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INSIDE FROM THE EDITOR’S DESK SIMCHA IN CEDARHURST PARK The 5 Towns Riviera BY LARRY GORDON Danny O’Doul 16 Easy Fixes Elke Probkevitz 22 Reading The News Last Friday was a day of cele- someone has to tell those MindBiz bration in America. The good 250,000 people out of work that Esther Mann, LMSW 24 news was that in July only a things are just great. Sidney Zion And FDR quarter million people lost their We can’t fault the president Dr. Rafael Medoff 60 jobs. President Obama declared or his advisers for sharing the a victory of sorts. It’s true that desire to encourage Americans Life Coaching for most of the year until this and provide us with an upbeat Hindy Lieberman 62 month, about a half million peo- assessment and feeling about ple were losing their jobs each the days ahead. While so much (L–R): Village Trustee Ben Weinstock, County Executive Tom Suozzi, month. Now the hope is that of what the U.S. has been going Mayor Andrew Parise, County Legislator Jeff Toback, Izzy Wasser, and the losses have slowed, and who through economically is based Trustee Ron Lanzilotta discuss the renovations to Cedarhurst Park at the Tuesday-night concert in the park on August 11. The annual Jewish Night knows, maybe it’ll be turned on hard financial facts, a great Concert featured the Neshoma Orchestra and soloist Shimon Kramer. around and the economy will Several thousand people participated, sang, danced, and had an all- be back on the upswing. But Continued on Page 5 around great time. More Photos, Page 52 PROVING THE ORAL LAW HEARD IN THE BAGEL STORE

B Y RABBI YAIR scribed” (Devarim 12:21). And Comings And Goings HOFFMAN yet nowhere in the written law Rabinovich-Kopel wedding. is there any previous (or fur- Summer Memoir VI While these life-cycle events See Page 70 Sometimes people need a ther) instruction as to how to BY LARRY GORDON continue to occur day after day boost in their emunah. This slaughter. throughout the year, they some- week’s parashah, Re’eih, provides A bit earlier we find another People fly away and arrive how seem more profound dur- us with an interesting boost, as interesting verse. The pasuk back home. We attend wed- ing the summer, and particular- well as food for thought. There is (11:18) tells us that one must dings and bar mitzvahs. Babies ly in the month of August. a fascinating verse that describes place frontlets (“totafos,” tefillin) are born and we welcome them Perhaps it is the slower pace of the notion of shechitah, Jewish between the eyes. But nowhere to the world; at other times, we summer or the overheated slaughter. does the Torah tell us what sit and commiserate and weather conditions. (Do things The verse states, “You may these frontlets are. empathize over the loss of a always happen at a slower pace slaughter your cattle and small There are parts of the Bible loved one. As the songwriter in Florida and California just animals that G-d has given you, said, we go round and round in the manner that I have pre- Continued on Page 14 and round in the circle game. Continued on Page 11

In memory of Conferring With Congress Anti-Semite A NOT SO Arnold Berman, a’h. See Page 20 Training Camp TYPICAL TUESDAY BY ERIC Another Mother’s Musings EHRENHAUS B Y PHYLLIS J. L UBIN It’s no secret that the Jewish people have suffered more than It’s Tuesday at Avnet Country any other nation in the world. Day. Luckily for me, the boys are From slavery, to pogroms, to the off at Adventureland, so I have a Holocaust, to the most recent needed moment to muse while torment delivered by our Arab staring at the blue ocean. cousins, there’s no question that A typical Tuesday in a sum- we’re the punching bag of mer week…and yet not so typ- human history. Granted, our ical! Besides being an ordi- “chronology of affliction” is very nary day in August, it is the Kids Of Courage Rav Simcha HaKohen Kook, Chief Rabbi of Rehovot, Israel, at a recent private much rooted in G-d’s ultimate extraordinary day on the doing it again. meeting with Congressman Eric Cantor (R-VA). Congressman Cantor is one of See Page 42 the leading supporters of Israel in the U.S. Congress. Continued on Page 10 Continued on Page 12

CANDLE LIGHTING August 14 – 7:35 PM August 21 – 7:25 PM See Page 35 2 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 3 4 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES FROM THE EDITOR hope for a good and bright future, but which way the diplomatic winds were complete or absolutely total freeze. As Continued from Front Cover once those optimistic utterances are blowing. Perhaps to you and me, as well long as there is the most minimal stripped down to their core we are as to most of the Arab world, a freeze amount of wiggle room, there exists the deal of the current situation in our coun- quickly struck with the realization that means to halt everything in its tracks on possibility of coming to terms and the try is about a lack of optimism that can peace is not only not close but actually a dime. Leave the nails half knocked into avoidance of a full disagreement adjust itself with a little forward-thinking further away from being concluded the walls and leave the sheetrock on the between allies. optimism. than any time in the past. truck in the parking lot. In the instance of the U.S. and Israel So even though the employment Critics of the ongoing and seemingly But in the world of diplomacy, as in one can always expect some new twist numbers were distorted and manipulat- endless process believe that the two the world of Talmudic thought, it is or curve at some point. Just this week, ed, it still gave the news media a day or sides are just not capable of making required that every word, punctuation Maryland Congressman Steny Hoyer so to rave about how we’ve turned progress or coming to an agreement. The mark, verbal inflection, and nuance be announced on a visit to Israel that things around over a rather short but truth is though, that great progress has defined. If you’re going to say or write while there had to be a settlement painful period and that America—under freeze in order for talks to go forward, Obama’s wise leadership—is on the way there was a differentiation that had to back to the top. be made between the West Bank and As for last week’s economic news East Jerusalem. reports, not only did fewer Americans That pronouncement can certainly lose jobs last month but the overall and In the instance of the U.S. and throw a wrench into the process. The all important unemployment statistic Palestinians are expecting or rather dropped a tenth of a percentage point to Israel one can always expect some demanding that Jerusalem be the capital 9.4% from 9.5%. Of course what the city of the new Palestine. Did administration or most of the news Congressman Hoyer speak independent- media did not tell us was that the num- new twist or curve at some point. ly or was he prompted by the Obama han- ber reflected the people—some dlers to float the softened equation out 700,000—who have dropped out of the there to see how it plays? job market altogether, meaning they’ve Ethan Bronner, in Wednesday’s New stopped looking for work; with them out been made, but made in the direction of something you better spell it out careful- York Times, writes that Israel is having a of the way for now, the unemployment driving the parties further away than ly and in detail. On that level, a freeze is great summer so far this year. Record figure dropped. ever from being able to accept each not exactly a freeze. The news media numbers of tourists are streaming into In reality this is precisely how the other’s positions. And the reason for that wants you to think that Israel is being the country, the shekel is strong and there game is played. In order to live up to a is the words that are finally being used defiant because the media needs little is quiet on her borders. The gist of his goal, the ideal needs to be articulated, in the process and the fashion in which David (played here by Israel) to fire up pieces is that Israel is suspicious of the not just pondered. But sometimes these the media is finally reporting what is his slingshot in response to the big bad quiet that it is experiencing at present same expressions are dangerous, for taking place. Goliath (played for these purposes by considering that Hezbollah in Lebanon once exposed to the light of day they are President Obama’s and Hillary the U.S.). and Hamas in Gaza continue to stockpile revealed to be rather empty and mean- Clinton’s demand of a few weeks ago that But then the pragmatism sets in and deadly missiles in the tens of thousands. ingless. It’s a similar situation with the Israel freeze all building in the settlement the negotiators sit down to try to discov- The just completed Fatah convention ebb and flow of the peace rhetoric in communities, as well as in East er what the U.S. really means when it in Bethlehem with announcements the Middle East. We all want to hear Jerusalem, was not really a demand as demands a freeze. After all, they did say punchy and encouraging statements of much as it was a trial balloon to see freeze, but they didn’t necessarily say a Continued on Page 6

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 5 FROM THE EDITOR that he really didn’t kill anyone with his Continued from Page 5 own hands. The legislator said that FEATURES Barghotti only sent the killers to per- about armed struggle and liberating form their deed and that he is a man that Around The Five Towns 33 Jerusalem did not seem to be too helpful Israel can deal with. P.O. BOX 690 LAWRENCE, NY 11559 516-984-0079 in advancing their image as moderates or Also last week, in the aftermath of the [email protected] peace partners. Ehud Olmert’s buddy, anti-Israel and anti-Jewish vitriol coming Classified Ads 66 [email protected] Mohammad Abbas, paid tribute from the out of Bethlehem, President Shimon LARRY GORDON ESTA J. GORDON podium to imprisoned Palestinians con- Peres began to rewarm his old failed Oslo The Dish Publisher/Editor Managing Editor victed of brutally murdering Jewish men, rhetoric when he said that the talk of YOSSI GORDON, YOCHANAN GORDON women, and children. In addition, the Palestinian violence and murder of Jews Elke Probkevitz 22 Sales Managers convention elected Marwan Barghotti to and the tribute to killers was only talk CHANA ROCHEL ROSS the top spot of Palestinian leadership. and should be ignored as Israel pursues Five Towns Simcha Editorial Assistant The small technicality is that Barghotti compromises and peace. SIDI BARON has been convicted in 2004 of killing a Ethan Bronner wrote that the stagnant Ira Thomas Creations 70 YAKOV SERLE number of Jews during the last intifada peace process is a result of a typical Middle Sales Representatives and was sentenced to five life sentences Eastern Catch-22. Israel does not like to SHMUEL GERBER MICHELE JUSTIC Insights On The Torah Chief Copy Editor Copy Editor plus forty years in prison. enter negotiations under pressure and One centrist Member of Knesset, when there is no pressure there is no need R’ Ben Tzion Shafier 27 CONTRIBUTING EDITORS Hannah Reich Berman, Anessa V. Cohen, Gideon Ezra of Kadima and a former to talk or negotiate. And that’s the news. O R’ Yanki Tauber 28, 48 Rabbi Aryeh Z. Ginzberg, Toby Klein Greenwald, head of the Shin Bet, called for the par- Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at Rabbi Yair Hoffman, Miriam Horowitz, doning and release of Barghotti, saying [email protected]. Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky, Shmuel Katz, The Legendary . . . Phyllis J. Lubin, Esther Mann, Rochelle Miller, Martin Mushell, Elke Probkevitz, Naomi Ross, ... Danny O’Doul 70 Rachael Schindler, Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow, Eli Shapiro, Ari Sher You are children of the L-rd your G-d DOV GORDON, ELISHEVA ELEFANT Letters To The Editor 53 Staff Graphic Artists (Devarim 14:1) IVAN NORMAN, IRA THOMAS Luach 7 Staff Photographers The soul…of the Jew is literally “a part of G-d above” FRANKEL & CO. Design & Production (Iyov 31:2)… As it is written:“My firstborn child, Israel” MindBiz TALIYE CORLEY and “You are children of the L-rd your G-d.” Just as the child Esther Mann, LMSW 24 Art Director SARAH GREENBAUM derives from the brain of the father, so, too, as it were, Assistant Art Director the soul of every Jewish person derives from the “mind” Real Estate The Five Towns Jewish Times is an independent weekly news- Anessa V. Cohen 26 paper. Opinions expressed by writers and columnists are not and “wisdom” of G-d… necessarily those of the editor or publisher. We are not responsible for the kashrus or hashgachah of any product or establishment advertised in the Five Towns Jewish Times. (Tanya, ch. 2) Travel 34

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5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 7 Passengers In Plane Collision Included A Wealthy Jewish Philanthropist It was a perfect summer day when FAA records. Altman bought it about a than 14,000 apartments in Pennsylvania, Steven Altman was a member of the Steven Altman set out from a suburban decade ago, said Michael V. Chiodo, of Delaware, and New Jersey, according to Board of Overseers of Albert Einstein airstrip in his single-engine plane, head- Blue Bell, Pa., who sold it to the pilot. the company website. It was part of The Healthcare Network in Philadelphia last ing up to northern New Jersey to pick up After leaving Pennsylvania, Altman Altman Group of real estate companies, year. He was a past president and active his brother and nephew and take them made a stop at the airport in Teterboro, begun by his father in 1949. member of the Apartment Association of to the beach. N.J., before flying on with his brother, Bruce Toll, co-founder of luxury home- Greater Philadelphia and traveled to There was nothing in the weather fore- Daniel, and Daniel’s teenage son, Douglas, builder Toll Brothers, said the Altman Harrisburg in March to meet with law- cast or in Altman’s aviation files to portend on the 114-mile flight to the beach town of family is well regarded in the building makers on related issues. the horrifying accident that would happen Ocean City, N.J. industry and active in local Jewish chari- His profile on the social networking Saturday 1,100 feet over the Hudson River, site Linked In says he attended Cornell when his aircraft smashed into a tourist University. Altman was one of five chil- helicopter, killing nine people. dren, according to a biography of his Altman had a clean record and was father, David, posted on the website for instrument-rated, meaning he was “He was perfectly legal and Angel Flight East. trained to fly in poor weather if neces- The agency, which uses volunteer sary, according to the Federal Aviation pilots to fly seriously ill patients to med- Administration. His medical clearance qualiﬁed to ﬂy that aircraft,” ical facilities, is based at Wings, the tiny was up to date, the only restriction being airfield in Blue Bell where Steven Altman he needed glasses for nearsightedness. FAA spokesman Jim Peters said. took off before flying to Teterboro. “He was perfectly legal and qualified to David Altman, 87, has flown for Angel fly that aircraft,” FAA spokesman Jim Flight East since 1993, and Steven Altman Peters said Monday. traveled as a copilot on some missions, FAA records show that Altman, 60, of agency executive director Maureen Ambler, Pa., got a license to fly in 1998, but The trio had just taken off and were fly- ties. According to KYW Radio the Altmans Schmidt said Monday. it was not immediately clear how many ing over the Hudson when the plane were also involved with their synagogue. “They’re just a wonderful family…very hours he had logged. Pilots keep track of crashed into a helicopter carrying a pilot “They’re just thought of as good, hon- generous,” Schmidt said. their own flight hours, and officials have and five Italian tourists. All nine people died. est businessmen,” Toll said Monday, call- The airfield is just a few miles from not yet found Altman’s log book, said The Altmans’ immediate family has ing the accident tragic. Steven Altman’s home in Ambler, an Peter Knudson, a spokesman for the been reclusive since the accident, but the Gov. Ed Rendell, the former mayor of affluent suburb about 15 miles north of National Transportation Safety Board, name is well known in Pennsylvania real Philadelphia, said through spokesman Philadelphia. Police have prevented which is investigating. estate circles. Michael Smith on Monday that the reporters from entering the private The plane, a Piper manufactured in Steven Altman owned Altman Altmans “were an important part of the cul-de-sac where he lived with his wife. 1976, also had a clean record, according to Management Co., which oversaw more city’s redevelopment and growth.” (Vos Iz Neias) O

8 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES one to break the cycle of self-destruction but to recommend specific help. Do ing disorder is a master of manipula- and reach out for help is one that I will some basic footwork as to what thera- tion. She may unexpectedly shift the Eating refer to as “near and far.” Essentially, we pists, clinics, or support groups are out blame for her condition to you, or per- can encourage our friend, in a loving and there so that you’ll be able to suggest a haps try to ridicule your “naive” desire supportive way, to get professional help specific course of action. to get involved. She may ask you to help Disorders: (near); and deny the rationale and self- …and far. Do not say anything about her keep her illness secret. Do not image that fuels the illness (far). her physical appearance, whether in a accept any responsibility for her emo- Near… First of all, it’s important to positive or negative way. No matter what, tional or physical ailments—your role is The Secret War stay cool and relaxed when speaking she will understand everything you say in not to be a punching bag or a crutch; with her about your suspicions. Even a way that validates her obsession with your role is to encourage her to seek BY RABBI SHEA HECHT though it’s difficult, do not let yourself her self-image, and this will only fuel her professional treatment. get frantic or upset. If you are too upset illness. For the same reasons, don’t get It’s important to come to terms with to contain your emotions, it is simply the into the hard details of calories, nutrition, the fact that we cannot heal our friend’s Part 2 wrong time to talk. etc. You simply cannot win. illness. That is something that demands It’s extremely painful to see someone Explain to her in a direct way what it Do not put forth any demands or much time, professional help, and a we care about struggling with an eating is that makes you believe that she has a issue ultimatums: stress and shame are supreme effort on their part. Our job as disorder. The illness is all-encompass- friends and family is to help her to imag- ing, causing them to view every aspect ine a better life for herself and lovingly of life in the context of what has or has encourage her to seek out the profession- not been eaten that day. If left als that can help her to heal. O unchecked, an eating disorder can and We can encourage our friend, in a will destroy physical, emotional, and mental health. As parents, siblings, and friends, we loving and supportive way, to get cannot sit silently and let someone we Submit your photo to the care about harm themselves. On the professional help and deny the rationale other hand, involving ourselves in this 5 Towns Jewish Times! battle can be overwhelming. What is the right way to help? Will we only make and self-image that fuels the illness. things worse? What can we do? You can upload your Off the bat, we have to understand that even with our most loving and commit- digital photos and see them ted intentions, we cannot “cure” this sick- problem. Without talking down or tak- what drove the illness in the first place. printed in the weekly edition ness or make it end. That’s something ing an accusatory tone, speak explicitly Throughout her struggle, she has trained that we’ll have to leave to responsible about changes you’ve observed in her herself to deal with bullying, shame, and of the 5 Towns Jewish Times professionals and, ultimately, to the suf- behavior or disposition. Emphasize that pressure. There is little, if anything, you fering individual. However, with thought- as a parent, friend, sibling, etc., your can do to “force her hand.” It will take ful and loving involvement, we can help concern is only for her own health and much patience and persistence before www.5tjt.com/sendphotos a friend to make sound decisions about happiness. she starts to come around. There’s no their health. Your goal should be not just to air “silver bullet.” An approach that can encourage some- your suspicions that she has a problem, Do not give in: Someone with an eat-

