugar water-for breakfast. slight relief rny medical supplies have no film." In October 1994 the Cuban govern- brought. Cl

12 July 1995 FRIENDs JOURNAL by Edward Hoare

hat is at the heart of being a The biblical insight is that when two or Friend? The answer most fre­ What is it that three are gathered together, the presence quently given is the meeting for of this power becomes more evident. So worship, but what is at the heart of that; we worship when we we come together, sitting in the silence, how and what do we worship? trying to come to a still center. There are When Michael Sheeran published his come together? times when the silence becomes deeper research into Philadelphia Yearly Meet­ and we feel that power and speak ofbeing ing in Beyond Majority Rule, attention What do we mean by gathered together in meeting. What hap­ was so focused on the Christian/univer­ pens if the majority do not recognize the salist divide that the full implication ofhis God? possibility of a meeting being so gath­ fmding, that the real cleavage among ered? Friends is between those who have expe­ was attracting agnostics and humanists to In his survey of attenders in Britain rienced the gathered or covered condition our mutual advantage. This, it stressed, Yearly Meeting, Caring, Conviction, in meeting and those who have not, has was because the Society made a bridge Commitment, Alastair Heron found that taken some time to penetrate. The conse­ over which they might pass into a closer 42.8 percent came to meeting because of quences for the Society are immense. How Christian fellowship. In practice, their ad­ "friendliness and tolerance," and he con­ have we come to this situation? mission and the welcome extended to cluded that "the religious intention of the The Friend recently republished the others primarily attracted by the Quaker meeting. . . may well be secondary or "Commentary" of February 4, 1944, social and peace witness have weakened even irrelevant." If there is no under­ which said that London Yearly Meeting the religious basis of the yearly meeting. standing of becoming gathered, it will not Many of our meetinghouses have happen and we will go from meeting A resident of Somerset, England, Edward dropped the word Religious from their "dry." Some will then begin to feel that Hoare is a founding member of Q-ROOM signboards. Is this an indication that we the meeting is a hindrance rather than a (Quaker Retreats and One-to-one Ministry), do not expect to find contact with God, help to the deepening oftheir spiritual life which supports a ministry ofspiritual nurture and thereby empowerment for our lives, and will drift away. One of the respon­ in Britain Yearly Meeting. when we meet inside? dents to the survey question: "What do

FRIENDS JOURNAL July 1995 13 you do in meeting for worship?" let the The inward journey to the self, which FRIENDS Small classes, strong cat out of the bag by saying, "Will you Jung called individuation, reveals itself as academics in a please tell me what I should do in meet­ one and the same journey to the Self, the SELECf. supportive, caring environment ing? No advice was ever given." divine force within. It leads to the deep­ SCHOOL emphasizing Quaker Because of the attitude of those who ening of our quality of being and of our values. have come into the Society to escape capacity to love, empowering us for the authority, to whom leadership and train­ outward tasks to which we are called. • Pre-K thru 12th . Day School ing are unacceptable words, many elders Criticism of people for going within is e • After School Program shrink from the idea that they should pro­ only valid if they stay there and become • Summer Day Camp vide leadership even in such matters as self-centered, instead of using that re­ preparing for the meeting for worship. In newed power in the world. 17th & the Parkway how many meetings do the elders come Philadelphia, PA together to pray for the meeting and then We are faced with mystery: whence (215) 561-5900 consciously try to bring the meeting to a comes that power? One answer is given center? Although I have known an occa­ by our friend John Yungblut in his book, sion when one seasoned Friend had the Shaping a Personal Myth to Live By: power to bring a small group down quickly into the center of a gathered silence, it Those studying subatomic particles find that requires at least two or three intentional a certain spontaneity, resembling a kind of Friends to accomplish that in a larger primitive consciousness, exists at the heart of ~ group. these particles. The embryo for spirit and con­ nI ~~~i~iwt sciousness lies in the heart of matter itself. What is it that we worship when we • Quality care in the Quaker tradition. come together? What do we mean by Thus God is in the physical earth of God? which we are a tiny part, but "While • 42 apartments for independent liv­ ing, 60 private personal care rooms, We are all at different stages of our remaining part of the earth, we humans 120 nursing home beds. spiritual journeys and will not have the are also the thinking envelope of the same answers. What is my story? Twenty earth." God has no hands and feet but • Peace of mind. Supportive medical years ago I was bishop's warden, minis­ ours. and social services throughout your tering in a parish without a rector in west­ Though I do not regard God as a per­ stay. em Australia. My journey took me to son, I can still have a personal relation­ • An active lifestyle in a beautiful, meet Bede Griffiths at his ashram in In­ ship with the divine, which I try to main­ graceful setting. dia, then in stages to Pendle Hill, Earlham tain through contemplative prayer. I be­ School of Religion, and W oodbrooke. I lieve that the power of positive prayer is • Meals, housekeeping, transporta­ also studied with John Yungblut and read also real. How each one of us worships tion, cultural and social activities. widely. I now have no certainties other will depend upon our temperament and than that which comes from matching my on where our spiritual journey has taken • A history of caring since 1904. own experience against the recorded ex­ us, but as Quakers our spirituality must be perience of others who have sensed the inclusive of the immanent God without Stapeley In Germantown presence of God. abandoning the idea of the transcendent, 6300 Greene Street As I began to accept ioeas from Ludwig for we hold that the one Light is in all. Philadelphia, PA 19144 Feuerbach, Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, In these times of upheaval in the relig­ and Carl Jung, I had to let go of much of ious world it is right that we should wel­ Call Carol Nemeroff the religious baggage I had been carry­ come into our meetings those who are Admissions Director ing. In The Undiscovered Self, Jung wrote searching, but let us be clear about what it (215) 844-{)700 that the seat of faith is spontaneous relig­ is that we offer. To be a Quaker is to join ious experience that brings one's faith a community of Friends who believe in into immediate relation with God. He the power of the Light within and who Educational excellence added that in a world in which so many come together to affirm it, to share expe­ have lost their religious beliefs, believers rience, and to test their leadings in the for over 200 years were forced to examine the foundation of group. Coed College Preparatory, their beliefs. This I felt called on to do. This freedom from creed and ritual Those of us who have been steeped in opens the way for many who are seeking the Christian faith will still find much a spiritual home, but the Society is not the wisdom and inspiration in the Bible, par­ place for those who are unable to surren­ ticularly in the teachings of Jesus. As a der the focus on individualism that is so Norwegian Friend, Sigrid Lund, has said, much a mark of our social environment today. Only after we have found that the Jesus lived in the presence of God. Jesus is attender values religious experience and the name of the historical person known to us accepts the concepts of Quaker commu­ 110 East Main Street, Moorestown, NJ through the Gospels: Christ is the eternal di­ nity and of the gathered meeting should 609-235-2900 ext. 227 vine force that Jesus showed forth in his life membership be offered, for are not these and that continues to reveal itself in man. at the heart of being a Friend? (J

