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CHESAPEAKE Style After a relaxingFast afternoon Times on a friend’s on runabout, the weRivers decided to buy a 16’ Editor, Publisher, Chief The mission of Chesapeake Style red and white Century Tri-Hull. We had in and out service, i.e we’d call the Cook & Bottle Washer is to serve and celebrate the marina to put the boat in the water and we’d spend the day. It was good for Janet Abbott Fast Chesapeake Bay Region and its boating during the day. We joined the local U S Power Squadron, took classes, Writers & Photographers people, past, present and future. made new friends and learned about boating. The down side—with two Lucy Baker, Katherine Bavuso, Letters to the editor are welcome. young teenagers, there was no head, no place to cook or spend the night. And Corinne Becker, Carol J. Bova, Joy The editor reserves the right to we were on Illinois’ Chain of Lakes, a busy and dangerous body of water. Brenda Burch, Joseph T. “Chip” edit all submissions for clarity, Buxton, III, E. C. Doleman, My theory was that if we were going to spend time, energy and money, lousy spelling or any other we needed a boat where we could sleep, eat and use the head. As it Ellen Dugan, Jean Duggan, Ann Eichenmuller, Deborah Figg, reason that strikes her fancy. happened, a distant relative in Pennsylvania had died, and his boat was Chesapeake Style is a priceless for sale. I had spent time on her as a child. She was a 1940 custom built RuthE Forrest, Bill Graves, Martha M. Hall, Torrence Harman, magazine published eight Chesapeake Bay Deadrise cabin cruiser, 34 feet. Her keel was a cypress Melissa Haydon, Wendy Hyde, times a year by Chesapeake Bay log, underwater was oak, bright work was Honduras mahogany. She Spike Knuth, Tracy Lanum, Audrey Marketing. For delivery for one year, had an outboard rudder, slept six, had a small galley, an ice box, and Lowery, Brenda Hall, Susan Motley, a head. Her engine was a Gray Marine 109 hp. We were in Illinois, the please send your name, mailing Sandy Nash, Don Loop, Kenny Park, address and a check or money boat was in dry dock at Thorn’s Boatyard, near the Chesapeake Bay. Joe Phillips, Chelly Scala, Nancy order, for $24 for postage and My parents lived in Baltimore, my husband had a meeting in D.C. so we Shelley, Gerhard Straub, Charlene flew to Baltimore and went to see the boat. My husband was not in favor... Talcott, Edward A. Vinson, Jill White handling, to the address below. the original owner, William B. Russell, aka Happy, was 6’ tall, and the boat Ad Sales, Distribution Chesapeake Style was built for him. My husband was 6’3”. In addition to his being too tall, Carol J. Bova, Susan Christopher, P. O. Box 802 he wasn’t able to see over the bow, and it was a wood boat, subject to dry Willis Croxton, Deborah Figg, Bill Warsaw, VA 22572 rot. He said no, my father said, “If you’re supposed to have the boat, it will Graves, Martha Hall, Florine Headley, 804-333-0628 happen.” I cried for 24 hours, flew home, he went to his meeting in D.C. Jackie Ingram, Tracy Lanum, Joanne [email protected] We had her trucked to Starved Rock marina, on the Illinois River. He Nelson, Nancy Shelley, Marie Stone www.chesapeakestyle.com was right, he couldn’t see over the bow, so when we docked, I stood Proofreader The opinions expressed in on the bow, yelled “Reverse!” then counted to nine, and she changed Marie Stone Chesapeake Style are those direction. We added red and white side curtains, and everyone called Ad Composition, Graphics, Layout of contributing writers and her the African Queen or asked if she was a Elco. I always handled the Janet Abbott Fast, Deborah Figg do not necessarily reflect the anchor, and I loved to take his place in the Captain’s chair. She had some opinion of Chesapeake Style or dry rot, which we had repaired. We made many wonderful memories its advertisers. Reproduction in on the Illinois and Mississippi Rivers. We Named her Happy R. whole or in part of any material The third boat, Green Dolphin, was my parents’ 34” Owens Brigantine Sportfish, the first fiberglass boat Owens built. She had twin 250 Chevy engines, in this publication without a fly bridge. They had taken her from Baltimore to Ft Myers and she was docked permission is strictly prohibited. on a canal in their back yard. They were ready to quit boating and thought ©2007-2018 All rights reserved she would save our marriage. She didn’t. But I made more happy memories Chesapeake Style with my single friends. In 1993 I had both boats trucked to the Northern Neck. Chesapeake Bay Marketing. I never took them out again. Sold both of them. I know where the Happy R has retired, and I don’t want to see her. I am grateful for the memories.

As I drive around the beautiful drive the farm truckAbout so Daddy and theto becover~ selfless. The great outdoors Later in life, I worked at a Middle Peninsula and Northern Mama could load the hay on the was a giant playground and each veterinary hospital that cared for Neck, I slow to watch the farmers back; caring for baby chicks, calves day was a new adventure. large animals. I visited hog, cattle, as they prepare the fields, plant the and pigs, and watching my parents We spent hours working but always horse and sheep farms. I quickly crops and harvest. It always makes work from sun up to sun down. had time for a little fun. I loved realized farming was the same no me think back to my childhood. I learned so much from being catching lightening bugs, making matter which farm you visited. It was Some of my first memories of raised on a small farm—like not homemade ice cream and walking hard work and dedication. It takes farming were walking up and to be afraid of getting dirty, and for hours on Sunday afternoons a strong, dedicated person to be a down the bean rows and pulling our animals depended on us. Each with my Grandfather. On our walks, farmer. The farmer on the cover of weeds—for hours—listening to family member had responsibilities he would often make a sling shot this issue is my Dad. I will be forever our neighbor’s farm hand singing and our meals came from what was or a pipe from an acorn and stick, grateful for growing up on a farm hymns over the noise of the tractor raised and preserved. I learned the while we searched for the perfect and most grateful he is my Dad. as he worked the crops; learning to value of a dollar and what it meant tree to cut down for Christmas. Deborah Figg photo

4 October 2018 Gardening in Style~Pumpkins And Gourds feet long and gourds can reach 15 a dark, well ventilated feet. Both like rich soil, plenty of place and don't let water and long hot days in full sun. them touch. Monitor They love soil that is compost rich them for mold and so this is a perfect time to use up discard if you find any, that compost pile that you have been otherwise, turn them saving. Plant about six seeds in a hill over weekly. They are and make your hills at least six feet dry when they become apart. Water regularly in dry periods very light weight and and fertilize both with an all purpose you can hear seeds fertilizer once they start to bloom. rattle inside when If you are having a particularly you shake them. wet summer, like this year, you may Wash with warm have brown spots or even rot on the soapy water and either bottom of the fruit. You can help paint or varnish, this problem a great deal by sliding bring them in and meaty pie pumpkins while a piece of plywood under each decorate inside your home. If you decorators want the tiniest or fruit, especially those that you are grow birdhouse gourds, clean them the biggest that they can find. hoping to enter in the fair. Pumpkin carving and pumpkin Gourds can be trained painting have become very to grow up a trellis but the competitive over the years. Some are larger ones can be very simply a work of art. So get a bale of heavy, so provide plenty straw, a few pumpkins of different of support. Only the very sizes, some strange, bumpy, ugly small pumpkins do well on gourds, a scarecrow, throw in some a trellis or fence as almost Indian corn and you have a typical fall By Nancy Shelley all other varieties are just decoration for your lawn. Now pick n the fall, just as most too heavy as they mature. the biggest pumpkin and try out your vegetables in the garden are Gourds are mostly carving skills. The cutest thing I have dying out, here come the used for decorations even seen recently was an ordinary carved pumpkins and gourds. They though they are actually pumpkin with a solar stake light stuck peak just in time to combine edible. They are ready to down inside with only the solar bar theI cooler temperatures with a harvest when their stems turn brown. and drill the holes and have them outside. It was such a safe and easy splash of color and tons of interest. Cut them from the vine leaving ready to hang in early spring. way to light your Jack-O-Lantern. Pumpkins and gourds are both about a four inch stem and handle Pumpkins have two uses, Happy Fall! fun to grow, but make sure you carefully as they do bruise easily. decorative and some really good Deborah Figg photos. Sandy have lots of room in the garden. Use them to decorate your yard desserts and toasted seeds. Nash photo of green gourds. Pumpkin vines can reach up to 20 for the fall and when done, place in Pie cookers prefer the small,

