Inside this issue

5 Brendan Blawie 15 “Shining a light” 29 Msgr. Walter Orlowski, 68 to be ordained Special Christmas Section Beloved Pastor of St. Matthew’s

ON THE COVER | CONTENTS Students from 7 MIKE DONOGHUE, CHARITIES 24 ENCOUNTERING GOD IN THE UPS & DOWNS All Saints School On leading the agency during crisis David D’Andrea writes about surviving abuse in Norwalk 14 WE STAND WITH CHRIST 26 BISHOP PROMULGATES FUNERAL NORMS Distributes $30 million New guidelines on all aspect of Catholic funerals prepare for Christmas by 17 AMAZON SMILE PROGRAM 30 ROUNDUP OF ABBREVIATED FALL SEASON Helps parishes shop for Christmas Columnist Don Harrison report on high school sports learning about 22 A YEAR OF HARDSHIP 32 VOCATIONS: FATHER ERIC SILVA Advent. A timeline of COVID-19 in the diocese The power of Spiritual Fatherhood 2 December 2020 Around the Diocese Advent: a time of active waiting!

By ELIZABETH CLYONS FAIRFIELD COUNTY—Parishes and schools throughout the diocese have been embracing the Season of Advent in joyful waiting. n

Coats and more… NEWTOWN— Newtown Council 185 collected 500+ coats and received donations for many more. They deliv- ered coats to the Thomas Merton Center in Bridgeport, the Danbury Family and Children’s Aid and the Newtown school children that have been designat- ed. Great work!

Operation Christmas Child NEW CANAAN—St. Aloysius School in New Canaan participated in Operation Christmas Child— Assumption School, graciously and Fairfield generously filling boxes with toys, FAIRFIELD—At school supplies, Assumption Catholic personal hygiene School in Fairfield, an products, and Advent wreath adorns the letters of love and hall in front of a statue of care to 86 children Our Blessed Mother. in need!

Lighting the Advent Wreath at St. Mary’s School BETHEL—At St. Mary School in Bethel, Father Corey lit the Advent wreath and shared a blessing with all the students and faculty. 3 December 2020 Around the Diocese

Jesse Tree Advent: a time of active waiting! Ornaments FAIRFIELD—The fifth-graders at St. Thomas Aquinas in Fairfield created their own Jesse Tree orna- ments, used to help tell the story of the Bible from creation to the birth of Jesus. The students read a differ- ent Bible story each day before hanging their ornaments on the tree!

Knights set up Creche BRIDGEPORT—Knights of Columbus St. Frances X Cabrini Council 4096 helped their pastor at St. Andrew Church in Bridgeport by putting up the Christmas decorations in the Church and setting up the crèche! Great work to all!

A Class Blessing! FAIRFIELD— Father Peter Cipriani blessed Assumption Fairfield students and faculty. Every prayer and blessing can make all the difference!

Joining Al’s Angels STRATFORD— Youth and adults from St. Mark Parish in Stratford recently helped assemble 1,600 bins of food for families in need with Al’s Angels! Please keep these families in your prayers this holiday season! 4 December 2020 Diocesan News Queen of Saints Hall is a COVID-19 testing site

By BRIAN D. WALLACE an altruistic spirit, which aligns rate drive-up testing on Saturdays 9 well with our company’s think- am–3 pm within the parking lot. BRIDGEPORT—To help com- ing.” Testing results are generally bat the spread of COVID-19 in the Brian Bellows, chief strat- available within 48 to 72 hours. greater Bridgeport area, the Queen egy officer of Progressive Progressive Diagnostics accepts all of Saints Hall of the Catholic Diagnostics, who is a parishio- forms of health insurance. Center is now being used as an ner of St. Catherine of Siena in Catholic Center building on-site location for both COVID- Trumbull and has served for many unites two eras of pandemic 19 and antibody tests. years on the board of St. Joseph The repurposing of part of the The Diocese of Bridgeport High School in Trumbull, has 75,000 square foot Catholic Center announced an agreement with been instrumental in forging the campus to respond to a pandemic Progressive Diagnostics, LLC of partnership, which may bring addi- unites two eras in the Church and Trumbull, a clinical medical labo- tional test sites to other diocesan in Bridgeport history. While the ratory, which has begun providing locations. facility now houses the Offices of high-volume, COVID-19 PCR Deacon Toole said the decision the Bishop and many diocesan min- (saliva) testing along with antibody to open Queen of Saints Hall for istries and programs, much of the

blood tests (beginning next week) testing is consistent with the con- building history is related to its role that are FDA EUA approved. siderable health and safety proto- as a contagious disease hospital. “We’re very proud of this initia- cols the diocese has introduced in First opened in 1917 in response tive, which is offering an essential its parishes and schools since the to the Spanish flu, it was hailed as service to help flatten the curve beginning of the pandemic. a modern hospital, the structure and safeguard lives in our commu- He said that Progressive was known to generations of area nity,” said Deacon Patrick Toole, Diagnostics has designed a sys- residents as Englewood Hospital, as episcopal vicar for administration tem that ensures all patients are it treated successive waves of scarlet of the Diocese of Bridgeport. socially distant and professional fever, mumps, measles and polio. “Masks, testing and contact specialized cleaning is performed The building was expanded tracing are essential until there is a between visits and every evening. again in 1962 when the Diocese widely available vaccine, and this As an added measure, the HVAC of Bridgeport purchased the site offers a timely new option for peo- units that supply the heat/ac to the as the home of Notre Dame Girls ple, particularly as the pandemic is hall are being equipped with state High School after the city closed the expected to surge over the next few of the art Air Scrubber ActivePure hospital. months,” said Deacon Toole. Technology to purify the air and According to officials at the Curt Kuliga, entrepreneur, reduce exposure to bacteria and University of Connecticut Health CEO and founder of Progressive viruses, FDA EUA approved. Center, the 1918 Spanish flu has Diagnostics in Trumbull, said, “Their primary concern is the been described as the catastrophe “Our whole purpose is to expand safety and health of their patients, against which all modern pandem- access to quality affordable care. Catholic Center employees and the ics are measured. Health experts We are simply blessed to be in community. Accordingly, they imple- believe that as many as 100 million partnership with the Diocese of mented policies and procedures to people around the globe may have Bridgeport and the forward-think- prevent the spread of the COVID-19 perished in the outbreak—which is ing leadership of Deacon Pat virus,” Deacon Toole said. believed to have infected up to 40 Toole, Bishop Frank J. Caggiano Queen of Saints Hall provides percent of the earth’s population. and many of the clergy and staff, a separate entrance for those who The Spanish flu had a grim who are committed to expanding come to the building for test- efficiency that rivaled the medie- care in their communities during ing. The side door to the hall, adja- val plague. Many of the 1918-19 the pandemic.” cent to the parking lot, also allows victims woke up in full health and “The collaboration with the for easy access, while the rest of were dead within 24 hours—dying Church will not only provide the 75,000 square foot building of suffocation after their lungs filled access to FDA EUA authorized remains off-limits. with fluid. Eight thousand people PCR saliva testing, but it will also All testing is by appointment died in Connecticut during the last add jobs as we continue to expand only with times available between four months of 1918. patient collection centers through- 9 am-5 pm Monday through The Catholic Center is located at out the diocese. The Church has Friday during the week and a sepa- 238 Jewett Avenue in Bridgeport. n 5 December 2020 Diocesan News Diocesan News Deacon Blawie to be ordained to the priesthood

By ELIZABETH CLYONS in Rome and was on pastoral assignment at St. Thomas More BRIDGEPORT—Bishop parish in Darien. Frank J. Caggiano will ordain In the fall, he returned to Deacon Brendan Blawie to the Pontifical North American the priesthood on Saturday, College in Rome to continue January 2, 2021 at 11 am at St. his formation and begin his Augustine’s Cathedral. Licentiate of Sacred Theology Blawie was ordained as a tran- in Dogmatics at the Pontifical sitional deacon on June 20, 2020 University of St. Thomas alongside Guy Dormévil. Aquinas. For transitional deacons, the “I am filled with gratitude and following year included pastoral, joy to have arrived at this point liturgical and an educational in my life, to lay down all that preparation period for the priest- I am, to be configured fully to hood. Christ as His priest,” says Blawie. Attendance at the ordination “I heard the call to ‘leave my net will be limited to immediate fam- Deacon Brendan Blawie and follow Him’ (Matthew 4:20), ily members and other invited and this ordination is the fulfill- guests in order to conform to the ment of years of discernment, public health recommendations being sent to the Pontifical North prayer, and study. But it is only for returning to indoor Mass American College in Rome where the beginning of what I pray will during the pandemic. he spent three years. In 2019, be a fruitful lifetime of service in Brendan Blawie was born and he received his theology degree, Christ’s vineyard. Please pray for raised in Newtown, Conn., and magna cum laude, from the me as I prepare to approach the received all of his Sacraments Pontifical Gregorian University altar of our Lord!” n at St. Rose of Lima Parish. He is the middle of three children, with an older brother, Jack, and a younger sister, Marian. His 2 Corinthians 9:15 parents, Karen and John Blawie, raised him in the faith, although he admits to not thinking much about being a priest as a young boy. Thanks be unto God Brendan loves sports, having played football and basketball through high school and has for his indescribable gift. earned the rank of Eagle Scout.

“It was in high school that I “As we celebrate the seasons of Advent and Christmas may Without the help of compassionate individuals like you, began to actually learn about and we reflect on the beautiful and holy gift our Father gave us; we would not be able to serve all those who turn to us love our faith,” he shares. the greatest gift to humankind. Let us share His goodness for assistance. Brendan enrolled in the Corps with others as we continue to face urgent needs. of Cadets at Virginia Tech in the As we share our gifts with friends and family, let us The diocese has served thousands of people through remember those less fortunate than us. Marine Corps ROTC program, the Annual Catholic Appeal, programs for food, housing, In this season of giving, please accept my profound gratitude before transferring to Franciscan educational assistance, psychological support and spiritual for your great generosity throughout the year. Please know that University of Steubenville where consolation during the Covid-19 pandemic. you are in my prayers as I wish you and your families a most blessed , he earned his degree in account- holy Christmas and a Happy New Year.” ing. While there, he still pursued — Bishop Frank Caggiano a commission with the Marine Corps, graduating from Officer’s Candidate School in Quantico, Va. the summer of 2012. This fulfilled a dream he had from his childhood of being a Marine Officer, but in the end, it was clear to him that it may have been his plan, but not the Lord’s. Instead of commissioning as a 2nd Lieutenant in the Marine Corps, Brendan entered seminary for the Diocese of Bridgeport. Donate at 2020ACABridgeport.com or call 203.416.1470.

He completed my two years of Does your company participate in a matching gift option? Your gift may be doubled or tripled, contact the Development Office for more information. pre-theological studies at St. Thank you for your generous support, may God bless you during this most holy season. John Fisher seminary, before 6 December 2020 Annual Catholic Appeal Opportunities for year-end giving 2020 has inspired unprecedent- Rittman said the generosity and In addition, despite the year’s ed charitable giving throughout faith of parishioners in the dio- economic decline, the stock market the nation and in the Diocese of cese through the Annual Catholic is close to historic highs. The S&P Bridgeport despite the significant chal- Appeal helps change lives every 500 market index has almost tripled lenges brought on by the COVID-19 day. When thinking about year-end in the last ten years, which means pandemic. Many answered God’s giving and serving others, there are investors have seen healthy gains in call to help provide for those in severe a number of programs and min- their portfolios. need. he Annual Catholic Appeal istries in the diocese through the Rather than sell appreciated supports the people of the diocese in Appeal that meet the greater needs stocks or investment assets, pay a the critical areas of charity, education of helping the poor through works capital gain tax and make a cash and pastoral ministries. The faithful of charity, proclaiming the Gospel gift of the proceeds to a charity, you rose to the challenge and helped oth- through vibrant faith and pastoral can instead donate the appreciated ers through their financial contribu- formation and through Catholic investment directly to the charity tions and volunteer work. education in our communities. by transferring it “in kind” and not The final weeks of 2020 give us You should contact your finan- incur any tax on the gain while one more chance to express our gen- cial planner, accountant or tax enjoying the full potential deductible erosity and support initiatives and lawyer to discuss specific strategies, value of the entire gift. charities whose work is a manifesta- and now is the time to begin if you Tax reform several years ago did tion of our faith in action,” said Joe haven’t already. not eliminate charitable deductions, Gallagher, chief development officer One of the most important rea- so donors may still offset portions of the diocese. Gallagher said that sons to give before the year ends of their income through cash dona- as 2020 comes to a close, it is worth is that the 2020 CARES Act tax tions. However, even though 2021 considering year-end giving opportu- incentives are due to expire. For may continue to see an extraordinary nities. Despite the turmoil and crises those who take a standard deduc- need for charitable giving, future tax that have characterized the past year, tion, the Coronavirus Aid, Relief reform legislation could likely curtail it offers some of the best reasons to and Economic Security Act allows some of the tax benefits that current- make charitable donations, accord- a one-time, above-the-line deduction ly exist. Clearly, this year offers an ing to financial experts. of up to $300 for every cash contri- opportunity that could end, so now Pamela S. Rittman, director bution to a charitable organization. is the time to take advantage of it. of the Annual Catholic Appeal After this provision ends, you will Pamela Rittman in the said that during the Advent and be required to itemize in order to Development Office is able to assist Christmas seasons, inspired by the deduct charitable donations. you and provide more information giving spirt, many people not only For people who itemize their on the programs and ministries you share gifts with their families and deductions, CARES allows them may direct your gift to. She can be friends but direct donations to orga- to deduct up to 100 percent of their reached at [email protected] or nizations that hold meaning, grati- adjusted gross income by making 203.416.1479. When planning a gift tude and hope for others. cash donations to qualified charitable through financial strategies, the first “Some wait until the end of the organizations. When the act expires, step is to consult your tax advisor year when they review their philan- the maximum allowable will return or financial representative for more thropic and financial plans and make to 60 percent of your adjusted gross information before you make your decisions based on their annual incen- income. In both cases, in order gift so you receive the benefits while tive bonuses or appreciated stock to to quality, the gifts must be made supporting what means the most to help with tax benefits,” she said. directly to qualified charities. you, she said. n

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W C : Blessed Gifts supports your faith CATHOLIC CHARITIES serves over 10,000 individuals each year through nutrition, counseling and housing programs. in action through ministries across

CATHOLIC EDUCATION supports the overall good of Catholic schools, the Diocese of Bridgeport. its students and programs through supplies, textbooks, technology and tuition assistance. To make a gift, SAINT JOHN FISHER SEMINARY prepares college-aged men and young please visit adults for ordination to the priesthood by providing tuition assistance, prayer BG books, groceries and local travel expenses. or call QUEEN OF THE CLERGY PRIEST RETIREMENT HOME supports retired priests who continue to serve. Gifts provide meals, building maintenance, C cleaning and utility services. 238 Jewett Avenue | Bridgeport, Connecticut➤ 06606 continued on page 7 7 December 2020 Catholic Charities Essential work in the crisis By BRIAN D. WALLACE

