Aratohu Tangihanga.Tangi Guidelines
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Ngā Aratohu Tangihanga Tangihanga Guidelines Ngā Aratohu Tangihanga Tangihanga Guidelines 2 – Ngā Aratohu Tangihanga: Tangihanga Guidelines Cover Image: Peter Florence Ngā Aratohu Tangihanga: Tangihanga Guidelines Mate koe i te aroha, titiro ki Taranaki. He pūreikohu, ko au kei raro, e. (He pao mōteatea) Tikanga and kawa guide tangihanga funeral processes. The purpose of the following guidelines is to educate whānau by sharing information about tangihanga on the pā and marae of Taranaki Iwi. These guidelines are not a definitive manual on all tikanga tangihanga. Only through experience, wānanga and returning home to the pā and marae of Taranaki Iwi can tikanga tangihanga be learned properly. The following guidelines were discussed and refined during paepae wānanga held in 2018 and 2019. During the wānanga two core issues were identified: • The scarcity of support and capability at our marae and pā which includes: kaikōrero; kaikaranga; kaiwaiata; and ringawera. • The growing number of people returning home who don’t understand what is expected of them during tangihanga. While this guide explores Taranaki Iwi practises, other tribes outside of the rohe may organise their tangihanga differently. Communication with key people and the hau kāinga of any marae is always recommended. While some people may consider that talking about tangihanga is karanga-aitua (calling for misfortune), this is an important issue that in these modern times should be discussed openly and planned for. Especially as making decisions whilst grieving is challenging. These guidelines can help whānau plan and prepare for tangihanga so that when the time comes, whānau are aware of expectations, steps to be taken and can then anticipate what will happen at the marae or home during this traditional grieving ceremony. The guide is split into six sections: 1. Whakaritenga Preparation PG. 4 2. Te Wā o te Mate At the Time of Death PG. 9 3. Whakarite Marae Preparing the Marae PG. 12 4. Whai Tikanga Following Tangihanga Processes PG. 15 5. Whai Muri After the Tangihanga PG. 20 6. Ngā Kupu Māori Glossary of Māori Words PG. 23 Prepared by Dennis Ngāwhare-Pounamu and Puna Wano-Bryant Whiringa ā Nuku 2019 Ngā Aratohu Tangihanga: Tangihanga Guidelines – 3 1._ Whakaritenga: Preparation Tukanga Process Whakamārama Explanation Mahia Action Me Hui a Whānau: Meeting as whānau and hapū to • Meet regularly with your whānau. Meeting as a Family discuss tikanga, mātauranga and • Talk to elders within the whānau planning issues is recommended. about their experience. Many whānau may already have • Pool information about previous established tikanga for tangihanga tangihanga. at marae. For other whānau this may be a new learning experience. Discussion and sharing information is how our whānau help each other and educate younger generations. Ngā Wira: A will ensures a loved one’s interests • Encourage all whānau to prepare Wills are understood and honoured at the a will. time of death and afterwards. The will • Have a whānau hui (with affirmed can also contain instructions on how minutes) that note the wishes of property and dependents are looked the loved one. after as well succession to Māori Land • Name beneficiaries. interests and include specific funeral details and funds. The will should • Follow the legal process and seek appoint an executor or nominated advice from a registered lawyer. person to ensure the wishes of the A do-it-yourself approach deceased are carried out. (for example a handwritten note) can make a will invalid. Without a will or clear instructions • Without a will and clear to guide whānau, relationships can instructions, accessing bank sometimes suffer unfortunate disputes. accounts of the tūpāpaku can be If there isn’t a will, a court may appoint difficult and expensive. an administrator of an estate. • Keep important documents like Law Society guide to wills the will, bank account details, http://www.lawsociety.org.nz/news-and- insurance policies etc, together in communications/guides-to-the-law/ a safe, but accessible place. making-a-will-and-estate-administration • A will can protect the whānau and the final wishes of a loved one. If there is no will https://nzlaw.co.nz/the-closing-chapter/ • Consider the distribution of what-if-theres-no-will whānau taonga. Māori Land Court https://maorilandcourt.govt.nz/your- maori-land/succession/ 4 – Ngā Aratohu Tangihanga: Tangihanga Guidelines Tukanga Process Whakamārama Explanation Mahia Action Whakarite Pūtea: Tangihanga and funerals are an • Set up a whānau trust to manage Preparing Financially unavoidable expense. Trying to a tangi fund. find funeral costs can be incredibly • Organise funeral insurance. stressful in an already sad time. • Prepay the funeral. Furthermore, the cost of bringing a tūpāpaku back to Aotearoa can be • Apply for a WINZ or ACC grant. exorbitant. Arranging tangihanga • Personal loans (while not insurance, life insurance or saving for recommended, may be the