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SuThisnday Nyearove mtheber Men’s 21st 20 Club10 is pleased 9:30 a.m to. - 1present2:30 p.m . ANNUAL APT CHANUKAH BOUTIQUE Coming in Nov. & Dec. A Dinner for the entire congregation Each class will be taken to the boutique to buy Chanukah gifts for friends and family. NOVEMBER 1 Please send kids to school with money. ($10-15 suggested) YJF Service Seventh Night of Chanukah CELEBRATE CHANUKAH AT THE NOVEMBER 3 Mitzvah Day Tuesday, December 3, 2013 NOVEMBER 16 JEWISH APT Comedy Night COMMUNITY CENTER5:30 OF – 8:00PARAMUS p.m. NOVEMBER 17 APT Chanukah Boutique Plan to be with us for this wonderful Jewish Community Center of Paramus/ CELEBRATE CHANUKAH AT THE NOVEMBER 20 Congregation Beth Tikvah tradition, with a twist. Join us as we celebrate th Turkey Drive Chanukah with SRabbiJuEnWdIa SWeiner,yH D CeOcM eCantormMbUeNr I WeissT5Y C Eand N T Eour9R:3 Oentire0F aP.Am congregation.R AMUS It’s JoinNOVEMBER us 22 for a varietya great of wayspecial to join the Chanukahentire community in eventsthe observance of our beautiful Shabbat Dinner Festival of Lights.ANNUAJLoi nCH us AforN aU vaKriAetHy of J sCCpecPia lB CRhaEnukAKahF eAveSntTs NOVEMBER 24 Chanukah Breakfast All paTheren t evenings invite d will to a begin delic i withous ‘f ar e dinnere’ bre a forkf a all.st We thank the DECEMBER 3 and to be eMen’sntert aClubined forby hostingthe chi lthisdre nevent of th ine Hcelebrationebrew Sc hoofo Chanukahl Rooftop Candle Lighting . this year. Following dinner, at approximately 7 p.m., we will gatherTue sford athey D publicecem lightingber 7 tofh 2the0 1JCCP/CBT0 rooftop Cha- nukiyah (Chanukah Menorah). We will then go indoors and light the traditional Chanukiyah and participate in holiday ANNUAL CHANUKAH E XTRAVAGANZA songs along withs tour Hebrew school children and Paramus- SuPnLdEaAy STikvahNEo vNemO Singers.bTeEr: 2A1 WeD 2I 0Fwill1F0E play R E N Dreidel T F9:O3 andR0M a .AothermT. -!!1 2games,:30 p .andm.

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ANNUAL CHANUKAH EXTRAVAGANZA PLEASE NOTE: A DIFFERENT FORMAT!! 5:30pm—7:00pm Youth department and Hebrew School are hosting a Chanukah dinner and party for all 2nd-8th grade students. At 5:45 p.m. Rabbi Weiner and the children will light the roof-top Chanukah candles. This free event is for all children. (Adults are welcome to attend the roof-top lighting)

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From the Rabbi (No, that’s not a typo!) Look at all makes us different and special, the our ancestors. And as we do, we ac- the recipes that combine seasonal source of our pride and strength – knowledge that we are free in this favorites, like cranberry jelly-filled can still be threatening to us. We great nation to create the Jewish sufganiyot (the jelly donuts that are live this, and on some level pass it life of our own choosing, publicly, favored by our Sephardic and Miz- onto our children. It is time to lib- and without shame or fear. rachi Jewish community on Chanu- erate ourselves from this way of kah), or latkes made of sweet pota- thinking about our Judaism and So this Thanksgiving, I encourage toes with marshmallows on top. A our place in this nation. all of you to celebrate with all the kosher bistro in New York City even joy and enthusiasm that you are Which makes a larger point about boasts of a special chocolate sauce capable of, for it is a great day for the observance of Chanukah: De- for its Thanksgiving turkey special all Americans. But as you are cel- spite all the statistics — of late there made from traditional chocolate ebrating Thanksgiving late that have been so many reports — that Chanukah gelt. The possibilities Thursday afternoon, Nov. 28, 2013, constantly quantify and chronicle are endless — as is the heartburn light your Chanukiyah, your Cha- the large numbers of Jews who do that I would certainly get from eat- nukah Menorah, with that same not affiliate or participate in syna- ing any of this! (I do not have an joy and passion. For on that day, gogue life, who define themselves adventurous palate, as those who you are celebrating not only the as cultural Jews as opposed to reli- Rabbi Arthur D. Weiner know me will readily attest.) But courage of the Maccabees but the gious Jews, we know that Chanu- nonetheless I am fascinated by courage of each successive gener- kah is the most observed holiday all this and see several important ation, including our own, to carry It’s hard to believe that it’s only of all. And that should give us hope the middle of October and I need Jewish messages as well. on the struggle to live free as Jews, for the future because Chanukah is and to pass on that tradition to our to prepare a Chanukah message As we all know, Thanksgiving is a a story of Jews who cared enough for our November Bulletin. Rosh children. This year, for the first time uniquely American secular holiday. about their faith, to carry on and in years, and for the last time for Hashanah celebrated right after Though the pilgrims were inspired fight for their future despite the Labor Day weekend is one thing. many years, we will be able do so by the biblical holiday of Sukkot, most terrible conditions and per- on the day that we give thanks for But Chanukah in November? On which has been well documented secution. Each year we gather with Thanksgiving? Now that is really this great nation and the freedom over the course of many centuries family, neighbors and the larger that it affords to all of its citizens to something. Something that, ac- of American history, today Thanks- community to light candles, to sing cording to at least one source that I choose the manner in which they giving is celebrated simply as an of the courage and the victories of wish to live their lives. consulted, won’t happen again un- American festival, and Americans the Maccabees, and to recount the til 2070, then 2165 after that, and of all backgrounds and religious miracles that were experienced by And we choose Judaism. then for thousands of years after identities observe it extensively. that. That is rare indeed. So it is neither surprising nor even Celebrating our holidays at the special that we try to bring some same time as the larger non-Jew- aspects of our important Jewish Jewish Community Center of Paramus ish community is celebrating their holiday of Chanukah to our simul- major holidays is not uncommon. taneous celebration this year of Congregation Beth Tikvah We are certainly used to celebrat- the observance of Thanksgiving. E. 304 Midland Ave. · Paramus, NJ 07652 ing Passover amid Easter, and es- For unlike the “December Dilem- pecially Chanukah alongside ma,” the confluence this year of Phone (201) 262-7691 · Fax (201) 262-6516 Christmas. Indeed, this has been Thanksgiving and Chanukah does [email protected] one of the most interesting chal- not threaten us at all. We are se- Published monthly by the JCCP/CBT lenges throughout American Jew- cure, we are comfortable, and we ish history. At times we accentuate have brought aspects of both our RABBI Arthur D. Weiner their common themes and values Jewish identity and the pride that RABBI EMERITUS Aryeh L. Gotlieb (however real or imagined), yet at comes with it and our American RABBI’S STUDY 201.262.7339 other times we demand a certain identity and the pride we also feel CANTOR Sam Weiss amount of respect for Chanukah with it, to the observance of each and its uniqueness and integrity. holiday. It may make for some in- EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR Harvey M. Brenner We can’t have it both ways, nor teresting food and lots of jokes, but EDUCATIONAL DIRECTOR Marcia Kagedan should we — but at times we seem it does not threaten us or cause us HEBREW SCHOOL 201.262.7733 to want to anyway. to question our place in American PRESIDENT Harlan L. Cohen society. We have been contending with VICE PRESIDENTS Jacob Bauer Christmas and Chanukah, or what Compare that to the often hysteri- Howard Leopold we often call the great “December cal reactions of so many Jews and Wayne Zeiler dilemma,” for as long as Jews have Jewish organizations to even the lived in this great nation. But with most minimal references to Christ- TREASURER Paul Auerbach Thanksgiving not as much – by far. mas in the public square, or their FINANCIAL SECRETARY Harriet Kugler What seems to be especially in- need to harmonize or at least blur RECORDING SECRETARY Esther Marks teresting is all the fun that people the distinctions between Chanu- BULLETIN EDITORIAL The Bulletin Committee are having with this confluence. kah and Christmas. This testifies to BULLETIN EMAIL [email protected] Go on the Internet and see all the Jewish insecurity, the sense that references to “Thanksgivukkah.” religious distinction — that which Synagogue Office 201.262.7691 jewish community center of paramus / congregation beth tikvah

