RUMORS & GOSSIP
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They Click on the video below to see how easily end gossip and rumors spread friendships They are They hurtful break trust Why it hurts & Words hurt as much or more than a physical punch. why it’s wrong Gossip and rumor can be a form of exclusion (leaving someone out).
Gossip and rumors DESTROY TRUST.
Even if what you are saying is true, private is private. What do you do if you hear gossip or a rumor?
Listening to gossip and rumors keep them going.
Rumors are hurtful, mean, and almost always untrue.
When gossip gets shared over and over, the story usually changes slightly each time it is told, becoming more exaggerated over time. What do you do if you hear gossip or a rumor?
Don’t Don’t Make it join spread the stop with in story you What do you do if you hear gossip or a rumor?
That means: Respect other’s privacy! Be a peacemaker - speak up. Label what is being said as gossip or a rumor. But what if what i say is true? Is it okay to pass along a true story? Always use the triple filter test! 1 2 3 Is what you Is it Is it are about useful for 100% to say someone truth good? to know? The triple filter test The answer to ALL three questions should be “YES”! If not, don’t say it. 1 2 3 Is what you Is it Is it are about useful for 100% to say someone true? good? to know? The triple filter test ◆ TRUTH ◆ GOODNESS ◆ USEFULNESS ◆
You overheard someone talking about your friend’s new hair cut and how ugly they think it is.
Do you tell your friend?
1. True? PASS (It’s true that someone said it.)
2. Good? FAIL
3. Useful? FAIL The triple filter test ◆ TRUTH ◆ GOODNESS ◆ USEFULNESS ◆
You overheard someone talking about your friend’s new hair cut and how ugly they think it is.
This is sometimes hard to understand. Why wouldn’t Do you tell your friend? you tell your friend something mean someone said?
1. True? PASS (It’s true that someone said it.) What will you accomplish by telling?
2. Good? FAIL It will only hurt your friend’s feelings, and does it
matter what someone else thinks about the new 3. Useful? FAIL hair cut? If something will be hurtful and not useful, it’s usually best to not tell. The triple filter test ◆ TRUTH ◆ GOODNESS ◆ USEFULNESS ◆
Your friend told you his parents are fighting a lot and may be breaking up.
Do you tell others?
1. True? PASS (It’s true that someone said it.)
2. Good? FAIL
3. Useful? FAIL The triple filter test ◆ TRUTH ◆ GOODNESS ◆ USEFULNESS ◆
Your coach told you and a couple of teammates that your team has been invited to play at an elite tournament.
Do you tell others? Woo hoo!!! I have great
1. True? PASS news!
2. Good? PASS
3. Useful? PASS The triple filter test ◆ TRUTH ◆ GOODNESS ◆ USEFULNESS ◆
Does it count as a rumor or gossip Yes! if we talk about it through text messaging or social media? Always ask yourself:
Would I say this to the person’s face?
Does it pass the triple filter test? You need three “Yes” answers even if it is online! Why do people gossip and spread rumors?
To feel superior
Out of jealously or revenge
For attention For control or power
To feel like part of a group Out of boredom To feel superior Why do people gossip Out of jealously or revenge For attention For control or power and spread rumors? To feel like part of a group Out of boredom
None of these reasons are good things!
Before you gossip, tell a rumor, post something online, or write something mean on the bathroom stall, think about your motivation.
Yes, writing mean things on the bathroom stall is spreading rumors.
It just may be that the person spreading gossip or rumors is the one with a problem.
Do you want to be known as that kind of person? Break the Why do I want to pass this on?
chain Would I want people to know this about me? In addition to How will the person feel? the triple filter, ask Will this rumor reduce how people feel yourself the about this person? following Will this person be excluded from a questions: group or be made fun of? Rumor blocks - things you can say
“That sounds like a rumor to me.”
“You don’t have proof of that.”
“You don’t know if that is true.”
Or simple say:
“Why are you telling me this?” THINGS YOU SHOULD SAY THINGS YOU BONUS SHOULD VIDEO! SAY References purchased through Teachers Pay Teachers:
Hurtful Words Gossip Lessons Powerpoint by Informed Decisions
Rumors and Gossip Lesson Prezi by School Counselor Rocks
Rumors and Gossip Powerpoint by Dynamic Deuel