ה׳ד׳ ׳ב׳ ׳ א׳ד׳ט׳ט׳ת׳ד׳ת׳ ׳ ׳ ד׳ר׳ב׳ד׳ ׳ב׳ד׳ ׳ ~ Hebrew Institute of Riverdale

The Bayit BULLETIN Nov 28 – Dec 5, 2014 7 - 13 Kislev 5775 Wishing Mazal Tov to: Hebrew Institute of Riverdale ~ The Bayit Mazal Tov To: 3700 Henry Hudson Parkway Wishing Condolences to: Mazal tov to Shmuel Padwa on his bar . Mazal tov to parents, Danny Padwa & Mia Bronx, NY 10463 Diamond Padwa, and to siblings Yaakov, Eliana, Aryeh, and . www.thebayit.org Condolences to: E-mail: [email protected] Phone: 718-796-4730 Debbie (& Robert) Ezrapour on the loss of Debbie’s father, Elliot Eichler. Fax: 718-884-3206 R’ Avi Weiss: [email protected]/ x102 R’ Sara Hurwitz: [email protected]/ x107 This @ The Bayit

R’ Steven Exler: [email protected]/ x108 BETWEEN MINCHA & MAARIV: “Reflecting on Kaddish 11 Months Later" - R’ Ari Hart: [email protected]/ x124 Lowenfeld will review some of the key sources and themes incorporated in the Kaddish in Kiddush this Shabbat sponsored memory of his father Buddy Lowenfeld z’l. by the Padwa family in honor of Shmuel’s Bar Mitzvah. Make Your Reservation for Tuesday Night!

To sponsor a Kiddush, please contact AIPAC & THE BAYIT PRESENT A CONVERSATION WITH YOSSI Seth Aronson - [email protected]. KLEIN HALEVI: This Tuesday, December 2nd at 8:00pm. For more information or to register, please contact Walsh at 917-210-6329 or [email protected]. **Registration required** This Week Parshat SUNDAY DECEMBER 14th  Candle Lighting: 4:11pm NIGHT OF LEARNING AND Q & A WITH RAV AVI & RAV STEVEN

 Mincha/Kabbalat Shabbat: 4:15pm On Thursday, Nov. 20th the Board of Trustees approved a resolution to recommend that  Shalom Bayit: 6:50am the membership of the Bayit appoint Rav Steven to the position of Senior effective  Shacharit Main Tefillah: 8:30am July 1, 2015. Prior to a membership meeting in January, we hope you will join us for an  Learning Service: 9:30am (Rm 3-7) evening of and a Question and Answer session with Rav Avi and Rav Steven about  Sof Zman Kriat Shema: 9:21am the mission and vision of our Bayit. Time to be announced.  Parsha Shiur: 3:25pm Free Thanksgiving Dinner  Mincha (Main/Sephardic): 3:55pm  Listening Room: 4:20pm (LL BM) Thank you to all the volunteers who helped setup for and serve almost 180 guests at our Free Thanksgiving Dinner. Special thanks to Hal & Ellie Weinstein for organizing the over 60 volunteers into an efficient team.  Shabbat Ends/Maariv: 5:13pm A festive and meaningful Thanksgiving celebration is not possible without the financial support of our sponsors: Gemstone Caterers, Rochelle & Efrem Nulman, Robert Rubinstein and the Riverdale Weekday Times Kiwanis Foundation.

 Shacharit: THANKSGIVING SUPPLY DRIVE - So far we have collected over 70 lbs of groceries. Sun: 8:30am Thank you to everyone who participated. We are still collecting until Sunday evening at Mon/Thurs: 6:40, 8:15am 5:00pm. Drop off in the coatroom. For a list of needed items visit www.thebayit.org/tg Tue/Wed/Friday: 6:45, 8:15am Next Shabbat @ The Bayit  Mincha/Maariv: Sun-Thu: 4:15pm KULANU CHAVERIM - Friday Night, 5:30pm: Kulanu Chaverim will be visiting and Sarah’s Tent! Join us!

