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The Next Time The Next Time By Henry James HIGHMORE S errand this morning was odd enough to MRS.deserve commemoration : she came to ask me to write a notice of her great forthcoming work. Her great works have come forth so frequently without my assistance that I was on this to but what sufficiently entitled, occasion, open my eyes ; really made me stare was the ground on which her request reposed, and what leads me to record the incident is the train of memory lighted by that explanation. Poor Ray Limbert, while we talked, seemed to sit there between us : she reminded me that my acquaint ance with him had begun, eighteen years ago, with her having come in precisely as she came in this morning to bespeak my consideration for him. If she didn t know then how little my consideration was worth she is at least enlightened about its value to-day, and it is just in that knowledge that the drollery of her visit resides. As I hold up the torch to the dusky years by which I mean as I cipher up with a pen that stumbles and stops the figured column of my reminiscences I see that Limbert s public or at least small of is rounded those hour, my apprehension it, by two occasions. It wasy?/j, with a little moralising flourish, that Mrs. Highmore seemed to trace to-day at the bottom of the page. " One of the most voluminous writers of the time," she has often repeated 12 The Next Time this I dare in of her repeated sign ; but never, say, spite professional command of appropriate emotion, with an equal sense of that mystery and that sadness of things which, to people of imagination, generally hover over the close of human histories. This romance at rate is bracketed her and her late and any by early appeal ; when its melancholy protrusions had caught the declining light again from my half-hour s talk with her, I took a private vow to re cover, while that light still lingers, something of the delicate flush, to pick out, with a brief patience, the perplexing lesson. It was wonderful to observe how, for herself, Mrs. Highmore had already done so : she wouldn t have hesitated to announce to me what was the matter with Ralph Limbert, or at all events to give me a glimpse of the high admonition she had read in his career. There could have been no better proof of the vividness of this parable, which we were really in our pleasant sympathy quite at one about, than that Mrs. Highmore, of all hardened sinners, should have been converted. This indeed was not news to me : she impressed upon me that for the last ten years she had wanted to do something artistic, something as to which she was prepared not to care a rap whether or no it should sell. She brought home to me further that it had been mainly seeing what her brother-in- this law did, and how he did it, that had wedded her to perversity. As he didn t sell, dear soul, and as several persons, of whom I was ever so for taken her one, thought much of him it, the fancy had taken her even quite early in her prolific course of reaching, if only once, the same heroic eminence. She yearned to be, like Limbert, but of course only once, an exquisite failure. There was something a failure was, a failure in the market, that a success somehow wasn t. A success was as prosaic as a good dinner : there was nothing more to be said about it than that you had had it. Who but vulgar people, in such a case, made gloating remarks about By Henry James 13 about the courses ? It was by such vulgar people, often, that a success It if to at was attested. made, you came look it, nothing but that is it so that other result money ; made much any showed small in comparison. A failure, now, could make oh, with the aid of immense talent of course, for there were failures and failures such a reputation ! She did me the honour she had often done it to intimate that what she meant by reputation was seeing me toss a flower. If it took a failure to catch a failure I was by my own admission well qualified to place the laurel. It was because she had made so much money and Mr. Highmore had taken such care of it that she could treat herself to an hour of pure glory. She perfectly remembered that as often as I had heard her heave that sigh I had been prompt with my declaration that a book sold might easily be as glorious as a book unsold. Of course she knew that, but she knew also that it was an age of flourishing rubbish u and that she had never heard me speak of anything that had done " well exactly as she had sometimes heard me speak of something that hadn t with just two or three words of respect which, when I used them, seemed to convey more than they commonly stood a as if for the for, seemed to hush up the discussion little, very beauty of the secret. I may declare in regard to these allusions that, whatever I then thought of myself as a holder of the scales, I had never scrupled to laugh out at the humour of Mrs. Highmore s pursuit of quality at any price. It had never rescued her, even for a day, from the hard I never her word for doom of popularity, and, though gave my it, there was no reason at all why it should. The public would to remark not indeed have her, as her husband used roguishly ; that, making her bargains, standing up to her publishers and even, ever a of her in his higher flights, to her reviewers, he had glimpse attempted conspiracy against her genius, or rather, as I may say, against 14 The Next Time she against mine. It was not that when she tried to be what t I her fond called subtle (for wasn t Limbert subtle, and wasn ?) consumers, bless them, didn t suspect the trick nor show what to the they thought of it : they straightway rose, on the contrary, morsel she had hoped to hold too high, and, making but a big, bite collective tail for cheerful of it, wagged their great artlessly to more. It was not given to her not to please, nor granted even the her best refinements to affright. I have always respected mystery of those humiliations, but I was fully aware this morning to me. that they were practically the reason why she had come in her Therefore when she said, with the flush of a bold joke kind, coarse " I feel that could settle me if face, What is, you know, you I She meant you only would," knew quite well what she meant. that of old it had always appeared to be the fine blade, as some one had called of that hyperbolically it, my particular opinion snapped the silken thread by which Limbert s chance in the market was wont to hang. She meant that my favour was compromising, that my praise indeed was fatal. I had made myself a little specialty of seeing nothing in certain celebrities, of seeing overmuch in an occasional nobody, and of judging from a point of view that, say what I would for it (and I had a monstrous deal to say) remained perverse and obscure. Mine was in short the love that killed, for unlike Mrs. no tremor of the my subtlety, Highmore s, produced public tail. She had not forgotten how, toward the end, when his case was worst, Limbert would absolutely come to me with a funny, " shy pathos in his eyes and say : My dear fellow, I think I ve done it this time if ll If in you only keep quiet." my keeping quiet, those days, was to help him to appear to have hit the usual taste, for the want of which he was starving, so now my breaking out was to help Mrs. Highmore to appear to have hit the unusual. The moral of all this was that I had frightened the public too much By Henry James 15 much for our late friend, but that as she was not starving this was exactly what her grosser reputation required. And then, she good-naturedly and delicately intimated, there would always be, if further reasons were wanting, the price of my clever little article. I think she gave that hint with a flattering impression spoiled child of the booksellers as she is that the price of my clever little articles is it at she high. Whatever is, any rate, had evidently reflected that poor Limbert s anxiety for his own profit used to involve my sacrificing mine. Any inconvenience that my obliging her might entail would not, in fine, be pecuniary. Her appeal, her motive, her fantastic thirst for quality and her ingenious theory of my influence struck me all as excellent comedy, and as I con sented, contingently, to oblige her (I could plead no inconvenience) she left me the sheets of her new novel. I have been looking them over, but I am frankly appalled at what she expects of me. What is she thinking of, poor dear, and what has put it into her " " head that quality has descended upon her ? Why does she " suppose that she has been "artistic ? She hasn t been anything whatever, I surmise, that she has not inveterately been.
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