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See Page 72 BY LARRY GORDON In The Knesset This is where all those changes get their ﬁ nal stamp of approval before being imple- See Page 10 mented outside these well- guarded wrought-iron gates. It is difﬁ cult to pass up an opportunity to walk the halls of Isra- el’s parliament building, where NY City Councilman-elect Chaim Deutsch and State Senator Simcha Felder presented a silver mezuzah case and plaque to NYPD Commissioner Ray Kelly in appreciation of his many years of exemplary service. See Page 89 Continued on Page 30 See Page 34 A Jew Is A Jew: HEARD IN THE BAGEL STORE Yes To Limmud BY LARRY GORDON Traversing BY MK DOV LIPMAN Worlds See Page 14 So let me get this straight. By now, the colorfully Jonathan Rosenblum, direc- illuminated menorahs have tor of Jewish Media Resources probably been taken down and a Jerusalem Post colum- and packed away until next nist, is against Orthodox rab- year. Those are the chanu- bis attending the Limmud Con- kiya lamps, composed of ference in England, because it tiny bulbs, that light up the provides equal standing to all streets of Jerusalem through See Page 75 Continued on Page 8 Continued on Page 22 The author at his father’s kever. ADVOCATING FOR A STRONG ISRAEL DEBORAH ASARAH B’TEVES: SCHOCHET: DOING DIFFERENT FROM

See Page 6 IT ALL WITH ALS ALL OTHER FASTS? BY MICHELE JUSTIC BY RABBI YAIR HOFFMAN

Passionate, determined, Rav Yoseph Karo (Beis optimistic—Deborah Dan- Yoseph 550) cites the view of ielle Schochet is an extraordi- the Avudraham that the fast nary woman who must face of Asarah B’Teves is differ- extraordinary challenges. This ent from all the other fasts. 39-year-old Woodmere resi- How so? If Asarah B’Teves Congresswoman Michele Bachmann; Morton Klein, head of the ZOA; former governor Mike Huckabee; and Joe & Karen Frager were amongst those in dent received the devastating were to fall on Shabbos attendance at the annual dinner for the Zionist Organization of America on Sunday, November 24. See Page 71 Continued on Page 81 Continued on Page 20

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Features Index, See Page 10 2 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 3 4 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 5 6 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 7 LIMMUD “There were about 25 of us, armed with Continued from Front Cover pickaxes, shovels, and a dozen World War I Lee-Enfi eld rifl es—an untrained, inglori- denominations of Judaism, includes lec- ous bucket brigade of diggers and hackers tures on Jewish culture and humor, and fortifying a narrow sector of Jerusalem’s even includes anti-Israel presenters [see western front . . . We’d heard that Iraqi www.jpost.com/Magazine/Opinion/Think- irregulars were infi ltrating Ein Kerem to Again-331775 for his article]. join up with a Jordanian brigade com- Mr. Rosenblum: This is not 19th-cen- ing up from Jericho. We were supposed tury Germany, in which religious Jews to stop them . . . Grimy, exhausted dig- founded new streams of Judaism as gers assembled in the glow of a hurricane a way out of a religious lifestyle. It is lamp hanging on the door of a stone ruin, 2013, and it is a shame that you and oth- hidden from enemy view, to recite the ers who share your perspective don’t Shabbat prayers.” realize that millions of Jews in other Someone then came and told them streams are looking for a way in. And, that David Ben-Gurion had declared the thank G-d, newly appointed Chief Rabbi new state that afternoon. “‘Let’s drink to Ephraim Mirvis and other Orthodox that,’ said Elisha, with delight breaking rabbis (myself included) will appear at open the new bottle of wine and fi lling a the Limmud Conference and any other tin mug to the brim. ‘A l’chaim to our new place where people want to hear words state, whatever its name!’ of Torah. “‘Wait!’ shouted a chassid whom every- I had a remarkable experience on Shab- body knew as Nussen . . . a most diligent bat two weeks ago. An Orthodox rabbi in volunteer digger from Mea She’arim, the New York hosted me and some congre- ultra-Orthodox area of Jerusalem. ‘It’s gants of his, along with two Reform rab- Shabbat. Kiddush fi rst.’ bis, one of whom brought along his wife “Our crowd gathered around him in and children. We talked about Israeli pol- a hush . . . he added the triumphantly itics, sang zemirot, and had in-depth dis- exulted festival blessing [sheheheyanu] cussions about the parashah. to commemorate this fi rst day of inde- Is there really “no theological common pendence—‘Blessed are You, L-rd our G-d, ground or meeting point” among those of King of the Universe, who has given us us who gained so much from this Shab- life, sustained us and brought us to this bat meal experience, as Mr. Rosenblum time. Amen!’” argues? Is the “chasm” really “unbridge- Was the “chasm” between these secu- able and absolute,” as he suggests? The lar soldiers, religious-Zionist soldiers, and remarkable Torah discussions in which ultra-Orthodox soldiers “unbridgeable we engaged prove otherwise. and absolute?” Was their ability to unify Yehuda Avner, in his book The Prime solely based on the secular Jews being in Ministers, describes a beautiful scene which took place on May 15, 1948: Continued on Page 9

8 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES LIMMUD We are going to be different, as demon- in Tuesdays With Morrie, told the story of Continued from Page 8 strated by the different tribes and their “The Wave”: individual fl ags. Unity means treating “The waves were all out in the ocean a “frame of mind to change their lives,” each other with basic respect despite our bobbing up and down and having a great P.O. BOX 690 • LAWRENCE, NY 11559 which Rosenblum implies is the only differences, and putting aside those dif- time. Suddenly, one of the waves said, [email protected] ads@5T JT.com platform for unifying together? ferences in order to work together when ‘Why are we having fun? This is crazy. All 516-569-0502 Every Tuesday, there is a beit midrash in the Knesset. Secular and religious Jews LARRY GORDON ESTA J. GORDON Publisher/Editor Managing Editor join together to study Torah. But not all religious Jews come. No MKs from the Unity does not mean that YOSSY GORDON • YOCHANAN GORDON • DOVI GORDON haredi parties have ever come, and they Sales Managers seem to have no interest in attending. we agree about everything. CHANA ROCHEL ROSS And this is a tragedy. It is tragedy born Assistant Editor out of the holier-than-thou philosophy SIDI BARON • DAVID FOX • YAAKOV SERLE espoused by Rosenblum but masked as Sales Representatives some sort of important and traditional we can. In the desert, it was refl ected the waves are crashing into the beach and SHMUEL GERBER MICHELE JUSTIC ideology. by the rituals in the Tabernacle, which disappearing. All is lost!’ Another wave Chief Copy Editor Copy Editor The Bible records that the Jews were sat in the middle of the camp; in May responded to him, ‘You are looking at this CONTRIBUTING EDITORS camped around Mount Sinai, with the 1948, it meant fi ghting together to save all wrong. We aren’t individual waves. We Hannah Reich Berman • Anessa V. Cohen Talmud expounding that they were “like our country and people; this past Shab- are part of the ocean . . .’” Rabbi Yitzchok D. Frankel • Rabbi Aryeh Z. Ginzberg one person with one heart.” But then, bat, for me, it meant enjoying a Shabbat All Jews are part of a unique ocean. We Yoni Glatt • Rabbi Yossy Goldman • Toby Klein Greenwald Rabbi Yair Hoff man • Ron Jager • Doni Joszef as they traveled from Sinai, the Bible meal; and at the Limmud Conference it are on a national journey together. Every Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky • Dr. Bernie Kastner describes how each tribe had its own fl ag will mean joining to study and discuss generation plays its role with different Shmuel Katz • Rabbi Mordechai Kruger • Phyllis J. Lubin and special place to camp. Why were we Torah. challenges and circumstances. But we Esther Mann • Rochelle M. Miller • Rabbi Meir Orlian creating such divisions after that massive There is a natural bond which all Jews share the deepest of bonds, regardless of Elke Probkevitz • Dr. Rachael Schindler show of unity? must feel towards one another despite those differences in geography, culture, Mordechai Schmutter • Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow The answer is clear. Unity does not our differences. Morrie Schwartz, the Baila Sebrow • David J. Seidemann • Rabbi Avi Shafran Samuel Sokol • Rabbi Gershon Tannenbaum • Chanita Teitz mean that we agree about everything. professor dying of Lou Gehrig’s disease Continued on Page 14 ELISHEVA ELEFANT IVAN NORMAN Gr aphic Artist IRA THOMAS Photographers Design by DESIGN2PRO.COM Design & Production MICHAEL KUROV – Art Director 5TJT.com site by DAVID HAIRONSON of NDH Web Design © 2013 by the Five Towns Jewish Times The Five T owns Jewish Times is an independen t weekly newspaper. Opinions expressed by other writers in these pages are not necessarily those of the publisher. The 5TJT is not r esponsible for the kashrus of an y advertised or featured product or establishment. All submissions bec ome the pr operty of the 5TJT and may be edit ed for publica tion. Pictures may be modifi ed (such as by cropping or fi lling) at our discretion to conform to standards of modesty in dress. READ THIS WEEK’S ISSUE ONLINE AT 5TJT.COM!

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10 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 11 12 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 13 LIMMUD Continued from Page 9

and even beliefs. No “chasm” is “unbridgeable,” and the only thing that is “absolute” is our bond to one another, which no holier-than-thou ideology can break. A story regarding the well- known Orthodox rabbi Aryeh Levin demonstrates the approach which Jews should have towards one another. Levin was walking in his hometown, Jerusalem, when he noticed a familiar young soldier who was home on break from his military service. “Hello,” said Levin, who was already an older man. “Please come to my home and share some tea with me. I would like to hear about what you are doing.” The young soldier seemed uncomfortable and replied, “I don’t think it’s right for me to come visit you. I don’t even wear a kippah anymore.” Rabbi Levin, wearing his black hat and long black coat, took the soldier’s hand into his own and with a smile on his face, he said: “Don’t you see? I’m very short. I cannot look above your head to see whether you are wearing a kippah or not. However, I can see your heart and it is big and kind, and that’s what counts.” Levin then paused and added, “You are also a soldier placing your life at risk for all of us in Israel. Please drink tea with me—your ‘kippah’ is probably bigger than mine.” A Jew is a Jew. Our numbers are very small. We need each other’s support, respect and love. Rejecting opportuni- ties to join together—especially when the opportunity involves sharing words of Torah—is destructive and potentially cat- astrophic. The Babylonian Talmud relates that when G-d came to destroy the Temple, the angels asked Him to put a mark on the heads of the righteous people so they could be saved. G-d replied that these “righteous people” would be the ﬁ rst to be punished, because it was their responsibility to reach out to those who were unlike them and inspire. G-d did not see a “chasm.” G-d saw nothing as “unbridgeable.” G-d did not assess whether they were “in a frame of mind to change their lives.” I will be at the Limmud Con- ference, and I believe that G-d’s Presence will rest upon a gath- ering of Jews from all backgrounds, who will join together to discuss, debate and connect. Mr. Rosenblum: I hope to see you there.  Reprinted with permission from The Jerusalem Post Magazine. The writer is a Member of Knesset in the Yesh Atid party. 14 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 15 CALENDAR LUACH

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10 Teves – Erev Shabbos Friday, December 13 Ta’anis Asarah B’Teves Daf yomi: Yoma 35 Z’manim*: Dawn: 5:42 am Earliest tallis/tefillin: 6:11 am Sunrise: 7:11 am Latest Shema: M. Av. 8:53 am Gr’a 9:29 am Midday: 11:49 am Earliest minchah: 12:20 pm P’lag ha’minchah: 3:30 pm Candle Lighting: 4:10 pm Fast ends: 5:06 pm / 5:14 pm 11 Teves – Shabbos Saturday, December 14 Parashas Vayechi Shabbos ends**: 5:19 pm 72 min. 5:46 pm 17 Teves – Erev Shabbos Friday, December 20 Daf yomi: Yoma 42 Earliest tallis/tefillin: 6:16 am Sunrise: 7:15 am Latest Shema: M. Av. 8:57 am Gr’a 9:33 am P’lag ha’minchah: 3:32 pm Candle Lighting 4:12 pm 18 Teves – Shabbos Saturday, December 21 Parashas Sh’mos Shabbos ends**: 5:22 pm 72 min. 5:49 pm * All times from MyZmanim.com ** includes 5 minutes for tosefes Shabbos Look for the next issue of the 5TJT on newsstands Thursday, December 19

16 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 17 Young Jewish Girls ‘Marrying Arabs In Galilee’ A growing number of young Jew- ish girls are marrying Arabs, according to Dr. Boris Yudis, deputy mayor of the northern town of Afula. Yudis was inter- viewed for a report on intermarriage in the regional newspaper Index Haemek Vehagalil. “The phenomenon of girls, aged 12 and 13, who are in Arab villages breaks my heart, but unfortunately my hands are tied,” he was quoted as saying. “Mothers come to me and cry that their 12- and 13-year-olds have moved into minority villages, this is a painful thing that wounds my heart.” He was further quoted as saying: “I am really frustrated and this is not about Jews and Arabs—it is about the fact that instead of learning and studying they waste their lives. It is a sad phenomenon that we are unable to treat in a thorough way, from the root. I no longer believe only in law enforcement; I think we will have results if we act through education.”

“Instead of learning and studying they waste their lives.”

Israel’s pro-Jewish Identity NGO Yad L’Achim conﬁ rmed the claim. Its chairman was quoted as saying that they receive requests to assist in similar cases nationwide. The girls involved are aged 11 years and upward, he said. The Family Lobby responded to the report by saying that “the painful phenomenon of Jewish girls who cross over into Arab society is the direct result of the weakening of the family unit and the deterioration of the status of fathers in the Jewish family in recent decades— due to the activity of militant feminist women’s groups.” Family Lobby chairman Gil Ronen explained: “The inﬂ ated propaganda about battered women in the Jew- ish sector and the encouragement of divorce through unwarranted perks for single parent households wind up hurt- ing these girls, who end up in the Arab sector, where their chances of being battered are far higher.” (Arutz Sheva)  Remember that article? Visit our archive section and find any issue of the 5 Towns Jewish Times online @ www.5TJT.com

18 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 19 HALACHIC MUSINGS Three Possibilities the fast of Asarah B’Teves. The Chasam other words, they may be observed in Continued from Front Cover A look at the great commentaries Sofer writes that Asarah B’Teves is the other days of that month, such as the reveals that there are no less than one fast that we have to help prevent Sunday following Shabbos, if need be. (which it doesn’t, in our set calendar), three overall approaches to under- a tragedy from occurring. It gives us While the Minchas Chinuch does it would not be pushed off to another standing the Avudraham’s unique per- an opportunity to determine whether not state this, the Avudraham may day. It would have to be observed on spective on Asarah B’Teves. the state of being without the Beis rule that this is not the case in regard the Shabbos itself. Ya’aros Dvash And Bnei Yissaschar. HaMikdash will continue. This type to Asarah B’Teves. Regarding Asarah Why would this be the case? Asarah B’Teves marks the siege on of fast is actually a benefi cial one— B’Teves, the verse in Sefer Yechezkel The Avudraham explains that it the holy city of Yerushalayim that where we have within our hands to (24:2), “on this very day,” changes it for is on account of the wording in a ultimately led to its destruction, the rectify an error. When we are given Asarah B’Teves. Asarah B’Teves must verse found in Sefer Yechezkel (24:2), destruction of the Beis HaMikdash, such an opportunity it is a joy, an remain on the day that it was origi- “on this very day,” which equates it and the exile of Klal Yisrael. Begin- oneg. That being the case, we can nally ordained. to Yom Kippur. Rav Karo states that nings are very stringent—even more well understand why the Avudraham Rav Chaim Soloveitchik proposes he does not know where the Avudra- so than the end result. writes that if it were to fall on Shab- this very understanding in the words ham derived this from. Rav Karo fur- The Bnei Yissaschar (14:1) proves this bos we would still fast—it is a joy. of an earlier authority whom he ther notes that the tenth of Teves point from the fact that we mourn the Minchas Chinuch And Rav Chaim quotes (Chiddushei HaGraZ Sten- will at times fall on a Friday, but destruction of the Beis HaMikdash Soloveitchik. There is a third pos- cils p. 27 #44). One may attempt to none of the other fasts ever do. In place Rav Soloveitchik’s words in the the Shulchan Aruch itself (550), Rav Avudraham, but the actual reading Karo rules that none of the four fasts may be somewhat diffi cult. Curiously, set aside Shabbos, but we will deal Asarah B’Teves is the one fast that Rav Chaim writes that he is explain- with the view of the Avudraham in ing the words of the BaHaG, but the this essay. we have to help prevent a tragedy BahaG does not actually discuss the issue at all. Understanding from occurring. Both according to the Minchas Chi- The Rationale nuch and Rav Chaim Soloveitchik, We must also try to understand why one can make the following observa- it is, according to the Avudraham, that tion: In general, fast days would not Asarah B’Teves is different than the on the ninth of Av—not the tenth of sibility in how to understand the be set aside on Shabbos, were it not other fasts, and why the Avudraham Av—even though the majority of it Avudraham. Rav Yoseph Babad (1801- for the fact that they could be cele- chose to state this difference regard- burned on the tenth. This possibility 1874), author of the Minchas Chinuch, brated on another day in that month. ing Shabbos when he himself writes of understanding the Avudraham was explains (301:7) that the nature of all Proof For The Avudraham. Rav that it never actually falls on Shab- fi rst proposed by Rav Yonasan Eibes- of the fasts is that they can be cele- Meir Simcha of Dvinsk (Ohr Sameach bos! chutz (Yaaros Dvash Volume I Drush brated in the general month in which Hilchos Ta’anis 5:6) tries to bring a Also, notwithstanding that the fast #2 for Tishah B’Av). the fast occurs. proof for the position of the Avudra- appears in Tanach, at the end of the Chasam Sofer. Another explana- We fi nd this idea expressed even ham from a passage in the Talmud day, it is a rabbinic enactment. Oneg tion of the Avudraham is found in the earlier by the Ritvah (Rosh Hashanah (Eiruvin 40b). The Talmud poses the Shabbos, enjoying ourselves on the Chasam Sofer (Toras Moshe on Zayin 18b), that the Nevi’im were already question of whether someone who Shabbos, is, according to most poskim, Adar). He writes that all the other fasts aware of the future destruction is observing a private fast on a Friday a Torah obligation! Why would Asarah commemorate a terrible tragedy that that would happen, and therefore fi nishes the fast until the stars come B’Teves set Shabbos aside? the nation of Israel incurred. Not so ordained the fasts as approximate—in out on Friday night, which is well into

20 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Shabbos. Rav Meir Simcha ration from all three of the the opinions of the Minchas Instruments of violence are their weapons points out that the Talmud explanations to his words. Chinuch and Rav Soloveit- could have posed the same We can be inspired from chik that the fast days are (Bereishis 49:5) question in regard to a regu- the fact that, according to indeed very weighty, and, at Said Yaakov to Shimon and Levi: These instruments are stolen by lar public fast. The only reg- the Yaaros Dvash and the least according to their view, you. They are not yours but Esav’s, to whom it was said (Bereishis ular public fast that falls on Bnei Yissaschar, beginnings they would even set aside the 27: 40), “And by your sword shall you live.” (The word used by the verse for “violence,” chamas, also means “robbery.”) a Friday is the 10th of Teves. do matter and matter enor- Shabbos itself were it not for Yet, for some reason, the mously. They carry within other factors. (Midrash Rabbah) Talmud chose not to ask that them messages of tremen- We should utilize all of In their anger they slew a man, and in their question regarding the 10th dous import. The idea that these explanations to help selfwill they maimed a bull of Teves. The answer must the Chasam Sofer presents of add vitality to our obser- (Bereishis 49:6) be, reasons Rav Meir Sim- Asarah B’Teives being unique vance of the fast days in gen- “In their anger they slew a man”—the inhabitants of Shechem, cha, that it is too obvious in that it is an opportunity eral and Asarah B’Teves spe- who could offer no more resistance than a single man; “And in that one would be obligated to change the course of our ciﬁ cally.  their wish they maimed a bull”—Yosef, who is likened to a bull to complete the fast for the future is also something that (Devarim 33:17). The author can be reached at 10th of Teves. Why? Because should be welcomed. Finally, (Rashi) the 10th of Teves would even one can also learn much from [email protected]. push aside Shabbos itself! It would thus certainly require the faster to complete the fast until the stars come out on Friday night of Shabbos! Proof For Rav Meir Simcha. Backing up Rav Meir Sim- cha is the fact that the Shul- chan Aruch OC 288:5 rules regarding when one fasts on account of a bad dream, that one may fast on Shabbos. Thus, the Shulchan Aruch rules in 249:4 that one fasting for a bad dream on Friday certainly does fast until the stars come out on Friday night—it is a kal vachomer argument! Conclusion Ultimately, the halacha is not like the Avudraham. However, we can still derive remarkable insight and inspi-

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 21 BAGEL STORE teenager in the early 1930s with his fam- Continued from Front Cover ily, established himself, and raised his family here. Still, from the very outset, the eight days of the chag and beyond. he displayed a serious and uncanny pas- Over the last 24 years, my Chanu- sion for the State of Israel. kah has been redefi ned by the passing I think that he genuinely subscribed away of my dad, Rabbi Nison Gordon, to the idea that the founding of the a’h, on that fateful sixth day of Chanu- state in 1948 was indeed the begin- kah. I have written about and refl ected ning of the blossoming of the promised upon the experience extensively but, redemption of Am Yisrael. And that in this year, I decided to approach the sub- the aftermath of his family’s immigrat- ject a little differently. ing to America and the ravages of the In the past, I approached the yahrt- Holocaust that claimed such a toll on zeit with anticipation and even trepi- the Jewish people, that this was indeed dation as Chanukah approached. This the “Ikvesa d’Moshicha,” the footsteps time, I deliberately delayed my eluci- of the arrival of our righteous Messiah. dation of the subject until after the He was always so animated and even yahrtzeit and the yom tov of Chanukah excited about the Tanach that he stud- had elapsed so that, instead of looking ied as a small child and teenager in ahead with some unease and anxiety, I Europe coming to fruition before his could write these words while looking very eyes. back and reviewing the experience here My father told me about a decade in print. These words are being written before he passed away that his plan was on Sunday morning at 35,000 feet in the to be interred in Israel. He said humor- air over the Atlantic Ocean. It occurs to ously—or maybe it wasn’t that funny me that I have spent a lot of time fl y- after all—that he did not mind living ing over oceans during Chanukah over on America, but that after his life here these many years. would be over, he did not want to lay As the yahrtzeit approaches, you in America. never know how it is going to turn out. So it was on that sixth day of Cha- There are so many factors involved in nukah in 1989 that the music stopped. how this observance works out and it Everything changed, as we were sud- changes from year to year. denly on our way to bury our father Traveling to Israel for the yahrtzeit has in Bet Shemesh and then spend Shab- changed so many things for me and my bos Chanukah in a rather contradictory family. My father was a Yiddish writer joyous atmosphere in Jerusalem before who expressed himself eloquently on retuning back to New York on Sunday diverse topics over more than a half morning. century. Though he was born and raised It is perhaps additionally important in a part of Russia that was also some- to note that, in the fi rst paragraph of times Poland, he came to the U.S. as a my father’s will, he requested that at

22 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES least one of his children visit his kever myself or my siblings. on that imposing Bet Shemesh moun- Anyway, it’s a few hours later on Sun- tain each year. Granted that, especially day and I now have both feet on the when the children were very young, this ground back at home. I was in Israel, was a huge imposition—that is where as you may have read, for one day the redefi ning of Chanukah comes into short of two weeks. I don’t know if it is the picture. But at the same time, as the because of the fashion in which events years went on, I began to gain a greater unfolded, but I have come to love being insight into what my father was think- in Israel for Chanukah. Sure, there are ing, if that is at all possible. He loved still sacrifi ces that need to be made. For Eretz Yisrael with all his heart and soul, example, I miss a lot of Chanukah par- but I think he wasn’t sure that he’d suc- ties here. But you know what they say: cessfully transmitted those sentiments you have to do what you have to do. to us, his children. The day prior to my father’s yahrtzeit, He knew we would be busy and dis- I was in a taxi with a yarmulke-wear- tracted with everyday life. Maybe we ing driver. We chatted. He asked where would never fi nd the right time to pull I was from and the specifi c purpose, ourselves away from our families or our if any, for our visit to the holy land at work. I know a great deal of people who that particular time. We told him that make travel to Israel a constant priority the catalyst for the trip was my father’s for themselves and their families. And yahrtzeit. He began speaking about his I know a few who have been to Israel parents, and how they passed away a once or twice over the last 40 years few months apart from one another not and that is it. And then there are a few that long ago. Before we exited the cab, whom I know who have never been to he stopped, turned around, and told us Israel; that is, not yet, anyway. I believe that there was no greater tribute or way my father thought that we might, if left of performing kibud av than to observe to our own devices, fi t into one of those a yahrtzeit in that fashion. I told my wife last two categories. later that I do not see these taxi driv- As I look around the plane today, I ers or others who might seem like ran- have not been able to identify anyone dom bit players in one’s life as inconse- who is returning from burying a parent quential, or just color commentators on in Eretz Yisrael. I bring that up because life. I see them as purveyors of import- over the years I have spotted quite a few ant, even Divine, messages and I absorb situations like that, both leaving from what they have to say accordingly. New York and returning from Israel. It’s I know I have described and dis- not that I have a disposition toward rec- cussed many times the depth of the ognizing these situations. It is just that experience of being at my father’s grave- when I am in the airport and I see them, side on his yahrtzeit as he simply and I can’t help realizing that I am reliving those days and, to an extent, seeing Continued on Page 28

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 23 24 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 25 26 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 27 BAGEL STORE part of the body with whom it part- Continued from Page 23 nered in its previous lifetime.” Believe me when I say that the view humbly requested. Even though I have from the cemetery is indeed impressive, had the good fortune to visit him more but I could have easily foregone that than once a year, I have to say that these view for a while longer, given the oppor- visitations, if you can call them that, are tunity. But that was my father; there not in the least repetitious. I may have was a poetic dimension to everything. It felt at some point that I was perform- is as if visiting his kever would not be ing an obligation or fulfi lling a commit- compelling enough, there had to be a ment. But though it was his request that spectacular view as an added attraction. we do so, I now feel that this rite or rit- Well, now I am back home in New ual is something that does more for me. York, refl ecting upon the experience Though it is a dimension of kibud av, I of our Chanukah. I sit at my desk, jet- really have no clue or insight as to what lagged in the middle of the night, gently it does for my dad. tapping out these words. I feel happy, So I will try to put into a few words satisfi ed, but also sad. I’m pleased that what I believe, or at least imagine, it I could do what I have done: gone to does. I feel that it connects us to one Israel with my wife and two of my sons, another in a two-way manner, not and recited Psalms, and talked over unlike the natural bonds that a child issues of the day and talked from the has to a parent during their lifetime. heart at his spot that he chose on that The cemetery in Bet Shemesh is on the mountain outside Jerusalem.