BRIDGEPORT—When Mike Donoghue took helm of Catholic Charities on December 1, last year, he barely had time to get to know staff and review the agency’s many programs when the pandemic hit. Within days of the state’s shut- down orders, the number of people coming forward to Merton Center in Bridgeport and New Covenant Center in Stamford tripled—and that was just the beginning of the demand for service. Donoghue, who retired from a successful Wall Street career in finance and investment, was no stranger to the non-profit world. He made sure to carve time out of his busy work schedule to volunteer in soup kitchens, serve on boards and give back to the Mike and Cece Donoghue community, but he walked into a crisis of historic proportions. Donoghue, a Dartmouth sustained by the commitment of his “It has been a real interesting, graduate and parishioner of St. staff to mission and the generosity challenging and invigorating year. Aloysius, said he has witnessed of donors at all levels. I was just getting settled in and a first-hand how tough the pandem- For example, many volunteers sense of the organization before ic has been on the people least who could no longer safely work the void hit and so many things able to protect themselves and in the soup kitchens began making had to be done at once. This is our their children. Many are service sandwiches and preparing food super bowl,” says Donoghue who workers who immediately lost at home, which they could safely along with his Catholic Charities their jobs in restaurants, hotels, drop off at lunch time. And par- team has more than risen to the and domestic settings. Some had ishes came to the rescue by con- challenge. to make the choice between pay- ducting their own food drives and Priority number one was feed- ing rent or buying food. partnering with Catholic Charities ing the people who were suddenly He said the hardest hit group to feed the hungry. jobless and hungry and were turn- has been recent immigrants—many Donoghue said that he has been ing to Catholic Charities in record of whom are Catholics and mem- overwhelmed by the generosity numbers soup kitchens for help. bers of parishes in Bridgeport, of large and small donors who Beyond dealing with the surging Stamford, Norwalk and Danbury. have stepped up with direct finan- demand for meals and take-home They pay taxes but do not qualify cial support and by giving to the groceries, Donoghue had to con- for many government service and Annual Catholic Appeal (ACA). tend with the loss of the hundreds as a result are very vulnerable While the pandemic taken a bite of volunteers who could no longer Holding it all together has been out of traditional fund raisers, safely work at the nutrition sites. a staff of 130 people at work in the agency has been creative with Many were elderly or semi-retired 30 programs throughout Fairfield virtual events and has also bene- and at greatest risk for complica- County, and Donoghue said he is fitted from contributions that have tions from the virus—which put incredibly proud of the work done significantly helped to narrow what incredible demand on the small being done by his staff under diffi- he feared would be a $2 million professional staff. cult conditions. budget gap in the crisis. The staff also had to deal with “We have a small but really Donoghue said he’s grateful to the challenge of moving all food dedicated team of employees at all those who have supported the serving operations outside in order these facilities and they’ve been work of Catholic Charities, and he to protect guests and observe incredible. They’ve been running believes that many people across the appropriate social distancing with into the fire every day since pan- diocese would be pleased to know the long lines that were forming. demic started. While we were how much good work is done in the At the same time, many people sequestered at home tying to be name of the Catholic Church. were struggling with a depression safe, they’ve put themselves at “It’s a collaborative effort by and anxiety that escalated into the risk show up every day to feed the a tremendous number of people. need for counseling and behavioral homeless, deliver meals to seniors, Certainly Catholics around the health services. Many poor and reach people on the streets through diocese should be proud of our working families in particular had our Homeless outreach team and work—a lot of people of all faiths nowhere else to turn and relied on provide case management and working together for one purpose Catholic Charities, the largest private housing service.” to help the least of our brothers service agency in Fairfield County, Although the challenges are his- and sisters through a really difficult for professional health, he said. toric, Donoghue said he has been time.” n 8 December 2020 Catholic Charities Dr. LaGratta receives award DANBURY—During this year’s annual Catholic Charities’ Danbury Celebrity Breakfast, Dr. Roger LaGratta was honored for serving on the Advisory Board of Catholic Charities of Northern Fairfield County for 40 years. “I deeply appreciate your rec- ognition,” remarked Dr. Roger LaGratta while accepting his honor. “I’m humbled by it and proud of the fact that I’ve been able to help to serve the greater Danbury area for the past 40 years.” “I would like to thank all the folks whom I’ve had the privi- lege to work with on the board and in the community who have generously supported all of the wonderful programs of Catholic Charities,” Dr. LaGratta said. “It has been a real blessing for me and I thank them from the bottom of my heart.” Dr. Roger LaGratta Dr. LaGratta serves as the pres- ident of the board and has accom- to serving as president of the ortho- at St. Joseph Parish, Danbury, they plished incredible work on behalf pedic section of the Connecticut believe strongly in the mission of of Catholic Charities and its pro- State Medical Society. He has Catholic Charities. grams in the Danbury area. Roger been a board member for Catholic (If you would like to learn more LaGratta, M.D., is a retired Charities of Danbury for approxi- about how you can become involved in orthopedic surgeon who is the past mately 40 years and has previously the work of Catholic Charities and its president of Danbury Orthopedic served as its president. He is a recip- mission, please email Mike Donoghue Associates. He has also served as ient of the Mary Dolce Memorial at [email protected]. For more chief of orthopedics and as chair- award and of the St. Augustine information on Catholic Charities, its man of the department of surgery Medal of Service. Together with his programs and services, visit the agency at Danbury Hospital, in addition wife, Constance, who is a trustee website at www.ccfairfield.org.) n Mike Donoghue on Catholic Charities:

Concerns Going forward: economically and could just In fact, people of other “Cold weather, keeping move home to work. Our staff is faiths have also stepped up and employees and clients safe… feeding people on the front line, we’ve received help in so many and finding the funding to pro- risking their lives and health different ways.” vide services. People have been every day to do essential work.” Support generous but COVID-19 is not “What has really helped over—the needs are greater me get through the last than ever. year has been having my wife Cece with me, by my side, seven days a week, working as a volunteer right alongside me. She also chairs the Knights of Malta in Connecticut and they have The great un-equalizer: Heartwarming response: stepped up to partner with us “Fairfield County is a place “It has been heart-warming in feeding the poor. of have and have-nots. We’re from my position to see good- I’m also grateful to the number one in the U.S in ness of so many people at times staff and to my predecessor terms of income inequality and of crisis like this. It’s a beautiful Al Barber who is now chair- unfortunately COVID has been thing to see how incredibly gen- ing Foundations in Charity. the great un-equalizer. People erous so many individuals and Al is always ready to roll up n on the high end are doing fine parishes. his sleeves and help.” 9 December 2020 Parish News A special welcoming committee greets faithful at St. Mary

By JOE PISANI group also took it upon themselves the pulpit, I often ask people to to wear uniforms and are easily acknowledge the essential work STRAMFORD—At St. Mary of recognizable in their black suits they do for us with applause.” Stamford Parish, they have a special and white shirts. Early in October, as a gesture of way of letting people know everyone “They are a constant presence his appreciation, Father arranged a is welcome in the House of God. and spiritually committed to their cookout for the group outside the Some 40 men and women, work, and they truly love the rectory, with the appropriate social who are part of a Welcoming church,” Father said. “They are distancing. Committee ministry at St. Mary proud of the work they do and they The Welcoming Committee and St. Benedict-Our Lady of do it well. They are a very good is present at every Mass—at St. Monserrat, greet people at every example for others in unifying our Mary on Sunday at 8, 10 and Mass...but there’s a lot more churches because they are seen in noon; and at St. Benedict on to it than just saying “hello” at public working together.” Saturday at 4 in English and 6 in the door, especially during the In fact, they are so spiritually Spanish. They will also participate COVID-19 pandemic. committed to their ministry that at a new Mass in English for chil- “They are the face of the par- they gather after Mass and pray dren that will begin on December ish,” said pastor Father Gustavo together and hold regular meetings 6 at 11 am at St. Benedict.

WELCOMING COMMITTEE—The 40-member Welcoming Committee of St. Mary Parish in Stamford are “the face of the parish” says pastor Father Gustavo Falla, and they are also a force for unity in bringing together parishes of St. Mary and St. Benedict-Our Lady of Monserrrat who have come together to form the new parish after the recent merger.

Falla. “There is always someone to discuss spiritual matters. Father One other indispensable task there to welcome you, give you a occasionally will give talks to them they perform is to bring prayer bulletin and help if you need assis- about the faith and makes time petitions to Father from the people tance. They pick up the collections available to have personal conver- who come to Mass. and help set up before Mass.” sations with members about issues “Before Mass, some people will With the regulations for protec- concerning them. They have also come with different requests for tion during COVID-19, they also invited guest speakers to come. prayer, and they go to the ushers and take temperatures and guide people “It is interesting to see how they say, ‘Would you please tell Father through the process of registering, are very compassionate, and when I need a prayer for this or that,’” he not to mention sanitizing the pews one person in the group has a hard- said. “They write it out and bring it and kneelers after every Mass. ship, they join together and reach to me in the sacristy so that it can be “They have been very effective out to help,” he said. included in the petitions. Someone and are dedicated and faithful to Both parishes have had a histo- may be having surgery or celebrating their tasks,” Father said, adding ry of ushers, but since their merger a birthday or even coming to the that they even deal with disgrun- and the pandemic, their ranks have church for the first time.” tled visitors. One Sunday, a family grown, and they assist at every On a recent Sunday, a family was upset when they discovered function of the parish. came to Mass with their newborn they were supposed to register, At St. Benedict-Our Lady of baby to observe a tradition com- so the ushers got involved and Monserrat, the Blessed Sacrament mon in Central America, where handled the situation before it is exposed from 8 am to 8 pm 40 days after the birth, the parents escalated. every Sunday, and the ushers are bring the baby to church as a The members of the ministry, there before the church opens. “Presentation,” just as Jesus was who come from both churches, They have rotating shifts through- presented in the Temple. have also been a force for unity out the day until after 8 pm, so that “The baby and the family came following the recent merger. Father someone is always there to adore together and asked the priest to says that the language differences the Blessed Sacrament. introduce their child before God,” have not been a barrier to com- “I could not open the doors of Father said. “The parishioners municating because they share a the church if I didn’t have ushers,” clapped and said the Hail Mary common commitment to the parish Father said. “They have a very and Glory Be and then I blessed and love to work together. The important responsibility, and from the family.” n 10 December 2020 Diocesan News Father Lenox named Episcopal Vicar for Liturgy BRIDGEPORT—Father Peter bishop said he asked Father Lenox has been named episcopal Lenox to pursue the degree vicar for liturgy and worship. The because of his intellectual abil- appointment was made by Bishop ities, great skills as an accom- Frank J. Caggiano, effective plished musician and his unwav- October 1, 2020. ering fidelity to the Church and its “Father Lenox assumes this teachings. important new ministry well qual- Father Lenox was ordained in ified to provide assistance both to 2000 in St. Augustine Cathedral me and to the pastors and pasto- by Bishop Edward M. Egan. He ral leaders of our diocese,” said served at St. Andrew Parish in Bishop Caggiano. He will be of Bridgeport, St. Mary Parish in great assistance to all in matters Ridgefield and St. Benedict-Our of liturgy, worship and sacred Lady of Montserrat Parish in music.” Stamford. In making the announcement, He was named administrator Bishop Caggiano said that Father of St. Patrick Parish in Bridgeport Lenox will also continue to serve in 2011, and became administra- as administrator of Sacred Heart tor of the Cathedral Parish when Parish in Georgetown. St. Patrick’s and St. Augustine Father Lenox recently Father Peter Lenox were combined into one parish in returned from Rome, having com- 2012. In June 30, 2014 pleted two licentiates, both from liturgical consultants in the work After returning from his the Athenaeum of Saint Anselm: of the Buildings and Sacred Arts studies in Rome, Father Lenox a master’s (second level) in Commission. was appointed pastor of St. Liturgical Music and a licentiate In Rome, Father Lenox Joseph Parish in South Norwalk in Sacred Liturgy (SSL). enrolled at the Benedictine and guided the parish through The bishop said that given the University, the Pontifico Ateneo the merger with St. Ladislaus ongoing effects of the pandemic, Sant’ Anselmo and at Pontifical Parish, which Bishop Caggiano he has asked Father Lenox to Institute for Sacred Music. The announced on June 19, 2020. n use the balance of the current pastoral year (through the sum- mer of 2021) to assist with the revision of diocesan sacramental guidelines which is now under- EDITOR’S CHOICE way, and to serve as one of the

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CLERGY Editorial APPOINTMENTS

The Most Reverend Frank J. Caggiano, Bishop of Bridgeport, has made EDITORIAL the following clergy appointments: Vicar General REVEREND MONSIGNOR Christmas Vigil THOMAS W. POWERS, In order to accommodate the large numbers expected to attend Mass Reappointed as Vicar General over Christmas, Bishop Frank J. Caggiano has issued a one-time exemption for an additional five-year term. Effective date was November 15. for Christmas Vigil Masses to start at 2 pm on Thursday December 24. The earlier time will enable pastors to schedule more Masses and give the faith- Pastor ful additional options to worship safely and with proper social distancing. REVEREND MICHAEL K. The bishop said that the pandemic has presented numerous challeng- JONES, from Pastor of Saint es to worship, and that pastors throughout the diocese are working to Lawrence Parish, Shelton, to invite the faithful to the celebration of the Nativity with a tone of hope- Pastor, Saint Mary Parish, fulness and joy. We are extremely grateful to all of our priests for their Greenwich. Effective date is faithful and devout service throughout the year, and for their prepara- January 31, 2021. tions for the coming Holy Days of Christmas. Episcopal Vicar “Some will return to church on Christmas for the first time, others will long for the pre-pandemic time when they could simply ‘show up’ for REVEREND AUGUSTINE Mass without signing up or signing in,” the bishop said, adding that the NGUYEN, appointed to contin- celebration of Christmas provides us with an opportunity to extend a sin- ue as ex officio member of the cere welcome and ensure an environment that is safe and reverent for all. Presbyteral Council representing the In announcing the earlier Christmas vigil time, the bishop reiter- Episcopal Vicar for the Vietnamese Catholic Community. Effective ated that people should wear masks and register in advance for Mass date was November 4, for a term of to enable parishes to plan and safeguard health. Because of the added three years. Masses, it’s important to check your parish bulletin and website for the new Mass times and registration information. Parochial Vicar REVEREND FRANCIS ELDRIDGE, SA, from Saint Mary A Covid Year Parish, Stamford, to Saint Peter As the second surge of the pandemic takes hold, many of us are now Parish, Danbury. Effective date was beginning to know friends, families and neighbors who have tested pos- November 15. itive or are suffering with the virus. Since March, the pandemic has dis- Retirement rupted our lives—closing churches and schools and relegating us to the onerous and discouraging state of living behind a mask. Yet up until REVEREND MONSIGNOR this point, we have been fortunate enough to be able to work at home, CHRISTOPHER J. WALSH, have access to food and remain relatively untouched by the illness. to Retirement. Monsignor will However, it has been a much more difficult—even tragic—story for continue to reside at St. Charles many others. In his interview with Fairfield County Catholic (page 6) Borromeo Parish in Bridgeport. Mike Donoghue, executive director of Catholic Charities, points out Effective date is January 2, 2021 that for the poor and most vulnerable, COVID-19 has brought imme- REVEREND BOSE RAJ diate and lasting hardship: illness, loss of jobs, waiting in line for food, SELVARAJ, to retirement. Father constant anxiety and increasing uncertainty about their future. will reside at the Catherine Dennis For the past ten months, COVID-19 has consumed the attention of Keefe Queen of The Clergy our schools, parishes and diocesan ministries. (see timeline on page 20) Residence in Stamford. Effective Much planning and many resources have been directed to safeguarding date is January 1, 2021. people while keeping our Churches and schools open. The good news Out of Diocese is that the protocols put in place by the diocese have protected lives and enabled us to continue with the vital work of the Church. To date there REVEREND PAUL N. CHECK, is no known transmission of the virus in any diocesan church or school. will begin full time ministry at the Special thanks go to Deacon Pat Toole, Episcopal Vicar for Shrine of Our Lady of Guadalupe Administration, who working closely with Bishop Caggiano has been in La Crosse, Wisconsin. Effective the architect of diocesan policies that have saved lives while ensuring date is January 1, 2021 for a term reverent worship and essential sacramental services, and to Dr. Steven of five years. Cheeseman who has worked around the clock to keep our schools open Diocesan Vocations Team while safeguarding the health of children and families. REVEREND CHRISTOPHER While responding to the crisis caused by the virus has been the focus J. FORD, appointed to the Chair of much of the year 2020, what is equally remarkable is the considerable of Vocations. Father Ford will achievement of the diocese and its parishes under extremely difficult and continue to minister as part-time historically challenging conditions. The sacramental life of the Church Parochial Vicar at St. Gregory the has remained vibrant; faith formation, Catholic education, and other Great Parish in Danbury. Effective essential ministries have found innovative ways to continue their work, date was December 1 and the faithful in our parishes have reached out to the most vulnerable with extraordinary generosity and service. Sabbatical As we move swiftly toward the end of the year and await the immi- REVEREND JOHN J. INSERRA, nent arrival of the vaccine, let us also find great hope and joy in the extended Sabbatical through coming of Christmas. And let us pray that the light of Christ will shine January 31, 2021. through the darkness of our present moment and guide us into a New Reverend Francis T. Hoffmann Year of faith, health, and gratitude for our lives. n Vicar for Clergy, December, 2020 12 December 2020 Editorial A childlike faith

