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My Indian Bene Israel Home ERUSHA NEWMAN When I was a child in India, my father was employed by the Brit- ish, prior to independence, and was required to move from time to time. It wasn’t until 1942 that we fi nally settled in Pune and my large family could establish roots. I had six brothers and four sisters, and it was up to my mother to establish a core around which family life could develop. This core was rich with our Indian Bene Israel holidays. Years later, in March of 1976, I boarded a fl ight in Bombay, India, bound for Cleveland, Ohio, to join my brother and mother. What I brought with me from India to my new life in America, more than any worldly possessions, are memories of the Holy Days. Shabbat My mother would light an oil lamp, which consisted of coconut oil in a large glass bowl with a cotton wick. There was enough oil for the lamp to burn until the end of Shabbat. We had a small cotton bush in our front garden and my mother would collect the cotton and make wicks by rolling the cotton on fi ne bamboo sticks. The lamp was placed on a special table in the corner of the living room and the bowl was used only at Shabbat and our Jewish holidays. My Indian Bene Israel Home ❖ 201 Copyright © 2009. State University of New York Press. All rights reserved. May not be reproduced in any form without permission from the publisher, except fair uses Copyright © permitted under U.S. or applicable copyright law. EBSCO Publishing : eBook Collection (EBSCOhost) - printed on 6/4/2017 8:27 AM via EASTERN KENTUCKY UNIV AN: 549525 ; Rosen, Deborah Nodler, Ben-Yoseph, Miriam.; Where We Find Ourselves : Jewish Women Around the World Write About Home Account: s8356098 She lit the lamp and then my father led the Shabbat prayers by giving his blessings to each family member, starting with the youngest. Then the family sat around the dining room table, where my father said Kiddush over home-made wine and bread, which was then distributed to everyone. The wine was made by soaking dry grapes in warm water over- night and then bringing it to a boil the next day. The dry grapes would plump up and be crushed by hand, to extract the juice. Whole wheat fl our was kneaded into dough, and rolled out into two thin fl at breads, which were then roasted on a griddle until crisp. These were placed in a small bowl containing salt, and kept on a special plate. After prayers over wine and fruit, my father washed his hands and mumbled a prayer, which none of us could hear, before blessing the two crisp breads. He would hold the two breads in his hand, sprinkle salt on the top one, and break pieces for everyone. The tradition in Bene Israel homes was to say a prayer over the fruits of the season, one fruit an annual, and one a perennial. After the prayers, we helped mother set the table for dinner—usually chicken curry, chapattis (Indian fl at bread), rice, and vegetable. Rosh Hashanah As small children, we looked forward to the High Holy Days, because it meant getting new clothes—fancy and very colorful for Rosh Hashanah, and simple white for Yom Kippur. But as we grew older, the clothes didn’t mean much; it was more important to get together as a family. Special treats, in Bene Israel households, were prepared days before the holidays. On Rosh Hashanah, my mother would pre- pare an elaborate meal of chicken or fi sh curry, rice, vegetables, and chapattis. Every Bene Israel home prepared a special halvah made from wheat gluten, coconut milk, sugar, and saffron. This mixture, about 202 ❖ Where We Find Ourselves Copyright © 2009. State University of New York Press. All rights reserved. May not be reproduced in any form without permission from the publisher, except fair uses Copyright © permitted under U.S. or applicable copyright law. EBSCO Publishing : eBook Collection (EBSCOhost) - printed on 6/4/2017 8:27 AM via EASTERN KENTUCKY UNIV AN: 549525 ; Rosen, Deborah Nodler, Ben-Yoseph, Miriam.; Where We Find Ourselves : Jewish Women Around the World Write About Home Account: s8356098 the consistency of milk, was put in a large, thick-bottomed vessel, placed on a hot coal fi re and stirred continuously for several hours until it was the consistency of Jell-O. This process was laborious and everyone had to join in the stirring until the desired consistency was reached. Only mother knew when that was and no one could get out of this job. The batter was poured into deep platters (thalis) and sprinkled with