He loved Eretz Yisrael with all his heart and soul, but I think he wasn’t sure that he’d successfully transmitted those sentiments to us, his children.

slope of a rather steep mountain. Some- And that fulfi lls me almost unlike times I feel like the king of the hill up any other experience. After all, isn’t that there, especially as I look around and what people are looking for every day replay in my mind my father telling me in life—fulfi llment, satisfaction, and so many times how much I was going to accomplishment in a good and posi- enjoy the view of the Judean Hills from tive vein? Then there is the additional that vantage point. awareness that, aside from the unfold- My friend, Dr. Bernie Kastner, a psy- ing of this fateful experience—that is, chologist based in Jerusalem and an aside from abiding by my dad’s wishes individual who has studied and writ- to be in Israel on his yahrtzeit—I also ten extensively about the afterlife, have been given the extra bonus of Cha- responded to my inquiry about visit- nukah in Eretz Yisrael. ing the kever on a yahrtzeit with the fol- More than anything, those few days lowing: “Visiting a parent or relative’s were about fi ery light and being intellec- grave accomplishes several purposes. tually illuminated with deeper under- Firstly, it gives the visitor an opportu- standing and feeling about the essence nity to pray to Hashem in the presence of our existence and the connection to of the departed soul. This would be a things greater and larger than we are. propitious time for special requests to So, yes, I suppose I am happy and sad Hashem while the neshamah can act and, for today anyway, in a place where as a meilitz yosher. The neshamah has these otherwise contradictory emo- free rein to fl y wherever it wants on the tions are able to effectively and peace- day of its yahrtzeit, and a portion of the fully coexist.  day is devoted to hovering around the kever. Therefore, the soul is very happy Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at to see its family come to visit, especially [email protected]. if they are coming from abroad. While too-frequent visits to the kever are not recommended, neither are noticeable absences from visiting a kever. The Remember reciting of Kaddish is also a benefi t derived by the neshamah, as the words of the Kaddish are a comfort to both the that article? departed neshamah and to the visiting family members. “From the neshamah’s perspective, Visit our archive section it visits the gravesite where its body was buried in order to show contin- and find any issue of the ued respect for the physical body, who acted as the soul’s partner in life. 5 Towns Jewish Times After the body decomposes, the etzem haluz remains in the kever until the online @ time of techiyat hameitim. Therefore, the neshamah, on the yahrzeit, has an www.5TJT.com opportunity to revisit with an actual 28 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 29 FROM THE EDITOR MK’s. He speaks an English wasn’t about economic issues, Continued from Front Cover that is limited but expressive, defense funding, or whether or which may perhaps be related not to surrender valuable land her diversity is on display to his extensive contact with to Arabs so as to show addi- wherever you happen to gaze American Jewish supporters, tional good faith in the hope or walk. combined with the fact that he of achieving some kind of a So much takes place on a has a sister who lives on Ocean peace. The issue, which they daily basis that requires debate Parkway in Brooklyn. To an just fi nished debating in the and back-and-forth haggling. extent, Rabbi Zeev is the reli- Knesset, was a proposed law Yet it is a relatively quiet and gious and moral compass of that would allow Israeli police orderly place, where legislators the Knesset. to go in and rescue Jewish girls with extremely different out- Despite a hectic day and who are involuntarily living looks and opinions interface the pressure to get home with their Arab husbands or with one another regularly, to light the menorah, he sat boyfriends in Arab villages in smiling and talking with one with us to discuss the issues Israel. another despite their severe of the moment. As we arrived And here’s the startling, disagreements. at about 3:00 p.m. one day even shocking news. Today MK Nissim Zeev, one of the last week, the members were there are over 30,000 young senior members of Shas—the streaming down the hallways women between the ages of 16 party founded by Rav Ovadya back to their offi ces after a and 18 living under these cir- Yosef, zt’l, and inspired by him heated Knesset debate. cumstances. As the law stands for decades—is one of the I found the issue that was today, police are not permit- most congenial and friendly discussed rather shocking. It ted to go into those villages or homes and rescue these girls, even if they are aware that they are being held against their will. How is it that these types of situations exist? One would think that it would be a slam dunk to get legislation passed that allows police to enter these villages and help save these girls. But not so fast. MK Zeev, who introduced the bill, explains why not. “There is a large and infl uential sector of the Knesset that believes that freedoms need to be protected, regardless of the harm caused or damage done,” he explains. And one effect of this is that if 16-year-old or even younger Israeli girls get entangled in a bad and potentially dangerous situation, as of today, the law in Israel is not on their side. He adds that the mood in the Israel legislature today is such that almost all social issues are viewed from a liberal European perspective. Where that impacts on this situation is that if a law of this nature were to pass, then, for example, young women who wanted to stay with their Arab boyfriends, but whose parents wanted them “rescued,” might be pulled out against their will. I asked MK Zeev, whose Shas party sits in the opposition today, why this is such a vital issue to him. He says that it has little to do with politics, but rather is a situation that is plaguing young women and their families in an increasing fashion. Shas is a party with primarily Sephar- dic community support, with an inordinate number of families having two things in common—the families are large and are struggling economi- cally. (Though MK Zeev points out that the young women in this situation, whom the proposed legislation would affect, are from a broad cross-section of the Israel population.)

Continued on Page 80 30 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES AUTO SECTION Menashe and Efraim. As we know, expectations of the position. Kehas had Efraim was placed before Menashe. four sons—Amram, Yitzhar, Chevron, insights on Throughout Sefer Bereishis, we and Uziel. Amram was the oldest of the see that the ﬁ rstborn, even if he was four and the primary child. THE TORAH male—which in ancient times surely What can we learn from this resound- bestowed very signiﬁ cant advantages— ing failure of statistics? That when it fell far short of expectations. The short- comes to spiritual achievement, there Vayechi: Looking Out For Each person’s efforts will decide Number One what he or she will attain. BY RABBI YITZCHOK D. FRANKEL AGUDATH ISRAEL OF THE FIVE TOWNS

The episode of Efraim superseding children—Eisav and Yaakov. Who took fall is extreme, as borne out by the are no built-in advantages or disadvan- Menashe highlights an intriguing phe- the birthright? Yaakov had 12 chil- above examples. What statistics say tages. Each person’s efforts will decide nomenon in Sefer Bereishis. What we dren—the oldest being Reuven. Reuven should be the predominant majority what he or she will attain. There is would predict as the normal develop- lost all of his advantages: The kingship turns out not even to be a minority: It complete free choice, and the only ment of children is totally nonexistent went to Yehudah, the kehunah went is a zero! rule is lefum tza’ara agra, “The reward here. Let us consider the following: to Levi, and the rights of the fi rstborn This is true even as we move into is according to the effort” (Avos 5:23). In a normal population, the fi rst- went to Yosef. Sefer Sh’mos, where we fi nd that Amram Every individual can reach the apex of borns of any given family have greater Levi had three sons—Gershon, had three children—Miriam, Aharon, spiritual achievement, based on his or chances of demonstrable success in Kehas, and Merari. The preeminent son and Moshe. As great as they all were, we her own efforts. The facts prove it.  life. This is borne out by testing. It is was Kehas. Yehudah had Er, Onan, Shei- know that Moshe was the preeminent Rabbi Frankel can be reached at rav@ for good reason: The fi rstborn spends lah, Peretz, and Zerach. Peretz was the child. There was only one fi rstborn up agudah5t.org. At local stores: Machat shel Yad the initial months or years of his or her preeminent son. Yosef had two sons— to this point who actually fulfi lled our Bereishis, Sh’mos, and Vayikra. life as the exclusive emphasis and focus of his or her parents. They throw all of their efforts into that child. If the child has average or above average capabilities, he will have experienced tremendous amounts of learning opportu- nities from both father and mother. Psychological studies have proven this to be true. Kate Lorenz, an editor at Career- Builder.com, writes the following: “In his book The Pecking Order: Which Siblings Succeed and Why, Dalton Con- ley demonstrates that 75% of the income inequality between individuals in the United States occurs between siblings in the same families . . . Research shows that fi rstborns [and only children] lead the pack in terms of educational attain- ment, occupational prestige, income, and net worth. Conversely, middle children in large families tend to fare the worst. “‘A child’s position in the family impacts his personality, his behavior, his learning, and ultimately his earning power,’ states Michael Grose, author of Why First-Borns Rule the World and Last-Borns Want to Change It. ‘Most people have an intuitive knowledge that birth order somehow has an impact on development, but they underestimate how far-reaching and just how signifi - cant that impact really is.’” So say the researchers in the fi eld. Yet, if we take a look at the events in Sefer Bereishis, we immediately see that this expectation does not pan out. Let’s cite a few examples: Adam had three sons—Kayin, Hevel, and Sheis. The successful son was Sheis. Noach had three sons—Shem, Cham, and Yefes. Although Shem is mentioned fi rst, Yefes was actually the oldest, while Cham was the youngest and Shem was the middle child. However, Shem was the ancestor of Klal Yisrael and the preeminent son. Terach had three sons—the oldest being Haran, the second, Avraham, and the third, Nachor. The success of the middle child in this family speaks for itself. Avraham had two children— the older Yishmael, and the younger Yitzchak. Who was preeminent and who was ejected? Yitzchak had two AUTO SECTION 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 31 height. Obvious differences are not just self marrying a petite girl, and made sure seen in our frum circles, but in secular to inform the shadchanim of that desire. ones as well. The tabloids are fi lled with The shadchanim you were dealing with pictures from celebrity couples where the presumably encountered diffi culties in woman is infi nitely taller than the guy she fi nding you dates when revealing the is involved with. And those women are not true nature of your height. So they took Question I am nervous to go forward with an lacking for dates. But, whatever the reason matters into their own hands and fi bbed I am 24-year-old guy and I consider engagement for two reasons. First of all, may be, there is something unique about about your height, hoping to get you that myself “yeshivish.” When I was younger I always wanted to marry a girl who is the guy that propels her in making the fi rst date. Although I do not subscribe to I was worried that I would have a hard shorter. I am also worried that she wants choice to overlook his shorter stature. such methods, I must admit that they time in fi nding a shidduch. I am 5-foot-2 to marry me because I heard that she had a The days where the guy traditionally sometimes work. Your situation is a case and everyone in my family is short. Some very hard time with shidduchim. How will had to be taller than the girl—as in “tall, in point where, if the girl you are dating members of my family are even shorter I ever know the real reason that she wants dark, and handsome”—are now past, in would have known your true height, she than me. to marry me? most circles. Not that most girls are hop- might not have agreed to go out with you. When I entered the shidduch parashah, My parents are angry that I am dragging ing to marry guys shorter than themselves, Dating in frum circles is worlds apart I always made sure to tell the shadchanim this shidduch out, but how can I be sure but they are more receptive to the value of from the secular approach, and singles are my real height and that they should only why she wants me? What if she decides inner qualities. conditioned to question every intention— set me up with petite girls. Somehow I after we get married that she really wants As a tall girl gets to know the guy who even those that serve to benefi t them. Your always ended up being redt to girls who a taller guy? is shorter than her, she can usually let go concerns and fears are real, and you have were taller than me. Most of the time, they of her initial discomfort over their heights. every right to question the motives of the did not want a second date, and I found out Response So, although a girl may be taken aback girl you are dating. that the girls were told that I am 5-foot-5. By Baila Sebrow when she fi rst meets a guy who is shorter, In the shidduch world, there is tremen- Recently a similar story happened. A Chemistry is complex. No one under- her fi rst impression can dissipate as she dous pressure for a girl to marry young. girl who is my age and much taller than stands why one person is attracted to views his qualities from a different per- When a girl reaches the age of 24 and is me was told that I am taller than I really another. We all know and see couples spective. still unmarried, she is customarily advised am. This time around, not only did the girl who, to our perception, seem mismatched From a guy’s perspective, however, the by everyone—including parents, teachers, want to go out with me again, but we con- due to physical contrast. There are cou- physical characteristics of a girl are one of and shadchanim—to either lower her stan- tinued to go out and I hear that her parents ples where the dissimilarity involves vast the main attributes that will capture his dards or broaden her horizons in what she are pushing for us to get engaged. differences in weight or, as in your case, interest. In your case, you envisioned your- is seeking in a husband. There are many girls who, at 24 and older, will marry guys they never would have considered a few years earlier. But that is not a bad thing, and should not deter you from this shidduch. Maturity, and not necessarily desperation, can be what makes someone open her eyes to other possibilities. It seems you are more bothered about your own short stature than the girl is. If this girl you are dating is as desperate as you imagine her to be, there are other serious areas in a guy’s qualities she could have chosen to overlook, even before you came into the picture. Instead, she chose to overlook the difference in height by dating you, and furthermore in wanting to marry you. It is she who is pushing for the relationship to ascend to the next level. If you are sincerely not attracted to her because she is not the petite girl you’d go for, then clearly you need to do yourself and her the favor of ending this relationship immediately—without any delay. However, if you are nervous about getting engaged simply because you are not sure if she is marrying you for the qualities you possess outside your height, then simply ask her what she sees in you. Schedule a date and, while speaking to her alone, compliment her on the qualities she demonstrates. Talk about her mid- dos and what you admire most about her. She might reciprocate in verbalizing that which she fi nds admirable about you. If not, there is nothing wrong in asking her what she appreciates about you. From her response, you will get a feel for what she really likes about you. You need to hear it so that you will get over the notion that she wants to marry you out of desperation. If you ultimately decide to go ahead with this shidduch and get engaged, take pride in the fact that, unlike some of the so-called perfect-looking couples, you were blessed to attain true appreciation of each other. Baila Sebrow is president of Neshoma Advocates, communications and recruitment liaison for Sovri-Beth Israel, executive director of Teach Our Children, and a shadchanis. She can be reached at [email protected]. 

Questions and comments can be submitted to [email protected]. 32 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES AUTO SECTION News From Touro College Prelaw Students Are Mentored Straight To The Top. Since 2010, Touro College has increasingly placed its prelaw students at top-rated law schools, placing seven of its students at Harvard Law School in the past three years. In 2013 alone, seven students gained admission to law schools ranked in the top 21 in the country by U.S. News and World Report. “This is a remarkable achievement for a small prelaw program that annually sends only 20 students to law school,” says Thomas Rozinski, a professor of political science and Touro’s principal prelaw advisor. He expects that several students will be admitted to top-20 law schools again this academic year. Touro graduates who are now in law school credit their admission record to the prelaw preparation they received while applying to law school. A laser- Prof. Thomas Rozinski like focus on each step in the process—from choosing undergraduate the Constitution” refi ne their skills by courses that will help them prepare teaching them to write a judicial opin- for law school, to choosing references ion and “synthesize the law on paper.” who can best present their strengths, At the end of the semester, they argue to repeated revisions of their applica- their cases before a panel of three law- tions’ personal statements—has gener- yers. ated winning outcomes for these stu- Being prepared seems not to be a dents. major concern for this newest crop of “I got incredible guidance,” says Yossi legal newbies. “I was worried how I Lieberman, who is in his fi rst year at would stack up against students who Harvard Law School, and who was had been through Yale or Harvard as accepted at four of the fi ve top law undergraduates,” says Lieberman. “I schools he applied to. He credits Roz- have them in my study groups. I’m just inski with his own success. fi ne. Really.” “I think our emphasis on develop- GSE Awarded Seven Year Accred- ing critical thinking and writing skills itation. Touro College programs in really helps our students when they teacher education and school lead- get to law school,” says Rozinski, him- ership at its Graduate School of Edu- self a graduate of Harvard Law School. cation (GSE) have been awarded full “Because of the small size of my accreditation for seven years by the classes—which average fi ve students— Inquiry Brief Commission of the Coun- they get far more attention than at cil for the Accreditation of Educator schools with dozens of prelaw stu- Preparation. dents.” Accreditation to the school’s educa- Avigail Shloush, now in her fi rst year tional leadership and teacher educa- at 21st-ranked George Washington Uni- tion programs encompasses the seven versity in Washington D.C., says that master of science degree programs the small size of Touro’s prelaw pro- offered by the GSE—in education and gram “works hugely to our advantage, special education, instructional tech- because the prelaw program is basi- nology, mathematics education, school cally a one-on-one personal guidance leadership, special education, teaching by Prof. Rozinski.” English to speakers of other languages When Shloush came to Lander Col- (TESOL), and teaching literacy. lege for Women/The Anna Ruth and “Attaining this signifi cant accredita- Mark Hasten School, law school tion requires a rigorous and exhaustive “was more of a dream than a realistic review. The results represent an exem- option,” she says. But Touro’s lineup plary achievement for the administra- of law-related courses—including two tion, faculty, staff, and students of the semesters of business law and a politi- Graduate School of Education,” said cal science/prelaw class taught by Prof. Touro College President and CEO Dr. Daniel Chill—set her on her current Alan Kadish. “We congratulate Dean path. LaMar Miller, Ph.D., who led the school “I have friends [at law school] who through the challenging accreditation attended various other undergraduate process and continues to provide lead- schools, yet their prelaw program and ership for one of the largest schools of advising was not comparable to what education in New York State.” I received at Touro,” she says. “With- Said Dean Miller, “We are extremely out such advice and direction, it’s fairly pleased to be receiving this accredita- possible that I wouldn’t be where I am tion, which is a tribute to everyone in today.” our community. As we celebrate our Rozinski chalks up Touro’s success 20th anniversary, we are proud of our to the prelaw courses Touro offers, as diverse student body, our commitment well as the intensive counseling. He to high quality education, the per- notes that many of the students bene- sonal attention afforded our students, fi t from Talmudic studies, which gives and the innovative teachers, admin- them regular practice in close reading istrators, and educational leaders we of texts and debating their meaning. graduate every year—especially those Courses such as “Civil Rights and Civil Liberties” and “the Supreme Court and Continued on Page 34 AUTO SECTION 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 33 Touro News Continued from Page 33

serving high-need and diverse student bodies throughout the city and the state of New York.”

Dr. Zvi Loewy

College Of Pharmacy Appoints Interim Dean. Dr. Zvi Loewy, professor and chair of the department of phar- maceutical and biomedical sciences at Touro College of Pharmacy, will serve as the school’s interim dean. Dr. Loewy succeeds Dr. Stuart Feldman, who stepped down last week. “I am pleased that Dr. Loewy has agreed to undertake this signifi cant assignment at this time,” said Dr. Kadish. “With his experience in the biological sciences and pharmacy education, research, private industry, as well as his proven commitment to the school and its mission, the college is well-served to have Dr. Loewy take the lead at this time. I wish him every success as he collaborates with the campus provost and CEO, Dr. Jay Sexter, in carrying out this new assignment.” Said Dr. Loewy, “I am grateful for this opportunity being afforded to me to provide strong management to the Col- lege of Pharmacy, to foster a culture of rigor and excellence in pharmacy education, to ensure superb training for our diverse student body, and to lead and develop the faculty of the our school.” Dr. Loewy has a diversifi ed professional background that includes more than 30 years in academia, executive leadership with major global pharma- ceutical companies, and creation and management of biotech start-up companies. Dr. Loewy is a graduate of Yeshiva University (B.A.), Rensselaer Polytech- nic Institute (M.S.), and the Albert Ein- stein College of Medicine (Ph.D.). In addition to his position at Touro College of Pharmacy, he is on the faculty of New York Medical College, and serves on the boards of the Jerusalem College of Tech- nology and the New Jersey Technology Incubator. Dr. Loewy is a member of the scientifi c advisory board of C3 Jian, a private company focused on providing improved oral healthcare; is a member of the steering committee of the Penn- sylvania Translational Research Partner- ship Institute and the Coulter advisory council; and is an editor of the Journal of Prosthodontics. Dr. Loewy has published broadly and holds over 25 patents.  34 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 35 that’s the WAY IT IS By Hannah Reich Berman Rough For Whom?

When people say they had a rough week, they are usually referring to something serious, such as a health issue or a major fi nancial problem. But not all rough times fall into those categories. Some of us claim to have had a rough week simply because of a snafu in our daily living. Shamefully, every now and then I slip into the latter group. I’m not above kvetching when things don’t go my way. And that’s just what I did. Thank G-d, there were no monumental crises! Nevertheless, in my mind, I had a rough week. I spent most of Monday morning on the phone with tech support to get help for problems with my cable television. And the very next day, I needed help for a computer problem. I am unable to solve any technical problems on my own and, even with help, they pose a challenge to me. But every now and then I make some headway. After three years of not even knowing that I had DVR service, I learned that I did and I managed to learn how to use it. I am proud to say that I am now able to record any program that interests me and then play it back at my leisure. That might not sound like a big deal but, for someone such as myself, it is more than just a big deal: it is a huge accomplishment. I even learned how to change the date on the channel guide so that I can record a future program. The average eight-year-old can do the same thing, but that’s neither here nor there. Every now and then something goes wrong with my DVR service—something that is not due to any error of mine—and when it does, I simply call my cable service and ask for help. Invariably, the problem is an internal one—the problem is in their system and not due to any misstep on my part. So some unsuspecting soul gets on the phone to help me and I do what he tells me to do. Eventually he gets the problem solved. I play no part in the solution. I’m proud just to have been able to follow his instructions. On this occasion, it took a long time to clear things up because every time we hung up, the same problem recurred and I had to call back. After three separate phone calls, it was fi nally straightened out. All was right with my world. Until the next day! The very next morning, my computer decided to give me some much-unneeded grief. No rest for the weary! Once again I called for help and I was told that the diffi culty was with my browser, or maybe he called it my search engine. I don’t know what it’s called and I don’t care. I know only that it’s what I use to send and receive e-mail! And I was unable to do either. As soon as my helper’s voice came over the wire, I knew I was not speaking to anyone in the continental United States. Unlike my television cable service provider, the people who provide me with Internet service are big on out- sourcing! That, in and of itself, is a hurdle since I don’t do well with accents. I never have. Based on the accent, I guessed that the man was speaking to me from some-

Continued on Page 38 36 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 37 THAT’S THE WAY IT IS! it but it occurred to me that “Keith” just Wheels Of Healing Continued from Page 36 might know who Hoover was. And, if he suspected me of mocking him, maybe where on the Asian continent. He asked he would be vindictive and permanently for my full name, asked for permission to mess up my computer. I couldn’t take that call me by my fi rst name, and then intro- chance so, once again, resisting the urge to duced himself as John. If this guy was be silly, I said I was Hannah. really named John, I may as well have By the conclusion of this second tech introduced myself as Mahatma Gandhi. support call, the problem was perma- But there was no point in challenging nently resolved. It was resolved in the fol- him. If he wanted me to call him John I lowing fashion: I followed a few prompts would do it. His real name was no busi- from “Keith,” and then he “took over” my ness of mine. computer and, with no input from me, “John” was helpful but it took time to he did everything, while I sat back and work things out. According to his logic, watched the cursor fl it back and forth an e-mail that had been sent to me was across the monitor. corrupt. I wasn’t quite clear on how that A few days later, when I mentioned my ruined my e-mail capabilities, but I didn’t recent diffi culties to a friend—one who care. I just wanted the problem resolved. is similarly challenged—she said she was And it was. Unfortunately, no sooner had impressed that I was able to get my prob- I hung up with “John” than the same thing lems solved, especially the computer prob- happened again. My fi rst inclination was lems. But, not wanting to take credit that to bang my head against the nearest wall I am not entitled to, I told her the truth— but I exercised restraint. And I made a sec- which was that I had absolutely noth- ond call. ing to do with any of it! I phrased it this This time I found myself speaking to a way: somewhere on the Asian continent, fellow who called himself Keith. He too a guy is probably still sitting stunned and sounded as if he might be sitting some- scratching his head. The head scratching where on the continent of Asia. Actually, might be due to lice but the likelier sce- Recently, Lynn Bagliebter, SVP of the Hudson for all I knew he could have been in the nario is that it was because of his conver- same room with John. Clearly he wasn’t sation with me. It’s not hard to imagine Valley National Foundation, presented a donation anywhere here in the 48. And the name that when he got off the phone he looked “Keith” was an even more ludicrous choice at his wife and yelled “Gevalt! You can’t to Rabbi Elozer Kanner, Hatzalah coordinator, and than “John” had been. imagine the dummy in America that I just Once again, after picking up on his had to deal with!” Israel Melnicke, Hatzalah paramedic, in apprecia- accent, I was tempted not to tell him that Poor fellow! And I thought I had a rough my fi rst name was Hannah. This time it week? That’s the way it is!  tion of Hatzalah of the Rockaways and Nassau Coun- occurred to me to say that I was J. Edgar Hoover. I have no idea where that thought Hannah Berman lives in Woodmere and is ty’s efforts during Hurricane Sandy. a licensed real-estate broker associated with came from, especially since Hoover has Marjorie Hausman Realty. She can be reached been dead for so long. I might have done at [email protected] or 516-902-3733.

