NEWORLEANSBRIDALEVENT.COM June 22, 2019 | New Orleans BRIDAL REGISTRY CLARION HERALD | Page 3 Love story reflected in marble of Notre Dame Cathedral By Robert S. Brantley thought that if it was 20 years, where I had done everything of the hills. We worked for Contributing writer then it would be the fnest 20 right – except for having to fve days picking and flling any couple had ever lived. It borrow a pair of socks from hundreds of baskets with As everyone bustled about was to be so. my brother, who would never grapes. We agreed that if the house preparing Christ- So much of that lay in the let me forget it. God lived on the earth, he mas dinner, I stood at the future. She came up and put The trip and the weath- would live in Alsace and window looking out on the her arms around me, and I felt er were perfect; whether it have vineyards. It seemed to lawn and at the occasional that complete sense of peace I stormed or the skies were personify perfection. passing car. always felt when she touched blue, it did not matter. We On the drive to Paris, I It had been a perfect me. could be with each other stopped at Rheims to show morning – my brother and “How would you like to go through it all. her the cathedral. I had been his wife had arrived in time to Europe on our wedding In Alsace, it was harvest to France before and had sat for opening the presents trip?” I asked her. time and the family had large in the back seat of a car that and for the “something” else Photo | COURTESY ROBERT BRANTLEY She told me that anywhere vineyards that needed pick- drove past the ancient city that no one expected except Robert Brantley and his late wife Jan was fne, as long as we were ing. They were on the side at over 100 miles per hour. I my mother and me. (above) had 21 years of joyful mar- together. of the Vosges Mountains, so had begged for them to stop The day before, we had ried life together. Robert said the cou- I told her I had something everything was done by hand. but to no avail. gone to the bank and col- ple’s wedding and honeymoon, both to show her in Paris. I told Machinery could handle the I thought about that when lected the ring from the in France, have a timeless quality. her few tourists ever see it, fats but not the steep inclines See NOTRE DAME page 4 ➤ safety deposit box that had Somewhere, in all of it, we and even if they knew it was been put there nine years found love. there, they might not realize earlier, awaiting such a day We realized that what was the extent of its meaning, if as this one. between us was written about that could ever be known. That tiny box was the in fairy tales, but few accepted I looked into her eyes and last present, set high in the or believed in its possibility. told her that the hidden branches of the tree. It was Later, someone would ask spot was “in the ambula- for her, the one I had waited her in a television interview tory behind the altar in Notre for a lifetime to come. She if she had been afraid during Dame,” and I wanted her to was a part of my soul. the cancer treatments. Her fnd it and see it for herself. I had never thought love answer was simple: “No, I was I could not explain why, but could be so easy, so effortless too busy falling in love.” I knew when she went there as I watched nervously as Her prognosis was terrible. she would know the meaning. she slowly unwrapped the The doctors gave her three The 10 months that led up present. As she tore away to five years, but we knew to our wedding and the trip each piece of paper, I felt my that the love we had would were magical in the surprises heart quicken and pound stretch that time and keep they brought. Her distant with a ferocity I had never stretching it. Just a few weeks cousins in Alsace had invited felt. before, she had been talking us to visit for a week or lon- She opened the small to a friend and said that she ger, and a friend in Germany envelope hidden inside would be happy if she could asked us to visit his house. It and took out the ring. Her live another 20 years. When I all fell so wonderfully into eyes flled with tears, and heard her say that, I knew that place. my heart felt that it might the clock had begun. Our wedding day in Octo- explode. She smiled and I had no idea how I knew ber was one I look back upon handed me the ring. In my there was nothing to stop it. I as the only day in my life anxiety, I had forgotten to The ask her. 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Rejoice and be glad, The secret to getting past much to offer in the name GUEST COLUMN The next step is to recognize for your reward will be great their unfattering actions or of our Lord. They’ve taken the charisms or gifts that we in heaven” Mt 5:11-12. comments is to do some- the frst step in committing must share with others. What We might wonder, “If I’m thing nice for them. We’ll are the ways that God has doing such good, why would I either win them over to our to get each other to heaven answer our prayers through touched us, creating talents have to worry about someone (God’s) side or we’ll drive by getting married in the others, because they have said that we can use for the beneft scorning me?” The answer them crazy trying to fgure Church. Now it’s time to ‘Yes’ to him?” of others? is that some people are just out what we’re up to. step up and devote them- All these people have one The next step is commit- jealous. They may accuse us Remember, that all the selves to making the world thing in common. They have ment. A commitment which of doing these things for rec- good that we do is meant to a better place by touching God in their heart, and God is must be ignorant of the scorn ognition or because we have bring glory to God through the lives of others. It’s a love. They have taken it upon or persecution we may endure hidden motives. They haven’t imitating Christ. responsibility we all share, themselves to share that love from others. recognized the love of God Deacon W. Gerard Gautrau married and non-married by being a refection of God’s Christ gives us consolation in their own lives and hence is a permanent deacon at Sa- alike. So how do we all start love for us. They do it unself- in those times when he says, can’t imagine why someone cred Heart of Jesus, Norco. down this road? ishly without expectation of It begins with the correct gain or praise. mindset. Do we ever consid- So, how can we allow God her to the Louvre, D’Orsay I would know pride in er that God works through to work through us? Do we NOTRE DAME and numerous churches and her many times during our us in providing for the needs time together, but none ever have to receive a special call- ➤ From PAGE 3 places we had read about off of his people? This includes, ing? No, all we must do is the beaten path. equaled that moment. I had but is not limited to, their what others have done and I helped her out of the car and Finally, on the third day, we fallen in love with her, and physical, spiritual, psycho- that is to respond favorably to walked toward the church. walked into the Cathedral de I knew that if she ever saw logical, fnancial, social and Christ’s call to love God and She fell in love with the Cha- Notre Dame. The sounds of that marble, she would un- medical comforts. to love neighbor. We have to gall stained-glass windows footsteps and voices came at derstand. We often ask God to an- echo the words from the song, juxtaposed against the surviv- us from every direction. The There are certain truths in swer our prayers and to “Here I am Lord” which says, ing medieval ones. We won- church was so vast in scale time that are irrefutable to provide us with his blessings “I will go Lord, if you’ll lead dered at the past glory of the that sound seemed to be con- a believer in God and love. and grace. Sometimes he me. I will hold your people in coronations that had taken tinually overlapping itself in One is that all prayers are answers those requests by us- my heart.” place there. She said it was countless layers. heard and all are answered, ing others as his instrument. The frst step in becoming as if the cathedral had been I took her to an opening whether or not we have He may send someone to God-like is to recognize him built strictly for that purpose and told her that this was cognizance of it. Sometimes bring us comfort in times of working in our lives. We do because it was so regal. why I brought her there. I “silence” is the fnest answer sorrow, healing in times of this by putting aside time at Our honeymoon hotel in asked her to take her time and that we can receive, because sickness through caregivers, the end of each day to review Paris was small and hidden wander about the ambulatory. within it is love – a warm, reassurance from a mentor the day’s events and to con- away in a quiet neighborhood I told her there was something glowing love that cannot be in times of doubt, fnancial sciously recall where we were near the Place de Concorde. special back there, and I knew equaled. assistance from donors in touched by God’s presence We spent days exploring she would see it. I sat in a The people who had times of need, and friends and how he manifested him- and dining in neighborhood chair and watched her disap- prayed before those small, al- in times of loneliness. self to us. Where did it occur? restaurants, always avoiding pear through the opening. most insignifcant altars left The big question is, “Do How? By what means? We any that had been written In a place such as that ca- pieces and bits of themselves we realize that God can can’t imitate someone we’ve about in tour guides. I took thedral, time does not have and their souls behind. The a place of residence. All sec- stones absorbed them like onds, minutes and hours are a giant sponge. The stones constantly converging on one hold those prayers in trust, another. The year, month, day each and every joyful excla- and hour could be from any mation and anguished cry, and all time. God lives there vibrating to the hum of him because of the people who who one day will lay claim have come and gone across to them. its cold stone foor. As Jan walked through I had no idea how long that opening, she entered she was gone, but when she one person and came out an- emerged, I saw the tears. I ran other, not transformed but to her and held her close, and different in way that makes then my own tears came. God smile and a husband She looked at me and said, cry. “The marble in front of all Robert S. Brantley is a New the small chapels is indent- Orleans architectural photogra- ed where people have been pher. He and his wife Jan were kneeling for almost a thou- married in 1988, and she died (504) 834-7000 | (800) 899-8553 | www. TravelCentralVacations.com sand years.” in his arms on Dec. 19, 2008. June 22, 2019 | New Orleans BRIDAL REGISTRY CLARION HERALD | Page 5 Marriage Preparation in the Archdiocese of New Orleans at a Glance Congratulations! 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The Archdiocese of New Orleans recognizes the vital role the parish community plays in the life of each couple both before and after their wedding. It is God who joins man and woman in marriage and sustains them in love, and it is in the parish community that we encounter him most fully. Your first step is to contact your parish priest or deacon at least 6 to 8 months before the wedding to work out a plan to prepare for your marriage in the Church. Your parish priest or deacon will know which resources are available to you and will recommend the best possible marriage preparation, given your particular circumstances. If you are working with a priest or deacon from outside the archdiocese, he can email or call the Office of Marriage and Family Life at (504) 861-6243 for information and guidance. MARRIAGE PREPARATION PARTICULAR LAW FOR THE ARCHDIOCESE OF NEW ORLEANS

