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The names of characters used in all ISSN 0971-1503 fiction and semi-fiction articles are No article, story, photo or any other matter can be reproduced fictitious. from this magazine without written permission. COPYRIGHT NOTICE This copy is sold on the condition that © Delhi Printing & Publishing jurisdiction for all disputes concerning 30 28 Co. Pvt. Ltd. sale, subscription and published matter New Delhi-110 055. INDIA. will be forums/tribunals at Delhi. WORLD OF GLAM! BOHO TWIST! Self-addressed stamped envelopes must be enclosed with all manuscripts, otherwise the rejected material will not be returned. No responsibility is assumed for material submitted for publication. Intimacy Issues Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and Sexuality. By Roma Chouhan e are not discussing EVERYBODY might be baffled by the obvious Windividuals who have ENCOUNTERS absence of sexual interest that intercourse, again and appeared by their cherished one. It again, forced by a need to INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS, is essential to recollect that sexual accomplish specialized sexual HOWEVER FOR THOSE brokenness is a side effect of the flawlessness. Truth be told, OCD is disease and doesn't mirror an bound to bring about a sexual MANAGING OCD; THE absence of affection or mindfulness. coexistence described by need as THOUGHTS STICK AS A The individual with OCD may be opposed to rehashed significant RESULT OF HOW THEIR excessively overpowered with exhibitions. Here we talk about MIND IS RESTLESS. stresses to feel sexual. different ways that OCD can meddle with sexual ecstasy and push ● Decreased moxie and a failure to couples extremely close to climax can result as a symptom of Tension and discouragement dissatisfaction. Living with medicine used to treat OCD, or Even though researcher’s Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder because of expanded tension examinations propose that a few (OCD) implies living with tedious from the OCD, and may mess with sorts of nervousness may and undesirable meddlesome the individual's sexual encourage sexual sentiments (i.e., thoughts—obsessions—that are coexistence. watching a terrifying film, crossing a startling to the individual shaky extension), tension related to encountering them. The substance mental problems is by and large of the obsession differs broadly. For Regrettable Thoughts correspond to sexual brokenness. instance, somebody with OCD may during Sex One explanation behind this is that encounter vicious musings and Everybody encounters intrusive significant degrees of nervousness pictures (for example committing thoughts, however for those might be related to mental suicide or others), explicitly managing OCD; the thoughts stick interruptions, (for example, stress, interfering musings and pictures as a result of how their mind is obsession, and hyper carefulness) that are upsetting (i.e., sexual restless. that can meddle with sexual considerations including Individuals with OCD have a reacting. youngsters, relatives, creatures, hyperactive dread community in the strict figures, and so forth), or mind that ships off bogus alerts ungodly thoughts that conflict with when risk is absent. For instance, Conclusion somebody's religion. think about the dread you feel when Getting proficient assistance for your alarm goes off in the middle of OCD is a significant positive the evening and it's a bogus development, yet knows that OCD's Impact on Sex and caution. This is the thing that treatment can likewise add to the Intimacy happens as often as possible for issue—at any rate from the start. A few manners by which OCD can those with OCD. Openness-based treatment for OCD adversely affect somebody's sexual might be distressing, incidentally coexistence and closeness may adding to diminished interest in sex, include the following: Loving someone with OCD ? and medicine can bring about ● Sex might be utilized Sexual issues brought about by troubles that might be an enthusiastically to settle, OCD can build anxiety in a impermanent. Try to discover an demonstrate, or look for sureness relationship that is as of now advisor with experience treating about obsessions and should be bearing the heaviness of the issue in OCD utilizing openness and custom forestalled. different territories. Accomplices avoidance. We

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 5 Curd TheHealth benefitsmiracle of eating food! and applying curd on the skin. By Ramzi

urd is one of the least in improving the wellbeing of our devouring more salt increments the Ccomplex yet delightful food guts and digestion tracts. It is measure of sodium in the blood that sources that can be burned- known to alleviate excited intestinal makes overabundance water hard through for what it's worth or linings furthermore, ulcers. Helpless to arrive at the bladder. added to plans to get a tasty punch stomach-related wellbeing regularly and velvety surface. A rich source of brings about swelling and weight Benefits of Curd for your face proteins and minerals, the curd is a acquire. Curd helps in decreasing Curd isn't just valuable for our significant probiotic food. It goes gas development and treats wellbeing however has been about as a substitute for individuals stomach upset. Particularly during utilized as a magnificent item for who find it intense to process milk. summer, curd can be devoured each quite a long time everywhere in the As curd contains no lactose, it very day after food to maintain a world. With its remarkable well may be devoured by individuals strategic distance from heartburn. saturating and recuperating who are lactose-bigoted. Peruse on properties, the curd is utilized in to think about the wellbeing and More grounded Immunity packs for firm skin and hair. excellence advantages of curd. Here Curd has demonstrated to Curd likewise does some are the principle advantages of improve invulnerability in various amazing things for dried skin. It curd. In summer, curd assists with examinations. Burning-through helps in fixing broken skin by cooling our body normally and around two cups of curd every day delivering dampness to it. Lips and keeps skin hydrated. It improves our has shown great outcomes in heels can be treated with curd to stomach-related wellbeing and improving the insusceptibility of get great outcomes. For Healthy helps in losing weight. Curd has blood by multiple times than those and Radiant Skin Burning-through various advantages which have not devouring curd. Being probiotic, curd day by day gives sound skin made it a staple food for us. curd contains great microorganisms from inside. that battle against the awful As it is high in dampness, it keeps Health Benefits of Curd microscopic organisms entering the the skin hydrated. Being a rich Curd is a typical yet marvellous stomach-related framework probiotic, when it is applied to the food that is accessible almost in through food and accordingly helps skin, it goes about as a each family. With an incredible taste gastric invulnerability. characteristic chemical that helps in and tremendous medical Brings down High Blood cleaning the skin completely. advantages on the stomach-related Pressure, Curd is plentiful in framework, strong immunity, skin, minerals like Potassium and Forestalls Dark Spots hair, and bones, the curd is Magnesium. It is known that salt At the point when the curd is devoured around the world. It finds contains sodium because of which applied on the skin, on the dull broad use in weight reduction, spots, under the eyes, it shows bringing down circulatory strain and obvious outcomes. Curd deals with expanding the pace of digestion. It these spots, and along with has too demonstrated to be a hydrating the skin and making it normal coolant. flexible, it helps in eliminating the dull spots. Burning-through curd Improves Digestion consistently assists with disposing As curd is a probiotic food, it of skin break-out spots from the contains live microbes that are internal skin layer. Burning-through acceptable for our absorption. curd helps in making the skin gleam These microscopic organisms help and lessens imperfections. We

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riyanka Chopra doesn’t seem Plike she’s catching a break anytime soon. Being dubbed as the “first brand she has ever created,” PeeCee is set to launch ‘Anomaly’ on February 1, exclusively at Target stores in the US. PeeCee’s hubby, Nick Jonas was seen showering her with love as he shared the following picture, featuring his wife on his Instagram story, and wrote: “Congratulations on this incredible new venture, Nick Jonas Congratulates Priyanka Chopra.” Anomaly is a clean, sustainable, and affordable Priyanka Chopra For Her New Hair Care hair-care label, and the couple Line Launching This February can’t wait till it hits the stores!

First Pic Of Anushka Sharma And Virat Kohli’s Daughter Is Here: Announces the Name of Their Baby Girl

n January 11, Anushka OSharma and Virat Kohli embraced parenthood for the very first time. The couple became parents to a baby girl. After the birth of their little munchkin, the two had requested paps not to click pictures of their newborn. Now, it has been 20 days since the arrival of their baby girl, and Virat and Anushka have finally shared a picture of their little one. A while back, Anushka Sharma took to her Instagram handle to share the first-ever picture of their baby girl and she also revealed the name of their daughter. From Bollywood... Kapil Sharma and his wife Ginni apil Sharma and Ginni Chatrath blessed with a baby boy KChatrath is on cloud nine as the two become parents for the second time. On Monday morning, the couple was blessed with a baby boy. Kapil Sharma and Ginni Chatrath who tied the knot in December 2018, already have a daughter named Anayra. It was just a few days ago that the comedian had confirmed that he and his wife Ginni are expecting their second child. Kapil Sharma took to his Twitter handle to announce the arrival of their second baby. He wrote, “Namaskaar we are blessed with a Baby boy this early morning, by the grace of God Baby n Mother both r fine, thank you so much for all the love, blessings n prayers love you all Ginni n Kapil #gratitude.”

Deepika on Marrying Ranveer: He was eepika Padukone got real Dcandid during the latest Comfortable When I Was the Bigger Star, interview, wherein she Earned More Money spilled the beans as to why she decided to marry Ranveer Singh. After six years of dating, Deepika Padukone and Ranveer Singh tied the knot and exchanged their vows in a close-knit ceremony in Italy’s Lake Como on November 14 and 15, 2018. She explained, “I married Ranveer because he respects my success and the money I make. Today, the kind of money he is making and the success he has is completely different from what he would have seven years ago. I was the more successful person and yet to genuinely be okay with the fact that I was working more; I was busier– there were days when I would not even come home because I had so much work– I was making more money but not once has it ever come in the way of our relationship. That is unique and I’d like to see more of that.” Preity Zinta Makes A Shocking Statement, “Been Away From Entertainment Because I’m Not Selling Myself” reity Zinta is undoubtedly one Pof the most beautiful actresses Bollywood ever saw. The dimpled beauty has won accolades for her chubby nature and her bubbly personality. However, she has been away from the entertainment industry for a long time. In an interview with Spotboye, Preity Zinta revealed that she has been away from the entertainment industry because she is not into selling herself. She was quoted saying, “I am not the kind of person who will stand up and complain about anything. I have no complaints against anyone. If I’ve been away from the entertainment industry it’s because I am not into selling myself. You won’t see me buying space to get written about. I want to be appreciated for the work that I do.”

Kareena And Deepika Among Many Celebs Who Hailed The Women Empowerment Message In PM’s ‘Mann KI Baat’ n his monthly radio address to Ithe nation, also known as ‘Mann Ki Baat’ PM Modi applauded four women pilots who recently made history by finishing the national carrier’s longest flight from San Francisco to Bengaluru. With the all-women cockpit crew, Air India’s flight successfully landed in India on January 11. On this note Deepika Padukone shared a quote of Mahatma Gandhi which says “Be the change you wish to see in the world”. Actress Kareena Kapoor Khan also shared a picture which said “From flying nonstop commercial flights to taking part in Republic Day parades, women participation is increasing in the manifold. Desk ki Beti today is fearless, courageous and an equal participant in nation- building activities”.

hahrukh Khan is one of the Smost popular Bollywood stars. Shahrukh Khan Had Once Thought That It’s been over two decades that he has been delivering timeless Alia Bhatt Has Dated Everyone In movies to his fans. And one of his Bollywood, Alia Bhatt’s Reaction Is Epic recent hit movies has been Dear Zindagi where he acted opposite Alia Bhatt. During that time, Shahrukh Khan had once said that he thought that Alia Bhatt has dated almost everyone in the industry and might’ve been disappointed if that came out to be true. SRK stated, “Everyone. I mean every young person that I heard about when she was launched… and I have known her as a baby, so for me, this is shocking. When Karan questioned if he would like to ask that to Alia now, SRK said, “I know I would be disappointed if there would be 3 or 4.” Reacting to the same, Alia Bhatt said that she has not dated 3 or 4 even though at the age of 23 she could have done that.

“Sit Down You Fool”: Kangana Slams Rihanna On Farmer’s Protest

ihanna’s tweet was sure to Rbreak the internet, and no one is surprised that it did. She was seen extending her support to the Indian farmers that have been protesting for months at a stretch now. Rihanna posted the following tweet in light of the current events taking place in the country, which had the Twitterati divided. She said, “Why aren’t we talking about this?!” Kangana savagely replied to Rihanna, tweeting, “No one is talking about it because they are not farmers they are terrorists who are trying to divide India so that China can take over our vulnerable broken nation and make it a Chinese colony much like the USA… Sit down you fool, we are not selling our nation like you dummies.” Shraddha Kapoor To Tie Knot With Boyfriend Rohan Shrestha? Daddy Shakti Kapoor Have No Objection hraddha Kapoor has had a Svery secretive personal life. However, her relatives with Rohan Shrestha are quite in the news. After her breakup with rumored boyfriend Farhan Akhtar, she started seeing Rohan Shrestha and it seems the two have decided to settle down. If reports are to be believed, the two might be looking to tie the knot. And guess what, Shraddha’s daddy Shakti Kapoor has no objection to her choice.

Zareen Khan Reacts To Being Called Katrina Kaif’s Replica After Her Debut With Salman Khan In Veer; Says, ‘The Comparison Got My Work Spoiled’

ollywood actress Zareen BKhan made her Bollywood debut in inverse Salman Khan in Veer. Since the time she entered the entertainment world, she confronted correlations and is called Salman’s old buddy Katrina Kaif’s lookalike. However, consistently Zareen has revealed her disappointment uncovering that the comparison has not driven her anyplace. Presently during her most recent interview with Navbharat Times, Zareen Khan by and by responded to being called Katrina Kaif’s copy. The actress said that the correlation between her and Katrina Kaif got her profession ruined. Self-Made Female Beauty Mogul

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e’re all on the quest of to you or simply make you feel bad. us into the persons that we are. Wfinding our soulmate, the He’s your knight in shining armor Even though you love him person who we want to and there’s nothing he enjoys more regardless of his flaws, he loves you spend our life with, the person than looking after his princess. so much that he’s always trying to we’re going to love unconditionally become a better person for you. and who’s going to love us back the You’re2 his number one priority He’ll try to learn more, read more, same. Finding that right person is We all have a bunch of things we do more, accept new challenges not easy, but once you do, no words need to do throughout the day, and overcome obstacles so that he can describe that feeling and work commitments, chores, can become the perfect man for nothing will ever feel the same. obligations and so on, but there’s you. He wants you to feel proud of Many women struggle with the nothing more important to him than him and he’ll stop at nothing to same questions and many would you. You’re his number one priority make you proud. like to know if the man they’re with and he will always make time for is really the one. The most you, no matter how busy his 4He’s honest important thing you need to pay schedule is. He puts your wishes, This is probably the best quality attention to is if the man you’re in a man and one that shows you he with loves, caring, if he respects you EVEN THOUGH YOU truly cares about you and your and supports you, if he loves you for LOVE HIM REGARDLESS feelings. He’ll never let you down by who you are and doesn’t want to lying to you or being dishonest, he’ll change you. If he makes you happy OF HIS FLAWS, HE tell you the truth as much as it may like you’ve never been before, if he LOVES YOU SO MUCH hurt your feelings. makes everything feel better and THAT HE’S ALWAYS He knows that honesty is the simply makes you a better person. most important thing in a These are all the traits of a man you TRYING TO BECOME A relationship and he won’t allow can spend your life with, the traits BETTER PERSON FOR himself to do anything to break your of a man who truly deserves you YOU. trust. He knows that no matter how and would make your life feel like a hard or harsh the truth is if he’s by fairytale. needs and feelings first on the list your side, you can deal with it. The following signs will tell you if and will never make you feel like you’re really dating the man you there’s something more important 5He makes you feel beautiful should marry: that you and your relationship. He’ll His words and actions make you always ask you how your day was, feel like you’re the most beautiful 1You feel safe with him how you feel and will never forget woman in the world, both inside When he hugs you, you feel like to spend quality time with you, and out and you love him for it. He nothing can ever hurt you. His hug is regardless of how tired or stressed loves your body and soul and he the safest place on Earth for you out he is. You know that you can always makes sure you know how and you could spend an eternity always count on him and this makes he feels. He knows how much cuddled with him. He’ll do anything you love him even more. you’re worth and makes sure you for you and he’ll protect you and know it too. He treats you like defend you from anyone and 3He wants to become a better you’re his queen and this simply anything; he won’t let anything bad person for you rocks your world. No one has ever happen to you. He would never let We’re all flawed and we all have made you feel this way and no one anyone belittle you, say bad things our little imperfections that shape will ever will. We

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The Distinctly Majestic Mayfair Hotels and Resorts An Iconic Coalescence of World Class Luxury and Hospitality.

Pooja Ray, Managing Director of Mayfair Hotels & Resorts. ayfair is synonymous with architectural style and accent on Mhigh quality hospitality and ecology, Mayfair stands apart from has a reputation for its peers in terms of its blending state of the art facilities magnificence, grandeur and with personalized service in aesthetics. properties that are elegant, In an interview with Woman’s luxurious and set midst nature. Era, Pooja Ray, MD of Mayfair The group is credited as being Hotels & Resorts talks about the the first to bring five-star deluxe extraordinary architecture, hospitality to Odisha and Sikkim. exceptional experiences of guests With its unique designs, and future plans of Mayfair.

36 Woman’s Era ● March 2021 Set amidst verdant gardens and a pretty lagoon, The Mayfair Lagoon, Bhubaneswar is a stunning property offering unparalleled luxury

All the hotels and resorts of Mayfair have a different architectural theme. What was the basic thought with the interior and exterior looks of Mayfair? At Mayfair hotels and resorts, we realize that what we deal with are precious moments from the lives of our guests and hence we focus on giving our guests an all-around experience. If that means putting up architectural marvels or designing bespoke services around these wonders, we have been walking those extra miles for our guests since our very inception many decades ago, and that is evident in every property operated by Mayfair Hotels and Resorts. Captivating confluence of old world charm and contemporary comforts at When we design our products, we Mayfair Tea Resort in Siliguri. take inspiration from the history of the location and incorporate luxury How does the extraordinary they click such an image, we find joy around this core idea, to this we add architectural view help in raising a in having added value to them and our touch of responsible and profitable revenue? every time they post their sustainable tourism practices, and While there are many factors photographs on social media, they we have a Mayfair product offering! leading to revenues and profitability add value to us by making the Each Mayfair hotel or resort is a for a hotel chain, we do believe that concept go viral. Today, a very large culmination of immaculate planning an exemplary architecture adds a number of guests come to us purely and execution at its highest level, lot of value to the guest. Every through positive ‘word of mouth’ making our hotels and resorts a corner of our properties is designed which is followed by a very high destination in itself. Our usage of keeping our guest, and their percentage of our ‘regular guests’. local materials and support to local comforts in mind. It is not Both these segments are by virtue artisans help support the micro uncommon for our guests to be of our superior architecture, and we ecosystem, and we are very proud seen clicking selfies around our are only humbled by the accolades of the many lives we touch, which ornate hotels or our well we have been receiving over the are our actual achievements. landscaped gardens. Every time, years.

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 37 landscaped gardens and is studded with an array of restaurants, our resorts at Gopalpur and Puri are all about the sea, and the good life one attaches to living by the golden sand beaches. Our latest offering is the ‘Mayfair Tea Resort’ which is the country’s first tea themed resort and offers a deep insight into the simple tea leaf and the sheer joy it provides. At Mayfair, we are adept in blending antiquity and Mayfair Palm Beach Resort, Gopalpur-On-Sea is a shining pearl by the history along with the ultra-modern. beautiful beaches of Southern Odisha. From casino hotel to boutique tea resorts, from lake resort to ocean facing hotel, Mayfair has celebrated luxury and heritage. Where is Mayfair heading now? Mayfair group is very confident of its expansion plans, and has a list of upcoming projects that our team would have already put in place, had it not been for the lockdown. As per our revised launch schedule, we are happy to announce our next offering at Kolkata, which shall be opening within the next 18 months. We intend to redefine luxury in Kolkata with this project. We are working on a Golf Resort at Satapada at Chilika Lake, which will put Odisha on the global golfing A luxurious lake resort offering world class facilities in Raipur. circuit. We are also at an advanced level of planning for a mega Mayfair stands as a true paragon marketing team is ever ready to convention hotel in Bhubaneswar. of World Class hospitality and is one design bespoke packages ‘A-La- Exciting times ahead for brand of the leading luxurious hotel Minute’ that will add tremendous Mayfair and its patrons! chains. What does Mayfair provide value to your stay. for an overall family package? Do you have any plans for a Our hotels and resorts provide What are the unique experiences subtle combination of nature and ‘best in the class’ services, and are that are offered by Mayfair Hotels luxury in North or West? designed to cater to the needs of and Resorts that makes it We are committed to a Pan-India families travelling together, for exceptional? footprint, and intend to double our short or long-stay vacations. From While the Mayfair chain today inventory over the next five years. the architecture perspective, our flaunts 12 hotels and resorts spread We started this journey with our oversized rooms, spacious suites across 10 destinations in India, we resort at Goa, and to catalyze this and cottages are a hit with families; have consciously ensured that they process, we are in discussions with however, our Villas are always in are all uniquely different in their select ‘like-minded’ business houses tremendous demand for families own quaint ways. While each resort to partner them in this process. We travelling together. Our dedicated will bring forth the architectural are talking to them to operate their play zones, fun areas, reading elements of the land that it existing and upcoming hotel rooms and curios are always much operates in, it will also have certain projects. We are confident that this appreciated by families. However, finer elements of luxury that one synergy shall add tremendous value our chefs go one step further and associates Mayfair Hotels with to the business houses, while also provide special menus for all our today. Hence while our hotels at providing our valued guests with children, thereby making the ‘Family Bhubaneswar offer a colonial feel more ‘exceptional experiences’ Packages’ a never-say-no deal. Our spread across acres of beautifully across India. We

