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The Jewish Star Independent and original reporting from the Orthodox communities of Long Island VOL. 8, NO. 35 AUGUST 28, 2009 | 8 ELUL 5769 www.thejewishstar.com KOSHER BOOKWORM BREAKING NEWS 74th Yahrzeit of Rav Kook zt”l A special section Judge tosses out Lawrence lawsuit Page 11 Pages 12-14 Page 10 IN MY VIEW Long Island’s New on campus Back to singles go school west advice from the experts BY ETTA CHINSKEY BY MAYER FERTIG am 30 and I am single. Without thinking too hard, I can come up with a couple of dozen other sin- After all the anticipation, summer is I gles just like me. I am sure, as you coming to an end and maybe that’s not read this article, your own list of such a bad thing. Children who’ve been beloved eligible singles will play away at camp are home and parents can through your mind. Some are having enjoy having the whole family beneath one a harder time than others. Some roof again; there are holidays to look for- have made the most of it, turning ward to and, of course, in no time at all, their jobs into fulfilling careers, school will be underway. going back to school, or volunteering Preparation before school can go a their time. And some are actually long way toward helping students get off enjoying the search for their bashert to a good start. [soul mate]. But no matter how well “As we get closer to the school year they are adapting and coping, they take a week to get them reorganized and all know that something is missing. back on schedule in terms of bedtime,” The prob- Photos courtesy Yeshiva University suggests Dr. Penina Zilberberg, a psycholo- gist in Cedarhurst who specializes in work- lem of the sin- More than 700 students moved into dormitories on Yeshiva University’s Wilf and Beren Campuses during gle young-adult ing with young children. “Get them back is a uniquely Orientation Week, which began Sunday. Two freshmen are greeted by YU President Richard Joel in Washington into the mode of going to sleep at an Orthodox one. Heights (above) while young women check in at Stern College in Midtown Manhattan (below). More on page 13 appropriate time and getting ready for the When I am in next day.” the secular Preparation ahead of time with mat- world, I forget ters like tutoring may also go a long way, that I no longer she said. have to make “Pay attention to setting them up at apologies for the beginning of school with anything they need to address, issues that we know they ” hen I am in my marital sta- W tus. My peers in have, so they don’t get into the position of the secular grad school falling behind.” want to know Parents often have a good idea from world, I forget what the rush the previous school year of where a child that I no longer is. They tell me may need additional help. Even if money is thirty is so tight, Zilberberg said — maybe especially if have to make young to settle money is tight — it pays to act early. down. But when “Sometimes when we do something apologies for I am back in my beforehand to address a child’s need we my marital natural habitat, can end up saving money in the long run.” I can feel the For parents of children who face chal- status.“ pressure rush- lenges being organized, Zilberberg offered ing back. The two tips: the first, color-coded folders, is air is different. I relatively inexpensive; the other costs a lit- can hear the tic tle more. tock of that “For kids who tend to lose things, pesky clock maybe it’s an extra set of books so they again. When I am at work or in See BACK TO SCHOOL, Page 12 school is doesn’t matter that I am unmarried, it doesn’t affect my per- formance or my enjoyment of the task at hand. But when I am engaged in the spiritual rituals of halachic life, the same just doesn’t hold true. Blogger chronicles her NCSY to merge In our Jewish life, a single man or woman is literally incomplete without their zivug [match]. And if Catholic past, Jewish present Long Island and today’s sophisticated single doesn’t intuitively always feel their missing BY KEVIN DEUTSCH stop me.” other half, they are reminded of First seriously drawn to Judaism these phantom pangs when they nav- When Aliza Hausman told her following her encounter with a New York regions mother she wanted to be Jewish, holocaust survivor in junior high igate through their religious life. the former director of the the Dominican-born Catholic reared school, Ms. Hausman finally con- BY MICHAEL ORBACH Everything that makes up the reli- Long Island region, will head her arm back into a pitcher’s wind- verted in 2006, immersing herself the new organization. The See VIEW, Page 7 up, slugged her daughter hard as in the ritual-heavy lifestyle of Long Island NCSY will be merger will effectively dou- she could, and, for a time, Orthodox Judaism. And rather merging with New York ble the size of the region. Etta Chinskey received her BS in Applied destroyed any hopes a 13-year-old Aliza Hausman than relegate her Dominican her- NCSY to form one New York “The biggest advantage Psychology at NYU and is currently pursu- Aliza had of changing religions. itage to her past, she fused it with Region that will include Long is you go from 14 clubs with ing her MFA in Creative Writing at Adel- “It didn’t go over very well,” said Ms. her developing Jewish identity, shattering Island, Westchester and the Five Boroughs. 500 unique public schools phi University. She was runner-up for the Hausman, now a 29-year-old Orthodox Jew See BLOGGER, Page 8 2008 Don Axinn Award in poetry. living in Riverdale. “Obviously, that didn’t Rabbi Aryeh Lightstone, See NCSY MERGER, Page 8 That’s Life............................................................................2 Calendar...............................................................................6 Candlelighting: 7:15 p.m. ■ Shabbat ends: 8:14 p.m. Inside Opinion .................................................................................4 Classified .............................................................................8 Shabbat Torah reading: Parshat Ki Tetzei 11530 PRST STD PERMIT NO 301 GARDEN CITY NY US POSTAGE PAID PAID US POSTAGE CHANGE SERVICE REQUESTED CHANGE SERVICE 2 Endo Blvd., Garden City, NY 11530 City, 2 Endo Blvd., Garden 300613 2 The Jewish Star August 28, 2009 Engagement Wedding ■ Engagement of Lulu Grace Feldhamer ■ Wedding of Sara (Stacey) Herron (Cedarhurst/Binghampton, NY) & Nathaniel (Lindenhurst, NY) & Stephen (Meir Velvel) James Dubin (Brooklyn/Queens) - August Goldenzweig (Centreville, NY) - August 16, Nathaniel James Dubin & Lulu Grace Feldhamer 21, 2009 2009 To view entire galleries, please visit www.onlysimchas.com NOW BROADCASTING CASTING OW BROAD N TSKILLS Don’t fly on a mooners did the airline A inform the passengers that THE C E IN Friday they would, in fact, be tak- LIV ing off and could be expect- ed to arrive at JFK at SATURDAY NIGHTS 10:30 PM – 2:30 AM Dear That’s around 6:00 pm.E IDecidingN THE CATS to chanceL Iit,V the couple KILLS WVOS 95.9 FM CATSKILLS • WMCA 570 AM METRO NY Life, boarded the plane again As if catching a flight is and took their seats. 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