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➤ Discuss the wedding bud- get and style of wedding with both sets of parents. The priest Approximately 1,400 couples are married or deacon will inform you of parish guidelines and any each year in the Archdiocese of New Orleans. costs or offerings involved. Planning the perfect wedding is a job that calls ➤ Plan the reception: reserve all services needed. for prayer and preparation. The archdiocese ➤ Decide on attendants. requires a 6- to 8-month engagement period ➤ Using index cards, a com- puter spreadsheet or a phone for couples to reflect prayerfully on their app to draw up your invitation list and have your fancé draw relationship and their readiness for marriage. up his. Keep the list in alpha- betical order for ease in writing thank-you notes. “Two are better than one: They get a good wage for their toil. If the one falls, ➤ Select your wedding dress, the other will help the fallen one. But woe to the solitary person! If that one veil and accessories. Allow should fall, there is no other to help.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 HERE IS A CHECKLIST tory with you and review the three months for delivery. ration program and your FOR YOUR CATHOLIC strengths and weaknesses of ➤ Select attendants’ dresses out-of-town guests. ➤ Plan bridesmaids’ lun- understanding of the sacra- WEDDING: your communication process. and shoes. Presuming you are ready to go cheon. ment in light of the formal ➤ Select a photographer. forward, you can begin mak- preparation. He will discuss ➤ 2 months your responsibilities as future 6-12 months ing your liturgical wedding Select a forist. ➤ Finish addressing the wed- parents and as spouses and ➤ Immediately after mak- plans. ➤ Plan your music, selecting ding invitations. complete all documentary ing the decision to marry, organist and singer. ➤ With the guidance of ➤ Decide upon gifts for your requirements. you should visit your parish ➤ Reserve limousines. your priest or deacon, decide attendants. ➤ The reception of the priest to make arrangements on a marriage preparation ➤ Arrange rehearsal and ➤ Select the wedding ring, if sacraments of reconciliation for pre-marriage counseling. program. The priest or deacon rehearsal dinner, if you plan you have not already done so. and Holy Eucharist as ftting ➤ Discuss with the priest will discuss with you the most to have one. Tell the wedding ➤ Prepare newspaper an- preparation for the sacra- or deacon any special cir- appropriate program, depend- party. nouncement. ment of matrimony will be cumstances that might affect ing upon your circumstances. ➤ Begin plans for your future ➤ Visit your doctor. addressed. your marriage. ➤ The Office of Marriage home together. ➤ Finalize wedding liturgy 1 month ➤ Complete a premarital and Family Life website has and plan wedding rehearsal. inventory, a series of written complete information on steps 3 months ➤ Depending on the timing ➤ Get the marriage license. questions responded to by to take when preparing to ➤ Order invitations. and completion of your mar- ➤ Make transportation the couple separately. The be married in the Catholic ➤ Order personal stationery riage preparation program, plans for the wedding party. this fnal phase could range priest or deacon will analyze Church. For more informa- and note paper. ➤ Have the fnal ftting of anywhere from one to three the results, which will help tion, go to http://nolacatholic. ➤ Complete plans for your your bridal gown. months before the wedding. org/getting-married-1. honeymoon. ➤ Order your wedding cake, assess your readiness for mar- In the fnal phase, the priest or riage. The Offce of Marriage and ➤ Have both mothers choose the groom’s cake and other deacon will discuss what you desserts you may desire for ➤ The priest or deacon will Family Life can be reached at their gowns. have learned and experienced guests to take home. discuss the premarital inven- (504) 861-6243. ➤ Plan accommodations for during the marriage prepa- ➤ Mail your invitations. One Parish, two beautiful, Historic Landmark Churches 2 weeks ➤ Record each gift as re- St. Patrick’s Catholic Church ceived. 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Notice, I said of rationalizing that sort of begun the task of building for me. One of the relationship with God. If we behavior. a relationship with Christ, T Deacon Dave opportunities I have taken FARINELLI don’t have a strong relation- The answer is simple; the we are then ready to rebuild advantage of is Matthew ship with God, if we aren’t implementation is a little our relationship with our Kelly’s “Best Lent Ever” GUEST COLUMN in the habit of speaking and more diffcult. First, we have spouse, relative or friend. video series. listening to God concerning to come clean in our relation- So, ask yourself if you On the morning of March our lives, then we are speak- ship with God. Invest our to- have been approaching 30, the question he asked ration or help comes in with ing and listening to people tal selves into a deep relation- your issues grounded in was “Are you trying to solve the idea they will receive for advice with our lives. ship with God. Maybe it will the spiritual with worldly the technique that will solve spiritual problems with I have heard over and over mean going to confession, solutions. It may be time to their issues. Then, they re- worldly solutions?” I pon- again how diffcult it is to putting the elements of our change. If you would like to dered this question in the ceive a technique and, for love God when we have can’t lives which keep us separated talk that out with someone, context of marriage, and I whatever reason, don’t use it. love our neighbor. The same from God out of our lives. Catholic Counseling Center believe we fnd ourselves in Now we have two problems incongruence applies when As we began Lent with the may be able to assist you. that exact situation. – the one they brought to the our neighbor is our spouse. admonition “Turn away from Give us a call at 861-6245. It has been interesting frst session, and their “in- Routinely, I have spoken sin and be faithful to the Gos- One of our counselors will for me to be involved with ability” to utilize the possible with people concerning mari- pel,” it is a principle to live by be happy to help. marriage preparation and solution. tal problems, believing go- marriage counseling for I attribute this chaos to ing to church, receiving the many years and dealing the fact they have not placed sacraments, all the while not with many of the same is- “order” in their lives. By this speaking to one another, re- sues over and over. Each I mean focusing on the real fusing each other any form couple coming in for prepa- of order of life – relationship of intimacy and feeling jus- Wedding planning reality check By Don Paglia breath-away-beauty.” ForYourMarriage.org A celebration of God’s love Most engaged couples There is, of course, nothing The husband and wife – at least the brides – love wrong with a well-planned express this divine love con- thumbing through any of wedding day; nor for that cretely – through words and the popular bridal maga- matter, with a reception and deeds – as they live out their zines, reading the numerous wedding celebration of large conjugal love over a lifetime. helpful articles and taking proportions – that is, if they Their bond of love becomes note of the various ads, ft into the proper context. the image and symbol of the photos and other informa- This means that the wedding covenant that unites God to tion offered, be it helpful celebration needs to point his people. This is wonder- wedding tips, reception to the reality of what is truly ful! It is wonder-flled. It de- planning or honeymoon happening with this coming mands to be celebrated. And ideas. These magazines try together as husband wife. It the need and desire to have to be a resource guide for is actually a party to celebrate couples who want to have that God loves his people. See REALITY page 15 ➤ the perfect wedding. This isn’t a negative notion in itself, other than the fact that “perfect” is not reach- able, nor even necessarily, desirable. There is an adage in Cath- olic Engaged Encounter: “A Wedding is a Day; A Marriage is a Lifetime.” So the key is not to put more emphasis on the wedding plans than the subsequent marriage. These magazines are not designed to do any more than they do: sell gowns, rings, dinnerware, furniture, luggage, travel “WHERE THE UNUSUAL IS COMMON PLACE.” packages, honeymoon trips, sex appeal and “take-your- 5101 W. 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You have your Marcelina is a daily Mass to tell us what the secret was good days and bad days, but attendee and Virgin Mary to a long marriage. you put up with it no matter devotee who prays several what,” Patricia said. novenas to Mary, including FERRAND LANDECHE “When you get married, it’s one to “Our Lady of the Mi- for life, it’s not until you feel raculous Medal.” make it work,” Kitty said. ship,” Nolan said. like you want to leave,” David “We share joy and sacrifce “We don’t go to bed angry,” “Putting each other frst,” said. for each other,” she said. “I Raymond said. “That’s truth,” Mary Alice said. “Always tell bring joy and happiness to interjected Kitty. We’ve al- our husband yes,” Nolan our relationship to deal with ways done that; never ever joked. “Putting God first the trials such as the current gone to bed angry.” in our marriage is the main one,” Mary Alice said. illness of my husband. The NOLAN AND MARY ALICE Lord keeps helping us.” LANDECHE have been married This was the 56th annual RAYMOND AND KITTY FER- 60 years. They have three Golden Wedding Anniver- children, fve grandchildren sary celebration in the Arch- BROUSSARD RAND, parishioners at Our Lady of the Lake Church in and three great grandchil- diocese of New Orleans. RAOUL “DAVID” AND PA- Mandeville, have been mar- dren and are members of St. Each couple received a TRICIA BROUSSARD have been ESPIRITU ried 50 years. They have two Peter Parish in Reserve. scroll and photo with Arch- married for 75 years and ERNESTO AND MARCELINA sons and six grandchildren. One secret to a long mar- bishop Gregory Aymond. have five children, eight ESPIRITU have been married “We’re opposites but we riage for them: “Companion- – Christine Bordelon