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 9 Anti-Semite Training Camp story. More than ever before, people but once the image and the attached ly believe differently. Whether we wear Continued from Front Cover rely on televised news for their infor- headline have been viewed, it’s much shorts or shtreimels, play Sunday-morn- mation, and images broadcast along- more difficult to retract the mistake and ing softball or attend Sunday-morning plan for us, and we’re taught to accept side a specific story are used to form convince people to think differently. To seder, we all believe that G-d is above and this idea and take lessons from each the basis for much of public opinion. use the New Jersey arrests as another is watching. So how come we don’t all point in our tragic history. However, why It’s a dangerous way to provide impor- example, even if the president himself believe the rest of the world is watching, do we seem to validate the treatment tant, sensitive information to the were to pardon those involved, the too? Why don’t we realize that every sin- we’ve received over the years and legit- masses; in many instances, it borders images broadcast have wreaked irrepara- gle thing we do, even the simple act of imize the global criticism against on propaganda. ble damage upon us. not saying “thank you” to the gas station Judaism? Just a few weeks ago, an Australian So what are we to do when, in the eyes attendant, is under public scrutiny? Or In the public’s eye, this past month newspaper took a photograph of those of the rest of the world, we seemingly when we’re sitting on the LIRR, blabbing has been as bad for our people as many chareidi protests—which, although can’t get out of our own way? When on our cell phone, there are others have seen in a long time—from images unnecessarily violent, did have an agen- we’ve been given an unappealable verdict around us trying to relax who aren’t so of chareidi Jews violently protesting in da—and placed it alongside a story dis- of suffering as part of our history, why pleased with our decibel level? Jerusalem, to images of elderly Syrian People watch the way we act Jews being escorted by the FBI, to the because we practice the act of separa- blatant disregard for civil authority in tion in our religious lives, and any sep- the Catskill Mountains, there has been aration from the norm is looked at as nothing pretty about our recent por- We all believe that G-d is above and is unique—sometimes good, sometimes trayal in the media. Even if there are bad. If we’re separating ourselves from perfectly good explanations for each society because we as a people believe and every event that completely exon- watching. So how come we don’t all believe that our moral standards are higher erate those involved, the fact of the than society’s, and we exhibit that type matter is that people throughout the the rest of the world is watching, too? of separation, it’s a good thing. People world saw negative images of our peo- will speak highly of us because we’re ple and filed them away in their “Jew” “practicing what we’re preaching.” database: Images of Jews personifying The famous story of Shimon ben the financial swindler stereotype, and Shetach is a prime example. He bought a images of Jews showing a very ugly cussing the U.S.–Israel disagreement over can’t we quiet those who say we deserve donkey, found a precious diamond side that could easily be compared to East Jerusalem construction. We all know it and, conversely, add support to those around the donkey’s neck, and returned those recent protests in Iran, a country that the unification of Jerusalem is a who say our survival is based on morals the diamond to the seller, because he had from whose ideals we try so hard to topic close to our hearts, and one that the we’ve brought to the rest of the world? paid for the donkey and nothing else. separate. These are all obviously seri- United States has placed as a centerpiece Here’s an idea: How about we don’t Sure, he could have rationalized that it ous cases of chillul Hashem, but a of its current “roadmap to peace,” but give anyone a chance to say or think was the seller’s problem for forgetting to chillul Hashem that has taken on new now anyone who read that Australian badly about us? Why not work so hard at remove the diamond, and quoted a meaning in the 21st century. article sees Israel as not only opposed to following a few simple rules that those whole bunch of legal statutes dealing The world we live in is a media-fren- the idea, but violently opposed. around us couldn’t even find fault if they with possession, but he didn’t; he simply zied environment. Pictures, videos, Thankfully, there are organizations used the Hubble telescope? gave back what wasn’t rightfully his. He and sound bites are used to tell a such as HonestReporting We are a different people. Some of us believed in being scrupulously honest, quick story and, worst of all, implant a (HonestReporting.com) to make the public dress differently, some of us conduct our- subjective opinion on the particular aware of that type of lethal journalism; selves differently, but all of us collective- Continued on Page 13

10 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES BAGEL STORE tion of each of these situations, but It was my father on the phone. In a where Reb Menachem Mendel and Continued from Front Cover somehow synthesizes and assimilates pained, drawn-out voice he was telling Reb Yosef Yitzchok Schneerson, two them through a lifetime of experi- me that his father had suffered a heart of the Lubavitcher Rebbes, are because it’s warm outside most of the ences that compartmentalizes each attack earlier that day. There was a silence interred. As a result, the peacefulness time?) experience on its own level while on the phone, at which point I felt com- and quietude of a conventional ceme- I don’t know if I’ve mentioned this absorbing its depth of meaning. pelled to say, “Okay, so how is he?” tery does not really apply. This ceme- before, but I haven’t wandered too Despite some of the joys and, yes, “He passed away a little while ago,” tery is one very busy place, where far from home this summer—as we even the tragedies that we’ve wit- my dad said. He then told me that he thousands of people traverse through generally have the urge to do—and I nessed—may it please G-d that we do had arranged a ride back to Brooklyn each and every day at literally all find that I am genuinely reaping not know of any more such for my younger brother and me to hours of the day and night. pleasure from the simplicity of the tragedies—few have been like my attend the funeral. The last time I was there was on summer schedule I have crafted. First introduction to the real world as a Thinking back, I genuinely believe that Tishah B’Av at midday. I was on my way of all, as I have mentioned here pre- young kid four decades ago this sum- was the first funeral I attended and my to the Rebbe’s kever, but unlike most oth- viously, after vacationing and flying mer. It was a hot night and I was first experience at a shivah home. I was ers, I have motive to pause just outside year after year, I have discovered that playing my heart out on a basketball heartbroken at the levayah, watching my and try to connect or at least remember I am most at ease and relaxed at my court in Ferndale, New York. I always Zaide’s aron being carried down the steep my Zaide—Yochanan, the patriarch of a desk, in my office and at work. marveled at how bright the lights stairs from the second-floor apartment of family that today spans the planet, influ- Is that similar to someone hooked were on our summer camp basketball the two-family home in which he had encing Jews and bringing them steps clos- on imbibing spirits saying that all court and how it lit up the night just lived with my aunt and uncle. er to Jewish life. problems can be dealt with by just as if it were daytime. “Oh my,” I thought at the time, These days I stand there and think sitting in an easy chair with a nice Everything was good, and whatever “growing up is not that much fun after back to when I stood there on that first cool bottle and a glass full of ice? Is was going on in the not-too-distant all.” Later that same day we came back day after his passing. I’m aware that it it just me, or does the cosmos know outside world had really very little to to the apartment where my grandfa- was a long time ago, but I’m able to that when you are away from the do with me. Then someone from the ther had lived, and there was an air of stretch my mind back to that fateful office, that is precisely the time for camp’s office pulled me aside to tell resignation mixed with nostalgia and and difficult day. Much has transpired things to go wrong? me that I had a phone call in the sadness that seemed to waft around since. There have been a lot of good Over the last few days I’ve been to main building. It must have been the room where my father and his sib- times as well as not such good times. two weddings, a bar mitzvah, and a about nine or ten o’clock at night, lings were sitting. Except for that one People have arrived and departed, all funeral. I went to visit the homes of because I recall that it was complete- brief afternoon, I did not get much of playing our role in this Divine drama two friends sitting shivah and experi- ly dark outside on that summer night. a chance to soak in or absorb the situ- that has an ending but one that seems enced the ins and outs of my son and “Who is calling me, of all people, at ation. That very evening I was driven, somewhat beyond our grasp. daughter-in-law having their second this hour?” I wondered. Frankly, I think I along with my brother, back for the And in the meantime we go on and on. child. I wondered to myself the other used to receive the fewest calls of anyone last week or so of camp. This past Shabbos my son Yochanan and day, what it is that I’m made of that I in camp, mostly because my parents were But even that one day of bouncing his wife Chanie had a baby boy to join can slip in and out of these situa- usually away for the entire summer. But around in the back seat of an old car, their two-year-old eldest, Nison, who is tions almost every week or so, expe- this was late in August, my parents were going to a funeral, and seeing an named for my father. Next week, on erev rience the ups and downs of each sit- already back from wherever they were, afternoon of what shivah looks like Rosh Chodesh, we will mark my Zaide’s uation, and just keep going like I’m and there were only a few days left to left an impression. It will be 40 years 40th yahrzeit—round and round we go in some kind of machine? camp before we’d be packing up and next week since that day that my the circle game. O But I’m not a machine. I am a per- going back to school and life outside of father’s father passed away. He’s Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at son who gets caught up in the emo- this idyllic bubble. buried in Queens just a few feet from [email protected].

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 11 Mother’s Musings with a personality all his own. He is lov- when he will pronounce the same swim. Of course that made my heart Continued from Front Cover able (as one could say, I guess, about word incorrectly after repeated correc- sing. Not only have I been doing many children with Down syndrome), he tions. He can make a simple trip to the something fun these past fourteen Jewish calendar, the 21st of Av, on knows exactly how to put a smile on a supermarket exhausting when he summers, I have also been acting as which Hashem chose to bring Yosef person’s face, and he is bright! I know grabs random items off the shelves an emissary, so to speak, of every Binyamin Lubin into the world nine that sounds strange when discussing (alas, he is too big for the shopping father when I teach his child to swim! years ago. someone who has cognitive delays, but cart). But I can’t be angry with him for But how does this connect to Yussie’s This is my fourteenth summer teach- sometimes I wonder who is more longer than a few minutes. When he birthday, you might ask… ing swimming in camp. That summer delayed—him or us. gives you one of his “big hugs,” your The rabbi discussed possible reasons nine years ago was no different, except He can find any show he wants to see heart just melts. for this obligation. First, he mentioned, for the fact that I was teaching while on television as he sorts through the One of my daughters asked me the it could stem from the fact that years nine months pregnant! Except for one various menus on the screen, something other day if Yussie will “always be like this.” ago long-distance travel was by boat, instance in July when I experienced a I have a very difficult time doing. For a “Will he get better? Will he speak hence it was very important for every- little dizziness at the pool, had an ele- boy who can’t seem to read a simple normally?” one to know the lifesaving skill of vated heart rate, and landed myself in swimming. Second, he pointed out that the hospital for a couple of days, everyone of the differences between a dead thing went pretty smoothly. (The con- fish and a live fish is that the dead fish clusion made during that hospital stay floats with the current, while the live was that the pregnancy was causing the I don’t want him to necessarily be fish can swim against the current. An elevation in my heart rate—but not to obligation to teach a child to swim worry, the baby’s heart was just fine. spans much more than the technical act The big surprise a couple of months “typical,” but I want him to be able to of swimming; a parent must teach his later was to find that the baby did child the skills to overcome any obsta- indeed have a heart defect. The human cle that comes in his path. body is still a mystery.) interact and thrive in this “typical” world. Maybe that is what I want for Yussie. I For nine years we have had the honor want him to be able to “swim upstream.” of having Yussie in our family! As I stare It is a hard obstacle for Yussie to over- into the ocean I ponder. It seems that I come, but I pray that we give him the have spent nine years trying to make story, he has the ability to read every “I don’t know. We hope his speech tools he needs to do so. I don’t want him Yussie “typical”; I always beg for the most title on the Disney, Food, and Game net- will improve with time and hard to necessarily be “typical,” but I want him mainstreaming opportunities; I make works! He can manipulate the mouse work…just like we hope you will learn to be able to interact and thrive in this sure he joins the “typical” groups at shul; on the computer much more quickly new things as well.” I tried to rationalize “typical” world. I want Yussie to be I send him to Avnet Country Day for a than I, and he is able to get to just the and speak positively; the future is included and not ostracized! couple of weeks each summer. It seems site he loves (his favorite is www.star- indeed an unknown. And so, as I finish writing this column that I am always praying for the day fall.com, a free website with educational Rabbi Wolowik mentioned some- on this not so typical Tuesday, let me when people won’t look at him and see games for children). thing very fitting in his speech this wish my big boy a very happy birthday! O him as different. But I must remind Don’t let me misguide you; he is not past Shabbos. He was explaining the Phyllis Joy Lubin is an attorney with Rosenfeld & myself: he isn’t “different”; rather, he is perfect. I’m not sure anyone is. Yussie various obligations a father has Maidenbaum, LLP, who resides in Cedarhurst unique (I’d like to say “special” but that can be mischievous when he wants to towards his children. One of the with her husband Leonard and six children: Naftali, Shoshana, Rivka, Rochel, Yosef, and Lea. would be so cliché). be, and can be stubborn when things things he mentioned was the require- She welcomes your questions and comments at Yosef Binyamin Lubin is an individual don’t go his way. He can be frustrating ment of a father to teach his child to [email protected].

12 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Training Camp our accountant tells us how mirror and look at ourselves. implanted by G-d. Try and the questionable act we’re Continued from Page 10 to beat the IRS system, we Take a deep look through our find the moral compass with- about to perform. After all, need to take out that pocket eyes and into the soul in us to help navigate from we’re Jews; let’s act like it. O just as his forefather Yaakov was, and he couldn’t justify compromising his ideals for a few extra dollars. On the flip side, if we’ve sep- arated ourselves and yet continue to act on the same moral level as society, it’s a bad thing; it comes off as hypocritical and insulting. Worse, our infrac- tions make us seem lower than society, just as an honor student disappoints a teacher for cheating on a test more than a troublesome student. This is not an easy thing to do. It sounds easy, but it’s not. We are immersed in society more than we want to be, and many of us have lost our sense of direction. Yes, we have the moral compass of our Torah, but, as we see, sometimes that’s not enough. Maybe we should try a different, simpler tactic—one that may help us find the path back to our right- eous roots. Why don’t we all carry a small pocket mirror with us wherever we go? When we find ourselves in a meeting about building permits and the myriad ways of “getting around” paying for a permit, or when a store owner offers to take the sales tax off if we pay in cash, or even when

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 13 Proving The Oral Law The leather boxes must be completely that the medical school relies upon is of the bible, consulted with Jews on vari- Continued from Front Cover square and completely black. These are that all (or almost all) that the doctor ous meanings, but since then the church frontlets. These traditions go all the way needs to know is contained in the text- fathers have been pretty much on their that are difficult to understand—indeed back to Moses—in the language of the book. Would you let this surgeon, who own. De Lyra wrote a work called the they are almost inexplicable to the unini- sages, they are “halachah l’Moshe was never shown any surgical techniques Postillae Perpetuae, which culled much of tiated. Yet Jewish tradition sheds enor- miSinai.” The archaeological record has in practice, operate on you? Not quite! the information of the Oral Law of the mous light on these areas, as does the turned up many of these frontlets dating And yet this is what some people Jews from the commentary of Rashi. The archaeological record. back to Biblical times. The point is that if would have you believe regarding the work is in Latin and quotes freely from All devout Jews believe that Moses you believe in the Bible, you cannot Bible: “G-d gave the Jewish people a book Rashi, Rabbi Shlomo Yitzchaki, the great- brought down the Torah from Mount believe that Moses delivered the bible through Moses. Period. End of story.” est of the Jewish Biblical commentators. Sinai in the year 2448 after creation— free of any oral explanations. No—quite the contrary. Any thinking For example, in Sefer Yeshayah (Isaiah), approximately 3,321 years before the pres- Similarly, we have a tradition as to five person would realize that Judaism is a the first verse says, “The vision of ent year, 5769. (Christians, Muslims, and different requirements for the slaughter way of life, and the oral explanations Yeshayahu the son of Amotz which he Mormons believe that various additional of an animal (see Chulin 28a). These tradi- surely do exist. Indeed, there were a num- saw concerning Yehudah and scriptures—the Gospels, the Koran, the tions, too, date back to Moses. ber of Christian scholars throughout the Yerushalayim in the days of Uziyahu, Book of Mormon, etc.—later also became Perhaps a modern-day illustration of generations who recognized this. The Yosam, Achaz, and Yechizkiyahu, kings of part of the bible, but they too believe in the concept of an oral tradition would be greatest Christian biblical commentator Yehudah.” On this verse, Lyra writes as fol- the Sinaitic revelation of the Five Books useful. was a fellow by the name of Nicolaus de lows: “Filii Amos. Et ut dicit hic Rabbi of Moses.) Imagine you are having surgery. You Lyra, (c. 1270–1349 CE). De Lyra was a Salomon iste Amos et Amasias rex Juda Jewish tradition, known as the Oral proceed to the surgeon’s office and he French Franciscan who recognized and fuerent fraters, et sic Esaias fuit de genere Law (Torah she’be’al peh), provides us with tells you something extraordinary: In the based a good portion of his commentary region.” Translated into English, this the full explanation of the issues medical school at which he was trained, on the Oral Law. means: “And as Rabbi Salomon (Rashi) described above. Regarding the frontlets, there was a newfangled, experimental Until de Lyra, Christian biblical inter- says here, “Amoz1 and Amaziah, kings of Jewish tradition tells us what they are: curriculum; there were no teachers, only pretations were collected in something Judah, were brothers, and thus Isaiah was sections of the Bible must be written on textbooks. There were no people to oral- called the Glossa Ordinaria. This was a of royal birth.” parchment and carefully placed inside ly hand down traditions or surgical tech- compilation of the thoughts on scripture When we examine the words of Rashi, leather boxes. An animal hair must be niques, no one to teach the doctor how to of the church fathers. It is true that we see as follows: “Said Rabbi Levi, this wrapped around the parchment, as well. actually perform surgery. But the theory Jerome, author of the Vulgate translation matter is a tradition in our hands from our forefathers. Amotz and Amatzia, king of Judah, were brothers.” Clearly, Nicolaus de Lyra both appreci- ated and reckoned with the oral traditions of the Jews. And he was not the only one. Origen, a church father who died in 253, writes of Jews that sat down with him and gave him some of their oral traditions concerning the explanations of various pas- sages and laws in the bible (Migne: Patrologia Graeca, II, column 62f). Jerome, who lived from 331 CE to 420 CE, also accepted many of the oral traditions of the Jews, and in his preface to the Chronicles mentions one of his three Jewish teachers by name, Bar Chanina. Indeed, a Christian scholar writing about Jerome in The New Schaff-Herzog Encyclopedia of Religious Knowledge writes that Jerome “was hampered too much by Jewish tradition”! (Vol. VI, p. 127; the author’s name is O. Zockler.) It is inconceivable that Moshe Rabbeinu (Moses) would deliver the Torah to the Jews without oral traditions. While these traditions were highly regarded by the most intelligent of the Christian commentators, these traditions have been wholly ignored by the masses of bible students. Now that we have demonstrated the existence and truths of the Oral Law, let us go on to explore the role of Moshe. In both Jewish eyes and in the gentile world he was known as the lawgiver. G-d chose him because of his remarkable character, and G-d would certainly not have chosen someone of low intellect to be the conduit of the Word of G-d. One aspect of Moshe’s job was to ensure the continuity and integrity of the Bible, the oral traditions, and the Jewish people. It has been over 3,300 years— how well did he do? Surprisingly enough, the Jews are still around. To quote Mark Twain (“Concerning the Jews,” Harper’s Magazine, September 1899): “The Egyptian, the Babylonian, and the Persian rose, filled the planet with sound and splendor, then faded to dream-stuff and passed away; the Greek and the Roman followed, and made a vast noise, and they are gone; other peoples have sprung up and held their torch high for a time, but it burned out, and they sit in 14 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES twilight now, or have vanished. The Jew saw them all, beat them all, and is now what he always was, exhibiting no deca- dence, no infirmities of age, no weaken- ing of his parts, no slowing of his ener- gies, no dulling of his alert and aggressive mind. All things are mortal but the Jew; all other forces pass, but he remains. What is the secret of his immortality?” And the Bible as well has survived remarkably intact. A comparison of the texts even of the schismatic movement that produced the Dead Sea Scrolls reveals remarkable symmetry and corre- lation with other Bible texts. A comparison of the 304,000-some-odd words of the Bible, from the Sephardic world to the Yemenite world to the Ashkenazic world, yields only two differences: The spelling of the words “petzua dakah” in Devarim 23:2 and whether the first word in Bereishis 9:29 is “Vayehi [kol yemei Noach]” or “Vayihyu.” Josephus, the famous historian, boasts of the long tradition of accuracy that has characterized the transmission of the Jewish scriptures and traditions (Contra Apion I:6, Thakeray 6th ed., p. 175, 181). Indeed, the Jerusalem Talmud informs us of a special class of scribes called “book correctors” who lived in Jerusalem, were paid by the Temple treasury, and spent their time ensuring that the texts did not get corrupted. When the Jews of Alexandria were first approached regarding the translation of the Septuagint, they were well aware of the concept of text corruption, so they sent to the Kohein Gadol in Jerusalem to obtain an exact copy (letter of Aristeas, found in Aristeas to Philocrates M. Hadas, 1951, No. 30, p. 111). Given Moses’ remarkable track record in setting the foundation for the survival of the Jewish people and of the Bible, surely he also took steps to make sure that the Oral Law would be transmitted to future generations, safeguarding the authenticity of the whole Torah. Look at the fathers of this country. They created documents that have stood the test of time. The Declaration of Independence is still a source of enormous inspiration. The Constitution remains a remarkable document that serves as a beacon of light to democracies the world over. No sane American questions the authenticity of these documents or that they continue to affect and inspire us to this day. How much more so do logic, truth, common sense, and the historical record reveal the veracity of our Jewish traditions. Moses would not have had it any different. O

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NOTES. 1. “Amos” in the original refers to Amotz (Anglicized as “Amoz”), not to be confused with Amos (the prophet). In the Latin alphabet, the letter S represents the sounds “tz,” “sh,” and “s.”