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Of course, Ann Eichenmuller is a marine writer there are also boaters that run and the author of two nautical over crab pots, through fish traps, mysteries, Kind Lies and The Lies and into channel markers. We Are, available on Amazon. I guess they thought those Photo courtesy of the Maryland objects should get out of their Natural Resources police. way, too. I’m not disagreeing about who has the right to the right-of-way. I’m just saying that if someone isn’t giving it up because they are a) down below making pancakes; b) missed those questions on the boating safety test; c) have opened the cooler one too many times that day; or d) had Modern Full Service Marina a momma who didn’t raise with Retail Marine Store them right, it doesn’t matter. 829 Robin Grove Lane, Colonial Beach You can get out of their By Ann Eichenmuller intimate thoughts with the ship’s way, or you can get out your 804-224-7644 Isn’t that boat heading captain, but there was not a soul to bucket and start bailing, because right for us?” I asked. be seen on either the flybridge on the holding your ground and We had just left the deck. The boat was on autopilot. putting your faith in the Rappahannock Concert Association PRESENTS harbor at Port Lucaya, This story came to mind when I saw moral authority of a few Grand Bahamas, on our the photo of a boat collision in August hundred square feet of way“ to Port Canaveral on the U.S. between a charter boat and a sailboat, sailcloth is not going to The Four Freshmen mainland. A huge yacht, perhaps a an image that immediately went viral. work out well for you. mile away, was coming dead on at Thousands of Facebook and Twitter For those power what must have been thirty knots. users shared their views as to who was boaters who follow the “I’m sure they see us,” at fault based on right-of-way rules. right-of-way rules, I offer my husband said. Rather than join them in armchair my sincerest thanks. They certainly should have. It judgements on the operators of the When you get frustrated was clear and sunny, and we had two vessels, I’d like to instead present with us, please remember up full sails. A minute passed, one Ann’s rule of giving way. Yes, I named that we cannot control slow second at a time, while we it for myself. Writer’s prerogative. the weather or the tides. watched and waited for the powerboat to change course. After Country Cottage all, we had the right-of- SATURDAY way. Instead, they drew Gourmet Candy Shop closer…and closer… Homemade Fudge “Come about!” my Handmade Gourmet Chocolates OCTOBER 13 - 7:30 PM husband yelled. Stop in and try Ice Cream Parlor Featuring Performing Arts Theater I turned the wheel Premium Hershey’s Ice Cream our fudge! Northumberland High School hard while he reset the Full Service Florist follow us on 201 Academic Lane, Heathsville, VA jib. Just as we completed facebook & instagram our tack, the yacht sped Celebrating 20 Years in October! www.rappahannockconcerts.org by. We looked up to Box Office: 866-217-8149 loudly share our most 804-435-3812 795 Rappahannock Drive, White Stone $25 at the Door - Students FREE 6 October 2018 The Freeze Up~The Ice Begins To Break Up Part II By Joe Phillips a small close knit community. ater in the spring as the The Hay Russ IV was a brand ice was beginning to new fiberglass boat designed to break up we were finally work the Chesapeake Bay. That able to get out and start winter they were gill netting out in tonging again. The state the bay when she was lost. It was tugL boat Big Lou had broken a track a sad time for all the families on through the ice for us so we could the island. I was working on tug go to work. Several boats had made boats at that time. The Captain it out to a nearby oyster bar and we called me up to the Pilothouse went to work. Most of the boats had to inform me of the sinking. three or four guys aboard so everyone I was aboard a tug when the could make a little money. No one Claud Somers Sank off Hooper’s had worked and times were tight. Island . We were towing out of the The wind breezed up and began Nanticoke River , Bound for North to blow hard out of the south. The Carolina. We could see lights off to ice began to move and soon jammed the West and we could hear the coast all the boats together and with a guard on the VHF Radio mounting relentless force began to crush a rescue and recovery operation. and grind on the wooden hulls. Sadly those fellows, the entire crew, My uncle’s boat, the Miss was lost to the Chesapeake Bay. I Mattaponi was holed and began never knew the guys personally but sinking. We were alongside and their loss was keenly felt by all of Large chunks of ice, kicked ashore it seemed the whole island able to take all the crew and some who make their living from the bay. up by the tug would wash back had turned out to meet us. of his gear aboard with us. Captain Joe Phillips, Aboard and slam into us. Some smaller I would like to note here , during We called for help hoping S/V Tarry Not, Gwynn Island. pieces would float up under the all this –those Captains knew their that the Big Lou could turn Photo is newspaper clips from the unprotected wood hull, gouging into wives and families would hear around and reach us in time. Evening Sun Metro ( Baltimore, the bottom planking or grinding their conversations. Of course The Big Lou made it to us. Her Friday January 21, 1977). through propeller blades. there was some urgency in their crew put a large pump on the Miss Many homes and businesses request for help, but there was Mattaponi and took her in tow. All of had marine radios and could listen no fear or panic in their voices. the other boats fell in behind for the as the near disaster unfolded. It was the following year and harrowing trip back to the narrows. Finally as we made it safely another brutally cold winter, we lost the Hay Russ IV with five men aboard—the owner and captain, Live more Garland Phillips was my cousin. Chesapeake Style Magazine All the men aboard were related. Comfortably with a Tilghman’s Island was at that time Reverse Mortgage

Bill Graves, NMLS 506610 Toll Free 866-936-4141...Local 804-453-4141 October 2018 7 If Churches Could Talk~They Would Say Weather Matters Or maybe it’s really a story starting with their interior weather, fear and anxiety at what’s going on around them, events over which they have no control, even though the sun may be shining and there is no cloud in the By Torrence Harman or a torrent, fills our waterways, few, but enough of them to model a sky. Stories he storm clouds falls onto the ground upon which Presence that offers, “I am with you.” like this one can be viewed on many are gathering. we live, move and have our being. It is not just the physical, exterior levels. Either way, the occupants Towering clouds that The body of the earth has no choice weather that can impact our lives, of the boat give a distress signal seemed beautiful but to receive it, swell with it, try but the emotional, psychological and a Presence, not in words, but a couple of hours to absorb what is received. storms and scary weather of our in action, responds, “Here, I am!” ago,T have now turned grey, dark As you read this article, the storm lives that can happen in our interior And then addresses the storm, and strange. A novelist might will have passed. Whether another is spaces. I’ve so often thought of the “Be still!” The storms, call these skies “brooding.” The on the way is simply both exterior and interior, clouds seem alive, moving as if a guess. Or maybe do. This is a story that bent on something important. not, since storms and transcends, is bigger than, Every now and then a ray of weather are simply any one faith tradition. sun pierces through cloud cover. part of the fabric of life. It is a story that is so Different from the sharp jaggedness You may be wondering desperately needed to be of a lightning bolt slicing through what’s next in this retold in our world today seeking the surface of water or reading about weather with the mercurial weather earth. Somewhere, out there, is a matters and how the world and its events rumbling within the clouds, like the and why the weather present. It is a story about grumbling of something hungry. matters to churches, the action of Presence As I write this article our Northern synagogues, or any offered when the weather Neck Chesapeake Bay area this faith community. of life threatens us. evening is bracing for something that Why? Because So, a thought about could hit us hurricane strength, or, these are places where what to do when storms on a seeming whim, veer away from a people come and come? Listen to what may projected path and even pass us by. go seeking shelter be calling, “Come in, come Around here Fall in all its beauty and resources to in. Here weather matters.” so freely given also harbors increased renew, refresh, or Send out a distress signal if you are potential for hurricanes. When the simply come to get prepared for bible story of Jesus asleep in a boat powerless in the middle of it. It just winds can blow so hard they alter whatever is out there and then go on the Sea of Galilee, a boat full may be that someone is near who our landscape, erasing shorelines out in it again to face what may of disciples who are frantic as the also knows that weather matters. and dropping trees whose leaves are come and to help others get ready. sky darkens, a storm appears, and The Rev. Torrence Harman is falling in the change of seasons, but Yes, that’s what these kind of faith wind and waves threaten to capsize the Priest-in-charge of Farnham the tree itself now falls, uprooted communities can and do as they their craft. How vulnerable they Episcopal Church and St. John’s by wind and water. Torrential offer physical space as shelter, as are to the weather around them. Episcopal Church in Warsaw. rains rush towards earth as storm well as resources such as food, water, The weather inside of them mirrors Top, Susan Motley photo. Above, Lucy clouds break open and pour out someone to talk to and be with in the weather outside of them as fear Baker photo. From Tappahannock what they have been gathering. scary weather times, simply a place batters their hearts and minds and looking toward Richmond County. Rainwater, whether a sprinkle to feel safe. Not all of them, just a blows through their interior spaces. 8 October 2018 Style Spotlight~CSL in Kilmarnock is Home Sweet Home

