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MySpace Primer: A Concise Guide On How to Use MySpace.com Safely and Responsibly 29 April 2006 Kevin Farnham Dale Farnham www.MySpaceSafetyTips.com www.HowToPrimers.com www.MySpaceSafetyTips.com MySpace Primer: A Concise Guide on How to Use MySpace.com Safely and Responsibly Copyright © 2006 Kevin and Dale Farnham This document is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Non-Commercial No Derivatives License Version 2.5. Permission is granted to reproduce and redistribute this document in its entirety provided that you attribute the work to the authors and publisher. Permission is granted to quote segments of this document provided that the authors are credited and the source document is named. This document may not be used for commercial purposes. All other use of this document requires written permission from the authors. Published by How-To Primers http://www.HowToPrimers.com Source document hosted at: http://www.MySpaceSafetyTips.com http://www.HowToPrimers.com 2 MySpace Primer ± 29 April 2006 About this Document This document's original source is material from the How-To Primers book MySpace Safety: 51 Tips for Teens and Parents, which will be available at www.Amazon.com and www.HowToPrimers.com in late May 2006. This document is updated more frequently than the book, so while the primer is derived from the book, it is also a supplement to the book. Disclaimer The statements in this document are based on study of MySpace.com as it existed prior to the publication date. MySpace.com is an active business. The site can change in significant ways, without advance warning to the user community. This document does not claim to represent official MySpace.com policy. Any misrepresentation of MySpace.com in this document is unintentional. While every precaution has been taken in the preparation of this document, the publisher and authors assume no responsibility for errors or omissions, or for damages resulting from the use of the information contained in it. 3 www.MySpaceSafetyTips.com Contents 1. Introduction 2. Joining MySpace 3. Responsible Account Privacy Settings 4. What Your Profile Shouldn't Say About You 5. Photos 6. Friends & Comments 7. Blogging 8. Groups, Forums, Chat 9. Quitting MySpace Resources 4 MySpace Primer ± 29 April 2006 1. Introduction MySpace is one of a class of web sites that are termed ªsocial networkingº sites. People are given a web address where they can post information about themselves, and they can very conveniently contact other people on the same social networking site. Similar sites include Xanga.com, Friendster.com, and Facebook.com. MySpace.com is owned by Rupert Murdoch's News Corp, which purchased the site for $580 million from Intermix Media July 2005. Since the News Corp buy-out, much has improved at MySpace. Enhanced technology resources are more effectively meeting the site's ever-growing bandwidth requirements. Additional scrutiny is being applied, and the accounts of members who post pornography or hate content are being deleted. There is a new commitment to addressing safety-related issues. And, enhanced customer service resources are making it much easier for people to contact MySpace for problems that require human intervention (such as deleting accounts of underage users and addressing identity theft). 5 www.MySpaceSafetyTips.com But Isn't MySpace Dangerous? Read the headlines, and it can sound like MySpace is the most dangerous place anyone can visit on the Internet. It's not. Take any group of millions and millions of people, who are freely able to join and navigate a web site, and you are certainly going to have a large number of people who are a danger to other people, just as when you walk down any street, there are some people you walk past who have been or will be a danger to other people. The Internet is a very different ªplaceº from the ªrealº world. Yet, in many ways, the Internet is quite similar to the natural world. People interact in both worlds. People misrepresent who they are in both worlds. So, is MySpace dangerous? Every open Internet site is somewhat dangerous, so yes. Can a MySpace user take steps to significantly reduce the risk involved in using the site, without losing the benefits the site offers? Yes, absolutely. Dear Parents: MySpace Is the Future When parents first discover MySpace, the initial reaction can be shock, followed by a response of 6 MySpace Primer ± 29 April 2006 ªUnder no circumstances will I allow my teen to go to this site!º Unfortunately, this type of response may cause more problems than it solves, except in the case where the child is underage (13 and younger, in the case of MySpace.com). In most cases, banning MySpace isn't a good answer because the use of ªsocial networkingº Web sites like MySpace is considered a normal part of everyday life by a majority of teens today. Banning what a teen considers part of normal life won't help. If something's ªnormalº then young people will seek it out±when you're not at home or not monitoring the computer, or by using the computer at the home of a friend who is allowed to use MySpace, or at a computer at school or in the library. With MySpace.com challenging Google for ranking as the top page view site on the Internet, we should assume that MySpace and similar sites are going to be part of the teen and young adult world for a long time into the future. Social networking, whatever opinion one may have on whether it's good or bad, must be viewed as ªprogress.º The clock isn't going to be turned back. Social networking is here to stay. So, what's an appropriate response for parents? To get accustomed to the new world±to join MySpace, find out what it's about, learn about and teach your teens about the risks, and ideally to enjoy participating with them in this new form 7 www.MySpaceSafetyTips.com of interaction that has become normal for this younger generation. If you choose not to share these experiences with your children, then you may find yourself losing contact with them as they grow up and leave home as young adults. At minimum, you'll be losing one form of sharing with them into the future. Teens: What's Your Motive? Before you join MySpace, it's a good idea to know why you are joining it. If the reason is friends or networking, this guide can assist in making sure your MySpace experience is safe and secure. The ªBasic Infoº tab of the MySpace ªEdit Profileº screen has an entry where you respond to the prompt ªI'd Like to Make Space for.º The choices are: • Dating • Serious Relationship • Friends • Networking You can select any or all or none of these. Whatever you select is displayed in on your profile page and in search results. Someone using the 8 MySpace Primer ± 29 April 2006 MySpace browse or search functions can also use these ªmotiveº choices as search criteria. That is, they can search only for people who have identified ªDatingº as one of their reasons for joining MySpace. We highly recommend against teens using MySpace for dating or seeking a ªserious relationship.º It's too easy for people to role-play, and pretend they're 18 when they are really 43. This is what happened in several of the most publicized incidents where contact on MySpace led to meetings that turned very bad. If your goal is an in-person meeting with someone for dating / serious relationship purposes, then you are seeking to use MySpace for a different reason from what this guide assumes. In that case, you should visit the online safety sites listed in the Resources section at the end of this document, and make your decisions based on the advice they provide. Our advice is that you do not use MySpace.com (or any other online networking site) for dating or a serious relationship if you are under 18 years old. Meanwhile, if your reason for joining MySpace is to ªmake space forº friends and/or networking, and you'd like to enjoy a safe and secure MySpace experience and learn how to use MySpace responsibly, please read on! 9 www.MySpaceSafetyTips.com Five Levels of Safety 1. Every teen remembers being told ªDon't talk to strangersº and ªNever get into a car with a strangerº when they were young. If these rules are applied on MySpace, the possibility of something bad happening is minimal. 2. The risk can is much further reduced if you do not post provocative content (pictures, comments, blog entries). If you post such content, you're sending a message to people you don't know, who may interpret it in ways you don't expect. 3. A third level of safety comes from not posting information in your profile or elsewhere that identifies where you live, where you go to school, where you go for fun, what your daily schedule is, what upcoming events you plan to attend, etc. Internet safety experts have recommended against posting this kind of information on public sites for a very long time. 4. MySpace provides its own software- embedded safety through account settings, blog settings, picture settings, etc. These settings can be applied to limit who can view your information and posts. 5. Finally, there's your brain. Use it when you're online! Consciously think about the possible impact of what you're typing into the computer 10 MySpace Primer ± 29 April 2006 and onto the net.