JCCP/CBT to Receive Homeland Security Grant On Sept. 23, JCCP/CBT was informed that we were selected to receive a Department of Homeland Security, Urban Area Security Initiative- Nonprofit Security Grant Program grant (UASI-NGSP or the grant) to Friday Evening Service upgrade our security hardware and systems, and to implement some much-needed “target hardening.” Friday, November 1...... 8:30 p.m. Young Jewish Families Service...... 7:30 p.m. If you remember, about two years ago we were the victim of an at- ONEG HOST: JCCP/CBT tempted firebombing that was thwarted at the last minute before any incendiary devices could be deployed or used. The attack formed the Sabbath ServiceS basis of our request for grant funding. Saturday, November 2...... 9:00 a.m. TORAH READING: Toldot The grant was a competitive process during which we had to undergo a vulnerability study, a needs assessment, and write and submit a grant KIDDUSH HOST: JCCP/CBT proposal including what upgrades we anticipated installing. We had to JUNIOR CONGREGATION:...... 10:00 a.m. compete with some 80 other New Jersey applications (as well as sev- MINCHA & MA’ARIV:...... 5:35 p.m. eral hundred from across the country). The answers to the application Friday Evening Service questions were scored and the results tabulated before being sent on Friday, November 8...... 8:30 p.m. to the U.S. Department of Homeland Security for final selection. Fortu- ONEG HOST: JCCP/CBT nately we were some of “the chosen people” and were the third New Jersey entity selected in a pool of 13 award recipients. Sabbath ServiceS Saturday, November 9...... 9:00 a.m. This is a reimbursement grant of $49,500 that must be used for the TORAH READING: Vayetze target hardening projects specified in the original grant application submission. We get the projects approved by DHSES (federal) and KIDDUSH HOST: JCCP/CBT OHSP (state) security departments; purchase, install and complete the JUNIOR CONGREGATION:...... 10:00 a.m. upgrades; and submit proofs of performance and expenditures to the MINCHA & MA’ARIV:...... 4:25 p.m. state. Only then are we reimbursed by the U.S. Department of Home- Friday Evening Service land Security and Emergency Services, through the State of New Jer- Friday, November 15...... 8:30 p.m. sey, Office of Homeland Security and Preparedness. ONEG HOST: JCCP/CBT Over the next 18 to 24 months, the projects will be designed and sent Sabbath ServiceS out to bid by approved contractors and vendors. Equipment and ven- Saturday, November 16...... 9:00 a.m. dors will be selected, contracts signed and work performed; requests TORAH READING: Vayishlach for reimbursement then will be submitted. KIDDUSH HOST: JCCP/CBT We are most fortunate to have received this grant and know that our JUNIOR CONGREGATION:...... 10:00 a.m. ultimate goal of providing a safe, healthy and accessible environment MINCHA & MA’ARIV:...... 4:20 p.m. for all our members, visitors and guests will be strengthened with this influx of grant funding. Friday Evening Service Friday, November 22...... 8:30 p.m. Look to the Bulletin for updates as we progress with the upgrades. SHABBAT DINNER...... 6:45 p.m. ONEG HOST: JCCP/CBT Sabbath ServiceS Saturday, November 23...... 9:00 a.m. Light TORAH READING: Vayeshev KIDDUSH HOST: JCCP/CBT the JUNIOR CONGREGATION:...... 10:00 a.m. MINCHA & MA’ARIV:...... 4:15 p.m. Sabbath Friday Evening Service Friday, November 29...... 8:30 p.m. Candles ONEG HOST: JCCP/CBT Sabbath ServiceS Friday, November 1...... 5:32 P.M. Saturday, November 30...... 9:00 a.m. Friday, November 8...... 4:24 P.M. TORAH READING: Miketz KIDDUSH HOST: JCCP/CBT Friday, November 15...... 4:18 P.M. JUNIOR CONGREGATION:...... 10:00 a.m. Friday, November 22...... 4:13 P.M. MINCHA & MA’ARIV:...... 4:10 p.m. Friday, November 29...... 4:10 P.M. Thank You

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Dear Congregants From the beginning, our members have been very supportive of our drive to dedicate the new Siddurim in our Synagogue. Siddur Sim Shalom is an updated siddur, with a more timely translation. The Hebrew prayers of course, remain the same, but the readability, translation, font and the overall appearance are fresh, timely and relevant to today’s needs. The response has been very strong. Many of you wrote back almost immediately, and many more right after the High Holidays. People appreciate the opportunity to dedicate books in memory or in honor of loved ones and to mark special events such as weddings, births, bar/bat mitzvahs, graduations, etc. Accordingly we are taking this opportunity to once again thank those people who have responded as of the above date. The people who have participated since the last thank you, and who we thank today, are: Sandra Barrett Lori and Michael Pechman Lana and Peter Brach Bea Sabin Michel Ehrentreu Jozefine and Stanley Schiffman Hillary Evans Marcia Schiffman Frieda and Alan Finkelstein Eileen and Marc Schneider Miriam Gluzman Iris and Barry Seplowitz Madeline and Asher Greenspan Karen and Richard Shapiro Harold Kaplan Carol and Mark Tendler Edith Maclin Marilyn Waxman Andrea and Stuart Mirowitz Karen Wolson Dedicating a siddur has always been a fitting and lasting tribute to our loved ones ... even more significant now, at the start of the New Year. If you would like to participate, you can get order forms by contacting me, or the office, or from our website online. This is a wonderful way to perform the mitzvah of helping your synagogue as well as honoring and/or remembering loved ones at the same time. Thank you, Fred Harris

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From the Executive director vidual’s professional competence. • Membership Development in April 2008, upon the submission It diff erentiates the certifi cate and Retention of my thesis (“Merging Congrega- holder from others in the fi eld. Ad- • Public Relations and tions … and the role of the Execu- ditionally, it demonstrates to the Advertising tive Director” http://www.natanet. members of his or her congrega- org/uploadedFiles/natanetorg/Re- • Budgeting and Finance tion, to other professionals em- sources/HBrennerMERGINGCON- ployed by the synagogue and to • Tools of Synagogue GREGATIONS.pdf) and after review the Jewish community at large the Management and approval, sometime during individual’s commitment to con- • Governance the summer of 2008, I received the tinued learning and improved pro- • Personnel and Human credential itself in November at fessional performance. Relations our NATA International Conference in Atlanta, Ga. Origin and Authority • Hebrew Literacy Only about 10%-15% of my col- The FTA Certifi cation Board (here- • Liturgy leagues attain this status, so I am after referred to as the “Board”), • Religious Customs and exceptionally proud of my achieve- established in 1962, is authorized Practices Harvey M. Brenner ment and use my FTA credential in to approve outlines and complet- 3. Applicants must write and sub- all my professional activities, much So this month’s question is, “What’s ed theses and to award its Fellow mit an original thesis on an ap- the same as a J.D., MSW or M.D. an FTA, anyway?” Not a week goes in Temple Administration Certifi ca- proved subject that not only is might in all his or her professional by where I’m not asked this question to those candidates who have of interest to the applicant but endeavors. I have it on my business tion, so I’ve felt compelled to an- complied with the requirements that will have universal, broad- cards, stationery, desk sign and my swer it. for certifi cation and have success- based appeal for others in the door sign. I’m not comparing this fully passed its examinations. An FTA (a Fellow in Temple Admin- profession. to any of the other degrees, but it istration) is a credential conferred It’s composed of three members of denotes clearly for “those who When all of this is satisfactorily jointly by the Union for Reform Ju- NATA (appointed by its president); know” that I have invested time completed (in my case the classes, daism, the Central Conference of two URJ consultants in the Depart- and signifi cant eff ort in learning exams and thesis took nearly three American Rabbis and the National ment of Synagogue Administra- and perfecting my professional years to fi nish), the candidate is re- Association for Temple Administra- tion (appointed by the president abilities, and that I am proud to viewed by the committee and if tion to those individuals who have of the URJ); and two representa- bring those skills to the congrega- found to be in satisfactory compli- demonstrated exceptional com- tives of the CCAR (appointed by its tion for whom I work. ance with all the requirements, he mitment to the highest standards executive vice president). In addi- or she receives the FTA credential So now you know. The FTA creden- of professional skills and profes- tion, an academician from HUC-JIR at the next national conference tial is something that ultimately sional growth in the fi eld of syna- is appointed by the chairperson of and may use these initials in any benefi ts our congregation and I gogue management and in recog- the committee. and all synagogue-related activi- hope you’ll see the fruits of my nition of the signifi cant role Objectives ties from that day forward. In my learning, as well as my labors in the synagogue administrators play in case, I completed the requirements months (and years) to come. the life and fabric of the kehillot • To establish standards of qualiﬁ - they serve. cation for Temple Administrators who desire and request the

