Salvation and Forgiveness
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When the Cock Crows for the Second Time Cindy Yuen Chan Contents IMPRIMATUR: Most Rev. Michael Yeung Bishop of Hong Kong Acknowledgements 23 March 2018 Foreword I - Rev. Dominic Chan, VG Foreword II - Sr Agnes Ho, FMM Copyright © 2018 by Cindy Yuen Chan All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, Foreword III - Dr Chung-hin Willy Wong stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means – electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise – except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the copyright owner. Chapter 1 Introduction 1 Chapter 2 Salvation and Forgiveness 5 Published by Red Corporation 11th Floor, Times Media Centre Chapter 3 Sins 11 133 Wanchai Road Chapter 4 Bullying with Gifts 16 Hong Kong http://www.red-publish.com Chapter 5 Being Judgemental 21 Chapter 6 The Prodigal Son 27 ISBN 978-988-8490-48-6 Library of Congress Catalogue-in-Publication Data Chapter 7 Empathy 32 Chapter 8 Healing 37 Printed in Hong Kong Designed by 4res Chapter 9 Justice 43 Chapter 10 Looking Ahead 48 Scripture quotations are from the New Revised Standard Version Bible: Catholic Edition, copyright © 1989, 1993, National Council Chapter 11 Forgiving the Murderers 53 of the Churches of Christ in the United States of America. Used by Chapter 12 Concluding Remarks 60 permission. All rights reserved. Cover photo: Church of St Peter in Gallicantu, Jerusalem, Israel, May 2017. Courtesy of Mr Joseph Ma. When the Cock Crows for the Second Time Acknowledgements Foreword I Thanks be to the following teachers and friends: 「愛」是天主教會的中心信息。耶穌要求我們要彼此相愛, Mr Akasha Barickman and Mr William Chan for reviewing the book; 在這之前,我們先要經驗到上主無條件地愛著我們。這種無條 Rev. Dominic Chan, VG, Sr Agnes Ho, FMM and Dr Chung-hin Willy 件的愛是我們在受難週就可以經驗到的。 Wong for writing the Forewords; 當我們在耶穌的受難中思考這份愛,我們就會深深覺得自 Rev. Pietro Galbiati, PIME, Rev. John Kwan, Rev. Jim Mulroney, Rev. Luke Tsui, Deacon Edwin Ng, Ms Susanne Cheng, Mr Louis Lee, 己被耶穌的愛所環抱。即使我們跟伯多祿一樣否認耶穌,耶穌 Mr Keith Leung and Ms May Yuen for unveiling the truth and root of 的愛還是承載著我們。耶穌的愛勝過所有怨恨、嫉妒、膽怯和 forgiveness to me, sharing experience and giving me inspiration; 復仇感。耶穌的受難讓我們看見,沒有任何事物可以讓我們與 Ms Pauline Fung, Mr KC Lam, Mr Joseph Ma and Ms Odilia Mo for 耶穌的愛隔離。 sharing their photos; 若我們在自己的弱點、錯誤、恐懼和沮喪中,還能確知自 The staff of Red Publish, especially Mr Patrick Lim and Ms Rebecca Wong for their professional advice and assistance; and Mr Forrest Lau 己被耶穌愛著,我們也會有能力去愛同樣有軟弱和錯誤的弟兄 for his layout design; 姊妹。 My husband Dr KH Chan for his love and encouragement. 本書作者從被電影「受難曲」觸動開始,不斷作信仰反省, Much appreciation from the bottom of my heart to you all for your 從救恩到寬恕、悟到天父的愛比罪惡更大、修和聖事的動力, kindness and generosity! I feel blessed to produce this work with you. 使我們深切領悟天父的慈悲;加上作者自己個人的經驗,更加 It is God who has sent you angels to guide me along. Many blessings. When the Cock Crows for the Second Time Foreword II After reading When the Cock Crows for the Second Time I was 可以幫助讀者明白寬恕之道的真義;並在從主的寬恕吸取力量。 much touched at the growth of Cindy whom I have known for 從而可以在生活中做天主和平的工具,做生活中的修和使者。 more than 30 years. The depth she is willing to look into herself in the light of the Bible and the reflection she had is amazing. 因此,這是一本生命的書,亦是一本「活好當下」的書, More than that, she is not afraid to unfold her hurt and pain to 我很願意推薦這本好書給大家欣賞,細味和共享。 share with the readers. I am sure the transparent sharing would bear fruit and a help for those who find it hard to embrace their 陳志明副主教 hurt or to let go of their anger. In Jesus and with Jesus, there is Rev. Dominic Chan, VG nothing impossible. I would like to quote the last sentence from the book “instead of continuing to water the plant of hatred, we may choose to plant seeds of love and forgiveness in this world”. Sr Agnes Ho, FMM When the Cock Crows for the Second Time Foreword III Forgiveness is a very important teaching in Christianity. It is This book is suitable for not only people with Christian faith, also seen as a great virtue in human life. It is the solution to but also people with other religious beliefs or even without any resolve difficulties in our life, ranging from interpersonal difficulty, belief. We can learn that forgiveness is more than excusing marital and family conflict, to the conflict between nations. The or forgetting. It is an active action taken with underlying love most impressive bible story and lesson about forgiveness is and mercy. It is not just a release of mutual conflict but it is ‘If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also a personal release from negativity. Without Forgiveness, also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt negative emotions usually build up and accumulate till the point from them.’ (Luke 6:29). The meaning of this is obvious, but it of explosion. These negative emotions include upset, anger, is not easy to live it out. Another famous bible teaching about hatred, helplessness and so on. Forgiveness is an effective forgiveness is The Parable of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32). relief and cure for the underlying maladaptive emotions. Divine The father who represents our Heavenly Father reflects divine forgiveness and mercy is God’s gift to us. It is always our right love and forgiveness as well as boundless mercy. After all, to choose the right door. Forgiveness is definitely the right key. forgiveness is something easier said than done. Dr Chung-hin Willy Wong This book is a good way to link up bible teaching and real Specialist in Psychiatry, Columnist life practice. Through her daily life experience, Cindy has undergone a lot of reflection on Forgiveness. She shared her understanding and interpretation about Forgiveness through her real life experience. From her stories, we can see that it is not an easy task for her, but she has undergone a lot of struggle and difficulties on the way of practicing forgiving. This book is a testament of her faith. 1 When the Cock Crows for the Second Time Chapter 1 Introduction 2 could not echo Jesus’ compassion and mercy towards Peter Chapter 1 nor did I realise Peter was also a victim of his own limitations. When the Risen Lord first appeared to His disciples, the first sentence He said to them was “Peace be with you.”5,6 Instead of blaming the disciples for forsaking and denying Introduction Him at the moments when He needed their support most, He blessed them as usual. Who am I to condemn Peter while Jesus has forgiven him and me? t was when the cock crew for the second time that Peter Irealised he had denied Jesus three times as Jesus already On another occasion, Jesus asked Peter three times if foretold during the Last Supper.1 When Jesus turned and Peter loved Him, each time followed by laying Peter with a looked at Peter, His eyes of infinite mercy had drawn tears of responsibility of tending or feeding His sheep.7 Here Peter repentance from Peter.2,3 At that very moment Peter regretted was given a chance to reaffirm his love for the Lord and his denials. was restored from guilt and disappointment. I view that the whole series of events: Peter’s boasting of his courage and 4 I watched the movie The Passion of the Christ many years faithfulness to die for Jesus, his thrice denying Jesus or his ago. In the movie, by the time the shot came to Jesus’ connection with Him, his deep regret, and his experience expression when He heard the cock crow for the second of being forgiven, altogether shaped him and strengthened time, my eyes were wet remembering my own experience of him for taking up the critical task of leading Jesus’ followers. being betrayed. I could feel Jesus’ pain and disappointment Through these events, Peter was becoming more humble, from His humanity. Totally absorbed in the role as a victim, stronger in faith and his love for Jesus; and he got prepared I thought Peter deserved to be heartbroken because of his to suffer even to sacrifice his life for Jesus. unfaithfulness, not to mention his boastful declaration that he would lay down his life for Jesus during the Last Supper. I 1 Mark 14: 30, 66-72 5 Luke 24: 36 2 Catechism of the Catholic Church. #1429. <http://www.vatican.va/archive/ccc_css/archive/ 6 John 20: 19 catechism/p2s2c2a4.htm#III> accessed 21 May 2017 7 John 21: 15-17 3 Luke 22: 61-62 4 The Passion of the Christ, Directed by Mel Gibson [Film] (Los Angeles: Newmarket Films 2004) 3 When the Cock Crows for the Second Time Chapter 1 Introduction 4 This was the starting point that I reviewed incidents in my life that had troubled me, in various degrees, some markedly and some subconsciously. My cases might be trivial but these matters of seemingly little importance may trouble us in our interpersonal relationship and keep us away from peace in our daily life. The views in this book regarding the very broad and complex topic of forgiveness were cultivated from my experience, research and dialogues with many teachers from various disciplines. Here I shall summarise some of the Catholic teachings on Salvation and forgiveness as I understand them, and share my experience of being both an offender and the one being offended. In addition, there will be true stories from victims of assault and murder cases. Somehow my hurts have been healed, by Christ, through His faithful priests and followers. I hope that by sharing my experience we may all travel further down the road to see God’s love and forgiveness, live in peace and be merciful to others.