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Wayves December 2005 issue - Due November 4 - Street Date November 25 2 December 2005 Wayves Ten Years of Wayves

Where You Can Find wayves New Brunswick... Bathurst: Gais.es Nor Gays Fredericton: AIDS New Brunswick; Boldon's Bookmart; Campus "Smoke" Shoppe, UNB; Molly's Coffee House / Cargo Bay; Student Resource Centre, St. Thomas University; UNB/STU Spectrum; Westminster Books, King Street; X- Citement Video, Queen Street Moncton: Reid's Newstand; SIDA/AIDS Moncton; Triangles; United Book Gay Marriage Exchange, Mountain Road; X-Citement Video Sackville: Bridge Street Café; Mount Allison; Tidewater Books Saint John: AIDS Saint John; Club Montreal; Feel Good Store; Hair Station; And Me Mahogany Manor

Newfoundland... By Christopher Vaughan Corner Brook: Corner Brook Status of Women Congratulations to all those gay though, something went wrong thing. Perhaps that makes me a bit Gander: Gander Public Library and lesbian couples who have between us. We had conflicting of an oddball in the gay commu- AIDS - Newfoundland and Labrador; Bennington Gate; LBGT St. John's: taken advantage of Canada’s same ideas about what the future held nity. It seems like almost every guy M.U.N.; Our Pleasures; Shopper's Drug Mart, Le Marchant Road; St. John's sex marriage laws and have gotten for us. We were going to buy a out there only wants to have his Public Library; Word Play; Zone 216 married. house together. But I was not satis- cock sucked or have a quick fuck You are all so very lucky – first fied with my career prospects and without any ‘strings’ attached. Nova Scotia... to have found each other and then desperately wanted to go back to If I’m going to put out, I want Amherst: Carvel Upholstery and Draperies; Cumberland County Family to commit to each other school. It was to know that the guy I’m with is Planning in a way that is fully impossible to actually interested in me and not Annapolis Royal: The King George Inn recognized by Canadian afford a mort- just blowing a load. I guess that Antigonish: Antigonish Women's Centre; Student Union Resource Centre; society. gage and tui- doesn’t leave me with a lot of op- Webb's Superstore I must admit that I feel tion. tions in the singles world. a tinge of jealously. My Bedford: Bedford Library It was a And deep down, I still have boyfriend and I recently terrible feel- strong feelings for my ex. He’s still Bridgewater: Second Story Women's Centre broke up after being to- ing knowing the person that I think about most Canning Library Canning: gether for four years. that giving often. I know that we were not Dartmouth: Adult Cash & Carry; Alderney Gate Library; CD Heaven; We were planning on up on buying perfect together, but my perspec- Dartmouth North Library; Healing Our Nations; Jake's Video & Variety; Nova getting hitched. We got a house also tive now is that we had something Scotia Government Employees Union; Wolfgang Leathers; Woodlawn Library; ‘engaged’ shortly after meant jeop- special and that we should have X-Citement Video, Main Street meeting each other and ardizing our tried harder to make our relation- Halifax: AIDS Coalition of Nova Scotia; Alteregos Café; Atlantic News Stand; decided to get married once we relationship. But it was a decision ship endure. Blowers Street Paperchase; Bookmark; Buy the Book and More; CD Plus; CKDU were lawfully able to do so. Yeah, that I had to make and deep down To make matters more compli- Radio; Club NRG2; Counseling and Community Support Services; DALOUT; we were confident that the Cana- I knew what I had to do. cated, my ex and I have decided to Dal-Tech; Daily Grind; Diamond; FRED; Fresh Salon & Spa; Fresh Start B&B; dian government would make it I told my boyfriend that I was remain friends and keep in touch. Grad House (Dal); HMV; Hairdressers’ Market; Halifax Backpackers Hostel; happen. going back to school. He under- We both express a desire to be Junk & Foibles; Khyber Club; Libraries: Captain William Spry, Halifax North, There were a lot of good times stood. We decided that we were together again but agree that it’s Keshen Goodman, Killiam, Spring Garden Road, Weldon Law; Menz Bar; Mount and some rough episodes as well. growing in different directions and not possible right now. Instead, we St. Vincent University – Rosaria & Sexton; Night Magic Fashions; Nooks and We managed to get through every- that it would be best if we went our talk about the frustrations of being Crannies; NSCAD - supply store; N.S. Advisory Council - Status of Women; One thing as a pair and it seemed like we separate ways. single again. World Café; Outside The Lines; Planned Parenthood Clinic; Random Play; Read would be together forever. It wasn’t a really bad break-up, Maybe sometime in the future All About it; Reflections; Robyn's Grocery; Room2Move Fitness; Seadogs Spa; Even my family grew to accept but that didn’t lessen the hurt of my ex and I will seriously try to Second Cup - Spring Garden; Shoe Shop; SUB, Dal and St. Mary's; Venus Envy; my boyfriend and me as a couple. leaving the person I was in love make things work out between Video Difference; X-Citement Video, Quinpool Road; Youth Project He was included in family get-to- with. us. But right now, we are both Annapolis Valley Regional Library - Kentville Division; The Red Kentville: gethers and he got along quite well So the government finally got alone and in different parts of the Door with everybody. around to passing the legislation country. Neither one of us can Lower Sackville: Halifax Public Library; Sackville Library; X-Citement Video His family wasn’t as accepting. and we had already broken up. afford to visit the other, not even Lunenburg: Elizabeth’s Books There was some tension between Since then, I’ve been pretty for Christmas. Middleton: Mark Rutherford; 92 Balcom Crescent, Nictaux his family and me. I never felt lonely. There are days when I wish We are left with sporadic tel- New Glasgow: Pictou County Women's Centre very comfortable around them we were back together. Other days ephone calls and the occasional Pictou: Pictou Library and I think they felt the same I enjoy my freedom. But overall, I email. That’s not very much to Port Williams: Port Williams Public Library about me. do miss my ex very much. rebuild a relationship upon. Sydney: AIDS Coalition; Harrison Society; Sexual Diversity Centre, CBU Through all the ups and downs That said, we have moved on But may be this time apart has Tantallon: Tantallon Library with our lives. I’m back in school given us both a viewpoint that Truro: Central Nova Women's Resource Centre; Colchester Sexual Assault and my ex has moved out to west- shows how we really feel about Centre; MacQuarries Pharmasave - The Esplanade; NSCC Truro Campus; ern Canada looking for work. each other and that if it was really Northern Aids Connection Important I’ve been out on a few dates. meant to be, then somehow it will Wolfville: Acadia Pride; The Atheneum, Acadia; The Coffee Merchant; The WAYVES Dates! Not with great success though. work out sometime in the future. Odd Book; Wolfville Public Library I did not realize how difficult it So I offer my sincerest congratu- would be to meet people who are lations to all those gay and lesbian Yarmouth: TOOTS; Tri-County Women’s Centre; Western Counties Regional Issue Content Deadlines: Library Dec 2 (Jan/Feb double issue!), Feb 3 sensible and interested in more couples who have tied the knot. Send your ideas, comments, criticisms, than casual sex. You are very lucky indeed to have columns, cartoons and more to I must admit that I’m not inter- found somebody and made that Prince Edward Island... submissions@ wayves.ca any time! ested in the whole anonymous sex bond last. Charlottetown: AIDS PEI; Afternoon Delight; Reading Well Bookstore; That’s Entertainment! Production Meetings (Halifax) Dec 5 (Jan/Feb double issue!), Feb 6 Help decide what goes in the next issue, British Columbia... 7:30 PM, CEF, 5443 Rainnie (above Prince George: GALA-North Society Century Computers), all welcome! Vancouver: Little Sisters Layout Parties (Halifax) Dec 11 (Jan/Feb double issue!), Feb 12 Manitoba... Help build the paper – no special skills Winnipeg: Rainbow Resource Centre required, just enthusiasm, and helping even once or for a few hours helps a LOT! 9:30 AM, CEF, 5443 Rainnie (above Century Ontario... Computers), all welcome! Ottawa: After Stonewall; One-in-Ten Toronto: Glad Day Bookshop; Out on the Street On The Stands and In The Mail: Dec 27ish (it’s a busy season!), Feb 25 Saskatchewan... Regina: LGBT2A Centre, University of Regina 1995-2005 Wayves December 2005 3 Atlantic News

Team Halifax NYE Next April will be Halifax’s Gay Spaces Sydney PFLAG Fund Raiser turn. Raymond Taavel is an alter- Looking for a gay-friendly place to The Sydney PFLAG (Parents, The athletes preparing to represent nate director of Region 7, which live? Got a room or Friends and Families of Lesbians us at the Out Games in Montreal includes the four Atlantic prov- house or apartment and Gay’s) December meeting: next summer are going through inces. “It’s a great opportunity for for sale or rent? Post December 15, 2005 at Sydney grueling training programs, giving Halifax,” says Taavel. “We’ll also it at www.gayspaces. River Superstore (Community their all and pushing their limits. be hosting Fiérte Canada, a new org. Get more information on- Room) 1225 Kings Rd. Syd- The rest of us can support their ef- organization birthed at the 2005 line. ney, 7:30-9:30pm,Contact forts the easy way – just by going Inter-Pride Conference, which sydneyns@pflagcanada.ca, Sexual out to the Team Halifax Fundrais- was in Winnipeg.” Taavel says the Victimization Diversity Centre 563-1481 and ing New Year’s Eve Women’s workshops offered will be diverse. Celeste 563-1389. Bash. All proceeds go to support “We’ll have sessions on marketing / Aggression our athletes. It’s at the Halifax strategies,” he says, “and volunteer- Survey Halifax Men’s Police Association Club, 5527 ism and much more.” Inter-Pride I’m doing a study on the experienc- Cogswell Street. Tickets in advance will be of interest to the boards of Softball es of victimization and perpetration Men’s Softball team of 13 form- at Venus Envy. More info about Pride organizations around Atlan- 13 Reviews 14 Chef’s Corner; Archbishop Pendergast 15 So Long, Queer As Folk 16 Groups & Services 17 Events 20 Sports Briefs of aggression within the Rainbow the dance and the team is at w tic Canada. ing for 2006 Out Olympics in ww. Community... particularly in the Check out www.inter-pride .ca Montreal. We need a team of geocities.com/team_halifax Maritimes. If you haven’t already for more information. people as soon as possible to get received this, I’ll paste the link registered so we can work on nu- below. Please feel free to forward merous things and do fund raising Happy Holidays it on to anyone you know who to help fund the trip, uniforms from Wayves lives in Canada... I am also looking and equipment. Contact Doug for “straight/non-Rainbow Com- Saunders at [email protected] On behalf of the Wayves Team munity” men and women to fill it Inter–Pride to (see the “Brought To You By” atten: Olympics or sign the list at out as well, to be able to see if there Club NRG. meet in Halifax column in each issue) to our ad- are differences in the experiences of By Dorothy Dakota vertisers and readers, thank you various groups of people. As soon as that freebie calendar for for your ongoing support and http://www.surveymonkey. 2006 arrives from your hardware encouragement. We wish you all, com/s.asp?u=924901219074 store or dairy, mark off April 6 safe and happy holidays. to 9. That’s when, for the first time Men’s Christian ever, Inter-Pride Canada will meet in Halifax. Inter-Pride ex- Singing Group ists world-wide to bath promote A little worship and a lot of Mu- LGBT pride on an international sic. For more info call Terry level and to help even the smallest Parker at 422-6416 or email at of communities to hold and attend [email protected] Pride events.