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5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 15 These Glorious Five Towns Of The French Riviera

BY THE LEGENDARY Joel inadvertently always gives one pastry purveyors? it will be the only restaurant in the Five D ANNY O’DOUL the impression that he is a French I think not. Except, of course, if Towns not to serve sushi. expatriate living in the Five Towns, the chozer b’teshuvah decides to While many non-kosher Korean barbe- There is something far, far better with his ever-present full head of hair gorge himself on succulent Korean cue emporiums also serve sushi (which is than April in Paris. Something way styled in the manner of a French poet barbecue at the upcoming grand popular in Korea), the worldly moguls more French than wine, more Gallic and his frequent tendency to wear debut of Kalman’s of Korea, to open behind Kalman’s of Korea are stubborn than brie. And this something is white and blue striped sweaters and a soon in the old Tea for Two location. purists who wish to highlight the essence Epcot Center in Orlando, Florida. felt beret. I have also seen this master I cannot reveal the high-level execu- of the do-it-yourself barbecue experience There is something that only Disney chef hit a Wiffle ball 300 feet using a tive group that is pioneering this that is the most famous Korean export— can do—make France better than the large, day-old baguette loaf as a bat. kosher culinary creation, but suffice ahead of the Hyundai, the Kia, and the French. In fact, they made France So expect really French and Jewish it to say that the cabal will include nuclear cruise missile. Kim Jong-Il is said without the French. dairy favorites, including the most inter- several world-famous captains of real to often declare, “Succulent Korean bar- But now there is something even becue—my kingdom for some succulent better than Epcot Center—because it Korean barbecue!” After all, what do you not only has no French, but also no think motivated former President Bill Japanese tourists. And, best of all, it Clinton to scoot over there last week and is right here in the Five Towns, with dine with the small Korean leader—a no need to take a cab over to the Jet It is also unique in that it will be Hyundai Sonata? Blue terminal at JFK for the three- And don’t you think it is a little hour trip to Orlando. the only restaurant in the Five strange that the three soon-to-be- Yes, my dear friends, if you love hottest new eateries on The Avenue of everything French but the French Kosher Culinary Creations— Cravingz, themselves, and if you would love a lit- Towns not to serve sushi. Crawford’s, and Kalman’s of Korea—all tle taste of la vie en rose, then I’ve got start with a hard C sound? Perhaps the place for you—and it should be cel- Kim Jong-Il is part of the restaurant ebrating its grand opening by the time development cabal now transforming you read this important story. esting take yet on “the big salad.” I have estate, industry, and the arts, and a Cedarhurst into the Capital of Kosher Of course, what I am imparting to heard that Joel has brought in the world- master chef mentioned in the same Cuisine. Care for some kichel to go you is breaking news of yet another famous former world champion alpine sentence as the heralded barbecue with your coffee? Or maybe a cruller eatery on The Avenue of Hot Couture skier Jean-Claude Killy to serve as a grill master Bobby Flay. to go with your caffe latte, or some and Haute Cuisine—and this one is celebrity counterman for the month of If crisping your own beef in the succu- kimchi to go with your coriander-coat- gorgeous. Even with the cutesy Elul. Speaking of Chodesh Elul, is there lent sauce of your choosing right there at ed Korean calf cutlet? spelling, this one’s a winner. any better way to help elevate the soul your table is tantalizingly appetite-induc- While I am on the subject of the Cravingz, the brand-new boulangerie than with some excellent dairy catering, ing, then you will be nearly unable to hard C sound, how about that Cash for (French bakery café) and the newest such as that perfected by le grande chat contain yourself when Kalman’s of Korea Clunkers program? Chrysler has been culinary masterpiece by Joel Baruch du cuisine milchique, master chef Joel opens its doors. Notably distinctive in the of Gotta Getta Bagel fame. Baruch and his expert staff of princely style of its cuisine, it is also unique in that Continued on Page 18

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courting me, The Legendary Danny O’Doul, by trying to embezzle my famous Mercury Grand Marquis with a 4.6 liter V-8 über-engine (Ultra-Rare “Park Lane” Edition) and finagle me into exchanging it for a shiny black Dodge Avenger, complete with sun- roof, spoiler, and Lilliputian 2.4 liter four-cylinder “put-put” motor that could barely power a Lionel Harry Potter Hogwarts Express HO locomo- tive. You have to give those Dodge boys credit for that old crazy Chrysler creative consumerism campaign. It just would not be summer without the salty sea air, catchin’ a wave, and sittin’ on top of the world at the Sunny Atlantic Beach Club with two- thirds of Beth Sholom and the Young Israels of Woodmere and Lawrence- Cedarhurst. Yes, at the yam…la mere…the sea, the sunny Atlantic, home of shark and whale—where the surfin’ Jew rides the waves from Sunday morning till Friday afternoon two hours before licht bench- ing, and where the big kahuna is actually a kohein. You know, I, I, I, I want to be a lifeguard, lifeguard… I, I, I, I want to guard your life. Oy, yoy, yoy, does that one bring back memories! Yes, of fabulous 1980, when a huge recession, a sagging stock market, massive unemployment, a shell- shocked auto industry, new-wave music, a liberal Democratic president who hated Israel almost as much as he loved tremendous inflation, and a failed foreign policy vis-à-vis Iran all converged to bring us monumental stagflation, national shame, and, perhaps most gravely, synthesizer- based corporate rock music. Hey, wait a minute, maybe this has all really been a dream—it must still be 1980! That must mean the Reagan Revolution is gearing up for a come- back and Michael J. Fox will come rolling down Cedarhurst Avenue in his fuel-cell-powered DeLorean gull- wing sport coupe. Maybe there is hope again. You know hope, the “thing with feathers,” the antithesis of change.I can’t wait for it to come. Well, in the meantime, I’m just bidin’ my time in this “retro world” of 2009. So, as Marie Antoinette said, “Let ’em eat cake”—and by “cake” I am sure she meant delicious French pastry, like the kind I am recommending that you try this week at Cravingz, which is guaranteed to get your mind off this horrible replay of the “Jimmy Carter, Y’mach Sh’mo, Show.” While you’re ordering, be sure to say bon- jour to Jean-Claude Killy and, of course, Le Proprietor,Joel Baruch. Tell him The Legendary Danny O’Doul sent you, and he may even throw in some free strawberry preserves on your baguette. And don’t forget to say merci beaucoup. This is The Legendary Danny O’Doul signing off and wishing you, my dear friends, a Great Good Shabbos, one in which your wine is French and you’re so excited you’re just Russian to go to shul! I’ll be catching some z’s and California dreamin’ of the big waves at Long Beach and maybe, just maybe, it won’t be 1980 anymore when I wake up! O 18 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 19 In Memory of Arnie Berman, a’h

We all suffered a loss last week with the passing of Arnie Berman, a’h. He was the husband of Hannah Berman, author of the popular long-running 5TJT weekly column That’s The Way It Is! Arnie was a wonderful, spirited man, full of life and character. His family and everyone who had the opportunity and pleasure to make his acquaintance loved him dearly. He will be deeply missed by all. We pray that his wife, children, and extended family be comforted amongst the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.

20 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 21 the bread won’t be used in time, wrap the still-fresh loaf tightly in a couple of layers of plastic and freeze it. To defrost, leave the bread at room temperature overnight. Then unwrap it and warm it in a 350°F oven for about 20 minutes. Tasteless tomatoes. Those out-of-season but enticingly red tomatoes that you Easy Fixes For Kitchen Mishaps couldn’t resist buying taste bland. Intensify the flavor by removing mois- Even for the most experienced cook, perature causes the starch in them to ture. Place the tomatoes on a foil-lined preparing meals doesn’t always go swell more slowly, resulting in a firmer baking sheet and sprinkle with salt and, if smoothly. Sometimes things go wrong, potato. Only a bit of the gummy starch desired, fresh herbs. Roast in a 200°F but you don’t have to let your mistakes go will leak out of the potatoes and into the oven for about 2 hours. Before serving, thyme, tarragon, mint, parsley, or a com- to waste. Here are some tips on how to cooking water. drizzle with olive oil. In the future, look bination—then add a little salt and pep- salvage your kitchen disasters. Stale bread. The loaf of bread you for locally grown tomatoes from July per. Thickly slice the chicken, fan the Mushy potatoes. You intended to boil brought home from the bakery was not through September. Outside of peak pieces onto individual plates, and spoon those potatoes until fork-tender, but eaten when fresh. Make crostini by thin- tomato season, rely on canned tomatoes, the sauce over the top. Add some vinegar when you drained them they collapsed ly slicing the bread and toasting it in a or stick with the smaller Roma, cherry, or lemon juice to the herb sauce and you into mush. Take the obvious fix and turn 325°F oven until it’s crisp throughout and and grape varieties, which tend to be have a vinaigrette sauce that can dress them into mashed potatoes. Or you can barely golden at the edges, about 5 min- more flavorful. not just the chicken but also salad greens. make them into home fries. Drain the utes. Use the toasted bread as a founda- Overcooked chicken. You slid some Next time cook chicken on the stovetop potatoes and fry them in a skillet with a tion for bruschetta or as garlic-rubbed chicken breasts under the broiler and for- to prevent overcooking. small amount of olive oil or butter, stir- croutons to float on top of soup or in got about them until the smell of smoke Mushy vegetables. Your steamed car- ring occasionally, until golden and crisp, salad. If the bread is so dry that it crum- reminded you. Conceal the burnt edges rots quickly went from barely tender to about 20 minutes. To avoid this problem bles when you slice it, toss it into a food and the dry interior beneath a simple limp. Serve them anyway. A little pepper in the future, gently simmer the potatoes processor and pulse to create fresh bread- herb sauce. Stir together some olive oil and a shaving of Parmesan, and they’ll instead of boiling them. The lower tem- crumbs. Next time, as soon as you realize and coarsely chopped fresh herbs—basil, still taste great. Butter will also do the trick. Add a pat, with a drizzle of honey, to steamed carrots, or coarsely mash sweet peas with butter and fresh herbs. Or consider making soup by sautéing chopped scallions in butter or olive oil until softened, then add the vegetables and some stock or water and simmer for about 15 minutes. Stir in a can of drained white beans and you’ll have a fast minestrone. A timer in the future would help remind you of what’s on the stove. Crumbly cake. When you unmolded your cake, it fell apart. When a cake comes out of the pan in pieces, glue it back together by spreading frosting along the edges and pressing the pieces together. Rinse the blade with warm water and dry it after each swipe. Then frost as usual. If your cake sticks, place the bot- tom of the pan on a towel that has been wrung out with very hot water; the heat will loosen the cake. Buttering the bot- tom of the pan, lining it with parchment paper cut to fit, and spraying it with a nonstick spray containing flour will also ensure the cake comes out perfectly. Roasted Tomato Bruschetta Ingredients: 2 pints grape tomatoes 1/4 cup extra-virgin olive oil salt and freshly ground black pepper 1 loaf day-old Italian bread 2 cloves garlic, halved 4 scallions, finely chopped 1/2 cup basil leaves, thinly sliced Directions: Heat the oven to 400° F. Coat the tomatoes in olive oil and season with salt and pepper. Roast 20 minutes to concentrate the flavor and burst the tomatoes. Cut large planks of bread, each 1 inch thick, by slicing the bread on a bias. When you remove the tomatoes from the oven, switch on the broiler. Char bread on both sides then rub hot bread with cut garlic. In a bowl, lightly mash the roasted tomatoes and combine with scallions and basil. Top the planks with tomato mixture.

Eating quality, delicious meals is easy when all the work is done for you. Hire a personal chef to prepare your dinners, Shabbos meals, or small parties. For more information, contact Take Home Chef personal chef services by calling 516-596- 8865, writing to [email protected], or visiting www.TakeHomeChef.net. 22 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 23 job was to be children, enjoy and do well ones being put into this position. We all in school, make friends, and be happy. My know that life eventually gets hard and daughter is not giving her children the stressful for everyone. It’s nice to believe same experience. that childhood can be a time of inno- I don’t consider myself to be a med- cence and a time for a child to believe dling mother. I rarely tell my grown chil- that they are being taken care of, rather dren what to do. It’s hard for me to tell than being the caretaker. my daughter that I feel she is doing it When the issue arises of whether one Dear Esther, arrangement. wrong, that she should be more focused should “say something” and express one’s My daughter “Rita” just had her sev- It’s my two older granddaughters that I on her children and less focused on her concerns to another individual, it’s enth child, thank G-d. We are very thrilled want to ask you about. One is eleven various projects—and G-d forbid that I always helpful to go through a mental that she has this lovely family and, baruch years old and the other is nine. It seems would ever actually say this, but maybe risk/reward ratio for doing so. In your Hashem, everyone is well. However, of all that for the longest time they have been she shouldn’t keep having baby after case, the risk would be the following: If our children, I have always thought of “mini-mothers.” They will get up to take baby if she can’t handle them. you told Rita how inappropriate you Rita as being the least hearty, in terms of care of the baby and little ones in the So is there anything I can say or do for believed her behavior was and how her health. She always tired easily and morning. They’ll make a bottle, change my grandchildren and, I guess, for my pained you felt for your grandchildren, was prone to colds and infections, and, them, feed them, dress them, and basical- daughter as well? you risk making her feel judged and con- on an emotional level, she always got ly act like mothers. Concerned demned. You risk making her feel misun- stressed out very easily. She always struck They are such lovely girls, and I’m so Dear Concerned, derstood and uncared for. You risk creat- me as an anxious individual. impressed with their behavior. But I The scenario that you describe is one ing tension within your relationship Frankly, I never would have guessed worry about them. It seems like they are that, for better or for worse, is often seen with your daughter and possibly pushing that Rita would go on to have such a missing out on their childhood. Often, it within very large families. Young chil- her away. large family, while also working and seems to me like they don’t like leaving dren begin assuming the roles of a par- The possible reward would be that Rita being involved in her community and the house, because they are afraid ent, because the job of the mother would be able to truly “hear you,” change taking on so many extra responsibilities. things will fall apart without their being becomes too enormous and burden- her ways, revamp her parenting style, and Fortunately, she has a supportive hus- at home. some for her to handle alone. And actu- become the mother you would like her to band who is there for her in all ways, and I’m not even clear whether the oldest ally, you can sometimes see this dynam- be. Now, as you honestly go through this we are grateful to him. one stayed home from camp this summer ic appearing in families that aren’t even process in your head, how likely do you The problem, and the reason I’m writ- because Rita didn’t want her to go or all that large, but somehow the mother think it is that you will achieve the ing to you, is that I don’t think Rita is because she didn’t want to go. At this either isn’t capable of taking full respon- reward you are hoping for? My guess is capable of doing everything that she point, it’s hard to separate whose needs sibility for her home and family, or she that you are much more likely to incur takes on. She imposes so much on her are being met. But it made me very sad to sees her children as convenient little Rita’s anger than to be rewarded with the hardworking husband. Though I feel a bit see my granddaughter home all summer, helpers, placed on this planet to assist outcome you would like. sorry for him, he’s an adult and can helping her mother. I worry that she’ll her with her duties. It seems particularly So where does that leave you, as you decide whether or not he wants to be grow up resentful and depressed as she unfair because, after all, it’s not like watch your grandchildren grow up pre- busy with so much. It’s his choice looks back on her childhood. these young children were ever consult- maturely, taking on more responsibility whether he wants to get less than five When I raised my children, I made ed regarding whether they wanted new than they should? You may want to take hours of sleep a night, being busy with sure that they had happy childhoods. I siblings brought onto the scene that comfort in knowing that though this sit- the grocery shopping and many other tried to shield them from anything nega- would require their attention. uation does not appear to be ideal, it’s errands that he really doesn’t have time tive that I may have been going through. For whatever reason this happens, I also not a warrant for a messed-up adult- for. So far, at least, he seems OK with this My job was to be their mother, and their agree that it’s hard to watch such young hood. In fact, your grandchildren may

24 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES grow up with excellent quali- ties, having learned the importance of caring for others before worrying about themselves. Often these are the individuals who grow up capable of tremendous acts of selfless giving, worrying little about their own good times as opposed to the greater good. I’m not saying that the atmosphere Rita is creating for her children is ideal, or even fair; but when enough love is present, this situation is not necessarily as tragic as you might believe. The nature and personality of each of your grandchildren—plus a big dose of mazel—will ultimately be the touchstone for how healthy and happy they grow up to be. After all, you were careful to shield your children from negative childhood experiences, and somehow Rita still grew up more fragile than the others. Sometimes, it’s hard to know what will work and who will thrive under what circumstances. Some people fall apart very easily, while positive character in others seems to be built as a result of challenges. But if you are the type of person who can’t stand idly by, see if there is anything you can do to lighten the mood in Rita’s home. Maybe you can plan some fabulous day trips with your older grandchildren every so often, so that you can indulge them a bit and treat them as the children they really are, offering them some carefree fabulous time that you so want them to enjoy and that they, no doubt, will relish. Or maybe you can even roll up your sleeves occasionally and show up at your daughter’s house, ready to pitch in. Whatever you decide to do, do it with love and joy, as opposed to resentment. Do it because it will make you feel good and useful and because the smiles it will bring to your grandchildren’s faces will warm your heart. Don’t do it to show up your daughter or out of anger, and certainly don’t try putting anyone on a guilt trip. Grandparents can play key roles in their grandchildren’s lives. Many children and adults talk about the powerful influ- ences their grandparents have played in their lives and how they literally “saved” them from otherwise dreadful childhoods. If your grandchildren do in fact need a hero to save them, who better than you to play that role? Esther