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ove is an intense feeling of Ldeep affection, in other words, love is what one feels, Love should be seen not as a feeling but as an enacted emotion. To love is to feel and act lovingly. People who are in love generally feel a powerful sense of empathy toward their beloved, feeling the other person's pain as their own and being willing to sacrifice anything for the other person. Love means to be deeply committed and connected to someone or something. The basic meaning of love is to feel more than liking someone. It is a bond that two people share. There are a few things you need to avoid when building a new relationship like being too demanding. According to psychology, if you find yourself abandoning usual activities or feeling unusually optimistic, you might be falling in love. Falling in love is one of the strangest and most wonderful things a human being can Love is not Enough Scarcity of love in married life. By Dr. Sanjay Teotia

experience. And while it's different for everyone, there are some common thoughts and feelings that can help people identify when it's happening. You might be experiencing one of the obvious indicators like not being able to think about anyone or anything else but that person or the signs could your plus one or if you are just trouble, contempt usually stems be more obfuscated. Whatever it having a bad day. If you find from a relationship rupture, may be, there's no doubt that yourself using terms like never and infidelity, secrecy, or another falling in love in today's labyrinthine always as in you never help me transgression. Contempt is hard to dating landscape is complicated. In clean or you always forget to help, come back from. It's not ethical to a bid to simplify things a little, you are not just criticizing your behave in hurtful, cruel ways with psychologists identify some of the partner, you are assassinating their your partner and you should not be clear signs that you might be falling character. treated that way either. If you are in love with someone like you can't Couples who have unresolved, willing to work through the issue stop staring at them, you abandon persistent conflict and a pattern of that's at the root of this disgust, your usual activities, you don't mind low-grade hostility even when they there's hope. But remember, you when they do something are not fighting, quickly stop can't cure contempt without unattractive, time flies when you viewing the other person as a discovering what started it. Once are together, you feel unusually source of comfort, support, or respect is gone, you lose the optimistic, you want to touch and partnership. They stop treating foundation to rebuild your kiss them, you always think about each other like friends, planning fun relationship. them, you want them to be happy, things, confiding in each other, falling in love can warp your sense sharing their feelings, or even of reality a little. It is likely that if talking about their day. They pull (UN)HAPPILY MARRIED you feel deeply in love with back often due to a (realistic) fear It is possible to be happy in a someone, then you will have a of being rejected or attacked if they loveless marriage. After all, somewhat unrealistic view of who are too vulnerable. When you marriage is about family and not they are and how they present respond to each other with just your partner. A person's themselves. sarcasm, your marriage might be in happiness is not tied to a single So whilst you might be inclined person, it never was and it never is. to be critical of someone else doing If there is one person in the world or saying something if your partner SCARCITY OF LOVE IN who is responsible for your does or says them. You might love MARRIED LIFE CAN happiness, it's you. Also, if two lies them for it because, in your eyes, CAUSE CONSTANTLY down together, they will keep they can do no wrong. Basically, CRITICIZING YOUR warm. However, while love can be a scarcity of love looks like these powerful force in a relationship, it words person use as I will never find PARTNER WE ALL GET should go without saying that love anyone, I am too old now, all men CRANKY. BUT YOU is not the only force behind a seem to be looking for younger NEED TO DETERMINE IF successful marriage, as there a women, everyone seems to behave multitude of factors involved in it. so badly online, I can't cope with YOUR FRUSTRATION IS Aromatic people, also known as aro, getting another dick picture, and I STEMMING FROM AN don't develop romantic attractions don't want to go through that pain ACTUAL LACK OF for other people. Romantic people again. An unhappy or loveless do form strong bonds and have marriage chronically feels bad. It's RESPECT FOR YOUR loving relationships that have like a cold that lingers, leaving you PLUS ONE OR IF YOU nothing to do with romance. You no drained and vulnerable. ARE JUST HAVING A longer desire to spend any time Scarcity of love in BAD DAY. together, do not dress up or try to married life can cause look nice for your spouse, and constantly criticizing genuinely are not concerned with your partner we all get your spouse's life. Your marriage cranky. But you need should be a partnership. You are to determine if your taking on the world together, frustration is making decisions together, and stemming from an always have each other's back. actual lack of Happy marriages are respect for difficult to maintain and a woman can fall out of love with her husband. It's difficult for a couple to maintain the level of excitement felt when about those needs or presume their take the form of scheduling sex or they first met once they are sharing partner's needs are the same as giving maintenance sex a try. What their lives day in and day out. Add to their own, often leaving their can you do when you’re happy the monotony of daily life, marriage significant other feelings alienated. marriage feels miserable? Find a stressors, and a lack of skills for Letting disconnect become the little perspective; focus on why you dealing with the stress and a wife norm, this is when couples start to fell in love with your partner and can lose those loving feelings say things like I love you but I am no what you want your life as a couple toward her husband. Not only is longer in love with you. This should to become. Even better, tell your communication important in be seen as a call to action but more partner this without any maintaining a bond with each other, often than not couples seem to find expectations of them doing the how you communicate will this to be a final resting place, same. Loveless marriages usually determine how strong of a bond. whether in divorce or mutual have sex life exciting but not The way a couple communicates is unhappiness. When you start to romantic. as important as the ability to forgo sex, your intimacy and the Deciding to leave a marriage is communicate. Despite how happily resulting connection is going to scary. There's often a deep fear of they started as a couple, the pair start to drift apart. being alone, not to mention the was more than likely hiding a possibility of an unknown future. continuous cycle of unhappiness Many stick with mediocrity settling within their relationship. After SENSE OF DISINTEREST for low-level pain and striving to keep all their troubles It is important to see this aspect dissatisfaction instead. But that's hidden just below the surface for of your relationship as just as much not your best bet, staying in a far too long, they felt that of a priority as any other and put in seriously unhappy marriage can separation was their only option. the effort to make a positive have long term effects on our This is not unusual at all. Many change. Even if there is a sense of mental and emotional health. couples struggle to maintain happy disinterest or apathy, the effort can People in bad marriages usually relationships but without the right have low self-esteem, struggle with tools their attempts at doing so can LOVELESS MARRIAGES anxiety and depression and have a become futile and marriages still fall USUALLY HAVE SEX higher rate of illness than those apart. Often couples lack alignment who don't. People feel sad and on the things that matter most and LIFE EXCITING BUT grieve when they decide to let go feel like their own personal goals or NOT ROMANTIC. but people who divorce do recover feelings are the most important DECIDING TO LEAVE A emotionally and most find new ones to focus on. It is easy to get MARRIAGE IS SCARY. relationships. One warning sign lost in your perspective and fail to would be that your relationship is see your partner's viewpoint on the THERE'S A DEEP FEAR sexless or if you are having sex less important things, causing them to OF BEING ALONE, NOT than ten times a year. After all, it's feel like they are not valued. Every TO MENTION THE an intimacy that separates a person has unique needs they hope romantic relationship from all other their partner will fulfill. But POSSIBILITY OF AN sorts of relationships you might sometimes couples fail to speak up UNKNOWN FUTURE. have. When that's going out the window, it's a really big red flag. A lack of visible physical affection like kissing or hugging is also indicative of a real problem. If you often imagine a happy future without your partner, that's a major sign that things are not right. This is a part of the emotional detachment process, during which you may try to convince yourself that you don't care anymore so that the eventual separation feels less painful. Detaching psychologically by fantasizing about having an affair or making plans for the future that don't include your partner can all be signs that you have fallen out of love. We AM 29 YEARS OLD AND HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR Personal Problems I3 years. I have a one year old son. Though I have everything, my life has become a hell because of my mother-in-law and 2 sisters-in-law. & They have been harassing and torturing me A mentally. I have been doing everything possible Q keep them happy but their behavior is still the same. My husband dosen’t realize this and always YEX-BOYFRIEND HAS STARTED HARASSING AND takes their side. He is in a government job but doesn’t Mblackmailing me. In the beginning of our want me to work. He is a miser and is reluctant to spend relationship things were fine but then his behavior on basic needs and comforts. It’s becoming difficult day changed. He started reacting over petty issues and often by day to put with their behaviours. Please advise. abused my parents which is why I broke up with him. He Please start respecting yourself and stop tolerating thinks I have betrayed him and that’s why he wants to take any kind of injustice. You are your spouse’s legally revenge. He has stooped to the level of blackmailing me by wedded wife and equal partner. You have to take a stand sharing our pictures with my friends and cousins. I even for yourself. Speak to your husband even if you think it approached the police but nothing happened. I am really will not make any difference. He will understand tensed and do not want to involve my parents in this mess. someday. Don’t be a nagging wife and share your feelings Please suggest. in a subtle manner so that he doesn’t feel that you are Be strong and don’t give in to his demands. Without complaining all the time. Spend time with him, try to add wasting a single day, tell everything to your parents. They some humour. will surely understand and help you out of this mess. Once Try to convince him to let you work. This way you will your ex-boyfriend knows that your parents are aware, in all become independent, contribute more towards the family probabilities he will step back and stop blackmailing you. and get rid of the daily mess. I know it’s not easy but you But, if he still continues to do the same, you can go ahead will have to patient and persistent. and file criminal complaint against him for blackmailing Continue being a good wife and daughter-in-law and and outraging modesty of women. 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RECENTLY, HE husband is working as an assistant in his brothers’ shop Ibroke up with me saying he wants to focus on his career. Also, the eldest of them purchased 3 properties for Also, he cannot marry unless his two younger sisters all but finally moved us to a 20 year old flat which is in get married. But he still cares for me and wants to remain a very bad shape. My husband is too reserved, doesn’t friends. I even tried to give him some space but he keeps say anything to anyone. I don’t understand how he sending messages. I am very upset and not able to puts up with their bad behavior! I am really worried about concentrate in my studies. I am confused and not able to our future. trust him. Should I block him or continue with him as a Your brother-in-law has wronged your husband and his friend? attitude is unfair and oppressive. Since it’s a family matter, You are young and such feelings are absolutely normal. it will be better that it’s discussed and sorted amicably But have control over yourself. He is trying to distance within the family. Advise your husband to have a heart to himself from you. May be his reasons are genuine or may heart with his brother and politely explain him that your be he realized that he dosent love you but wants to be family will also grow and would need a recurring income just friends with you. Both ways it’s good on his part that and a house which is good enough to live in. If need be, you he is not keeping you in dark. both have a discussion with your brother in law and his It’s better that you do not assume anything, be wife. It might not happen in one meeting and may require practical and take him as a friend only, otherwise it might a few rounds of discussions. If this doesn’t solve your lead to a heart. problem, you may take a legal action. 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Imperfect is perfect. By Bushra Hussain Khan

Over the years many ethnicities have been programmed to equate Imperfections!Imperfections!fair skin and slim figure or I should say zero figures with beauty success and happiness. Why is this obsession with being fair? Why is it necessary to be slim enough to be called beautiful? What has happened to those catchy lines “beauty comes from within?” This is an unfortunate truth that we live in, where people are obsessed with beauty. In the era of modernism night to make me fair because I had somewhere the society is still had sun-kissed complexioned. Using backward in terms of choosing fairness creams, ubtans, Haldi, and someone based on complexion. Multani mitti were very common to Society has placed so much me. Until I realized that this emphasis on complexion and figure obsession with fair skin is making that it has aroused dangerously me lose my inner self-confidence. obsessive behavior amongst us. I Another major drawback eating agree with the concept of using habits that unfortunately affect our products for skincare, especially in health in several ways. Certain types the current effects of global of eating cause weight gain and due warming and a polluted to some metabolism issues few environment. cannot gain weight. Sometimes food isn’t the only problem that can make us fat or skinny, it can even be SOCIAL NORMS in our genes. Being too fat or too Society has dictated what is slim can be hard to get rid of and acceptable and what is not. ‘Rishta,’ this is another level of AFTER BEING stupidity. It is very common in the CONSTANTLY society we live ‘girl or boy’ has to be COMPARED TO OTHERS fair in order to be termed as “beautiful”. I have seen this so FOR BEING DUSKY OR many times and it is so surprising, BROAD IT’S BEEN how can someone choose a life QUITE A TOUGH partner based on skin color. Being fair does not make you complete or JOURNEY TO FIND YOU perfect, and remember “perfect is SEXY. YOU START always fake”. BELIEVING IN IT, AND becomes even more difficult to get The worst part is that few rid of those judgments that people fairness cream advertisements ADOPT A SELF-IMAGE have. Why it is that society needs to openly show the need of being fair. AND START comment on someone’s figure or I have no shame to say that I even skin color. I agree being fit keeps have to go through it. I still REGRETTING YOURSELF you away from certain health remember my aunts asking my mom FOR NOT BEING problems, but somewhere this to give me saffron and milk every PERFECT. obsession has increased a lot. To add the cherry on the cake are the dangerous skinny celebrities and those advertisements giving fake inspiration, especially to teenagers who evaluate them. After being constantly compared to others for being dusky or broad it’s been quite a tough journey to find you sexy. You start believing in it, and adopt a self- image and start regretting yourself for not being perfect. Due to which even the smallest of the joke about you makes you feel as if someone is stabbing you deep and you die a little. Believe me; it becomes really difficult to cover up such things in life with a smile. You never know what someone is going through. Passing comments, giving certain remarks does not make you a practical person. We

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 49 cloth pad dipped in chilled water. Beauty Queries Hydrate by drinking a lot of water daily. At least 10 cups of water is good for women; you can drink juices and other liquids too. & Elevate your head when you sleep as it A discourages blood pooling under your eyes. Find Q out if you are allergic to some cosmetic you are using, Antihistamines can deal with allergies. Increase vitamin C foods in your diet as it helps in collagen Y COMPLEXION IS FAIR BUT MY FACE HAS A FEW DARK building. Get at least 7 hours of sleep at night. Remove all Mpatches, which I want to remove. Please tell me makeup before going to bed. what could have caused this problem and how I ● can deal with it. I am 45 years old and live in Mumbai. FRIEND OF MINE SAID THAT HER BEAUTIFUL HAIR WAS Dark patches could be due to several causes, and in most Athe result of balayage. What is this? Can I get it cases can be cured. Your age suggests that hormonal done to my hair? I get my hair tinted. Is this the changes due to your pre-menopausal situation could be same as balayage? resulting in Chloasma or the darkening of skin. Balayage is derived from the French word “balayer”, Dermatological treatment can be had for this. meaning to sweep. This is a technique where colour is ✿ Check your iron level too for this darkening. painted onto the hair to give a graded effect, which looks ✿ Wash face with cold water. Use a good sunscreen more natural and attractive. In this, the beautician paints lotion if going out in the sun. bleach or colour freehand on the surface of the hair ✿ A mixture of milk cream and turmeric is a good skin without saturating the entire section. The colour is blended lightener. Lemon juice also helps in decreasing stains. on to the hair seamlessly. There are good night creams from reputed cosmetic Balayage is different from highlights because the latter companies that contain skin lightening elements which you uses foils while balayage is a visual hand-painted can find useful.The most important step you can take is to technique. It does not damage hair at all; infact, it is safer avoid exposing your face to the ultraviolet rays of the skin. than highlights, bleaching and tinting. Always use a sunscreen application with at least 30 SPF. It last up to four months, with a little touching up if ● needed and does not need any special care.Consult your AM A 19-YEAR-OLD GIRL WITH SHOULDER-LENGTH HAIR, VERY beautician for more details. You must have seen many Ikeen to have long silky hair. Is there a method with women nowadays with balayaged hairstyles these days. which I can make my hair grow longer quickly? ● The length and texture of one’s hair are often determined LEASE TELL ME HOW TO USE CONCEALER. DOES EVERYONE by hereditary factors. Some families have women with long Pneed it? What are its uses? I am a 23-year-old girl hair, some short, some wavy, and some silky. Thankfully working as a school teacher. though, with modern cosmetic treatments, we can change Concealer is a cosmetic formula which is like a all these conditions very well. But to make genetically short foundation but thicker, It is generally used on the face to hair grow longer is a little tricky, but some methods do help. conceal age spots, dark patches, black circles around Massage scalp with warm coconut or olive oil once a eyes and other such blemishes. week to encourage growth. Use a few drops of a good serum Apply concealer in small dots under eyes ,close to at regular intervals. Clip the edges of the hair to remove lashes, to hide dark circles. Use a colour which is a shade split ends. Avoid overusing styling procedures and products or two lighter than your skin tone.Then apply it in dots on like straighteners, dyes, etc. Heating elements to perm and all spots and patches, around nose, chin and temples. set hair is best avoided. Use the pad of your middle finger to tap in the concealer. Check your diet. Eat foods rich in zinc and iron. Do not Never rub it in. Concealers come in many shades. Choose tug hair in tight hair bands and ponytails.These measures the one which suits your skin tone and colour. will help your hair to grow longer gradually, but for more It is usually applied on top of foundation as it gets a quick results, you can consider hair lengthening procedures smoother surface to work on.You can use it even under in a beauty parlour. the foundation if you prefer. It is best to learn the ● technique from a beauty expert first so that you can get OW DO I GET RID OF UNDER-EYE BAGS? I AM ONLY it right. 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50 Woman’s Era ● March 2021 few months ago, a young Awoman went to her doctor in New York. Her toenails had gradually blackened over six Fish Spa – months and fallen off. No one in her family had abnormal toenails and she had no diseases, no injuries, nor The Harmful Effects of a family history of nail disorders. During the tests it was discovered that she had a fish pedicure six this Pedicure months ago. The fish had caused injury to the nail matrix, which is the nail growth centre. This led to a The ugly side of the ʻFish Spaʼ. nasty case of onychomadesis, in which the nail plates that make up By Maneka Sanjay Gandhi the toenail halt production and separate, causing her nails to fall off. The condition can cause deep grooves to run horizontally across the nails, or large gaps where there is no nail. The case has been reported in JAMA Dermatology.

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 51 This is not the only problem fish pedicures have caused. Fish pedicures have transmitted Staphylococcus aureus and mycobacteriosis infections. Staphylococcus aureus is a bacterium which is a common cause of infections, that range from minor skin infections, such as pimples, boils, cellutitis, folliculitis, carbuncles, and abscesses, to life- threatening diseases such as pneumonia, meningitis, osteomvelitis, endocarditis, toxic shock syndrome, bacteremia, and sepsis. An estimated 20 per cent to 30 per cent of the human population are long-term carriers of S. aureus. It can cause skin and soft- tissue infections, particularly when the skin has been breached. It can world. In fish, transmission can spread through occur by consumption of contact with pus contaminated feed, aquatic from an infected detritus, or entry via injuries, skin wound, skin-to-skin abrasions or external parasites. In contact with an humans, breaks in the skin serve as infected person, and an entry point for the organism contact with objects during contact with contaminated used by an infected water sources, or infected fish and person. injury from fish fins or bites. S. aureus can lie Mycobacteriosis infection most dormant in the body commonly manifests as a skin for years. Once disease. Lesions tend to be noticed symptoms begin to show, if two to four weeks after exposure to untreated, the disease can be DURING A FISH the mycobacterium. The lesions deadly. Once the bacteria have PEDICURE, PEOPLE swell and develop into ulcers which entered the bloodstream, they can persist for months. In some infect various organs. Without IMMERSE THEIR FEET IN instances, infection spreads to the antibiotic treatment, S. aureus A TUB OF WATER THAT lymph nodes. The skin, kidney, and bacteremia has a fatality rate CONTAINS SMALL FISH liver are the main body parts around 80 per cent. With antibiotic affected in both fish and humans. treatment, case fatality rates range CALLED GARRA RUFA. THESE FISHES from 15 per cent to 50 per cent FISH PEDICURE CAN depending on the age and health of SUPPOSEDLY PULL OUT CAUSE DEADLY HARM the patient – but the bacterium is DEAD SKIN FROM THE now almost antibiotic resistant. Diagnosis can be difficult and is Mycobacteriosis is a chronic CUSTOMER’S FEET, often delayed, and by then the disease that occurs in fish reared EXFOLIATING THEM AS infection has spread, causing under intensive conditions. THE CUSTOMER considerable damage to tendons Temperatures between 25oC and and bone. Deep infections typically 35oC are ideal for the bacteria. RELAXES AND ENJOYS require both antibiotic and surgical In the last decade there has been THE TICKLE. THESE treatment. Skin lesions can be a steady increase in the frequency FISHES ARE SPECIALLY chronic and leave scarring. Deep of Mycobacterium marinum GROWN IN TANKS AND infections can lead to the loss of infections in cultured fish, and joint mobility, and severe cases may human cases associated with fish THEY ARE IMPORTED need amputation. aquaria have been seen all over the INTO INDIA. I had written about the dangers

52 Woman’s Era ● Marchl 2021 Empathy in Holistic Special Education Quality Education Access to specially Nirmala Amarnath, Chairperson of Amara Abled Childrenʼs. By Rama Soundarya Foundation

IRMALA AMARNATH , Who graduate with not only knowledge berating, hitting, etc. These Nwas born on 27th October of books but with significantly practices were seen as completely 1971 completed her MA, MBA improved social skills and a working normal and thought that this is how in Education, Diploma in Family and knowledge of various career a child is brought up. However, this Child Counseling, Diploma in Special opportunities. has a devastating impact on these Education, Diploma in Learning children. They were growing up to difficulties and Diploma in Life Skills. How the drive of philanthropy be anxious individuals with self- She Launched Antarmukha – the came to you first? esteem issues. This hurt me a lot Silent victim in 2012 to create My husband Amarnath and and hence, I decided to launch a awareness regarding the prevention Sister-in-law Soundarya, both of program which educate parents and of child abuse. In conversation with whom were famous in the film the society at large, how to prevent Nirmala Amarnath, Chairperson of industry, unfortunately, passed child abuse. Amara Soundarya Foundation. away in an accident in 2004. It got me thinking about how we spend How do you explain the part that Your college studies are mostly the little time we have here a parent plays in the whole involved with education and child focusing on taking as much as spectrum of child abuse? welfare. What was the motivation possible from the world, but very Parents need to understand for it? little on how we can give back. So I what is acceptable and what is not. I believed that formal modes of started thinking more about how I They need to build a rapport with education were very stressful and can give back. I decided on this their children and build a conducive so, in order to understand the school as it was my dream to do atmosphere. They also need to psyche of children, I undertook something for children. respect their thoughts and opinions various college courses related to and not dismiss them as it is not alternate modes of education which Being a woman how does it feel important. This itself will go a long made learning more holistic and to run this huge empire, given that way in creating happy, confident enjoyable. we see not many women young people. entrepreneurs out there, do you feel What is your vision behind Amara there is finally a positive change Your organization aims to cater Soundarya? coming for all the women? to individuals with special needs. As Amara Soundarya Foundation is I feel blessed to have the a part of the education community, an Institute for children with mild to privilege of running this institution. how do you feel that educators can moderate intellectual disabilities. Many women are doing lots of contribute in motivating special We seek to integrate mainstream amazing work today. They are also children? education with specialized uplifting other less fortunate Differently-abled children are techniques, so as to allow seamless women in every way they can by unfortunately seen as burdens and assimilation of children with such giving jobs and providing training. the parents of these children only difficulties into institutes of higher Women are driving their own think about how to provide for education, vocational training, and revolution and nothing can stop us. them. Unfortunately, a lot of ultimately, the workforce, thus schools also fall into this mindset. enabling them to be socially and You launched Antharmukha for Instead, we need to think about economically independent. We creating awareness regarding the how we can empower these believe in the importance of holistic prevention of child abuse. Why the individuals with ample education and hence, provide not issue of child abuse speaks to you opportunities in every walk of life only curriculum-based instruction the most? and recognize every single step they but also integrate therapies and In many counselling sessions, I take. We need to stop hiding these vocational training into our scope of found that many children are children and start celebrating them services. As a result, our students abused in their homes, in terms of instead. of fish pedicures two years ago, but put your feet into. Government THE FINDINGS APPEAR India has still got dozens of parlours warnings across the world have IN EMERGING offering the service. I have just warned people that fish pedicures INFECTIOUS DISEASES returned from Goa where the main may even cause Hepatitis C and HIV. tourist areas have small shady Since they are not cosmetic In 2011 and 2012, the Fish Health shacks advertising fish pedicures. surgeons, their biting results in Directorate of Great Britain During a fish pedicure, people bumpy uneven skin, and some areas intercepted five different shipments immerse their feet in a tub of water are bitten deep enough to draw of Garra rufa fish from Indonesia, that contains small fish called Garra blood. Their nibbling of human feet bound for U.K. spas, and tested rufa. These fishes supposedly pull could spread harmful microbes them for bacteria. They found that out dead skin from the customer’s from one spa guest's feet to the all the fish carried a number of feet, exfoliating them as the next. The hot water tub that you harmful bacteria, including customer relaxes and enjoys the place your feet in is re-used, as are Aeromonas spp, Vibrio vulnificus, tickle. These fishes are specially the fish and fungi, and disease- Vibrio cholerae and Streptococcus grown in tanks and they are causing bacteria have been agalactiae, which can cause skin and imported into India. detected at fish pedicure spas. The soft-tissue infections. This is a typical case of “aa bail mouths of the living fish cannot be The strains were resistant to mujhe maar” - inviting a problem cleaned or sterilized. The fish tanks most antimicrobial medications, when you have none. are also not cleaned very often, or including tetracycline, gentamicin, These little fish are not doctors, the water altered frequently neomycin and streptomycin. V. cosmetologists or inanimate enough. Obviously, all this increases vulnificus can cause wound loofahs. They eat human flesh the risk of spreading infection. infections and primary septicaemia, because they are starved of their These are the reasons that fish spas resulting in high mortality rates, normal diet, which is plankton or have been banned in many especially among persons with liver vegetable matter. The fish countries. disease, diabetes, or impaired themselves are so mistreated by immune function. S. I is a common this unhealthy diet that outbreaks SINCE THEY ARE NOT cause of skin and soft tissue of systemic bacterial infections in COSMETIC SURGEONS, infections, especially in older adults the animals are common, causing and those with chronic diseases abnormal eye protrusions and THEIR BITING RESULTS such as diabetes mellitus . haemorrhaging around the gills, IN BUMPY UNEVEN The findings appear in Emerging mouth, and abdomen. SKIN, AND SOME AREAS Infectious Diseases, a journal They carry bacteria responsible published by the federal Centers for for a variety of dangerous tissue ARE BITTEN DEEP Disease Control and Prevention in infections and the tubs in which you ENOUGH TO DRAW Atlanta, which has been monitoring put your feet are a fertile breeding BLOOD. THEIR health effects associated with fish ground. They excrete like all living pedicures. beings, and this excreta is what you NIBBLING OF HUMAN In 2014, researchers from Italy FEET COULD SPREAD reported cases of customers HARMFUL MICROBES developing foot infections caused FROM ONE SPA by the Staphylococcus aureus bacterium. Since then infections GUEST'S FEET TO have been reported in Great Britain, THE NEXT. according to the Health Protection Agency. In the absence of any regulation in India, shady shops have sprung up online which sell garra rufa fish. No one knows how they have been able to import them . I saw an ad of a Mumbai shop, Pedifish, which sells “fish spa” fish at Rs 8, and Rs 40 for grarra rufa hybrids. They take orders of a minimum of 1000 “pieces” – which shows you how little they know, or care, about fish. If you want to clean your feet use a pumice stone not a live fish. We