Next Week BETWEEN MINCHA AND MAARIV: Shiur with Rabbi Jeff Fox, Rosh Yeshiva, Yeshivat Maharat: Parshat "Mikvah and Modesty: the Role of the Male Beit Din in the Final Immersion of a Female Convert". In the wake of recent events and a revisiting of conversion procedures, a new teshuvah (halakhic  Candle Lighting: 4:10pm responsum) has been published by our own Rabbi Jeff Fox.  Mincha/Kabbalat Shabbat: 4:15pm KAVVANAH TEFILLAH - Sun. Dec 7th - 9:00am An hour of slower tefillah with Rav Steven including  Shacharit Main Tefillah: 8:30am meditation & song. Light breakfast follows. Halakhic Shacharit requirements met. Located in Room 3-2.  Mincha (Main/Sephardic): 3:55pm Chanukah is Coming!  Shabbat Ends/Maariv: 5:13pm  Chai Lifeline Toy Drive (page 4)  Youth Activities (page 3)  Public Menorah Lightings and Celebrations (page 3)  Save the Date - Chanukah Dinner and HIR Community Choir Performance - Sunday evening December 21st. Details to follow THE BAYIT BULLETIN

This Week’s Classes @ the Bayit Support the Bayit in 2015 ! Joe Hoch z"l Memorial Daf Yomi Shiur with Rabbi Dov Linzer meets 7:30am - 8:30am Sun. - Fri. and Shabbat after Mincha in Room 3-7. Open and accessible to all. You are invited to join at any time! Tomchei HaBayit - Bayit Sustainers

Shabbat What is the Tomchei HaBayit program? The Tomchei 8:05am - Hashavua with Rav Ari (Main Sanctuary) HaBayit program is an approach that changes our financial 4:20pm - Listening Room with Myra Estelle (LL BM) relationship with supporters from a fee per program every After Minha @ Beth Aharon - Mila baParasha. This week: HaB'er month or two, to a holistic approach that allows each member what is the b'er - the well, is it the same as "bor" - a pit, and is to make an ongoing commitment to the Bayit at a level ַה ְּב ֵאר" - to explain? (Remember to donate to Tali of support that matches our actual annual operating expensesלבאר - it related to "leva'er Michaeli's Chai LifeLine half marathon!) Basic (and love of) Hebrew is per adult member for the year. As such, Tomchei HaBayit sufficient. participants will not be asked to make additional contributions Monday for certain specific Bayit events and programs.

6:30pm - Hebrew Reading Crash Course with Sara Kinberg How much does it cost to join Tomchei HaBayit ? We (Lobby) ask each adult member to commit to $200 per month ($400 7:30pm - Book of with Rav Avi (at his home) per couple) for a total of $2400 per adult for the year. 8:00pm - Advanced Hebrew Ulpan with Sara Kinberg* (at the ATRIA) OK – so which Bayit fees, events and programs are 8:30pm - Advanced with Rabbi Yisrael Hollender covered? Those who make the Tomchei HaBayit (Room 3-7) commitment will not be asked to pay for Membership Dues, High Holiday Seats for immediate family members, Journal Tuesday Dinner Reservations, Purim Greetings and the Book of 10:00am - with Rav Avi (Lobby) Remembrance. 11:00am - Meeting the : The heroes of the Talmud with What is not covered by my Tomchei HaBayit Rav Ari (Lobby) commitment? Program fees for meals or trips and High 7:30pm - Foundations of : not meeting this week. We Holiday seats for your guests. Room rental fees for private hope you will join the program with Yossi Klein Halevi @ 8pm. events are also not covered. Wednesday When is the Tomchei HaBayit commitment due? It’s 7:30pm - Intermediate Hebrew Ulpan with Sara Kinberg* (Lobby) flexible. We can arrange for monthly, quarterly or annual Thursday payments – or any other plan that works for you. 10:00am - Book of Shmuel with Rav Steven (LL BM) 7:30pm - Biblical Hebrew and Siddur Study with Sara Kinberg* (Lobby) Can I just commit to membership dues and see how the year goes? Of course. Your account will be charged for 2015 dues in early December and you will have the * Sara Kinberg is an experienced Hebrew teacher. For info and guidance on opportunity to participate in each fundraiser at the appropriate placement, please call Sara at 718-548-2461. Payment made directly to the teacher. point during the year. Do you know someone who needs any of the following? Would you like to volunteer for any of these committees? What other giving opportunities exist at the Bayit? The bulk of our fundraising is focused on covering our Meals For Ill Members: annual operating expenses and debt service (which the Jackie Binstock - 718-543-9135, [email protected]. Tomchei HaBayit commitment is meant to address). Our long Shiva: Beth Braunstein, [email protected] -term funding needs include reducing our outstanding Bikur Cholim: mortgage and building our endowment fund. Your additional Ruth Licht: 718-796-3491, [email protected] support ensures the long-term stability of our Bayit. We have many ways to become meaningfully involved. Throughout the year there are sponsorship opportunities for Please pick up a flyer, consider becoming a Bikur Cholim Volunteer. special programs or to mark a special occasion; birthday, Meals for New Mothers: anniversary, yahrtzeit, marriage etc. Kiddush, Seudah Shlishit, Becca Linden: 434-962-7899, [email protected] Youth Programs, Abraham & Sarah’s Tent, Selichot Concert, Hospitality and Welcome: [email protected] Scholars-in Residence and the new - all these Bayit Band: Rav Ari Hart, [email protected] programs need your support.

