Halifax First Ever Dyke March

Back the Dyke March which enjoyed Citadel Hill, they broke into an oft-re- great success in Toronto. Next up peated call and response chant: “Tell to speak was Stacey Montgomery, me what community looks like?” a local trans woman. Montgomery “This is what community looks like!” called on Nova Scotia to fund sexual Marchers turned left onto Brunswick re-assignment surgery, to eliminate Street, chanting a variety of creative male/female gendered bathrooms, chants, such as “We’ve got it goin’ and to make schools safe spaces for on! ‘Cause we say women are really trans youth. Rebecca Rose was the last strong!” Passing the Metro Centre, speaker, taking Halifax Pride to task then the Trade-Mart building, the for having lost sight -of its original Police began to escort the marchers. political goals. She observed that in Marchers turned left on Cornwallis all of the Halifax Pride promotional Street, climbing up the hill to Gottin- materials, there was “no mention of gen Street. The march ended just past political demonstration or protest.” the Company House on Gottingen The marchers left Victoria Park at Cunard Street, where marchers led by Rena Kulzcycki and Mary Ka- gathered to celebrate with Freezies, thryn Arnold, taking the street at the dancing and an open megaphone. corner of Spring Garden and South The Halifax Dyke March was the Park, with the help of Dyke March brainchild of Mary Kathryn Arnold Marshals Jean Steinberg, Jess Geddes, and her partner Katie Wright, but was Katie Wright, and Jessica Carlile. At organized by a collective of dedicated the back of the march was a section volunteers who worked together for non-trans allies who wanted the tirelessly to effect this amazing and show their support without stealing wonderful political change in Halifax the thunder of the Dyke Marchers. (in no particular order): J. Mary Bur- A mobility van followed the march, net, Jean Steinberg, Michael Davies- carrying marchers with mobility is- Cole, Rebecca Rose, Rena Kulzcycki, sues. J. Mary Burnet provided music Emily Davidson, Shannon Pringle, Su for the marchers, with a sound system Donovaro, Jessica Carlile, Jess Ged- Several hundred very enthusiastic individuals walk up Brunswick Street during the first-ever Halifax Dyke March on Friday, July 23 attached to her bicycle. Marchers des, Jae Awmack, Tanya Bloomfield, during Halifax Pride Week. The event was not without its controversy, however, over its inclusiveness of Dyke allies. While a large chanted their way up South Park Kaley Kennedy, Michelle Malette, presence of men and women allies participated in the march, no Halifax Pride Board member was present. Photo by Anita Martinez. past the CBC building, turning right Hayley Gray. onto Sackville Street. Winding along By Mary Kate Arnold n the evening of Friday, win. She named lesbians in South richer for providing the opportunity July 23, the night before Africa who have been victims of both to celebrate during the Pride “Cooper Hatch Paris” CD Othe annual Halifax Pride “corrective rape,” also mentioning parade and to protest for better rights Debuts at In-store Launch parade, around a hundred peo- the persecution Eastern European for dykes and trans people in the ple gathered at Victoria Park for dykes and trans folks face. Yet her Dyke March. Halifax’s first-ever Dyke March. speech looked forward with hope, ac- Shelley Taylor, owner of Venus At the pre-march rally, emcee Rena knowledging the historic occasion of Envy Ottawa and founder of Venus Kulczycki introduced four speakers, holding a Dyke March during Pride Envy Halifax, was the next to speak. each of whom fired up the crowd. in Halifax. She encouraged marchers Taylor spoke out against the growing Lawyer, Liberal and local lesbian to march in the Pride parade as well, corporatization of Pride festivals, Catherine Meade was the first to telling the crowd that Halifax Pride is alluding hopefully to the recent Take speak, her wife Rita touchingly holding the megaphone while Cath- erine spoke. “This is what marriage is like,” she quipped, before ad- Regular Columns dressing the crowd. The theme of Meade’s speech was “Tomorrow we celebrate, but tonight we march.” Chef’s Corner 10 • Groups & Services 12 • I Am What I Standing in front of a banner which Amherst 7 • ISCANS News 3 • Kibitz and Bitch 6 read “This is a march not a parade,” • Lesbian Soapbox Diaries 5 • The Last Word 14 Meade reminded the crowd of the struggles for equality the dyke October Deadline: Friday, Sept 3 (first Friday of every and trans communities have yet to month!) [email protected]

The ScotiaBank AIDS Walk for Life in Atlantic Canada Donate! Register! Donate! Register! Donate! Sponsor or BE a walker in your community Ryan MacGrath launched his CD, “Cooper Hatch Paris,” at Taz Records, Halifax on Visit www.aidswalkforlife.ca July 31. Ryan recently performed with Laura Smith and George Antoniak. The official CD launch will be held at The Carlton, Halifax, on Tuesday, September 21. www.ryanmacgrath.com. Photo by Raymond Taavel 2 September 2010 Wayves Events Around Atlantic Canada your community in the fight against Kate is definitely a must-hear together and keeping it updated has HIV/AIDS. artist, whether you see her live or been definitely worth it. For more information, or to ar- listen to the album. If you are a lyric Moncton Magic has many features range for interviews, please contact lover or just enjoy a good story in including a photo gallery, a Calendar Kate Doyle, Events Coordinator, song form then Kate certainly has of events that will keep you updated SIDA / AIDS Moncton Inc. at (506) something for you. Please check out on activities that will be happening 859-9616, e-mail kdoyle@sida-aid- her website at www.katereid.net for in the greater Moncton area, a news smoncton.com or visit the websites more information. page, guestbook, contact informa- www.aidswalkforlife.ca and www. Following are some of the con- tion, and of course the LGBT com- sida-aidsmoncton.com. firmed dates for Kate’s upcoming munity forum where you can voice fall tour of the Maritimes: Sackville, your opinion or join in on any of Kate Reid: Review NB: September 29 at the Bridge the open discussions. The site also Street Café, from 7:00 – 9:00 p.m. includes a live chat feature where you + Appearances Admission by donation. Moncton: can join in a conversation with any of “I’m just warming up” by Kate Reid September 30 at Plan B, from 9:30 the members when they are online. CD review p.m. – 1:00 a.m. Admission $5.00 at Thank you all for taking the time by Connie Lavigne-Terry the door. Tatamagouche: October 1 to check out the site at www.monc- Sounding like a mix between Ani Di- at Fables, 7:30 – 9:30 p.m. Admission ton-magic.webs.com and feel free to franco with Sarah McLaughlin meets is free. Saint John, NB: October 2 register to receive updated news as it the Dixie Chicks, Kate Reid’s album (or October 3) at the PUMP Night- becomes available. “I’m just warming up” is one lyrical club, admission-$12.00 (or $10.00) for Happy Birthday Judy journey after another. Considered PCRP members. This event is spon- South West Nova dyke-folk rock, her songs are mellow sored by Port City Rainbow Pride Inc. South West Nova Pride meets on the On July 27, friends and family of Judy Davis gathered for a birthday celebration on but politically-driven. Lyrics are defi- For more information contact Mack Patterson Wharf Park in Tatamagouche. Judy passed away on June 14. Her obituary second Friday of each month and nitely her strong point, she can cer- at (506) 648-9227 or e-mail com- between these monthly meeting usu- appeared on page 21 of the July edition of Wayves. Befitting any great birthday party, tainly tell a story. She comments on munications@portcityrainbowpride. there was cake, ice cream, a barbecue full of burgers, hot dogs and steak, corn on the ally conduct two social activities. We everything from the missing women com. Berwick, NS: October 8 at the now have over fifty members on our cob, and music, including recordings of Judy herself performing her own songs. One guest in Vancouver’s east side to homo- Union Street Café. Halifax: October said, “This is an activity which Judy would have loved, and one which never happened e-mail list and our monthly meetings, phobia to tales of an ex-boyfriend 9 at the Company House (performing held at Beacon United Church in Yar- during her life: friends, family and fellow activists all coming together to meet and enjoy and everything in between. Even in with Bonnie St.Croix) Admission: each others’ company.” In this photo Gabe, Catherine, June and other friends reminisce mouth at 7:00 p.m., attract anywhere the liner notes she comments about $10.00 – $15.00. between twelve to twenty attendees. over memorabilia spanning forty years of Judy’s life of social activism, environmentalism, what she was doing or thinking while and equality. For the first time ever we entered writing each song. Moncton Magic a small decorated truck as a float in The instruments on this album The Greater Moncton LGBT Com- Yarmouth’s Seafest Parade, in which definitely take a back seat to the lyrics munity forum has been up and a baker’s dozen of us marched the Integrity: over $30 million for community- but that doesn’t mean they should be based HIV/AIDS service organiza- running since August 2009. I am Saturday before Halifax’s Pride pa- forgotten. Kate plays a mean har- pleased to announce that we are rade (which we also attended the next Anglicans tions since 1996 and has attracted monica on a few of the songs on the By: Rev. Canon John C. Smith well over half a million participants. now at over 180 members, and the week). We were very well received by album and the other musicians that website receives over 200 unique the onlookers at the Seafest parade, On a beautiful afternoon, Sunday, Every dollar and donation raised play with her are equally as talented. 