14 July 1995 FRIENDS JOURNAL John's Prayer (Luke 11:1)

Holy Spirit, 1bank you for finding your way To my lips. Root my tongue in my soul.

I would be patient when you whisper "Slowly!" Calm when "Courage!" is in my ear. Give me rest when I need rest. Reward success andfailure with humility.

1bank you for this desert and this river, 1be rippling landscape ofmy daily tasks. Be with us in our solitude, And lift our lowly vision ofeach other.

-Peter Meister

Charlottesville (Va.) Meeting introduced the author to Quakerism. He is an adult beginner on the piano and lives in New Hope, Alabama, with his wife, Sarah Loach.

FRIENDS JOURNAL July 1995 15 Called to Public Ministry by Landrum Bolling

uthor, educator, philoso­ service and literary success began during a need for a seminary that would train pher, and theologian his tenure as chaplain at Stanford Univer­ young Friends for service to the Religious D. Elton Trueblood died on sity from 1936 through I945. Stanford Society of Friends in both programmed December 20, I 994, at Meadowood provided the public visibility and finan­ and unprogrammed traditions. The Retirement Conununity, near Lans­ cial freedom that made a national minis­ Earlham School of Religion was opened dale, Pennsylvania, at the age of94. try possible. During the Stanford years in I960. Today the school is thriving and A lifelong Friend, D. Elton Elton Trueblood was drawn into friend­ serving all branches of the Society of Trueblood's writing influenced the ships with a number of distinguished and Friends. lives of many people. His position as celebrated individuals. Stanford had a gen­ erous budget for guest speakers pon his retirement from in the Stanford Chapel, and these [!] Earlham in I 966, he was visiting theologians were often named "professor at large." He guests in the Trueblood home. enjoyed the role of counselor and encour­ This was a source of intellectual ager to faculty, students, and others who stimulation for the entire family. came to visit. He particularly enjoyed Former president Herbert helping young writers through construc­ Hoover and his wife, Lou Henry tive criticism and encouragement. Many Hoover, were close neighbors educators, writers, pastors, and business and were often attendees at the people recount stories of the significant meeting for worship held role Elton Trueblood played in the devel­ monthly in the Trueblood home. opment of their careers. In 1945 he felt a strong call­ The first 6 of his 33 books (those writ­ ing to a public ministry through ten before 1943) were directed princi­ writing and speaking, and also a pally at theologians, philosophers, and desire to serve a small Quaker other academics. In I 944, with the hor­ liberal arts college. This led him rors of World War II increasingly shak­ to Earlham College as professor ing the lives and beliefs ofmillions , Elton of philosophy. Earlham's Trueblood produced a slender, provoca­ struggle to rebuild after the im­ tive, but popular volume, The Predica­ poverishing years ofWorld War ment ofModern Man. In it he decried "the II was aided by the arrival of failure of the power culture" and warned strong new leadership, includ­ against the dangers of what he called "our ing Elton Trueblood. His excep­ cut-flower civilization." Although deal­ tional skills and his national rec­ ing with sober and profound issues con­ ognition helped increase public cerning the future of human society, it D. Elton Trueblood appreciation ofEarlham . He saw was written in simple, easily understood church-related and independent language, and it gained a broad and re­ professor of philosophy at Earlham colleges as superior places for undergradu­ sponsive audience. College, Richmond, Indiana, enabled ate education, where teaching was em­ He called for the reinvigoration of re­ him to reach a wide audience through phasized and where close faculty-student ligious faith as the essential force neces­ teaching, speaking, and writing. In relationships could be fostered naturally­ sary to sustain the ethical, moral, and midlife he found an entry in the jour­ strong interests for him as a gifted class­ social principles on which a humane and nal he kept during college that said, room teacher. livable world order could be built. He "I don't know what I should be: an As time passed at Earlham, he and warned about what he called "church­ educator, writer, or preacher." This others became more and more aware of ianity" and "vague religiosity,"buthe also indecision was resolved by success the need for a Quaker seminary. Friends cautioned against the overly optimistic in all three areas. churches were hiring pastors either with expectations of secular social reformism. Elton Trueblood's years of public training at other denominational seminar­ Through his extensive speaking and in ies or with nothing more than a college · subsequent books, he proposed the cre­ A long-time friend of Elton Trueblood, degree with a religion major. Unpro­ ation of a broadly-based ecumenical "fel­ Landrum Bolling is a former president of granuned Friends meetings often hired lowship of the conunitted" that should Earlham College. staff with no theological training. He saw transcend denominational differences and

16 July 1995 FRIENDS JOURNAL Newtown, PA 18940 work for spiritual renewal and the transfonnation of society, both from within and outside the church. These concerns led him to found the Y okefellow movement.

