May 08, 2009 | Volume VII, Issue 10 | LGBT Life in Pride 2009 Off and Running An By Steve Charing With the recent crowning of King and Queen of Pride (see inside), Interview Pride is off and running and is on target for another fun-filled celebration that officially takes place with the weekend of June 20-21. It rep- resents the 34th time that the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Super- Community Center of Baltimore and Central Maryland (GLCCB) has run the annual event in Baltimore. model “Pride has evolved from an ac- tivist event to one where the commu- nity can celebrate and have a good Ronnie Kroell time,” Paul Liller, the GLCCB’s De- velopment Associate, told OUTloud. This is Liller’s first year as the official Pride coordinator, but he has done By Josh Aterovis similar work as a volunteer in previ- ous years’ Pride celebrations. Ronnie Kroell is more than just a Where at one time Baltimore’s pretty face. He’s best known for Pride was confined to either one day appearing on the first season of or two days in June, over the past Bravo’s Make Me A Supermod- several years, the celebration be- el, where his cuddly bromance gan earlier with a series of events with fellow model and straight that lead up to the big day. Following friend, Ben, sent gay viewers the King and Queen of Pride Pag- — and many women, too — into eant held on April 24, a succession convulsions of ecstasy. They of other pre-Pride events has been even got one of those sickening- scheduled. ly cute couple names: “Bronnie.” On May 17 there will be the Ronnie may have finished sec- Voice of Pride—a singing contest at ond to his buddy, but he’s since Grand Central. Two weeks later at proved his staying power. He’s the same venue there will be Lube used his fame to speak out for Wrestling. On June 6 a Date Auction gay rights and spread his mes- will take place at Lucy’s. And “Twi- sage: Be yourself. light on the Terrace” at Gertrude’s Ronnie will be in Baltimore restaurant at the Baltimore Museum on Thursday, May 14th to co- of Art on Friday, June 19 will bring host the “Hunks in Trunks All- us to the parade and block party the Male Swimsuit Fashion Show” next day. for charity. The show will feature The parade up Charles Street the men of the DC Cowboys. is traditionally kicked off by the en- The following day, Ronnie will tertaining High Heels Race that be- be giving a seminar for aspiring gins around 4:00 p.m. It certainly models. I recently talked to Ron- should not be missed. And the pa- nie about his life since Make Me rade, as always, will feature a broad A Supermodel and the events representation of the community here in Baltimore. -- continued on page 22 -- continued on page 23  q BALTIMORE OUTLOUD May 08, 2009 | baltimoreoutloud.com outspoken

Publisher Anti-Gay Bullying is Killing Our Kids Mike Chase [email protected] Executive Editor By Steve Charing draw attention to bullying in the schools. Jim Becker This effort has been promulgated by [email protected] South Carroll High School in Sykesville, GLSEN—the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Sales MD held a “Unity Day” on March 26 to cel- Education Network. A leader in anti-bul- Mary Taylor, Director ebrate diversity. Included in the program lying education, GLSEN (glsen.org) pres- [email protected] in front of the entire student body was a ents statistics that show how acute bully- Managing Editor presentation on lgbt issues by members ing is in schools—especially against lgbt Steve Charing of PFLAG that focused on the conse- students. Leather Editor quences of hate speech, hateful words In a 2007 National School Climate Rodney Burger and bullying. Survey, 86.2% of lgbt students reported Writers To amplify the point, the presenta- being verbally harassed, 44.1% reported Jeffrey Clagett Josh Aterovis tions were followed by students’ writing being physically harassed and 22.1% Chuck Duncan Rickie Green insulting words on pieces of paper, like reported being physically assaulted at Eva Hersh MD Marty Hoegg ‘faggot,” “that’s so gay,” “homo,” etc. and school in the past year because of their Doug Ireland Jay Loane P.S. Lorio Jim Lucio proceeded to shred these epithets in the sexual orientation. 73.6% heard deroga- Meredith Moise Sandy Rawls hope that the symbolic gestures would tory remarks such as “faggot” or “dyke” Ben Ryland MIA - Alexander St. John lead to permanent eradication of the vile frequently or often at school. Nate Sweeney Larry Walker language and the pervasive bullying that More than half (60.8%) of students “Although neither Graphics continues to exist in schools. reported that they felt unsafe in school Hannah-Love Shibley, Director As well received as this demonstra- because of their sexual orientation, and student identified as gay, [email protected] tion was, apparently not all were happy more than a third (38.4%) felt unsafe be- Carol Baker about the event. A Mt. Airy woman in a cause of their gender expression. 31.7% both students endured Bryan Sullivan letter to Gazette.com called the shredding of lgbt students missed a class and 32.7% Photographers of paper an “empty gesture” and stating missed a day of school in the past month anti-lgbt bullying until Skip Koritzer Harry Lowinger that “words kill” is a “platitude.” She wrote, because of feeling unsafe, compared to they couldn’t take it “Words do not kill. Behavior kills.” only 5.5% and 4.5%, respectively, of a National Advertising Oh really? national sample of secondary school Rivendell Media anymore.” 908-232-2021 Recently two suicides related to anti- students. gay bullying were tragedies that could These numbers cannot be ignored. “These two tragedies highlight the Web Services Drew Saine have been avoided. An 11 year-old boy, “Anti-lgbt bullying affects all students, need for schools to do more to make sure [email protected] Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover, hung himself gay and straight alike,” says GLSEN Ex- their hallways and classrooms are safe on April 6 in Springfield, MA. His suicide ecutive Director Eliza Byard, Ph.D. “Bul- for all students,” says Byard. “Education, Distribution/Circulation Jay Loane comes about a year after eighth-grader lies learn from an early age that anti-lgbt community and federal leaders need to [email protected] Lawrence King was shot and killed by a language is one of the most effective ways come together and find solutions to the fellow student in a California classroom, to torment their peers. And far too often, endemic problem of bullying in America’s Baltimore OUTloud allegedly because he was gay. schools fail to address the problem.” schools. We owe it to our children to do P.O. Box 3640, Baltimore, MD 21214 A little over a week later a second GLSEN proposes a four-pronged everything we can to make sure they are 410-244-6780 suicide—also by hanging—took place in approach to address anti-lgbt bullying safe in school.” www.baltimoreoutloud.com Georgia by fifth-grader, Jaheem Herrera. and harassment. They recommend that Otherwise, young lives are being cut “He was bullied relentlessly. schools adopt a comprehensive anti-bul- way too short. Additional Information They called him gay and a lying policy that includes in the categories Baltimore OUTloud is published every other Friday by Pride snitch,” his stepfather told the Atlanta sexual orientation and gender identity and Steve Charing’s OUTspoken blog is at Media, Ltd. in Baltimore, Maryland. Readers’ comments and unsolicited materials are welcomed and may be sent Journal-Constitution. expression. www.SteveCharing.blogspot.com. to: [email protected]. | Pride Media offices “[Jaheem’s best friend] said, ‘He told They encourage required training so are located at 1120 N. Charles Street, 4R, Baltimore, 21201. me that he’s tired of everybody always that school staff can be well equipped to | All materials appearing in this newspaper are the property messing with him in school. He is tired of respond to anti-gay name-calling, bullying Submit Your Events Online of Pride Media, Ltd. and may not be reproduced without the telling the teachers and the staff, and they and harassment in an effective and timely www.baltimoreoutloud.com written permission of the editor. never do anything about the problems. manner. So, the only way out is by killing himself.’“ GLSEN supports student efforts, Although neither student identified as such as establishing Gay-Straight Alli- OUTloud’s queer TV guide: gay, both students endured anti-lgbt bul- ances in the schools to help prevent anti- www.baltimoreoutloud.com lying until they couldn’t take it anymore. gay bullying. And in both cases, the schools did not act And lastly, GLSEN recommends that ©2009 - All Rights Reserved on complaints. age-appropriate, inclusive curricula be in- Sign up online now for free Chairman of the Board Jim Becker Ironically, the suicides occurred in a stituted to help students understand and home delivery of OUTloud. President Jim Williams month in which schools around the coun- respect difference within the school com- Vice President Lee Mooney try participate in “Day of Silence” events to munity and society as a whole. www.baltimoreoutloud.com baltimoreoutloud.com | May 08, 2009 BALTIMORE OUTLOUD q  news Maine’s Governor Signs Same Sex Marriage into Law