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26 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES careful. This road begins smoothly, but mashal. If the point is that punishment ends up all thorns. Rather, choose the and reward aren’t in this world, but rather other road. Even though it begins as a dif- in the next, that concept doesn’t need a ficult path, it opens up and will carry you parable. Simply state, “The Torah is refer- well.” Anyone who listens to the man will ring to the World to Come.” What point is work at the outset of his journey, but will the Da’as Zekeinim trying to bring home travel in peace the rest of the way; where- to us with this mashal? as anyone who ignores the advice of the Progressive weight training. To under- old man will get caught in the thorns for stand this mashal, we turn to another the rest of his passage. mashal:A rather yeshivishe fellow went The Shmuz On The Da’as Zekeinim explains that this to a power-lifting gym to learn how to is what the Torah is telling us. If a man work out. As a kid, he had little experi- sins and follows his inclinations, he will ence with sports and was clearly out of The Parashah find comfort in this world, but when he his element. Recognizing this, the coach dies, he will go to Gehinnom, which is showed him various exercises and all thorns. However, if one works in this worked closely with him. One day, this Life: The School Of Growth have been so foolish? How could I have world and labors in Torah study and fellow was overheard saying, “That coach, R’ BEN TZION SHAFIER chosen so poorly?” mitzvos, he will merit the World to I don’t know what’s with him. Every time A mashal for life. The Da’as Zekeinim Come, which is all goodness, joy, and I get the exercise right, he goes and adds See, I place in front of you today a bless- brings this concept to light with a happiness. more weight to the bar!” ing and a curse. The blessing: if you will lis- mashal . He says it is comparable to a This Da’as Zekeinim is difficult to The point this fellow missed was that ten to the mitzvos of Hashem your G-d as I progressive weight training is all about have commanded you today… increasing the load. The goal of the activ- —Devarim 11:26 ity is to coax the body to grow. By grad- There are two paths in front of you… ually increasing the workload, the body In these pesukim, the Torah sets out is called upon to respond. The work two divergent paths. One path leads to “Every time I get the exercise should never be easy. The nature of the ultimate success and blessing, and the activity is to incrementally increase the other to devastation and curses. If you right, he goes and adds more demand placed on the body, thereby follow in the ways of Hashem, you will causing it to grow. be richly rewarded. You will look back This is a good parable, because in life at your years of sacrifice with enor- weight to the bar!” we are put into many situations. If a per- mous joy and satisfaction, saying to son doesn’t understand why he is on this yourself, “Whatever price I paid was so planet, he will have many questions. Why worth it. I am now being compensated is life so difficult? Why is it that when I beyond anything I could have imag- crossroads. One road begins as a difficult understand, because the meaning of the finally get things under control, a whole ined.” On the other hand, if you don’t thorny trail, then it opens up, and the rest pesukim seems self-evident—serve new set of circumstances arises that sets follow the Torah’s ways, there will of the way is clear. The other path begins Hashem and you will receive blessing; everything out of kilter? Why can’t life come a time when you will deeply as a smooth passageway, but ends in a violate the mitzvos and you will be just be easy? regret your mistake and you will look thicket of thorns. An old man sits at the cursed. It doesn’t seem that he is adding back and say, “Woe is me! How could I crossroads and warns the passersby, “Be much to our understanding with this Continued on Page 29

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 27 actually loftier than that of the water, eats an apple, or slaughters an human being; for in the great col- ox and consumes its meat, these are lapse of the primordial world of Tohu converted into the stuff of the the higher elements fell lowest (as human body and the energy that the highest stones in a collapsing drives it. When this person performs wall fall farthest), so that the loftier a G-dly deed—a deed that transcends sparks of Divine light came to be his natural self and brings him closer incarnated in the so-called “lower” to G-d—he elevates the elements he tiers of the physical world. has incorporated into himself, From The Chassidic Masters Man does have the right to consume reuniting the sparks of G-dliness they other creatures only because, and when, embody with their source. (Also ele- he serves as the agent of their elevation. vated are the creations which Eating Meat The spiritual essence of a stone, plant, enabled the G-dly deed—the soil that or animal may be loftier than that of a nourished the apple, the grass that human being, but it is a static spark, bereft fed the cow, the horse that hauled When Hashem your G-d shall broaden put it: When a person walks along of the capacity to advance creation’s quest the water to town, and so on.) your borders, as He has promised you, and without a thought of G-d in his head, to unite with its Creator. The cruelty of the Therein lies the deeper signifi- you will say, “I shall eat meat,” for your the very ground under his feet cries cat or the industry of the ant is not a moral cance of the verse quoted above, soul shall desire to eat meat, you may eat out, “Boor! What makes you any bet- failing or achievement, nor is the hardness “And you will say, ‘I shall eat meat,’ meat to your soul’s desire. ter than me? By what rights do you of the rock or the sweetness of the apple. for your soul shall desire to eat —Devarim 12:20–23 step on me?” The mineral, vegetable, and animal cannot meat.” You may express a desire for “Last and first You created me” (Tehillim meat and be aware only of your 139:5)… If man is worthy, he is told: “You body’s craving for the physical satis- are first among the works of creation.” If faction it brings; in truth, however, he is not worthy, he is told: “The flea pre- this is the result of your soul’s desire ceded you, the earthworm preceded you.” “The very ground under his feet to eat meat—your soul’s quest for the —Midrash Rabbah, Vayikra 14:1 sparks of G-dliness it has been sent to There are those who contest the earth to redeem. morality of eating meat. What gives man cries out, “Boor! What makes you the right to consume another creature’s Desire flesh? But the same can be said of man’s There is, however, an important differ- consumption of vegetable life, water, or any better than me?” ence between the consumption of meat oxygen. What gives man the right to and that of other foods. The difference devour any of G-d’s creations simply to involves desire and the role it plays in the perpetuate his own existence? elevation of creation. Indeed, there is no such natural The fact that man is a “higher” life do good or evil—they can only follow the The human being cannot live without right. When man lives only to sustain form scarcely justifies the destruc- dictates of their inborn nature. Only man the vegetable and mineral components of and enhance his own being, there is tion of dumb or inanimate creatures. has been granted freedom of choice and his diet. Thus, he is compelled to eat them no justification for him to tamper Moreover, according to the teachings the ability to be better (or worse, G-d for- by the most basic of his physical drives— with any other existence to achieve of Kabbalah, the souls of animals, bid) than his natural state. this goal. As a great Chassidic master plants, and inanimate objects are When a person drinks a glass of Continued on Page 31

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The point that he is missing is the very purpose of life. Hashem put us on this planet to grow. Many of the challenges and situations are given to us specifically for that reason. It isn’t by accident, and it isn’t because Hashem doesn’t pay attention. Quite the opposite; these situations were designed to demand from us. They are catalysts to change who we are. In weight training, the movement of the bar isn’t the significant part; the demand on the body is. So too in life, the situations I face are far less significant than my reactions to them. Who I become is a result of my attitude and the way I handle my challenges. When a person understands this per- spective, then life itself makes sense. If not, then the situations in life seem arbi- trary and unfair. Why the Da’as Zekeinim used a mashal. The answer to the Da’as Zekeinim seems to be that this mashal defines our path in life. The road that we are being asked to take isn’t easy. It has thorns. A life properly led will have moments of doubt, pain, and confusion. That doesn’t mean that we are on the wrong path. Quite the opposite; if life is going too smoothly, it’s a bad sign. Since the purpose of life is to grow, we need the challenges of life to help us reach our potential. If the road is too level, that is likely a sign that we have chosen the wrong path. Hashem wants us to enjoy our stay on this planet, but there is a plan and a purpose to it all. If a person lives his life in accordance with the Torah, he finds deep satisfaction, an inner sense of peace and tranquility, and true simcha. But it isn’t a walk in the park. There is much work along the way. There are trials, travails, and circumstances that demand growth. If a person responds appropriately, he finds a sense of inner peace because he is in sync with his purpose in life. That sense of balance is an indicator that he is on the right path, and the work that he puts in along that path will bring him to true joy, happiness, and elation in this world—and much more so in the World to Come. O

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5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 29 are pointed out to the student so that he can correct them. The Person In The Parsha In this week’s Torah portion, we read at length about false prophets. We How Am I Doing? modify one’s behavior, and to change. to anyone learning a new task than to often mistake the nature of the mis- BY RABBI TZVI HERSH Without that readiness, feedback is have feedback delivered to him or her in sion of the prophet, assuming that it is WEINREB doomed to failure. a useful, nonjudgmental, constructive to predict the future. But that is cer- Feedback also needs to be specific. It is manner. As the Talmud puts it, “No one tainly not the mission of the great “How am I doing?” not helpful to say “That was stupid!” Biblical prophets. Rather, their mission If your child, employee, or colleague “You’ll never be good at that!” or even was, in our terms, to give constructive asks you that question, you can be sure “Great job!” It is helpful to say “You feedback to the people, pointing out that he or she is sincere, wishes to learn, turned left when you should have turned I cannot say that I their faults and guiding them in a and will succeed. right” or “When you softened your voice more positive direction. The person who asks “How am I and smiled, it was easier to listen to you.” enjoyed his deﬂating The false prophet not only gives false doing?” is asking for constructive feed- The description of behavior is what is critique at that moment, guarantees about the future, complacent- back. That person is expressing a need to necessary, not evaluation. ly predicting peace and tranquility, but know whether he is doing a good job and, Human nature is such that it is the but I know that I assures the people that they are doing if not, what he can do to correct his work. rare person who asks for feedback, nothing wrong, that they need not The art of giving effective feedback is a and few of us are comfortable in and a lifetime of change their behavior. The false prophet very important one in all human relation- delivering criticism. However con- gives no feedback. ships. Where there is mutual feedback, a structive and well-intended, it is hard students are profoundly These words of Megillas Eichah, relationship pattern is established which to give feedback to another person. indebted to him. which we read in the synagogue so can self-adjust, advance, and thrive. We are afraid of confrontation, or of recently (on Tishah B’Av), are incompara- For feedback to truly be effective, it possibly embarrassing the other, so bly instructive here: needs to be solicited. That is, the recipi- we avoid giving feedback even at the “Your seers prophesied to you delusion ent of the feedback must ask the observ- cost of not assisting the other to has ever mastered Torah study without and folly. er to tell him how he is doing. This sig- change in a positive way. having first erred and making mistakes.” They did not expose your iniquity nals a readiness to receive criticism, to And yet there is nothing more helpful Mastery is only achieved when mistakes So as to restore your fortunes, But prophesied to you oracles Of delusion and deception.” The false prophet cannot give proper feedback. He avoids telling the truth if he thinks it will offend. He is unaware of the positive value of effective feedback. Those who follow him will never benefit from words of correction and guidance. They cannot change, they will not grow. I encourage the reader to reflect upon his or her own experience and to recall those occasions when a few words of corrective feedback were of immense benefit. I remember my own first days as a teacher, when a crusty veteran colleague sat in my classroom and gave me the benefits of his experience by pointing out the numerous things that I did which were ineffective and suggested alternatives to me. I cannot say that I enjoyed his deflating critique at that moment, but I know that I and a lifetime of students are profoundly indebted to him. All the more do we cherish those occasions upon which we receive positive feedback from an observer. I can never forget the times when a mentor or senior rabbi approached me after a sermon with a warm handshake, and a whispered “yasher koach—job well done.” That was enough to teach me that I was on the right track and could confidently continue on my path. An old Spanish proverb has it, “Self-knowledge is the beginning of self-improvement.” And an old Chinese proverb says it even more incisively: “A man who knows he is a fool is not a great fool.” One of the lessons of this week’s Torah portion is that the true prophet gives feedback, sometimes in a way which is hard to hear. But that prophet is extend- ing a hand to us to bring us back to a better way of life and has instructed us in an improved set of behaviors. As we will read this Shabbos, if we attend to the feedback of the prophet, we “will be heeding the L-rd your G-d and doing what is right in His sight.” O

To read more articles and essays by Rabbi Weinreb, visit his blog at www.ou.org/rabbi_weinreb. 30 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES CHASSIDIC MASTERS Continued from Page 28 s”xc the preservation of his existence. Meat, however, is not a necessity but a luxury; the desire for meat is not a desire motivated by need, but desire in its purest sense—the desire to experience pleasure. In other words, animals are elevated—their flesh integrated into the human body and their souls made partner in a G-dly deed—only because G-d has instilled the desire for pleasure in human nature. This means that the elevation of meat requires a greater spiritual sensitivity on the part of its consumer than that of other foods. When a person eats a piece of bread and then studies Torah, prays, or gives charity, the bread has directly contributed to these deeds. In order to perform these deeds, the soul of man must be fused with a physical body, and the piece of bread was indispensable to this fusion. Man eats bread in order to live; if he lives to fulfill his Creator’s will, the connection is complete. But man eats meat not to live, but to savor its taste; thus, it is not enough that a person lives to serve his Creator for the meat he eats to be elevated. Rather, he must be a person for whom the very experience of physical pleasure is a G-dly endeavor, something devoted solely toward a G-dly end; a person for whom the physical satisfaction generated by a tasty meal translates into a deeper understanding of Torah, a greater fer- vor in prayer, and a kinder smile to accompany the coin pressed into the palm of a beggar. (“Bread” and “meat” are employed here as prototypes of necessity and luxury, respectively; in this context, a cream pie or a yacht would be a form of “meat,” while a piece of meat eaten to keep body and soul together would fall under the category of “bread.” See Yoma 76b; Bava Kama 72a; Tanya; Ch. 7.) Thus the Torah says: “When Hashem your G-d shall broaden your borders, as He has promised you…you may eat meat to your soul’s desire.” From this the Talmud derives that “originally, they were forbidden to eat ‘meat of desire’ (basar ta’avah); it was only after they entered the Land [of Israel] that they were permitted to eat meat of desire.”1 For the first generation of Israel’s existence as a people— from the time they received the Torah and erected the Mishkan (Sanctuary) in the Sinai Desert until they settled in the Holy Land—the only meat they were permitted to eat was the meat of the korbanos, the animal sacrifices offered to G-d in the Mishkan. The consumption of this meat was a mitzvah, which meant that its elevation was achieved by the fact that eating it constituted a direct fulfillment of a Divine commandment. However, they did not have the capacity to elevate “meat of desire,” meat that is eaten for the purpose of granting pleasure to its consumer. So the consumption of such meat was forbidden. Indeed, the Children of Israel were rebuked and punished for expressing a desire for meat, as related in Parashas

Continued on Page 32 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 31 Hashem your G-d shall broaden your borders” not CHASSIDIC MASTERS as a qualification of “you may eat meat to your Continued from Page 31 soul’s desire,” but of what the Torah states immediately afterwards: “You shall slaughter of your herd and your flock which G-d has given Beha‘alosecha (Bamidbar 11). you, as I have commanded you.” Thus, according It was only after G-d broadened their to Rabbi Akiva, not only was “meat of desire” permitted in the desert, it was even permitted borders, granting them a mandate to without shechitah (the halachically prescribed make the land holy, that they were manner of slaughter), while all meat eaten following Israel’s entry into the Holy Land enabled to sanctify this most corporeal requires shechitah. corner of human life. However, the deeper significance of the law that (What was the case in Jewish history Rabbi Akiva derives from these verses is identical to that of the law derived by Rabbi Yishmael. was also the case in the history of Shechitah means “drawing forth” (Talmud, mankind. Originally, man was granted Kiddushin 82a); the slaughter of an animal in accordance with the Divinely mandated laws of license only to eat “of every seed-bearing shechitah is what enables its elevation—the herb on the face of the earth, and every drawing of the animal out from its beastly state tree on which there is fruit-bearing seed” into the domain of a life consecrated to the service of the Creator. In the desert, shechitah (Bereishis 1:29). It was only after the Flood, was limited to the animals offered in the following which the world was imbued Mishkan, for only these could be “drawn forth” in the manner that shechitah makes possible. The with a greater spiritual potential, that G-d only difference in the opinions of Rabbi Yishmael told Noach that “every moving thing that and Rabbi Akiva is that Rabbi Yishmael states lives shall be food for you.”) that since the full elevation of “meat of desire” was not possible in the desert, its consumption Similarly, our Sages have said that was prohibited, while Rabbi Akiva holds that it “a boor is forbidden to eat meat” was nonetheless permitted, since a lesser elevation could be achieved. (Pesachim 49b). The license given to man to consume the creatures and creations of the world and subjugate them to serve him is not uncondition- For the next issue, al. It is contingent upon his sensitivity to the spiritual essence of G-d’s cre- the deadline ations, and his commitment to serve them by making them component for all display parts of his sanctified life. It takes an individual with broad spiritual hori- advertising is zons to properly relish a steak. O M onday, August 17 Based on the teachings of the Lubavitcher Rebbe; adapted by Yanki Tauber. Courtesy of MeaningfulLife.com via Chabad.org. Find more at 12 Noon Torah articles for the whole family at www.chabad.org/parshah. Call NOTES: 1. Rabbi Yishmael, cited by the Talmud in Chullin 516-984-0079 16b. Rabbi Akiva (ibid., 17a) interprets the verse differently, understanding the words “when