38 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 39 Mussar From HaRav Salomon have the Lithuanian and Yeshiva leadership. That leadership is being chal- Machberes: Inside The Chassidish And Yeshivish World lenged by the B’nei Torah party, led by Rabbi Shmuel Auerbach, rosh yeshiva BY RABBI GERSHON TANNENBAUM Maalot Hatorah in Jerusalem. Rabbi Shteinman is rosh yeshiva Rabbi Matisyahu Salomon, mashgi- that the machlokes should develop Gaon Yaakov in Bnei Brak. Rabbi ach of Beth Medrash Govoha in Lake- here in America. That which is trans- Kanievsky is the son of Rabbi Yaa- wood, delivers important mussar mes- piring in Israel has never before hap- kov Yisroel Kanievsky, zt’l (1899-1985), sages to kollel members at periodic pened in all of Jewish history, wherein Steipler Rav and revered author of intervals during the year. His speeches the honor of Torah leaders is noncha- Kehilas Yaakov. The Kehilas Yaakov focus on religious and communal lantly being thrown on the ground, was a brother-in-law of Rabbi Avro- issues and are followed by the entire stomped on, and dirtied.” hom Yeshaya Karelitz, zt’l (1878-1953), Torah community. Recordings are Rabbi Salomon was talking about the revered author of Chazon Ish and immediately available at yeshivas and furious quarrels raging between the Rabbi Matisyahu Salomon leader of the Lithuanian and Yeshivish shuls throughout the world. Haredi parties in Israel, between Degel community. Rabbi Chaim Kanievsky is He recently spoke on Chanukah, HaTorah and Bnei Torah. A squabble ical parties in Israel as to which is the the son-in-law of Rabbi Elyashiv. Rabbi in Yiddish, on what is transpiring in that has led to informing, tale-bear- heir to the Lithuanian and Yeshivish Shmuel Auerbach is the son of Rabbi Israel. He said, “I don’t know if I should ing, shaming Torah scholars, destroy- community leadership of Rabbi Ela- Shlomo Zalman Auerbach, zt’l (1919- speak up about this. But as far as I am ing livelihoods, and evil gossip. All zar Menachem Mann Shach, zt’l (1894- 1998), revered rosh yeshiva Kol Torah in concerned, ‘woe to me if I speak up, detract from confronting the priorities 2001), revered Ponovez rosh yeshiva in Jerusalem. and woe to me if I do not speak up.’ that are harming the Torah commu- Bnei Brak and founder of Degel HaTo- In the recent municipal elections, in Everyone knows that presently, in nity right now and must be addressed rah, and his heir, Rabbi Yosef Sholom Bnei Brak, Jerusalem, and elsewhere, Israel, there is a great tumult. Different immediately. This includes the draft- Elyashiv, zt’l (1910-2012), preeminent the two parties positioned different opinions abound. Thank Heaven that ing of yeshiva students and the drastic Torah sage in Jerusalem. The Degel candidates vying for mayoral posi- within the Torah community, here in fi nancial cuts to yeshivas, kollels, fam- HaTorah party is presently led by Rabbi tions. The campaigns were furious, America, the machlokes (controversy) ily budgets, and stipends. Aharon Shteinman and Rabbi Chaim with much dirty infi ghting. The lead- has not yet developed. Heaven forbid The battle is between religious polit- Kanievsky. Degel HaTorah presumes to ers were quoted as pronouncing those that would vote, or voted, for the other candidates were deserving of the death penalty. Those declarations were not denied or renounced. The machlokes continues unabated after the election. From within the walls of Beth Medrash Govoha, Rabbi Salomon called for shalom. He stressed that by shalom he is not urging relinquish- ing principles that are being fought for. Rather, that the battle for principles be fought in peaceful ways, as did previous Gedolim in great controver- sies throughout the ages, all for “Truth, Peace, and Love of Israel.” The battles between Beis Hillel and Beis Shamai were fi erce, but they were fought for truth in Torah interpretation and halachic decisions, not for victory alone. As ferocious as the disputes were, they fully respected each other, sat at the same tables, shared meals, and inter- married without hesitation. Rabbi Salomon’s speech was instantly translated in Hebrew, English, etc., and widely distributed, especially in Israel. Hapeles, the Bnei Torah newspaper in Israel, covered Rabbi Salomon’s speech in its Friday issue and gave it major coverage. The Hebrew Yated Ne’eman newspaper, which represents the Degel Hatorah party, ignored Rabbi Sal- amon’s address. Degel HaTorah insists that its battle is a holy war and must not be impeded or stopped. The cry of the Lakewood Mashgiach follows those of other Gedolim who have shouted that the focus must be on the threats to Torah life that are destroying the Torah community, not on inter-organizational arguments to gain honor, money, or prestige. Rabbi Aharon Teitelbaum, Sat- mar Rebbe and avowed anti-Zionist, denounced this political controversy and Haredi community infi ghting as deplorable. The Satmar Rebbe, in his keynote address to tens of thousands of chassidim at the annual 21st Kis- lev Celebration in the Crown Heights Armory, decried the petty bickering and wrangling while the Lapid government in Israel seeks to entirely destroy the Haredi Torah community infrastruc-

Continued on Page 42 40 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES YFR Alumni Have Some Light Fun Together

Yeshiva of Far Rockaway alumni attended a melavah malkah with Menahel Rabbi Aaron Brafman in Eretz Yisrael on the sixth night of Chanukah.

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 41 Machberes himself saved by Wallenberg, spon- to save the Budapest ghetto later, in pulling out his revolver, shooting Continued from Page 40 sored the Congressional legislation January 1945. Wallenberg dead, and having Wallen- making Wallenberg an Honorary Citi- Szalai provided Wallenberg with clan- berg’s body tossed out of the window. ture. While we stand here fearfully zen of the United States. That legisla- destine government information. In But Wallenberg’s courage and daring waiting to see whether yeshiva stu- tion was signed into law by President the second week of January 1945, Wal- action paid off, and the massacre of dents declining military draft notices Ronald Reagan in 1981. He was only the lenberg learned that Adolf Eichmann the ghetto was stopped at the last min- will be thrown into prisons or saddled second person to be so honored, after planned a massacre of the largest Jewish ute. Previously, Wallenberg had also with heavy fi nes, the two parties, sup- Winston Churchill. ghetto in Budapest, containing 30,000 warned Eichmann that the Germans posedly seeking to glorify Torah, are Following the wholesale murder of souls. The only one who could stop it would lose the war soon and that he, actually yielding the true battle for more than half a million Jews in Hun- was the man given the direct respon- Eichmann, would be hanged as a war Heaven’s glory to Yair Lapid and his criminal. Eichmann responded with acrimoniously anti-yeshiva campaign. a laugh and told Wallenberg that he If the bitter machlokes does not stop, would shoot him. Eichmann was ulti- the Satmar Rebbe sternly warned, both The battles between Beis Hillel mately hanged by the State of Israel on sides will ultimately be imprisoned. May 31, 1962. and Beis Shamai were fi erce, but The Wallenberg Heritage founda- The Day Wallenberg tion seeks to establish the brick-and- Saved 30,000 Jews: mortar Wallenberg Heritage Museum, Dinner December 17 they were fought for truth in where individual stories of the more The Wallenberg Heritage Founda- than 100,000 Jews he saved will be tion’s fi rst annual dinner will, iy’H, Torah interpretation and halachic recorded—in audio and video—and be held in the grand ballroom of the saved for history. By means of the Young Israel of Jamaica Estates, 83-10 Internet, those records will be avail- 188th Street in Queens, on Tuesday, decisions, not for victory alone. able to everyone, all over the world. December 17, 6:00 p.m. Joseph Frager, The 100,000 people whom Wallen- M.D., respected gastroenterologist and berg saved in 1944-1945 have gener- professor of medicine at the Albert ated upwards of 2,000,000 children, Einstein College of Medicine, will gary’s countryside, the Nazi occupation sibility and order to carry the massa- grandchildren, and great-grandchil- serve as dinner chairman. Dr. Frager of Budapest, labeled Operation Mar- cre out: the commander of the German dren. Aggressive educational out- is world renowned as the organizer of garethe, was commenced on March troops in Hungary, General Gerhard reach programs will be developed the annual Israel Day Parade Concert 19, 1944. On December 24, 1944, Kar- Schmidhuber. Through Szalai, Wallen- so that Wallenberg’s legacy will be a in Central Park. The dinner will serve oly Szabo, an employee of the Swed- berg met Schmidhuber face-to-face and highlight in school and college cur- as the exciting launch of the Wallen- ish Embassy in Budapest, heroically fearlessly warned him that he, Wallen- riculums in order to teach the world berg Heritage Foundation. saved 36 kidnapped employees from berg, would make sure the general was about Wallenberg and his selfless Raoul Wallenberg saved more than the Budapest ghetto. This brave act held personally responsible for the mas- dedication to saving as many lives as 100,000 Jews and was honored by the attracted Raoul Wallenberg’s full atten- sacre and war crimes, that Schmidhu- possible.  Guinness Book of World Records as the tion. Wallenberg arranged to meet Sza- ber would be hanged as a war crimi- single greatest hero in history, hav- bo’s infl uential secret friend, Pal Szalai, nal when the war was over, and that his Rabbi Gershon Tannenbaum is the Rav of ing saved the greatest number of peo- a high-ranking member of the police family would be forever disgraced. B’nai Israel of Linden Heights in Boro Park and Director of the Rabbinical Alliance of ple from extinction. In 1981, U.S. Con- force. They met on the night of Decem- In such a circumstance, there was America. Rabbi Tannenbaum can be contacted gressman Tom Lantos (1928–2008), ber 26. This meeting was a preparation nothing to stop Schmidhuber from at [email protected].

42 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES ment picture ID would not feature my only good purpose I’ve heard it used real estate & birthdate on it and that if he looked for to date has been to line the litter at the “guidelines” (I am being face- box of one of my customers’ cats!  mortgage financing tious) given him by the federal agency which appointed his UPS store to take Anessa Cohen lives in Cedarhurst and is a By Anessa V. Cohen my fi ngerprints, he would note that it licensed real-estate broker and a licensed N.Y.S. mortgage originator with over 20 is not required. years of experience, offering full-service Is this the new wave of thinking of residential, commercial, and management real- how to save our fi nancial and banking estate services (Anessa V Cohen Realty) and Regulatory Hogwash industry? Where will it all end? mortgaging services (First Meridian Mortgage) Next week I will tell you how this in the Five Towns and throughout the tri-state area. She can be reached at 516-569-5007 or via I wonder what all of us would I had to hold back laughing when he is translating in the mortgage applica- her website, www.AVCrealty.com. Readers are have done during the last fi ve years asked me why my birthdate was not tion process, where the average appli- encouraged to send questions or comments to if computers and printers had not featured on the second piece of ID as cation that needs to be signed is 84 [email protected]. been invented. Since all the mortgage meltdowns that caused the mortgage industry to turn itself upside during these last years, the regulations upon Did I grow new fi ngers that need Remember regulations, revisions upon revisions, that article? and additional guidelines upon addi- to be fi ngerprinted again? tional guidelines that have been com- Visit our archive section ing down the pike from Congress and the regulatory agencies of our 50 and find any issue of the states at whiplash speed have been well as the fi rst, and perhaps I might pages—including a 45-page booklet 5 Towns Jewish Times enough to make one consider tran- have another picture ID that also from RESPA for informational pur- quilizers. showed my birthdate that he could poses for the borrower. Do they really online @ If we could not keep updating and see. That was when it was time for me believe the borrowers are going to www.5TJT.com revising documents on computers and to explain to him that a non-govern- read a 45-page booklet on RESPA? The printing out those tighter and weight- ier changes on printers, how on earth would we manage to keep up with all those new regulations being thrown at the banks as if they come from a card dealer? As if this were not enough, they now have all the mortgage brokers and originators running to have their fi ngerprints taken again after already having their fi ngerprints taken three years ago. Why? Good question! Is there some reason that my fi ngerprints would be any different than the fi ngerprints that I already took and submitted three years ago? Did I grow new fi ngers that need to be fi ngerprinted again? I don’t think they fi n- gerprint convicted felons every three years. I can just see it now! Every three years, they go into the prisons and take a guy out and tell him, “We need to renew your fi ngerprints, come with me! The fi ngerprints we have on fi le for you are three years old and we have to update them!” Doesn’t this sound like the Twilight Zone to you? The joke was on me since fi rst I had to go online to make an appointment to get my fi ngerprints taken. Where do the banking regulators send you to have secure fi ngerprints taken? How many of you said the police station? Well, I probably would have said this as well! But, we all would have been wrong, since the places that have been authorized as secure locations to take fi ngerprints are . . . are you ready? . . . UPS stores! For any of you who think I am jok- ing, I promise you that I am not. I would love to hear the rationalization or the security clearance that was created to put this operation into place, where fi ngerprints for the security of the banking industry have now been put into the scope of responsibility of the local UPS stores. The guy in the store who mans the cash register took the fi ngerprints on a computer- ized fi ngerprint machine, then signed an attestation as to the fact that he saw one piece each of a government and non-government issued picture ID with my name on it before taking my fi ngerprints. 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 43 44 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Choose Your Weapon, Part I making friends with the people, and “I liked meeting people and explain- when I asked for a contribution, they ing what the yeshiva was all about. The Job Hunter “Every year, about 10 days before were very generous. We brought back When I got to asking them for money, Pesach, my yeshiva sends bachurim more than anyone else.” I felt like I was offering them a good BY RABBI MORDECHAI to different cities to collect contribu- “The next year I was asked to help deal, and I felt good when they said KRUGER tions for the scholarship fund. I didn’t organize the project. I really didn’t ‘yes’”. want to do it at fi rst—my Mom said it like checking the small details and Beryl and I worked on naming the Today we’ll start following the job would make me a schnorrer—but my the planning, but I did what I had skills that he had used in the cam- hunt process of Beryl Klein, a young paign. He had reached out and estab- imaginary client who heard about lished warm connections to new Pathways to Parnassa from a friend. Beryl might sound like a future people, shared his enthusiasm, moti- Beryl has been learning in a kollel vated others, spoken clearly, and for several years, and now he feels improvised as needed. He had dealt that it’s time to go to work. He has salesman, but there is a lot left with rejection (not everybody said never held a paying job, and he has yes), revised his approach, and tried no idea how to find one. He did fairly to do before he’s ready to make again. well in his secular subjects in high Beryl might sound like a future school, but there wasn’t anything salesman, but there is a lot left to do in his classes that particularly inter- that decision. before he’s ready to make that deci- ested him. He does not want to go to sion. To be a great salesman, you college or any extended classroom have to have a great product to sell. based program, because he really Dad said I should do whatever I could to do to help. Then they asked me to And Beryl’s first product must be . . . doesn’t like academic work. He wants to help. I was sent to Miami with a give the other guys a few pointers, himself.  to live in the New York area because friend, and we had a list of names to and that went really well. Some guys his family and rebbeim are here. His call. My friend asked me to do the came back to me later and said that Rabbi Mordechai Kruger is the founder and director of Pathways to Parnassa, an wife is working, so his family has talking. I remembered the pointers my ideas really helped. And I went organization providing job-search and career some income for the meantime, but we had heard before we left, and it back to Miami and was successful coaching to our community. He can be reached she’s expecting her third child. Since just came easily to me. I felt like I was there too.” at [email protected]. it sounds impractical for her to work full-time with three kids, Beryl is ready to work hard at finding a job so that he can become the family’s breadwinner. The fi rst step of Beryl’s job hunt is to identify the skills and talents that he has already used successfully, whether in his yeshiva learning or in everyday life. These skills will help form a framework that Beryl can use to investigate career options. For example, does he take careful notes about what he has learned? Do others seek him out when they need a clear explanation of a diffi cult point? Has he organized chaburahs, helped arrange chavrusas, reached out to others in some important way? All of these require skills that are easily transferable to the workplace. Beryl had done all of these things at one point or another, but I didn’t notice that spark, that subtle smile that hints of a life’s focus underneath. I asked Beryl if he could recall any activities outside of his learning which he had enjoyed and where he had been successful. He mentioned a few but it was when he started talking about his yeshiva’s Pesach fundraising campaign that he really got animated. Catch up on the latest breaking news at www.5TJT.com 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 45 Last year my husband and I bought ing something I just purchased, she’ll a house in the Five Towns. It’s been so act surprised, as if she had no idea that MINDBIZ great to be living in our own turf, mak- I owned the exact same jacket. If I tell ing friends and doing our thing, with- her to stay away from my friends and By Esther Mann, LCSW out worrying about bumping into my make her own friends, she’ll look at me sister everywhere. It’s been a year of as if I’m crazy and insist that my friends enormous freedom for me, and I’ve have been pursuing her. been happier than I can ever remember Before she moves in, I want to tell her being. that she is forbidden to join our shul. Dear Esther, of my room when my friends were vis- Well, the inevitable happened. I just There are many shuls in the area and My younger sister Fayge and I are 13 iting. That felt like a major victory. But learned that Fayge went to contract on she’s got to fi nd her own place, separate months apart. Fayge has always tried to she always seemed to be lurking nearby a house in my neighborhood, maybe and distinct from ours, because most copy me. I feel so immature saying this, and would almost accost them when a ten-minute walk from my house, at of our friends are from our shul. I also but it’s been a fact of my life for as far they showed up or were leaving. most. I knew, on some level, that this want to tell her that she should send her back as I can remember. We grew up in Queens and both mar- was bound to happen. I’d sooner believe children to different schools than we As little kids, she would want to imi- ried and took our fi rst apartments in that she would move to Mars than move send our children to, for the same rea- tate everything I said and did. Like most son. Basically, I want to tell her that she older siblings, I found it annoying and needs to create her own life and build we would fi ght. But this behavior never connections that are completely sepa- changed. As teenagers, it started to You know who you are rate from mine. Otherwise, she will lose become a big problem, as teenagers gen- me as a sister. If she gets into my space, I erally want to start fi nding their unique and you should feel comfortable will pretend I don’t even know her. ways and begin to stand out as individ- I know this sounds drastic and maybe uals. But this was never possible with with that knowledge. even disgusting, but I can’t imagine Fayge watching my every move. having to put up with her presence in When I cut my hair short, in no time my face any longer. When I moved out Fayge had short hair. If I bought a red here, I felt like I was running for my life. pocketbook, brown boots, or a plaid Queens. Yes, she bought a gray couch to Brooklyn or New Jersey or some I don’t want to have to run again. skirt, you could bet on Fayge showing when she saw that I’d bought a gray neighborhood that is not the one I live Do you think I have the right to tell up with similar items. She was so obvi- couch and she bought a similar bed- in. But actually knowing that it hap- Fayge what my rules are for her, and if ous and as far as I could tell, ridiculous room set to mine. pened is throwing me into a tizzy. I’m a she wants me to continue to behave looking, every time she tried so hard to Maybe you would think that over the wreck. I feel so invaded—like this hon- like her sister, she’d better get with the copy me. Somehow, she didn’t notice or many years I’d have gotten used to her eymoon period is over and once again, program? care. wanting to basically crawl under my I’ll be back in elementary school, watch- Enough Already When my friends would come over, at skin if she could, but I haven’t. It makes ing Fayge trying to pursue my friends, Dear Enough, any age, Fayge tried hard to be friendly me absolutely crazy! Sometimes I think my style, and my life! Younger siblings, both girls and boys, with them. I begged my mother to I sound paranoid. I avoid telling her I just don’t know what to do. Talking generally want nothing more than allow me to put a lock on my bedroom anything about what I’m up to, what my to Fayge is never helpful. I’ve been try- to be just like their older siblings— door so that Fayge could never come in. plans are, where I’m going. Our conver- ing to talk to her my whole life. Either this is nothing new. Having what they A lock was never allowed, but fi nally my sations are one-dimensional and imper- she is a liar, delusional, or takes me have, doing what they do, and behav- mother told Fayge she had to stay out sonal. for an idiot. When I call her on copy- ing the way they behave is quite natu-

46 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES ral. However, the situation you Past conversations on shot at getting her to hear in many cases it just doesn’t ent such a big problem. describe between yourself and this subject probably never you, if that’s even possible. work. Why it often doesn’t O.K. Now for the “conver- Fayge is so overboard, it bog- worked with Fayge because Before I suggest what a con- work can fi ll a column of its sation.” Arrange a lunch with gles the mind. At a time when they came from a nega- versation might look like, let own, but for now I happen to Fayge, so that the two of you most younger siblings begin tive place and she naturally me say that I agree that it is agree that in your case, a sepa- can sit together undisturbed to fi nd their own way and dis- reacted in a defensive man- an excellent idea for the two ration is a great idea. and have the opportunity to cover their own sense of self, ner. If you begin a discussion of you to belong to separate However, insisting that calmly share your feelings. And Fayge was still looking to you fi lled with anger, reproach, shuls. I agree that it’s proba- Fayge send her children to dif- they might go something like for guidance as to how to be. and threats, my guess is that bly healthier for each of you to ferent schools than you send this: “Mazel tov Fayge, on your It’s as though she has never you will lose her before you have your own base of friends, your children to is pushing it new house. That’s so exciting. developed even a clue about even get started. I think it’s and enjoy the feeling of being a bit. Unlike shuls, there aren’t I’m sure you’ll love living here herself, who she really is, what necessary to come from a appreciated as individuals that many schools to choose in the Five Towns and I wish her specifi c likes and dislikes place of encouragement and rather than as part of a pair of from that offer the same hash- you and your family all the are. She hasn’t developed her even excitement over her sisters. Though there is noth- kafah, assuming you and Fayge best success with your move. individual style, ideas, or even move, despite the fact that ing wrong with sisters belong- share a similar lifestyle. Hope- When you move in, I want basic needs. There appears to nothing could be further from ing to the same shul and even fully, your children are in dif- be a void within her, where the truth. But it’s your only enjoying the same friendships, ferent grades and it won’t pres- Continued on Page 48 there should be an emotion- ally fl eshed-out individual who is in touch with her own sense of self. Why this happened is anyone’s guess. Perhaps you were the prettier sister, the smarter sister, or the more fussed-over sister and she not only felt literally small around you, but insignifi cant as an individual. By modeling herself after you, she may have fi gured in some way that this behavior would assure her being noticed and would earn her respect and admiration. That’s one theory among many. But you’re not writing in to me for theories. You’re wondering, now that you are at the end of your rope, what options are open to you and what you can and cannot demand of Fayge.

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 47 MINDBIZ see that your generous offer to help Solution To Previous 5TJT Puzzle: Continued from Page 47 get her settled and happy in the neighborhood is not necessarily going to be Egyptian Cinema to be the fi rst to host you for a Shab- forthcoming. bos meal. Any guidance you need, just Most important, what you need to 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 call me up. I’ll advise you about the know is that whatever happens, you’ll S A S H M A M B A S A L T best supermarket to shop in, the fi nest be all right. Your closest friends will stay cleaners, the most caring pediatrician, true to you and understand that you’re 14 15 16 P IPE A MEER O BOE the best shoe repair shop, everything. not real good at “sharing” friends with I’ve done all the research and I can save sisters. Maybe they aren’t so good at it 17 18 19 you lots of time and energy. By the way, either, and that’s O.K. If some of your A REA J ILTS L END there is a terrifi c shul a few blocks away friends appear to jump ship and con- 20 21 22 from your house. I hear that it draws nect tightly with Fayge at your expense, D EATHONTHEN ILE a great crowd. Lots of people I know then probably they weren’t such mean- 23 24 25 you’ll enjoy getting to know. We daven ingful friends to you after all. E RR O RES N OD at ‘so and so,’ but I’m sure you’d agree If Fayge starts parading around as that it would be best for our relation- a clone of yours, she’ll look silly—not 26 27 28 29 30 D OC D IV N A M ship if we each had our own separate you. If she furnishes her home in a sim- friends. At least I know I feel that way ilar way to how you’ve furnished yours, 31 32 33 34 35 36 very strongly.” who cares? We are all grown up and O U T OFAFR ICA A XE And now you’ve not only been kind, frankly have more important things to 37 38 39 positive, generous, and encouraging, worry about. G RIN E ON O VEN but you’ve made it clear what your posi- You know who you are and you 40 41 42 43 44 tion is and you’ve opened the door for should feel comfortable with that L IP I N TOTHE WI LD an honest conversation. If she can’t knowledge. Fayge may still have a bit of growing up to do. That will be her chal- 45 46 47 understand why you don’t want to E MS S EA O LE “share” friends, that’s O.K. She doesn’t lenge, not yours. But unlike the child need to understand, but she needs to or even teenager you once were, who 48 49 50 51 52 53 respect your needs in this regard. And felt compromised by Fayge, you should S EW A S TI C A D you should tell her up-front that you embrace your adult self. Know that you 54 55 56 57 will be quite unhappy if she not only are the real deal, understood and appre- J E WE LOFTHENILE joins your shul, but pursues friendships ciated by many, I’m sure. There’s no 58 59 60 with your friends. need to keep running. Hopefully, you’re B ILE A DORE E VIL Maybe you’ll get lucky, and Fayge will here to stay and nothing Fayge can do 61 62 63 realize that she is starting a new chap- should affect your sense of belonging A BBA N OR I A A INT ter in her life, that you are prepared and happiness. to be there for her as a big sister, and Esther 64 65 66 that she has much to gain by respecting T SAR D READ P LEA your boundaries. However, if she digs Esther Mann, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Lawrence. Esther works with individuals in her heels from the start and refuses Puzzle appeared on Page 57 of the December 6 issue. and couples. She can be reached at to play by your rules, she will quickly [email protected] or 516-314-2295.