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The symptoms and work. Joe has been married for Ask them to tell you about four years. It’s pretty clear the choices they made, and that in order for him to the challenges they faced – advance in his profession, perhaps even the mistakes he is going to have to work they made. Then in prayer 60 hours a week for the ask the Lord to guide you foreseeable future. That’s as you make your own deci- the minimum. sions. Joe recently discovered You may fnd that you can that the pension plan is modify your job expecta- only for partners. If he tions in order to leave more doesn’t become a partner time for family. in the firm, he considers You may also find that certain jobs or positions are himself a failure. incompatible with the other As Joe says, “There are values you hold regarding no lifeboats for those who family life, and a change is don’t make it to the top. warranted, possibly with a I’d have to start over some- accompanying change in where else. I’m doing this lifestyle. for my family – for my wife, Most problems in life and for the children we don’t get “solved,” they get hope to have, so we have a “With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another through love.” – Ephesians 4:2 managed. We make correc- good fnancial future. But tions and adjustments as we we want to start a family the devil, and the devil may ductive, because there were Does your wife support go. When asked what it took soon, and I’m apprehensive still downsize you. Better boundaries to the time they your devotion to your job to be happy, Sigmund Freud – we don’t have enough to work to balance your life could spend at work. or is she already feeling ne- said, “to love and to work.” In this case, he wasn’t far time for each other as it is. I now. Then, if work lets you It’s time to have a heart-to glected and fearing for the wrong. Only, keep them want to be a good husband, down, you’re still left with -heart talk with your spouse. future? balanced! but I also want to succeed at a solid base of love and sup- We often assume that we It’s important that deci- Dr. Jim Healy is a counsel- work. What do I do?” port. know what the other person sions about how each spouse ing psychologist and director Avoid getting into either/ makes major time commit- A prescription wants, so we give it to them of Family Ministry for the ors: “Either I put in incredible before they ask. Later we ments be mutually accept- We have a dilemma when Diocese of Joliet, Illinois. His hours at work or my career might say, “But I did it all able since presence is a mea- we hold two values that are marriage resources can be will be a bust.” for you!” Is partnership in sure of marital commitment. seemingly in confict – “I found at www.rootedinlove. The true answer is some- the frm primarily a personal Couples have to work these want to be a good husband org. where in between. goal or is it a goal you share? things out for themselves, or wife, and a good father This was reprinted with per- There may be some posi- How do we balance “us but not by themselves. Go to or mother. But work seems mission from foryourmarriage. tions that you will not get, time” with the work time men and women you admire, org, a ministry of the United to suck everything out of some contracts you won’t necessary to achieve a certain who have achieved balance States Conference of Catholic me. How do I do justice to sign, some honor you will lifestyle? in their lives between family Bishops. both?” never acquire. When trying to solve a Also, there will be some dilemma, we have to look cars, vacations or colleges LAPLACE more carefully at the values WEDDING GOWN BOX that you won’t be able to pay FREE CLEANERS we are trying to protect, and When you clean and heirloom your wedding dress. for. But in this life we pay for Your Professional Dry Cleaners! see if we understand these things we value, and, regard- values correctly. FREE WEDDING GOWN BOX - ing family life, the question is MINIMUM $100 PURCHASE Especially in uncertain f- not “Is it worth it?” but “Am I nancial times, it’s easy to get willing to pay?” WE ALSO PROVIDE very anxious about work, Having said that, balancing Dry Cleaning/Laundry even if one has a good job. your life can “pay off” in the Gown Restoration We can be tempted to work setting, too. I’ve seen Alterations and make any personal sacrifce many people (and I’m one Embroidery in order to maximize our of them) where marriage and work opportunities. But children cut down on their VISIT OUR 2 LOCATIONS it’s important to remember workaholism, forced them to 809 MAIN STREET • LAPLACE, LA that giving up everything set limits on their work, and 985-652-9104 for work is no guarantee of – lo and behold – their work success. life improved. They became 936 CARROLLWOOD DR. • LAPLACE, LA You may sell your soul to more effective and more pro- 652-652-6262 Page 10 | CLARION HERALD BRIDAL REGISTRY June 22, 2019 | New Orleans Frequently asked questions from engaged couples

the right person? ➤ Do you share similar On the Web: basic values about respecting www.foryourmarriage.org human life, fidelity, com- ➤ How do I know if I’m mitment, what’s right and cerned about this? ready to marry? wrong, honesty, life goals ➤ Is it necessary to feel ➤ Do most people consid- and lifestyle? “chemistry” between us for er you emotionally mature, ➤ Does your significant this to be the right person able to compromise, com- other bring out the best in to marry? municate well, share your you, and you in him or her? Chemistry, or feeling like feelings and handle anger ➤ Are you physically at- you “click” with another constructively? tracted to this person? person, is a natural part of a ➤ Do you love this other ➤ Can you imagine grow- deepening relationship, and person so much that you ing old together? a wonderful part of falling are willing to put his or her ➤ Do your trusted family in love, but unfortunately, happiness before your own? members and friends support chemistry is sometimes ➤ Are you marrying out of your relationship and affrm confused with infatuation, strength (I know who I am that it’s healthy and respect- which can be feeting. and am happy with myself) ful? In the good sense, chemis- rather than weakness (I need ➤ Do you experience on- try means you feel a strong someone to fll the gaps in “Above all, let your love for one another be intense, because love covers a going confict or, worse, vi- physical and emotional at- my personality)? multitude of sins. Be hospitable to one another without complaining. traction to the other person – 1 Peter 4:8-9 olence and abuse in your ➤ Have you developed relationship? That is a red and want to become closer strong friendships that have ular basis with harmful habits ously weaken your ability to fag to slow down and seek to him or her. You feel hap- lasted over time? or addictions, e.g., to alcohol, have a healthy marriage. advice and help, ensuring py in his or her presence and enjoy your time together. ➤ Are you able to keep drugs or pornography? That’s ➤ Is God calling you to mar- your safety if necessary. This sense of unity and joy commitments and delay not necessarily a reason not riage? Have you prayed and ➤ Is God calling you to at the other’s presence can gratifcation? to marry, but it is something discerned about this? marriage with this person? ➤ Do you struggle on a reg- that, left untreated, can seri- ➤ How do I know if this is Have you prayed and dis- See QUESTIONS page 12 ➤

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counterintuitive, studies show result of attending a mar- Don’t be afraid to seek wise QUESTIONS that cohabiting couples: riage preparation program. counsel if you’re not sure ➤ From PAGE 10 – Increase their risk of break- Occasionally, attending a how you’ll make ends meet. ing up after marriage (46% marriage preparation program ➤ How much does a typi- higher divorce rate) can make you realize that it be a great foundation for a cal wedding cost? isn’t the right time to marry, happy marriage. – Increase the risk of domes- Many wedding planners tic violence for women, and or that this may not be the In contrast, infatuation will tell you that the av- the risk of physical and sexual right person. That’s okay, be- means you are consumed erage wedding costs be- abuse for children cause engagement is a time to with thinking of the other tween $20,000-$30,000, – Have lower levels of happi- discern marriage actively and person to the point of do- but it definitely doesn’t ness and well-being compared intentionally. ing silly or risky actions to have to! Although the ante to married couples ➤ How much income should be together. You are blind has been rising as to what ➤ Why should I attend a we have between us to marry? to the faults of the other is considered “typical” for marriage preparation pro- Many couples, especially and consumed with being “Pursue love, but strive eagerly for the a wedding, simplicity can gram? We’ve known each younger ones, start their mar- be elegant. Consider ask- noticed by him or her. Your spiritual gifts, above all that you may ried lives together without a other for a long time and can’t prophesy.” – I Corinthians 14:1 ing friends and family for need to be liked is so strong large income, and possibly imagine we’d learn anything help on your big day, hav- that you are willing to give with debt. This can be a chal- new. many tips experienced couples ing a smaller wedding if up your own personality or lenge, but it shouldn’t neces- You don’t have to discover can share that will help you cost is a major concern, morals for the other’s af- sarily delay marriage. There’s all the things that make a mar- when you face bumps in your or researching inexpensive fection. Often infatuation own marriage. Marriage prepa- no magic number when it riage work by trial and error. do-it-yourself alternatives. is an unequal relationship ration programs also give you comes to the income and f- Others have done some of Don’t let the perceived cost between the object of adu- that work for you. At a mar- an opportunity to talk with nancial assets a couple should of weddings keep you from lation and the infatuated riage prep program, you get each other about the wide have before marrying, and saying “I do.” person. If this describes your a glimpse into other couples’ spectrum of “must-have con- bride and groom promise to relationship, you may want marriages so you can have a versations” before marriage. be faithful “for richer” or “for And remember, a wedding to step back and re-evaluate. more realistic sense of what’s You’ve probably talked about poorer.” is a day; a marriage is a life- ➤ Doesn’t living together normal and what’s not, and most of them, but you may At the same time, it’s impor- time. before marriage prevent me you can get solid advice on have avoided a few. This is a tant to realize that fnancial This was reprinted with per- from marrying the wrong how to have a happy, holy time to check yourselves. hardship can cause confict mission from foryourmarriage. person and thus getting di- marriage. Most likely you will find in a marriage, and to talk with org, a ministry of the United vorced later on? Although every marriage re- that you gain confdence in each other about your plan States Conference of Catholic Although it may sound lationship is unique, there are your decision to marry as a for meeting your basic needs. Bishops.