desk for signature. Solomnese congratulated Gov. John New York recognizes marriages by With this historic event, Maine be- Baldacci, Senator Dennis Damon, and same-sex couples legally entered into in comes the 5th state to recognize mar- Speaker of the House Hannah Pingree another jurisdiction. California recognized riage for same-sex couples. Democratic “for making sure all loving, committed cou- marriage by same-sex couples between Gov. John Baldacci, who hadn’t previous- ples in Maine, and their families, will have June and November of 2008, before vot- ly indicated how he would handle the bill, equal rights and responsibilities under ers approved Proposition 8, which pur- signed it shortly after the House approved state law, and congratulations to Equality ports to amend the state constitution to the measure. He had supported civil Maine for the hard work it has done over prohibit marriage equality. The Proposi- unions rather than same-sex marriage in the years to make today a reality.” tion 8 vote has been challenged in court; the past. “I have come to believe that this Four other states have recognized a decision by the state supreme court is is a question of fairness and of equal pro- marriage for same-sex couples under expected by June. tection under the law and that a civil union state law: Massachusetts, Connecticut, Legislatures in New Hampshire and is not equal to civil marriage,” Baldacci, a Iowa, and Vermont (effective September New York are also considering legisla- Democrat, said in a statement. 1, 2009). Last month, Iowa’s state su- tion that would permit same-sex couples “Just one year ago, a single state al- preme court unanimously ruled that the to marry under state law. Should New lowed same-sex couples to marry,” said state constitution guarantees same-sex Hampshire authorize same-sex marriage, Human Rights Campaign President Joe couples the equal right to marry. Rhode Island will become the last remain- Solmonese in a statement. “Now, with On April 7, Vermont’s legislature ing New England state not to do so. AUGUSTA, ME—Governor John Baldacci the historic step taken by Gov. Baldacci overrode Gov. Douglas’ veto, making Ver- of Maine signed a bill on May 6, approving and the Maine legislature, five states will mont the first state to recognize marriage same-sex marriage. The bill, which had provide equal dignity, equal respect, and equality through the legislative process. passed the state Senate by a vote of 21- equal rights under state law for same- Last week, Connecticut enacted a bill Sign up online now for free 13, had moved on to the House where it sex couples by recognizing their freedom codifying the state Supreme Court’s Oc- quickly was approved by a 89-57 vote and to marry, and we hope more will follow tober 2008 decision recognizing marriage home delivery of OUTloud. was immediately sent to Gov. Baldacci’s soon.” for same-sex couples. www.baltimoreoutloud.com  q BALTIMORE OUTLOUD May 08, 2009 | baltimoreoutloud.com

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WASHINGTON, D.C.—Following a raucous debate, the House of Representatives passed an inclusive hate crimes bill on April 29. The Local Law Enforcement Hate Crimes Prevention Act (LLEHCPA), also known in the U.S. Senate as the Matthew Shepard Act, was passed by a 249-175 bipartisan vote. “All Americans are one step closer to protection from hate violence thanks to [this] vote,” said Human Rights Campaign President Joe Solmonese. “Hate crimes are a scourge on our communities and it’s time we give law enforcement the tools they need to combat this seri- ous problem.” The bill received support from President Obama as well as over 300 law enforcement, civil rights and religious organizations. “The Senate should heed the President’s leadership Matthew Shepard and quickly pass the Matthew Shepard Act,” said Solmo- nese. “After more than ten years and tens of thousands of victims, there should be no delay in passing this bill tance or, where local authorities are unwilling or unable, into law.” by taking the lead in investigations and prosecutions of Rep. Virginia Foxx (R-NC) infuriated lgbt activists by violent crime resulting in death or serious bodily injury referring to the murder of Matthew Shepard as a hoax. that were motivated by bias. “We know that that young man was killed in the commit- The LLEHCPA also makes grants available to state ment of a robbery,” she said. “It wasn’t because he was and local communities to combat violent crimes commit- gay. The hate crimes bill was named for him, but it’s re- ted by juveniles, train law enforcement officers, or to as- ally a hoax that that continues to be used as an excuse sist in state and local investigations and prosecutions of for passing these bills.” bias motivated crimes. According to FBI statistics, violent crimes based on In the 110th Congress, the LLEHCPA was introduced sexual orientation constituted 16.6 percent of all hate by Representative John Conyers (D-MI) and approved in crimes in 2007, with 1,265 reported for the year. In ad- the House by a bipartisan vote of 237-180. The Senate dition, while not captured in the federal statistics, trans- version, the Matthew Shepard Local Law Enforcement gender Americans too often live in fear of violence. Hate Crimes Prevention Act, was introduced by Senator The bill gives the Justice Department the power Edward Kennedy (D-MA) and offered as an amendment to investigate and prosecute bias-motivated violence to the Department of Defense Authorization (DoD) bill. where the perpetrator has selected the victim because After a successful 60-39 vote to prevent a filibus- of the person’s actual or perceived race, color, religion, ter, the Matthew Shepard Act was adopted by voice vote national origin, gender, sexual orientation, gender iden- and added to the DoD bill. Unfortunately, the hate crimes tity or disability. provision was not included in the final version of the DoD It provides the Justice Department with the ability to bill. It also died as a result of a threatened veto by then- aid state and local jurisdictions either by lending assis- President George W. Bush.  q BALTIMORE OUTLOUD May 08, 2009 | baltimoreoutloud.com beyond the beltway

By Jim Becker were not household names. D’Adamo’s story resonated with Balboni. He came from a strongly Catholic district, was himself Catholic, and up until 2001 had generally opposed gay rights legislation. But that year some gay constituents met with him and shared their stories of be- ing denied access to their partners in the hospital and being barred by hostile fam- ily members from attending their partners’ funeral. D’Adamo had a change of heart. The bill filed by D’Adamo prompted the first public debate in the council’s his- tory of spousal rights for same-sex cou- ples, although it failed to pass. D’Adamo faced a political backlash, but he man- aged to hold on to his seat, and his efforts were later vindicated; in 2008 he joined the rest of the council in passing a reso- lution in support of full marriage equality. (Bay Windows - Ethan Jacobs at baywin- dows.com)