wide at the imperfect perfectness of our freshly cut Christmas tree, and A Young Woman’s Voice our hearts lift as each light comes to life. By Elizabeth Clyons When Jesus welcomed the chil- dren to Him in Matthew 19:13-15, Libby Clyons is Communications he admired their complete trust. Associate for the Diocese of Jesus said, “Let the children come Bridgeport. She can be reached to me, and do not prevent them; for at [email protected]. the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these” (Matthew 19:14). Can we have the same trust, even during these uncertain times? hile teaching his dis- lighthearted yet uncomplicated love And what does that childlike faith ciples the importance story. They may not be the most look like for us? Perhaps it’s that of a humble heart, influential works of literature ever cartoon, or that movie, or that WJesus said, “Amen, produced, but after a steady stream song that brings you back to a I say to you, unless you turn and of frightening news, it’s nice to pick happy memory. There aren’t par- become like children, you will up something or do something that ties to plan this year, and not as not enter the kingdom of heaven” makes you remember what it was many eyes will be gazing upon our (Matthew 18:3). like to be a wide-eyed kid, with com- lights display, so what will we use I have noticed a lot of things plete trust that everything was going that time to focus on instead? about myself during the coronavirus to be alright. There is so much that is diffi- pandemic, but one of them has been For this same my tendency to revert back to things reason, some that promise comfort and simplicity people (includ- “For this same reason, some peo- during uncertain times. ing myself) At the beginning of the pandem- enjoy a good ple (including myself) enjoy a good ic, I couldn’t watch anything but Hallmark Channel funny, lighthearted cartoons. Give Christmas movie. Hallmark Channel Christmas movie. me slapstick humor and animation, We know the plot I didn’t need to think about anything is simple, we know We know the plot is simple, we know more dramatic than that. the characters are As time has passed, I’ve been cheesy, and we the characters are cheesy, and we able to cycle back in a steady absolutely know amount of regular tv and movies what will happen absolutely know what will happen in (although you won’t find me watch- in the end—but, ing Contagion or Pandemic anytime I think, that may the end—but, I think, that may just soon), but I definitely find myself just be the draw of holding onto things that brought me it. There is some- be the draw of it.” comfort as a child—whether that be thing comforting the Amy Grant Christmas album we in knowing what is used to listen to while putting up the going to happen, in the familiarity of cult and scary and complicated in tree, or a walk to a familiar nearby it all, especially at a time when we the world today. We all know the orchard with my mom. can’t say that about very much. Christmas story…and we know Instead of reaching for books Can we approach the Christmas what is going to happen, in fact that of extreme literary prowess and season in a similar way? Let’s lean is the very basis of our faith. That complicated prose, I find myself into all the joy of it, just like we did should bring us comfort and joy this reaching for the fun mystery or the as children. May our eyes grow season! n 13 December 2020 Editorial Just in time for Christmas —political grudges he growled. It was a piece of Swimming Upstream wisdom he got in Alcoholics Anonymous. By Joe Pisani We’re Christians first, not Democrats or Republicans. Politics is the problem...not the solution. At least that’s my opin- Joe Pisani has been a writer ion, and I’m freely expressing and editor for 30 years. it until the thought police come to take me away or Facebook or Twitter censor me. ome of my relatives and thought they were acting in the We should always pray for friends have put nasty cause of social justice. the grace to put Christ the King warnings on social media A debilitating spiritual virus before any civic authority. that go something like is spreading across the land, Turmoil erupts when S Catholics put politics before this: “If you voted for——(fill in which has the side-effect of turn- the blank), you’re not worthy to ing people into Pharisees, many what our religion teaches. be my friend or relative, so I’m of whom think they’re without Political agendas are no substi- disowning you. Don’t ever talk sin and are ready and willing to tute for faith. to me again!” cast the first stone. I don’t ever Over the years, I’ve told my Just in time for Christmas. recall a time so troubled when kids that when they go face to Even crazier, I’ve seen col- people condemned anyone and face with Christ and have to umnists and newscasters issue everyone who didn’t think the explain what they did, it won’t virtually the same ultimatum: way they do—not even during strengthen their case to say, “You’re not worthy to be my the Vietnam era. “But the New York Times said mother, father, sister or brother Jesus didn’t have much it was OK!” or “A lot of people because of what you did blah, patience for people who went are doing it!” blah, blah. I can never forgive around passing judgement on If you want a Christmas with you! Repent before it’s too late!” Politics always brings out the worst in us, but now it seems “I’m convinced many families canceled to have ignited a sort of mass hysteria that eerily reminds me Thanksgiving get-togethers not because of COVID of Dostoevsky’s novel “The Possessed.” Everyone’s scream- but because of political differences. Christmas ing, “You’re dead to me!” For a while, I considered could surely suffer the same fate even though doing the same thing because I could have saved a lot of money it should be a time for peace on Earth, by not sending out Christmas cards, but then I gave in to the good will toward Democrats and Republicans... better angels of our nature and sent out cards with a pro-life and Independents.” message. I’m convinced many families everyone else. Why? Because peace on Earth and in your canceled Thanksgiving get-to- judgement is reserved for God family, then put Christ first and gethers not because of COVID alone—not political activists, concentrate on your own flaws, but because of political differ- not televangelists, not college not everyone else’s. ences. Christmas could surely professors and certainly not One last thought. Look suffer the same fate even though commentators and columnists. for the good in people, not it should be a time for peace “Do not judge, or you too the bad. In his first inaugural on Earth, good will toward will be judged. For in the same address, newly elected President Democrats and Republicans... way you judge others, you will Abraham Lincoln offered this and Independents. be judged,” he said. consolation to the defeated The self-righteous across the He also said that before we Democrats, many of whom sup- land are doing a lot of finger start looking for the splinter in ported slavery: “We must not be pointing, and it reminds me our brother’s eye, we should go enemies. Though passion may of the story about the woman to the ophthalmologist and have have strained, it must not break caught in adultery, where all the him check out the beam in our our bonds of affection. The mys- holier-than-thou people were own eye. tic chords of memory will swell ready to stone her to death until I still remember my father when again touched, as surely Jesus uttered his timeless chal- dressing me down when I was they will be, by the better angels lenge, “Let he (or she) without passing judgment on my sister of our nature.” sin cast the first stone.” What’s for some indiscretion or other. It’s time to call out to those terrifying is they probably “Take your own inventory,” angels for help. n 14 December 2020 We Stand With Christ $30 million back to parishes and foundations BRIDGEPORT—Bishop their capital campaigns in 2021. sible to deduct up to 100 percent of Caggiano recently announced that Many parishes in the redemption their adjusted gross income in 2020 the We Stand With Christ capital phase began construction on their for charitable giving, up from 60 campaign has already distributed capital projects earlier this spring, percent last year. This may create an $30 million back to parishes and the as they began receiving funds back opportunity to pre-pay their pledges three diocesan foundations for faith, from We Stand With Christ. and receive a 2020 tax benefit. All education and charity. “Since the COVID-19 pandemic donors should consult their tax advi- As of September 30, 2020, the began in March, We Stand With sor to see if this applies to them. We Stand With Christ Board of Christ has received over $10 million Pastors receive monthly reports Directors had authorized $16.1 in payments on campaign pledges,” on the redemption progress of their million to be disbursed to parishes, said Robert O’Brien, capital campaign parishes, and some have designat- while $13.4 million was approved director. “This extraordinary generos- ed a staff member or volunteer to to return to the foundations. All the ity has allowed parishes to continue oversee pledge redemption. One campaign funds are processed by the capital projects they had planned. example is the Basilica of St. John a third-party vendor, and the We But in order to continue, parishes are the Evangelist in Stamford, where Stand With Christ board approves relying upon donors to fulfill their We volunteer Margarita Ucero assists distributions to parishes and founda- Stand With Christ commitments.” parishioners in the process. tions on a quarterly basis. According to O’Brien, funds Msgr. Stephen DiGiovanni asked The campaign, which is the most pledged to We Stand With Christ are her to oversee the redemption of the successful in the 67-year history of being redeemed according to their We Stand With Christ capital cam- the Diocese of Bridgeport, was envi- projected schedule. This has allowed paign, and she designed and imple- sioned by Bishop Frank J. Caggiano parishes to begin their capital proj- mented a process for the parish that after the 2015 diocesan synod to ects, but also for the endowments enables close monitoring of the redemp- sustain the work of the Catholic to begin generating interest. “While tion. It has routines in place for tracking Church in Fairfield County for 2020 has been a challenge, we’re see- delinquency and triggering remediation future generations. ing a firm commitment to our bish- actions to keep it low, she said. “When we launched the We op’s vision and our pastors’ plans.” “At a practical operational level, Stand With Christ Campaign, I “The five-year pledges gave pas- Msgr. DiGiovanni’s leadership and don’t think that any of us could have tors the ability to plan for their par- vision enabled the creation of the anticipated the extraordinary situa- ishes’ future,” O’Brien said. “It also adequate infrastructure at the parish tion we have faced during the past gave the Catholic Church in Fairfield to manage the redemption process year and the impact it has had on County an innovative way to sustain of the pledges from the WSWC so many lives in our diocese,” said itself for generations to come.” campaign,” she said. “Thanks to Bishop Caggiano. “The pandemic While donors can spread pay- him, we remained united in the illuminated the need for long-term ment of their pledges over five years, collective effort of achieving the nec- funding for our diocesan ministries, some donors have chosen to pre-pay essary financial goals and continued especially those that support those their pledges so that their parishes with our pledge commitments.” most vulnerable in our midst.” can begin their projects sooner, he She also said that during his Seventy parishes are in the said. Donors should also be aware more than 20 years as pastor, Msgr. redemption phase of the We Stand of the charitable giving incentive cre- DiGiovanni, who was recently With Christ campaign, while five oth- ated by the CARES Act, passed in named pastor emeritus, has inspired ers are actively fundraising this year. Congress earlier this year. For those parishioners to come together and do Three additional parishes will conduct who have the means, it may be pos- as much as possible for the Church. “Our beautiful Basilica has been renovated, enhanced and kept Are you one of the over 15,000 donors up to shine as a center of faith in to the We Stand With Christ campaign? Stamford,” she said. “His integrity, dedication, and care for the spiritual Well here’s what you need to know… well-being of St. John’s parishioners • WHERE ARE WE NOW? 70 parishes have completed their We Stand is what gets translated into leader- With Christ capital campaigns. Five parishes are completing their cam- ship to drive the success of projects paigns in 2020 and three parishes will run their campaigns in 2021. like the We Stand With Christ • DISTRIBUTIONS? $30 million of capital campaign contributions campaign and the Basilica’s Rectory have been distributed to parishes and the three foundations to date as of renovation project.” 9/30/2020 as approved by the We Stand With Christ Board of Directors. St. Rose of Lima Parish in Newtown, is another parish that has • HOW CAN YOU HELP? Choose to fulfill your pledge online to save benefited from a strong redemption the costs of mailed remittances. Payments via credit card and direct plan. St. Rose, which began their debit can be made by visiting www.GiveCentral.org/WSWC. capital campaign in 2018, has already • QUESTIONS? We want to hear from you with any concerns or redeemed 70 percent of their campaign issues you are experiencing. Contact the campaign at 203.648.9050 pledges. Msgr. Weiss stated “This or at [email protected]. has not been an easy year, but I am Thank you for your dedication and commitment to this campaign and the tremendously grateful for our parishio- many wonderful programs and projects that will benefit from your support! ners continued support for our church throughout the pandemic.” n Immaculate Students: A Shining Light