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GoodShepherdParishNOLA.com June 22, 2019 | New Orleans BRIDAL REGISTRY CLARION HERALD | Page 13 Dating? Keep these four basic guidelines in mind time. One must not only say to avoid temptation. Just enjoy the time you have from God to learn more things up front but back them 3. Have fun with that person in the pres- about others through enter- ent moment; tomorrow will up with actions. Do not send Dating is fun if you enter ing into a dating relationship take care of itself. Some fun Dating – scheduling time mixed messages; be clear and into it with the mentality with them. Trust that you are date ideas include museums, to spend with a person of the concise in your actions. Date of enjoying the present mo- in a dating season of your life art galleries, bowling, mini opposite sex to get to know in open public areas where ment. When you start to date because God needs you to golfng, movies, dinner and them – can be a wonderful there is no pressure to be someone, take the time to take the time and be present rollercoaster parks. time in a person’s life. It physically intimate. If you get to know them. Rushing in dating. Trust that God is challenges us to grow as in- are on a date where alcohol into a serious relationship 4. Trust in God leading you always and pray dividuals and to learn more is served, drink in moderation can add too much pressure. Dating is an opportunity that your dating be fruitful. about others. It can also lead us to grow deeper in faith. Here are four basic points to keep in mind when dat- ing. 1. Know your intentions Are you looking at dating as only a means of fnding a future spouse? While it could potentially be the end to the means of dating, fnding a future spouse should not be the main intention of dating. That puts too much pressure on each individual date and the person whom you date. Dating is a time to learn more about yourself through a relationship with others. It is a time to see what qualities you need and like in others. When not limiting yourself to a certain type you will discover new and valuable aspects of each person. Perhaps you have learned that in relationships you act a certain way that does not really refect you are or who you want to be. In this case, one can use dating as way to become more genuine in relation to the opposite sex. It will show what you need to “give” in the relationship and what you can “take” from the relationship, too! 2. Stick to your boundaries Communication is an Weddings | Rehearsal Dinners | Special Occasions | Corporate Events important factor in any relationship but especially a dating one. One must be 600 Decatur Street honest about one’s own intentions. All relationships 3rd Floor Jax Brewery Millhouse need boundaries. A bound- ary for a practicing Catholic New Orleans, LA 70130 is chastity, refraining from sexual activity before mar- riage. Doing this helps build www.patosontheriver.com intimacy within the rela- tionship without having sex. Being up front about one’s 504-561-1200 beliefs will weed out dates that are not worth your Page 14 | CLARION HERALD BRIDAL REGISTRY June 22, 2019 | New Orleans Book’s defense of marriage recognizes importance of faith

With so much in mind, psychologists, sociologists, one wonders what a person TV personalities and other should look for when consid- commentators. If these peo- ering marriage. Yount writes: ple approach marriage from By David Gibson “Your prospective mate differing perspectives and ForYourMarriage.org will probably also share your bases, what unites them is religious beliefs, your cultural the conviction that marriage “At its very best, marriage interests and your level of remains a viable institution affords a man and woman education and intelligence. in which couples can truly the opportunity to create Your prospective mate will and happily succeed. not only offspring but an also feel the same way as you A unique feature of entirely unique creature do about wanting children Yount’s book is its list of 100 called ‘us,’” David Yount and caring for aging parents.” brief statements designed writes in “Making a Success to help couples determine of Marriage: Planning for Role of religious faith whether their expectations Happily Ever After.” Yount suggests that people of marriage are reasonable, Yount presents this book contemplating marriage seek while prompting them to as a “defense of marriage,” “someone who will affirm “defne what each of them convinced that though who you are and what you Couples need to clarify their expectations before walking down the aisle. is prepared to invest in their wedlock fell victim “to a stand for.” A lasting marriage life together, as opposed to is “one of shared values,” he near 50 percent divorce what they expect to gain action with aging parents, of having enough of it when says. rate” in recent decades, from marriage.” friends and others, concern you need it,” he observes. And religious faith is in- there is nothing wrong with For example, the list asks for each other’s health and, Recognizing the toll ex- valuable, the author fnds. marriage itself “and every- readers whether they agree among other things, the cessive spending takes, the Spouses “need to believe in thing right with it.” or disagree with statements demanding care of their chil- author writes: “A car (or even something beyond” them- What needs fixing “are like these: “Since we love dren. For example: two of them) may be necessi- selves. He says: “Happy cou- the expectations that cou- each other, we no longer ➤ Health: “Since you are ties, but they don’t have to be ples live longer. So do people ples bring to it and the need to say ‘please’ and cooking and eating together expensive or new. You may with religious beliefs.” strength of their commit- ‘thank you.’ … If I am ever as a couple, you are respon- consider a college education Yount, a Quaker, writes ment,” he says. unfaithful in the marriage, it sible for each other’s nutri- to be a requirement for your in light of this faith, as well What impressed itself on will be my partner’s fault. … tion,” Yount advises. He urges children, but an Ivy League as his pastoral-counseling me was the book’s multi- I can continue to enjoy the spouses to “monitor each campus is not a necessity.” experience. He has authored dimensional presentation freedoms of single life after other’s health,” for “if your Marriages today, more than 13 books and a syndicated of married life. Without marriage. … I expect my spouse is suffering, your mar- ever, require “courage, clear- column; his book recalls slighting a couple’s personal wedding day to be the peak riage can suffer.” sightedness and commit- experiences as a Marriage En- relationship, Yount situates experience of our lives.” ➤ Money: Yount’s chapter ment,” Yount insists. Every counter leader. Yount’s long- marriage within a larger Yount believes husbands context. on a couple’s home-based marriage “will be tested by lasting marriage, his second, fnancial responsibilities of- circumstances beyond (the came after what he calls an and wives in successful mar- Many shared concerns fers more pragmatic, down- couple’s) complete control” – “ill-advised” frst marriage. riages respect their differ- Thus, marriage encom- to-earth advice than is found “illness, accident and fnan- This book adds to the ex- ences, accept apologies, passes intimate love, while in most books on marriage. cial strain.” A healthy mar- panding library of literature let go of the past, tread calling couples to a joint “Budgeting simply means riage survives such tests “by in “the marriage movement,” softly on each others’ vul- exercise of fnancial respon- knowing where your money putting hope and trust ahead fostered by religious leaders nerabilities and leave “the sibility, constructive inter- is going so you can be assured of anxiety,” says Yount. of varying faith backgrounds, door open to reconciliation after disputes.” He cautions that “wedlock can become a lockout when partners compete with each other, blame each other and insist on being right.” David Gibson served for more than 37 years on the edi- torial staff of Catholic News Service. Book reviews do not imply and are not to be used as official endorsement by the 3310 Jefferson Hwy. USCCB of the work or those associated with the work. Jefferson, LA 70121 They are solely intended as a resource regarding publications (504) 833-3366 that might be of interest to For www.stagnesjefferson.org Your Marriage visitors. June 22, 2019 | New Orleans BRIDAL REGISTRY CLARION HERALD | Page 15 Seven reasons why you should not marry By Susan Stith the symptoms of depen- eliminate the issues or the is limping along, thinking ForYourMarriage.org dence include: effects of your disagreements. that having their families’ One of you uses drugs or Consider enlisting the help or church’s stamp of ap- The decision to marry is alcohol to escape from prob- of a priest, minister, or coun- proval will fx their relation- the biggest decision that lems or worries. have major items which selor if these issues seem too ship. If this describes your most people make in a Getting drugs or alcohol is you avoid talking about threatening to handle alone. relationship, slow down lifetime. Following is a list always on your mind. because it might upset your ➤ 7. Marriage just seems and look more carefully at what marriage is. Are you of danger signs. If any of You can’t have fun or relax relationship. like the next logical step. ready, willing, and able to these are present in your without drugs or alcohol. For example: children, This sometimes happens fulfll its responsibilities? relationship now, it is best You become careless with money management, divi- to couples who are living to postpone the marriage important relationships. sion of responsibility for together. They slide into mar- About the author: until the issue is resolved. You drink alone or in se- home and children, whether riage not because they have Susan Stith is the Family Life Marriage itself will not cret. to keep both careers, religious fully explored the idea of a Director for the Diocese of Altoona-Johnstown. make these problems dis- A person dependent on identity of children in an permanent commitment and appear. In fact, these prob- drugs and alcohol is not a interfaith marriage. freely choose that for them- This was reprinted with per- lems almost always get free person. Their love affair You need to talk about selves, but because getting mission from foryourmarriage. worse after marriage. is with the bottle or drugs – all important issues openly married is the next thing to org, a ministry of the United not with you! before marriage. The wed- do. Or they slide into mar- States Conference of Catholic ➤ 1. Marrying to get out ➤ 6. You and your partner ding ceremony itself will not riage to fx a relationship that Bishops. of the house. This is simply trading one set of problems for an- forehand. This promise – or other. Other options exist covenant – is counter-cul- to get away from a troubled REALITY tural, and it is profoundly home. A counselor can help ➤ From PAGE 7 freeing and powerful. you fnd them. ➤ 2. No one better will a great wedding celebration An invitation to grow ask me to marry him/her. is therefore