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The Rivah Visitor’s Guide • June 2005 66 How do you know when you’re ‘there’? When then becomes now by Tom Chillemi Why does Friday seem to take so long to arrive, but the weekend goes by so quickly? And, have you ever noticed that it seems to take longer to get some place that you really want to be, like the Rivah; while the trip home seems to go much quicker? These are some of the conflicts of “here” and “there”—problems caused by anticipating goals, be they good or bad. “There” is the goal, where you want to be. “Here” is where you are. The “here and there conflict” is also evident in time goals— “now and then.” For instance Being “here” is not where most want to be. They’d rather be “there.” Fridays, or your vacation time at the Rivah, come too slow and your time “there” is over too fast. Getting ‘there’ Is there a way to combat this “here and there” conflict. was not my goal Hold onto that Rivah attitude! “There” always seems to be further away than it is, espe- anyhow. Being As you approach an unwanted goal or des- stop or turn, without notice. Tailgating puts cially when you really antic- tination, like Monday morning, time will you in a defensive mode; you must be pre- ipate getting there. (Are we ‘here’ on the seem to go faster. pared to stop—a four-letter word to racers. almost there yet?) But, if you really want to be some place, Slow down, don’t think about getting Even if “there” is good, after water was my time will seem to go slow and your trip “there.” Find something “here” to enjoy. you’ve been “there” for a while goal. And I was will seem longer. This all comes from being Look out the side window at the things it begins to feel like “here,” “here,” but wanting to be “there” (see related you’ve whizzed past for years. You never then it’s time to go “there,” already ‘there.’ story). know what you might see. A truly happy again. Anticipating goals can lead a tense internal person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a The cycle doesn’t end unless state. A balance must be struck. Here are a detour. you make it stop. And some few tips for relaxing at the Rivah. Once, faced with a long line of cars behind people are only happy a short est when floating on a boat. First, a few deep breaths of Rivah air can a school bus, I pulled into the tiny Cobbs time “here,” then they want Maybe that’s why we like rock- chase away your cares. Any air will do, but Creek Market in Mathews and found out they to be “there”—until they are ing chairs, swings, tri-cycles, Rivah air is best. And, the best part, the air is make homemade pies from scratch (make there—then it’s time to again boats, planes and go-go-going. free. mine coconut cream). You know what else, go somewhere . any where. Finding contentment This may sound crazy at fi rst, but in a that traffi c cleared. Let me out of here! It’s almost impossible to just stressful situation breathing becomes shal- The difference between hurrying and taking It springs from the hope that sit on a front porch and enjoy low. Some people even unconsciously hold your time is probably about three to fi ve min- things will be better “there.” the view, if something is both- their breath. (This goes back to when we utes, which is not worth getting your bowels And they will be, for a while. ering you. You can’t enjoy were hiding from tigers and didn’t want them in an uproar or stomach in a knot. Then it’s time to go. being “here” if your mind is to hear us.) Did you ever pass someone on the road, Even dogs want to go “there,” “there.” Remember to exhale the old air out. then stop to get gas and see them go cruising make the daily rounds and It’s easier to stay on the porch A cell phone can also ruin your day of lei- by? Who won that race, the tortoise or the socialize. In nature, movement if you want less. Chasing more sure at the Rivah. Try “forgetting” to charge hare? is necessary to find food and to of everything wears you down. the phone’s battery. Relax your goals before the trip. Don’t stay alive. And from the way “The more you have invested Here at the Rivah some people move, and make commitments; they put you in a time humans have created excuses in something, the more it owns drive, like it was 50 years ago. This slowing bind. Pad your ETA by 30 minutes, or even to move around, it seems essen- you, and your time,” said Jamie down is good for the nerves. an hour, to allow for delays that are either tial to our lives. Barnhardt who, incidentally, When you get behind an old truck, whose intentional or due to circumstances. Being How many forms of enter- owns a British sports car resto- driver has his hat cocked to one side, a dog early is never as much a problem as being tainment have evolved from ration business. on the seat, and going 15 mph below the late. that movement? Just about all It’s a good thing to have limit, drop back. Tailgating will do no good When leaving the Rivah, remember to shift of them. something to look forward to, on a two-lane road. These drivers are prone to gears—you are re-entering the fast lane. Here’s a clue about human so long as the future doesn’t nature. Our 5-month-old grand- invade the present. daughter Gabriella doesn’t like Remember, if you anticipate stop-and-go traffic and she the future too much you ruin “People ought to stay where Commitments place else. They’re not “here” cries in traffic jams. She likes the chance to enjoy and savor they are,” I said to the old Have you ever known people in their mind; they’re already the harmonic vibrations of a the moment—the here and now. waterman. who, the whole time you’re “there,” working towards a car moving at least 40 miles You will get so excited you “That’s what they said about trying to talk to them, look over goal, even wanting that goal to per hour. I’m told that while in can’t sit still. And, then it’s you when you came here,” he your shoulder or at their watch? be over. They stack up goals so the womb, she was the calm- goodbye to the front porch. replied. They have commitments some- (more on the next page) 67 The Rivah Visitor’s Guide • June 2005 Patriotic Art Show deadline is June 21 In an effort to honor our country, military and everyday heroes, the Bay School Cultural Arts Center invites all artists to exhibit in its fi rst annual Patri- otic Art Show. All mediums including, but not limited to, poetry, prose, sculpture, painting, works on paper, carvings, fi ber, jewelry, etc., will be welcome. They may not exceed 30 x 40 inches and artwork must be ready to hang. The subject matter must evoke feelings of patriotism and love of the USA. Artists will be allowed to dis- play up to three pieces. Dead- Getting “there” is half the fun. line for applications is June 21. Show dates are July 2-16. Pre- Getting there . (from the previous page) view and reception will be July 1 from 6 to 8 p.m. at the Bay School. that no matter how hard they Making goals After weeks of the urban life, There is no fee to exhibit. try, they can only think about Between being here and there some of these people still in Please join us and show your the future, not the present. we create imaginary goals, such hyper drive end up “here” at A truly happy patriotic spirit. All the while, you dream of as getting through a traffic light the Rivah. But in their minds, For an application, contact the tomorrow, but when you get while it’s green. (Ding-dong! they are still “there.” person is one Bay School Cultural Arts Center “there,’ then it’s “here.” You win bonus time.) Things move slower at the at 804-725-1278 or visit our The conflict begins the How about this for a here and Rivah. The sooner you get used who can enjoy website at <bay- second you’re not happy with there conflict? You’re doing 50 to it, the better off you’ll be. school-arts.com>. Email us at “here,” where you are. You mph in “rough” hour traffic as “Time and tide wait for no the scenery <[email protected]>. have created a goal, a place you approach a stoplight. In man,” an old-timer said. And, The Bay School, located on that makes you feel better, and anticipation, you get ready to if you think you can cheat time, on a detour. Main Street, Mathews, is a non- you start thinking of how to either slam on the brakes, or you are only fooling yourself. profi t arts educational facility and organization that promotes attain it. mash the gas and “run it”— a Cheating or making time school clock.