48 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES need script for life. Then it’s my job, as and the next one starts. Why are we a high-school teacher, to yell at them teaching our kids to write in a second Sign Language for using it, especially on spelling font? Teaching more fonts is nice, but BY MORDECHAI SCHMUTTER tests. (“Is that a w, or three-and-a-half why not spend a year and a half teach- i’s?”) Also, a capital T and F look basi- ing them Arial Black, Bookman Old I’ve always seen writing in cursive is what they call typing now that cally the same, which you might not Style, Century Gothic, or Wingdings? as being kind of like speaking with a typewriters no longer exist. It turns think is a big deal, but that’s probably Does anyone communicate in Wing- British accent. It’s classy, but no one out that we’re falling behind all the because you’ve never administered a dings? Talk about a font that people can understand you. other countries, education-wise, and true-or-false test. came up with while drinking. (To all my British readers, I should if there’s one area in which we don’t So script is disappearing anyway. We’re still going to have script. It’s apologize. When I say “cursive,” I have to worry about falling behind Sure, my father and a lot of people of one of the 350 fonts available with mean “joined-up letters.” Sorry if you Japan, it’s English script. So we’re his generation have gorgeous script. Microsoft Word. We can still type didn’t understand.) ditching it. In the days before typewriters, the with it: Cursive writing did have its time. Now personally, I never really write teachers really enforced it. But back “Lol!” said my bff. “What on earth am I It was invented back when every- in script, my logic being that I’ve then they had time, because there typing here? Wingdings?” one wrote in the dark by candlelight, never seen a book written in script. I wasn’t that much history to learn. But a lot of these people are saying using feathers, and it was a big pain to have a similar philosophy with blue A lot of people are up in arms, like that if we stop teaching kids script, keep picking up your hand after every pens. But, like a lot of you readers out we’re saying we should stop teaching how are they going to know how to letter, because those birds were heavy. there, I still think kids should learn kids the alphabet. sign their names? Like anyone signs Then your bird would get away and script, for the same reason that you’re I mean, sure, script is great if you’re their names using real script. Sure, we you’d have to chase it down, which thinking: if I had to learn script, then writing with one hand on a windy start out with it, but after signing 80 wasn’t easy because, as we mentioned, these kids should too. They have it day, and you don’t want your paper million tests and offi cial forms, it’s it was dark. easy enough. to blow away. But other than that, it’s devolved into a squiggle that we could Then you’d come back and continue I also have this opinion because, as sort of obsolete. If your print is messy, just as easily make if we didn’t know the word, but because it was dark, a high-school English teacher, I don’t you’re going to type. It’s not going to script. Especially if we have a long last you’d continue it on a different part have to teach script. That is the job of make it better to take all your messy name, like Radovicnovizicidivizcinicizivich. of the paper, or sometimes on another third-grade teachers, who sit there and letters and string them together so piece of paper entirely. And it would convince the kids that they’re going to you don’t even know where one ends Continued on Page 51 be impossible to read. So instead, you’d write so that all the letters were joined together, and it was still impossible to read, but at least you expected it. Sure, many respected historic documents were written in script. The Constitution, for example. And it’s because of this that our government offi cials spend day and night argu- ing about what it actually says. No one can read it. Half the time, even the writer himself can’t read it. He fi nishes writing the word, and then when he’s done, he has to go back and cross all his t’s and dot all his i’s. But usually, he ends up crossing h’s and dotting n’s. “Seriously? You couldn’t read your own handwriting half a second later when you went back to cross your t’s, and now I’m supposed to decipher what you wrote with a crossed ‘l’? Where on earth is Constantinopte?” I have no idea what they were thinking when they designed the letters: “The n has to have two bumps.” “But then it’s an m!” “Okay, we’ll give the m three bumps.” “Um . . . Why don’t we just give the n one bump?” “Because then it will look like an r.” “Why does the r have any bumps?” “It’s not really a bump. It has a squiggle on top. Did you have any ideas for the capital G?” “Not really. Let’s just use this doodle I made on the side of the page while you were talking. What about the capital Q?” “I don’t know. Let’s just make it look like a 2.” “Then what if someone wants to actually write a 2?” “He can spell it out.” “So we’re not going to make a script for numbers? “No, we’ll just make them all lean slightly to the right.” I bring this up because of a recent move that schools across the country are making to stop teaching script. The national curriculum, picked up by 40 of the 50 states, doesn’t mention it anymore. Instead, it mentions something called “keyboarding,” which 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 49 12345 678910 11 12 13

5TJT Puzzle: 14 15 16 Mystical Creatures 17 18 19 20 21 22 BY YONI GLATT 56. Vulcans, e.g., abbr. 58. Wrong 23 24 25 Across 59. Midrash says only two were created 1. Pastel shade 65. Investment option, briefl y 26 27 28 29 30 31 6. Some theme-park items 66. Anglo follower 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 11. Met display 67. Grain disease 14. Torah great, once 68. Slaughtered city, in Samuel 39 40 41 42 15. French currency, once 69. Blatant 16. Indochinese language 70. Witherspoon of Vanity Fair 43 44 45 46 47 48 17. Guts 71. WSW’s reverse 18. High guy in Dubai 72. Pasta topper 49 50 51 19. “Shoot” 73. Like dessert wines 20. A builder of the Beit HaMikdash 52 53 54 55 56 57 22. Be sore Down 23. Blood letters 1. Bathrooms, for short 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 24. Rabbi who wrote about this puzzle’s 2. Mom in Israel, var. theme 3. Run ___ Run (1998 fi lm) 65 66 67 26. Clairvoyant’s gift 4. Fragrance 29. Delivery-room doctors, for short 5. Kosher (non-mystical) creature 68 69 70 31. NFL stat. 6. Zoomed 32. Guardians of Eden 7. Airport pickup 71 72 73 35. Diffi cult item to fi nd 8. Maintains 39. Possesses, old-style 9. Mystical creature not in the Torah 40. Gigantic bird in Psalms 10. To be, in Barcelona 30. ___able 52. Biblical possessive 42. Authentic 11. “Wellaway!” 33. Beat 53. First priest 43. Common contraction for the 12. Common commentator 34. Time div. 54. Long for masses? 13. Arcade coin 36. Sandwich shop 55. Casting choices? 46. Genesis says they were around 21. All-Star reliever Nen 37. Animal shelter 57. Ill-tempered woman before the fl ood 22. ______fi nished college I went to 38. Classic street liners 60. Simcha before a simcha 49. Material for a whitesmith law school 41. #26 of 26 61. A fan of 50. His sons were not a chip off the 25. Suffi x with serpent 44. By means of 62. Double curve block 26. Authentic 45. Buy a person 63. Bridge site 51. Form 1040 org. 27. Bygone royal 47. Urgent request 64. Leave in, as text 52. Colorful creature 28. Red Rose 48. Ruth and Aaron 66. Drench

50 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Sign Language The Downward Spiral Of Golus: of ensuring their survival. How could Continued from Page 49 he justify returning the grain only on Part I terms that seem to have been grossly That alone is an argument against unfavorable to his subjects, thereby practicing script. The one thing we BY ELIE POLLACK expression used here comes across as victimizing and extorting them? practice the most is the one thing awkward, wordy, and no more accu- 3. At the very beginning of Vayechi, that looks the least like a word. I The Torah outlines the descent of rate than these alternatives; what mes- Rashi comments that the opening para- don’t even remember the last time I the brothers into Egypt. It does not sage does it convey? graph is setumah (closed off; it does spelled “Schmutter” correctly when I give much detail about how the situ- 2. The Torah also relates that when not have the standard indentation that signed something. I cross both t’s at ation decayed to the point that they the Egyptians ran out of money to generally demarcates a new paragraph once, and sometimes the h as well, were enslaved. Nevertheless, we can buy food, Yosef told them to surrender in the Torah). In his ﬁ rst explanation, and I know there are supposed to be posit a tenable understanding of these their livestock to him instead. When Rashi suggests that this is because, 6 bumps in the middle there, but I events when we consider the follow- these were also depleted, he said that upon Yaakov’s death (the main topic of only know that because I’ve just now ing: he would feed them if they would sell Vayechi) the eyes of the Israelites were counted it for the purposes of this 1. The Torah tells us that Yosef sus- themselves and their real estate to “plugged up” due to the inception of article. Sometimes I make as few as tained his brothers “lechem l’phi Pharaoh (Bereishis 47:15-23). This seems the servitude in Egypt (Bereishis 47:28). three (Schutter), and sometimes I make hataf”—literally, bread according appalling; the Egyptians had put Yosef This is bothersome to many commen- as many as 13 (Schmumnutter). My signa- to the children. This is an awkward into power to help them survive the tators; it is hard to fathom such a sce- ture never looks the same twice, espe- expression. If the Torah merely meant famine, and he took advantage of their nario as having played out, as Yosef cially if I’m signing on one of those to convey that he gave food for each weak position. Even if we assume that remained in power for decades after electronic tablets at the supermar- family in accordance with its size, their servitude was not nearly as over- his father’s demise. How could any ket that don’t register that I’ve started then it could have stated that using bearing as the term implies,1 it still subjugation have occurred during that writing until about halfway through the term labayis (according to the seems troublesome that Yosef took all period? my name. How can anyone look at household), which is found in con- of their property and at least some of Let us look at the beginning of the two instances of my signature and junction to the korban Pesach (Sh’mos their freedom. What makes this even book of Sh’mos, where the decay of the say, “Yup; that’s the same guy”? That’s 12:3-4), or lagulgoles (according to the more astonishing is that he was doling situation in Egypt occurs. The Torah my secret fear. persons [lit. skulls]), which is used in out the Egyptians’ own grain, which Another thing that traditionalists regards to the mon (Sh’mos 16:16). The he had impounded for the purpose Continued on Page 52 say is that if we stop teaching our kids script, they won’t be able to read it either. How are you going to be able to read what your Bubby writes in her birthday cards that she already paid $3 for? And if she was going to write her own note, why did she pay $3 for a prewritten card? But anyway, it takes only one day to learn how to read script, and a year and a half to practice writing it enough so that it doesn’t look like you only formed words by accident. The traditionalists also want to know how kids are going to be able to read ofﬁ cial documents, like the Dec- laration of Independence. I don’t know. There are plenty of print versions available. The only time you ever see the original copy is under lock and key on your eighth-grade graduation trip, unless, as with my eighth grade trip, your trip is focused less on historic documents and more on rafting the Delaware. And to be honest, I’ve tried reading the print ver- sion and haven’t made it through that either. They’re not missing anything. A lot of detractors also say that writing in script is faster. How is it faster? Because you don’t have to pick up the pen between letters? It’s not like you have to pick it up 3 tefachim. It’s not machatzis ha’shekel. Also, try doing a crossword puzzle in script. It’s not going to be illegal to learn script. Some schools are still going to teach it. And you can learn it on your own time, like piano. Or balloon letters. Every kid at some point teaches himself how to make balloon letters. Were the parents livid back when they stopped teaching that in school? I’m asking seriously. I don’t know my history. I was busy learning script when I was in school. What do you think? Write in. But not in script, for goodness’ sake. I don’t want to have to read it. 

Mordechai Schmutter is a weekly humor columnist for Hamodia and is the author of four books, published by Israel Book Shop. He also does freelance writing for hire. You can send any questions, comments, or ideas to [email protected]. 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 51 Downward Spiral had in maintaining his empire. How- former ruling elite, the Jews were per- no fatter, even as they consumed the Continued from Page 51 ever, this Pharaoh was not of the old ceived as a threat. All this seems to fol- preserved bounty from before. These stock. Accordingly, the verse reads, “A low from the understanding of the Ibn years would indeed still be years of opens its second paragraph with the new king arose upon Egypt who did Ezra. hunger, and thus, the abundance that phrase, “A new king arose upon Egypt not know Yosef.” We may be able to gain a fuller they had replaced would truly be for- who did not know Yosef” (Sh’mos 1:8). Taking this one step further, we understanding of this decay by return- gotten. The Talmud gives two interpretations could add that if indeed there had ing to the original questions with We now come to the terrible of this verse. According to the fi rst been a coup or a revolution in Egypt,3 which we opened our discussion. To dilemma. There was a very limited view, the expression is to be taken lit- then we can understand how the understand why Yosef ran Egypt in the amount of food in Egypt. The chal- erally, whereas the other view main- social position of the Jews in Egypt manner that he did, we must consider lenge of preserving the grain was tains that the old king merely changed declined so drastically. Surely, the new an important constraint on his benev- not merely a challenge against mold, his policies (Sotah 11a). The Talmud leader must have ridden into power olence: the food supply. insects, rodents, or even criminals. It states that the impetus to read the was a challenge against the fundamen- verse in this unconventional manner tal nature of every citizen. How does is that the verse does not say, “He [the one take food, the most basic staple old king] died, and he [the new king] Surely, the new leader must have of life, and apportion it in such a way ruled in his place.” Since the Torah as to ensure that it will not be squan- does not mention the demise of the ridden into power atop an army dered by an entire nation of hungry old king, we can reinterpret the verse individuals who are each thinking of as saying that this king was not truly a their own stomachs, and who are each new king, but actually the old king act- of those discontented sure that their own minor indulgences ing as though he were a new (i.e. differ- could not make a dent in the national ent) monarch.2 with the previous administration. “accumulated treasury like the sand of The Ibn Ezra provides an alternative the seabank?” (Bereishis 41:49) explanation, saying that the new ruler The Torah highlights Egypt as a quint- was not of the previous royal line. “He essential example of an extremely [the old king] died, and he [the new atop an army of those discontented Despite the monumental efforts to licentious country (Vayikra 18:3, with king] ruled in his place” could have with the previous administration. collect, store, and preserve food, there Rashi and Ramban). During the plague led us to believe that the new king Once he had secured power, he had to was barely enough to go around. This is of the fi rstborn, Rashi tells us that assumed the throne in the capacity of cater to these cronies and minions by implicit from the text, “The abundance there was a great amount of confu- royal next-of-kin. Instead, the Torah giving them high-level positions in his shall be forgotten in face of the fam- sion as to exactly who was a fi rstborn, chooses the expression, “A new king new government, and stripping rem- ine that will [occur] afterwards, for it since many did not know from whom arose upon Egypt” which can more nants of the old power base (including will be especially cumbersome” (Bere- they (or their “siblings”) were con- easily imply, “A new [line of] king[- the Jews) of any infl uence. The new ishis 41:31). According to Rashi (ad loc.), ceived (Sh’mos 12:30). In such an envi- ship] arose upon Egypt.” regime, stacked with elements that this was the interpretation of the fi nal ronment, it would have been impos- We could posit that had the new were unhappy with their former mas- aspect of Pharaoh’s dream, that even sible to institute a strict rationing ruler been a scion of the previous ters, viewed the Jews with much dis- after ingesting the robust meaty cows, system, for anyone could always claim dynasty, he would have been educated trust, as the verse emphasizes, “When a the emaciated cows looked no fatter an extra dependent in someone else’s to appreciate the invaluable assets war occurs they too shall join our ene- (i.e. no more nourished) than before. house who would not receive care that the Jews were to his country, and mies4 and fi ght against us.” By virtue The Egyptians would eat during these from that suspicious head-of-house- what pivotal roles their talents had of their association with the ousted latter seven years, but they would get hold in times of tight rationing. There

52 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES would be no way to verify which of ognized the equitability of Yosef’s pol- in accordance to each child, since each cited in Yalkut Shimoni ad loc.) that Pharaoh the hundreds of thousands of such icy, even as it stripped them of their last child could be positively and defi - was deposed by dissidents who were opposed claims from the unabashedly depraved possessions and their independence. nitely identifi ed as being supported to his government’s favorable relationship with the Jews. He was unable to retain power until people were true and which were not, There was one place, however, through a single specifi c family entity he agreed to change his policy to persecute and the entire hungry populace would where all of this was not necessary. which could collect the rations on his them. According to this view, much of what we have had vested interest in making In the territory of Goshen there was a or her behalf . . . unlike the rest of the will say here may be applicable even within such claims. The result would have small enclave that was starkly differ- country, which could not be freely sus- the framework of the opinion that he was not been that millions of rations would ent than the overall Egyptian popula- tained in such a manner. actually a new Pharaoh. have gone to waste on feeding the tion. The fl edgling Jewish community To be sure, the net result of all of 3. This may be implicit in Ibn Ezra’s cross- same person twice, or on feeding peo- was a small tractable group, whose this put the Jews at a tremendous referencing of the term “arose” in our verse ple that did not exist. Such a rationing number could be easily defi ned. On advantage over their Egyptian neigh- with a counterpart in I Shmuel 22:8. Kli Yakar system would have been a total disas- top of that, there was absolutely no bors. The fi nal verse in Vayigash states, here also points out that the term “arose” ter. If so, how could the grain be pre- infringement on the census data by “The children of Israel settled in the can imply a violent confrontation although his understanding is not the same as our served and stretched so that the peo- children whose paternity was dubious, land of Goshen and they took hold- suggestion here. ple would be able to subsist on it for who could be subjects of over-report- ing in it . . .” (Bereishis 47:27). The term seven years? ing. The Torah attests to both of these “took holding” implies an absolute 4. This might be a reference to ousted affi liates There was but one other way, and points by giving its own census of the ownership, which entitles the proof the previous royal administration, who were that was to ensure that everyone children of Yaakov just as they entered prietor to bequeath his property to now in exile, to whom the Jews had favorable ties. Along this line of possibility, perhaps the paid “top dollar” for every last mor- Egypt (Bereishis 46:9-27). his heirs afterwards. The Jews, whose Torah deliberately omits mention of the old sel of grain that they receive. In this Perhaps even more signifi cant was rations were being subsidized, did not king’s death because he was alive himself, way, people would feel the sparseness the moral discrepancy that set Gos- have to sell their domains as the Egyp- attempting to reconstruct his forces and hoping of their own resources as they went hen apart from its neighbors. When tians did (Bechor Shor to Bereishis 47:28 to fi ght his way back into Egypt. to claim from the national treasury, an Egyptian entered Goshen, he imme- states this explicitly). On the contrary, 5. It may still be that Yosef required the and they would purchase their food diately could not help but notice the they were likely in a position to buy Egyptians to declare how many dependents accordingly (see Rabbeinu Bachaya to differences from everything he was things that were being sold in desper- they were purchasing for. It would be Bereishis 47:17). The system of forcing accustomed to. The mode of dress was ation. But that generation of Egyp- disadvantageous for anyone to claim any the Egyptians to pay and pay again, different, the mores of conversation tians understood the circumstances dependents that they were not planning to feed. When any family went bankrupt, the even as their last life savings and com- were different. Any Egyptian under- that had created the situation and they government could take the family as an modities were depleted, was not a stood that here was a population that accepted that reality for what is was.  entire unit into serfdom, presumably based form of extortion at all. Instead, this adhered to its own principles and stan- (To be continued) on the number of dependents it had claimed. regulation was instituted for the Egyp- dards and thus did not need to be gov- Under their new servile status, perhaps the government was more capable of monitoring tians’ own benefi t, as it was necessary erned by a newly imposed set of rules. Ellie Pollack is a rabbinical student in Torah these families. It is also possible that the 5 V’daas. to save the country. Thus, what Yosef did in Egypt for his newly established serf families could be sent It seems that our premise, that it was own family was not a form of favorit- to another part of the country (see Bereishis integral to the success of the plan that ism or royal nepotism; he was merely NOTES 47:21). In this way they could be separated, the Egyptian people be supported at doing for them what he would have both geographically and “on paper,” from 1. See, for instance, Ohr HaChaim to Bereishis their own expense, was acknowledged done for his entire country, had they any extra children they may have attempted 47:23-25 who interprets it as a form of to double-claim. Any remaining unclaimed by the populace itself. “They said, ‘you been capable of receiving such a form employment. children who were not self-suffi cient could have granted us life, let us fi nd favor of assistance. The Torah accordingly then be supported by the crown directly in a in your eyes and be serfs to Pharaoh’” emphasizes “bread according to the 2. Da’as Zekainim (Sh’mos 1:8) cites a Midrash manner that could ensure that they were fed (Bereishis 47:25). The common folk rec- children,” meaning that it was given (Sh’mos Rabbah 1:8, Tanchuma Sh’mos 5 also once and once only.

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5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 53 YU’s 89th Annual Hanukkah Convocation: David Brooks Keynotes, Harvey Kaylie Receives Honorary Degree

Acclaimed journalist and New York Brooks’ writing: “In a world which has Times columnist David Brooks deliv- moved inexorably down a path paved ered the keynote address at Yeshiva with hyperbole, cynicism, and categor- University’s 89th Annual Hanukkah ical one-dimensionality, you have mus- Convocation and Dinner on Sunday, tered the courage and integrity to take December 8, at the Waldorf Astoria in the road less traveled.”

New York Times columnist David Brooks

with G-d—not in retreating from, but ligently training not only Adam I, but engaging with, the wide world around both sides of life, both the Adams, the us—forever informed by the eternal val- majestic and the humble,” said Brooks. ues of our tradition. That, too, is a road “It’s impressive to be here in the mid- less traveled by, a road which necessi- dle of a profound and necessary coun- tates patience, sensitivity and bravery.” terculture.” At the convocation, Brooks called President Joel also conferred honor- YU “a contrast with the world,” citing ary degrees upon Jack A. Belz of Mem- Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik’s work on phis, TN, chairman and CEO of Belz the biblical representations of what he Enterprises and a benefactor and YU President Richard Joel honoring Harvey Kaylie terms Adam I and Adam II, and his belief trustee of YU; Harvey Kaylie of Great that Adam I was driven by the desire for Neck, founder, president and CEO of New York City. “How ﬁ tting it is to host you tonight greatness, stature, and success, while Mini-Circuits International and a YU YU President Richard M. Joel bestowed at this annual assembly honoring Adam II sought to build a moral and ful- benefactor; and William Zabel of Man- an honorary doctorate upon Brooks, Yeshiva University and the value which ﬁ lling internal life. hattan, founding partner of Schulte, calling him “a noble exemplar of what it adds to the world,” added Presi- “To be here is such an honor, because Roth & Zabel and head of the Individual we hope our students will become,” and dent Joel. “Ultimately, the mandate of Yeshiva University is one of the rare Client Services Group. drew on the words of American poet Yeshiva University boils down to this institutions in this country that is con- Robert Frost to praise the morality in belief: our responsibility is to partner sciously and intentionally and intel- Continued on Page 56

54 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 55 YU Hanukkah Convocation combination of scholastic and athletic YUHSG Helps Achiezer Continued from Page 54 achievements; and Adam Moisa, a freshman in the Business Honors and Entre- In addition to the honorary degree preneurial Leadership Program at Sy Take Stock And Offer Respite recipients, President Joel bestowed the Syms School of Business whose startup, Presidential Medallion on Dr. Susan B. Cloudifyd, aggregates cloud storage ser- Horwitz of Larchmont, NY, who is the vices and renovates the way informa- Rose Falkenstein Professor of Cancer tion is viewed and displayed. Research and co-chair of molecular phar- Additional Points of Light were macology at YU’s Albert Einstein Col- Shmuel Legesse, a doctoral candidate at lege of Medicine, and whose pioneering YU’s Azrieli Graduate School for Jewish cancer research has touched the lives of Education and Administration hoping to thousands of people with cancer, who build a school that will help Ethiopian receive Taxol as a component of fi rst- Jewish teens integrate their cultural and line chemotherapy to treat breast, lung, Jewish backgrounds and prepare them and ovarian cancer. She is a member of to succeed in modern Israeli society; the American Academy of Arts and Sci- Savyon Lang, a hard-of-hearing gradu- ence, a fellow of the National Founda- ate of YU’s Wurzweiler School of Social tion for Cancer Research, and a member Work who plans to improve her sign of the National Academy of Sciences language and earn her Licensed Clini- and the Institute of Medicine. cal Social Worker certifi cate so she can During the dinner portion, Presi- open up her own practice to service the A group of nine dent Joel also recognized eight Points deaf and hard-of-hearing populations; girls from Yeshiva of Light—students, faculty, and alumni Dr. Ariel Fishman, director of institu- who embody the mission of Yeshiva tional research in the Offi ce of the Pro- University High University—calling each one up to light vost at YU and assistant professor of School for Girls came a symbolic candle on the menorah. management at the Sy Syms School of to the Five Towns They included Nicole Schreiber-Agus, Business, who became an active volun- assistant professor of molecular genet- teer spokesman for the New York Blood area on Wednesday, ics at Einstein and program director of Center and a motivational speaker after December 4 to stock YU’s Program for Jewish Genetic Health; surviving a horrifi c car accident; and and take inventory Mark Weingarten, a Yeshiva College pre- Brittany Brown, an alumna of YU’s Ben- med major who founded Music Vs., a jamin N. Cardozo School of Law, a Car- of Achiezer’s Hospi- student club that performs music for dozo Immigration Justice Fellow at tal Respite Rooms at the elderly, veterans, and sick children the Brooklyn Defender Services, and a in hospitals and has expanded to other member of the newly-formed New York Mercy Medical Cen- universities throughout the country; Immigration Defenders Team. ter and South Nassau Rebecca Yoshor, the fi rst Stern College The convocation and dinner, which Communities Hospi- for Women student athlete to receive serves as the university’s main annual Academic All-America honors, which fundraising event, raised more than $3.5 tal. Tizku l’mitzvos! goes to students with an outstanding million. 