When I began my professional Board’s certifi cation attesting to synagogue career nearly 11 years their ability to meet these stan- ago, it was with a Reform congre- dards. gation in Warren, N.J. Administra- tors of Reform congregations often • To issue Certiﬁ cates of Fellowship serve as role models for synagogue to those candidates who have members and the community. It is met its requirements. a demanding and challenging pro- • To further opportunities for bet- fession requiring individuals with ter training of Temple Administra- education, knowledge, training tors in order to elevate the stan- and distinct professional skills. The dards of the profession. counterpart within the Conserva- tive movement, conferred by Requirements for Certiﬁ cation NAASE (the North American Asso- 1. Applicants must be a senior ciation of Synagogue Executives) member of NATA with at least 3 is called an FSA, a Fellow in Syna- years of service in the fi eld of gogue Administration, and has its synagogue administration. own criteria for issuance. 2. Applicants must take classes The earning of an FTA by a temple and pass examinations in vari- To purchase scrip please contact the office at: administrator or executive director ous job-related subject areas in- [email protected] or 201-262-7691 is objective evidence of an indi- cluding:

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President’s Message Orthodox Jews. This represents a The Brandeis study allows you to who are not affiliated with any huge shift from before 1970, when scroll down to the local demo- synagogue. If we could just turn just 17% of American Jews were graphic details. According to the 2% of those unaffiliated Jews intermarried. report, there are an estimated into members of the JCCP/CBT, As Chancellor Eisen wrote on his 321,180 Jewish adults (those who imagine what a difference an ad- blog (and in an article that ap- self-identify as Jews and exclud- ditional 360 new members would peared in Israel’s Ha’aretz newspa- ing children) living in New Jersey, mean to the life and future of our per) before the release of the Pew which equates to 4.9% of the state’s synagogue. Report, the wait reminded him of general adult population. The According to the Pew report, 18% the old Jewish joke about the tele- Brandeis study also reported that of American Jews identify with gram sent by one Jew to another: in Bergen County, there are 56,310 Conservative Judaism, 35% with “Start worrying. Details to follow.” Jewish adults, which equates to the Reform movement, 10% with With the details now before us, 7.9% of its adult population. Orthodox Judaism (which has the Chancellor Eisen writes that “there In Bergen County, 9.3% of the Jew- youngest demographic) and 6% Harlan L. Cohen is certainly cause for renewed con- ish population is aged 18 to 24 with smaller groups. About 3 in cern about the Jewish future in (about the same percentage as the 10 American Jews (including 19% Major Studies on State of this country. The Pew findings do total Bergen County population); of Jews by religion and two-thirds American Jewry not come as a surprise, but they 10.3% is 25 to 34 (compared to 15% of Jews of no religion) say they do certainly constitute an urgent for the total county population); not identify with any particular In early October, with the end of wake-up call.” 15% is 35 to 44 (compared to 18.6% Jewish denomination. the High Holidays period, two ma- of the total county population); 20.2 jor studies were released that por- The two studies are in general Approximately 4 in 10 Jewish % is 45 to 54 (about the same as the tray the state of American Jewry agreement about the estimated adults (39%) say they live in a total county population); 20% is 55 in our time and underscore the Jewish population in America, household where at least one per- to 64 (compared to 16.8% of the to- magnitude of the challenges and about 6.7 or 6.8 million. This son is a member of a synagogue. tal county population); and 25.2% issues facing the JCCP/CBT and the equates to about 2.2% of the This includes 31% of Jewish adults is age 65 and above (compared broader American Jewish com- country’s total population. (The (39% of Jews by religion and 4% of to 19.5% of the total population.) munity on a daily and long-term Pew report came in at a slightly Jews of no religion) who say they Thus, when compared to the over- basis. lower percentage.) It also reflects personally belong to a synagogue, a significantly higher number of all demographics of Bergen County, temple or other congregation. One report was issued by the Pew its Jewish population tends to be American Jews than had been re- Within the three major denomina- Research Center’s Religion and significantly older than the rest of ported in earlier studies, such as tions, when Jews switch denomi- Public Life Project and is titled the population. This is further con- the National Jewish Population nations they tend to switch in the “A Portrait of Jewish Americans” firmation of what we already know Survey released in 2000 that es- direction of less traditional Juda- (http://pewrsr.ch/16IN5U4). The from our own synagogue. timated just 5.2 million American ism. The study found that 30% of other was by Brandeis University’s Jews, down from the survey’s 1990 Buried in the Brandeis data on those raised Conservative have Steinhardt Social Research Insti- estimate of 5.5 million American Bergen County is information on become Reform Jews, while ap- tute and is titled “American Jew- Jews and leading to concerns at Jewish Institutions (schools and proximately one-quarter of those ish Population Estimates: 2012” the time that American Jewry was synagogues). According to the raised Orthodox have since be- (http://ajpp.brandeis.edu). The two heading toward demographic col- study, there are two Conservative come Conservative or Reform, and reports already have stirred much lapse by 2020 or 2030. day schools in Bergen County and 28% of those raised Reform have controversy, rabbinic sermons and 12 Orthodox schools. There are left the ranks of Jews by religion dueling headlines about what it all According to the Brandeis report, a total of 29 Hebrew schools, of entirely. Much less switching is re- means for us today and for the fu- about 65% of American Jews are which nine each are Conservative ported in the other direction: just ture of American Jewry. concentrated in just six states: more than 20% in New York, fol- and Reform. There are also 27 early 4% of those raised as Conservative For those who haven’t had a lowed by 14% in California, 12% in childhood centers, of which eight have become Orthodox and just chance to review them, I have Florida, 8% in New Jersey, and 5% are Conservative. 7% of those raised in the Reform taken the liberty of summarizing each in Massachusetts and Penn- The Brandeis report found that movement have become Conser- some of their important findings sylvania. For Jewish adults, more there are 13 Conservative syna- vative or Orthodox. and incorporating some observa- than 13% live in New York City, gogues in Bergen County with The Pew survey notes that the tions from, among others, Chan- followed by about 9% in southern 10,700 members; nine Reform syn- percentage of U.S. adults who cellor Arnie Eisen of The Jewish Florida, 8% in Los Angeles, 7% in agogues with 8,755 members; 44 say they are Jewish when asked Theological Seminary of America. the New York City suburbs and 4% Orthodox synagogues with 18,500 about their religion has declined According to the Pew report, two- in Boston and its surrounding sub- members; and one Reconstruc- by about half since the late 1950s. thirds of American Jews do not be- urbs. (The Pew study found that tionist synagogue with 146 mem- “At the same time, the number of long to a synagogue. One-quarter 43% of American Jews live in the bers. That totals to 67 synagogues Americans with direct Jewish an- do not believe in God and one- Northeast, compared with 18% of with 38,121 adult members. By my cestry or upbringing who consider third had a Christmas tree in their the American public as a whole. It calculation, based on 56,310 Jew- themselves Jewish, yet describe home last year. The intermarriage also found that 47% of Jews reside ish adults living in Bergen County, themselves as atheist, agnostic or rate has reached a high of 58% in suburbs, 49% in urban areas and that would leave more than 18,000 having no particular religion, ap- for all Jews and 71% for non- just 4% live in rural areas.) adult Jews living in our county pears to be rising,” the survey says. jewish community center of paramus / congregation beth tikvah