only tangihanga will alleviate the burden on option). whānau pani. Prepare ahead of time. • Give-a-little pages. Regardless of whether the tangihanga is • Koha cannot be relied on to pay held at a pā, in a funeral home, a church the bills. or in a private house, there are multiple bills to be considered. A standard funeral can cost upwards of $5,000. For example a basic guide to costs can include: Funeral director: $2k - $3k + Coffin / casket: $2k + Kahu whakatere: koha in line with coffin cost as agreed Embalming: $200 - $700 Cremation: $776 Hearse: $300 Burial /internment fees (council cemetery): $5,500 Newspaper Notices: $125 Death Certificate: $26 Catering (service only): $500 Catering (marae over 3 days): $2,000 + Marae koha Koha for people who have helped support the whānau Links: New Zealand Seniors funeral cost breakdown https://nzseniors.co.nz/funeral-insurance/ how-much-does-a-funeral-cost Funeral Insurance Comparison https://www.moneyhub.co.nz/funeral- insurance.html Te Hokinga Wairua: End of Life service https://endoflife.services.govt.nz/find- out#phase-462 Ngā Aratohu Tangihanga: Tangihanga Guidelines – 5 Tukanga Process Whakamārama Explanation Mahia Action Ngā Uruwhenua: As more of our whānau are moving • Ensure passports are up to date. Passports overseas, particularly to Australia, • An emergency passport can take up there are added expenses and time to 3 days and cost over $500. delays for people to get home to • Ensure there are emergency funds Aotearoa and Taranaki. Waiting for to pay for flights. passports and flights to be arranged can put an extra strain on whānau pani • Consider pooling travel funds for and hau kāinga at the marae. one person to pay their respects rather than a whole family. If whānau members pass away overseas and wish to return home, repatriating • Givealittle pages are becoming a tūpāpaku from Australia to New common, but may not be quick or Zealand can exceed $20,000. There is even raise the funding necessary. considerable paperwork, depending on • If a whānau pani and kirimate are the country, and the tūpāpaku will need flying in from overseas, the extra to be embalmed and in a coffin. Whānau wait needs to be taken into account need to plan for this when moving away. with the tangihanga planning. Whakatakataka Choosing a good local funeral director • Hiring a funeral director is not Tūpāpaku: can help the planning process. compulsory, however they can Funeral Director However, there is no legal requirement simplify processes. for a funeral director and whānau can • They may be necessary for choose to finalise details themselves. embalming. The funeral director can organise the • Consider different options, costs death certificate, embalming, the coffin, and services provided by funeral hearse transport to the marae and directors. urupā, the service and burial. Talk to other whānau about their experiences • Observe funeral directors at and when you attend tangihanga take tangihanga. note of how they look after the whānau • Talk to other whānau about their pani and the tūpāpaku. experiences and recommendations. Hokinga ki te Marae: The right to return home to the marae • Have the connections to the pā Returning to the marae pā is a whakapapa right, but this may been maintained? not mean that the pā marae is available • Does the whānau pani know what to hold the tangihanga. Maintaining is expected of them? connections between the pā marae • Make contact with marae pā first and whānau is essential in decision and foremost making. Reconnecting whilst still living is recommended. • Pā and Marae of Taranaki iwi contacts: https://taranaki.iwi.nz/ All whānau have reciprocal marae-pa/ responsibilities to the pā marae and understanding this relationship is important. During the tangihanga the haukāinga and hapū will be looking after the whānau pani and upholding tikanga. 6 – Ngā Aratohu Tangihanga: Tangihanga Guidelines Tukanga Process Whakamārama Explanation Mahia Action Hokinga ki te Marae: This then sets an obligation on the Returning to the marae whānau pani to give back. Continued Choosing to take a tūpāpaku back to the pā marae will involve tikanga, tapu and restrictions on outlandish plans. Whilst hau kāinga will do all they can to manaaki the whānau pani, the whānau pani also need to understand that they will have to fit into the tikanga and kawa of tangihanga at the pā marae. Noho Kāinga: Many whānau are choosing to hold • The room where the tūpāpaku lies Staying Home tangihanga in their private homes, must be separate from the kitchen rather than taking the tūpāpaku back and eating area. This can be difficult to the marae or to a funeral home. If in open plan living houses. a whānau does choose to stay home, • Photographs of living people to they can still follow the guidelines to be removed from the room where help them through the funeral process. tūpāpaku lies. Although there may be freedom • Consider moving all the furniture associated with staying at home, out of the room to create an open tikanga should be followed in order to space.