Mass. student wins with essay on Baltimore councilman Rockport, MA - Margo Balboni, a straight junior at Rockport High School, beat out more than 1400 students from across the country to win this year’s John F. Ken- nedy Essay Contest, and she did it by writing about a Baltimore city councilman who took a bold stand for gay rights. The subject of Balboni’s essay, Councilman Nicholas D’Adamo, inspired her essay be- cause he was an unsung hero who bucked the views of his constituents and moved New Hampshire beyond his own prejudices to follow his conscience. “What stood out for me about governor quiet on Councilman D’Adamo is he was not only facing the wrath of his constituents but he marriage equality was also rising above the narrow view he had in his life about gay marriage,” said bill Balboni. “I thought it showed real courage to overcome his own prejudices in order Concord, NH - Democratic New Hamp- to do something that was right.” shire Gov. John Lynch remains silent on In 2001 D’Adamo filed domestic whether he will sign or veto a bill legaliz- partnership legislation that would have ing same-sex marriage. In the past he has given same-sex couples certain benefits said that he opposes same sex marriage and protections, and while the legislation and that he believes the current civil union failed it served as a forerunner for later law works fine. However, he is avoiding gay-rights gains in the city. The contest questions on what he will do when the rules urged students to pick subjects who marriage bill hits his desk. On Wednes- took similarly courageous stands but who day, April 29th, the state Senate passed baltimoreoutloud.com | May 08, 2009 BALTIMORE OUTLOUD q  beyond the beltway the marriage equality bill on a 13-11 vote. a diarrhea-inducing fluid, which ruptures riage, while 43 percent were opposed. It passed the House last month 186-179. their intestine and painfully kills them. The last Quinnipiac poll on the issue in “I recognize that the issue of same- Videos of the torture are being sent over the Garden State, conducted in Decem- sex marriage is intensely passionate and the mobile phone network in the country, ber 2006 while the state legislature was personal, and raises strong emotions on Iraqi human rights activist Yina Moham- considering the civil-union law that it later all sides,” the Democratic governor said mad told Alarabiya.net. But Khalaf Abdul approved, found that 50 percent of voters in a statement following the Senate vote. Hussein of the legal affairs office of the opposed same-sex marriage, while 44 “I still believe the fundamental issue is Sadr City police station told Al Arabiya, percent voiced their support. about providing the same rights and pro- “The extra-judicial killing of any citizen is “Two years after New Jersey’’s civil- tections to same-sex couples as are avail- a crime punishable by law.” union law went into effect, sentiment for able to heterosexual couples. This was A new vigilante group, Ahl al-Haq or allowing same-sex marriage in the state accomplished through the passage of the “Followers of Truth,” are being blamed has shifted from six points against to six Who’s for Jon? civil unions law two years ago. To achieve for many of the attacks, and lists with the points in favor,” said Clay F. Richards, further real progress, the federal govern- names of men presumed to be gay were assistant director of the Quinnipiac Uni- Jon Weinstein (c) is flanked on the left ment would need to take action to recog- circulated around Sadr City. Some victims versity Polling Institute. When the 2,222 by State Delegate Guy Guzzone (D- nize New Hampshire civil unions.” of the glue torture made it to the hospital registered voters who participated in the Howard County) and on the right by Just prior to the vote Wednesday, to seek treatment and were turned away, survey, which was conducted between Howard County Executive Ken Ulman. the University of New Hampshire Sur- according to the leader of Iraqi-lgbt, a April 14-20, were given several options Both heartily endorsed Mr. Weinstein’s vey Center released a statewide poll that group founded in Britain by gay expatri- for legal recognition for same-sex cou- candidacy for state delegate in district found 55 percent of New Hampshire resi- ates. “They kill the gays, they beat them ples, 43 percent favored marriage, while 9A (Howard County) in a bid to unseat dents support gay and lesbian couples’’ up . . . I have a lot of friends that have 30 percent supported civil unions and 20 anti-gay Warren Miller and Gail Bates right to marry, while 39 percent oppose it. been killed--15 or 16, something like that, percent believed such couples should in 2010. See Vote4Jon.com for more In Vermont, the state legislature overrode too much,” said a gay Iraqi man who was have no recognition. Respondents did details. the veto of a similar marriage bill by Gov. interviewed by BBC News. “Life has be- approve of the state’s current civil-union Jim Douglas. A marriage equality bill is come like hell, believe me, like hell.” (Gay law, 63-30 percent, and the legislation currently being voted on in the Maine leg- People’s Chronicle - Anthony Glassman received a majority of the support among islature. It passed the state Senate April at gaypeopleschronicle.com) every demographic group identified in the 30th. New York Gov David Paterson (D) study, including Republicans and those has unveiled legislation to allow same- who attend weekly religious services sex couples to marry in the Empire State. - two groups who, on average, opposed (365Gay.com) same-sex marriage. Steven Goldstein, chair of New Jer- sey marriage-equality organization Gar- Gay men are den State Equality, said the results of the poll were not surprising. “For the last three being tortured to years, poll after poll in New Jersey, which were completely independent, show that death in Iraq more people in New Jersey support mar- riage equality than oppose it,” Goldstein Baghdad, Iraq - Gay men in Iraq are be- said. “This shows a trend and provides ing subjected to an increasing wave of vi- even more evidence that New Jersey is olence as clerics call for their deaths. On poised to accept marriage equality at the April 2, two gay men were shot by mem- soonest juncture. We’re working hard to bers of their tribe after leaders ordered see this happen in 2009.” (Philadelphia their executions, days after the murder of Gay Hews - Jen Colletta at epgn.com) four other gay men. A café in Sadr City, a neighborhood of Baghdad led by anti- These news notes have been compiled, American cleric Muqtada al-Sadr, was with permission, from the on line version burned. The café was a popular meeting of various newspapers and other web spot for gay men, who were largely ig- NJ voters support sites. We thank these publications for al- March! Rally! nored during Saddam Hussein’s reign. lowing us to bring you their news stories. Al Arabiya, an Arabic news network for marriage Usually the reports have been significant- PFLAG Mom June Horner from Sykes- based in the United Arab Emirates, also ly edited and you can read the full story by ville, MD (l.) with venerable gay rights reported that men suspected of being gay equality grows going to the web site mentioned following icon Frank Kameny at Equality Forum are being tortured to death throughout the item. Comments are strictly the opin- March and Rally in rainy Philadelphia the country. One form of abuse is report- Trenton, NJ - According to a poll released ions of Jim Becker and not of Baltimore on May 3. Also pictured is a group edly the use of an Iranian-made surgical recently, public support for same-sex mar- Outloud or Pride Media. carrying the Gay Americans Heroes glue which bonds permanently to skin. riage in New Jersey is continuing to grow. Foundation banner--a memorial and Gay men, and those suspected of being The Quinnipiac University poll released remembrance for lgbt people who were gay, are captured and have their anuses April 23 found that 49 percent of New Jer- OUTloud’s queer TV guide: murdered in hate crimes. glued shut. They are then forced to drink sey voters were in favor of same-sex mar- www.baltimoreoutloud.com Photo credits: June Horner  q BALTIMORE OUTLOUD May 08, 2009 | baltimoreoutloud.com news “Finding your Faith” at May 12 PFLAG Meeting

The Columbia/Howard County chapter of Church in Baltimore. They will share their PFLAG—Parents, Families and Friends personal journeys on finding faith within of Lesbians and Gays—will turn to reli- themselves and how they chose to partici- gion at its next general meeting on May pate in various congregations. 12. This forum will cover how faith can be Several clergy and members from fulfilling and how, if necessary, one can area churches/synagogues have been make positive changes. invited to discuss how and why their The message will be one of hope. congregations became welcoming to the The program will begin with a short gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender power point documentary film produced community. by PFLAG Religion Committee member The meeting will begin at 7:30 p.m. Vanita Leatherwood. It features a group and will take place at the Owen Brown of lesbian women who discuss finding Interfaith Center, 7246 Cradlerock Way, faith. Columbia, MD 21045. All meetings are There will then be a panel discus- confidential, free and open to everyone. sion by the following: Sean McGovern, For more information, visit pflagmd.org. representing the New Covenant MCC; In other local PFLAG news, the Bel Bradley Fine from the Baltimore Jewish Air/Susquehanna chapter of PFLAG vot- Congregation; Sue and Richard Hillis as ed on April 28 to merge with the new Bal- members of the Catholic faith; and Chett timore County chapter. For more informa- Pritchett from St. Johns United Methodist tion, visit pflagbaltimore.org. baltimoreoutloud.com | May 08, 2009 BALTIMORE OUTLOUD q  passings Jonny Feldesman, 1947 - 2009

Early Gay Clinic volunteer Jonathan D. Feldesman, the son of the late Jackson and Gladys Feldesman, died suddenly on April 24, of a hemorrhagic stroke. He was 62. Jonathan, or “Jonny” as his friends knew him, was born in Washington D.C. on March 7, 1947, and grew up in Mont- gomery County. He graduated from Sandy Springs Friends School and the University of Maryland Baltimore County, from which he received a degree in Amer- ican studies. He was also employed in the production of Sesame Street, the TV show. In the late 1960’s and early 1970’s, organizations as part of the gay libera- he worked on the political campaigns of tion movement. Gay Clinic co- founder New York Mayor John Lindsay and New Jim Becker said, “Jonny was tireless in York Congresswoman Bella Abzug. He his dedication to the Clinic and its efforts remained politically supportive of pro- to combat STDs and Hepatitis B before gressive candidates throughout his life AIDs struck the community.” and was delighted at the election of Presi- Jonny was especially adept at doing dent Barak Obama. cross puzzles. He also loved to watch Jonny moved to Baltimore in the quiz shows, especially Jeopardy and 1970’s and soon became a volunteer for Wheel of Fortune. the Gay and Lesbian Community Center’s Jonny is survived by his sister and STD clinic, then known as the Gay Clinic brother-in-law Bonnie Lefkowitz and Wil- and now called Chase Brexton Health liam Culhane of North Beach, friends, Services. He was one of a group of po- Carlton Nelson and Patricia Harcarik, and Our concentration focuses on issues litically motivated volunteers that viewed his friend and companion for over thirty affecting your life and your rights: community work with up-front gay service years, Winston Davids.