15 August, a small but enthusias- during the Walk will be reinvested hits per month. I started this site who greeted us with waves and cheer- The ukulele and shaker on the song hoping that it would help to bring us ful smiles. tic number of people gathered to directly back into the community “No more missing daughters” help celebrate the re-establishment of a through the services at AIDS Monc- closer together by giving everyone As a viable organization, South make Kate’s voice pop and the lyrics the chance to voice their opinions, West Nova Pride has kept up a busy monthly Eucharist sponsored by In- ton. These services are available to resonate in your brain. The violin and tegrityNSPEI. The event took place all community members and include concerns, beliefs and anything else social calendar. We meet at Tim Hor- mandolin on “Reach to You” bring that is important to them as a member ton’s on Water Street for coffee and at the Cathedral Church of All Saints access to workshops, health promo- you to a place where it feels like you in Halifax overlooking Victoria Park, tion information and referrals to of the gay community. So far all the conversation once or twice a month are listening in on a private conversa- work and effort in putting this site on different days at 7:00 p.m. We go which welcomed a mixed group of organizations that can help enhance tion between two new lovers. young and old, male and female, gay the quality of life for those living and straight with the purpose of in- with HIV/AIDS. Our numerous pre- tentionally expansive worship within vention programs include awareness the Anglican tradition, and of course campaigns, information resources, Wayves On Line! food and fellowship afterwards. workshops on how to create safe For more Halifax Did you miss the last issue of Wayves? Or did your favourite distribution Continued on Page 10 environments for GLBTTQ youth events: point run out of copies? Don’t fret! Now you can visit www.wayves. and prevention education presenta- gay.hfxns.org ca, and download the current issue, and the archives too! We have lots Moncton AIDS tions throughout the Greater Monc- of back issues on line too. If you’d like to be notified when the current ton Area. issue is online- email us at [email protected]! Walk Upon registration walkers are au- On Saturday, September 11, SIDA / tomatically eligible to win a variety of AIDS Moncton invites all residents incentive prizes. Fundraise online for of the Greater Moncton Area to your chance to win an iPod Nano or help give hope to people living with a Dell Studio 15 Laptop, or even the and affected by HIV/AIDS in their First Place Top Walker Prize Pack. community by participating in the This year, AIDS Moncton welcomes Scotiabank AIDS Walk for Life. Porter Airlines as our Gold Sponsor. During the national week-long This year’s First Prize for Top Walker event, cities and communities from is a travel prize pack complete with across the country host Walks to two round-trip tickets to Toronto raise funds for local services and and other goodies. programming and to raise awareness There is no registration fee or about HIV/AIDS. As Canada’s most minimum amount to be fundraised. important HIV/AIDS awareness and Come out for an afternoon of fundraising event, the Scotiabank walking, running, entertainment, AIDS Walk for Life has now raised barbecue and prizes, and support Wayves September 2010 3

for brunch usually once a month at 2005, she has served as the Chair of Brunswick Assessment and Planning different local restaurants. A scaven- the Canadian Board of Directors of Appeal board in June, seeking to once ger hunt game was recently held at the Free the Children. again begin offering exotic entertain- ISCANS News Yarmouth Historical Museum, and a The fabulous Candy Palmater will ment. The Club Formerly known as ISCANS Enters picnic was held at Comeau’s Hill. We SO.HO sits across the street from go bowling as a group, and potluck Moncton High School. the Back Nine By Nathan Boudreau suppers and holiday parties are held “They’ve ruled that they have It’s that time again, the time when you at members’ houses. There’s always non-conforming use rights for exotic get your dose of upcoming events and something interesting to do, and we entertainment,” confirms Bill Budd, happenings in the ISCANS world. We want you to get involved. the executive director of the Greater all survived Pride Week, sunburns South West Nova Pride can be Moncton Planning District Commis- and all. For those who heard about reached at (902) 645-2914 or by e- sion, referencing a hearing on June our Divas baseball cards and didn’t mailing [email protected]. 24 that ruled in favour of Speranza’s get a set, rest assured as there will request. That ruling, says Budd, made be a second printing in the coming repurposing the venue as a strip club Halifax Pride month or so and this will be available possible, provided all other licensing for sale. As with every year, various requirements are met. “The appeal Closes 2010 other Coronations happen through- board has made its decision. If [the By Nathan Boudreau out North America and members building’s owners] start up again they All of us at Halifax Pride hope you’re of ISCANS were in attendance in show: our monthly show normally basically have to follow the province’s all well-rested from a great week of Hamilton, ON and Edmonton, AB. held at Menz Bar will be put on by rules with regards to how these estab- Pride events. As with every year, after During the month of July the our very own College of Monarchs. lishments are licensed,” he says. “It’s all is said and done, we gather one Emperor and Empress conducted a Our past Emperors and Empresses really now up to the Department of more time as a community to finish small challenge, to which the Empress will be there to entertain you all, and Michelle Douglas Public Safety.” off the year and elect new board came out victorious. With a raffle I am sure some of your favorites will Public reaction to the business’s members. draw for a weekend in Antigonish, C. be out as well. Cover will be $5.00 and once again host the event and the re-re-branding remains to be seen. This year our Annual General Leah Cruise and her team sold tickets start time is 9:00 p.m. evening will feature the presentation But given how much contention Meeting will take place at the Atlan- like crazy, raising a whopping $1,700. Got comments, concerns, or ideas of the Darlene Young Community has brewed in the past regarding the tica Hotel, on Robie Street in Halifax While Emperor Nate lost the chal- for ISCANS? Drop by our website Hero Award. For 15 years, NSRAP proximity of strip clubs situated in (the former Holiday Inn City Centre), lenge, he wants to extend a HUGE at www.imperialcourtns.com and has been the leading advocate for the same location to the high school, on September 7 at 7:00 p.m. During congrats to his Empress. check out the contact page and drop LGBT Nova Scotians. This annual it’s unclear whether the club will this time the final reports will be Coming into September ISCANS someone the Executive a line and let dinner and silent auction is our most continue to operate footloose and delivered and attendees will have a is entering the other half of its year, us know your thoughts and ideas. For important fundraiser and we are pro- Bikini-free—or whether the future chance to voice comments and con- and what a year it has been so far! now, have a great month and welcome foundly gratified that so many come has yet more last-minute twists in cerns. Come out and let your voice September bring us a rather special the students back to town. be heard, and express your interest forward to support our efforts. This store for this Village. in becoming a member of the board is a period of rapid growth and high of directors. activity for NSRAP and we need the The Halifax Pride committee community’s engagement more than Our Cover: Wayves would like extend a big thank-you ever. One of the many people and to all those who contributed and The Community Heroes Gala will posters on display during the first Wayves exists to inform Atlantic Canadian lesbians, gay men, bisexuals participated in this year’s festival, and take place at 6 pm on October 23, ever Halifax Dyke March and transgender people of activities in their communities, to promote we look forward to another great year 2010 at the Marriott Harbourfront those activities and to support their aims and objectives. leading up to 2011 Pride. Hotel. Tickets for the event are $100/ Photo by Anita Martinez, If you have any comments, ques- person, $1000/table of 10. For more design by Cam MacLeod. Wayves is an independent publication, published every month except tions or event ideas for next year’s information, or to book your tickets February by a non-profit collective. Anyone who contributes to Wayves is Halifax Pride, please drop us a line please call (902) 444-3206 or e-mail Important automatically considered to be a member of the collective and is welcome via e-mail [email protected]. us at [email protected]. to participate in all meetings and discussions. Wayves reserves the right WAYVES Dates! to refuse material that might be reasonably considered heterosexism, NSRAP’s Annual Moncton: No Issue Content Deadlines: racism, sexism or an attack on individuals or communities. Opinions Fundraising Gala So.Ho Fridays: Sept 3, Oct 1 Nov 5, Dec 3: that expressed in Wayves are not necessarily those of the editorial collective. by Hugo Dann After just a few short months in busi- is, the first Friday of each month (skipping The article submission deadlines are posted in the Important Wayves Dates In a year that finds many proudly ness, Moncton’s Club SO.HO has January.) You can send your news, ideas, section of this page. Articles should be a maximum of 1,000 words and celebrating the centenary of Canada’s closed its doors. comments, criticisms, columns, cartoons may be edited for length. Submissions should be emailed in plain text to Navy, it is especially fitting that the Or, more accurately, the same and more to [email protected] the address below. Articles and letters may be published with pseudo- person behind ending the ban on doors are still open...but those who any time! nyms or anonymously, but Wayves must have contact information for enter them looking for a gay dance LGBT persons serving in Canada’s Production Meetings the author. The copyright for all submissions remains the property of forces should be the keynote speaker bar will likely leave sorely disappoint- (Halifax): Mondays: Sep 7, Oct at NSRAP’s Community Heroes Gala. ed. The business recently reopened the original author/creator. Michelle Douglas joined the military as a female strip club now known as 4, Nov 8, Dec 6: help decide what goes in the next issue, 7:30 PM, Blowers St Advertising: Jim Bain, Advertising Manager, email at [email protected] or in 1986 and was at the beginning of “Bikini Village.” call 902-889-2229. Responsibility for errors in advertisements is limited a stellar career when she came under Nando Speranza, the owner of the Paper Chase, Halifax. All welcome, every to the value of the space. intense investigation by the military now-closed CLUB SO.HO, has con- meeting. police who suspected her of being verted the club back into an “exotic Magazine Layout (Halifax): Circulation: use the email address below. Subscriptions, per year, are in a lesbian. After being discharged as, entertainment” establishment, citing Sep 12, Oct 10 Nov 14, Dec 12: help build Canadian dollars: $20 13% HST = $22.60 in Canada, $30 in the United a lack of support within the GLBT “Not advantageously employable due the paper – no special skills required, just States, and $35 elsewhere. Send cheque or money order to the postal to homosexuality,” Michelle launched community for the dance bar. (Prior enthusiasm, and joining us even once, or address below. an historic legal challenge against the to the opening of Club SO.HO, vari- for a few hours helps a LOT! 9:30 AM. ous businesses operating at the same Canadian Armed Forces that resulted Email us for location. Wayves in an end to the military’s discrimina- location—including Bikini Beach and P.O. Box 34090, Scotia Square tory policies against gays and lesbians. Night Magic—had offered similarly We are on the stands, in the mail, and online on Halifax, Nova Scotia Michelle Douglas went on to be the exotic entertainment.) B3J 3S1 founding president of the Founda- Speranza, the owner of the build- the fourth Friday of every [email protected] tion for Equal Families, and since ing, appealed successfully to the New month. www.wayves.ca