54 Woman’s Era ● March 2021 Green and Zero Waste: Push for Sustainable Beauty Switching from toxic to natural beauty products. By Sonal Bhatia

he cosmetic industry is a Tbooming one where women compete with one another on high end perfumes, beauty serums, and the like. This industry promises its audience for a fairer complexion within few days so that, greater number of women can be lured. But when we closely observe the flip side of this coin, pharmacists and lab researchers have found many chemicals such as parabens-, phthalates, aluminum, lead, mercury, fluoride and more hazardous substances that are extremely detrimental to our health. FROM GOING TO awareness about the hazards present in these chemicals, people ORGANIC are shifting their attention towards RESTAURANTS THAT going organic- not just in skincare, SERVE YOU A VEGAN but almost in everything. From going to organic restaurants that DISH, GETTING LOCALLY serve you a vegan/plant based SOURCED FOOD- NOT version of every dish, getting locally sourced food- not leaving any LEAVING ANY CARBON carbon footprint on the planet, to FOOTPRINT ON THE going back to basics while using PLANET, TO GOING skincare and hair care products- eg using coconut oil as a moisturizer, BACK TO BASICS WHILE taking bath with herbal powder USING SKINCARE AND body washes, using tooth powders, HAIR CARE PRODUCTS- etc, millennials do not shy away from buying inexpensive yet natural MILLENNIALS DO NOT wellness products. There are many SHY AWAY FROM upcoming 100% organic skin and hair BUYING INEXPENSIVE care brands that offer a wide range of products like serums, body YET NATURAL butters, eye liners, lip balms, face WELLNESS PRODUCTS. packs, scrubs, etc that cater to many skin and hair issues- naturally,

Chemical name Commonly found in Effects

Paraben Shampoo, conditioners, lotions, Low sperm count in males, endocrine hair colors, lipsticks, etc disruption, fertility issues in women Formaldehyde Shaving creames, sunscreens, Immune system damage, cancer fragrances, mascara Ethanolamine Hair spray, nail polish, mascara Respiratory disorders, organ cancers

Phthalates Hair sprays, lotions Birth defects, kidney and lung failure Triclosan Soaps, deodorants, powders Skin infection and irritation, early puberty, asthma, cancer

Mercury Moisturisers Impair brain development Mineral oil Hair oils Biocks the skin’s ability to release toxins

Everyday use products bodies and can even cause cancer. It without any chemicals. But people Chemical hazards is a well known scientific fact that need to check the organic Can we ever think closely about whatever we rub or apply on our certification of the brand since many the products that we use everyday- skin, it is absorbed through its deep brands deceive us by just be it a soap, toothpaste, hand wash, layers into the body. On an average, mentioning one herbal ingredient moisturizer, kajal, lip liner, eye liner we use about 10 personal care and broadly mentioning all their or a hair color? The first hazardous products each day which can total products organic. chemical that we use right after up to 150 chemicals. A list of waking up is fluoride rich chemicals, what they are found in, Natural remedies toothpaste. Such chemical products and their side effects: There was a time when our are heavily loaded with dreaded ancestors only put warm mustard toxins and adulterants which make Shifting patterns oil/ghee in their hair and no wonder their way through our skin into our Owing to the increasing they had thick, dense, black and

56 Woman’s Era ● March 2021 long hair. For a bath, they first must use natural and plant based massaged their skin with an oil, sat self care products that are locally in sun for a while and then washed produced and made from locally it off with an ubtan that removed all grown produce that is not very far the dead cells away. Pure Rose from us. The nano particles that are water was used to cleanse and tone present in chemical based products the skin. Aloe vera was used as a enter our bodies and the moisturizer, beetroot as a lip stain, environment; they kill us and choke potato for bleaching the skin, neem the environment too. to get rid of acne, dandruff, lice, etc. Such plant based ingredients, Time to Switch when combined with modern It is high time that we made a biotechnology, produces a wide smart switch of daily care products range of products which can solve from chemical to nature based. Tin all skin and hair issues, naturally. and glass can be used in place of Earlier, brides were anointed plastic packaging. Zero waste with a haldi chandan ubtan which packaging must be ensured to gave her a shiny and moisturized minimize plastic waste. Shampoo skin. Her hair was kept oiled many bars can be used in place of liquid days prior to the wedding to enable detergent based shampoos. Herbs that she has perfectly silky smooth environment damage since they and healing clays are a good hair on the wedding day. She was come in plastic packaging and they substitute for chemical face and bathed in raw milk to ensure a also leave a huge carbon footprint body masks. bright and clean look. Now, it been since they need to travel globally to Nature’s bounty is huge and we replaced with expensive chemical cater to all nations. It becomes our can cure anything with it. treatments that have many health environment responsibility that we Supplement this with that: hazards and put a hole in their pockets too. Animal cruelty The rate with which animals are being tested dermatologically is alarming. Cosmetic testing is done on animals to check for the efficacy of the product and its safety too. This type of animal testing is Detergent shampoo Toxin free Shampoo bar opposed by animal rights activists and it is banned in many countries Hair Spa Kit Natural Hair Mask made with reetha, amla altogether. Yet many companies shikakai, bhringraj, jatamansi, and other such illegally go on with this trade and herbs. many animals like cats, and rabbits Hair colour Henna and Coffee Mix die in the process. So the next time you use an anti wrinkle cream or a Normal face wash Powder based natural cleanser deodorant, realize that an animal could have been killed for it, and Mineral Hair Oils Organic oils like coconut, mustard, etc might have been tortured. Chemical kajal Organic kajal Environmental Responsibility Lip gloss Beetroot lip balm The plastic toothbrushes, empty plastic crème containers, shampoo Regular moisturiser Natural butters like kokum, cocoa, sal, shea. bottles, etc form major portion of Skin serum Natural oils like mustard, coconut, olive, ghee the plastic waste that we produce. Moreover, the expensive Toothpaste Herb based tooth powder multinational brand products that Chemical face packs Natural face masks made with rose petals, we gift one another are heavily sandalwood, neem, cocoa, orange peel loaded with chemicals, they torture powder, licorice root, oats, rose clay, kaolin animals to increase their market, clay, etc We are overtly expensive, and increase

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It was difficult to identify the paternity of the baby. By Binay Pathak

ohit was at Infinity this face, time was reversed to be a TV or cine-actress or taboo for him. MMall in Malad for just 10 months back…… It model. Her body in tight fit She used to come to his viewing recently was the November last year track suit was capable of home sometimes. Unlike released much talked about and it was his nineteenth drawing the attention of the flat culture of Mumbai, biopic of Sanjay Dutt Sanju. birthday. Just beside his flat any person. Her track suit she used to come to his He had gone alone as he did at an apartment in Andheri was so tight that every home and his parents too usually because he found it a couple lived, Shweta curve of her body was occasionally used to go to difficult to adjust time with aunty and her husband perceptible. Purab Uncle her flat. She invited him others. There were six Purab uncle. He used to call was, to the contrary, a and his family members on screens in the mall and them uncle and aunty. bulky and pot-bellied birthdays and marriage many attractive and Although Shweta aunty person. He seldom anniversaries. Likewise dazzling shops were there. was not more than thirty accompanied her in Mohit’s family also invited Attractive posters of years old, he called her walking or jogging. He her to their home on running and coming movies aunty as she called his seldom walked. Even for a certain occasions. were decorated artistically. mother bhabhi. Shweta short distance he preferred On 14 November they Many girls, boys, men and Aunty was a very attractive using a bike or car. It were cordially invited for women in attractive woman. He often saw her in appeared that he was Mohit’s birthday function. dresses were shopping and the morning when she almost 10 to 12 years old In fact, it was a very simple enjoying food in came out for walking and than aunty. function and Mohit had restaurants. As there were jogging in the park. Her forbidden his parents to 15 minutes left for the show physique was so cute that lthough Shweta Aunty celebrate his birthday. As to start he preferred people might confuse her Awas attractive to the he was basically from a window shopping and limit of enticing, he never small town, for him, watching shoppers in the had any thought for her. It birthday celebration was It was the November last glittering shops. year and it was his was only an opposite sex for young kids who very There he spotted a nineteenth birthday. Just formula that attracted his eagerly waited for their familiar face, Shweta beside his flat at an attention for a moment or ‘happy’ birthday. As he was Aunty. There was no apartment in Andheri a two to her curvaceous now grown up he did not chance of forgetting that couple lived, Shweta aunty. figure. After all she was like to celebrate such face. There was a her aunty and was just occasions, so only his very fascinating as well as close friends and a few ferocious experience with people from the neighbour- that beautiful face. Seeing hood were invited at the request of her mother. Purab Uncle and Shweta Aunty were among them. On that day aunty had come alone. “Where is uncle?” Mohit just asked her. “He had gone to Pune for business and will be back day after tomorrow. I could not bring a gift for you. You must collect it from our flat tomorrow. I have ordered the gift for you online. The delivery boy called me and told that he could not deliver the packet as his bike got Own an Exquisite Piece of Heritage

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For the time after a gap of half an hour evidence she had preserved him for a while. being I have brought only again she started caressing her undergarment on which Mohit went into the this.’, she said giving him a and kissing him and his semen was present. theatre to watch a movie big packet of chocolate. consecutively they had sex but he was so puzzled that After some time the again. ohit got frightened. he could not understand celebrations were over and After the sensual spell MAfter that he did not what was going on in the everyone went home. was over, she asked him go to her and only after a cinema what to talk of Mohit too after checking how the gift was. He said it few weeks she had enjoying it. gifts received on the was decent. He never relocated from there While returning he was occassion went to sleep. He expected such an without telling anyone very upset. He did not hire was thinking of the gift that unbelievable gift. Putting about her whereabouts. a rickshaw and walked way aunty had ordered for him. on her clothes she went After a gap of 10 months he home. There he saw a What may it be? He tried to inside and brought a packet saw her in the mall. name plate reading ‘Dr guess but could not arrive and asked with a lovely and Ayusman, sexpert, time 7 at any conclusion. Next day mysterious smile, “What Mohit was surprised pm to 9 pm’ in a shopping in the morning while will you say to your parents when he got sight of complex. It was a quarter to jogging aunty came near to and friends when they will seven. He entered the clinic him and said, “whenever ask about the gift? Will you aunty. She was only and got an appointment. you have time please come narrate what gift you have in a bra and panty. The doctor came in time. to my house. There is a enjoyed?” He was nonplussed. He was the first appointee. surprise for you.” Mohit kept silent. He met the doctor and told And there was really a This is what you will say- “Don’t get him the entire story and surprise for him. When he she unpacked the gift she awestruck, boy. sought advice about went to aunty’s flat and has brought. It was a fitness Had not I told you ascertaining that the child pressed the doorbell tracker. She tied it around was his son. switch, she opened the his wrist. that I have a The doctor was a door and as he entered the Mohit was pleased fantabulous gift for middle-aged person. He room she shut the door getting the tracker but the you? This is the listened to him attentively, immediately. Mohit was pleasure that he had gift.” She thought for a while and surprised when he got sight achieved from earlier gift said,’ I would strongly of aunty. She was only in a was something different. In gesticulated suggest that you bring the bra and panty. He was fact he was in search of towards her body. activity to a stop. It is nonplussed. such gift again and again. difficult to identify the “Don’t get awestruck, But there was need of By the time Shweta paternity of the baby. And boy. Had not I told you that privacy for such a aunty had come just near your interfering will only I have a fantabulous gift for gift. Mohit. She was with Purab complicate the matter for you? This is the gift.” She Mohit was in search of Uncle and a newborn was in you and them. Think of this gesticulated towards her Shweta aunty but never her lap. Aunty and uncle as just an experience and body. met her. She too never were married for five years move on.” Although he was came to his house after but they did not have any Mohit came out of the dumbfounded as in front of that meeting. Mohit did not child. clinic. Although he was him a woman was present dare to go to her house as Mohit had heard from aware that with the help of in semi-naked position he might have confronted someone that due to some the DNA test it is possible whom he called aunty yet Purab uncle. After a few health issues it was not to ascertain the fatherhood body of a male was getting days he saw uncle going possible for uncle to be a of the baby, he had come aroused seeing half naked outside by a taxi. As he was father. Only after the across news in which a man body of a female. He could carrying big baggage with encounter with him had had filed is suit against his not stop himself. him it was clear that he was aunty conceived. It is my biological octogenarian It was not possible for going outside the city for a child, Mohit thought. How father about paternity and him to desist himself as few days. It was a good can I ascertain this? He it was proved by DNA test. aunty had come near him chance for him. He went to became anxious. But seeing his age, study and was caressing his the flat of aunty and Shweta just saw at him and other things he organs and encouraging requested for the same gift. while crossing him and decided to go with the him. He consummated her She flatly refused and turned her eye as if he was advice of the doctor- think desire. But that was not intimated him that if he quite unknown to her. of this as just an experience enough. Just after some again came to her she Uncle too did not take and move on. We

62 Woman’s Era ● March 2021 The Fashionista Smile Maker! Finding balance with Dr. Rashi Jain.

feel females of my generation was challenging but I did not give With new learnings and a lot of Ihave grown up watching beauty up, as a result in few months I felt hard work I appeared on the grand pageants personified with so change not only in my physical body platform of Mrs. India World. This much grace and poise. When divas but mentally, emotionally I felt gave me a lifetime opportunity to like Lara Dutta, Aishwarya Rai, stronger. It’s then, when this represent my country on an Priyanka Chopra won accolades for opportunity to compete in MRS international platform of Mrs. world the country they impacted INDIA WORLD 2019 came my way, I held at Las Vegas USA where I won internationally not only as beauty exactly knew what I had to do. I the award of best inspirational symbols but as global humanitarian appeared in the north zone costume. My biggest achievements leaders. So, it won’t be wrong to auditions cleared it and my journey are the learnings and experiences I mention that I had a great impact of got a kick start. It was not easy got through my journey. The whole the pageant world on my mind being a married woman, a wife, a process was life changing and during my growing years. I was mother, a daughter in law and an empowering, which made me decide supposed to choose a profession accomplished doctor. The journey to share my experience and road which could give me security, came with its ups and downs. Once map through my book in writing. stability in my life and the burning again I decided to not give up. urge within me to help my society and serve people made me choose a FINDING THE BALANCE medical profession which also gave Where I talk about my journey me independence in many aspects from a middle-class family breaking of my life. After my schooling from the old mindset and walking on the Ahlcon Public School in the year international stage leaving a trail of 2004, I went on to pursue my inspiration and self-belief. I also felt bachelors in dental surgery from the a strong urge to create a platform Institute of Dental Studies and body & mind workshop, where with Technologies completing one year my personal experiences and of rotary internship in 2010. I learnings I want to provide a started my career at Max Hospital strategic map of transformation for as an observer and then joined in as all those women who face struggles a senior associate dental surgeon in as I did in my life and how to surge Central Delhi with a reputed clinic ahead for their passion while (Mother Dental Implant Clinic). I maintaining the balance. I am also worked there for 8 long years practicing through Jain Specialty meanwhile, I got married to Dr. Anuj Clinic with logo Dr. Rashi’s Dentistry Jain an Orthopaedic surgeon, located in the heart of Noida where national gold medalist and gave I provide world class treatment birth to a lovable boy who is 7 yrs. facilities for the happy smiles of my of age now. patients. Life was busy and day to day challenges never left me! Achievements Something was missing and the ● I was recently the jury member of busy life never gave me time to Mrs. India world 2021. figure out what it was? It all started ● I crowned my successor who is with my weight gain post going to represent India at Mrs. pregnancy. I experienced what World. body shaming is in actual sense. I ● I was also one of the super lost stamina, confidence and achiever of Nav Durga program happiness. Finally, the deteriorating conducted by Indian dental health made me decide to work on association and women dental myself to take out time for my association. wellbeing. That was the turning ● Jury member along side,Vivek point of my life. I started my Oberoi, Soha Ali khan, Mrs. world workouts while managing Caroline Massimiwala youngest everything else in the background it fashion designer. th KIFF in 2021 Cinema in the time of pandemic, 26 endemic withstanding. By Sudipto Mullick andemic can stay, maybe, for a media and delegates — were done prior to their respective screenings Pfew years. Endemic, it digitally. Even the inauguration, and that too by scanning the ID appears, is more persistent. shorn off ostentation and the card's QR code. But, even before While it is laudable that KIFF physical presence of any outstation any regular screening went became the very first film festival in brand-ambassador and celebrities, underway, the online bookings India to adopt the hybrid mode — was held virtually from within the were withdrawn, on the behest of melding online with offline — of confines of the state CM's the CM, who even called for a conducting such an event, it could politburo. hundred percent seat occupancy not keep itself bereft of its atavistic This year it was decided that the instead of its half-capacity whimsies. delegate fees would be waived off operational decree, which, if it had In keeping with the contactless and that the bookings of the shows actually materialized would have protocol, all the registrations — could only be done online, two days flouted the very notion of precaution. It did for a while 26th KIFF- Tribute mural of Soumitra Chatterjee. manage to elicit the déjà vu pronunciations of chaos on the various social media. Screenings and Inaugural Film Unlike previous years, only the government cinema halls and auditoriums were earmarked for this festival. Each venue had to sacrifice at least one daily slot to account for the sanitisation which were carried out diligently, before and after all screenings. Disinfection stations were also adequately active throughout the event. The inaugural film of this year paid tribute to Soumitra Chatterjee, whom we lost to Covid-19. It was his acting debut, "Apur Sansar' (The World Of Apu) directed by Satyajit

64 Woman’s Era ● March 2021 The topic of this year's Satyajit Ray lecture was, 'Social Responsibility In Mainstream Indian Cinema'. There were no master classes but the daily breezy sessions at the purpose-built open-air audi was apparently a big draw. The End Sense Since the last few years, KIFF had exhibited a propensity to promote the festival via innovative creatives. Likewise, this festival was more of a defiance to counter the unwarranted grip of the corona virus terror, to perpetuate the showbiz pulchritude that, no matter what, as visibly positioned in all collateral, 'The Show Must Go On'. We Brillante Mendoza virtually announcing the winners.

Ray in 1959, which was one of nine films showcased in the festival. MORE PROTEIN THE BETTER – REALLY TRUE? Respects to other mortal Human body needs protein to repair damaged tissues & departures, that of Fernando build hormones, & enzymes. Protein gets metabolized Solanas, Kim Ki-Duk, Irrfan Khan, with combined action of Hydrochloric Acid & Pepsin. danseuse Amala Shankar, Rishi Kapoor, Santu Mukherjee, Basu Kidneys filter & remove waste product & toxins like Chatterjee, and Tapas Pal, were Urea & Creatinine - waste products produced during paid through one of their films, Protein Metabolism. If each. protein is high in diet, Dr Vidushi Agrawal DHMS (Mum),HMD (Lon), Every year Children's Day which these waste products MSc.DFSM (IGNOU) falls within the festival span is produced will be high, suitably commemorated with causing extra pressure on Kidney to Filter & relevant films, but the shift in dates, eventually cause loss in kidney functioning. rendered it incongruous. So, the When not filtered completely, they pour organizers cleverly assimilated the back into blood causing diseases. concurrent Swami Vivekananda’s birth anniversary by screening of High Protein Diets: four movies and documentaries. ● Causes calcium to slip through kidneys causing kidney stones, may also cause osteoporosis Competition and ● More protein = more hydrochloric acid released Contemporary Cinema ● More protein, more acid – more Acidity - more acid - Gastritis - Gastric Despite the lockdown, KIFF Ulcer & so on. attracted 1170 entries, out of which ● Under severe conditions of excess acid in body, Cancer can also result. 131 –comprising 81 feature films and 50 short and documentary films, One reason of Rising Cancer & Dialysis Cases Worldwide, along with spanning 45 countries were increasing stress levels. selected. Decide if High Protein Diet is really Beneficial or you want to Follow Diet based on Principles of Mother Nature Exhibitions, Annual Lecture and Promo Want to know more on Mother Nature’s Diet For the very first time in India, the Fellini Foundation for Cinema Build your Immunity with Natural Healthy Diet - (Sion) exhibited, albeit in a Whatsapp – 9969526918 or write to 'nutshell', posters and photographs [email protected] of Federico Fellini, to coincide with !! âßðü Öß‹Ìé âéç¹Ù: âßðü â‹Ìé çÙÚUæ×Øæ !! his birth centenary.