DANBURY—Local residents in derful way for students to show an Breakfast Program at the Dorothy the Danbury area have been deeply appreciation to God for all that He Day Hospitality House for an entire touched by the student-initiated has done for them.” year. This year Immaculate was efforts made for those living in the Two students, Micheala Martin, asked to donate the small, individ- community who have been facing Abbe Radigan and their Campus ual-sized cereal boxes and oatmeal economic and personal challenges Ministry team, collected and deliv- packets to the facility so that the that have been magnified by the ered coats, snow pants and pairs Morning Glory program could then ongoing COVID-19 pandemic. of snow boots to the Family and package individual bagged breakfasts Recognizing that many within Children’s Aid Center in Danbury. for their clients. With the help of their own high school community “ ​I am beyond happy with the many students, faculty, staff, alumni and families we were able to provide over 1000 individual cereals to this great program. The students enjoy putting this event together and get great fulfillment in knowing that they are able to help people start their day by providing breakfast for them and in serving the greater Danbury area.” The shortage of food in the Danbury food pantries has been ongoing since the beginning of the pandemic. Focusing on support- ing the issues related to the at-risk Danbury community students, staff and families joined together with Jericho Partnership to assist them with transforming lives through were experiencing difficulties as a outcome of the drive, collecting monetary donations as well as spon- result of the pandemic, Immaculate over 500 coats! None of that could soring two drive-by “Stuff the Vans” students began working together to have been done without the help of food drives to collect dry goods. help each other bring dignity and Immaculate, friends and family com- At the end of their very inconsis- comfort through acts of kindness. ing together to help the community,” tent yet successful fall sports season, “This year, the season of giving Says“ Abbe. ​ It​ made me so happy student-athletes from all teams came thanks and preparing for Christmas that all the donations were going to together to help support Ann’s Place has ignited a special spiritual and those in need and that our efforts in Danbury. In place of their tradi- personal energy among our students. would help Family and Children’s tional Play for the Cure games to They have been reflecting on their Aid in Danbury make a difference raise funds, teams created themed raf- own blessings and have been a shin- in many people’s lives this winter,” fle baskets for a virtual raffle drawing ing light by actively reaching out to says Michaela. ​To further support which raised $2,380. Athletic Director others during a time when so many the Mayor of Danbury’s efforts to and 1989 alumnus of Immaculate, feel a sense of darkness,” says school house and Catholic Charities to Nelson Mingachos, expresses that he President Mary Maloney. feed the 75 known homeless, the is very proud of the athletic teams for Students decorated over 400 Campus Ministry and Key Club coming together to continue the tradi- pumpkins donated by Hollandia members joined together and collect- tion of Play For the Cure games and Nursery in Bethel and Halas Farms ed over 1,000 breakfast-to-go items putting together a successful virtual in Danbury. Some of the pumpkins including boxed cereal, cereal bars version of the event. were distributed to local homes and oatmeal. In addition, students There are many things that we located on streets that were closed Kate Mitchell, Matthew Butera, cannot change in our world but during for children to trick or treat. The Niocole Radliff, Melanie Seaman this penitential season, Immaculate remaining pumpkins were distrib- and Jennifer Hanley combined their students know that spreading joy, uted with a Thanksgiving blessing efforts earlier in the year and made almsgiving and prayer brightens our note to neighbors living close to over 150 sandwiches for the Dorothy world. In the last week of Advent, stu- the school’s campus, including the Day Hospitality House in Danbury. dents will be collecting toys for approx- residents at the St. John Paul II “ Due​ to the pandemic, the imately 50 children who live at the Center. Principal Wendy Neil shares Immaculate High School Campus Food First Family Project Shelter and ​ that “The simple gesture of students Ministry and Key Club had to modify will be hosting their annual Christmas being present for others by providing their annual cereal drive for Dorothy Concert which will be held virtually an inspirational note and a pumpkin Day. Each year these two clubs col- for all those who wish to celebrate the brought immeasurable joy to those lect and donate over 1000 boxes of season on December 20 from 4 pm to who received one. What a won- cereal to serve the Morning Glory 5:30 pm. n 16 December 2020 Cross Catholic Outreach ‘More than just a box’ bringing joy to children

By EMILY CLARK

For Elizabeth Lancaster, pack- ing a shoebox-size container with soap, toothbrushes, socks and pencils put the material side of Christmas in perspective. The reali- zation that those simple items, ones that most people take for granted, may be the only gifts a child a world away receives this holiday made the Cardinal Kung Academy senior pause and reflect. “I know Christmas isn’t all about presents but imagining [it] with absolutely no gifts whatso- ever is startling,” said Lancaster, commenting on the “Box of Joy” service project in which her school recently took part. Amidst the worldwide pandem- ic, when building community and creating awareness of serving others seem to be more important than ever, many of the faithful from the Diocese of Bridgeport are reaching across the globe to provide what all children want at Christmas: special gifts and the knowledge that some- one loves them. Cross Catholic Outreach, a relief and development ministry, has partnered with St. Pius X Church in Fairfield, St. Theresa Church in Trumbull and Cardinal Kung Academy in Stamford, as Joy. Organized by the Life Teen boxes. Now in its fourth year as a well as scores of other locations youth group and assisted by fam- drop-off location for Box of Joy, around the United States, to send ilies from the church, this project St. Theresa’s outreach continues packages filled with small toys, left a lasting impact on individu- to expand from a project originally school supplies and hygiene items als who were looking for a way completed by Confirmation class- to children living in extreme poverty to reach out despite the restric- es but, which now encompasses the whole church community. “It’s all about bringing joy to those who might not have it while bringing us together as a parish,” said Walter Withrow, a freshman at St. Joseph High School and a member of the youth group at St. Theresa who filled several boxes with his parents and younger sister Maggie. “There are more people suffering around the world, espe- cially now with COVID-19, but there’s also more people helping so they can experience both the tan- tions from COVID-19. During them out.” gible and spiritual joys of Christmas. the collection weekend in early This project, a personal Those who volunteer to pack a November, parishioners filled the opportunity to bring the joy of Box of Joy can choose the age and vestibule with not only stacks of Christmas to some of God’s most gender of the child, enabling them boxes but also the excitement that vulnerable children, impacts both to personalize the experience and comes from doing for others. those creating and receiving these envision who will receive it. Like those at St. Pius, members Boxes of Joy. “This is more than nity,” Lannigan said. of St. Theresa Church recognized just a box,” said Holmes. “It is In many locations, that sense the growing need for donations the sharing of Jesus Christ with of community has extended to an this year as compared to years others, letting them know they are entire parish, as seen at St. Pius past with both young and old cared for and loved in a very spe- X which distributed 500 Boxes of supporting the efforts to fill these cial way.” n 17 December 2020 Cross Catholic Outreach Christmas 2020 Shopping for Christmas

By KATHY ANN GOBIN online. The shuttering or restrict- they don’t necessarily want to ed times of operation for brick give money but they want to BROOKFIELD—Online and mortar stores and concerns donate items. Our parishioners shopping is helping some par- about limiting exposure to others, are extremely generous.” ishes effortlessly increase dona- to try to stem the spread of the Tiernan agreed that many tions through a partnership with coronavirus, has compelled peo- parishioners want to donate AmazonSmile. ple to order goods online. something tangible and will opt “It’s a great way to do some Everyday online shopping for purchasing the items in need easy fundraising without getting has become an opportunity for instead of or in addition to their too complicated,” said Mary fundraising. Donations are down regular weekly contributions. Ellen Tiernan, faith forma- at parishes throughout the dio- “That helps save the parish some tion director at St. Marguerite cese due to limited attendance at money,” she said, noting they do

Bourgeoys Parish in Brookfield. Mass, so fundraising in this man- not have the space to store a lot St. Marguerite parish regis- ner is helpful. of items, so the request only goes tered with AmazonSmile about “It’s not a huge amount out when they need something. two years ago and promotes the of money but it is constant “AmazonSmile doesn’t cost program on its social media chan- money, with people shopping on us anything and it brings money nels and in its weekly printed and AmazonSmile,” Tiernan said. in,” said Piccorelli. “Everybody is online bulletin. Launched in 2013, Amazon and already shopping on Amazon. It’s “It’s a simple no brainer,” its customers have contributed gotten a very positive response.” Tiernan said. “When peo- $215 million globally to charities It is a win-win for the parish ple are shopping they go to through AmazonSmile. when people buy things through AmazonSmile and Amazon will Tiernan said she was familiar AmazonSmile to get the donation automatically send a portion.” with the program for another percentage and also donate that Through the AmazonSmile pro- organization and she and Jean item to the parish. gram, Amazon donates 0.5 percent Piccorelli, communications coor- “It’s an untapped market,” of the price of eligible purchases dinator, wanted to introduce it to Donovan said. “With Christmas to the charity of the purchaser’s parishioners at St. Marguerite. ahead, Amazon is going to be choice. Parishes must register with For the past two years, the busier. Why not take advantage AmazonSmile to be included on a parish has generated almost $200 of the fact that many people will list of non-profit organizations for from the program. be shopping.” people to choose from. They have also expanded the For instance, Donovan said “It’s an easy way the faithful use of the program by adding participating in toy drives and can use their shopping to help items to the parish’s “Wish List.” purchasing items for people in their parish or diocese,” said “If we need something that’s need through AmazonSmile Patrick Donovan, director of The going to be a little pricey, for allows people to donate twice, Leadership Institute. “Everyone example, right now we need a once to the toy drive and once to is living online anyway.” paper shredder, I list it on the the parish. In fact, recent surveys show ‘Wish List,’ Tiernan said. “It allows us to collectively a steady increase in the number “People want to buy things,” share in supporting the larger of consumers purchasing items Piccorelli said. “A lot of times mission of the Church.” n 18 December 2020 Christmas 2020 Interfaith concert praises God

By ELIZABETH CLYONS be able to create a bridge between remain positive. He tells us to not let faiths through a virtual celebration. our hearts be troubled and do not be NORWALK—The coronavirus Video footage from past years afraid. We are the children of hope, pandemic couldn’t stop a 40-year- gatherings featured hits such as, our God does not abandon us.” old tradition, as the clergies and “Bridge Over Troubled Water,” “The vaccines seem promising, choirs of Temple Shalom, United “Reach Out and Touch,” “A we do see a light at the end of the Congregational Church and St. Million Dreams “(from the Greatest tunnel,” assured Father Sunil.

Matthew Parish gathered virtually Showman) and even the combined “While we are in the midst of suffer- for an interfaith Thanksgiving cele- clergy singing “A Little Help From ing, we should look to him to give bration of song and worship on the My Friends” by The Beatles. us patience, strength and the ability evening of November 24. Mayor of Norwalk Harry to endure. Through this interfaith “This gathering joins together Rilling and his wife Lucia brought service we ask God for the healing different faith traditions to both greetings. “We can never lose of our world and to send peace upon praise God and pray to God. It sight of the important things in all his children.” reminds us that there are good peo- our life—our God, family, friends Members of United ple everywhere, and that we have and the faith that will get us Congregational Church shared more that unites us than divides us,” through these difficult times,” said “A Prayer for the World” and the shared Msgr. Orlowski, pastor of St. Mayor Rilling. Southworth Family shared a lovely Matthew Parish. “We are keeping everyone in acoustic song. This tradition in the West mind this time of year,” said Lucia One of the most memorable Norwalk faith communities began Rilling. “We are wishing the best moments of the evening came when 40 years ago. “It’s a second-to-none holiday season to all. Let’s hold on the Temple Shalom Choir gathered gathering that always brings a smile to what this time of year means to over Zoom to sing “Let There Be to your face and peace to your all of us.” Peace on Earth.” heart,” said Monsignor. “It is a mar- “In the midst of fear, uncertainty, “How fortunate we are to live velous opportunity for people of all suffering pain and even death—the as friends and neighbors and how faiths to gather to give thanks to our question we ask is how do we cope? much we share in common,” said one, true God.” What is there that we can hold Rabbi Cantor Shirah Sklar from Rabbi Mark Lipson of Temple onto? The answer is faith,” said Temple Shalom. “Creativity, team- Shalom expressed that even though Father Sunil, parochial vicar of St. work and technology helped us to the interfaith community could not Matthew Parish. “The Word of God share this service again even in the all gather in person, they would still offers strength and the courage to most difficult of circumstances.” n 19 December 2020 Christmas 2020 A woman’s journey to the Catholic faith & joy Anna Bendiksen

