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Emotional & Verbal Abuse
24-Hour Crisis & Support Hotline If you are the victim 315-468-3260 of abuse TTY Crisis Line talk to someone who 315-484-7263 (business hours) Emotional & understands and can help Outside Syracuse you explore options & Onondaga County Verbal Abuse New York State YOU DO NOT DESERVE CALL THE Domestic & Sexual Violence Hotline TO BE ABUSED VERA HOUSE 1-800-942-6906 24-HOUR CRISIS & www.opdv.state.ny.us SUPPORT HOTLINE TTY Hotline 315-468-3260 1-800-818-0656 TTY CRISIS LINE (business hours) 315-484-7263 This project is supported by Grant No. 2006-FW-AX-K015 awarded by the Office on Violence Against Women, U.S. Department of Justice. The Vera House, Inc. opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the views Administrative & Outreach Offices of the Department of Justice, Office on Violence Against Women. funded by: Onondaga County 24-Hour Crisis State of New York 723 James Street Private Donations Syracuse, NY 13203 & Support Line Original content by Esther E. Gray in phone: 315-425-0818 collaboration with the Syracuse Area Domestic fax: 315-425-8942 (315) 468-3260 & Sexual Violence Coalition www.verahouse.org You are not alone You are being emotionally or verbally abused if your partner or YOU DO NOT DESERVE care provider... TO BE ABUSED • puts you down in public or private • causes you to feel confused, “crazy”, unsure, or afraid If you believe you are in when you are around them a verbally or emotionally • keeps you from using a phone, TTY, car, money, or other abusive relationship, shared possessions please contact someone • withholds approval, appreciation, or affection as punishment or ignores you • withholds or changes medication Domestic violence occurs in all • uses your diagnosis, if you have one, as an excuse to hurt kinds of relationships, without you regard for race, gender, class, • ignores or makes fun of your feelings sexual orientation, ethnicity, age, religion or ability. -
The Types of Abuse – Dan Hitz Dan Is the Director of Reconciliation Ministries and Is a Survivor of Sexual and Spiritual Abuse
The Types of Abuse – Dan Hitz Dan is the director of Reconciliation Ministries and is a survivor of sexual and spiritual abuse. He is an ordained minister and a licensed professional counselor in the State of Michigan. This article is part of a series on recovery from abuse. Abuse takes many forms and can affect people from any cultural and economic background. Its effects can go deep, carving painful ruts into the survivor’s heart that can challenge his social and professional interactions for the rest of his life. The first step in fixing a problem is understanding that there is a problem. This article will help identify the five main types of abuse. Future articles will explore the effects of abuse, the profile of an abuser, and the steps to recovery from abuse. Abuse occurs when a person in a perceive position of power exerts that power over another for their own gain, at the expense of the person of lesser power. We commonly think of this between an adult and a child, such as a parent abusing his child or a teacher abusing her student. Abuse can also occur between an adult who has a perceived position of power over another adult, such as a supervisor abusing an employee. Abuse can also happen when a child exerts his perceived power over another child, to the detriment of the other child, who may be younger or physically weaker than the dominant child. Abuse happens when an aggressive child forces a compliant child to do something harmful that he does not want to do. -
Mechanisms Underlying the Link Between Child Maltreatment Severity and Psychological Distress in College Women
Mindfulness (2020) 11:1446–1459 https://doi.org/10.1007/s12671-020-01361-2 ORIGINAL PAPER Self-compassion and Fear of Self-compassion: Mechanisms Underlying the Link between Child Maltreatment Severity and Psychological Distress in College Women Terri L. Messman-Moore1 & Prachi H. Bhuptani1 Published online: 17 April 2020 # Springer Science+Business Media, LLC, part of Springer Nature 2020 Abstract Objectives Women are at increased risk for depression and anxiety associated with child maltreatment, given higher rates of exposure to childhood maltreatment and a greater sensitivity resulting in maltreatment-related distress. Thus, there is a need to identify mechanisms of resilience among female survivors of child maltreatment. Self-compassion may promote resilience, whereas fear of self-compassion may diminish this protective effect. Moreover, distinct facets of self-compassion (e.g., self- kindness) versus self-coldness (e.g., self-judgment) may differentially explain risk or resilience for child maltreatment outcomes. Methods College women (N = 586) completed anonymous online surveys assessing the severity of different types of child maltreatment, self-compassion, fear of self-compassion, depression, anxiety, and stress. Results Severity of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse, and emotional and physical neglect, was positively associated with elevated fear of self-compassion and the absence of self-compassion (i.e., self-coldness). In contrast, emotional abuse and neglect severity were the only maltreatment variables negatively associated with self-compassion. Models indicated an indirect relation between increased maltreatment severity and heightened psychological distress via fear of self-compassion and self-coldness (i.e., isolation, overidentification). Statistical patterns indicative of suppression among the positive facets of self-compassion occurred. -
