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Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Offering Men Hope and Direction in a Confusing World through Jesus Christ.
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Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Introduction
New York Daily News Article Summary January 23, 2012 Evolution has shaped men’s minds to pursue conflict “Blame men for the world’s problems? Article Conclusion Oxford study says Men are responsible for war masculine behavior terrorism,racism,discrimination, is root of all conflicts conflict among political parties, domestic violence, rape culture and high school bullying
Message: Men are harmful to society
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Is That True?
Has Evolution Is Masculinity formed Men so irreversibly toxic to be an that our only hope existential threat is to Rid to a Civilized Society? the Culture of it?
Does our Presence in the World threaten the Peace of the World?
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Thought to Consider
Is it possible to: √ Take the data from this study, √ Interpret it through different lens √ Reach a different conclusion? Could this study be telling us more about: Something Good Something Lost about Men in Men that has been that needs to be corrupted? restored?
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Mission of AHM
Encourage Men to “ACT AS MEN” How? Why? By offering Men Because our confused Hope/Direction World needs for Manhood fully masculine Men Where? The Lens of the Biblical Story of Creation “Tinted” by the Gospel Story of Re-Creation
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence The Lens of Biblical Story of Creation
God made a Good World, and then placed Men in it: √ Designed to reflect God’s life-giving power √ Made to create of life-giving environments where people can thrive and relationships flourish This Tells us… Something legitimately Something legitimately GOOD IN MEN POWERFUL IN MEN that the World needs that longs for impact and Others require and desires to be felt
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence The “Tint” of Gospel Story of Re-Creation Sin has broken/corrupted God’s Good Creation, But God through Jesus has launched a PROGRAM OF RE-CREATION by which He is restoring the World’s goodness including His good design for Men This Explains why Broken Men Hope/Direction for Men use power is about being restored to for their own good our Created Design At cost of others/World through Gospel
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence A Man’s Masculine Design Includes 3 Facets
*Corruption is Characakture Stewardship of Power of the Facet “Destroyer” Healthy Masculinity Toxic Masculinity All 3 facets operating 1 or more Facets missing simultaneously and/or operating and in Balance out of Balance MANHOOD
Chaos-Engaging Unquenchable Fiery Presence Passion “Dominator” “Dreamer”
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Current Series (2nd Facet)
Manhood: A Chaos-Engaging Presence
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Purpose of Series
Offer men Hope and Direction by pointing us back to Biblical Story of Creation
Who we How we Why we Where we are Designed to Struggle as go for as Men Function we do Help
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence
Outline for Series
Session 1: Session 2: Your Masculine Design Your Masculine Mission Made to Be Like God Made to Create Like God
Session 3: Your Masculine Movement Made to Engage Like God
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence
Last Time Laid Foundation for Series
Springboard from 1 Corinthians 16:13 to Creation Story of Genesis 1-2
“Act like a Man” 1 Cor 16:13
“A Chaos-Engaging Presence” Gen 1:1-27 “Be like God” Gen 2:19
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence In Other Words
Men are uniquely designed to be Like the God described in the Creation Story WHO IS A CHAOS ENGAGING PRESENCE
What? Why? How? Means? Create For the By dispelling Through His Life-Giving, flourishing Chaos, powerful God-Centered of people/ Darkness, Presence/ Environments relationships Confusion Engagement Gen 1:31-2:3 Gen 2:21-25 Gen 1:2 Gen 1:3-27
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence This Means
“Act Like A Man”
“Be Like God”
“Create Like God” Fully Present Actively Engaging in Chaos Chaos Manhood: A Chaos-Engaging Presence
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Today’s Focus
Like God Men are Designed to be PRESENT in Chaos
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence As Creation Story Begins..
WHERE is God? Now the Earth was without shape and desolate, and darkness was over the surface of the watery deep, but the Spirit of God was hovering over the surface of the water. Genesis 1:2 God is PRESENT in Chaos!
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence In Other Words
If Men are Called “To Create Like God Creates” Then it starts by being Fully Present in the Chaos
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Two Questions
I. What is the Chaos Men are to be Present in?
II. What does it mean for a Man to be Present?
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence I. What is the Chaos Men are to be Present in?