By JOE PISANI with the crowd.” I was confirmed as an Episcopalian She still has a vivid memory of and spent the next 20 years as a When Anna Bendiksen looks the family trimming their Christmas happy member of that church.” back on her faith journey, she realizes tree and the father lifting the youngest “Every church is like a language, that every step of the way, Jesus was daughter up to put the angel on top. and I became fluent in Episcopalian putting people in her path who would “There was something warm about and learned what I needed to know,” lead her to the Catholic Church. that house that really attracted me, she said. “I was a choir member, a A writer, poet and author of and 40 years later, I am absolutely vestry member and did work with hymn texts, Anna is a convert to confident of the foundation they laid the newcomer’s ministry at Grace Catholicism from Anglicanism and a for me,” she says. and Saint Peter’s Episcopal Church member of the Parish of St. Catherine Anna stopped going to church at in Hamden. There was just one prob- of Siena in Trumbull. Since she was 10, when her parents were divorced. lem—God kept tugging at me.” received into full communion with At 13, she moved to Rochester with As she progressed spiritually, she the Catholic Church at the Easter her mother, who had been awarded was overtaken by a desire to have Vigil last year, she has written sev- a fellowship at the University of face-to-face confession, and even eral dozen hymns set to traditional Rochester in the graduate nursing though it was available at her church, melodies, including some that were program. not many people took advantage of it. performed at the parish and one titled Anna was an editor on her She might have continued on that “We Stand With Christ” in recog- high school newspaper and recalls path if it weren’t for a bad storm in nition of the Diocese of Bridgeport’s that the faculty advisor was a very March 2018, when a large tree came capital campaign. Her hymns, espe- devout Catholic who had a profound down in her neighbor’s yard and cially those for the Christmas season, influence on her. She began taking knocked out power for three days. have been performed in churches Russian after reading Tolstoy’s She went to Walmart in Norwalk for around the country. “Anna Karenina,” and in 1986 the supplies, and while driving home, she Anna grew up singing and playing teacher in charge of the Russian club was playing the hymn “Come Down, the piano, and her creativity blos- led students on a trip to the former O Love Divine” over and over on the somed when she entered the RCIA Soviet Union. radio. program. “I think what happened is “Among the things I saw were the “I remember I was coming back that as a musician and Anglican, I most beautiful Orthodox churches in from Walmart on the Merritt and as needed to make sense of my expe- the world,” she says. I was praying, I said, ‘God, please rience coming into the Catholic When her mother took a teaching show me my sins,’” she recalled. Church,” she said. “The music at St. position at the University of Scranton, “And all of a sudden, I felt this Catherine’s is lovely and I wanted to they began searching for a spiritu- intense feeling of nausea and revul- add my own voice to the world of al home and found an Episcopal sion like there was a horrible smell Catholic music.” church. By that time, it was apparent in the car and I had to roll down the Since she began writing texts for to Anna that “God was up to some- window.” hymns, she has compiled a notebook thing with me.” The experience led her to the of more than two dozen composi- She began college at Bryn Mawr, realization, she says, that the Catholic tions. The beauty of the faith has been where she pursued Russian studies, Church was not a prison, as she once a catalyst for her creative work and and while she was there, she would thought, but that the real prison was she hopes her compositions express go to services at a Presbyterian her own sins. the joy she feels over becoming a church. In her sophomore year, she “The Church was a cathedral in a Catholic. lived in a Russian-speaking dormi- garden and God had been seeking me It was a long journey for her to tory with young Russian Orthodox all that time, pursuing me and trying reach what she describes as “the women, who exposed her to the to get me to say ‘yes,’ and despite all cathedral in the garden,” but she is feasts of the liturgical year and took my objections and all the headlines, I certain that every step of the way her to services with them. After began to seek a place to go,” she said. Jesus was leading her, putting the graduation, she was accepted at Yale Her need for one-on-one confes- right people in her path. It began University, where she studied Slavic sion is what originally attracted her to more than 40 years ago, when she languages and literature. It was there the Church, but the greatest joy of her was growing up in the Midwest. She that she met her future husband faith is the Real Presence of Jesus— was baptized in a Methodist church Aage, who was studying computer Body, Blood, Soul and Divinity—in in Detroit and has wonderful mem- science. the Eucharist. ories of attending Sunday school. Over Christmas vacation, she Early on, a parishioner encour- During those years, she developed went to visit her mother who was liv- aged Anna to go to Eucharistic adora- several meaningful friendships with ing in Champaign, Illinois and attend- tion and she asked, “Why would I do Catholics, but one in particular stands ing an Episcopal church that was that?” The woman responded, “You out. influenced by John Henry Newman, just sit there and feel the love as you “The first Catholic household I an Anglican churchman who convert- would feel the warmth from the sun.” knew was our next-door neighbors’ ed to Catholicism and was canonized Anna, who lives in Fairfield with in South Dakota,” she recalls. “They by Pope Francis last year. her husband Aage and son Johan, had five children, and they made it “That year I went to Christmas was confirmed at the Easter Vigil clear to my brother and me that we services with my mother at midnight Mass in 2019, when she entered into were welcome in their home, so we Mass and fell in love with God and full communion with the Catholic would go there and run in and out liturgy,” Anna said. “Not long after Church. n 20 December 2020 Christmas 2020 Knights bring coats for kids NORWALK—Assisting those the pandemic, it is most in need is one of the many our responsibility goals of the Knights of Columbus to help lessen that St. Matthew Council 14360. As part burden. This is what of tradition, the council recently Knights do—where joined forces with six local coun- there is a need, there cils from Norwalk, Darien, New are Knights close-by Canaan, Westport and Weston on ready to jump in and Saturday, October 24, at the Family do what we can,” said & Children’s Agency Community Council 14360 Grand Connections Center in South Knight Anthony Norwalk. Armentano. More than 300 brand new coats On Thanksgiving were distributed during the Knights Day, after Council of Columbus Coats for Kids event. 14360 members helped This event helps keep kids warm usher, read and clean over the winter months by providing after Thanksgiving this necessity. The local event is part Masses, they teamed (l to r) K of C District Deputy George Ribellino and of the Knights of Columbus national up with Bishop Council 14360 Grand Knight Anthony Armentano Neighbors Helping Neighbors initia- Fenwick Assembly distribute coats at the Annual Coats for Kids distribu- tive and, since the program launched 100 and the Catholic tion at the Family & Children’s Agency in Norwalk. in 2009, more than 600,000 coats Daughters of the have been distributed in 49 states and America’s St. Matthew all 10 Canadian provinces. Court 2640 to provide with providing food for those on the “While our society is pushing us and deliver individually packaged frontlines, getting masks to Notre to purchase items for the Christmas Thanksgiving meals for the residents Health and Rehab Center, donating season, we don’t want to forget of Homes for the Brave for the funds and supplies for our veterans at those that need basic necessities for eighth consecutive year. Homes for the Brave and distributing the upcoming cold winter season,” “Our men and women both brand new coats for children in need. said Project Chairman and District loved the food and we could not be The Knights of Columbus are called Deputy George Ribellino, Jr. “It’s more appreciative. What a bless- to step into the breach and leave no great to see brother Knights come ing St. Matthew Council #14360, neighbor behind—especially in this together from different councils to Bishop Fenwick Assembly 100 and time of crisis. As the coronavirus combine resources to help more peo- Catholic Daughters Court 2640 have pandemic continues, it is our duty ple in need. I started this collabora- been to us. All of us at Homes for and responsibility to lead our fam- tion within my district back in 2015.” the Brave are extremely grateful as ilies, protect our parishes and serve FCA’s president & CEO, Rob you made the day very special for our communities, remembering Cashel adds, “Personally, and our residents” said Homes for the always that where there’s a need, on behalf of Family & Children’s Brave CEO/Executive Director, there’s a Knight. Supreme Knight Agency, I cannot thank the Knights Vince Santilli. Carl A. Anderson has challenged of Columbus enough for their gener- In addition, District Deputy Knights to take this moment as an ous efforts to secure 300 new coats Ribellino’s daughter Mia made cards opportunity to deepen the commit- for our clients through their Coats for the veterans and asked students at ment to the very principles which for Kids Initiative. During these Notre Dame Fairfield High School define the Order: charity, unity and challenging times, I am truly grateful to write notes thanking them for fraternity. that there are groups like the Knights their service. The goal of the Knights of of Columbus that dedicate their time The Council wrapped up the long Columbus Council at Saint Matthew and efforts to meeting critical needs weekend by delivering several bins Church in Norwalk are to perform in our community.” of non-perishable food to Blessed acts of charity. Providing those in On the weekend on November Sacrament in Bridgeport. The food need with a range of support from 21 and 22, Council 14360 held was collected at the St. Matthew financial to tactical help in dealing a Food for Families Food Drive Annual Thanksgiving Masses. Four with a wide variety of challenges. with students from The Society carloads were organized by the coun- Council members work together to of St. Theresa at Cardinal Kung cil and given to Blessed Sacrament foster the founding principles of our Academy. The food drive was held Pastor Father Skip Karcsinski order: charity, unity, fraternity and at St. Mary’s Church in Norwalk “Giving back to those in need during patriotism. Our goal as a council and the response was incredi- the Thanksgiving season is a blessing is to continue to identify specific ble. More than 3,000 pounds of food for our council. One of the most pro- needs in our community and muster and $400 in donations/gift cards found ways we can truly give thanks- support and help to alleviate these was collected for Catholic Charities’ giving to God is through serving challenges and hardships to the best Room to Grow preschool and their others,” said Grand Knight Anthony of our abilities and resources. families. The food collected will help Armentano. (For more information, please go to feed 35-40 families over the holiday The Council has hosted and kofc14360.net. If you are Catholic man season. assisted with many food drives since interested in putting your faith in action, “While food insecurity has the start of the pandemic and will join the Knights of Columbus online for become an ever-increasing issue continue to do this indefinitely. In free at kofc.org/joinus and use promo in the area due to the impact of addition, the council has assisted code MCGIVNEY2020.) n 21 December 2020 Books on Sports & Values Montelli, Olayos: From basketball to books

By DON HARRISON son, Tommy, who played at D-II Bentley. The ties between Vito “They’d won their third Montelli, the legendary St. straight state title, but the Joseph High School basketball first two were in Class M, coach, and Jim Olayos run sur- and now they had to do it prisingly deep. Olayos was a in Class L,” Elsberry said. junior guard on Montelli’s first “They beat Harding (69-66) state championship team at St. in the championship game.” Joe’s (1974-75) and he served as In a time where social the Cadets’ captain the following and emotional learning winter. Much later, the oldest of (SEL) is at the forefront of Jim and Kim Olayos’ four sons, educational curriculums Jimmy, captained Montelli’s and goals, “The Kindness 2005-06 squad. Formula” answers the call When Montelli announced his with a message of finding retirement following the 2011-12 strength of character, empa- season—after guiding St. Joe’s thy, responsibility and goal to its 11th CIAC state title—Jim setting through life’s basic Olayos had become the school’s lessons. athletic director and, yes, his for- Jim Olayos Olayos, now the execu- mer mentor’s supervisor. tive athletic director at Notre So, it seems surreal that Dame of Fairfield, describes the today both coach and former NCAA Division-I level. book’s theme thusly: player are in the book mode. Mere numbers tell only part of “Your legacy and how you Montelli’s 50-year career at the Montelli story, though. He’s will be remembered is determined St. Joe’s—encompassing a led a faith-filled life, which took by how you treat people. Being Connecticut-record 11 state titles root with his parents, Salvatore nice to people and being kind and and 878 victories—is captured and Lucrezia Montelli—Italian having good character are the in “God, Family & Basketball” immigrants with limited formal true measure of your success. (167 pages, Hilltop30 Publishing education—in upstate Bristol. “The book honors Jimmy as Group, LLC). Chris Elsberry, “My parents were very spir- a person. Although he never got the former Connecticut Post itual. My father worked sports columnist and writer, is two jobs, and my mother the author. dragged me to everything in Jim Olayos has written “The church,” he recalled. Kindness Formula: Caring + Elsberry conducted Character = Success” (197 pages, some 20 interviews with the Regent Press), a book inspired by, 88-year-old coach, invari- and dedicated to, his son Jimmy, ably “sitting at his kitchen who died in June 2019 while table with my tape record- competing in a triathlon. He was er.” Montelli’s collection just 31 years old. of voluminous scrapbooks, “He was in the best shape personal notes on his play- of any person I knew,” Olayos ers and other data made life explained. “”He was living in easier for the author. Brooklyn, New York, and ran “It’s all about the rela- three physical therapy clinics.” tionships,” Elsberry said. Montelli is justifiably proud “If you talk to Chris Watts of his coaching accomplishments (the former player and assis- at St. Joe’s. The back-to-back tant coach who succeeded Class LL state championships Montelli as head coach) or in his final two seasons and anyone else involved with aforementioned 11 titles overall. Vito, they will say the same His three National Coach of the thing. Xs and Os are way Year awards. His induction into down the list with what he tried the chance to read the book, he the national and Connecticut to do with his players.” lived it by the way he treated coaches halls of fame. The fact Montelli’s greatest team? He everyone. The book honors his that 27 of his Cadet players selected his 1987-88 squad, which great legacy.” achieved McDonald’s All- featured four stars (Doremus (To order: “The Kindness American recognition and 30 Bennerman, Marvin Sadler, Cary Formula” ($19.95): Visit: kind- were selected to All-State teams. Wilson, Johnnie Jones) who pos- nessformula.com. “God, Family & That the majority went on to sessed the skills to play at the col- Basketball”($20): email godfamily- college and several played at the legiate D-I level, and the coach’s [email protected].) n 22 December 2020 Year in Review A COVID-19 timeline in the Diocese of Bridgeport

By ELIZABETH CLYONS taken to safeguard the faithful while diocese.org/coronavirus ensuring reverent liturgies and essen- March 18— Bishop Caggiano BRIDGEPORT—On March tial Church activities. updates sacramental guidelines 13, 2020, Bishop Frank J. and practices in response to the Caggiano issued a letter to the March Coronavirus crisis. He offers fur- faithful announcing the extraordi- March 3—Bishop Frank J. ther instructions and suggestions nary step of temporarily suspend- Caggiano issues first statement regarding the pastoral care of ing public Masses in the diocese. about coronavirus, asking pastors parishioners during this unique “I understand the deep spiritu- to take preventative measures to period of the COVID-19 (corona- al hardship that this absence has avoid any potential spread of illness. virus) crisis. created in the minds and heart of Parishes temporarily suspend spend- March 20—The bishop issues many, yet recognizing that our ing offering the Precious Blood of a letter to the faithful announc- churches have served as places of Christ at all Masses, shaking hands ing that Churches will remain refuge in times of need, we will do at the sign of peace, and holding safely open for private prayer, for

all that is possible to see that our hands during the Our Father. Exposition of the Eucharist, and churches remain safely open for • Parishes make sure that hand- to serve as places to seek solace private prayer, for exposition of rails, restrooms and the tops of with the Lord. the Eucharist and to serve as plac- pews are properly disinfected March 23—The bishop out- es to seek solace with the Lord,” and that hand sanitizer is avail- lines a number of steps the diocese he said. able at all church entrances. will be taking to assist parishes With a second surge taking March 9—As the first cases in with online giving and establishing hold and the state experiences an Connecticut are reported, Bishop a universal offertory program. increase in the positivity rate and Caggiano releases a second set • The Diocesan Finance Office hospitalizations, it good to revisit of directives to respond to the provides consultations with the bishop’s March 13 letter: crisis. These directives include parishes to help them secure “As Christians, we know that the encouragement of an act of Paycheck Protection (PPP) suffering will always be a part of spiritual communion, and the loans, which make it possible to our life. We understand and accept consideration of cancellation or largely avoid layoffs and fur- this mystery at the foot of the Cross postponement of non-liturgical loughs for teachers and parish of Christ. Yet we also know that events and encouraging those who employees providing bookkeep- the Lord suffered and died so that are feeling ill to stay home. ing, office management, and we might live and share in His vic- March 13—Bishop Caggiano maintenance services. tory over fear, suffering and death temporarily dispenses all Catholics March 31—Catholic Schools itself. We are never alone in our of the Diocese of Bridgeport from launch their distance learning sufferings. Christ is here to lead us the obligation to attend Sunday programs to ensure continuity of along paths unknown to victory Mass to remain in effect March education, and teachers and staff and life.” 16-April 3 (It is later extended are working remotely using var- “This is the time to do as Jesus through May 20) ious technological tools. Virtual commanded: to be brave despite • All diocesan schools and acad- office hours and a video help desk fear, to be sensitive and responsive emies are closed for a period of are set up for teachers and parents to the needs of others and to pray. two weeks who need assistance and each Especially pray. The health and • Confirmations are postponed individual school sets times when life of so many now hang in the • Catholic Center meetings of they will be open to address any balance. Pray for miracles both more than five people are post- student, family and faculty needs. medical and spiritual. Pray for the poned, cancelled, or conducted conversion of many hearts. Pray for via teleconferencing April an end to this scourge in our midst. • Masses celebrated by the bish- • Bishop Caggiano celebrates Pray that the Lord will see us to op are made available on the Holy Week liturgies and Easter safety and renewed life. In Him.” diocesan website, and parishes Sunday Mass in an empty St. The following timeline offers a brief also begin live-streaming Masses Augustine Cathedral. overview of the diocesan response to • Diocesan updates made avail- • More than 50,000 thousand COVID-19 and the many steps it has able on the web at bridgeport- faithful watch at home through 23 December 2020 Year in Review