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 65 What’s Your Sexual Side? Getting comfortable with sexuality. By Deepshikha Pandey

very person is a sexual being, NOTE THAT YOU DON’T the way you look to the things you Eand the best person who can NEED TO ADOPT A do, it’s important to be extra careful tell if you’re happy with your to ensure you’re not compromising sexual side is none other than you. LABEL OR CHOOSE A your health and safety. If you came from a conservative TYPE OF SEXUALITY TO Existing Laws: Enjoy showing family or cultural background, you your sexual side by abiding by might have some hesitations about DESCRIBE YOURSELF. existing laws. For example, you expressing your sexual side to the PEOPLE EXPERIENCE have to follow safety protocols fullest. But you don’t have to think ASEXUALITY BECAUSE during this pandemic by engaging in twice about doing it, so long as safer sex. It’s one way to avoid you’re not hurting yourself or OF DIFFERENT WAYS, acquiring or transmitting COVID-19 anybody. As an adult, you’re SUCH AS DEVOTING that could endanger people’s lives. responsible for your own body and THEMSELVES TO Safe Sex Prac tices: Aside from finding the best ways to provide the threat of the current pandemic, what it needs. RELIGIOUS WORK you also need to know the A crucial step to feel more THROUGH SEXUAL consequences of not engaging in comfortable with your sexual side is ABSTINENCE. safe sex. It could result in sexually to know your sexual needs. Because transmitted diseases, such as the every person is unique— each has Homosexual: This sexuality human immunodeficiency virus his or her sexual priorities. For refers to having sexual attraction (HIV) or acquired immunodeficiency example, one might need sex at for the same sex. Women who are syndrome (AIDS). Be mindful and least thrice a week to feel fulfilled, attracted to women are called follow safe sex practices, such as while others need daily stimulation lesbians. On the other hand, gays using condoms and birth control to attain sexual satisfaction. are men who are attracted to men. pills. Sexual stimulation can be Bisexual: People who are triggered by a person or a thing, sexually attracted to both men and Conclusion such as a personal private part women are called bisexuals. You can feel comfortable with massager or vibrator. On the other Asexual: This term refers to a your sexual side by applying the tips hand, ladies can use their fingers or person who doesn’t experience shared above. Knowing your sexual vibrators and find this act sexual attraction. People needs and sexuality will enable you acceptable and sexually fulfilling. experience asexuality because of to better express yourself and Sexuality refers to a person’s different ways, such as devoting attain sexual satisfaction. feelings, thoughts, behaviors, and themselves to religious work Equip yourself with the right attraction towards other people, through sexual abstinence. knowledge and skills. Read up on which is personal, diverse, flexible, Note that you don’t need to current news, health updates, and and unique. adopt a label or choose a type of relevant information that may Here are the common terms used sexuality to describe yourself. affect your sexual life. Be to describe the different types of responsible and accountable for sexuality: Equip Yourself with The Right your actions—prioritize your life, Heterosexual: This type of Knowledge And Skills health, and safety above other sexuality is also called ‘straight.’ It Knowledge is a powerful weapon things. Enjoy your sexual life and be means that you’re attracted to the to keep yourself protected while confident expressing your sexual opposite sex, such as men who like expressing your sexual side side using the right sex toys, women, and vice versa. comfortably and confidently. From materials, and other devices. We

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Woman’s Era ● March 2021 67 “Learned Optimism” A Dose of Optimism Along with the Shot(s) of Vaccine. By Sujatha Rao cross the world, the year phenomenon called ‘optimism’ is all A2021 is the most looked about. The most often quoted forward to year. In 2021, parable in this regard happens to be along with the shot(s) of vaccine, the one involving a half full glass. can we also inoculate ourselves When you look at such a glass with a bout of optimism? If there what do you see? Is the glass half ever was any year in need of that, it full? Or is it half empty? Actually, definitely is this one. what part of your body is in charge At the same time, this job when this thing plays out? Is it the perhaps is made easier since when eyes or the mind? While eyes are the we look at the future, against the medium through which you see, it’s backdrop of 2020, even the most the mind which processes what you skeptics of us are perhaps more see. hopeful. But, how can we make this So, do you often find yourself feeling of optimism to last for long? toggling between both these views? In order to find an answer to this If yes, then welcome to the club. question, let’s understand what this Most of us see it that way depending upon our frame of mind at that time. But we are often told that optimists see the glass as half full while pessimists see it as half empty. So maybe we are tempted to force ourselves to always answer “it’s half full” in an attempt to feel good about ourselves. Let’s now examine optimism a bit further by going through some scientific research that is relevant. Though there have been a number of studies that have been carried out in this regard, the most significant one is the one by Dr. Martin Seligman, considered to be the founder of positive psychology. As part of his research on classical conditioning, Dr. Seligman would ring a bell and then give a light shock to a dog. After a few times of doing so, he would place that dog in a large crate with a low fence in the middle, which can easily be jumped over by the dog if necessary. When the light shock was administered, he expected the dog to jump over to the other side to escape. But the dog simply lay down as though he felt it was hopeless to even try. As the second part of his stressful situations we face in our (Consequence) which can be experiment, he tried the same daily life, the technique advocates altered through changing our shock with dogs that had previously us to analyze these situations from explanatory style (Disputation) not been exposed to shock and the following five aspects; ABCDE thereby resetting the earlier found that they jumped over to the having been culled out from the consequence into a positive one other side quickly. first letter of each of these aspects: (Energization). This, according to Seligman was Adversity; Belief, Consequences, The following example of a due to “learned helplessness” on Disputation and Energization situation that is somewhat common the part of the dogs that had The premise of the ABCDE to occur in our daily work life will encountered the situation earlier technique is that when a negative highlight how the ABCDE technique and had learned to give up. situation (Adversity) occurs, our is intended to play out: From this study, Dr. Seligman thought process (Belief) actually deduced that the way leads to the way we feel Adversity: My Boss Mr. Gupta “helplessness” was learned under yelled at me in front of my certain conditions, “optimism” too colleagues in a meeting. I felt could be learned by training the terrible and ashamed. Since then, I mind to focus on certain reactions have this nagging feeling that the to the situations. whole office is giving me Dr. Seligman who had been condescending looks. feeling highly frustrated with psychology’s overly narrow focus Belief: My Boss hates me and the on the decease and the negative, whole office now thinks I am an lapped up this opportunity to incompetent jerk. dedicate his research on human wellbeing and flourishing instead. Consequences: I felt like So when he got elected the disappearing into thin air at that president of American Psychological moment. Now I dread going to Association in 1998, he totally threw work. Maybe I should simply quit. himself into researching the life- giving rather than life-depleting Disputation: Just because Mr. field of positive psychology. Gupta yelled at me, it doesn’t mean Since then several researchers he hates me. He was the same one have forged further in this direction, who had appreciated my work in be it Mihaly Csikzenmihalyi in terms front of everyone earlier and had of focusing on “Flow” or Angela even recommended me for Duckworth who came up with the DR. SELIGMAN’S promotion two years back. He is importance of “Grit” or Carol just criticizing the quality of my Dweck who studied the significance RESEARCH work on this particular project. As of a “Growth Mindset”. RECOMMENDS far as the colleagues are concerned, These studies point out to the RECORDING EACH I think I am imagining things as they facts that optimism can be learned have been as helpful as ever. and nurtured. While you have no AND EVERY NEGATIVE control over what happens to you, SITUATION IN A Energization: Though I still feel a by practicing an optimistic JOURNAL AND bit bad about being yelled at in explanatory style, you can avoid PRACTICING THE public, I am feeling much better viewing these negative happenings than before and I don’t feel in their most permanent, pervasive ABCDE TECHNIQUE miserable about going to work and personal light. In his bestselling CONSCIOUSLY OVER A anymore. book “Learned Optimism” Dr PERIOD TO CHANGE Dr. Seligman’s research Seligman recommends ABCDE recommends recording each and approach to help us lead a more THE WAY WE every negative situation in a journal optimistic life in general. PERCEIVE LIFE IN and practicing the ABCDE technique GENERAL AND TO consciously over a period to change ABCDE Technique the way we perceive life in general ABCDE technique is based on our TURN OURSELVES and to turn ourselves into more explanatory style to the situations INTO MORE optimistic people. that we find ourselves in and is very OPTIMISTIC PEOPLE. But why do we need to turn simple to practice. During the ourselves into optimists? What is in

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 69 it for us? Research has shown that: personal and permanent loss. However, the optimistic ● Optimists have better physical ● Optimists are more successful explanatory style should not be health and hence tend to live at work. In fact, in a study carried so far as to draw a longer. conducted on insurance agents, Dr. conclusion that it’s a panacea. Well, ● Learning to change the Seligman found that the most it isn’t. It has its own limitations. explanatory style to a positive one optimistic of these agents sold 88% Carried too far, optimism may seems to really pay off in children. more than their pessimistic prevent us from seeing reality and In the Princeton Penn Longitudinal counterparts. The same study also even offer an excuse to some Study , it was found that the learned highlighted that the pessimistic people for not to owning up helplessness and pessimistic people were 3 times likely to quit responsibility for their failures. But explanatory style were the cause of these jobs than the optimistic ones. despite these limitations, the depression in schoolchildren. ● As surprising as it may sound, benefits far outweigh the negatives. ● It was also found that an in-depth research of the various Now that COVID-19 has given us everything else being equal, the speeches by the electoral the shock and a wakeup call that we individual with the more optimistic candidates in America over the past all needed to remind ourselves of explanatory style would go on to several decades has revealed that the beauty in the transience of life, win, as he would end up trying American citizens were more likely let’s take a leap into the new harder after every defeat since he to elect an Optimistic person to lead decade by learning to unleash the wouldn’t view it as all pervasive, the country. optimism within ourselves. We

association and the affection is for my father. It can bring a tear. among them just develops further It can bring a knowing nod. Right with time. From encouraging her there and then, it becomes one of how to ride a bike to playing the most memorable moments of cooking sets with her, a dad is me as a bride. A daughter’s consistently there for his girl. marriage surely leaves a huge void Regardless of how old a young lady in a father’s life but he feels happy grows, to her dad, she is forever his and content looking at the smile little princess. Nonetheless, as per on her face. He makes peace with the conventions of the Indian his mind thinking that even though culture, a dad needs to part with his it’s heartbreaking that she’s little girl to permit her to begin her leaving, it is also a new beginning new wedded life. As much as it is a for her. _ cheerful event, it is additionally a By Roma Chouhan heartbreaking moment for each Father of the Bride father out there. Some of our When my dad walked me down fathers are more impassive, while the aisle and gave me that long others are more affectionate. But look before handing my hand we can always count on them to be Has something over to my husband-to-be, I one call away and ready to come to happened in your life that has left an indelible impression almost got emotional! It was a your rescue no matter how stupid on your mind? Some experience that special moment because so much things you do – from the time you gladdens your heart or which makes is being said in that one gaze. It forgot to bring your assignment to you shudder with pain or was then that I realize how school to the time your car broke embarrassment even after years! Why emotional it must be for my down on the highway. As he veils not share your experience with the readers of Woman’s Era? All father to tell me goodbye and, to me and walks me down the aisle, ` my father is reminded of how much published incidents will be paid 200. watch his little girl grow up. Every Please type or write neatly on white bride goes through this emotional – and how fast his little girl has foolscap paper and send it to: phase and realizes how special grown up. He brings himself back to MY MOST UNFORGETTABLE this moment is. From the time we the time when I was just learning to EXPERIENCE AS A BRIDE were born, fathers (and father walk, or when I was graduated from figures in our lives) are our university. When he holds my hand E-3 Jhandewala Estate, New Delhi-110055. heroes. There is something so and watches me with that Womansera.com lovely about the father and meaningful look, that moment is Name: daughter bond. Each father-girl incredibly precious. I suddenly Mobile: divides an advantageous realize how emotional this moment E-mail:

70 Woman’s Era ● March 2021 educated and informed, you will become Teenache a much better wife and mother than a semi- educated person. You will be able to help meet your husband and an intelligent mother & to the kids. A Education also helps you gain respect and Q attention from the world; and if the need arises, you can even help your spouse financially by taking up a job. It is LEASEHELPMEMAKEUPMYMINDABOUTWHICHBOYTO understandable that you do not want to study Law as you Pmarry. I am a 16-year-old girl who has two are uninterested in that field, but there are so many other boyfriends. One comes from a traditional family avenues to get a college degree, which can attract you. background, is serious and dependable but compared to Discuss this matter with your parents, and school the second one, he is rather staid. The second boy is witty counsellor, who can guide you into making a good and and fun to be with, and even a bit of a flirt. Both have informed decision. On such condition, dont drop out from asked me to marry them in five years’ but I cannot choose your school now. These are the golden years when you between them. Who to hold on to and who to give up? can garner as many qualifications as you can. Don’t Both of them are earning very well too. Please tell me squander this time with such foolish ideas. how to make up my mind. ● You are still too young and inexperienced to make LOVE MY MOTHER DEEPLY. INDEED, SHE IS THE SWEETEST such lifetime decisions. And also, you have to wait two Iperson in the world, who is showering all her love on years to marry legally and in this time, many things could me. It makes me ashamed and ungrateful, therefore, change, including your minds! So, for the time being, play to admit frankly, she embarrasses me in the company of it cool, and refuse to choose between the two suitors. my friends because she is uneducated and gauche in her you will likely decide against both of them. behaviour. Marrying early will also make you miss out on the joys In fact, she has studied only up to middle school. I go to of leading a fancy-free, young adult life and chain you a very elite Public School and my classmates belong to down prematurely to responsibilities of home, in-laws high society families. Although, they treat her with respect and even children. whenever they meet her, I have seen them sniggering in When choosing a suitor, ask yourself this question: Do their sleeves too, making me both angry and sad. I want to spend my lifetime with him? Will I be happy with ● him till our old age? The honest answers to these HENEVER MY PALS VISIT ME, MUMMY ENJOYS questions will help you sort out your confusion. Wtalking to them, quite oblivious of their ● secret amusement. What should I do? I am a BELONG TO A FAMILY OF LAWYERS WITH MY FATHER AND TWO 15-year-old girl. Ibrothers being very respected luminaries at the bar. It is unbelievable that you should pose this problem on My parents are keen that I too study Law to follow the our page, when the obvious answer should be staring you tradition; with the family clout, it will be very easy to gain in the face!! Stop feeling ashamed of your own mother entry into any prestigious firm.The truth, however, is that who bore you and has cared for you all these years, just to I am least interested in a career. impress your so-called friends. I love homemaking, and dream of marrying and Let the good lady join your friends’group. Make it becoming the mother of at least four children.This notion eminently clear that you are proud of her, and love her will indeed sound strange in these times, when girls unconditionally. Drop the friends who make fun of her; they want to work and earn money and not marry till they are are unworthy of your friendship and are a despicable snooty pretty old. bunch. Stick to the ones who show true respect to your I don’t even want to go to college. After all, what will a mother, for these are the ones with the right values. degree give me, when all that I want is to be a contented It is time too that you made a complete transformation homemaker? If my parents know that I would like to drop yourself. If you love your mother, how can you tolerate out of my studies, they will be shocked and angry. Why someone ridiculing her? Stop wanting to impress such cand I decide to do what I like and not let others decide my petty minded persons. If they desert you, good riddance life choices? I am a 16-year-old girl who will complete to bad rubbish. schooling next year. This column is especially for teenagers. Adolescence can, we know, be a You do have the right to decide what you wish to do trying and confusing time. There are so many questions which seem to with your life, but think carefully before making any evade solutions. A wrong decision, or an indiscreet move, can spell drastic decision. Education empowers a person and helps disaster and ruin a life. Share your problem, worry or doubt with us and one to stand on one’s feet. WE will help you find a way out — to a happier, healthier and more It does not imply that you should take up a career and successful adult life. Send your problems to: WOMAN’S ERA E-3, Jhandewala Estate, New Delhi-110 055, Womansera.com give a back seat to marriage and home. When you are

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 71 Teenage Love Can Be A Confusing Emotion. By Himshikha Shukla

eenage couples often have get divorced before they have been skills and control over their Tpeople tell them that young married for ten years. emotions which can all make the love rarely lasts. These people Young love carries a lot of relationship difficult. aren't trying to be mean; they are emotion with it. It can be an Romantic relationships can have trying to save teenagers from incredibly wonderful and intense very unhealthy outcomes. By heartache. Chances are these emotion. It can also be extremely cutting themselves off from people had their hearts broken by confusing. Love is difficult for many friendship and other supportive young love in the past and are mature adults to manage, making it networks, they can compromise the trying to spare the feelings of the that much harder for teenagers. identity formation. Adolescents can teenager they are talking to. But However, just because it's be exposed to abusive and violent every teenager has the same confusing doesn't mean that young interactions or unwanted or response to this—"it's going to be love isn't real. Sometimes it is, and coerced sexual activity within their different for us." sometimes it's not. Here are some romantic relationships. Aggression There are some young couples things to remember about young between romantic partners is and high school sweethearts that love. common and when it occurs online, make it. They stand the test of time. Teenagers start a crush mostly to the ex-partners may share private Their exciting young relationship be able to say “I have a boy- or photos or information on social grows and develops into true love. girlfriend,'' and to start to know the media, causing embarrassment or However, for every high school opposite sex. In fact, they are not humiliation. Some have been couple that remains together, there falling in love as they never surprisingly seen to accept these are many more that don't. And, of experience the sense of caring, situations by interpreting them as the couples that do get married commitment, and completeness in reflections of love, jealousy and after high school, over 50% of them the relationship. They lack social overly possessive behaviours.

IN FACT, THEY ARE NOT FALLING IN LOVE AS THEY NEVER EXPERIENCE THE SENSE OF CARING, COMMITMENT, AND COMPLETENESS IN THE RELATIONSHIP. Infatuation Is Confused YOUNG LOVE TENDS TO BE BASED ON NOTHING With Love Relationships are confusing for BUT FEELINGS. THE COUPLE HAS NOT YET FACED young people because they are AND OVERCOME A CHALLENGE OR DIFFICULTY experiencing feelings of romantic TOGETHER. THEY ARE PASSIONATE ABOUT EACH love and attraction for the first OTHER. THEY THINK ABOUT EACH OTHER time. They are just starting to figure it all out. Since these are feelings CONSTANTLY AND WANT TO SPEND ALL THEIR that many mature adults struggle TIME TOGETHER. with, you can only imagine how much more of a struggle it can be for teenagers. The first feelings that preteens and teens usually experience are feelings of infatuation or a crush. The feelings are more intense than the young person is used to, and are easily mistaken for love. Young love tends to be based on nothing but feelings. The couple has not yet faced and overcome a challenge or difficulty together. They are passionate about each other. They think about each other constantly and want to spend all their time together. Chances are they blush at the mention of the other, get sweaty palms, experience a racing heart, and desire for the other. Many times, they don't even know each other well. These feelings are a natural reaction and not something the teen is choosing. When the relationship faces the are looking for. Young love often learn what's important to you, you first challenge, like a disagreement blinds teenagers to the real may realize that your boyfriend or between the couple, it can be blown situation. This can make love seem girlfriend isn't the type of person out of proportion. Those that are even more confusing. You may think you want to be with. experiencing young love mistakenly that you found the perfect person, believe that love comes without but as you continue to mature and A Lot Is Going On In Life trials. However, the exact opposite Teenagers are busier than ever is true. True love develops when a TEENAGERS ARE these days. They are expected to couple decides to overcome the stay on top of their schoolwork, challenges that face them and stay BUSIER THAN EVER which often includes hours of together despite them. THESE DAYS. THEY ARE homework and studying outside of EXPECTED TO STAY ON school. On top of that, many play Teenagers Are Still In The sports or have a part-time job. Process Of Discovering Who TOP OF THEIR When you add these things in with They Are SCHOOLWORK, WHICH family and friends, it's difficult to Young love is even more OFTEN INCLUDES add a romantic relationship on top challenging because you are still in HOURS OF HOMEWORK of that. If the two individuals don't the process of finding out who you agree on what the right amount of are. When you fall in love and are in AND STUDYING time is to spend with each other, a serious relationship before you OUTSIDE OF SCHOOL. then one or both will end up know yourself, it can cause many ON TOP OF THAT, MANY frustrated and confused. problems down the road. To please Teens that find themselves in the the other person, you do things PLAY SPORTS OR HAVE throes of young love need to be they enjoy doing. You may even A PART-TIME JOB. open with each other about believe that you like these things for expectations. This can help to a while. But in the future, there eliminate confusion in the could come a day when you realize relationship. you have been wasting your time doing things that you don't enjoy to Peer Pressure Plays A Role In It please someone else. Peer pressure is something that This makes young love confusing teenagers deal with at a much because the more you learn about higher level than any other age yourself, the more you may find group. It can make young love that you don't enjoy spending and relationships very time with the other person like complicated. Teens can feel you once thought you did. pressured to be in a relationship And it works the other way even if they aren't interested as well. You may think you because all of their friends are in found the perfect person relationships. They can also be that you are compatible pressured to take the with, but then they start relationship to the next level realizing they like different even if they are not ready to. things. It's easy to feel There is an intense desire to fit betrayed when this in with their peers, and it happens. However, it's most makes it easy to cross likely not that the other boundaries that they wouldn't person was trying to trick have crossed otherwise. you but that they didn't know themselves well It Might Be One-Sided enough. There is nothing quite as upsetting as being a teenager in Teenagers Often Don't love with someone who Know What They Are doesn't feel the same way. Looking For Young love is an intense Experience and maturity are emotion that can be important in life. When you look overwhelming. If the for someone to be in a relationship feelings aren't returned, with, you need to know what you many kids struggle with how to move forward. Some remain know who you are, what you like, playing a sport and need time to obsessed with the other for years and what you don't like. Once you practice and spend time with your until school ends and they are no know who you are, don't team, be upfront about this. longer bumping into each other on compromise that for any other Don't lose focus. School is going a regular basis. person, no matter how much you to go by quickly, and you need to love them. Someone who loves you have a plan for what comes next. Tips On Young Love for the right reasons won't ask you Don't lose focus because you are so Don't date your friend's ex. You to make compromises. consumed with your relationship. may have strong feelings for that Don't isolate yourself. Don't Whether you plan on going to person, but you need to determine sacrifice your relationships with school or starting a career, make how important your friend is to you. family and friends for the person sure you’re prioritizing your future. Many high school friendships end you are dating. You may want to Don't be in a hurry to find love. because of young love that doesn't spend a lot of time with them but Spend your time learning who you last. Your friend might even say it's make sure that save time for others are and what you like. Enjoy time OK, but you better know for sure as well. with your family and friends and before you date their ex. Get on the same page. Talk to trying new things. Life is an Spend some time getting to the other person to make sure you adventure. If love finds you, then know yourself. You want to be in a are both on the same page and feel make sure you deal with it the right relationship with someone that likes the same way. Then communicate way; but don't worry about trying you for you. That means you have to your expectations. If you are to make it happen. We He Didn’t Spare Me Brothers are scounderls and some are morons I am saved in this life that I don’t have a brother When I was in college I have seen my juniors, my batch mates Who have brothers, a lot of brother’s Some were nice, but some were brothers with other needs

From when did I start hating brothers? From the day a brother behaved like a bastard, I was small, but he didn’t spare me!

Whenever someone ask my father, “Oh, you have two girls! No boys” I feel like to carry his head in a basket full of chopped flesh Why can’t he see me? Am I not enough for my father? Why should I invite an intruder? To harm my soul and body

When my little sister said “if I had a brother he would have taken me on a bike” The next day I drove a 220CC bike all south to meet her Once I had a friend who kept on saying “If I had a brother my life would have been better” I am still not sure how a brother can make her life better?

So do I have a brother? No my mother is saved from a boy child My father is saved from another man’s mercy Always and always his word will be final I will never say “he is like my brother” Because not all likes are made of love. This poem is srictly not for “my brother is my world girls”. – Greema Michael, Pondicherry.