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Lindsay McCarney Zabrina Way complete list of our distributors in 4 September 2010 Wayves LGBT Elders Meeting in Halifax by Daniel MacKay In the photo (right) people are Our community is the largest cultural On August 15, twenty Halifax elders finishing their meal while Lynn led minority in the province and deserve assembled for a pot luck brunch and a discussion of topics that a regular recognition, including telling our his- discussion at Spencer House on Mor- meeting of elders could address. tory. Currently, NSRAP is working on ris Street. Organizers and NSRAP There were a couple dozen ideas; LGBT-friendly certification of senior contacted as many people over 50 thoughts mostly centered around care for Nova Scotia. as they could prior to the meeting social gatherings and outings. A need There are two more Elders meet- and they will be counting on word- was expressed for internet education. ings planned: one on Sunday, Sep- of-mouth to expand the number of Hugo Dann presented current tember 19 and then on Sunday, people who might be interested in activities of NSRAP that pertain to October 17 from 2:00 – 5:00 p.m. participating in future gatherings elders: NSRAP would like to support Both meetings will be pot lucks, so and events. this group with things like continuing bring your cucumber or cress sand- The food was certainly enjoyed as to print posters, offering Hugo’s time wiches, scones, clotted cream, Vic- everything was homemade and varied for organizing things as well as ASL toria sponge or whatever you like to from crescent rolls to “posole,” Mexi- interpretation for events. NSRAP will make and eat. To RSVP or for more can celebratory soup, to a variety of raise any issue relevant to the LGBT information, contact Hugo at (902) salads, and date squares for dessert. community, including those of elders. 444-3206 or e-mail [email protected]. Tanya Fights to Stay in Canada Tanya Bloomfield doesn’t shy away “I arrived in Canada legally [in 2006],” ranking former head of the Northern private support, however. Her numer- could stay up to another year and a from any challenge, small or large. she explains. “I’ve followed due proc- Ireland Civil Service. Tanya points ous friends are backing her up with half; otherwise, she may have to leave She runs a small business, Computer ess with immigration and with the out that even though her father is much-needed moral support and her Canada as early as the end of August. Angels, in the small NS community guidance of my lawyers, meeting all supportive, the relevance of her lawyer, Lee Cohen, is working tire- But as far as common courtesy goes, of Chester. In May she raised over of their requirements through out the family connections may or may not lessly on her behalf. Tanya is dismayed at the lack of a $3,000 for Safe Harbour MCC by time I’ve lived here.” come into play if she were to return “The community here, straight small, personal consideration: “Im- running Halifax’s annual Bluenose She’s now filing an application for to the UK. “Regarding [me] being or queer, has been fantastic and sup- migration refuses to use feminine Marathon barefoot. And recently refugee status, fearing that because of trans and my father’s position, I feel portive,” she says. “I’ve been stopped pronouns or refer to me as Ms,” she’s taken up the challenge of her gender identity and sexuality her that regardless of being his daughter in the street in Chester and Halifax she says. fighting to stay in Canada after a life would be in danger if she were to I still would face hate crimes and and people say it’s disgusting how She remains enthusiastic that the number of unsuccessful attempts at return to her native Northern Ireland. would fear for my safety. However, I’ve been treated and hope that [I’m outcome will be positive. temporary residence and work permit There’s a potential twist to this given the high public profile of my allowed to] stay.” renewals. story in that Tanya’s father is Belfast’s family it exacerbates that somewhat.” If Tanya Bloomfield’s application Tanya finds the denials puzzling. Sir Kenneth Bloomfield, a high- Tanya’s not without public or for refugee status is approved, she Suffering Sappho, It's Murder! Halifax LGBTQ writer Nadine had never written a novel before. I series, introduces lesbian RCMP Con- I’m hopeful so far that I have.” who are lesbian, you may want to LaPierre has signed on with major still have to pinch myself sometimes, stable Danielle Renaud, and her close Nadine LaPierre has a sample keep an ear out,” says Nadine. Keep American lesbian-fiction publish- that my very first novel not only got friend Lilly Marsh, a lesbian crown of her writing, a short story entitled reading Wayves or visit Nadine’s web- ing house, Bella Books, for her published right off the bat, but has prosecutor who is also Mi’kmaq. Both “How Sweet It Is,” available for free site or her Facebook fan page (look thriller-romance series set in Halifax. spawned a series, and that iconic live, love, and work in Halifax. download on her website, www. for the RCMP uniform) for future Bella Books (www.bellabooks.com) lesbian author Katherine V. Forrest “It’s a mystery, it’s a touching nadinelapierre.com. announcements. provides “romance, mystery, thrills is my editor. romance, it’s a thriller, it’s a serious “I also have extremely exciting “The Slayer” will be released in and passion, for lesbians, about the “Little did I know so many years drama, and it’s got its hilarious mo- news to come that I can’t quite an- 2011. Wayves will run the announce- women we love.” ago when I was first coming out and ments too,” says the author. “One nounce yet, but if you’re a fan of ment of the book launch and signing “It’s so rewarding to know that reading ‘Curious Wine,’ that this thing I strived to create with this book music, especially singer-songwriters at that time. women from all over the world will be author would end up becoming my was a gripping page-turner. I’ll only reading my work,” says the long-time editor one day. Little did I know that know when it comes out in print if I Halifax resident. “I’ve written many I’d even be writing novels!” really succeeded, but if the response queer-themed mystery plays, but I “The Slayer,” the first book in the to my manuscript is any indication, Wayves September 2010 5 Lesbian Soap Box Diaries Alone By L. Connors than those two. And so I rational- I would actually end up alone), my that when you are single, you are truly bellowing out my favourite song that If you really want to know the desires ized, argued with and ignored my subconscious left me stuck in this free to explore yourself without wor- has been on repeat for the last hour, of your heart and soul, try ignoring way around this advice. I tried to destructive pattern long enough to rying about hurting someone else’s without any complaints. them. I don’t personally advocate this convince myself, that it wasn’t that I push these lovers of mine into leav- feelings in the process. I can quickly And so I begin my journey as a type of tumultuous self-exploration; needed to be alone; I was just with ing. And my well-meaning friends— run in the grocery store to pick up single lesbian. I can do, I have done however, I have always been the type the wrong girl. And so I found an- each convinced I was making a milk, run into three old friends, spend and I will continue to do all of these to learn life’s lessons the hard way. other, and then another, until my life mistake by not trying to work it out $100 on toiletries; no one ends up things for myself. I will take the time You see, your subconscious speaks to became a multi-car pileup of women, with this one, or letting that one get annoyed that they have been waiting to decide what I want in life, and what you in much the same way a mother for me an hour and that I forgot the I am not willing to give up or com- would speak to a small child on a busy Each new partner stood beside the wreckage milk. I can go to Tim Horton’s in promise for a relationship. The proc- street. Softly, patiently, and lovingly the morning in my pyjamas or to a ess is very freeing and exhilarating at first—explaining the dangers that of the previous, saying “You are hurt. It’s wine-tasting in cowboy boots without and I have learned that it is not being lie ahead. Setting clear boundaries embarrassing anyone. I can paint my alone with myself that is the difficult to protect you from getting hurt, or okay—come with me. I’ll take care of you.” bedroom five different colours in five part. The difficult part is avoiding the from hurting others. But if you are as relationships, and yes, engagements. away—they too eventually echoed the days until I decide on my favourite, company of other women. But that defiant as I am, you know that if you Each new partner stood beside the mantra of my subconscious. And the without worrying at all if anyone is another story…. continue to ignore these gentle prod- wreckage of the previous, saying rest of the world, those supportive else likes it. And I can dance naked, dings, they will grow more forceful. “You are hurt. It’s okay—come with or otherwise, who could not stop And left undisciplined long enough, me. I’ll take care of you.” It is hard to themselves from watching the train your subconscious will grab hold of hide from your own neuroses when wreck that had become my life, also you and shake you to your core— they are so evidently on display for joined in the chorus. getting progressively louder until it the world to judge. And so, my cunning subconscious wakes you from a restful sleep at 3:00 Please do not think that I hold any returned from its recruitment tour a.m., if it allows you to sleep at all. illusions about this self-destructive accompanied by its own chorus line, My subconscious spoke to me, behaviour. But my subconscious is everyone chanting in unison “BE very quietly and with a simple two very conniving. And when I couldn’t ALONE!” word suggestion: “Be alone.” find the strength to hurt another And so I am Alone. And it is sur- If you are anything like me, then woman by leaving her, and choos- prisingly peaceful. Most of you may there are no more frightening words ing myself (ironically, in fear that already know this, but I’m learning

Antigonish Pride Another Pride planning meeting was 12: Flag Raising in the morning, in the evening; Sunday, October 17: scheduled for Wednesday, August 18, St F.X. campus; Lit Night, St. F.X. Sports Game. More specific times at 7:00 pm in the Space, Room 215, campus; Wednesday, October 13: and locations will be available at a Bloomfield Center on the St. F.X. Movie Night; Thursday, October later date. Campus. How to fund the events, 14: Venus Envy (not yet confirmed); For more information, please booking spaces and getting things Friday, October 15: Variety Show in contact Michelle at antigonishrain- arranged were discussed. the evening; Saturday, October 16: [email protected]. Here is the proposed schedule Ecumenical Service in the morning; for Pride week: Tuesday, October Parade in the early afternoon; Dance 6 September 2010 Wayves Affirm United Conference