s a public speaker and au­ thor, Elton Trueblood was an advocate for simplicity, clarity, and brevity. He looked his audience straight in the eye, speaking Founded in 1893 by the Society of Friends, George School is a co­ educational boarding and day school for students in grades 9-12. without manuscript or notes, yet his words came out in carefully-crafted The college preparatory curriculum emphasizes Friends values and includes: and vivid sentences and paragraphs. • Courses on 4levels of challenge • International Baccalaureate (IB) • Advanced Placement (AP) • International workcamps He could close a session on the minute • English as a Second Language (ESL) • Required community service without using a timepiece. He once • Foreign study • Required full-year courses in the arts said, "if you want people to come to • 13 interscholastic sports for boys and girls hear you, you must stop on time." He For more information, please contact the Admissions Office: 215/ 579-6547. came to feel that any book with a serious message and with any hope of significant impact on its readers should be limited to about 130 pages. Precise labeling ofElton Trueblood was difficult. He liked to say that the most important word in the language was "and." On many matters of con­ troversy he would insist, "we have to say both-and-together, not either-or." By word and action he demonstrated what some saw as contradictory be­ liefs and habits: liberal and conserva­ tive, traditional and innovative, com­ passionate and tough-minded, gener­ ous and demanding. He saw this as being human, trying to be realistic and honest. Those who loved him remember him as never complaining about his own problems; he took what life brought and either accepted it or changed it. "Elton was one of this century's most remarkable interpret­ ers of the Christian faith," said Earlham president Richard Wood. "He was a Quaker with a genuinely ecumenical vision of the church and its mission in the world. Fundamental to this vision was his conviction that deep faith and rigorous intellect re­ quire each other, a conviction that he lived." · 0

FRJENDS JoURNAL July 1995 17 The Forgiveness Party by Grace LeClair and Bess Lyn Sannino

angry. Grace had an idea of who might have done it, because somebody had written graffiti on the garage the previous weekend, and older children and teenagers who lived in the area had been hanging around outside when we arrived home. She called one of their dads, who was a former policeman. He said he would talk to his son and call us back. He called us later and said his son had not been in the house, but he told us who the other people were who had been. We discussed with him how to handle the problem. We didn't want the kids to get in permanent trouble, but we wanted them to learn that what they had done was hurtful to us, and that if they did it again, there would be unpleasant consequences for them, too. The dad suggested that we call the police, because it was a serious thing. A kind, understanding policeman, Officer Nolan, came to our house. After he found out who had been involved, he explained what our options were. We could press charges, or we could work with him to have the things that were taken returned and to help the young people understand that breaking into houses and taking things was wrong. Because we really didn't want to have to worry Arrests and about them doing it again, to us or anyone else, and we jail sentences also didn't want them to get in trouble that would follow may not be them around forever, we chose to work together. the best .way Officer Nolan talked with all of the kids and their to keep a parents. One of the things we learned from this process is neighborhood that some of the kids' parents were having safe. problems, or working until very late at night. It took Officer Nolan a whole week to track down all the parents. During that time, the kids brought back everything they had taken, and apologized to us for what they did. Some of them ne recent weekend, we returned even asked if they could do anything for us, so they raked our yard. from a trip to find ~at our house One wrote an essay about character and integritY and read it to Grace. Ohad been broken into. Valentine's This whole experience bothered Bess very much. One day when she Day candy was strewn all around. At first was home from school she went off by herself, and came back with a we thought our cat had been angry at being wonderful idea. She wanted to have a ''the burglary-is-over left alone, but then we saw drawers were forgiveness party" and invite the burglars. open, Bess's allowance money was So that's what we did. Three of the people who broke into our missing, and other things were different house, lots of their brothers and sisters, and the first dad we talked to from the way we had left them. all came to the house for dinner. Bess made a pifiata and everyone We were both very upset, afraid, and broke it and ate candy. The ''burglars" offered a toast to us, and promised not to break into anyone's house again. Grace LeClair Sannino and her daughter Bess The forgiveness party made our neighborhood whole again, and attend Virginia Beach (Va.) Meeting. helped us all feel safe and good and at peace. l:l