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By Kate Runyon

Equality Maryland (EQMD) had three organizers working on this legislation as well as several lobbyists. Our hearings in Annapolis were wonderful. We worked with Trans United to hire a van to bring testifiers to Annapolis on the day of the hearings, and to arrange constituent visits with legislators. We brought constituents to lobby on this legislation outside of lobby day and outside of the hearings. Our grassroots was tremendous. We phone banked (spoke with or left messages for) upwards of 600 people in key legislative districts (dialing more than twice that many), generating countless phone calls to legislators (this does not include EQMD members who made calls based upon our email alerts). We enlisted support from allied identity, religious exemptions, liability of organizations like HRC and the ACLU, employers, and more. This generated who phone banked their lists. We built the support of the Marylander Retailers a coalition of unions, like AFSME; civil Association, who in the past had rights groups like Progressive Maryland opposed the legislation. and the NAACP; religious organizations We dropped literature to all 188 like the Jewish Community Relations members of the General Assembly Council; and social service agencies on this issue three times. We worked like the National Coalition to End with the Governor’s office to generate Homelessness, to personally engage two letters of support, one for each key legislators, submit testimony, committee hearing, and we also and encourage the support of their worked to generate press on the issue. memberships. Del. Joseline Pena-Melnyk and Sen. Our organizers went with volunteers Madaleno were amazing. to shopping centers in key members’ districts and talked to constituents face- Kate Runyon is executive director of to-face, asking them to call key legislator Equality Maryland. on the spot. EQMD sent out many action alerts, targeting e-mails to the House and Senate Committees, to the House Submit Your Events Online and Senate, to the Governor, and to key www.baltimoreoutloud.com legislators who needed extra pushing. In total, 14,631 e-mails were sent through our email system. OUTloud’s queer TV guide: In Annapolis, we worked closely with www.baltimoreoutloud.com the State Human Relations Commission and a key staffer for the Task Force to craft a series of amendments that Sign up online now for free addressed every concern brought up by legislators around public home delivery of OUTloud. accommodations, definitions of gender www.baltimoreoutloud.com baltimoreoutloud.com | May 08, 2009 BALTIMORE OUTLOUD q 13 church directory

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The Gibson House Bed The Gettysburg Bed All rates include a full country breakfast or kayaking. If you are a dog owner, bring served in our Garden Solarium. You can’t your pet and relax in the comfort, priva- and Breakfast and Breakfast help but feel welcomed by the lovely sur- cy and hospitality of a small home while roundings. “Where Genuine New England enjoying the amenities of a big hotel. It Located in the heart of the sweetest place An original 1809 Civil War farmhouse Hospitality Prevails” is located just outside the beach town of on earth, rests The Gibson House Bed located on 30 private acres of the Get- Lewes, so it is a quick car trip for beach- and Breakfast, newly remodeled. Walking tysburg Battlefield, The Gettysburg Bed Sea Witch Manor & es, parks, outlet shopping and first class distance to Hershey Park and Hershey and Breakfast will take you back in his- restaurants. There is a heated outdoor attractions, and convenient to Harrisburg, tory. You will be staying in an exclusive, Spa & BEDazzled swimming pool. Lancaster and Gettysburg, their bed and privately owned section of the South Cav- breakfast strives to provide an intimate, alry Battlefield in Gettysburg, PA. In the Sea Witch Manor & Spa, an adult only bed INN at 2920 quality lodging experience with a person- morning, while you sip coffee you will be and breakfast, strives to be everything al touch, steeped in Victorian charm. “It is enjoying an interactive Civil War program the discriminating traveler has come to INN at 2920 is an upscale, contempo- our goal.” said by Tom Powers your inn- given by a costumed re-enactor. You will expect. The goal is to provide a quiet ro- rary, yet unpretentious boutique bed and keeper. “to provide outstanding guest sat- have a variety of presenters who tell dif- mantic year round getaway, a full gourmet breakfast in Baltimore that provides a isfaction and comfort. We wish to provide ferent stories each morning of your stay. breakfast personally prepared to meet comfortable and stylish alternative to the you a pleasant departure from a more Have an early dinner so you can be back every guests dietary needs. Enjoy our corporate . It’s just institutional lodging setting, while still by 8 p.m. for ghost story time. The lights resident Massage therapist, spa services steps from O’Donnell Square, with an ar- providing excellent accommodations and are lowered, the candles lit, and the spir- that includes relaxing hot tub and mas- ray of restaurants, pubs, and cafes and services.” The establishment is smoke- its are invited in for the evening. The next sage therapy for the mind, body and soul. only minutes from historic Fells Point and free (smoking outdoors only) and a full morning, there is a gathering around the In BEDazzled you will enjoy the golden ‘hip and trendy’ Harbor East. INN at 2930 breakfast is included with room rate. breakfast table and share stories about age of Hollywood; the home is elegantly is located two to three miles from Inner our night. Will Cornelius Houtelin or the appointed with a wonderful fireplace in Harbor and Johns Hopkins, the Conven- Rainbow Mountain Figure in Blue visit your room that night? the living room, large leather wing back tion Center, and Camden Yards. Remember, it’s all storytelling....isn’t it? chairs, an overstuffed sofa, game table, Resort and 33rpm record collection. Both are lo- The Alexander Inn cated in Rehoboth Beach. DE. Nestled high atop a mountainside of Northeast Pennsylvania sits Rainbow The Alexander Inn is a popular Boutique Homestead at Mountain Resort. They are a gay-owned Hotel, located in Center City Philadelphia, and operated resort, restaurant and night- within sight of many of the best attractions Rehoboth club that has been serving the lgbt com- the city has to offer. The building is histor- munity since 1981. On 26 private acres, ical, recently renovated, and now has the Situated on two acres just three miles from including a 2-acre pond, we boast a spec- charm of the past and all the comforts of Rehoboth Beach, DE, the Homestead at tacular view of the surrounding moun- most modern buildings. It is seven stories Rehoboth has become a destination for tains. On-site amenities include an Olym- tall, with an elevator to all floors. There pets and their owners. The farmhouse is pic size swimming pool and sundeck; a are 48 nonsmoking designer rooms, all decorated in a warm cottage style that is year-round, 10-person hot tub with an ad- with private baths, large fluffy towels, and pet friendly and yet offers all the amenities Lesbian-owned Creekside B & B in Deale, MD jacent, heated changing room - open 24 wireless Internet access. Artwork, design, of a bed and breakfast. During your stay, hours-a-day; an exercise facility; a sauna; style and fresh flowers are everywhere to relax on the screened in porch, or just tennis, volleyball, badminton and shuffle- ensure your comfort and satisfaction. The enjoy a delicious continental breakfast in board courts; a hill for snow sledding and reception desk is staffed with knowledge- our guest common area. It’s a few min- Creekside Bed and tubing; and our pond with paddle boats, able and friendly people. utes from the many beaches, boardwalk, Breakfast fishing, and ice skating. movie theaters, restaurants and shops of The Arlington Inn Rehoboth Beach and Lewes. Creekside Bed and Breakfast is located Stoney Ridge in a private home in the community of An Elegant Bed and Breakfast nestled in Lazy L Bed and Deale, MD on the western shore of the Secluded in a wooded area of the Pocono the center of Arlington, VT. The Arlington Chesapeake Bay. It has a rear deck that Mountains in Northeast Pennsylvania is Inn welcomes you. A unique and special Breakfast has a hot tub and a pool and an area that Stoney Ridge—a modern day cedar log bed and breakfast country inn that brings invites lounging before and after swim- home for gay men and lesbians. Enjoy its you back to a time of elegance and style. Open year round, in Lewes, DE, Lazy ming. The front porch, facing the water, charming comfort as your Pocono Get-A- Walk through the door and become drawn L Bed and Breakfast offers 5 spacious offers rocking chairs, a swing, and great Way. This new log home is completely fur- in by the elegant Victorian furnishings, rooms and a private cottage. All are fur- bird watching. It’s within a half-hour’s nished including a fully equipped kitchen the subtle lighting, the crackling fireplace nished with queen-sized beds and individ- drive of Annapolis, with its historic town beautiful stone fireplace (wood provided) in the parlor, and the elegantly curving ual heater/air conditioners. At your door- center, state capital, and Naval Academy; and electric heat. Pets welcome. staircase to the second floor. The Inn of- step is bird watching; the marsh is alive Calvert Cliffs State Park where one can fers a full service dining room and tavern. with bird activity including eagles, fishing hike along miles of natural chalk cliffs baltimoreoutloud.com | May 08, 2009 BALTIMORE OUTLOUD q 19 travel above the Chesapeake; Patuxent River Park for canoeing and birding; a dozen Cruising ‘Neighborhoods’ on the antique and “junk” stores; and a mall full of outlet stores. And, of course, the museums, monuments, theaters, and restaurants of Washington, DC and Oasis of the Seas Baltimore are 50 minutes away. But most guests simply bring books and By Bob Rose “chill out” in a rocker and watch the lo- cal bird life. Royal Caribbean International’s Oasis of the Seas will begin sail- ing on December 1, 2009 and will be largest and most innovative cruise ship in the industry. Royal Caribbean’s Oasis of the Seas will span 16 decks, encompass 220,000 gross tons and carry up to an amazing 6,300 cruise passengers. The Oasis will sail from her home port of Fort Lauderdale, Florida and embark on 7-Night Eastern & Western Caribbean cruise itineraries. Oasis of the Seas, the marvel of ship designs, has seven different and unique neighborhoods that will allow guest to ex- perience whatever they choose, all on one ship! One of the featured neighborhoods that set Oasis apart from all the other ships at sea is Central Park, which brings the outdoors in, creating open-air neighborhood for guests featuring distinctive shops, restaurants and lounges of all types. Seven Inn on Potomac different bars including the Rising Tide bar will be scattered and all along serene pathways, seasonal flower gardens and canopy trees will make you forget you are on a ship. Central Park is lined with balcony staterooms and extends an amazing six decks high Inn on Potomac that reaches to the sky. The Boardwalk is truly a place dedicated for family fun. Pic- Nestled in the heart of historic Hager- ture yourself in a boardwalk such as Coney Island in which you stown, MD, the Inn on Potomac will ex- will enjoy the first ever Carousel at sea, cotton candy, games, ceed all of your expectations. All of the and other fine attractions. rooms in this 100 year-old home are The AquaTheatre is located towards the end of the Board- If you feel like moving to the latest club music, there’s Blaze, furnished in period furniture, antiques, walk and will allow cruise passengers to enjoy a giant pool by the hottest nightclub at sea. Or get cozy at Jazz on 4. And for and incredible artwork that will have you day. At night, the AquaTheatre transforms into an entertainment late-night laughs, head to Comedy Live. imagining a time gone by. You’ll climb venue that amazes everyone with water, light and acrobatic From big band to disco, Dazzles offers countless fresh mu- the staircase to the second floor where shows. sical experiences – complete with dancing lessons and lively. you’ll enter your elegant room with The Royal Promenade features several eateries and bars Urban living has made its way onboard with multilevel lofts its private bath. After kicking off your such as Sorrento’s Pizzeria and Modo Coffee Bar and the first featuring spacious accommodations, which can be combined to shoes, you’ll find a comfortable chair to ever moving bar at sea. Appropriately called the Rising Tide Bar, offer up to 2,000 square feet of living space. The new suites re- sink into and read the newspaper. For this bar will slowly ascend and descend three decks to allow define cruising accommodations with their spacious living areas dinner, you might walk downtown to cruise passengers the ability to enjoy a cocktail as they move and double-height ceilings. These lofts boast an open, contem- enjoy one of Hagerstown’s wonderful through various public spaces onboard the Oasis of the Seas. porary design with vibrant, ocean-inspired colors in a sophis- restaurants. You may decide to spend You will find many exciting things to do, such as two Flow- ticated setting. Floor-to-ceiling windows provide breathtaking the day shopping at the nearby Prime Riders, dual rock walls that surround both sides of the AquaThe- views while letting in natural light. Outlets or just wandering through his- ater, a full basketball court, mini-golf, surf simulators, and the If all this sounds to good to be true or the dream vacation toric Antietam Battlefield. You may de- brand new Zip Line. If you get hungry during all of this activity, you have always wanted, then come and sail with us! Cruise cide to spend your day at Tranquility, guests may visit the wipeout bar & cafe located within the sports Plannerssm and OUTLoud have teamed up to make your dreams A Salon and Spa, which is co-located deck. come true onboard Royal Caribbean International’s Oasis of the with the Inn. There you can get a thera- The Oasis of the Seas pool deck overlooks the beautiful Seas! peutic massage, take a steam shower, Central Park neighborhood. 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PRIDE 2009 travel -- continued from cover