Hey Tom, Well, things are gradually returning to normal—and I her parents’ house on the South Shore. The sun on the use the word loosely—in my apartment now that the ocean dazzled the eyes—mine got quite misty from the painters have gone. It’s been a good chance for me to glare—as she walked barefoot up a sandy aisle to meet sort through stuff and give the old heave ho to some her dashingly handsome groom —also barefoot in his detritus that has been lingering on book shelves and tux. I felt quite giddy with happiness for them both. in closets. Of course, what would a family wedding be without As a lovely respite from this thankless toil I went the contrast of those whose lives so clearly demon- sailing last weekend with Dr. M. and friends. There is strate how sour the nectar of marital bliss can turn? something very soul-reviving about that combination I’m speaking about the sharp-tongued harpy that one of wind and sun and small cans of chardonnay. The of my other brothers chose as his beloved many years pleasant light banter of old friends—some of that ago. The only thing worse than her glowering frown banter supplied by me, of course, although Dr. M. is when she attempts to smile. The effort is clearly so can more than hold his own when it comes to the foreign to her face muscles that she can only achieve smart ass comments—is such a solace during times something resembling a German Shepherd baring its of stress occasioned by modern life. I had barely fangs. Amusing to contemplate on the ride home— gotten my land legs back under me when they were once I knew I had safely escaped. knocked away again by Dr. M. serving margaritas back The big excitement here in Crawfordville was the at Casa Martini. Luckily I didn’t have to do anything making of a movie right here in town. Apparently it except sit at table and savour corn on the cob beautiful has some sort of Christmas theme and there were From July 30 to August 2, the An- Church across Canada. steaks, potato salad, and pesto made with basil whose bright coloured lights and holiday wreaths adorning nual Conference and AGM of Af- This year’s conference featured freshly-plucked leaves had fallen under the chopping storefronts on Main Street in the middle of a heat wave. firm United/S’affirmer Ensemble speaker was Rev. Michael Blair. knife only moments before serving. There may have One day, while walking home from the grocery store, I was held at Tatamagouche Centre Michael is the Executive Minister, been music playing but I only recall the murmurs of was advised by a young man with a walkie-talkie that I in Tatamagouche, Nova Scotia. This Intercultural and Diverse Communi- appreciation that circulated around the table. Later, should not stare across the street since they were in the year’s theme, “A Place For Us All,” ties in Ministry unit of the General after wine and more margaritas, I was dozing quite middle of shooting a scene. I hadn’t had the slightest hosted over 40 participants from Council of the United Church of contentedly while watching a concert DVD of Barbra. notion of staring until he mentioned that I shouldn’t. across the country. Canada. In his ministry Michael Homo heaven really! Then I was immediately overcome with a desire to stare, Affirm United/S’affirmer ensem- focuses on education, profiles ethno- Dr. Martini’s new beau, The Rock Doctor, is an old run into the middle of street shouting obscenities and/ ble is an organization of people of cultural issues, and advocates for ra- friend of mine although they didn’t meet through me, or picking my nose. I was able with difficulty to repress all sexual orientations and gender cial justice to nurture a better place of oddly enough. So much easier when the boyfriend of these untoward urges but my curiosity was piqued I identities within The United Church belonging for ethnic minority peoples one’s friend is already a friend—know what I mean? must admit. Please, please, please I prayed to several of Canada. Their work includes: and congregations in the church. As It cuts down on the adjustment time. I’ve had friends divinities, let this movie not star Julia Roberts or Tom Education: to promote greater Michael shared his personal stories in the past whose beaux or belles—depending on Cruise! Apparently this business of the power of prayer awareness of sexual orientation and of discrimination he challenged us gender and orientation—were just not my cup of tea is legitimate, Tom, since I found out the next day that gender identity issues to look beyond the single stories shall we say, and it is exhausting trying to pretend to neither JR nor TC were among the featured players. Action: to work to end discrimina- that brought us together and share like people who are so clearly unsuitable. With TRD, The only “name” I heard mentioned was Sam Elliott. tion against people in church, society our whole selves as we invite others no such effort is required, which is lovely since I am Remember him, Tom, with the Wally Walrus mustache and our own organization to join us in our journey for justice worn out with worry about other matters. I didn’t and the gravelly voice? I’m not normally a fan of facial Support: to help people of all for all. want to tell you, Tom, but I am once again among the hair, especially when it is allowed to run rampant like a sexual orientations and gender iden- Along with workshops on Rural ranks of the unemployed. If a decent job opportunity neglected hedge—70’s porn doesn’t count—but I have tities find support and community Ministry, the “Bi” ways of life, Racial or a handsome, hung sugar daddy doesn’t come along to admit to having more than a few moments of fantasy within the United Church. Justice, and Relationships, we had soon I don’t know what I shall do. Thank God for call about bodily parts that would enjoy closer acquaintance Perhaps best known locally for its Halifax’s own Julien Davis as a pre- display so that I can avoid those phone messages from with Mr. Elliott’s hirsute upper lip. Alas, he left town Affirming Ministry Program, there senter. He discussed the challenges the bank wondering where their payments are. Worse without ever experiencing that mutual pleasure. are three Affirming Ministries in Hali- faced by those in the transgender than telemarketers, really. fax Regional Municipality (Bedford community. His workshop was re- A bright light in this somewhat gloomy situation Love ya! United Church; St. John’s United and ceived with overwhelming praise for was the wedding of a niece of mine. So fortunate when St. Matthew’s United, both in Halifax) his honesty and humour. one actually likes a relative—and so rare, as you shall and four outside HRM (Tatama- Our conference was filled with hear! Anyway, this adorable offspring of my brother gouche Centre; St. Andrews United, worship, song and fellowship made got married on a bright, warm day on the beach near Truro; Trinity United and Lower possible by the Maritime planners Ohio Union Church in the Shelburne and the great hospitality of the area.) 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A rainy day was forecast for July members of Amherst Town Council Unfortunately, our annual Pride 12 and for awhile we feared the an- and CAO Greg Herrett which speaks Family Barbecue Picnic was cancelled nual Pride Flag raising at Amherst volumes. due to rain. A movie night was held Town Hall would be a washout. For- Reid then invited Mayor Small to on July 13 and a downtown barbecue tunately, an hour before noon, the join her at the flagpole to raise the on July 14 and 15 saw lots of town clouds began to fade and members symbol of the queer community. As folk snacking with the proceeds go- of the Cumberland Pride Society the flag was hoisted, Corey Hunter ing to the local food bank. This took Cumberland Pride Society mascots Fred and Ben. Photo by Gerald Veldhoven set the stage in front of town hall. sang, “I Am What I Am.” Tears were place at Fred’s mom’s place as a two- There were refreshments along with evident as we watched and listened. day event. a huge Pride cake with the caption, The Cosmic Fruit Bowl held on “Amherst Celebrates Pride.” Despite Once again Amherst July 15 was well attended and fun was of all we have accomplished thus far, Wayves for more updates and fun the forecasted rain, the upbeat spirit evident at the Campout at Sue and keeping in mind equal treatment is from this border town where my could not be dampened as people is bursting with Pride! Debbie’s cottage on July 16. Also on not yet ours to enjoy in many cases. queer brothers and sisters know how began to gather on the steps of held July 15, the Gay-la Dinner and That’s it from Amherst and Cum- to rock to Pride celebrations. town hall. Entertainment was once again a big berland County. Check next month’s At noon the Society’s Chair, Sue The Pride flag flew at Amherst Town success. Towards the end of dinner Read, welcomed all present. One Hall for the remainder of Pride Week, Corey Hunter entertained us royally could sense the pride of the queer a truly wondrous time for all of us. as Miss Roxy Dior. A few members community as Read began to speak Warden of Cumberland County, of the Cumberland Pride Society also with conviction and assurance. The Keith Hunter brought his own con- joined with Truro’s Rainbow Proud large crowd cheered her on as she grats and presented a signed proc- for the Canada Day Parade in Bible mUSic for ALL said, “Once again Amherst is burst- lamation from the Warden’s office. Hill. A wonderful parade followed by ing with Pride. Each and every one Judy Giroux, Constituency Assistant a barbecue picnic hosted by Rainbow of us has the right to dignity, respect to MP Scott Armstrong, brought Proud. ...ALL for mUSic and equal treatment.” She went on to greetings on Armstrong’s behalf. Another Pride Week celebration say, “We in this great nation may set Springhill Mayor Allen Dill also could has ended but I would suggest cel- Make your life even more FABULOUS with live music! a positive example to other parts of not attend but a town councilor was ebrations and raising awareness must the world where diversity is not part on hand. Cumberland North MLA be dealt with all year around. Kudos of society, and that it is okay to be Brian Skabar also was unable to speak to Argentina’s parliament, the latest Bringing you more than concerts to choose different and yet be embraced.” To due to a serious family health issue. country to change its marriage laws 25 loud applause she continued, “We, in Our thoughts are with Brian. to include same-sex couples. Slowly from in Halifax and Lunenburg. Canada and right here in Amherst, On a light note, Sue Read asked but surely the queer community wit- Cumberland County and Westmore- me to speak and after a few words of nesses great strides. Unfortunately, we This season includes four concerts with 2010–11 Musician in Residence land County in New Brunswick, are expressing great pride I presented the cannot stand idly by, as discrimination Dinuk Wijeratne and our November opera weekend featuring ‘L’elisir rightfully proud of the fact that we Cumberland Pride Society’s Mascots. remains a serious issue everywhere, are in a position to be able to have a Representing the animal world two including our own country. 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Random Halifax Pride FreshMeat Photos courtesy of Hal Walsh, Randall Perry and Raymond Taavel FreshMeat: A Bear Dance was held at Halifax's Bus Stop Theatre on Saturday August 14. The free event featured DJs Simon T and Danny B. Organizer Danny Southwest Nova Pride B was pleased with the night's turnout and Marches in SeaFest Parade is already contemplating organizing another one. Here Danny B (second from right) hangs out with FreshMeat guests. Photo by Raymond Taavel.