18 July 1995 FRIENDS JOURNAL Reports

Quakers in Pastoral Care GI Joe at a Toys "R" Us store, a part ofCPT's Peace Teams Training: A campaign against war toys. The second was a and Counseling Friends Perspective protest against a military installation connected with the Trident submarine program in Wis­ Keynote speaker Jan Wood spoke of liv­ For several years I have been striving to consin. To prepare for these actions we dis­ ing and working out of the divine center to a integrate two concerns: I have felt a need to cussed the logistics and publicity consider­ gathering of more than 40 people at the fifth work more actively in promoting the peace ations of public witness: scenarios, possible annual conference ofQuakers in Pastoral Care testimony in a positive and proactive way, arrests, press relations, relations with onlook­ and Counseling, March 3-5, at Quaker Hill and I believe that the Religious Society of ers and staff, and management of possible Conference Center in Richmond, Ind. The Friends needs to develop more programs that disruptions. Later sessions included study of theme of the conference was "Radical Spiri­ involve volunteer service opportunities. While other nonviolent campaigns and nonviolent tuality in our Pastoral Care and Counseling." involved with peace and justice work for over defense. "We as pastoral counselors and chaplains 20 years, more and more I have wanted to do The training addressed other aspects of cannot ' rewire' people by our expertise," it within the context of the Society of Friends, peacemaking work as well. There was a ses­ Wood said. "We have no magic cures. We and not as a part of other groups, especially sion on human rights cases and documenta­ cannot control others to make them whole. secular ones. Since its inception, I have par­ tion. A list of techniques for participatory Rather we are midwives that 'answer' the ticipated in the Friends Peace Teams Project learning was given and explained. We healing motions that are present in each per­ {FPTP), which I believe has the promise of brainstormed what was and wasn't useful (in son. Our task is preeminently one of listen­ integrating these two concerns. our experience) in campaigns for peacemak­ ing-and answering... . We listen and we The Friends Peace Teams Project plans to ing. A full day was devoted to an anti-racism respond out of the gracious and abundant assist Friends led to do peace team work in workshop, and two days to conflict transfor­ empowerment of God's love and power." finding other groups in which to volunteer, mation and mediation training. The issue of Wood, a former pastor and therapist who is making resources for peace teams skills train­ working in a cross-cultural environment where· presently assistant dean of Wilmington Col­ ing available to meetings and Friends different players have different sources or types lege in Ohio, offered suggestions for pastoral churches, and eventually forming peace teams of power was briefly addressed. Team build­ care workers who work in difficult ministries. among Friends. ing was enhanced by a personality type work­ Wood was joined by George Fitchett, chap­ In the last days of 1994 and in the first half shop and participants telling their life stories. lain at the Rush Medical Center in Chicago, ofJanuary 1995, I attended training for Chris­ Spirituality for peacemaking was addressed Ill., who outlined a model for the spiritual tian Peacemaker Teams (CPT), a project of through twice daily worship/reflection ses­ assessment ofpatients based on his new book, Mennonite and Brethren congregations. The sions. Assessing Spiritual Needs: A Guide for aim was to provide both skills and a "boot I left the CPT training with a commitment Caregivers. Fitchett said his "7 by 7 Model camp" atmosphere for working together that to join the Reserve Corps, making myself for Spiritual Assessment'' was based on the would simulate some of the conditions of available for 3-8 weeks' service annually for difficulty faced by pastoral care workers in CPT work and life. the next three years. I will have to raise money convincing health care professionals to take CPT's initial inspiration was a talk given to support this work, and would appreciate seriously a patient's spiritual condition. The at a Mennonite conference in 1984. A mis­ f7Friends' assistance. I also left with an admi­ model was designed to provide a basis for sion statement was written in 1986, and a ration near envy of Mennonite and Brethren assessment that is sensitive to a patient's con­ CPT office was staffed in 1991 . Volunteer service traditions and organizations. Appreci­ dition, but expresses it in the quantitative members of the full-time Christian Peace­ ating the ten years of work done before CPT framework needed in institutional settings. maker Corps {CPC) and the Reserve Corps reached this point gave me a little more pa­ During the gathering, conferees met in were first trained in September 1993. Many tience about the pace of forming peace teams small groups to share their spiritual journeys, individuals and groups participated during this among Friends. to practice the Shalem method for spiritual formation period, including Mennonite Cen­ Projects are chosen for CPT by this pro­ guidance and nurture, to worship and sing, tral Committee and New Call to Peace­ cess: an area of concern is identified (e.g. and to brainstorm about better ways the orga­ making. Several hundred people were involved Haiti); an identifiable project is developed­ nization can support care-giving ministries. in CPT projects last year. it needs to be something that can be accom­ "QPCC is truly a spiritual oasis for me," Peace team work includes accompaniment plished by a small team of people, is rela­ said Jesse Paledofsky, chaplain at Children's of local peacemakers; verification of treaty tively short-term, addresses conflict resolu­ Hospital in Washington, D.C. "It is the place accords or human rights monitoring; nonvio­ tion (not humanitarian aid or development where I am able to integrate my professional lent interposition; mediation and negotiation; aid), and links us with local partner groups life and my spiritual life ... It feeds a deep training local people; and supporting peace (which should invite our participation). A writ­ hunger I di~'t even know I had." team volunteers in the field As I completed ten proposal goes through the steering com­ "I found a special depth ofspirit which has CPT's training, I added nonviolent civil dis­ mittee for consideration, and various experts brought me renewal and centered my direc­ obedience to this list. may be consulted. Both long-term teams and tion," added Chris Parker, a student at the Seven of my 16 days of training were short-term delegations may be used to ac­ Earlham School of Religion. devoted to nonviolent civil disobedience. Civil complish goals. Next year's conference will be held Febru­ disobedience, including arrest, is seen as part CPT has had projects in Washington, D.C., ary 29--March 3, 1996, at Quaker Hill Confer­ of CPT mandate and as a rite of passage and Haiti, and has sent delegations to the ence Center in Richmond, Ind., with the theme (likened to baptism) in the life of a peace Middle East, where a new project has begun of"Ministering from the Divine Center: Emo­ activist. The trainers addressed the effects near Bethlehem. In Haiti, a small permanent tional and Spiritual Integrity for the Caregiver." (mostly beneficial, by their account) of im­ team was placed in Jeremie for over 18 For more information or to be put on the prisonment for peace witness activities. Suf­ months-from the time ofthe expected return mailing list, contact Bill Ratliff, Earlham fering in the pursuit of peace and justice was of President Aristide, through the U.S. inter­ School of Religion, Richmond, IN 47374, compared to the historical martyrdom of the vention. The team that left Jeremie in early telephone (800) 432-1377. church founders. We trainees participated in January is believed to have prevented human -Bill Ratliff two actions. One was a retirement party for rights abuses (the team lived in the house of a