from advocacy organizations to social Gay Pride Weekend in New Hope, PA clubs, from bars to service providers. Colorful attire, bands, balloons, ban- ners and confetti will add to the festive atmosphere. Set for May 15-17 The block party along Eager Street that spills onto Charles Street is Showcasing a diversity of events and en- jammed packed with festive Pride-go- tertainment in one of the Mid-Atlantic’s ers from all members of the community most diverse small towns, the riverside art and their friends. Lots of food and drink colony of New Hope, Pennsylvania hosts will be available, and Paul Liller and his its 6th annual gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans- entertainment committee will arrange gendered and allied (GLBTA) weekend for high-energy, fabulous acts on the celebration on May 15 through 17, 2009. main stage. Liller said that a headliner Hosted by New Hope Celebrates (NHC), a is already set to appear, but the identity community-focused GLBTA tourism mar- of this person will be announced later keting organization, NHC Pride Weekend on. 2009 features dance parties with top- Sunday will conclude the Pride named DJs; cabaret and comedy perfor- celebrations with the traditional fes- mances; a Pride Parade full of surprises; tival in Druid Park. Booths represent- plus softball tournaments, bike rides, his- ing a wide swath of lgbt organizations toric walking tours and family activities. and gay-friendly businesses will be on Photo: Mark Margraff “Each year the pride festival grows in hand to show off their stuff. It’s a great breadth, depth and length,” says Daniel place to peruse these booths, make Brooks, NHC President, who spearheads new friends and maybe learn a thing or the nonprofit in efforts to spotlight New fle to win free family packs of tickets for Dance on Sunday, May 17 at 4:00 p.m. two about groups you never heard of Hope’s illustrious past and prominent fu- nearby Sesame Place children’s theme spotlights DJ Mark Picchiotti, producer of before. Perhaps you can join an advo- ture as a gay-friendly destination. “Over park. Families also won’t want to miss for international pop stars includ- cacy organization and help to make a 5,000 guests attended last year and ex- the “Proud to Families and Friends After- ing Madonna, Mariah Carey, Enrique Igle- difference in people’s lives. perienced our ‘something for everybody’- noon Tea Dance” featuring upbeat music sias, George Michael and more (location You can also buy food, beverages, concept events. This year we’ve added from DJ Sounds by Shelly, as well as The TBA). jewelry, crafts and other products that more activities for parents and children, Limbo, Freeze Dance and the ever-popu- Various fundraising socials and net- will be on sale and enjoy the entertain- and are pleased to welcome Sesame lar Chicken Dance, on Sunday, May 17 at working opportunities take place in the ment that will take place throughout the Place and Gay Parent Magazine to our 2:30 p.m. at Kehilat HaNahar (The Little days leading up to the festival. For a full festival. sponsorship mix.” Shul by the River) at 85 West Mechanic schedule of events and activities, plus Liller told OUTloud that Pride is Among the highlights of the multi-day Street. ticket and pricing information, visit www. undergoing an evaluation to determine celebration: Hosted by actress Kelly McGillis of NewHopeCelebrates.com. what is successful for the GLCCB and The Penn Wealth Pride Parade, Top Gun fame, Sing Out Loud and Proud Situated along the banks of the sce- how it can be effective for the com- themed ‘Riding the Wave of Diversity,’ on Sunday, May 17 at the New Hope- nic Delaware River in Bucks County, munity as a whole. “We need to take a takes place on Saturday, May 16 at noon Solebury High School’s Stephen Buck New Hope is a sophisticated yet relaxed, look at how we can change our goals in downtown New Hope. The parade Theatre benefits the Rainbow Room of country town just a short drive north of to make Pride even better for the com- spotlights such notables as the Lesbian Planned Parenthood of Bucks County, Philadelphia and a train ride from New munity,” he said. and Gay Big Apple Corp Marching Band, the region’s only GLBTA youth resource York City. Within one square-mile, visitors Similar Pride celebrations are held NJ Eagles Motorcycle Club, Liberty Gay center. The event features the irreverent enjoy unique shopping; live music and in just about every large town and city Rodeo Association, the 20-member all comedy of ANT, the host of VH1’s real- theatre; historic train and horse-drawn throughout the free world, usually dur- male DC Cowboys dance company (run- ity series “Celebrity Fit Club” and Logo’s carriage rides; art galleries and antiques ing the month of June. Originally gay ners-up on NBC’s “America’s Got Tal- “U.S. of ANT.” Doors open at 2:00 p.m. for shops; boat rides and bike paths; fine res- pride parades and demonstrations were ent”), DJ Mark Picchiotti from Logo’s a silent auction, followed by ANT’s perfor- taurants and casual fare; plus romantic launched to commemorate the uprising “RuPaul’s Drag Race,” Philadelphia’s mance at 3:00 p.m. bed & breakfasts and family-friendly ho- at New York’s Stonewall Inn in June of All Star Mummers Band and Pennsylva- Other prominent events include “Girl’s tels. Home of the famed Bucks County 1969. Many historians have credited nia Congressman Patrick Murphy. Local Night Out” featuring the Christine Mar- Playhouse and such popular nightspots that weekend-long battle against the neighborhoods, bars and restaurants are tucci Band at Triumph Brewing Company as Karla’s Restaurant, Triumph Brewing New York Police Department as the participating with floats, adding further to on Friday, May 15 at 10:00 p.m. A softball Company, The Nevermore Hotel and the beginning of the modern gay-rights the color and diversity on Main Street. tournament, history tours, art exhibits and former Raven Resort, movement. This June will mark the On Saturday, May 16 at 2:30 p.m., vendor fair offer something for everyone New Hope has long been lauded for 40th anniversary of Stonewall. NHC invites GLBT parents, their kids, after the parade on Saturday, May 16. A its acceptance of the gay community. The Volunteers are always needed in friends and supporters to “Family Fun comedic performance by Madame (a pup- New Hope Borough Council is recog- just about every area, Paul Liller ex- and Fitness,” a free outdoor fitness and pet diva with a dirty mouth!) on Saturday, nized as one of the first municipalities in plained. For more information, you may craft activity on the grounds of the New May 16 at 8:30 p.m. at The Nevermore Pennsylvania to pass an anti-discrimina- call 410-837-5445, ext.17 or check out Hope-Solebury Upper Elementary School Hotel is followed by the annual After Glow tion law, as well as a resolution in favor of the website at baltimorepride.org at 180 West Bridge Street, featuring a raf- Party at 11:00 p.m. The ever-popular T- same-sex marriages. baltimoreoutloud.com | May 08, 2009 BALTIMORE OUTLOUD q 23 arts & entertainment An Interview with Super-model Ronnie Kroell