Last month, we did something a the magazine (or some of you male Test lot different–when two hotties sent readers are not as gay as you claim) us their likenesses and asked us to and that some are 4. Atlantic News; Gender Reassignment Costs 4. Atlantic News; Gender Reassignment EGALE on Schools 5. The Door - 15 Years; Red 6. Kibitz - A Hastie Christmas Leaders & New Brunswick Speech 7. Opinion: Free Video 8-9 Health Conference in NS; NB Orientation Instant HIV Diaries; PQ Politician; 10 Transgender 12 Queer Gift Guide wayves choose, we decided that we didn’t so bisexual they In this issue want to do that all by ourselves. We just can’t make up also couldn’t think of a question, their minds. But we wayves exists to inform Atlantic Canadian lesbians, gay men, so we turned them over to our are not statisticians bisexuals and transgender people of activities in their readers. Thirty-eight readers told (and don’t even like communities, to promote those activities and to support their us which person them) so we don’t they chose. put much stock in aims and objectives. T h e s c o r e how the numbers breaks down as break down. We’re wayves is an independent publication, published every month follows: 20 vot- more interested in – except January - by a non-profit collective. Anyone who ed for Morgan; the comments people make. 10 for Darren; This is what you said about contributes to wayves is automatically considered to be a five weren’t sure Darren: “cutest”; “hot as shit”; member of the collective and is welcome to participate in all and three didn’t sexy bitch.” meetings and discussions. wayves reserves the right to refuse choose at all. And about Morgan: “for sure”; Vance Maxwell Vance Livengood Matt These numbers might indicate that “v sexy”; super hot and horny.” Guang Kansas Jane name here! ...your material that might be reasonably considered heterosexism, twice as many women as men read Those who weren’t sure said, racism, sexism or an attack on individuals or communities. “FAB”; “popularity contest”; real Opinions expressed in wayves are not necessarily those of the About Our questions.” The comment from the editorial collective. The article submission deadlines are posted in three who didn’t choose included: “none of the above”(probably in the calendar of the Community Events page. Articles should be a Illustrator This is the first appearance a relationship); “what a thought- maximum of 1,000 words and might be edited for length. of Guang’s work in Wayves. provoking question…etc.” and Submissions should be e-mailed - in plain text - to the address Most of the time she’s soak- finally, “I hope this doesn’t turn noted below. The copyright for all submissions remains the ing it up in foundation year into a gender issue.” This month’s question: Do you property of the original author/creator. at NSCAD. “I like it all,” she says, “drawing, video, pho- like Christmas? Tell us - head to tography, sculpture.” Guang wayves.ca and fill in the blanks. Advertising: Jim Bain, Advertising Manager; e-mail at Denise Holliday has just moved to Halifax Norval Collins Ian Crowe Will Murray Raymond Taavel [email protected] or call 902-463-0942. Responsibility for errors in from Yinchuan, Ningxia, in advertisements is limited to the value of the space. northern China, by way of About Our a year studying english in Cover Wolfville. The holiday season turns our Circulation: Jim McMillan – call 902-826-7356 (or e-mail wayves) “In the Odd Book store in or call Doug Brown at 902-463-3728. Subscriptions, per year, are mind to religious themes and Wolfville, I saw a copy of seasonal celebration -- and new in Canadian dollars: $20 in Canada, $30 in the United States and Wayves,” says Guang, “and additions to the Wayves fam- $35 elsewhere. Mail in your subscription request. it was on my mind to seek it ily! Denise Holliday brings How to reach us... out when I came to Halifax.” some magic to our pages from More of Guang’s work is at wayves her diary, while we deck the www.geocities.com/pp- halls and work on that infa- P.O. Box 34090, Scotia Square guang444/Hi.html mous gay apparel... Brought to you by... Brought to you Halifax, Nova Scotia Jim McMillan Daniel MacKay Jim Bain Ralph Higgins Cam MacLeod B3J 3S1 [email protected] www.wayves.ca 4 December 2005 Wayves Ten Years of Wayves Atlantic News Out and About Womyn: Over and Out New Play, “Gay By Dorthy Dakota White Trash” After five years, Out and About Halifax based Fat Morgan Theatre Gay White Trash tells the story Womyn is no longer has launched a new play, Gay White of Terry and Gary, economically accepting new mem- Trash, written by actor/comedian disadvantaged life partners from bers. Bernadine, the and up-and-coming playwright rural Nova Scotia who have just founder of the popular Michael Best and directed by Fat moved to the “big” city. Gary group, says she’s burning out. Morgan Theatre founding member wants to experience the kind of “I’m tired,” she says. “It takes Marty Burt. Gay White Trash had lifestyle a place like Halifax can so much time and energy to keep a two-week run at The Crib, 2103 afford gay men. Having moved to The cast, lounging from left to right: Tara Doyle as Joyce, anything going.” At its peak, Gottingen Street. Tickets are $12 a rather low-rent area of north-end Kevin Curran as Terry, writer Michael Best as Gary and OOW had 400 members. Keeping or $10 for students, seniors and Dartmouth, however, he’s missed Lex Gigeroff as Kendal. it local was a problem for Berna- unwaged, and can be purchased by the mark. When Gary meets a sup- dine. “People responded from all contacting Jackie Torrens at (902) posedly worldly and sophisticated over the world. A group in New 492-3062. gay guy, Kendal, at the mall where York wanted to have cross border “I’m very excited to launch my he works and invites him home visits. We just wanted a group for first full-length play,” said Michael for dinner against Terry’s wishes, local women.” Best, who wrote and is starring we find that being accepted into It seems no one is able to take in Gay White Trash. “It’s been the “community” means many over the reins. “Ninety-nine per- in development for a long time different things for many differ- cent of the members want OOW starting out as a 15-minute sketch. ent people. It is a darkly sweet to continue,” says Bernadine, “but Working with Fat Morgan Theatre comedy about two members of 99.9% percent of them don’t want has helped to make the production the misguided and misinformed to step in and take it over.” a reality.” gay underclass. Horse play: Tara Doyle as Joyce on Cont’d on p. 19 the back of Kevin Curran as Terry. Cont’d on p. 18 The happy couple: writer Michael Best as Gary and Kevin Gender Reassignment: Misconceptions Clarified By Christopher Vaughan In Canada, some provinces cover “They (the media outlets) made one political party against the the full or partial cost of gender it seem like there were ongoing other,” says Kindred. reassignment surgery. This is not discussions with the government,” He says that the NSRAP is the case in Nova Scotia. says Kevin Kindred, vice-chair of currently assembling a formal Some local media outlets have NSRAP. He says that there has presentation that would try to produced stories that make it seem been initial contact with the gov- convince the province to cover as though there is an aggressive ernment regarding the matter. gender reassignment surgery. But campaign to have the province Department of Health spokes- he says it is a slow process and he cover the cost of the surgery. person Michelle Lucas agrees. does not know exactly when the Those stories implied that the “I don’t even know if there was proposal will be ready. Nova Scotia Rainbow Action a specific meeting or correspond- In the mean time, Kindred says Project (NSRAP) and the Depart- ence,” says Lucas. “Nor has a for- one of the group’s main priorities ment of Health are conducting mal proposal come to us.” is educating the public about trans- meetings to discuss the possibil- Kindred notes that the gender issues. ity of the province covering the NSRAP is a volunteer group and “Our priority is to make Nova surgery fees. it is not interested in being “hyper- Scotians more aware of what it However, both the NSRAP political” or taking advantage of the means to be transgendered and and the government say this is current minority government. what it means to be discriminated not true. “We’re not expecting to play against,” says Kindred.

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The Red Door EGALE: Schools celebrates 15 years! Aren’t Safe

By Gilles Marchildon to appeal Schools aren’t safe: Please help! t o t h e Many people think now that N o r t h equal marriage is the law of the V a n - By Ralph Higgins source cen- land, the fight for equality is over. c o u v e r Where do you go if you are a young tre with a Far from it! There is much work to S c h o o l person with questions or problems wide selec- be done before we can all live our B o a r d , with sexual health, relationships, - to STI tion of in- lives openly, honestly and without meaning self-esteem, drugs or depression and (sexually formation, fear about our sexual orientation or the rul- are too embarrassed to go to your transmit- pamphlets gender identity. ing by the B.C. Court of Appeal family doctor or are concerned ted infec- and other Young people are especially is now final and binding. about confidentiality? For many, tions) and reference vulnerable, and the vast majority of The B.C. Court of Appeal said the answer is a nondescript house HIV test- materials. school environments are unsafe for school boards have an obligation to with a bright red door on a small ing, pap ( W a y v e s LGBT kids and children of LGBT take proactive measures to ensure a street in downtown Kentville. In s c r e e n - was promi- parents. “That’s so gay” is a phrase safe school environment for LGBT existence since 1990 and staffed i n g a n d nently dis- that’s heard in schoolyards across students and children of LGBT par- mainly by volunteers, The Red testicular played, I the country. In most schools, ents. But these measures will not Door provides services and infor- exams. A noted!) nothing is done to counter this put- happen on their own. Someone has mation relating to the physical, c l i e n t ’ s Housed down or the taunts, harassment and to keep the pressure up. Someone sexual, emotional and mental emotion- in the same bullying that so often accompany has to monitor what’s going on and health to people between the ages al health b u i l d i n g it. Many students live in fear. take strategic action. of 13 and 30. is always but oper- Egale is embarking on our big- In Calgary last Saturday, leaders Their mission statement is “In- of para- ating as a gest project ever, making schools of the religious right like Bishop spiring Youth to exercise informed m o u n t Lots of visitors and supporters during the Red Door s e p a r a t e safe for ALL children. Unlike mar- Fred Henry held a huge fundraiser health decisions” and their stated c o n c e r n Open House o r g a n i z a - riage, this isn’t as simple as chang- to support Pastor Stephen Bois- philosophy is to “embrace diver- and such tion is the ing one federal law. We must take soin, who has declared war against sity, be non- Emergency Teen Shelter action province by province, and the “perverse, self-centered and judgemental providing, in cooperation school board by school board. morally deprived” homosexual and to welcome with police authorities, a safe Opponents of equality know activists because “children as young sexual choices, place to stay. that schools are the next key bat- as five and six years of age are being orientations A police constable was tleground in the struggle for accept- subjected to psychologically and a n d i d e n t i - dispensing hot dogs from ance of LGBT people. They made physiologically damaging pro-ho- ties.” Over 100 the barbecue when I stopped clear to Parliamentarians during mosexual literature and guidance young people by for the Open House on the equal marriage campaign that in the public school system; all a month come October 27 and the friendly schools would be their next focus. under the fraudulent guise of equal to the clinic, volunteers and tour guides They said they are entitled, in their rights.” where nurses were convincing representa- words, “to teach their children Pastor Boissoin is determined to a r e a v a i l - tives of the Red Door’s pol- their values and their moral beliefs prevent schools from teaching tol- able Monday icy on being available, open without state interference.” erance and having a more inclusive through Friday and honest and providing a >> Please help Egale. Go to curriculum. Unfortunately, he’s between 1 and “listening ear.” http://www.egale.ca/donate and wrong about the extent of these 5 p.m. and two Those interested in having donate today. << programs. Most schools have not doctors make more information or who Throughout his years in high taken action to counter anti-LGBT office calls two wish to be involved in sup- school, Azmi Jubran was inces- prejudice and remain hostile to a f t e r n o o n s porting the Red Door can santly taunted and teased by his LGBT people and their children. a week. To Valuable materials and information are made available every go to their website: www. peers, bombarded with homopho- Opponents of equality are mo- honor privacy day thereddoor.ca bic slurs like “gay”, “faggot” and bilizing. If you think equal mar- concerns, clients “queer”, punched, pushed and spat riage encountered strong opposi- are on file by coded number rather support and welcoming attitude is upon. He brought a human rights tion, just wait until the fight moves than by name. All aspects of sexu- likely the greatest service offered complaint against his school board, closer to home, directly impacting ality are dealt with in a frank, open by the Red Door to those feeling who appealed right up to the Su- their children! manner, from birth control - the afraid and alone. preme Court of Canada. Last week, Until now, there has been no pill, condoms and morning after pill The Red Door also offers a re- the Supreme Court denied leave national organization leading the Cont’d on p. 19