32 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES The all-inclusive cost is $25, which facing the lemon orchards of his Arab must be paid by August 12. Payments can neighbor, played by Hiam Abbass. The be made by mailing or delivering a check minister’s wife eyes her Arab neighbor, to Beth Sholom (390 Broadway, Salma, from over a wire fence, and smiles Lawrence, NY 11559). Alternatively, pay- develop. Those smiles bring hope to the ments can be made by credit card either movie and to the lives of Israelis and in person at the shul office or by calling Palestinians seeking a true and lasting 516-569-3600 (ext. 22 or 21). Checks should peace. O St. John’s Episcopal Hospital higher than normal but not enough to be be marked “Shalom Singles.” Diabetes Forum, August 24 called diabetes. From this stage, diabetes About the film. The Lemon Tree is a lyri- OU Let’s Talk Kosher, August 27 St. John’s Episcopal Hospital is sched- can develop within 10 years, increasing cal and touching film designed to pro- Rabbi Eliyahu Safran, senior rabbinic uled to hold its monthly diabetes educa- one’s risk of heart attack and stroke. voke thought, introspection, and discus- coordinator and vice-president of com- tion support group on Monday, August Almost 24 million Americans have dia- sion. Directed by Israeli Eran Riklis and munications and marketing at OU 24, 1:30–3:30 p.m., in the first-floor board- betes, but it is easily preventable. Two co-produced by Eran Riklis Productions, Kosher, will be one of two experts room. St. John’s Episcopal Hospital is excellent ways to prevent diabetes are to Heimatfilm, MACT Productions, and Riva appearing in the OU Let’s Talk Kosher located at 327 Beach 19th Street in Far engage in at least 30 minutes of physical Film, it embraces the very essence of life webinar entitled “Kosher Food: What Rockaway. Farhat Shaikh, PT, MSPT, a St. activity five days a week and to consume in Israel and Palestine. That is, the little does it mean for food to be labeled as John’s physical therapist, is the scheduled a variety of foods that are low in fat and life—that ever-so-limited contact kosher and what are the implications for guest speaker at the meeting. low in calories. between two very distant communities food producers, distributors, and mar- The support group was designed to Educating yourself about the effects of which have so much in common and yet keters?” The webinar is to be presented inform local community members diabetes is a stepping-stone to preventing so little. by the Orthodox Union and the Food about the risk factors associated with the disease. Taking these precautions will The Lemon Tree, much like Middle Institute on Thursday, August 27, at 12:00 diabetes and how to prevent it. Diabetes also lower your risk for possible compli- Eastern foods such humus, pita, tehina, p.m. Eastern Time. is a serious disease in which blood glu- cations of diabetes such as heart disease, and falafel and the oven-baked Sahara The Food Institute, a nonprofit organi- cose (blood sugar) levels are above nor- stroke, kidney disease, blindness, nerve winds of the hamsin and sharav, serves zation founded in 1928, is an important mal. Most people with diabetes have damage, and other health problems. For as yet another common denominator, a source for current, timely, and relevant type 2, which used to be called adult- more information about the diabetes natural element that both sides share— information about the food industry. onset diabetes. Particular risk factors education support group, please call 718- but from two sides of a wall, both a Rabbi Safran will share the program may be attributed to excessive weight 869-7116. O cement wall and a cultural wall. The with its moderator, Philip Katz, partner gain, family background, lack of physical lemon tree, whose flowers are so attrac- at the international law firm of Hogan activity, occurrence of diabetes during a Shalom Singles Saturday Night At tive but whose fruits are so bitter, repre- & Hartson and co-director of the firm’s previous pregnancy, high blood glucose The Movies, August 15 sent our mornings, afternoons, and pharmaceutical and biotechnology levels, high blood pressure (140/90 or Shalom Singles (for singles age 40+) nights, from Tel Aviv and Jerusalem to practice group. higher), and HDL blood cholesterol lev- at Congregation Beth Sholom in Ramallah and Gaza. Rabbi Safran will define “kosher,” els less than 35 or triglyceride levels Lawrence is to present The Lemon Tree The Lemon Tree illustrates the small explain how food products and facilities higher than 250. on Saturday night, August 15 at 10:00 amount of contact and the very sensitive are certified as kosher, and talk about the According to the National Diabetes p.m. at the shul. Dinner is to be served conflict between the two cultures. The OU and the Food Institute’s role in the Education Program, at least 27 million before the movie, and a dessert recep- newly appointed Israeli Minister of process. He and Mr. Katz will discuss how Americans over the age of 20 have pre-dia- tion following the movie. The Lemon Defense, played by Doron Tavory, moves kosher certification has significance to betes—the stage before type-2 which Tree is an award-winning Israeli film into a Jewish community on the Green occurs when the blood glucose levels are (with subtitles). 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5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 33 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS retailers, manufacturers, and Eternal Jewish Family: Continued from Page 33 other professionals who are Anti-Assimilation Initiative interested in learning about In Odessa consumers well beyond obser- kosher certification and its When Rabbi Shlomo Baksht, vant Jewish communities, and advantages. a native of Israel, arrived in why it is increasingly important Rabbi Safran may be reached Odessa in 1993, it was, as he puts to the businesses that serve at [email protected]. Registration it, a “spiritual wilderness.” In the those consumers. can be arranged through the 16 years since, Rabbi Baksht has The program, which will Food Institute website, presided over an unprecedented last 90 minutes, is targeted at www.foodinstitute.com. O renaissance of Jewish life in the Ukrainian seaport city. But at the same time as his successes, such as the establishment of Torah mosdos, also came the challenges of growing intermarriage and assimilation. In a joint program between Nefesh Yehudi and Eternal Jewish Family International, a major Shabbaton for students is to take place in Odessa on September 4–5. The new EJF model of “straight talk” on intermarriage will be included in this seminar, highlighted by a keynote address by Rabbi Leib Tropper, chairman of the EJF rabbinic committee and rosh yeshiva of Kol Yaakov/Horizons in Monsey. Rabbi Baksht says he is extremely enthusiastic that EJF has taken this initiative as part of his ongoing efforts to build a strong Jewish community.

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In a dramatic development that Councilman Weprin Visits Catskills Rabbi Shlomo Baksht calls “nothing David Weprin, the chairman of the short of a miracle,” a growing number of New York City Council Finance intermarried couples are seeking to Committee and a candidate for city complete a process that will lead to a comptroller, spent the weekend with his universally accepted conversion. With family in the Catskills. One of the events the strong infrastructure of shuls, they attended was the Moses and Aaron yeshivos, mikvaos, and kosher restau- Foundation’s 13th Annual Chazak Bar- rants, these couples will be able to func- Mitzvah Celebration, which honors the tion as fully committed Torah Jews. outstanding children and families that More than 20 such couples, which the foundation helps. includes a Jewish spouse who is “on the Councilman Weprin has long been a way to becoming a ba’al teshuvah,” will supporter of the foundation and other participate in a seminar sponsored by Jewish community organizations. Prior EJF on September 6–8. to the concert, the foundation recog- The Odessa seminar is modeled after nized Weprin’s commitment to children the many successful similar seminars in with special needs by presenting him the U.S., Canada, and Israel. A large per- with a plaque. centage of participants eventually pro- The celebration included a special ceed to a halachic conversion, according appearance by The Fiddler Rabbi, Rabbi to Rabbi Tropper. Like participants in Litt, and David Gabay. There was also a other countries, many of these couples special musical tribute to Mr. Izzy Councilman Weprin visits a beis midrash in Fallsburg. have at some point undergone a problem- Taubenfeld, whose untimely death earlier atic conversion and eventually recognize this year shocked the Jewish music that their conversion is not recognized by world. students. His claim to be one of the two Going The Extra Mile: The Max And halachic authorities. On Sunday, Mr. Weprin followed the shomer Shabbos councilmembers yielded Ruth Schwartz Torah Academy Of A similar seminar for couples is being tradition of those who run for citywide the biggest applause. He also mentioned Port Washington planned for Munich in November. At each offices and visited the Woodbourne Issac Abraham, who is running for the By Michele Justic of the seminars, EJF’s world-class lecturers pizza shops; he then went on to visit City Council from Williamsburg. He had On the shore of Manhasset Bay, chil- present different aspects of Judaism. In Viznitz Camp in Fallsburg, where he met to correct the chant from “Vote for dren enjoy a rich Judaic general educa- addition to Rabbi Tropper, some of the with the rosh yeshiva, Rabbi Mechil David” to “Vote for Weprin,” because tion on a lush two-plus-acre campus. In lecturers include Rabbi Mordechai Daskal, and staff in the beis midrash as there is another David in the race (David this new building—soon to boast a Neugroschel, Rabbi Doron Kornbluth, the yeshiva bachurim were learning. The Yassky). The candidate also enjoyed a Jerusalem-stone facade—dedicated Rabbi Yonoson Rosenblum, Rabbi head counselor, Sva-Rotzone, invited him tour at the Living Torah Museum and Shimon Grilius, and Rabbi Noach Hertz. O to the lunchroom, where he spoke to the Torah Animal World in the Catskills. O Continued on Page 36

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 35 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS students and is seeking to expand. Continued from Page 35 Students come from different parts of the religious and cultural spectrum, and teachers trained in the most innovative from various locales. Sephardi children pedagogic methods teach small classes from Great Neck, unaffiliated Ashkenazi in which they know each child’s name, children from Roslyn, and Orthodox strengths, and learning style. This won- Ashkenazi children from West Hempstead derful school is not out of reach for can sit together in a sixth-grade classroom most Five Towns residents, financially learning what the teacher explains is actu- or geographically. ally eighth-grade math. A child from The Max and Ruth Schwartz Torah Westbury with a Jewish mother and non- Academy of Port Washington opened its Jewish father can speak fluent Hebrew by doors in 1998 as a chinuch institution of the time she reaches eighth grade. A boy “affordable excellence.” Henry Schwartz from a very traditional family in founded the school in his parents’ mem- Plainview can be inspired by the creative ory. Together, he and Rabbi Shalom and curriculum rather than a more old-fash- Mrs. Sara Paltiel of Chabad of Port ioned approach that another yeshiva Washington, a trio dedicated to outreach might take. These parents send their chil- to all Jews, worked to create a school that dren on the bus to this school not only would offer “an excellent education and because of the very reasonable price, but be welcoming to and affordable for all because they want their children to have Jewish families.” the best education possible. While the 18 (chai) mile distance may STA offers academic excellence in a sound difficult to handle, consider that warm, intimate environment. They boast children can potentially spend those an outstanding Judaic and general studies same 40 minutes on a bus to a school that curriculum; participation in E2K, an inno- charges considerably more and offers vative Middle School enrichment pro- less. The school offers a bus home, and gram for excellence in math and science, carpooling in the morning is common. as well as Tel Am, an all-inclusive Hebrew The fact that this private education envi- immersion curriculum; a Gruss multime- ronment does not cost more than $7,100 dia computer lab featuring the ground- for each grade can only be attributed to breaking “Success Maker” and Hashem’s generous blessings, as well as “Waterford” programs; and a dynamic the generous support of the Port physical education program, including Washington community. sports teams and professional yoga One such benefactor, Dr. Martin instruction. The school is fully accredited Brownstein, supported the Paltiels exclu- by the NYS Department of Education and sively in their first year and a half in Port hires NYS certified teachers. The results Washington and founded a preschool in from the English and math assessment memory of his mother, Florence. That tests exceed state standards. school had 6 students; STA now has 200 The goals of the school are to provide

36 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES students with the opportunity to participate in a high quality Judaic and secular education; to enhance the student’s sense of self as a valuable, contributing person to the Jewish community and to the community at large; to instill moral behaviors and ethical standards established by Torah and social laws; to implement educational tools and apply critical thinking and Judaic values to community involvement; and to motivate students to apply knowledge to real-life situations. The faculty place a daily emphasis on love for Am Yisrael and Eretz Yisrael and love of Torah and mitzvot—especially midot, moral sensitivity, character refinement, and respect for all human beings. This highly personalized and warm approach to shaping individuals can be seen in such programs as “catch the child in the act of being good,” which takes an age-old psychological ideal and brings it down to the tangible, concrete level. In this reward system, classmates can “tat- tle” on other students’ good behavior. Rabbi Paltiel, director of Chabad of Port Washington and dean of the school, explains why this school suits all types of religious backgrounds: “Religious families find it refreshing that their kids can mix with other kids in a safe environment. We teach Judaism with warmth and love. It’s not just, ‘Don’t do that because you’re not allowed to.’ The days of Jewish dogma are basically over.” He elaborates on a growing trend in the frum community: “Too many Orthodox Jews suffer from habitual Judaism. But many people today, even religious people, are looking for spir- ituality; they want the whys and the joys, not the do’s and don’ts. Chabad is all about your neshamah, your soul, and the soul of Judaism.” Together, he and his wife, Sara, have striven to address this issue since their arrival in Port Washington in 1991. As part of their strategy, they brought on board one of the top minds in the field of education; Robyn Mandor, M.S. Ed, A.C. Adm., a 35-year veteran in the field of education, had recently retired from her role as assistant superintendent for personnel in the Manhasset School District before being recruited to join the exemplary team at STA. Mandor loves the school for its personal approach “Children who would not be leaders or stand out in a big school stand out here. And if a kid has a bad day, you know about it and you handle it. That’s what private education should be,” she says. If you’d like to see this gold standard institution on the Gold Coast of Long Island, Ms. Mandor will happily show you around. To arrange a tour of the facility (80 Shore Road in Port Washington), call 516-767-TORAH (767-8672). To learn more, visit www.STApw.org. O

Robert Bielsky Awards At Touro College Three Touro College students recently received the Robert Bielsky Special Recognition Award for Personal Achievement, a scholarship prize given in honor of the Bielski Brigade—a band of Jewish partisans who fought against the Nazis in the forests of Belorussia in the Soviet Union beginning in 1941 and saved 1,200 Jewish men, women, and children. The award has been presented annual- ly for the past decade to Touro College

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students who, despite personal challenges such as illnesses or deaths in their families, have continued to pursue their educations. All students attending any of Touro College’s New York schools are eli- gible to receive this award. The award was established by Dr. Lester Eckman, a Holocaust survivor and, for the past 40 years, a distinguished professor at Touro College. Dr. Eckman befriended the three brothers who formed the Bielski Brigade that harbored Jewish families and con- ducted raids against the German occu- piers, derailing troop trains, ambushing soldiers, blowing up bridges and electric stations, and punishing collaborators. The story of this partisan group was recently depicted in the film Defiance. Dr. Bernard Lander, president of Touro College, established the Center for the Study of Partisans and Jewish Heroism at Touro College and appointed Dr. Eckman as its director. “Presenting the Bielsky Award to deserving students is a way for me to honor my father’s memory while giving something back to the community,” Mr. Bielski said. “The recipients of this award have demonstrated great bravery and determination in the face of adversi- ty and we wish them great success as they continue their education and go on to ful- filling careers.” This year’s awards were announced at commencement ceremonies of Touro New York School of Career and Applied Studies (NYSCAS) by Robert Bielsky, whose father, the late Tuvia Bielski (Robert spells his surname differently from his father), was one of three brothers who formed the Bielski Brigade. Today, there’s a sense of community among all those who survived. Of the four original Bielski partisans, only Aron, the youngest, is still alive. James Millner of Brooklyn, one of the recipients, earned a bachelor’s degree in education and psychology while caring for three adult brothers, two who suffer from dementia and a third who has Down syndrome. A hard worker and student leader, Millner said he had plans to study for a master’s degree in special education at Touro College this fall. “I won’t deny that it was difficult keeping up with my studies while maintaining a house- hold for my brothers,” he said. “But I recognize the importance of an education and pushed on. Touro College’s good intentions are certainly helping me pursue my goal of becoming a special-education teacher.” Other students who received Bielsky Awards include Belkis Jimenez and Tiffany Hickey, both of Brooklyn. Belkis Jimenez of Brooklyn has undergone several surgeries while pursuing her studies and has managed to keep her promise to her mother that she would continue her education and graduate. Following graduation, she plans to pursue state licensing as a bilingual education teacher and return to Touro College to obtain a psychology degree. Tiffany Hickey, despite a serious illness, plans to continue her education by applying to the School of Health Sciences to pursue a degree in occupational therapy. Previous Bielsky Award recipients include a young woman who, while a student at Touro College, battled cancer while maintaining a busy and productive 38 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES

schedule and now works as a certified teacher of special education in an elementary school; and a mother of three and a recent immigrant to the United States who, in spite of considerable financial difficulties, was able to obtain her bachelor’s degree in accounting while participating in Touro College’s work- study program. O

We Cannot Say No To Shuvu! By Avrohom Younger As six Shuvu schools serving over 1,300 children face imminent closure, an important fundraising event was held on July 20. The event was dedicated to the memory of Yeshaya Dov, a’h, ben lhbch’l, Rav Yitzchok Eckstein, a bachur who had been killed the day before in a tragic accident, R’l. R’ Gedalia Weinberger Rav Aharon Pam Rabbi Shmuel Dishon

In his opening remarks, the evening’s grandchildren once again are sacrificing. know that the idea of chamim on host and chairman, Reb Gedaliah It’s the type of mesirus nefesh you just Shabbos is that there should be a fire,’ she Weinberger, pointed out that six Shuvu heard about before. How girls growing up explained, ‘but in my heart was the fire of schools serving over 1,300 children are in a permissive society are dedicated to Shabbos kodesh.’ being threatened with closure not the highest levels of tzenius… A rebbi saw “A child wouldn’t touch a light switch because of a lack of students or because one of his students; the boy was off for on Shabbos, so her mother followed her the parents are not interested, but the summer and he looked emaciated. around, turning the lights on and off. The because there just isn’t enough money to The rebbi went to talk to him and he girl did not want her mother being run them. learned that all the boy eats is bread and mechalel Shabbos, so she went around “The children of Shuvu come from zei- water because they don’t keep kosher in taping up all the lights switches, so des and from bubbes and from elter zaides his house. nobody should touch them on Shabbos. and elter bubbies who sacrificed them- “A girl told her teacher that she learned When her mother got upset, she called selves for Torah and Yiddishkeit; many of that you’re supposed to have hot foods her teacher for guidance. whom went to Siberia for learning Torah, on Shabbos day… But how can she put up “These children have the mesirus for going to the mikveh, for keeping a pot of chulent? Her mother would think nefesh of their grandparents in their Shabbos, for baking matzos, for shaking she’s crazy. So the young lady took a ther- blood, flowing through their veins. lulav and esrog. But their children weren’t mos, filled it with hot water, and made “Klal Yisrael is going through difficult able to continue this. sure it was out in the sunlight in the R’ Avrohom Biderman “Now their grandchildren and great- morning. And she drank the hot water. ‘I Continued on Page 40

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 39 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS and all the Yidden in chutz la’aretz that beverage, dessert, and kosher lunch. New York Legal Assistance Group free Continued from Page 39 b’karov bimheirah b’yameinu we will be Round-trip, door-to-door, handicapped- financial counseling sessions. Wednesdays, able to hold hands together and dance accessible transportation is available on a by appointment only. For further informa- times—personally and collectively. We towards Mashiach Tzidkeinu bimheirah limited basis. Registration is limited, on a tion and/or to schedule an appointment need extraordinary rachmei Shamayim. b’yameinu. Amen.” O first-come, first-served basis. call Chana Pfeifer or Judy Goldberg. O Where is this going to come from? Like Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) group at many of you, I know that when my bubbe JCC Summer Events Sons of Israel in Woodmere. The goal is to Dirshu: Paving The Ground For A and my zaide, my aunts and my uncles The JCC of the Greater Five Towns has a offer a safe haven where clients and fami- Bright Future were in the gas chambers, as their central location in Cedarhurst at 207 ly members feel accepted for who they By Yonasan Klein neshamos were being choked out of them Grove Avenue and several satellite loca- are. Takes place on Wednesdays. For fur- Every year, approximately 2,500 to with hatred, they cried out, Shema Yisrael tions around the community. The central ther information, please contact Lisa 3,000 bachurim make the momentous Hashem Elokeinu Hashem echad. When phone number is 516-569-6733. Barnett (ext. 210) or Chana Pfeifer (ext. 213). transition from yeshiva ketanah to yeshi- they captured Eichmann, yemach shemo, Ongoing Events Upcoming Events va gedolah in Eretz Yisrael. This transition he showed his captors that he knows that Cards and Friendship Group. Come Choir. This program is for men and affords unparalleled opportunities for phrase—how many times he heard it! We alone or bring a friend for a fun after- women 60 years and older. Auditions growth and development in Torah and know that’s how they died. noon at the JCC. Enjoy meeting new peo- begin in September. Songs will be in middos, but it is also fraught with chal- “But the parents and grandparents of ple, good conversation, and challenging English and Hebrew. For choir member- lenges that must be overcome and pitfalls the Shuvu children, they weren’t even games. Every Wednesday, 1:00–3:00 p.m. ship fee information and/or to make an that must be avoided. given the opportunity to learn Shema For further information, please call Lisa audition appointment, please call. Through its intense involvement in so Yisrael. Yiddishkeit was ripped out of Stern (ext. 209). Competitive karate program. Qualified many aspects of chinuch, the askanim at them. Their mouths were held shut. But Come Alive Program at Sons of Israel in applicants will be grouped by age into Dirshu understand clearly just how after 70 years of Communism, the chil- Woodmere. This program provides an three groups: Junior (ages 8–12), Youth imperative it is to provide unambiguous dren are again saying Shema. They’re opportunity for homebound older adults (ages 13–17), and Senior (ages 18 and up). guidance for bachurim at this decisive learning masechtos, Chumash, and to participate in social, recreational, and Applicants should be physically fit, inter- stage in their lives, when young Torah Rashi. They are singing songs about intellectual activities. Kosher lunch will ested in serious training, and be commit- personalities are being crafted and mold- yomim tovim. be provided and door-to-door transporta- ted to the program. Commitment ed and positive impacts can be lasting. “For these schools to survive Shuvu tion is available on a limited basis. For involves purchase of personal equip- After consulting with gedolei Yisrael needs between four and five million dol- further information, please call Mary ment, two training sessions weekly with and thorough preparation, Dirshu lars. A million has been raised already; an Sheffield (ext. 219) or Linda Balch (ext. 211). professional coaches, and travel to com- launched a first-of-its kind kinnus—a anonymous benefactor has offered to Parkinson’s Support Group. The pur- petitions in the tri-state area. Previous groundbreaking program of orientation, match up to a million dollars, perhaps pose of this group is to bring together training in karate is not necessary. The imparting the necessary chizuk and even more. Parkinsonians and their spouses and fam- ultimate goal will be to compete in the hadrachah to these bachurim, our bud- “If not, R’ Avraham will have to go ilies, to help them better understand the 2013 Maccabiah Games in Israel. Training ding talmidei chachamim, so they can tomorrow and pick up the phone and he nature of the condition, gain confidence, will be under the supervision of Alex enter Elul z’man well-prepared, focused, will have to answer to all of these parents and join in community activities. For fur- Sternberg, head coach of USA national and confident in their abilities to to all of these children; he is going to ther information, please contact Cathy karate team and Maccabiah karate team. progress ever higher in their learning and have to say no. Byrne (ext. 220). Please call if interested. character refinement. “We will pass this final test. And the Remember When. This program is espe- Kosher Culinary Institute. Cooking More than 600 bachurim—almost 25 Eibeshter will send berachah, hat- cially designed for memory enhancement classes are scheduled to begin percent of next year’s shiur aleph in zlachah, and simchah to all of K’lal and socialization. The cost includes a full Wednesday, September 9, 10:00 a.m. Pre- yeshivos gedolos—streamed into the kin- Yisrael. All the Yidden in Eretz Yisrael range of therapeutic activities, morning registration is required. nus at Bnei Brak’s Ulam Hechalei