new activities. to provide care for a short period door to honor their service. Each resident of time. For instance, the caregiver When a veteran moves in, they lives as schedules a vacation, is sick or has are provided with a Lifetime Rate independently another obligation that prevents Lock securing that their suite rate is as possible. them from giving care. That person never increased. This also applies to They are can come to Commonwealth for care their surviving spouse. On the leaflet encouraged to during the absence of their care giver. about this program, it says, “They bring pictures The staff at Commonwealth served our country with honor. Now, and personal Senior Living know the residents and we are privileged to serve them.” items that interact with them like family. It is It is clear that at Commonwealth will make clear that the associations are friendly Senior Living, the residents are their new and loving. The staff and residents are interacting with each other and the living suites talking and laughing as they go about staff in a comfortable, positive way. like home. their daily life. Sales and Marketing The atmosphere is that of a large Available to Director Jill White, describes the home filled with happy, satisfied the residents staff as concerned, dedicated and people looking forward to what are arts and very knowledgeable about their is going on and what is going to crafts, a residents. Included in the very caring happen next. Some of the people are chapel, private staff, are registered medication aides residents, and some are staff, but they dining room, and Licensed Practical Nurses. are all focused on sharing the day exercise The room, raised dining is By Joy Brenda Burch garden beds, media room with restaurant he atmosphere at television, books and comfortable style, and Commonwealth Senior seating, a beauty salon and trips their menu Living in Kilmarnock around the area to carnivals and boasts Farm is encapsulated on other events of interest. There are four to Table and their front sign. Under porches for comfortable sitting and Today from theT name, Commonwealth Senior socializing with a lovely view of the the Bays. Living, is written, Welcome Home. grounds. Of course, there are various They are And that is exactly how you feel as sitting areas inside the building. partnered you walk through the front door, Commonwealth’s Sweet with local welcomed and at home. Executive Memories neighborhood is farmers Director Paige Carpenter, believes specially designed with the needs for fresh that feel is created as a result of of residents with Alzheimer’s produce and their person centered care. disease and other dementias in fishermen Each resident’s experience is mind. Each residents’ suite is for locally customized to their specific tastes and accompanied by a memory box harvested needs. Residents have been with us including photos of them throughout seafood. for years. We’ve gotten to know their their life as well as mementos Then add to that fresh baked and making it the best one possible. families, their favorite foods, hobbies, that are meaningful to them. bread and pastries, along with Commonwealth Senior Living and we incorporate all of this into our There is also a serenity room special monthly dining themes for in Kilmarnock is at 460 S. Main programming and meal planning. intended for families or caregivers a very special and healthy dining Street, Kilmarnock. Phone: 804- When a new resident arrives, a to bring residents who may need a experiences. There are no artificial 435-9896. Visit them online at detailed interview is conducted to space to relax and enjoy multisensory colors, flavors or unnecessary www.CommonwealthSL.com and learn about their interests, habits, engagement—soft music, essential additives. The goal is to serve the on FaceBook, Commonwealth diet and food preferences and needs. oils. The staff in the memory care freshest, most nutritious meals. Senior Living at Kilmarnock. These are made a part of their new area are specially trained to work They are very proud of their Photo of Wall of Valor Frederick life at Commonwealth Senior Living. with residents with dementia. Promise to Veterans program. They Saloduk WW II Navy Veteran, Their program is designed to Another offering is Short Term have a Wall of Valor, featuring the pointing to a picture of himself encourage residents to continue with Respite Care. This is a temporary stay Veteran residents who also have during WW II by Joy Brenda Burch. their interests along with exploring for when a home caregiver is unable a star over their name at their Jill White photo of Welcome! sign. October 2018 9 Confessions of a Cheapskate Boater By Gerhard Straub this? The point is that boating does t is Sunday morning after the not have to be expensive if you are annual Antique and Classic willing to wait for these golden Boat Show at the Reedville opportunities to outfit your boat. The Fishermen’s Museum and other benefit is that it helps these time to come clean. Sure, local organizations raise money so I loveI going there and looking at that they can continue to provide the pretty boats and all that varnish their support to the community. work. An amazing amount of love Someday, when the garage can’t goes into these vessels. I like meeting hold any more stuff, I’ll be on the and talking to folks about boats. other end of the table at one of these But I’m really there for the flea events, the organization will benefit market. I can’t help it. Even though again, and I’ll laugh all the way to the flea market is not huge, I just the bank as someone carries off my know that there is some treasure junk. See, it really is just for a good buried deep on one of those tables cause. I don’t really have a problem… that I just have to have. Aha! I’ve on my boat—a Thistle sailboat from really, I mean really, have to have. Maybe someday we’ll talk about found it. A dual electric trumpet the same auction that I will finish Then you take your time and go what you can find in dumpsters! horn and a separate single one restoring one day, a great aluminum through each of the tables to be sure See you on the water—and for a price that is less than the folding dock boarding ladder, waiting you didn’t miss anything. Finally, listen for my new horn! shipping cost from Defender. to be installed, from the Smith Point near the end, as everyone is starting Gerhard Straub photo of Some flea I pick them up. Do I have a good Sea Rescue flea market, boxes of to get bored and getting ready to market and thrift store treasures. use for them? Of course not, but that numerous bits of hardware that are pack up, you go through again to find Gerhard Straub is master of isn’t the point. I scored a victory in the just waiting for the right application, those screaming deals because you the skipjack Claud W. Somers negotiation and saved a ton of money a new sail at a flea market for our MUST go home with SOMETHING! which is owned by the Reedville on something that I actually might Sunfish sailboat that came from the OK, so what is the point of all Fishermen’s Museum. use…someday. Of course, the seller is Northumberland County Animal thinking how great it is that she won’t Shelter Thrift Shop, two folding bikes have to pack that piece of junk back from last year’s Antique Boat Show, up and take it home as she counts and too many other items to mention. my money with a grin. We both win! These finds are definitely not When I got home, I put those random occurrences. Before we horns in the shop right next to some were married, my wife learned of my other treasured finds. Things early on about my problem. When like a huge Edson manual pump, we went to our first flea market complete with hoses, that came together, I explained the system to from the Kiwanis Yankee Point boat her. You get there early and make auction and flea market several a very quick pass to make sure years ago—I can’t find room for it there isn’t anything there that you

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But the critique group is not non fiction, you tune out all other I had three novels in the works, all just about what you can get, it’s voices but your own. This single abandoned at 20,000 words. It was also about what you can give. Your minded focus is necessary to get a wall I could not get over. I knew I experience as a writer and a reader Chesapeake Style Magazine words on paper, but it can also be needed a critique group, and I started can be of tremendous help to the writer’s worst enemy. We need searching online for local options. someone who may be struggling. input from others, whether it be I found a home with Rappatomac Your words could be the very ones encouragement, praise, or criticism. Writers. Going to regular meetings to spur on the next Hemingway. We cannot grow in a vacuum. gave me time specific deadlines Giving and receiving help will make I have written all my life, but I to finish chapters, and having a you a better writer. 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Sitta pusilla meaning “a tiny bird that although They have Brown-heads feed on insects, pecks on a tree.” The brown-headed is they tend an odd insect eggs, leaf beetles, wood indeed small and quick and generally to choose habit of borers, ants, moths, scale insects, looks dark when you see one. lower sites scenting spiders, and pine seeds. Another It’s a bird of the Pine Barrens and than most their nest odd habit is that they supposedly forests of the Southeastern Coastal cavity nesters. entrance use thin pieces of bark to pry open Plain. Occasionally it will be found They will with some crevices to get at insects. They will in cypress and scrub oak stands. also use old sort of come to bird feeders for sunflower Loblolly—short leaf pine or long woodpecker offensive seeds. Being nonmigratory they leaf—slash pine stands seem to be holes and will musk will seek out cavities or nest boxes favored and rarely is it found away take readily according and house to roost in at night, from pinewoods habitat. Its range in to man made to some often a number of them together. Virginia is generally confined to the nesting boxes reports. Original artwork by Spike Knuth. southeastern corner of the state. and houses. Five or The brown-headed nuthatch has Sometimes six white similar habits as its red-breasted it is more of or creamy and white-breasted cousins, but is a slit and crevice rather than a round eggs with reddish brown markings decidedly smaller with a seemingly hole. The nest is lined with grasses, oversized head and shorter tail. 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School also offers Kids’ Classes, Mathews, Gloucester, A few examples of the special Teen Classes and Summer Camps Middlesex and Lancaster. classes offered at Bay School include, throughout the summer months. However, others in Explorations in Nature: Handbuilding Annie Harpe has recently attendance came from Plant inspired Wall Sconces out been hired as the Gallery and York County, King and of clay. Want to make gluten free Outreach Coordinator, taking Queen County, Newport pasta? Then sign up for the culinary the place of Saraya Cheney, News, Hampton and class in Fresh Pasta: Ravioli and Virginia Beach. Within More. How about Getting Started the previous two years in Colored Pencil, where you will approximately 400 discover the versatility of colored adult students have pencils by using techniques such as attended classes in 33 layering, burnishing and blending. genres, including but Portraiture uses basic drawing not limited to drawing, pencils, this four week class will painting, ceramics, concentrate on proportions of the basketry, quilters, human head and an overview of portraiture, Paper Mache, how to draw the face, eyes, nose, fiber arts, garden art, ears, mouth and hair of adults. In glass, photography the Pin Loom class you will weave and weaving. your own artistic shape! Using They were now graph paper and simple shapes, By Tracy Graham Lanum becoming accomplished you will dress the foam board loom n 1997 Wendy Wells artists. What to do? Students had to with cotton yarn and straight pins. and a myriad of friends be turned away unless they had taken You will weave your one of a kind first originated what is these classes within a two year time design with cotton and wool yarns. now known as the Bay period. However, in 2017 the annual They even have a Bridge Open School Community Arts event got a new spin, becoming An Studio where you can join this Center.I They held art classes in Artist’s Journey, which encompasses continual learning Bridge group various locations until 2002, when more of who their students are as that meets the 2nd and 4th Tuesday the old paint store on Main Street artists and how they got there. This of each month. Bring your Bridge who is now teaching art at the was donated to their cause. year An Artist’s Journey will open book and a friend for a gathering of Gloucester Montessori School. How the Bay School Community on Friday, September 28th from 5 -7 Bridge players. This is not a formal Pam would like the community to Arts Center has blossomed over these p.m., and continue until October 24th. class. There may be discussion of know, “Our students and teachers are past 20+ years. In 2014 Pam Doss Last year the Bay School had what plays were made and why. the reason we are here. Celebrating was hired as Artistic Director. A mere a Storytellers event in which the How would you like to make your their creative journey is one of the two years later she was advanced to teachers told their stories of how own Christmas Wreath? Making most important things Bay School can things merry and bright will be do. Come join the fun. We welcome Mosaic Consignment & Gifts, LLC much easier this holiday season students of all experience levels.” 153 Northumberland Hwy., Callao after you’ve completed this one Bay School Community Arts day, wreath making workshop. Center is located at 279 Main Street 804-529-1030 You’ll learn all of the tips and tricks in Mathews. Call 804-725-1278. The [email protected] of the trade, from how to plan website is www.bayschool-arts.com. out and construct your wreath, to Their email is makeart@ bayschool- caring for it so that it looks its best arts.com. They can be found on Mosaic Consignments is committed to throughout the Christmas season. Facebook as well as Instagram. offering quality items for consignment Color Theory embraces a multitude Tracy Lanum photos of Pam sale. We have a large collection of of definitions, concepts, and design Doss holding an entry for An beautiful furniture, accessories and home applications and helps create an Artists Journey, Buy - Paper- décor, jewelry and much more. Also, distributor of Made in Virginia Items understanding of color mixing, along Mache Fabric & Found Objects October 2018 15 Your Revocable Living Trust Must Be Funded By Joseph T. “Chip” Buxton III* of your own trust, you continue to There are two main without having to go through probate. hat does funding be able to buy, sell, transfer, reinvest, exceptions to this rule: Do I still need a Will a trust mean? gift, or otherwise deal with all your • Your IRA, 401(k), TSP, 403(b), if I have a Trust? Funding is assets just as you did before you Roth IRA, or other forms of qualified Yes. When we put together a trust the process transferred them to the trust. Funding retirement accounts cannot be based estate plan, we provide a new of retitling changes only the title to an asset, it retitled to the trust because these Will, called a Pour-Over Will. Again, yourW assets to the Trustee does not change your right to control accounts are legally already set up a trust is only effective if it is properly of a revocable trust. your own property. Since the Trust is as a trust—there is a custodian or funded. The Pour-Over Will cancels A trust is a substitute for a Will revocable by you, you are effectively trustee who administers the account any old Will and is a backup plan and is only effective when the giving these assets to yourself, or on your behalf. You can, however, to the trust. It directs that if you die Trustee has the authority to manage another person you select, as Trustee, name a trust as a beneficiary of owning any assets titled solely in your assets, so funding is a critical to manage. Trust income is still the account, which, if it is to pass your own name—not in the trust, step in the planning process. This reported on your personal tax return. to anyone other than your spouse, or passing to the trust or to a joint process involves changing the name Do I have to title we may recommend based on owner or named beneficiary—those on bank and brokerage accounts everything to my trust? your personal planning goals. assets pass by your Will to your to the name(s) of the Trustee(s), Yes, with limited exceptions. • We recommend that you do not trust after your death. Probate may assigning personal property, LLC’s Using a trust will only avoid probate retitle automobiles to your trust. be required, however, this way we and other business or farm interests if it is properly funded – assets still Cars can cause liability concerns make sure that if you have forgotten to your Trust, deeding your home held in your own name remain in the event of an accident, and to retitle any assets to the trust, or and other real estate to the Trust, part of your personal estate and are we recommend you keep them if you later acquire assets and did and changing the beneficiary still subject to the court supervised separate from the bulk of your assets not title them to the trust, these on life insurance policies (and probate process. Therefore, it is to avoid direct claims against your assets still end up in the trust. sometimes IRAs) to the Trustee. important to retitle just about every trust. We have alternate means of *Certified Elder Law Attorney Since you are usually the Trustee asset to the name of the Trustee. transferring car titles after death 16 October 2018 The Ditches of Mathews County~Seven Years, No Solutions grow in moist conditions. Not must, rebutting a Virginia Coastal Policy might. This is bureaucratic nonsense. Center draft report on ditch I’ve joked that the 2011 quake was ownership and maintenance in a sign that it was time to shake things Mathews, it reached the office of up. Six months later, we formed The the Attorney General of Virginia. In Ditches of Mathews County and November, 2016, a Commonwealth we’ve tried to do just that. From the Assistant Attorney General spoke at non tidal wetlands issue, we learned a special Mathews board meeting that state roadside ditches and pipes, and told VDOT representatives of the unmaintained for decades, had local district that yes, the roadside disrupted natural drainage patterns. ditches are in the VDOT right of Rainwater accumulated in ditches way, and yes, VDOT is obligated to and on private property—killing maintain them and its easements. loblolly pines and other timber crops. We thought we had some success Evidence from county Minutes at last, but little has changed. showed Virginia Department After seven years and a myth of Transportation (VDOT) busting reference book about road

