Taming the Fire Within: Life After War
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Dear Reader, I want to personally thank you for downloading this free digital copy of Taming The Fire Within: Life After War. By reading this book you are being proactive in helping yourself and your loved ones acclimate to the "new normal" after war. Warriors are trained and prepared physically every day before going down range, but there isn't much training about how to cope psychologically. This book will help arm you with the knowledge needed for the returning vet and their family to adjust most successfully after returning from deployment. If you, or a loved one, haven't yet deployed it will provide valuable information to help prepare and strengthen family ties while in-theater. It's up to warriors and their families to reach out to one another and provide support and encouragement. Knowledge is power, so educate yourself and your family. Take control of your own destiny! Be smart and strong! Please help us speak the truth openly and honestly about the sacrifices made and natural post-combat reactions of warriors and their families. We are all in this together, so share your stories so that others will know they are not alone. You can do this by sharing this e-book with somebody you think it might help or by leaving your comments on our Facebook page. We would love to hear from you. If you would like to order a paperback version of this book, please visit amazon.com Thank you for your service to our country! Dr. Anne Freund Clinical Psychologist & PTSD Specialist Taming The Fire Within Life After WAr Anne Freund, Ph.D. Taming The Fire Within: Life After War Copyright © 2011 by Anne Freund, Ph.D. All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying and recording, or stored in a database or retrieval system, without the prior written permission of the author or publisher. Publishers Note: The information in this book is for educational purposes only. It is not intended to replace the advice of a physician or mental health practitioner. Please see your health care pro- vider before beginning any new health program. The information offered in this book is general and is offered with no guarantees on the part of the publisher or the author. The publisher and author disclaim all liability in connection with the use of this book. The names and identifying information associated with the people or events described in this book have been changed. Any similarity to actual persons, living or dead, or events is coincidental. The views expressed in this book do not necessarily represent those of the Department of Veterans Affairs or the United States government. Use of Department of Defense images from Defense imagery.mil, on the cover and within the book, do not constitute or imply DoD endorsement. Bravehearts Books Publishing, L.L.C. P.O. Box 357216 • Gainesville, FL 32635-7216 WWW.Taming The Fire Within.com First Paperbook Edition, printed in the United States of America Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data on file ISBN 978-0-615-39862-4 Bravehearts Books are available at special discounts for bulk purchases by institutions, corporations, or other organizations. Table of Contents Acknowledgements ..................................I Introduction ........................................... II Forewo rd ..............................................IX 1 Freedom Is Not Free .............................. 1 2 The Only Easy Day Was Yesterday ..... 10 3 High Speed Low Drag .......................... 19 4 Stay Alert Stay Alive ........................... 34 5 “I Said Do It Now! ................................ 42 6 Danger: High Explosives ..................... 46 7 “I Don’t Want To Talk About It” .......... 60 8 The Lone Ranger ................................. 69 9 You Can Run But You Can’t Hide ....... 78 10 Comfortably Numb ............................... 91 11 Cold As Ice ........................................... 97 12 The Pucker Factor .............................. 106 13 “I’ve Been Depressed For No Reason Lately” ............................. 112 14 Taps .................................................... 119 15 Nights Are The Worst ........................ 136 16 Holidays Suck ..................................... 145 17 There Are No Atheists In Foxholes ... 150 18 Killing ................................................ 155 19 We Were Never There .........................171 20 A League of Their Own: Medics and Corpsmen .........................177 21 From Hero to Zero ............................. 184 22 Improvise, Adapt and Overcome ....... 189 23 “I’m From The Government And I’m Here To Help" ............................... 193 24 After Action Report ............................ 201 Resources .................................................... 205 References ................................................... 210 Abbreviations .............................................. 