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Twas the week before Christmas, time for my Open House A much-anticipated event if I’m permitted to boast Made them line up in two orderly rows I was feeling worn out from all of the pressure And tied up their “packages” quite tightly with bows. So went to bed early hoping to wake feeling fresher The reins then he laced through their nipple rings While whistling A Few Of My Favourite Things. Maybe it was the eggnog or was I just randy? Collars and harnesses all made of leather Perhaps it was the fruitcake, two months soaked in brandy He gave them, but nothing to shield from the weather. Which created the dream into which I fell. In spite of the treatment, they seemed quite delighted It started out lovely - hot sex with Denzel! And Rudolph especially was visibly excited. I was kissing his chest getting hotter and hotter As he took up his place in front of the sled Moving down to his sugarplums. They made my mouth water! It wasn’t his nose that was glowing bright red. But before I had a chance to swallow his pride We got interrupted by a racket outside. Now Santa was smiling as he jumped in the sleigh Reaching for cookies and cold chardonnay We’d been under the tree instead of in bed “Hurry up boys. Get a move on, you knaves. So presents got trampled as to the window we sped. We’ve got one more stop, for the gay folk at Wayves.” At first we saw nothing; our breath fogged the glass For Daniel, for Cameron, for Jim’s M and B Plus I was distracted by his sweet cocoa ass. For Denise and Ian, for Norval and V. Then I could see in the moon’s silver glow For Raymond and Randall, and all volunteers A sleigh with the driver spilled onto the snow. Who get all the news out to our Atlantic queers. We’ve got to go fast, to get there and back or As dry heaves can follow a surfeit of rye I’ll miss the ballet and they’re doing Nutcracker.” Or dreams be created by too much mince pie So Jolly Saint Nick, in my weird surreal version, They leapt into the air, an incredible sight; Was a dominant master with a taste for perversion. For the sleigh it was shining with bright rainbow lights. Exposing his belly which he scratched while he leered The dream was so clear but most vivid was this: At the boys he had brought instead of reindeer, The way that Denzel wished me Merry Christmas. He then cracked his whip, herding them to the wall I woke in the morning with a feeling of bliss He made them all strip, crying out to them all, And the taste on my lips of chocolate from a kiss. “Off jockstraps! Off briefs! Off all tighty whiteys! And Rudolph, I told you, take off that damn nightie! Happy Hols! Crawford I’ll punish you now for being so clumsy.” Then muttering aloud and slapping their bums he 1995-2005 Wayves December 2005 7 Opinion

New Brunswick Leaders Should Be Free Speech - Even for the Held In Contempt. ‘phobes

By Gerard Veldhoven By Gilles Marchildon New Brunswick’s government It can be challenging to hear an h o m o s e x u a l - and the opposition Liberals are opposite point of view. When that ity flourishes, all demonstrating a total lack of con- opinion is vehement and hurtful, manner of wick- sideration for same-sex couples by it’s even more challenging to de- edness abounds.” not allowing them the equal op- fend the right of that opinion to The Pastor portunity to be legally married. It be expressed. condemned the is outrageous that Bill 76 even came There are limits, of course, but “ h o r r e n d o u s into being. If politicians deem it fit Pastor Stephen Boissoin has not atrocities such to challenge the New Brunswick crossed them. Yet. as the aggressive Human Rights Act, which protects instructions of the Act. This is contemptuous and definitely a Boissoin is the former executive propagation of availability of access to any public director of Concerned Christians homo- and bisex- service, the Act would be of little flagrant attempt at minimizing to “take whatever steps are neces- the importance of equal rights for Canada Inc. Back in June 2002, uality” as well as the “psychologi- sary to reverse the wickedness.” value in that particular sense. a Red Deer, Alberta newspaper cally and physiologically damaging We– in the gay and lesbian com- all the citizens of New Brunswick. The letter is now the subject The guidelines are in place and the published a fiery letter by Boissoin. pro-homosexual literature and of a human rights complaint by munity; deserve equal access to all In it, he services, in- onus is on the University of Calgary Professor of government described temptation is strong to want to Education Darren Lund. Winner of cluding the If a clerk refuses to his “war” availability to provide this an Alberta Human Rights Award, provide this service, his service to same- a g a i n s t silence such an angry diatribe, Professor Lund is a champion of of clerks m a k i n g and depu- sex couples. human rights. His years of work or her license to perform Discrimina- s c h o o l s towards making schools safe for ty clerks of safe for lesbian, gay, bisexual and guidance in the public school sys- the court tion continues everyone are worthy of respect a marriage ceremony to rear its ugly trans-identified (LGBT) people. tem; all under the fraudulent guise and praise. to provide Boissoin called LGBT people of equal rights.” legal same- should be revoked at head and will not let up until “perverse, self-centred and morally He went on to say that “war has Cont’d on p. 19 s e x c e r - deprived,” and said that, “where been declared,” calling on readers emonies. once. governments Recently, in certain prov- I was in touch with Brad Green, inces discontinue this practice. The New Brunswick’s Justice Minister, NDP in New Brunswick had a who assured me he would appoint wonderful and dynamic leader in proper authorities to provide this Elizabeth Weir who worked effort- service. As an activist, I find this lessly to halt this bill. I also wrote to be an extremely pointless offer the current leader, Allison Brewer, and it certainly is not within the who assured me she will fight this bounds of NBHRA. He obviously Cont’d on p. 19 has no intention of following the

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Halifax Hosts Eastern End of does not value the lives of GLBT GLBT Rainbow people. Unable to see how they can By Denise Holliday survive in this atmosphere, many easy to say, after the child has GLBT people commit suicide and self abuse, spouse abuse and in par- After months of preparations and ticular same sex (male abuse) was committed suicide, it’s not hours of work at the national and since they often usually feel isolated my fault the parent was Gay, and unsafe the reason for the death looked at in depth. Effects that spir- local levels an event to be Pride- itual conflicts cause; as in the case of Queer, Lesbo, Homo Gender ful about took place in Halifax. is not always apparent. This often Bender . . . So sad, too bad. leads to the published number of Christian gays and other mainline A group called CRHC (Canadian religious groups were examined The Conference workshops Rainbow Health Coalition) who deaths being much lower than the successfully covered many of actual death toll. and how this leads to added health were greatly assisted by a local care costs and premature death. our issues including native- Maritime Rainbow Group called Recently I experienced this related member’s issues. homophobic attitude myself when The average gay man is expected NSRAP (Nova Scotia Rainbow to die at age 55 according to the Peer helping was promoted Action Project) orchestrated a conference as one of the strongest ways of assisting members of our com- Teamwork was the key factor to the on the Rainbow Community Health and each year over 5500 gay h a n d o u t . ground success of the Health and Wellness Wellness conference and brought “Great” rings munity. Self identification was also discussed, since not every- Conference that the Canadian Rainbow together speakers and delegates men, Lesbians, Bisexual in my ears as Health Coalition held in Halifax at the from across not only North Amer- the response I one likes to be classified as un- or Transgendered (GLBT) der simply G, L, B or T. It was Hotel Nova Scotian in November. After ica but the World. would expect all the formal planning and arranging The final count was reckoned to f r o m t h a t noted that we are as diversified Canadians die a premature in self identification as we are every organizer knows that it is the on be 225 delegates and they had two man I spoke the ground, in your face local support that full days of Maritime hospitality death as a result of the of earlier. It in social and health issues. Another common theme was makes the final difference between a good to keep them happy while they is to be hoped or a great conference. Here we see CRHC attended many of the 54 assorted intolerable levels of he never ex- that Transgender issues were often perceived by the TG teammembers Daniel Lanouette, Moneca workshops. Truly the colours of homophobia periences los- McLean, and Russel Rogers. the GLBT Communities Rainbow ing a child or community as being tagged on were held high and as distinct g r a n d c h i l d the end of GLB while receiv- as every colour is, they blended ing no real identity. Hand I asked a man I knew if he cared to who was “foolish enough to choose perfectly. to be a Rainbow Child.” in hand with that it was also The event was held at the Ca- sponsor me in the AIDS Walk for plainly understood by many Life. “No Way, Let em all die” he While I have no idea who the sino Nova Scotian Hotel so adding average delegate was, the ages in that while Sexual orienta- a truly Maritime flavour to the del- said. Fortunately, his was not the tion is widely discussed and most common response. During attendance were from early twen- egates stay that was only outdone ties to over sixties and they blended promoted inside and outside by the Maritime hospitality shown conversations in workshops and the rainbow community, during breaks, a common thread and shared on an ongoing basis. by the organizing groups and hotel Possibly more was learned between many people treating or staff. There was one volunteer seemed to keep evolving. Gay men supporting transgendered who explained situations where workshops from each other than in who was waiting for someone at the actual workshops as each one people including the GLB the check-in desk and was drawn doctors upon learning they were community, get sidetracked gay, refused to take them on or discussed what they had learnt and into a conversation with a hotel shared their true life experiences in by the word sexuality. They staff member. “Oh” she said, “you keep them as patients and often totally miss the gender iden- made assessments based on the this light. As a 58 year old Trans- folk have been so quiet we almost sexual I was amazed that people in tity issues, simply adding forget you were up there.” Another patients sexuality without proper one more letter to their examination, Canada would be unable to obtain great compliment to the dedication reasonable and timely medical in- Title without clarification of not only the organizers but to Native Two Spirited and Trans- or real support. gendered people shared some tervention. If my local hospital did the delegates in attendance as they that to me, I would truly be dev- CRHC ended the con- moved flawlessly from one work- common ground in the fact that ference by having their the majority of the medical pro- astated. Rainbow Parents, Parents shop time frame to another. of Rainbow Kids, now there is two Annual General Meeting The Conference was titled fessionals know little or nothing on the Saturday afternoon of their issues and while some statements that are so far apart you Bob Fougere, pictured here with Hal Walsh Rainbow Health 2005, Developing can fit Canada in between. What and took the opportunity social, educational and government to announce the theme cam- looking on, are just a sample of the teamwork Capacity to Address Our Health about Kids of Rainbow Parents,. supplied by NSRAP volunteers. Hal was and Wellness. The handout about groups have collected information, paign for 2006 as OUTLIVE as one person with letters after As these kids go through the health providing much needed input for changes to the conference explains that each and education system or attend HOMOPHOBIA. They their name said “no-one shares handed out posters and rub- a current flyer that had to be done in French. year over 5500 gay men, Lesbians, churches across the land, what is For such a small group of volunteers, there Bisexual or Transgendered (GLBT) relevant data”. ber wristbands proclaiming A total of 54 workshops pro- it that is offered to them? was an amazing collection of specialized Canadians die a premature death as Do you willingly watch for the aims of the campaign. vided an amazing menu of subjects Watch for more details in skills. Several were bilingual which was very a result of the intolerable levels of Homophobia and Transphobia important to this event. homophobia that still exist in this to sit in and learn about. The issues the near future in this pa- regarding GLBT communities and stop it, or do you find the country. Those deaths result from torment these kids go through to per. the stress of living in a climate that and how stress creates additional problems such as medication abuse, be a subject of humour? It is so 1995-2005 Wayves December 2005 9 in Nova Scotia

