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Vassar T emple Where you belong Bulletinin Founded 1848 Volume 158 No. 10 October 2012 אחים ישראל Congregation Brethren of Israel

Rummage Sale to be Held on November 4th Upcoming Events

Starting on Sunday, October 28th computers, items in poor condition or textbooks because these things do not Oct 2 between 9:00 a.m. and noon, we will be Meditation Group, pg 9 glad to receive the winter clothing and sell and cost us money to dispose of.) If you really want to have a good shoes, accessories, household items, small Oct 4,11, and 18 appliances in working condition, books, time, help us set up for the sale any morning between 9:00 and 12:00 during Adult Education classes, p10 etc. that are cluttering up your closets, th basement and attic. De-clutter your house the week of October 29 through No- vember 2nd and/or help on the day of the Oct 7 to support the annual Sisterhood Fall Rum- th Simchat Torah Service, p4 mage Sale! sale, Sunday, November 4 between 9:30 You may bring your rummage during and 5:00. (The bag sale is between 2:00 and 5:00 p.m.) Teens seeking commu- Oct 14 that week, Monday through Friday be- Take down sukkah, p 2 tween 9:00 and 3:00, or Thursday evening, nity service credit are strongly encour- aged to volunteer! If you help set up on November 1st between 7:00 and 8:30 p.m. Oct 18 Thursday evening, November 1st, you can Put everything in the social hall along the Book Club, p5 left side . When you bring your rum- enjoy pizza while you work. For more information, to arrange for mage in, you can pick up a letter from the Oct 19 pick-up of your rummage, or to volun- office to use when showing the IRS that Shabbat Dinner, p 4 you made a tax-deductible contribution of teer, contact Roni Stein (223-5804 or Shabbat Noach, p 3 goods to the temple. (Please do not bring [email protected]), or Ann Lerman ([email protected]). Oct 21 CROP Walk, p 10

The Hineni Fund and December 1st Gala Deserve Your Support Oct 23 Sisterhood Opening Dinner, p 1 The new Hineni Fund will members Lou Lewis, Esq. and Oct 25 provide lasting support for Vassar Dr. Arthur and Carol Menken, Adult Education Class on Afterlife, p10 Temple’s Seth A. Erlebacher Reli- all bright lights in our congre- gious School and youth programs. gation and community. The name Hineni – literally “here Oct 27 Shabbat Morning: “Life on a Stage”, p3 I am” – embodies Seth’s enduring Individual embodiments of legacy of service. The fund raising goal the hineni spirit abound in our congrega- for this initiative is at least $150,000, of Nov 4 tion, as illustrated by the motivations of rummage Sale, p1 which half has already been raised. It fund and gala co-chairs Andi Ciminello will include the proceeds of Bright Lights and Jen Dahnert. As movingly expressed Dec 1 & Miracles, a Gala event planned for by Andi, “Seth’s death was Saturday, December 1st, at the beautiful Bright Lights and Miracles Gala ,p1 Locust Grove estate. The honorees for Bright Lights & Miracles are Temple Hineni continued on page 8

Sisterhood Opening Dinner on October 23rd

troduce you to interesting people, and help Our Sisterhood’s annual Opening day, October 16th by calling Lisa-Sue you make the world a better place. Dinner will be held in the temple’s social Quackenbush at 876-5859 or emailing her rd Plan to see your Sisterhood friends hall on Tuesday, October 23 . Hors at [email protected]. Your again and make new friends at our Open- d’oeuvres will be served at 6:00 p.m. and check for $20 made out to Vassar Temple ing Dinner while you learn how you can a lovely dinner at 7:00. While we enjoy Sisterhood, with “Opening Dinner” on the give back to the community. All Sister- dessert, several of our members who are memo line, may be mailed to 140 hood members, potential members, and involved in social action projects will Hooker Avenue, Poughkeepsie, NY 1 guests are welcome! describe opportunities for participation 12601. which will fit into your busy schedule, in- Make your reservation by Tues- Rabbi’s Message: THE MOST IMPORTANT ELECTION in OUR LIVES