By Carol J. Bova an enormous range of conditions, he magnitude 5.8 from near desert to near marsh, but Virginia earthquake it cannot tolerate having its roots in 2011 kick started in standing water for an extended seven years of study, period of time. Hydrophytes, the research and attempts primary indicator of wetlands on the to getT more accuracy in county and other hand, are plants which require state reports. At the polls that day, I conditions with surface water or at met a resident who explained how least saturated soil to survive even the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers if there’s no oxygen available. was classifying uplands here as non There’s a wetlands indicator tidal wetlands. One of the wetlands category to describe plants like indicators they used to make their loblolly, FAC, facultative, which determination was the loblolly pine. means equally able to survive in dry Loblolly pine grows in a swath or moist conditions. Hydrophytes are from Texas and Oklahoma to termed OBL, obligate wetlands, which Florida and up the eastern coast means they must have water to grow to Delaware and New Jersey. It’s in. So how did loblolly end up as a also found in Hawaii. It tolerates wetland indicator? Because it might representatives gave the Mathews drainage, we’re still fighting the same Board of Supervisors bad information battles plus a new one: the VDOT about their drainage issues. encouraged traffic calming measures VDOT refused to maintain state of the Main Street Enhancement and ditches as mandated by the Code Drainage Improvement projects. of Virginia, saying it wasn’t their Traffic calming is inappropriate by responsibility. After many articles VDOT’s own standards for areas in Chesapeake Style, years of posts with more than 4,000 vehicle trips a to our Facebook page and my blog, day. Main Street has 5,100. I guess emails to VDOT, discussions with a new myth to explain continued VDOT staff and a state water quality Main Street freshwater flooding improvement committee, we raised will blame sea level rise instead awareness, but got few results. of a lack of drainage inlets. When I wrote a formal paper Carol Bova photos. October 2018 17 I Prefer To Go It Alone By Tracy Graham Lanum a meager $1200 in my pocket. job as a real estate salesman and per year. I write Style Spotlight n the August 27, 2018 issue I assisted a new friend in cleaning then out of the blue, becoming a article’s about local businesses of Time Magazine, there houses, wrote not very good poetry writer, a talent I never knew existed. that advertise in the magazine. was an article, Essential and began making masks of the faces I so enjoy living alone, doing as I thoroughly enjoy interviewing Reading For Women of new acquaintances and neighbors. I please, when I please without any people about their enterprises Who’d Rather Go It Alone. My artistic talents began to blossom! I interference from others. I made and what inspired the owners to ThatI piqued my curiosity since I enjoyed this so much I opened a small many acquaintances upon my begin their various adventures. have been by myself for the past 22 business of mask making, putting arrival here. My 16 years as a social I learn a great deal about so many years. I can’t say I loved the first few out flyers in public businesses. worker in various states had made things, including an extraordinary years of living alone, however as There is more detail about this in me unafraid of meeting others. Mother of the Year, who balanced an time has drifted by I have come to my memoir, An Awakening Soul. Volunteering at various organizations older daughter and husband at home enjoy living life on my terms only. I was hired by the San Luis Obispo spread my contacts as well. while transporting her four year old In 1990 I was married to an County Social Services in their Adult The most vital organization I daughter to the Children’s Hospital Episcopal priest. We had been living Protective Services Division eleven joined was the Chesapeake Bay of the King’s Daughters and Sons; in Woodlake, California since June months after moving to Cayucos. Writers, which is where I ventured the importance of having windows of that year, having moved from I had a good background in social into publishing the memoir of washed regularly, and building a Midwest, Wyoming, where our son, work, having been hired by Beaver the difficulty of living in a family 12’ Wright Skiff from scratch. Mathew, remained to work in the County Pennsylvania Children and that treated me differently after It is all a great pleasure. oil fields to make money so that Youth Services as a case worker in I was diagnosed with diabetes he and his highschool sweetheart 1987. I had continued as a social at the age of just seven. could marry. In October our son was worker in Wyoming. I remained in Presently I have the honor killed in an automobile accident. San Luis until March 2004, when I of writing articles for a local It is difficult for a marriage to resigned at the age of 62. The ten 1/2 bimonthly newspaper, Glo-Quips survive that kind of debilitating years in California had been chaotic and Chesapeake Style Magazine, Chesapeake Style Magazine disaster. Our 23 year marriage did not and painful in many ways. For two which publishes eight times survive. After careful consideration, 1/2 years, I futilely attempted to including suicidal thoughts, I raise two teenaged granddaughters came to the conclusion that I was who had been sexually abused. tired of living an isolated, lonely I had visited a college roommate marriage, lacking in intimacy. at Northwestern University several In late 1993 I rented a furnished times prior to my departure from 600 square foot house in Cayucos, social work. She and her husband California a short 1/2 block from lived in Gloucester, Virginia on Family Owned and Operated the Pacific Ocean. My entire life I the Severn River. I fell in love with had wanted to live near an ocean Gloucester, decided to buy a home 804-761-2412 and here I was in a in a small there upon retiring. And so I did. Open 9 a.m.-7 p.m. 7 days/week hippie town midway between Las I have lived in Gloucester for Angeles and San Francisco with fourteen years, having procured a 22645 Kings Hwy, Warsaw

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A young still unaware what has become his new normal. to...” Going to the tax office was woman came to my support group, of what a brain It is embarrassing to a survivor not terribly difficult for one woman until frustrated with her doctor’s approach injury is, or to remember a close friend’s name she told the staff why she would to her treatment. “No problem!” the how it can or events that they enjoyed together. burst into tears when presented group members said. “You need to affectM someone. The effects of a It is frustrating to try to deal with with pages of forms to fill out. Once go to Dr. X, here’s his number.” brain injury vary dramatically from unenlightened public officials when the staff understood the problem, Even though it may initially feel person to person because although trying to fill out complicated forms they worked with her to complete awkward to admit a limitation, it the precipitating circumstances or answer questions that seem so one page at a time and patiently is helpful to remember that brain may be similar, results from a brain simple. It is exasperating to try to buy walked her through the process. injury and its effects are nothing injury depend largely on the cause, groceries and be so overwhelmed Another survivor found doing to be ashamed of, and the more the severity, and the location of with the choices in a store that you business on the phone very people know about it, the better the injury in the brain. Memory come away with nothing but a severe frustrating until he told the person on your communication will be. issues, overwhelming fatigue, or headache and a bad case of anxiety. the other end “Please slow down...I For more information on brain injury, lack of emotional control, while It is not surprising, therefore, that have a brain injury.” Once the person contact the Brain Injury Association of common among many survivors, many survivors increasingly withdraw understood the confusion that she Virginia at 800-444-6443 or at www. may not always affect everyone. from public contact because was causing by speaking rapidly, she biav.net. The Northern Neck Brain One thing that most survivors trying to function in a non brain presented information in smaller Injury Support Group meets on the often do share, however, is loss of injured world is just too stressful. portions, making sure the caller had second Tuesday of each month at the meaningful contact with others. Part That’s where sharing comes in. time to process what she was saying. Bay Transit building in Warsaw from of this isolation stems from a lack Many survivors have found that Sharing can have other advantages, 10:30 a.m.-noon. All are welcome! of understanding by others of the friends, coworkers, or strangers too. Sharing problems with other issues that a survivor is dealing with, are often very willing to help if the survivors in a support group setting October 2018 19 Tidewater & Timber~Fall in the Outdoors are great areas to try and stands and equipment, including safety harnesses, anchor up on to chum. before you hunt. Stands should be secure and Information on Maryland stable. If stands need work or replacement, allow fishing regulations can be time before the season begins or leave them found at, www.eregulations. for after hunting time ends. Check your safety com/maryland/fishing/. harness and always wear one when climbing Visit www.prfc.us/ for into, out of and staying in a tree stand. Potomac waters and for Enjoy the upcoming deer archery and fall turkey Virginia’s Marine waters seasons. Preparation is smart. Look for signs of of the Chesapeake Bay movement, travel, tracks, trails and droppings. and Tributaries see mrc. Don’t forget to prepare your gear, camo, virginia.gov/index.shtm turkey calls and turkey blinds. Check your tree October also brings stands for durability and safeness. Part of your excitement to those who preparation should include securing permission enjoy the woods. Watch to hunt. Make a plan to let someone know where for turkeys and deer you will hunt and when you will return. Don’t movement throughout the forget to charge your phone prior to hunting. forest. Walk the woods, For information about Virginia hunting look for signs and gather seasons, visit the Virginia Department of knowledge. Even though Game and Inland Fisheries (VDGIF) website By Chelly Scala it is fall, continue to use at www.dgif.virginia.gov/hunting/ s we wind down to slower fall an insect repellent that will repel ticks. Note the Scala photo. activities, take the time to enjoy the travel patterns and signs of deer and turkey. outdoors. Since the temperatures Don’t forget to allow time to check your deer have finally started to cool and the leaves have started turning, lookA for signs of fall fish and wildlife movement. There is so much to enjoy during this beautiful time of year, whether you prefer the water or the woods, there is plenty of activity to go around. October is a great time to pursue schools of stripers, also known as rockfish. A great tactic is to cast or jig into schools as they feed on the surface for bait fish. Watch for birds diving on the surface, feeding on bait fish. 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By E.C. Doleman By E.C. Doleman the sky hangs gray As curtains shut on a cancelled play I am what can't be seen, yet is real I stand and gaze, bereft of will What can't be touched, yet you can feel Over the river, mirror still But behind the pall the In darkness I am light, in heat I am shade A feathery, fitful breeze appears sun burns bright I hold your hand when like a child To streak the river's breast with tears Filling the heavens with golden light You feel lost in a crowd or alone in the wild Renew the race here never run Stirring the far and restless sea And I am the guide to your truest dreams One night beneath the ebbing tide To breathe the mists of life to be I am a comfort when you are sad An unseen current, swift and wide I dance with you when you are glad Carried the water of life to sea And sets aflame the clouds in layers And transform small pleasures into joy With my dreams and In answer to my grieving prayers My shoulders soak up your tears hopes of joys to be To bless the life not yet begun My smile shields you from your fears And my wings enfold you when you grieve And parched my heart, Open the eyes that never saw Because you let me feed your heart’s desire parched my land Awaken the mind to joy and awe I warmed the world through your inner fire Withered the grass whereon I stand Let bloom my love who left this sod As all that I am you daily gave away While across the stream In Thy eternal land O, God