I Am Who I Am - from the Acadian Peninsula

At the CRHC conference on Health and Wellness there were several tables and lots of information available. While some simply put out material and walked away, others were staffed with people to answer questions and they did a great job, but one table seemed to stand out for content for the enthusiasm of the people who were looking after it. The person in charge was Janice Lizotte-Duguay, M.A.Ps a well known New Brunswick psycholo- gist specializing in sexual orienta- tion and suicide prevention and intervention. With the help of her colleagues she prepared a video that she and her team were very obvi- ously proud of. No one passed the table without an effort to explain the video to them. It turned out that after the Friday nights free showing of the video, the people present were unanimous in their support of this opinion. This was a professional produc- tion done by grass roots workers. The documentary deals with the journey of four young gays-two Business partners Lucie Michaud, Janice Lizotte-Duguay, and male and two female. The journey Stéphane Proulx. and perspective of each one is dif- ferent. Sebastien Yan, the young- est, was only 15 when the video About The Video was shot and had “come out” only The documentary deals with the journey of four young gays - two males a few months earlier. Marilyne, 16, and two females. Sébastien Yan, the youngest, was only 15 when the discussed the issue with her family video was shot and had “come out” only a few months earlier. Marilyne, and friends when she was 14. The 16, discussed the issue with her family and friends when she was 14. The process took longer for Suzie and process took longer for Suzie and Stéphane, both in their twenties; it Stephane, both in their Twenties; was only after graduating from high school that they felt comfortable it was only after graduating from enough to share this different reality with their loved ones. high school that they felt comfort- The documentary was entirely shot in New Brunswick’s Acadian able enough to share this different Peninsula, with the assistance of various agencies that care about youth. reality with their loved ones. It provides a perspective from rural youths who, often, experiencethis The Documentary was entirely reality in an environment where support groups and services for gays shot in New Brunswick’s Acadian are nonexistent. Peninsula with the assistance of Young people are not the only ones who canbenefit from watching various agencies that care about this documentary. It is a valuable tool for facilitating a discussion be- youth. It provides a perspective tween young people and their parents; it can help people in the process from rural youths who, often, of understanding and communicating, and it is frequently used as an experience this reality in an envi- intervention tool by therapists with clients of all ages. ronment where support groups and Directed by: Paul Arseneau services for gays are non-existent. Duration: 27 minutes Young people are not the only Recommended age: 14-yo and up ones who can benefit from watch- ing this documentary. This is a valuable tool to facilitating a dis- cussion between young people and their parents. It can help people in the process of understanding and communicating. It is frequently used as an intervention tool by therapists with clients of all ages. The Documentary is available in original French or a very good 10 December 2005 Wayves Ten Years of Wayves Transgender Diaries: Denise’s First Christmas By Denise Holliday The season was fast-approaching met in Bedford and I traveled with panions purchased the and I was sort of stressed out, like them. This was to be the most pub- food. I remember almost everyone else. The fact was that lic and up-close situation I had ever nothing of the conversa- I was dealing with faced as Denise. We tion, but when it was several unanswered He had said entered the Forum suggested we use the bath- issues and the uncer- with me trailing a room, my emotions went tainty was perhaps “DEAR”. The little behind, and into overdrive. If there worse than the real- suddenly one of the was one place I had not ity of the situation. word hung on men at the door- yet learned to be relaxed It had been agreed my ears like way thrust a basket in, it was the female wash- that I should transi- in my face. “Merry room. Regardless of my tion, and for the past bright pearls. Christmas, my dear. fears and in fact because few weeks I had been Have a candy, and of them, my friends had spending more and I hope you enjoy been deliberately feeding more time living as Denise. This yourself.” Another man opened me all day with food and included several trips to Bedford, the door for me and I stumbled coffee while staying away Dartmouth, and Halifax and as far through with what must have been from what they knew was away as the Annapolis Valley. the strangest look of panic, shock my biggest barrier. With Because my youngest was in her no option but to “GO” I joined and elation. He had said “DEAR”. hands. The door crashed open and reaction to it all. As for me, I gave first year of junior high, it had been the pair and we literally took over The word hung on my ears like a large man rushed in. He stopped up any idea of drying anything, agreed that it would be better if I the two cubicle washroom. I was bright pearls. It left me in a daze suddenly, looking at my friend grabbed my bag and did not stop could hold off going public ‘til she fast, very fast, and then I started as I wandered the stalls until my and me. It seemed like an eternity rushing till I reached the car. completed the year. This would to wash my hands in a hurry, so as friends decided they had spent as those few seconds flew by. Sud- It was to be a Christmas Tale allow her to establish herself before to get out before anyone picked on enough money. I actually had only denly he looked confused and rap- my spouse and my friends would my reputation over-rode all else. me. Suddenly, the room reverber- enough left for the gas home. idly apologized, saying he thought recall often. In a rural area, things like that can ated from a man pounding on the They decided we would go to it was empty and he had planned I know I’ll never forget Denise’s easily happen. door and shouting, “I am coming Burger King for a bite to eat and to clean up. Then he backed out first Christmas. I had received a call and ar- in.” Well, talk about panic: I was again that grasp of terror tightened and the door shut. Ten seconds of Merry Christmas everyone ranged to go to Christmas at the around my chest. We parked and I halfway up the wall of the building silence and then my friends were Halifax Forum with another TS settled in at a table while my com- next door while still washing my killing themselves laughing at my and a genetic female friend. We all

Gay Leads Going Canada Approves Into PQ Vote Instant HIV Test by Jean-Pierre O’Brien, Reprinted without permission from 365Gay. by Sheryl Ubelacker, repro- curate in more than 16,000 trials com Montreal Bureau duced without permission from performed on 3,400 people, Galli Openly gay politician Andre Bois- the Canadian Press said, noting that the rate of false clair was clearly in the lead as vot- For the first time, a test is available positives is about the same as cur- ing began mid-November for a new in Canada that will allow doctors rent laboratory tests. leader for the Parti Quebecois. to determine whether a patient is Insti HIV, given the regulatory Party members are voting by HIV-positive during a visit to the green light on Oct. 25, is the first telephone with results not ex- physician’s office, clinic or hospital such rapid test approved in Canada, pected until Tuesday. With eight emergency room - avoiding the but is not intended for home use, candidates in the running for the long wait for outside laboratory said Health Canada spokeswoman leadership, unless Boisclair scores testing, its Canadian manufacturer Nathalie Lalonde. “No HIV test a decisive victory there will be a says. kits are approved for sale for home runoff. Using just a drop of blood, the use.” That is something his closest Insti HIV test can tell whether a Currently, HIV testing is done rivals are banking on. A runoff patient has antibodies to the virus by provincial laboratories, and could see opposition to the hand- that causes AIDS within an average depending on the province or ter- some 39-year old with a reputation often he used the drug or who of 60 seconds, said Richard Galli, ritory, it can take seven to 10 days for partying hard, unifying around supplied it to him. In an attempt director of research and develop- to get results, said Matthew Clay- a single candidate. to deflect suggestions of criminal ment for the product’s manufac- ton, chief operating officer of the All eight leadership hopefuls behavior, he did clarify he never turer, Biolytical Laboratories of privately owned company. have promised they would hold a personally bought cocaine. Richmond, B.C. “This test is designed as a screen- new vote on separation from the About 140,000 paid-up party “It’s designed for a point-of-care ing test,” Galli said. “It is not con- rest of Canada within two years members are using a preferential situation, a one-on-one setting sidered a diagnostic test for HIV. - plunging the country into another system where they will rank their with a patient and their health-care In other words, any positive on unification crisis. favorite candidates. provider,” Galli said Monday from a screen has to go for confirma- Quebec currently has a Liberal “We’re led to believe things Richmond. tory testing. The patient would government, but the opposition are probably closer than we think “The Insti test is designed to be be getting a presumptive positive Parti Quebecois has the lead in from our general population data,” very simple,” involving a finger result.” public opinion polls. said Christian Bourque, a pollster stick to draw blood, he said. “This It usually takes about two to While Boisclair was the front- with Leger Marketing. small droplet of blood from a finger three weeks after exposure to the runner going into Sunday’s vote “Usually the second ballot is a stick is then transferred to a vial AIDS virus for the immune system he has considerable baggage. He referendum on the front-runner,” that’s contained within the Insti to make antibodies, which circulate has admitted that while a junior said Bourque. test, and from there it’s a series of in the blood. cabinet minister he flirted with “If you did not support Mr. four very short processes to come Patient counseling about HIV/ cocaine and has a reputation for Boisclair on your first ballot, to the final result.” AIDS would continue to play an being an elitist. you’re not likely to support him on The screening test has been important role in screening, Galli Boisclair has refused to say how your second or your third.” shown to be 99.6 per cent ac- said. 1995-2005 Wayves December 2005 11