Nonetheless, 70% of Jews who the deputy director of the project, bis Abraham Joshua Heschel and Chancellor Eisen has observed: were surveyed report that they Alan Cooperman, as quoted in The Abraham Isaac Kook, for example) We also need a new way of think- participated in a seder in the past New York Times: “It’s very stark. have likewise insisted that Judaism ing about intermarriage. My year, while 53% say they fasted for Older Jews are Jews by religion. is meant to be lived in this world concern on this subject is not so all or part of Yom Kippur in 2012. Younger Jews are Jews of no re- rather than apart from it. One does much that Jews marry non-Jews, Despite the changes in Jewish ligion.” not serve God (or embrace Judaism) but that so few young Jews are identify in America, “94% of U.S. by withdrawing from the so-called According to the report, “Jews tend involved with Judaism and Jew- Jews (including 97% of Jews by “secular world.” Many American to be less religious than the U.S. ish life enough to insist that the religion and 83% of Jews of no Jews have not gotten this message. public as a whole.” Thus, compared person with whom they share religion) say they are proud to be They have never experienced high- to the overall population, “Jews are their lives share that commitment. Jewish. Three-quarters of U.S. Jews level and exciting Jewish learning less likely to say that they attend I worry, too, that so few couples (including 85% of Jews by religion or reaped the tangible benefits of religious services weekly or that — whether inmarried or intermar- and 42% of Jews of no religion) strong community or seen Jew- they believe in God with absolute ried — want Jewish tradition and also say they have “a strong sense ish wisdom shaping social policy certainty.” Moreover, “just 26% of community for themselves and of belonging to the Jewish people.” — all blessings that came my way U.S. Jews say religion is very impor- their children. The only means of Large majorities of American Jews via Conservative/Masorti Judaism. tant in their lives, compared with persuasion is Jewish experience have reported that remembering They think the point of Judaism 56% of the general population.” of meaning and joy, whether the Holocaust (73%) and leading is to be “more religious,” and have (Orthodox Jews being the excep- in camp or school, synagogue an ethical life (69%) are essential to too often experienced religion as tion in this regard.) Nonetheless, or JCC, Shabbat table or text their sense of Jewishness. In addi- boring and removed from the life “while relatively few Jews attach study, in service to the neigh- tion, more than half (56%) say that they lead. That language, and the high importance to religion, far borhood or in support of Israel. working for justice and equality focus on prayer, chases them away. more (46%) say being Jewish is very We spend too much time count- is essential to what being Jewish We need more synagogues with important to them. ing Jews, I think (numbers have means to them, while 43% say that vibrant prayer and a range of com- never saved us), and too little caring about Israel and having a The Pew report notes that this “shift munal activities beyond prayer. And time (and money) making sure good sense of humor (42%) are es- in Jewish self-identification reflects we need institutions that offer what that high-quality Jewish expe- sential to their Jewish identity. broader changes in the U.S. public. Kaplan called “maximalist Judaism” riences are widely available in Americans as a whole — not just in nonreligious forms. Observing religious law was not forms attractive to millennials Jews — increasingly eschew any reported as central to the iden- The Pew report’s portrait of the and baby boomers, singles and religious affiliation. Indeed, the tity of American Jews. “Just 19% challenges posed by intermar- couples, Jews who want spiritu- share of U.S. Jews who say they of the Jewish adults surveyed say riage makes sobering reading. ality, and Jews engaged by pur- have no religion (22%) is similar to observing Jewish law (halakha) With regard to intermarriage, the suit of social justice. Let’s also not the share of religious ‘nones’ in the is essential to what being Jewish Pew study found (not surprisingly) be embarrassed to direct major general public (20%), and religious means to them. And in a separate that the rate of intermarriage is resources toward helping Jewish disaffiliation is as common among but related question, most Jews much higher among secular Jews 20-somethings meet one another all U.S. adults ages 18-29 as among say a person can be Jewish even if than among Jews by religion: “79% in contexts where they fall in love Jewish Millennials (32% of each).” that person works on the Sabbath of married Jews of no religion with being Jewish at the same or does not believe in God. Believ- The report goes on to note that “[s] have a spouse who is not Jewish, time as they fall in love with one ing in Jesus, however, is enough to ecularism has a long tradition in compared with 36% of Jews by another. place one beyond the pale: 60% of Jewish life America, and most U.S. religion. As would be expected, “intermarried Jews, like Jews of no As reported in The New York Times, U.S. Jews say a person cannot be Jews seems to recognize this: 62% the editor in chief of The Jewish Jewish if he or she believes Jesus say being Jewish is mainly a mat- religion, are much less likely to be raising their children in the Jewish Daily Forward who had urged the was the messiah.” ter of ancestry and culture, while Pew researchers to conduct the just 15% say it is mainly a matter of faith. Nearly all Jews who have a The Pew report finds that the survey found the results of the religion. Even among Jews by reli- Jewish spouse say they are raising “changing nature of Jewish iden- Pew report to be “devastating” be- gion, more than half (55%) say be- their children as Jewish by religion tity stands out sharply when the cause she “thought there would be ing Jewish is mainly a matter of an- (96%). Among Jews with a non- survey’s results are analyzed by more American Jews who cared cestry and culture, and two-thirds Jewish spouse, however, 20% say generation.” According to the re- about religion.” She cautioned that say it is not necessary to believe in they are raising their children Jew- port, 93% of Jews in the aging this “should serve as a wake-up call God to be Jewish.” ish by religion, and 25% are raising Greatest Generation identifying as their children partly Jewish by re- for all of us as Jews to think about Jewish on the basis of religion (re- In response to these trends, Chan- ligion. Roughly one-third (37%) of what kind of community we’re go- ferred to in the Pew report as “Jews cellor Eisen has suggested the fol- intermarried Jews who are raising ing to be able to sustain if we have by religion”) and just 7% describ- lowing: children say they are not raising so much assimilation.” ing themselves as having no reli- If Jews do not want to define them- those children Jewish at all.” Chancellor Eisen observed, quite gion (referred to in the Pew report selves by religion, let’s meet them As we have known for many years, rightly, that the report is “not occa- as “Jews of no religion”). where they are and recognize that the rate of intermarriage has risen sion for cheer. But neither should “By contrast, among Jews in the they are in good company. Morde- substantially over the past five de- it cause despair. Let it remind us, youngest generation of U.S. adults cai Kaplan wisely insisted 80 years cades. Nearly 6 in 10 Jews who have once again, that old strategies will – the Millennials [born after 1980], ago — as did every Zionist thinker married since 2000 have a non- not suffice in circumstances that 68% identify as Jews by religion, I know of — that we stop thinking Jewish spouse. Among those who are unprecedented. We need a de- while 32% describe themselves of Judaism exclusively as a religion, married in the 1980s, roughly 4 in gree of resourcefulness worthy of as having no religion and identify and instead conceive and live it as 10 have a non-Jewish spouse. For our tradition and our people. The as Jewish on the basis of ancestry, a civilization or culture. The greatest Jews who married before 1970, just next population study might well ethnicity or culture.” According to religious thinkers of our day (Rab- 17% have a non-Jewish spouse. bear the mark of our success.” Young Jewish Families invites you to Lunch, Chanukah Fun, and Arts & Crafts

Sunday, November 24 JCCP Social Hall; beginning at 11:30 AM

Students who finish Hebrew school at 11:30, come at 11:30; students who end at 12:30 come at 12:30. There will be plenty of food!

Adults: $6.00 Children 4-13: $4.00

After lunch, partake in arts & crafts and Chanukah fun.

