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But will that be sufficient to have post-synod documents reflect the South pg 15 - Sacrament of Marriage is a Asian reality as a matter of conjecture, and hope? BY JOHN DAYAL Covenant Families in India share with their global counterparts many issues, espe- pg 16 - Tips For Smart Kitchen Work cially those relating to the impact of globalization, internet pornography, pg 17 - 'Thalis' From Around India alcoholism, drug use among youths, and the intrusion of information technol- pg 18 - Colours! Colours! Colours! ogy and reproductive sciences. pg 13 - Inspiration! There are emerging challenges of pre-marital and extramarital sex, teen pg 20 - Matrimonials pregnancies, and the prevalence of contraception. Employment worries, health issues and societal pressures have added to mental problems, stress, and pg 22 - Vatican astronomer says tensions in marriages and the family. there's life out there Church people, including priests and women religious, are lacking in both numbers and training to be effective counselors, so pastoral care is therefore minimal in most areas. We have a few cases of pastoral care for the LGBT community, but same Subscriptions Rate: sex marriage is almost entirely unknown. One year (anywhere in India) Rs. 250 Pedophilia exists, but is not at a crisis point, either in the lay faithful, or in Three years (anywhere in India) Rs. 700 the clergy. Five years (anywhere in India) Rs. 1000 Prostitution and trafficking in women is illegal, but has huge implications in India where it is widespread. Catholic women are also victims of this in several One year (outside India) Rs. 2500 states. 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In urban areas, the laity therefore community is a very small minority. does not take teachings of the Church The prevalence of caste has deep Of India’s 1.25 billion people [ac- seriously, other than observing pious implications. The deep-rooted cultural cording to the 2011 census], Chris- rituals, coming for Mass, Novenas and patriarchy has its impact on the role tians constitute just 2.3 percent of the Feasts. There are exceptions in some and status of women, including Catho- total population. Of these 26 million or areas on the west coast, and in some lic women. so, Catholics account for just 17 mil- tribal areas. lion. The study of family life among From this flows the rampant -- and These Catholics are divided Catholics -- and among other Christian growing -- issue of dowry, which has to among the Latin, Syro-Malabar and denominations -- in India remains a be paid by the parents of a bride to the Syro Malankara rites. very imperfect and inadequate science, bridegroom. While the Latin Rite is the domi- and that must certainly disturb the This has led to a great social and nant, the two Oriental rites now have Church leadership. economic crisis in many areas, espe- dioceses beyond their home state of This prevents the evolution of an cially in southern India, and particularly Kerala. emphatic, even pragmatic, pastoral and in the state of Kerala and surrounding Catholics live in the midst of an social response. It also leads to inad- areas. overwhelming Hindu majority [and a equate training and formation of clergy With both dowry and caste, the majority of Muslims in some districts and men and women religious in this role of the Church has been controver- such as Kerala, Bengal, Assam and important area of work in the life of the sial. Many Catholic human rights and Kashmir]. lay faithful. gender activists have criticized the Inevitably, there are an increasing The lay faithful, and their families, Church over its soft response to these number of cases of Christians -- espe- are largely left to their own devices in disturbing facets of society. cially women -- marrying outside their handling their crises and problems, Economic problems, especially denomination or rite, or marrying Hin- and in relating to society at large. in rural and tribal forest areas inhabited dus and Muslims. I hope, and I pray, that a visible by various indigenous peoples with The Church response to this in change will take place after the Synods their own ancient cultures, has led to Kerala is most dissatisfying, and leans on the Family in Rome in 2014 and large scale displacement, migration to heavily on a punitive strategy. 2015. urban areas for employment, and to The Church in India may have John Dayal is the general secre- human trafficking. sent responses to the questionnaire tary of the All India Christian Council Another growing problem is that from Rome for the Family Synod in and a member of the Indian of senior citizens who have no place to October, but there has been no genu- government's National Integration live because of poverty and displace- ine survey carried out in the vast major- Council. ment, or the rise of nuclear families. ity of Catholic dioceses. 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4 29 September 2014 Mosul, the Islamic State "bans Christians from school"

Ankawa (AsiaNews) - For the first time An Mosul elementary school teacher of Msgr. Nona asks us to pray for a situa- in history, Iraqi Christians who always mathematics and Arabic states that tion "which is growing more dramatic had a "high standard of education" in "we are in 2014, but it seems have with every passing day" especially with the region, are being deprived of the regressed 14 centuries." 95% of the the arrival of winter. This interruption in right to study and cannot attend 2,450 schools in the area - Mosul and the schooling of Christians is a schools. This represents a further threat Nineveh Plain - are in the hands of the serious problem, because it halts the to the survival of the minority, not only Islamists, who have forbidden mixed development of an entire generation of in Iraq but throughout the Middle East, classes and have closed the Faculty of Iraqi Christians, who in the past have because there is not the risk that an Law, because "conventional law is no always been distinguished for their entire generation "will not be educated", longer in force." Rigid rules, imposed cultural level and standard of school- which is a "very bad sign". The warning by force, are increasingly arousing the ing. "It is very negative" says the bishop, comes from Msgr. Shimoun Emil Nona, impatience of the local population. If at and "very dangerous". Chaldean Archbishop of Mosul, in the first people saw them as liberators from north, the second most important city a central government (under former In the history of community, education in the country and first city to fall into the Shiite Prime Minister al-Maliki) regarded has always been an "important anchor hands of the militia of the Islamic State. as the oppressor, today 98% of the for us," says the Archbishop of Mosul, people - as reported by an academic in and as a Church "we are trying to rent Interviewed by AsiaNews, the Mosul - "would like to see them gone as as many homes as possible" to free confirms that "currently children from soon as possible" . schools and allow the resumption of many of the refugee families" as well as classes . However, the operation is "children who live in Christian areas" The archbishop of Mosul, who is also a "very slow, because it is not always cannot start the school year. "There are refugee Ankawa, in Iraqi Kurdistan, possible to find homes or housing is about 700 schools scattered between cannot confirm this radical change of unavailable." Concluding, the prelate Erbil, Ankawa and Zakkho - he explains attitude towards the Islamic state and says however that there are some small - but they are hosting displaced people the distortion of the curriculum at the signs of hope, "we rented a building and are full. In other non-Christian ar- hands of the militia. He admits how- with 56 apartments - he says - that can eas the lessons have begun, but not ever, to "having heard similar rumors", accommodate all the families who, at here". Moreover in the areas occupied and there is a good chance that "they this time, are housed in a school in by the Islamic Caliphate the curricu- are true." There are still some Chris- Ankawa" . Only one out of 11, he adds, lum has been changed to promote tians in the city, but "very few" who live while the goal is "free up at least two or Islam and the Koran. "isolated" and "in danger" because "any- three more." (DS) thing could happen to them". —asianews.it Msgr. Nona was the first to raise the alarm of the danger posed by the ad- vance of the Islamists after the con- Thanksgiving quest of Mosul, where about 500 thou- sand people - Muslims and Christians - fled in early June to avoid being forced to convert to Islam. It was also where the militants founded their caliphate and imposed sharia. In cities and in areas on the Nineveh plain that are under the control of the Islamic State schools have reopened. However, un- der the instruction of their leader the curriculum has changed to ban his- tory, geography and literature; students Thanks to Holy Spirit, Sacred Heart of must study Arabic and the Muslim reli- gion and are forbidden to speak of the Jesus, Mother Mary and St. Jude Republic of Iraq or Syria, only of the for favours granted. Caliphate. — Fernandes, Borivali