Lishma - A Rigourous & Engaging Weekday Morning Adult Were you one of the members who participated in our inaugural Learning Community: Come and try out Lishma, a partnership of year of the Tomchei HaBayit initiative? We hope you will both YCT & the Bayit that meets Tuesday & Thursday morning 9:30-12:30. renew and encourage fellow members to participate. Call the office Learn or visit www.thebayit.org/tomchei to join. with Rav Haggai Resnikoff & Rav Yisrael Hollender, Contempo- rary Responsa with Rav Steven and Parshat Hashavua with YCT Students & faculty. Open to both men & women. For more info, HIR GIFT CARDS - Support our Bayit by purchasing Gift Cards - Buy it for the Bayit! For more information on volunteering or to place an order, email [email protected] or call Shira Gordon at 718-549-5280. NOTE: Purchases do not cost you anything extra. THE BAYIT BULLETIN

Calling all Riverdale kids! The Bayit is the place to be! Be a part of it! Please register your child and become a youth member today!

FRIDAY NIGHT THIS THURS. MISHMAR, GROUPS Dec. 4, 4:00pm-6:00pm  with Active free play, hotdog dinner, Wednesday, Dec. 17 (night 2) Shayna & Raphi d'var Torah with Rav Steven Join rabbinic staff as we head around town (4:45PM) followed by Torah and arts & crafts. Ag- and light candles on Johnson Ave & Groups begin 15 es 5-11; $10/child; $18/2 children. Riverdale Ave and bring holiday joy to minutes after Mincha begins locals through song and dance.

and last for 1 hour. TEEN TEFILLAH Learning &  Thursday, Dec. 18 Tefillah with Will Keller (night 3) Annual Dunkin Donuts 10:30am - Text study with Musaf and Kiddush to follow. celebration with music, free donuts, communal lightings and a program for children!

Movies - Smoothies - Free Play  Sunday, Dec. 21 Drop-Off! (day 5) YHIR & TOT FAMILIES Annual children’s FRIDAY NIGHT DINNER Sunday, Dec. 7th, 1:00-3:30pm carnival! Having fun and December 12 Ages 5-11 raising money for Early Bird Rates End Dec 4 children in need! 1:45pm - Movie: TBD Sign up @ Smoothies & Snacks included!  Monday, Dec. 22 (night 7) www.thebayit.org/yhir Annual celebration at the Century $10/child; $18/2 children To volunteer email Anat Barber Building. CHANUKAH CHAI LIFELINE [email protected] or Menachem will be away Nov. 29 - Dec. 13. TOYDRIVE - 11/28 - 12/28 Ruthie Simon For urgent matters please email Yael at Visit www.theabyit/toydrive [email protected]. [email protected] to learn more!