56 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 57 with greater bile. Then I am humble, the lead photographer of a large crew, In Our Face! apologetic, and embarrassed, always. this would have been rather disas- So I was confused, because his reaction trous! It could have hit a bulb in my Photo Prose cian. I am supposed to care. I am sup- was rather different. gear that was lit, spewing hot glass posed to be sensitive. Well, what the He got upset . . . militantly upset. As if fragments in all directions. They say BY GARY RABENKO heck! I mean, there were clients, family, he were ready to go ballistic. “It was an the show must go on and, for a pro, and friends, venue personnel, catering accident!” he yelled, so all could hear. I getting the best images possible is the Someone dropped a heavy theatrical staff, decorators, and so on, and he just never said he did it purposely. After all, essence of the show. The last thing I lighting cabling from a 15-foot height. tosses a cable without looking, without how could he have known these were wanted was to get distracted with a He did it without looking to see what caution? I was shocked. And yet, the new glasses equipped with two new non-issue. But what certainly should was below. I was below! most offensive word out of my mouth, lenses! be an issue, is the recognition that It merely grazed my face after the accompanied no doubt by a piercing What struck me far harder than his righteous indignation at times is jus- briefest of snags on my eyeglasses— gaze through my displaced eyewear, cable was that somehow he justifi ed tifi ed, is to be expected, and can serve brand-new frames and lenses that I was the innocent “Hey!” followed nat- his being upset with me for my irrita- well to avoid future and more serious invest in periodically so as to be best urally with a follow-up “What are you tion and outburst, but refused to see occurrences. I walked away. I focused visually equipped. doing?!?” that my action, my outburst, my shout my thoughts on the beautiful people I was shocked that someone rigging Sure, this was to be a big event in a was likely done with as little thought as getting ready to pose for my camera heavy gear would just toss gear from a big hotel, and it would be a long day his cable drop. He felt my reaction justi- and my wonderful clients, for whom scaffold without looking out below to fi lled with excitement, pressure, and fi ed his continued anger at me, whereas my personal attendance means so see who was nearby. He had been there responsibility. But that this true of he felt the physical action he instigated, much. for quite a while. Many were working every day I am working an event. I was which could seriously have done injury, Hours later, unexpectedly, his boss below. I’d walked back and forth various not stressed, worried, or in any way less was something that should fi guratively apologized. He was wrong. And she times. Earlier, when I’d hesitated, he’d than calm. Everything was as I expected. as well as literally roll off my shoul- was sorry. I realized then that maybe assured me it was OK. He was nice and That is to say, nearly everything was far der—or, in this case, my face! the man had been shouting out for charming. That was 15 minutes earlier. from being ready, and potential prob- He refused to apologize. He insisted it her benefi t. She could have fi red him Now, seconds after the cable defl ected lems loomed in every direction. Exactly was an accident, as if accidents are not and was visibly concerned, I could off my brow, snagged briefl y on my what every event is fraught with, when preventable and thus not something to tell. That worried him and frustrated spectacles, and, with snake-like charm, one is involved at a very advanced level express remorse over. him. Probably there often are people landed with a thud two feet from me, of performance and an even greater bar I knew it was an accident, just like the below. Probably this was not his fi rst I was jolted. He was not. He was obvi- of expectation. cop knows it was an accident the time incident. Probably he is sick of apolo- ously not only careless but carefree. But my gut, visceral response was, I you hit the gas instead of the brake. gizing and admitting a mistake. How Refl exively, I yelled, as one would be insist, quite human and natural. It was But the individual insisted that I important it is that we actually learn expected to after narrowly escaping a not that much different from the occa- should not be angry. How could I not from mistakes, get a grip, and tighten bullet. That is when the next problem sional time I have moved back with- be angry? Maybe “angry” is the wrong up our performance. Repeated mis- occurred. out looking while hunting for a shot, word, I kept thinking. Perhaps “seri- takes followed by repeated apologies Now, if I’d just totally ignored this only to fi nd that the space into which I ously concerned that his mind is dis- fl y in the face of logic, and to me, have assault, one might actually question my suddenly moved was already occupied. eased” would better describe my view. always been frustrating, offensive, and calm. Am I so deep in thought that fi res That is just a small human bump, not a It’s a small-minded selfi shness that has costly.  around me smolder and yet I proceed heavy cable with hard ends that could no place at a beautiful simcha. Gary Rabenko can be reached at gary@rabenko. unaware, unfazed, and unconcerned? hurt. Yet, in most cases, men respond Had the cable end hit me differently, com. Rabenko Photography & Video Artists is I am supposed to be a good techni- with irritation and women respond it might have impacted my eyeball. As located at 1001 Broadway in Woodmere.

58 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 59 if you don’t get to the bag fi rst, you are Bibi leaves the Jewish people’s future to Crucial Moments dead, literally. no one but the Jews. Obama is content Bibi knows that the best way to keep to leave his future in the hands of others, From The Other Side Of The Bench a tiger from biting is to remove its teeth. hoping and trusting that they will one day Bibi knows that once you have removed abandon their own interests out of con- BY DAVID J. SEIDEMANN, ESQ. the tiger’s teeth, you don’t hand the teeth cern for others. The problem with that back to the tiger in exchange for a half-sin- theory is that the concern for others has I am picking Ohio State over Clemson as the champion of professional football, cere promise from the tiger not to bite. never been there before. in the Orange Bowl, Stanford over Michi- you only have to win that one champion- Bibi knows that tigers bite. That’s what For all of his intelligence—and you gan State in the Rose Bowl, Florida State ship game. tigers do, and all the discussions in the don’t become President of the United to defeat Auburn in the BCS champion- Yes, it’s true, there are those who world with the tiger won’t change that. States unless you possess at least some ship game, and Notre Dame over Rut- acquire greatness over a long period of Bibi knows this because his people have intelligence (vice president is another gers in the Pinstripe Bowl. Yes, the col- time and those who acquire greatness in been bitten before, time and time again, story)—Mr. Obama, in my opinion, has lege football postseason has begun and one single moment. Some situations can and he knows that no one else can be a glaring character fl aw, one that Prime between now and New Year’s we will be be left to develop over time like a hockey trusted with protecting his people’s turf. Minister Netanyahu is not haunted by. witness to no less than 35 Bowl games, Bibi believes that a person’s future a schedule that that will make even the depends on how much he likes himself, most loyal college football fan dizzy. There are those who acquire how much he admires himself, and to My Ohio State Buckeyes had been what extent he believes in himself. primed to face off against undefeated Obama apparently believes that a per- Florida State in the National Champion- greatness over a long period son’s future is dependent on how much ship game on January 6, but last week’s another believes in you, how much loss to Michigan State snapped their of time and those who acquire another person admires you, how much 24-game winning streak. Instead, the another person likes you. Buckeyes will travel to the Orange Bowl The problem with that theory is that no to play Clemson. It hurts, but I will sur- greatness in one single moment. matter how much another person likes vive. you, admires you, and maybe respects It’s an interesting thing, this college you, no one can believe in you more than football postseason. The championship championship playoff. Have a bad night? What is a bit confounding is why you can believe in yourself. is decided in a one-game match. The There is always tomorrow. It’s a best-of- Obama does not recognize these truths A nuclear arms race is not a seven-game same is true of professional football. The seven series. But in other situations, like as well. His ancestors suffered degrad- series. It is one-and-done. And so, while championship is decided when the two the Super Bowl, there simply is no tomor- ing humiliation and persecution as well. Obama sits around in the stands wait- best teams play each other one time. row. It is one-and-done, as they say. So what makes one man a fi ghter and a ing for the second game to start, Bibi will This is unlike hockey, baseball, and bas- Therefore, in the all-important Iranian defender and another man a prisoner? already be back in the locker room hold- ketball, where the champion is crowned Nuke Bowl, I am picking Bibi over Obama, What makes one man seize the moment ing the victor’s trophy high above his only after one team wins a best-of-seven and the Iranians to do an end run around and create his destiny and another man head.  series. To be crowned the victor in base- Obama. I have my money on Bibi because surrender the moment and hope for the ball, hockey, or basketball, you have to he has been in the trenches before and best, leaving his future in the hands of David Seidemann is a partner with the law beat the challenger at least four times. To because he knows that not winning is los- others? fi rm of Seidemann and Mermelstein and serves as a professor of business law at Touro grab the national title in college football, ing. Bibi knows that, in baseball, a tie goes And make no mistake: that is exactly College. He can be reached at 718-692-1013 or or to win the Super Bowl and be crowned to the runner. But in a nuclear arms race, how the cards are being laid out here. ds@lawoffi cesm.com.

60 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 61 all of these disparate parts needed she can ﬁ ll with her unique combina- to function as one nation. Had Yaa- tion of traits, then the marriage can insights on kov blessed the children in private, it be a strong and healthy one. Recogniz- perhaps would have led to disagree- ing each spouse’s unique abilities can THE TORAH ments and disunity as different broth- result in a decreased level of stress in ers fought to ﬁ ll the same role. the relationship and increased posi- Establishing Roles His intention was to impress upon BY FIVE TOWNS MARRIAGE INITIATIVE his children that everyone has his

“Vayikra Yaakov el banav vayomer Each child was given a specifi c role, as haiasfu . . .” (Bereishis 49:1-2). In this was refl ected in his personal blessing. unique task in the Jewish nation, week’s parashah, our forefather Yaakov By saying it in public, Yaakov was mak- was on his deathbed. He gathered his ing the roles very clear. His intention based on his specifi c strengths, children around him, and he blessed was to impress upon his children that them. Commentators question why everyone has his unique task in the talents, and personality. Yaakov blessed each one of his sons Jewish nation, based on his specifi c in front of the other brothers, instead strengths, talents, and personality. of blessing them in private. Wouldn’t All of the shevatim (Yaakov’s sons) blessing them in front of each other were to work together to fulfi ll their In a marriage, each partner brings tive feelings, as each person engages create jealousy among the brothers? role so the nation would be complete. specifi c strengths, talents, and per- in the activities that he or she is best One explanation offered is that Yaa- There was to be one shevet that will sonalities to the union. If the husband suited for. This, in turn, will lead to kov deliberately blessed each child in bring forth kings, one shevet of teach- focuses on the roles that he can fi ll each spouse appreciating the import- front of his brothers in order to teach ers, one shevet of priests, one shevet of with his unique combination of traits, ant roles that each play in the mar- an important lesson to his children. merchants, and on and on. Together, and the wife focuses on the roles that riage, since only he can fi x the faucet, and only she knows how to get the car started when it stalls. Let us learn from the lesson Yaakov was teaching his children and recognize, both in ourselves and in our spouses, the unique roles we fi ll in our relationships. May Hashem help us to use this awareness to improve our shalom bayis and create smoother, more positive relationships. 

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62 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES For those who needed a break, there AROUND THE were games set up on tables around the rink. It was a really wonderful way for all the classes to bond with each other FIVE TOWNS and their teachers in a very different setting. A delicious pizza lunch was provided to faculty and students by the SKA Parent Council. On the return home, the girls were SKA Goes On A Chanukah coats on, girls. We’re going on a mys- greeted by joyous music provided by Mystery Trip! tery bus ride!” This was a great way to Gary Wallin and went straight into the After a very melodic Rosh Chodesh celebrate Chanukah in a fun-fi lled and auditorium to dance with fellow stu- and Chanukah davening, the bell at the surprising manner; there was so much dents and faculty at a Chanukah cha- Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls excitement in the air! gigah. Circles and circles of dancing rang for second period on Wednesday, The mystery location? The Parkwood girls fi lled the room—it was a perfect December 4. A few minutes later, the Sports Complex in Great Neck where way to celebrate the last night of can- students heard Mrs. Spirn’s announce- students from all the grades enthusias- dle lighting!  ment over the loudspeaker. “Get your tically enjoyed a morning of ice skating! TAG Hosts Father-Daughter Carnival red and white carnival-themed event, Hundreds of fathers and their lit- where they had a great time at more tle girls turned out for an exciting than ten carnival booths. TAG fathers evening at Torah Academy for Girls’ and their daughters were treated to pizza, cookies, fresh popcorn, and soda. The girls bounced around in two moon- walks and enjoyed having their faces painted. Every girl left with great memories, a smile on her face, and a goldfi sh as a door prize! It was a great opportunity for the fathers and daughters to spend some quality time together.  November In DRS The month began with the annual DRS blood drive, through which the students of DRS managed to donate over 80 pints of blood this year. This tremen- father-daughter event on Motzaei Shab- dous chesed will help save many lives, bos, December 7. Bursting with excite- and special thanks goes to seniors Avi ment, Pre-1A girls and fi rst-graders led their fathers into the brightly decorated Continued on Page 64

TRAVEL SECTION 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 63 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS DRS Color War, the team themes were Continued from Page 63 Nes and Tevah—focusing on both the great miracles and natural events in our Genachowski, Eli Goldberg, Yitzchak lives orchestrated by Hakadosh Baruch Ben-Ami, and Sammy Rauch for orga- Hu. Color War gave students the chance nizing the entire program and schedule. to express their talents in song, stomp,

Rabbi Polakoff’s 11th-grade shiur at his class Chanukah party November was also “gratitude art, sports, comedy, and music compe- month” as part of DRS’s “positive pro- titions. ject”—a program geared to raise aware- Students were also invited to their ness of various different middot and rebbeim’s houses for Chanukah parties, qualities that we want our students to and an opportunity to bond with their emulate. In a unique program geared friends and rebbeim—with latkes and toward the freshmen, students were doughnuts, of course!  asked to call, text, or e-mail those people in their lives whom they wished Chanukah With Rambam of noodle soup and choice of shwarma, where the boys competed in adult-sized to express a special sense of hakarat Eleventh Grade Celebrates Chanu- schnitzel, or burger, the talmidim and gaga rinks and took the childhood sport hatov toward. kah With Rebbe Young. The sounds of their Rebbe had food for the body to go to a whole new level. As Chanukah approached in DRS, the divrei Torah and singing enhanced the along with the food for the soul. Rabbi At Rambam Mesivta, the rebbe/talmid students got excited for the traditional delicious atmosphere in Hapina. Rabbi Young also recently had his whole shiur kesher is a natural byproduct of the DRS Chanukah Chagigah and Chinese Aryeh Young, along with his eleventh over for a West Hempstead Shabba- learning accomplished in shiur. The Auction—only to be surprised by Color grade Gemara iyun shiur, were celebrat- ton and a Motzaei Shabbos trip to an genuine way in which the rebbeim inter- War Breakout! During the third annual ing Chanukah. With a menu consisting “Ultimate Gaga Tournament Complex” act with the talmidim through challeng-

64 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES TRAVEL SECTION ing shiurim and thought-provoking discussions, and the manner in which they go out of their way to make sure they engage and connect with their talmidim in different ways and venues, cre- ates an unaffected, real kesher built on a love of learning, shared values, and a desire to grow. Fourth Annual Dodgeball Tourna- ment Benefi ts Kids With Courage. Four teams. Four balls. For tzedakah. Over 50 students participated in Rambam Mesivta’s one of a kind 4-Corner-Dodge- ball Tournament of Champions. They raised almost $1,000 to benefi t the Kids With Courage Foundation, dedicated to helping children living with Type 1 Dia- betes. In 4-Corner Dodgeball, invented by Al Hecht, a’h, the Blue, Green/Yellow, White, and Red teams are sectioned off in different corners of the gym and are each given one ball to start a round. They are then allowed to throw at any of the other three teams. Each team gets points for the number of players remaining after each 90-second round. As the fi nal round approached, every team still had a chance to win. The tro- phies and medals were brought out to set the stage for a grueling 90 seconds that would determine the 2013/5774 champions of 4-Corner-Dodgeball! As the fi nal whistle sounded, it was clear by the deft calculations that . . . every team had an unbelievable time! In the end, the White team emerged victorious and Yosef Chaim Septimus, a junior, was named the Al Hecht Memorial MVP. A player from each team earned an all-star award for outstanding play and everyone from the White team won a medal. The student organizers of this event, Yaakov Nussbaum, Yarden Sokol, and Avi Martin, were then thanked, as were scorekeeper Tzvi Strauss and refs Akiva Hochbaum, Yoni Nirenberg, Yitz Milworn, Benny Besalel, and Mr. Gold- man. Rambam Mesivta is proud to fi nd unique ways to raise awareness and funds for noble institutions. In addition to its fundraisers involving fl ag-football tournaments, home-run derbies, and basketball tournaments, Rambam has also raised signifi cant donations through running cholent cook-offs, a “Gotcha” tournament, and a knee- hockey tournament. “One of the great things about Ram- bam Mesivta is that the guys are comfortable here to be who they are and engage in their passions,” said assistant principal, Hillel Goldman, the faculty organizer of the 4-Corner-Dodge- ball Tournament. “At Rambam, there is something for everyone, as our student activities motto is: ‘A team for every talent. A club for every curiosity. A place for every person.’” Trip to Aviator. Surprise! After watching a video featuring a lone Israeli pilot being surrounded by 11 Egyptian MiG fi ghter planes and successfully shooting them all down, dominating the Mid- east sky, Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, rosh mesivta of Rambam, pointed out that it highlighted the theme of Chanukah, as one pilot took on an entire team of enemy pilots and emerged victorious. “This video exemplifi es the idea of Cha- nukah of rabim byad miatim.” He also

Continued on Page 67 TRAVEL SECTION 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 65 66 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES TRAVEL SECTION AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS Chanukah at Rambam was a cha- Continued from Page 65 gigah; a chesed Chinese auction; a trip to Aviator; a chance to strengthen the said it was a hint of things to come . . . a rebbe/talmid kesher, and a chance to surprise trip to Aviator sports complex recognize the greatness of the past and on Chanukah! apply it to the present in the pursuit of The next day, following Shacharis and chesed and achdus.  a full morning seder, the student body gathered in the shul after lunch for Min- Chanukah In MAY chah. There was one more surprise in Mesivta Ateres Yaakov held their store before boarding the buses: recog- annual Thanksgiving Day Father-Son nizing excellence. Rabbi Friedman and Breakfast on the fi rst day of Chanu- Mr. Hillel Goldman awarded plaques kah. Always an enjoyable event, fathers to juniors Hudi Rosenfeld and Shlomo joined their sons at the yeshiva for a Sandler in recognition of their leader- morning of growth in ruchniyus and ship in running the chesed committee. gashmiyus. Hudi and Shlomo recently spearheaded The morning began with a warm a can drive, a tzedakah Chinese auction, yeshiva Shacharis followed by a lavish and the school’s Chai Lifeline toy drive. catered breakfast. To begin the program, Yeshiva Gedolah talmid Yehuda Yaffe addressing the crowd Sam Cohen, Akiva Hochbaum, and Tzvi the menahel, Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe, Strauss, all seniors, along with sopho- addressed the more than 400 fathers more Evan Edelstein, earned School Ser- and sons in attendance. He introduced vice plaques as members of the school’s Yechiel Kirschner, a senior represent- Masmidim program who both learn and ing the mesivta student body, to deliver actively help to facilitate the learning divrei Torah. Yechiel addressed the sim- of the whole program. Freshman Ariel ilarities between the yom tov of Chanu- Blumstein and sophomores Jacob Roffe kah and the national holiday of Thanks- and Yakov Weinberger were recognized giving. The program also featured as masmidim of the semester. Yehuda Yaffe, a talmid in the Yeshiva All of the awardees were showered Gedolah, who spoke about the mid- with applause from the other students, dah of hoda’ah, thanks, so clearly epito- and then a fun-fi lled afternoon of mized by our avos and imahos. sports, ranging from ice-skating to Fris- Following the divrei Torah from the bee to fl ag football was on. The football talmidim, the mesivta’s annual Fall Essay fi elds, the full-court basketball courts, Contest winners were announced, with and the great indoor soccer arena were excerpts read from the four fi rst-place used to their fullest extent. essays. Awards and prize money were Everyone had an amazing time and distributed by Rabbi Yossi Bennett, the night concluded with Ma’ariv back assistant menahel/assistant principal. at the school and Snapple and Dunkin’ Rabbi Jonathan Rietti addressing those in attendance Donuts for everyone. Continued on Page 68

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The highlight of the breakfast was a return visit from Rabbi Jonathan Rietti, who astounded the audience with a masterful shiur on teaching by example. Rabbi Rietti intertwined his vast Torah knowledge with his English humor and wit, and kept the crowd enthralled from beginning to end.

Senior Yechiel Kirschner addressing Talmidim engaged in Wheel of Chanukah those assembled

Rabbi Jonathan Rietti

The program concluded with the Stu- dent Government raffl e of various prizes, Talmidim enjoying the seudah including an 18-speed bicycle, an iPad intense, entertaining, and challenging breakfast during the school’s upcoming mini, and various sports tickets, all of Junior Akiva Katz addressing his peers game of “Wheel of Chanukah,” hosted annual mid-winter ski trip. which made for some very happy winners. by Rabbi Shlomo Drebin, director of stu- However, the excitement and fun was The annual yeshiva-wide Chanukah Following a morning of learning, the dent activities, and Rabbi Yossi Bennett, only just beginning! What ensued was mesibah—an event that combined limud yeshiva’s nearly 200 talmidim came assistant menahel. The competition an “electrifying” event. The live musical haTorah with exciting, fun, and enjoy- together for a special buffet lunch (con- challenged the talmidim’s knowledge in entertainment drew the crowd onto the able ruach-fi lled, student-centered activi- sisting of a variety of fried and oily del- various areas of Chanukah. The enthu- dance fl oor and talmidim and rebbeim ties—was held on Zos Chanukah, the last icacies) and inspiring Chanukah divrei siasm was palpable and tension rose as broke out into spirited and leibudik day of yom tov. The school-wide mesi- Torah by junior Akiva Katz, and Yeshiva freshman and sophomores challenged dancing. Eventually the walls were shak- bah is in addition to the individual class Gedolah Ra’m Rabbi Yisroel Gold. the juniors and seniors. When the dust ing and the tables and chairs rattling, as mesibos hosted by individual rebbeim for Talmidim then eagerly competed with settled, the eleventh grade emerged vic- talmidim embraced the ruchniyus of the their classes throughout Chanukah. each other—grade versus grade—in an torious and, as a reward, will enjoy a free yom tov as it was coming to a close.