appropriate and Marriage is also a so- cial matter. For Catholics, This kind of thinking sug- ftting. indeed, for all baptized gests that you don’t think Getting grounded Christians, it is a sacra- much of yourself. People Sometimes, though, a cou- ment that draws two people who think this way aren’t ple can get so caught up in into an ongoing process of sure enough of themselves planning that a reality check sacrifce, compromise, rais- to hold their own in mar- is needed. When wedding ing children, prayer and riage and are generally planning threatens to spin dealing with the joys and unhappy when they do fnd out of control, it’s time to annoyances of a life shared their true self. Postponing step back and ask a few ques- together. or canceling your wedding tions: For the wise couple, it is is a good idea. Some good ➤ Why are we doing what- a challenge that, when em- counseling can help, too. ever we are doing regarding braced, opens the door to ➤ 3. It’s just time to get our wedding plans? tremendous opportunities Xxxxxxxxx sghsh s sgsg s sgs s sgs s sg s sggs ss gsgs s sggs s sggsg s sggs gsgs sgs gsg svsvggsgs married. ➤ What is the purpose of Photo by Gregory A. Shemitz | CATHOLIC NEWS SERVICE for personal growth and Actually, what is needed our large, small, costly, inti- Doves and interlocking wedding bands symbolizing the sacrament of mar- development. The mar- is the right time and the mate, informal, formal, etc., riage are depicted in a stained-glass window at Sts. Cyril and Methodius ried couple takes this way right person. reception? Church in Deer Park, New York. of living on as their spe- ➤ How are we acting as a ➤ 4. Being hit, slapped, cifc spiritual journey – one visible sign of God’s love for interfaith couple where only threatened or intimidat- They say “yes” to live out where maturity and growth all of us as we participate in one person is Catholic: How their commitment regardless ed, verbally put down or occurs for each person, as the celebration and related can aspects of both our faith of whatever circumstances forced to do things you God gets revealed over and events? traditions be acknowledged come about in their life. They don’t want to do by your over through their love for ➤ Who are we inviting? and affrmed in our wedding do so, not solely based upon partner. one another. And why are we asking these celebration? their own good intentions The work of marriage Being treated like this people? The marriage covenant and abilities, but do so in the continues long after the is wrong, and you should ➤ Is there anything we can illustrates and illuminates confdence of God’s grace. It bills for the reception and not put up with it. This is do to help others? Perhaps God’s love for us. The couple is God’s faithfulness that the gown are paid; long after not the normal way that even assist family reconcili- enters this covenant with couple is committed to mir- the honeymoon photos are engaged or married couples ations? How might we be a their own promise or vow to ror to each other and to the placed into an album or relate to one another. Mar- sign of God’s love to the do three things: to be faithful world. onto a website. So plan – for riage is based on respect, poor, the afficted and the to each other forever, to be The promise the couple a great wedding – as well not fear and force. Don’t needy? exclusively for one another, makes – publicly to God and as for a great and fulflling be fooled by your partner’s ➤ What does the term and to be open to new life. to community – is a radical marriage. promise to stop. “counter-cultural” mean to The couple says “yes” – to departure from any contract, Don Paglia is the co-director ➤ 5. You or your partner us in the context of our wed- be their word – while not whereby in a contract both of the Family Life Offce in are dependent on drugs ding celebration? knowing how they are go- parties know up front what the Archdiocese of Hartford, and/or alcohol. Some of ➤ For the ecumenical or ing to fulfill such a promise. will or won’t take place be- Connecticut. Page 16 | CLARION HERALD BRIDAL REGISTRY June 22, 2019 | New Orleans Why dating is important after getting married By Gerald Zingraf with each other all over again ForYourMarriage.org week after week. ➤ Commitment: By open- Date nights improve ing up to each other on dates, marriages, according to spouses build strong bonds foster opportunities to open common sense and a com- that solidify their commit- up to one another during prehensive, quantitative ment to each other. This is the date. study conducted by the important for the inevitable My wife Michelle and I National Marriage Project hard times that hit us all. at the University of Virginia. had created Date to Door as When either of you are a way to help strengthen The study showed improve- at your low point, will you ments for married couples marriages by planning cre- have each other to pull you ative dates and sending who go on frequent dates back up? How strong is your across categories such as spouses all of the ingredi- emotional bond with each ents they need for the date happiness, commitment, other? If it needs some im- communication, parent- in one box. There are other provement, then odds are subscription date night sites hood stability and commu- you aren’t dating each other available to check out for nity integration. enough. specifc ideas. The evidence also showed ➤ De-stressing: Lastly, who For example, one month’s that married couples who doesn’t need stress relief box included a red candle, devote time together at least every once in a while? Date empty pill bottles, canvases, once a week not only have “With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another nights are fun! paint, brushes, blank cou- lower divorce rates, but also in love, striving to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” – Your spouse isn’t just there Ephesians 4:2-3 pons and eight tube socks. increase the perceived qual- for you in tough times, but Date instructions were sent ity of their marriage. spouse. Often times, it leads you will look forward to all for enjoyable times too. Relax to tie all of those things That is enough evidence to unnecessary arguments or week. together. Enjoy each other. together for a creative date to start dating your spouse awkward tension. If you plan a creative date, Make memories together night. more! Poor communication you will also create fun mem- during well thought-out date In an article about the will almost always lead to ories together that you can nights. Our goal was to help mar- riages stay strong and grow study, W. Bradford Wilcox mismanaged expectations, cherish later on. Either way, You will never regret the together. and Jeffrey Dew highlight which in turn lead to disap- date nights will make your time you put in planning fve reasons why date nights pointment. These negative future and your past, better. a creative date instead of If you’d like to read more have strong correlations feelings will slowly pull you ➤ Eros: The “spark” and watching the next episode of about the National Marriage to healthy marriages: date apart. Dating throughout novelty of date nights con- a show you watch too much. Project at the University of nights provide opportuni- marriage will combat these tribute to the eros – romantic Sadly, the business of life Virginia, you can check it ties for communication, kinds of miscues. love – aspect of relationships often gets in the way of out at http://nationalmar- novelty, eros, strengthen- ➤ Novelty: Date nights and can make you feel like planning intentional dates riageproject.org. ing commitment and de- help create new experiences you’ve just started dating with your spouse. Date night About the author stressing. in relationships that have each other all over again. ends up being dinner and Gerald Zingraf met his wife ➤ Communication: The fallen into the mundane ruts Who doesn’t want to feel a movie every time. These Michelle at Virginia Tech importance of good com- that we naturally gravitate to those butterflies you felt dates aren’t bad, but they can within a Christian organiza- munication is obvious. as creatures of habit. when you frst started dat- become stale if they are the tion called Cru. They got We have all experienced If you fnd yourself stuck in ing? Planning consistent only form of date night you married a couple of years the consequences of poor the same routine every day, a dates with your husband or have together. The repetitive after college and moved to communication with our date night can be something wife will help you fall in love structure does not always the Washington, D.C., metro area to start their new lives together. The couple enjoys traveling to strange places, trying new foods and escaping to the great outdoors. They’re always looking forward to St. Francis of Assisi their next big date! Date to Door was created to Church make relationships and mar- riages better. The date ideas 631 State Street were created to engage you with your spouse while creat- ing memories that you could New Orleans enjoy reminiscing about. This was reprinted with per- 504-891-4479 mission from foryourmarriage. 3200 HOUMA BLVD. org, a ministry of the United METAIRIE, LA www.stfrancisuptown.com 504.455.5353 States Conference of Catholic JohnsTuxedos.com Bishops. June 22, 2019 | New Orleans BRIDAL REGISTRY CLARION HERALD | Page 17 Three modern obstacles to a healthy marriage don’t maintain that full-force There are fewer rose-petal of love,” or their spouse This is a problem I have “romantic” feeling forever. baths and more insurance “doesn’t make them happy observed even among very And we should not expect premiums. There are no more anymore,” is a recipe for dis- “faithful” Catholics who f this story, about a cou- them to. love songs and an awful lot of couragement and the kinds know and love a lot about ple married for 62 years When people mix up mar- day-to-day drudgery. of negative, selfsh thoughts their faith. Somehow, we as who died four hours ried love with romantic love, Fading romance in a cul- that can lead to divorce. a Church have failed to help I some husbands and wives apart, does not make you they wrongly feel that their ture that tells couples they ➤ sigh just a little, well … I’m marriage is in decline when can quit when it gets hard, 2. We fail at self-giving hear and understand that not sure you have a soul. the romance begins to fade. leave when they “fall out love. See OBSTACLES page 18 ➤ Or how about the story about Fred Stobaugh, the 96-year-old widower who wrote an ode to his late wife, “Sweet Lorraine,” and entered it in a song-writing contest? If you can watch the video without tearing up, don’t bother reading on. You’re just not human. Why do stories like these touch our hearts in such a moving way? I think it’s because stories like these so clearly demonstrate the life- long commitment marriage is meant to be. Till death do us part. We say the words, and we see in them an ideal to aspire to, something we all long to attain, and yet not all of us do. It’s cliché to lament di- vorce statistics, but in an attempt to combat the prob- lem of rising divorce rates and declining marriage rates, let’s take a look at some cultural problems that can be obstacles to healthy marriages.