FRIENDs JoURNAL July 1995 19 DISCOVER QUAKER PHILADELPHIA Two-hour walking tours of William Penn's original city of brotherly love, in honor of Penn's 350th birthday. priest who had received death threats). An­ an important model for group decision mak­ Send a SASE for schedule to: QUAKER other project in Haiti is planned for this year. ing, and Friends have extensive experience TOURS, Box 1632, ,Media, PA 19063. The project in Washington, D.C., started with secular models for consensus decision with door-to-door interviews in the neighbOr­ making. hood, addressing the residents' concerns about Friends share with our Anabaptist co-work­ violence. While many problems and fears ers a deep commitment to the peace testi­ THE HICKMAN surfaced, there was a consensus that a crack mony. Our twist on it, seeking and nurturing house was the focus for drug sales, prostitu­ ''that ofGod" in all parties to a conflict, rein­ tion, and violent crime. Attempts to get the forces our commitment to nonviolent change, city to close down the house were unsuccess­ and our testimony of equality leads us to ful. The CPT volunteers worked closely with value each human life. This orientation would the neighbors, organizing vigils, petitioning be useful to the peace teams movement as a Independent l..iving and Personal Care city officials, involving the media in exposing whole. I asked John Stoner, director of New c.orwenient to shops, businesses . the damage being done by the residents ofthe Call to Peacemaking and a member of the and rulrurol opporwnities house, and organizing community actions in­ steering committee of CPT, if he felt FPTP's Reasonable • Not-for-Profit cluding neighborhood patrols. After nearly efforts would somehow diminish the energy ~ Founded and operated 1:ft Quakers five months of concerted action, in which not of CPT and other existing programs. He said, l.:J 400 North Walnut Street only the neighborhood's concerns were ad­ "No, I never ask if we need another breakfast WestChester,PA 19380 (610)6~6-1536 dressed but also those of the people living in table, another family, or another peace group. the house (who were helped to relocate), the We need as many of them as we can get." house was permanently closed. Residents of In addition to what Friends can offer to the The "Video Newsletter of the neighborhood continue to meet and work peace teams movement, we should look at Guatemalan Friends Meeting," together to address other sources of violence. what the Society of Friends could receive by which describes its scholarship An apartment building in the same neighbor­ someday forming an active service corps of program for mostly indigenous hood will be the next focus of the CPT Urban peace team volunteers. Friends need experi­ students, is a colorful, music-filled Peacemaking Project. ence in the world to practice and refine our CPT has also sponsored delegations to processes and application of the peace testi­ testimony to the work of Right Sharing Israel and Palestine. Some members of these mony. (This does not mean that only Friends in the world. Contact Serita Spadone, delegations have participated in demonstra­ could participate in FPTs but that FPTs be {610) 942-3226, clerk of Right Sharing tions and civil disobedience in support of firmly grounded in Quaker faith and prac­ of World Resources Committee, local initiatives for a peaceful and just end to tice.) While participation in other initiatives Philadelphia Yearly Meeting, if you the Israeli occupation of the West Bank. In such as CPT may be a good way to gather would like to borrow this video to January a delegation traveled to Bethlehem to experience in peace team work, which is an learn more about the program. participate in efforts to resist the expansion of emerging field, Friends' participation in non­ Israeli settlements and confiscation of land Quaker initiatives dilutes the unique effects from Palestinian farmers. of Quaker practice. The benefits to the spiri­ It was exciting to participate in the training tual life of the Society of Friends would be Washington, DC is Affordable and to learn ofCPT's activities. Much ofthe comparable to the gifts Friends of the genera­ at William Penn House program was useful, and Friends Peace Teams tion ofWWH conscientious objectors and the can benefit from emulating it. The training's postwar relief work of the AFSC bring to us. emphasis on actions made learning the nuts I believe the Society of Friends needs to Capitol Hill Accommodations and bolts of a nonviolent campaign a con­ find more ways to incorporate volunteer ser­ $25 - $40, breakfast included crete, not abstract, experience. The anti-rac­ vice into its practice-not only for the good it Public Policy Seminars ism training proved very desirable, and should does for others but also for the good of the Meetings, schools, other groups be enlarged to consider cross-cultural prob­ Society itself. I believe service work, the lems of dominant group racism, internalized simple lifestyle it usually entails, and the ex­ racism, cultural imperialism, sexism, and dif­ posure of volunteers to the lives of the poor WILLIAM PENN HOUSE ferences in power and class background. are essential to the formation of the Quaker 515 East Capitol Street SE Friends can also draw upon the experience conscience. Friends' organizations need to Washington, DC 20003 and resources of the American Friends Ser­ support and encourage this as a part of our (202)543-5560 vice Committee for this sort of training. The faith and practice, not only for our youth but ''boot camp" training experience was one I for all Friends. found very difficult, but it did emulate diffi­ -Val Liveoak cult living situations volunteers might face. It also showed the Mennonite skill for simple, Fyfe & Miller even austere, living, which Friends would do To support Val Liveoak's work with CPT, FUNERAL SERVICE well to incorporate in a peace teams program. Friends may send checks made out to "Friends 7047 Germantown. Ave. Friends are well qualified in training for Meeting of Austin" at P.O. Box I0372, San Philadelphia, PA 19119 group process, team building, and teamwork Antonio, TX 7821 0. by drawing upon the experience of the Alter­ For more information about the Friends (215) 247-8700 natives to Violence Project. A VP also has a Peace Teams Project, wnte to FPTP, c/o Bal­ James E. Fyfe Edward K. Miller well-developed program ofexperiential train­ timore Yearly Meeting, 17100 Quaker Lane, Simple earth burial ing and training for trainers. Equally, media­ Sandy Spring, MD 20860. and cremation service tion work of several Quaker projects could Christian Peacemaker Teams may be con­ available at reasonable cost. provide training for potential volunteers. tacted at P.O. Box 6508, Chicago, IL 60680- Friends experience in meeting for business is 6508.

20 July 1995 FRIENDs JoURNAL Friendly Puzzle DELAWARE VALLEY FRIENDS SCHOOL Morris & Montgomery Avenues Quaker Bryn Mawr, Pa. For Students with Quote falls Learning Differences College preparatory, Grades ·7-12 by Dianne Kubota Summer School Come to an Open House To solve a Quotefall puzzle, fit the 526-9595 for info & video, letters in each vertical column into the "Learning with a Difference" squares directly below them to form words reading across only. The letters do not necessarily go in the same order One pathway to peace in which they are given. Each given leads ri~ht throu~h the letter will be used once. A black square halls of Con~ress indicates the end of a word. Words starting at the end of a line may continue in the next line. When all the letters have Call 202 547-6000 been placed in their correct squares, you will be able to read the completed A6k how you can help quotation across the diagram from left to right, line by line. brine Frlend6' concern for peace and jue;tice to Capitol Hill