must change. One can embrace or even ward order and progressivism. Jews, on promote that change, or try to moderate, the other hand, as a distinctive community I am writing this piece retard or control it. Indeed, one of the en- in the body politic, have historically val- as the Republican conven- during political parties in Canada is called ued both an expansive society – narrowed tion has concluded and the the Progressive Conservatives; change, and strictly ordered societies tend to leave Democratic one is starting. yes, but slowly. the Jews as a minority on the outside – Rarely have the position and “Liberal,” on the other hand, and stability – too much disorder and outlooks of the two parties seemed to be carries a sense of space. Its opposite change often exposes Jews for scapegoat- more divergent, but I sense that there is might be “narrow.” This, however, is ing. more smoke than substance. too freighted a term. Let me suggest This final month of campaign- Conventionally, we view the “ordered” instead. It is therefore quite ing will be filled with fevered messages, elections being contested on a liberal-con- possible to be a liberal-conservative: ex- predictions of fateful decisions and servative divide. This is a false dichoto- pansive and egalitarian yet uncomfortable looming disaster. Choices are important my, principally because the two positions with change. Actually, let me suggest that – make no mistake – but I doubt that they are not only not mutually exclusive, they we all tend to be liberal-conservatives, are life-and-death critical. Our lives, as are not even contrasting. “Conservative” and ordered-progressives. We constantly human beings, Americans and Jews, is too carries a sense of time: what are values, vacillate between wanting order and valu- complex and too overlaid with divergent systems and material things we wish to ing personal freedom, between embracing hopes and fears, to permit the chasm get- maintain (conserve) as the days, months and resisting change. ting too wide. and years move on. The near-opposite to Judaism, as a body of thought “Conservative” is “Progressive.” Near, and practice, is neither inherently liberal I say, because progress is inexorable. nor conservative. Actually, it tends to- Time cannot be stopped. Some things Rabbi Paul Golomb President’s Message the Temple is all about. We reference We are all on the tion in Tiny Temple varies by month, with the page in our Facebook advertisement Membership Com- the most popular programs being around with some print ads as well. The user mittee. Hanukkah and Purim (when the kids make can simply leave an e-mail contact or link Where are all of Hamentaschen). Some of the families are incertain pages of the web site. the potential new current temple members, but many more Still, it seems, with all of these efforts, members? What are unaffiliated. the best way to attract members is through happened to all of the Another medium Vassar Temple has “word of mouth.” Many people first hear Jews, both young and been using attract prospective members about all of the wonderful things we do old, who could be joining our Temple? is through social media, as a way to reach at our Temple from friends and relatives. How do we find them and engage them? out to prospective members rather than They then “check us out” online, or talk These are typical questions asked when wait for them to contact us. The temple’s to others who may know more about us. we discuss temple membership. There Facebook page contains posts about many The key is the person-to-person contact. are unaffiliated Jews in Dutchess County interesting Temple topics and programs, The website, social media and our other and the Poughkeepsie area, but we need allowing our members to share topics of forms of outreach serve the same purpose. to locate them and get them interested, interest with their friends. The temple However, it appears that nothing still beats not just wait until they come to us. As it website is our primary vehicle for describ- personal contact as a starting point. turns out, word of mouth is our best form ing all of the activities and events held at We are all on the membership com- of outreach. the Temple. It provides a simple way for mittee; our word of mouth from person- It’s no secret that most Jewish anyone to indicate interest in the Temple, to-person is the best form of advertising. families join a temple when their chil- and we always follow up with those con- When we welcome strangers at our Temple dren become of age to enter a religious tacts. We have received several member- and make them feel right at home, we are school, and those families find themselves ship inquiries through the web site. doing more than observing/obeying? the temple-shopping. Vassar Temple’s reli- But sometimes the web pages can be a words of our faith; we are building com- gious school offers a very attractive venue little intimidating, especially if the viewer munity. I know that we have our work for educating young children through is new to the area and just trying to get cut out for us, and this challenge provides confirmation ageabout Jewish customs, a feel for what the local Reform temple an opportunity. As we have seen, there lifecycle, history, a little Hebrew, and for provides, and whether he or she would like are potential new members out there, and socializing with friends. to attend a Shabbat service. A new “land- together, we need to engage them. Vassar Temple’s initial educational ing page” (www.vassartemple.org/light) My best wishes for Peace and Health outreach approach has been the Tiny Tem- was developed by a small group of temple this New Year. ple program, which attracts pre-school volunteers as part of our marketing focus L’Shalom, Bob children and their parents, and allows last year. The landing page is a simple, young children to become familiar with friendly view that provides a taste of what the Temple, the Rabbi, and the Jewish Have Fun Helping to Take Down holidays. The program also gives parents Our Sukkah th the opportunity to meet and socialize with On Sunday, October 14 at 9:00 a.m. the other young Jewish families. Participa- Men’s Club will take down our sukkah 2 from the lawn in front of the temple and put it away for next Sukkot. Helpers of both genders are always welcome! Contact: [email protected]. Worship Services Monday, October 1 Scriptural Readings 10:00 a.m. Sukkot Service October 5 & 6 Shabbat Sukkot Exodus 33:12-34:26 Friday, October 5 Haftarah: Ezekiel 38:18-39:16 7:30 p.m. Shabbat Service October 12 & 13 B’reisheet Saturday, October 6 Genesis 5:1-6:8` 9:00 a.m. Torah Study Haftarah: Isaiah 42:5-43:10 10:00 a.m. New Paths Service October 19 & 20 Noach Sunday, October 7 Shemini Atzeret/Simchat Torah Genesis 11:1-11:31 7:00 p.m. Consecration Service Haftarah: Isaiah 54:1-55:5 Monday, October 8 October 26 & 27 Lekh L’kha 10:00 a.m. Yizkor service Genesis 16:1-17:27 Friday, October 12 Haftarah: Isaiah 40:27-41:15 7:30 p.m. Shabbat Torah Service with Rabbi Golomb November 2 & 3 Vayera and cantorial soloist, Elisa Dugatkin Genesis 21:1-22:24 Saturday, October 13 Haftarah: II Kings 4:1-36 9:00 p.m. Torah Study Friday, October 19 7:30 p.m Shabbat Noach Service with Rabbi Golomb and cantorial soloist, Elisa Dugatkin, guest speaker, and birthday blessings Saturday, October 20 9:00 a.m. Torah Study 10:00 a.m. Bat Mitzvah of Alison Peritz Greenman Friday, October 26 7:30 p.m. Shabbat Service Saturday, October 27 Celebrate Our Connection with Animals During 9:00 a.m. Torah Study Shabbat Noach 10:00 a.m. Morning Shabbat Service Friday, November 2 Because our world is a better place when we nurture all living 7:30 p.m. Shabbat Service led by Men’s Club with things, Vassar Temple is hosting a special celebration of animals during cantorial soloist, Elisa Dugatkin the weekend of October 19-21 to coincide with the Torah reading which Saturday, November 3 includes the story of Noah. On Friday evening, October 19th we begin 9:00 a.m. Torah Study with a Shabbat dinner in honor of our animal friends (see articleon 10:00 a.m. New Paths Service next page) and welcome a guest speaker at our 7:30 service. The Tiny Temple program for preschoolers and their parents on Sunday, October 21st will have the same theme. (See article on the next page) The speaker at our Friday night service will be Neil Abramson “Life on a Stage” after Shabbat Services on who, with his wife, founded Finally Home – A Sanctuary for Animals, Saturday Morning, October 27th a not-for-profit organization dedicated to providing a safe haven for lost and abused animals in southern State. A partner in a large Our temple members, Molly Renfroe Katz and Kristy Manhattan law firm where he specializes in labor and employment law, Grimes, are the co-directors of Half-Moon Theatre, an Neil also has worked on animal rights and animal welfare issues on a ensemble of theatre professionals. After our pro bono basis for over two decades and has been recognized for his Shabbat morning Torah service on Saturday, October 27th, they animal legal work by the ASPCA. will share their reflections on the challenges and joys of “Life In addition, Neil Abramson is the author of an acclaimed novel on a Stage.” about the deep bonds between people and the animals that share their Whether you are attracted by a moving Torah service, a lives called “Unsaid.” An evocative story about the healing power of lively presentation, or a chance to socialize over kiddush, you animals, “Unsaid” will resonate with anyone who has experienced loss, are sure to get into the spirit of Shabbat at temple that Satur- loved a pet, or has pondered the meaning of those things that remain day. The dress code is casual and you are welcome during all “unsaid” in life—but mean so much. or any part of the morning. Thanks to Walter Effron of the Three Arts Book Shop in Arlington, We will begin at 9:00 a.m. with our usual interactive the book will be available for purchase in paperback at the temple dur- study of the Torah portion of the week with Rabbi Golomb. A ing Sunday school hours in September and October. Our congregation family-friendly Torah service will begin at 10:00 in the sanctu- will share in the profits and the author will be glad to autograph your ary, providing the perfect opportunity for parents to attend copy after his talk. A percentage of the proceeds from the sale of “Un- with their children and for adults who prefer daytime services said” is being donated to Finally Home. For more information about our to hear the Torah read. At 11:15 we will be treated to Molly guest speaker and his novel, go to http://www.neilabramsonauthor.com/ and Kristy’s presentation, and at noon we will enjoy a kiddush For the third time, we will host therapy animals and their human together. Plan to join us! partners in the social hall during the Oneg Shabbat after services on October 19th. This opportunity to interact with these special dogs and cats is always very popular with congregants of all ages, so plan to come with your family and friends. The service will include Birthday Bless- 3 ings (and tasty gifts) for the month of October. Refuah Shelemah Mazal Tov to ….to Irma Jacobs and Gail Weisman,, ...Lillian Weigert and Joe who were recently hospitalized. Ambash in honor of their wedding We Need Your Help! It’s awful to be the last to on September 1st. know that someone has been hospitalized, needs a visit or ....Jim & Marianne Robinowitz in Wheelchairs Needed needs some other kind of honor of their daughter, Leah’s wedding to help. Emmanuel Peña on September 22, 2012. The Medical Lending Closet main- We are, once again, asking tained by Jewish Family Services at the that you be the eyes and ears in the lives ….Perla & Chuck Kaufman in honor of JCC is urgently in need of good quality, of our congregational family. Federal the birth of their granddaughter, Ida Rose- functional wheelchairs with footrests. If patient privacy regulations limit the in- lyn Kaufman on September 7th. Proud you have a wheelchair to donate, please formation that hospitals make available to parents are David & Daisy Kaufman. contact [email protected], or phone clergy and volunteers. Patty Weathers at 845-471-9811. JFS will We are encouraging you to contact Bar/Bat Mitzvah be happy to provide you with a receipt for the Temple office when a congregant your donation. Celebrations is admitted to a hospital and wishes to Everyone is welcome at the have Rabbi visit during the hospital stay. service and Kiddush as we Our goal is to meet the needs of all our celebrate with Bar/Bat Mitzvah congregants and we can only do this with Shabbat Dinner on families at Vassar Temple. To be your help. October 19th called to the Torah in October: Join your Vassar Temple family on th October 20 at 10:00 a.m. Friday, October 19th at 6:15 p.m. for a Alison Peritz Greenman, daughter of meatless Italian dinner before the special Robin Peritz & Janet Greenman service for Shabbat Noach at 7:30. Beverages, salad and challah, as well as Joyous Simchat Torah Service on October 7th pizza, will be provided. (The meal will On Sunday evening, October 7th at 7:00 p.m., we will celebrate Simchat Torah, be meatless in honor of the animals we which marks the completion of our annual reading of the Torah with the end of celebrate that evening.) Deuteronomy, and the beginning of a new year of Torah reading with Genesis. This The cost of the dinner is $10 per family service is always very moving as we parade around the sanctuary with our adult; $5 per child under 13; and no cost Torah scrolls and unroll one of them around the edge of the sanctuary. Everyone for children under 5. Prepaid reserva- has a chance to help hold up the scroll before we re-roll it. tions must be received by Monday, th Children especially enjoy this service when they dance to traditional songs in October 15 . Send a check made out to the aisles of the sanctuary while holding our fuzzy child-sized scrolls. During this Vassar Temple Sisterhood to 140 Hooker lovely service the new students in our Religious School will be consecrated to the Avenue, Poughkeepsie, NY 12601 with studies they have just begun. “Oct. 19 dinner” on the memo line or contact Laura Brundage at lbrundage@ Tiny Temple for Young Children frontiernet.net or (845) 227-4312.