For more information or questions, please don’t hesitate to contact Elana & Eugene Heitlinger at 201-229-0446 or [email protected]

Please send check and form by November 8 to JCCP/CBT/YJF, E 304 Midland Ave, Paramus, NJ 07652

Name:______

Telephone: ______E-mail:______

# of Adults:______Children 4-13:______0-3yrs:_____ jewish community center of paramus / congregation beth tikvah

Hebrew School News Youth Group News All are invited to participate in this Our youth groups this year are like racehorses bolting from the start- free program co- sponsored by the ing gate: Momentum and excitement are building fast with strong at- JCCP/CBT and the Jewish Federa- tendance at early events. One of the noteworthy events, something tion of Northern New Jersey. a little different, was held in honor of Parsha Noach. It was geared to Our first School on Shabbat and those we love dearly and with whom we spend a significant amount Parent Involvement Program was of time — our pets! On Sunday, Oct. 6, we held a Hebrew pet naming well attended and enjoyed. Thank event and were thrilled at the huge turnout of critters that gathered on you APT for lunch! All kindergar- the temple’s great lawn (where the sukkah stood). We saw cats, dogs, teners through seventh-graders gerbils and turtles, plus a few other pets — it was a gathering of which are invited to School on Shabbat even Noah would be proud! We even attracted pet owners from the and all adults can participate in PIP. Upper West Side. And now our little Lucy Lou can also go by the name Hope to see you next time. “Chamudah” (meaning “cute”). Our sixth grade began the Kehil- We want to extend a special thank you to Rabbi Wiener for the edu- Marcia Kagedan lah program. The parents and cational discussion and helping us come up with appropriate names children explored the complexi- for our pets. We also thank Larry Sturm (on behalf of Ethical Products) The school year is progressing quite ties of tzedakah, delving into how and Esther Marks for sponsoring the pet treats. And thank you to our smoothly. Each week brings new much, when, how and to whom photographer on the spot, Elyse Budnick. excitement. October featured our we give, with heated discussions We are proud to announce that on Dec. 14, the JCCP/CBT will be host- new SUNDAY SPECIAL PROGRAM and activity. ing the USY regional dance. Hagalil Regional Youth will organize the for pre-K to second grade. “FUN IN dance and provide the DJ, as well as the snacks. However, Debbie and coming in november: THE WOODS” was for our Hebrew I will be looking for volunteers to help us chaperone the event. Please school kids and the general public, • Sunday, Nov. 3: contact us — before we reach out and contact you. and enjoyed by all. Elinor Grayzel, a JFNNJ Mitzvah Day. Students will Wayne and Debbie Zeiler naturalist educator from Flat Rock make centerpieces for a Chanu- Brook Nature Center, took the kids kah party for Holocaust survivors. “If you talk to your children, you can help them on an adventure in the “woods” by Our older students will entertain to keep their lives together. If you talk to them skillfully, the JCCP/CBT parking lot. The kids residents at the Veterans Home in you can help them to build future dreams.” found treasures and learned about Paramus. the leaves, bugs and trees. ~ Jerry Seinfeld • Sunday, Nov. 10: On Nov. 3, we will have our second No school; teachers at a profes- ... and now a word from our USY advisor: Sunday Special with “FUN IN THE sional conference. The fun has already started at USY! At our opening barbecue at the end GYM.” Eve Lehrer, a gymnastics and • Friday, Nov. 15: of September, 25 enthusiastic and excited USYers came out to see old sports educator, will work with the Shalom Baby at 9:30 a.m. friends and make new ones. Many of the same USYers made the trip children and teach them some to Springfield for the Hagalil USY regional opening dance with more cool gymnastic moves, relating the • Saturday, Nov. 16: than 300 Jewish teens from all over New Jersey. We also had a movie experience to the mitzvah of tak- APT Comedy Night. night at the JCCP/CBT on Oct. 16. If you know any teens who would be ing care of our bodies and being • Sunday, Nov. 17: interested in learning more about the Dec. 14 regional dance or USY, responsible for our movements, PIP during Hebrew School hours. contact [email protected]. Don’t miss the opportunity for an etc. I know it is going to be a lot of APT Chanukah Boutique. amazing and life-changing experience! fun and I invite all pre-K to second- • Friday, Nov. 22: graders to join us, whether or not Gabe Cohen JCCP/CBT Shabbat dinner. Come they are enrolled in our school. wearing your sports jerseys! We also hosted SHALOM BABY in • Sunday, Nov. 24: The Jan Lauren Schonberg Library October for toddlers through 4- Chanukah breakfast. Hebrew year-olds. This month they worked Hours: Mon. 6:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.; Tues. 2:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.; School ends early. with numbers, made their own Wed. 6:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.; Sun. 9:00 a.m. - noon Play-Doh and had a really fun hour. HAPPY THANKSGIVUKKAH! Looking for our monthly calendar? The calendar will now be posted on the JCCP-CBT website separately from the bulletin. It will contain more details of all JCCP/CBT events. Click on ”Calendar” on our website: www.jccparamus.org

invites you as we CELEBRATE CHANUKAH Family Friday Night Shabbat Service and Program

NOVEMBER 1, 2013 - 7:30 PM

Please join us for our NOVEMBER Family Friday Night Shabbat service and program as we celebrate Chanukah.

We will have Chanukah foods and Chanukah toys. Please RSVP and let us know who is coming and who would like to lead a prayer.

Service and story time is followed by a light DAIRY oneg and playtime in the gym.

For more information or questions, please don’t hesitate to contact Elana & Eugene Heitlinger @ 201-449-0562 or [email protected] jewish community center of paramus / congregation beth tikvah

Sing with the Paramus-Tikvah Singers It’s really a lot of fun, and makes lots of people happy! Contact Cantor Weiss or just show up! On Thursday, Oct. 31, at 7 p.m., we’ll review some familiar oldies for Mitzvah Day on Sunday, Nov. 3. Whether you attend on Oct. 31 or not, join us in the JCCP/CBT parking lot on Sunday at 1:30 p.m. for song sheets and carpools, or you can arrive at 2 p.m. at the Dellridge Care Center (532 Farview Ave., Paramus). On Tuesdays, Nov. 12, 19 and 26, at 7 p.m., we’ll sing and learn songs for Chanukah. Then on Tuesday evening, Dec. 3, we will entertain the congregation at our annual family Chanukah program. No formal singing experience is necessary for any of these activities.

Young Jewish Families Sisterhood News Sh a b b a t Fa m i l y Se r v i c e a n d Pr o g r a m The JCCP/CBT Sisterhood continues its programs and activities at a Friday, November 1, at 7:30 p.m. rapid pace! Following our successful Paid-Up Dinner featuring Flavian, Family Shabbat Service and Program and celebrate Chanukah. an incredible and amazing mind reader, Sisterhood looks forward to Please join us for our family friendly Friday Night Family Service and several interesting events. Program, as we also celebrate the upcoming holiday of Chanukah. Join us on Nov. 10 at 10 a.m. when our very own Irene Reiss will show As always, we will begin with a light service and interactive story us her beautiful collection of menorahs — right in time for Chanukah. time, followed by playtime and DAIRY nosh in the gym, where the There’s much history in Irene’s collection and she looks forward to shar- children play and the parents schmooze. ing her collection with all JCCP/CBT members. Ch a n u k a h Pa r t y Find your inner Zen by joining us for yoga. Whether you can attend one Sunday, November 24, at 11:30 a.m. session or all of them, you’ll enjoy the peace and serenity of this class. Come to a Chanukah party! Beginning at 11:30, we will have lunch, November yoga takes place on Nov. 4, 11, 18,and 25 at 6:45 p.m. arts & crafts, and fun events surrounding the holiday of Chanukah. Please see flier with reservation form in this Bulletin plus on the For more information on any of our programs, or to get involved with website. Sisterhood, please contact Sisterhood President Wendy Steinberg at [email protected] or call her at 917-855-1491. Bi r t h d a y Ce l e b r a t i o n s Does your child have a birthday you would like to celebrate with YJF? We celebrate birthdays at our Friday night onegs. Please contact us to discuss! Men’s Club Sp o n s o r a n On e g Masters of the house, If you would like to sponsor an oneg for the Friday Night Family All of you Voltaires, Program, please contact us: $18 for a birthday cake; $18 for other Why not join the Men’s Club and forget your cares? snacks. A mere thirty-six small bucks, Young Jewish Families is the club for families with a child or children Might bring you lots of luck, under Bar or Bat Mitzvah age, their siblings, parents, and extended Be part of the gang of us Muckety Mucks! families. However, everyone is welcome to attend our activities and We could really use your input, events. We could really use your dues, For more information, please contact us at [email protected] or So come on guys get ready, 201-449-0562. Come and meet your fellow manly Jews! Thank you, Joe Esrig and Marty Basner Eugene and Elana Heitlinger Co-Presidents