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Gathering your The Nuclear Non-Proliferation Treaty be­ came permanent in a May II session of the memories for United Nations. Support for the indefinite re­ newal of the 25-year-old treaty banning the spread of nuclear arms was overwhelming. those ou love... The treaty makes it a violation of interna­ tional law for any country to acquire nuclear You can offer a window into arms. The agreement was made possible when past times by sharing your expe­ the five nuclear powers, the United States, riences and wisdom with Russia, Britain, France, and Canada, also ac­ younger generations in your cepted the goal of elimination of all atomic armaments, albeit without setting a deadline. family. The Storehouse Collec­ Nonnuclear countries that sign the treaty agree tion will travel to you. record not to develop nuclear arms and to allow you as you tell your life story. international inspection oftheir civilian facili­ and gather the richness of your ties. Sixteen countries have not yet joined the Margaret Hope Bacon speaks life into a beautiful hand-bound accord, including five nations thought to have about Lucretia Molt's pioneering book. We invite you to call us. the capacity to produce nuclear weapons. However, the agreement was signed immedi­ activism. (See "Race Street Meetinghouse" below.) The Storehouse Collection ately by 178 countries, making it the second Linda Lyman & Marty Walton most widespread treaty in the world, behind 505 Willow Road the UN Charter. (From the May 12 Philadel­ · Bellingham. WA 98225 phia Inquirer) business." The meeting proceeded with a cel­ (360) 738-8599 ebration to recognize the couple's relation­ Daniel A. DiBiasio was recently named as ship on Sept. 10, 1994. The specific wording Wilmington CoUege's 17th president. He ofthe "third way" did not alter Salem Quarter's will take over on July I for the retiring Neil decision, although ''there clearly was not unity Thornburn, who has Jed the college since on this course of action, even with Cleveland 1983. Daniel DiBiasio comes to Wilmington, standing aside." Though now disowned by Ohio, from the University of New Hamp­ Ohio Yearly Meeting, Cleveland Meeting re­ shire, where he served as interim vice presi­ mains affiliated with Lake Erie Yearly Meet­ dent for student affairs since 1991. His previ­ ing and will participate fully in the spiritual ous experience includes posts at Ohio State life ofthatbody. • m3tl1'13.

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•New York Yearly Meeting is celebrating its JULY 300th anniversary this year, and a tercente­ Through July I s::-''The Human Face ofHiroshima nary program will highlight its annual ses­ and Nagasaki," an exhibit commemorating the 50th sions, July 23-29, at Silver Bay, New York. anniversary of the atomic bombings in Japan, at In April 1695, New England Yearly Meeting ] Friends Center, Philadelphia, Pa Featured are draw­ released New York area Friends to form their c;:; ings by survivors, relics from the bomb sites, pho­ own yearly meeting. Events begin on Sunday, [ tographs, and displays emphasizing the human July 23, with a reception featuring Asa _.,._....,...... ~L.underground railroad, and gives us a vivid picture of the controversy within the Society ofFriends. Rebecca Buffum Spring tells of her trip to Harper's Ferry, where she braved an angry mob to visit John Brown in prison. All the Buffum sisters write clearly, sim­ ply, and entertainingly. While the book is must reading, it is also a delight. At a time LADY BORTON when the Society of Friends is struggling to understand its Quaker foremothers as well as FOREWORD BY GRACE PALEY forefathers, the revised volume will be read eagerly by students, small groups, and lay "Humane, angry, loving, smart, relentless, sweet, brave, caring ...." readers. • Tim O'Brien, author of In the Lake ofthe WOods - Margaret Hope Bacon

'Vivid and eloquent.... Rare for its honest, straightforward look at the ordinary Margaret Hope Bacon is a member of people we fought and their accomplishments and sufferings." Central Philadelphia (Pa.) Meeting and edi­ • Kirkus Reviews tor of Wilt Thou Go on My Errand? Three 18th-Century Journals of Quaker Women IN BOOKSTORES NOW FROM VIKING Ministers.

