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Am I Bisexual? If you're asking yourself "Am I monogamous, bi and celibate, Some people identify as straight Bisexual?" then here's a handy bi and married with children. and have same-sex intercourse, checklist: some identify as gay and have Don't worry about not being a opposite-sex. How you label 1. Thinking about the people 'proper' or 'true' bisexual - there's yourself is a matter of personal you've been sexually no such thing. It's okay to have choice, but no matter what you attracted to, so far in your a preference or to only be add into the definition of gay, life, were they all of the same attracted to one gender at a straight, or how you define bi- gender? time for parts of your life. curious or pansexual, the 2. Looking ahead, do you definition of bisexual as a expect that will always The dictionary definition does sexuality remains very simple. continue? not say "currently", or "equally", or "simultaneously" or "solely". Bisexuality Is Overlap If you answered "No", to either or both, you are bisexual. It A bisexual is someone who is The definitions of heterosexual doesn't matter how attracted sexually attracted to more than and homosexual don't you are to either - you're one gender. You might care reference how many genders bisexual as soon as you stop about the gender of your there are, just that some people being exclusively attracted to partner a lot, a little, or not at all are attracted to similarity and one sex. - but their gender doesn't others to difference . Bisexuality prevent you from being is not an attempt to box gender It's More About attracted to them. into two options, it's just the Hearts Than Parts realisation that you're into more One Size Fits None than one option. You don't have to have had sex with more than one gender to How you chose to self-identify is Bisexual - Sexually be bisexual - after all, no-one up to you - you can call yourself would say you had to have sex bi-curious, or questioning, or Attracted To More to be gay or straight. It's about omnisexual if you feel more attraction. You can be bi and comfortable with those terms. Than One Gender Maybe you've never For more information had sex with a woman about what bisexuality is Am I yet, but know that and what it isn't, and for you're attracted to details of bisexual events around the UK: Bisexual? more than just guys? Bi Community News The UK's Bisexual Magazine Or you've heard www.bicommunitynews.co.uk bisexuals are all BiCon "50:50", or are really The National Bi Convention www.bicon.org.uk gay but in denial? BiFest Regional Bisexual Festivals But what do we mean www.bifest.org by "bisexual" and if it's The Bisexual Index very complicated then Bisexual Visibility and Activism how can anyone be www.bisexualindex.org.uk certain? And does saying you're "bi" mean you think there's only two genders? Some Answers From 'The Bisexual Index' .
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