By Diane O’Dea and neighbours carried signs bearing Photo courtesy of Diane O'Dea all-inclusive messages in French and On July 17, 2010, as the fog disap- English championing diversity, Pride, peared and the sun came out, so did acceptance and support. MASQ South West Nova Pride, making his- To our delight, we were well re- tory in Yarmouth, Nova Scotia. Ours ceived by the people of Yarmouth, was the first GLBT group to march in with waves, signs of acceptance, the annual Seafest parade, and what a cheers, clapping, smiles, and people spectacular sight we were! calling out, “We are so proud of The float included lots of rain- you!” And, of course, the cameras bow flags, Nova Scotia flags, South were clicking. West Nova Pride banners, rainbow It truly was a day to remember. Moncton umbrellas, and, as one might expect We made a bit of history in South at the Seafest parade, lots of nautical West Nova Scotia, celebrated our first Rainbow favourites, including a ship’s bell and public coming out and showed we’re Party large lighthouse, all surrounded with proud of who we are. bright green fishnet. Some of us who participated in Our float came with its own Sea this great event had felt a bit nerv- Moncton Rainbow Party on Saturday, Captain, accompanied by her special ous beforehand—a little unsure August 7. Triangles Manager, Erica Swan, guest, Nikki Taylure, and proudly about how we would be accepted. glowing with “les boys” at River of Pride followed by twelve group members But when it was all over, everyone pre-Pride Rainbow Party. Photo courtesy of dressed in costume and showing expressed feelings of empowerment, Moncton Pride as many of the rainbow colours as joy, strength and bonding that we had possible. seldom experienced before this day, if As our music played we marched at all: we are out and proud. Masq held its Goth-themed dance at Club 1668 on Saturday, August 14. Above, down Main Street, sending out subtle If there is a message for us in all two unidentified Goths contemplate working out a midnight snack. Retro Night will messages to the onlookers. Between of this, it is for us to remain strong be the next Masq theme on Saturday, September 25. Photo by Raymond Taavel. each song, the ship’s bell rang out and be proud of who we are. three times. Our members, relatives Wayves September 2010 9 Opera Queeria – Halifax Summer Opera Workshop Now in its sixth year, HSOW is a Alcina runs the anarchist-lesbian the Baroque period—was, in its own four-week training program, giving nightclub L’Eliso, where “monstrous time, deliberate and political. “The participants the chance to hone their pleasures” and “gender impersona- multiplication of disguises and cross- stagecraft by learning and performing tion” are not only permitted, but purposes” he writes, “were savoured a complete role in an opera. Scott- practiced. because they were complex and Stoddart says “[HSOW] is the only In modern practice, the male war- hinted at the vagaries of sexual taste.” program of its kind east of Montreal. rior hero (Ruggiero), originally sung There are few experiences more It’s a unique opportunity for theatre by a castrato, is now convention- powerful, important, and sometimes and music students to study opera in ally performed by a mezzo-soprano. terrifying for artists to be able to the Maritimes in a supportive setting.” Moreover, the romantic heroine (Br- tell—or hear—their own stories on This year, the program is not only adamante) arrives disguised as a man stage. In the case of queer artists supportive, but outright celebratory. only to be wooed by Alcina’s sister and audience, this perhaps rings even HSOW hosted its first annual Opera (Morgana). Finally, the young boy truer. In his Director’s Notes, Wil- Cabaret at Menz Bar, featuring a wide (Oberto), in search of his father, has liams writes: “In some ways, we live range of sexy, queer and pleasure- also become a bona fide pants role. in Alcina’s world. Canada is often per- positive cabaret material such as Set in 1936, this production recalls ceived as a socialist state, protecting “Sexy Lady,” “I Am What I Am,” the experiments in free love and gen- certain freedoms and socialist values. “La ci darem la mano,” “I Never Do der inversion that flourished in the There is a real and constant possibility Anything Twice” and “Glitter and years between the World Wars. Alcina the freedoms will disappear.” Be Gay,” performed with gusto by appears wearing a Marlene Dietrich- Nina Scott-Stoddart, an operatic Qpera Queeria Caberet cast performed at Menz Bar Halifax August 10. several of HSOW’s young artists to style tuxedo, surrounded by a cast warrior hero in her own way, unerr- Photo by Raymond Taavel a mixed assembly of opera lovers, of mostly women in costumes (fash- ingly defends these freedoms. HSOW friends and Menz bar regulars. ioned by Bonnie Archibald-Awalt) celebrates, protects and nurtures By Ray Gillis-Mawr duction of “Così fan tutte” in 2005, One of the two operas presented hinting at iconic lesbian identities of queer artists studying opera, and Nina Scott-Stoddart, HSOW’s co- set out to create a safe, supportive in this year’s season, Handel’s 1735 the 1930’s. continues to enrich the Halifax thea- founder (with Tara Scott) and Gen- environment for young artists. In so opera seria “Alcina,” boasts more In his encyclopedic reference tre and music community with two eral Manager since its inaugural pro- doing, the self-proclaimed “bisexual than a hint of homo-eroticism and book, “The Changing Room: Sex, fully staged operas every summer. I leather-mezzo” has also created an gender queerness. In this staging Drag and the Theatre,” Laurence whole-heartedly look forward to next artistic safe haven for young queer (stage direction by Garry Williams, Senlick posits that gender imper- summer’s program, and the fabulous opera singers. musical direction by Nicole Bellamy), sonation—a staple of opera seria in second annual Opera Cabaret.

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See webpage for location.) program. Call the office for details. 652-2437 and contemporary - with free coffee and muf- email: [email protected] web: www.aids- information for those infected and affected fins before church to take into this service. AtlanticCanadianLesbians: Online Group UNB/STU Women's Collective: Women of by hepatitis in the province of Nova Scotia. all ages and orientations. , meets every saintjohn.com 11 am service - Quieter and more reverent in For Lesbians from the Atlantic Provinces. 420-1767 in HRM or 1-800-521-0572 tone, coffee after service. June 13 to around Monday at 5pm at the University Women's Gay Men’s Supper Club: web: www.port- email: [email protected] web: AtlanticPoz: A new discussion group is Centre at the SUB cityrainbowpride.com, meets 3rd Saturday September 12 we have one 10 am service.) for individuals living with HIV in Atlantic www.HepatitisOutreach.com at Our office at 1200 Bedford Hwy at Sullivan's Hill, near (See webpage for more information) at 220 is located at 2973 Oxford Street, between Canada. web: health.groups.yahoo.com/ Germain St. Saint John New Brunswick Atlantic Gardens group/atlanticpoz/ Moncton Liverpool and Cork streets. Please call to PFLAG: Provides support to anyone deal- BLT-Womyn of Halifax: Bi Sexauls, Lesbian, AIDS Moncton: offers support to people liv- make an appointment or email Program@ Egale Canada - Atlantic: (888) 204-7777 ing with issues of sexual orientation and/or HepatitisOutreach.com. Transgender Womyn's Discussion Group. email: [email protected] web: www. ing with HIV and their families and friends, Sue's # 499-0335 email: sueandrews1964@ gender identity. (506)648-9700 or 648-9227 Positive Connections: Teleconferenced egale.ca education and awareness. 506-859-9616 email: [email protected] web: hotmail.com web: ca.groups.yahoo.com/ email: [email protected] support groups for people living with AIDS. Gender Expressions Atlantic: Support for www.pflagcanada.ca/saintjohn, meets 1st group/blt-womynofhalifax/ (Every second web: www.sida-aidsmoncton.com at (506- email: [email protected], meets Sunday evening 6pm - 7:30pm ) at Dalhousie transgendered individuals ranging from Friday (1st Friday of each month September every Monday (evening 7:00pm - 8:00pm) 859-4726 fax) 80 Weldon St, Moncton, NB, - June from 7:00- 9:00 p.m. No meeting in Women's Centre 6286 South Street (Beside Crossdressers to Transexuals. email: gen- E1C 5V8 at by phone. No long distance charges. For [email protected] (No sched- July & August. ) at 116 Coburg Street in Saint Dalplex Driveway) Hope to see you at the Moncton Line Dancing: LINE DANCING for more info call 425-4882 ext 228 or 1-800- next meeting! uled meeting. Occasional social events, by John, New Brunswick in the Community 566-2437 ext 228 or e-mail. invitation only.) all levels from beginner to advanced. No Health Centre next to St. Joseph's Hospital. Bluenose Bears (BnB): BnB is a private partner required. No dress code. , meets SUNS GLB Constituency Committee: 494- men's membership based social group for Healing Our Nations: Healing Our Na- Port City Rainbow Pride: Pride Celebrations 6654 at c/o the Students' Union of NS every Wednesday (8:30pm sharp) at Trian- Committee. email: events@portcityrainbow- Bears and their admirers. Membership Fees tions is an Aboriginal HIV/AIDS service gles Bar, corner of St. George and Archibald. organization that serves the Atlantic region. pride.com web: www.portcityrainbowpride. The Rainbow - Atlantic Awareness Society: are $5 for a year. Event Fees are $1 for 1.800.565.4255 email: director@access- PFLAG: Supporting all people with ques- com email: [email protected] Members and $2 for Guests. Email for more info!. email: [email protected] wave.ca web: www.hon93.ca (Training of- tions or concerns about sexual orientation Saint John LGBTQ Lending Library: over 300 Venus Envy Bursary Society: An annual fered on request at no charge for Aboriginal and gender identity issues. (506) 869-8191 award open to all women studying in NS. (Social Gatherings are generally held once a fiction and non-fiction titles. 