For infants, toddlers, pre-schoolers Sunday, October 21st 10:30 a.m. and their parents – 12:00 p.m. Open to the community free of charge, “Noah’s Ark and Our Animal regardless of synagogue membership Friends” with activities, playtime, a To RSVP and for more information, story – email [email protected]. and a special snack!

Pulpit Flowers September 28 In memory of Dorothy Schmukler from Joan & David Vassar Temple Bulletin, published monthly Publisher: Marianne Abrams Posner. Editor: Doi Cohen October 5 Vassar Temple Sisterhood Technical Support: Bob Abrams October 12 In memory of Harold Posner from Joan & David Posner October 19 In honor of Alison Peritz Greenman’s Bat Mitzvah with love from Articles for the November bulletin must be sub- her family. mitted to the temple office by October 2. Sorry, In memory of Kurt & Margot Similes from Sandra and Harry we cannot take Bulletin articles over the phone! Mamis. Articles may be sent to Sandi Rugar via e-mail , October 26 Vassar Temple Sisterhood. at [email protected] or faxed to (845)452- 4 Anyone who wishes to honor the memory of a loved one or to commemorate a 5161. s special occasion can do so by sponsoring the Sanctuary flowers with a donation to The editor reserves the right to edit articles for the Shrub Fund. Just call Sandi Rugar at 454-2570. The donation to the Shrub Fund style, accuracy and length. is $55. Book Club to Discuss Mystery Novel on October 18

ing way.” This delightful and thought- Vassar Temple “a mathematician with some behavioral provoking story is available in paperback Sisterhood’s Book difficulties.” and from the local library system. Club will meet on When Christopher discovers the Jean Malkischer will lead the discus- Thursday afternoon, dead body of Wellington, the neighbor’s sion, to which everyone is welcome, and October 18th at 3:00 dog, speared by a garden fork, he decides light refreshments will be provided. To p.m. ( please note time) in the Community to investigate the dog’s death, and discov- RSVP or get more information, contact Room of Collegeview Tower, 141 Fulton ers secret information about his mother, Doi Cohen at 462-6193 or dcohen1230@ Ave., Poughkeepsie, to discuss “The Curi- but is severely limited by his fears and his gmail.com. ous Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time” difficulties when interpreting the world by Mark Haddon, a prize-winning mystery around him. The author has written that novel related by Christopher, a 15-year- his 2003 book is not about Asperger’s old British boy who describes himself as Syndrome… “if anything it’s a novel about difference, about being an outsider, about seeing the world in a surprising and reveal-

It’s expensive to feed your family! And it’s expensive to run the Temple!