IS IT PURIM ALREADY? ... While it's not officially time to think about Purim, it’s never too early to think about the Purim Raffle. It might be 5 months away but it’s already possible to reserve your favorite number. Just let us know what number you would like and we will record it for you, store it in a safe place and hold it until the raffle. Do you want your age? The age you would really like to be? A birthday? To reserve any number between 1 and 500, contact Fred Harris at [email protected], or 201- 444-2352. jewish community center of paramus / congregation beth tikvah

Community Affairs Every Day is Mitzvah Day SAVE THE DATE! The JCCP/CBT will be a host site for the Jewish Federation of Northern New Jersey’s Mitzvah Day on Sunday, Nov. 3, from 9:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. We will be hosting a Blood Drive at our shul in conjunction with Mitzvah Day at JCCP/CBT Community Blood Services. The Paramus-Tikvah Singers welcome those who would like to join them as they entertain residents of the The JCCP/CBT will be a host site for the Dellridge Care Center. In addition, we will have collection boxes in the synagogue lobby for: Jewish Federation of Northern • Items not covered by food stamps, including any non-food items New Jersey’s Mitzvah Day such as paper towels, toilet paper, cleaning supplies such as laundry detergent, dish detergent and other cleansers, and personal items Sunday, November 3 such as bar soap, shampoo and hair conditioner. 9:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. • Old cell phones and eyeglasses • Non-perishable food items for the Paramus Pantry We will be asking people to donate blood Our Fall Fran Leib Memorial Turkey drive will take place on Wednes- for our blood drive in conjunction with day, Nov. 20. We are collecting frozen kosher and non-kosher turkeys Community Blood Services INSIDE the shul. and the fixings to complete a Thanksgiving holiday dinner. We also ac- cept monetary donations in the form of ShopRite gift cards and checks In addition, there will also be collection made out to the Center for Food Action. Drop off your donations to the parking lot of the JCCP/CBT from 7-9 a.m. on Nov. 20. If you can’t make drives with bins in the shul lobby for: it to the synagogue that day, you can drop off bags of food in the collec- A. Items not covered by food stamps, tion box in the synagogue lobby. We can even arrange to pick up your frozen turkey donations beforehand. including any non-food item such as On Sunday, Dec. 8, a group of volunteers will travel to the Saddle Brook paper towels, toilet paper, cleaning Center for Food Action warehouse to help sort food. Thank you to Merle supplies such as laundry detergent, Harris who chairs this project. Contact Merle at [email protected] if you want to help. Don’t forget our ongoing year-round food drive; dish detergent, bars of soap, shampoo, pick up an extra can of tuna or a box of pasta when you are shopping conditioner, bathroom cleansers, and put your items in the food collection box in the JCCP/CBT foyer mirror cleansers and floor cleansers, etc. whenever you are here for a meeting or event during the week. We will be making Chanukah gift bags this month to be donated to B. Non-perishable food items for the Jewish residents of the Bergen Regional Medical Center, a project our Paramus Pantry. synagogue has supported for many years. Thank you to Laura Menter for continuing to chair this much-appreciated effort. Call the synagogue office or Roz Gerard for more information. If you love to knit and crochet, we are continuing to hold our knitting bees. Our finished items are sent to the Tikvah Orphanage in Odessa, Russia. We have lots of yarn available. We’ll even pick up your work! We usually meet on the last Monday of the month, but we encourage you to knit on your own if you don’t have time to come to our meetings. For more information, please contact Elaine Cohen at 201-447-2485. Our Chesed Committee has volunteers available if you or someone you know needs temporary help shopping or a ride to services or doctor appointments. Call Eileen Schneider at 201-722-1606 or Nina Glaser at 201-262-1775. Our committee would love to hear from you if you have an idea for a project. Contact committee chair Roz Gerard at [email protected] or 201-262-5828.

The deadline for the next Bulletin is NOV. 7! jewish community center of paramus / congregation beth tikvah

Adult Education ”He who does not increase his knowledge, decreases it …” (Pirke Avot, 1:13) Our Fall Adult Education Kickoff event was a great success. The tour of the Rare Book Room of the Jewish Theological Seminary was fasci- nating and informative. We saw hundreds of Jewish books, illuminated manuscripts, and other treasures that date back to the Middle Ages. Rabbi Arthur Weiner’s Fall Adult Education class “The Legends of the Jews” will continue to meet in November. The class explores some of the more famous legends and stories through which our Rabbis and Sages explained the Bible and Jewish law, as well as the stories of their lives and their struggles against the Roman Empire. Through these stories we learn not only about our Jewish heritage, but also the brilliance POTATO of our Rabbis who helped save Judaism after the destruction of the Sec- ond Temple. Wednesdays, Nov. 6, 13 and 20 at 3 p.m. and 8:15 p.m. LATKES Cantor Sam Weiss invites you to join The Paramus-Tikvah Singers, previously known as the JCCP Singers. Please see this issue of the Bul- from Beth Chananie letin for more information on this enjoyable activity. Please visit our website’s Listen and Learn page (under the “Learning” menu) for MP3 recordings of the Torah Aliyah Blessings, Ashrei and Bir- Ingredients: kat Hamazon, as well as some High Holidays melodies. The recordings are matched to Hebrew and transliterated PDF sheets of the prayers. 4 cups grated (not peeled) raw potatoes, drained (save the liquid and starch — see below) Thank you to our member Bob Nesoff, who spoke so well at our Octo- 3 large eggs ber JCCP/CBT Book Club meeting about his book “Spyder Hole.” Dr. Raisy Weiss will be the facilitator at our next meeting on Monday, Dec. 2 teaspoons baking powder 9, at 6:45 p.m. with a discussion starting promptly at 7 p.m. The book: 1 large onion, grated fine “The Dreamers,” by Yossi Klein Halevi. An acclaimed journalist, Halevi 1 cup matzoh meal “interweaves the stories of a group of 1967 paratroopers who reunited Jerusalem, tracing the history of Israel and the divergent ideologies 1 teaspoon salt shaping it from the Six-Day War to the present.” A dairy dessert will be Smidgen of pepper served. Any questions, please call Beth Chananie at 201-262-0063 or Canola oil for frying Mimi Levin at 201-265-0454. Please join us for these regular events: Preparation: • Drosh and Nosh – Wednesdays 7:30-8 p.m. An opportunity to study As noted above, when grating the potatoes in a the week’s Torah portion with fellow congregants, taught by a differ- bowl, you will see that when you drain the liquid, ent person each week. the starch has formed in the bottom of the bowl. Save the starch (not the liquid) and mix it in with • Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow – Mondays at 1:30 p.m. Everyone is the potatoes. Add in all the ingredients and stir welcome to join these lively and popular weekly discussions led by Al well. Nahum. Put about 3/4 of an inch of oil into a large fry pan. Most of the Adult Education classes and events at the JCCP/CBT are offered without any fees. In order to cover our expenses for events like a scholar- Let the oil get very hot (test by dropping in a tiny in-residence or a speaker, we rely on donations from our Annual Adult Ed bit of the mixture and make sure it bubbles all Appeal letter. If you have not already made your donation, it’s not too around). Drop potatoes by tablespoon and fry on late! Any donation is most welcome: Patrons $100; Sponsors $72; both sides until crispy. Drain on paper towels. Salt Builders $36; Supporters $18. Make your check payable to JCCP/CBT and pepper to taste.Serve with applesauce and/ and include a note to credit it to Adult Ed. or sour cream (depending if you are serving dairy or meat). Thank you to these members who sent in their contributions after the deadline for the October article: You can make these ahead of time. I stack them vertically in a plastic container and pop them in Sponsors: Phyllis & Ken Glatzer; Stanley and Jozefine Schiffman the oven to heat and get crispy. They also freeze Builder: Phyllis and Stephen Waterstone very well. Supporter: Harriet Mutnick

Friday Night Dinner

Jewish Community Center of Paramus/Congregation Beth Tikvah E. 304 Midland Avenue – Paramus NJ November 22ndat 6:45 p.m.

OPTIONAL: WEAR YOUR FAVORITE TEAM JERSEY!!