29 September 2014 5 While the church and the people Adopting western of Goa have received the news of the forthcoming canonistaion of their be- culture loved son of the soil, Blessed Joseph Vaz with jubilation, the decision by Pope Reference editorial on the sub- Francis to waive off the mandatory re- ject in the Secular Citizen,july 21/2014. quirement of a second miracle for saint- You have rightly said that it is the ability hood brings into sharp focus the su- and right to exercise personal premacy and infallibility of the pope in freedoms,and the freedom to make matters of faith and doctrine --- a topic our own choices,be it pre-marital which continues to remain challenged sex,live-in relationships etc.--within the and unacceptable to many. Neverthe- confines of the law rather than having less, it is hoped that this new develop- arbitrary moral codes of conduct im- ment proves to be the harbinger of a posed upon us. That means we have to new springtime in the church which will be subject to the laws of the State and put an end to the time-consuming pro- not to any other laws or traditions pre- right balance to lead the life contedly.That is why many of the In- cess and endless charade of miracle- scribed by religions. The malady of the approvals required by Vatican’s ‘Con- present Western culture is mainly due dian intellectuals and philosophers opine that family values and some tra- gregation for the cause of sainthood’ to their abandoning of God and reli- before conferring sainthood on a per- gion and adopting purely secular cul- ditions are good for peace and stability in society. son, keeping in mind the hundreds ture that results in abuse of freedom who are in line for the coveted title, but that leads to great harm to human civi- —K.C. Thomas whose holiness continues to be de- lization. We feel that murder in the bated and un-recognised, even after womb,broken families, large scale sui- several years of their death. cide etc occur on account of confused New springtime mind on the aim and meaning of life. —A. F. Nazareth, Only some kind of spirituality will help Alto porvorim the individuals and society to keep the for sainthood?

6 29 September 2014 On East Indians - Revamping Mount Mary A rich legacy ndia is a land of many communities well, which is used by the bride-to-be Festival and one of the most colourful com or groom-to-be to bathe. East Indian Imunities is that of the East Indian. Marathi songs are played and people, The East Indians are a community of irrespective of whether they are Goans, his is with reference to the Roman Catholics who are the original Mangaloreans or East Indians, enjoy letter ‘Called to revamp Mount people of Mumbai. Their music, dance them. Since there are no wells in TMary festival’ by Fr Calistus and cuisine are appreciated all over Mumbai, people go to one of their Fernandes (Secular Citizen, Sept. the world. Like the Goans and the relative or friend’s house to bring wa- 15).In the first place it is a mistaken Mangaloreans, they are a fun lot too. ter. This is brought in a huge vessel. belief, nay a myth, to believe that They got their name from the East The water is then poured on the bride- bhajans and kirtans are required to India Company of the British that con- to-be or the groom-to-be in his or her draw larger crowds to our church verted a large section of the local respective home. After all these rituals, services in Mumbai , where the lan- Marathi-speaking people to Catholi- finally the wedding day arrives. guage is predominantly English. cism. On the day of the wedding, the Secondly, and equally fallacious is The mother-tongue of the East groom-to-be sends a car to pick up the the allegation that devotion to our Indians is Marathi, but it is quite differ- bride-to-be and waits for her outside Lady of the Mount at Bandra is dwin- ent from that of the local Maharashtrian the church. After she arrives, the best dling because of the “absence of community. It is a blend of pure Marathi, man of the groom-to-be welcomes her Indianness’ in the church services. Portuguese and English. with a bouquet of flowers. Then the Today, lakhs of pilgrims and devo- Since the East Indians did not couple walks down the aisle along tees continue to throng the shrine of want the British Colonial government with the bridesmaids, flower girls, best Mount Mary during the annual no- to confuse them with the Goans, man, page boy and other family mem- vena services and the 8-day festival Mangaloreans and other Christian set- bers to reach the altar, where they are that follows. Every day during this tlers in the region, they decided to given a special place to sit. There, the time we witness busloads of thou- adopt a name that would make them priest shakes hands with them and sands of devotees coming from dif- stand out as a separate Christian iden- offers them his best wishes. The Mass ferent parts of the country to honour tity. is then celebrated and the priest reads and receive the blessings of Mother The cuisine of the East Indian psalms from the Holy Bible, which is Mary , accompanied by their local community is rich. Weddings, Chris- followed by a sermon called the ‘hom- pastor who celebrates the mass in tenings and First Holy Communions ily’ on the sacredness of their wed- the local language. This has been play an important part in the commu- ding. going on for decades, and is similar nity. No two masalas are identical. The The East Indian Marathi word for to what is witnessed in Vailankanni dish prepared by one family differs Mumbai is ‘Mobai’. East Indians living in Tamil Nadu. Today, there are also from that made by the other. East Indi- in East Indian villages like Gorai, some parish churches in Mumbai ans are very good cooks. I am an East Manori, Culven and Juhu still speak city and suburbs which conduct Indian and am proud to be one. Marathi, but those living in places like weekly novena services at their East Indians celebrate their wed- Bandra, Andheri and Khar have shrines in honour of Our Lady of dings for eight long days. They have adopted English as their mother- Vailankani . Hence the increased the Umracha Pani, the Paspatni and tongue. devotion to Our Lady of Vailankani - the Sara from both the boy’s side and Although the East Indians have --Not the diminishing of devotion to the girl’s side. Fugias, vindaloo and preserved their pre-Christian Marathi Mount Mary. Mother Mary remains sorpotel are the main dishes for East culture and traditions, many Portu- the same whether from Vailankani Indian weddings. But the vindaloo and guese influences have been absorbed. in the south or from the Mount in sorpotel are quite different from that The traditional dress for East-In- Bandra. It is the faith of the people prepared by the Goans and the dian women is the nav vari lugra. These that matters, irrespective of ritualis- Mangaloreans. sarees are worn in colours of navy tic practices and culture. During the ‘Umbracha Pani’, all blue, red and green, depending on those attending the ceremony go in a whether the husband of the woman is —A. F. Nazareth procession around their area singing living or dead. Porvorim, Goa. and dancing to draw water from the — Jubel D’Cruz, Dombivili