COVID-19 Timeline from page 22 mitting) • The suspension of Liturgical live-streaming made available ing, sanitizing of the building and music throughout the diocese. Total other measures. • Temperature checks as people number reached on social media • The celebration of weekday arrive for Mass was 176,180. Masses, Funeral Masses, and • Anyone with a temperature • Foundations in Faith launches Nuptial Weddings within our greater than 100.3 degrees the St. Francis Xavier Fund to churches also resume after the should not be admitted. assist parishes in financial diffi- weekend of June 13. • If there is a significant culty as a result of the pandemic. June 17—Foundations in increase in the infection rate • Bishop Caggiano re-launches the Education extends the Bishop in a town, then parishio- 2020 Annual Catholic Appeal Scholarship Fund deadline in order ners must be notified of the

as an emergency response to to make it possible for more stu- increased risk through social the crisis and the growing needs dents to attend Catholic schools. media and the parish website. throughout the diocese. • Catholic elementary schools • Many priests develop creative and high schools throughout the October and innovative way to bring diocese are unable to enjoy tra- October 26—Bishop Caggiano Christ to the faithful through ditional graduation ceremonies issues a decree permitting the Eucharistic processions, drive- but develop innovative ways earlier celebration of Christmas through confessions, curbside to honor graduate and their Vigil Masses in order to safely adoration and other outreach achievements. accommodate the larger number during the state shutdown. expected to attend. • Catholic Cemeteries respond to August • Parishes continue Sacraments the crisis by donning protective • A gift from an anonymous donor of Confirmation and First Holy gear and taking other measures to Foundations in Education Communion to safeguard mourner. More provides funding for COVID-19 • The Leadership Institute than 40 percent of the burials Emergency Tuition Assistance announces the launch of the are COVID-19 related. for elementary school families Sunday Family Rosary every in the Diocese of Bridgeport Sunday at 7:30 pm beginning May Catholic Schools who are suffer- in October May 11—The bishop announc- ing from the negative economic • Catholic schools develop an es plans for the gradual return to impact of the pandemic. online academy for student who public Mass beginning with the • The board of Foundations in wish to require distance learn- outdoor public celebration of Mass faith approves $200,000 to be ing during the school year…the on the Ascension of our Lord. disbursed to the parishes as part schools also introduce a new May 21—The Diocese of of the COVID-19 Emergency Telehealth System to better serve Bridgeport becomes the first dio- Fund from the St. Francis students and families cese in the state to resume pub- Xavier Mission Church Fund, November lic worship at outdoor Masses. supported by We Stand With November 18— Bishop Pastors and priests throughout the Christ capital campaign. Caggiano issues a decree permit- diocese continue to offer drive- August 31—Diocese of ting the celebration of Christmas through blessing, car confessions Bridgeport Catholic Schools Vigil Masses beginning at 2 pm in and outdoor adoration. releases re-opening plan for parishes throughout the Diocese May 29—The bishop announc- 2020/21 school year. of Bridgeport on December 24, in es phase II return to public Mass order to provide more options to inside or Churches. September the faithful seeking to safely attend September 1—In response Mass on Christmas. June to an increase in coronavirus November 19—To help com- June 13—Parishes throughout cases in Fairfield County, Bishop bat the spread of COVID-19 in the the diocese welcome people back Caggiano issues an update on greater Bridgeport area, the Queen to indoor Masses and establishes September 1 regarding the public of Saints Hall of the Catholic Center full safety protocols including celebration of Mass: becomes an on-site location for both wearing of masks, social distanc- • Outdoor Masses (weather per- COVID-19 and antibody tests. n 24 December 2020 A Survivor’s Story Encountering God in the ups and downs

By JOE PISANI

GREENWICH—Dave D’Andrea describes himself as an ordinary man, perhaps that’s why he tells the story of his life in fewer than 100 pages even though the circumstances of his life are extraordinary—he is a survivor of polio, a survivor of stage-three cancer and a survivor of sexual abuse. And by his reckoning, he has had two, perhaps three, mira- cles in his life. The Greenwich native has held different positions, includ- ing operations manager for the town’s golf course, landscape consultant, basketball coach, Dave D’Andrea former member of the town’s legislative body and several other “We had a long meeting, more in Yorktown Heights, N.Y., who volunteer memberships. than 2-1/2 hours, and I was celebrated a healing Mass for You could say that “Tear amazed at his ability to listen him and brought holy water from Drops” isn’t the story of his life, and offer me his deepest apology Lourdes to bless him when he but more appropriately the story of and whatever else he could do. I began his cancer treatment. God at work in his life. It recounts learned a lot when he came into D’Andrea still has that bottle of the tragic episodes and crises where my life because he is a strong holy water and continues to share he often had no recourse other believer in prayer and Mother it with others who are suffering or than to turn to God...and God was Mary.” ill. And while he has never gone there. It is the story of the evolu- Erin Neil, director of Safe on a pilgrimage to Lourdes, he tion of a strong faith in God and Environments and victim assis- knows Our Lady was instrumen- Our Lady. tance coordinator of the Diocese tal in his recovery. D’Andrea started life with some of Bridgeport, has worked with Last year, D’Andrea reached hurdles, he says, coming from a D’Andrea and says: “David gives out to bring the Lourdes experi- low-income family with three older courageous witness to the terri- ence to the Diocese of Bridgeport brothers, who lived in a small apart- fying ordeal of childhood sexual through a “Lourdes Virtual ment in one of the world’s wealth- abuse, physical pain and human Pilgrimage Experience” at St. iest towns. At the time, his father suffering. His story is inspirational Mary Church in Stamford at worked as a landscaper on an estate and hopeful. He brings awareness which Bishop Caggiano offered a where President Herbert Hoover’s to the issue of child sexual abuse Eucharistic blessing. son lived. and helps survivors to feel safe Today, D’Andrea lives his life He was cured of polio as coming forward in our diocese. looking for God’s guidance and a child, but five years later, David’s journey demonstrates at professing a strong devotion to the pastor of the church in the every turn of the page that true Our Lady. Chickahominy neighbor of healing comes from God and from “My faith is deeper than ever,” Greenwich molested him in the our faith.” he says. “Did I ever doubt God? rectory while he was there to help On May 21, 2013, D’Andrea On the dark days, I would say, move boxes in his office. was diagnosed with stage-three ‘Why? Why are you letting me For 40 years, D’Andrea kept rectal cancer, and it was one of suffer like this?’ But even during that secret from the rest of the the darkest, most painful periods the abuse, I never doubted God or world, a secret so dark and spiri- of his life. my religion, especially because of tually corrosive that it affected his “The radiation and chemo my connection to Mother Mary. health and led to post-traumatic were brutally excruciating,” he It is Mother Mary I would always stress disorder. recalled. “I suffered such great turn to.” Although his mother knew, she loneliness, and I would pray so Dave decided to write his never told her husband for fear of much and so hard and cry and story and share it because he what he might do. Only recently wonder why this was happening believes that everyone who puts has D’Andrea found peace, hope to me. That’s when you have to faith and trust in God can enjoy and fellowship in a survivors trust God the most. The power of life, regardless of what happens. group formed by the Diocese of prayer is beyond belief.” That, he says, is the secret of an Bridgeport. When he talks about his recov- ordinary man...and it will work “Bishop Frank J. Caggiano ery, he always credits Our Lady for everyone. reached out to me, and it was of Lourdes through the efforts (“Tear Drops” by David absolutely the best thing that of his cousin, Monsignor Joseph D’Andrea is available at Amazon and ever happened,” D’Andrea said. Giandurco, pastor of St. Patrick’s Barnes and Noble.) n 25 December 2020 Parish News St. Marguerite Parish holds virtual Fall Festival By KATHY-ANN GOBIN to the school where they may be fair, was able to be expanded. picked up. “Since we were not meeting on BROOKFIELD – Parishes “The buyers came to the the premises (due to coronavirus throughout the diocese have found parking lot to an assigned spot concerns), we had a lot of space,” creative and socially distant safe Tiernan said. “Instead of doing ways to continue fundraising a one-day drive we set aside a efforts during the coronavirus pan- month.” demic. Bags of clothing were dropped The St. Marguerite Parish off at the Candlewood Lake Road Annual Fall Festival, a tradition parish and parish families sorted for the past three decades, went the items into categories. Tiernan virtual for the first time this year. said parishioners with large vehi- “It started as a small craft cles volunteered to drive back fair by ladies at the parish and it and forth to bring the hundreds has kept growing and growing,” of bags and dozens of boxes of said Mary Ellen Tiernan, Faith items to SAVERS on Federal Formation director. “There were Road. SAVERS support the Big 45 vendors last year and we ran Brothers, Big Sisters organization. out of space.” “There’s no way we could have This year, space was not a done it this way, if we had the problem since vendors agreed to fair,” Tiernan said, adding that participate virtually. the children of the parish were an “It’s not a big fundraiser for us integral part of the process. Many but we wanted to keep the connec- and a runner went to deliver the of the children are Confirmation tion with our parish members,” item to the buyer,” Tiernan said. candidates and incorporating Tiernan said. “We want them to “Everything was socially distant.” Corporal Works of Mercy into know we are here and we want The virtual fair also had anoth- their lives is essential. them to stay involved.’” er benefit. The one-day SAVERS “It’s an important message for Over the past 30 years, the Fall drive, held in conjunction with the kids to see parents involved, too.” n Festival has become quite an event for the community and she and others didn’t want to skip a year because of the pandemic. Tiernan said she sent a letter Drive-through light to vendors who participated for the past two years and asked if parade brings joy they would be amenable to trying something different and showcas- ing their wares virtually. Parish families lent a helping hand by making signs for front lawns to alert people to the virtual fair. Vendors donated $30 to par- ticipate and sent a description of what they would like on the flyer and Tiernan went to work creating the flyers to post online. The flyers, posted on the parish website and social media, con- DARIEN—On the evening of December 6, the Feast of St. tained a hyperlink for shoppers to Nicholas, St. Thomas More Parish in Darien hosted a wonderful see what vendors had to offer and St. Nicholas Day drive-through light parade, since they could potentially purchase items. not gather for their annual Christmas Tree Lighting due to the The virtual Fall Festival pandemic. Vendor Fair has turned out to be Over 100 families drove through the campus to wave to St. a bit of a blessing in disguise. “We Nicholas, receive a blessing from their pastor Father Paul G. are able to get information out to Murphy and drop off a letter to Santa. Within the safety and hundreds of people,” said Tiernan, warmth of their cars, families also saw the parish Christmas tree lit, adding that people beyond the the beautiful manger, giant holiday inflatables along with a lights immediate community can partic- and sound show provided by Sound Chasers. ipate. Some vendors automatically (St. Thomas More Parish is located at 374 Middlesex Rd. in Darien shipped to buyers, others with Conn. Its mission is to lead, sanctify, educate, serve and evangelize parish- large items that may be too costly ioners, their families and the greater Darien community in accord with the n to ship, agreed to send the items Good News of Jesus Christ. For more information visit stmdarienct.org.) 26 December 2020 Catholic Cemeteries Bishop promulgates Funeral Norms BRIDGEPORT—Bishop Frank The 22-page document was nize the value of prayer for the J. Caggiano has issued a decree created after a two-year process deceased and show reverence for formally promulgating the new coordinated by the diocesan the body which remain Since the Funeral Norms and the Norms for Leadership Institute and the Christian response to death stands the Order of Christian Funerals in Liturgical Commission. It offers a as a witness to Christian belief the Diocese of Bridgeport, which comprehensive guide to all norms regarding life here and hereafter, are now available in their entirety and considerations in a Catholic our rites and ceremonies connect- online. funeral including music, the hom- ed with Christian death and burial The norms will go into effect as ily, flowers, words of praise, the unite us to the paschal mystery of the Liturgical Law of the Diocese participation of family members Christ’s victory over sin and death of Bridgeport on the First Sunday and the responsibility of clergy and must remain consonant with of Advent, November 29, 2020. and funeral directors, and all those this belief.“ They will be subject to future revi- involved in the funeral rites. The decree states that with sion five years from the date of The introduction to the newly the provision of the new norms, publication. revised norms states, “From the any and all customs until now The bishop issued the decree on beginning of the Church, Christian practiced, as well as all existing November 22, 2020, the Solemnity funeral rites and burial have been liturgical norms regarding funerals of Our Lord Jesus Christ, King of an important spiritual and pas- are abrogated. the Universe. Prior to the prom- toral practice. Our Catholic faith (To view the new norms visit: ulgation, the new norms were understands death as the entrance www.bridgeportdiocese.org/cemeter- presented to the presbyterate of the into eternity. It expresses a hope ies/home. For more information on diocese for review and have been in the resurrection of the dead the norms, educational resources and duly approved by the Council of won for us in Christ’s Death and more, visit: www.formationreimag- Priests. Resurrection. We also recog- ined.org/funeral-norms.) n 27 December 2020 Parish News Danbury car parade

By KATHY ANN GOBIN Roman, who served and cele- casual chat. Neighbors would brated his first Mass at St. Joseph sometimes stop by to join in the DANBURY—A consistent Church before being assigned to St. conversation. Ross said he made stream of cars—a hallmark sig- Aloysius, about 20 miles away. everyone feel welcome during nature of socially-distant get The Council of Catholic these pandemic-induced isolating togethers during the coronavirus Women donated snacks and water times. pandemic—paraded through the to give to everyone stopping by to “It was like medicine,” she said St. Joseph Church parking lot share their well-wishes with Father of their outdoor afternoon talks. on Main St., giving parishioners Franklin. Commemorative pens “He is very kind,” she said, recall- an opportunity to share heartfelt were also handed out to mark his ing how he would bring dog treats well-wishes to a beloved priest 35th Anniversary of Ordination, to her Shih Tzu, Lilly. moving on to a new assignment. which was earlier this year. Father Franklin orchestrated Hundreds of parishioners gave Parishioner Irene Ragatz, who many of the happenings at the par-

Father David Franklin a memora- wore an orange and green vest to ish behind the scenes, often work- ble send-off to his new assignment help direct traffic, said she enjoyed ing on his days off. He was an at St. Aloysius in New Canaan. A the way Father Franklin would integral part of the annual parish stalwart member of the commu- relate the homilies and stories to tag sale, that was canceled this year nity he served; Father Franklin her life. because of the pandemic. leaves cherished memories with She also appreciated his sense “He has worked so hard at St. a congregation he spent 13 years of humor. Joseph Church,” Fiorito said. “He shepherding. “As a friend, he’s just fun!” has always been there for all of us. “He has enriched all of our lives,” Ragatz said. “He’s very even-tem- He’s a phenomenal priest.” said Lisa Schneider, as she waited in pered.” Fiorito said she was always her car in line to speak with Father Parishioner Rose Ross recount- impressed with how he was never Franklin. “I will miss his meaningful ed how she met Father Franklin hesitant to roll-up his sleeves and Masses and homilies.” by accident. Ross said after attend- get things done. Many parishioners mentioned ing mass one day she noticed a Father Franklin embodies what Father Franklin’s memorable priest greeting each person as they it is to give back. homilies as they reminisced about exited the church and thought, “I’m going to miss him,” Ross the time spent together. “Who is so kind, shaking hands said. “He is an example of what “He has the best homilies that with everyone at the end of every priest should be like.” directly relate to the people in the Mass?” Many parishioners agreed. pews,” said Leigh Fiorito, who orga- “That was the beginning of our “Father Franklin is a very nized the socially distant car parade relationship,” she said. “I invited big part of our lives,” said Ania in the parish parking lot and a dinner him to dinner that night.” Ross Szurawski. “He’s important to our at Anthony’s Lake Club for Father and Father Franklin became good family. Because of him, we grew Franklin earlier that week. friends. “Every night that he was closer to God,” she said, as she Festive white and purple bal- free we had dinner together,” Ross waited in line with her husband loons, St. Joseph School colors, said, adding that Father Franklin Marek and two pooches Oskar were attached to orange traffic is fond of pasta dishes and would and Kasper. “We love him and his cones outlining the path to Father sometimes take the lead in the homilies.” Franklin, who was standing near a kitchen and make dinner for the Father Franklin said he was tented area where cars would stop two of them. touched by the many people who for a 2-3 minutes to chat with him. “He’s just a beautiful man,” stopped by to wish him well. “I am overwhelmed with the Ross said. “He’s a giving man.” “I’ll miss here. This is my fam- number of people who came to say During the coronavirus ily. It’s hard to leave, however, it’s goodbye,” Father Franklin said. pandemic Father Franklin time to move on and start a new “It’s not goodbye, I will be back.” would visit Ross and often sit chapter in my life. Change is growth. Father Franklin joins Father David socially-distanced outside for a Sometimes change is good.” n 28 December 2020 Obituary Deacon Lance Fredricks, 81 STRATFORD—Deacon Lance November 11, 1939 in Duluth, C. Fredricks, loving husband, Minnesota. He was proud of his father and grandfather, passed midwestern roots and visited often away after a brief illness on Friday throughout his life. He was a gifted November 20 2020. musician and was the first chair Due to the continued COVID-19 violinist for the Minneapolis Junior restrictions, all of the arrangements Symphony and was awarded a were private. A Memorial Mass scholarship to Juilliard. Ultimately, will be celebrated at a later date. he served in the Navy for five years Deacon Fredricks was a man and ran the Naval radio and TV of deep faith, which led him to program from his stations in NYC being ordained as a deacon of the and Cuba. He eventually settled in Diocese of Bridgeport for more Westport, Conn., where he and his Deacon Lance C. Fredricks than 25 years. wife, Jean, raised their four children. Ordained on June 27,1998 His career as a management Cara and Steve Clark, and Lindsay by Bishop Edward M. Egan, he consultant for many years allowed and Daniel Weekes; his son and was assigned to St. Luke Parish him to travel the world. He was daughter-in-law Brad and Devon in Westport, where he served as also a skilled pilot, gifted athlete Fredricks; his grandchildren, Chase youth education program coordi- and avid golfer who won the and Ryan Dean, Bellamy Clark, nator. A gifted homilist, he loved Longshore Country Club Member- Catherine and James Weekes, and to officiate weddings and baptize Guest events a number of times. Sienna and Hunter Fredricks; his children, and was happiest to Lance was preceded in death by five siblings; his in-laws, as well as officiate the weddings of his three his parents, Miriam and Laura. He many nieces and nephews. daughters, as well as baptize his is survived by his wife of 51 years, Condolence cards can be sent grandchildren. Jean; his three daughters and their to the family at 1308 Huntington Lance Fredricks was born on husbands Krista and Mike Dean, Road, Stratford, CT 06614. n