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 75 Short Story Songs Of Spring

The Power of Prayer By : Someeta Das

The mornings were pring was in the air. sustenance, and she on right temperature, his never quite easy. SThe songs of the birds them, for serenity and clothes to be readied, and as they flew to their peace of mind. With her then after a hurried The children had nests,sounded melodious children Meeta aged ten breakfast, while Rukmini to be pulled out and sweet as Rukmini and Raghav, aged twelve at sipped her tea, with a of their beds, stood on the verandah school,and her husband goodbye- see –you- later- listening to them. After the Nitin at office, this time in rush out, which meant that groaning, and day’s hard work, it was late the late afternoon,was the now she could catch her pushed to complete in the afternoon when she time she could call her own. breath and bring some their morning had some time for herself The mornings were order into the disorder of when she could tend to the never quite easy. The the house. rituals, given their garden in the small children had to be pulled Rukmini lived on the breakfast and tiffin backyard. She was out of their beds, groaning, ground floor in a four and finally packed particularly fond of her and pushed to complete storied apartment building, off to school. garden, though it was just a their morning rituals, given with her husband and very small patch, and there their breakfast and tiffin children. It was a blessing were only a few rose and finally packed off to to live on the ground floor bushes, a tulsi tree, along school. Nitin too had to be for she had the advantage with magenta petunia. But woken with his tea at the of the small area near the she always felt relaxed in kitchen,which liberated this haven. For this her spirit from the place gave her a It was a blessing to live on the monotony of daily routine sense of freedom, as ground floor for she had the life. It was here, she could she could be amongst advantage of the small area near the spend the little time she her favorite flowers and kitchen,which liberated her spirit had to call her own, where she depended on them from the monotony of daily she could think, maybe as they did on her. It was routine life. even heave a deep heartfelt an interdependence, they sigh of relief and even on her for their water and sometimes speak or sing to herself, without feeling guilty. She had planted the wilting. She was puzzled as was tending to her plants, tell her to be logical and not rose bushes herself-getting she had dutifully watered she noticed that one of the let her imagination run them from the nursery, a it, even had given the yellow rose plant seemed a wild. She knew she could couple of red and yellow plants manure a couple of little withered. For a not relate that sense of rose plants and could tend weeks earlier. But moment she stared and foreboding to anyone, so to them only at this time of strangely, the particular tried to figure out as to she just prayed silently, the day. Though she plant did not respond to her what was wrong. It was the asking for courage to deal managed to water them care. She was a little month of April, and the with whatever challenges twice a day in the summer worried for she cared for summers had not quite set came her way.She when they withered and them like her own children, in. She had dutifully appeared to be quiet over appeared to have wilted in and worried in the same watered them twice, in dinner, as the children the heat, but in the winter manner if either of them between cooking lunch and squabbled over something when they blossomed, she were sick. But all thoughts cleaning. She tried to recall that happened in school. had the satisfaction of were driven away when the when she had last tended Noticing her being seeing her roses bloom, red very next day her husband to them. Abstractedly she unusually thoughtful, Nitin and yellow, their size came home with a raging thought “Today is asked “What is wrong? Are surprising her. She loved all fever. She was upset and Wednesday-did I not give you feeling unwell?” her plants, but the yellow puzzled as Nitin had left the manure last Thursday”. Rukmini shook her head rose plants held a special home in the morning Yes, she remembered that and smiled, saying“ No, I place in her heart. She had without any physical am perfectly fine”. That heard somewhere that one discomfort. It took quite a Rukmini soothed entire night she tossed and must treat plants like few days for him to recover him, put some turned trying to imagine humans, which she did, from that bout of illness, ointment gently and various things going wrong. talking and singing to them and get back to his regular Next morning with the softly, sometimes even routine.The next time, she carefully nursed usual hustle-bustle of the confiding to them, when had noticed something him, all the while day, she forgot her she did not feel well, or wrong with one of the red thinking “Is it a misgivings and appeared to after a difference of opinion rose plant.The buds were coincidence?” be her normal self. Settling with the children, or her there, but before flowering Again, it took a few the house once it was husband. they were falling off. She empty, the sense of dread decided to call the nursery days for Raghav to returned. Glancing at the t was spring, but both the and ask them to send a be completely fit, garden,she saw that the Ired and yellow rose trees gardener to deal with the before he returned yellow rose tree seemed were still flowering. She problem. But this time to school. further withered. She knew with the summers curiously, the very next day hurried out, and started setting in, the plants would Rangav came home from it was Thursday, for she watering them and be the first to suffer. school with an injured leg. had to buy the grocery speaking softly asked, Somehow she had the He had twisted his left leg from the local market. She ”Why don’t you tell me feeling that the plants fate while playing, and hurt it had mixed the manure to what is wrong? “ She felt a was intertwined with her badly. He came limping the soil, and then bathed, shiver run through her. own. She did not believe in back from school, having a quick lunch, superstitions for she was accompanied by his sister. hurried to the shops. Then he call came just while well educated, and it not Rukmini soothed him, put it struck her, was Tshe was having lunch. practical and defied logic, some ointment gently and something going to The shrill ringing of the but she felt though strange carefully nursed him, all the happen? She was filled with telephone shook her out of it was true. Earlier, when while thinking “Is it a dread, and now had a her reverie. It was her the yellow rose bush was coincidence?” Again, it sinking feeling in her husband, Nitin. His voice wilting she felt a sense of took a few days for Raghav stomach as she tried to shaking a little, asked her foreboding and discomfort, to be completely fit, before stop panic setting in. not to wait for him and to that something he returned to school. She “What is going to have her dinner with the unfortunate was going to thanked her stars that it happen? Are the plants children. He seemed to be happen.Eerily enough, was not a fracture, and trying to tell me in a hurry, before Rukmini something did happen, just apart from a couple of days something”, she asked could ask him what was as she thought it would. rest, it was nothing serious. herself. She thought of wrong, he had rung off. She remembers edit had It seemed magical as the taking her husband Nitin Now she was in a dilemma happened twice, that one red rose tree started into confidence. But she as his voice had revealed time when one of the flowering once again. knew that he would nothing. She went over yellow rose plant was That evening as Rukmini probably laugh at her,and every word he had spoken,

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 77 but could not deduce Dinner, was the usual She was already But what was this? Nitin anything. Did his voice chatter, with the children stood there with a box of sound worried or anxious? asking about Nitin and then planning to call sweets, a smile playing on She asked herself. At one relating what had Nitin’s office his lips. Turning moment she thought of happened at school, colleagues and ask indignantly, Rukmini calling him, but Nitin had Rukmini engrossed them for help when greeted him with a frown, said he would be busy, so listened, as she asked the doorbell rang. about to speak angrily as to she did not like to disturb about their lessons and saw how worried she was, ready him. Moreover, she felt to their homework before Rukmini got up to vent her anger, when that she was worrying they went to play. slowly fearing the Nitin stopped her by unnecessarily and was Sometime later, putting worst. Was it saying” First listen to me reading too much into his them to sleep and glancing someone from the and then speak, for you are call. Maybe he would be at the grandfather clock in police station speaking to the Vice dining with a client, and the dining room, she saw it President of the company” therefore would be a little was quite late and Nitin had saying that Nitin Rukmini’s mouth fell open, late, she reasoned. She still not returned home. had met with an as the angry words died on hurriedly completed her Again, she started feeling accident or her lips. She knew that work, and went to the anxious and kept looking at someone from the Nitin had been angling for garden. the clock after every few office to inform her the post for quite minutes. Panic was slowly sometime, for the post had he was now kneeling setting as it was way past that Nitinhad been beenlying vacant for a few Sdown besides the ten and there was still no admitted to the months now.She knew that yellow rose bush, speaking word from him. Rukmini hospital. there was another tenderly to it, as she tried decided to call him, but contender for the post, and up slowly fearing the worst. to find the reason for its Nitin was not picking up the of late Nitin had appeared Was it someone from the wilting. She sang softly phone. It kept ringing till quite distracted.” The final police station saying that and it somehow seemed to the automated service interview was today” Nitin Nitin had met with an her that the plant looked declared that the person said.” I wanted to see the accident or someone from comforted. Was it a was not responding to her surprise on your face and so the office to inform her that figment of imagination call.She was already did not tell you anything”. Nitinhad been admitted to that it seemed to be planning to call Nitin’s Caught unawares, thehospital. Her hands had responding to her words? office colleagues and ask Rukmini started crying. started sweating and her She spent a few moments them for help when the Nitin put his arms around feet refused to obey her. more and then hearing the doorbell rang. Rukmini got her as Rukmini sobbed her The bell rang again, this voice of the children, she heart and troubles time a little impatiently. returned to the house in out.Hearing her out, her Dragging her feet forward, time to see them entering Dragging her feet premonition, Nitin took her with a prayer on her lips, and searching for her. forward, with a prayer on out to the garden. Rukmini she managed to open the her lips, she managed to stared in surprise and door. open the door. disbelief. The yellow rose plant now appeared quite healthy. She saw a small bud had just started appearing. She now knew that connecting the plants to her own sense of foreboding was just a figment of imagination. Nature, she knew was a great teacher. The ways of the Almighty were mysterious and so Rukmini swore to herself that never again would she connect the two as Faith and Prayers were more powerful than Fate and Destiny. We barnacle to the side of a ship and mixed emotions with relief and quickly herded me out of the hall anger jostling for equal space. It’s towards the customer service desk. human nature to transfer the blame It was a closed hall with minimal for our shortcomings onto someone exit points so he told me to stay put else; even the one we’ve wronged. while he took actions to plug the It was why I wanted to hug my exits. He needed more eyes to hunt daughter to within an inch of her up the baby and needed the life and also beat her up. Before you customer desk staff’s help to do so. call child services, no, I didn’t raise a By now itwas some 10 minutes since hand on her. I remember staring at I had lost her and before he could the floor rather than the lady at the A Big Impact start explaining to the staff what stall and mumbling something My husband, almost two year old was up I just lost it and started before grabbing our daughter and daughter and a very pregnant I had howling like a Banshee. The worried leaving. gone to see a lifestyle exhibition in staff and even more worried I don’t think I thanked the kind a Hotel. husband had to spend precious lady enough because I was deeply I was a very possessive mother minutes calming me down lest I embarrassed about the meltdown and almost never let anyone else went into labour there and then. I (everyone heard me howling I’m take charge of my chick. Hence it remember some part of my mind sure) and that I had lost our kid in was I who was toting along the being really surprised that I was the first place. I’m sure my husband aforementioned chick from stall to reacting like this and going to thanked her enough for both of us. stall while she tried to touch things pieces since till then I had always This incident was like a light shining and basically stall my progress! assumed that I had nerves of steel upon my holier than thou bearing. I We came upon a stall with hand and could handle any crisis well. Till realised that A, I wasn’t the better painted plates from Turkey and in then being a mother who had lost parent, B, I couldn’t handle a crisis order to have a closer look I left the her child was a theoretical concept which involved my kids (remember I hand of my daughter. In all of a with me acting as a silent Judge and was expecting our second child) minute I was done and Jury condemning any parent for this and C, my baby was just that, a baby automatically reached for her tiny dastardly act. Probably the powers and I needed to treat her as such. fingers to only encounter air. that be wanted to teach me some Taking kids to such crowded places Turning to my side and looking humility and also acquaint me with was ok as long as one parent was a down I saw a lot of different waists myself that led to this life altering “Black Cat” and hyper vigilant and footwear but no kid. Confident incident. about their whereabouts. that she wouldn’t leave my side to Finally my husband’s words – By Suruchi Rastogi actually get lost I looked in the penetrated that if he had to look stalls around all the while getting after me how would he look for our ready to scold her for leaving my baby? Leaving me to continue to hand. Never mind that it was I who sob albeit less intensely, the staff had let go of an infant’s hand. By and he then got into high gear with airline standards any child below the first act being to close off all the Has something the age of two is an infant. Here I exit points and check any people happened in your life must admit that while I was super leaving with a small baby girl. I don’t that has left an indelible possessive of her I was also always remember how much time had impression on your mind? Some treating her like a grown up child passed when they found our experience that gladdens your because she was and is an old soul daughter sitting behind a stall with heart or which makes you shudder and was mature beyond her years. a lady who had coaxed her into with pain or embarrassment even Does this sound like an excuse for sitting down. When we ran (or after years! Why not share it with why I misplaced her? waddled in my case) up to the stall the readers of Woman’s Era? All Trying to hunt up my husband the lady said that she had thought published incidents will be paid who had wandered off to maybe that this baby might be lost and Rs 200. Send your entries to: the next row of stalls I was thus made her sitbeside her at the INCIDENT unravelling and starting to stall. She explained that she being hyperventilate when I saw him. alone couldn’t leave her stall to go E-3 Jhandewala Estate, New Delhi-110055. Imagine a beached whale running up to the customer desk and so had Womansera.com towards an unsuspecting human. decided to wait for someone to Name: He managed to keep his balance as I miss a child. Mobile: crashed into him and clung on like a Seeing my baby I had a bagful of E-mail:

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 79 Homeless How Teenagers Become Homeless? By Rama

oungsters who become Teens!they are viewed as rebellious Yhomeless are unexpectedly teenagers who venture out from portrayed in the media. Here home for genuinely negligible and there they are depicted as reasons; as instigators burnt out on coming from families and homes doing the dishes, who would prefer that are portrayed by savagery. On not to remain in school or find a different instants, they are depicted new line of work, yet rather need to as youthful swashbucklers, who try different things with the venture out from the home to 'bohemian' way of life. From this explore the world and search out viewpoint, the roads are believed to the gleaming lights of the enormous 'pull' youngsters towards fervor and city. However different occasions, opportunity. There are a few reasons why a Surfers the city or even in vehicles when teenager may be living in the These are viewed as the they can't discover a spot. present homeless circumstance. shrouded poor teenagers. They Moreover, these children may do don't have a perpetual spot, so they random temp jobs, tasks or sexual Living on the Street depend on companions, family courtesies for a spot to rest. With Needy young people go through members, neighbors or outsiders no spot to remain forever, all that their days searching the roads for ready to loan them a sofa to rest on. they own normally fits inside a money and food. Some choose to While these youngsters may have rucksack that they convey. join a gang figure the individuals will warmth or food, they don't have secure them. Notwithstanding, the any feeling of strength since they Issues At Home posse movement is similarly need to locate another spot when Several teens that are actually, perilous since a large number of they outstay their welcome. These inwardly, and additionally explicitly them require new individuals to destitute teenagers continually manhandled will runaway, so they fight, put forward murder or take stress where they will rest and may don't need to suffer it any more. A for commencement and build-up go through certain evenings living in few teenagers flee in light of the position inside the gathering. Asylums are accessible in huge urban communities; in any case, they top off quickly. A penniless young person's bed or perhaps a sweeping normally winds up in a recreation center, under a scaffold, interstate underpass, or in the forested areas. The colder time of year presents more concerning issues-particularly in colder atmospheres. Without satisfactory warm asylum, teenagers can turn out to be sick, experience the ill effects of hypothermia or stick to death. Discovering Homes in roads, or discarded Buildings Some poor teenagers may have some kind of rooftop over their heads. They need to discover approaches to bring in money for food. Not being of lawful age to work implies numerous young people go to burglary. Some think that it's simpler to skillet handle or THE COLDER TIME OF fact that their folks are in a high sell sex and medications for asylum, clash separate. They may feel as food, and money. In any case, this YEAR PRESENTS MORE though they are the motivation places them at risk for assault, CONCERNING ISSUES- behind why their folks can't get actual maltreatment, and murder. PARTICULARLY IN along or they would prefer not to Moreover, most lodgings are pay by be around their folks battling. week or day. Accordingly, this COLDER ATMOSPHERES. Guardians who have a dysfunctional asylum could be lost at any second WITHOUT behavior or are dependent on sending them back to the roads. SATISFACTORY WARM medications and additionally liquor Vehicles or deserted structures can might be careless or advice their be repossessed, which means ASYLUM, TEENAGERS teen to leave their home against youngsters should be ready CAN TURN OUT TO BE his/her desires. consistently. They should have an SICK, EXPERIENCE THE Parental Economic Difficulties arrangement for what to do if their ILL EFFECTS OF Guardians, who are jobless and impermanent haven is lost. We have lose their temporary housing, may come dangerously close to HYPOTHERMIA OR STICK get penniless alongside their accepting the homeless situation. TO DEATH. youngsters. In any case, in light of

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 81 Sexual Orientation The same number of as 40% of homeless teenagers and youth are considered among the LGBT people group. Either these teenagers may decide to flee from homes that aren't tolerating of their sexual direction or they may be kicked out by guardians that can't acknowledge their decision. Outcomes and Risks At the point when youngsters flee, a significant number of them don't think about the results of living without a steady home. This way of life can prompt various dangers. Crime Teenagers that live on the road are bound to perpetrate what are considered "survival acts," which much of the time implies crime. Not the threats of the road and asylum MANY YOUNGSTERS exclusively will they take, however accessibility, numerous teenagers they may likewise join a group or separate from their parents. WHO BECOME offer drugs to endure. Most HOMELESS COME homeless teenagers are vigorously Home Instability FROM FAMILIES LIVING 'in danger' of engaging in Kids who have experienced wrongdoings. childhood in the outline may think IN NEEDINESS. THIS that its debilitating when they DOESN'T REALLY IMPLY Prostitution should over and again move all THAT THE FAMILIES Mostly homeless teenagers have through support homes. As a exchanged sex for money and some portion of these kids become young ARE NOT MINDFUL AND for food or haven. Homeless people, they become less adaptable STRONG. youngsters likewise experience about their everyday environments NONETHELESS, WE DO various kinds of physical and and choose to flee. REALIZE THAT LIVING IN psychological mistreatment. Poverty DESTITUTION CAN Emotional wellness Issues Many youngsters who become AFFECT INSTRUCTIVE and Suicide homeless come from families living Homeless youth experience a in neediness. This doesn't really AND WELLBEING wide range of psychological well- imply that the families are not RESULTS AND ON ONE'S being issues like discouragement, mindful and strong. Nonetheless, CAPACITY TO FIND A tension problem, lead issue, PTSD we do realize that living in and low confidence at raised rates. destitution can affect instructive NEW LINE OF WORK. These teenagers additionally have a and wellbeing results and on one's THIS WAY OF LIFE CAN higher pace of self-hurting capacity to find a new line of work. PROMPT VARIOUS practices. Moreover, as youngsters get more DANGERS. experienced, it could be harder for Lack of Education families to keep on supporting them on the present moment by their Several young people that are monetarily. parents for different reasons. For homeless will need legitimate instance, a parent may kick a training. They either can't or don't Kicked Out teenager out after a fight. decide to go to class. Some Vagrancy doesn't need to be a Teenagers may likewise be forever additionally can't pursue classes drawn out thing. A few teenagers kicked out for drug infringement or since they don't have enough have been kicked out of their homes crime as well. resources. We

82 Woman’s Era ● March 2021 SWIM REGULARLY EVERY SUMMER SEASON. THIS TIME I I am Pregnant Irealized that I am pregnant. My family members do not want me to swim any longer but this the only type of exercise pleasurable, I would very much & like to continue doing so. Can I? A Swimming is an excellent form of exercise with Q or without pregnancy. You can continue doing so till term when the buoyancy of the water will ease the AM ONE AND HALF MONTHS PREGNANT. I AM VERY FOND Of weight of the enlarged uterus and make you feel relaxed. Igardening. It is in fact my passion and has a calming effect on However there is a risk of catching skin, eye, ear and intestinal my stressed nerves. Even the nausea of pregnancy decreases infections from the pool so use one that is well maintained and when I sit in my garden and breathe in the fresh, clean air. Please take all the necessary hygienic precautions one takes before tell me if it is advisable to continue gardening during pregnancy. and after swimming. Also, do not overexert yourself. One does The first trimester of pregnancy is not a good time to indulge not realize that one can get overheated in the pool too and in your passion for gardening. Studies have shown that weed this is not good for the baby. killers may cause developmental problems. If you are really keen ● to continue wear rubber gloves while gardening in areas where AM IN THE 8TH MONTH OF MY FIRST PREGNANCY AND HAVE pesticides have been used. developed severe itching all over my body. This has ● I occurred despite the fact that I am very conscious about AM TWO MONTHS PREGNANT BUT THE ULTRASOUND REVEALED my body hygiene. There is no rash but the itch is making me Ijust a fluid filled sac with no baby inside. What does this miserable. Please tell me why has this occurred and what do I mean? Am I pregnant or not? What should be done? do about it? You are pregnant alright but all is not well with the Itching without a rash in the last trimester of pregnancy pregnancy. In all probability you have a blighted ovum. You could be due to a condition called Cholestasis of pregnancy should get the ultrasound repeated after two week. wherein the liver functions are deranged, as confirmed by a If no fetal node has appeared by then the conceptus has to be blood test. This leads to a collection of bile in the body which aborted as it is defective. Your doctor may send the products of causes the itch. Your doctor will prescribe medications for the conception for karyotyping to detect chromosomal same and you will have to apply lotions like lacto-calamine abnormalities if any. externally to soothe the itch. The obstetrical implication of this ● condition is that, on rare occasions, it can lead to intrauterine AM EIGHT MONTHS PREGNANT WITH MY FIRST BABY. ONMYLAST death of the baby near term. To avoid such a calamity, Iantenatal visit my obstetrician told me that the fluid in which obstetricians usually induce labour and deliver the woman at the baby floats is less, a fact that was confirmed on thirty eighth week of pregnancy - two weeks before term. ultrasound. What does it signify? I am very worried. ● Decreased amniotic fluid alerts us to the fact that all my not AM EIGHTH MONTHS PREGNANT WITH MY FIRST CHILD BUT LOOK be well with the baby. You will require more frequent antenatal Ipositively huge. At times I find it difficult to lie down, get up checkups and serial ultrasounds to monitor the progress of from the lying position. There is even difficulty in the baby. breathing.Earlier ultrasound have rule out the possibility of If no further deterioration is found, you will be allowed to twins. Now it has been found that there is excessive fluid in carry the pregnancy to near term. On the other hand if the my uterus. Please tell me why is it so? What are the implications various parameters worsen, the baby will be delivered as soon as of such a condition and is it possible to decrease the fluid and deemed necessary. make my life comfortable for there is still a month to go. ● Excessive fluid in the uterus can cause maternal distress as Y RECENT ULTRASOUND SHOWED A LOOSE LOOP OF CORD you know. The reason for increased amniotic fluid is not Maround the neck. I am in the thirty sixth week of my generally known though some women with congenital pregnancy. Please tell me what to do? Should we opt malformations like anencephaly (absence of the baby’s head) for a cesarean section right away lest the cord strangulate my do have increased fluid. There is no treatment for hydramnios baby? Please tell me what to do. but if it is causing breathlessness, the doctors can give you A loose loop of cord around the neck is no reason temporary relief by removing some amount of fluid. to panic and according to medical guidelines, not a reason to ● do a cesarean section. However, in rare cases it can I AM 21 YEARS OLD AND AM FIVE MONTHS PREGNANT BUT MY STOMACH IS be stretched at the time of labour when the head descends BARELY NOTICEABLE. WHY IS IT SO? low down causing fetal distress which may require hastening As this is the first time that you have conceived, the muscle birth by applying a forceps or vacuum. tone of your abdominal wall is good and that does not allow the Some people are not willing to take any risk and give enlarging uterus to fall forwards. Get yourself examined by an a signature for a preference for cesarean section. Discuss the obstetrician and if she says that the pregnancy is growing pros and cons with your obstetrician and make an informed normally you have no cause for worry. choice. – Dr. A.K. Bajaj

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 83 New Family Everyday cooking recipes.Favorite!

