Resources for Parents and Educators Cindy Pierce, author of Sexploitation: Helping Kids Develop Healthy Sexuality in a Porn-Driven World and Sex, College and Social Media: A Commonsense Guide to Navigating the Hookup Culture

Social Media and Screen Time: ▪ Screenwise; Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World by Devorah Heitner, PhD Raising Digital Natives ▪ The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age by Catherine Steiner-Adair, EdD with Teresa H. Barker ▪ 10 Ways to Have a Better Conversation By Celeste Headlee – TED Talk http://www.dailygood.org/story/1268/10-ways-to-have-a-better-conversation-ted- com/

Mental Health: ▪ A race against suicide: Why this former Olympian is opening up By Daniel Brown https://www.mercurynews.com/2018/06/22/a-race-against- suicide-why-this-former-olympian-is-opening-up/?preview_id=5325189 ▪ STIGMA with Kevin Love https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k-ov9XZzByA ▪ Everyone Is Going Through Something By Kevin Love https://www.theplayerstribune.com/en-us/articles/kevin-love-everyone-is-going- through-something ▪ Teen Depression and Anxiety: Why the Kids Are Not Alright By Susanna Schrobsdorff http://time.com/magazine/us/4547305/november-7th-2016-vol-188- no-19-u-s/ ▪ The Most Important Skill Nobody Taught You By Zat Rana https://medium.com/personal-growth/the-most-important-skill-nobody-taught- you-9b162377ab77

Race: ▪ The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas (YA novel) Trailer for the film: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3MM8OkVT0hw Fresh Air interviews with Amandla Stenberg (plays Starr) and Angie Thoma (author) https://www.npr.org/2018/10/20/658251028/the-hate-u-give-star-says- the-novel-was-like-reading-my-own-diary ▪ Small, Great Things by Jodi Picoult (novel) https://www.jodipicoult.com/small-great-things.html (scroll down on this link to listen to or read the author’s note) ▪ The Cloak I was Offering Them Was Identification With My Whiteness Posted by Voracious – Saturday, July 23, 2016 http://www.dailykos.com/stories/2016/7/23/1551302/--The-Cloak-I-Was- Offering-Them-Was-Identification-With-My-Whiteness ▪ How White Americans’ Hatred of Racism Actually Supports Racism Instead of Solves It By Jon Greenberg http://everydayfeminism.com/2016/08/hatred-of-racism-supports- racism/?inf_contact_key=1cc2fb1cb2d14e8f407e126f427b1003f71ba5ef63593db b27d2c1dfe7e9dddb

Porn: ▪ Hot Girls Wanted A 2015 Sundance Selection and 2015 Emmy Award Nominee trailer ▪ The Great Porn Experiment by Gary Wilson – TED ▪ Why I Stopped Watching Porn by Ran Gavrieli – TEDx Jaffa ▪ Make love, not porn by Cindy Gallop – TED ▪ What Teenagers Are Learning From Online Porn By Maggie Jones https://www.nytimes.com/2018/02/07/magazine/teenagers-learning-online-porn- literacy-sex-education.html ▪ Talk to Your Kids About Porn By Natasha Singh https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2018/08/talking-to-kids-about- porn/568744/?utm_source=fbb

Sex and Relationships: ▪ Dating Smarts: What EVERY Teen needs to Know to Date, Relate or Wait! by Amy Lang, MA ▪ Talk to Me First: Everything You Need to Know to Become Your Kids’ “Go- To” Person About Sex by Deborah Roffman ▪ For Goodness Sex; Changing the Way We Talk to Teens About Sexuality, Values, and Health by Al Vernacchio ▪ What is Your Sexual Footprint? Al Vernacchio at TEDx Youth@SanDiego2013 ▪ Sexuality Education Al Vernacchio@TEDxWakeForestU ▪ Sex needs a new metaphor. Here is one… Al Vernacchio – TED2012 https://www.ted.com/talks/al_vernacchio_sex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_o ne ▪ Consent is like Tea metaphor – clean version: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGoWLWS4-kU ▪ American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex On Campus by Lisa Wade ▪ The Case for Starting Sex Ed in Kindergarten by Saskia De Melker video | article ▪ Sex+Faith: Talking with Your Child from Birth to Adolescence by Kate Ott ▪ American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus By Lisa Wade (about college but mirrors independent and public high schools) ▪ Lessons In Love for Generation Snapchat - NPR By Tovia Smith https://www.npr.org/2017/11/22/565618299/lessons-in-love-for-generation- snapchat