But did you know that you can make a contribution to Vassar Temple while doing your everyday shopping, a contribution important to sustaining the Temple?

SCRIP [gift cards] to these local grocery stores

Adams Fairacre Farms [10%]

Stop & Shop, ShopRite, Hannaford, Price Chopper [5%] A & P [4%] Walmart [2%]

are available through the Vassar Temple SCRIP program.

Buy cards from us for purchases you were going to make any- way. Pay face value, and help with this fund-raising effort. You Can Stock Your Pantry and Earn a Contribution For Temple!

Supporting the VT SCRIP program is easy to do and important for the Temple. If you are already a supporter, Thank you, If you are new to SCRIP [gift cards], getting started is simple and quick. Let me know how I can help. Sandra Mamis, Vassar Temple SCRIP coordinator (463-2678; [email protected]]

5 Religious School Director’s Column

holiday of Sukkot --- or the first two days as we just saw, detracts from yontiv. So a of the eight-day holiday of Sukkot --- are Sukkah on a camel would be useless for at yontiv, along with the last day or so. least two of the seven days of Sukkot (or This background is important for four of the eight). understanding a discussion in the Talmud, The next question raised in the Tal- that ancient compendium of Jewish law mud is whether an elephant can be used This is our “holiday that examines and directs Jewish practice. for one of the walls of the Sukkah. And, season” – Rosh For example it’s the Talmud that tells us again, the answer is no, because it might Hashanah (at least one day, two for when and how to light Hanukkah candles run away, invalidating the Sukkah. What many), then Yom Kippur (never more (put them in the menorah from right to about a dead elephant? Sure! As long as than one day), Sukkot (about a week), left, light them left to right), how often to the elephant is as least ten hand-breadths and finally Simchat Torah and Shmini pray (thrice daily, unless you don’t feel in height, we’re good to go. Smaller Atzeret. It’s these last two that cause like it), when one bird is similar enough to animals, of course, might be ten hand- confusion. a kosher bird that it, too, counts as kosher breadths in height only when standing but Simchat Torah, literally, “The Joy (if they naturally interbreed or if their eggs not when lying down. These, according to of Torah,” is either the eighth day of are indistinguishable), which activities the Talmud, should therefore be suspended the seven-day holiday of Sukkot (if you detract from rest on Shabbat and yontiv by ropes from above. (Please don’t try this keep only one day of Rosh Hashanah) or (travel, for instance), and, of course much at home.) the 9th day of the eight-day holiday of more. Now, Rabbis Meir, Yehudah, and Sukkot (if you keep two). So it should come as no surprise that Zeira, along with the other participants Shmini Atzeret, literally, “the the Talmud gives us regulations regarding in this Talmudic debate, knew full well eighth, a convocation,” is always the the Sukkah: It must have four, three, or that hanging an animal just so it couldn’t eighth day of Sukkot, whether or not two and half walls; must offer a view of lie down was a violation of the prohibi- Sukkot has eight days or only seven. (It the stars; must have more shade than sun; tion against cruelty to animals, and other also gives us the chance to use the word must be at least ten hand-breadths high, obvious considerations prevent beasts of “convocation,” which doesn’t otherwise but less than about 10 yards; and so on. burden from doing double duty as struc- pop up too frequently.) Then the question arises in the tural supports. Generally the first and last days of Talmud (on page 23a of the section called So what are we to make of all of this? a holiday are “yontiv,” days on which, “Sukkot,” if you want to follow along at To me, the most important lesson is to try more or less like Shabbat, we rest from home) of whether a Sukkah can be built to enjoy whatever we do. We don’t have work. So the first and last days of the on top of a camel. And the answer is, no, to be somber to take something seriously, seven-day holiday of Passover are both because the Sukkah is meant for the entire and sanctity doesn’t have to be solemn. yontiv, or, if you keep eight days, the seven- or eight-day period of Sukkot, but Torah is joyous. first two days and the last two days. sitting on a camel counts as travel, which, And we have a holiday just to remind Similarly, the first day of the seven-day us. Happy Simchat Torah!

Dr. Joel Hoffman

Inspiring Selichot Program Includes Award Presentation, Two Speeches always enjoys hearing Dave’s wonder- When Rabbi Golomb presented the stressed the integrity upon which character ful voice when the congregation sings. Rabbi Stephen Arnold Award for contribu- is built, comparing it to the straight and (Both Susan and Dave were members of tions to the religious life of our congrega- strong mast of the model boats he builds. our volunteer choir.) tion to Susan Karnes Hecht on Saturday Eleanor talked about her formative years After a Havdalah ceremony, evening, September 8th, he commented on on a farm in upstate New York, her discov- and before the red Torah covers were her ability to read meaningfully from the ery of her Jewish heritage as an adult, and exchanged for white ones in prepara- Torah and her outstanding work as chair the satisfaction of being an inspiring math tion for the Days of Awe, Gil Selig- of the Reyut Committee. Then he shared teacher. man and Eleanor Pupko each spoke words which had been sent from Mas- briefly and very movingly of the values sachusetts by Rabbi Arnold, who recalled which form the basis of their lives. Gil Susan as a devoted mother of two wonder- ful children, now successful young adults, and an enthusiastic student of Torah who grew in wisdom as her children grew. When Susan accepted the award, she noted that she and her husband Dave joined the congregation many years ago because of Rabbi Arnold and she was honored to have earned an award bearing his name. Rabbi Golomb added that he From left: Eleanor Pupko, Susan 6 Rabbi Golomb presented the Arnold Hecht, and Gil Seligman at the Award to Susan Hecht. Selichot program. Protein Plenty Thanks Plan to Help Trim-a-Thanksgiving in November