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Family Films movie reviews by Ralph Higgins ship between Family is one of those emotionally E t h a n a n d laden words that can have a differ- Remigio. ent shade of meaning for each of While all of and nephew, are truly extraordi- us. Does it mean just blood ties, us have ques- nary. Sexuality is presented in a emotional bonds, a shared past? tions, anger completely natural, matter-of-fact Here are three films that all ap- and wounds manner and love, family and af- proach the topic of “family values” from our pasts, fection are explored without pre- from very different perspectives: this film acts senting easy answers or preaching. Ethan Mao, Harry and Max and out those issues Pedro is not a flawless gay hero and highlights without preaching, and neither is the grandmother the Bear Cub all from TLA Releasing, In the Spanish film Bear Cub, www.tlareleasing.com the importance of communication wicked witch of storybooks. Of in all human relationships. Some directed by Miguel Abaladejo, we additional interest is the fact that Ethan Mao is the latest offering have the story of Pedro, (Jose Luis from well-known indie filmmaker, strong performances and a quirky Bear Cub is about gay men who do original story. Worth a look. Garcia-Perez) a gay dentist living not have gym-perfect bodies, are Quentin Lee. in Madrid fully enjoying his sexu- When teenaged Ethan (Jun Hun The film Harry and Max has ex- not the decorators or witty side- perienced considerable controversy ality and the company of his close kicks so prevalent in Hollywood’s Lee) is kicked out of the house by friends. He is asked to take care of his father for being gay, he starts for dealing with the topic of incest presentation of gay chic. They are but the story is really much more his nephew, Bernardo, (David Cas- bears: lusty, hairy, sexually exuber- living on the street and hustles to tillo) while his sister goes on a trip survive. He meets Remigio (Jerry complex than the publicity would suggest. to India. Having little experi- Hernandez) a small time drug deal- ence with children and com- er and former hustler who offers Harry (played by handsome, sexy Bryce Johnson) is the older pletely unsure of his suitability him a place to stay and friendship, as temporary guardian, Pedro with no strings attached. Initially brother and member of a successful boy band whose younger brother, nonetheless is quickly taken cynical and hostile, Ethan gradu- with Bernardo’s open, friendly ally begins to trust Remigio and Max, (blond, cute Cole Williams) idolizes him and is set to follow in nature and the two form an asks him to accompany him when easy, amicable relationship. he goes home to retrieve some of his musical footsteps. When the two brothers decide to take a camp- When Bernardo’s mother is de- his belongings on Thanksgiving tained on drug charges in India, Day when the family will be away ing trip together they discover that their more than brotherly love has the temporary arrangement visiting relatives. The family becomes indefinite. Until the returns unexpectedly and angry emotional consequences that nei- ther of them - or their family and arrival of Bernardo’s paternal confrontation escalates into vio- grandmother who feels she is lence. The family that rejected him friends - is ready to deal with. Both lead stars give very strong a more appropriate guardian ant queer men. In a story which become Ethan’s hostages. than an HIV positive, free spirited Held at gunpoint by Ethan performances here and the story is could easily have become overly told with intelligence and sensitiv- bear who frequents gay bars and sentimental and played purely and Remigio, his family is forced bathhouses. to face up to the reality of their ity. Bryce Johnson is convincing for emotional effect, Miguel Aba- MHome as the emotionally lost pop star Bear Cub is a remarkable film ladejo, who directed and co-wrote relationships and the actions that which takes your attention from have led to this emotional explo- and Cole Williams struggles with the script, deftly reveals the truth innocence and sexual craving as he the opening moments and never inherent in every scene and his AD sion. Long held attitudes about lets it go. There is not a weak homosexuality, love, family and searches for the personal bounda- gifted company of actors give us ries he needs. The ending of the performance in the film and Gar- restrained, finely-tuned perform- the Asian American values of work cia-Perez and Castillo, as the uncle and tradition are challenged while film falters a little but overall this ances that sparkle like facets in this it becomes clear that the strongest comedy/drama is an engaging look jewel of a film. emotional connection is the friend- at an unusual subject. 14 December 2005 Wayves Ten Years of Wayves Chef’s Archbishop Corner Pendergast’s Mushroom Chicken Marsala hypocrisy Ingredients 1/2 cup flour By Gerard Veldhoven 1 Tbsp Ground Pepper Upon reading the article in the to Canadian society as a whole, not 1 Tbsp Garlic Powder Chronicle Herald, July 26, 2005, by to mention the thousands of gay 2 Chicken Breasts Archbishop Terence Pendergast, it and lesbian couples who now live 3 oz Olive Oil becomes apparent he is attempting in a loving and nurturing marriage, 1/2 cup Chopped Mushrooms to minimize the importance of including the possibility of raising 1 Onion Sliced the equal social fabric of Canadian children. 1 tsp Rosemary society. Church leaders, such as Arch- 1 qtr bottle Marsala or Red The fact is, he is of the opinion bishop Pendergast, insist they Wine same-gender marriage is not and “neither reject or condemn” homo- 1/2 cup Beef Stock or Brown should not be recognized. The sexuals and they should “have their Sauce fact this is a civil issue and not a human dignity”. So, where is that 3 tbsp Sour Cream religious one, does not even occur human dignity if it is repressed by to him. It seems plausible to me, some of the “Christian churches” Chris Robinson is our Red Seal it is the attitudes of some of the and the “Christian teachings”? I Chef at Blue Moon Bistro. He was Method 1. Start with seasoned flour: combine flour, ground pepper and so-named Christian churches that wonder. It is hypocrisy at work classically trained at the Cordon should be of concern to us, as we and though we are hearing these Bleu in Ottawa and his motto has garlic powder 2. Julienne or coarse chop the 2 chicken breasts and dredge in know not all Canadians practise negative ideas, we also know the always been, “Taking it to the next the teachings of Christianity, es- advances we have made in a rela- level.” He ran three restaurants suc- flour. 3. Preheat sauté pan and add olive oil pecially as of late. tively short period of time. cessfully in Toronto and wanted There is a reason the pews in the Kudos to activists, such as Rev. to pursue his dreams of running 4. Add sliced mushrooms and julienne onions and sauté till red wine. Add chicken. churches are emptying, at a rate not Eldon Hay and the insight of the his own restaurant in partnership previously realized. The reasons majority of Parliamentarians, with John Dickinson. Presently, he 5. Add 1/2 cup of brown sauce or beef stock and simmer and then re- duce. As it reduces it will thicken from the flour on the chicken are clear and the Archbishop, same-gender marriage is now the and John run “In Good Company” along with the Catholic teachings, law of the land. We must, however, which caters to many offices in the 6. If it gets too thick then thin with beef stock or red wine. Finish with sour cream and toss and coat well. should accept responsibility. He continue the task of teaching oth- HRM as well as their own product speaks of the government trying to ers, such as Terence Pendergast, line of soups, sauces, and preserves. 7. Serve with a bed of rice or roasted potatoes and steamed veg- gies. coerce the clergy into accepting the certain churches and the likes of Food has always been Chris’s pas- legislation. This begs the question, Stephen Harper and Peter Mackay, sion and he has used it as an outlet who is the Catholic Church try- we are now living in a progressive to express his creativity even on the ing to coerce? I wonder about the and fair society. most stressful kitchen nights. consequences, should the church Let Christianity prove to us the succeed in this fruitless exercise. It churches are willing and ready to shall certainly put us on a fast track embrace us. Some churches, such as to inequality and social chaos. the United Church of Canada, have We are now the fourth embraced same-gender marriage. country to have legalized same- This is a Christian organization, gender marriage and to stir up so the Roman Catholic Church TheMORTGAGE Centre further debate by religious leaders would do well to do likewise. We bring Canada’s leading lenders to you. is harmful and indeed, detrimental

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So Long, QAF by Terry Richard dull, and its insistence in telling It’s really hard to believe that five stories that struck to the cores of years have passed since the premiere many gay people will always be of Queer as Folk. During that time felt. Who can forget when Brian the show has had its share of con- and Justin first met? the sudden troversy and critics, but it can claim death of beloved Vic, or when one the most intense viewer loyalty of Ben’s former students wanted that any cable show has ever seen. Ben to make him HIV positive? Stories such as teen prostitution, Probably the saddest part of the rights of gay parents, drug addic- show’s run was that QAF never re- tion and HIV–along with some of ceived an Emmy nomination. Scott the best acting in television–are just Lowell’s performance as a drug some of the provocative attributes addicted Ted in the third season this show can boast. The show has was one of the show’s finest mo- been so successful that even Rosie ments, yet he was overlooked. Gale O’Donnell appeared in a few epi- Harold’s performance as Brian was sodes. worthy of D e - a nomina- buting “...bold...astonishingly tion every in Janu- year. Ha- ary of frank...and admirably r o l d w a s 2 0 0 1 , never afraid Q A F daring series.”-Matt Roush, to tackle became TV Guide the diffi- an im- cult scripts mediate hit, not only with the gay in dealing with his character’s lack audience but with a large portion of love from his parents or his ex- of the female demographic. Peo- perience with cancer, and Harold ple watched season after season approached the sometimes difficult with anticipation to see the trials explicit sex scenes with a profes- and tribulations of Brian, Justin, sionalism not often seen in acting. Michael, Lindsay, Debbie and the QAF will be long remem- rest of the gang as Mondays became bered as that television show that a “must see” TV night. Long before tore the lid off homosexuality. It the women from Desperate House- brought gay issues into millions wives made soap opera watching of living rooms week after week cool again, QAF was already in a bold and unapologetic manner known as the gay Melrose Place. that, more than any other series, However, like all good things, educated generations of North QAF came to its end–in August Americans. after filming 83 episodes. Having The show ended in a way which been an intense follower, I knew allows us to imagine it come back this year would be the end. Many in the future as another weekly fans are disapointed the show series or even a movie. Many fans ended, but its creators Ron Cowen who have yet to see the finale will and Daniel Lipman knew that after be happy with the way the creators five years it was time to wrap it up. have chosen to end the show. Many series start becoming stale Although the series may be after five years and its creators off the air, QAF will live on in didn’t want this to happen to QAF. DVD form. The first four seasons There are only so many creative are available now; the fifth season stories one can come up with week comes to stores on January 10. after week. The series is also seen in repeats on One thing QAF had going for Canada’s OUT TV station. it (along with its great acting) was the writing. The show was never 16 December 2005 Wayves Ten Years of Wayves W AYVES G ROUPS A ND S ERVICES

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Brunswick, Fredericton: committed to facilitat- port Network, Saint John: for women-loving well being & unity of our gay, lesbian, bisexual casionally out of town. women. 642-1284 email: sjlesbi@ email. com & transgendered community. email: capebre- PFLAG Halifax: support and education to com/ group/ gay-pei (It’s an electronic list, there ing community-based responses to the issues aren’t meetings. You can join and start posting of HIV/AIDS. 459-7518 email: sidaids@ nbnet. web: www. geocities. com/ sjlesbi/ , meets tonpride@ yahoo. ca web: www. geocities. parents, family and friends. 443-3747 email: 3rd friday com/ capebretonpride (Monthly women’s, ab274@ chebucto. ns. ca, meets 3rd Sunday at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gay-pei at nb. ca web: www. aidsnb. com (Office Hours: any time. All first posts are moderated to stop Monday to Friday, 8:30AM to 12:30PM and Saint John LGBTQ Lending Library, Saint men’s and/or glbt dances and social events. (2:00 pm) at individual homes John: over 300 fiction and non-fiction titles. For up to date info and official Pride Week PFLAG Middleton, Middleton: Parents & spambots, otherwise, it’s an open list.) 1:30PM to 4:30PM) GLBT Youth group, Charlottetown: Safe AIDS Saint John, Saint John: improve qual- 634-8288 email: cqsunited@ nb. aibn. com details, check the webpage or write c/o 41 friends. 902-825-0548 email: middletonns@ (open Monday through Friday, 9 AM to noon.) Broadway, Sydney, N.S. B1N 2Y3) pflagcanada. ca web: www. pflagcanada. ca/ Space Drop-Ins. 367-3408 or toll free 1 877 ity of life, reduce the spread. 652-2437 email: 380 5776 email: arcyouth@ isn. net web: www. aidssj@ nb. aibn. com web: www. geocities. at the office of Centenary Queen Square United Cape Breton University Sexual Diversity middleton. html, meets last Friday (7-9pm) at Church at 215 Wentworth Street. Centre, Sydney: We provide a welcoming the Wilmot Community Centre civic address arcpei. isn. net/ youth at 10 St. Peters Rd. We com/ aidssj have a lending library, books, movies, maga- Atlantiques Swim Team, Moncton: Swimming SIDA AIDS Moncton, Moncton: offers support environment for GLBTQ people and their Allies. 13972 Highway #1 wilmot. Wilmot is located to people living with HIV and their families and Call or drop by open M-F 9-4pm. 902-563-1481 just between kingston and Middleton. The hall zines and a place to hang out and chat. Special for fitness or participating in Masters swimming events planned throughout the year. competitions. email: info AT atlantiques. org friends, education and awareness. 859-9616 email: sdc@ cbusu. com (Call or drop by for depending on direction that your coming from. email: sidaidsm@ nbnet. nb. ca web: www. event listings, Ally Training, and Heterosex- Left if your coming from the East side and Right Narcotics Anonymous, Charlottetown: a fel- web: atlantiques. org (Contact us by email for lowship of recovering drug addicts who meet swim times and social events. LGBT Swim- sida-aidsmoncton. com at 165A Gordon St., ism/Homophobia Workshops!) if your coming from the West direction. Moncton, NB, E1C 1N1 DalOUT, Halifax: LGBTQ Society at Dalhousie. PFLAG Sackville/Amherst: Parents, families regularly to help each other stay clean. 566- mers from elsewhere in Atlantic Canada are 9733 or 1-800-205-8402 (Mondays & Fridays welcome to join the team and go to meets Spectrum, Fredericton: social and support 494-2190 email: dalout@ dal. ca web: is2. dal. & friends-of, and, GLBT persons. 506-536- group for students, staff and faculty at UNB ca/ ~dalout, meets every Thursday (7pm) at 4245 email: jhammock@ mta. ca web: www. 8:00pm) at 178 Fitzroy St with us.) at the CEPS pool at the UniversitÈ PEI Pride, Charlottetown: Organizing The de Moncton. and STU. email: spectrum@ unb. ca web: SUB Room 321 maritimelesbians. com/ , meets 2nd monday www. unbf. ca/ clubs/ spectrum, meets every Family Pride Camping Association (Rain- (Please see calendar on our web page.) at Island Pride Festival. 894-5776 or 1-888-380- Boom Nightclub, Fredericton: Gay Bar. (506) 5776 email: pridepei@ isn. net web: www. 463-2666 email: info@ boomnightclub. ca wednesady (7 pm) at Tilley 28 (downstairs Arts bow Spirit), Halifax: Rainbow Spirit, Canada’s Sackville: 165 Main Street. Amherst: 12 La Common Room) only week-long summer camp for children of Planche Street peipride. com (contact us for dates, directions (Hours: Mon & Tues - Closed, Wed 4-12, Thurs and details) 4-1, Fri &Sat 4-2 and Sun t-dance 4-8) UN sur DIX, Moncton: l’Association des LGBT parents. 455-0186 email: info@ fpca. PFLAG Truro: 662.3774 email: s. r. burns@ Ètudiant(e)s gais, lesbiennes et bisexuel(le)s ca web: www. fpca. ca, meets 2nd Monday ns. sympatico. ca PFLAG PEI, Charlottetown: Parents & Friends. Catalyst, Mount Allison U, Sackville: support 368-8416 email: pflagpei@ hotmail. com, & information for Mount A students, occasional de l’UniversitÈ de Moncton. email: unsurdix@ (Contact us if you are interested in helping Positive Connections: Teleconferenced umoncton. ca web: www. umoncton. ca/ out, or have a child who would benefit from support groups for people living with. email: meets 4th Monday at Boys & Girls Club St. social activities. 506-364-2357 email: ktrotter@ Peters Road Charlottetown mta. ca (Catalyst meets approximately ever unsurdix/ attending Rainbow Spirit, our annual week- connections@ acns. ns. ca, meets every UNB/STU Women’s Collective, Fredericton: long camp.) Monday (evening 7:00pm - 8:00pm) at by PRIZMS, Charlottetown: PEI’s first all dance week from Sept-Dec and Jan-April. For meet- party! Catering to the gay and lesbian com- ing info, contact Kris Trotter at 364-2255 or the Women of all ages and orientations. email: Fundy Fruit, Valley: Social group for valley phone. No long distance charges. For more unbstuwomenscollective@ yahoo. ca, meets folk: hiking, movies, snowshoeing, board info call 425-4882 ext 228 or 1-800-566-2437 munity. email: prizmdance@ canada. com Students’ Administrative Council at 364-2231. web: www. prizms. net (see web page for Catalyst is not active during the summer. ) at every Monday at 5pm at the University Wom- games, parties. email: fundyfruit@ yahoo. ca ext 228 or e-mail. en’s Centre at the SUB (Times & locations sent out by email.) Quakers, Halifax: Quakerism emphasizes that upcomming events and location information) Fax: 506/364-2216 at PRIZMS expose yourself to the high energy- Closet Chat, Saint John: Discussion space & Woodstock GLBT Family OutReach, Wood- Gay Camping Club, Halifax: The outdoorsy we all manifest the Divine. 429-2904 web: hali- stock: Books, movies etc. for the family. 328- kind of camping (not just for RVs!). email: fax. quaker. ca, meets every Sunday at Library highly social atmosphere. “PRIZMS - Dance guest speakers. 506-333-3711 email: clstcht@ in the Light” nbnet. nb. ca, meets every Tuesday (8:00 PM) 4868 email: richardb@ nbnet. nb. ca gaycampingclub@ hotmail. com web: www. at Atlantic School of Theology, Franklyn St. All gaycampingclubhalifax. ca very welcome. UPEI Rainbow Collective, Charlottetown: at Centenary-Queen Square United Church GLBT student organisation at the University 215 Wentworth Street GAY, LESBIAN & BISEXUAL YOUTH GROUP Rainbow Playtime, Halifax: Food & social Newfoundland AT Q.E.H.: Jeanie Buffet, Counsellor, at meetings for same sex families with tots or cou- of PEI. 566-2437 email: rainbow@ upei. ca East Coast Bears, Fredericton: adult men who (Whenever called, e-mails will be sent out. are, or like, masculine, hairy men. 506-455- 421-6797 ples considering parenthood. 461-9414 GayFathersHalifax, HRM: Is a peer support Red Door, The, Kentville: Youth health adoles- We call together a weekly Social Meeting on 2856 email: info@ eastcoastbears. com web: & Lab (709) Fridays at 7pm and the location is revieled in www. eastcoastbears. com, meets 4th sunday AIDS Committee of Newfoundland & Labra- group for gay and bisexual fathers. Contact cent center counselling, for up to age 30, all dor, St. John’s: HIV/AIDS education and sup- Gilles @ 448-3565 or Gorden @ 446-7793 ages STD testing. 679-1411 (Monday through the e-mail to the members.) at The Women’s (See webpage for schedule.) Centre Fredericton Lesbians and Gays, Frederic- port for male/female/transgendered, all ages, email: GayFathersHalifax@ hotmail. com Friday, 1pm to 5pm, Wednesday open to 6:00) 1995-2005 Wayves December 2005 17 Events Calendar … more >>