Sexual Assault and Consent: ▪ What Parents Can Do to Stop Sexual Harassment By Richard Weissbourd and Alison Cashin https://www.gse.harvard.edu/news/uk/17/10/what-parents-can-do-stop-sexual- harassment ▪ Asking for It: The Alarming Rise of Rape Culture – and What We Can Do About It by Kate Harding ▪ The Hunting Ground — From the Academy Award-nominated filmmaking team behind The Invisible War comes a startling exposé of sexual assault on U.S. campuses, institutional cover-ups and the brutal social toll on victims and their families. » trailer ▪ We Believe You: Survivors of Sexual Assault Speak Out by Annie E. Clark and Andrea L. Pino

Gender Identity -

Gender Nonconforming and Transgender kids: ▪ Understanding the Complexity of Gender by Sam Killermann – TEDxUofIChicago ▪ Brain Structure and Function in Gender Dysphoria – Julie Bakker ▪ Becoming Nicole: The Transformation of an American Family by Amy Ellis Nutt ▪ Tomorrow Will Be Different: Love, Loss, and the Fight for Trans Equality by Sarah McBride ▪ There’s a very simple way to seriously help transgender youth, according to this study by Karen Fratti https://hellogiggles.com/news/theres-a-very-simple-way-to- seriously-help-transgender-youth-according-to-this-study/ ▪ https://www.tolerance.org/magazine/summer-2013/the-gender-spectrum ▪ The Gender Spectrum: Move beyond the pink/blue binary to support students who don’t conform to narrow gender norms By Carrie Kilman

Cisgender Boys: ▪ Teaching Our Sons Not to Be “That Guy” By Sally O’Reilly https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/teaching-sons-that-guy-chwm/ ▪ Why I am Done Being "Man Enough" TED talk by Justin Baldoni https://www.ted.com/talks/justin_baldoni_why_i_m_done_trying_to_be_man_en ough?language=en ▪ Why men don't talk - Man Enough Episode 1 Actor, Dancer, Hamilton star, spoken word artist and comic have a conversation https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dVsbYas4tVo&feature=share ▪ Let Us Speak Now of Broken Men By Steve Nelson http://www.vnews.com/column-perspectives-nelson-vn-121017-14224196 ▪ The Boys Are Not All Right By Michael Ian Black https://www.nytimes.com/2018/02/21/opinion/boys-violence-shootings- guns.html?referer=http://m.facebook.com/ ▪ The Mask You Live In — Exploring American masculinity, from the creators of Miss Representation. » trailer ▪ Why I’m done trying to be “man enough” by Justin Baldoni TEDWomen 2017 https://www.ted.com/talks/justin_baldoni_why_i_m_done_trying_to_be_man_en ough ▪ Many Ways to Be a Girl, but One Way to Be a Boy: The New Gender Rules By Claire Cain Miller https://nyti.ms/2MpoFKF ▪ Masterminds & Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World by Rosalind Wiseman

Cisgender Girls: ▪ Girls and Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape by Peggy Orenstein ▪ The Sexy Lie Caroline Heldman at TEDxYouth@SanDiego ▪ Dear Younger Me By Lauren Fleshman – Stanford Runner http://www.milesplit.com/articles/211759-dear-younger-me-lauren-fleshman ▪ Beauty Sickness by Renee Engeln – TED talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63XsokRPV_Y ▪ American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers by Nancy Jo Sales ▪ Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls and Enough As She Is: How to Help Girls Move Beyond Impossible Standards of Success to Live Healthy, Happy, and Fulfilling Lives by Rachel Simmons ▪ What young women believe about their own sexual pleasure Peggy Orenstein TEDWomen 2016 ▪ Miss Representation — 2011 Sundance Film Festival documentary. » trailer