Enjoy a delicious catered dinner in our social hall, unwind and schmooze with your friends and family before services at 8:30 p.m.

$18 per adult $8 per child age 6-13 Kids 5 and under are free Maximum charge of $54 per family (Immediate family members only)

RSVP by Tuesday, November 19th Email us: [email protected] or call 201-262-7691

If you have special dietary needs, please contact Laurie ([email protected]) or Esther ([email protected]) to ensure we order accordingly.

Please let us know if you would like to reserve a table with your family and friends

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This third blessing is only recited on the fi rst night.      1. Baruch ata Adonai, Eloheinu melech ha'olam, asher kid'shanu b'mitzvotav,

1.1. Baruch Baruchv'tsivanu ata ata Adonai, Adonai, l'hadlik EloheinuEloheinu neir shel melechmelech Chanukah. ha’olam, ha'olam, asher ashe kid’shanur kid'shanu b’mitzvotav, b'mitzvotav, v'tsivanu l'hadlik neir shel Chanukah. 1.1. BaruchPraisedv’tsivanu ata are l’hadlik Adonai, you, neirLord Eloheinu shel our Chanukah. God, melech Ruler ha'olam, of the univ asheerse,r kid'shanu who has b'mitzvotav,sanctified our lives 1. Praisedv'tsivanuthrough are you, His l'hadlik Lordcomandments, neirour shelGod, Chanukah. Ruler commanding of the univ userse, to kindle who thhase Chanukah sanctified ourlights. lives 1. Praised are you, Lord our God, Ruler of the universe, who has sanctifi ed our lives 1. Praisedthrough are Hisyou, comandments, Lord our God, commandingRuler of the univ us toerse, kindle who th hase Chanukah sanctified lights. our lives through His commandments, commanding us to kindle the Chanukah lights. through His comandments, commanding us to kindle the Chanukah lights.  CELEBRATE CHANUKAH AT THE  JEWISH COMMUNITY CENTER OF PARAMUS 2. Baruch ata Adonai, Eloheinu melech ha'olam, she'asa nisim la'avoteinu, 2. Baruch ata Adonai, Eloheinu melech ha’olam, she’asa nisim la’avoteinu, 2. Baruchbayamimbayamim ata ha’heimAdonai, ha'heim bazman Eloheinu bazman hazeh. melech hazeh. ha'olam, she'asa nisim la'avoteinu, 2.2. BaruchPraisedbayamim ata are Adonai, you, ha'heim Lord Eloheinu bazmanour God, melech hazeh. RulerJoin ha'olam, of the usuniv she' erse,forasa whonisim a performed varietyla'avoteinu, miracles of forspecial our Chanukah events 2.2. Praised Praisedbayamimancestors, are are you, you, ha'heim in LordLord those our ourbazman days, God,God, in Rulerhazeh. this ofseason.of thethe universe,univ erse, who who performedperformed miraclesmiracles for our for our ancestors, in those days, in this season. 2. Praisedancestors, are you, in Lordthose our days, God, in Rulerthis season. of the universe, who performed miracles for our ancestors, in those days, in this season.    3. Baruch ata Adonai, Eloheinu melech ha’olam, 3. Baruchshe’he’che’yanu, ata Adonai, v’ki’y’manu Eloheinu v’higi’anu melech ha'olam,lazman hazeh. 3. Baruchshe’he’che’yanu, ata Adonai, Eloheinu v'ki’y'manu melech v'higi’anu ha'olam, lazman hazeh. 3.3.3. BaruchPraised Praisedshe’he’che’yanu, ata are Adonai, you,you, LordLord Eloheinu v'ki’y'manu ourour God,God, melech Ruler Ruler v'higi’anu ofha'olam, of the the lazmanuniverse, univ erse, haze for for h.giving giving us us life, life, for for sustaining sustaining us, us, andshe’he’che’yanu, for helping us to v'ki’y'manureach this moment. v'higi’anu lazman hazeh. 3. Praisedand are for you, helping Lord us our to God,reach Ruler this moment. of the univ erse, for giving us life, for sustaining us, 3. Praisedand forare helping you, Lord us ourto reach God, thisRuler moment. of the univ erse, for giving us life, for sustaining us, th and for helping us to reach this moment. Sunday December 5 at 9:30am

ANNUAL JCCP CHANUKAH BREAKFAST All JCCP members invited to a delicious ‘free’ breakfast Sponsored by Sisterhood, Men’s Club & Young Jewish Families You will be entertained by the children of the Hebrew School And the JCCP Singers led by Cantor Sam Weiss

Tuesday December 7th

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The Congregation Gratefully Acknowledges the Following Contributions: Contributions “Sharing is equal to all of the Commandments.“ GENERAL OPERATIONS FUND In Memory Donor In Honor Donor Stu Smith’s beloved sister Dr. Francine Smith Eve & Stu Lehrer Randy & Paul Auerbach’s new granddaughter Gloria & Al Nahum Speedy Recovery Donor Beth & Rob Chananie’s new granddaughter Phyllis & Larry Polevoy Fred Barko Gloria & Al Nahum In Memory Donor Gary Hutmacher’s beloved mother, Ida Debbie Rosenberg GEORGE REISS MEMORIAL FUND Helga Bodeen In Honor Donor Stu Smith’s beloved sister, Dr. Francine Smith Lotte & Fred Buff Irene Reiss’s 90th birthday Rhoda Fried Gerald Solomon’s beloved wife, Ida Eileen Glasser Susan Bernstein Bia Roth’s beloved husband, Martin Iris & Herb Fleishman Kurt Lichten’s beloved wife, Selma Lotte & Fred Buff YOUTH FUND Bea & Gerald Hahn In Honor Donor Edythe Fried Carol & Andy Rossmer Sam Weiner’s Selichot honor Gloria & Al Nahum Beth & Rob Chananie’s new granddaughter Sandy & Steve Charatz RABBI WEINER DISCRETIONARY FUND COMMUNITY AFFAIRS TZEDAKAH FUND In Honor Donor Renee & Marc Robbins’ new granddaughter Gloria & Al Nahum In Honor Donor Dr. Selma Mitchel’s birthday Melitta & Fred Lorsch Beth & Rob Chananie’s new granddaughter Roz Gerard Sam Weiner’s Selichot honor Hilda & David Luria In Memory Donor Bea Sabin Gary Hutmacher’s beloved mother, Ida Roz Gerard Dan Leib Debbie & Mark Berman CAPITAL PROJECTS Merle & Fred Harris’ grandson’s Bar Mitzvah Marylin & Bruce Granat Speedy Recovery Donor Rabbi Arthur Weiner Marylin & Bruce Granat Ade Noe Gloria & Al Nahum Harriet Cohen for her many years at the ECC Susan Posner KIDDUSH FUND In Memory Donor In Honor Donor Gary Hutmacher’s beloved mother, Ida Phyllis & Steve Waterstone Bea Sabin Gloria & Al Nahum Deborah Kaplan Emily Linden Fran & Dan Aronesty’s anniversary Gloria & Al Nahum Stu Smith’s beloved sister Dr. Francine Smith Suzy & Steve Julis Sam Weiner’s Selichot honor Dr. Selma Mitchel Mark Tendler’s beloved father, Mayer Beverly & Barry Fishman Ina Feinstein & Ian Shore In Memory Donor Stu Smith’s beloved sister Dr. Francine Smith JCCP Sisterhood Board Speedy Recovery Donor Bruce Granat Gloria & Al Nahum Leipsner/persofsky scholarship fund Sandy & Steve Charatz Speedy Recovery Donor Fred Harris Bruce & Marylin Granat Ellie Pomerantz Dr. George & Sheila Leipsner