I am Love

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IN NO PARTICULAR ORDER WE RECOGNIZE OUR LOYAL ADVERTISERS 22 October 2018 My Friend, Suzanne By Janet Abbott Fast from the hospital and at the local came back for a visit several years His mission and primary ou may remember YMCA formed a support group for ago. Suzanne remains cancer focus is the help the local her. She worked at children and teens whose families free, albeit in pain from excessive Hispanic Community. Food Kitty, in the had cancer. She organized and radiation. Sean is now married He frequently takes them to deli bakery area. hosted YMCA and Teenagers Support and is a Youth Minister at London their doctor’s appointments, helps Suzanne always had Cancer Support Group’s first annual International Christian Church. them when they are sick, as well a smile,Y a joke, and if there was any Gospel Explosion Cancer Awareness. And the lawyer kept the money. as taking them to court, when kind of holiday, she dressed for it. There were Gospel and Bluegrass immigration or legal issues occur. Everybody liked her, because she singers and the donations went Letter to the Editor: He is one of the most kind always spread joy and happiness. to the Richmond County YMCA I will preface this by saying and sensitive souls I know. She also cleaned houses to earn Teen Cancer Support Group. that I really have enjoyed your And he is a regular contributor more money. She was raising her Sean was doing well in school, was publication. I anxiously look for it to Chesapeake Style. teenage son, Sean, without any help. active in sports, and Suzanne did at the grocery store to see all the On page two we note: “The If the school or YMCA had a fund whatever her energy level allowed. events coming in our area. This is opinions expressed in Chesapeake raiser, Suzanne was there, helping Until the Feds came calling. the first time I have felt the need to Style are those of contributing to wash cars, or baking, always with She was given a short amount of complain. September's edition has writers and do not necessarily a smile and sense of humor. To help time before she had to leave the an article regarding immigration. reflect the opinion of Chesapeake with her own expenses, she had a country. It was agreed that Sean Your publication has never been a Style or its advertisers.” small business, Desserts by Suzanne, could stay with a local family and soap box for political views before While I do not always agree with and she sold her creations of “Cakes, graduate from high school, in 2009, and that is something you should folks’ opinions, I do feel that the Cookies, Brownies, Cheesecakes, before he was also deported. strive to do...keep it non political. immigration issue is one of the most Fruitcakes, Candy and more.” When Suzanne and her son It has been a wealth of interesting knotty and complex issues facing our Until cancer came calling. Suzanne moved to Warsaw, from England, she information on the Neck and the only nation today. And frankly, I don’t went to a Richmond hospital, and immediately went to a lawyer, paid place to keep up with the current see any solutions on the horizon… had a bi-lateral mastectomy. She him money and requested he begin activities through each season. Please That said, you are right, we also had chemo and an overdose of the process for them to become US continue your good work, and leave have not been and are not a radiation, which continues to cause citizens. Now that deportation was the political activists in Washington. soapbox for politics…and in this her pain—which she handles with looming, she went back to the lawyer, Regards, case, I walked a fine line when appropriate medications. During paid him more money, only to learn Theresa Cazer deciding to include the article. this time, her mother and sisters he had “lost her original information.” Warsaw I am guessing we have came from Ireland to spend time Did I mention that Suzanne is more in common and agree with her during her recovery. Irish? She moved back to London From Chesapeake Style: on more things than not. When she was better, she recruited and after his graduation in 2009, Terry, Thank you for taking the several professional counselors Sean was also deported. Sean Thank you for your comments. time to share your thoughts. I thought long and hard about including that particular article. I Chesapeake Style prints letters when Historic Lancaster Tavern decided to include it because the the writer has the courage to include RESTAURANT AND BED & BREAKFAST writer, Kenny Park, is a local pastor, at his or her name and location. Sunday Brunch - 9 a.m. - 3 p.m. Lunch Mon. thru Sat. 11 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. Jerusalem Baptist Church in Warsaw. Dinner Wed. -Thur.- Fri.- Sat. 5-9 p.m. (Reservations Recommended) All you can eat Breakfast for 12.95 on Sundays We will open Sunday nights for parties of 6 or more. Parties of 8 or more wanting to Dine in on Monday or Tuesday evening must call 24 hours in advance and I will open for a In House private party. 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Se Mi respuesta: solución en el horizonte ... fiambres y de la acordó que Sean podría quedarse Terry, Dicho eso, tienes razón, no panadería. Suzanne con una familia local y graduarse de Gracias por tus comentarios. hemos sido y no somos una siempreP tenía una sonrisa, una la escuela secundaria, en 2009, antes Pensé mucho en incluir o no ese tribuna para la política ... y en este broma, y si había algún dia festivo, de que también él fuera deportado. artículo en particular. Decidí caso, caminé una línea muy fina se vestía apropiadamente. Todos Cuando Suzanne y su hijo se incluirlo porque el escritor, Kenny al decidir incluir el artículo. la querían, porque sembraba mudaron a Warsaw, de Inglaterra, Park, es un pastor local, en la Iglesia Supongo que tenemos más la alegría y la felicidad. acudió inmediatamente a un Bautista de Jerusalén en Warsaw. en común y estamos de acuerdo También limpiaba casas para abogado, le pagó dinero y le Su misión y enfoque principal es de en más cosas de las que no. ganar más dinero. Estaba criando pidió que comenzara el proceso ayudar a la comunidad hispana local. Gracias por haberse tomado a su hijo adolescente, Sean, sin su para que se hicieran ciudadanos Con frecuencia los lleva a sus el tiempo para compartir padre. Si la escuela o YMCA ponia un estadounidenses. Ahora que se citas con médicos, los ayuda sus pensamientos. evento para recaudación de fondos, aproximaba la deportación, volvió cuando están enfermos, así como Suzanne estaba allí, ayudando a lavar al abogado, le pagó más dinero, llevándolos a la corte, Chesapeake Style imprime cartas los coches, o la cocción, siempre solo para descubrir que había cuando ocurren asuntos cuando el escritor tiene el coraje de con una sonrisa y sus bromas. Para "perdido su información original". legales o de inmigración. incluir su nombre y ubicación. ayudar con sus propios gastos, tenía ¿Habia mencionado que Suzanne Él es una de las almas un pequeño negocio, Postres de es irlandesa? Regresó a Londres y más amables y sensibles que Suzanne, y vendía sus creaciones de después de su graduación en 2009, conozco. Y es colaborador "Pasteles, galletas, brownies, pasteles Sean también fue deportado. Sean habitual de Chesapeake Style. de queso, de frutas, dulces y más". regresó de visita hace varios años. En la página dos observamos: Hasta que el cáncer vino llamando. Suzanne sigue libre de cáncer, aunque “Las opiniones expresadas en Suzanne fue a un hospital de sufre de dolor crónico por la radiación Chesapeake Style son las de los Richmond y tuvo una mastectomía excesiva. Sean ahora está casado y es escritores contribuyentes y no bilateral. También le dieron un ministro de jóvenes en la Iglesia reflejan necesariamente la opinión de Chesapeake Style Magazine quimioterapia y una sobredosis de Cristiana Internacional de Londres. Chesapeake Style o sus anunciantes”. radiación, que continúa causándole Y el abogado se quedó Si bien no siempre estoy de dolor, que maneja con medicamentos con el dinero. acuerdo con las opiniones de apropiados. Durante este tiempo, la gente, creo que el tema de la su madre y hermanas vinieron Carta al editor: de Irlanda para pasar tiempo con Primero quiero decir que ella durante su recuperación. realmente he disfrutado de su Cuando mejoró, reclutó a varios publicación. La busco ansiosamente CALLAO COFFEE CAFE consejeros profesionales del hospital en el supermercado para ver todos y en el YMCA local y formó un grupo los eventos que hay en nuestra área. “A Little Taste of New York in the Northern Neck” de apoyo para niños y adolescentes Esta es la primera vez que siento la Breakfast Lunch Desserts cuyos familiares padecen de cáncer. necesidad de quejarme. La edición Organizó y auspició la primera de septiembre tiene un artículo sobre Mon-Fri 8 to 3 Sat 8 to 4 Sun 9 to 4 Concientización anual sobre el inmigración. 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He always said, change a tire. Sometimes I go out old, and my wife is a ‘Hard work won’t kill you, but stress at night because my service man cancer survivor. I love will.’” Roger enjoys his work. “I’ve works so hard during the week to my family and love met a lot of interesting people and keep customers happy and give the my community.” see a lot of people a lot of times, but service that my customers need.” A Senior Warden at there’s somebody new every day. Big L Tire covers a large area Saint Paul’s Episcopal I try to treat everyone who comes for commercial services, from Church, Roger said, “I through the front door as my boss. Southern Maryland, Mechanicsville, get up every morning If they don’t patronize me, I can’t Fredericksburg, Gloucester. and tell the good Lord, support my Big L Tire family. “Our commercial salesman goes ‘Thank You for the Something that I learned through the to Southern Maryland twice blessing you give me, years, the customer’s always right, a week and Fredericksburg and help me today.’ As even if he’s wrong. You need to make once a week. Our salesman has I grew up, my father him happy, because if a customer’s been with us 25-30 years.” taught me ethics, how unhappy, he will pass the word.” They have a good selection of to treat people, and Tires have changed over the new tires in stock in Michelin, how to work hard, and years. Roger said, “Nylon was good BFGoodrich, Uniroyal, and they can I try to pass that on.” in its day and getting about ten order just about any brand anyone With two sets of thousand miles was great when I wants. Roger said, “We deal with 30 twin boys, a single was 12 or 13. Now, we have radial to 50 brands and a big range of sizes. boy and a single girl, because they hold up better and last We do a lot of business in medium Roger’s father wanted so much longer. Some even get up truck tires, like dump trucks, farm By Carol J. Bova to give his children a solid start in to one hundred thousand miles.” trucks, specialized agricultural tires. oger Hutt of Big L Tire life. He taught the boys from a very Not many businesses do We work with tires for wheelbarrow is a man who loves his young age about the tire business retreads today. Retreads are often up to large earthmover tires.” family, his community he started in the hopes that it would used for tractor trailers rather You can visit Big L Tire in Warsaw and his work. give them a headstart on their than new replacements because at 4982 Richmond Road, Monday He’s deeply careers. Only two of the boys stayed it brings the cost per mile down. to Friday, 8 to 5, and Saturday, 8 to involvedR with the Relay for Life, a in the business, Roger and his twin, Big L Tire uses the Michelin 12. Call them at 804-333-4635. Their fundraising activity that supports William. Roger’s been working at Retread Technologies process. website is https://bigltireco.com/ groundbreaking cancer research the Big L Tire in Warsaw for 43 years Roger describes his shop as a five tires-auto-repair-warsaw-va and and patient care programs. The and has been the manager for 35 star elite retread shop and says he their email is warsaw@bigltireco. Northern Neck Relay for Life has years. His brother William manages has a good young man who manages com. They are also on Facebook as been helping the American Cancer the Big L Tire in Kilmarnock. that. He’s proud to say that he works Big L Tire Pros. For more information Society for more than two decades. Roger said, “I plan to keep going right alongside his men. “I’m thankful on the other B L Tire locations in Roger said, “I help with Relay for like my Pop and do the same things for them, and I enjoy it. Everybody Kilmarnock, Elkton, Harrisonburg Life in this area because my father he did. My dad retired from the tire I’ve got works very hard. I’m blessed and Lynchburg, call 800-289-2455. in law died from cancer when my company at 65 and then worked in that way too. It’s hard dirty work to Marie Stone photo of Roger Hutt.