*Donations accepted in support of the Amherst about. Pride Chat meetings are at Wilmot United LGB Youth Project ages 18-25 Support meetings. Youth Project Church at Carleton Street entrance, beginning This is a structured environment, with facilitators Sat Dec 17: Blue Collar Night - Dress Up First and Third Wednesdays at 7:30 pm. present to keep discussions on track, while at & WIN! Christmas Teddy Draw in Amherst and Area, Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual the same time helping to lead the discussion Fredericton Bar & Business support of MANA for Health Youth Group Meeting, 7-9pm. Anyone who is in the directions that the youth wish to go, as Sun Dec 18: Another Big Bird Turkey Draw GLBT or questioning their sexuality in the Amherst, Calendar well as making sure the group guidelines are in Support of MANA Oxford, Springhill, Pugwash and Parrsboro areas enforced. The discussions focus on the youth BOOM! NIGHTCLUB Fri Dec 24: OPEN 12PM - 2AM is welcome, this is a safe space where anyone can present having a say, rather than the facilitators www.boomnightclub.ca Sat Dec 25: Closed come and feel safe in talking about their sexuality lecturing about whatever topic is being discussed, 474 Queen Street Fri Dec 30: Cowboy Night - Ride out the and just being themselves without fear of ridicule 7-9pm, 2281 Brunswick Street. Contact 429- Thursdays - Retro night - 70s, 80s, 90s... Old Year! or harassment. lgbyp_amherst@ hotmail.com, all 5429, [email protected], www. All dance mixes from a different Sat Dec 31: New Year’s Party *Food, Party emails confidential. youthproject.ns.ca decade each week. Open 4-1. Favors, Toast @ Midnight! $10 @ Third Thursday of each month Fridays and Saturdays - Happy hour 4-9, the Door All-extended-mix mainstream club First Wednesday of each month PFLAG Meeting 7:30-9:30pm at Maggie’s Place, GAY FATHERS OF HALIFAX is a peer support La Planche St, Amherst. Parents, friends, family music 9-2. The PARTZ Dept, Level III Patio Now Open Sundays - New Brunswick’s one and group for gay and bisexual men. We meet on & allies of GLBT community. the 1st Wednesday of each month. We also only T-dance! All-anthem dance FREE Meeting Room Available, call now to get together for a monthly Pot Luck social. For Annapolis Valley music, 4-7. reserve. 446-6969 more info contact Bruce @ 469 5490 or Gilles @ Halifax 448-3565 or email GayFathersHalifax@hotmail. Every Thursday NRG2 com or visit our website at http://groups.msn.com/ Valley Gay Mens Coffee House Meets every www.clubnrgHalifax.com Every Sunday GayFathersOfHalifax If you are interested in Thursday evening from 7-9 pm and also on the Sundays- Big Show in the Main Room Metropolitan Community Church, 7:00 pm, facilitating meetings, organizing activities or first Saturday of every month hosts a Gay/Lesbian check: www.clubnrghalifax.com Bloomfield Centre, 2786 Agricola Street, Suite simply meeting a great group of men, then send dance from 9pm-1am. We are having two dances for details 108 us an email. in May, on the 7th and 28th and no June dance. Monday Queer as Folk in Showtunes 11pm. The 28th dance will be a special Apple Blossom Band/Jazz Night in Main Room Second Sunday of each month Second Wednesday of each month event.* If you need more information please check: www.clubnrghalifax.com Play Group for Queer Families! 3-5pm Board Spirituality for Lesbians, 7:30-9PM. We seek to contact 1-902-825-3197 or menembracingmen@ for details Room (Play Room) at Needham Community deepen our relationship with God, knowing that yahoo.ca Tuesday Classic Karaoke and Wings with Recreation Centre, 3372 Devonshire St (north God loves us and calls us into life just as he has Justin 10pm $100 Cash Prize end Halifax, near intersection of Duffus & created us. Persons of every or no denomination Every Sunday Wednesday - Halifax Idol with Anita Mann Novalea, bus routes 7 & 9) Bring a snack for your are welcome. For info about the place of the Valley Girls is a social group for lesbians in the and Annie Cockadoo 10pm $100 child(ren). We will be collecting money from each next meeting call 459-2649 and leave name Annapolis Valley. Coffee Group on Sundays. Cash Prize family to cover the cost of the room rental, likely and number. Personal mailbox: confidentiality For more information e-mail the grou at Valley_ Thursday - Classic Karaoke and Wings with [email protected]. $2-4 per week. For info, call 422-8780 or email assured. [email protected] Justin 10pm $100 Cash Prize Friday DJ Laptop Spins 10pm Bridgewater Dec 1, 15, Jan 5, 19, Feb 2, 16 Saturday - DJ Laptop Spins 10pm First and Third Tuesdays Anonymous HIV Testing, AIDS Coalition of Nova Every Monday Formerly known as the Queer/Straight Allance, Scotia 1657 Barrington St, Suite 321, 5-8pm. REFLECTIONS South Shore Pride Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual Club Mount Pride in the GLBTQ group at Mount 425-4882 for an appointment. holds meetings in Bridgewater every Monday from Saint Vincent University. We are an active and 5184 Sackville Street, (902) 422-2957, toll free (877)422-2957, Fax (902)422- 7-9pm. Call 685-3297 or email thoron_ca@yahoo. online group that meets bi-weekly on tuesdays Dec 4, 18, Jan 8, 22, Feb 5, 19 2970 [email protected], www. ca for details. www. geocities.com/Westhollywood/ at 12 noon in the diversity center in Roseria on Koinonia Ecumenical Church – Meaning reflectionscabaret.com. open 7 days a village/2384 campus, and online at mountpride@yahoogroups. ‘community’. Services bi-weekly at 12:30pm at week, Mon-Sat 1pm to 4am, Sun 4pm to com. Possible events that are being planned for Halifax Feast downtown. Pastor Elaine, 876-8771 Cape Breton 4am, Manager: Stephen Filek the winter semster include sexuality awareness or [email protected] week, movies nights, potlucks, guest speakers, What’s up in Cape Breton? Email Monday $Rockin for Dollar$-open mic and many more. There are always spontanious December 5 [email protected] and tell us! Event contest. We supply the gear, meals and events that are always fun. This group AIDS Coalition of Nova Scotia invites you to our listings are free, after all. you supply the band. Compete is open to anyone who would like to join. Volunteer Reception and Open House! 3-6pm, for a chance to win lot’s of cash, Fredericton 1657 Barrington Street, Suite 326. First and Third Tuesdays possibly up to $1000!! This runs from 10-2 with a $2 cover followed Every Wednesday LGB Youth Project Social Drop-in Nights. This is Halifax Bar & Business by great dance music till 3:45 with UNB/STU Women’s Collective, at the University an unstructured event. It’s a chance to hang out Calendar DJ HedFones Women’s Centre in the SUB, 5pm. Contact with old friends, make some new ones, and just MENZ BAR & Partz Dept. Tuesday Karaoke with Troy Ward. $100 Cash Lyndsey Gallant at [email protected] or call 450- talk about whatever, 6-9pm, 25 and under, 2281 2104 Gottingen St, Halifax’s Gay Village Prize every Tuesday. DJ HedFones 3870. Brunswick Street. Contact 429-5429, youthproject @youthproject.ns.ca, www.youthproject.ns.ca 902-446-6969 www.MENZBAR.ca follows with great dance music till FREE INTERNET 7 DAYS A WEEK - with 3:45 am no cover Third Sunday of each month purchase of a drink Wednesday - Great live bands on stage GLB ANGLICANS AND FRIENDS Integrity is Second and Fourth Tuesdays Sundays - Breakfast Brunch on the PATIO till 1am followed by Retro night a non profit organization of Gay and Lesbian LGB Youth Project 18 and under Support Noon-3pm & Mana BBQ 6pm- with DJ Electro and DJ Sapho Anglicans and Friends. Membership in Integrity meetings. This is a structured environment, 9pm till 3:45am is not indicative of sexual orientation. Integrity with facilitators present to keep discussions on Mondays - KARAOKE & Wings with Troy Thursday - Lulu LaRude hosts 5 Minutes of Fredericton was formed in October 2004 and track, while at the same time helping to lead the - Mystery Jack Song, win up to Fame - The anything goes Talent supports and encourages Gay Men and Lesbians discussion in the directions that the youth wish to $300 Show where we give away $200 in their spiritual lives. A Eucharist followed by a go, as well as making sure the group guidelines Toonies Tuesdays - $2 OFF @ SeaDog’s cash every Thursday. 10pm $3. DJ coffee hour discussion is held at 4:00 PM on the are enforced. The discussions focus on the youth and More... HedFones till 3:45am. third Sunday of each month at St. John’s, 58 Broad present having a say, rather than the facilitators Wednesdays - KARAOKE & Wings with Friday BUMP Fridays with Halifax’s Road, Oromocto. For more details check out lecturing about whatever topic is being discussed, BEAR777 - Mystery Jack Song, Premiere House DJ Sonny D. We website: www.anglicanbeads.com/Integrity 6-8pm, 2281 Brunswick Street. Contact 429- 5429, [email protected], www. win up to $300 continue to define the underground Thursdays - Country Music Night with the best house, techno, Fourth Wednesday of each month youthproject.ns.ca Friday & Saturday - Party TIME! and breaks around! $5 10pm to PFLAG Fredericton meets at 7 PM at the 3:45am Unitarian Fellowship, 874 York Street. Everyone Every Wednesday Fri Dec 2: Leather Swap Meet Saturday - Squirt Saturdaze with DJ welcome. Discussion, guest speakers, support An all gay men’s bowling league is starting up Sat Dec 3: Leather Night - Show Us your HedFones. The Ultimate dance and special events. For more information email in the new year and I am looking for any men Gear & WIN! night in the City of Halifax with [email protected]. Confidentiality who are interested in joining. 7pm to 9pm at The Sun Dec 4: Big Bird Turkey Draw in Support Dance, Top 40, Pop, Retro, R & B, assured. Bowlarama at Bayers Road Shopping Centre. If you are interested in joining contact Richard at of MANA and more! 10pm to 3:45am $5 Fri Dec 9: MENZ “NO” Hair Club - Free Sunday - We feature either great dance Dec 1, 15, Jan 5, 19, Feb 2, 16 440-6729 after 4pm. Buzz Cuts! music or drag shows, special PRIDE CHAT..... an informal and informative Sat Dec 10: Long John Night- Show your events, etc.. 10pm start. Cover gathering where gay, lesbian, bisexual, First and Third Wednesdays Flap and win varies. transgender, questioning and friends of the glbttq LGB Youth Project Movie Night, 25 and under, Sun Dec 11: Another Big Bird Turkey Draw SEADOG’S SAUNA & SPA community can meet and discuss issues relating starting at 7pm. 2281 Brunswick Street. Contact in Support of MANA 2199 Gottingen Street, in the HEART of to our community, while being in a safe and 429-5429, [email protected], Thu Dec 15: Harry Pickles Christmas Party Halifax’s Gay Village, Open Mon-Thu 4pm comfortable environment. Pride Chat will have www.youthproject.ns.ca - Food, Games & Prizes - 8am & 24hrs on Weekends, We accept Guest Speakers on a regular bi-weekly basis to Fri Dec 16: Christmas Concert with Chad & VISA, M/C & Interac, 902-444-3647 speak to the issues you want to discuss or learn Second and Fourth Wednesdays Friends 7PM - 9PM www.SeaDogs.ca, Hours: Mon-Thu 4pm-