almonds, pistachios, golden raisins, and poppy seeds. It had to be completely cooled before being cut into squares. My brothers were given the task of delivering the fi nished product to very close relatives and many friends, who were not necessarily Jewish. We attended Rosh Hashanah services in our best clothes. The services were held in the Bene Israel synagogue, a long way from where we lived. After services, we returned home to more prayers followed by a delicious meal. Though she lived far away, visiting our grandmother after dinner was a tradition in our family. We walked there with our parents, to get her blessing for the coming year and the years to come. She had all sorts of treats ready for us to devour. We lived on the banks of the Mulla and Mutha River, which was the only water venue available at which Jews could perform the Tashlich ritual of disposing of their sins after Rosh Hashanah. After this Tashlich prayer, friends and relatives would stop by to wish my parents well for the holidays. Yom Kippur A somber holiday. We fasted the traditional twenty-four hours, went to the synagogue, and then broke the fast at home. Everyone in the synagogue wore white clothes, unlike at any other holiday. After an early dinner we attended Erev Yom Kippur services and returned for the morning and afternoon prayers the next day. Since we lived a distance from the synagogue, we stayed on the premises until the evening prayers were over. My Indian Bene Israel Home ❖ 203 Copyright © 2009. State University of New York Press. All rights reserved. May not be reproduced in any form without permission from the publisher, except fair uses Copyright © permitted under U.S. or applicable copyright law. EBSCO Publishing : eBook Collection (EBSCOhost) - printed on 6/4/2017 8:27 AM via EASTERN KENTUCKY UNIV AN: 549525 ; Rosen, Deborah Nodler, Ben-Yoseph, Miriam.; Where We Find Ourselves : Jewish Women Around the World Write About Home Account: s8356098 On returning home, hungry and exhausted, we looked forward to breaking the fast with family members. This we did with home- made wine, followed by the puris and other treats. The puris are a type of pastry fi lled with a mixture of roasted cream of wheat, sugar, sliced almonds and pistachios, golden raisins, poppy seeds, coconut, and cardamom. Here again, the process was very laborious, and everyone had to lend a hand in the preparation of this elaborate treat. Another delicacy was coconut-fi lled pancakes (blintzes), deli- cious with lamb or chicken curry. My older siblings were given the responsibility of making all the pre-fast-breaking purchases of various foods at the local bakery, along with plenty of soft drinks to quench twenty-four hours’ worth of thirst. Dinner—prepared after breaking the fast—as the usual: curries, and vegetables with rice and chapattis. Sukkot and Simchat Torah Though we did not build a Sukkah at home, the synagogue had one built—of bamboo, palm and banana leave—and decorated with fl owers and fruits. In the center of the sukkah, a lulav, made of a lemon with palm leaves, was hung from the ceiling. The synagogue provided snacks and other refreshments for the congregation. On Simchat Torah we went to the synagogue to enjoy the danc- ing with the Scrolls. After prayers the congregants took the Scrolls and walked or danced around the bima amid loud and deafening chants from the Bible. This would continue far into the evening, until everyone was exhausted and ready to go home. Not Just a Memory Those were the happy times with my family. I continue to light Shab- bat candles. I prepare puris and halvah. As was the custom at home, 204 ❖ Where We Find Ourselves Copyright © 2009. State University of New York Press. All rights reserved. May not be reproduced in any form without permission from the publisher, except fair uses Copyright © permitted under U.S. or applicable copyright law. EBSCO Publishing : eBook Collection (EBSCOhost) - printed on 6/4/2017 8:27 AM via EASTERN KENTUCKY UNIV AN: 549525 ; Rosen, Deborah Nodler, Ben-Yoseph, Miriam.; Where We Find Ourselves : Jewish Women Around the World Write About Home Account: s8356098 I continue to celebrate the High Holy Days by inviting friends and relatives to enjoy our traditional snacks and Indian food. I continue to transfer my Indian Bene Israel home from my birthplace to my new life in the United States. My Indian Bene Israel Home ❖ 205 Copyright © 2009. State University of New York Press. 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