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The Pilot House buffet provides great combinations of can provide catering, linens, choices. Desserts look and taste good! and all the other needs for an Bonnie said, “Ninety nine percent event, including wait staff, and of everything we have is homemade. they do have an ABC license. Sometimes, we’ll buy a cake, but Gary and Bonnie have been everything else, we do ourselves.” working on renovating the When I told her what a hard time restaurant and motel. The new I have in choosing a meal there, roof is on, and they are halfway she asked if I’d ever tried her clam done in the motel. The recent chowder, and I realized, I hadn’t. rains have interfered with the Bonnie said, “You should try it. We outdoor painting plans, but that have people who fly in just to get it By Carol J. Bova and granddaughter Mackenzie, will get wrapped up when the to take out.” I’m making a note on t’s not often you hear of but Bonnie said, “We consider our weather improves. The restaurant has my reminder list to do just that! a local restaurant that customers and workers, Doris, three areas. In the center, are tables The Pilot House Inn is open at 7 people fly to for lunch, but Libby, Kelly, Cindi, Shelly, Jessie and chairs near the buffet. On one a.m., seven days a week. Breakfast that often happens at Pilot and Peggy family too. Doris has side is a room that can seat seventy. is served all day, and there’s a House Inn! The Hummel been with us over 30 years since It is regularly used for meetings Breakfast Buffet on Saturday and AirfieldI is next door in Topping, the beginning, and Kelly’s always of various community groups, Sunday mornings. The Lunch Buffet but most Pilot House diners arrive there for me. In fact, Kelly and I like the Rotary. Beyond the front is Monday to Friday, from 10:30 a.m. in their personal vehicles at the discovered we’re actually related!” room is a bright and comfortable to 1:30 p.m., and the Saturday Night convenient location on Greys Point Gary’s parents owned the Pilot area with booths. Nautical and Seafood Buffet is from 5 p.m. to 9 Road (Route 3). Long a favorite of House Inn for almost twenty years aeronautical artwork on the walls p.m. Their regular menu is always working people, local families, and before health issues led his mother provide an interesting background available too! The Pilot House Inn retirees, the restaurant’s focus is on to ask Gary and Bonnie to come to throughout the restaurant. and The Beacon Building are located old fashioned home cooked food Topping to take over and run the I attend a monthly luncheon at 2737 Greys Point Road, Topping. served in a welcoming atmosphere. restaurant for them. Bonnie said, meeting at the Pilot House, and I Their phone number is 804-758-2262. Owners Bonnie and Gary Glascock “We thought it would only be for told Bonnie that I always have a hard Deborah Figg photo of Bonnie, operate the Pilot House with their three years, and here we are!” time deciding what to order because Gary and Crystal. family, son Jack, daughter Crystal In addition to the restaurant, the I like so many of their dishes! Some October 2018 29 Aging Well in Communities By Jean Duggan population will challenge Social housing is about stable, safe to its vibrancy and well-being. n the Middle Peninsula Security, Medicare and Medicaid, places for older adults to live. Community wellbeing occurs and Northern Neck, the but there is less awareness that this 3. Transportation—Transportation when government, non profits and population age 60 and shift will also significantly increase includes walkable communities, businesses can work together to over will number 49,254 demand for home and community paths designed for bicycles, and provide options for older adults and or 33% of the region’s total services like those offered by Bay public transportation services create more livable communities. populationI in 2020, just two years Aging—the Middle Peninsula and that ensure mobility no matter The Bay Aging Board of Directors from now. Estimates indicate that Northern Neck’s designated Area a person’s means or ability. and Senior Leadership Team by 2030 the number will increase Agency on Aging. Because services 4. Employment—Gone are the days are proud of the connections, to 57,629 or 37% of the region’s delivered by Bay Aging staff cost of work to rocking chair. Many older partnerships, and collaborations total population and will continue a fraction of the cost of other care adults want to stay connected to their made over the past 40 years to to rise. As this demographic shift options such as nursing homes and communities through meaningful improve the lives of our older adults. occurs, how well prepared are the skilled care facilities, bringing services work. Others want to work to As Bay Aging celebrates its 40th communities in the region to ensure to people where they live helps them supplement their Social Security and anniversary, the organization’s their older population that they save their hard earned dollars, as well improve their financial security. leadership is looking toward the next can successfully age in place? as government dollars. This is a more 5. Environment—A healthy 40 years to build more opportunities Ninety percent (90%) of older sensible approach to services from environment promotes healthy that ensure a strong framework adults say they hope to stay in a financial and human perspective. living that is free from environmental for older adults to age in place. their homes for as long as possible. What are the vital conditions hazards and one that fulfills our Jean M. Duggan is Development However, to do so, many people— for community well-being? need to connect with nature. Director, Bay Aging. 804-758- regardless of income—will eventually 1. Health—It means communities 6. Belonging—Belonging is about 1260 x1318, jduggan@bayaging. need some level of service or support have developed the health services having fulfilling relationships and org, www.bayaging.org. to live safely and successfully in an aging population and family the social support people need their home and community. caregivers need to live healthy. to thrive. It is about being part of We know that the aging of our 2. Housing—Humane a community and contributing

Visit the Reedville Fishermen's Museum where history of Northern Neck Watermen comes alive Walk our dock, inspect our boats, visit our museum galleries Take home memories of your trip from our gift shop Visit the 1875 Walker House and learn how Reedville's early residents lived For a complete listing of our activities and events go to www.rfmuseum.org