On behalf of the Protein Plenty drive held this July at Vassar Temple, we thank all of you who generously funded Vassar Temple will once again Canned yams/sweet potatoes the purchase of protein-rich foods that partner with Hudson River Housing to Stove-top style stuffing mix stocked pantries operated county-wide provide the trimmings of a Thanksgiving Canned vegetables by the Community Action Partnership of meal for families which could not afford Canned cranberry sauce & gravy Dutchess County. to celebrate the holiday of plenty without Boxes of instant mashed potatoes & Your donations of $1,425 enabled our help. instant rice us to purchase $1,425 worth of cases of So, as October goes by, plan to put Juice protein-rich foods from Stop & Shop on any of these non-perishable items into the Questions? Contact Nancy Samson Route 9 in Poughkeepsie. Those foods, Can Jam bin in the temple hallway before ([email protected], 845-462-4828) or plus another $50 worth donated by Stop & Wednesday, November 14th when the Marian Schwartz (socialaction@vassar- Shop, were loaded into a van and delivered students in our Religious School will put temple.org, 845-849-0025). to literally empty pantry shelves at a host them in attractive baskets: of sites. $1,475 worth of tuna, peanut butter, and other healthy protein-rich foods were then distributed to individuals and families who might have otherwise missed an essential meal this summer. Thank you for participating in this powerful food-raising effort; together we beat hunger. Our best, The Samson family The Vassar Temple Social Action Committee

Vassar Temple Social Action Make room in your fall line-up perishable foods for those in need in for mitzvot! Meet new friends and our CanJam bin in the Temple hallway at have fun! Pick the project that’s best for erine Street Community Center to bring any time. Once a month a volunteer takes you. enjoyment and learning to the children the food (averaging 8 grocery bags) and GET OUT THE VOTE 2012- If you there. Books en español are also needed! delivers it in his/her car to a local food need a ride to the polls, or can offer one, Record at home at your own convenience pantry. You can arrange to do this at a time contact Perla Kaufman at brandaliz5@ and we will provide you with guidelines, of your own convenience. Help with de- optonline.net or her cell, 914-456-7309. help and any recording equipment you livery is sorely needed! If you would like We volunteer at HILLCREST may need. Just contact Susan Hecht at to sign up to deliver the food one month, OVERNIGHT SHELTER on the fourth 463-8254 or through socialaction@vas- Nancy Samson would love to hear from Thursday of every month (including sartemple.org. you at 462-4828 or [email protected] . Thanksgiving). Volunteers can make We provide, cook and serve lunch at To find out more about Vassar Temple sandwiches, casseroles, or side dishes at the LUNCH BOX in the Family Partner- Social Action, see the Social Action link home to be served at the shelter, and a ship Center on N. Hamilton St. (for- on our Temple’s website, www.vassartem- few folks go there to serve. For further merly Our Lady of Lourdes H.S.) the first ple.org. And if you have new ideas for us, information about helping please call the Sunday of most months during the school we’d love to know all about them! person who coordinates our dinners at the year. To help, contact Marian Schwartz shelter, Linda Doherty, at lindadoherty@ at [email protected] or 849- Marian Schwartz, Chairman myway.com or her cell, 914-474-0038. 0025. Note:This is also a great way for And please bring unopened toiletries and youths to earn community service credit! (new or in good condition) bath towels, The AUDREY MORGENSTERN men’s pajamas, washable pillows, sheets KNITTING GROUP is a friendly interde- Vassar Temple Blog and blankets, to the shelter collection nominational group that meets Thursdays Be sure to check out the Vassar box in the East Chapel (not the CanJam at 1:30 p.m. at the JCC to knit and crochet Temple blog regularly at bin). For questions about donations for items for those in need (beginners cheer- the shelter, contact Judy Harkavy at 471- fully taught). To learn more contact Perla http://vassartemple.wordpress.com/. 4973 or [email protected] . Kaufman at [email protected] or Keep up with the latest reflections and TALKING BOOKS is an opportu- her cell, 914-456-7309. join the conversation! nity to record a favorite children’s book CANJAM is our program which 7 onto audio tape or CD. Then we will makes it so easy for you to drop off non- present the book and recording to Cath- (continued from page 1) such a tragic loss for our temple family. the joy and meaning of our heritage, and This project demonstrates our resilience so many others who make our temple the would be meaningful, relevant, authentic, and our ability to find good in something special place that it is.” and fun – a vision he worked to imple- terrible...I realized that I needed to come Jen continued, “Rabbi Rick Jacobs’ ment by empowering others and through forward to help lead this project. Jen profound remarks at Seth’s funeral struck personal example. Sadly – tragically for and I have been in the development and me like a bolt. I had taken a back seat in some – Seth left us far too soon, depriv- fundraising world professionally for over temple life for a while after [daughter] ing us of his person and of his personal thirty years and worked together at Vassar Ali’s Bat Mitzvah, but as Rabbi Jacobs example. We are lucky that his vision College for about ten years. She agreed spoke of Hineni, it became my call to remains. Our challenge now is to work to chair the Gala and asked me to serve action. When Rabbi Golomb approached toward it on his behalf. That’s one reason as co-chair. This was just a few weeks me a few weeks later to ask if I would I’m so excited about the Hineni Fund. It after Seth died, and I knew that the temple chair the Gala, I knew that there was only both honors Seth’s memory and helps couldn’t do a large fundraising effort like one answer, but I also knew that this year continue the work he started.” the Gala without including a memorial and the Gala needed to be more. It needed to In Jen’s words, “we have been so tribute for Seth. Thus, the Hineni Fund acknowledge the current circumstances of deeply touched by the outpouring of was launched. In many ways this is us our temple. So my first call, even before support and enthusiasm for this project, saying ‘here we are’ to use our skills for answering Rabbi Golomb, was to my bittersweet though it is. We are proud to the temple and create a lasting memo- dear friend Andi to ask her to partner with be the stewards of a project that we hope rial for Seth, as well as to recognize Lou me. We feel that there has never been a will ultimately do something financially Lewis and Art and Carol Menken for their moment like this in the life of our con- sustaining for Vassar Temple as a whole extraordinary dedication to Vassar Temple gregation; we both feel called to the task and provide our remarkable community and the wider community.” of creating something important – and with an occasion to come together in a Jen explained further that “throughout momentous – at Vassar Temple. The Gala way that will make us even stronger than my years as a member I have admired and was the right opportunity.” we were before. These past few months appreciated the individuals in our congre- The theme of Hineni is also woven in our Temple have been marked by some gation who give of themselves so selflessly into religious education at Vassar Temple. devastating losses which served as painful and tirelessly in making our temple com- Our curriculum reflects the famous reminders that there is no time like the munity the vibrant, close, interesting, and passage from Pirke Avot: “The world present to take action, to rejoice in who we nurturing place that it is. These individu- depends on three things: Torah, wor- are, appreciate the people in our midst, and als set a wonderful example for all of us ship, and deeds of loving kindness.” As seize every opportunity to celebrate those to try to emulate. Our sudden loss of Seth individuals and as a group, our students things for which we are eternally grateful.” was a harsh reminder that we cannot take declare Hineni by becoming involved Mark your calendar now for the st these remarkable people in our midst – in the temple’s longstanding tradition of December 1 Gala and respond when you Seth was one – for granted. It’s so impor- community service. receive your invitation. For more informa- tant, in the hustle and bustle of our lives, Religious School Director Dr. Joel tion on participating in the Hineni Fund to stop from time to time to recognize Hoffman developed a close rapport with contact one of the Gala and campaign co- people’s efforts and let them know how Seth as they worked together to strength- chairs: Andi Ciminello (452-1190; andi@ much they are appreciated; people like en the school. He discovered that “Seth ecosystemsstrategies.com) or Jen Dahnert Lou, Art, and Carol who help us connect to had a vision for Jewish education that (226-1158; [email protected]).