29 September 2014 7 What Catholics could learn from the Dalai Lama istorically, Chris for what’s best for the Tibetan tianity hasn’t people.” Hbeen very open Imagine a religious body po- to the idea of being influ- tentially sacrificing centuries of enced by other religions. tradition and spiritual practice In the early days of the for the betterment of its people. faith, we borrowed from Sounds like something Jesus Hellenism, Zoroastrian- would do. ism, Gnosticism, Judaism and various “pagan” reli- What might such sacri- gions, repurposing their fice look like in the Chris- symbols to mean some- tian world? thing new. Following the adoption of Christianity as The United Nations estimates the official religion of the that the entirety of the world’s Roman Empire, we fo- hunger problems could be cused more on convert- solved with an annual budget ing others to our faith, or of approximately $30 billion. at least denigrating the Meanwhile, a recent study by the last in a line of Dalai Lamas, a The Economist magazine estimated legitimacy of other faiths to establish position within Buddhism for almost ours as superior. that the in the United five centuries. States alone had an annual combined “The 14th Dalai Lama now is Oh, but times, they are budget of $170 billion in 2010, when all very popular,” he said. “Let us then of the assets of the Church are consid- a’changin’. finish with a popular Dalai Lama.” ered together. So in theory, by allocat- Our numbers are down, our ing about one-sixth of the total budget influence continues to wane, and we’re Now, imagine the Pope saying of the Catholic Church in the United struggling with what I call in that. States to solving hunger (not counting “postChristian” both an identity crisis Actually, it’s a little more con- any other denominations, religions, or and a credibility crisis. The good news ceivable coming from Pope Francis even Catholic institutions outside the is that in this newly humbled state lies than from his recent predecessors. Or US), hunger could conceivably disap- a glimmer of opportunity. Not the kind imagine the head of a major denomina- pear from the face of the earth. we’ve had previously, to once again tion dissolving their position and the The Dalai Lama also went on dominate the cultural landscape. That general office than accompanies it, not to say that if the Buddhist community time has passed. Rather, as more of us out of financial necessity, but simply determines to keep with the tradition of within the Christian faith take less for because they felt the role had run its appointing a new Dalai Lama upon his granted, we’re asking harder questions: due course. death, the faith might benefit from a Considering the entire scope woman’s hand and heart. He cites the Who are we? of the comment, it’s reasonable to as- desperate need for greater compas- Why do we still identify as sume that part of his intent is politically sion in the world as at least one reason Christians? strategic. After all, communist China why a female leader might be better How could our faith be better? claims Tibet – the spiritual and cultural suited to lead. epicenter of Tibetan Buddhism – as When it comes to Christianity's We need not look any further one of its own territories, and Tibet itself institutional systems, preserving what than the Dalai Lama, the spiritual and is not a democracy. Ganden Thurman, once was too often gets in the way of political head of the Tibetan Buddhist Executive Director of Tibet House US, actively and fearlessly invoking what faith, and in particular, the titular leader told the Huffington Post for the same might be. Let’s take this opportunity to of the Tibetan people (don’t tell the article that “His Holiness is looking for learn from the Dalai Lama’s example Chinese government). In a recent state- the resolution to the China issue and and practice a little bit more of what we ment, some of which was shared in a for [the Tibetan people's] own gover- preach. Huffington Post article, the Dalai Lama nance. Both of those issues are looking put forward the bold proposal that he is Source: Patheos 8 29 September 2014 “Excommunicated” man goes to court for son’s baptism Madurai: A child cannot be refused Church had excommunicated his fam- that a law and order problem would baptism just because his parents had ily for supporting the government on have erupted in the village if the police refused to toe the Church dictum on the nuclear plant at Koodankulam while had acted on ’s petition. social issues, a court in Tamil Nadu the entire village opposed it, The court then directed the Addi- ruled Friday. zeenews.indica.com reported. tional Government pleader to assess The Madras High Court’ Madurai The Judge said the Church should the situation and ordered notice to the bench has directed X A Walter Ed- not refuse permission to the petitioner church officials. ward, a Catholic, to approach his to baptize the child merely because his The Church submitted that the Church officials for conducting the bap- family had refused to heed the Church’s parish priest had only requested Ed- tism of his son. Justice T S Sivagnanam advice. ward to change the name of the child’s observed that the Church officials could The Church, the judge noted, is “god father” as he and a group in the not compel the petitioner to change always open for the petitioner and his village had differences. the name of the minor child’s “god family members and they should ap- The Church also clarified that the father.” It is up to the family members proach the officials there. priest advised Edward only to help the to decide the matter, the judge added. In his petition, Edward said the smooth functioning of the function and The court directed Edward to go church officials imposed the excom- that there was no compulsion for the the Church officials, including Bishop munication and denied his family per- petitioner to follow the priest. However of Tuticorin diocese and the pastor of mission to conduct worship and bap- the petitioner and his family “misun- the Our Lady Lourdes Church at tize his son. He had lodged a police derstood” the priest, the Church Idinthakarai near Koodankulam, to complaint against the Church stand added. conduct his son’s baptism. but no action had been taken on it. Edward told the court that the The police counsel told the court —mattersindia.com APPOINTMENTS A fast growing multi-dimensional Freight Forwarding, Customs Clearance and Transportation Company having corporate office at Govandi ,Harbour Line, Mumbai – and presence in most of the major Ports is looking for the following staff for their Corporate office.