1 1/2 teaspoon cumin and minced garlic into the pan. CHICKEN 1 teaspoon black pepper Cook the veggies for 3-4 minutes TACO SOUP 1 teaspoon oregano until they become soft. 1/4 cup fresh lime juice Now add the chicken breast, INGREDIENTS: 1 cup chicken broth tomatoes, lime juice, all the 800 grams boneless chicken spices, and chicken broth. Stir the breast ingredients well. After a boil, let 1/2 teaspoon coconut oil METHOD: the soup cook for 25-30 minutes so that the chicken can be 1 small chopped green bell pepper Heat a large pan on medium shredded easily. 1 small chopped red bell pepper flame. Once hot, add the coconut oil. Put the onion, bell peppers, Shred the chicken with the help 1 medium chopped onion of two forks. Mix the soup again. 1 small diced tomato Serve it hot with some freshly 6 cloves minced garlic chopped coriander leaves. 2 teaspoons salt

Chicken taco soup CARIBBEAN STYLE STEAMED FISH INGREDIENTS: 3-4 prominent pieces of fish of your choice (low fat) 1/4 cup lime juice 1 finely chopped green bell pepper 1 finely chopped red bell pepper 1 sliced onion 1 diced carrot 4 cloves crushed garlic 1/2 teaspoon black pepper 1 teaspoon salt Caribbean style steamed fish 1 teaspoon butter 1 teaspoon olive oil 2 cups water water and let it boil. Now, add the INGREDIENTS: fish pieces. Put the lid on and 700 grams boneless chicken leave the pot on low flame for 20 breast METHOD: minutes. Have it with some brown 1 small diced onion Marinate the fish with garlic, rice. salt, black pepper and lime juice 1 medium green bell pepper and let it rest for 10 minutes. largely diced Place a heavy bottom wide pot 1 medium red bell pepper largely on medium flame. Add the butter VGRILLED diced and oil to it. After the butter melts 1 small zucchini thickly sliced completely, put the bell peppers, VEGETABLE 2 teaspoons black pepper carrots and onion into it. Cook the CHICKEN 2 teaspoons oregano veggies for the next minutes. 2 teaspoons of paprika After adding garlic, add the KEBABS 1/4 teaspoon Himalayan salt

Grilled vegetable chicken kebabs METHOD: Pre-heat the griller to 350 degrees. Boil the chicken with some Himalayan salt. Cut the boil chicken into small square cubes. Season them with paprika, black pepper and oregano. Keep it aside. Deseed the bell peppers. Place the vegetables and chicken cube onto the skewers in your desired order. Place them onto the grill for 4 minutes. After grilling each side, remove the heat. The kebabs are ready to eat. You may sprinkle some salt additionally. You can have it only with hummus dip or can have it with some cooked quinoa. SLOW COOKED CHICKEN STEW INGREDIENTS: 800 grams chicken breast 1 small onion diced 1 small red bell pepper diced 1 small green bell pepper diced 4 cloves of garlic minced 1 small tomato roughly chopped 2 teaspoons olive oil 1/2 teaspoon salt 1/2 teaspoon black pepper 1/4 teaspoon paprika 3-4 large cups of water Slow cooked chicken stew

METHOD: You can have it with multigrain 1 teaspoon cumin powder Boil the chicken breast with a bread toast. 1 small chopped onion pinch of salt. Toss the chicken 4-5 cloves of minced garlic with paprika and black pepper. 1/2 teaspoon salt Heat a large pan on medium 1/2 teaspoon black pepper flame. Add the oil. Now add the MEXICAN 1 small tomato chopped onion and garlic. Let it cook for 1-2 1 ½ cups quinoa minutes. At this point, add STYLE STUFFED tomatoes, bell peppers and PEPPERS 1 1/3 cup shredded cheese chicken to the pan. Sauté the ingredients for next few minutes INGREDIENTS: METHOD: and add the water. 4-5 large bell peppers Preheat the oven to 375 Cook the soup for next 1 hour 700 grams minced chicken degrees. Prepare the baking tray on low flame. 2 teaspoons extra virgin olive oil by applying some olive oil. 1 teaspoon chili powder Deseed the bell peppers. Take out the remaining membranes from them. Cut them from the Mexican style stuffed peppers top. Place the cut bell peppers on the tray.Place a large pan on medium flame and add oil. Now add the chicken, onion, garlic, chili powder, cumin powder salt and pepper. Cook it for 4 minutes until the chicken becomes slightly brown. Add the tomatoes and cook for another 1 minute. Add the quinoa and 3/4 cup cheese with the sautéed ingredients after removing the pan from heat. Mound the filling into the bell peppers. Add the remaining cheese on the top. Pour little water into the tray. Bake uncovered for maximum 30 minutes until the cheese melts completely. Enjoy it hot. ZUCCHINI PIZZA INGREDIENTS: 5 medium zucchini 1 cup pizza sauce (You can make it at home) 1/4 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon Italian seasoning 2 teaspoons of fresh herbs- basil or thyme 1/4 teaspoon chili flakes 1/3 teaspoon olive oil 1 1/4 cup of shredded mozzarella 2 teaspoons fresh parmesan cheese Zucchini Pizza

METHOD: 1 cup diced tomatoes Preheat the oven to 375 degrees. Prepare the baking tray GLUTEN-FREE 1/2 cup onion diced by coating some olive oil. TOMATO PASTA 3 cloves of minced garlic Cut the zucchinis lengthwise. 3 teaspoons olive oil Scape out the soft center of the INGREDIENTS: 1 cup mayonnaise zucchinis. Sprinkle some salt 1 packet gluten free pasta 1 egg yolk inside them. Arrange the cut 1/4 teaspoon salt zucchinis on the baking tray. 1/4 teaspoon black pepper Spread pizza sauce inside the Some freshly chopped basil zucchinis generously.Add the mozzarella cheese, zucchini centers, fresh herbs, chili flakes METHOD: and Italian seasoning. Sprinkle the Cook the gluten free pasta parmesan cheese on top. according to the instructions. Bake for 20 minutes until the Drain the water and rinse it with cheese melts and gets light cold water. browned. As it is very filling, you Take a large pot and place it on can have it only for lunch. medium flame. Add the oil. Sauté the garlic, tomatoes and onion for 2 minutes. Now keep on low Gluten-free flame. tomato pasta In a separate bowl mix the egg yolk and mayo well. Add the pasta to the pot with the yolk mixture. Mix all the ingredients till you get a creamy consistency. Stir everything gently on low flame for 3-4 minutes. Add salt and pepper. Mix again. Transfer the pasta to a plate. Garnish it with freshly chopped basil. tablespoon lemon juice, mustard paste, honey, garlic, salt and pepper. Dip both sides of the chicken thighs into the sauce and place them on the prepared tray. In a separate bowl, mix the Brussels sprouts with onion, 1 tablespoon of lime juice and 2 tablespoons of olive oil. Season with salt and pepper and place the sprouts around the chicken on the tray. Roast it for 35 minutes until the chicken is golden and the sprouts are crispy. Serve this hot. You can have it with brown rice or quinoa.

ONE-POT CHICKEN SOUP WITH KALE

Brussels sprouts with AND WHITE honey mustard chicken BEANS INGREDIENTS: sheets into the nonstick tray and 2 ½ cups of shredded chicken BRUSSELS grease them with some olive oil. Take a small bowl. Whisk 2 SPROUTS WITH tablespoons of olive oil, 1 HONEY One-pot chicken MUSTARD soup with kale CHICKEN and white beans INGREDIENTS: 4 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil 2 tablespoons of fresh lime juice 2 tablespoons mustard paste 2 tablespoons honey 4-5 cloves of minced garlic 1 large chopped onion 4-5 medium chicken thighs 1/2 teaspoon salt 1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper 1 1/2 cup Brussels sprout

METHOD: Preheat the oven Preheat the oven to 425 degrees. Place baking Bell pepper zucchini chicken stir-fry

7 cups of chicken broth the ingredients get dissolved. Add 2 cups of chopped fresh kale BELL PEPPER the remaining sesame oil to the 1 large onion diced ZUCCHINI pan. Sauté the garlic and ginger for 5 cloves of minced garlic 40 seconds. Add the sauce to it and CHICKEN cook for 2 minutes. It is the time of 1 tablespoon olive oil add the zucchini. Stir them until the 1 ½ cup slightly drained white STIR-FRY zucchini becomes soft. Turn off the beans INGREDIENTS: flame and add the fried chicken to 1/2 teaspoon sea salt it and mix well. Garnish with the 1/2 teaspoon black pepper 2 cups of zucchini thickly sliced roasted sesame seeds. 850 grams thinly sliced chicken METHOD: breast Conclusion Take a large pot and heat it on 1 tablespoon minced ginger It is not important to starve or medium flame. Add the oil and 1 tablespoon minced garlic indulge into bland foods while put the onion in it. Stir it for 3-4 losing weight. In the weight loss minutes until the onion is soft. 1 cup low sodium chicken broth process, you have to pick the right Now add garlic and sautéfor 2 1/4 cup gluten free soy sauce ingredients based on their minutes. Add the chicken broth, 1 tablespoon brown sugar nutrients but how to make them beans, chicken and keep the 3 teaspoons sesame oil tasty is absolutely in your hands. flame on low. Cook for 15 Some roasted sesame seeds You just need to make sure that minutes to enhance the flavors. you are not adding any harmful Season with salt and pepper. ingredients such as excess salt, Add the kale and cover the pot METHOD: ajinomoto etc. To maintain the for few more minutes. Turn off Take a large pan on medium high healthy weight just stick to healthy the flame. heat. Add two tablespoons sesame diet, keep hydrated and workout Enjoy the soup hot. The best oil. Stir fry the sliced chicken breast regularly. part about this soup is it can be for 2-3 minutes until it becomes stored in the fridge for few more tender. Transfer it to a bowl. In a RecipÏes by: days. You just need to reheat the separate bowl, mix chicken broth, Pooja Banga soup in the microwave before 1/2 tablespoon sesame oil, soy Founder of Cultivating having it. sauce, brown sugar well so that all Health, is a certified Nutritionist.

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 89 Meditation 5 myths to bust regarding peaceful act of attaining higher-self esteem. By Disha Sharma

editation is a solution to our working from home hectic and organize the whole day, and Mcope with all the daily strenuous days in the present provides a sense of problems. Be it a toxic scenario, it is quite difficult to accomplishment of goals per day. working environment or a constant follow the meditative procedure as Interestingly, a report suggested quarrel, mostly we are it requires a lot of time. that in the coming years, the world recommended to practice But if one tries to take out some witness a growing population of meditation. No matter what, the minutes to allow them to breathe in meditation. It has been estimated yoga experts’ videos and tips and mind, they can change the brain that 200–500 million people tricks are all over the internet waves in another direction. This meditate worldwide. indicating it as a great stress-buster direction generally leads to the end In the past years, the practice and anxiety resolution. of the positivity making you filled has suddenly gained importance The sudden outbreak of a deadly with optimism and enthusiasm. and immense popularity. Taking pandemic Coronavirus has given us When a day starts with into the health benefits’ more reason to make it a habit of meditation, your mind consideration, it’s no surprise that a meditation. Unfortunately, due to automatically makes a plan, large number of people use it.

90 Woman’s Era ● March 2021 Another study revealed that it more centered. This positively can reduce insomnia by 50 percent influences people around you and among people. Most importantly, empowers you to do a better job at mindfulness meditation can work, said Giovanni Dienstmann, immediately reduce post-traumatic meditation teacher, creator of the stress disorder 73% of the time. meditation blog Live & Dare, and An interesting co-relation of author of “Practical Meditation: A meditation with children is that Simple Step-by-Step Guide.” almost 10 times more children used meditation in 2017 as compared to Myth: You must be sitting to 2012. In the year 2017, according to meditate National Health Statistics 5.4 It’s not necessary to practice4 percent of children aged 4–17 had meditation while you’re not moving. meditated in the past twelve Other than this, it can be walking months, compared to 0.6 percent in meditations, hiking meditations, 2012. The percentage of boys and meditations, in which you observe girls who used meditation was quite your environment and narrate similar. However, due to various what’s around you. Several types of assumptions and theories available research have suggested that on the internet or through word of AN INTERESTING CO- meditations while moving are more mouth, several myths have been RELATION OF beneficial than non-moving developed around it. From labeling MEDITATION WITH meditations. It includes reducing it as a religious practice to calling it CHILDREN IS THAT anxiety and worry, leading to a hard practice, meditation is achieving a more peaceful state of surrounded by random hypothesis. ALMOST 10 TIMES mind, and organising your thoughts. Here are five myths that can be MORE CHILDREN USED Moving mediation boost blood busted to make meditation a MEDITATION IN 2017 AS flow, increased blood circulation necessary component of your life. and improving digestion,” said Dr. COMPARED TO 2012. 5.4 Judy Ho, clinical and forensic Myth: Meditation must be PERCENT OF CHILDREN neuropsychologist, associate practiced in silence AGED 4–17 HAD professor of psychology at Vipassana meditation, which is Pepperdine University. generally carried out in peace1 and MEDITATED IN THE silence is mostly recommended by PAST TWELVE MONTHS, Myth: Meditation is a yoga experts. Meditation can be COMPARED TO 0.6 religious practice done while walking, running, PERCENT IN 2012. The most prevalent notion humming, or singing. The idea is to regarding meditation is that5 it’s a allow a fresh breath of air in growth as a person to make us feel religious practice. But in fact, it not thoughts that can bring out the proud of ourselves. Problems like at all related to religion. There is no focus on the full attention towards impermanence, anxiety, or stress dogma of religion attached to the our breathing. A quiet mind and can easily be removed by meditation. Be it Hindu, Muslim, activated brain are not necessarily channelizing our thoughts by Sikh, Parsi, Christian, or any person to be accompanied by a still or quiet indulging yourself in meditation. belonging to any caste, creed, or body, said Stephanie Thoma, Stephen McManus, a meditation sect, a belief in God does not rely on meditation facilitator, networking teacher, and director of ‘Three the existing differences in the strategy coach, and author of Jewels’ Meditation Studio in New society. Whether it’s a prayer from a ‘Confident Introvert’. York City suggested the same. Hindu or calling Allah, one person only tries to reach out to their Myth: Meditation is hard Myth: Meditation is a selfish higher esteem or self. Many It’s not challenging to sit2 down indulgence 3 theorists have stated that it’s an act to meditate for long hours. But still, It’s a completely absurd of balancing life acts. it can be easily done anywhere and statement that meditation is a Therefore, it can be said that anytime. It is a simple act of sitting selfish act of indulgence. Because meditation is beneficial to boost and putting our all thoughts sleeping and physical exercise are your mental and overall well-being together. Our goal is to achieve a not at all considered selfish. of a person. It only enhances the higher self and attainment of self- Meditation is an essential exercise growth of a person to live a better esteem growth. It should for your mind and awareness. It life with a sense of accomplishment somewhere bring out the required makes you calmer, less reactive, and all day. We

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 91 Short Story Tricking a tea lover! I Feel Curious... By : Muniza Tariq High on tea, I told iring Sunita Didi as was my last and only resort delivery box. She sounded myself: must be Hmy cook was, at and I didn’t want to reject like a bird flying around best, an act of her. So, even though my looking for humans to crap nervous. It was her desperation. If I had the friend Riya the one who on. No horns, no claws - first day after all. luxury of time, I would have recommended her—kept she seemed fine to me. As days passed, I looked for someone who insisting that I get her to As it is the case with all realized that used oil more judiciously, cook once, I just called the beginnings, ours too was Sunita Didi was salt more carefully, and cook over for one quick sort of rosy. She would words more sparingly but chat, took her phone show up on time and make neck-deep in other that was not to be. My job number, gave her mine, tea for me. Which was the people’s domestic had been eating up my and told her she was in! only thing she excelled at? affairs and their days and the acid in my She was short. Her head Only with time did I realize weird food stomach had been eating was small and not the that it was the perfect cup up its lining. regular kind of small. It of tea that made me preferences. The It was only looked like it was overlook her culinary second she would understandable that I compressed to fit a small disasters, which made see me around, she brought Sunita Didi them known from the very onboard without first day. The Aloo-Jeera would start ranting I realize that it was the interviewing her or sabzi she cooked the first about how stingy a perfect cup of tea that made sampling her cooking. day is impossible to forget, me overlook her culinary family is or how Recommended by a friend as it was to chew. Masoor disasters. finicky people in who stayed in the same Daal was so in love with general are. locality as me, Sunita Didi the pressure cooker, it refused to flow into a bowl, any day and that is what The bitching forget, albeit temporarily, and the chapatis were all kept Sunita Didi in my life. sessions I had that she had the nerve to shapes but in one state: Then one day, after an bitch about my friend and burnt. early morning run, I survived standing break my lamp almost at returned home, humming a tall and restless the same time. igh on tea, I told song, basking in the were now served to As luck would have it, Hmyself: must be runner’s high and me on the bed. She the following weekend, my nervous. It was her first day completely missed the would pinch-hold friend Riya showed up to after all. As days passed, I water that had leaked from check on me. realized that Sunita Didi the fridge. I landed on my the dusting cloth, She asked me how I was. was neck-deep in other tailbone and consequently, slap random I told her I was miserable. people’s domestic affairs in a lot of trouble. surfaces with it, She said, ‘Ahhhhh!’ and their weird food I was to be bed-ridden talking aggressively. Then she added; ‘now I preferences. The second for days, which meant I One day, when she understand.’ she would see me around, needed someone to clean I didn’t so I asked her to she would start ranting up my house as well. sent one of my tell me what exactly she about how stingy a family is Life further cornered me favourite lamps meant by that. or how finicky people in into choosing Sunita Didi tumbling down a With a nervous giggle, general are. for shouldering other side table, the she said, ‘don’t tell Sunita How can I make chole in domestic responsibilities as only thing I thought Didi I told you, ok? But she less oil, Didi? She’d ask me, well. She met my was telling me that you beating the base of a pan expectations and failed at was it was long have been cranky and you with a ladle vengefully; cleaning and dusting as overdue. have been screaming at sending a shiver down my miserably as she did at gave me an earful. It wasn’t her. She told me you can’t spine that I felt was cooking. even my fault. The bowl get over the lamp she diminishing every single was oily but no! But you are broke.’ day. he bitching sessions I so different. Not a word My eyebrows were one Interestingly, most of Thad survived standing about the lamp. And let me with my forehead and my the time, these one-sided tall and restless were now tell you something Didi, fists were clenched. bitching sessions ended served to me on the bed. breaking of glass is good. It ‘Relax! It is ok! It is only with praises for me. She would pinch-hold the is supposed to avert natural. You are bed-ridden ‘Why can’t they all be dusting cloth, slap random physical harm. So, in a way, and have every right to feel like you? You are not surfaces with it, talking I saved you.’ cranky.’ peeking into the kadhai, aggressively. One day, As special as I felt, I I was so furious; words checking how much oil I am when she sent one of my couldn’t help but wonder left me and hid somewhere putting or how much salt I favourite lamps tumbling how long before I explode. when she added: ‘Try and am adding. It is food. They down a side table, the only ‘Didi, Tea!’ With those be nice to Sunita Didi, ok? If should be grateful they thing I thought was it was magical words, she pulled nothing, she makes have ample of it. Less salt, long overdue. me back and made me amazing tea, no?’ We more salt, how does it All I could do was cringe matter? The stomach and cover my face with the accepts everything. Look at book I was reading. She Statement of ownership and other particulars about you! You never complain. didn’t stop, neither to WOMAN’S ERA You eat everything I make apologize nor to explain. FORM IV, See Rule 8 with a smile. They must She picked up the jute learn something from you.’ lampshade put it back on 1. Place of publication: New Delhi. 2. Periodicity of You must learn how to the ceramic base which had publication: Fortnightly. 3, 4, & 5. Printer’s, Publisher’s, cook is what I wanted to a huge crack, thanks to the and Editor’s name: Divesh Nath. Nationality: Indian, scream at the top of my fall, and collected the r/o E-3, Jhandewala Estate, New Delhi-110 055. 6. Names lungs but didn’t because — shards of the broken bulb, and addresses of individuals who own the newspaper and any guesses? —that very before letting me in on a partners or shareholders holding more than one per cent second she gave me a cup secret. of the total capital: Divesh Nath, Rohit Nath, r/o E-3, of tea. ‘RiyaDidi, your friend, Jhandewala Estate, New Delhi-55. I made my peace with she and you are a world I, Divesh Nath, hereby declare that the particulars the burnt or uncooked apart, no? I know I given above are true to the best of my knowledge and meals that I swallowed shouldn’t be saying this but belief. without chewing. It was only yesterday, a bowl Sd. Divesh Nath, Publisher. better than instant noodles slipped out of my grip. She

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 93 Food Habits For Young Teens Concerns of eating habits in youth. By Himshikha Shukla

eens need extra nutrients to Tsupport bone growth, hormonal changes and organ and tissue development, including the brain. Teens should eat breakfast, drink water and limit highly processed food, sugary drinks and eating out. Healthy eating habits and physical activity can help lower the risk of obesity. The teen years are the time of rapid growth. They need extra nutrients to support bone growth, hormonal changes, and organ and tissue development, including the brain. The two main nutrients of concern for teenagers are calcium and iron. Calcium is important for bone growth. If teens optimize their bone health, they have a decreased risk of fractures and of developing osteoporosis during adulthood. Females are particularly at risk if they do not meet their calcium requirements. Females aged 13 to 17 have a daily recommended intake (DRI) of 1300 mg/day. Males of the same age meet their requirements at about 1400 mg/day. Most teens do not meet these daily requirements. Iron is another important nutrient for teenagers. Teens need iron as they gain lean body mass. Females also need iron when they start menstruating. On average, male teens meet their iron requirements with little difficulty. However, females aged 13 to 17 barely meet their requirements of 15 mg per day. Food habits Along with physical changes, teens become more independent as they grow. Dietary options are one of the first decisions teens start making on their own. However, some teens tend to make poor food choices. Overall, teens tend to fail to meet their daily recommended amounts of vegetables and fruits and whole grains. There are four major food habits of concern. Skipping breakfast Breakfast is an important meal of the day as it helps to ensure daily nutrient needs are being met. It also improves school performance and ● Drink about a half cup of water helps maintain a healthy weight. WATER IS IMPORTANT every 15 minutes during physical The majority of teens do not eat FOR ACTIVE TEENS. activity. breakfast on a regular basis. PHYSICAL ACTIVITY ● Drink one to two cups of water after physical activity. Increased consumption of CAN MAKE A TEEN ● Sports drinks and energy drinks highly processed foods DEHYDRATED. DRINK are not usually necessary. For This includes foods such as soft TWO TO FOUR CUPS OF casual athletes, water is all you drinks, snack foods, convenience need. foods and desserts. Everyone WATER ONE TO TWO should aim to decrease their intake HOURS BEFORE Healthy eating tips for normal of these foods. However, for some PHYSICAL ACTIVITY. and overweight teens teens, up to one half of their energy ● Increase intake of whole grains, intake is from these other foods. consumption could be attributed to vegetables and fruits. This is of concern as highly the increase in restaurant eating. ● Enjoy regular physical activity. processed foods are often high in ● Eat three meals every day and fat, calories and sugar but are low in Water is also important for active enjoy snacks between meals, five vitamins and minerals. teens. Physical activity can make a meals a day. teen dehydrated. Here are some ● Enjoy a variety of foods. Increased eating outside tips on staying hydrated. ● Drink water instead of soft the home ● Drink two to four cups of water drinks, sugary juices or sports Eating outside the home has one to two hours before physical drinks. increased, and a lot of the foods activity. ● Limit foods high in sugar, sodium consumed in restaurants are high in ● Drink another two to four cups of or saturated fat. fat and calories, especially at fast water 10 to 15 minutes before ● Eat fast food and processed food restaurants. There has been an physical activity. foods less often. increased consumption of pizza, ● Eat when you're hungry; stop cheese burgers, and salty snacks when you're full. with teens, mostly due to eating ● Pay attention to portion sizes. out. Teens should aim to eat more food prepared within the home, Unhealthy eating habits like especially snacks. eating too much, not eating enough, or restricted eating can be Increased consumption of bad for your teenage child’s health soft drinks and wellbeing, now and in the A study looking at American future. Encourage healthy eating youths aged 6 to 17 found soft drink habits by being a good food role consumption increased from 37 per model, creating a healthy food cent in 1978 to 56 per cent in 1998. environment, and sending healthy The increase in soft drink food messages. We veryone knows that gaming isn’t just Ea fun pastime, but also a viable career. If you’re a professional Why Should gamer, you could make an obscene amount of money on competitive gaming, Twitch streaming, creating ‘Let’s Plays’, and making yourself a brand name to Boys Have your fans. People know of Ninja and Fornite, PewDiePie on YouTube, but what about female pro gamers? I remember thinking that gamer girls didn’t enjoy competitive All The Fun! gaming like StarCraft of Call of Duty, but I was dead wrong. Gaming is a billion-dollar Geek Girls And Online Gaming. industry, and these women are riding that expensive way to stardom and extreme By Himshikha Shukla wealth. More and more female gamers are drawn to the fun, flexibility and freedom that mobile gaming affords. This is especially the case in Asia, where mobiles are the primary internet-enabled device for many people. Gaming has become extremely lucrative, not just for companies like EA and Activision Blizzard who make the games, but also for the best players in e-sports - competitive online gaming. Top female e-sport players have earned upwards of $20m (£16m) through a combination of sponsorship, prize money and endorsements. They are now seen as key influencers with millions of followers who watch them play online via live-streaming. In Asia, entire teams and leagues made up of female gamers are now making an impact on the world stage, THE NUMBER OF including the Female Esports League, a regional gaming circuit to FEMALES PLAYING help boost female representation in VIDEO GAMES IN ASIA esports. Last year, mobile IS GROWING AT A communications firm Singtel FASTER RATE THAN provided sponsorship to the league. The number of females playing THEIR MALE RIVALS, video games in Asia is growing at a ACCORDING TO THE faster rate than their male rivals, LATEST RESEARCH. according to the latest research. Women are levelling the playing WOMEN ARE field across all of Asia's key markets LEVELLING THE including China, India and Japan. PLAYING FIELD ACROSS The female video gaming notion suggests that gaming is the community grew by 19% last year, ALL OF ASIA'S KEY bastion of men, women equally according to data commissioned by MARKETS INCLUDING indulge in online real money games. Google. Asia is regarded as the CHINA, INDIA AND And, that there isn’t much global capital of video games, JAPAN. THE FEMALE difference between the time spent accounting for 48% of the world's by each of these gender groups in total gaming revenue. VIDEO GAMING playing these games. COMMUNITY GREW BY The survey by YouGov, an Female Gamers: Huge 19% LAST YEAR, internet-based market research and Catalysts In Online Gaming data analytics firm headquartered in Among the millions of gamers ACCORDING TO DATA the UK, has found that most of the joining the ranks every year, COMMISSIONED BY active gamers in India spend less females have been a huge catalyst GOOGLE. than three hours a week on these for growth. There are a number of games (52 per cent of the factors that are contributing to this market researchers Niko Partners. respondents) and a third (30 per rise, with storylines becoming more For China, they now account for cent) spend between 3 to 5 hours a inclusive and connectivity improving 45%, while for South Korea, Japan week playing these games. across the region. For 2019, the and Southeast Asia the figure is 40%. What’s more, it appears that numbers of female gamers had Men may dominate sports women are not shying away from grown to 38% of the 1.33bn Asian offline, but the online world is a investing monetarily in these games gaming population, according to great leveler for both sexes. A new either. The survey found that the Google which collaborated with survey finds that though popular only difference is that as compared