634-8288 email: month, on a Tuesday evening. ) at Menz Bar peoples and/or organizations.) at 15 Alder- email: [email protected] web: [email protected] (open Monday web: www.venusenvy.ca/halifax ney Dr., Suite 3, Dartmouth, NS. B2Y2N2 www.pflagcanada.ca/moncton.html, meets (often) but venues vary. Sorry, no 'drop ins'. through Friday, 9 AM to noon.) at the office Members and their Guests only!! 3rd Monday (Occassionally on the 2nd of Centenary Queen Square United Church Integrity: Integrity is an organization of GLBT Monday — please call) at 7:30-9:30pm, Amherst Anglicans and their friends, to encourage at 215 Wentworth Street. DalOUT: LGBTQ Society at Dalhousie. 494- University of Moncton, Adrien-J.-Cormier Sexual Health Centre Cumberland County: 2190 email: [email protected] web: societies. Christian gay men and lesbians in their Bldg., Room 302 The UNBSJ Q-Collective: A social and sup- Open and inclusive services: information, spiritual life; to support the Church in its dsu.ca/dalout, meets every Thursday (Dur- port organisation for UNBSJ students, staff education, workshops, free condoms. 667- ing the academic year we meet at about commitment to seek and serve Christ in all River of Pride-riviere de fierte INC. of Greater and faculty. 506-648-5737 email: QCollect@ Moncton: The organization meets regularly, 7500 email: [email protected] web: 7pm each Thursday night.) at Dalhousie people; and to reach out to the GLBT com- UNBSJ.ca web: www.unbsj.ca/clubs/qcollec- cumberlandcounty.cfsh.info (9 - 5 drop-in munity in Christian love and service. (902) to discuss upcoming events and activities, University, check OUT our website or contact tive (The UNBSJ Q-Collective is interested or appt) at 11 Elmwood Drive. Confidential, us for details 425-8383 web: www.integritycanada.org everyone is welcome to attend. check out in hearing from other university LGBTQ or- time / location posted on the website. Media hassle-free. Free condoms. Maritime Transgender Workplace Solutions ganisations and would like to possibly meet Frontrunners Halifax: Running/walking club. and general inquiries, including registration or collaborate.) at Various locations; event The Cumberland Pride Society: for: gay, les- 422-7579 email: Bruce.Greenfield@dal. Project: Transgender Issues Workshops and of volunteers and parade particpation, can bian, bisexual, transgender and transsexual information resource. email: denisesined@ particulars will be emailed to anyone who ca web: www.frontrunners.org/clubs/index. be made from the website or by email. registers with the UNBSJ Q-Collective and/ individuals. 660-5143 email: cumberland- php?club=Halifax, meets every Saturday, ns.sympatico.ca web: www3.ns.sympatico. email: [email protected] web: [email protected] web: cumberland-pride. ca/winpapernews (No meetings, Workshops or who gets the UNBSJ weekly “E News”. and every Tuesday, and every Thursday www.fiertemonctonpride.ca (See webpage Past events include the annual Rainbow sytes.net, meets 3rd Monday (7-9 PM) (Sat: 9:30am, Tue: 6:00 pm, Thu: 6:00pm ) by arrangements, Information source when for schedule.) requested. Newsletter Odds & Sods bi- Peace March, guest speakers, movie nights, at Main gates of the Halifax Public Gardens, weekly) Safe Spaces Moncton Region: Education on participation in Maritime Pride Parades, Sup- Antigonish corner of Spring Garden Road and South how to create safe environments for GLBT- porters of PFLAG Canada's "Communities Park Street. Mr Atlantic Canada Leather Society: Dedi- TQQ youth. 859-9616 Rainbow Warriors: Rainbow Warriors is a cated to developing gay leather communi- Encourage Campaign" and "Champions youth-run support group for LGBTQ youth GAY, LESBIAN & BISEXUAL YOUTH ties in the Atlantic region. email: waydo7@ Transgendered Peer Support Group : Against Homophobia". and allies in Antigonish. We hold social GROUP AT Q.E.H.: Jeanie Buffet, Counsel- hotmail.com Open to all M2F, F2M, Andro and trans- events such as picnics and game nights, lor, at 421-6797 supporters from across Atlantic Canada. Woodstock have educational discussions around top- Get Out, Halifax!: Recreation activities (team Names Project (AIDS Memorial Quilt): email: [email protected] panels - helping create, and lending. 902- ics such as stereotypes/assumptions and activities, cycling, running, rowing - you Woodstock GLBT Youth Advocate and name it) for metro & beyond!. web: www. 454-5158 email: [email protected]. UN sur DIX - l'Association des étudiant.e.s Family OutReach: Books, movies, advice, transsexuality, and raise awareness in the ca web: www.quilt.ca (Call if interested in GLB de l'Université de Moncton: Vise à édu- surrounding community by participating getouthalifax.ca at Visit and get on the email directions, contacts, and support etc. for list for more info. volunteering or making a panel) at 3544 quer, à sensibiliser et à offrir des ressources the family. 328-4868 email: richardb@ in functions such as the Highland Games Acadia St. Halifax, NS B3K 3P2 dans la langue française. email: unsurdix@ nbnet.nb.ca Parade and the Farmers' Market. While our Girl-ish Productions: Girl-ish puts on hot umoncton.ca web: www.umoncton.ca/un- group is youth-focused everyone is regard- Narcotics Anonymous: a fellowship of re- and heavy bi-monthly-ish dance parties surdix/ (Visitez le site Web ou envoyez un Newfoundland & less of age, and gender identity or sexual for queer-ish folks and their friends. email: covering drug addicts who meet regularly to courriel pour en apprendre davantage au orientation! Find our group on Facebook help each other stay clean. 1-800-205-8402 [email protected] web: www. sujet du travail que nous accomplissons. ) Lab (709) "Rainbow Warriors - AAHA!". email: an- girlish.ca web: centralnovaarea.ca at Call the phone [email protected], meets Hal-Gal Mailing List: Low-traffic Yahoo group number or visit the web page for meeting Petit-Rocher St. John's every Monday (3:00-5:00pm) at The Antigo- times and places. nish Women's Resource Centre, located in providing events and information for queer Project E: Presentation for youth, on gender (Bathurst area) AIDS Committee of Newfoundland & Lab- the Kirk Building at 219 Main Street, Suite women in the Halifax area. email: hal-gal@ yahoogroups.com web: groups.yahoo.com/ expression, myth busters, proper terminol- Gais.es Nor Gays Inc. (GNG): A bilingual rador: HIV/AIDS education and support for 204 (above Tim Hortons). ogy and other facts. web: www.freewebs. male/female/transgendered, all ages, New- group/hal-gal/ (Join the list to keep in touch volunteer association serving gay men, X-Pride: social & support group at X. 867- or post your events.) com/xprojecte/ at available via web page lesbians and bisexuals of northern New foundland and Labrador 579-8656 email: [email protected] web: www.acnl.net 5007 web: www.stfx.ca/people/xpride Wayves Magazine: Atlantic Canada's Brunswick. email: [email protected] web: Halifax Sexual Health Centre: Annonymous HIV testing, open and inclusive sexual health queer news and lifestyle magazine!. email: www.gngnb.ca (Dances are held at GNG Gay Urban Youth Zone Project: designed Bridgewater [email protected] web: wayves.ca club every Saturday night. See www.gngnb. to increase HIV/AIDS, Hepatitis C, and STI clinical services, education and workshops. (Deadline: the first Friday of every month; ca for a list of upcoming events.) at 702 knowledge and awareness 579-8656 (ext. Sexual Health Centre for Lunenburg County: 455-9656 web: www.HalifaxSexualHealth.ca Editorial meeting: the Monday following that; rue Principale, Petit-Rocher NB. Look for 28) web: www.acnl.net at Tommy Sexton Confidential info, education&support for eve- Imperial and Sovereign Court of Atlantic layout the Sunday following that. Email us to rainbow flag and/or door with pink triangle Centre 47 Janeway Place Pleasantville, ryone. Safer sex supplies, library, pamphlets, Nova Society: Fundraising. 902-449-7612 be put on our notification list!) at rear of parking lot. across from the old Janeway Hospital AIDS workshops. 527-2868 email: LunCo@NS- web: www.imperialcourtns.com, meets Committee of Newfoundland and Labrador SexualHealth.ca web: www.theSHaC.org 1st Sunday, and 2nd Sunday (Executive New Brunswick Sackville NB/ LBGT-MUN Resource Centre: LBGT-MUN is (Hours vary. Open by appointment or by Meetings Are Currently Held Every Second (506) Amherst NS an information/resource, service, and peer chance. Please call ahead. ) at 4 Hillcrest Sunday) at Meeting Locations Vary support centre staffed by trained volunteers!. Street Unit 8, Bridgewater. (On the corner Koinonia Ecumenical Church: Meaning Catalyst: Catalyst, Mount Allison's Queer- 737-7619 email: [email protected] (Open of Dufferin and Hillcrest Streets). Closed ‘community’. Call or email Pastor Elaine Fredericton Straight Alliance, provides support & in- Monday-Friday 9-4. Biweekly meetings for during summers. for more information. 876-8771 email: AIDS New Brunswick / SIDA Nouveau- formation for all Mt. A students, staff, and members and volunteers. ) at Smallwood/ South Shore Pride Social Club: for 19 & [email protected] (bi-weekly at Brunswick: committed to facilitating com- faculty through meetings, seminars, and University Center, UC-6022. Building located older. 530-5986 email: info@southshore- 12:30pm) at Halifax Feast, Maritime Centre munity-based responses to the issues of social events. Everyone is welcome. email: on Prince Phillip Drive. Call us! Get involved! pride.ca web: www.southshorepride.ca, Manna For Health: A special needs referral HIV/AIDS. Needle exchange located in [email protected] web: www.mta.ca/clubs/ LBGTQ Youth Group: A monthly gathering meets 3rd Saturday (-- dances -- 9:00PM to food bank for those living with life threatening office at 65 Brunswick Street Fred. E3B catalyst/ (Catalyst meets approximately for queer, allied, questioning, and any inter- 1:00AM) at Call or email for location. illness. 429-7670 1G5. 