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A North Carolina Lawyers Weekly and South Carolina Lawyers Weekly Publication July 2014 issue A WAY THROUGH THE DARKNESS im Blackburn is living his life in Technicolor Ignoring stress these days, but he walked a long hard road to get out of the darkness. Anyone old enough to have paid attention to the news between the late 1970s and the 1990s can be a person’s knows about Blackburn’s dramatic rise and fall. Blackburn was a young assistant U.S. Attorney who rose to great fame after he suc- undoing. Take it cessfully prosecuted Dr. Jeffrey MacDonald, the Green Beret soldier convicted of the 1970 murder of his young wife and daughters. The MacDonald case cast a spotlight on everyone in- from someone who Jvolved as it spawned books and a television movie. Even today, media attention swirls around the case. Shortly after the trial, Blackburn was appointed U.S. Attorney. He resigned within a year to enter private prac- has come undone. tice in Raleigh. At that time, he had no idea his life was about to plunge out of control. STORY BY TERI SAYLOR Blackburn remained a prominent attorney in his practice, and outwardly appeared successful, so friends, colleagues and the general public were shocked in 1993 when he pleaded guilty to a variety of corruption charges, MORE INSIDE lost his law license, spent a few months in prison, and underwent intense psychiatric counseling. How to spot the symptoms of stress Throughout his stratospheric rise, he was not aware and what to do if you see them he had been harboring the deep and festering depression and personality disorder that would send him into a near PAGE 6 ■ See DARKNESS Page 6 Figuring out what Five tips for effective Leave yourself to do next can be the intergenerational a little room in your hardest part communication stress cup Page 3 Page 4 Page 5 Inside Carolina Paralegal News July 2014 v Volume 8, Number 4 COLUMNS The Unbalanced Life .......................................................... 3 Q&A with Sarah Kaufman ................................................. 8 Columnist Cheryl Leone has a simple way to manage work when it seems “I seem to remember the most trivial of details about cases, which impossible to accomplish every assignment. sometimes pays off during trials.” Overheard at the Watercooler .......................................... 4 COMMENTARY New ways of communicating are needed in workplaces where multiple generations interact with one another. Down with initial caps ....................................................... 9 In the Trenches ................................................................... 5 Overuse of initial caps gums up legal writing. A life-altering event can change your perspective in a way that helps you ALSO IN THIS ISSUE with managing time and stress. Association News ........................................................ 10-11 PARALEGAL PERSPECTIVE Q&A with M. Tyler Helms ................................................... 8 “As a paralegal, you must be flexible yet maintain superior organizational skills.” LIABILITY INSURANCE LAWYERS COMPANY OF original MUTUAL NORTH CAROLINA “traditional” logo Celebrating 35 years of service. LIABILITY INSURANCE LAWYERS COMPANY OF updated design MUTUAL NORTH CAROLINA CELEBRATING YEARS OF SERVICE Stay Current . Subscribe Today! 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Each day gets a bit worse. The ability of a legal paralegal do it. I have found that professional to manage his or her work is directly Cheryl Leone most law firm owners want sugges- related to the success of that individual in whatever tions on how to keep costs down. endeavors he or she wants out of life. The person is Sometimes using processed-based like the gerbil on a wheel that looks good but never people in a firm helps highly skilled paralegals get gets anywhere. the job done. Draft a proposal and see if someone will We set up a very simplistic way to manage work listen. that seems impossible to accomplish and it seems to Dump it! My theory is that over 50 percent of your work. Here’s our advice: work is busy work that makes you feel good. Ask Before you go home write down everything you yourself honestly if the task at hand will cause your think you have to accomplish the next day. Do not world to cease as you know it. Throw it in trash can. wait until the next morning. We suggest a quiet time Take it off your list. Here’s a hint: All those maga- in the office just before leaving, a yellow pad and zines you intend to read, throw them away. If you an honest pencil. Don’t try to organize your desk or can’t read it the day it comes in, toss it. review documents, simply write out a list. Do it! That which is left is what you will do the Follow the ABC’s of delegation. Each task will next day. be rated A, B, or C. A is non-negotiable. Basically There is great emphasis today on decluttering your the world will stop as you know it if it isn’t done. B personal life. I believe you need to take the same ap- is something that is pressing but another day won’t proach to decluttering your work life. In the practice matter. C is of no consequence. If you have more than of law, few things are absolute. We tend to do what 3 to 4 A’s on your list, you or your job is ineffective. we enjoy. We tend to let pile up that which we don’t. The person who tries to do Worse, you are trying to do it all yourself. There becomes a spring in your step when the weight Another trick to getting your work under control is of irrelevant matters are taken from your shoulder. everything in one day is like the to make some simple decisions each day. gerbil on a wheel that looks good Do it! It takes you to do it. No other person, and it Cheryl Leone is a principal in Catalyst Group, Inc., has to get done. Ask yourself if the world as you know a Raleigh-based national mentoring company for but never gets anywhere. it will stop if you don’t do it. law firm practices and small businesses. Delegate it! Can I ask someone else more suited July 2014 Carolina Paralegal News 3 Overheard at the water cooler Five tips for intergenerational communication For the first time in American history, • Millennials were born from 1981 – ideas. Rather than focusing on the fact that and networking events. we have four distinct generations working 1999 and are the majority of law students “everyone” is using the new tools or the Boomers, make clear your expectations together. Generational differences affect and paralegal students and young lawyers financial benefits, you may also want to fo- with regard to client contact, billing time, every aspect of work from recruiting new and legal professionals today. Millennials cus on how efficiencies better serve clients. face time in the office and availability after employees to building effective teams. Our are realistic, confident and appreciate Traditionalists and Boomers, remember that hours. But also recognize that technology communication skills are being tested with diversity. Millenials feel empowered to take financially sound business decisions today has changed the legal profession and be so many different generations competing to positive action when things go wrong – this provide that the firm will be around for realistic in your expectations of face time. speak and be heard. is an excellent trait for a young professional generations to come. Legal Writing. The most common com- Who are the players? in a client service driven profession. Parents Get Out of Our Way. Millenials are plaint by Boomer Bosses about Millennials’ • Traditionalists of Millenials included them in the day-to- confident and are ready to take action. substantive work skills is the lack of excel- were born before 1945. day negotiations at home, so Millennials Millennials often express this in an at- lent writing skills. This skill is honed by They value patriotism, expect as much from the office. This can titude that says “tell us our goals and get practice. loyalty, hard word and lead to challenges as Traditionalists and out of our way.” This is reflected in the • Solution: Millennials, constantly strive respect.