Deceased Clergy of the Diocese of Bridgeport Remembering those December 13—January 16

December lost at Sandy Hook 13 Rev. Alfred E. Russo...... 2009 15 Msgr. Lawrence J. McMahon...... 2009 As the world pauses to observe the 8th Anniversary of 17 Rev. Kieran T. Ahearn...... 1997 the Sandy Hook shootings on December 14, we return to 19 Rev. Philip Morrissey...... 2008 the words that Bishop Frank J. Caggiano spoke on the 5th anniversary of the tragedy that touched the entire world 20 Rev. Msgr. Thomas J. Driscoll, P.A...... 2018 and also affected so many lives in St. Rose of Lima Parish. 21 Msgr. Constantine R. Caldas...... 2015 “Today is truly a somber anniversary for us in the Diocese of 26 Rev. Vincent P. Cleary...... 1965 Bridgeport community. Five years ago on this day, the town of 27 Rev. Ignatius Baraniak, OFM Conv...... 1980 Newtown experienced one of the worst evils imaginable at Sandy 29 Msgr. James H. Grady...... 1967 Hook Elementary School. Five years later, the pain and the shock 30 Rev. M. Joseph McCarthy...... 2006 that we hold in our hearts is still fresh. We ache on this day in par- ticular, and every day since the shooting, for the parents, teachers, January students and first responders who endured such senseless and horrif- 1 Rev. Michael J. Flynn, C.S.Sa...... 1995 ic tragedy. Let us remember the victims, survivors and their families 2 Rev. Joseph J. Malloy...... 2016 in our prayers today especially, and every day. Rev. Robert J. McDermott...... 1989 In the face of the unspeakable horror of the Sandy Hook shoot- 3 Msgr. Pierre A. Botton...... 2010 ings, it is difficult to see the good of humanity. That is why now, 4 Msgr. Francis Medynski...... 2008 more than ever, we must pray for the mercy, healing, and peace 6 Msgr. William J. Fox...... 1962 that only the Lord can provide. May we find consolation in the Rev. Msgr. John C. Sanders...... 2019 fact that each of the 26 people we lost five years ago are cradled in 7 Rev. Walter E. Bozek...... 1995 God’s loving embrace, each with a share of the paradise that only 8 Rev. Mr. Edward R. Kovacs...... 1999 he can provide. Today we pray for them, their families, and our- Rev. Joseph P. Biondino...... 2001 selves. Let us resolve ourselves today to work towards a world where such horror will never occur again and to pray for the Lord’s peace 9 Rev. Gerald T. Devore...... 2011 for all mankind.” Rev. Mr. Hugh Sweeney...... 1990 Those who wish to offer outside prayer on the anniver- Rev. Robert Nemeth, O.F.M. Conv...... 1998 sary may want to visit the Sandy Hook Memorial at St. 13 Rev. Daniel J. Deehan...... 1976 Margaret Shrine, 2523 Park Avenue in Bridgeport. Artist 14 Rev. M. Joseph Joaquin...... 2013 Armando Palumbo created the painting of Jesus and the Msgr. Joseph A. Sullivan...... 2001 children, which is set in a brick and cement surround. 15 Rev. Msgr. Ernest T. Esposito...... 2019 The granite engraving at the base of the memorial reads: Msgr. Harry L. Hale...... 2003 “In Loving Memory of the 26 Innocent Lives Taken Msgr. G. Robert Hanover...... 1992 in Newton, Conn., December 14, 2012 at Sandy Hook 16 Rev. Thomas B. Gloster...... 1956 Elementary School.” n 29 December 2020 Obituary Msgr. Walter C. Orlowski, 68 NORWALK—Msgr. Walter God’s people.” C. Orlowski, beloved pastor of On the occasion of his 40th St. Matthew Parish in Norwalk, anniversary as a priest, Msgr. passed away suddenly this morn- Orlowski addressed the congre- ing (Monday, December 21). He gation during his homily for the was 68 years old. (A complete Mass of Thanksgiving. On that obituary will be published along day, priests, religious, dignitaries with arrangements as soon as they and five generations of parish- become available.) ioners packed the church. The “It is with a deep sense of sad- procession into church includ- ness and of profound loss that we ed representatives of from the announce the passing of Msgr. 1,016 baptized by Monsignor Walter Orlowski, beloved pastor while at St. Matthew, 2,252 of St. Matthew Parish. His passing First Communicants, 1,599 is an even more difficult Cross young adults he prepared for to bear for his parish family and Confirmation and 407 Couples all those who loved him, coming Msgr. Walter C. Orlowski who received the Sacrament of as it has just a few days before Matrimony. Christmas,” said Bishop Frank J. year he was assigned to Saint “I’ve spent more than a third Caggiano. Luke Parish in Westport, before of my life here at St. Matthew,” “Throughout his ministry, coming pastor of Saint Matthew’s said Monsignor. “There has never his spirit of joy and compassion in 1994. been a day or week when one of gathered an entire community In July 1994, he was named you hasn’t come up to me with around him and brought healing the fourth pastor of St. Matthew a prayer, word of support or a and affirmation to so many lives. Parish in Norwalk and he brought hug. It has meant the world to His death is a great loss to parish- great enthusiasm and energy to his me “When I gather together with ioners, his brother priests, and to ministry. Under his leadership, on you, I know I am with family,” the entire community. He will be September 29, 1995, the ground- he said. deeply missed by all,” the bishop breaking for the new Parish Center “It is you who inspires us,” said. became a reality with a Mass of he said to the faithful. “It is you On September 14, 2019, when Celebration officiated by Most who makes us better priests. It is the parishioners of St. Matthew’s Rev. Bishop Edward M. Egan. you who fills us with your great celebrated his 25th year as pastor In late 2003, the church under- spirituality that you possess in and the 40th Anniversary of his went an expansion, increasing the community of St. Matthew. Ordination to the priesthood, the seating capacity and creating 40 years of priesthood has been a the bishop offered praised Msgr. a family room that allowed fam- magnificent gift; I am blessed by Orlowski’s in the presence of his ilies to more fully participate in you. 25 years and I have never felt parishioners: Mass. On June 26, 2004, Bishop alone—you have been there every “You, my friends, are absolutely William E. Lori presided at the step of the way. All of the great blessed to have a true spiritual father Rededication of St. Matthew people of St. Matthew—it is you who has been here nearly a quarter Church. who make this place work. And I of a century. One who has guided On November 4, 2007, a am grateful to God for you. God you, laughed with you, cried with Jubilee kick-off Mass was held will take care of you, trust me,” you, walked with you, has come to to celebrate Saint Matthew’s 50 Monsignor said. love you—probably more than he year anniversary. There was a Father Orlowski served as a could love anything or anyone else. year-long celebration with spir- member of the Priests’ Council You have responded to his vision itual and social events, which and the College of Consulters, because you have seen the genuine- concluded on November 15, 2008, Dean of Deanery G, Mary, ness of Msgr. Walter and what he with a Mass and gala. On June Mother of Divine Grace. He wants: the best for you and for the 1, 2019, St. Matthew Parish cel- also served as priest president of Church.” ebrated the groundbreaking for the board of All Saints Catholic A Bridgeport native, he an 18,000-square-foot two-story School in Norwalk, and as a graduated from Bullard Havens Recreation Center that will feature board member of Elderhouse of Technical School and Saint a basketball court, indoor walk- Norwalk. Thomas Seminary in Bloomfield. ing/running track, and college His words to young men con- He completed his seminary stud- lounge for a Catholic Newman sidering the priesthood sum up the ies at Saint Mary’s Seminary, Center Club. values he brought to his ministry Emmitsburg, Md., and was “We’re building on what we as a priest: “Someone who’s think- ordained by Bishop Curtis in already have, to give people the ing of a vocation to the priesthood 1979. training space and programs they should have a big heart and be His first assignment was as need to encourage health in body, willing to give of himself,” says parochial vicar at Saint Augustine mind, and spirit,” according to Father Orlowski. “The priesthood Cathedral in Bridgeport. In 1984, Msgr. Walter C. Orlowski. “It’s all requires prayer, study, and above he was named parochial vicar of about creating a parish even more all service. If you’re willing to do Saint Mary Parish in Bethel, serv- welcoming than ever before—one that, the priesthood offers great ing as temporary administrator of that can be the center of people’s peace and great joy that nothing that parish in 1989. The following lives. It’s all for the good, all for else on earth can give.” n 30 December 2020 Sports Highlights from the abbreviated Fall season By DON HARRISON by Weston, 2-0, in the title game. Consider Fairfield Prep’s soc- Toni Domingos, the Lancers’ cer team, which edged St. Joe’s, On the high school sports All-New England star, wrapped 3-2, in overtime to advance to front, the fall of 2020 will be up her scholastic career by regis- the FCIAC’s East Region cham- remembered for its quarantines, tering 23 goals in her abbreviated pionship match where it hung

NOTRE DAME’S All-New England senior Toni Domingos. ST. JOSEPH’S All-American senior Maddie Fried. postponements, cancellations – fall season. Her career total of tough before bowing to Fairfield and, yes, the accomplishments of 108 goals surpassed the Notre Ludlowe, 1-0. the student athletes who none- Dame record (100) set by Sam Prep coach Brian Neumeyer theless persevered and excelled LaValle. said he wished the Jesuits had during the coronavirus pandemic. “During 43 years of coach- prevailed in their only shot at an Consider St. Joseph High ing, I put Toni as the best pure FCIAC title – they compete in School’s girls soccer team, goal-scorer I’ve ever seen,” the SCC but played in the FCIAC which captured the FCIAC’s declared Notre Dame coach pod due to COVID restrictions East Region regular-season title Wayne Mones. “She’s earned a – but he was pleased with the with a 9-1 record and shared the four-year athletic scholarship to season overall. Prep entered post-season championship with the University of Maryland.” the game with a 10-1 record, its cross-town rival Trumbull follow- Consider Immaculate High only loss to Ludlowe, while the ing their 1-1 tie in the title game. School’s field hockey team, Falcons came in at 9-1-2, with Maddie Fried, the Cadets’ All- which overcame a pair of ear- their only defeat to Prep. American forward, concluded her ly-season two-week shutdowns Consider St. Joe’s sophomore scholastic career with 15 goals due to COVID-19 quarantine to Daniele Tanaka Sales, who won and 11 assists in the abbreviated win the South West Conference’s the FCIAC East freestyle (55.69) season. South Division championship and placed second in the 100-yard “When you look at all the great with a 3-0 playoff decision over breaststroke (1:09.66). players we’ve had here—Jenna Joel Barlow. Consider the following student Bike, Jessica Mazo, so many oth- With the Mustangs’ top goal- athletes who were chosen to their ers—she’s the most talented player ies in quarantine with the virus respective all-star teams: ever at St. Joe’s,” says Cadets (although neither tested positive) FCIAC All-East boys soccer: coach Jack Nogueira. “Maddie is entering the playoffs, freshman Jack Hickey, Connor Moore, our all-time goals scorer (83) and forward Lyla Mellen stepped into Luciano Paoletta and John she’ll be going to Villanova on goal and posted shutouts over Reidy, all of Fairfield Prep; Jack scholarship next fall.” Bethel (1-0) in the semi-finals and Anastasio and Manny Santos, St. Consider Notre Dame of Barlow in the title game. Joseph. Fairfield’s girls soccer team, “This was our third SWC FCIAC All-East girls which was undefeated (10- title,” said Immaculate coach soccer: Maddie Fried, Laci 0) during the South West Shannon Horosky. “They are all Lewis, Andriana Cabral, Mary Conference season to earn the top special, but to see where we are Lundregan, Caroline Sheehan seed in the SWC’s South Division after all these challenges, this one and Annie Stook, all of St. playoffs. The Lancers were upset is unique.” Joseph. n 31 December 2020 Column: Thomas Hicks Life is Sweet 1999). Reality, with all its evil and suffering, can still be Potpourri sweet. There are epiphanies of beauty: an elderly woman play- By Thomas H. Hicks ing shuffleboard in the sun, the face of a man walking his child in the park, a person listening to a Bach concert, or a man Thomas Hicks is a member just having a beer at a Saturday baseball game. of St. Theresa Parish in Trumbull. There’s that marvelous scene in Thornton Wilder’s Our Town where Emily, who here is a little-known There’s so much unredeemable has died, is allowed to return song titled “Sad loss. Life becomes a series of to earth to watch herself as a Heart.” As far as I losses survived. There can be twelve-year old going through Tknow, the only per- so much loneliness in living. an ordinary day. former who recorded this song However, amid the treadmill of Emily is overcome by her is Harry Belafonte. A lyric from worries and vexations, sweet- observation that humans go the song states: “Misfortunes ness endures. Reality, with all through life without savoring come, but life is sweet. I can’t its sufferings can still be sweet. their time on earth. There have a sad heart.” There are the daily quiet joys: is so much “ignorance and No one who thinks hard eating a good meal, or just eat- blindness.” The scene becomes finds life easy. Much of life ing a cookie, there’s the taste unbearable to hurts. Life includes hardships, of fresh bread, taking naps, Emily, seeing how people illness, grief. There’s loneliness there are the jokes, the feel of do not make much effort to and worry, tears and fears, the sun, a summer breeze, the cherish life while they still have disappointments and misunder- first snowfall, the it. She says standings. laughter of to the Stage It may surprise you to hear children. “Life brings the griefs Manager, that the great Catholic theolo- There can “They don’t gian, Karl Rahner, told us that be the awful and deaths, and maybe understand, the life of a Christian is charac- melancholy of do they?” terized by a pessimistic realism. life. It is a sad above all the sepa- Then she Christianity does not oblige us earth where asks: “Does to see reality in an optimistic flowers fade. rations and losses… anyone light. On the contrary, it oblig- Still, earthly ever realize es one to see this existence life is beau- However, there are life while as dark and bitter and hard.” tiful despite they live it, (Foundations of Christian its limitations daily quiet joys.” every, every Faith, 1978, p.403). John and suffer- minute?” Updike, in a NY Times inter- ings. Beauty The Stage view, declared that “the natural is everywhere, just as Manager replies: “No, saints state of the sentient adult is a suffering is everywhere. and poets maybe, they do, qualitive unhappiness.” The longer I live, routine some.” Emily concludes: “Oh, However, one who thinks things take on a renewed beau- earth, you’re too wonderful for hard also knows that life has ty. I often sense the hidden anybody to realize you.” good things in it too. It’s got treasures that occur in daily Psalm 34:12: “Who among love and kindness in it, people life. Life is made up of little you delights in life?” doing brave and honest things. things, and small things can To someone for whom the It’s got the sound of rain on the become treasures. One can experience of suffering negated roof, the magical light of late learn to love the little everyday God’s existence, Rahner coun- afternoon. It’s got dawn and things. There are the words of tered, “Have you ever tried to dusk in it. There’s pouring cof- a poem by Faith Baldwin: “I make your experience of hap- fee in the morning and break- have come back to quiet ways; piness, of meaning, of joy, or fast. There’s friendship. to things of silent wonder; to shelteredness be an argument Life has certain inevita- dusk, to primrose dawns and for the existence of God?” We bilities: the disappointments, the still simplicity of gentle tend to take for granted the embarrassments, reprimands. days.” Despite its misfortunes, blessings of living. There are the small humilia- I’ve grown to love it here, and We need to try to keep our- tions and little defeats. Life I won’t be able to leave without selves in wonder at the daily also has many deeds of charity. tears. miracles of life. Life is termi- Good will and love are con- Pope John Paul II wrote nal. We want to make the most stantly in evidence, so much that “the gift of life, for all of it. Try to instill in a child decency radiates. the effort and pain it involves, a love for living, give him/ Life brings the griefs and is too beautiful and precious her the feeling it is good to be deaths, and maybe above all for us ever to grow tired of it alive, it is good to be on this the separations and losses. (Letter to the Elderly, Oct.26, earth; it is good to be here. n 32 December 2020 Nuestra Voz ‘Noche Guadalupana’ desde Norwalk y México: ¡al mundo!