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 97 With Google APAC – Play like a Girl Report, 2020’. Moreover, the number of women is increasing at a faster rate than male gamers. For instance, Sonneeta Thapa is a female gamer who has two million subscribers on Youtube. For Thapa, anyone can succeed in gaming if they have the passion for it. Online gaming platforms are for all – men and women — your success depends on your passion not your gender. Unlike popular belief, online gaming is just like any other field, so a woman’s presence should be a normality not a shocker. It is an ecosystem where women are taking charge in the online sports industry as developers, as gamer artists, working closely with the product to men, on an average a and the data. higher number of women tend to be spending smaller Online Gaming: as a lucrative amounts of up to Rs 100 (49 per career option cent vs 34 per cent), while men Gaming industry in India started seem to be more indulgent than to bloom about a couple of years women and invest between Rs ago in India. Though initially being 101- Rs 1000 monthly in these a male space, the online gaming games monthly (35 per cent vs 27 arena is now witnessing a sudden per cent). influx of women gamers coming Unfortunately, there is a dark on to the platform and the side to the rise of female gamers as ecosystem. The gaming many have been harassed online. ecosystem has a bright path They are turned into memes and ahead, so women gamers who even was a victim of sexual are looking at online gaming harassment online. Once you go as a career option stand a lot to public and you get noticed there will gain. always be people hating on you, The gaming industry is booming finding faults and mistakes. The SONNEETA THAPA IS A at this time and anyone wants to be gaming community can be very FEMALE GAMER WHO a part of it, this is the right time. toxic. HAS TWO MILLION People should not shy away from gaming and consider this as a Indian Girls As Gaming SUBSCRIBERS ON lucrative career option. Indian Streamers YOUTUBE. FOR THAPA, gaming developers should focus on Experts advise choosing a ANYONE CAN SUCCEED creating games which can be taken username that doesn't include your to international markets. The best real name or other identifying IN GAMING IF THEY way to stand up to slander is to information when creating accounts HAVE THE PASSION FOR simply prove your worth. Women and profiles. From gamers to IT. ONLINE GAMING gamers should not let anything streamers to game developers and ruffle them and simply focus on entrepreneurs, women are carving a PLATFORMS ARE FOR being their best. While five years niche for themselves in the online ALL – MEN AND ago, it might be unimaginable for gaming arena. Indian female gamers WOMEN — YOUR anyone to look at online gaming as are slowly storming the male- SUCCESS DEPENDS ON a career option, now the space dominated online gaming space. opens a bright future in multiple Nearly 18% of all gamers in India YOUR PASSION NOT dimensions for women to explore, are women, according to ‘Think YOUR GENDER. if only they overlook the hurdles. We

98 Woman’s Era ● March 2021 spicy foods etc. Early detective measures or danger Your Body signals of cancer are a lump or hard area in the breast, a change in a wart or mole, a persistent change in digestive and bowel habits, a persistent & cough or hoarseness, excessive loss of blood at the A monthly period or loss of blood outside the usual Q dates, blood loss from any natural orifice, a swelling or sore that does not get better, unexplained loss of Y DAUGHTER IS ABOUT THREE YEARS OLD, SHE DEVELOPED weight. Improvement of personal hygiene oral, skin and Mfever, difficulty in respiration, nasal discharge and genital will help to reduce the incidence of certain types of loss of apatite. We have consulted a local doctor for cancer. All drugs, cosmetics and food additives should be this problem. He advised treatment but treatment was not tested for carcinogenesis. Special efforts should be made effective. After that we have consulted a child specialist, to reduce the amount of radiation. Early detection and after examination and on the basis of symptoms he told us prompt treatment of precancerous lesions such as cervical that she is suffering from Hemophilus influenzae infection tears, intestinal polyposis, warts, chronic gastritis, chronic and advised treatment and child get good response of the cervicitis and adenomata is one of the cornerstones of treatment. What is your opinion about the disease. cancer prevention. Hemophilus influenzae infections occur usually between ● the age of three months and four years and are nearly YMOTHERISABOUT70 YEARS OLD AND USUALLY REMAIN always associated with septicemia. Infection with H. Msick, many times old age related problems. I want influenzae usually begins in the nasopharnx and spreads to know about the priorities explicit by clinician locally or through the blood stream. Most nasopharyngeal for optimal care in case of older patient. infections are mild and confer immunity from subsequent Optimal care for the older patient is facilitated when serious illness after the early months of life. As the infants the clinician explicitly sets priorities, deciding what have transplacentally transferred antibodies during the specific evaluations and therapies are most likely to first three to four months of life, infection with H provide benefit. Setting these priorities should be based influenzae is relatively less frequent during this period. upon the patients goals for care and life expectancy, the There is extensive destruction of bronchial epithelium and prevalence of specific diseases, the performance hemorrhagic edema. The onset of the illness is gradual characteristics of screening or diagnostic test and the with nasopharyngeal infection. Certain viral infections as effectiveness of therapeutic interventions. The concepts those due to influenza virus probably act synergistically of "number needed to screen' and 'number needed to with H influenzae. These alter the respiratory epithelial treat' often help put diagnostic tests and interventions resistance and therefore promote proliferation of the into perspective. Interventions that are likely to help well bacteria in the damaged respiratory epithelium. The child elders may differ from those that will benefit frail elders of has moderate fever, dyspnea, grunting respiration and younger people. Tight glucose control in an elderly retraction of the lower inter-costal spaces. The course is diabetic who values her independence might be sacrificed subacute and prolonged. Patients do not respond to if it would require initiation of insulin therapy with theraphy with penicillin. Complications of Hemophilus placement in a nursing facility. Colon cancer screening influenzae pneumonia include bacteremia, pericarditis might be advised in an 80 year old man in good health (inflammation of outer, layer of heart), empyema (Pus in who is highly motivated (number needed to screen to lungs), Meningitis and polyarthritis. Hemophilus influenzae prevent one death over remaining life, about 200) but not pneumonia is best treated with broad spectrum antibiotics for a man of the same age with multiple comorbidities, a in divided doses for ten days. lie expectancy of less than 5 years, or an aversion to ● medical care. Some interventions produce almost AM A 27 YEARS OLD WORKING WOMAN, MY BOTH PARENTS AND immediate benefit and those may be useful at any age. Imother in law recently died of cancer. Because of three Even the oldest old people can benefit from beginning an deaths due to cancer in my family I developed cancer exercise program. Likewise, an 80 year old person with a phobia. I want to know about the preventive and early limited life expectancy is likely to benefit from a screening detective measures of cancer. for falls and a fall risk reduction program (number needed Cancer prevention as per world health organization is to screen to prevent one fall over one year, about 20) the elimination of or protection against factors known or – Dr Sanjay Teotia. believed to be involved in carcinogenesis and the treatment of precancerous conditions. It is necessary to Readers are invited to send in any health and medical queries they would like to be answered. Woman’s Era will give up-to-date information about cancer hazards and provide answers to your questions and offer solutions to your should be instructed in the avoidance of exposure to such problems. Individual replies cannot be sent. 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Woman’s Era ● March 2021 99 BeekeepingBeekeeping inin IndiaIndia Bitter truth about honey in India. By Maneka Sanjay Gandhi

n 2013 India started using 4.8%. From 2013-14 the growth rate Let's start with the basics: INeonicotinoid pesticides in rocketed from 5.3 to 11.1 percent. Honey is eaten because it is order to protect a crop that This could not have happened known to be an antioxidant and has Monsanto had promised the Indian naturally. How have hundreds of anti-microbial (killing germs) farmer he would not have to use honey companies come into the properties. It is expensive to create pesticides on. These are the worst market? This question has always because thousands of bees have to pesticides in the world and they troubled me. I don’t eat honey. be maintained and fed a steady diet have been indicted for having killed Last month the environment of flowers. Sugar has no nutrient billions of bees on the planet. I magazine, Down to Earth, answered value and is known to add weight called a meeting of ICAR in 2014 to this question in a deeply detailed and cause chronic disease. It is ask for the ban of these pesticides. investigation that they took months cheap. ICAR refused, even though they over. The FSSAI is the government admitted that the bee population You should read it. We do not organisation in charge of food has gone down sharply. They said take food adulteration seriously and standards. cotton was more important than yet it is the highest form of In 2017 the FSSAI ordered that fruit, grain, and flowers which are corruption and should have the honey should be tested for dependent on bee pollination! death penalty on it. I will attempt to adulteration with corn, sugarcane, If the bees have gone down in encapsulate what they have rice, and beetroot syrups. The test number drastically, how has the discovered, but again, I repeat, go was called C3 and C4. The tests honey production tripled? Till 2013 onto their website and read the were isotope tests, SMR, TMR, the yearly growth rate was only 0- expose. foreign oligosaccharides tests, and pollen counts. In 2019, FSSAI mysteriously issued a directive revising, and downgrading, the parameters and allowing the adulteration to go undetected. The Director of the National Bee Board told Down to Earth that he had written a letter to the government saying that by reducing pollen count FSSAI has legalised the practice of adulterating and selling rice syrup and corn syrup as honey. The cheating of the consumer, by

and order from a host of Chinese companies. The FSSAI issued directives to sugar importers saying they had evidence that this Chinese import was being used to adulterate honey. The FSSAI announced in 2020 that the Nuclear Magnetic Resonance Spectroscopy (NMR) was now mandatory for any company exporting honey (the Indian consumer is expendable, of course, so the standards for detecting adulteration in honey remained the low ones revised in 2019.) Did the fructose syrup import stop? No. It simply changed its name.

SUGAR SURUP honey processors, has been HONEY IS EATEN The Chinese were not hiding legalised "You can understand their product. On all the large why". By now the companies selling BECAUSE IT IS KNOWN Chinese portals they were honey have increased massively and TO BE AN ANTIOXIDANT advertising a sugar syrup called the become very powerful. Baba AND HAS ANTI- All-Pass Syrup. The advertisements Ramdev had jumped in as well. But MICROBIAL (KILLING claim that the chemical mixture, strangely enough, the honey called syrup, can pass the honey farmers were all going bankrupt GERMS) PROPERTIES. adulteration tests – C 3, C4, TMR, because these companies had IT IS EXPENSIVE TO SMT, Oligosaccharides, and even stopped buying their honey. CREATE BECAUSE NMR!! Companies in India are So, we have a huge honey importing this chemical mixture, industry that uses no honey? So, THOUSANDS OF BEES which was being sent to India in what do the “honey” bottles HAVE TO BE some cases as “industrial raw contain? MAINTAINED AND FED material”, and even “paint Sugar syrup imports into India mixture”, from China. from China have increased steadily. A STEADY DIET OF 11,000 tonnes of this mixture Fructose and glucose syrup was FLOWERS. have come in annually. Nasik, being imported from China to India blend syrup”, “Tapioca fructose Uttarakhand, Uttar Pradesh, and in bulk amounts. In 2014, 10,000 MT syrup”, “Golden fructose glucose Punjab. The factories that make this came in. By 2017 it was more than syrup”, even “Fructose Rice Syrup syrup are all “legitimate food 4,300 MT. These syrups are for Honey”. Anyone from India can processing businesses.” The FSSAI imported under the names of look up the marketing portals like chooses to look the other way. “Fructose syrup (F55/F42)”, “Honey Alibaba, Okchem, and Tradewheel, Down to Earth ordered samples

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 101 online from two Chinese suppliers brands: Dadev, Hi Honey, and Magnetic Resonance Spectroscopy called Wuhu Foods and CNN Foods. Societe Naturelle, failed and even Test (NMR). Dabur and Saffola have In their order, they specifically the C 3 test showed that they had put it on their bottles that their stated that they wanted this syrup more than 20-27% cane sugar. All honey has passed the NMR test. to pass all the government tests. these three are labelled as Raw There is only one testing point in Both companies wrote that their Unprocessed Natural Honey! But India – the Export Inspection product could pass any Indian tests, Down to Earth did not stop there. Council (EIC) in Mumbai. They even if the adulteration was up to They sent all the brands for the gold refused to do the tests. So, Down to 80%, and added that their Indian standard test - the Nuclear Earth contacted a well-known clients used this percentage in their German Lab, which specialises only so-called honey bottles. The IN AUGUST 2020, DOWN in honey adulteration tests samples that Fedex brought in TO EARTH BOUGHT including the NMR, and sent the simply said “syrup” and “paint samples – from the same batch that pigment emulsion.” HONEY MARKETED BY had passed the tests in Gujarat. 13 COMPANIES AND They sent 17 samples from these 13 SENT THEM TO THE companies: Patanjali, Baidyanatha, ADULTERATION RATIO: Zandu, Saffola, Markfed Sohna, Down to Earth took pure raw SAME GUJARATI Nature’s Nectar, Dabur, Apis honey and mixed it themselves with LABORATORY. Himalaya, Hitkari, Dadev, the Chinese and Indian adulterants ALL THE LARGE Indigenous, Hi Honey, Societe (from a company in Jaspur) in COMPANIES PASSED Naturelle. different proportions – from 25% to Only three companies passed the 75% – and sent these to the Gujarat THE TESTS EXCEPT FOR tests: Saffola, Markfed Sohna, and based lab Centre for Analysis and APIS HIMALAYA HONEY Nature’s Nectar. Learning in Livestock and Food (THEY PROBABLY PUT All the others FAILED – including (CALF) of the National Dairy Dabur and Saffola, who put it on Development Board. The samples MORE THAN 75%!) their labels that their honey has passed all the tests up to 75% THREE OF THE SMALLER passed the NMR Tests. This means adulteration! BRANDS: DADEV, HI only these three companies are In August 2020, Down to Earth selling us, pure honey. The rest are bought honey marketed by 13 HONEY, AND SOCIETE all massively adulterated with companies and sent them to the NATURELLE, FAILED chemical sugar syrup. In any other same Gujarati Laboratory. AND EVEN THE C 3 TEST country, these people would be in All the large companies passed SHOWED THAT THEY jail and the company would be shut the tests except for Apis Himalaya down. The Down to Earth article is Honey (they probably put more HAD MORE THAN 20-27% meticulous in its exposure. But than 75%!) Three of the smaller CANE SUGAR. FSSAI has ignored the expose. FSSAI is implicated in the scandal – after all, they agreed to previous attempts at adulteration by deliberately lowering the standards for the large honey companies. These honey companies have even failed the lowered standards of adulteration – with no action being taken against them. During the COVID lockdown, people went all out to improve their health. Honey sales from March 2020 went up by 35%. But instead of making their bodies healthier, people were starting the day with shots of sugar syrup, which is just poison. Sugar increases the inflammation in the body, suppresses immunity, and makes the body vulnerable to disease, including diabetes, and Corona. We

102 Woman’s Era ● March 2021 Y SON HAS GOT MILD SYMPTOMS OF CORONA Child Challenges Mand is on home quarantine. How do I keep the other members of the family safe? & When one member of the family is in A quarantine, the whole family will need to stay Q home. Keep other people and pets in the house away from your child as much as possible. See LEASE TELL ME WHAT SORT OF NAPPIES SHOULD I USE FOR to it that only one person takes care of the sick child so Pmy child? The disposable ones are too expensive and that others are not exposed. If the child is over two years I do not know if cloth ones are good enough. Also old and can wear a face mask or us a cloth to cover his please tell me how often should I change the diaper and nose and mouth, without finding it difficult to breathe, what is the right way of doing it? make him wear it when the caregiver is in the room. On the You could use cloth nappies, disposable ones or a other hand do not leave him alone when he is wearing a judicious mixture of both - the latter while going out and mask or cloth face covering. On no account should the cloth ones at home. You would probably need 10 diapers a caregiver remover her mask when she is in the same room day. Before changing the diapers make sure that as the sick child, whether the child had covered his face or everything you need is at hand so that you do not leave not. the baby unattended. After each bowel movement or if If possible, the sick child should use a different the diaper is wet, lay your baby on his back and remove the bathroom from others. If not, clean the bathroom often. dirty diaper. Use the water, cotton balls, and washcloth or Keep other people and pets in the house away from your wipes to gently wipe your baby's bottom and genital area. child as much as possible. When removing a boy's diaper, do so carefully because ● exposure to the air may make him urinate. When cleaning a I AM ABOUT TO DELIVER MY FIRST CHILD. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO girl child, wipe her from front to back to avoid infection. Do EXPECT IN THE INITIAL STAGES? not powder the local area. Wash your hands thoroughly During the first few weeks you’ll notice that your baby after changing a diaper. Make sure that your working level, keeps his body curled up in the fetal position he was used be it in the kitchen or by the wash basin or nappy changing to in the womb. Also, babies spend most of their time should be high enough so that your back remains erect sleeping. You feed and burp him, change his nappy and he while performing these chores. Repetitive/constant back is asleep again. This is normal. Sneezing and hiccups occur bending can lead to chronic backache. frequently and don't indicate infection, allergies, or ● digestive problems. Y BABY GIRL HAD TWO PEARL LIKE SHINY FRONT TEETH IN I have an eight month’s old son and as yet he has not Mthe upper and lower jaw. She looks beautiful developed sleep pattern. This is making all of us irritable. when she smiles with her four teeth. I so want Please tell me how to make him sleep properly at proper her teeth to look as beautiful as now. When should I start times or is it too early to start doing the same. This is the making her use a tooth brush? right time to develop a proper sleep pattern. Not now! As soon as your daughter has 10-12 teeth buy To help him do so you could set a routine for every night her first toothbrush with soft bristles, many fancy ones are and adhere to it. Put him to sleep at the same place so that available in the market to attract her attention. Make a he associates the place with sleep. Keep the area dimly lit game of brushing her teeth so that it becomes an and quiet so that he understands the difference between enjoyable experience. ● night and day. Do not switch on the lights while feeding. Quickly burp and change his nappy without talk or play as Y SON HAS SYMPTOMS OF FLU. THE DOCTOR HAS you would do in the day. You could put him to sleep by Msaid that we should observe him for a while. If patting, singing to him, rocking or walking him around in they do not subside soon or worsen we might your arms or in the pram. If he wakes up after he has have to get him tested Covid 19. How his test to be done? settled down, gently soothe him back to sleep. Do not take To test a person for coronavirus, a long swab stick is him to the hustle bustle area of the house that will provoke inserted in the nose or at the back of the upper part of the him to wake up. mouth to get a sample. The latter induces a gag reflex (a Such rituals may take up to an hour initially but after a desire to vomit) the child can puke on the person taking the month or so you baby will get the ‘it’s time to sleep’ sample increasing the risk to the health worker, though message and will miraculously fall asleep within minutes. If he is fully protected with a PPE kit. you need to wake your baby up for whatever reason do Coughed up phlegm (sputum) can also be used. Earlier not do so by shaking him. Such rough handling can be it would take a few days for the report to come and dangerous. Instead tickle is toes or blow gently on his patients were treated as Covid positive till the reports cheek. came but nowadays rapid diagnostic tests are available for a quicker report. – Dr Amrinder Bajaj, MD.