459-7518 email: jennifer@aidsnb. every week from Sept-Dec and Jan-April. ested youth. We offer social events such as Mount Pride: GLBTQ group at Mount Saint com web: www.aidsnb.com (Office Hours: For meeting info contact the president at bowling, movie nights, and coffee houses. Halifax Monday to Friday, 8:30AM to 12:30PM and [email protected] or the Students' Adminis- Vincent University. email: mountpride@ Contact group coordinator Rob Sinnott at yahoogroups.com, meets 1st Tuesday, and 1:30PM to 4:30PM) trative Council at [email protected].) the number listed, email, or visit the web Affirm United: GLBT & Friends support, ac- tion and worshipping community within the 3rd Tuesday (bi-weekly on Tuesdays at 12 Fredericton Lesbians and Gays: Email PFLAG: Support and education for GLBT- page for more info. 699-0509 email: lbgtq@ noon) at The Diversity Center in Roseria on T2IQQ persons, friends & family. 506-536- nlsexualhealthcentre.org web: nlsexual- United Church. 461-4528 email: alstew@ listserv of events/news in the Fredericton for eastlink.ca campus, and online (see email) Possible gblt men and women. email: [email protected] 4245 email: [email protected], meets 2nd healthcentre.org events that are being planned for the winter Monday (7:30 to 9:30pm No meeting in July AIDS Coalition of Nova Scotia: non-profit, Integrity: Supports and encourages Gays PFLAG Canada: Information or referral to semester include sexuality awareness week, and August.) at Meeting location alternates one of our parents. web: www.pflag.ca (For community-based AIDS organization, pro- movies nights, potlucks, guest speakers, and and Lesbians in their spiritual lives. email: monthly between Sackville: United Church vincially mandated. (902)425-4882 email: [email protected] web: www.fa- support or information on chapter meetings many more. There are always spontaneous Parlours, 112 Main Street, and Amherst: regarding PFLAG Canada contact Gemma [email protected] web: www.acns.ns.ca meals and events that are always fun. This cebook.com/group.php?gid=46207976587, Maggie's Place, 12 LaPlanche Street meets 3rd Sunday (4:00pm) at Unitarian Schlamp-Hickey, Atlantic Director at gem- Alcoholics Anonymous: Live & Let Live AA group is open to anyone who would like Fellowship of Fredericton at 874 York Street [email protected] or Diana Deacon, St. Group for GLBT community. (902) 425- to join. John's chapter contact at [email protected]) 8383/422-4972 email: courage449@yahoo. PFLAG: Support & education on issues of Saint John Nova Scotia Rainbow Action Project: foster- St. John's Pride: St. John's Official Pride com, meets every Monday (at 8pm) at St ing change through networking, education, sexual orientation & gender identity. (506) Affirming United Church - Centenary - Queen Matthews United Church, 1479 Barrington 455-7190 email: [email protected] Square United Church: invites you to wor- Organization. web: www.facebook.com/ outreach & community education. 902-444- group.php?gid=2497860774 St, Halifax (Use side door near Maritime 7887 email: [email protected] web: www. web: www.geocities.com/Pflagfredericton/, ship!. 506-634-8288 email: cqsunited@ Centre at bottom of stairs) meets 4th Tuesday (7-9 pm (except Decem- nb.aibn.com web: www.cqsunited.ca, meets nsrap.ca at TBA ber: 2nd Tuesday)) at Unitarian Fellowship every Sunday (10:30am) at 215 Wentworth Anonymous HIV/AIDS Testing: 455-9656 Outlaw: GLBTQ & Allies Law Students As- of Fredericton 874 York St. Fredericton NB St, Saint John, NB Bedford United Church: An Affirming Min- sociation at Dalhousie Law School. email: E3B 3R8 Wayves September 2010 13 [email protected] web: www.facebook. held in October, On the First Saturday and Also, see our Facebook group. Central Nova Charlottetown, PE C1A 2R6 pflagcanada.ca, meets 3rd Tuesday at Ferry com/group.php?gid=2416842853 (Meetings the Last Saturday of that Month and NO Women's Resource Centre http://cnwrc. Gay PEI Mailing List: Electronic mailing list Road Centre, 24 Ferry Road, Cornwall, PE vary. Please email for further information Dance in November.) at email or call for weebly.com, [email protected] 535 Prince or Stratford City Hall check with Mary or Bill or check out our Facebook group.) at Dal- locations or special events or themes Street, Truro, NS B2N 1E8 (902) 895-4295. for all GLBT, questioning and friendly, focus is on PEI. email: gay-pei-owner@yahoog- Kendrick on this months location by calling houisie Law School. 6061 University Avenue. web: cnwrc.weebly.com 902-887-3620. Halifax, Nova Scotia. roups.com web: groups.yahoo.com/group/ Lunenburg Colchester Sexual Assault Centre: Provides gay-pei at All first posts are moderated to PFLAG: Support & education on issues support and information to anyone (GBLTQ stop spambots, otherwise, it's an open list. Charlottetown of sexual orientation & gender identity. Second Story Women's Centre: We offer a included) affected by sexual assault and 431-8500 email: halifaxns@pflagcanada. meeting space for women, support counsel- abuse. 902-897-4366 email: trurosexualas- GLBT Youth group: Safe Space Drop-Ins. ARC -- Abegweit Rainbow Collective: ca, meets 1st Thursday (902-431-8500) at ling, programs, and referrals. (902)640-3044 [email protected] (Mon-Fri 9:30-4:30) at 367-3408 or toll free 1 877 380 5776 (E-mail Serving GLBT Islanders, their friends and Halifax Youth Project, 2281 Brunswick St email: [email protected] web: www. 80 Glenwood Drive us for further details.) at 144 Prince St. families. 894-5776 email: [email protected] secstory.com at Second Story Women's PFLAG Canada - PEI: Providing support, web: www.arcofpei.com, meets 1st Monday Play Group for Queer Families: 422-8780 Centre is located at 22 King Street, Post Northern AIDS Connection Society: HIV (3-5pm) at Board Room (Play Room) at education and advocacy for GLBT persons, (6:00pm at 375 University Ave Suite # 2 Office Centre, Lunenburg. prevention education initiative serving Charlottetown, PE) Needham Community Recreation Centre, counties Colchester, Pictou, Cumberland & their families and friends in PEI. 902-887- 3372 Devonshire St (north end Halifax, near East Hants. 895-0931 email: nacs@eastlink. 3620 email: [email protected] web: www. intersection of Duffus & Novalea, bus routes Middleton ca web: northernaidsconnectionsociety.ca 7 & 9) Bring a snack for your child(ren). We PFLAG: Information and support for GLBT (Our Board of Directors meet bi-monthly will be collecting money from each family community and their friends and families. on the third Thursday of the month. Annual to cover the cost of the room rental, likely 902-825-0548 email: middletonns@pflag- General Meeting held regularly in June. See $2-4 per week. canada.ca web: www.pflagcanada.ca/mid- webpage for contact numbers in your area Pride Week: Producers of Atlantic Canada's dleton.html (Check online for meeting times of northern Nova Scotia.) at 33 Pleasant largest LGBTQ cultural festival. 431-1194 and locations- or phone 825-0548) Street, Truro, N.S. email: [email protected] web: www. PFLAG: Support & education on issues halifaxpride.ca (July 19 - 26, 2009) New Glasgow of sexual orientation & gender identity. 662.3774 prideHealth: prideHealth is a program of Pictou County Centre for Sexual Health: 695- Capital Health and the IWK Health Centre. 3366 email: [email protected] Rainbow Proud: Rainbow Proud sup- If you are a member of the pride community ports the LGBT** community of Truro and and need support with any kind of health Pride of Pictou County: All GBLT in Pictou surrounding areas. Our small group of care call Anita our Clinical Nursing Special- County. web: www.PrideofPictouCounty.ca volunteers work hard to put events together ist, number below. She is available free (see web page for meeting info) for everyones enjoyment. Any feedback of charge, offers complete confidentiality, will be considered and can be sent to our and can also give you support if you are New Minas / email address. We hope you continue to experiencing homo or transphobia. pride- Annapolis Valley come celebrate our community together. Health- improving safe access to health email: [email protected] web: care. 220.0643 Valley Youth Project: Sexual Orientation. rainbowproudnovascotia.ca (See webpage Quakers: Quakerism emphasizes that we all Gender Identity. Allies. Youth. email: val- for schedule.) [email protected] (6-8:30 most manifest the Divine. 429-2904 web: halifax. RESPECT: Students Making Healthy Deci- quaker.ca, meets every Sunday at Library Wednesdays through May) at New Minas Civic Center, 9209 Commercial St. Ages 25 sions. 893-6300 email: [email protected] at Atlantic School of Theology, Franklyn St. at P.O. Box 550, Nova Scotia Agricultural All very welcome. & under. Free bus tickets available. Free food. Fun activities. Join us on Facebook College, Truro, N.S. B2N 5E3 Lay Chaplaincy Services Queer Play: A Queer performing arts group at http://www.facebook.com/pages/Valley- SAAFE (Supporting An Alternative Friendly Universalist Unitarian Church of Halifax in Halifax NS. email: [email protected] Youth-Project/22418494995 Environment): Social/support group at the 5500 Inglis Street, Halifax, Nova Scotia B3H 1J8 NS Agricultural College. 893-6300 email: Safe Harbour Metropolitan Community [email protected] Church: A Christian Church with an affirming Sackville NB/ [email protected] (Meetings as requested. ministry to the GBLT community. Everyone Membership changes each academic year.) 902-429-5500 is welcome!. 453-9249 email: safeharbour@ Amherst NS eastlink.ca web: safeharbourmcc.com, PFLAG: Support and education for GLBT- Wolfville Susan Stephen & Gwen Armshaw Lay Chaplains meets every Sunday (11 am) at Veith House, T2IQQ persons, friends & family. 506-536- [email protected] [email protected] 3115 Veith Street, Halifax 4245 email: sacknb-amns@pflagcanada. Acadia Pride: Acadia Student Union's LGB- ca web: www.pflagcanada.ca/en/prov-list-e. T2IQ group. 