504 Main Street, Reedville, Virginia 804-453-6529 30 October 2018 Thunder Thighs By RuthE Forrest BA CMT BCTMB body gets used to whatever stress foot to roll out. In a chain reaction department, 5-6 inches round recent episode of you enforce upon it, a process called you now have an ankle prone to roll depending on your legs’ comfort Dr. Oz spotlighted compensation. This is why we must over sprain, not to mention chronic zone. Place the ball between your global blue zones over stress a muscle to make it bigger. pain in the inner part of the knee. knees while sitting, gently press where people live Preventative maintenance of the After a while your hip has to hike your legs together using the ball for to extreme old age thigh muscle group throughout up a bit to take some pressure off of resistance, get into a rhythm and withA all their faculties intact. He a lifetime will stand you in good the knee, and you’re now feeling pain tone away! Placing the ball between emphasized their commonality, stead in old age. The quadriceps in the butt! The entire kinetic chain is the arm of the chair and your outer one of which was healthy thigh braid across two joints, the knee affected by a few weak thigh muscles. thigh, press outward against the ball muscles. They adhered to the ancient and hip. Strong thighs prevent Many techniques strengthen to strengthen the outer thighs too. admonition to chop wood—carry falls, keep knees healthy and help the thighs. The best one is walking, Massage therapy is very effective water. By living a lifestyle whereby maintain the hip, your largest joint. as we’re made for slow rhythmic for pain related to thigh muscle they walked to a well or market daily, By keeping both inner and outer movement. Practice sitting/standing. dysfunction. As one muscle in biked to work or ran for recreation, thigh muscles well toned you assure Standing in front of a chair, place your the group weakens and others they maintained muscle strength proper alignment of these two vital hands in prayer position for upper compensate, the entire chain throughout their lifetimes. structures plus the ankle joint and body support, palms together in front can tighten up. Relieving muscle The four major muscles making up feet, which complete the end of of breast bone. With feet shoulder tension allows overworked muscles the thigh, the quadriceps, comprise the kinetic chain for the leg. If any width apart begin squatting down to decongest and weak ones to one of the largest areas of mass in one of the links in the chain are to sit, but don’t actually sit down, receive vital nutrients by increasing the body, and a great deal of energy weak, the entire chain suffers. hover above the seat and stand up circulation. Bodywork also facilitates storage potential. As such, they If one thigh muscle is weak again. Repeat this motion slowly, body awareness, allowing us to use represent our reserves. As we age, the knee may cave in towards the keeping your knees over your toes. muscles in a healthier manner. muscle mass tends to decrease, midline, causing the ankle to collapse Another option is to purchase For more information call me even if continually stressed. And the in the opposite direction and the a small inflated ball from the kid’s at Spa 2 U 804-453-5367. Poetry in Style~ Fifty Years

By E.C. Doleman How many dawns brought a copper sky As bright new stars for wishing by Lifting the heart and charming the eye Spread across an indigo sky Eighteen thousand risings of the sun Stirring the breeze and sailors' souls Eighteen thousand life-full days are done To set their courses to unseen goals Together two hearts can bring to mind Each slipped into the womb of night The tally of days of every kind To bear again a new dawn's light How many dawns in great flame arose Which dawns surprised the most with joy Clouds in serried ranks of blazing coals Which days seemed like the siege of Troy How many dawns were a golden band A warning when the coals turn gray The world a ring on the wedding hand That ashes bring a storm filled day Now one heart rests silent in the grave Blooms honey sweet and diamond dewed The other beats weeping in the nave And as the day with love renewed How many sunsets passed all unseen Yet dawns of hope continue on By eyes too busy in fields of green The years of love still built upon How many dawns came bleak as stone Minds engrossed with mundane affairs Icy as fear, as bleached as bone Hearts entwined with worries and cares For the tomb of Time is but a Womb When weeping winds and bitter air Each Sunset bears a Dawn's new bloom Moan invitations to despair How many sunsets passed hand in hand The powers of love never end In concert as a marching band To such force even Time doth bend Chesapeake Style Thanks Local Businesses for Advertising Locally October 2018 31 Pets, Pumpkins, and Picnics They are content to bask as one In fact, Rock Star is goes well for the costume provider noted “in the the preferred pumpkin average pumpkin extra playtime that everyone when it comes to carving seed, he or she will wants to give” as well as parental which means that RS grow up to weigh rewards and treats for being cute. is a big favorite among between six and Being cute is probably the main the Jack O’Lantern set, eighteen pounds. driver of pet costumes, and pumpkins beating out such pumpkin A few, bred for are the number one choice, closely pushovers as Munchkin, competition, will followed by hot dogs, lions, pirates, Baby Boo, Snowball, and weigh in close to and even cats. It’s unclear if dogs Cotton Candy as well as the world record By Ellen Dugan realize they are masquerading as Gladiator, Big Mac, Snack 2,625 pounds he frightfully cats on Halloween and if so, how Jack, Knuckle Head, achieved by a respectable, non- they might feel about it; but so and the unfortunately disfigured Belgium pumpkin as certified by the ghoulish National far, none has meowed or barked contender, Bunch O’Warts. Great Pumpkin Commonwealth—in Retail Federation, in protest. It’s a virtual certainty Early pumpkins were a stable food Germany—in October of 2016. This an organization that that no cat has ever been seen as a for our pilgrims, and are also said to organization also has a keen interest thrivesT on taking surveys, recently dog and probably never will be. have done a medical stint getting rid in watermelons and tomatoes. The estimated that we would spend A few dogs have been known to of freckles and treating snakebites top watermelon—from Italy)— close to $440 million on Halloween bark out a preference for another before finally settling in as pie filling tipped the scales at 271 pounds, costumes that include devils, very popular canine costume, the and valued Halloween participant. while Big Zac, a nine pound tomato pumpkins, and witches—for our pets. bumble bee. This costume features In the pumpkin world space makes from Walla Walla, Washington took Possibly this gives new meaning to a headband sporting two antennas for good neighbors. They need lots first among tomatoes in 2018. the cry “Get me out of this costume!” trimmed with small yellow fuzz balls of it. At least 30 to 40 inches between Neither of these entries expressed often voiced by tired tykes whose on each end. Bees beat out devils, neighbors and a minimum of eight an interest in pumpkins or pets, masks have slipped down over Batman characters, and even ghosts to twelve feet between rows. If all but both are picnic fans! their eyes and who are anxious to on the retail cuteness circuit. go home and eat their candy. Although one retailer thoughtfully But pets can’t voice this objection, asks concerned parents whether and to be fair, their costumes or not their favorite pet might have don’t have face masks. Also, pet “an inner Elvis that is just waiting to trick-or-treaters don’t bring home come out,” so far Elvis has not made Since 1998 plastic pumpkins full of candy. it into the top ten pet costumes. But there is a pumpkin named Rock Star.

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Verus, Acana, Stella and Chewy, Earth Animal, No-Hide Bones, Bully Sticks, Himalayan Chews, Treats Tuesday-Friday 11 am to 5 pm and Saturday 10 am to 4 pm 804-435-3026 238 N Main Street, Kilmarnock October 2018 33 What's Happening at Rice's Hotel/Hughlett's Tavern The Tavern's season ending sandwiches, hot dogs, hamburgers, Heathsville Farmers Market will and beverages are on sale at the follow up on Saturday, October outside food concession. 20th. All your favorite vendors will A historic landmark since the be on hand, including purveyors of late 1700's, RHHT is home to four local produce, eggs, canned pickles active artisan guilds, which will all be and jams, specialty peanuts, bread, on-site that day, demonstrating and gourmet soups, and handcrafts. There selling their wares. The Blacksmiths are new vendors every month. The can be found in the Forge. The market runs from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. Woodworkers will be in their colonial As part of this month's market, era workshop inside the Carriage the public is invited to bring House. The Quilt Guild will be in their pets for a Blessing of the residence at at their studio in the Animals ceremony, courtesy of Tavern, and the Tavern Spinners St. Stephen's Episcopal Church. & Weavers will be demonstrating A pumpkin decorating contest in their studio upstairs. will also take place outside, with Photos courtesy RHHT, prizes awarded to both youth and Bill and Pam Gurley. By Corinne Becker the Tavern's own BBQ Master, Sid adults. Pumpkins are donated by hings will be hopping in Mace, plus sides, desserts and soft Garners Produce of Warsaw. October at Rice's Hotel/ drinks. There will also be beer and Inside the Tavern itself, the Hughlett's Tavern wine—sold separately—and live Heritage Arts Center Gift Shoppe (RHHT) in Heathsville. music under the big-top tent. will be open. Shoppers will find On Saturday, Popular Northern Neck musicians locally made artisan wares for sale, OctoberT 6th, the Tavern's Burn the Bill and Pam Gurley will be preform as well as active artist studios. Mortgage BBQ Fundraiser will take a mix of boomer favorites, bluegrass, For a leisurely sit down lunch, place from 3:30 to 6:30 p.m. outside folk and blues, making for a fun come inside the Tavern Cafe´. The Free Print up to 8 X 10 on the Tavern Green. Tickets are evening of music not to be missed. volunteers of the Tavern Culinary With Photo Restoration & $25, if purchased in advance ($30 at Bill Gurley is a multi instrumentalists, Guild are serving homemade soups, This Ad Thru October able to move from fresh baked bread, quiche´, salads, Restorations - Frames guitar to banjo sandwiches, scones and sweet treats. Fine Art & Photographs Special on Farmers Market days, the to fiddle. Pam www.cornercottageframeshop.com Gurley has a warm, cafe´ fries up hot, glazed donuts. captivating voice. For on the go eating, breakfast They will be joined by several talented friends. So you RIVERVIEW INN can eat BBQ and (804) 224-4200 party while the sun goes down! Proceeds from this special fundraiser will go towards paying down the Tavern's mortgage. Tickets are available at the Tavern Gift Shoppe and Café, 24 Hawthorne Street open Thursday Colonial Beach, VA thru Saturday, www.colonialbeachriverview.com the door), and include BBQ—pulled 10 a.m. - 2 p.m., or on-line at www. Newly rennovated 21 room boutique inn, 1/2 block from the water and boardwalk. pork, sausage and chicken—made by RHHTFoundationinc.org. You can enjoy a warm welcome, beautiful accomodations, free wifi and so much more. 34 October 2018 Local Business Services