211 Index ........................................................... 213 About the Author ........................................ 217 This book is dedicated to all men and women who have experienced the horrors of war. Thank you for your service, and welcome home. POW’s Returning from Vietnam, 1973, National Archives Acknowledgments This book would not have been possible without the support and encouragement of the following people. My parents, Gerhard and Marion Freund, who gave me a priceless education and have always provided the best example of blazing their own trails through perseverance and determination. My daughter and proofreader, Amy, is a person I truly admire for her strength of spirit and character. She has always been wise beyond her years. Greg Bakeman provided the daily encouragement, shoulder to lean on, and cheerleading necessary for a project like this. I am indebted to my creative consultants, Marie Marshall, Trevor Byrne, Pete Helow, Valerie Seixas, Jodi Stout and Molly. For comedic relief, at just the right times, I thank my brother Michael Freund, Ph.D. and my friend Lori Orme, L.I.S.W. Thanks for invaluable advice go to George Shorter, Ph.D., Kevin McCarthy, Ph.D., and Jan and Brian. Thank you to Ann Landes, Ph.D., Matt Neibaur, M.D. and Lt. Col. (Ret.) Dave Grossman, Jack, Dave, and John for their input. I say a grateful thank you to all of the above. A special thank you to Paul Stephanus, who gen- erously shared his own, and Robert Ellison’s, incred- ible images of war which so eloquently visually convey the true universal cost of war. Robert Ellison died at Khe Sahn, so the publication of his images is a tribute to his memory. Special thanks to all the photographers who captured the images in this book. God has used me as a tool to be able to share my vision with some of those who need and deserve it the most. Karma is a good thing. What goes around comes around in the end. I Introduction by Lt. Col. Dave Grossman You hold in your hands a vital tool for survival. I am on the road almost 300 days a year, training warriors to prepare for combat. I teach the FBI, the DEA, the Texas Rangers and the Army Rangers, LAPD SWAT, the SEALS, and the Special Forces. I have filled up the base theaters at Camp LeJeune, Fort Bragg, Coronado, Camp Pendleton, Fort Campbell, Norfolk, Fort Drum, 29 Palms, Fort Polk and many other military bases. My books, On Killing and On Combat are required reading at many military and law enforcement training centers. My work has been found to be of value to warriors of every stripe, from every organization. And I take whatever credibility that gives me and I put it all on the line to tell you again: This book is vital to your survival. In World War II we lost over 400,000 dead, including every battle and non-battle casualty. But in World War II we also lost over 500,000 psychiatric casualties to psychological wounds! In World War I, World War II, and Korea, the number of soldiers pulled out of the front lines because they were psychiatric casualties was greater than the number of those who died in combat. And many more had to fight mental and emotional battles with post traumatic stress after the war. If it happened to them, could it happen to us? We are no better than them, but we can be better trained, and we can be better equipped. Just as we can be prepared to handle the demands of battle with state- of-the-art training and equipment, we can be trained and equipped to survive the aftermath. That is what this book is about. You have spent countless years learning to survive the actual battle. Endless days on the range. Countless hours in battle drills. Months in combat training learn- II ing the ‘ropes.’ Physical fitness training every day. All of these were dedicated to ensuring your survival and victory at the moment of truth. Now, can you dedicate some time to surviving the aftermath? That is the purpose of this book, and that is why this book is vital to your well-being and survival. Not just your well-being, but that of your loved ones as well. The psychological scars of war are sometimes called ‘The gifts that keeps on giving.’ If you die, that’s not contagious. But if you come back with a load of mental baggage, then your loved ones will have to live with it! But it doesn’t have to be that way. Just as we can equip ourselves to physically survive combat, so we can also prepare ourselves to mentally survive the aftermath. • Reading this book ahead of time can be a form of inoculation, giving you insight that will help you take your combat responses in perspective, avoiding PTSD (Post-traumatic Stress Disorder) at the moment of truth. • Reading this book after your combat experience is vital to helping you understand what is happen- ing to your mind and body after the fact. And one of the great things about this book is that it applies not just to veterans of our current conflicts, but to all veterans of violence, in every profession, across the years..