The Confusing Darkness that’s part of our Broken World which enters every man’s life: √ At different times √ In different degrees √ In a million different forms.
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Some Forms of Chaos
Slow Bad Medical Busy Traffic Prognosis Schedule Fearful Broken Separation Son Furnace Divorce
Angry Financial Wet Friend Debt Basement
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence In Other Words
Chaos is Anything in your World (Annoyance to Tragedy) That threatens or disrupts the “Shalom” of your Life Which THEN requires something from you as a Man More than you More than you More than you Want to give Able to give Know to give
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Important Bible Question
If the Creation Story is the tale of Chaos to Order
Then why is there more Chaos than Order?
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Answer
The Creation Story of Genesis 1-2 Adds an Addendum in Genesis 3 The Addendum Explains: Why there’s more Chaos Chaos returned in God’s World When Adam failed to than Order “ACT LIKE THE MAN” he Designed to be!
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence The Story of Chaos’s Return (Genesis 3)
Two Main Characters The Chaos The Man Comes in Form Seen as Silent and of a Serpent Unresponsive
Brings Fails to √ Darkness to exercise his God’s Truth Masculine power √ Confusion to to dispel Chaos God’s Place as Designed
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Note
The Man was made to be a Adam’s Silence Chaos-Engaging pictures an Presence absent, uninvolved But when passive man Chaos appears whose the Man BODY is there “disappears” But He is NOT!
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Garfield The Theologian
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence 3 Results of Adam’s Silence First Chaos vandalizes Shalom in the form of disorder, darkness and death Second Three God judges Adam Adam fades into with an unruly World the background as of Thorns/Thistles, Chaos now rules producing even more God’s World: chaos for him Marring its goodness, to face Corrupting its design
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence The Story Continues with New Characters (Genesis 4-50) Adam’s Sons Respond to “rule” of chaos by also failing to “ACT AS MEN” Respond with Masculinity Grows Toxic Jealousy, hatred, Having abandoned violence,murder, sexual their Masculine Design perversion, silence, they now morph into passivity, drunkenness, Destroyers, Dominators, deception Dreamers
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Destroyer, Dominator, Dreamer
TOXIC MASCULINITY which characterize Men who refuse to be present in Chaos “Destroyer” “Dominator” Uses the Power Uses the FEAR of RAGE of his Presence to intimidate chaos to manage chaos “Dreamer” Uses the MISUSE of Passion to escape chaos
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Important Observation!
Whether your “DEFULT” is Destroyer, Dominator or Dreamer The Single Energy that drives all three: The stubborn commitment TO AVOID CHAOS by refusing to be present in it
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Question If being present in chaos is… Central to Manhood WHAT will it take Essential for for US “Acting like Men” to become Vital for Men who are “Being like God” Present Avoided by in Chaos? Broken Men
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence 5 Minutes
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Stewardship of Power Prior to Break If being present in chaos is… Central to Manhood WHAT Essential for will it take “Acting like Men” for US to become Vital for Men who are “Being like God” Present Avoided by in Chaos? Broken Men
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Abraham Maslow
The ability for a man to be in the present is a major component of his mental wellness
If-True-Then Imperative we learn What it means for us to be present.
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence II. What Does it mean for a Man to be Present?
Simply stated it means:
Being “ALL THERE” (“Heart/Mind/Body”) as a Man in the “NOW” Mark 12:30
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Why this Definition?
