A PUBLICATION OF THE JUDICIAL BRANCH STATE OF CONNECTICUT Do It Yourself DIVORCE GUIDE Judicial Branch Mission Statement The mission of the State of Connecticut Judicial Branch is to serve the interests of justice and the public by resolving matters brought before it in a fair, timely, efficient and open manner. This “Do It Yourself Divorce Guide” is designed to help people without formal legal training use Connecticut’s state courts. It is available at any Superior Court Clerk’s Office, the Public Information Desks, the Court Service Centers, and at the Judicial Branch website at www.jud.ct.gov. The Connecticut Judicial Branch gratefully acknowledges contributions to this guide made by the Superior Court Judges, the legal services programs of Connecticut, the Family Law Section of the Connecticut Bar Association, individual attorneys, and court personnel. DO IT YOURSELF DIVORCE Do It Yourself DIVORCE GUIDE Judicial Branch State of Connecticut DO IT YOURSELF DIVORCE TABLE OF CONTENTS Introduction ............................................................................... 4 Family Violence ...............................................................................5 Overview ..........................................................................................6 Common Words in a Divorce ...........................................................8 Court Personnel ..............................................................................11 STEP 1 Starting a Divorce ..................................................................13 Fill Out Court Forms ......................................................................14 Take the Forms to the Court Clerk’s Office ...................................17 Service (Delivery of forms and papers to your spouse) .................18 File the Court Forms at the Court Clerk’s Office ...........................19 Court Orders Before the Divorce Judgment (Pendente Lite) .........19 STEP 2 Responding to a Divorce ......................................................20 File an Appearance Form ...............................................................21 File an Answer and/or Cross Complaint ........................................22 Court Orders Before the Divorce Judgment (Pendente Lite) .........22 STEP 3 Automatic Court Orders.....................................................23 Automatic Court Orders .................................................................24 STEP 4 The 90 Day Waiting Period ................................................25 Fill Out and Give Each Other Financial Affidavits ........................27 Attend Parenting Education Classes ..............................................28 Special Issues with Children ..........................................................28 Contact Military if You Do Not Know Your Spouse’s Location .....28 Case Management Process .............................................................29 Court Orders Before the Divorce Judgment (Pendente Lite) .........30 Prepare Motion .........................................................................31 File the Motion .........................................................................31 Custody ....................................................................................32 Visitation (Also called parenting time or access) ....................32 DO IT YOURSELF DIVORCE Alimony ............................................................................................33 Child Support ....................................................................................34 Educational Support Orders ..............................................................34 Health Insurance for Your Child .......................................................34 Parenting Education Program ...........................................................35 Paternity ............................................................................................35 STEP 5 Finalizing Your Divorce ..........................................................36 Fill Out the Court Documents for the Uncontested Hearing ............37 The Court Hearing ............................................................................38 Judgment Form .................................................................................40 Additional Information ...........................................................41 Enforcing Your Court Order .............................................................42 Modifying/Changing Your Court Order ............................................43 Mediation ..........................................................................................44 Legal Advice or Representation ........................................................44 Family Violence ................................................................................45 Advocacy/Support Groups ................................................................46 Statutes ..............................................................................................47 Court Rules .......................................................................................47 List of Legal Holidays ......................................................................48 Connecticut Judicial District Courts .................................................49 Court Forms Discussed in this Guide ...............................................52 DO IT YOURSELF DIVORCE 4 INTRODUCTION This booklet is designed to help you represent yourself in a di- vorce; in other words, a dissolution of marriage or a dissolution of civil union. Legal words and court documents can be confusing. The more you know about how to get a divorce, the more comfortable you will be when you fill out the necessary court forms and come to court. This booklet gives you the information you need to start a divorce or respond to divorce papers. The most commonly used court forms you need to start a divorce are in the Divorce Guide Supplement (JDP- FM-180) and should be used with this guide. Court staff can answer procedural questions and help you understand the legal process, but can- not give you any legal advice. The decision to get divorced can be difficult.You may be concerned about money, your children, or finding a place to live. Please check the Additional Information section beginning on page 41 for the names and telephone numbers of organizations which may be able to help you with the emotional and practical issues of divorce. Note: If you need more information or help after reading this guide, you should either talk with an attorney or read the appropriate sections of the Connecticut General Statutes and the Connecticut Practice Book. Divorce in Connecticut is governed by General Statutes Section 46b-40 and the sections that follow, and Practice Book Chapter 25. The General Statutes and Practice Book are available in the Superior Court Law Libraries located throughout the state as well as on the Judicial Branch website located at www.jud.ct.gov. DO IT YOURSELF DIVORCE 5 FAMILY VIOLENCE Family If you are being physically abused or threatened with physical abuse Violence – by your spouse, you should contact Need the police and a family violence Help? program near you. Call the Statewide Call the Domestic Violence hotline at Statewide 1-888-774-2900 or Infoline at 211 for Domestic a family violence program near you. Violence You should talk with an attorney or a hotline at family violence program staff person 1-888-774-2900 if you are worried that your spouse or Infoline at 211 for a will become more violent when he family violence or she learns that you are filing for program divorce. Family violence program near you. services include: emergency shelter, counseling, 24 hour hot lines, information, support groups, advocacy, and referrals. You may also qualify for a court order called a restraining FOR YOUR SAFETY FOR YOUR order to help protect you from physical abuse, the threat of physical abuse, stalking or a pattern of threatening. The first step is to fill out an “Application for Relief from Abuse.” You may get this form from the Judicial District clerk’s office or from the Judicial Branch website at www.jud.ct.gov. DO IT YOURSELF DIVORCE 6 OVERVIEW Getting divorced is an important decision. Before you decide The best way to get a divorce, you may want to meet with a family counselor. A to find a counselor is someone who can help you identify issues concerning marriage/family your marriage or civil union and your decision to get a divorce. counselor is If you cannot work out your differences, divorce is a way to through word legally end your marriage or civil union. Dissolution is the word of mouth. Get a Connecticut law uses for divorce. If you decide to end your marriage referral from or civil union, this booklet will help you represent yourself. When a someone you person represents himself or herself, he or she may be referred to as a trust, like a friend, a pastor, “self-represented party” or a “pro se party.” or a social This booklet contains general information for uncomplicated worker. You cases. It should only be used when you and your spouse agree on the may also look basic issues. If you and your spouse disagree about child custody in the yellow or other important issues, you should seriously think about getting pages under an attorney. any of these Not everyone can afford an attorney and court staff cannot give headings: you legal advice. If you have a low income, you may be able to get free Marriage/Family legal