68 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES TRAVEL SECTION “Our talmidim learn and work hard,” center. The program includes practice commented the menahel, Rabbi Morde- management, billing, and offi ce rota- chai Yaffe, “but ruach-fi lled events such tions. The program has six positions.  as these are important to building a well-rounded ben Torah, and they ener- Shalhevet Celebrates gize us all to redouble our efforts.”  Chanukah Chanukah at Midreshet Shalhevet St. John’s Episcopal this year was quite the festival! Hospital Residency After a rejuvenating long weekend In Podiatry Receives break, the girls at Shalhevet returned to Advanced Certification school and celebrated Chanukah with St. John’s Episcopal Hospital’s res- an extraordinary chagigah. The students idency program in Podiatric Medi- got a kick out of the photo booth, dress- cine and Surgery recently received an ing up, and taking pictures with their advanced certifi cation in reconstruc- friends. There was a gourmet lunch tive rearfoot and ankle surgery from from BOGO, complete with an array of the Council on Podiatric Medical Edu- salads, pastas, and chocolate gelt. cation. The girls then danced away in a glow- “This means that residents of the pro- in-the-dark party to music provided gram will receive the additional certifi - by Gary Wallin. The ruach was every- cation in that specialty. To be certifi ed, where as the students enjoyed dancing a podiatrist must demonstrate knowl- with each other. Mrs. Eisenman, Mrs. edge of podiatric surgery, including the Lisker, Mrs. Morey, and Morah Schul- diagnosis of medical problems as well man joined in on the party and danced as the surgical management of foot with the girls. The chagigah wrapped up and ankle diseases and those concern- with a school-wide kumzitz, but the fun ing the foot, ankle, and leg,” said Arnold did not stop there! Hertz, DPM, director of the department The festivities continued Wednesday of podiatry and the podiatric surgery evening, as each grade had their own residency program at St. John’s Episco- chagigah at a teacher’s home: the ninth pal Hospital. “We are very proud to be graders at Morah Schulman, tenth grad- able to offer our doctors this additional ers at Mrs. Fried, the eleventh graders certifi cation,” added Dr. Hertz. at Mrs. Skaist, and the seniors at Mrs. St. John’s Podiatric Medicine and Sur- Fischbein. More fun was had by all, as gery Residency is a free-standing, three- the students in each grade were able to year program in podiatric medicine and bond with each other, play fun games, surgery. The residency program train- and eat a scrumptious dinner. ing, including all rotations and surgical To fi nish off the wonderful week, the procedures, take place at the St. John’s freshmen and seniors put together a fab- campus and its affi liate Mercy Medical Center, as well as an ambulatory surgery Continued on Page 70

TRAVEL SECTION 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 69 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS discovering a new Jewish dimension to Continued from Page 69 their lives through our synagogue and outreach programs. Seniors are enjoy- ulous chagigah for the students of Tem- ing weekly programs and home visits. ple Hillel. They played Chanukah Trivia, However, if our community is to con- decorated doughnuts, and created an tinue to reap these benefi ts, we need art project. The students at Temple Hil- your help. lel loved the chagigah. They appreciated On Sunday, Tevet 12, December 15, the hard work and time that the Shalhe- Chabad will be hosting its annual din- vet girls put into organizing a fun-fi lled ner celebration, at The Sands in Atlantic event that also taught them the mean- Beach, marking 19 years of commitment ing of Chanukah.  to our community. While we look with pride at the many accomplishments we Chabad Of The Five Towns have experienced in the past, we focus Annual Dinner, December 15 on the future with a vision of growth. By Rabbi Zalman Wolowik This event is our primary source of When children with special needs funds for the year. It is also a joyous and are educated with love and concern, heartwarming occasion. We call upon who benefi ts? When people can turn you to participate generously in this to friends for help in times of physi- vital campaign by joining us and plac- cal or emotional distress, who benefi ts? ing a message of greeting in the Dinner When individuals can feel accepted and Scroll of Honor. welcomed regardless of fi nancial, reli- Chabad is a partnership organization. gious, or cultural status, who benefi ts? We offer you a share in our mitzvos and When vibrant Jewish communities are nachas, for it is only through your sup- established and fl ourish in our midst, port that our outreach and educational who benefi ts? activities can continue and fl ourish. We all benefi t. The above ideals form Our esteemed honorees—Mr. Btsalel the very essence of Chabad and its and Mrs. Esther Farkas, Dr. Benjy and Mrs. annual dinner. Over the years, Chabad Faigie Hertz, Mr. David and Mrs. Zehavit has grown in leaps and bounds because Mandelbaum, Mr. Daniel and Mrs. Jacque- people increasingly recognize and line Rolnick, and Mr. Boris and Mrs. Anna appreciate its warmth and non-judg- Volfman—and I look forward to receiv- mental philosophy. ing your kind response and greeting you Children are being educated in lively personally at our celebration. Visit www. Jewish environments at our early child- chabad5towns.com or call 516-295-2478 hood center, Hebrew schools, Cheder, to RSVP for the dinner, purchase an ad, summer day camps and youth pro- or purchase raffl e tickets. Thank you in grams. Adults are attending Chabad’s advance for your generosity and may G-d, classes, lectures, luncheons, and per- in turn, bless you with good health, happi- sonalized study sessions. Families are ness, and prosperity. 

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Over 900 people attended tinians are portrayed as per- without being required to harassment and intimida- “I served on the House the Zionist Organization petual victims. Yet it is Israel dismantle the site; it can tion. Intelligence Committee. of America’s 115th Louis B. that uses cement to build keep all its centrifuges; it ZOA Campus Director Sha- There have been intelligence Brandeis Award National hospitals while Palestinians can continue to enrich ura- rona Whisler presented the leaks regarding Israel’s prepa- Dinner on Sunday, Novem- use cement to build arms nium to 5% enrichment ZOA’s award for the best ration to deal with Iran in ber 24 at the New York City’s smuggling tunnels . . .” for the next six months— essay on Zionism to David the event that it has to do elegant Grand Hyatt Hotel. ZOA Board Member and enough, given Iran’s recent, Cohen, a student at Colum- so, leaks that Israel might Former Republican presiden- President of NORPAC Dr. huge expansion to more bia University. be planning to strike in the tial candidate and Arkansas Ben Chouake introduced than 18,000 centrifuges, to ZOA Board Member James next 2-4 months, Israel inves- Governor Mike Huckabee, National President Morton become a “break-out” nuclear Pollack introduced Congress- tigating the possible use of U.S. Representative Michele Klein, speaking of his “vision, state at a time of its choos- woman Michele Bachmann, airbases in Azerbaijan. Many Bachmann (R–MN), global the eternal optimism that ing; and it can maintain who opened by saying that of the secrets coming up philanthropists/humanitar- carries him. Mort meets with without any limitations its she was “absolutely thunder- would be secrets known to ians Sheldon Adelson and dozens of governors, sena- UN Security Council-prohib- struck at the events in the only about ten people in the Dr. Miriam Adelson, and tors, congressmen—he has ited intercontinental ballis- world of the past few weeks whole country. Every leak Israeli Prime Minister Benja- always impressed them with tic missile (ICBM) program, and especially last night in puts Israel in a more danger- min Netanyahu showed their his passion and knowledge. which already enables Iran Geneva, when the hinge of ous position than it has been support at the event. He is a force of nature. Give to strike Israel and Europe history turned. A spiritual in before. In his video address to the thanks that he’s on our side.” and, within a few years, to darkness has descended on “Meanwhile, Iran has dinner guests, Prime Minister Klein spoke of the tendency strike the U.S. as well. our world with this deci- obtained six months in Netanyahu lauded the ZOA in international affairs to Following Klein’s address, sion of the P5+1 and Iran, a which to continue its decep- for being “clear, consistent, seek appeasement, noting Mr. Ken Bialkin, former decision with the import to tions and preparations to and courageous” in defend- how everyone was ignoring chairman of the Conference change the world. Yet I think become a nuclear power. ing the righteous cause of the horrific, obscene speech of Presidents of Major Amer- this agreement has more Prime Minister Netanyahu Israel, fighting for the truth, of the week before by the Ira- ican Jewish Organizations, to do with Israel than with will be forced to make a deci- and working to advance the nian Supreme Leader, Ayatol- introduced Susan Tuchman, Iran. Israel may be forced sion to bomb Iran’s nuclear cause of Israel with the gov- lah Ali Khamenei, who spoke director of ZOA’s Center for now, when abandoned by facilities. One can’t believe ernment, the media, and of Israel as a “rabid dog” and Law and Justice, who spoke the world, not to strike Iran the Iranian regime is serious the American public. The the U.S. as “an enemy who of the ZOA’s pioneering fight even if Iran continues its about this agreement.” prime minister said, “Shel- smiles,” while Iranian mobs to defend Jewish students march towards a nuclear don and Miriam Adelson chanted “Death to Amer- on American campuses from bomb. Continued on Page 72 are the greatest Zionists in ica” and while Iranian state- the world. They don’t only ments included asserting talk, they do, and if the Adel- that Israel’s destruction has sons put their names to an jurisprudential ground. “Yet award, it really means some- the world calls this regime thing . . . The ZOA is indefat- ‘moderates,’ whose new igable. Go from strength to president, Hassan Rouhani, strength, you deserve it . . . was involved in the Iranian I’d like to thank Mort Klein terrorist attacks on Jews in for his strength of character Argentina, the Khobar Tow- and striving for truth. Thank ers attack on U.S. service- you very much.” men, and has bragged about Mr. Michael Orbach, for- his record of deceiving inter- mer ZOA National Chairman national negotiators over of the Board, presented the Iran’s illegal nuclear weap- Cherna and Irving Moskow- ons program.” itz Award to Mr. Tyler Korn, Klein also noted that var- principal of the Korn Legal ious sources, including Group in Naples, Florida, for- anti-Israel lobbyist James merly with Paul, Weiss, Rif- Zogby, have been compelled kind, Wharton & Garrison of to take notice and acknowl- New York City. edge the ZOA’s successes, Dr. Anne Bayefsky, direc- with Zogby even writ- tor of the Institute for ing about “‘a muscular and Human Rights and the Holo- increasingly vocal ZOA. If caust at Touro College Law we don’t stop them they’ll School and former professor win,’ to which we say, ‘Yes, of law at Columbia Univer- Mr. Zogby, we will win.’” sity, received the Ben Hecht Klein noted also that U.S. Award for Outstanding Jour- intelligence experts believe nalism. She praised the ZOA that Iran will have inter- for having “an exceptional continental ballistic missile and resolute president, Mort capacity with the range to Klein.” Professor Bayefsky strike America by 2015. He recalled how her father had also observed that an Ira- been among the allied troops nian nuclear bomb would who entered the ghastly Nazi mean that much of the Mid- concentration camp at Ber- dle East—including Saudi gen-Belsen, before return- Arabia, Egypt, and Turkey— ing to the theme of human would probably go nuclear rights. “For three decades, I as well. have been following devel- The deal just concluded opments at the UN. There in Geneva leaves untouched seems to be human rights all the essential elements of on offer to everyone except Iran’s nuclear weapons pro- Israelis. Colleagues vanish gram. It can continue con- when it comes to opposing struction of its Arak pluto- anti-Semitism. Israel is por- nium reactor—suspending, trayed within the UN as a but not terminating, heavy perpetual villain while Pales- water-related projects— TRAVEL SECTION 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 71 ZOA Lauder, and Mortimer Zuckerman. Sheldon and Dr. Miriam Adelson salem-stone mezuzah for their new Continued from Page 71 Mort Klein, in presenting the award, presented the Adelson Defender of home in Las Vegas. enumerated the many extraordinary Israel Award to Governor Huckabee, Governor Huckabee then addressed Myron Zimmerman of San Fran- contributions Mr. Zimmerman has host of the popular Huckabee show the crowd saying, “The Land of Israel cisco, real estate magnate and pro-Is- made to Jewish and Israeli causes over on Fox News. Introducing the Adel- was promised to the Jews by G-d. rael philanthropist, received the the years, noting that, “he cares about sons to present the Adelson Defender The division of Jerusalem is unimag- Louis D. Brandeis Award, previous our people and our ancient homeland of Israel Award to Governor Hucka- inable. You don’t negotiate with recipients of which include Natan with all his heart and all his soul.” In bee, Mort Klein noted that the ZOA those who don’t want you to exist. I Sharansky, Simon Wiesenthal, Eliza- accepting the award, Mr. Zimmerman was honored to make this award in support a Palestinian state—outside beth Taylor, Dr. Miriam Adelson, Abba said, “I only wish I had more money their names, and presented the Adel- Israel.” Eban, Justice Arthur Goldberg, Ronald to give away for this cause.” sons a beautiful, hand-carved Jeru- He continued, “The ZOA is the strongest Jewish voice for Israel on the face of the planet. Other Jewish organizations are sometimes afraid to ruffle feathers. Mort Klein and ZOA are prepared to pluck the chicken. It is time for the others get over their throat colds and speak out as well.” Turning to the deal with Iran signed in Geneva, Governor Huck- abee said, “This is the equivalent of giving them a shot of whisky, the keys to the sports car, and telling them to go out and impress their girl. Yet Secretary Kerry spoke—in fact, he is still talking—about what a good deal this is. This is the time that we need a Churchill and instead we have a Chamberlain. It is Israel that has a Churchill in Benjamin Netanyahu. It is also time that we took the jackham- mer to the United Nations, disassem- ble it, and let it float out into the East River. The UN takes our money and insults us . . . “Our relationship to Israel is not organizational, it’s organic. The greatest gift of G-d is to be free, and Israel is free and its borders are not set by

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72 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES TRAVEL SECTION 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 73 ZOA Tisch, CEO of Loews Corp. and a And the days drew near for Yisrael to die Continued from Page 72 past chairman of the Conference of (Bereishis 47:29) Presidents of Major American Jew- the UN or the Balfour Declaration, ish Organizations, and Ken Bialkin, a Said Rabbi Shimon ben Lakish: the days of the righteous die, but they do not die but by G-d Almighty . . . Israel cannot senior partner at the law firm, Skad- . . . It does not say, “and Yisrael drew near to die,” but “the days of Yisrael drew talk peace to people who deny it the den, Arps, Slate, Meagher & Flom near to die.” right to breathe. The U.S. should be and also a past chair of the Confer- (Midrash Rabbah) saying, ‘You cannot attack Israel. An ence of Presidents of Major American attack upon them is an attack upon Jewish Organizations. Queens Col- us’ . . . Israel has been revived. The lege’s award-winning Jewish a cap- Do me a kindness and a truth dry bones that Ezekiel saw have been pella singing group, Tizmoret, per- (Bereishis 47:30) revived, because G-d’s hand is upon formed at the dinner, and a klezmer A kindness done to the dead is a true kindness, for one does not expect a favor in her. Standing with Israel is stand- band performed at the reception. Dr. return. ing with G-d’s Chosen. G-d has never Alan Mazurek, Chairman of the ZOA’s (Rashi) abandoned Israel and he’s not about National Advisory Council, presided to start and I don’t want to be on the over the occasion as Master of Cere- The Midrash relates that when G-d desired to create man, Truth argued that “he wrong side of history . . . Never, never, monies with his usual eloquence and should not be created, for he is full of lies.” Kindness, however, said, “He should be never, never again—that is the true humor. created, for he is full of kindness.” basis for peace.” The ZOA thanks Dr. Bob Shillman, To this, Truth might have replied: “But that, too, is just another of man’s lies. Yes, man ZOA publicly praised the president Ira and Ingeborg Rennert, the Adel- does acts of kindness to his fellows, but not because he is ‘full of kindness’—only of Brandeis University, Frederick Law- sons, Jim Tisch, and others for pur- because he expects them to be kind to him in return.” rence, who attended the dinner with chasing tables that enabled 200 uni- However, there is one act of kindness that proves Truth wrong: the kindness done to his wife, for suspending Brandeis Uni- versity students to attend. The ZOA the dead. This “kindness and truth,” as the Torah calls it, shows that man is capable versity’s relationship with the anti-Se- also wishes to thank Dr. Michael of a truly altruistic deed, thereby attesting that all our acts of kindness—even mitic Al-Quds University. Goldblatt, National Chairman of those superficially tainted by selfish motives—are in essence true, deriving from an Nationally known Rabbi Shmuley the Board, and Mr. Irwin Hochberg, intrinsic desire to give of ourselves to our fellows. Boteach delivered the d’var Torah. Vice-Chairman of the Board, for all (The Lubavitcher Rebbe) The dinner co-chairs were Mr. James their help and advice. 

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Belle Harbor — Beach 136th Street— 4BR, 2bth, FOR RENT Valley Stream — Free Standing Offi ce Bldg For Sale, Inwood — 12,000SF Warehouse W/O’h’ Door & Offi ces. Sept.-June. Unfurnished or furnished. Ideal for family that goes Corner Lot, 2000SF, Only ...... $245K Minutes To JFK very reasonable 516-295-3000, to Mountains for summer. $2,000 plus utilities, negotiable. Call For Details. Randy Green 516-295-3000, 917-749-9060 [email protected] [email protected] Far Rockaway — New to market, 4BR (1 level), 2bths, totally renovated in 2-family house. Lawrence/FR border — Large 3BR Apt available for Lynbrook — Full Equipped Deli/Bagel, Great Exposure & Cedarhurst—Professional Offi ce Space for Rent. Prime Call Joan 516-319-4482, 5 Towns Homes Realty rent, 1st FL Private entrance in 2Fam house, Separate large LR Location & Parking, High Traffi c, Call For More Details. Location 125 Cedarhurst Ave, Public Parking Lot, Next To HSBC 516-569-5710 and DR, Prime location, Excellent condition. 516-295-3000, [email protected] Bank, Best Location in Town. Fully Air Conditioned. Open Please call 516-322-3555 Far Rockaway — New to market, spacious 4BR duplex, The best Location in town!!! Central Ave, Cedarhurst Layout. Plenty of Sunlight 325 Sq. Ft. $1200 Per Month all new, 2.5bths, call for details. Corner 1900SF 516-295-3000, Call Diana 718-762-2233 Call Joan 516-319-4482, 5 Towns Homes Realty [email protected] 516-569-5710 VACATION RENTAL Rockville Centre — 3,500 sq. ft., fully wired for Web, Hewlett — First show, split level LR, FDR, EIK, 3BR, 2bths, partitioned, will divide. 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Prime location on Central fl oor, new kitchen, bth, LR/ DR, parking, heat & storage 516-374-4001 Ave. 5+ rooms, elevator building, 2bths, c/a & c/h. 100% Leased with Long Term Leases In Place & Additional Air $1450 included. Prime location, walk all ...... Call 917-417-5725 Rights Available 5 Towns Homes 516-569-5710 Cedarhurst — 3,000SF beautiful offi ce space only $1,900,000- 9.7% CAP Contact Yosef Katz @ Kew Gardens — Furnished apt. 2.5 rooms in private COMMERCIAL REAL ...... $18 psf 212-837-4629 or ykatz@gfi cap.com house, private entrance. E & F trains & LIRR, Suitable for single, Call For Details. Randy Green 516-295-3000, references required ...... $1100 w/utilities. ESTATE FOR SALE [email protected] Vacation Village 2 fl , 4 BR, LR, 3 new bth, playrm, WD, 718-846-2957 beautiful view. 516-967-8370 2000SF Storage Warehouse Lynbrook $2750 Per Mo. 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Asking . . . . . $1.5 million. great location Central Ave ...... $3700 per mo. in its burial society. By purchasing an individual, couple ceilings, NU bths, W\D. Call 516-322-3555 Call Weissman Realty Group 516-791-6100 516-295-3000, [email protected] or family membership, you will be ensured of select plots in one of several New York area cemeteries of your choosing. For more Cedarhurst — House for rent. LR, FDR, kosher kitchen, Lynbrook — New To Market! 6,000SF Warehouse, Lawrence — Rockaway Tpke former pizzeria $3500 mo den, 4+BR, basement. On quiet street...... $3,400 3 OH Doors ...... $899K great location great parking no key money information on burial society membership, call the Yeshiva at 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 516-295-3000, [email protected] 516-295-3000, [email protected] 516-374-7363 x12 or [email protected]

LED reader board attached; overall size 180.4 sq. ft. (90.2 sq. ft. NOTICE OF PUBLIC per face); overall height 24’; setback 9’ 3” from Burnside Ave. & 13½’ from Wahl Ave. & within the clear sight triangle., S/W cor. HEARING BY THE Burnside Ave. & Wahl Ave. running thru to Douglas St., a/k/a BOARD OF APPEALS 530 Burnside Ave. 949/13. MERRICK - Maria Pertsinides, Variances, lot area Pursuant to New York State Town Law Article 16, New York occupied, side yards aggregate, construct 2-story addition & State Public Officers Law Article 7, and the Town of Hemp- masonry stoop; side yard, maintain two a/c units, all attached stead Building Zone Ordinance, NOTICE is hereby given that to dwelling., E/s Bonnie Ct., 252.11’ N/o Byron Rd., a/k/a 7 the BOARD OF APPEALS of the Town of Hempstead will hold a Bonnie Ct. public hearing in the Town Meeting Pavilion, Town Hall Plaza, One Washington Street, Hempstead, New York on 12/18/2013 950/13. OCEANSIDE - Howard & Suzanne Davis, Variances, at 9:30 A.M. & 11:00 A.M. to consider the following applica- lot area occupied, rear yard, construct wood deck attached to tions and appeals: dwelling., E/s Benjamin Rd., 819.45’ N/o Skillman Ave., a/k/a ------3207 Benjamin Rd. THE FOLLOWING CASES WILL BE CALLED STARTING AT 9:30 A.M. 951/13. LEVITTOWN - Narothama R. Beesam & Streevani Kolavala, Mother/Daughter Res. (2nd Kitchen)., W/s Albatross 935/13. WANTAGH - Leemilts Petroleum, Inc., Renewal of Rd., 161’ N/o Orchid Rd., a/k/a 102 Albatross Rd. grant to maintain & reface double-faced, illuminated detached ground sign & price sign both attached to existing pole, 43.7 953/13. - 954/13. MERRICK - Philip & Rochelle Rotgin, sq. ft. per face & overall size 87.4 sq. ft.; overall height 18’; set- Variances, lot area occupied, front yard average setback, back 2’6” from Sunrise Hwy., N/W cor. Sunrise Hwy. & Wantagh maintain portico attached to dwelling; Variances, lot area Ave., a/k/a 3229 Sunrise Hwy. occupied, maintain wood deck attached to dwelling., E/s Halyard Dr., 1,673’ N/o Jami St., a/k/a 2277 Halyard Dr. 936/13. - 937/13. MERRICK - Angelo & Grazia LaCorte, Renewal of grants: Maintain 6’ high fence; Maintain additional 955/13. WOODMERE - Jeffrey & Talia Vegh, Variances, side 6’ high fence., S/W cor. Clark St. & Sherman Ave., a/k/a 1460 yard, side yards aggregate, height, construct 2nd story, 2- Clark St. story & 1-story additions to dwelling., E/s Forest Ave., 340’ S/o Peninsula Blvd., a/k/a 374 Forest Ave. 938/13. HEWLETT - Uriel Lebhar, Renewal of grant to maintain 2-family dwelling not permitted in Res. “B” district 956/13. POINT LOOKOUT - Scott Grodsky, Variances, & open porch attached thereto with variances for height, subdivision of lot, front yards setbacks on Bayside Dr. & exceeds number of stories (3 stories), front yard average set- Lynbrook Ave., lot area, rear yard, construct dwelling with back and lot area occupied., N/s Raymond Pl., 278’ W/o East garage., S/W cor. Bayside Dr. & Lynbrook Ave Broadway, a/k/a 58/60 Raymond Pl. 957/13. POINT LOOKOUT - Scott Grodsky, Variances, 939/13. INWOOD - Mario Gioiosa, Renewal of grant to subdivision of lot, lot area, front width from and on street maintain 4 1/2’ & 6’ high fences part of which are within the line to front setback line, rear yard, construct dwelling with clear sight triangle along with part of 4’ high fence., N/E cor. garage (demolish existing dwelling)., S/s Bayside Dr., 56.44’ W/o Jefferson St. & Smith St., a/k/a 96 Lynbrook Ave

940/13. WANTAGH - Margaret Andreou, Mother/Daughter 958/13. WEST HEMPSTEAD - Eric Schwartz, Variance, lot area Res. (2nd Kitchen)., N/s Brightwaters Ct., 100’ W/o Bayview occupied, construct addition to dwelling, W/s Langley Ave., Ave., a/k/a 2999 Brightwaters Ct. 74.20’ N/o Coolidge St., a/k/a 408 Langley Ave.

941/13. WANTAGH - Kevin & Theresa Ross, Variances, side 959/13. ELMONT – Binila & Shibu Kurian, Variance, lot area, yards aggregate, construct 2-story dwelling in excess of 50% maintain the conversion of a 1-family dwelling to a 2-family alteration & reconstruction (new c/o required)., S/s Kent Rd. dwelling., S/E cor. Russell St. & Clement Ave., a/k/a 1235 Russell St. East 400.19’ W/o Lakeside Dr., a/k/a 2930 Kent Rd. East 960/13. – 961/13. BELLMORE - Charles DePalo, 942/13. SOUTH HEMPSTEAD - Robert Longo, Variances, lot Variances, lot area occupied, front yard setback on Wyckoff Ave., area occupied, maintain garage with less than required side & maintain enclosed porch attached to dwelling; Variance, lot rear yard setbacks., N/s Maude St., 225’ E/o Central Ave., a/k/a area occupied, maintain wood deck attached to dwelling., S/E 649 Maude St. cor. Wyckoff Ave. & Hale Pl., a/k/a 699 Wyckoff Ave.

943/13. - 944/13. SEAFORD - Kenneth Nersesian, Variance, THE FOLLOWING CASE WILL BE CALLED STARTING AT side yard, maintain A/C unit attached to dwelling; Maintain 11:00 A.M. shed larger than permitted & exceeding horizontal maximum., N/s Charles Ct., 275.69’ E/o Seamans Neck Rd., a/k/a 3785 952/13. MERRICK - Janice Pateres, Maintain 4’ high & 6’ Charles Ct. high fence forward of dwelling on Madison St. which may substantially obstruct line of sight., S/E cor. Smith St. & 945/13. - 946/13. EAST MEADOW - Maxine Levine, Madison St., a/k/a 187 Smith St. Variances, side yard, side yards aggregate, rear yard, maintain wood deck attached to dwelling; Variance, side yard, maintain ALL PAPERS PERTAINING TO THE ABOVE HEARING ARE a/c unit attached to dwelling., W/s Sylvan La., 105.36’ S/o An- AVAILABLE FOR INSPECTION AT THE BOARD OF APPEALS, drea Rd., a/k/a 1501 Sylvan La. TOWN HALL, 1 WASHINGTON STREET, HEMPSTEAD, NY 11550. 947/13. ELMONT - Sophia Antonella 2009, LLC., Variances, front yard setback on Oakley Ave., side yard, side yards Interested parties may appear at the above time and place. At aggregate, rear yard, maintain 1-story additions, 2-story the call of the Chairman, the Board will consider decisions on addition & enclosed cellar entrance all attached to dwelling., the foregoing and those on the Reserve Decision calendar and S/E cor. Kiefer Ave. & Oakley Ave., a/k/a 1369 Kiefer Ave. such other matters as may properly come before it.