By Josh Aterovis Hart, who I’ve come to know and have a great deal of -- continued from cover respect for, is organizing the event Hunks in Trunks. He’s been doing it now for about five years, and each year it JA: What have you been up to since your photo-fin- benefits a different charity. ish (no pun intended) with Ben on Make Me A Super- He and I met at the gym while I was doing a workout model? routine. He was debating whether or not to bother me RK: [laughs] I’ve been up to a little bit of everything re- during my ab workout, but I’m really glad he did. [laughs] ally. I’ve been modeling in New York and also exploring a We had a great talk and realized we had a lot of the same music career. I came out with two singles so far, but I’m goals and initiatives in the community, so he invited me working on an album. I’m actively involved with the the- to be a part of it. All the proceeds from the fashion show ater industry in New York, working with the Manhattan and the workshop are going to help local AIDS charities Theater Source doing some readings, and will hopefully and those living with HIV and AIDS. be cast in some plays in the next year. JA: The following day you’ll be doing a workshop on JA: What kind of music are you working on with your modeling, tell us a bit about that. CD? RK: This is going to be a first for me, but I’m really ex- RK: It’s going to be a mixture of things, but the two cited. Being in this industry, and seeing it change and singles out right now are electropop, kind of fun, clubby evolve over the last ten years, it’s important to me to dance songs. speak to those who are wanting to break into it and give them some of the warning signs, some of the things to be JA: I’m seeing you everywhere these days, which is aware of, and just give them advice on how to go about great. How much fun did you have filming the nomi- procuring their goals and maybe detour around some of nations for LOGO’s NewNowNext Awards with Bi- the obstacles I faced. It’s important because there are so anca del Rio? many scam artists out there trying to take your money. RK: [laughs] That was quite the trip. I received the rough For locals from Baltimore, I want them to be able to draft of the script a few days before shooting the actual walk away not only learning about some of the stories video, and we were told it was supposed to be like a and experiences I have to share from Make Me A Super- campy porn video shoot. They were going to do it up model, but also with some knowledge and tools in their kind of 80’s style. It was a trip to meet Bianca and work belt, so when they go to their next audition or meeting with her. I like to be busy, so working with LOGO, work- with an agent, they’ll be best prepared for success. ing with a lot of these not-for-profit organizations, doing the speaker circuit, doing anything to keep myself busy JA: What’s next for you? Any other big projects, and activity involved in the community. It keeps me out aside from the CD, on the horizon we can be looking of trouble. [laughs] finding ways to incorporate them? out for? RK: Definitely finding ways to incorporate my political RK: I’ve been really lucky to be reviewing some movies JA: Not that anyone’s complaining, but do you have aspirations into being an artist. I’m using the celebrity scripts. I Hate Valentine’s Day comes out in July, which is a clause in your contracts that says your shirt must I garnered from Make Me A Supermodel and going out a movie I worked on with Nia Vardalos and John Corbett come off at some point during an appearance? into the community for speaking engagements with for- from My Big Fat Greek Wedding. She honored me with, RK: [laughs] Right? Just about everything I’ve been profit and not-for-profit organizations and educational basically, a featured extra as a tapas server in a tapas doing. institutions. I want to talk about the importance of being bar that they frequent. That was me getting my feet wet yourself, of following your dreams and letting anything in the acting world. I’ve also got a few lead roles that I’m JA: Hey, if you’ve got it, flaunt it. inhibit you from doing that, not to feel like your personal considering in a few independent films. If all goes well, RK: Absolutely. You have to love how at the beginning of orientation might weigh you down from achieving what- you’ll be seeing me in some movies coming up in the that piece with LOGO I have my shirt completely on, and ever you want to do. next year or two. two seconds later, it’s gone and the cheesy porno music I’m also going back to school in the fall, if all goes I’m also working on a book right now that deals with starts. [laughs] I’m just having fun, you know? You’re al- well, to New School University in New York to finish my the importance of being yourself, following your dreams, ways going to have people who are critical of your work, bachelor’s degree in political science. The next stepping and overcoming the obstacles we all face. The book will and the people that praise your work. There’s people out stone politically from there would be to go to law school. be targeted to youth from 18 through 25, the formative there who are like, “Why are you doing stuff like that?” years when your trying to figure out what is it you want And I say, “You know what? Life’s too short.” I’m having JA: As you mentioned, you’ll be in Baltimore on May to do. Of course, I want to help those in the LGBT com- a good time. I’m meeting really amazing people. I’m just 14th for the Hunks in Trunks Fashion Show for char- munity, but I’m hoping my book will reach out to an even being an artist, and exploring every aspect of that. ity. Can you tell us a bit about the event? What drew wider audience. you to it? JA: Politics and equal rights issues have always RK: I’ve been really lucky, ever since the show, to have JA: Good luck with the CD, the movies, and the been important to you, and I see they continue to fans, which is incredible to me. It’s inspiring, because no books! Enjoy your stay in Baltimore, and thanks so be, but do you still have political aspirations? Have matter how bad of a day I’m having, someone will say much for talking to us at OUTloud. they taken a backseat for the time being or are you hello to me on the street or recognize me at the gym. Ted RK: Thank you, and I hope to see everyone out! 24 q BALTIMORE OUTLOUD May 08, 2009 | baltimoreoutloud.com on the stage “Quiet Please, There’s a “FLAWLESS.” Lady Onstage” – Souvenir at TIME MAGAZINE “ONE FOR THE AGES.” THE NEW YORK TIMES By Ben Ryland