➤ 1. We have a mixed-up idea of married love. It’s normal to go into marriage with some ex- pectation of romance and lovey-dovey stuff. After all, that’s how people wind up wanting to get married in the frst place. They fall in love, they have a roman- tic relationship, and they are so crazy about each other that they can’t wait to start “together forever.” That’s awesome. That’s fun. That’s how God intends for couples to begin. Every healthy marriage, no matter what stage its in, does have some measure of romantic love. Just as people have different personalities, though, different marriages do too, and most marriages STEAMBOATNATCHEZ.COM |504.569.1431 Page 18 | CLARION HERALD BRIDAL REGISTRY June 22, 2019 | New Orleans

why they call it sacrifce. work; it’s not a job and not OBSTACLES In my own life, I have seen something you do on the ➤ From PAGE 17 what looked like “perfect” side. It’s something you do marriages on the outside fall first, and then build the to make a total gift of self to apart on the inside because rest of your life around, not their spouse. of a failure of one or both something you try to ft in St. John Paul II empha- of the spouses to recognize later, once you’ve saved up sizes the importance of this simple fact: Love comes enough money and you’ve “self-gift” in “Gaudium et frst. Charity above all things. accomplished “more impor- tant” things. Spes”: You can be an otherwise “Man, who is the only “perfect” Catholic couple The saddest part of cultur- creature on earth which – earning a decent living, al obstacles to healthy mar- riage is that they negatively God willed for itself, cannot setting up a home, having affect a lot of innocent peo- fully find himself except children and educating them ple who desperately want to through a sincere gift of well – but if you fail to recog- answer a call to marriage. himself.” nize the importance of loving They want to find their That “sincere gift of self” your spouse with self-giving spouse, get married, begin he mentions is a daily call to love, you are failing ... at the a life-long commitment and sacrifce, and I will let you most important thing. None practice self-giving love. But in on a little secret: It’s not of that other stuff matters. “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love our culture sometimes gets feel-good stuff. It hurts. Like We aren’t all perfect at self- never fails ...” – Corinthians 13:7-8 in the way. sacrifce always does. That’s sacrifice, of course, and in The good news, though, a healthy marriage there is it becomes a hobby or some- is that our God is an awe- plenty of room for mistakes, thing nice to do “if you’re some God. The power of an mercy and forgiveness. The into that kind of thing.” It anti-marriage culture may fundamentally important certainly isn’t something you be great, but God is greater call to hear, however, is the would sacrifce your career and he works with what we IMPASTATO’S call to love one another and for. give him. All of us, married, Northern Italian Cuisine to fully fnd yourself through But our culture lets young single, divorced, widowed, a “sincere gift of self” to your people know that career goals dating or something in be- spouse. That kind of love isn’t can trump marriage. Travel tween, can pray every day just “nice if you can fnd it”; plans can take precedence. for the grace we need to live it’s what marriage is. There’s no hurry. out Christ’s call to perfec- The sad result is that when tion in an imperfect world. ➤ 3. We misunderstand the people get married later in Let’s support marriage. importance of vocation. life, there is less likelihood Let’s pray for each other. Vocation is a tough concept that they will meet their Let’s encourage each an- for many of today’s younger spouses when both are ready other. generations to understand. to make a commitment, and This article was originally The idea of a calling – not a there are fewer marriage- published by the Catholic- job, but a calling – to mar- ready men and women in the Match Institute (the media di- riage, priesthood or religious dating pool, even for those vision of CatholicMatch.com), life is a foreign one to many. who are looking seriously for which provides resources to When we fail to recognize a spouse. help single Catholics develop a marriage as a calling, how- If marriage is a vocation, strong foundation for marriage. ever, we belittle it. Culturally, that means it’s your life’s It is used with permission.

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Our Lady of Lourdes, The following information is the most recent coxmail.com for wedding guide- Our Lady of Guadalupe, 2621 Colonial Blvd., Violet, lines including music, directions 682-7070, E-Mail: oll@arch- available information for church weddings at various 411 N. Rampart St., New Or- and fees. leans, 525-1551: Call for details. no.org: Weddings may be scheduled on Fridays outside of parishes in the Archdiocese of New Orleans. Contact Immaculate Conception, Our Lady of the Lake, 312 Lent. Saturdays between 10:30 4401 7th St., Marrero, 341- Laftte St., Mandeville, (985) the parishes to schedule wedding dates and for a.m. and 1:30 p.m. and 6 p.m. 9516: Weddings may be sched- 626-5671, www.ollparish. or later. Other times depend- policies. The churches in the following list are among uled on Friday evenings at 7 p.m. info: Weddings scheduled Fri- ing upon parish schedule. For the ones that have celebrated the most weddings in or Saturdays before or at 1 p.m.; days at 7 p.m. or Saturdays at 1 information, contact the offce or at or after 6 p.m. Check for p.m., 6 p.m. or 7 p.m. Please visit recent years. It is not a comprehensive list. (504) area or check wedding guidelines details. the website or call the church at http://www.olol-church. code is assumed unless otherwise listed. Immaculate Conception office for wedding guidelines com/sacraments.html. (Jesuits’), 130 Baronne St., and information. Wedding co- New Orleans, 442-2622; Web- ordinators and sacristan services Our Lady of Perpetual 3394: Call the church offce for St. Louis Cathedral, 615 site: www.jesuitchurch.net: provided. Help, 8968 Hwy. 23, Belle Père Antoine Alley, New details. Chasse, 394-0314, E-Mail: Wedding coordinator, Julie Our Lady of Lourdes, 400 Orleans, 503-0351, http:// [email protected]: Divine Mercy Church, 4337 Vanderbrook. Weddings sched- Westchester Blvd., Slidell, www.stlouiscathedral.org/ Check for details. Organist fee Sal Lentini Pkwy., Kenner, uled Monday through Friday (985) 643-4137, ext. 300: Con- matrimony: Wedding fee additional. 466-5016, www.divinemercy- throughout the day; Friday eve- tact the offce for details or check includes the church, cantor, parish.org: Weddings Friday nings at 7 p.m.; and Saturdays the website, www.ollparishslidell. organist, wedding director and evenings outside of Lent and between 9 a.m. and 2 p.m., then com. Organist fee additional. See CHURCHES page 20 ➤ security. Weddings scheduled Saturdays between 10 a.m. and 5:30 p.m. or 7:30 p.m. Check for Monday through Friday at 3 1:30 p.m. Contact the parish details. p.m. or 7 p.m. and Saturdays office about other days. Some Infant Jesus of Prague Mis- at 11 a.m., 1 p.m., 3 p.m. or 7 smaller-scale weddings Saturdays sion, 700 Maple Ave., Harvey, p.m. at 5:30 p.m. Visit website or call 368-1397. Call the parish offce AUGIE’s All Saints, 1441 Teche St., for more information. for details. Restaurant & Events New Orleans, allsaintsch- Good Shepherd Parish: See Mary Queen of Peace, 1501 urchnola.org: Weddings may St. Stephen Church, St. Henry W. Causeway Approach, Man- Open for Lunch & Dinner be scheduled Monday through Church and Our Lady of Good deville, (985) 626-6977: Wed- Monday - Saturday | 11 a.m. - 9 p.m. Friday by request. Times also Counsel Church. dings scheduled Fridays at 7 available on Saturdays before 1 Holy Family Church, 1220 p.m.; Saturdays until 2 p.m. and p.m. or Saturday evenings at 7 14th Ave., Franklinton, (985) at 7 p.m. Please refer to web- We have Lunch & Dinner Specials p.m. Call Miranda at 361-8835. 839-4040: Weddings Fridays site at www.maryqueenofpeace. Private parties 7 Days a Week Annunciation, 517 Av- from 4-7 p.m.; Saturdays 10 a.m.