Menachem is away this SHABBAT MORNING GROUPS SNACKS 2014-2015 Snacks Sponsorship New Options: Help us reach our goal of having sponsorship every single Shabbat. Adena Blickstein $100 – sponsor all snacks $36 - Tot Shabbat will be leading Shabbat of the year. Please see new sponsorship options on the right. $150 – sponsor all snacks + $36 - Nursery-K Shabbat morning groups this Shabbat. Secure your Shabbat today! birthday party $36 - Grades 1-6

Room 3-6: Kindergarden Shabbat Morning Groups: LL BM: Tot Shabbat Room 3-1: Grades 3-6 Room 3-7: 9:10am - 9:40am - Ages 6+, Enjoy a doughnut and learn RoomRoom 3 -32:-6: Grades Kindergarden 1-2 Room 3-4: Nursery Room 3-1: Grades 3-6 Room 3-5: Pre-K this weeks parsha with David Fain 3rd Floor Youth Wing - Holiday Schedule 9:45am - 11:30am Room 3-2: Grades 1-2

PARSHA & DRAMA with Adena Blickstein Snacks this week: Snacks for Nursery-K are 10:30am - 11:30am sponsored by the Oshinsky family in honor of Come experience the Parsha through Melissa Bulman. Spots are still available for groups drama, dance and singing with our sponsorships. To sponsor please contact Menachem or Gillian new creative arts specialist. Steinberg or go to www.thebayit.org/youthsponsor.

HIR Winter Camp with the Riverdale Y! For assistance, please contact: Dates: 12/24; 12/26; 12/29; 12/30; 12/31; 1/2 (optional) Menachem Menchel, Director of Programming & Youth Education Swimming & Aquatics (indoor), Gymnastics, Basketball, Office - 718-796-4730 ext. 119 Theater & Drama, Baking, Lego Robotics, Torah & Tefillah, Martial Arts, Jewelry Making, Arts & Crafts, and more! Cell - 516-233-8285 [email protected] Happenings @ the Bayit Chesed Opportunities: ABRAHAM & SARAH’S TENT: Join us this Shabbat for our open RIVERDALE FREE LOAN GEMACH: Please be advised that a Free communal dinner. To see which Shabbatot are available for Loan Gemach has been established to serve residents of the Riverdale sponsorship and to choose your week go to www.thebayit.org/tent or community. The Gemach of Riverdale is a non-profit organization contact James Lapin at [email protected]. providing interest-free loans to those with cash flow challenges, with dignity and respect. For further info please contact Rabbi Moshe

Drelich at 917-408-3035 or [email protected]. LEARNING SERVICE WITH RAV ARI! Shabbat, weekly in room 3-7, 9:30-11:00am PROJECT HOPE - HELP DELIVER HANUKAH PACKAGES: An intimate service with explanations and discussions focusing Join the Bronx Jewish Community Council to deliver Project H.O.P.E. on prayer and the . Hanukah Packages. Pick up your packages and delivery list on Sun., Questions: contact Rav Ari at 718-796-4730 x124 or email Dec. 7th at 9:00am. There will be two pick up locations: B’nai B’rith [email protected]. Building (Co-Op City): 2050 Bartow Ave, Bronx, NY 10475 and Ampark (Near Riverdale) Vladek Hall - 74 Van Cortlandt Park South. For information, Call Niti Minkove at 917-693-3084. BAYIT SEFARIM FUND: Donations to the Sefarim fund will be used to purchase the books we need as determined by the rabbinic team and gabbaim. Donors will be recognized with a thank you in CHAI LIFELINE TOY DRIVE: Send a gift for a sick the 2nd bulletin of every month and a dedication label in the book boy or girl, infants through teens, in any price range.

when it is purchased. To donate visit our website at WHEN SELECTING YOUR TOYS: www.thebayit.org/sefarim.  Please donate new, unwrapped gifts only. BUSINESS ADVERTISING IN THE BAYIT BULLETIN:  Please do not purchase guns and other toys that Promote your business to Bayit Bulletin readers in the first bulletin encourage violence, including violent electronic of every month. Contact the office at 718-796-4730 or games. [email protected] for more information.  Please include batteries for any toys that need them. RESERVE THE BAYIT FOR YOUR SIMCHA  To book your room reservation go to www.thebayit.org/simcha Gifts for teens are especially appreciated. or contact Richard at [email protected]. Only Drop off in the collection boxes in the coat room from reservations that accompany a signed contract and the November 28 – December 21 (Chanukah Carnival) required deposit will be maintained.