Verbal Abuse in Upbringing As the Cause of Low Self-Esteem in Children
European Scientific Journal December 2013 /SPECIAL/ edition vol.2 ISSN: 1857 – 7881 (Print) e - ISSN 1857- 7431 VERBAL ABUSE IN UPBRINGING AS THE CAUSE OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM IN CHILDREN Jolanta Mackowicz PhD Pedagogical University of Cracow, Poland Abstract In this article I would like to raise the issue of verbal child abuse in relationships between children and people important to them. Parents and teachers are the first role models in a child’s life, therefore their messages have a causative power as they create the image of the “self” in a child, as well as the way of perceiving and valuing themselves. The starting point of my article is the issue of abuse in upbringing, then I discuss the problems of self- esteem and the occurrence of verbal abuse by parents and teachers. In the last part, I present consequences of such experience for the development and life of children. Keywords: Verbal abuse, self-esteem, children Introduction Child abuse in upbringing consists in doing mental and physical harm. The purpose of such abuse is to change the behavior of a child for better. According to Irena Obuchowska, abuse in upbringing is used in order to force children to obey their parents or teachers (Obuchowska, 1989). Therefore, it functions as a specific upbringing tool and parents are motivated by educational purposes only. The most frequent reasons of using violence in child upbringing by parents are contradictory. Considering the fact that upbringing is a process of versatile personality development, including protection of a child against various hazards and limiting the risk of development of negative traits, as well as impartation of values and behavior patterns by personal example, abuse in upbringing seems to be an antinomy. -
Introduction to Mobbing in the Workplace and an Overview of Adult Bullying
1: Introduction to Mobbing in the Workplace and an Overview of Adult Bullying Workplace Bullying Clinical and Organizational Perspectives In the early 1980s, German industrial psychologist Heinz Leymann began work in Sweden, conducting studies of workers who had experienced violence on the job. Leymann’s research originally consisted of longitudinal studies of subway drivers who had accidentally run over people with their trains and of banking employees who had been robbed on the job. In the course of his research, Leymann discovered a surprising syndrome in a group that had the most severe symptoms of acute stress disorder (ASD), workers whose colleagues had ganged up on them in the workplace (Gravois, 2006). Investigating this further, Leymann studied workers in one of the major Swedish iron and steel plants. From this early work, Leymann used the term “mobbing” to refer to emotional abuse at work by one or more others. Earlier theorists such as Austrian ethnologist Konrad Lorenz and Swedish physician Peter-Paul Heinemann used the term before Leymann, but Leymann received the most recognition for it. Lorenz used “mobbing” to describe animal group behavior, such as attacks by a group of smaller animals on a single larger animal (Lorenz, 1991, in Zapf & Leymann, 1996). Heinemann borrowed this term and used it to describe the destructive behavior of children, often in a group, against a single child. This text uses the terms “mobbing” and “bullying” interchangeably; however, mobbing more often refers to bullying by more than one person and can be more subtle. Bullying more often focuses on the actions of a single person. -
Emotional Child Abuse
Fact Sheet: Emotional Child Abuse What is it? Emotional child abuse is maltreatment which results in impaired psychological growth and development.i It involves words, actions, and indifference.2 Abusers constantly reject, ignore, belittle, dominate, and criticize the victims.1,3 This form of abuse may occur with or without physical abuse, but there is often an overlap.4 Examples of emotional child abuse are verbal abuse; excessive demands on a child’s performance; penalizing a child for positive, normal behavior (smiling, mobility, exploration, vocalization, manipulation of objects); discouraging caregiver and infant attachment; penalizing a child for demonstrating signs of positive self-esteem; and penalizing a child for using interpersonal skills needed for adequate performance in school and peer groups.1,3 In addition, frequently exposing children to family violence and unwillingness or inability to provide affection or stimulation for the child in the course of daily care may also result in emotional abuse.3 How is it identified? Although emotional abuse can hurt as much as physical abuse, it can be harder to identify because the marks are left on the inside instead of the outside.4 Not surprising, there exist few well-validated measures of childhood emotional abuse. Clinicians can use a revised version of the Child Abuse and Trauma Scale (CATS) which targets measures for emotional abuse.5 Caregivers can also closely observe children’s behaviors and personalities. Children suffering from emotional abuse are often extremely loyal -