24 July 1995 FRIENDs JoURNAL Schools of Hope: Schools of Hope, Part One, "The Chal­ lenge of Educating Today's Youth," is a bril­ Developing Mind and liant and inclusive portrayal of how students are in the '90s, as described by themselves Character in Today's Youth and by their teachers. It is startling, especially By Douglas Heath. Jossey-Bass, San since there are so many different kinds of Francisco, Calif., 1994. 464 pages. $29.951 schools, communities, and parts of the world hardcover. that Heath studies and describes. The finale of Lives of Hope: Women's this first part, "Moving Beyond Academic Excellence," is the most persuasive presenta­ The Guest House and Men's Paths to tion I have ever heard of the thesis that aca­ demic excellence will never be achieved ifwe at Knoll Farm Success and Fulfillment fail to integrate the maturation of mind with Fin-_ Ptllct ofMi nllt~nlllUnnPIII ofSpirit on • By Douglas Heath. Conrow Publishing that ofcharacter and self Wonderful examples 150-A&rt 0"911nic F11,. in tht Hills ofVl""'Dnt House, Haverford, Pa., 1994. 297 pages. abound, not just exhortations but reasonable, Scotch Highland cattle, horses, pond, $12/paperback. essential ways of seeing this integration. organic gardens, pasrures with spectacu· Schools ofHope is the book I wish every Part Two, "The Missing Vision," speaks lar views, a well established guest teacher had in hand, and every school board . · to school people and parents. It also speaks house. Work in our gardens, hike our member, school administrator, college pro- about them and what they care most about narure trails, relax in our hanunocks, fessor, and commentator on education as well. and need to commit to. Here Heath's encoun- recreate your own spirit with a personal It also. is an inspiration and challenge to· par- ters with adults at many stages oftheir lives- retreat or in fellowship with other ents. It is by someone I have often called "a school people, but also people in many guests. Reasonable rates by day or passionate Quaker who is a psychologist and "worlds"-give powerful resonance to his week. For brochure, write: Ann Da~ teacher" and, at the same time, "a passionate findings about schools and colleges. Lives of Knoll Farm, Bragg Hill, Waitsfield, VT psychologist and teacher who is also a Hope focuses on adults who are successfully 05673 (802) 496-3939 Quaker." The combination is very powerful functioning in the world. This is not the life in Douglas Heath's writing, teaching, speak- work ofa psychologist focused on illness and ing, and research around the world. He stud- aberration. The same spirit suffuses Schools ies schools and colleges in great detail for ofHope . Heath is terrific on "vision," not just their impact on the lives, values, developing in the abstract but in the experience of life maturity, mind, and character of the persons itself, ofschool, and of"gardening" (a power- in them. Thousands of teachers, adrninistra- ful metaphor he works with in chapter seven, tors, presidents and trustees, students, and "Maturing of Mind"). Explicit study of"Ma- parents have heard Douglas Heath's mes- turing of Mind," "Maturing of Character," sage, watched these data emerge, and felt a and "Maturing of Self' sounds daunting. Yet part of his passionate and sophisticated study one reads those chapters, exhilarated and chat- of schools, of their climate, tone, spirit, and lenged and with mounting resolve to get back actual achievement in so many dimensions of to the next encounter with students, teachers, . life and learning. administrators, parents, or with one's own His book Lives of Hope follows his sub- quiet, reflective self as someone who cares jects from age 18 through 57. It is about what about education that matters. courage and vision and maturity are, about Both these books are about human excel- what makes an effective and flourishing adult, lence. They are companion volumes to each going through life's challenges, ordeals, tri- other, one focusing on many schools, col- umphs, and tragedies. Schools ofH ope makes leges, persons, and atmospheres, and one fo- clear the connection schools can have with cusing on seven lives across nearly 40 years. the adults who years later are who they are Friends can find themselves and their highest because ofso much ofw hat happened in their aspirations reflected in so much ofthese books. own schools and colleges. And Heath's fervor about the Quaker vision These are specifically Friends-spirited suffuses the tone of the books. While they are books, though they are for a very wide audi- major gifts to "the world," they are particular ence. Friends can see and hear their own gifts to Friends from a Friend, a ''passionate values affirmed, celebrated, made clear, and Quaker who is a psychologist and a teacher." honored in these books. Heath dedicates Both books may be ordered directly from Schools of Hope to the Friends Council on the author. Schools of Hope is being offered Education and to Haverford College, and has to Friends Journal readers for $25 and Lives a great deal to show in his research about the ofHopefor$12. Part ofthe proceeds from this Plowshares Institute impact ofFriends' teaching, Friends' practice sale will benefit Friends Journal. Contact and commitment, and the impact of these on Douglas Heath at 223 Buck Lane, Haverford, Group Study/I'ravel Seminars since 1981 • Africa • South America persons living their lives, lookingattheirown PA 19041, telephone (610) 649-7037. • Indonesia • Australia values, hopes, and commitments. Schools of • Central Europe • China Hope given the Critic's Choice Na­ has been -David Mallery Discover local initiatives for creating a more tional A ward for Outstanding Contribution to just, peaceful, and sustainable world. Education by the American Educational Stud­ David Mallery is director ofprofessional de­ P.O. Box 243 Simsbury, CT 06070 ies Association. 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FRIENDS JOURNAL July 1995 27 CONTINUING QUAKER VALUES IN Milestones HElPING 11PERSONS DEPRIVED OF TilE USE OF 1HEIR REASON" Births/Adoptions under the care of Wilmington (Del.) Meeting, of which Pam is a member. Friends Hospital continues to apply the Brynes-Adam Brynes, on Feb. 20, to Carol principles of moral treatment supported Phelps-Jones-Bruce LeRoy Jones and Robbin Watkins and Glen Brynes, of Baltimore (Md.) Mae Phelps, on Feb. 11, under the care of by our Quaker founders in the provision Meeting, Stony Run. Friends Meeting of Washington (D.C.). of outpatient, partial hospital, residentwl, Burson-Graham Morgan Burson, on Feb. 24, to home health, and inpatient seroices for Sue Gass-Burson and Tom Burson, of Langley Deaths adults, adolescents, and older adults with Hill (Va.) Meeting. Beal-/da Hyden Beal, 87, on Oct. 10, 1994, in emotional and mental disorders. We also Cundiff--Sarah Joy Cundiff, on July 1, 1994, to Alcester, S.Dak. A charter member of Evanston have specwl programs for eating Sandy and Dave Cundiff. Sandy is an attender (Ill.) Meeting, Ida graduated from the University disorders, substance abuse, and stress and Dave is a member of Louisville (Ky.) of Minnesota in 1928. In 1931 she married Charles Meeting. and chronic pain. Satterthwaite Beat of Chicago, III. Together they Dean-Sarah Maria Fain Dean, on Jan. 15, to were active in the Young Friends group in Chicago ~. Janice Fain Dean and Ben Dean, of Adelphi (lll.) Meeting until they helped found Evanston 4641 Roosevelt Blvd. (Md) Meeting. Meeting in 1936. Ida was deeply involved with the FRIENDS Garrett-Brendan Carter Garrett, on March 12, Woman's Society of Evanston Meeting, and she H OSP IT AL Philadelphia, PA 19124 served the meeting as treasurer for many years. 215•831•4600 to Mary Beth and Daniel Garrett, members of Abington (Pa.) Meeting. She and her husband had two children, and also welcomed into their home a niece who was or­ Hibbs-Jesse Alden Hibbs, on Nov. 29, 1994, to phaned at age three. When the children were grown, Portia Jones and Jonathan Hibbs, of Baltimore Ida found herself drawn into the work of Friends (Md.) Meeting, Homewood. World Committee for Consultation, and served on eturnecll to lPrint After l OOYears! Kerns-Noah Jackson Kerns, on Feb. 4, to that organization's Executive Committee. Ida is Kathy and Kevin Kerns, of Akron (Ohio) survived by a son, William Beal; a daughter, Alice Quaker Strongholds Meeting. Bea1 V edova; a niece, Roberta Mae Beal; a nephew; and seven grandchildren. by Caroline Stephen Letterman-Rachel Mariah Letterman, on Feb. Ha.rdbound...... $14. 95 25, to Mary and David Letterman, of Tacoma Bonner-Kermit W. Bonner, 85, on Jan. 24, at (Wash.) Meeting. Cadbuty retirement community in Cherry Hill, N.J. otftw %m'ence-6flte9?t'actice of th Born in Trenton, N.J., Kermit was a birthright esence ofGod Soft $4.95 Lrg Prt. $4. MarshaU-Owen Alexander Marshall, on Dec. member of Trenton (N.J.) Meeting, in which he 'The Wemofrs ofCo.lherlne Cf>hdlps 1726-1794 11, 1994, to Ellie and Norm Marshall, of Yellow was an active member all his life, until moving to 91 'Friends· 9il!nlskr lo 9lmerlco. 1753-1756 Springs (Ohio) Meeting. Cadbury in 1990. Kermit attended George School Hard $59.95 Comb Bnd{Normal or Lrg Print $24. Maxon-Paul Ferguson Maxon, on Feb. 4, to in Newtown, Pa., as a member ofthe class of 1931. ind q Rock Press Anna Ferguson and Jeff Maxon, of Berkeley He was co-fouqder of Bucks-Burlington Young (Calif.) Meeting. Friends Forum, a group of young Friends from 0 Box 6241 both Orthodox and Hicksite meetings in the early hula Vista, CA 91909 Windsor-Frances Maria Windsor, on Dec. 19, 1940s. This group was very helpful in the process 1994, to Robyn T. Windsor and Francis ofbringing the two meetings together in the 1950s. Schleunes Windsor, of Baltimore (Md.) Meeting, During World War II Kermit served briefly in Stony Run. Civilian Public Service camps, then joined the army as a medic. He worked with young people all ~annagesAJrrions his life and did a long volunteer service at the today program for drug and alcohol abuse. Kermit .Burns-Burns-G eorge S. Burns and Anna was involved in many projects for the American lvanovna Burns, on Dec. 28, 1994, at and under Friends Service Committee and the Dave Ritchie the care of Wilmington (Del.) Meeting, of which work camp programs in the greater Philadelphia, Anna is a member. Pa., area. He was active on many committees of Fullerton-Regal-Joe Regal and Meg Fullerton, Trenton Meeting, and headed the property com­ on April 1, under the care of Sandy Spring (Md.) mittee for many years. Kermit retired from the Encouraging and strengthening Meeting. State Department ofTransportation ofN.J. in 1974, spiritual life within the Society after 38 years as an accountant. Kermit was pre­ Halvorsen-Hamilton-Robert Bruce Hamilton ceded in death by his wife, Vera R. Bonner. He is through conferences, publications, and Kristen Astrid Halvorsen, on Nov. 5, 1994, at and visitation. survived by a daughter, Diane B. Wilgus; two and under the care of Wilmington (Del.) grandsons, Zak and Adam Wilgus; a sister, Dot Helping Friends understand the Meeting. Robert and Kristen are both members of Bonner; ahd a nephew. Wilmington Meeting. worldwide and diverse character of Hoff-Kurt W. Hoff, 90, on Jan. 22, at Foulkeways Quakers from liberal to evangelical, Hannigan-Tomasi- Ted Tomasi and Patricia C. retirement center in Gwynedd, Pa. Kurt joined the programmed and unprogrammed. Hannigan, on April 30, 1994, at and under the Society of Friends in 1938, and was an active care of Wilmington (Del.) Meeting, of which Pat member of Gwynedd (Pa.) Meeting since 1940. He Promoting consultation among all is a member. served as treasurer of trustees when Gwynedd kinds of Friends, in all places. Harper-Wilson-Bradley Wilson and Catherine Meeting acquired the land for Foulkeways in 1946. Facilitating presentation of the Ann Harper, on Nov. 26, 1994, at and under the His other Friends' activities included membership Quaker message to the world. care of Wilmington (Del.) Meeting. Cathy is a on Philadelphia Yearly Meeting's Peace Commit­ member of Wilmington Meeting. tee from 1962 to 1974, and two terms as his For more information: meeting's representative on the Abington Quarter Hatzin-Ciark- Jan Christian Smuts Clark and FWCC, Section of the Americas trustees from 1988 to 1994. In 1974 Kurt retired Georgia Hatzin, on July 1, 1994, at and under the 1506 Race Street from Norristown State Hospital, where for many care of Wilmington (Del.) Meeting, of which Jan years he was an accountant and gave generously of Philadelphia, P A 19102 USA is a member. {215) 24.1-7250 his time as a volunteer, teaching art classes for HiUegas-Cerchio-Richard Cerchio and Pamela patients. A few years before he retired, Kurt left Ann (Ferrare) Hillegas, on Dec. 17, 1994, at and accounting to work full-time in patient services.