Front Lawn of Temple welcoming as we are. After all, this is the Gets a Makeover temple “Where you Belong”! Great job, guys! By the way, this was an ‘unofficial’ Men’s Club project. Thanks to the hard work of Alan If you are not a current member, consider Kaflowitz, Bob Ritter, Bob Abrams, Jeff joining this active, welcoming Temple Brenner, Howard Brown, Ron Rosen, auxiliary by emailing mensclub@vas- and Joel Kelson, we can once again see sartemple.org. the Vassar Temple sign on the front lawn. Bushes planted 60 years ago had become overgrown, obscuring the signage and detracting from the beauty of our lawn. Since the sunny morning of September 9th, we have a newly painted sign and attrac- From left, Joel Kelson, Alan Kaflowitz, Bob tive white mums which should be in bloom Ritter, and Bob Abrams stand next to the newly for the High Holy Days. painted sign, surrounded by new shrubs. Future beautification plans include the removal of some additional bushes and their replacement with appropriate shrubs and perennials. This will further open up Alan, Joel and Bob Ritter didn’t mind getting our outdoor space and make us look as “down and dirty” to beautify our lawn. 8 September Lunch Box All-Stars Celebrate Jewish Culture at Shalom! On Grand nd, On Sunday, September 2 ten Thanks to all our September Lunch Box Shalom! On Grand, Poughkeepsie’s folks from their teens to their 60’s, All-Stars, without whom this couldn’t have family-friendly festival of Jewish culture, some experienced and some first- happened. Many helped cook and serve is returning by popular demand on Sunday, timers, some acquaintances and others (most of whom also brought food): Bob October 14th from 11 a.m. to 6 p.m. at the strangers, worked together at the Abrams, Linda Babas, Bill Beehler, Rose Jewish Community Center, 110 South Lunch Box. They cooperated seam- Hartman, Wayne Hartman, Joel Kelson, Grand Avenue. This joyful event, which lessly and made new friends while Aide Kopito, Benjamin Krevolin, Mar- benefits the JCC, will be held rain or shine working together to prepare and serve ian Schwartz, and Ellen Zelig; and some (indoors in the event of significant rain). a delicious, nutritious meal. The menu donated food or funds: Marianne Abrams, Plan to be there! featured a frank and bean casserole Kay Bishop, Andi & Paul Ciminello, Doi topped with Linda Babas’s recipe for Cohen, Jen Dahnert, Joanne and Bob piquant sauce, and corn with secret Dyson, Perla Kaufman, Muriel Lampell, special seasonings known only to Elaine Lipschutz, Wendy and Stan Marcus, Benjamin Krevolin. The meal was en- Lila Matlin, Celeste McGregor, Sheila joyed by 135 of our hungry neighbors. Newman, Bonnie Scheer , Michele Sinn, Aide Kopito and Rose Hartman Roni and Chuck Stein. made new friends while working at Vassar Temple Social Action Committee Lunch Box. Meditation Group Meets on October 2nd The meditation group led by Linda Cantor and Ed Rosenberg will continue its meetings this year. At each session there will be sitting meditation, a walking meditation and either chanting or a short Helpful Information for High reading. There will also be time for sharing School Students and Their and for questions related to the practice. Parents Both experienced meditators and those new to the practice are welcome. Reform Judaism, the world’s largest The group will meet in the East Chapel circulated Jewish magazine (and a URJ from 7:30 to 8:30 p.m. on the first non- publication free to members of affiliated holiday Tuesday of each month, beginning congregations), has partnered with Hillel: nd on October 2 and continuing on November The Foundation for Jewish Campus Life, th 6 . Please let office manager Sandi Rugar in creating The RJ Insider’s Guide to know if you are planning to attend some or College Life. This guide is a great place Ellen Zelig split the rolls. all of the sessions by contacting the temple to begin or further a student’s search for office, 454-2570 or office@vassartemple. the right college and help answer some org. of those big questions. Here you can learn about schools with a lot of Jewish students, active local Reform services, Jewish studies majors and so much more, JWV Plans October Meeting including Getting In: What the Experts The Jewish War Veterans, Post Say; How to Grow as a Jew, Your Way; 625, will hold its monthly meeting on and Financial Aid: Secrets of Success. October 14, 2012 at Congregation Schomre The guide is available both digitally, Israel on Park Avenue, Poughkeepsie NY. at reformjudaismmag.org/fall_2012 and in Although you cannot see Congregation print, in the center section of Reform Juda- Schomre Israel from the JCC, it is just north ism magazine’s Fall 2012 edition which all of the rear at the JCC on Park Avenue. It also our congregants have received in the mail. has an entrance on College Avenue. The meeting will begin at 9:30 a.m. As Schomre Israel is strictly Kosher, no food or drink may be brought into the Synagogue. The only exception is that Dunkin Donuts coffee may be brought into the synagogue. The time of the meeting will not interfere with Shalom on Grand. In the event of inclement weather, announcements will be on Cumulus Radio: 101.5 WPDH, 1490 WKNY, 92.7/76.9 WRRV, 94.3/97.3 The WOLF, 1390/1340 Wayne Hartman and Joel Kel- , 97.7 The Mix Mark Bolger. son poured the iced tea. For further information contact 9 Post Commander Ralph Schwartz at [email protected] or (845) 849- 0025. Join us at the Interfaith CROP Walk Against Hunger on Sunday, October 21st You can do all or part of the walk with start any time between 10am-2pm to The Dutchess family, friends, a group from the Temple, assure that all the support systems will County Interfaith or on your own. Sponsor yourself, or get be available to them while they’re walk- Council will spon- a few sponsors and you can help even ing. Get your walker materials now so sor the annual com- more! If you cannot walk, perhaps you you can start signing up sponsors! If munity CROP Walk can sponsor our rabbi or another con- you’d like to learn more or sign up to be Against Hunger on gregant who’ll be walking. (To pledge a walker, please contact Dave Wolf, our Sunday, Ocober. to sponsor Rabbi Golomb in the CROP Vassar Temple CROP Walk recruiter, at 21st. The walk Walk, look for a signup sheet on the [email protected] . If you raises money to aid Tzedakah box table in the temple lobby). can help at the registration table any folks nationally and globally, with 25% of Finally, help is needed at the registration time between 9:15 and 3:00 on October the proceeds coming back to local agen- table and the bake sale on the day of the 21st, or provide baked goods for the bake cies such as Dutchess Outreach. Last year event. sale that day (both at the JCC), please we were the top fundraising walk in our The complete walk is a little under contact Marian Schwartz, registration region, raising over $52,000. But this year 10K (6 mi.) on a safe, marked, moni- table director, at socialaction@vassar- the needs will be even greater so we’ll tored route in the City of Poughkeepsie, temple.org. need more help to reach our goal. beginning and ending at the JCC, with 3 There are several ways to participate. rest station checkpoints along the way at local houses of worship. Walkers should