40 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Dirshu’s Asifa in Bnei Brak. Rabbi Uri Weisbloom

Malchus. At this kinnus held on the 7th of could review the crucial topics that were every step of the way, to help him focus advice of Chazal of “Asei lecha rav” and Av—one day before the end of the z’man conveyed. on his learning, improve his time man- “K’nei lecha chaver.” and two days before Tishah B’Av—the “One of our p’eyilim who spoke with agement techniques and monitor his out- “Why do Chazal says ‘asei,’ make your- enthusiasm and determination on the parents of some bachurim after the kin- side activities. There is always someone self a rav? Because a talmid must make faces of the bachurim made it abundantly nus told me that the parents were over- there to hold his hand. But yeshiva himself into a k’li, a receptacle, by which clear that Elul z’man, and not bein haz- whelmed by how much their sons bene- gedolah is a major step forward, as for the talmid becomes submissive to the manim, was paramount in their minds. fitted from the evening,” said Reb Nati many bachurim it represents their first rav. The talmid must also truly ‘make’ his The bachurim sat in rapt attention as Weingarten, of the Dirshu’s Bnei Yeshivos venture out of their homes. The style of rav into his rav, and unless he does, he they absorbed passionate words deliv- division. learning is completely different and more can never become the receptacle for that ered by HaGaon Rav Michel Yehuda What urgent needs did Dirshu uncover intense, and the level of guidance is not rav’s Torah, no matter how great the rav Lefkowitz, shlita; HaGaon Rav Uri in its daily activities in the yeshiva world the same. “There is a greater probability is.” Regarding the selection of appropriate Weisbloom, shlita, who serves as mash- that impelled them to call this unique that the bachur will need extra help in chavrusas and friends, Rav Lefkowitz giach of Yeshivas Nachlas Haleviyim in conference? “This is a critical stage in the order to succeed,” added Rav Berenstein. cited the Gemara in Maseches Taanis: “I Haifa; and Rav Dovid Hofstedter, shlita, development of the bachurim,” says Rav “Yeshiva gedolah is the time when a learned much from my rabbanim, but the nasi and driving force behind Dirshu. Avigdor Berenstein, a senior member of talmid builds the foundation for his even more from my friends.” Pen and paper in hand, the bachurim Dirshu’s hanhalah. In yeshiva ketanah, a entire life,” said Rav Lefkowitz in opening took copious notes to ensure that they bachur receives personal guidance almost remarks built upon the timeless and sage Continued on Page 42

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“In this day and age, when the influ- ence of the street can be so negative, more care than ever is needed in the selection of your friends.” Rav Weisbloom, who was a talmid muvhak of HaGaon Rav Shlomo Volbe, zt’l, emphasized the importance of bein adam l’chaveiro. “Talmidim of Rav Eliyahu Lopian told the story of how, when Rav Lopian was older, he shared a room with a bachur, who would go to sleep earlier than the rav did. Rav Lopian would always remove his shoes before he entered the room, so as not to wake the bachur. He showed such consideration even though he was already an older man and the bachur was much younger,” said Ari Adlerstein of Kids of Courage gearing up Rav Weisbloom. for their big trip with one of the participants. As the bachurim were filing out at the end of a truly enthralling and uplifting evening, one was overheard telling and recuperate from the physically and another, “You know how I have been emotionally exhausting lifestyles they telling you how nervous I have been lead. about moving up to yeshiva gedolah? Most importantly, however, Tours of After tonight, I can honestly say that I Courage is about the kids. These heroic really feel ready.” O children battle for their lives, sometime for every breath. They inspire others with Kids Of Courage their strength, tenacity, and dazzling will Kids of Courage is a volunteer based to live. KOC is giving them the opportuni- non-profit organization dedicated to ty to live like other children for five days. improving the lives of critically ill chil- We help them forget the tubes and dren and young adults. Tours of Courage pumps and needles and the sterile stench provides necessary respite to the remark- of hospitals to instead drink in the thrills able families who care for their sons, of carefree childhood happiness. daughters, brothers, and sisters every day Kids of Courage will be traveling with without rest. By allowing these children 80 children and 140 staff to an eight day to go on this dream vacation, they also magical trip to Disney World, Sea World, give their families a few days off to relax a Major League Baseball game, Universal

42 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Kids of Courage on their March 2009 trip to Universal Studios. Some of the more than 30 young people who were treated to an extraordinary good time.

Studios; and Islands of Adventure. The group is coming from Los Angeles, and International Plaza Hotel, soon to be the arrival, all volunteer medical and coun- group is chartering its own 737 commer- children will also be coming from Doubletree Hilton which just underwent selor staff will go to work setting up a vir- cial airplane for this trip via Continental Chicago, Miami, San Diego, Toronto, a $35 million renovation. tual hospital on wheels. The dedicated Airlines for the New York, New Jersey, and Montreal, Detroit, and Houston. They More than 20 of the children will be Maryland children. In addition, a large plan on staying at the beautiful provided with in-flight oxygen. Upon Continued on Page 44

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 43 AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS whose neshama could use a boost, as well tious glatt kosher finger foods and fancy them around, asking them, “Have you met Continued from Page 43 as for my rebbetzin, Esther Jungreis, who mini desserts. The crowd: early 20s to so and so, he’s a wonderful young man.” does so much for everyone within her mid 30s. Impeccably yet modestly And so the night goes on, sometimes to staff is all volunteer. There are no salaries reach. dressed young women flit around the the late hours, till our gracious hosts are in this organization. Every dollar raised Worrying that there would not be a room talking in hushed voices, scanning ready for bed and long after the caterers goes towards the care of the children, a strong enough showing at our first shiur, the crowd. Eyebrows raise and they are have poured the last glass of wine. truly unique program. I utilized the technology of social net- delighted to see many friends, old faces The night is magical and a success, In March KIC is planning its first ever working programs on the internet to get and new ones. The men, coming from baruch Hashem ! transcontinental trip cosponsored by the the word out. I Facebooked my friends, work, are in business suits, some wear Rebbetzin Jungreis graces us with her National Dysautonomia Foundation to Tweeted my little heart out and blogged jeans and sport coats, outfits completed words on paper through her various arti- Israel for 35 seriously sick children and to my ‘followers’. Little did I know that with a kippah on their heads, also looking cles and columns, and in person in so their families and 80 volunteer staff. Hineni was unlike any other Jewish around with sheer delight.. many ways and places. I just wanted to These families have never been to Israel organization in town. With a capacity to First our awe-inspiring Rebbetzin pay a heartfelt tribute to her and share before. To learn more, visit hold 60—ok 80, if I was pushing it—on Esther Jungreis shares relevant and heart what she has done to touch me and my www.kidsoc.org. O the day of the event I had over 110 on the wrenching words of Torah. The room generation. For more information on get- guest list who had RSVP’d in the affirma- becomes silent and people focus intently ting involved with Hineni contact Tara Hineni Young Leadership tive and we had dozens more vying to and listen with their hearts. Blackberries Lyn at [email protected]. O By Tara Lyn Gordon make their way in. stop buzzing and one can hear a pin drop. Just under a year ago I assumed the It’s a phenomenon. In a city like New There is standing room only as people Tel Aviv University: Taking The role of chairperson of the Hineni Young York where there is literally a plethora of continue to file in, if only to catch as many Needle’s Sting Out Of Diabetes Leadership program. I accepted this chal- Jewish organizations, synagogues, and words as they can. There is no question Found in 30 percent of all human can- lenge to honor the memory of my father, other centers of Jewish outreach, in a city that the rebbetzin is a superb orator, but cer tumors, the Ras protein literally Gershon Gordon, whom I lost in June where the competition for Jewish souls is this group exudes a tangible energy. The “drives cells crazy,” says Professor Yoel 2008 after a long struggle with ALS. I downright fierce, Hineni holds a very spe- Rebbetzin is cultivating a new generation Kloog, the dean of the faculty of life sci- wanted to be part of this critically impor- cial place in the hearts and calendars of of Jews, many of whom are new to Torah. ences at Tel Aviv University. Professor tant program for Jewish survival in order so many of Manhattan’s young Jews. The evening concludes with Rebbetzin Kloog was the first in the world to devel- to exalt his memory and his precious Picture this, if you will: A beautiful Jungreis gently taking the hands of the op an effective anti-Ras drug against pan- neshama. I also did this for my mother apartment. Caterers. Scents of scrump- young ladies in the room and walking creatic cancer, currently in clinical trials. New research published in the June issue of the European Journal of Pharmacology shows that the drug might be able to slow the progression of diabetes as well.

Adi Mor, Tel Aviv University.

Kloog’s student, Adi Mor of TAU’s department of neuro-biochemistry and Sackler School of Medicine, has modified his anti-Ras FTS compound to develop what could be the first tablet-based treatment for children and adults with Type 1 diabetes. Early results show that FTS is effective in restoring insulin production in animal models, which could spell an end to the daily needle injections endured by diabetics. “Our anti-Ras compound has shown very positive results in inhibiting dia-

44 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES betes,” says Mor. And given the drug’s history—FTS has already passed toxicity studies for other diseases and disorders— it has the potential to fast-track through FDA regulatory hurdles, skipping straight to Phase II clinical trials. A new drug for diabetes could be ready in as little as five years’ time. Previous studies by Professor Kloog’s lab found that the FTS compound is effective against autoimmune diseases such as multiple sclerosis and lupus, “but the mecha- nism of its effects on immune cells was not well understood,” says Mor. “I wanted to see if there was a connection between Ras and the regulation of the immune system, and if so if FTS could help regulate it to prevent or slow diabetes.” Through treating cells with the Tel Aviv University FTS compound, Mor was able to find and isolate an important immune system regulator protein called Foxp3. This protein keeps T cells in the immune system in check. T cells are the immune system’s “soldiers” that fight off infection and disease. In her studies in the lab, when Mor blocked Ras using the FTS drug, she was able to increase the Foxp3 protein which gave a boost to the all-important T cells. Mor then theorized that if the amount of regulatory T cells in the body was increased, the progression of diabetes would dimin- ish. “My aim was to slow down diabetes, which brings a suitcase of side-effects like circulatory problems that lead to blindness and amputations,” she says. In her recent study, Mor treated pre- diabetic mice for six months. One group was given FTS, another was given no drug at all. The outcome was dramatic. Only 16 percent of the treated group developed diabetes, while 82 percent of the untreat- ed group became diabetic. Also, insulin production from beta cells in the treated group of mice increased in comparison to insulin production in the non-treated group, she reports. “Diabetes is my main concern,” Mor concludes. “So many children and adults continue to suffer from the disorder. Since the FTS molecule is very easily absorbed into the blood, it could be the first diabetes treatment in pill form to moderate insulin production in juvenile diabetes, slowing down the progression of the disease. It could help a lot of people.” American Friends of Tel Aviv University (www.aftau.org) supports Israel’s leading and most comprehensive center of higher learning. In independent rankings, TAU’s innovations and discoveries are cited more often by the global scientific community than all but 20 other universities worldwide. Internationally recognized for the scope and groundbreaking nature of its research programs, Tel Aviv University con- sistently produces work with profound implications for the future. O

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The American Israeli Action Coalition cational financial grants, funded by the continuing unabated.” that will be heard by the governments (AIAC) recently charged that the official U.S. government, to candidates who In its advertisement, AIAC called upon and people of the United States and website of the U.S. Consulate in must be Palestinian thereby excluding all American-Israelis to advise the White Israel on issues that pertain to the con- Jerusalem is Judenrein (free of any Jewish Israelis and other Americans from partic- House and their elected representatives tinued safety and security of Israel and presence). The AIAC stated that its investi- ipating in such financial grants. The whether they believe that this program is the Jewish people worldwide. gation has disclosed that all of the web- website further discloses that the U.S. “consistent with American principles of The AIAC urges everyone to contact site’s content is solely about the government has provided more than fairness and decency.” President Obama at www.whitehouse.gov, Palestinians in Gaza and the West Bank, $530,000,000 to fund these exclusionary “AIAC intends to bring this disclosure contact your Senators at www.senate.gov, with none of the website’s content being programs. It is highly doubtful that any to the entire American citizenship,” Mr. and to contact your Representative at about Israel or Israelis. The charge is set www.house.gov to speak out against these forth in a large, prominently displayed issues. O advertisement in a recent edition of The Jerusalem Post. AIAC is a non-partisan, non-political, issue- oriented NGO which was formed in Israel to AIAC is a non-partisan, non-political, represent the united voice of the more than issue-oriented NGO which was formed in “The Obama administration’s 250,000 American citizens living in Israel on issues pertaining to the continued safety and Israel to represent the united voice of the security of Israel and the Jewish people more than 250,000 American citizens liv- continued efforts to marginalize Israel worldwide. ing in Israel on issues pertaining to the continued safety and security of Israel and the Jewish people worldwide. are becoming more evident daily.” “This disclosure is almost beyond belief” stated Harvey Schwartz, AIAC’s Remember that article? Chairman. “It is as if the United States is totally denying the existence of Israel or Americans are even aware of this role of Schwartz continued. “It is far too impor- Visit our archive section Israelis. We do not believe that this is in the U.S. Consulate and the existence of tant to be swept under the rug. Unless the and find any issue of the accordance with the will of the these stealth programs, much less sup- Obama administration corrects the situa- American people.” port them.” tion promptly, it will continue to foster 5 Towns Jewish Times Aaron Tirschwell, Executive Director Mr. Schwartz further commented that to the detriment and embarrassment of of AIAC, noted that “the website is “the Obama administration’s continued the United States.” online @ replete with stories and pictures of pro- efforts to marginalize Israel are becoming AIAC is devoted to effectively recruit- www.5TJT.com grams financed by the U.S. government more evident daily. The U.S. Consulate’s ing and activating the more than solely for Palestinians but not for Israelis. efforts, as disclosed by AIAC’s investiga- 250,000 expatriate American citizens in It even reports on the availability of edu- tion, demonstrate that those efforts are Israel in order to create a united voice

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46 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 47 ars in regard to our faith in and attach- in the father’s body, triggers the genera- ment to G-d? tion of life. In the mother’s womb, a single cell develops into a brain, heart, eyes, ears, The Awareness Factor arms, legs, toenails, etc.; soon it emerges The explanation, says Rabbi Schneur into the world to function as a thinking, Zalman of Liadi in his Tanya, lies in feeling, and achieving human being. understanding the father–child metaphor Physically, what has originated in the employed by the Torah to describe our father’s body and psyche is now a sepa- relationship with G-d. “You are children rate, distinct, and (eventually) independ- From The Chassidic Masters to the L-rd your G-d,” say Moshe. While ent individual. On a deeper level, howev- we were still in Egypt, G-d speaks of us as er, the child remains inseparable from his “My firstborn child, Israel” (Sh’mos 4:22). begetter. In the words of the Talmud, “A The Mind Of The Child In what way is G-d our “father”? There son is a limb of his father.” At the very are, of course, the obvious parallels. Like heart of the child’s consciousness lies an B Y YANKI TAUBER possible to cleave to the Divine?” and a father, G-d creates us and provides us inescapable truth: he is his father’s child, replies, “But whoever attaches himself to with sustenance and direction. He loves an extension of his being, a projection of You are children to the L-rd your G-d. a Torah scholar, the Torah considers it as us with the boundless, all-forgiving love his personality. In body, they have —Devarim 14:1 if he had attached himself to G-d” of a father. Rabbi Schneur Zalman delves become two distinct entities; in essence The Zohar refers to Moshe as the raaya (Talmud, Kesubos 111b). further into the metaphor, examining they are one. meheimna of Israel, a phrase that trans- One may argue as follows: Perhaps in lates both as “faithful shepherd” and the child’s mind—the seat of his self- “shepherd of faith.” The latter sense awareness and identity—the singularity implies that Moshe is Israel’s “faith of parent and offspring lives on. Here the provider,” a source and conduit of their We cannot change what we are, child’s relationship with his father is faith in G-d. sensed; here resides the recognition of Indeed, when the Torah speaks of their intrinsic oneness. But the brain is Israel’s faith in G-d in the wake of the mir- we can determine to what extent only one of the child’s many organs and acles of the Exodus, it says, “And they limbs. The rest of him may indeed stem believed in G-d and in Moshe His servant” our identity as G-d’s children will from its parental source, but is now a (Sh’mos 14:31)—using the very same verb wholly separate entity. (“vaya’aminu,” “and they believed”) to con- Obviously, this is not the case, any note Israel’s belief in Moshe and in the Al- be expressed in our daily lives. more than it would be correct to say that mighty. In its commentary on this verse, the eyes alone see or that “just” the the Midrash Mechilta goes so far as to mouth speaks. The component parts of derive from this that “one who believes in the human being are comprised in a sin- Moshe believes in G-d”! A fundamental principle of the Jewish the biological and psychological dynam- gle, integrated whole; it is the person who The Talmud goes even further, apply- faith is that there are no “intermediaries” ics of the father–child model and sees; the person who speaks; the person ing the same to the sages and Torah schol- between G-d and His world; our relation- employing them to better understand who is aware. The toenail of the child, by ars of all generations. Citing the verse ship with Him is not facilitated by any our relationships to each other and to virtue of its interconnection with the (Devarim 30:20) “To love the L-rd your G-d “third party.” So what is the significance our Father in Heaven. brain, is no less one with the father than and to cleave to Him,” it asks, “Is it then of the role of our leaders and Torah schol- A microscopic bit of matter, originating is the brain itself, the organ which facili-

48 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES tates this oneness. But what if the toenail, or any other limb of the body, severs its connection with the brain? This would cut it off from its own center of vitality and consciousness, and, as a result, also from its parental origins. In other words, the unity of all the child’s limbs and organs with the father’s essence is dependent upon their maintaining their connection with their own mind, a connection that imbues them all with the awareness of this unity.