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Accommodations After he retired, he tutored Cambodian refugees in Scatterg~; a son, Thomas Scattergood; nine For rent by night/week-Bedroom and bath. Share ~nglish an~ _worked in a program to help low­ grandchildren; one great-grandchild; a brother, kitchen. No smokers, drinkers, pets. Contact: Corinn7 lllCOme farmhes learn budgeting. All his volunteer Roger Scattergood; and a sister, Eleanor Regnery. Kreider Chapman, 14301 N. Chalk Creek Drive, Tucson, activities reflected his sensitivity to the human AZ. 85737-9312. (520) 825-2674. condition. Kurt was also a gifted amateur painter Wiser-:-Aiice Louise Wiser, 58, on April 2, of An oasis of calm In the heart of London? Yes, at the and poet. His oils and watercolors were exhibited cancer, m Hamilton, Ontario. Alice was born in Quaker International Centre, where short-, medium-, and longer-term accommodation is available as well as con­ in shows throughout the Philadelphia, Pa., area, Wichita Falls, Tex., and raised in Texas and North ference facilities. Excellent homemade food. For further and by the Quaker Artists of America. His poems Carolina. Growing up in the South in those years, information contact telephone: 0171-387 5648, fax: 0171 - ~ave been published in several magazines, includ­ she learned of the prejudice and injustice in the 383 3722, or write to: 1 Byng Place, London WC1 E 7JH. mg Friends Journal, and in a collection published world. She graduated high school as a National R?Om !n large apartment.with kitchen privileges, Green­ by the National Library of Poetry. Kurt is survived M~rit Sch

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Wednesday 617: 2-7:30 pm. Please WHO ARE QUAKERS? by Claire Simon: Describes '~ ,, Meeting, seeks a Head of School Friends' worship, ministry, and decision-making. Excel­ call: (61 0) 399-3415. beginning July 1, 1996. Wanted: lent tool for outreach and education. $26.50 (appr. 27 ..... practicing Quaker ~h teaching mins.) and supervisory experieriCe in progressive education Also available: CRONES: Interviews with Elder Quaker Opportunities setting, willingness to take leadership in fundraising, sensitivity to muHiracial issues, strength in communica­ Women-Claire Simon's first program. Quaker women Friends Journal is seeking candidates for a nine-month speak unselfconsciously about their lives, being Quaker tion skills, desire to take school into 21st century. Write to one-year internship beginning in summer or fall 1995. women, and their feelings about aging and death. 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