Room 4 Renovation Kelson, Joel Hoffman and Sandra Mamis Have you noticed that classroom 4 (the spackled and painted. Stan bought the paint one to the right of the library) has a at Page Lumber, where he works, Sandra fantastic new look? On Sunday, August th donated new blinds for the windows, and 12 a hard-working crew of volunteers, beautiful new flooring was donated by inspired by Sandra Mamis and led by Alan temple members Mark and Elaine Plansky Kaflowitz, tackled the project, having lots of Heritage Carpet. The project was com- of fun while transforming a space which is pleted after more work by these and other used for adult ed and committee meetings volunteers. (Additional photos of the work as well as for religious school classes. crew can be viewed on the Vassar Temple First Bob Ritter, Alan Kaflowitz, and blog, http://vassartemple.wordpress.com.) religious school students a wonderful Stan Marcus (pictured, left to right) took As Sandra said, “we are hoping that atmosphere in which to learn and delights the room apart, removing shelving, etc. this fresh clean environment gives our others who use this space for learning and Then Michelle Sinn, Janet Greenman, Joel for doing the work of the temple.”

Adult Ed Classes on Middle Course at Temple on “What’s East in October Next: Jewish Visions “Tinderbox Triangle: Jordan, Lebanon, of Afterlife” Syria” is the title of our annual fall adult education course on the Middle East. The Rabbi Paul Golomb will discuss three classes will be held at the temple on “What’s Next: Jewish Visions of Af- Thursday evenings at 7:00 p.m. terlife” on three consecutive Thursday October 4th: Rabbi Paul Golomb, who has evenings at 7:00 p.m. The focus for each been to Jordan three times, including meet- of these fascinating sessions will be as ings with American diplomats and Jordanian follows: officials, will talk about that country. October 25th – Afterlife in Hebrew October 11th: Dr. Mouannes Hojairi of the Scripture Africana Studies Department at Vassar Col- November 1st – The World-to-Come of lege will speak about Lebanon. the Rabbis October 18th: Martin Charwat, a Vassar November 8th – I Swear There Ain’t No Temple member and former president of the Heaven, but I Pray There Ain’t No Hell: World Affairs Council of the Mid-Hudson Judaism and Afterlife Today. Valley, will bring us up to date on the situa- All classes are open to the commu- tion in Syria. nity free of charge. For more informa- All classes are open to the community tion about this and other adult education free of charge. For more information about programs, go to www.vassartemple.org this and other adult education programs, go 10 or email [email protected] or to www.vassartemple.org or email adulted@ [email protected]. vassartemple.org or rabbi@vassartemple. org. Contributions RABBI’S FUND Marion Lieberman IN APPRECIATION OF Joan, Jon, Jeffrey & Jenny Ollendorf SPEEDY RECOVERY WISHES TO Rabbi Golomb for his kindness to Irma Beatrice Plansky Mark & Elaine Plansky Irma Jacobs Jacobs during her recent illness. Jonathan Muehl Lisa Rubenstein Rose Miller Fran Jacobs, Douglas, Tessa & Howard Abrams Bob & Marianne Abrams Lucille & Paul Kaplan Molly Woodward Carl Hoppermann MAZAL TOV TO Loren & Charlene Rosenthal Peter & Bernice Edman SUSTAINING FUND Kyle Hopperman for the upcoming wedding of their grand IN MEMORY OF Jack L. Cohn Laurie S. Cohn son, Jeremy to Maria Rose Miller Joshua Aaron Himelstein Clara Abraham Lucille & Paul Kaplan John & Emily Moran Irving Revitz Lynn & Marty Revitz ANDY ERDREICH YOUTH EDUCA- Tamara & Adrian Gruszko Eugene N. Turk Drs. Jed & Stella Turk TION FUND Marvin & Linda Skolnik Anna Baum Nina & Nick Kraut IN MEMORY OF JoAnne Abraskin Joshua Aaron Himelstein Mark & Elaine Plansky IN HONOR OF Georgene & Irving Dreishpoon Marge Lazarus Lillian Weigert and Joseph Ambash Rae & David Slingerland Mary Madden & Gregory Glassen HINENI FUND Dr. Sara Jane Goldberg The marriage of IN MEMORY OF Lew & Hilary Wrobel Lillian Weigert and Joseph Ambash Joshua Aaron Himelstein Bob & Marianne Abrams Doi Cohen Joel & Claudia Kelson Lynn & Marty Revitz Susan Hecht receiving the Arnold Award Marjorie Gluck Nancy & David Gluck Bob & Marianne Abrams GROTEN FUND Katherine Moffit Kathy & Kent Mardon Paul & Andi Ciminello IN MEMORY OF Sheila Mardon Sukert Mary Elizabeth O’Donnell-Moore and her Dr. Nathan Bernstein IN APPRECIATION OF deep understanding of, and commitment to Mae Berger Rita & Herbert Jacobson Rabbi Golomb’s special efforts in making Justice ` The Chernack Family Lillian Rosen Judy Rubenfeld Michael Wrobel’s Leslie Maserjian-Schuyler Bar Mitzvah a special joy for the TREES IN ISRAEL Lisa & Steve Cornell & Family entire family Mitchell Wrobel IN MEMORY OF Ellen Ansley Dr. Sara Jane Goldberg Lewis & Hilary Wrobel Joshua Aaron Himelstein Liz Freedman Ann Lessin All the kindnesses that Lorenz Herzog Hudson Valley Iris & Herbert V. Lant Vassar Temple members have Daylily Society Ralph Goldman done for Mim Oppenheimer Frederick C. Tuchmann Doi Cohen Jill & Ira Auerbach & Dr. Harry Barbash Family Bill & Sue Barbash Yahrzeits