Por MARICARMEN GODOY para que ella y sus primas toquen las mado por el mismísimo Obispo de Mañanitas en violines y chelo. la Diócesis de Ciudad de México, NORWALK—El Grupo Con el pasar de los años, se le fue notificada que quedó cla- Guadalupano de Norwalk, que Katherine, quien se graduó en la sificada y por ende su tema estará cumple más de dos décadas de secundaria Norwalk High, estudió entre los seleccionados para ser rezarle y ofrecerle las Mañanitas a y se graduó en Arte Dramático cantados en el homenaje a la Virgen la Virgen de Guadalupe, tiene dos motivos para celebrar este año la aparición de la Virgen Morena al Santo Juan Diego. El primero, la unificación de las fiestas marianas entre las iglesias de Saint Joseph y Saint Ladislaus y la clasificación a la Noche Guadalupana desde la Basílica de la Virgen de Guadalupe de Ciudad de México de Katherine Cifuentes-Martínez, una joven artista de Norwalk, que desde niña cantaba a la virgen en las fiestas que prepara año con año la agrupación. KATHERINE CIFUENTES-MARTÍNEZ, original de Ecuador, residente de Norwalk, Katherine Cifuentes-Martínez, fue seleccionada para representar a los Estados Unidos desde la Base Militar de Italia, en nativa de Guayaquil con residencia la serenata dedicada a la Virgen de Guadalupe del Tepeyac. La joven artista desde niña en la base aérea estadounidense de viene cantando Las Mañanitas a la Morena de México en las iglesias de Norwalk. Italia, fue seleccionada para repre- sentar a los Estados Unidos con su Musical en New York (Musical de México que será transmitido este composición en ritmo de Gospel: Theater en American Musical and 11 de diciembre desde las 11 de la “No te Olvides de mí; en la “Noche Dramatic Academy) e hizo un noche por la página oficial de la Guadalupana desde la Basílica de internado en California en Disney; Basílica de la Virgen de Guadalupe: Guadalupe”, en el concierto virtual a pesar de eso, nunca dejó de cantar www.virgendeguadalupe.org.mx preparado por la Coordinación a la Virgen Morena y aunque en el Por otro lado, El Grupo General de la Pastoral del Santuario 2019 se mudó a Italia por asuntos de Guadalupano de Norwalk, realizará de Ciudad de México, que será trabajo, desde ahí compuso la can- las fiestas de la Virgen Morena transmitido online este 11 de dic- ción y envió a México al concurso. en las dos iglesias unificadas. Las iembre a partir de las 11 pm. Bajo su música y letra con el Mañanitas se realizarán en la iglesia Desde el Tepeyac al mundo, tema: No te olvides de mí, Katherine de Saint Joseph este viernes 11 de es el lema con que la Diócesis de Cifuentes-Martínez, le dice con su diciembre a partir de las 10 de la México a través del Departamento voz a manera de oración a la Virgen noche, con un aforo de cien perso- de Pastoral del Santuario, regido Morena, “que NO la olvide. Que nas y con las medidas de sanitación por Monseñor Jorge Pacencia cuide a su familia y que cubra al protocolares. Ramírez de Orellana; pide a través mundo de amor y fe”. Canción que El sábado, en cambio, el Grupo de una convocatoria pública al también dedicó a su padre, Don Guadalupano de Norwalk asentado mundo participar en el concurso Marcelo Cifuentes, quien le inculcó en la iglesia de Saint Ladislaus, anual de canciones inéditas dedica- la devoción mariana y desde el Cielo realizará la fiesta con el inicio del das a la Virgen María en la advo- hoy vela sus pasos. Santo Rosario a partir de las siete de cación de la Guadalupana, declara- Para que su canción pueda lle- la noche y luego, la Misa de Acción da como la Patrona y Emperatriz de gar a ser seleccionada en México, de Gracias. El aforo es de cien las Américas. la joven artista ecuatoriana, criada personas que serán repartidas, con Katherine Cifuentes-Martínez, es en Norwalk, pidió el aval de la seis pies de distancia, tanto en la una joven artista, inmigrante, nacida Arquidiócesis del Servicio Militar iglesia principal como en el sótano en Guayaquil-Ecuador, que desde de los Estados Unidos con sede en parroquial. niña acudía con su familia a cantar Washington DC., (Archdiocese for El Grupo Guadalupano, decidió Las Mañanitas a la iglesia de Santa the Military Services,USA), asentada colocar pantallas gigantes para que María de Norwalk, en el evento en la Base Militar de Aviano, Italia, los fieles que estarán en el sótano anual que el Grupo Guadalupano de con una vicaría en Europa y Asia. puedan seguir el rezo y la misa, así Norwalk prepara desde hace veinte Mientras tramitaba el permiso como puedan disfrutar del mariachi. años consecutivos. en su Diócesis, la pieza musical Así como se prevé que todos los fes- Los temas que Katherine inter- empezó a grabar, editar y masteri- tejos sean transmitidos vía online pretaba a la Guadalupana en Saint zar en RAM Recording Studio, desde las paginas de las iglesias de Mary, eran desde El Ave María, Italia, junto a un ensamble de Saint Joseph y Saint Ladisalus. Las Salves (Ecuador) acompañada músicos italianos que le ayudaron a “Es muy difícil todo esto, pero en el acordeón de su abuelito, Don darle vida a una mezcla de sonidos estamos tratando de que podamos Gonzalo, cuando él se encontraba Gospel, balada pop, con matices de festejar a la Virgen como ella se de vacaciones en Norwalk. En otras lo que se escucharía en Broadway. merece”, dijo Aracely De la Rosa, ocasiones, su tío Paco Godoy, le El pasado 30 de noviembre a integrante de la Junta Directiva del enviaba partituras y guías melódicas través de un correo electrónico fir- Grupo Guadalupano de Norwalk.n 33 December 2020 Vocations ‘Noche Guadalupana’ desde When analogies fall short Norwalk y México: ¡al mundo! By FATHER ERIC SILVA A few miles north of the city of Bridgeport, 138 years ago, a young 30-year-old priest visits a man named James “Chip” Smith outside the walls of the jail where Chip had been imprisoned, awaiting his sentence of death by hanging. The fateful night when his sentence would be carried out had finally arrived. Just four days prior, a Solemn High Mass was celebrated for the intentions of Chip and in reparation for the sin and the crime of murder that he had committed. On the night that his execution would be carried out, a sentence that New Haven had not seen in decades, Chip was seen receiving last rites from this young priest, who after imparting his final blessing, turned away from Chip, wiping tears from his Father Eric Silva eyes. Just before Chip passed, he uttered one final line of comfort to this priest who spent the last the vocation of the priesthood as child, making its priests, even when few weeks making visits to the it truly is, not a compilation of unknown, so easily approachable jail to help him more aptly pre- duties mixed with prohibitions but could not be as scheming and pare himself for his final hour. It rather as spiritual fatherhood in creepy as so often made out. I was in no uncertain terms that he the midst of a world so desperate began to shake off my long-taught, owed his life to this priest and just for it. Constantly striving to know long-absorbed prejudices.” Sir Alec before passing from this life to the more about our world, about our converted to Catholicism just two next he said, “Father, your saintly surroundings and about ourselves, years later. A brief encounter…a ministrations have enabled me to we must rely on analogies to make taste of spiritual fatherhood moved meet death without a tremor. Do sense of that which without the one of the world’s greatest actors not fear for me, I must not break clear lens of faith, would be fool- to conversion, not because he saw down now.” ishness; but what is lost by relying a vocation likened to his own but For too long, many in the solely on analogy? because he was moved by a pro- Church and the Catholic cul- An honest return to an under- foundly different experience than ture have tried to explain the standing of true spiritual father- his own. priesthood by well-meaning hood may be exactly what this Innumerable canonized priests but albeit inadequate analogies. culture needs to inspire young men found in their hearts a commonal- Undoubtedly deriving the peda- to answer God’s subtle whisper to ty, in that they did not view their gogical tactic from Jesus Himself “Follow Me.” It is in understand- parishioners as a faceless flock who was apt to teach by way of ing how powerful, how real and but rather as a multitude of spir- parables, the truth of the matter how absolutely necessary spiritual itual children. This young priest is that these analogies still do fatherhood is that we have our who found himself ministering not fully encapsulate a vocation eyes opened to what it means to be to a man who stood prepared for that lies in, but not of this world. a spiritual child. In Matthew 18, certain death, wept not because of Countless books, videos and when Jesus says, “Truly, I say to his love for his fellow man who podcasts compare the vocation you, unless you turn and become would soon depart from this life. of marriage to the vocation to like children, you will never enter He wept because James “Chip” the priesthood in an attempt to the kingdom of heaven” those Smith was not like a child to him help understand the supernatural words must be taken seriously. The but was really and truly his son. vocation and while these anal- actor Sir Alec Guinness dressed Blessed Michael J. McGivney ogies help make sense of what like a priest in France for his role whose beatification touches close we do know, they also seek to in the Father Brown series was to home both geographically as try to explain away the mystery walking from the set to the hotel well as spiritually is a beautiful that lies at the heart of the sacred just as it began getting dark outside reminder that in seeking to solely priesthood. The reality is this: when suddenly a young boy ran up compare one vocation to the next, the vocation to the priesthood to him and grabbed his hand, skip- how easy it is to miss out on what and the vocation to the married ping along until the young boy bid the vocation of the priesthood life are two different vocations. him farewell. The young boy had truly is. The world and certainly It is understandable that young mistaken him for a priest and Sir the priesthood does not need an people in today’s Catholic world Alec wrote that “a Church which analogous love, it needs spiritual continue to find it difficult to see could inspire such confidence in a fatherhood. n 34 December 2020 Vocations Priest serves the sick and dying during pandemic

By ELIZABETH CLYONS

STAMFORD—During the COVID-19 pandemic, Father Matthew Mauriello, chaplain of the Knights of Columbus Orinoco Assembly #126, has been serving the sick and dying at St. Camillus Center in Stamford. “We are so fortunate to have him during this pandemic,” says Marjorie Simpson, senior execu- tive director at the St. Camillus Center, explaining how Father Mauriello would go room to room to visit residents. “With this coronavirus situ- ation, families of the residents were not allowed to hold their hand as they were dying,” says Father Matthew Mauriello Father Mauriello, explaining how, after serving at the center for years, he had acquired contact Kolenberg describes arriving COVID-negative. “Father Matt information of resident’s older at the center at the same time as was there the whole time to children and built up relation- the ambulance. Father Mauriello make sure that she continued to ships with them. ran back to the sacristy, put on receive the sacraments, because Thomas Kolenberg, a member his protective gear, and heard of his charism as a priest and as a of St. Augustine Council #41 Kolenberg’s mother’s confession, Knight of Columbus.” in Stamford tells a story of how gave her holy communion and “It has made all the difference he found out his mother was anointed her. that there is such a comforting COVID-positive. “I really thought Kolenberg’s mother was the soul here, who is 100 percent it was the last time I would see my very first patient at St. Camillus there for us, praying for us” says mother,” he says. to go from COVID-positive to Simpson. n Vicki Soto run at St. Mark’s STRATFORD—Each year, of their uniform, students could This year, St. Mark School the Vicki Soto Memorial Fund wear to school pink, green or any- raised $600 for the Vicki Soto organizes a family friendly 5K thing decorated with flamingos, Memorial Fund. The fund race. Supporters are invited to Vicki’s favorite animal. awards scholarships to students gather on the first Saturday of As a former first grade teacher, pursuing careers in education. November in the picturesque I often reflect on how Vicki Soto’s To date, they have awarded Lordship section of Stratford, selfless actions embody the life of $180,000 in educational schol- Vicki’s hometown. arships and pro- Like most events this year, vided $100,000 in the 8th Annual Vicki Soto 5K literacy, educated went virtual. However, that did and community not stop Stratford’s St. Mark enrichment. School from embarking upon a (St. Mark new way to celebrate the life of School, Stratford’s Vicki, the 27-year old first grade only Blue Ribbon teacher who lost her life in the School, provides Sandy Hook mass shooting. an academically The St. Mark School rigorous, faith- Community, who assembled based education to a team of 84 runners last year, students in grades quickly brainstormed on ways Pre-K through 8. to support this worthy cause. St. Mark School is Students purchased Limited Christ,” shared St. Mark Principal currently accepting applications for Edition Race T-Shirts for $10 Melissa Warner. “I am so proud the 2021-2022 academic year. For and the school initiated a $5 that our school community contin- more information, please visit www. “dress down day,” where in lieu ues to honor her legacy.” stmarkschool.org.) n