Because God created us God intends our Minds to inhabit His World as and Hearts to live in the NOW—Not in Past Male Image Bearer or Future (cf. Mat 6:34) √ with MIND to Because think/reason/choose God limited our Body √ with a HEART to to inhabit the World desire/feel/love in only a single place √ with a BODY to NOW is where our Body is move/act/impact at the present moment
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Example #1
If my BODY is driving a Car Then my NOW is driving a Car
And If being “present” involves my Mind/Heart being in the NOW Then to be present is to…
Be Mindful of Be Aware of √ Surrounding Traffic √ Speed traveling √ Driving Conditions √ Next turn √ Traffic Lights √ Frustration with others
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Example #2
If my BODY is with a “crying” Wife? Then my NOW is a “crying” Wife And If being “present” involves my mind/heart being in the NOW Then to be present would mean: Be Mindful of: Be Aware of my: √ Intensity of her tears? √ Body’s sensations √ Emotion on her face? √ Heart’s emotions √ Message she sending? √ Mind’s dialogue
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Notice
Being Present with my “crying” Wife is not about fixing her problem or placating her tears It’s About ENTERING Her! Being ALL THERE Being aware of in the Chaos what’s going on in my of her Emotions body/mind/heart Being open to Being with her and curious about in the context the Reality of her World of a MAN
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Leo Tolstoy
Remember there is only one time that is important—NOW! It’s the most important time because it’s the only time that a man has any power
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence You May Be Wondering…
How can my Presence alone be enough for…
My Wife’s My Son’s My Friend’s Tears? Fears? Anger?
How can just BEING ALL THERE IN THE NOW have Power to make a Difference?
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Answer
Your Presence has Power Because it carries the WEIGHT of God’s Image As Male Image Bearer Just as God’s presence/ you reflect /represent power has FELT-WEIGHT God’s presence/power So too His image in you in this World will have FELT-WEIGHT Your Weight as a Man Doesn't need to be Created, only Released!
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence For Example
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence What Prevents our Weight from being Felt?
Shame of Past Fear of Future Guilt, Regret, Anxiety, tension Failure, Stress, Worry, Bitterness over Unease over WHAT HAS BEEN WHAT MIGHT BE Pull our Heart/Mind out of the NOW Transports us into a place of POWERLESSNESS Produces Fragmented, Weightless Men
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence The Tragedy of Weightless Men
When the Weight of our Presence is not being Felt in our World… Chaos of Life-giving nature of Life’s brokenness Marriage/Family intensifies fades
Goodness of Hearts of God’s World Men grow weary declines confused, angry
DEFAULT TO DESTROYER, DEOMINATOR, DREAMER
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Closing Question
How can I be a Man whose Weight is Felt in Chaos of Life
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Suggestion
Three Habits to Increase the Felt-Weight of your Presence
Practice Mindfulness
Exercise Curiosity
Remember the Stories
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence 1. Practice Mindfulness
What? How? The practice of SIFT Questions paying attention S — Bodily Sensations? to what’s going on I — Images envisioned? with you at any F —Felt emotions? given moment T—Thoughts generated? Why? Where? Help expose invisible Dr. Dan Siegel barriers keeping us from The Whole-Brain being in the NOW Child Workbook
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence 2. Exercise Curiosity
What? How?
Genuine desire to Asking open-ended, understand the non-judgmental thoughts, views and questions opinions of another which can leave me person which may be vulnerable and very different than mine reactive Requires LOVE Requires INTEGRITY that takes me that lets me really outside myself take in what I hear
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence For Example Exercising Curiosity with a “Crying” Wife
Why the tears, (When I do that) Honey? what’s the story What hurts about you tell yourself? that story? What scares you What memories about that story? does that story stir up for you? What’s the story What can I do you’ve always to help you hear desired to hear? that story? REALLY HARD TO DO!
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence 3. Remember the Stories
Biblical Story Gospel Story of Creation of Re-Creation WHY? DIRECTION HOPE Explains WHO Men Tells us HOW are and WHAT they Fragmented Men have been made for can be Restored
Made to “be like God” Jesus is making all A Chaos-Engaging things New by His Presence death/resurrection Here’s how to have Weight! You can do it through Jesus!
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Concluding Question
Are you saying being Present as a Man Means I never have to do anything about my wife’s tears? Manhood: A Chaos-ENGAGING Presence Before we can engage chaos we must first be present in it But once present we must engage it
Manhood: Dr. Scott Engelman A Chaos-Engaging Presence Next Time 2nd Saturday March 14, 2020 9:00AM Your Masculine Movement: Made to Engage Like God
@ Troy Community Center
Manhood: Dr Scott Engelman A Stewardship of Power Thank You For Coming!
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