Berkshire District Attorney's Office
Berkshire District Attorney’s Office Bullying Prevention and Social and Emotional Learning Initiative Educator Newsletter Fall 2015 Dear Educator: This newsletter is intended to support your efforts in creating a positive school climate by providing you with information on prevention programs and activities that are current and relevant to students’ own life experiences. We look to research and evidence- based approaches to promote school climate change including mentorship, positive role models, supportive peer groups, and interactive teaching methods. We hope you find the information useful and that the research, lesson plans and resources support your efforts to sustain a welcoming and creative learning environment. Best wishes, David F. Capeless Why Self – Compassion Trumps Self—Esteem Researchers are discovering that self- depression, rumination and perfection- through exercise in a classroom. Visit compassion is even healthier that self- ism. Self-compassion also motivates the National Institute for Trauma and esteem. A growing number of studies personal growth while having an accu- Loss in Children (TLC) for some exam- show that increasing self-esteem is coun- rate view of oneself. Psychologist Kris- ples of activities to promote self- terproductive and actually breeds nega- tin Neff of the University of Texas at compassion within your classroom. tive outcomes such as narcissism. Peo- Austin finds that self-compassion is not ple with high self-esteem are more likely based on self-evaluation of comparison Dr. Neff and fellow researcher Christo- to compare themselves to others to feel to others and therefore has few nega- pher Germer, PhD, developed the Cen- better about themselves. tive characteristics often associated ter for Mindful Self-Compassion offer- with self-esteem. -
Handy Handouts® Beat Bullying!
Handy Handouts® Free, educational handouts for teachers and parents* Number 280 Beat Bullying! by Amber Hodgson, M.A., CCC-SLP Bullying is any type of aggressive behavior that one person (or a group of people) intentionally directs at someone else that causes physical and/or emotional pain. Bullying can be in the form of hitting or punching, but it can also be in the form of name-calling, staring, mocking, social isolation or “silent treatment,” gossiping, taunting about an embarrassing past event, or teasing of others who try to be friends with the victim. A bully might harass another individual about his/her clothes, weight, accent, speech impediment, disability, race, or religion. A type of bullying that is becoming more common is cyberbullying which involves verbal insults or threats that are sent via e-mail or text message or that are posted on social Web sites or blogs. All of these forms of bullying can be very damaging to a young person and can lead to serious problems that can affect his/her mental and physical health, as well as his/her school performance. What You Can Do! Bullying should not be considered a normal part of growing up, and children should not have to deal with the abuse on their own. Here are some ways that adults can help prevent or stop bullying: Communicate. Speak regularly with your children about what they do and who they hang out with on the way to school, during lunchtime, at recess, between classes, in the neighborhood, etc. Frequent communication can help your children feel more comfortable to come to you and talk if they are having a problem with bullying. -
Spousal Abuse Prepared by the Canadian Resource Centre for Victims of Crime
Spousal Abuse Prepared by the Canadian Resource Centre for Victims of Crime Introduction Spousal abuse is a problem that is entrenched in many societies around the world and Canada is no exception. Research in this area has shown that this type of violence has touched the lives of many Canadians. Although societal awareness and condemnation of the issue has increased in recent years, spousal abuse remains a hidden and persistent problem because of the power and control held by the abuser and the fear, intimidation and humiliation suffered by the victims of this crime. Perhaps people reading this document are living with violent, abusive spouses and are enduring repetitive victimization. Other readers may be those who were once victims. Others still may be people who have been directly impacted by the by the abuse suffered by a close friend or family member. These people know the fear that is instilled by the family tyrant and how difficult and dangerous the path to freedom can be. Another group of readers, are those concerned enough to care and to learn and to help, but who have never been victimized themselves. Victims of spousal abuse are not to blame for the violence they have been forced to endure. They deserve dignity, freedom from fear and compassionate acceptance by the community. What is spouse abuse? Spousal abuse often occurs in relationships that are romantic in nature and where when one partner seeks to dominate and exert power over the other. In doing so, the relationship often deteriorates and may become violent. Emotional, verbal, psychological, financial, physical and sexual abuse is common in such relationships. -