CHARITABLE GIFT ANNUITY: The Bayit is pleased to partner with UJA-Federation to offer our members the opportunity to invest in a charitable gift annuity. Please join us in dedicating a Sefer Torah and Megillat When you do so, you receive guaranteed income for life, a potential immediate tax deduction, and possible future tax savings. For more Esther for the Bayit in honor of Rav Avi and Toby! info, including sample annuity rates, please contact the Bayit office. The Bayit is acquiring a new Sefer Torah and Megillat Esther. We invite everyone in the extended Bayit family to participate in this project to recognize and thank Rav Avi and Toby LIGHTS IN THE DARKNESS, A CHANUKAH PROGRAM for their more than 40 years of service to the Hebrew FOR BEREAVED - Sun., Dec 14th @ 6:30pm: Please join with Rabbi Steven Exler and our JBFCS social worker Anna Kirshblum, Institute of Riverdale and Jews everywhere. Sign up for Chanukah candle-lighting and an opportunity to honor your loved online to sponsor your choice of Perek or Parsha at ones. Come together during this Chanukah season to share stories www.thebayit.org/torah. and from our tradition. RSVP by Dec 10th to Anna Kirshblum, LCSW at 718-601-9714 or email [email protected]. Jewish Caregiver Support Group Share experiences, benefit from mutual support and gain practical Social Worker @ The Bayit: Questions about an aging advice. Group meetings are held once a month on Tuesday at the loved one, financial pressures, concerns about children? Contact Beatman Center. HIR social worker Anna Kirshblum for guidance, information, referrals and a sympathetic ear. There is no fee and all Jewish Bereavement Group – Loss of a Spouse conversations are strictly confidential. Share the journey of loss and gain strength from each other. This group meets on Mondays, twice a month at the Beatman Center. NOTE NEW HOURS: Anna can be reached on Mon. 8:00am - 7:30pm, For additional information about these 2 programs please Tues. 8:00am - 7:30pm and Thurs. 8:00am - 4:00pm at 718-601-9714 or e-mail her at [email protected]. (In partnership with UJA & call Anna Kirshblum, JBFCS/Bayit social worker at JBFCS) 718-601-9714 or email her at [email protected]. THE BAYIT The Hebrew Institute of Riverdale – The Bayit – is an open Orthodox synagogue serving the entire Jewish community by warmly embracing all Jews, regardless of affiliation, commitment, or background. It is affectionately known as the "Bayit," which is a home – a place of love and welcome. We are known nationally for bringing spirituality into the synagogue; activism on behalf of the oppressed; youth and teen engagement; learning programs; and work on behalf of the elderly, the homebound, and the developmentally and physically challenged. If these words resonate with you, if our Bayit has touched your life, then please join our growing membership. Beyond the bayit - November 28 - December 5, 2014

EXPERIENCE 2 WORK: BOOT CAMP FOR BOOMERS: Experience 2 Work is a customized, 4 week, intensive skill development and employment preparation program aimed at seekers 50+ that will increase your competitiveness in today’s job market and improve your prospects for employment. Funded by UJA-Federation of New York and administered by FEGS Employment Services. Next session runs December 1 to 23. Program Cost is $125. For more information call 917-606-6556 or email [email protected] with any questions. We look forward to working with you!

REFA’ENU'S peer-led mood disorder support groups started this past Tuesday, November 18, at 7:30pm in the Ben Porat Yosef Building at 243 Frisch Ct. in Paramus, NJ. Groups will be divided between those with a disorder (depression, bipolar, and/ or related anxiety) as well as for their loved ones. Future dates will be the 1st and 3rd Tuesday of every month. Please check web- site to confirm: www.refaenu.org. No reservations are required. For more info contact: [email protected].