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29 September 2014 9 Archbishop and Bishops of Karnataka Meet Governor on Persecution of Christians in Iraq, Syria

Bangalore: Archbishop of fering people. Bangalore Dr Bernard Mo- ras and seven other Bish- The delegation ex- ops of different Dioceses of plained that leaders of the State met Karnataka different Christian de- Governor Vajubhai nominations like Rudabhai Vala at Raj Catholics, Church of Bhavan on Thursday with a South India (CSI), request to urge the Centre Methodists, Baptists, to exert pressure for ending Pentecost, Syrian Or- the persecutionof thou- thodox, Assemblies of sands of Christians and God and Representa- other minorities in Iraq, Syria tives of the Federa- and other African countries tion of all Christian by the Islamic extremists. churches and Orga- nizations in Karnataka The Archbishop, who is also as well as Sri the President of the ShanthaveeraKolada Karnataka Region Catholic Math Swamiji; BJP Bishops' Council (KRCBC) andAll of Islam, those who propagate the ho- leader and former Deputy Chief Minis- Karnataka United Christian Forum for locaust are actually unaware of the true ter R Ashok; Congress MLA N A Harris; Human Rights (AKUCFHR), was ac- Islam and Quran's teachings," the a prominent Muslim Leader Aga Sultan companied by the Bishop of Mangalore memorandum said. and others took part in this Rally and Dr Aloysius Paul D'Souza, Bishop of addressed the large gathering of Belgaum Peter Machado, Bishop of It was unfortunate that the Christians priests, nuns, Christians and people of Bhadravathi Mar Joseph and also the other communities in India other religious communities, when spe- Arumachadath, Bishop of have maintained a silence regarding cial prayers were also offered for the Chikamangalur Thomasappa Anthony the persecution of innocent children, victims and displaced persons in the Swamy, Bishop of Karwar men and women in Iraq, which is by flood havoc in Jammu and Kashmir. .DerekFernandes, Bishop of Mysore itself violence in silence. When we see Thomas Antony Vazhapilly, Msgr violence and remain as silent specta- As a sequel of the above denounce- JJayanathan and Msgr C Francis, both tors, our silence is also an equally con- ment and public condemnation of what Vicar Generals, Fr Ronnie Prabhu, PRO demnable violence and injustice is happening against the Christians in of KRCBC and AKUCFHR), Abraham T against humanity, if we do not raise our Iraq, Syria and other parts of the world, J, Anti Corruption Activist and Presi- voice against such barbaric acts. we, the delegation Bishops of different dent ICU-FKCCA and Aida D'cuna, Hence, we have urged one and all to denominations and leaders of all Chris- Social Activist. raise their voices, or be ready to accept tian churches and organizations in the blame that they are also a part of the Karnataka led by Dr Bernard Moras The delegation led by the Archbishop violence by their silence," the memo- submitted the memorandum urging the of Bangalore submitted a memoran- randum said. Governor to draw the attention of the dum to the State Governor to be for- Central Government to the plight of warded to the PresicdentPranab Kumar The Archbishop and the delegation of Christians in Iraq and to demand a Mukkherjee, which expressed concern Bishops informed the Governor of the strong denouncement by India of the and anguish at the plight of the Chris- fast and prayers observed by the Chris- holocaust of Christians in Iraq. tians and other minorities in Iraq and tians belonging to various denomina- Syria and said as per unofficial esti- tions in Bangalore and other places of The delegation also appealed to all mates about One lakh and Seventy Karnataka on Friday, September 12, right thinking Muslims, Hindus, Sikhs, Thousand people have already been and also a mass rally and prayers at the Jains, Buddhists and Parsis to con- killed. St Joseph's Indian High School demn the execution of Christians in Grounds on Sunday, September 14, Iraq in the name of religion. "We strongly feel that the problem in which was observed as a "Black Sun- Iraq is caused by a misunderstanding day" to express solidarity with the suf- 10 29 September 2014 'Film Star' Konkani Video CD Release

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Dr. Ms. Thanksy F. Mr. Edward Menezes for Industry Mr. Randell Rommel Thekkekara for Civil Service for Young Entrepreneur

Ms. Cynthia Baptista Rev. Fr. John Rumao Mrs. Shobha Mendonca for Social Service for Education for Women Entrepreneur

12 29 September 2014 Chief Guest Bishop Pius D'Souza receiving Memento Guest of Honour Janet D'Souza CCCI Secretary from the Chairman. Albert W. D'Souza is on the left. receiving the memento Felix D'Souza

hristian Chamber of Com Guest and Guest of Honour, Vice presi- Baptista (for Social Service); Mr. merce and Industry held its dents Albert W. D'Souza, Antony Randell Rommel (for Young Entrepre- C12th AGM on 20th September Sequeira, John D'Silva and founder neur) and Mrs. Shobha Mendonca (for 2014 at Hotel Kohinoor Intercontinen- Chairman Vincent Mathias were present Women Entrepreneur) tal. Mr. Henry Lobo, Chairman of CCCI on the dais. Kenneth Sequeira and Lara Presided. This is followed by annual Other directors of CCCI present Menezes compered. CCCI Secretary get-together and presentation of an- were Lawrence Coelho, John Mathew, Felix D'Souza lead the prayer at the nual prestigious Excellence Awards. Johnson Therattil, Agustinho G. AGM Mrs. Philomena H. Lobo and The gathering is graced by the Fernandes, Walter Buthello, Gregory Mrs. Pramila Mathias presented floral presence of Bishop Pius D'Souza, D'Souza, Agnelorajesh Athaide, and bouquets to the guests. CCCI Director Bishop of Ajmer as Chief Guest and Adv. Pius Vas. Agnellorajesh Athaide proposed vote Mrs. Janet Lawrence D'Souza, Vice Thereafter the six excellence award of thanks. Photo-news:Rons Bantwal Chairperson Maharashtra State Minor- winners were in- ity Commission as Guest of Honour troduced by Dr. Ri- Both the Chief Guest and Guest chard Pereira. of Honour addressed the gathering They are Edward and congratulated the good work done Menezes (for In- by the Christian Business Body the dustry); Dr. Ms CCCI and called upon more Christians Thanksy F. to take up business and make the Thekkekara (for national economically strong. Civil Service); Rev. Earlier Henry Lobo, Chairman Fr. John Rumao CCCI welcomed the guests and the (for Education); gathering. Besides Chairman, Chief Ms Cynthia