- org and call church office for enue B, Bogalusa, (985) 732- 1 p.m., and 7 p.m. Reserve church details. Musician fees additional. Weddings, Banquets, Cocktail Parties, 4280: Please call the church before booking reception venue. Mater Dolorosa, 8128 Plum offce for details. No charge for use of church by St., New Orleans, 866-3669: Showers, Rehearsal Dinners, Birthday, Prom, Ascension of Our Lord, registered parishioners. Musi- Check for details. Additional Baptisms, Anniversary Parties, Holiday Parties, 1900 Greenwood Drive, cians contracted separately. fees for the wedding coordina- LaPlace, (985) 652-2615, Holy Guardian Angels Mis- tors, cantor and organist. Refer Company Parties or Seminars E-Mail: aolparishoffice@ sion, 1701 Bridge City Ave., to mdolorosa.com for guidelines. gmail.com. Website: www. Bridge City, 341-9522: Wed- Most Holy Trinity, 501 Holy aolparish.org. Check for details. ding times Fridays at 6:30 or 7 Trinity Drive, Covington, Whatever Organist fee additional. p.m.; Saturdays between 10 a.m. (985) 892-0642: Weddings on Blessed Francis Xavier See- and 1:30 p.m., and from 6 to 7 Fridays at 7 p.m. or Saturdays you need, los, 3037 Dauphine St., New p.m. Other dates and times con- from 9:30 a.m. to 1 p.m.; or Orleans, 943-5566; www. sidered upon request. Additional 6:30 p.m. or later. Please call the we are here seeloschurchno.org (under fees for musicians. church offce for full details. to Please!!! Sacraments and Service Holy Name of Jesus, 6367 Our Lady of Divine Provi- tab): Contact church to re- St. Charles Ave., New Orleans, dence, 1000 N. Starrett Road, serve. Wedding times Friday (Mail: 6220 Lasalle Place, New Metairie, 466-4511: Weddings 504-733-3000 evenings (except frst Fridays) Orleans, LA 70118), 865-7430; scheduled on Fridays at 7 p.m.; or Saturdays between 11 a.m. [email protected]: Saturdays between 11 a.m. and 1 and 2 p.m. and from 6 to 8 p.m. Wedding times are Fridays at p.m. and Saturday evenings at 8 6005 Jefferson Hwy., (None scheduled from 2-6 p.m.) 7:30 p.m.; Saturdays at 11 a.m., p.m. Call parish offce for details. Harahan Other dates and times consid- 1 p.m., 6 p.m. or 8 p.m. Contact Our Lady of Good Counsel ered upon request. wedding coordinator, Elizabeth Church (Good Shepherd Par- Visit us on Facebook: Blessed Sacrament-St. Broekman at liz.broekman@ ish), 1307 Louisiana Ave., New Joan of Arc Parish (St. Joan gmail.com for information on Orleans, 899-1378: Information Augie’s of Arc Church), 8321 Burthe fees for the wedding coordinator, (under sacraments tab) at www. St., New Orleans, 866-7330: music coordinator and organist. GoodShepherdParishNOLA.com Restaurant & Events Call the parish offce for details. Holy Name of Mary, 400 or call Ivy Rohr, wedding coor- dinator. Additional fees for musi- Reserve church prior to booking Verret St., New Orleans, (in *Also open on reception venue. Additional cians. Historic Algiers Point), Mail- Easter, Mother’s Day, fees for musicians. Our Lady of Grace Church, ing address: 500 Eliza Street, Thanksgiving and New Orleans; 362-5511; www. 780 Hwy. 44, Reserve, (985) Blessed Trinity, 4230 S. Christmas Day Broad St., New Orleans, 822- holynameofmarynola.org. Please 536-2613, E-Mail: olgchurch@ Page 20 | CLARION HERALD BRIDAL REGISTRY June 22, 2019 | New Orleans

days, civil holidays, Christmas 835-9343, info@scschurch. CHURCHES week or during Holy Week. Other com: Weddings scheduled ➤ From PAGE 19 dates and times are considered on Fridays between 6-8 p.m.; upon request. Contact parish of- Saturdays between 10 a.m. and Our Lady of Perpetual fce for more information. 1:30 p.m.; or 6-8 p.m. Wed- Help, 1908 Short St., Ken- Sacred Heart, 28088 Main ding coordinator Jeanie Favret, ner, 464-0361: Arrangements St., Lacombe, (Mail: P. O. Box 583-3438, [email protected]. must be made eight months in 1080, Lacombe, LA 70445- Wedding guidelines at parish advance. Please call the parish 1080), (985) 882-5229: Check website, www.scschurch.com. offce to make an appointment. for details. Contact parish offce for more Wedding times are Fridays at 7 information. or 7:30 p.m., Saturdays between St. Agnes, 3310 Jefferson Hwy., Jefferson, 833-3366 St. Charles Borromeo, 10:30 a.m. and 1:30 p.m. or 13396 River Road, Destre- evenings at 7 or 7:30 p.m. Mu- or 833-4118, call or email Sabrina Haynes or Kelly Wil- han, (985) 764-6383, sbourg@ sicians/singers not included in scbhumilitas.org: Wedding the fee. For more information, bert at stagneschurch@no- coxmail.com: Organist and times are Fridays at 7 p.m.; Sat- call or email secretary@olphla. urdays at 1 p.m. or 7 p.m. Call org. cantor fees are additional. Wed- ding times are Fridays at 7 p.m., parish for more information. Our Lady of Prompt Saturdays between 10 a.m. and St. Christopher, 309 Man- Succor, 2320 Paris Road, 1 p.m.; and 7 p.m. For Wedding son Ave., Metairie, 837-8214: Chalmette, 271-3441: Web- guidelines and forms, see www. Weddings scheduled Fridays site: olps-chalmette.org. De- stagnesjefferson.org (click “Wed- between 6-8 p.m.; Saturdays be- tails, call rectory, check website. dings”). “For this reason a man shall leave (his) father and (his) mother and be joined tween 11 a.m. and 1 p.m.; and to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” – Ephesians 5:31 Our Lady of Prompt Suc- St. Alphonsus, New Or- between 6-8 p.m. Organist and cor, 146 Fourth St., West- leans: See St. Mary’s Assumption vocalists separately contracted wego, 341-9522: Wedding Church and St. Mary’s Chapel. made. You may also visit www. church organist and cantor for by the couple. times Fridays at 6:30 or 7 p.m.; stanselmparish.org for additional fees. Lighted parking in the St. Andrew the Apostle, St. Clement of Rome, 4317 Saturdays between 10 a.m. and information or contact our wed- schoolyard. Mrs. Dede Dardis, 3101 Eton St., New Orleans Richland Ave., Metairie, 1:30 p.m. and from 6-7:30 p.m. ding coordinator, Rebecca Ragas, wedding coordinator, 488-3578. (Algiers), 393-2334: Contact 887-7821: Wedding times are Other dates and times consid- at (985) 845-7342. Weddings are St. Augustine, 1210 Gov. Fridays between 6-8 p.m.; Sat- ered upon request. Additional wedding coordinator Mary Ann Fridays at 6:30 p.m.; Saturdays Nicholls St., New Orleans, 525- urdays before 1:30 p.m.; and fees for musicians. Dallam, 415-7402 or mdallam@ before 1 p.m. and Saturdays at standrewparish.net. Wedding 5934: Call for details. Saturday evenings no earlier Our Lady of the Rosary 6:30 p.m. times on Fridays at 6 p.m. or St. Benedict, 20370 Smith than 6:30 p.m. Wedding co- Church, 3368 Esplanade Saturdays at 1 p.m. or 6 p.m. St. Anthony Church, 924 Road, Covington, (985) 892- ordinator is Theresa Laughlin, Ave., (Parish offce: 1322 Moss Other days and times are con- Monroe St., Gretna, 368-1313: 5202, [email protected]: email, [email protected]. St.), New Orleans, 70119. Vis- sidered upon request. Website Check for details. Wedding times Wedding times by appointment. St. Cletus, 3600 Claire it www.olr-nola.org for the wed- are Fridays at 6:30 p.m.; Saturdays for wedding guidelines at www. Call the offce for more details. Ave., Gretna, 367-7951: Call ding calendar and guidelines. between 11 a.m. and 1 p.m.; or standrewparish.net under sacra- St. Benilde, 1901 Division church offce for details. Please call the parish office, ments/marriage. 6:30 p.m. Fee includes services 488-2659, for additional infor- of Debbie Swiler, wedding coor- St., Metairie, 834-4980: Wed- St. David, 5617 St. Claude mation. St. Angela Merici, 901 Bev- dinator. Organist and cantor fees ding times are Fridays at 6 p.m., Ave., New Orleans, 947-2853, erly Garden Drive, Metairie, E-Mail: stdavid@arch-no. Our Lady Star of the Sea additional. 6:30 p.m. or 7 p.m.; Saturdays at 835-0324: Call for details. 11 a.m., 11:30 a.m., noon, 6 p.m., org: Wedding times are Satur- Church, 1835 St. Roch Ave., St. Anthony of Padua, 4640 6:30 p.m., 7 p.m. or 7:30 p.m. days between 10 a.m. and 1 p.m. New Orleans, 944-0166, olss- St. Ann, 3601 Transconti- Canal St., New Orleans, 488- Wedding guidelines and forms and between 6:30 p.m. and 8 [email protected]: Weddings nental Blvd., Metairie, 455- 2651: Call at least six months in 7071: Call for details. available at www.stbenilde.org. p.m. Weddings may be sched- are held on Fridays between 6 advance for date, availability and uled on Friday evenings at 7 p.m. S t . A n s e l m C a t h o l i c Wedding coordinators, Danielle and 7 p.m.; Saturdays starting appointment. Wedding times St. David School gymnasium Church, 306 St. Mary St., Mad- Delaup Hill, 666-1106, and/or at 11 a.m. but no later than 1 are scheduled on Fridays at 6 or is available for receptions. For isonville 70447: Schedule date Anita Delaup, 874-1210. p.m., and Saturday evenings be- 7 p.m.; Saturdays at 1 or 7 p.m. more information, call the par- ginning at 6 p.m. Weddings will with the parish offce before any All fees include the services of a St. Catherine of Siena, 105 not be held on religious holy other wedding arrangements are wedding coordinator. Contact Bonnabel Blvd., Metairie, See CHURCHES page 21 ➤