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5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 79 FROM THE EDITOR impossible. According to organizations should come right down. It turned out Lipman is satisfi ed, and says that he Continued from Page 30 dedicated to saving these women from not to be that simple. Perhaps because has good and responsible people on his abusive situations—organizations like he is a relatively new member of Knes- side. His critics, many with a political He says that the girls are largely in Yad L’achim and Lahava—some of the set, even the people we asked for direc- agenda, will tell you that he is either their mid-teens and are misled by the girls who cross over to live in Arab vil- tions were not certain where his offi ce a traitor to the cause or selling him- Arab men whom they meet at work, in lages that dot the Israel landscape are was located. self out in order to advance his polit- the malls, or on the streets of the cities as young as 11 years old. After a few minutes of walking the ical career. that they live in. The men do not nec- On the day that we visited the Knes- long corridors with the shiny fl oors, The system that existed in the Cha- essarily reveal to the young ladies that set and sat with MK Zeev, he had just there it was, the offi ce of MK Dov Lip- reidi community until last year’s elec- they are Moslem at fi rst but rather rep- emerged from a grueling debate on the man. There was no hesitant or bro- tions was plainly unhealthy and unsus- resent themselves as Jewish, frequently issue in the plenum, one that did not, ken English spoken here. It looked to tainable. At the same time, the changes using a Jewish name while ingratiating at that point, reach any conclusion. He me like the offi ce staff routinely com- that are needed cannot be accom- themselves with the women, who later says that testimony was offered but— municates with one another and with plished with a fl ick of a switch. They fi nd out that they have been deceived, as the sponsor of the legislation to the MK in English, which is as new and are arduous and, because the Chareidi but fi nd themselves helpless. allow the police to enter these villages refreshing as it is unusual in the Knes- parties are not part of the Netanyahu MK Zeev says that the women fre- to rescue the young women—he had set. governing coalition, they are putting quently are held against their will and not allowed the proposed law to come Getting to know Rabbi Lipman up determined and stiff opposition often are terribly mistreated. Some are up for a vote. “I saw that we are making has been a refreshing and eye-open- to the drastic changes that MK Lip- forced to work in homes in Arab vil- progress in the direction of changing ing experience. Being able to con- man and his party want to bring to the lages throughout Israel. He says that and strengthening the law. I will wait a verse with him without the language country. they often start out as girlfriends or few more weeks,” he said. “We are not barrier is just an extra added attrac- And that is the case even though the wives but soon end up being virtu- there yet.” tion. He is enthusiastic about the Chareidi parties know that the lack of ally enslaved. These Arab families live Following our meeting with MK Nis- progress he is making and the duties a minimal secular education in their in multiple-dwelling structures that sim Zeev, I texted MK Dov Lipman. I and responsibilities he has been yeshivas is leaving an increasingly large sometimes feature as many as four or wrote that we were done and that if assigned by his Yesh Atid party. That potential workforce unemployable and fi ve generations of family. The girls are he was still in the building we would might make it sound kind of simple, dependent on government assistance therefore watched around the clock, very much like to meet. He responded but rest assured that the situation is for their above-average-size families. making any type of escape plan close to that he was in his offi ce and that we extremely complex. This is the precise issue that MK Dov Lipman has taken head on and dealt with directly from the get-go. His critics will say that he is at the helm of the effort to reduce aid to yeshivas in Israel. He will tell you that yes, aid is being reduced to yeshivas which ada- mantly refuse to introduce a curriculum that includes English and math. “They will also not tell you what is being done with that money,” Rabbi Lipman says. “The money is being exclusively earmarked for job training in the Chareidi sector.” What can I say? It was a fascinating exercise to come out of two Knesset meetings and not hear a word about U.S. Secretary of State John Kerry, who was meeting with the Prime Minister less than a mile away. Or, for that matter, to hear that the Knesset commit- tees were busy discussing the Iranian nuclear threat or some similar type of situation. Instead, the issues of the day dealt with everyday societal challenges. It was a wonderful display of the internal Israel struggling with important issues vital to her future without the need, for a change, of worrying about what someone out there might think. The great thing about the Knesset is the structure of the democratic balance of power and how things can change dramatically in just a moment. Today the Chareidi parties, like Shas and United Torah Judaism, are aligned with the opposition, which includes leftists in the Labor party willing to trade half of Jerusalem and Israel’s vital security for Arab promises that would be impossible for the other side to fulfi ll. (I’d like to revise that and say that they say they are willing to make painful conces- sions in exchange for an elusive peace, but that’s just political rhetoric laced with falsehoods.) It was nice to see the real Israel at work for a change, dealing with matters like saving the lives of young Jew- ish girls and the struggle to give the heads of households the ability and opportunity to support their own families. There is probably nothing more important. 

Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at [email protected]. 80 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES DEBORAH SCHOCHET her family in a good position for the as Deborah who enjoys people and out how to achieve her goals, despite Continued from Front Cover future.” communicating, what really worries obstacles blocking her path. She grew Under the best of circumstances, her is the loneliness that her illness up in Borough Park but, at the same diagnosis of ALS while trying to recover mommyhood is hard. With a debilitat- and eventual inability to talk or move time, had strong convictions as to the from a fl ooded and almost destroyed ing illness, it can be especially daunt- might bring. The help and caring we life she wanted to live. She always house during Hurricane Sandy. But, by ing. That’s why Deborah’s friends have received from this community had a large group of friends from dif- all accounts, she will not let the storm put together a schedule on CareCal- and others has been so reassuring to ferent walks.” or the disease win. Now, that support is, perhaps, what Doubly tragic is the fact that Deb- is helping Deborah most, in psycho- orah watched her own mother suc- logical, spiritual, and even fi nancial cumb to this terrible disease at a “The help and caring we have terms. Her name, Devorah Rachel young age. Fortunately, though, tech- bat Miriam Chava, is on many Tehil- nology has made some of the battle a received from this community and lim and challah-baking lists. In addi- little easier. tion, Deborah’s friends have set up a While the disease is known to make Root Funding Campaign which has communication and daily actions dif- others has been so reassuring to received 700 donations since March, fi cult, Deborah refuses to let it get raising over $118,000 toward a goal of her down. She has set up a blog, Shi- her that she is not alone.” $200,000. Donations range from $18 rat-Devorah.com, to express her fears, to more than $1,000, and they are all trials and tribulations, and daily life sent with love and best wishes. The situations to her many friends and money is needed to pay for treatments followers. In addition, more than 616 endar.org, where friends can volun- her that she is not alone.” not covered by insurance, including a Facebook friends, most of whom have teer to bring lunch or dinner to Debo- As longtime friend Vickie Herman diaphragm pacemaker which has been been genuine friends for many years, rah, help her run an errand, or just sit explains, this is not a new feature in implanted, and to modify the Scho- read about her frustrations and joys and talk with her. Sometimes, that’s Deborah’s life. “Deborah and I have chets’ home to accommodate Debo- and see her photos on a daily basis. the best part. As Ben explains, “ALS is been friends since middle school— rah’s decreased mobility. According to ALSA.org, “Amyo- a deadly disease and very painful to over 25 years. Her determination is trophic lateral sclerosis (ALS), often deal with. But for someone as social unparalleled. She has always fi gured Continued on Page 82 referred to as ‘Lou Gehrig’s Disease,’ is a progressive neurodegenerative disease that affects nerve cells in the brain and the spinal cord. Motor neurons reach from the brain to the spinal cord and from the spinal cord to the muscles throughout the body. The progressive degeneration of the motor neurons in ALS eventually leads to their death. When the motor neurons die, the ability of the brain to initiate and control muscle move- ment is lost. With voluntary muscle action progressively affected, patients in the later stages of the disease may become totally paralyzed.” Ben, Deborah’s husband of almost 19 years, marvels, “I am constantly amazed by how well Deborah is dealing with her ALS diagnosis and symp- toms. I’m totally a mess and she is constantly looking on the bright side of life.” His honest sentiment echoes the description of Devorah, the prophetess and judge, on Torah.org: “Devorah’s unique vitality radiates from the privacy of her own home (where it transforms her husband), to the public domain where it re-inspires the Jewish nation. Devorah’s power to empower is the source of her effec- tiveness as both public leader and wife.” But this modern-day leader faces modern-day struggles. She has four dynamic, active children—Ariella, 17, a senior at Ramaz; Sabrina, 14, a freshman at Ramaz; Ilan, 10, a fi fth-grader at HALB; and Yoni, 6, a fi rst-grader at HALB. And they need their strong mother to continue to guide them in their daily childhood dramas. The Schochets have been determined not to let their situation affect the children, as far as possible, even keep- ing up with Little Leagues, choirs, and other such activities. One of Deb- orah’s closest parent friends from HALB, Cindy Shayovitz, notes, “Deb- orah has always been active in her kids’ lives. She always strove to give them what they need to be their best. Now, despite the illness, she continues to be involved, even more so. She has two main focuses: One is beating her illness, and the other is putting 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 81 st DEBORAH SCHOCHET sor list is formidable. Some of Debo- able Checks made out to Shirat Devorah YDT 41 Anniversary Continued from Page 81 rah’s closest friends are organizing the ALS Foundation (a 501c3 organization) event: Shana Aaron, Chana Braverman, can be mailed to 636 Derby Avenue, Dinner, December 29 An additional fundraiser, which encap- Vickie Herman, Ilana Kahan, Jeff Neck- Woodmere, NY 11598. sulates Devorah’s fun-loving spirit, will onoff, Terri Pollack, and Cindy Shayo- According to ALSA.org, approximately Yeshiva Darchei Torah takes be a party on December 31, beginning at vitz. Some of the finest establishments 5,600 people in the U.S. are diagnosed pride in announcing the hon- 8:00 p.m. at Beth Shalom, 390 Broadway, in town are generously donating their with ALS each year, and it is estimated orees for its 41st Anniversary in Lawrence. According to event organiz- goods and services to ensure the success that as many as 30,000 Americans may Dinner, to be held on Sunday ers Chana Braverman and Ilana Kahan, of the night: Traditions, Chap-a-Nosh, have the disease at any given time. While evening, December 29, at the “We decided we wanted to do a fund- Cho-Sen Island, Hapisgah, Oasis Cater- each case is special, Deborah Schochet’s yeshiva’s campus. raiser and Jeff Neckonoff immediately ing, Gourmet Glatt, Brach’s, Strauss resolve, in particular, calls to mind “The volunteered. Beth Shalom came through Bakery, Gotta Getta Bagel, Holy Schnit- Iron Horse,” the man for whom the with their donation of the hall for the zel, Mauzone in Queens, Touch of Silk, disease was named. This New York native night. We are looking forward to a very Beth Shalom, Carol Weissman of C.S.U broke records, both for his sports abilities successful and fun evening!” Industries, Josh Aaron from Tov Cater- and for his sportsmanship. I believe Lou The evening includes musical enter- ers, Skyview Wine and Spirits, Pres- Gehrig’s famous proclamation rings true tainment by Azamra DJ and a live per- tige Caterers, and Zcholent, and MLW for Deborah as well: “Today I consider formance by Hasidic indie-folk artist Design. Admission is $50 per person myself the luckiest man on the face of Moshe Hecht. Magician and mentalist until December 24, $65 until December this earth . . . I may have had a tough Marc Garfinkel will also perform, and 31, or $75 at the door. Please e-mail New- break, but I have an awful lot to live for.” there will be food, wine, and liquor. [email protected] for any Come out on December 31 to support The organizing committee and spon- questions. Sponsorships are still avail- Deborah in her struggle. 

Mr. and Mrs. Menachem Marx: Guests of Honor. Over the course of a warm 15-year relationship with Yeshiva Darchei Torah, Menachem and Gila Marx have taken the con- cept of loyalty and devotion to unprecedented heights, as the proud parents of four YDT current and former students. An active member of the board of directors as well as other communal organizations, and a major donor to all yeshiva campaigns, Mr. Marx played a critical role in the construction of the yeshiva’s beautiful new complex. “Men- achem was instrumental in a creative fundraising venture that marshaled a sizable portion of the resources needed to bring the dream to fruition,” relates Lloyd Keilson, cochair- man of the board of trustees. “In addition, he was actively engaged on the ground, involving himself almost daily in the actual construction, from selecting a leading architec- tural fi rm to helping defi ne the yeshiva’s needs and translate them into appropriate plans to helping arrange the necessary fi nancing.” “The new complex would not exist if not for Menachem Marx,” attests Yeshiva Presi- dent Ronald Lowinger. “His passion and his devotion to the yeshiva are extraordinary.” Mr. Marx praises the yeshiva as a “shining example of how chinuch can be instilled in our children with a special warmth that captures the neshamah of each child.” “The Yeshiva is known for its talent for developing each student to his full potential,” he explains, “never calling for a one-size-fi ts-all approach in education. Its reputation for inclusiveness, for embracing every student, is what fi rst drew us to this neighborhood 15 years ago.” Mr. Marx attributes the amazing growth of Yeshiva 82 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Darchei Torah to the spiritual and the rav and his rebbetzin helped expand The yeshiva welcomes the opportu- nuch, which was forged between the educational leadership of Rav Yaakov it into a thriving institution with a nity to honor the Feiners as exceptional walls of the Philadelphia Yeshiva, Yeshi- Bender, rosh hayeshiva, “whose clarity growing membership. marbitzei Torah, inspiring role models, vas Brisk, and Beth Medrash Govoha, of purpose and unrelenting drive con- “They energized the entire commu- and pillars of the community. where he learned, and at Mesivta Keser tinue to fulfi ll the needs of each one of nity; they brought about an amazing Torah of Belmar, New Jersey, where he our children.” resurgence,” comments Alex Edelman, taught prior to Mesivta Chaim Shlomo. Behind the scenes, Gila, a devoted one of the White Shul’s leading mem- With the explosive growth of the wife, mother, and grandmother, is an bers. “Rabbi Feiner’s shiurim are a mag- mesivta, its menahel, Rav Zevi Trenk, enthusiastic partner in every project net. He’s certainly raised the level of sought the assistance of another men- her husband undertakes. Still in all, learning in this community.” ahel who would work alongside him Mrs. Shifri Perl, a neighbor and one “People are attracted, fi rst, by the rav’s and share the leadership role. He found of Mrs. Marx’s closest friends, testifi es brilliance and his grasp of the intercon- a fi tting partner in Rav Nusbaum, who, that “she puts her family fi rst.” She adds nectivity between Torah learning and despite his additional responsibilities, that Mrs. Marx “is phenomenal. Gila is a living,” says Dr. Eli Shapiro, one of the continued to devote himself to his tenth great friend, always there to help. She is shul’s mispallelim. “But what keeps peo- grade talmidim with the same energy a tremendous ba’alas chesed and a very ple after the initial attraction is his gen- and care as before. The difference was giving person. She would do anything uine regard and empathy for others.” that now the entire mesivta would ben- for anybody.” “It’s all in his smile that warms peo- efi t from Rav Nusbaum’s daily involve- Menachem pays tribute to his own ple’s hearts,” observes Naftali Solo- ment. parents, Mr. Robert and Frances Marx, mon, another shul member, adding that In regard to his goals in chinuch, Rav and to his wife’s parents, Rabbi Moshe “Rabbi Feiner has a special sensitivity Rabbi and Mrs. Avrohom Nusbaum: Nusbaum describes them as “to be able and Judie Weinbach, for passing down that enables him to relate to each per- Excellence in Chinuch Award. Rav to bring out the best in every bachur. I to their children a legacy of love and son on his own level.” Nusbaum is a son of Rav Nosson Nus- want to do what’s right for each bachur. dedication for mosdos haTorah and The rav is also a sought after speaker, baum, a veteran maggid shiur at Yeshi- In class I have one type of goal, to help Torah causes. Both families collectively lecturing throughout the tri-state area vas Ner Yisrael of Baltimore. Mrs. Tamar develop a geshmak in learning. As for take pride in having children, grandchil- at various shuls, yeshivos, and seminar- Nusbaum is a daughter of Reb Yisroel the yeshiva as a whole, I want them dren, and great-grandchildren learning ies, as well as for numerous kiruv and Bloom, a’h, the legendary founder of all to grow into bnei Torah—each one in the yeshiva. chesed organizations. In the summer, Yeshiva Darchei Torah. Together the [in a manner] that is fi tting for him- “There’s huge nachas in seeing this he serves as rav of Chai Lifeline’s Camp Nusbaums have built a distinguished self. ‘Globally’ I seek to help keep the extended family all following the same Simcha in upstate New York. mishpachah, while spending a large por- yeshiva running in the best possible path,” says Menachem. “The beautiful In addition to her active involvement tion of their time devoted to chinuch. way, in making it the best that it can be hemshech hadoros, the continuity of as the shul rebbetzin, Mrs. Aviva Feiner Rav Nusbaum serves as a 10th grade for the talmidim.” Jewish generations is a true blessing in is the beloved menaheles of Machon maggid shiur in Mesivta Chaim Shlomo, Rav Nusbaum refl ects “The growth our lives. YDT has a major role in this Basya Rochel Seminary, in Lawrence. a position he has held since the 10th [of the yeshiva] is beyond anything I and we’re very grateful.” Now in its fourth year, the seminary, grade was fi rst created in 1996. It was expected both in kamus (quantity) and The Marxes, who avoid the limelight founded in memory of Alex’s mother, the second year of the mesivta’s exis- eychus (quality),” he says. “It started as a and have never before agreed to be hon- Mrs. Basya Rochel Edelman, a’h, also tence, and Rav Nusbaum taught both fl edgling yeshiva and is now the largest ored by any mosad or organization, said caters to seminary graduates return- parallel classes—one in the morning Litvishe mesivta in the United States. It they felt so much hakoras hatov to Rav ing from Israel who are eager continue and one for bekius seder in the early is a serious makom Torah, and the boys Bender that they could not refuse his their studies. afternoon. Hundreds of talmidim have invitation to be the Guests of Honor at “Rebbetzin Feiner is an outstanding benefi ted from his unique brand of chi- Continued on Page 84 this year’s dinner. mechaneches,” says Mr. Edelman, who “I call on every one of my friends sponsored the purchase of the seminary and associates to express their thanks building and brought Mrs. Feiner aboard to Rabbi Bender for his untiring efforts to lead the institution. “She’s bright and in building Yeshiva Darchei Torah and talented, understands her students, and enabling it to fl ourish,” Mr. Marx says. is a wonderful role model.” “The yeshiva enriches all of us. Let us Mrs. Feiner also lectures locally and all take the opportunity at the upcom- throughout the state, in addition to ing dinner to support this wonderful writing monthly inspirational pieces makom Torah as generously as possi- for Mishpacha magazine. ble.” The Feiners have a special bond with Yeshiva Darchei Torah that began when their special-needs son, Avraham Yeshaya, was enrolled as a preschooler a few years ago. “Shaya is a very special young man with a most heilege neshamah,” Mrs. Feiner says. “He loves everything that revolves around Torah and mitzvos. Imagine our pain when he turned three, and we realized that there was no appropriate schooling for him in our area that would provide a Yiddishe environment.” Rabbi Bender invited them to send Shaya to the yeshiva, assuring them he would be warmly welcomed and his Rabbi and Mrs. Eytan Feiner: Har- special needs would be accommodated botzas Torah Award. In just a few years in full measure. since moving from Israel to Far Rocka- “This was no small undertaking,” way to become rav of Knesseth Israel, says Rabbi Feiner. “Shaya is wheel- the White Shul, Rabbi Feiner and his chair-bound and is under constant nurs- rebbetzin have made an extraordinary ing and therapeutic care. But nothing mark on the community. The rav came deterred Rabbi Bender. In his dream to to his new post with a rich background feed the thirsty neshamah of this child, in Torah study and teaching, having he tackled every obstacle, putting all served for years as a maggid shiur and the school’s resources at our disposal.” senior lecturer at Aish HaTorah, while “The way Rabbi Bender embraced also teaching at numerous other yeshi- Shaya and the challenge of integrating vos and seminaries. him into the school set the tone for his His new role as rav tapped an extraor- entire wonderful staff and for the stu- dinary wellspring of inspired leadership dents as well. Everyone is Shaya’s friend. in the Feiners. Pouring their energies That is the unparalleled beauty and into strengthening the legendary shul, kedushah of the Darchei Torah chinuch.” 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 83 Anniversary Dinner Continued from Page 83 know what we stand for. Yes, we have a variation of levels, but our mission is clear: to develop bnei Torah.” Mrs. Nusbaum is a Chumash coordinator for COJDS, the Consortium of Jewish Day Schools, developing Chu- mash curricula and related materials for the lower elementary grades of 90 yeshivos and day schools across America. For more than two decades she taught in local mosdos: the Hebrew Academy of Long Beach, Torah Academy for Girls, and Shulamith School for Girls. “Rav Nusbaum is a talmid chacham mufl ag,” declares Rav Yaakov Bender. “He has raised the ramah (level) of Mesivta Chaim Shlomo over the years and he succeeds in pushing the boys to work hard and enjoy their learning. He is the glue that keeps the place together. Who better to honor than Reb Avrohom and his eishes chayil, who are enhanc- ing the chinuch in this yeshiva—and an inclusive yeshiva can succeed—that vos of Eretz Yisrael was their next step. entrusted their own children’s chinuch indeed the greater chinuch world—on a brilliant bachurim could grow and learn What each talmid had in common was to Yeshiva Darchei Torah, the very same constant basis?” alongside their motivated but weaker that he left the mesivta equipped with a venue where they were prepared for life. The Pioneer Class of Mesivta Chaim peers and that all would gain from the chinuch that had prepared him for life: On December 29, they will gather Shlomo: Celebrating 15 Years of Accom- arrangement. a Darchei Torah chinuch. again in the very same beis hamedrash plishment. On a June afternoon in Four years later, the experiment had Nearly 15 years later, the yeshiva has with the soaring, arched windows, as 1999, they gathered in the cavern- worked. grown by leaps and bounds; the beis the yeshiva that is their alma mater ous beis hamedrash with the soaring, Thanks to the seriousness and effort medrash has spawned a kollel; and the salutes them and recognizes their 15 arched windows, celebrating a mile- that those pioneers invested in their mesivta has developed into a world- years of accomplishments. These talmi- stone: their graduation from Mesivta learning, guided by their loving parents, class magnet institution. The yeshiva dim took a foundation of chinuch and Chaim Shlomo, the Maurice and Edith and by distinguished rebbeim and teach- has experienced growth in both qual- expanded on it, building families, Lowinger Mesivta High School. Four ers in a building dedicated by the yeshi- ity and quantity. And the pioneers? careers, and lives that are tributes to years earlier these 40 talmidim formed va’s visionary president, Mr. Ronald Those graduates, who not only survived their parents, their rebbeim, and the the inaugural class of the mesivta, when Lowinger, who ensured that a proper the experiment called Mesivta Chaim yeshiva that they believed in and that Yeshiva Darchei Torah, founded in 1972 structure would be erected to house Shlomo but thrived—where are they? believed in them. Most of all, what they as an elementary school, had launched this promising makom Torah, Mesivta Many are married with children today; have achieved serves as a tribute to this grand experiment: to establish a Chaim Shlomo had come of age. some are in kollel or teaching students of their own perseverance and hard work, yeshiva that would adhere faithfully to After graduation, each talmid fol- their own, and others are practicing law their own commitment to take the chi- the millennia-old mesorah, that would lowed his own path. Many remained to or medicine or engaged in business pur- nuch that prepared them for life and build a robust general studies program, help establish another, new institution: suits. And they are everywhere: in locales make something worthy of it. and that would continue the unique Beis Medrash Heichal Dovid, devoted to such as Lakewood and Florida, Illi- For dinner reservations or journal foundational philosophy for which full-time Torah scholarship. For others, nois, and Yerushalayim—and Far Rock- ads, please call 718-868-2300, ext. 237 or Darchei Torah was gaining renown: that a 6,000-mile journey to the great yeshi- away and the Five Towns. Several have e-mail [email protected]. 