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of escorting which is partly what excited me about the project. It is a subculture so prone to cliché that I was keen to find out the reality, the truth behind all those ad- verts in the back of magazines. Once I found the guys it certainly took a while to secure their trust but we spent a lot of time discussing my intentions and I think they soon understood that I was not out to exploit them or judge their lives, I just wanted to tell their stories honestly and authentically.” The film follows a young man named Pete who makes light of his decision to be an escort. He speaks with pride and focus when he expresses that he wants to be the best escort that he can possibly be. He even expresses some confusion over the fact that his mother was not proud of him, when told of his new profession. Whether this is fact or fiction is unclear, but it still comes across honestly and Pete is a likable character who you do want to see succeed. Pete’s on-screen charm and personality was felt by Haigh when casting his film. “I contacted a few guys via websites and he was easily the best I met. He seemed so different to what I imagined an escort to be like. Pete is a driven man and that helps give the film it’s narra- tive thread. I was also really keen to have someone that made the choice to live this life rather than fall into it. Plus he seemed to be the type of person I could work with, which of course was vital for the process of making Photo: Jim Lucio this film.” says the director. GREEK PETE. A film by Andrew Haigh. Pete’s screen persona reminded me of my old boss and how his choices were not something to be ashamed of. My ex-hustler boss eventually expanded to a much larger store in a highly trafficked neighborhood. And in the film, Pete mentions saving money over and over so Rentboys on a Budget when I asked Andrew Haigh how that was going, he ad- mitted that though Pete has not saved too much he has expressed interest in opening a cafe. If that were the By Defekto Magazine--deranged. That may have sold lots of maga- case, says Haigh, “Maybe we will see a chain of Greek zines, but I doubt it was good for this guy’s business. Pete eateries around the world!” Greek Pita, perhaps? Since the advent of the internet, the world of male pros- Actual overt street hustling may be on the decline Hopefully funding for Haigh’s next film will come titution has all but disappeared from public view. Street since the late-90s, but it’s not gone, it’s just more dis- easier now that he’s completed this first feature. “This hustling will always exist, but my impression is that the creet and most hustlers now call themselves escorts film was made for so little and despite the freedom that golden days of the male street hustler are over. I have and rentboys and operate out of their homes and cyber comes from that, it doesn’t pay the bills!” no research to back up this claim, so don’t bother saying cafés. This I’m certain is better for business and their I have to thank the for their I’m right or wrong, it’s just my instinct talking. longevity. inspired programming. Eric Hatch, one of the film festival Many years ago in San Francisco, I had a job work- Andrew Haigh is a British director who gives us a programmers says, “We’re always trying to find quality ing in a cute little shop that did framing and sold prints, unique look at the mostly unseen world of rentboys in his films that cover diverse topics, and we’ve shown many t-shirts, cards and little novelty toys. I was told by the first feature film, Greek Pete, which will be screened as gay-themed films over the years. Among our features only other employee that the owner had been a hustler part of the Maryland Film Festival on Friday and Satur- last year, for instance, we showed the gay-themed nar- and had saved his money to start his own business. I day. The film is a combination of documentary and nar- rative film Houseboy and the documentaries Out Late was very impressed because up until that point my only rative styling which works well with the subject, “I would (about seniors who come out of the closet) and Sex Posi- experience with hustlers was with the highly strung guys say the film is a docudrama rather than a documentary. tive (about hustler-turned-HIV-activist Richard Berkow- I’d see on the street, particularly Polk Street. My boss The story narrative is a fiction but based on reality. The itz). Each year we hope to find some titles that will not had broken the stereotype and it made me respect his guys in the film are playing versions of themselves rather only hold particular appeal to the gay community, but choices as well as his fortitude. than actually themselves but everything is improvised may also cross over with general-interest festivalgoers I lived and worked in the Polk Street area so I knew around their own personal experience.” says Haigh, who because of their unique topics and/or artistic merit.” And that the lifestyle was rough and that being a hustler was I spoke with by email from London. “For me the life of gay or straight, we couldn’t ask for more. synonymous with eventually being an addict. I’ll never an escort is so filled with aspects of fantasy and reality Greek Pete will screen Friday May 8th at 11:30 AM forget the last time I saw a guy who I thought was one that I wanted to incorporate that very much in the film’s in MICA Brown Center and again Saturday, May 9th at of the hottest guys working the area. He had gone from construction from the start.” 9:30pm at the Charles Theater. Director Andrew Haigh a healthy, California surfer boy-type to exactly the way Haigh spent a year and a half with his rentboy sub- will also be on a panel discussion on Saturday, so con- Charles Manson looked when he graced the cover of Life jects and says, “I knew nothing at all about the world sult your programs. 26 q BALTIMORE OUTLOUD May 08, 2009 | baltimoreoutloud.com

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Let’s start with the universal truth that at some point in ev- eryone’s life they will have to admit: life is not fair. Accept it, embrace it, and move abuse will tell everyone they have had the on. We’ve all been through rough patch- worst childhood imaginable and that no es. Everyone has encountered some form one could ever understand their pain. of turbulence along their journeys in life A survivor will allow people to know but unfortunately many people cannot get their struggle and help others to under- over it. stand and stop domestic violence. A vic- Being someone who has survived tim will wrong others in society and scorn more in my 20 years of life than many those who try to help them. A survivor people will in their entire lives I under- would not wish their experience on any- stand that what we’re given in this world one else. is not always sunshine and happiness but This survivor/victim mentality doesn’t what you make out of it can be golden. just define people as far as their traumat- I also understand that many people are ic experiences go. It also exists in their spoiled drama queens and they need a daily lives. The victims are easily spotted. very harsh dose of reality. They’re usually pawning their irrespon- It is extremely disheartening and sibility off on someone else or blaming quite frankly annoying to have to listen to others for their shortcomings. Survivors students on campus complain about how are usually the “lead by example” type; “difficult” their lives have been. I say “dif- accepting responsibility for all of their ac- ficult” because these are the people who tions and understanding their imperfec- believe a life-altering experience is not tions are not absolute. having their parents buy them a new cell Victims are also very pessimistic, or they have to read 10 pages from a text- which is a huge pet-peeve for me. Being book for class. the self-proclaimed “Eternal Optimist” I Then, there are the students who find it very difficult to engage with or be have encountered serious, life threaten- around people who have a negative out- ing episodes in their time on earth yet look on life. they allow themselves to dwell and pick Something I always say to people at the “wound” or even worse use it as an who are constantly seeing the glass as excuse for their inappropriate behavior. being completely broken is that life could This is bullshit. always get worse, to which most victims I believe that people who have lived will reply, “It can’t get any worse than through a traumatic event fall into two cat- this.” egories: victims and survivors. What’s the People neglect the fact that they, in difference? that moment of no matter how “difficult” First, let’s take a traumatic endeavor, their life may be, are alive and they have which affects all kinds of people—domes- choices to make which will either continue tic abuse. Domestic abuse is a terrible cir- them on their path of self pity or put them cumstance and unfortunately more than on the track towards fulfillment. three million children a year will bear wit- Life, no matter how cruel or bitter it ness to it. Now let’s assess the differenc- may seem, never gives us more then we es between the victim and the survivor of are prepared to handle. So stop dwelling domestic abuse. on the uncertainty and injustice of fate A victim of domestic abuse will grow and go live. Embrace the things you can- up and most likely become an abuser not change and put your best effort into themselves. A survivor of domestic abuse changing the things you can. Do not be a will do everything in their power to get the victim. help they need to stop themselves from Marty Hoegg is a junior at Stevenson becoming an abuser. A victim of domestic University in Baltimore County. baltimoreoutloud.com | May 08, 2009 BALTIMORE OUTLOUD q 29 real estate today Negotiating an Agreement

By Wayne Curtis in this position, you and your agent must be careful to encourage the competition One of the most ex- among the buyers to produce the best of- citing parts of a real fer possible, without giving any party the estate transaction is impression that they are being treated when the two par- unfairly. ties are negotiating the contract of sale. What Price Expectations Do You Have Each side has their goals, their strategies, for This Transaction? items they are willing to give up, and items The fair market price of a property is what they must have. From an agent’s perspec- a stranger is willing to pay for it on any tive, this is a crucial time because how the given day. Private, family transactions parties relate to one another during the don’t count. Since market price is a mov- negotiation can set the tone for the entire ing target, each party comes to the ne- purchase. Here are some things to look gotiation with different expectations for conditions can vary from deal to deal, but to fall through because of financing. out for, no matter whether you enter the what the final price will be. Rarely does some of the most common are the inspec- Another common contingency is the arena as a buyer or a seller. a buyer start with their best offer, and a tions to be held, repairs to be made, items sale of current home contingency, which seller usually hopes not to have to budge to be included with or removed from the -- as you might expect -- means the buyer How Many Interested Parties Are Out from their current listing price (which is property, and the date of settlement. has a home that needs to sell before they There? most likely reduced from the original list- Some of these requests need to be can purchase the new property. In a slow While everyone knows we have been ex- ing price). The opening offer from a buyer made in the form of contingencies, or ar- market, this can make the offer very unat- periencing a slow real estate market late- will determine in most cases where the eas in which the contract can be termi- tractive to a seller. ly, you’d be surprised how often in the last compromise agreement price will be. nated if certain things don’t happen. For With the Federal Government provid- two years there have been multiple offer Real estate professionals price prop- instance, approval of financing is usually ing a $8,000 credit to first time homebuy- situations. Many times when a seller has erties by looking at comparable sales, a contingency, because very few people ers, local government programs providing reduced the price on their listing to what so both buyer and seller should take ad- have a hundred thousand dollars or more closing cost assistance for eligible buy- “the market” thinks is a great deal, mul- vantage of their agent’s ability to provide lying around to pay cash for a house. It ers, and current low interest rates on top tiple buyers will emerge to write an offer. recent transactions on similar properties. has become standard procedure in this of reduced housing prices, this just may These buyers have been waiting, watch- Pay attention to both final list price and area for a buyer to become pre-approved be the best time to buy a home in years. ing, and were ready to pounce when they actual sale price, because often they are for their loan before writing a contract on But don’t be afraid to negotiate! thought the time was right. different. If both parties take the time to a home. The pre-approval letter means The listing agreement should give set realistic expectations, the negotiation that the lender has obtained a full credit Wayne Curtis, ABR has been a licensed the listing agent clear instructions as to is going to be more amicable. That, in report on the buyer(s), received docu- real estate professional with Long and whether or not the seller wants the exis- turn, makes it more likely that the deal will mentation of income, assets, debts, etc., Foster Real Estate, Inc. since 1998. You tence of multiple offers to be disclosed to be pleasant from start and lead to a suc- and that lender is satisfied that they will can get more information about him and the various parties. If you find that you are cessful sale. be able to lend that buyer enough money the real estate process, and subscribe in competition, make sure you and your to purchase the property in question. By to his real estate blog, at his website, agent are clear on what your priorities are Other Requests and Contingencies taking this time before making the offer to www.CharmCityRealEstate.com. 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By Sandy Rawls Know What You’re Looking For