29 September 2014 13 Bishops Want India's Official Delegation For Canonization erala bishops have decided to re quest the federal and state govern Kments to send official delegations to the Vatican to attend the canonization cer- emony of two saintly Catholics from Kerala on Nov. 23. The Kerala Catholic Bishop Council has approached governments requesting official delegation to attend the canonization of Fr Kuriakose Elias Chavara and Sr Euphrasia Eluvathinkal, Church officials said. “We have requested the governments to send a delegation. But the KCBC has not nominated anyone to be included in the government delegation. We expect the gov- ernment would accept KCBC’s request,” KCBC deputy secretary Fr Varghese Vallikkattu said. Around 1,500 people from Kerala and assist the pilgrims who want to He was born near Alappuzha in are expected to attend the canoniza- participate in the ceremony. 1805 and died at Koonammavu, Kochi, tion ceremony in the Vatican at their Fr Kuriakose Elias Chavara was a in 1871. Mother Euphrasia was a mem- personal level. social reformer, publisher, educator ber of the order of the Sisters of the A dedicated cell has been also and founder of Carmelites of Mary Im- Congregation of Mother of Carmel, been opened by the Chavara Cultural maculate (CMI), the first Catholic indig- founded by Blessed Chavara. Centre in Kochi in association with a enous religious order for men in India. private tour operator to coordinate Source: New Indian Express

14 29 September 2014 Sacrament Of Marriage Is A Covenant

he concept that the sacrament of that the husband should not ful planning. marriage is indispensable and is divorce his wife. “ (1.Cor.7:10- In the Gospel of Mat- T“sealed by God himself” has 11). thew we are told that Mary, been systematically enriched by the The Holy Sacrament of the Mother of Jesus was Church and the Popes. Matrimony is one of the Seven engaged to Joseph. A few weeks back, Pope Francis Sacraments of the Church. (Mat.1:18). This same en- celebrated the marriage of 20 couples It’s about joining together. “So BY MELVYN BROWN gagement was spoken who had cohabited and had children; they are no longer two but about in the Gospel of one was a single woman. The event one. What therefore God has joined Luke. (LK.1:27). signaled a first for the diocese of Rome, together, let no man put asunder.” In our present time the Engage- stating that “ some already live together, (Mat.19:6). Marriage is also about mak- ment is about choosing flowers, book- some already have children”. This act ing affinity. “ Solomon made a mar- ing a hall for the reception, blessing the of Pope Francis is a sign that the Church riage alliance with Pharaoh King of engagement ring and other social-con- should be more open and inclusive. Egypt; he took Pharaoh’s daughter, tact needs. It begins the period prepar- The pontiff is the first non-European in and brought her into the city of David, ing for the wedding which is even more 1300 years. until he had finished building his own important. Engaged couples talk about It is hardly surprising, but mar- house and the house of the Lord and their views and expectations of what riage is divinely instituted. In the First the Wall around Jerusalem.” marriage is all about. Book of Moses called Genesis, we are (1Kings:3:1). The Catholic Church has initiated told that God “caused a deep sleep to Marriage is a covenant relation- a Marriage course, a session of talks to fall upon man, and while he slept took ship. An agreement between God and assist the couple to a better under- one of his ribs and closed up its place His people. The Lord’s covenant on standing of seeing each others pros- with flesh; and the rib which the Lord marriage was made clear when Malachi pects on life. The couples touch upon God had taken from the man he made wrote : “The Lord was witness to the attitudes to domestic work, money, into a woman and brought her to the covenant between you and the wife of children and relationships with in-laws. man.” (Gen.2:21-22). your youth, to whom you have been All this helps towards the big event of “Therefore a man leaves his fa- faithless, though she is your compan- matrimony. Marriage is in the Lord. “ ther and his mother and cleaves to his ion and your wife by covenant”. This grace of Christian marriage is a wife, and they become one flesh.” (Mal.2:14). fruit of Christ’s cross, the source of all (Gen.2:24). The marriage covenant permits a Christian life” (CCC 1615:109). This The designed union of a man and man and a woman to form an intimate was made clear when St. Paul said, a woman in matrimony had its purpose communion in life. Love is the natural “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ welded in Jewish tradition : for the bond and endowes them with its own loved the church and gave himself up happiness of both, male and female, laws created by God. Marriage is made for her.” This covenant between bap- for procreation and the prevention of for the good of the couple, so that tized persons has been raised by Christ sin, for the union to be lawful, honor- children will grow up in the faith, be the Lord to the dignity of a Sacrament. able and should be only in the Lord. educated and respect their parents. It (CCC1601:84). “A wife is bound to her husband was Jesus Christ who raised marriage The celebration of marriage in the as long as he lives. If the husband dies, to the dignity of a Sacrament. To be church takes place between two she is free to be married to whom she wedded in the Sacrament of Matri- “Catholic faithful” during Holy Mass, wishes only in the Lord.”(1 Cor.7:39). mony is to rejoice in the will of God. because there is a connection to the In the letter of St. Paul to the The marriage at Cana in Galilee Seven Sacraments with the “Paschal Hebrews, the apostle wrote: “Let mar- was attended by the mother of Jesus. mystery of Christ”. The spouses seals riage be held in honor among all.” And Jesus was invited with his dis- their consent through the offering of (Heb.13:4). In the New Testament it is ciples. It was at the reception, when the their lives. They form “one body” in also said, that is what the Lord wanted wine had finished, that Jesus performed Christ when receiving the Eucharist. ; the Christian faith was intensely fo- his first miracle. He turned water in the The couple, express themselves “to be cused on Jesus. And Jesus gave Chris- six stone jars into wine. free”. The meaning of this is, “not being tianity a new love for the bond of mar- The first step towards marriage under constraint”, and “not impeded riage as was told to us in the letters of are the rules of Engagement in the by any natural or ecclesias. his apostle. “To the married I give Christian and Roman Catholic faith. It is The Church holds this to be an charge, not I but the Lord, that the wife not taken lightly. Engagement leads to indispensable act which “makes the should not separate from her husband the preparing for the Sacrament of marriage”. The conscent given mutu- (but if she does let her remain single or Matrimony and then the wedding. It ally by the couple is “sealed by God be reconciled to her husband) – and takes a lot of sincere work and prayer- (Contd.. on p. 22)

29 September 2014 15 While making chapattis, place a kitchen towel under the rolling board. Tips For This way the board will not slip and you will be able to roll faster.