585-2165 email: acadiapride@ Spirituality For Lesbians: We seek to deepen acadiau.ca web: euler.acadiau.ca/~apride/, our relationship with God, knowing that God asp?RegionNo=6&ProvAbbr=NB, meets 2nd monday (Phone or e-mail for meeting meets every Monday (9:00pm(during aca- weddings memorials child dedications other rites of passage loves us and calls us into life just as he has demic year)) at Beverage Forum (old SUB) created us. Persons of every or no denomi- location and details.) at Sackville:112 Main nation are welcome. 459-2649, meets 2nd Street or Amherst: 12 La Planche Street Acadia Women's Centre: 585-2140 email: Wednesday (7:30-9PM, phone for meeting [email protected] (Acadia SUB locations) Sydney Second Level Balcony ) prideHealth and a safe door to primary health Team Halifax: All GLBT over 18, athletes AIDS Coalition of Cape Breton: Support, Yarmouth and performance artists, as well as anyone advocacy, prevention/education for those Anita Keeping is a clinical nurse specialist, a caring and compassionate health willing to help out. 422-9510 web: www. infected or affected by HIV/AIDS. Free con- Southwest Nova Pride: Gays, lesbians and care provider – and most importantly a safe point of care for members of the teamhalifax.com (No fixed schedule at this doms!. (902) 567-1766 email: joannerolls@ those interested of any age are invited. We gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and intersex communities. time, look on website for further details.) accb.ns.ca,[email protected] web: meet as a social gathering and support group and we are not church affiliated. 645-2914 Anita can provide assessment, treatment and referrals to GLBTI-friendly The Youth Project: Support, education and www.accb.ns.ca (Free Anonmymous Test- health professionals. And she’ll meet with you at a safe community location. social activities for youth 25 and under ing 1-902-567-1123 Check our Website for email: [email protected], meets 2nd across Nova Scotia. Weekly events, plus events and updates. ) at 150 Bentinck St, Friday (7:00pm) at Beacon United Church To learn more, or to set up an appointment with Anita, please call 220.0643 or a youth food bank and STI testing on site. Sydney, N.S. B1P 6H1 on Beacon Street e-mail: [email protected] 429-5429 email: youthproject@youthproject. Cape Breton University Sexual Diversity ns.ca web: www.youthproject.ns.ca, meets Centre: We provide a welcoming environ- Prince Edward 1st Tuesday, and 3rd Tuesday (6-9pm ) ment for GLBTQ people and their Allies. Island (902) at 2281 Brunswick Street. 25 and under. 902-563-1481 email: [email protected] (M-F Please refer to our website for details and AIDS PEI: AIDS PEI creates a supportive 9-4pm. Call or drop by for event listings, Ally environment for PHA's to all residents of schedule of upcoming events. LGB Youth Training, and Anti-Heterosexism/Homo- Project Social Drop-in Nights. This is an PEI. 902-566-2437 email: [email protected] phobia Workshops!) at the Students' Union web: www.aidspei.com at 144 Prince Street unstructured event. It’s a chance to hang Building, Cape Breton University. out with old friends, make some new ones, and just talk about whatever, PFLAG: Support & education on issues of sexual orientation & gender identity. Karen Trans Family Nova Scotia: We are the Par- 564-8728 email: sydneyns@pflagcanada. ents, Partners, Family, Friends & Allies of ca, meets last Sunday (of the month at Trans-Identified Individuals. supporting one 7:30pm. No meetings for July and August.) another. 902-431-8500 email: transfamily@ at Family Place Resource Centre 106 eastlink.ca, meets 3rd Monday (6:30 to 8:30 Townsend Street, Sydney NS pm) at The Youth Project (2281 Brunswick  St., Halifax) Pride Cape Breton Society: Dances and So- cial Events. Monthly dances are Adults Only!  Universalist Unitarian Church: an inclusive Check website community events. (902)  liberal religious community 429-5500 email: 539-4627 email: [email protected] [email protected] web: UUCH.ca , web: www.pridecapebreton.com (Dances meets every Sunday (10:30; see website for on the last Saturday of every month. Check  special events) at 5500 Inglis St website for dance and special event dates!) at Southend Community Centre. Maps are Kentville at our website. Red Door: Youth Health & Support Centre. Information and services for sexual health. Tatamagouche Ages 13 - 30. 679-1411 web: thereddoor. Tatamagouche Centre: We are an affirm- ca (Monday to Friday 2pm to 6pm) at 150 ing centre, welcoming all gay, lesbian, and Park Street transgendered people. 1.800.218.2220 email: [email protected] web: www. Kingston tatacentre.ca Valley Gay Men's Coffee House: socials for gay men; gay & lesbian dances 19+. 825- Truro 3197,363-2055 email: menembracingmen@ Central Nova Women's Resource Centre: yahoo.ca web: faceitwithpride.tripod.com Resources, programs and services available (Coffee every Thursday 7-9pm, Dances on for all women identified women. Advocacy the first Saturday of the month, for the excep- and support - with outreach to rural areas. tion of in November. There is two dances 14 September 2010 Wayves The Last Word My Big Gaydar Fail the RCMP’s silly yet infamously ma- man endures. I’m just as fascinated eyes open and if I notice someone “A cat,” I replied. licious “Fruit Machine,” identifying as the next guy, especially when he’s checking me out, I need to calm my The driver eyed me for a moment. the banana amongst the oranges is interested in putting his tab A into breathing (“calm blue ocean… calm “But no gerbil….” he offered. a game contemporary society likes my slot B. blue ocean…”) and do some checking I really felt for the guy. For all his to play. But I’m kind of shy (really!) and out in return. blissful ignorance, he was still kind Gaydar’s a funny thing. Some not very good at figuring out either Back to the cab driver and his pet of cute. people swear by it, others dismiss the the obvious or the subtle, so I need theories for a moment. At the end “No gerbil,” I said. “It wouldn’t idea as nothing more than the min- more practice. Lots more. Too bad of the ride, after I paid my fare, he fit up my ass so I fed it to the cat.” by Randall Perry istrations of an overactive imagina- there’s not a definitive book on the asked me, “So, what kind of a pet do Years ago a cab driver told me he tion. I have a friend who swears that subject. The best I can do is keep my you have?” [email protected] could figure out a guy’s sexual ori- any man can be had, as long as the entation simply by his choice of pet. stimulus and circumstances are cor- “Cats,” he said. “Gay dudes have rect. When I asked him, “Then, given cats. Straight, it’s a dog.” the reverse, you could be had by a fe- “ S e r i o u s l y ? male?” he replied Seems kind of with a fierce and simple to me,” I … since the word definitive, “Fuck, said. homosexual was coined no!” thus shatter- “There was a ing the dreams of study. I read about everyone and his dog many a cougar. it. It was on the I don’t know Internet,” said the has been on the hunt if gaydar exists. driver. for the origin of gay. I’d like it to exist. Ah, a study. I’m not so good On the Internet. That makes sense. at detecting my own kind, when it He continued, “Cats are feminine. comes to paying attention to the little Needy, arrogant, bitchy, you know? signals dropped or the “Um, hello? Gay guys are drawn to them. Dogs Queer here!” cuff upside the head. are masculine, though. They’re loyal Perhaps this is why I seem to have and laid-back.” such rotten luck meeting guys—I “...and obedient and generally not either blatantly overlook or don’t very bright,” I quipped. sense the very clues that lurk right “Pardon?” under my nose! “Nothing. Thinking out loud.” It If it only were so simple, like we was dark and this guy was bigger and thought it was back in school. You more tattooed than me, so I figured, knew a guy was “that way” if he play along and see where this conver- checked his nails in certain manner sation goes. (fingers outstretched, palm down “Know what I think?” The driver instead of curled in, palm up) or dropped his voice to a conspiratorial looked at the soles of his shoes by half-whisper. “I think they have ger- kicking his heel back and looking bils. Gays, you know. Like that actor over his shoulder instead of lifting they said, the one who sued that paper his foot and looking down. for printing he put it up his ass.” I clutched my school books to my Yep, that sad urban legend. The chest—what a girl!—instead of car- Tale of Richard and the Gerbil. Even rying them at my side only because if every piece of yellow newsprint it was more difficult for the bullies vanished from existence tomorrow to kick them out of my grasp and the story would still live forever on down the hall. some backup tape. There was also the earring thing It seems since the word homosex- that came into vogue in the 80’s… ual was coined everyone and his dog if a guy wore a stud in his left ear, has been on the hunt for the origin of he was straight; in the right, fruity gay, and the ways and means by which as a nut-cake. I have both my ears the gay is detected are as varied and pierced, but I’ve not worn my ear- numerous as the armchair scientists rings since 2005. Am I confused? who come up with them. From the Time goes by, people mature, “Spot the Gay!” schoolyard ritual to but the fascination with man-on-

Letter Thank You from River Of Pride River of Pride – Rivière de fierté Inc. we look forward to meeting you. would like to take a moment to give a If you have any questions, please special thanks to all our sponsors and e-mail with Paul Leblanc at paulle- volunteers, without whom PRIDE [email protected]. 2009 would not have been such a big success. We also want to thank the outgoing committee for all their hard work and dedication. A new year has started and with it a new Executive. They are: Paul LeBlanc, Chairperson; Nathan Adams, Vice-Chairperson; Gregory Leblanc, Treasurer; Sandy Harquail, Media Coordinator. We still have some vacant posi- tions on the Board of Directors and invite YOU to get involved. Please feel free to check out our website at www.fiertemonctonpride.ca for the vacancy that might interest you and Wayves September 2010 15 16 September 2010 Wayves

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