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From Marriage to Parenthood The Heavenly Path Compiled by Abbas and Shaheen Merali British Library Cataloguing-in-Publication Data. A catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library ISBN 1-898449-74-0 © Copyright 2006 the World Federation of KSIMC Published by The Islamic Education Board of the World Federation of Khoja Shia Ithna-Asheri Muslim Communities Registered Charity in the UK No. 282303 Islamic Centre - Wood Lane · Stanmore, Middlesex, United Kingdom, HA7 4LQ Tel: 44 1923 823 606 · Fax: 44 1923 823 132 www.worldwww.world----federatifederatifederation.org/iebon.org/ieb & ieb.worldieb.world----federation.orgfederation.org ieb@[email protected] Canada Sales and Distribution Islamic Humanitarian Service · 81 Hollinger Crescent · Kitchener, Ontario Canada, N2K 2Y8 · Tel: 519-576-7111 · Fax: 519-576-8378 ihs786@[email protected] · www.alwww.al----haqq.comhaqq.com USA Sales and Distribution Darul Tabligh North America · 786 Summa Avenue · Westbury, NY USA, 11590 · Tel: 516-334-2479 · Fax: 516-334-2624 www.darultabligh.org · [email protected] Africa Sales & Distribution Tabligh Sub Committtee - K.S.I. 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Printed in Canada By Friesens Corporation · www.friesens.com CONTENTS INTRODUCTION................................................................................................................................................................................................................... ....................... iii Chapter 11:: The Wedding Night ................................................................................... ..................................... 777 Wedding Night A˜m{l.....................................................................1 Some Points about the ˜Aqd & Wedding.....................................4 Some Points for the Bride and Groom ........................................5 The Wedding of Im{m ˜Al| and «a~rat F{¢ima õ............6 Chapter 22:: Sexual EtiquetteEtiquette................................................................................................................................................................ 131313 Sexual Etiqutte in Islam...............................................................15 Importance of Sexual Relations .................................................16 Importance of Satisfying your Wife ..........................................18 Recommended Acts......................................................................18 Acts not Recommended...............................................................23 Recommended Times...................................................................27 Times not Recommended............................................................28 Healthy Body.................................................................................32 Strengthening and Weakening Sexual Desire .........................36 Chapter 33:: Important Fiqh Rules 1 ––– For Married CouplesCouples.............................. 393939 State of Jan{bat.............................................................................41 Ghusl al-Jan{bat............................................................................43 Tayammum....................................................................................46 Making things ritually clean that are stained by Semen.......49 Chapter 44:: Family PlanningPlanning................................................................................................................................................................ 555555 Family Planning in Islam.............................................................57 Methods of Contraception ..........................................................58 Consent between husband and wife..........................................62 Abortion.........................................................................................63 Chapter 55:: ConceptionConception........................................................................................................................................................................................................ ........ 676767 Recommended Foods...................................................................69 Recommended Acts......................................................................71 Acts not Recommended...............................................................78 Recommended Times...................................................................80 Times not Recommended............................................................81 Planning Pregnancies ..................................................................84 Chapter 66:: PregnancyPregnancy......................................................................................................................................................................................................... ......... 878787 The Creation of a Child................................................................89 According to the Noble Qur`an...................................................89 Importance of Motherhood and Pregnancy ............................94 Responsibilities during Pregnancy............................................98 Recommended Foods.................................................................100 Recommended Acts....................................................................108 Recommended Supplications ...................................................116 Chapter 77:: DeliveryDelivery............................................................................................................................................................................................................ ........................127127127127 Recommended Acts....................................................................129 Chapter 88:: After Delivery ................................................................................... ............................................................................... ......131131131131 Recommended Foods.................................................................133 Recommended Acts....................................................................135 ˜Aq|qah – A Closer Look.............................................................141 Recommended Method of.........................................................147 Congratulating One on the Birth of a Child ...........................147 Naming the Child........................................................................147 Chapter 99:: BreastfeedingBreastfeeding................................................................................................................................................................................................... .........153153153153 Food for the Newborn Child .....................................................155 Three Examples ..........................................................................156 Reward of Breastfeeding ...........................................................157 Importance of Breast Milk ........................................................158 Benefits of Breast Milk...............................................................159 Recommended Time Period of Breastfeeding .......................161 Recommended Acts....................................................................162 Weaning.......................................................................................164 Chapter 1010:: Important Fiqh Rules 2 ––– For Mothers ..................................................167 167167167 Nif{s..............................................................................................169 Baby’s Urine ................................................................................173 Chapter 1111:: Raising Children ................................................................................... ........................................................175......... 175175175 40 Akhl{q Points on ...................................................................177 Interacting with your Child......................................................177 14 Ways to Instil the Love of Ahlul Bayt in your Children ..192 Memorisation of the Noble Qur`an..........................................195 BIBLIOGRAPHY ................................................................................... ............................................................................................... ....................................201201201201 m In the Name of All{h, the Beneficent, the Merciful INTRODUCTION nly when we ponder and reflect on the guidance and traditions narrated to us by the Prophet and his Ahlul O Bayt , do we realise the treasures they have left behind for us. These pearls of wisdom light the path to Heaven by providing us with advice and knowledge at every step in our lives. Unfortunately, the majority of these treasures are only available in Arabic and Farsi, leaving