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<< Events Calendar Cont’d from Trash, p. 4 1am & 24 Hour Week Ends PFLAG Moncton has monthly support meetings and lesbians from all around the world who will The play runs at 8:00pm from from 7:30-9:30 in room 339 of the Taillon bldg participate at that cultural and sporting event. If Tatamagouche Centre N o v e m b e r Mondays - Student Night, free locker with at U.deM. campus. Everyone is welcome at our you do your inscripton before the end of 2004 you 22nd to Decem- RR#3, Tatamagouche, 902 657-2231 or 1-800- valid I.D. meetings. will have a reduction of your inscription fees. If ber 3rd. 218-2220, Fax: 902 657-3445, online at www. Tuesdays - LOCKERAMA, all lockers $11 you want to join our acadien team please contact Michael Best tatacentre.ca, or email [email protected] Wednesdays - Hump Night, 1/2 price Second and Fourth Mondays [email protected] has written for pass with purchase of a room SAFE SPACES MEETING, 7pm. Support group Saint John Mar 17-19 several Canadi- or locker for GLB youth, 14-25. For more info, 869-6224 or We’re Here - We’re Queer!GLBT Youth and Allies an productions Thursdays - Naked Night, Towels [email protected] Third Saturday in Community such as Street Cents, Popular optional! Gay Men’s Supper Club, 220 Germain St. Last Saturday Mechanics for Kids, Olliver’s http://www.portcityrainbowpride.com/ for more Mar 24-26 Early Bird Special - Sat and Sun 6am till Moncton Leather Chapter Leather Nights at Adventures and This Hour Has information. Chris Glaser - A Sprituality of Inclusion Noon, Rooms are $12 & Lockers Triangles! With the interest and number of people 22 Minutes, for which he shared a are $6 that have started wearing Leather in Moncton, it 2001 Canadian Comedy Award for Saint John Bar & Business Oct 25-27 only seems natural to have a monthly Leather Calendar Best Writing in a Series. Michael Moncton Night so that any man or woman can wear their Educating allies: Breaking the Cycle of is also co-founder of Birdy Num Oppression Leather and know that they will not be alone in BABYLON EAST Num, the outrageous Halifax Second Tuesday of each month doing so when they go to Triangles. www.babyloneast.ca Oct 27-29 comedy ensemble that earned him GLBT Support, 7:30pm at 245 Lutz St in Moncton. The newest sociable gay bar in New Montréal A Maritime “Rainbow Weekend’ a second Canadian Comedy Award We discuss the realities of life within the GLBT Brunswick, on South Market Street. community, share stories and gain support nomination for Best Sketch Group July 9 - August 5, 2006 WAYVES DATES! in 2002. Michael also created, wrote from others. Meetings are confidential, and new CLUB MONTREAL A group of Acadiens/Acadiennes from everywhere people are always welcome. For more info, call Wednesdays: No cover, free pool and starred in a series of three co- are planning to participate at the first Outgames Check out page two for Wayves deadlines. 506-863-1888 Thursdays: No cover, karaoke with prizes medic shorts called Ace in the Hole Rendez Vous Montreal between July 29 until Fridays: No cover, open turntables Wileville that has screened at film festivals August 5, 2006. There will be dozen of gays Third Monday of each month Saturdays: $5 cover after 10 PM in Australia, Vancouver, Toronto, Sundays: No cover, free pool Third Saturday of each month Halifax and Hamburg. His 2003 Your birthday: no cover, one free drink, just Dance 9PM to 1AM. Smoke free. For more details solo debut comedy show Audible show your ID! call 685-3297 or email [email protected] Minority had a successful run in Send events to [email protected] or www. southshorepride.ca now -- Event listings are free! St. John’s - LGBT-MUN March 2005 at the Second City’s Make sure you include contact info! Wolfville Tim Sims Playhouse in Toronto. Every Friday Gay White Trash is Michael’s first, Coffee House: Every Friday, 12-2 (LBGT Office, Every Second Tuesday full-length play. 6th Floor UC, 6002) Every Friday we invite anyone Kings County Prostate Cancer Support Group, Director Marty Burt has been and everyone to come to LBGT and enjoy a 7-9 pm in the East Kings Memorial Public Health working for Atlantic Canadian cup of Coffee or Tea (regular or herbal) with us Centre on Earnscliffe Ave in Wolfville. You can theatre companies for the past 15 (members, non-members, etc). It’s a great chance ask questions you forgot to ask the doctor or nurse and you can think aloud to help you make years. Some of these include: Thea- to vent, meet some new people, etc. Our office is tre Newfoundland and Labrador, located in UC-6022. your decisions. There is growing evidence that your participation in a group of people who have Neptune Theatre, Theatre New Every Third Wednesday gone through the processes you are now facing Brunswick, The Irondale Theatre Arriba’s Night! Arriba’s is a bar in the same building is mentally beneficial and may well contribute to Ensemble, Live Bait Theatre, Two as Quintana’s De La Plaza, in Churchill Square. your recovery from prostate cancer interventions. Planks and a Passion Theatre, Mer- We get together and attend this venue on a regular We are an easy-going informal group of 12 men, maid Theatre of Nova Scotia and basis, due to its closeness to MUN and the fact some of whom bring their spouses/partners The Stephenville Theatre Festival. that these are “Student Saver Nights” (drinks are to our monthly meetings. Know that you are Marty’s first one-man show Mad cheaper and there are free nachos with every truly welcome to join us and if you need more Dog Racing was the first produc- drink!). Before going to the venue, people are information please get in touch with me by e tion staged by Fat Morgan Theatre asked to meet at LBGT-MUN at 4:30pm to head mail [email protected] or by phone 542 6125. Our correspondence address is the same company, of which he is a founding over (and to grab seats before everyone else member. – teehee). Make sure to wear some Pride stuff as my home address: 210 Main Street, Wolfville so we can tell that you’re there to meet us! (Note: NS B4P 1C4. With Jackie Torrens as drama- this venue is 19 years and older) turge, Gay White Trash also fea- tures veteran performers of the St. John’s Bar & Business local stage and screen: Kevin Cur- Calendar ran (Birdy Num-Num, Neptune Theatre, Live Bait, Two Planks and Zone 216 216 Water St, 754-2492 a Passion, Eastern Front, Irondale http://www.hello.to/zone216 Ensemble, Forerunner Theatre); Winter Hours Fat Morgan founding member Open Fri&Sat Nights 10pm-late Tara Doyle (If the Weatherman No cover before 12 Friday Left his Wife, Birdy Num Num, No Cover before 11 Saturday Trailer Park Boys, Lexx, Parsley Days); and Lex Gigeroff (Alex- ander Sextus: The Conclave, The Wild Guys). 1995-2005 Wayves December 2005 19