Quality And Value, A Package Deal At Concierge Service: New Name, Long- Gourmet Glatt. Anyone who’s ever dealt standing Policy. Gourmet Glatt shop- with Gourmet Glatt’s Howie Klagsburn pers have always known about the store’s (and who hasn’t?) would likely describe extraordinary customer-service policy, but him as a calm and collected guy. But now it’s gotten an ofﬁ cial name—Con- just ask him about the store’s new Great- cierge Service. Deals@Gourmet program, and you can “The basic premise behind our Con- Left to right: Rabbi Zalman Wolowik, Chabad of the Five Towns; Mayor Andrew J. Parise, count on a pretty excited response. cierge Service is to make the shopping Cedarhurst; and Gourmet Glatt manager Yoeli Steinberg and his grandson, Shalom Gutman. “As the store’s purchasing manager, I’ve experience as pleasant and easy as pos- always been focused on bringing our cus- sible,” says general manager Yoeli Stein- More details about Concierge Service ment, and—it was a Gourmet Glatt party, tomers the highest quality merchandise berg. “Do you need help loading the and the FasTrack option will be posted in after all—complimentary doughnuts and at great prices. But with our new ‘Great- car? Would you like your special meat the store within the next few weeks. In hot latkes. Deals@Gourmet’ campaign, we’ve set the or produce order ready when you come the meantime, Yoeli advises shoppers to Latkes and doughnuts were also on the bar for outstanding value higher than ever into the store? Whatever your personal take any special requests to the customer menu—along with hot, delicious pizza, before.” shopping request, our Concierge Service service desk located near the store’s front ﬂ ash sales, and a variety of gifts and activi- So what should customers expect from department will be happy to take care entrance. ties for kids—at an earlier in-store pre-Cha- the new campaign? of it.” A Chanukah to Remember. Gourmet nukah extravaganza featuring Lipa and “They should expect lower-than-ever An exciting component of Concierge Glatt capped off its Chanukah 2013 festivi- surprise guest Mendy Wald. weekly sales prices. They should expect Service, he says, is the store’s new “Fas- ties with a Seventh Night Menorah Light- “It’s just like Gourmet Glatt to throw an amazing special promotions and rewards Track” option, which allows shoppers ing in the Park, sponsored together with amazing party like this for their custom- in virtually every department. And, because who are short on time to skip the check- Chabad of the Five Towns. Spirits were ers,” said Nancy Schoenfeld, who brought they never know what new and creative out process. The groceries are packed up high, as residents from throughout the her grandchildren Michele and Joey to the deal is just around the corner, they should and delivered to the customer’s home community converged on Andrew J. Parise celebration. “It’s obviously meant to makes always expect the unexpected.” within the normal delivery timeframe. Park for an evening of dancing, entertain- us feel appreciated—and it works!” 

84 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES the limited gamut from “When did ple that I met whom I rarely see—that The People You Meet you arrive?” to “Where are you stay- is, unless I am in one of those stores ing?” to “When are you leaving?” You that are overﬂ owing with people, while BY LARRY GORDON the year in yeshivas and seminaries. It are out there on the streets, bump- looking for fresh challah, dips, and is a great Jewish scene and, if it weren’t ing into people you know and don’t some popcorn to munch on over Shab- The streets and the stores are over- real, someone out there would have had know, as cars edge slowly along in bos. These are only the people who said crowded. It’s something you think you to create it. impossible traffic just centimeters “okay, sure, you can take my picture.” might only see somewhere in India or One of the great things is that you away. I met a man who brought his Most were camera shy, and ran from some African country. But no, this is can be pushing your way around a tiny, whole family to Israel for ten days. He my innocent but well-focused iPhone Jerusalem, and the streets are jammed narrow store and suddenly be shoul- took the kids out of school because camera. and teeming with people. It is erev Shab- der-to-shoulder with a guy you went to he’d scored airline tickets on Dan’s Last Shabbos afternoon, I was perus- bos and there are things to do, items to elementary school with 37 years ago, Deals for $395 per ticket roundtrip. ing the pages of the Jerusalem Post mag- buy, and people to see. and it is as if you are picking up the It had taken them almost 24 hours to azine when I came across an ad sug- These pictures were taken on erev conversation from where it left off in make the 10-hour trip, because they’d gesting that you can order all the food Shabbos Chanukah as the airports and eighth grade, as if your lives had not flown from Newark to Philadelphia, you need at home online, and forego planes were full bringing people to diverged. You ﬁ nally have something to London, and then finally to Tel the hustle and bustle of the stores and Israel from around the world. Some in common with almost everyone else Aviv. But what’s the difference? They streets on the Thursday and Friday lead- were coming to spend a long weekend, on those streets of Geula and Meah were enjoying Israel at considerable ing up to Shabbos. Who are those peo- a week or more, visiting the country; Shearim. We are all here. savings. ple? They want us to give this up? Are many others were children enrolled for The questions and answers run Anyway, here are some of the peo- they for real? 

David Gross with his daughter Rebecca, from Woodmere The Adler family in Jerusalem for Shabbos Chanukah

The Sonnenblik family The Slepoy family

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 85 One Israel Fund to help build a shul News From The Hills in Itamar. Well the champion climber has done it again! Congratulations, BY CHANITA TEITZ I’ve had grandchildren overnight Michael, and keep climbing to greater before, when their mothers went to and greater heights! I had a “feel good” moment last week the hospital to have a new baby or just that really made my day when I realized for a special overnight with Bubbie that I managed to take care of my grand- and Zaidie. But three at once for four children, three kids under the age of 5, nights—Wow! from Motzaei Shabbos Chanukah until On Wednesday night, the house was last Wednesday morning while my son unusually quiet and we really missed and daughter in law were in Israel. them. “Who wants to come to Bubbie’s Don’t grandparents joke that when house for Shabbos?” we get tired we can send the kids home? (I told them that when Bubbie Past Events gets tired, they have to go to sleep.) As much as we love them dearly, we need Floreva Cohen, noted author of our space and peace and quiet. But I Sneakers to Shul, Before Shabbat ity time with their children. The class- managed through three days and four Begins, and My Special Friend visited room was set up with various Chanu- nights! I even ran up and down the BYQ. The children listened in rapt kah related activities; latke making, stairs many more times than I usually attention as Floreva read her book A baking Chanukah cookies, and mak- do for missing blankets, bottles, pacifi - Chanukiyah for Dina. It was exciting ing Chanukah necklaces. In the “get- ers, hair clips, yarmulkes, and shoes. for the children to hear an author read ting to know you” activity, parents Not only did I manage supper, bath, a book she actually wrote and even and children bonded while fi lling out and bedtime, but they woke up at the more exciting to ask her questions. a same and different chart comparing crack of dawn. There was dressing, feed- A while back I mentioned in this Floreva told the children that she initials, eye color, hair color, shoe size, ing, and packing lunches and snacks. column that Michael Rollhaus of KGH thought of her own children when she (measured with unifi x cubes) and their And everyone got off to playgroup and was climbing the stairs of the Azrielli wrote the books. Parents also had the favorite part about Chanukah. One of kindergarten on time! Tower in Israel to raise money for opportunity to visit and spend qual- the parents commented, “This activity was one that truly offered time to take a close look at one another and make discoveries while making com- parisons and also opening discussion about each other.”

Bnos Malka Academy’s third-grade classes added an extra measure of meaning to Chanukah. The teachers felt it was important to think of others and not just ourselves and they included a chesed project along with the singing, dancing, and noshing. The girls created beautifully decorated cards which will be sent, through Chai Lifeline, to children in the hospital. Upcoming Events B’KAVOD innovative programming for seniors and their families invites community elders every Monday and Wednesday, 11:00 a.m.-3:00 p.m. (women) 11:30 a.m.-3:30 p.m. (men) to Cong. Degel Israel in Kew Gardens Hills. December will feature Rabbi Noach Isaac Oelbaum, shlita, with a Michtav MeEliyau Series including handouts. On December 16, Robin Rosenzweig MS, community health education specialist returns to discuss stress management. On December 18, Chavy Baron PT, MPA, rehabilitation professional, returns to discuss exercise and advice. Acclaimed Chazan Israel Rosenzweig will present Chassidic melodies and storytelling. On December 23, Terry Goldberg, MS, RD, nutrition educator, noted Queens Col- lege faculty, will discuss the relationship of food and medicine followed by a travelogue on Italy. On December 25, author Shmuel Shields, PhD, will discuss memory and nutrition and have a book signing. Judy Gottlieb presents divrei Torah, crafts, and memory games.

Continued on Page 88 86 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES December 13, 2013 87 News From The Hills is offering a free interactive lesson in goal is to put an end to the “game” once And I, when I came from Continued from Page 86 self-defense: “Don’t Get Knocked Out.” and for all. Paddan, Rochel died by Participation is free. Sunday, Decem- I would also suggest that we reinstate me in the land of Canaan Events are peppered with music, good ber 15, 2:00-4:00 p.m. at Young Israel of the citizen patrol that we used to have on the way, when yet food, and friendship. For more infor- Queens Valley Social Hall, 141-55 77th in KGH years ago. Let’s let anyone who there was but a little mation, call 646-543-9818 or e-mail Avenue Kew Gardens Hills, New York thinks they can prey on our citizens way to come to Efrat; [email protected]. 11367. “Don’t Get Knocked Out” mini- know that we will not tolerate crime in and I buried her there in The Queens community Asarah mizes risk when walking the streets our community! the way of Efrat, that is B’Teves program will be held this Mot- by adapting mindsets, to never again Beit Midrash Tov, 68-58 147th Street, Bethlehem zaei Shabbos, December 14 at 8:00 p.m. play the role of unsuspecting pedes- invites ladies to a lecture by Rebbetzin The Young Israel of KGH, 150th Street trian. “Don’t Get Knocked Out” focuses Yehudith Yosef, Tuesday, December 17, (Bereishis 48:7) and 70th Road, will be hosting the eve- on how attacks are occurring, circum- 8:30 p.m. Amazing stories of R’ Ovadia Why did Yaakov evoke the memory of ning. The guest speaker is Rabbi Paysach stances conducive to becoming a target, Yosef, zt’l; hafrashat challah. Admission Rochel’s burial? Krohn, world-renowned author and lec- and the necessary levels of awareness free. Lecture in Hebrew. Contact the Cohens for more information: 718-679- So said Yaakov to Yosef: I am asking 0368. you to trouble yourself to take me to A Shloshim for Rabbi Joseph Grun- be buried in the Land, even though I Not only did I manage supper, blatt will be held on Sunday evening, did not do the same for your mother. She died a short distance from December 22, 8:00 p.m. at the Queens Bethlehem, and I did not even take her Jewish Center in Forest Hills. Also, an bath, and bedtime, but they woke to [Bethlehem] but buried her at the interactive website is being set up for wayside. up at the crack of dawn. people to post their memories/stories of the Rabbi at www.rabbigrunblatt. I know that there is resentment in com. your heart to me over this. But know Midreshet Adina presents Rabbi Jer- that it was by Divine command that I turer. Admission is free and parking is and alertness needed to combat both. emy Kagan “True Chesed; Bringing Our buried her there, so that she should available in the YCQ parking lot. At times, these countermeasures may Relationship with God into the World” be a help for her children when The Bnos Malka Academy Parent be utilized effectively, but one might Tuesday, December 24, 10:15 a.m. Fee: Nevuzaradan (commander-in-chief of Nevuchadnetzar’s army; II Melachim Appreciation Melaveh Malkah is sched- note that these no longer help if one $10. 136-05 72nd Road KGH. Babysitting 25) will exile them and they will pass uled for December 14, 8:00 p.m. featur- is already facing an attack. This is the available for small fee. Please call 718- by there. Then Rochel will come out ing Mr. Charlie Harary discussing “Tap- reason that the second portion of the 544-9218. upon her grave and weep and plead ping into your Inner Greatness” at the seminar will consist of an interactive for mercy for them, as it is written Utopia Jewish Center. demonstration which will instill the Mazal Tov (Yirmiyah 31:14): “A voice is heard in After last week’s posting of the skills and know-how not only to react To Mr. and Mrs. Louis Taubenblatt Ramah [the heights], lamentation and “knockout crime” on Main Street, I effectively but to react with the ideal on the marriage of their grandson, bitter weeping; Rochel is weeping for called the Community Affairs division response. Instructor Avi, who played a Ephraim, to Riki Shaﬁ er.  her children . . .”; and G-d will answer of the police department for veriﬁ ca- major role in the Israeli Defense Forces’ her, “There is reward for your toil . . . tion of the crime and to make sure it becoming adept at dealing with sur- Chanita Teitz is a real-estate broker at Astor The children shall return to their own was reported. Avi Avramcheyiv, who prise knife encounters, has adapted the Brokerage in Kew Gardens Hills, serving the entire Queens vicinity. For all your real-estate borders” (ibid., v. 15–16). originally posted the crime on KGH same system for civilians, to counter needs, call her at 718-263-4500 or e-mail (Rashi) shuls, is a Krav Maga instructor and the disturbing trend of “knockout.” The [email protected].

88 December 13, 2013 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Community News From Around The World

Ohel’s Foster Care Batsheva Berger and Shulamit Mar- Chanukah Party cus of Ohel’s Foster Care Homefi nding On the eighth night of Chanukah, Department, who arrange this wonder- Ohel Children’s Home and Family Ser- ful event yearly, summed it up well. vices hosted their annual Chanukah “Everyone was enjoying themselves party for foster families. This event is together, with one common thread much anticipated every year by the fos- that binds them—their willingness to ter children and their foster siblings— open their hearts and homes to a foster child.” Everyone was celebrating Chanukah together, and because of Ohel, all of these children, regardless of where they may have come from, have a place to call home. If you have ever considered becoming State Senator Felder, Councilman-elect Deutsch, and NYPD Commissioner Ray Kelly pose an Ohel foster parent and would like with the silver mezuzah case and plaque presented to Kelly. more information, please call Shulamit Marcus at 718-851-6300.  Felder also noted that thanks to to the Shomrim for their cooperation the efforts of Commissioner Kelly, a and assistance.” Send-Off Breakfast 43-year veteran of the NYPD, New York In his speech, Deutsch said, “Raymond For NYPD Commissioner City is on track to become the nation’s Kelly has led the New York City Police Ray Kelly safest city. “Studies show that every Department with pride and distinc- Close to 200 people, including prom- neighborhood in the City is fl ourishing tion . . . he has gone above and beyond the biological children of their foster inent community leaders and elected despite the economy because crime is the call of duty and helped bring the parents. The guests included Ohel foster offi cials, gathered at the Canal Jeans down,” he said. “With the help of G-d, NYPD to where it is today. There’s a rea- care staff and their families. Whether Building in Flatbush to join NY State New York City has not experienced a son that the NYPD is hailed as the great- typically functioning, or with spe- Senator Simcha Felder (D-Brooklyn) terrorist attack since 9/11. The city has est police department in the world.” cial needs, all the children and adults and Councilman-elect Chaim Deutsch come back in every way since 9/11, and Commissioner Kelly thanked the enjoyed a joyous evening of good food, (D-Brooklyn) in paying tribute to out- it’s due in large measure to the safety state senator and the councilman-elect, musical entertainment, singing, danc- going Police Commissioner Raymond and security all New Yorkers have and echoed the former’s remarks, saying ing, and general celebration. Kelly at an Appreciation Breakfast held enjoyed during Commissioner Kelly’s that after the September 11 attacks, peo- Many people pitched in to make the in his honor. tenure.” ple said New York City was “doomed.” party a success, including the staff of “Today is all about gratitude, about Felder remarked that there are only He said that 16 terrorist attacks against Ohel’s foster care department, children saying thank you to an individual that three major U.S. cities considered safer New York City have been thwarted since and grandchildren of staff, and volun- I consider to be the quintessential pub- than New York: Plano, Texas; Lincoln, 9/11, and warned that the city must teers. One of the main attractions of lic servant,” Felder said of Commis- Nebraska; and Henderson, Nevada. “And remain ever-vigilant against those who the party was the Parrot Rebbe, who sioner Kelly. “And the best police com- if you want, you can leave now,” he said, seek to harm it. He also acknowledged brought along many of his exotic pet missioner New York City has ever had,” to much laughter. his top commanders and the brave men birds, which the guests got to carry on he added. Felder also welcomed and congratu- and women of the NYPD, saying that it their shoulders after the show! At the breakfast, Felder and Deutsch lated newly-elected Councilman Chaim was a privilege to lead them. Entertainment was sponsored by presented a silver mezuzah and plaque Deutsch, who cohosted the event At the conclusion of the program, Ohel’s Simcha Fund, and the party truly to Kelly. “You have kept us and our fam- with him. “It is fi tting that you, as the throngs of people mobbed the commis- was a simcha, with children and fami- ilies safe for the last 12 years,” Felder founder of the Flatbush Shomrim, are sioner in order to get a photograph with lies from every part of the Jewish spec- said in presenting the gift. “We thank here today . . . Both the Flatbush and the him. “This was the right thing to do,” trum and every level of ability celebrat- you for your service, and present this Boro Park Shomrim have a long history said Felder following the event. “I am so ing together. The mood was infectious, mezuzah—a symbol of protection and of working together with the Police glad we had this opportunity to thank with all the children present laughing safety—to you as a token of our appre- Department to keep our streets and Commissioner Kelly for everything he together and cheering on the parrots. ciation.” neighborhoods safe. We are all grateful has done for this city.”  Rav Chaim’s Teshuvos: Sephardic Custom Of Lighting In Shul

BY RABBI YAIR to provide a source for the Sep- Not Mentioned menorah itself and that it should dles is the blessing recited— HOFFMAN hardic custom. Until Late 1300s be arranged from east to west. the newer candles added each It is interesting to note that The Mishnah Berurah adds that night or the fi rst candle? The Last week, Mr. Larry Gordon Two Reasons neither the Rambam, the Rif, the person lighting should be in Vilna Gaon believes that it is had the honor of meeting with For Lighting In Shul the Rosh, the Ohr Zaruah, the the south and face north. This the fi rst one. This is so that one Rav Chaim Kanievsky, shlita, The Chayei Odom (154:17) Eshkol, Rashi, nor the Machzor is based upon the responsa of can fulfi ll the idea of adjacent and presented a few halachic explains that we light and Vitri mentions the custom the Chasam Sofer (OC 186) who to the doorway in the most questions to the revered rav. recite the blessing in the syn- of lighting in shul. The ear- explains that the main can- ideal manner possible. The following question was agogue because of pirsumei liest authority to mention dle should be adjacent to the By the same token, being posed by an esteemed mem- nisah, publicizing the miracle. the custom is the Baal HaIt- Aron Kodesh, so that it would adjacent to the Aron Kodesh is ber of Kollel Avreichim, Rabbi The Levush (#8) gives a differ- tur. Indeed, the fi rst to men- best fi t into the idea of “Before an ideal that even trumps the Shmuel Lichtenstein. ent reason. He says that it is tion that a blessing is recited is Hashem.” Since our Chanukah notion of being next to the What is the source for the done so that guests who have Rav Yitzchok Perfet, the Rivash menorah is based upon the orig- doorway. It would seem that custom of Sephardim, who no place to stay can also see (1326-1408). The Maharam Shick inal one in the Beis HaMikdash, the only way to fulfi ll this place the menorah on the the Chanukah lights. Dayan (YD) stated that the Chasam it should be done this way in ideal of lighting the candle darom (south side) of the shul, Weiss (Minchas Yitzchok Vol. Sofer actually did not recite a our shuls as well. closest to the Aron, yet at the and when they light, they also VI 65:1) explains that, accord- blessing when lighting in shul. same time lighting from east face south, whereas the Ashke- ing to the fi rst reason, a child Sephardic Source to west is by facing south not nazim face north? Rav Chaim who has reached the age of The Shulchan Aruch May Be Combination north! Kanievsky answered that both chinuch may light in the syn- And The Ashkenazic This author would like to But, to reiterate, Rav Chaim customs are kosher and either agogue; while, according to Custom suggest that the Sephardic Kanievsky responded to Rabbi way it is performed is valid. the Levush’s reason, he may The Shulchan Aruch 675:7 source lies in the combina- Lichtenstein’s question that In this short analysis, we not. Rav Elyashiv (as cited in explains that in the shul the tion of the view of the Chasam either method is acceptable.  would like to both give an over- Yashiv Moshe, p.86) states that menorah should be placed Sofer with that of the Vilna view of the development of according to either reason a on the south side. The Hagah Gaon in OC 676. The ques- The author can be reached at lighting in the synagogue and try child may not light in shul. explains that this is akin to the tion there is upon which can- [email protected].

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GOLD MEDAL BUMBLE BEE RONZONI HUNTS HUNTS SPRITE – FANTA – THOMAS LASAGNE – RONZONI POLAND SPRING POWERADE FLOUR SOLID WHITE TOMATO MINUTE MAID – ENGLISH 5 LB BAG ALL PURPOSE, MANICOTTI – PASTA TUNA TOMATOES 1 LB PKG ZITI – SPAGHETTI – DRINKS UNBLEACHED, JUMBO SHELLS 28 OZ CAN WHOLE – CRUSHED – WATER SEAGRAM’S 32 OZ BTL ASST MUFFINS IN WATER OR OIL DICED – SAUCE KETCHUP ELBOWS – ROTINI 16.9 OZ BTL 24 PACK 2 LITER BTL 12 TO 13 OZ PKG ASST AUNT JEMIMA SELF RISING 5 OZ CAN 8 TO 16 OZ PKG 24 OZ BTL $169 3/$4 2/$3 99¢ 99¢ 5/$5 $499 89¢ 69¢ $199 KELLOGG’S GEFEN GEFEN SEASON FRESCORTI OSEM POP CORNERS OSEM KRAVE – SKINLESS & BONELESS SOLID WHITE OSEM HERR’S CRUNCHY NUT – PREMIUM SARDINES IN TUNA IN MARINARA ONION PUDDINGS POPPED MINI SOUP 2.80 TO 3.30 OZ PKG VANILLA PRETZELS CRISPIX COCOA SAUCE SOUP CORN CHIPS 16 OZ BAGS MANDELS 16 OZ CONT OLIVE OIL WATER 26 OZ JAR ASST 7.80 OZ CONT OR CHOCOLATE 5 OZ BAGS 14.1 OZ CONT 11.4 TO 12 OZ PKG 4.375 OZ CAN 6 OZ CAN 2/$5 $499 $199 2/$4 $169 $299 99¢ 89¢ 3/$5 2/$5 BIRDSEYE SUPER A GOOD HUMOR SPRING VALLEY RICH’S MEAL MART KOSHERIFIC BROOKLYN BEST ALEXIA SUPER A TURKEY HILL JUNIOR ICE ICE CREAM STEAM FRESH FRANKS ‘N’ BLANKETS WHIPPED BUFFALO POTATO 4 SLICE BATH TISSUE ICE CREAM VEGETABLE POTATOES , EGG ROLLS OR 20 ROLL PKG 48 OZ CONT ASST POPS BARS 10.8 OZ PKG CORN – GREEN BEANS – 10.5 TO 32 OZ PKG ASST POTATO PUFFS TOPPING WINGS KNISHES PIZZA 42 OZ PKG 6 PACK, 16.5-18 OZ PKG 8 OZ CONT 2 LB BAG HOT OR MILD 14.1 OZ PKG MUSHROOM – 16 OZ PKG REGULAR OR PEAS – MIXED 20 TO 28 OZ PKG CRISPY – CORN WHOLE WHEAT $799 $299 $199 $399 2/$4 $349 $999 89¢ $899 $299 $399 NATURAL & KOSHER EMPIRE KOSHER FLORIDA NATURAL CHOBANI FRIENDSHIP FRESH & HEALTHY NATHANS AARON’S CLAUSSEN ORANGE JUICE TROPICANA SHREDDED SMOKED OR SOUR MOZZARELLA, PIZZA, SLICED CORNED BEEF PICKLES YOGURTS OR GRAPEFRUIT LEMONADE MILK CHEFS, MEXICAN OVEN TURKEY HALF SOUR, GARLIC, WHOLE 6 OZ CONT ASST JUICE CREAM 59 OZ CONT 1/2 GALLON ASST SALMON LOX OR PASTRAMI KOSHER, AND KOSHER HALF 59 OZ CONT ASST 16 OZ CONT REGULAR OR LOW FAT BLEND SLICES 3 OZ PKG 6 OZ PKG 8 OZ PKG 8 OZ CONT 32 OZ JAR 89¢ 2/$5 $199 3/$5 2/$5 2/$5 $399 $299 $499 $299 SEAFOOD APPY COUNTER

WHOLE WILD BABY BREADED BREADED MOZZARELLA OLIVE JACK FETA PITTED BROOK HALIBUT SALMON LEMON PEPPER FISH PARTY MIXED KALAMATA STICKS CHEESE CHEESE OLIVES TROUT STEAK FILLET POLLOCK NUGGETS TRAY OLIVES $ 99 $ 99 $ 99 $ 99 $ 99 $ 99 $ 99 $ 49 $ 49 $ 99 4 1/2LB 4 1/2LB LB 5 LB 10 LB 8 LB 5 LB 3 LB 7 LB 7 7 LB FAMILY PACK SHOULDER ROAST WHOLE MINUTE FAMILY PACK FAMILY PACK STORE HOURS: 0 CHICKEN Sunday 7am-8pm OR SILVER TIP STEAK ROAST ( BEEF STEW BOTTOMS GROUND CHUCK Monday & Tuesday 7am-9pm Wednesday 7am-10pm $ $ 49 Thursday 7am-12midnight $ 99 $ 99 LB $ 29 $ 49 Friday 7am-5:00pm 7 6 LB 7 LB 5 2 LB 3 LB WEDNESDAY THROUGH FRIDAY ' CHICKEN GUMBO STEAMED HONEY MUSTARD CHULENT POPCORN ( SOUP VEGETABLES CAULIFLOWER CORNED BEEF / $ 99 $ 99 $ 99 LB $ 99 $ 99 , 5 QT 6 LB 4 6 LB 15 LB Valid Through 12/15/13-12/20/13

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