Smart Mint pulao will be tastier if you sauté mint leaves in a teaspoon of butter or oil Kitchen before cooking with the rice. Add a pinch of soda-bicarbonate to spinach while blanching to retain its Work bright green colour. Also never over- cook greens as they will lose their Keep lemons in hot water for twenty colour, taste and vital nutrients. minutes before squeezing. They will yield more juice. Any wada mixture should be beaten well with hand prior to frying, to incor- Add a few drops of lemon juice while porate air in the batter and make it light. preparing syrup. The impuri- ties will collect on the surface of the To obtain soft and luscious paranthas syrup, which you can then remove. add instead of oil to the flour while kneading the dough. Dip nuts in milk before placing them on top of the cakes or biscuits to pre- To make aloo tikkis crisp add two vent them from falling off while baking. but also less oily. teaspoons of roasted semolina to the potato mixture. Coat raisins or other chopped dry To make creamier , add a little fruits with dry flour before adding them fresh cream. It will however make the While whipping cream never overdo it to the batter of cakes or puddings. This dish richer. or butter will form. Always whip over a will prevent them from sinking to the tray of iced water or ice cubes. Whip in bottom while baking. Use the drained from curdled sharp upward strokes till soft peak form. milk to knead chapatti dough. They will Keep in refrigerator till used. Chapattis would come out very soft if turn out softer, whiter and most impor- a little rice flour is used while rolling out tantly more nutritious. Puris may be rolled and placed be- the dough. tween damp muslin cloth at least an Using chilli oil instead of plain oil while hour ahead. Fry just before serving. If you have no sour cream, add one cooking will make the dish spicier. teaspoon of lemon juice to every half Use any of the leftover salads to pint of fresh cream and stir. Let it stand To make potato wafers whiter and make a filling for a tasty sandwich. for ten minutes before use. crisper, soak the potato slices in water Spread some green on the to which some alum crystals and . slices before putting the filling. If you have to make cutlets in a hurry Drain the water and then deep fry. and have no breadcrumbs use semo- Rub slices of onion on dosa tawa lina for coating them. Before cooking cauliflower florets (griddle) before spreading dosas. This soak them in warm salted water for a will avoid the dosa from stubbornly The art of making good khatais: while to get rid of any tiny insects that sticking to the griddle or tawa. lies in beating the mixture till it be- may be present deep inside the florets comes light and fluffy. Also only and not visible to the eye. To keep the cottage cheese soft and vanaspati should be used to make luscious after deep frying, dip it in luke- them. A pinch of turmeric powder and a warm water to which a pinch of tur- teaspoon full of ghee added to meric powder is added. Do not salt meat before cooking as before pressure-cooking it will give it a salt draws out all the flavour, but fish better flavour. When whipping cream, add sugar fillet will benefit from a bit of salt during when the cream is almost whipped for refrigeration before cooking. Add a few fenugreek (methi) seeds to it will help the cream whip to a higher tuvar dal while pressure-cooking. The volume. Adding sugar at the beginning A little rice flour added to bhajia batter dal will be easier to digest. results in lower volume. will not only make the bhajias crisper (To be contd...)

16 29 September 2014 thoy, kele ambat, vegetable vindaloo, Goan kokum and Goan banana halwa to top it up!

Haryanvi Thali ‘Thalis’ From The Haryanvi thali is really simple. And it is really tasty! Of course, there are large helpings of home made ghee, and butter. The specialities are; Around India kachri ki sabzi, hara dhania cholia, mithey chawal, alsi ki pinni, , khichdi and kachi .

Assamese Thali A traditional Assamese Thali presents a burst of fresh and unusual herby flavours. Rice is accompanied by the ndian Thali is a composite and a sweet taste to them, even the ones popular masor tenga (fish in a sour wholesome meal which is basically which are supposed to be savory or gravy) and khar, a vegetable prepara- a combinations of various delicious spicy! Signature dishes include tion made using dried banana skin and I a meat dish, usually either a chicken dishes served on a single plate with raasawala dhokla, bajra bhakri, methi dishes like rice, dal, sabzi, and thepla, kathiawadi akha adad, Gujarati curry or duck curry with ash-gourd. curd. dal, and gol papdi. Phew! Quite Kharoli, a paste mustard seeds rolled What's more, almost every In- a mouthful, no? into little balls and bamboo shoot chut- dian state and/or region has it's own ney is offered as a taste-enhancer on distinctive version of the "thali," made Bhojpuri Thali the side. Typical Assamese aloo pitika (mashed potato) consists of boiled egg to suit local tastes and cooking styles. The Bhojpuri thali can surprise you and mustard oil. The sumptuous meal Here are a few that you should defi- with its multitude of flavours. The crispy is to be finished with Assamese payox nitely try. bharbhara, (). the usual dahi chura for breakfast, South Indian Thali golden brown sattu ka , ghugni, Indians are known for elaborate meals the kala channa curry, besan ki sabji/ Rajasthani Thali and the South Indian thali is the best besan ki machhli and the sweet raw From gatte ki sabzi to daal-baati churma example of it. There is no 'rule' to this curries will take you on a culi- to khichda to laal maas to bajre ki to thali and it contains liberal helpings of nary journey like no other. lahsun ki chutney... to... well, you get rice, sambhar, kootu ( vegetables curry the point. The Rajasthani thali is the cooked with lentils), kosumri, paapad, Maharashtrian Thali qunitessential Indian thali. You have stellar dishes like the mawa kachori curd and for desert, there's Maharashtrian cuisine is characterized from Jodhpur, juicy sweet rasgulle from akkaravadisal ( a sweet made with rice by mildly spicy food. It usually features Bikaner and malpuas from Pushkar. and lentils) to complete the meal. a few non-veg items and the dishes tasty treats from every nook and cranny actually vary in different parts of of Rajasthan come together on plate Chhattisgarhi Thali Maharashtra. With sweets like for a food experience of a lifetime. Chattisgarhi thalis are a long, drawn and sheera, the thali is certinaly not out yet totally delicious affair. You'll be lacking when it comes to desserts. spoilt for choice with dishes like fara, Maharashtrian thali automatically goes Meghalaya Thali rice , dehati vada and muthiya. up by a level. Then you have your People from Meghalaya like boiled The Chattisgarhi Thali stands out with sabudaana vada, a refreshing glass of veggies a lot as they are considered to it's variet of breads like angakar poori, , kanda poha, danyachi usal and be very healthy. Puklein is another de- paan roti and chusela. In desserts, the awesome pav bhaji, which rounds licious snack available all over watch out for the gulgulle, kusli and up this spectacular all-in-one meal. Meghalaya. Black sesame is used in sweet fara. almost very dish. For example, the spe- Goan Thali cial dal, "daineiiong" is incomplete with- out it. Kathiawadi Thali Who knew Goa's cuisine could be as This plate can be a bit intimidating. awesome as Goa's beaches? Goan It seems that when it comes to Indian Mostly because the names of these food is synonymous with sea food, thalis, too much of a good thing is sumptuous Gujrati dishes are so hard rice, coconut, fish and yes, kokum! actually good. Go pig out on a plate or to pronounce. Most of the dishes have You have Goan rice bhakri, Goan daali two. 29 September 2014 17 Colours! Colours! Colours!

