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24-Hour Crisis & Support Hotline If you are the victim 315-468-3260 of abuse TTY Crisis Line talk to someone who 315-484-7263 (business hours) Emotional & understands and can help Outside Syracuse you explore options & Onondaga County Verbal Abuse New York State YOU DO NOT DESERVE CALL THE Domestic & Sexual Violence Hotline TO BE ABUSED VERA HOUSE 1-800-942-6906 24-HOUR CRISIS & www.opdv.state.ny.us SUPPORT HOTLINE TTY Hotline 315-468-3260 1-800-818-0656 TTY CRISIS LINE (business hours) 315-484-7263 This project is supported by Grant No. 2006-FW-AX-K015 awarded by the Office on Violence Against Women, U.S. Department of Justice. The Vera House, Inc. opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the views Administrative & Outreach Offices of the Department of Justice, Office on Violence Against Women. funded by: Onondaga County 24-Hour Crisis State of New York 723 James Street Private Donations Syracuse, NY 13203 & Support Line Original content by Esther E. Gray in phone: 315-425-0818 collaboration with the Syracuse Area Domestic fax: 315-425-8942 (315) 468-3260 & Sexual Violence Coalition www.verahouse.org You are not alone You are being emotionally or verbally abused if your partner or YOU DO NOT DESERVE care provider... TO BE ABUSED • puts you down in public or private • causes you to feel confused, “crazy”, unsure, or afraid If you believe you are in when you are around them a verbally or emotionally • keeps you from using a phone, TTY, car, money, or other abusive relationship, shared possessions please contact someone • withholds approval, appreciation, or affection as punishment or ignores you • withholds or changes medication Domestic violence occurs in all • uses your diagnosis, if you have one, as an excuse to hurt kinds of relationships, without you regard for race, gender, class, • ignores or makes fun of your feelings sexual orientation, ethnicity, age, religion or ability. • abuses you and then promises it will never happen again • prevents you from working, seeing friends, or going to school GETTING HELP • threatens to hurt you, your children, pets, family or friends • prevents you from getting services you want like Call our 24-hour counseling, healthcare, or interpreters Crisis & Support Line: 315-468-3260 Abuse is any behavior that seeks to Verbal & emotional control another human being through assault are just as TTY Crisis Line fear, humiliation, verbal, physical or harmful as physical (business hours): sexual assault. assault. The only difference is the abuser’s 315-484-7263 choice of weapon. For more information, visit our website at www.verahouse.org All victim services are free and completely confidential..

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The Types of Abuse – Dan Hitz Dan Is the Director of Reconciliation Ministries and Is a Survivor of Sexual and Spiritual Abuse
The Types of Abuse – Dan Hitz Dan is the director of Reconciliation Ministries and is a survivor of sexual and spiritual abuse. He is an ordained minister and a licensed professional counselor in the State of Michigan. This article is part of a series on recovery from abuse. Abuse takes many forms and can affect people from any cultural and economic background. Its effects can go deep, carving painful ruts into the survivor’s heart that can challenge his social and professional interactions for the rest of his life. The first step in fixing a problem is understanding that there is a problem. This article will help identify the five main types of abuse. Future articles will explore the effects of abuse, the profile of an abuser, and the steps to recovery from abuse. Abuse occurs when a person in a perceive position of power exerts that power over another for their own gain, at the expense of the person of lesser power. We commonly think of this between an adult and a child, such as a parent abusing his child or a teacher abusing her student. Abuse can also occur between an adult who has a perceived position of power over another adult, such as a supervisor abusing an employee. Abuse can also happen when a child exerts his perceived power over another child, to the detriment of the other child, who may be younger or physically weaker than the dominant child. Abuse happens when an aggressive child forces a compliant child to do something harmful that he does not want to do.
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