Facts About Domestic Violence and Psychological Abuse
Facts about Domestic Violence and Psychological Abuse WHAT IS PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE? Psychological abuse involves trauma to the victim caused by verbal abuse, acts, threats of acts, or coercive tactics.i Perpetrators use psychological abuse to control, terrorize, and denigrate their victims. It frequently occurs prior to or concurrently with physical or sexual abuse. PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE INCLUDES: DID YOU KNOW? • Humiliating the victim • 48.4% of women and 48.8% of men have ex- • Controlling what the victim can or cannot do perienced at least one psychologically aggres- • Withholding information from the victim sive behavior by an intimate partner.iv • Deliberately doing something to make the victim • 4 in 10 women and 4 in 10 men have experi- feel diminished or embarrassed enced at least one form of coercive control by • Isolating the victim from friends and/or family an intimate partner in their lifetime.v • Denying the victim access to money or other ba- • 17.9% of women have experienced a situation sic resources where an intimate partner tried to keep them • Stalkingii from seeing family and friends.vi • Demeaning the victim in public or in private • 18.7% of women have experienced threats of • Undermining the victim’s confidence and/or sense physical harm by an intimate partner.vii of self-worth • 95% of men who physically abuse their intimate • Convincing the victim (s)he is crazy partners also psychologically abuse them. viii • Women who earn 65% or more of their house- WHY IT MATTERS: holds’ income are more likely to be psychologi- cally abused than women who learn less than Psychological abuse increases the trauma of physi- 65% of their households’ income.ix cal and sexual abuse, and a number of studies have demonstrated that psychological abuse independently causes long-term damage to a victim’s mental health. -
Name Calling
Warning Signs of Abuse: Name Calling Everyone jokes around and teases their family and friends, as well as in dating relationships. However, there’s a line between being playful and insensitive or mean. What happens when “teasing” goes too far? One of the biggest red flags of an unhealthy or abusive relationship is name calling. By verbally stating “you’re bad” in some form -- dumb, ugly, stupid, fat, unloveable -- a dating partner can exert their control and hold power over the other person’s sense of self-worth. Dating partners who use verbally abusive behaviors like name calling will often act as though nothing has happened, because they feel in control after insulting their partner. The systematic criticism is what takes it from name calling to verbal abuse -- it’s a repeated pattern that, over time, can make the victim believe the insults, making it harder for them to leave (“no one will love me because they said so”). Beyond name calling, dating partners exhibiting verbally abusive behaviors may belittle their partner, either privately or publicly, or disguise disparaging comments in jokes. They may follow up comments with more judgment and criticism (“you’re too sensitive”) or act as though what they’ve said is trivial (“I was only joking”). Other examples of name calling include putting someone down, making them feel guilty, or embarrassing and humiliating them. Healthy relationships don’t use name calling to resolve conflict or express love. Both partners compliment or use words to make each other feel good. It’s relaxing and fun, and neither tries to “prove” they are the only ones that will ever love them. -
Domestic Abuse Forum
Folkestone & Hythe District Council Domestic Abuse Forum DOMESTIC ABUSE SUPPORT AND ADVICE Updated: 28TH October 2019 CONTENTSV 3. Who can be affected by domestic abuse? 4. Examples of abusive behaviour 6. Stalking and harassment 7. Signs to look out for 12. Effects on children 14. The cycle of abuse, Vulnerable Adults 16. Teenagers 17. Honour-based violence and forced marriage 18. Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgendered 19. Practical things to keep you safe 20. Planning to leave 21. How to access local services 22. Housing support 24. What can the police do? 26. Civil orders to protect you 28. Terms used in domestic abuse 30. DA services 2 DOMESTIC ABUSE – SUPPORT AND ADVICE WHO CAN BE AFFECTED BY DOMESTIC ABUSE?V Anyone. Domestic abuse includes all kinds of behaviour that is meant to hurt or frighten you. Not all abuse leaves visible marks; it ranges from physical violence to cruel words and threats. It can happen to anyone, women and men; gay, lesbian and straight (heterosexual) people; and people of any age or background. Abuse of any type damages a person’s self-esteem, confidence and self- worth. Domestic abuse is never your fault Domestic abuse should always be taken seriously regardless of type or frequency of the abuse Everyone has the right not to experience violence or abuse. This booklet aims to support those subject to domestic abuse in recognising the abuse and support that is in place. It will also explain some of the terminology and legal responses to domestic abuse This booklet aims to give advice if you, or someone you know, is suffering domestic abuse.