October 19 October 26 October 5 October 12 Charles Finnerman George Tofel Fannie Levy Bonnie Gordon Evelyn Locke Rose Maisel Robin Rayfield Aaron Parish Albert Plotkin Joshua Karp Jessie Barker Bernat Ackerman Dr. Martin Rabin Monroe Robbins Alfred J. Bogad Margaret Ciminello Ida Goldberg Claryce Jordan Michael Oremus Lucila Albinder Morris Bronfeld Herman Katz Mary Stolack Joseph Sparks Dr. Barry G. Jordan Sidney Locke Jeanne Loth Rubin Harry Plotkin Dr. William J. Lazarus Bernard Himel- Gertrude C. Clarfeld Susan Doppelt Pearlman Lisa Lemberger stein Bessie Rabin Milton Entner Sidney Horowitz Mollie Daniels Minnie Israel Marion Miller Morris Fertig Leo Feinstein Alleyah Yankajtis Norman Kramer Max Eli Kosstrin Jacob Haber Sansola Jean W. Dampf Arthur Fink Lawrence Slate Ira Greenberg Gertrude Hines Groten Leo Klausner Mark Zatzkis Arthur Peritz Jean Strauss Sophia S. Wolfson Lenore Schiffman Judith Faria Harold Posner Murray Gutnick Annie Erdreich Irving J. Wurtzel Lena Sherman Weisman Susan Salit Lowe Bessie Rothauser Thomas Weisman Henry Cantor Abraham Zack Haim Ribbi Sidney Goldberg Benjamin Michel Howard Kapner Adele Lerman Samuel Scope Warshaw Memorial Board Plaques Murray Sigalow Benjamin Genshaft Honor the memory of your loved ones Ethel Solomon Fred Sisselman with a plaque on the Memorial Board in Charlotte Konick Ida S. Miller the sanctuary. For information, call Sandi J. Ralph Stein 11 at the Temple office at 454-2570. Lillian Greenman Vassar Temple Bulletin 140 Hooker Avenue PRSTD STD Poughkeepsie, N.Y. 12601 U.S. Postage 845-454-2570 Paid www.vassartemple.org Permit # 11 Newburgh, N.Y.

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Rabbi: Paul Golomb Rabbi Emeritus: Stephen A. Arnold Religious School Director: Dr. Joel M. Hoffman Cantorial Soloist: Elisa Dugatkin DATED MAIL Organist: Joseph Bertolozzi PLEASE RUSH President: Robert Abrams 1st Vice President: Bob Ritter 2nd Vice President: Marge Groten Secretary: Jeff Brenner Treasurer: Brian Silverman Sisterhood President: Lisa-Sue Quackenbush Men’s Club Co-Presidents: Jeff Brenner & Dave Wolf Immediate Past President: Sandra Mamis

October 2012 Calendar

Sun Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat 1 SUKKOT 2 November Bul- 3 4 5 6 letin deadline Office Closed 6:30-8:30pm RS 10am SEP CAN JAM Week- 9am Torah Study 10am SEP end 8-10 10am Morning 11:30am Talmud 10am New Paths Service 7:30pm Meditation 7:30pm Shabbat Service 7pm Adult Ed - Jordan 7 8 SHEMINI 9 10 11 12 13 ATZERET SIMCHAT TORAH NO RS Flyers Deadline 6:30-8:30pm RS 10am SEP 7:30pm Shabbat 9am Torah Study 8-10 Service Office Closed 7pm Consecration 10am SEP 11:30am Talmud at Simchat Torah Service 10am Yizkor Service 7pm Adult Ed - Lebanon 7pm Executive 14 15 16 17 18 19 20

9am-12pm RS K-7 7:15pm Ritual 10am SEP 6:30-8:30pm 10am SEP 6:15pm Shabbat 9am Torah Study RS8-10 Dinner 9am Take down 7pm Finance 11:30am Talmud 10am Bat Mitzvah Sukkah 7:30pm Shabbat Service 3pm VTS Book Alison Peritz Club Greenman Birthday Blessings SHALOM ON 7pm Adult Ed - GRAND Syria 21 22 23 24 25 26 27

9am-12pm RS K-7 7pm Board 10am SEP 6:30-8:30pm RS 10am SEP 7:30pm Shabbat 9am Torah Study 8-10 Service 11:30am Talmud 10:30am Tiny 6pm VTS Opening 10am Morning Temple Dinner Service 7pm Adult Ed- CROP Walk Afterlife 28 29 30 31

12 9am-12pm RS K-7 10am SEP NO RS Rummage Rummage Rummage Rummage Rummage Rummage Rummage week week week week week week week