The Body Israel Israel, too, comprises many “organs” and “limbs.” There are the great sages of each generation who devote their lives to the assimilation of the Divine essence of Torah, and whose entire being is per- meated with the awareness of G-d’s truth; these are the “mind” of the nation. Israel has a “heart”: individuals whose lives exemplify compassion and piety; and hands: its great builders and achieves. Each and every individual— from the “Moshe of the generation” (as each generation's leader is called; see Midrash Rabbah, Bereishis 56:7, Tikkunei Zohar 114a, and Rashi’s commentary on Chulin 93a) to the ordinary “foot sol- dier”—forms an integral part of the body of G-d’s firstborn; each is equally “the limb of the father.” But as with the physical father–child relationship, it is the mind of the child The management and that facilitates the bond with his father. As long as the many organs and limbs of his body remain a single integrated whole, they are all equally the father’s child. The staff of the mind is not serving as an “intermediary,” G-d forbid—every part of the body, including the “toenail,” possesses the self-knowledge that makes the two ostensibly dis- 5 Towns Jewish Times tinct “bodies” of the father and child a single entity. But it is only by virtue of their connection to their mind that this awareness resides within all the child’s “parts.” wish to express our condolences The same applies to the “body” that is Israel. It is our life-bond with our “mind”—the sages and leaders of Israel— that both integrates us as single whole to our columnist and friend, and imbues us with our connection to our Creator and Source. True, a Jew cannot ever sever his or her bond with G-d, any more than even the Hannah Reich Berman, lowliest “toenail” of the child’s body can choose to go off on its own and undo its relationship with its father. But while we cannot change what we are, we can deter- and her family on the mine to what extent our identity as G-d’s children will be expressed in our daily lives. We can choose, G-d forbid, to disso- ciate ourselves from the leaders that G-d passing of her husband, has implanted in our midst, thus banish- ing our relationship with Him to the sub- conscious of our soul. Or, we can intensify our bond to the minds of Israel, there- Arnold Berman, a’h. by making our bond with the Al-mighty a tangible and vibrant reality in our lives. (Chabad.org) O

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5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 49 family’s house, the masses outside began looking for Jews. Yonah related, after Geula—The Youngest Survivor many years of silence, that the mob came to the home of the Arab family, looking BY ELI ASHKENAZI connected with the birth of Geula, Yonah’s the yeshiva students in the town. “This for the Molchadskys. “We have already second daughter. Last weekend, Geula made it possible to live,” she says. “My killed our Jews,” the Molchadskys’ hosts When the Six Day War ended and Wolfson celebrated her 80th birthday, and parents never ever complained, and they and saviors told the mob, who believed Israelis began streaming to the West Bank, at the birthday party she told the story “so made do with what they had. Mother was them and departed. members of the Molchadsky-Wolfson that the grandchildren will know.” aware of the need to make contact with The following day, the family—par- family from Jerusalem decided to visit Geula’s parents, Mordechai and Yonah the Arab neighbors and could speak ents, 20-month-old daughter and the Hebron. Thirty eight years earlier, the fam- Molchadsky, came to Palestine from Arabic even before she learned to speak newborn baby—left Hebron to start a ily had fled from that city, following the Minsk in 1925. They hailed from well-to- Hebrew. Indeed, relations with the neigh- new life in Jerusalem. The baby was massacre of Hebron’s Jewish residents. do families and hoped the remaining bors were very good. In December 1926, called Geula, “redemption” in Hebrew, “a Yonah Molchadsky had given up hope family members would soon follow their first daughter, Rivka, was born.” name which had so much significance of finding the little apartment in which them. But this did not happen, and the In August 1929, Yonah was nearing the for them, a name with content,” says her family had lived in Hebron. But her family members who stayed behind per- end of her pregnancy when, on August 23, Geula today. daughter, Geula Wolfson, and the other The families who were saved from family members and friends who went Hebron spread out through Jerusalem but along on the 1967 visit, were not prepared kept in touch with one another. Geula to give up. Finally the apartment was recalls how they would visit each other, located; it had been turned into a work- “Mother was aware of the need to make in “meetings of a shared fate, a difficult shop for girls. fate.” But that terrible time was never Yonah Molchadsky, however, did not contact with the Arab neighbors and mentioned at home. “Silence was part of say a word about the horrors of the mas- life in those days. They wanted to hide sacre that had led them to leave. The fam- could speak Arabic even before she the difficulties from their children and ily put no pressure on her. When they not to cry and be miserable. They wanted returned to Jerusalem that evening, learned to speak Hebrew.” us to have an egg and a tomato every day Yonah went to the kitchen and prepared and to have a good life, not to know food, and when they sat down to eat, her worry, pain, and difficulty. They wanted friend, Sarah Novoplansky said: “Now to save us from that.” you must talk. Tell us exactly what hap- ished in the Holocaust. the disturbing news reached them that Today Geula does not take part in cere- pened that day.” Mordechai was a forester, but he could there had been attempts to harm Jews in monies to mark the massacre. One time So after 38 years, the silence was bro- not find work here. “They had a very hard Jerusalem. The following day, Yonah start- she went to a ceremony in Hebron, she ken and Yonah spoke, “from beginning to life,” says Geula. “Those were not easy ed to feel labor pains and a doctor was says, and felt uncomfortable that her day end, without a tear or a tremble in her times; they were years of being absorbed called. “Don’t give birth yet, wait a bit,” he of celebration fell on a day of mourning. voice,” recounts Novoplansky, who wrote into a difficult country, of hopes that the told her. But the pains got worse and the But it is important for her that people everything down. parents and families would come, years birth approached, so the family went to remember that “that was an important It was the story of a family who had sur- of difficulties making ends meet. What the neighboring family, an Arab family, day in the history of the Jewish people, a vived the terrible day on which 67 mem- did they have here? Nothing.” who put them up in their basement. terrible day, but also the day I was born, bers of Hebron’s Jewish community were Mordechai was advised to open a laun- As Yonah gave birth to her second and because of the birth, my family was massacred. The story of their survival is dry in Hebron. It was supposed to serve daughter in the basement of the Arab saved.” (Haaretz) O

50 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 51 Cedarhurst Concert Lights Up The Night

Rivka and Maurice Bortz of Woodmere. The Gross family of Cedarhurst. The Village of Cedarhurst Tuesday-night concert series is one of the high- lights of the summer in the Five Towns. Everyone enjoys a night out under the stars listening to different types of music throughout the summer season.

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Awareness Needed, Not Pity professional and personal relationship for Dear Editor, over 30 years, he said he understood. An Nice front-page piece (“Heard in the hour later, he e-mailed me and said he men- Bagel Store: Single Encounter,” Five Towns tioned our conversation to his wife. He Jewish Times, August 7). It certainly raises wrote, an hour before Shabbos, that I could communal awareness of the issue. You come over to his house for a meal. My might be interested that we at Shalom Yorkshire terrier is fed table scraps with Singles did a rough, very unscientific poll of greater dignity. I am sure he was well-inten- the number of 40+ singles in the Five tioned, but he completely missed the point. Towns and Far Rockaway area. The number Why isn’t it natural for a contemporary is north of 350. And we have no idea what married couple of the 40+ single to include the size of the under-40 crowd looks like. the lonely 40+ at their Shabbos table? The But just as you have admirably contin- 40+ single isn’t someone who has to be ued to keep a communal focus on the pitied and invited as an act of chesed. He or younger shidduch crisis, the spotlight must she may well be very highly educated, remain on for some time. While many, if accomplished, healthy, vibrant, articulate, not all, adult singles are eager to find a and well learned. (Did you know that there zivug, every one of them simply wants to is a single man who is a 53-year-old professor be treated with the same respect, dignity, of finance who lives alone a couple of blocks and hospitality of the married couple next from you?) He doesn’t want to sit with a 30- door. Adults over 40 have the wherewithal year-old couple who feel sorry for him. and the venues to meet other singles for The 50-year-old woman living a half shidduch purposes, and they largely avail mile west of you who is the head of a unit themselves of those opportunities. They at Columbia Presbyterian dealing with epi- are far less concerned about dealing with demiology and who speaks four languages shadchanim than younger men and flawlessly and has traveled the world lec- women, many of whom are actually the turing on behalf of the UN has much to children of the 40+ crowd. At least the kids contribute to an intellectually stimulating are treated with some measure of concern Shabbat meal. But she eats alone, except and dignity by the community. when she invites some other singles to her When I had a long discussion last Friday home. She has too much dignity to accept with the president of a major shul in the neighborhood with whom I have enjoyed a Continued on Page 54

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 53 LETTERS TO THE EDITOR with compensation money. However, the Continued from Page 53 problem is that it was to be used for building a home and rebuilding our lives, not the invitation of a 30-year-old who, while for day-to-day necessities. completely well-intentioned, treats her as The only reason I know of activity in the an unfortunate case. And she has learned gemach is because Rivka Madar is a member that invitations she extends to her contem- of our community and many of our mem- poraries are most often declined—and, bers (including my son) help out in the when accepted, never reciprocated. gemach. As far as receiving help from same, I This is the root of this crisis. Thanks have no idea who actually gets the food and again for your sensitivity and concern. All I clothing in the gemach. Thank G-d we don’t ask is that you keep up a campaign of com- live on charity, and neither do most of my munal awareness. Everybody knows about neighbors or friends here. We will have a the “shidduch crisis.” Yet everybody is indif- problem with building a house, but in all like- ferent to the singles who have contributed lihood we will take out a mortgage to build. so much and have so much more to con- I couldn’t help feeling that the article was tribute to a vital community. a pat on the back for Yad Ezra and NCYI. I Jerome Kowalski felt completely humiliated reading the arti- New York cle. Please, don’t generalize. Not all of us are charity cases, and those of us who are don’t Reaching Out To Gush Katif need the fact thrown into their faces. Dear Editor, Susan Shaul, Re: “Where Have All the Flowers Gone” Gan Ohr, Gush Katif (July 31 issue of the 5TJT): In all the years since the Disengagement Rabbi Pesach Lerner, executive vice- (or whatever you want to call it), I have president of National Council of Young never read a more patronizing article about Israel, responds: Gush Katif and its farmers. My husband and First, I am glad you are basically self- I were one of those farmers. We moved to sufficient and on your own. May it Moshav Katif in October 1978. In 1985, we always be that way. moved to Moshav Gan Ohr (I know of no The article you read was written by an Lisa from Chicago in Gan Ohr or any other individual who spent many hours with moshav in the gush), where we grew toma- Rivka Madar during the pre-Shavuot food toes and then cherry tomatoes for export. distribution discussed in the article. May I I spent most of my adult life in Gush suggest you speak to Rivka to verify the Katif and do not recognize anything you contents of the article, the quotes, etc. have written about the Gush. We moved Rivka knows me well; you can ask her of to Nitzan 2 in August 2005 and, aside from our activities. I was present in Nitzan for a few gifts from neighboring settlements, the recent food distribution; I spoke to we haven’t received food packages. We are able to take care of our day-to-day needs Continued on Page 55

54 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES many people; I cried with them. They need much assistance. We are helping as we can, albeit not enough. I personally have visited the families of Nitzan many times. I have been in their homes, schmoozed with them around their kitchen tables, etc. I have heard their tales, problems, and needs. I believe most of the families are unfortunately not in the better position your family is in. I have many letters of thanks, and receive many phone calls of thanks, for the activities we do. I have been to visit the families now in the Golan, in Yad Binyamin, etc. Many of those families still have problems with daily needs. Yes, the article was written to give Young Israel and Yad Ezra a pat on the back—but only as a means to expand our fundraising for the Sukkos ’09 food campaign. I wish you much hatzlachah. Kol tuv, Pesach Lerner

Separate (But Equal) Swimming Dear Editor, In a caption on last week’s front cover, you wrote that “the Ashdod municipality is considering a plan to reserve part of its beach for the chareidim, who require separate swimming accommodations for men and women.” You make it sound like separate swimming is a fanatic chumrah invented by Israeli chareidim. It’s an absolute halachah, as any Orthodox posek can tell you. Rabbi M. Y. Ackerman, Bayswater

Hebron Is Waiting For You Dear Editor, Over 80 years ago, Hebron, the Ir HaAvos, was a vibrant Torah community, with the Hebron Yeshiva as the main pillar of spiritual life. After the horrific massacre of 1929— when ovdei Hashem, b’nei Torah, ba’alei chasadim, and Torah pioneers were mur- dered by a hateful, violent, and frenzied Arab mob—Hebron has never regained its prominence as a Torah center. Those living or visiting Eretz Yisrael can and should reconnect to the kedushas ha’makom in Hebron. Every erev Shabbos there is a bus departing Har Nof at 5:15 a.m., stopping in Bayit Vegan, Tzomet Malcha Mall, and Gilo on its way to Kever Rochel and Me’aras HaMachpeilah. Mr. Avrom Mittelman (tel. 651-9127) of Har Nof has been operating this route for over 15 years. The mispallelim include rabbanim, mechanchim, tourists, the elderly, semi- nary and yeshiva students, and all who want to experience an uplifting tefillah at these mekomos ha’kedoshim. I have had the z’chus to travel with Rebbetzin Tzipora Heller (she is a weekly regular) as an early-morning companion. The bus driver offers, free of charge, a d’var Torah on the parashah, and arrival in Hebron is heralded with a peek at the sun’s magical rays. The residents of Hebron prepare hot cocoa, coffee, juice, and cookies, in their typical hachnasas orchim manner, for the early-morning daveners. A special treat is offered to the travelers on erev Shabbos Mevorchim—a short historical tiyul in old Hebron or a surrounding yishuv. The ride back to Yerushalayim is infused with an injection of kedushah that does not wear off till the next visit, a mere week later. It is approximately 9 o’clock as you step off the bus back into the center of Yerushalayim—what a day! See you there. Mrs. Caren V. May 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 55 Avnet Pushes Mets To Victory Photos By Ira Thomas Creations

HALB Avnet Country Day School’s Woodmere campus made their inaugural trip to the new Citi Field on August 5 to see the Mets’ victory.

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46 percent believe that Obama is biased in favor of the Palestinian side, down from 55 Survey: percent in June, while 31 percent say he is neutral, down from 34 percent in June, and 7 percent say he is pro-Israel, a number that 66% Of Jews is unchanged since the previous poll. When asked if Obama can be trusted to take Israeli interests into account and Say Jerusalem to safeguard them in his diplomatic efforts, 38 percent said yes and 60 percent said no. In June, only 26 percent trusted Sovereignty Obama and 68 percent did not. Operation Cast Lead in Gaza was cred- ited by 71 percent of the Jewish public for Indisputable the current relative quiet in Israel’s south, and 79 percent viewed the operation’s BY GIL RONEN execution as “pretty good” or “very good.” Asked about the testimony by A recent poll has found that 66 percent “Breaking the Silence” about supposed of Israeli Jews believe that Jerusalem in its atrocities committed in Operation Cast entirety is Israel’s capital and that Israel’s Lead, 76 percent said there was no need right to build anywhere within the city is to reopen investigations of the allega- indisputable; 27 percent disagreed, and tions. However, 43 percent said that they the rest said they did not know. The War believe the allegations while 47 percent and Peace Index poll also found that 53 said they do not. This is a major shift percent of the Jewish public judged the from March, when 20 percent said that government’s foreign policy favorably, they believed the allegations of miscon- while 33 percent viewed it negatively. A duct and 60 percent did not. majority among the voters for all parties The poll surveyed 512 people by tele- except Labor and Meretz hold this view. phone and has a margin of error of 4.5 The researchers from the Tami percent. (Arutz Sheva) O Steinmetz Center for Peace Research esti- mated that Israelis’ support for the government was influenced by the perception Deadline for Advertising that the U.S. administration under Barack Obama is not objective in the Middle East in the Next Issue is dispute, but rather pro-Palestinian. Tuesday, August 18 However, there is more trust in Obama now than there was two months ago, at 5:00 P.M. immediately after he gave his speech to the Call 516-984-0079 Muslim world in Cairo. Among Israeli Jews,

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 57 merely a school—it’s the heartbeat of our munities where Shalom had planted its community. roots have flourished and are hardly rec- Miracle Workers: “Brianna loves everything about ognizable today. Indeed, since its incep- Shalom; she’s loved it from the start. She tion in 1973, Shalom Torah Centers has wakes up in the morning with a sunny been the standard-bearer of providing a Shalom Torah Centers Brings smile on her face and can’t wait to see her quality Torah education to children of morahs and friends. And she isn’t the assimilated families. Working on the only one. Jack and I are very involved in front-line trenches of kiruv, STC has great- Hashem’s Children Back Home the school and we speak often to other ly impacted Jews living within their own parents who tell us that their children backyard. Little wonder that such venera- BY ROCHELLE MARUCH become meticulous about reciting Krias feel the same way—happy, enthusiastic. ble Torah luminaries as Rav Yaakov MILLER Shmah, as well as observing other mitzvos Shalom’s principals and faculty are excel- Kamenetsky, zt’l, and Rav Shneur Kotler, since then. lent; they infuse the children with good zt’l, were unwavering in their enthusias- Michelle (not her real name) refers to “Our Brianna attends pre-school at values, self-confidence, and create a posi- tic support of Shalom Torah Centers. them as Brianna’s “midnight excursions,” Shalom Torah Academy and it’s the best tive, happy environment where they can The Shalom story is one of miracles— as she recalls her adorable, albeit preco- investment that we’ve made; truly, it’s an achieve their full potential—academical- and every dedicated individual, past and cious, four-year-old’s bout of pre-dawn investment in Brianna’s—and our— ly, spiritually, and socially. Shalom is a present, who has reached out to a Shalom awakenings. future. Jack and I did extensive research spiritually enriching experience for our child, parent, and community member is “It was the strangest thing, especially a miracle worker. Long before kiruv was since even as a baby, Brianna had pretty embraced, Shalom Torah Centers looked much slept through most of the night. to the towns of Central New Jersey and But for three consecutive nights, my hus- found a tremendous void. In such places band and I found ourselves being awak- Brianna wakes up in the morning with a as Manalapan, Old Bridge, East Windsor, ened by Brianna, who had placed her tiny Twin Rivers, Marlboro, and Princeton, hands over our eyes.” thousands of Jews reside, but no sem- Initially, neither Michelle nor Jack saw sunny smile on her face and can’t wait blance of Yiddishkeit existed. any cause for concern. But by the third With the full support of the gedolim, such occurrence, the couple was at a loss Shalom Torah Center’s founding direc- as to the cause of their little girl’s unusu- to see her morahs and friends. tors—true visionaries—embarked upon a al behavior. plan to build Torah-true, Jewish commu- “I asked her, ‘Brianna, why are you cov- nities, beginning with the children. The ering Mommy and Daddy’s eyes?” And tiniest of precious children would be the although it was well past midnight, she prior to registering Brianna at Shalom; we children and for our entire community.” foundation upon which an active, thriv- was bright-eyed and wide awake. Smiling spoke to family, friends, and neighbors, Nearly four decades ago, Shalom Torah ing kehillah would be built. With alacrity, the sweetest smile, she replied, ‘Mommy, and we visited the school. We heard Center’s founding fathers dared to tread Shalom established itself by opening up my Morah taught us that we have to about the superb Torah and general stud- where no one had before. Beginning as a elementary day schools and giving the cover our eyes and say Krias Shmah ies education that is Shalom’s hallmark, humble afternoon Talmud Torah in a youngest children their first taste of before we go to sleep every night. I want but what impressed us most was hearing storefront in East Windsor, New Jersey, Torah. Shalom staffs its schools with out- to make sure that you and Daddy say it so about—and observing firsthand—the Shalom Torah Centers has emerged as a standing teachers who are not only certi- I am covering your eyes for you.’ And you warm, loving, and nurturing environ- powerful Torah and kiruv medium, an fied educators, but who possess an unpar- can be sure that both Jack and I have ment that makes Shalom unique. It isn’t exemplar for others to emulate. The com- alleled level of devotion and warmth.