TORAH REPAIR FUND YAHRZEIT DONATIONS In Honor Donor In Memory Donor Beth and Rob Chananie’s 35th wedding anniversary Gloria & Al Nahum Sylvia Rosner Norman Rosner Harriet Kugler’s granddaughter’s wedding Bernice & Shel Berman In Memory Donor LARRY LEVINE MEMORIAL GARDEN Gary Hutmacher’s beloved mother, Ida Gloria & Al Nahum In Honor Donor Beth & Rob Chananie’s new granddaughter Nina & Russell Rothman Speedy Recovery Donor Jean Weiss Gloria & Al Nahum In Memory Donor Gary Hutmacher’s beloved mother, Ida Judith & Barry Abel Religious School fund Mark Tendler’s beloved father, Mayer Judith & Barry Abel In Honor Donor Beth and Rob Chananie’s new granddaughter Eve & Stu Lehrer Bernice & Shel Berman Susan & David Spiegel and Linda & Paul Duboff Simchat Torah honors ✡ ✡ ✡ Eve & Stu Lehrer jewish community center of paramus / congregation beth tikvah

haPPy biRthday November 1 Leon Jaff e Joan Mintz Arnold Mayer Laura Schneider Lawrence Mintz Yahrzeit Roberta Moskowitz November 2-8 O bservances Rima Rosenstein For the week of November 1 ROBERTA BROWN Lisa Mutnick Glen Schaeff er We Remember: BERNARD COHEN Wayne Zeiler ANNE GREENBERG HARRY KANTROWITZ Edward Beslow November 23-29 ROSE KLIPPER SHIRLEY MARCUS Herman Lopyan Herbert Gruenstein YAFFA MASHMOOR ALLEN ROSENBERG Lori Brayman Nancy Luks JACOB SCHONBERG EDWIN ROSENBERG Yelena Pyatski Irma Soled RUBIN SPIEGEL Shari Brodsky Mona Storch For the week of November 2-8 ANDREW EDLIN Rhonda Gordon Patrick Brown We Remember: ISAAC GALINSKY Anita Preefer Joshua Kates MAURICE AUERBACH HENRY GOLDWEITZ Melvin Mark Cindy Kestenbaum LENA LEVINE TILLY LAKE Ronnie Schmidt Carol Langer JEANNE STURM LEOPOLD LICHTENSTAE- Jill Wiser Martin Rosenbaum ADELLE CLOVER DTER Jerome Jay Melanie Weisberg MINA NACHT SARAH SIMON BLANCHE TEPLITZKY Leon Vaks Michael Aronesty BERTRAM WINTERS ROSE WEINER Susan Kahn WILLIAM FLEISHMAN November 9-15 REUBEN GLATZER Daniel Liebgott PERRY LEVINSOHN Suzana Julis HELEN HERMAN IRENE NECHES Marc Robbins ANNE LASKOWSKI Marcia Katz Marissa Rosenzweig JESSE PORITZ MIRIAM MANKO LEON ROMANER Marsha Lowenthal Susan Matalon Bernard Blick HERTA NATHAN REUBEN BARRETT Celia Segal WILLIAM WARSHAWSKY RICA ANTEBI Leon Wiser Lana Brach Phyllis Radest JOSEPH HABER DOROTHY EPSTEIN Evelyn Masheb PAMELA KALMANSON Sally Prosky MINNIE MOSKOWITZ Eliahou Murad HELEN SPALTER Joan Simmons MARCUS KUGLER November 30 MENDAL IZOWER SAMUEL LICHTENSTEIN Roslyn Stern ISRAEL WILENSKY Richard Ziskin Jacob Bauer ESTHER MEYER JOSEPH BERMAN ELSIE PALEY Esther Kantrowitz November 16-22 NAOMI STERNBERG MOSES ROSENBERG Rhoda Manndel Eleanor Belner For the week of November 9-15 DAVID HIMMELMAN Sylvia Karpen We Remember: LENA PERSOFSKY Lola Weber RACHEL DANIELS JAN SCHONBERG Gladys Kozuch EDNA DAVISON ISIDORE STEIN Myrna Levine LARRY LIEBOWITZ For the week of November 23-29 Judith Abel HARRIS PLOTKIN We Remember: Michael Ginsberg MOLLIE WILENSKY FRANCES DANIELS David Knopf SAMUEL WEBER JACK FRIEDMAN MazelTov ESTELLE BARON MARY TEPPER BERNARD GREENBERG AARON LOPYAN TONI HELLER MAX STIEFEL haPPy annivERSaRy GOLDIE SCHWARTZMAN IRA BROWN HAROLS STANDIG November 2-8 ELKA FRANK MALCA GOLDISH MORRIS KNEPFER Alan & Dina Stein IRVING KAUFMAN EVA KURLAND Howard & Eileen Turner IRVING ROESCH MINNIE MANDELKER Michael & Barbara Epstein GABRIELE SAMUEL ABRAHAM DANZIGER Michael & Candice Feiler November 16-22 JEROME WEISS GARRET DAVIS Frank & Dara London Jeff & Carrie Weiss SYLVIA MANDLE ALFRED SINGER Michael & Lori Pechman RAHKIL MAYMAN Howard & Julie Leopold SHIRLEY STERNBERG Ronald & Debbie Stern JEAN WINER David & Wendy Steinberg SALO ECK Daniel & Barbara Liebgott MILDRED ALEXANDER JACOB ELLINGER Arthur & Renee Abrams Eric & Mindy Nudelman RONNI ALTMAN BERTHA HABER Irving & Marsha Weiser AARON JAFFE ABRAHAM KAHAN November 9-15 Gary & Helen Hutmacher MAX LESERKEWICZ BEATRICE SIEGEL Herman & Rachel Linden- November 23-29 LILLY LICHTMAN BELLA MINTZ baum Jacob & Heidi Goldberg MARTHA BASS ROMAINE RUSK Donald & Belle Rosenbloom Kenneth & Phyllis Glatzer MILDRED BOTWINICK JAY SCHINDEL Andrew & Carol Rossmer JERRY KUGLER Jack & Joan Mintz For the week of November 30 Mark & Margot Monka VIVIAN SPIEGEL Sam & Roslyn Weiss We Remember: Elan & Jean Lipshitz Ralph & Marilyn Berkowitz For the week of November 16-22 HARRIET EHRENRICH Paul & Janet Mannasse We Remember: November 30 TOBY ROTH Arnold & Babette Mayer KURT ADLER TILLIE WEINER Steven & Sandra Charatz George & Rachel Malamud jewish community center of paramus / congregation beth tikvah

JCCP/CBT BOARD OF TRUSTEES MINUTES September 24, 2013

Harvey Brenner reported some membership statistics: Membership count is at 478; 18 units changed their membership categories; we purged 41 names that were designated as write-offs, resignations, etc. Rabbi Weiner contacts members who resign; we have 18 new members since July 1; 5% of members have request- ed dues adjustments; 42% are full family; 42% are seniors; 3% are young families; remaining is scattered. In June, Joe reported that we were applying for a Homeland Security grant. We have received $49,500 to be used for security upgrades. Harvey, along with Harriet Kugler and Esther Marks, will attend a meeting in Trenton on Oct. 2 to learn how the grant is administered. It will take about 18 months to get through the process and start receiving monies. We are working on bringing Wi-Fi into the building and getting new signage inside and outside the building. Arthur Abrams reported that Oct. 1 is the scheduled closing date for the New Milford property. Harlan Cohen reported that we have received a draft contract from Shelter Development and it is under review by Geri Beers, the real estate attorney we are using for this project. Shelter is pushing us to sign a deal by the end of this month. Harriet Kugler presented the budget, which shows a deficit of $50,429. Discussion ensued. Among many suggestions to address this budget deficit was one in which we would add $40,000 to our loss now and take the hit so we can make improvements such as technology upgrades for the Hebrew School; Wi-Fi enable the JCCP/CBT; implement an advertising/marketing campaign; membership outreach and programs to at- tract new members. It was decided to adjust the budget to a $90,000 deficit, which will be presented to the membership for a vote in October. Good and Welfare: • Arthur Abrams thanked us for welcoming CBT families and making everyone feel at home during the High Holidays. He also thanked the Rabbi and Cantor for beautiful High Holidays services. • Eileen Schneider thanked CBT members for their participation and wonderful davening during the High Holi- days services. • Roz Gerard announced that Beth and Rob Chananie became grandparents to a little girl. • Harlan Cohen announced that his son Simeon will be spending a year in Jerusalem for his second year of rab- binical school. • Mimi Levin announced that her son and daughter-in-law have adopted a little girl from Morocco, and she should be arriving in the U.S. shortly.

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