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St. Joan of Arc, 529 West Saleun, 525-4413, Ext. 201. CHURCHES Fifth St., LaPlace, (985) 652- St. Joseph Church and ➤ From PAGE 20 9100, E-Mail, secretary@sja- Shrine, 610 Sixth St., Gretna, ish offce. Music guidelines and church.com: Refer to website, 368-1313: Check for details. fees available upon request. sjachurch.com, and call offce for Wedding times are Fridays at Wedding coordinator, Terry C. details. 6:30 p.m.; Saturdays between Montegut, 427-4586. Organist St. John Bosco, 2114 Oak- 11 a.m. and 1 p.m.; or 6:30 p.m. is Irene Young. mere Drive, Harvey, 340- Fee includes services of Debbie 0444, offce@saintjohnbosco- St. Dominic, 775 Harrison Swiler, wedding coordinator. church.org: Call for details. Ave., New Orleans, 482- Organist and cantor fees addi- 4156, [email protected]: St. John of the Cross, 61050 tional. Weddings scheduled on Fridays Brier Lake Drive, Lacombe, St. Joseph, 1802 Tulane at 7 p.m.; Saturdays at 1:30 or (985) 882-3779: Check for de- Ave., New Orleans, 522-3186: 7 p.m. Call parish office for tails. Weddings scheduled Monday details. St. John the Baptist, 1139 through Saturday. Check with St. Edward the Confessor, Oretha Castle Haley Blvd., wedding director for avail- 4921 W. Metairie Ave., Me- New Orleans: Times are Monday able times. Refer to www.stjo- tairie, 888-0703, stedward@ trough Friday from 3-7 p.m.; sephchurch-no.org for church steddy.org: Weddings sched- Saturdays from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. guidelines. Fee includes wed- uled Fridays after 7 p.m., Satur- and 6 p.m. Other times by special ding sacristan and parking lot days before 1 p.m. and Saturday arrangement. Fee includes wed- attendant for rehearsal and evenings after 6 p.m. Organist ding coordinator and security wedding. “Pursue love, but strive eagerly for the spiritual gifts, above all that you may for evening weddings. Contact and cantor fees additional. prophesy.” – 1 Corinthians 14:1 Contact the parish offce for wedding coordinator, Paige A. See CHURCHES page 22 ➤ more information. net: Call the parish offce for herdParishNOLA.com or call Ivy Rohr, wedding coordinator. St. Francis of Assisi, 631 complete details at least six Additional fees for musicians. State St., New Orleans, 891- months before anticipated wed- 4479: Weddings scheduled Fri- ding date. Reserve church before St. James Major, 3736 Gen- days at 6:30 or 7 p.m.; no Friday booking a reception venue. Ad- tilly Blvd., New Orleans, 304- night weddings during Lent. ditional fees for musicians. 6750: Check for details. Ad- Saturdays 11 a.m. to 1 p.m., St. Genevieve Catholic ditional fees for organist and and 6:30 or 7 p.m. Time ad- Church, 58203 Hwy. 433, cantor. justments may be made based Slidell (Mailing address: St. Jane de Chantal, 74020 upon parish events. Visit www. 58025 St. Genevieve Lane, Maple St., Abita Springs: Wed- stfrancisuptown.com under 70460), (985) 643-3832, E- ding times on Friday evenings sacraments, then matrimony Mail: stgenevieve@stgene- and Saturdays between 10 a.m. to find Wedding Handbook. vieve.us: Wedding times are and 2 p.m., then 6-9 p.m. Con- Contact Teresa Miller at parish Fridays at 6 p.m. and Saturdays tact Wendy Talbot, wedding offce or tmiller@stfrancisup- between 11 a.m. and 1 p.m. or at coordinator, (504) 914-6724. town.com. 6 p.m. Please call the parish offce Call offce at (985) 892-1439 for St. Francis Xavier, 444 for details. information. Metairie Road, Metairie: St. Gertrude the Great, St. Jerome, 2402 33rd St., Check for details. Additional 17292 La. Hwy. 631, Des Al- Kenner, 443-3174: Call parish fees for organist and cantor. lemands, (985) 758-7542: Call offce for details. Wedding times Wedding coordinator/cantor/ rectory to schedule or for infor- vary on Saturdays before 2 p.m. soloist, Linda Jones, 421-7946, mation. or after 6 p.m.; other times con- [email protected]. St. Henry Church (Good sidered upon request. St. Gabriel the Archangel, Shepherd Parish), 803 Gener- St. Joachim, 5505 Barataria 4700 Pineda St., New Or- al Pershing St., New Orleans, Blvd., Marrero, 341-9226: leans, 282-0296, stgabriel@ 899-1378: Information (under Please call the church offce for archno.org, www.stgabe. sacraments tab) at GoodShep- details.

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Please call offce at (985) 892- CHURCHES 2422 and check website (www. ➤ From PAGE 21 stpeterparish.com/marriage- St. Joseph the Worker, preparation) for procedures and 455 Ames Blvd., Marrero, guidelines as well as necessary 347-8438: Call for details. forms. St. Katharine Drexel Par- St. Peter, 1550 Hwy. 44, (P. ish, 2015 Louisiana Ave., O. Box 435), Reserve, (985) New Orleans, 891-3172, st- 536-2887: Call the church of- [email protected]: fce for details. Please call or email the church St. Peter Claver, 1923 St. offce for details. Philip St., New Orleans, 822- St. Louis King of France, 8059: Call for details. 1609 Carrollton Ave., Metai- St. Philip Neri, 6500 rie, 834-9977: Wedding times Kawanee Ave., Metairie, 887- are Fridays 5 p.m. and later; 5535: Please call the church Saturdays 10 a.m. through 1 offce regarding fees and further p.m.; and 6 p.m. and later. For detailed information. information, visit https://slkf- St. Raymond and St. Leo church.com/sacraments. Wed- the Great, 2916 Paris Ave., ding coordinator is pastor, Fa- New Orleans, 945-8750, ext. ther Mark Raphael, mraphael@ 4: Check for details. Additional archdiocese-no.org, 834-9977, fees for musicians. Ext. 3. St. Rita, 7100 Jefferson St. Luke the Evange- Hwy., Harahan, 737-2915: list, 910 Cross Gates Blvd., Call for details. Check bridal Slidell, (985) 641-6429: No guidelines at www.stritahara- fees for parishioners. Non-pa- han.com/church/sacraments. rishioners, call for information. St. Rita, 2729 Lower- “I give you a new commandment – love one another. As I have loved you, so you also should love one another. Wedding times are Fridays after line St., New Orleans, 866- This is how all will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” – 13 John:34-35 5:30 p.m.; Saturdays from 10 3621, http://www.stritano- a.m. to 1:30 p.m. and after 6:30 la.com/wedding-guidelines Drive, Harvey, 366-1604: Call 6748: www.stalphonsusno. p.m. For wedding information, New Orleans: Times are Monday to fll out request form, or the parish offce for details. com: Check website for details. call Deacon Harold Burke. through Friday from 3-7 p.m.; contact office@stritanola. St. Maria Goretti, 7300 St. Mary Magdalen, 6425 St. Mary’s Church, c/o St. Saturdays from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. com: Weddings usually sched- Crowder Blvd., New Or- West Metairie Ave., Metairie, Louis Cathedral, 615 Père and 7 p.m. Other times by special uled on Fridays 1 p.m. or later, leans, 242-7554: Wedding 733-0922: Call for details. Antoine Alley, New Orleans, arrangement. Fee includes wed- and Saturdays 1 p.m. or earlier times available on Friday eve- St. Mary of the Angels, 503-0351, http://www.stlou- ding coordinator and security and 6 p.m. or later. Fees include nings 6:30-7:30 p.m., Saturday 3501 N. Miro St., New Orleans, iscathedral.org/matrimony: for evening weddings. Contact coordinator of rehearsal and morning, afternoon or evening. 945-3186: Call parish offce for Wedding fee includes the church, wedding coordinator, Paige A. day-of, but do not include or- Additional fees for organists or details. cantor, organist, wedding director Saleun, 525-4413, Ext. 201. ganists or musicians. and security. Weddings scheduled musicians. Contact the parish St. Mary’s Assumption St. Patrick, 28698 Hwy. 23, St. Rosalie, 600 2nd Ave., Monday through Saturday at 3 offce for details. Church (St. Alphonsus Par- Port Sulphur, 564-6792: Call Harvey, 340-1962: Call for p.m., 5 p.m. or 7 p.m. St. Margaret Mary, 1050-B ish), 923 Josephine St., New for details. details. St. Matthew the Apostle, Robert Blvd., Slidell, (985) Orleans, 522-6748, www.stal- St. Peter, 125 E. 19th Ave., St. Stephen Church (Good 10021 Jefferson Hwy., River 643-6124: Available times phonsusno.com: Check website Covington: Wedding times Shepherd Parish), 1025 Na- Ridge,737-4537, www.stmat- are some Fridays, Saturday for details. available on Friday evenings, poleon Ave., New Orleans, thewtheapostle.net under mornings and midday. Web- St. Mary’s Chapel (St. Al- Saturdays in the afternoon or eve- 899-1378: Information (under sacraments. site: www.saintmmchurch.org. phonsus Parish), 1516 Jack- ning. Additional fees for wedding Sacraments tab) at GoodShep- St. Martha, 2555 Apollo son Ave., New Orleans, 522- St. Patrick, 724 Camp St., coordinator, organist and cantor. herdParishNOLA.com or call Ivy Rohr, wedding coordinator. Additional fees for musicians. 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