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 103 Stay Young! The Eternal Fountain of Youth Within. By Sujatha Rao

odern times abound with So instead of chasing the us to manage the delicate balance Mclichés like ‘sixties are the mythical mirage of the fountain of amongst all the three by identifying new forties. Even so, it is youth, can we focus on tapping into ways to maintain and improve the paradoxical that the quest for the the abundant source that lies within well-being of each of these. eternal ‘Fountain of Youth’ seems each one of us and enjoys our lives to be as intense as ever during the to our greatest potential? The three Though there are many focus present times too. There is no major pillars for leading a life aiming areas under each of these pillars, conclusive evidence of the at overall well-being are Body, let’s narrow them down to the existence of such a fountain Mind, and Soul. A healthy body following major seven. All the seven anywhere in the world, even though keeps us active; a healthy mind are within the realm of one’s circle tales of the same can be traced back builds our focus and a healthy soul of influence without having to rely right from the 5th Century BC in the makes us feel fulfilled. The link on any external sources for writings of Herodotus, to the most between the body, mind, and soul is popular legend associated with the scientific, with research revealing Spanish Explorer and the first three separate neural pathway Governor of Purerto Rico, Ponce de networks within us. This calls upon Leon, who apparently travelled to Florida in 1513 searching for the same. While people go all out hunting for that elusive fountain, Sophia Loren, the diva from yesteryears, had the ultimate word in this regard when she said “there is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.” execution. Though they are listed devices for most of the day was under the particular pillar they definitely not one of them. While majorly contribute to, they also most of our modern-day make some overlapping occupations may demand us to contributions to the other pillars. do so, we have to consciously fill our days with activities that Body counter the ill effects of the same. In many religions across the Research recommends at least world, the human body is referred 150 active minutes of exercise per to as the “Vessel of God” and it’s week. While it would be good to do through this vessel that we make some work-outs by hitting the gym, sense of the world and also relate even moderate ones done in the to the rest of the universe. It is our close confines of one’s house, go a only true “till-death-do-us-apart” long way in ensuring better health. companion in life. So how do we take care of it to reap the best ANYONE WHO HAS Diet benefits out of it? TRIED TO KEEP THOSE In a sense, our bodies are what we eat. Anyone who has tried to Exercise EXTRA KILOS OFF keep those extra kilos off knows the Contrary to the normal notion of KNOWS THE MEANING meaning of this. While almost all of taking care of our bodies by OF THIS. WHILE us know the importance of eating pampering them, it’s by putting to healthy food, very few of us can use every part and by stretching it ALMOST ALL OF US resist the temptation of gorging to its limits, we render the body KNOW THE upon junk food knowing very well resilient and capable of delivering IMPORTANCE OF about its harmful effects. In recent its best. The most common adage EATING HEALTHY FOOD, times, we Indians have become “if you don’t use it, you lose it” is more susceptible to life stage best suited to the human body. VERY FEW OF US CAN diseases such as diabetes, heart Evolution has prepared our bodies RESIST THE ailments, hypertension, etc., not for delivering physical tasks TEMPTATION OF only due to our genetic factors but requiring great endurance, and also due to our unhealthy eating sitting in front of various GORGING UPON JUNK habits. FOOD KNOWING VERY WELL ABOUT ITS Mind HARMFUL EFFECTS. “Biology gives you a brain. Life turns it into a mind” said Jeffrey Eugenides. Can we turn this super powerhouse into something that enables us to enhance its performance to the maximum? It appears that we can, by taking care majorly of the following: Stimulation A PROPER 7-8 HOURS the tyranny of the past and the As per neuroscience. feeding the uncertainty of the future by giving brain with new experiences and SLEEP PER DAY KEEPS our soul a chance to breathe free in new challenges enables it to make THE HOUSEKEEPING the truth and beauty of the present. better neuro connections thereby JOB OF ELIMINATING preventing it from atrophying. THE TOXINS FROM THE Mindfulness Being open to life-long learning, Practicing mindfulness allows us improving our skill sets across BRAIN. GOOD SLEEP to be fully present in the moment various areas, etc., go a long way in BOOSTS IMMUNITY allowing us to venture into the keeping our brain sharp and AND ALLEVIATES THE workings of our mind, senses, and focused. emotions. Research has highlighted BODY FROM THE ILL the fact that regular meditation Sleep EFFECTS OF STRESS BY encourages neuroplasticity and Sleep affects almost every RECHARGING THE renders the long-term practitioners system in the body – from the brain, have younger brains by protecting heart, lungs to metabolism, mood, MIND. PROPER SLEEP their brains from cognitive decline. ALSO IMPROVES BOTH COGNITIVE AND Purpose PHYSICAL Having a sense of purpose is traced to better health in human PERFORMANCES. beings. The purpose is what drove the evolution to take place by directing the individuals and species towards survival and flourishing. The goals that foster a sense of purpose, however small, lead to the uplifting of self and the community. The ultimate joy comes from finding meaning and purpose to drive one’s life. Conclusion To sum up, working out and eating right will take care of the body and you may end up ‘falling in love with the shape of your body’ and ‘every day discovering something brand new’ to quote the lyrics of Ed Sheeran’s most popular song “Shape of You”. Similarly, taking care of what is inside the head is far more constructive and etc. A proper 7-8 hours sleep per stress, and lead healthier lives. A important than worrying about day keeps the housekeeping job of Swedish study of people aged 75 that receding hairline on top. eliminating the toxins from the and above concluded that dementia And the glow emanating from brain. Good sleep boosts immunity risk was the lowest in those with the person in possession of a and alleviates the body from the ill satisfying contacts with friends and kind and warm soul can blindside effects of stress by recharging the relatives. any wrinkles on such a person’s mind. Proper sleep also improves face. both cognitive and physical Soul Hence, let’s dip into that performances. Spiritual health is more than fountain of youth within ourselves about religion and it includes people and stop worrying about the Social Life from all walks of life and beliefs. It advancing age. A person with an As human beings are social involves identifying the greater agile body, housing a razor-sharp animals, healthy relationships are purpose and direction in life and mind and a kind soul within radiates very vital for their overall well- understanding what makes our lives beauty, poise, and warmth and for being. People with better social life uniquely meaningful to each one of such a person age definitely is just tend to live longer, undergo less us. It also means breaking free from a number. We

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Short Story Time Pays And how! By Naushad Valiyakath

Yes, we could guess et us think about a and wife, and might be the from the kitchen and sat in that we are at the Lstory. A story is owners of the stall. The the chair where the old always waiting to third and the last thing that man was at the table right place to tell a born where we have an makes wanting to know counting money. She story, but we will interest in something and more about these poured coffee in a cup for have to wait for want to think about it. We individuals is their hurried her husband, and asked, the right time to can find a story easily in any actions. The old man is “How much is our today’s place of the city, town, or frying vada in the boiling oil collection?” find it. When they village, if we are not one of and taking it out more The old man put back close the stall to the very few who could not quickly than anyone should the money in the bag and go home, we must feel such things. As we walk do normally. The old took the coffee cup in his follow them. along the streets, we stop woman is placing the vada hand. He said, “Two to look up at something, pav in the customers’ hands thousand four hundred and Meanwhile, let us which interests us for a and taking money from forty four.” eat our vada pav. story and today we are here them so speedily, as if she “How much is the Hmm! What a on a busy street looking for does not want to lose any today’s profit you could yummy vada pav! something unusual. of her customers. think of?” As we are walking along Yes, we could guess that “Say about, one this street of a big city, we we are at the right place to thousand.” can watch many activities tell a story, but we will have The old woman sipped here but, so far, it means to wait for the right time to her coffee thoughtfully. nothing to us. Then find it. When they close the “Did you make the fixed suddenly, a vada pav stall stall to go home, we must deposit in the bank attracts our attention. follow them. Meanwhile, yesterday?” The first thing that let us eat our vada pav. “No, yesterday was interests us in this stall is its Hmm! What a yummy vada second Saturday and I crowded customers to buy pav! wasn’t aware of it. I will do vada pav, which we have The old woman came it tomorrow.” not seen at any other vada “How nice it is that we pav stalls of this street. have one lakh rupees in “Although we had closed our The second thing is its hand to deposit in a bank!” stall early today, it is now staff. There are only two The old man laughed. already 10 p.m. Shall I bring employees at the stall, an “And that is within six your dinner?” “Yes, please!” old woman and an old man, months!” who seem to be husband The old woman smiled a little. “Although we had closed our stall early today, it is now already 10 pm. Shall I bring our dinner?” “Yes, please!” When she went away, the old man sat still at the table, thinking. ‘How we love someone for life who would never love us back! We are all prisoners of relationships in the name of blood, and nothing! How suddenly a terrible change had taken place in our life! How was it only six months ago, we had nothing to eat see that the call was from this money to my sister.” from one of our LIC for days when our only son, her younger sister, and she The old man bit his lip, policies, which had our joint Prayag, left us to go to live immediately put it on her made an angry gesture and names. My sister is also with his wife. Now we have ear. hit the table with his fist. coming tomorrow morning one-lakh rupees in hand to The old man put the “Don’t forget, we have to take this money and I simply deposit in a bank phone on the table and made one lakh rupees in will see that my sister gets and forget it. Thanks to moved towards the less than six months, this money. Good night!” that, LIC policy’s money, cupboard to open it. For because I could make very she entered the bedroom, which had made us a vada the old man, the concerned tasty vada. So I have the slamming the door. pav stall owners and it is thing in the phone call from full right to give this money “Try to have a good doing very well more than his brother was much to my brother.” sleep, so that in the expected. It is doing well greater than his real life. He The old woman walked morning you would be because of my wife only. If took out two note bundles forth and back rapidly with fresh enough to win the she has not served the of five hundred rupees from an enraged look on her cash from me. Good night!” customers so fast, half of the cupboard and began to face. “You may be making the old man said, and lifted them would not have wrap them in a piece of tasty vada, but that doesn’t the note bundles from the stopped there waiting for paper. Just then, his wife mean you can sell it too. table and carefully put it in vada pav. Yes, the stall runs was in the hall with the The stall runs because of his trouser’s pocket. Then, so good because of her mobile phone in her hand. my rapid selling of vada he lay down on the sofa by hard work only.’ She asked with great pav. So I have the full right kneading his empty Suddenly, the mobile surprise, “What are you to give this money to my stomach. phone rang. The old man doing with this money?” sister.” picked up the phone to see “Oh! I am sorry!” the old e began to think again. that the call was from his man said. “I forgot to tell The old woman H‘Man ought to be head younger brother, and he you. Praveen called me just walked forth and of his house. I will turn immediately put it on the now. He is in a great back rapidly with everything upside down answer. trouble. His life would be an enraged look on tomorrow to give this ruined forever if I would not her face. “You may money to my brother. he old woman was at help him with one lakh What happened to her Tthe stove to make the rupees.” be making tasty today? She was not like meal hot, thinking. “How it “Did your brother ask for vada, but that this. She had always was only six months ago, money?” doesn’t mean you obeyed me without any we became lonely here “Yes, he has asked me a can sell it too. The question. Yes, earlier she when our only son, Prayag, loan of `one lakh.” stall runs because depended on me and now left us to go to live with his “How could he know we she started earning. But wife. We had never been so have money?” of my rapid selling she is still my wife. I alone in our life as horribly “That I don’t know, but of vada pav. So I pleaded a lot with my son as that moment! Now we he will be here tomorrow have the full right not to go and when he still have one-lakh rupees in our morning to take this to give this money went away with his wife hands as another son to money.” to my sister.” and children, I fell down protect us. Thanks to that, The old woman shook unconscious. It was my LIC policy’s money, which her head grudgingly, and The old man reached wife, who took me to the had made us vada pav stall said, “But I have made up near her and whispered in hospital and stayed there owners and it is doing very my mind to give this money an unpleasant voice. “When with me to make me well well more than we to Renu.” husband and wife are in any again. My brother came to expected. It is doing well “Who, Renu?” doubt which one of the two see me and spent some because of my husband “My sister. She had just has the full right over time with me on the only. If he has not been called me up and asked me something? Anybody can hospital bed. Instead of making vada so tasty, the a loan of rupees one lakh. tell that it is the husband giving me support and help, customers would not have You know she has trouble who has the full right. So I he stated his viewpoint. He stopped there waiting for that I could not say now. will give this money to my said that what had long to eat it. Yes, the stall She needs this money brother.” happened to me was my runs so good because of his urgently, and I have “Nonsense!” she fate. I was fated to lose my tasty vada only.” decided to give this money shouted. “There is no such son. It had all been decided Suddenly, her mobile to her only.” rule in business. We two are by fate and nothing could phone rang. The old “No. I will give this the equal partners in our be done to change it. Yes, woman took her phone money to my brother.” business, as the money we this was what Praveen told from the kitchen drawer to “You can’t. I will give had to start this stall was me when he learned that

Woman’s Era ● March 2021 109 Prayag had left us. If so, “To your brother only.” “Sometimes a wrong why should I interfere with The old man rose to sit. path may also lead to my brother’s fate? Who am “I don’t want my brother to a right direction. I to let fate’s plans go take this money. You give it wrong? If Praveen’s fate to your sister.” has decided to ruin him, “I also don’t want my then let it happens. I will sister to take this money.” not give him this money. I “Why? What will tell my wife tomorrow happened?” to give this money to her “You know when last sister.’ time Renu visited us I felt very proud by thinking she he old woman fell onto had come to comfort me. Tthe bed and let drop Instead of comforting me, two tears from her eyes by she had blamed me. She thinking. ‘Never had I said I was to blame for disagreed with what my Prayag leaving us, because husband wanted to do we hadn’t brought up him before. But it is for my properly. Her words made sister. If she fails to return me more uncomfortable, one-lakh rupees in time, you know. Instead of giving which her son had taken her this money, I want to from someone, then it give her words back. So, cash!” use or not, this money is would be a police case. you can give this money to “How do you know?” not for you.” After losing my son to his your brother.” “Yesterday, I went to a “Then, for whom?” wife, I was extremely “You know, when I saw departmental store to buy “This money is for your worried. It was my Praveen near my hospital something and there I saw mom and dad’s old age. husband, who made me bed I felt very proud by Praveen uncle and Renu Bye, Prayag, good night!” comfortable again. That thinking he had come to aunty. While I was having The old man put the time Renu came to meet help me. Instead of a word some conversation with phone on the table and me just once, and what she of support he said I was them, Ram Prasad came to turned toward his wife. He had told me! When she fated to lose my son. So, I us. Ram Prasad told us that said laughing, “Your saved learned that Prayag had decided to leave my he had met you near the words to use on your sister left us, she said to me that brother on his fate.” bank as you had been there will go in the air without it all were depending on “That’s good! We will to make a fixed deposit of hitting her ears, because I how someone was raised. not give this money to rupees one lakh, without think your sister or my She said it was all my fault, anyone. We will put this knowing the bank was brother has so far no as I failed to bring up my money in the bank.” closed due to second problem, but they will son in a good way. If so, The old man smiled. “I Saturday.” have a problem why should I bother for her will make this money a “So?” tomorrow.” fault to raise her son? I will fixed deposit tomorrow.” “After knowing that, I “What problem?” not give her this money. I Suddenly, mobile phone could hardly believe my “They will have a will tell my husband now to rang. Both of them jumped luck. Two months ago, a problem of not getting our give this money to his to their feet by seeing the friend loaned me rupees money.” brother.’ name displaying on the one lakh. Now he needs The old woman laughed The old man opened his screen –Prayag. The old that money from me and said, “Sometimes a eyes and looked at the door man switched it on the urgently and I didn’t know wrong path may also lead opening sound. As soon as speakerphone. what to do until this good to a right direction. Next he saw his wife coming out “Hello, dad! Are you at news. Dad, give me one- time when you meet Ram from the bedroom, he said, the stall or home?” lakh rupees to repay my Prasad, tell him that you “Dear, you give this money The old man said, “We loan.” would be going to deposit to your sister.” are at home. Tell us.” “No, I can’t give you. ten lakhs in a bank. Let us The old woman came “How is vada pav stall Sorry!” see what happens then. and sat down on the sofa. running?” “What is the use to put it Shall I bring our dinner She said, “No, dear, you “We all are doing well.” in a fixed deposit? Give it to from the kitchen?” give this money to your “With a bit of my luck, I me, I promise I will return it “Yes, please!” the old brother.” came to know that you soon.” man said and sat down on “To your sister.” have one lakh rupees in “Whether it will be in our the sofa, smiling. We

110 Woman’s Era ● March 2021 digestion. Being mindful of the foods you eat, you Kitchen queries pay attention to the aromas, textures, flavours and taste of food. & ● EING RICH IN HEART HEALTHY FATS AND FINE A Bflavour, organic or cow ghee is undoubtedly Q an all time favourite of us Indians. Please tell us more about it. E ALL LOVED TO EAT PLUMS IN THE SUMMER SEASON, Yes the body needs good fats for the proper functioning Wwinters are a season of dried fruits including of the brain, ghee has it all. It is a good source of vitamin the dried plums. Do tell us how we can use K2. The health benefits of ghee are myriad, but only when them in our dishes. taken in moderation. Too much ghee can have a negative Dehydrated plums are all crinkled and wrinkly and are impact on your health. Use cow ghee only, not ghee from called Prunes. This dry fruit is a storehouse of nutrients buffalo milk. According to Ayurveda too cow ghee is and an excellent source of energy.Prunes are deliciously sacred, cleansing, medicinal and nourishing food. sweet and juicy. They not only induce enriching flavour to ● the dish but also enhance its colour. We can use it in the PLEASE TELL US ABOUT SOME NATURALLY PROBIOTIC-RICH FOODS. making of various dishes including cakes, puddings and It is very important to take care of our gut health for a even bread and stuffed kulcha. Prunes are quite versatile healthy mind and body. The micro organisms in the gut making it easy to be used in sweet and savoury dishes. consists of good bacteria and sometimes bad bacteria. The ● good bacteria is known as probiotics. Probiotics optimise E HAVE HEARD THAT THERE ARE PLANTS AND HERBS THAT our immune system. Whelp one to cope with stress in our Some of them are as following: yogurt, is a fermented lives which are known as adaptogen. food contains lots of probiotic cultures. Kimchi is a popular Please elaborate. fermented cabbage and radish dish, it contains many helpful Indian superfoods like ashwagandha, tulsi, mooring, bacteria such as lactobacillus. Cucumber pickles are brined in turmeric have adaptogens and they are most effective salt water ans fermented giving us beneficial bacteria. prevention and treatment of stress and help lead a happy Traditional buttermilk popularly known as grandma’s healthy life. Cordyceps, Siberian Ginseng, Holy basil, Goji probiotic is simply the liquid leftover from churning butter. It berries, Licorice, Astragalus Root, Jiagulan and Reishi are is low in fat and calories and contain several important some more of superfoods that can make our life tension vitamins and minerals. Kefir is a fermented milk drink which free and happy. So for health, healing, happiness: eat well contains several major strains of friendly bacteria and yeast. and sleep well. ● ● WHAT ARE BACTERIA AND WHAT DO THEY DO? OST OF US THINK OF TURKEY AS IMPORTED MEAT, Bacteria are microscopic, single celled organisms that Mbut now we find there are farms breeding it exist in their millions. Some are harmful but most serve a in india. Please give us some tips for cooking useful purpose in our body. Bacteria breakdown turkey at home. carbohydrates (sugar )and they help us absorb the fatty Turkey meat is healthy. It is a leaner protein source acids which cells need to grow. compared to red meat and even chicken. It is full of The good bacteria colonise our respiratory and minerals like potassium, zinc, selenium and lots of B digestive systems. By having good bacteria in your body, vitamins. It’s naturally low in sodium and lower in bad bacteria don’t get a chance to grow and cause cholesterol compared to other meats. Cook different diseases such as cancer, diabetes, obesity and parts of the bird separately. cardiovascular problems. Without the right balance of The turkey breast cooks very quickly. It is perfect for bacterias your body might suffer from constant grills and roasts. Marinate with spices and make it into inflammation. Our immune system too needs the right kebabs. The turkey leg is like red meat, you braise it and combination of bacterias to keep us healthy. use in curries and stews. The offals, neck and wings are ● very flavourful and perfect to be had in soups. WHAT IS THE MYTH AROUND ‘RICE’, IS IT REALLY HARMFUL AS IT IS ● MADE OUT TO BE NOW A DAYS? ILL NOW WE WERE TOLD TO EAT A BALANCED DIET IE GOOD Rice is very wrongfully villanised these days and is often Tvariety, fresh seasonal fruits and vegetables and cut out from diet by many people. However rice is an everything in moderation. But is it enough or we have excellent source of energy and b vitamins. Also it is easier for to keep in mind some important way to consume food? digestion, especially for elders and children. Polished rice Yes, the way food is consumed, too has a lot of bearing which looks shinier undergo a polishing process that robs on our overall health. Research confirms that just by eating them of their outer covering which contains many essential slower, you’ll consume fewer calories. If you eat slowly nutrients. you’ll chew your food better, which will lead to better — SAVITA BHARGAVA

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demands gives a ray of bright hope juggling everything together that victory is not far. However, simultaneously. Her transition from further round of talks between a daughter, sister, wife, mother, unions and centre ending colleague, friend to grandmother inconclusive after unions harped that (honestly, the list is endless) is centre withdrew the 3 farm laws and commendable. As she grows older government asking the unions to ,the struggle and burden become come out with alternative plan or harder.Maintaning work -life balance suggestions instead of repeal. As the becomes challenging and it leads to stalemate continued with no stress and anxiety.In such stressful "ARE THE FARMERS RIGHT?" outcome in sight, farmers should lifestyle,a woman can not certainly relent to end the impasse by looking Appropos the overlook her health. at a larger picture of farm laws which EDITORIAL suggests that someone in Niti Aayog has loosely and GE: carelessly drafted the bill and since the BJP was in OD IN THE NEW A power in both the houses, this bill also got passed and – Sujata Reddy, Bengaluru WOMANHO subsequently notified. Sure the Home Ministry must editorial "Are the This is not the new age. There is yet a lot to be have found out the drafting culpritTS: by now. achieved and stereotypes to be shattered to call this the new age. However, for elder publications like this COVID VACCINE SHO one, it is crucial to define and redefine the bygone era Fundamentally, the biggest problem in administering confers benefits to farmers than and the age in which we live today. Perhaps, definitions the vaccine is the cold chain of -20 and -70 degrees lend a connection between the two ages while also Celsius that is requiredming up onto distributesocial networks it. With about so many its being the chronicle of change. With the advent of new news items co technologies, urbanization across the globe, and the farmers right?" in failure, one can only wait to see when the masses get dawn of social media, the fabric of relationships has vaccinated and not before that. Usually any vaccine will evolved to being something, which was nothing less have some side effects but one should not disregard the than a taboo in the bygone days of a globally non- immense positive it has for the human community. In one analysis, Indian figures connected world. sticking to a single demand of With this in view, Woman’s Era hopes to change a for infected people is wrong as it is likely to be much higher. But then again if one part of its editorial stance and recognize the changes ENGLISH MEDIUM looks at the farmers’ movement at the that have come about, addressing outskirts of Delhi NCR, it implies that problems within, from this January WE Jan 2021. At the COVID could largely be only a question of 2021 issue onwards. Our lead article immunity. Whichever way, with the news speaks about how the lines and views on the mutated version of this between womanhood and girlhood virus making rounds at the end of the are being blurred, and she (you the withdrawal of farm laws. disastrous year that 2020 has been, one reader) has taken advantage of this can only be asked to be careful and global change. In the days and cautious of whom or what they get in months to come, with this theme in touch with or touch. Remember, it’s view, Woman’s Era magazine will se you never know outset, Farmers stir still not over; cau strive to look into the problems that when it comes to bite you. this new story gets into our lives. It is true, english is a ARE THE FARMERS LOCKDOWN AND OUR – R.Srinivasan, Secunderabad RIGHT? NEW LIVES: Well to a certain extent. The In case readers are thinking that they’ll soon be able movement to repeal the 3 Kisan bills, if to live life like the pre-COVID times after the mass on the Delhi not addressed properly by the Modi vaccination, they have to pinch themselves out to the sarkar, will have the same ramifications new reality. The new world order will be here to stay English very important like the Anna movement had in abolishing the then since the economies and people’s movement have been regime of Congress, which is now living on the verge of altered to a low speed. There are companies and extinction. The farmers may have a wrong countries, which are more happy with the smaller interpretation of these 3 Kisan bills, but the problem is formats of their business affairs and surely a lot of Medium that it’s just too late for the government to take them homes that are happier now with lower expenditure fect your future? back. In case they do, then there are other new laws like and not fighting for space in the material world of show border has been a How will English af the NRC, CAA, etc which will also have to be addressed offs. Hence, you as a person need to be careful while and revoked. PM Modi is right in his stand that these taking the next step for a new salary hike, a new By Kalpana M Naghnoor subject in today' s bills will not be taken back, only amendments to a prospective job, changing the career path, a new loan, certain extent will be done, and that the government is or planning a new large expenditure. The advisory also willing to speak. He also has the support of the SC on extends to companies and countries that have survived 'WOMEN'S HEART this issue, with a committee being setup for this the ongoing COVID era so that their employees and deliberation. 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