Since the Maryland General Assembly By Josh Aterovis tracts them. Tall or short? Slim or stocky? Hairy or has retired for the next nine months, smooth? I heard a story this past weekend about a where do we put or focus in the mat- Hello pupils! Welcome to the guy who carries business cards printed with the let- ter of the gender anti-discrimination second lesson in my ongoing ters “NFE.” He hands them out to guys who hit on him House Bill 474 and Senate Bill 566? correspondence course. I hope at the bar, and when they flip the card over it says, I recently heard more than once that you all brought your number two “Not Fat Enough.” This is clearly a guy who knows this bill should not be brought back to the body of legisla- pencils. There will be a quiz af- what he’s looking for. tors who shushed us away. I say we should not give in to terward. Okay, so there’s no quiz, What if you’re not so sure about what you want such unreal norms. but before we get to the topic at hand, let’s review my in a date? After being with the same guy for eight This is not an option; we cannot offer a war between ten rules of dating: years, I really had no idea what I was looking for... our community and our legislators. Instead, we have to except I didn’t want the same thing I’d had. I’d never continue to educate the constituency that they fear they 1. Be honest. explored my options. So I set out on a very deliber- will lose if they show that we deserve to have equal rights 2. Know who attracts you. ate experiment. I decided to date different kinds of by virtue of our civil and human rights. I am sorry that my 3. Have something in common. guys to see what worked for me and what didn’t. Six words will not please all who read this. 4. Know your expectations. months of dating later, I have a much better grasp on It is very clear to me that 5. Make sure you have chemistry. what attracts me. And I have a lot of great stories. the transgender com- 6. Have a plan. Don’t worry, we’ll get to those. munity is divided once 7. Be interesting and interested. In the meantime, here’s a for-instance. I discov- “We cannot offer again by manipulation of 8. Know what to avoid and when to bail. ered I don’t like dating guys taller than me. For some a third party. We should 9. Don’t rush it. reason, psychologically, it makes me feel as if I have a war between our never divide our atten- 10. Have fun! to be the more submissive one in the relationship tion on issues such as — which just isn’t my personality. I end up feeling community and our this; we seemed united We covered Rule #1 in the last column, but just very conflicted and uncomfortable. So, that means legislators.” in the quest for acknowl- to recap: don’t lie. Got it? Good. Moving on. you must be under this height to ride this ride. edgement but divided What’s the number one rule of shopping for a Once you know your type, does that mean you because of what we major purchase — be it a car, a house, or even an should never date someone outside of it? I say if don’t know. appliance? Know what you’re looking for. Do you someone interests you, go for it, regardless of type. It is a fact that next year is an election year, but it is want a car, a truck, or an SUV? What make? Mod- Maybe you don’t usually go for the intellectual guys, also a fact that we must not give up or give in to what we el? Two doors or four? What color? Is the backseat but you might actually like being mentally challenged think might happen. If the bill does not find a way back on big enough for sex? The list goes on and on, but the for a change. Or maybe you don’t usually go for big, a sponsor’s desk, at least we tried. Some say we will look more you know before you set out for the dealership, burly guys, but you could like tossed around a little. foolish if we tried to get the bill back in the House again the better off you’ll be. If you show up without know- While it may not work out in the long run, it’s never a next year. I say it will be more foolish not to, considering ing what you’re looking for, the selection can be a bad thing to expand your horizons — and who knows, how they treated us in the last session. little overwhelming. you could just find out you have a thing for bears after If you look at history, these types of struggles are not Of course, there’s something to be said for all! If nothing else, you’ll have a great story to tell all won by giving up but by standing up. I believe that we can shopping around. You’ll have a better idea of what your friends. make the change that we need if we continue to create you want after you’ve taken a few test drives. No On the flip side, if you’ve been dating the same more long-term strategies. amount of research can replace the value of actual sort of guy for some time now, and it never works Looking at other issues in the community brings me experience. It helps to know how it handles, how it out, then maybe it’s time to shake things up a bit. to a question that I constantly ask from time to time: can responds. You could be choosing the wrong sort of guy. No, we continue to be divided and accomplish equality for all How does all this relate to dating? The more you Virginia, you can’t change the bad boy. He isn’t going transgender people in Baltimore and Maryland? E-mail me know about what you want out of a guy — and a re- to settle down and marry you. at [email protected] to let me know what you think lationship — the less time you’ll waste on lemons. So in summation, figure out what you’re at- about that question. Okay, to be fair, just because a guy isn’t your type tracted to — and I don’t just mean physically — but As we work on getting our community in a position to doesn’t make him a lemon, but still...if you have no don’t get too locked-in to one sort of person. Keep have ownership in business and politics, I challenge all of interest in a Toyota Corolla, then why bother when your options open. And don’t forget to check under us to make a commitment to keep pushing for justice and there are so many more cars on the lot? the hood. Gentlemen, start your engines! Until next equality so that those who will come after us will accom- Most people have a good idea about what at- time...Happy Dating! plish goals that will support their dreams. Do not forget that someone faced the challenge for us. Remember Baltimore, focus on the present, learn from the past, and always look towards the future. Until next time, B-More Trans. baltimoreoutloud.com | May 08, 2009 BALTIMORE OUTLOUD q 33 leather line

By Rodney Burger of that, I feel humbled to have the hon- or of being the current President of the Where were you in ShipMates. 1974? Of course I I also have to recognize ShipMate wasn’t born yet- but member Dave Spellman who did a won- if I had been and derful job as Anniversary Chair. Along managed to wander with Jeffrey Reifel and the rest of the com- into the Gallery Bar mittee, Dave produced a first-class event. at 1735 Maryland Avenue in Baltimore. I Special thanks also go out to Hooker & may have been asked if I had any interest boys who provided a beautiful cake in the in forming a leather club. In those days shape of a ship’s wheel. It was a very spe- the Gallery was a serious leather bar, cial evening and was followed by a cigar complete with a dress code in the back party hosted by the TFL of the ShipMates room. Sir Steve on the patio of the ShipMates’ It was filled with smoke and hot men home bar the Baltimore Eagle. in leather. Marty Puritz was one of those The ShipMates will be back at the men, as was Roy A. Towns. Roy always Baltimore Eagle on May 16th for a bar rode a motorcycle. He never owned a car. night and will be pouring beer at the D.C. Roy, Marty and others discovered that Eagle on May 30th. As always, in June there was enough interest in forming a you will see the ShipMates at Baltimore club. and in 1974 the ShipMates Club of Pride. They will host another bar night at Baltimore was born with Roy A. Towns as the Baltimore Eagle on June 13th. the first President of the ShipMates. The club has a very special event A lot has changed since 1974. It was planned for July 12th as Baltimore’s pre- a simpler time. (In those days safe sex mier leather club kicks off Daddy Christ- meant moving the bed away from the wall mas with a Christmas in July Cookout so that you wouldn’t bang you head!) The from 3 p.m.-8 p.m. on the Baltimore Ea- Gallery Bar is still there today and is still gle’s patio. All are invited. (The big Daddy serving up some of the coldest beer in Christmas benefit is scheduled for De- Baltimore! cember 5th at the Baltimore Eagle.) Although it looks very much the same Other ShipMate Bar Nights are Au- inside, the Gallery, however, is no longer gust 29th at the D.C. Eagle, September a leather bar. Unfortunately Roy was killed 12th at the Baltimore Eagle, October 10th in a motorcycle accident many years ago, at the Red Star Saloon in Reading, PA, but on April 25, 2009 Marty Puritz swore October 31st at the D.C. Eagle, and No- in the newly elected E-Board of the Ship- vember 14th at the Baltimore Eagle. Of Mates at their 35th Anniversary Banquet course, you will run into ShipMate’s at at the Crowne Plaza Hotel in Baltimore! other events, too, throughout the year. “It is very rewarding,” he said. “To Want to learn more, visit www.Ship- think that something you helped start is Matesclub.com. Happy 35th Anniversary still around thirty-five years later.” Marty’s to the ShipMates of Baltimore! The world speech was very moving and heartfelt. It continues to change, but for the Ship- gave me a renewed feeling of respect for Mates the best is yet to come! Baltimore’s first leather club and on top 34 q BALTIMORE OUTLOUD May 08, 2009 | baltimoreoutloud.com baltimoreoutloud.com | May 08, 2009 BALTIMORE OUTLOUD q 35 36 q BALTIMORE OUTLOUD May 08, 2009 | baltimoreoutloud.com

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