Cont’d from EGALE, p. 5 Cont’d from Contempt, p. 7 charge to make safe schools a issue and has already spoken with to provide this service, his or her tree, including in the U.S. where it to share his views, then who might reality. Local groups have made Premier Lord to indicate her objec- license to perform a marriage cer- received support from the Alliance be next to have their freedom of substantial progress, but it’s time tion to Bill 76. emony should be revoked at once. Defense Fund. Furthermore, a fun- expression limited? Traditionally, for a national strategy. Religious offi cials are permitted It is clear that politicians sometimes draising dinner was held October the LGBT community’s freedom Local groups need easy access to reject same-sex ceremonies and put their own beliefs before the 29 in a Calgary hotel. has been repressed by society and to what’s going on elsewhere in therefore, as in the words of SaraR- rights of the general public. They are gathering their troops its laws. Canada, and they need support in ose Werner, are covered by the The implementation of human to combat what Boissoin calls the Plus, it is far better that Bois- their work from an organization New Brunswick government’s “at- rights seems so fragile at times. I be- “homosexual soin expose with resources, strength and ex- tempt to legalize discrimination”. lieve the Lord government and the machine that his views than perience. A national organization When legal same-sex marriage came Graham opposition should be held has been mer- Religious offi cials are h a v e t h e m is needed to bring together LGBT into being in Canada, after most accountable for their negative atti- cilessly gaining permitted to reject pushed under- and non-LGBT organizations and provinces had already adjusted tudes, as well as for their refusal to ground in our ground. Un- individuals to speak out in support marriage laws, it had seemed the rid the province of discrimination. society since the same-sex ceremonies der the glaring of safe schools, and to have a strong other provinces would follow I look forward to the day we all 1960s.” light of public voice in the media. suit. However, it was an illusion, are able to enjoy equally the rights For people who believe in equal- scrutiny, his ideas will most likely Egale will be that organization. as the fi ght needs to continue and afforded others and be awarded ity and safety for all, it is easy to wither and die. But we need your fi nancial support we all have an obligation to assist the same opportunities, such as condemn Boissoin’s hurtful and In fact, his words may serve to succeed. in this attempt to access to legal infl ammatory language. Further- to increase public education. By Your fi nancial support will help change the minds we must fi ght this marriage in more, the temptation is strong more clearly seeing the ugly face ensure that ALL children enjoy the of these homo- the province to want to silence such an angry of bigotry and prejudice, the need fundamental right to a safe, caring phobic politi- discrimination, even of New Bruns- diatribe, one which might fi nd an for teaching tolerance in schools and inclusive school environment cians bent on if we live in other wick. We must audience willing to join his war becomes obvious. that is free from discrimination and legalizing dis- all be actively against equality. Gilles Marchildon is Executive Di- harassment. crimination. We jurisdictions. involved in the While it is difficult to sup- rector of Egale Canada, a non-profi t Donate today. Please give gen- should be con- process of at- port Boissoin’s right to spew his organization advancing equality erously. cerned about the future of our gay taining this goal. All the citizens misguided and vitriolic thoughts, and justice for lesbian, gay, bisexual By Web: visit http://www. and lesbian brothers and sisters by of New Brunswick, through the support his right we must. and trans-identifi ed people, and their egale.ca/donate to donate online making certain they have full access New Brunswick Human Rights If Boissoin was no longer able families, across Canada. using our secure donations sys- to equal opportunity. Act, must have the same opportu- tem. The Lord government with the nities–regardless of sexual orienta- By Phone: 1-888-204-7777 x224 assistance of the Liberal opposi- tion. If leaving a message provide tion has amply provided us with your Amount of Donation, Name, unworthy ideas to be thrown at Mailing Address, and Credit Type, the gay and lesbian population Credit Card Number and Expiry in New Brunswick. The fi ght has Cont’d from Free Speech, p. 7 Date. been long and very diffi cult. It is Lund is arguing that under Al- By Mail: Egale Canada, 310-396 clear we must oppose this constant berta’s human rights legislation, Cooper Street, Ottawa, ON K2P discrimination, even if we live in Boissoin should not be able to 2H7 other jurisdictions. We have the make such discriminatory public Please make cheque payable to obligation to stand with same-sex statements. If the tribunal agrees Egale Canada. couples in New Brunswick and as- with Lund, Boissoin could be Whether it’s a donation of sist them in fi ghting for the basic required to apologize and/or pay $500, $100, $50 or whatever you right to be legally married. The compensation. can afford, please consider making government must provide mar- Meanwhile, the religious right is a generous contribution today. riage ceremonies in all parts of the rallying around Boissoin, eager to Contributions of any size are ap- province. The clerks of the court paint him as a martyr for the cause preciated. Becoming a monthly must be made available and not of religious freedom. Concerned donor is the most effi cient way to be considered exempt because of Christians is shaking the money donate, maximizing the dollars that religious beliefs. If a clerk refuses go directly into advocacy. For more info, see www.egale. ca.

Cont’d from Out & About, p. 5 As well, privacy issues seem to be a problem. “As far as I know,” says Bernadine, “privacy laws prevent me from handing on the membership list.” She says the group has helped many women. “It’s surprising,” she says, “how many married women are discover- ing their sexuality. And there’s still a great need for support groups.” OOW had booked the Halifax Police Association’s Club for New Year’s Eve, but has passed the venue on to Team Halifax, the or- ganization working towards attend the 2006 Out Games in Montreal, so it can hold its own women’s dance. Some OOW women will attend the dance. OOW’s website is at www.geocities.com/www.geocities.com/ outandaboutwo- myn 20 December 2005 Wayves Ten Years of Wayves Sports Briefs

spectators spellbound. They were M V P 2006 tied after the fi rst 3 round robin Sheryl The Sungames 2006 may be just games. The victor was decided in what you need to warm-up for the the fourth and fi nal game. Ist World Outgames or the Gay Games. The Sungames, which Big Numbers take place from June 29 to July 2 On November 4, Montreal 2006 in warm and sunny Madrid, will be organizers announced that 9,480 the largest sporting event in south- people have already registered for ern Europe aimed primarily at the Everyone is welcome to contribute the 1st World Outgames. With LGBT community and its friends. brief articles on upcoming gay and the support of the Governments The Sungames will be followed by lesbian sporting events, experiences Madrid’s offi cial gay pride march. as a gay/lesbian athlete, or any other Fiestas, sun and sport – it’s a great sports-related activity. Send your con- way to start next summer. tributions to any Wayves magazine leureusement par d’autres du même For those who fancy a trip to Swoopes did what very few Europe but can’t wait for summer, address. The sports news was compiled professional athletes do. She esprit à l’entrée principale du by Mark Mutrie. Public Gardens. Les marcheurs Swing 2006, a skiing and snow- came out of the closet. In an boarding festival in the Swiss Alps, interview with LZ Granderson et marcheuse commencent à 9h00 le samedi matin et les coureurs et takes place from March 12 to 19 in PFLAG Friends for ESPN magazine, Swoopes stat- Lenzerheide. The New York Chapter of Parents, of Canada and Québec, the City ed, “I’m a fi rm believer that when coureuses commencent à 9h30. Families and Friends of Lesbians of Montréal, Tourisme Montréal, you fall in love with somebody, À la fi n de la course les membres and Gays has honoured NFL Com- along with major sponsors, includ- you can’t control that. Whether s’amusent avec la conversation à un missioner Paul Tagliabue and his ing Bell Canada, Labatt and Radio- it’s another woman. Whether it’s café. Téléphonez Bruce à 902-422- Canada and a dedicated staff, Ms. 7579 ou Jim à 902-826-7356 pour wife, Chandler, with the PFLAG st another man. Whatever.” Stay Close Individual Leadership Louise Roy, CEO of the 1 World Swoopes had been married and des renseignements. Halifax Front- Award. The Tagliabues, whose son Outgames, stated confi dently, “We has an 8-year old son. She even runners – rien de mieux pour garder Drew is gay, have been strong sup- will host the largest LGBT sport posed pregnant for a sports maga- la forme pour la saison festive. porters of the PFLAG Stay Close and cultural event ever held!” The zine in a lighthearted imitation of Campaign since its inception and Outgames take place from July 26 the famous Demi Moore Vanity Guys and Balls to August 5, 2006. demonstrated this support with a Fair cover photo. Swoopes’ three- The fi lm Männer wie wir, directed Chicago 2006 organizers have sizable donation. The campaign year marriage ended and she turned by Sherry Horman, is a romantic announced that over 4,000 athletes consists of print advertisements to Alisa Scott, who was then a comedy released in Germany in late have registered for the Gay Games featuring famous people and their basketball coach for Old Domin- 2004. As the English title, Guys which will take place from July 15 gay relatives. Cyndi Lauper and ion University. Their friendship and Balls, might suggest, the fi lm is to 22, 2006. her sister, Elen and Ben Affl eck grew into romance and a long-term Atlantiques set in the world of amateur soccer. and his cousin Jason have already relationship. Get wet and have some fun! The The trouble begins when Ecki, a been featured in the ads. Rosario Tout le monde! Along with her three MVP Atlantiques is a group of gay swim- young pretzel-maker living outside Dawson and her gay uncle Frank Le 4 novembre, awards, Swoopes has won four mers in the Moncton area who have of Dortmund, fails to defend a goal appear in the latest one. les organisateurs consecutive WNBA league champi- joined forces for “Fun, Fitness, and his team loses a match. Mat- At the awards ceremony, Ta- des 1ers Out- onships with the Houston Comets. Friendship and Participation.” ters go from bad to worse when gliabue talked about the important, games mondiaux She’s also among the top fi ve play- That’s the motto of Masters Swim- his teammates catch him kissing positive impact of the campaign Montréal 2006 ers in all-time points, assists, steals ming Canada and you’ll fi nd that another man and throw him off the and expressed his love for both his ont annoncé que and rebounds in the playoffs. If these swimmers take the motto team. Ecki heads into the city and son and his son’s partner. Chandler 9,480 athlètes that isn’t enough, she’s won three to heart. Some of the swimmers visits all the bars to put together Tagliabue expressed her disappoint- sont déjà inscrits Olympic gold medals and Nike train with the masters swim team a gay-friendly team to challenge ment with hijacking of “family pour cet événement. Les partici- has a shoe called the Air Swoopes. in Moncton, while others train his old teammates. This tale of an values” by a select group in the pants proviennent majoritaire- Sheryl Swoops: a true champion on their own. Masters swimmers intrepid group of gay soccer play- United States. ment de l’Amérique du Nord à and role model for everyone. vary in experience from novice to ers tells a traditional story that is 53 %, l’Europe à hauteur de 34 %, seasoned competitors. For more warm-hearted and humorous with l’Océanie (Australie et Nouvelle- information, visit http://Atlan- just enough twists so that it’s not Friendship on Ice Rien de mieux tiques.org. The Varsity Arena in Toronto Zélande) à 9 %, l’Afrique à 2 % et Les Halifax FrontRunners est un too traditional. The fi lm has a bit of was fi lled with excitement on the l’Amérique du Sud et l’Asie à 1 % club pour les gais et les lesbiennes good-natured fun with things like Thanksgiving weekend in October. chacun. Montréal 2006 a annoncé qui aiment marcher et courir. Juegos del Sol the German leather scene, coming Gay and lesbian hockey teams from aussi que 31 fédérations sportives Tout le monde sera accueilli cha- out, and falling in love. around North America converged « mainstream » québécoises, cana- Copyright Mark Mutrie 2005 for the Friendship Tournament diennes et internationales sanction- 2005/Défi des Amis, the Toronto nent les événements sportifs des Gay Hockey Association’s annual 1ers Outgames mondiaux Montréal competition. In the competitive 2006, une première dans toute division, the T-Wrecks team from l’histoire d’un événement sportif Toronto carried the day with a LGBT. 5-1 victory over Les Dragons I from Montreal in the fi nal match. 100 Ways In the recreational division, the Between October 28 and the end of final match was between two November, world-wide supporters closely matched teams, Toronto of the 2006 Gay Games in Chicago Labatts’ Blue will hold up to 100 parties to raise and Vermont. visibility, fund-raise and increase After regula- registration for the Gay Games. tion time, the The parties will be held in private score was 1-1 homes, clubs, cultural centers and and the game restaurants around Chicago, across headed into North America and throughout the sudden death world. It is expected that an aver- overtime. Each team held their age of 50 people will attend each own during the overtime period party, and with 100 parties planned, and the game went into a shoot- about 5,000 people could be having out. The 6th shooter, a player from some fun and supporting the Gay Toronto who had been drafted by Games. Vermont, secured a 3-2 victory for that team. Players of all skill levels enjoyed Swoopes On October 26, three-time Wom- the tournament. The two develop- en’s National Basketball Association mental division teams also held the