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The Wellness Place A Unique Fly- Chesapeake Mary H. Sudduth, LCSW In Drive-In Suzanne Souders, LCSW Restaurant/Motel Supermarket Banquet Facilities Catering Style Christel Earles, MSW Breakfast Bar Saturday & Deli Bakery Julia Self, MSW Sunday mornings. Seafood Hot Meals Salad Bar Quality Meats Fresh Produce Thanks Local Appointments Now Buffet Saturday nights. Delicious Homemade Deserts Available In Kilmarnock Open 7 Days A Week Propane, Ice and more Businesses Your Local Hometown Store 804-472-3706 7 a.m.-8 p.m. Sun-Thurs OPEN 7 DAYS A WEEK 622 Main Street, 7 a.m.-9 p.m. Fri., Sat. 3895 James Monroe Hwy. for Advertising Warsaw 2737 Grey's Point Rd. Topping, Colonial Beach, Va. 22443 www.wellnessplace1.com 804-758-2262 804-224-9310 Locally 36 October 2018 Wild Style Cuisine~ my husband’s old hunting topped with an egg, and came with (Korean Rice Bowl with Egg) partners. I asked the chef a little container of spicy hot sauce Marinade and Venison for his recommendation. to pour over just before digging 1 garlic clove, grated Following a brief in. The intense flavors, variety of 2 Tbsp. soy sauce interrogation style textures and bold yet balanced 1/2 tsp. crushed red pepper flakes conversation he hurried off spices won me over, and the beef 1 Tbsp. grated peeled fresh ginger to the kitchen telling the and chicken versions became my 1 Tbsp. light brown sugar waiter not to worry about usual lunch. The café closed about 2 tsp. toasted sesame oil writing down my order a year ago so I decided to try an at 1 tsp. chili oil because it wasn’t on the home version using venison. I think 1 lb. venison roast or steaks sliced menu. To the chef’s dismay they’d be pleased with the results. very thin (1/8”) my husband predictably Bibimbap features very thinly Combine garlic, soy sauce, ordered the Chicken sliced meat. The trick to getting even, pepper flakes, ginger, sugar, and Marsala. Neither of us thin slices is to use partially frozen sesame oil in a quart resealable was disappointed with our meat. Thaw a frozen venison roast or plastic bag or container. Add meat meals, and I enjoyed the steak in the refrigerator until a sharp to marinade, seal, and massage added element of surprise. knife can be inserted into the meat bag or shake container until the I made one exception and go all the way through with some meat is coated. Refrigerate at to my (loose) rule about resistance. If the meat hasn’t been least 1 hour or up to 8 hours. not ordering the same frozen, only 20-30 minutes in the Pickled Vegetables thing every time. There was freezer is enough to firm it up for nice, 4 medium carrots, peeled and this little café owned and neat, paper thin slices. This technique julienned (or peeled into thin strips By Wendy Hyde operated by a delightful works well with many kinds of meat. with a vegetable peeler) ’m not one of those people Korean couple right across the street Don’t be intimidated by the long 12 scallions, green tops removed and who orders the usual at from my old office. They frequently list of ingredients and steps. Make bottoms julienned (reserve tops for restaurants we frequent, offered daily specials and once I sure everything is measured and another use) but my husband is. In fact, discovered their Bibimbap I rarely ready before beginning (practice 1 c. rice vinegar the last time we visited our reverted to anything else. It was a your “mis en place”!) This recipe 1 c. water hometownI we went to a restaurant mixture of marinated beef slices, comes together quickly and 3 Tbsp. granulated sugar owned by a classically trained Italian sticky rice, crisp cooked seasonal makes a beautiful presentation. 1 1/2 tsp. salt pastry chef who happens to be one of vegetables, and raw garnishes Korean Venison Bibimbap 1 tsp. whole black peppercorns

Historic Lancaster Tavern RESTAURANT AND BED & BREAKFAST Sunday Brunch - 9 a.m. - 3 p.m. Lunch Mon. thru Sat. 11 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. Dinner Wed. -Thur.- Fri.- Sat. 5-9 p.m. (Reservations Recommended) All you can eat Breakfast for 12.95 on Sundays We will open Sunday nights for parties of 6 or more. Parties of 8 or more wanting to Dine in on Monday or Tuesday Athena will dress as a salad for evening must call 24 hours in advance and I will open for a Halloween to honor October’s private party. We cater on & off premises for any special event National Vegetarian Month. Joy Brenda Burch photo. you may have. Take Out Menu and Outdoor seating available. We also have two lovely suites upstairs you

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1 tsp. whole yellow mustard seeds serving bowls tablespoon of the mushrooms and spinach Combine carrots and scallions in on the rack, of oil and the around the side of the rice and return a 4 cup capacity heatproof jar. Bring and heat the remaining to the oven while cooking the eggs. remaining pickling ingredients to oven to 200°. meat. Keep Crack each egg into separate bowls, a boil over medium heat. Pour hot Heat 1 warm in leaving the yolks unbroken. Wipe liquid over vegetables and gently tablespoon of the oven. the skillet clean with paper towels, press to submerge everything, the vegetable In the add the remaining tablespoon oil loosely cover with plastic wrap and oil in a 12 same skillet to the skillet, and return to medium refrigerate for 30 minutes or up inch nonstick and off the high heat until shimmering. One to 2 days. Drain before serving. skillet over heat, add at a time and quickly, add the eggs Rice medium high one more to the skillet and try to keep them 1 1/2 c. uncooked medium grain heat until just tablespoon from touching. Season with salt rice, cooked according to package smoking. Add of oil and and pepper, cover, and cook until instructions the shiitakes garlic then the whites are set but the yolks Venison, Mushrooms, Spinach and and cook until return to are still runny, 2 to 3 minutes. Eggs soft, about medium Uncover the eggs and remove 8 oz. shiitake mushrooms, cleaned 3 minutes. high heat from the heat. Remove the bowls and sliced thin Transfer to an just until of rice from the oven and slide one 1 (10 oz.) package baby spinach oven safe bowl the garlic is egg on top of each bowl. Add the 3 garlic cloves, minced and keep warm fragrant then pickled vegetables and avocado 5 Tbsp. vegetable oil, divided in the oven next stir in the around the sides of the bowl, 1 avocado, sliced thin to the bowls. spinach and sprinkle with the toasted sesame 4 large eggs Heat another cook, tossing seeds, drizzle with sriracha (if 1 Tbsp. each of black and white tablespoon constantly, using) and serve immediately. sesame seeds, toasted of vegetable oil over medium high until wilted. Season with salt and Wendy Hyde photos. Gochujang or sriracha sauce heat and add half the meat. Cook pepper to taste and add to the platter All recipes included in this column (optional) and stir until no longer pink, about in a separate pile next to the meat. are original by Wendy Hyde unless Adjust an oven rack to the lower 3-4 minutes. Transfer to an oven Divide the rice between the four otherwise noted. She can be contacted middle position, place 4 ovensafe safe platter and repeat with another warm bowls, arrange equal portions at [email protected]. Poetry in Style~ Where Death Can Come and Storm No More

By Edward A. Vinson (put to music by Rosalind ch. Beneath our hands, above our lives, ch. He Is the Way, the Truth, and Life Hershkovitz and translated are His the Everlasting Arms. and no man enters but through Him. into Hebrew in Jerusalem where He catches them, He gathers us - to Unchanged He says, "You must, it was presented live hold us ever in His Love you must, be Born Again. in concert in I Have Heard Your Cries) to hold us ever, in His Love, in His Love. You must be Born, Again, of God. - 2 Samuel 14:14; John 3:3-8 You must be by My Spirit born...." They pass from us, flow back again In storm strange waves have boarded us released to God, alive once more In storm strange waves have boarded us, and we have seen their faces form in that vast dance where He declares, and we have seen their faces form a child, a mate, a parent, foam, "This Dance is Mine. This Dance is Mine. a child, a mate, a parent, foam, that [a friend and brother in the Lord, a sister, sweet] Come Dance with Me." pass between our fingers, gone. that slip between our fingers, gone. He is the Lover of our souls; Like water cupped within our hands, Like water held within our hands His crystal River swells with tides, we only hold them for so long; we only cup them for so long. casts Joy unspeakable on high they then flow back, into Return, They then flow back, into Return sings of a voyage beyond the door between our fingers, unto God. between our fingers, unto God. where Death can come, and storm, no more. 38 October 2018 Serving with Southern Style by Deborah 2 tablespoons plus 1/4 cup dry white In another shallow dish, combine the flour, Parmesan cheese, parsley wine or chicken broth, divided and salt. Coat chicken with flour 5 tablespoons lemon juice, divided mixture, dip in egg substitute mixture, 3 garlic cloves, minced then coat again with flour mixture. 1/8 teaspoon hot pepper sauce 2. In a large nonstick skillet, brown 1/2 cup all-purpose flour four chicken breast halves in 1-1/2 1/2 cup grated Parmesan cheese teaspoons oil for 3-5 minutes on each 1/4 cup minced fresh parsley side or until juices run clear. Remove 1/2 teaspoon salt and keep warm. Drain drippings. 3 teaspoons olive oil, divided Repeat with remaining chicken 2 tablespoons butter and oil. Remove and keep warm. 1. Flatten chicken to 1/4 inch 3. In the same pan, melt butter. Chicken Piccata with Lemon Sauce thickness. In a shallow dish, combine Add the remaining wine or broth 8 boneless skinless chicken breast the egg substitute, 2 tablespoons and lemon juice. Bring to a boil. 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1997 19’ Bayliner with 130 HP 1998 27 foot SeaRay I/O and 1997 Escort trailer. 1984 34 foot O’Day sailboat in excellent 270 Sundancer with 250HP Needs work. Make an offer. condition. One owner, sails regularly cleaned andMercruiser I/O and 1998 Load Rite Trailer. Asking $14,000. restitched, hauled, bottom cleaned and painted in 2016, a Kubota diesel, 150 Genoa, 110 Jib, Cruising Spinnaker, 110 Spinnaker, Auto helm, 1968 nine foot beautifully restored Dyer Dhow, Trailer not included A beautiful boat. REDUCED! Asking $17,000. but we have one that may be purchased reasonably. Asking $999. WE ARE SEEKING DONATIONS Interested? Have a boat with clear title that you wish to donate? Please contact Clif Ames via RFM 804-453-6529 Cool Fall nights are coming! Be prepared with a fire pit table from Rivah Interiors. On Display and On Sale Now!

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