RJC ANNUAL CHANUKAH BOUTIQUE: Please join us for fun, friends and sensational shopping at Riverdale Jewish Center's "A Touch of Class" Annual Chanukah Boutique. Motzei Shabbat, December 6, 2014. 7:30-11PM at the Riverdale Jewish Center at 3700 Independence Avenue. Admission is $5 per person. Please call 718-548-1850 with any questions.

Please attend one of SAR's Information Sessions, Thurs., Dec. 4, or Tues., Dec. 9, 9:30-10:45 AM. IMAGINE a school where your child's unique spirit and talents are respected, valued and nurtured. SAR Academy opens each child's heart and mind to a life-long love of Torah and Medinat Yisrael. To register, visit www.saracademy.org/informationsession. Questions? Please call us at 718.548.1717 x1206. SAR, 655 West 254th St., Riverdale. When your child attends SAR Academy, your whole family joins a very special community.

The MA'AYANOT CONTINUING EDUCATION committee is pleased to present a shiur series by Rabbi Zev Prince, Director of Religious Programming and Talmud Teacher, on the topic: Ketav VeKabbalah: The Story of the Sidrah as Told by the Sages of theTalmud. The series will take place from 12:20 p.m. – 1:15 p.m. in the Ma’ayanot Library on the following dates: December 4, 11 & 18; January 1,8 & 14. Ma’ayanot is located at 1650 Palisade Avenue, Teaneck.

WOMEN’S INITIATIVE FOR JEWISH STUDIES (“WIJS”): Inaugural lecture featuring Professor Smadar Rosensweig. Young of New Rochelle 1149 North Avenue New Rochelle, NY, Tuesday, December 9th 2014 at 7:45pm. Professor Rosensweig, of Yeshiva University Stern College for Women, will speak on the topic “’s Ascent from Outlaw to Religious Establishment.”

RIVERDALE JEWISH CENTER CONCERT: Come join us for an inspirational, fun filled Chanukah Concert featuring Eitan Katz. Sunday, December 14th at 7:30pm (doors open 7:00pm) Riverdale Jewish Center 3700 Independence Ave. $25/ticket, $20/student ticket. Visit www.rjconline.org for more information and to purchase tickets.

THE YOUNG ISRAEL OF SCARSALE PRESENTS OUR ANNUAL CHANUKAH BOUTIQUE! SUNDAY DE- CEMBER 14, 2014 - 10AM -4PM 1313 Weaver Street, Scarsdale NY. Great vendors, great food, free supervised childrens activities including Morah Nummy Chanukah sing-a-long from 1PM-2PM.

SAFE AT HOME: The YM&YWHA of Washington Heights/Inwood, Riverdale YM-YWHA, the JCC of Washington Heights/ Inwood, and the Hebrew Home at Riverdale bring The Hudson Community Project: Safe at Home. Combining agency resources, expanding geographic scope, and a streamlined process result in seniors receiving more selection of services helping maintain independence. Case Management - Housing Advocacy - Kosher pantry - Kosher meals - Social Adult Day care - In-home support - Health Maintenance - Rehabilitation – Transportation. Please contact Sarah at 212•569•6200 x233.

SPONSOR A TORAH STUDY CLASS for Jerusalem's Elderly in Memory of Linda Basch z"l, former Bayit Director of Social Services (Seniors and Special Friends Programs). The classes will be taught by Sharona Margolin Halickman, former Madricha Ruchanit at the HIR. www.toratreva.org 718-593-4162.

MUSEUM OF THE CITY OF NEW YORK SPECIAL EXHIBIT: LETTERS TO AFAR: A partnership between YIVO and the Museum of the City of New York, the exhibition features films that document poignant family reunions and everyday life in in the years before the Second World War, capturing a culture on the brink. Open daily 10am - 6pm.

SOBER BIRTHRIGHT: The free Sober Birthright trip to Israel December 14th-25th 2014 still has open spots for people 18- 26 who are in recovery or impacted by an addiction. For additional information please call Sharon Darak at 212-632-4724 or email her at [email protected].