58 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES Taught by these role models, the and university student pro- Academy began to feel the COJO, Tomchei Shabbos, and focus has been pretty much children are infused with a love grams, plus a new Shalom effects of the economic crisis. As Bikur Cholim, who has been local and community-based. But for Torah, which they bring Talmud Torah in Princeton. The their financial troubles became involved with Shalom for 30 the difference is that there is no home. A bracha is said aloud at thriving Shalom Torah Academy increasingly more severe, years. “This board of successful community in Marlboro to turn the table, and before long a elementary school has recently Shalom sought outside help to business people has experience to for support and not much in spark is ignited within the expanded and continues to keep the institution from clos- in running schools.” Twin Rivers,” he explained. hearts of Jewish parents. Soon, thrive. ing its doors. Dedicated individ- I asked Mr. Goldberg, who “Without people from ‘outside’ memories of a beloved zaidy or Today, in Marlboro, a reli- uals, caring community mem- resides in Brooklyn, about his communities like ours to help bubby’s traditions become rele- gious community exists, whose bers, and national organizations own passion and long-standing them, they will not survive.” vant and parents start attending heart is the beautiful state-of- intervened to stabilize Shalom involvement with Shalom. “My To be continued… O events at the schools, signing up the-art Shalom Torah Academy Torah and render succor and for classes, and joining one-on- school building and community support for the centers. one study programs to better center. Since the opening of the Working in conjunction with understand their child’s home- new facility, enrollment has Torah Umersorah, a new Board work. They begin coming to more than doubled in two of Directors has been estab- shul on Shabbat, then during years! The Shalom mikvah in lished; its goal is to restore the week, and soon become Marlboro has sparked an financial stability and to estab- “regulars” in the daily Shalom increased awareness and obser- lish, reorganize, and direct minyanim. vance of this vital mitzvah. Shalom Torah Center’s budget. With Hashem’s help, Shalom But along with its miraculous “I’m proud to step into this Torah Centers has revamped the spiritual success, overwhelming role at this critical junction for spiritual landscape of New financial challenges have arisen. Shalom,” said Leon Goldenberg, Jersey one family at a time. Nine months ago, Shalom Torah a realtor and active member of Shalom Torah Centers has paved the way for a veritable explosion of Jewish life and living. Today, there is a full religious community in Twin Rivers, New Jersey. At the Shalom shul, in addition to services on Shabbat and yom tov, three minyanim a day convene during the week. The Twin Rivers mikvah is utilized by the community itself and families in the surrounding areas. The Shalom Heritage Center of Twin Rivers organizes a variety of learning groups and adult education programs, as well as teen

And you shall slaughter of your cattle and flocks which G-d has given you, as I have commanded you (Devarim 12:21)

We derive from this verse that there is a commandment regarding slaughter- ing, how one must slaughter. Since this commandment is not written anywhere in the Torah, we deduce that these are the laws of ritual slaugh- tering which were given orally to Moshe on Mount Sinai.

(Talmud, Chulin 28a; Sifri)

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 59 Sidney Zion, FDR, And The Holocaust BY RAFAEL MEDOFF Harper slowly lifted his right index finger for more than half of the discussion. cent of the question and answer period, off the table, and said, “But Roosevelt “The German [immigration] quota was he quickly demonstrated that quality was Sidney Zion, the federal prosecutor- wouldn’t do this for the Jews.” the second largest quota,” Vanden Heuvel more important than quantity. turned-journalist who passed away on Zion was not afraid to publicize this asserted, as if that was evidence of American Responding to one of his opponent’s August 2, was widely admired in the and other unflattering information about largesse, while never explaining that the claims that the only way to save Jewish community because of the strong- FDR, even when it meant enduring barbs German quota was almost never filled—in European Jewry was to win the war, Zion ly pro-Israel articles he wrote as a colum- from Roosevelt’s apologists. fact, more than 300,000 quota places from declared: “We won the war and all the nist for New York’s daily newspapers, at a In 1997, he was invited to participate in Germany (in the 1930s) and Axis-occupied Jews were dead, so thank you very much time when many other pundits were a panel discussion at the Harvard Club in countries (in the 1940s) were never used for the notion that all we had to do was ganging up on the Jewish State. But Zion New York City, sponsored by the Leo because the Roosevelt administration win the war and we’d save the Jews.” also deserves to be remembered for Baeck Institute, on “FDR and the actively discouraged would-be immigrants. “Apologists always think of some rea- another courageous stance he took— Holocaust: Did the President Do All He At another point, Vanden Heuvel praised son why you couldn’t do anything,” Zion regarding President Franklin Roosevelt’s Could to Save European Jewry?” FDR for “keeping a relationship with Vichy said at another point. “But I’ll tell you one response to the Holocaust. thing, and everybody knows this for sure, Zion was not a historian, but he that if Hitler had gotten into England and immersed himself in books and articles had started to massacre and gas the about Allied policy toward European English people, do you really believe FDR Jewry in the 1930s and 1940s. He also “We won the war and all the would have sat back and done nothing spoke personally with many of the men about that? When he warned the Germans who had been key players in wartime never to use poison gas, they didn’t on any- Washington. Their eyewitness accounts Jews were dead.” body—except the Jews.” of that era taught him plenty. Finally, this: “Let’s consider the fate of the Zion once told me of a conversation St. Louis. FDR could have let the passengers he had in 1968 with Fowler Harper, an on that ship in, with an executive order, but ardent New Dealer who had served in the The lineup of speakers made it clear France despite great political pressure, and he didn’t let them in…[One year later,] the Roosevelt administration as Assistant that, as Zion would have put it, the fix one of the reasons for keeping it was English kids were welcomed here…We took Secretary of the Interior, under Harold was in. The other four panelists were because it was a channel” for Jewish refugees them right away...Now there was a double Ickes. Zion asked Harper about FDR’s pol- William Vanden Heuvel and Arthur to escape. Vanden Heuvel neglected to men- standard like nobody’s business.” icy toward Europe’s Jews and was sur- Schlesinger, Jr., the co-chairs of the tion that those refugees were rescued not by Whether defending Israel against its prised when the usually gregarious Franklin and Eleanor Roosevelt Institute; Roosevelt but by journalist Varian Fry, and enemies or exposing those who aban- Harper declined to answer and tried to and two professors who likewise defend- when the Vichy French and the Nazis com- doned the Jews in the 1940s, Sid Zion change the subject. ed FDR’s response to the Holocaust. In plained about Fry, the Roosevelt administra- fought the good fight, using his sharp After much prodding by Zion, a crestfall- other words, it was four against one. That tion canceled Fry’s passport, bringing his res- tongue and devastating pen “like en Harper reluctantly recalled how he and did not deter Sid Zion in the slightest. cue activity to an end. nobody’s business.” He will be missed. O Ickes repeatedly tried to call Roosevelt’s The transcript of the session shows that This is what Sid Zion had to contend Dr. Rafael Medoff is director of The David S. attention to opportunities to rescue Jewish FDR’s defenders spoke for 79 percent of with. Although he had the floor for just 21 Wyman Institute for Holocaust Studies, refugees. Tears streaming down his face, the time. Vanden Heuvel alone accounted percent of the discussion, and only 6 per- www.WymanInstitute.org.

60 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES team recently took first place at the Big Jerusalem’s Bowl tournament in Germany, and will send both teams to Belfast in September Summer Of [57]69: for the European Championships. A few blocks away, the annual Love And Music International Arts and Crafts Fair filled the Sultan’s Pool (right outside the Old City) and BY YEHUDIT JESSICA welcomed a full lineup of nightly live con- SINGER certs by top Israeli musicians. The day after Woodstock hit Jerusalem, a group of more I did not make aliyah to be cool. Israeli-spiced hippies of the younger genera- I did not make aliyah for fun nightly tion (note: both sets of hippies wear tie-dye cultural events. and have matching beards, but one has I definitely did not make aliyah to payot and wears Teva sandalim), rocked the close my eyes and marinate in mind-blow- stages in the middle of the forests near Gush ing guitar solos of Jimi Hendrix. But man, Etzion’s Bat Ayin with the “Aharit HaYamim” with abundant options for enjoyable cul- Festival (or “End of Days” Festival). tural evenings under the beautiful skies of Back in the summer of 1969, free love Jerusalem, I am one happy camper. reigned, filled with wildness and things With all the excitement I get from listen- that you probably don’t want to admit you ing to [Mizrahi favorites] Sarit Hadad, Eyal know about. Now that modern-day Israel Golan, and Moshe Peretz, they do not hold has turned Tu B’Av (“Chag HaAhavah”) into water to the deliciously infectious music a Jewish version of Valentine’s Day, love that hit the stages in the summer of ’69. and unity pour into the streets and onto Move over Sarit, Eyal and Moshe, stages nationwide. Woodstock [57]69 has come to Jerusalem. Jerusalem’s Woodstock meant leaving Thanks to the supporters of the your ideology at the door, and swaying to American Football in Israel organization, music that makes the heart of every soulful hundreds of former hippies, children of music lover pulsate. If American rock clas- hippies, wannabe-hippies, music lovers sics can achieve such achdut amongst the and Maariv-davening-tie-dyed-T-shirt masses, then let the guitars keep jamming! wearing rabbis crowded Kraft Stadium last Evidently, you can take the Jew out of week to show the world just how much Woodstock, but you can never take we all love rockin’ in the free world. Woodstock out of the Jew. I have never The benefit concert took place last seen a motlier crew of people enjoy week to raise funds for the non-profit themselves so much. organization American Football in Israel Special thanks to those who brought (AFI). The organization hosts both men’s ‘groovy’ to Jerusalem. O and women’s national football teams who play at Kraft Family Stadium in For more information on the football teams in Jerusalem. In fact, the national women’s Israel, see www.israelfootball.net.

5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES August 14, 2009 61 This enables you to reach your own clarity much faster than you could alone! A View From The Coach Each week the coach holds the focus of the session according to what you agree upon at the beginning. And each What’s So Special About Life Coaching? week you will walk away with action steps to further your development or Part 1 yourself, and reach your goals. can read an article in Harvard Business desired outcome. There is always posi- BY HINDY LIEBERMAN Life coaching is the art and science Review about this. tive forward movement. of getting you where you want to go. Writers love life coaching to help In the coming weeks, we will explore People ask me what I’m doing, and I Bridging the gap from where you are them get started, keep to a schedule, how a life coach works with various tell them that I am life coaching. They now to where you want to be. It is a and speak about the growth of their categories of clientele. O look back at me with a dumb stare, as if synergistic, powerful, creative, collabo- projects in an ongoing venue. If you are I told them that I’m building igloos in rative partnership between two adults, in a transition, such as divorce or other Hindy Lieberman, M.S. Sp. Ed., is a professional life coach who works with women seeking to Alaska. putting all their kochos into your special change of life, life coaching can be the make changes and achieve their goals through a When someone really listens to process of self-discovery, collaboration, and taking action. She can be reached at 516-569-8074 or at you—someone who is fully present and [email protected]. Special consideration will completely focused on what you say— be given to those who have lost their jobs. it feels very good, almost like a warm bath and a nurturing piece of pie. We feel validated, supported, encouraged, A coach operates on a very high and whole. You may feel this way with a good friend, a spouse, a mentor, a level of listening, support, rabbi, a therapist, etc. As adults, we all Submit your photo to the have many issues to solve. They’re per- 5 Towns Jewish Times! sonal, professional, or a combination of encouragement, and trust. the two. A therapist is not always needed, as the issue does not require looking back into the past, and/or healing old You can upload your emotional wounds (though that might vision for yourself—or finding one, if perfect place to sort it all out, get ideas, digital photos and see them happen in life coaching on some sec- that’s your goal. You may use a life and take forward action steps. ondary level, too). coach to sort out your feelings and gain A coach operates on a very high level printed in the weekly edition It’s often unlikely that a friend or clarity on an appropriate path to take, of listening, support, encouragement, spouse is available to work through an or talk about daily struggles at home or and trust. They are there to laugh with of the 5 Towns Jewish Times issue with you on a consistent basis (as work and figure out steps to you, or cry with you—whichever you much as they love you), nor do they solve/resolve them. prefer. They will come up with creative have the special skill set unique to a You might want to use a life coach to solutions, brainstorm ideas, and share www.5tjt.com/sendphotos professional life coach in order to help grow your business more successfully. experiences. A coach will challenge you you move forward, gain clarity, keep The most successful businesspeople (at your own pace), give you assign- the focus, stay accountable, develop today are hooked on life coaching. One ments, and ask you powerful questions.

62 August 14, 2009 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES nutrition were not (maybe Dr. Atkins was Greek men and women can’t be wrong. In The Skinny On Fat on to something). Why? Polyunsaturated a recent study of Greek men and women, fat is somewhat unstable, so it creates a researchers found that those who fol- higher potential for free radicals. Free lowed the idealized version of the Part 2 essential fatty acids: omega-6 and radicals are produced in our bodies as a Mediterranean diet were less likely to BY RACHAEL E. omega-3. We get ample amounts of product of normal energy production. develop cancer than those who did not. SCHINDLER, MA, MS, CAI, omega-6 fats from nuts, some oils, and They are unstable oxygen molecules. The study showed that including just two CPT grains, but many of us are lacking in When they bind with healthy cells— food groups of the Mediterranean diet omega-3 fats, which are found primarily when the molecules in the cells become could reduce a person’s cancer risk by 12 Contrary to popular belief, dietary fat in fatty fish such as salmon, mackerel, oxidized—they give off energy and can percent. Replacing other oils with extra- is essential for a healthy body. It pro- flounder, albacore tuna, and sardines. If cause damage. Additionally, free radicals virgin olive oil reduced the risk by 9 per- vides the raw material for cholesterol you don’t get enough omega-3 fats in also promote the formation of plaque, an cent, and those that embraced the full (and essentially hormones) and is the your diets, your health will suffer, espe- accumulation of cholesterol, and other Mediterranean diet reduced their cancer structure of cell membranes, which pro- cially your mental health. Low levels of cells that clog arteries and can eventually risk by a remarkable 22 percent. tect and cover all cells. Fat is necessary omega-3 fats in the diet have been trigger a heart attack. The traditional Mediterranean diet is for the absorption of the fat-soluble vita- linked to depression, a problem that Some polyunsaturated oils and mar- rich in fruits, omega-3-rich seafood, veg- mins, A, D, E, and K, and your brain con- affects about one-fourth of all women garine undergo a hydrogenation process etables, nuts, and olive oil, and encour- tains a high concentration of fat as well. at some point in their lives. to make them useful for baking and to ages moderate consumption of red If you don’t eat enough fat, eventually Saturated fats from meat, poultry, and extend their shelf life. This process cre- wine, while sharply limiting the con- your skin will dry out and your hair and dairy products constitute much of the ates a more unhealthy fat called transfat- sumption of cured meats and sweets. nails will get brittle, as often happens to fats Americans consume—and which ty acids. Transfatty acids become incor- The diet varies in fat content from 22 individuals on very low calorie and or they should also limit. Incredibly, porated into your cell membranes and percent to 40 percent of total daily low-fat diets. peanut butter and coconut are rare make them rigid, which can interfere caloric intake. Not surprisingly, natives There are many different types of fat in breeds among vegetables because they with normal cell function. These fats of Crete who consume a 40-percent-fat the food we eat. Some are better for you contain a sizable amount of saturated fat have been linked to a pre-diabetic condi- diet (most of the fat comes from extra- than others. In this article I will give you as well. Saturated fats are solid at room tion called insulin resistance and can virgin olive oil) are the healthiest and the skinny on fat! temperature (artery-clogging and choles- eventually raise blood-cholesterol and longest-living population on earth! In All fats contain 9 calories per gram (vs. terol-upping). On the other hand, fats triglyceride levels. Many products and my next article I will expound on the 4 in a protein or carb). That’s where the from vegetable sources, or unsaturated foods that we eat contain them—includ- “healthy eats” and the Mediterranean similarities essentially end. The best fats, are liquid at room temperature, and ing processed baked goods, fried foods, diet as well. sources of good fat are olive oil, canola hence not as likely to increase your risk junk foods, chips, and more. Recently, Now, I’m not advocating a high-fat oil, and omega-3 fatty acids. The stuff of heart disease (although monounsatu- some food manufacturers are producing diet, but fat isn’t all “bad.” Like with every- you want to avoid is the processed (over- rated is better). products without them. Good. It is thing in life, try to take the good out of it, processed) foods, baked goods, and fried In 1995, the Harvard Nurses’ Health because of the transfatty acids and free literally! O foods which contain transfatty acids, Study, a landmark study involving more radicals situations that I prefer olive including french fries, snack foods, than 80,000 women, showed that nurses oil—a monounsaturated fat that is sta- Rachael E. Schindler, MA, MS, CAI, CPT has over chips, etc. who ate margarine had a higher inci- ble and resists free-radical attack. Olive 18 years of experience in exercise physiology, Pilates, nutritional counseling and teaching, as Essential fatty acids are the best fats. dence of cardiovascular disease than oil happens to be the staple of the well as multiple degrees in forensic and Your body needs them, but it can’t make those who ate butter. The medical com- Mediterranean diet, as well. developmental psychology. She specializes in food and behavioral “issues” for both children and them, so they must be obtained munity was shocked at the results, but “So, what’s this Mediterranean diet?” adults. Insurance is accepted. She can be reached through food. There are two types of those of us who knew something about you ask. Well, approximately 26,000 at [email protected], or 917-690-5097.

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Two Wounded In Binyamin Region Terror Attack

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Two Israelis were wounded on Wednesday night in a ter- rorist shooting in the Binyamin region. Soldiers are searching for the attackers, who fled the scene. The victims were taken to Jerusalem-area hospitals for treatment. Both are reported to be suffering from light wounds. The attack took place near Givat HaRoeh. IDF officials believe terrorists may have fired on the vehicle from a passing car. However, at least one resident of a nearby out- post reported seeing suspicious figures near the road shortly before the attack. Israel has taken several steps to improve mobility for Palestinian Authority Arabs in the Binyamin and Samaria regions in recent months. Dozens of checkpoints have been removed, and at one of the largest Samaria checkpoints, Huwarra, soldiers no longer check Arab travelers for weapons. Samarian Residents’ Council head Benny Katzover linked the dismantling of checkpoints to attacks on Israeli civilians, and warned that “when it comes to security, we will be in a state of anarchy, due to American pressure.” “The IDF said that as soon as something happens they’ll start checking for weapons again, but we have all heard that before,” he added. (Arutz Sheva) O

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