olours have different meanings and allows one to stay in the ies, it is a masculine colour in different countries and cul background unnoticed. and is highly accepted among Ctures. They are used to express People, who prefer the colour men. feelings and enliven our language. They brown, are often conven- Dark blue is the colour also influence our emotions, our ac- tional and orderly. The nega- of truth and moderation. A tions, and how we respond to various tive meaning of brown can blue iris means that your people. Many people believe that be a repressed personality friendship is very important to colours have powers and that coloured or a lazy person. me. stones are powerful, even more power- Orange is one of the BY JUBEL D'CRUZ Purple is associated ful than God. healing colours. It combines with both nobility and spiritu- Red is the colour of fire and blood. the energy of red and the happiness of ality. Being the combination It is associated with energy, war, dan- yellow. It is associated with sunshine of red and blue, it is an ideal colour. It ger, strength, determination, as well as and the tropics. Orange represents en- connotes luxury, wealth and sophisti- passion, desire and love. In South Af- thusiasm, fascination, happiness, cre- cation. It is also feminine and romantic. rica, it is the colour of mourning. But in ativity, determination, attraction, suc- White is associated with light, China, it is the colour of good luck. The cess, encouragement and stimulation. goodness, innocence, purity and vir- ancient Egyptians considered them- To the human eye, it is a very hot ginity. It means safety, purity and clean- selves a red race and painted their colour, so it gives the of heat. liness. According to Christian traditions, bodies with red dye for emphasis. It also increases the oxygen supply to brides wear white gowns to symbolize But in Russia, red means beauti- the brain and stimulates mental activ- purity and innocence. In some coun- ful. The Bolsheviks used a red flag as ity. tries, white is worn at funerals. White their symbol when they overthrew the Yellow is the colour of sunshine. It daises are a symbol of loyal love. So Tsar in 1917. In some circumstances, symbolises wisdom. It is associated are white Easter lilies. red causes the heart to beat faster. For with joy, happiness, intellect and en- Doctors and nurses wear white to the ancient Romans, a red flag was a ergy. It produces a warming effect, imply sterility. Strictly speaking, white signal for battle. Because of its visibil- arouses cheerfulness, stimulates men- is not a colour, but the manifestation of ity, stop signs, stoplights, brake lights tal activity and generates muscle en- the presence of all colour, the com- and fire equipments are all painted red. ergy. It is associated with food. plete energy of light. Black is associ- Pink is the colour of universal love. Green is the colour of nature. It ated with power, elegance, formality, It is a quiet colour. Lovers of beauty symbolises growth, harmony, fresh- death, evil and mystery. It is a mysteri- favour pink. A pink carnation means, “I ness and fertility. ous colour, associated with fear and will never forget you”. Blue is one of the most popular the unknown. Brown can mix into many sur- colours. It is the colour of the sky and Strictly speaking, black is not a roundings. It is a mixture of red, blue sea. The ancient Egyptians used lapis colour. It is the absence of all colour. It and yellow and has many shades and lazuli to represent heaven. Blue causes is the colour of authority and power. tones, each producing a different ef- the opposite reaction as red. Peaceful, In some western countries, black fect. Too much of brown can make a tranquil blue causes the body to pro- is associated with death, while white dull effect. duce calming chemicals, so it is often signifies purity. In the Orient, however, Brown gives a feeling of solidity used in bedrooms. According to stud- white is the traditional colour of mourn- ing. SAHAR COLD STORAGE Unik Caterers John Rodrigues House, Chakala, Andheri (E), Mumbai – 400099 For WWFor eddings andandeddings Located on the way to International Airport, Nr Cigarette Factory Convenient for the Passengers carrying the stocks abroad. All OccasionsOccasionsAll Try our Fresh Pork Meat; Fresh Real Good Chicken; Cold Cuts; Lucian / Ida Ready to eat items; Goan Sausages; Goan, 9820111603/ 9224261108/ 65788344 Mangalorean and East Indian variety of Masalas. Gharkul Society, Note: We provide FREE HOME DELIVERY B/6, 1st, Siddharth Nagar, Vakola, Santacruz (E), Mumbai - 400055 to our most valuable customers. Email: [email protected] Phone : 2827 0498 Mobile: 99695 73121

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“The world has its fair the team gets to where they want to People walk in to classes as teachers, share of problems” go and everybody grows in the pro- but leave having learnt and experi- cess. The time of one person of au- enced more than they have taught the children. And that makes a leader- ou must have heard or said thority giving instructions to the ‘sub- Someone who is nurturing and sup- these words quite often. And ordinates’ is gone. The time is for a portive; someone who can be the it’s quite funny, how that’s all a leader to be a part of a community of Y driving force that catalyzes change; lot of people do about the world’s problem solvers and use his/her ex- someone who can be the wind be- ‘problems’. They talk about it. Be- perience to drive them to achieve neath someone’s wings and help them cause that’s the farthest a lot of people their full potential and solve the prob- soar, soar high. are willing to go. And therein lays the lem. difference between a leader and a A lone wolf never survives. It needs a follower. Where the comfort zone of And the best part about this system is community of wolves, a pack, to sus- an average Joe ends, that is where that everybody is a leader here. The tain and grow. Similarly, one single the adventure for a leader starts. And ownership of a team or an person can never change the world. yet, the funny part is that they are not organization’s success and health is They may have ideas. But, they need as different as you think they are. possessed by every single person. a community of like-minded, driven individuals to come together and con- Often, the end outcome or the suc- We are moving into an era of people. tribute in various capacities for real cess is what gets highlighted. The It is not the one charismatic leader but change to happen, to solve a prob- massive crowds clapping for some- the collective effort of many such lead- lem; because in the history of man- one smiling a million dollar smile on ers who can usher change. That any- kind, all the great movements across stage speaking into a microphone. body can step in and do ‘impossible things‘. Change the world. the world needed a community to come together and make efforts. And Confetti in the air. things changed. Beaming, admiring people with hearts We at Make A Difference (MAD) firmly for eyes. believe in this methodology of ‘Ser- vant Leadership‘. We believe that real Are you ready to be a part of the new wave of leaders? Can you nurture, The stereotype of a leader. change will happen when you initiate and facilitate the inner transformation empower and enable a community? If yes, then this is your calling. Get up. What is missed out here is the jour- of people. We want to make sure that Start a conversation. Come together. ney; what built up to that moment. All every child at risk is able to realize and Because hey, after all, it starts with us! those people who are not on that unleash his/her full potential. Support stage, the people without whose ef- them with education, life skills and the forts it would have been impossible. necessary tools that they require to lead a healthy, self sufficient life. Em- JACK OF ALL STALL And that is where the fundamental power and enable them to go above Reliable House for mindset shift needs to come. A leader and beyond in every sphere of life. is not a messiah or a superhero who Serving a cause that is bigger than us. Religious Goods comes in to save the day. A leader is And the transformations that come Gloria Church Bldg., a mere gear in a complex gear mesh about are enlightening. that enables all the other gears to 263, Dr. Ambedkar Rd., move in perfect harmony to provide Often, there are so many stories of Byculla, Mumbai - 400027 volunteers who have undergone a forward motion and progress. A per- Tel.: 23725963, 23749358 son who is there to serve his/her team massive change after having inter- to the best of his/her abilities so that acted with their children. But, the most inspiring is the story of one of the first Estd: 1951 Prop. B. D'Souza

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Serving Since 33 Years aged 25 years, Ht. 5’ 2”, Wt. 70 kgs, 29 September 2014 21 (Contd.. from p. 15) Vatican astronomer says himself”. Authentic married love is there’s life out there caught up into divine love.(CCC 1639). The Christian home is where chil- Vatican City: Jesuit Brother Guy dren receive the first proclamation of Consolmagno, the new president of the faith. The home according to the the Vatican Observatory Foundation, Catechism of the Catholic Church is has no doubt that life exists elsewhere called “ the domestic church”. It radi- in the universe and that when human- ates a community of prayer, of human ity discovers it, the news will come as virtues and Christian charity. no big surprise. Every baptized person is expected He suggested that the likely dis- to be a blessing. A married couple, covery -- whether next month or a wedded in the Sacrament of Matri- millennium from now -- will be re- mony is a blessing and may bless and ceived much the way that news of the two in an effort to explain how the praise God at meals, or bless others, planets orbiting far off stars has fil- Church supports science and to pro- objects and places – for blessings are tered in since the 1990s. vide insight into how religion works. among the sacramentals. The celebra- "The general public is going to Not all is as black and white as tion of marriage should be public, be- be, 'Oh, I knew that. I knew it was people imagine, and there's no con- fore witnesses, an assembly of the faith- going to be there,'" Brother flict between science and religion, ful and before a priest. This announces Consolmagno told Catholic News Brother Consolmagno said. the couple to a public state of life in the Service prior to a presentation last "The bigger questions, the reli- Church. It also helps them to live a week at a NASA/Library of Congress gious questions, they're handled by faithful and fruitful life of love – caring symposium on preparing for the dis- science. The religious questions give and sharing with each other. covery of life in the universe. you the framework that gives you the Conventional wisdom is that mar- A planetary scientist who has motivation to ask the science ques- riage is sacred, a solemn union of man studied meteorites and asteroids as tions, gives you the confidence the and woman. Women, especially feel an astronomer with the Vatican Ob- science is going to work and explains unsettled after thirty years of age if they servatory since 1993, Brother to you why I get this excitement at are still spinsters. To marry soon is a Consolmagno has raised a number of holding a rock from outer space," he girl’s dream, and to have a family. Men questions that cross the threshold explained. believe in building a career, having between science and religion in a The forthcoming book ad- stability and a sense of social security. new book, "Would You Baptize an dresses questions about the Big Bang Thereafter they think of marriage and Extraterrestrial? ... and Other Strange theory on the origins of the universe settling down. The Holy Sacrament of Questions From the Inbox at the and the creation story in the Book of Matrimony is finally arranged by his Vatican Observatory," which is set to Genesis; the circumstances surround- family – or, he meets a girl, falls in love be published in October. ing the star of Bethlehem; the end of and they decide to get married in the Co-written by Jesuit Father Paul the world; and the church's inquisi- Lord. Mueller, another Vatican Observatory tion of Galileo Galilei as he wrote John Marshall, M.D. American lay- astronomer, the book uses a series of about a sun-centered solar system. man and Catholic physician wrote a easy-to-read conversations between Source: Catholic News Service book, “Preparing for Marriage”. It is worth noting what Dr.Marshall had to volume is the second in the series by time, the Pontiff repeated , “No one can say, “Marriage for Catholics is a voca- Frs. and Kelly. make a claim to the right to a nuptial tion. A part of man’s moral life is mar- Pope Benedict XVI (when in of- ceremony”. riage. Christian marriage is always a fice) told priests to advice prospective The holiness encircled in the Sac- study, the scope of which is completely spouses so they can make certain the rament of Marriage is not a presumptu- vast. Two Jesuit theologians, John C. marriages will survive. The Holy Father ous belief but a strongly evident truth Ford and Gerald Kelly spent consider- added, “No one has an absolute right which Catholics rightly transcribe to able time and serious research to un- to a wedding.” The Pope’s annual talk the Spirit of God. It brings hidden bless- derstand the inner workings of a Chris- to the Roman Rota, which is the Vatican ings to the newly wedded couple. Mar- tian marriage. Their book, “Contempo- tribunal that decides on annulments riage becomes an adventure – to face rary Moral Theology 11: Marriage Prob- took place in Vatican City. The Bishop the realities of life, and to meet it to- lems” is the showpiece of their work in of Rome (Pope Benedict at that time) gether, as ‘one body’. the field. Their study was carried out in insisted that pre-marriage counseling, a thoroughly scholarly manner. Mar- done well, could avoid the “vicious “A wife is bound to her husband as long riage is an avenue of human fulfillment. circle” of invalid marriages. At the same as he lives. “ (1Cor.7:39). “So they are Abundant references are given. This no longer two but one.” 22 29 September 2014 Berns Cake Studio Celebrate every moment of life with Berns Cakes, Bakes & Chocolates... Personalised, 3D Cakes for all occasions. Specialised in theme Wedding Cakes. Cookies, Baked Snacks, Tea time cakes, Variety of delicious Chocolates & Brownies for all occasions made to suit your tasted buds.

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