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5-2010
Patterns of Behavior: Analyzing Modes of Social Interaction from Prehistory to the Present
Whitney Nicole Hayden University of Tennessee - Knoxville, [email protected]
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Recommended Citation Hayden, Whitney Nicole, "Patterns of Behavior: Analyzing Modes of Social Interaction from Prehistory to the Present" (2010). Chancellor’s Honors Program Projects. https://trace.tennessee.edu/utk_chanhonoproj/1374
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Appropriate Interaction in Society: From Prehistory to the Present
Patterns of BEHAVIOR
AppropriAte interAction in Society: From prehiStory to the preSent
We are spending less time with physical people and the community and more time with objects. We are getting to the point where we don’t have to interact with people in the physical: e-mail, instant messaging, texting, tweeting, and social networking. Are we having real conversations? There is no intonation in an e-mail or text message. Doesn’t intonation, body language, and facial expressions make up half of the experience in a conversation? Merriam-Webster defines “conversation” as such: oral exchange of Western civilization has been captivated by the electronic sentiments, observations, opinions, or ideas. We are redefining what it means to have a conversation. We now have profiles, tweets, statuses that can be posted to the world. What does this mean for the future of human relationships? Are we perfecting the art age. Tradition, customs, and etiquette of the past are declining. of artificial relationships and losing the art of cultivating deep friendships? Modes of appropriate social interaction are evolving before our eyes. Social technologies need to be examined, and in order to understand our present and future we need to understand our history. Hopefully, this exhibit will both inform and entertain you while stimulating thought on the implications of social We are now enthralled with online social interaction because there is time to plan, time to edit. Behind the screen barrier we can avoid embarrassment when we feel awkward technology on our relationships. and nervous in real social interactions. The purpose of etiquette is to help people avoid embarrassment, by teaching people how to behave, they can be at ease in all situations. Perhaps, with a new surge in etiquette books we won't have to hide behind the online interactions. We can feel at ease among people instead of at home with our computer. Social networking sites sell themselves with slogans like, "Facebook helps you connect In this exhibit, ask yourself, are you at ease? and share with the people in your life" or MySpace's "a place for friends." We must ask ourselves, did we need help connecting? or did we not have a place for friends before? This presents a paradox: we might be connecting because we are experiencing some form of contact, but we are disconnecting at the same time, because that contact is a less accurate representation of ourselves and our messages, the absence of characteristics associated with face-to-face interaction can result in a loss of fidelity and an increase in psychological distance between interactants. Also, growing dependence on technology is allowing everyone to become more self-sufficient, which allows the individual to become more isolated and reclusive, the need for social contact can be fulfilled by online social media, but these aren’t necessarily real friendships. Online relationships allow: an idealized self, selective representation of oneself by presenting only favorable aspects of oneself, and time to plan and edit responses. Online relationships permit infidelity or inaccuracy, lying by omission. Patterns of Behavior
AppropriAte interAction in Society: From prehiStory to the preSent
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May we be at ease in every situation. the Polite Conversation Western civilization has been captivated by the electronic age. eXpertS Tradition, customs, and etiquette of the past are declining. Modes of appropriate social interaction are evolving before our eyes. Social technologies need to be examined, and in order to understand our present > 04 > 11 and future we need to understand our history. Hopefully, this exhibit PTAHHOTEP GIOVANNI DELLA CASA will both inform and entertain you while stimulating thought on the > 04 > 12 implications of social technology on our relationships. TALMUD ANTOINE DE COURTIN
> 05 > 13 BEN SIRA LORD CHESTERFIELD
> 06 > 14 We are spending less time with physical people and the community and more time with objects. DIONYSUS CATO CHARLES WILLIAM DAY We are getting to the point where we don’t have to interact with people in the physical: e-mail, > 07 > 15 instant messaging, texting, tweeting, and social networking. Are we having real conversations? ELIZA LESLIE There is no intonation in an e-mail or text message. Doesn’t intonation, body language, and BRUNETTO LATINI facial expressions make up half of the experience in a conversation? Merriam-Webster defines > 16 “conversation” as such: oral exchange of sentiments, observations, opinions, or ideas. We are > 08 WILLIAM CAXTON MARY ELIZABETH SHERWOOD redefining what it means to have a conversation.
> 09 > 17 In this program, you will find appropriate modes of conversation throughout history. The advice JOHN RUSSELL EMILY POST comes from the experts themselves in courtesy and etiquette books as far back as 2560 BC. > 10 BALDASSARE CASTIGLIONE Ancient
ptAhhotep The Instructions of Ptahhotep Ben SirA Ecclesiasticus
> Only speak when you have something worth saying. > Praise not a man before he speaketh, for this is the trial of men.
> Do not gossip in your neighbourhood, because people respect the silent. > Many have fallen by the edge of the sword, but not so many as have perished by their own tongue. > It is wrong to get into a passion with one’s neighbors, to be no longer master of one’s words. > The flute and the psaltery make a sweet melody, but a pleasant tongue is above them both. > Do not repeat a slanderous rumour, do not listen to it. > The slipping of a false tongue is as one that falleth on the pavement: so the fall of the wicked > Your silence is more useful than chatter... Speaking is harder than all other work. shall come speedily.
> To listen well is to speak well. > Young man, scarcely speak in thy own cause.
> Do not take a word and then bring it back. > Let not thy mouth be accustomed to indiscreet speech: for therein is the word of sin.
> Be patient of heart the moment You speak, so as to say elevated things. > Let not thy mouth be accustomed to swearing: for in it there are many falls. In this way, the nobles who hear it will say: “How good is what comes from his mouth!” > Communicate not with an ignorant man, lest he speak ill of thy family.
> Open not thy heart to every man: lest he repay thee with an evil turn, and speak tALmUD Derek ‘Erez Rabbah reproachfully to thee.
> Evil-thinkers, story-tellers, talebearers, smooth-tongued persons, of them the Scripture says “May their way be dark and slippery, and may the angel of the Lord pursue them.”
> So, if this man allows his lips to pass only respectable words, he can pride himself.
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DionySUS cAto Distiche de Moribus ad Filium BrUnetto LAtini Il Tesoretto
> Try not with words the talker to outdo; > First of all I say > Do not be an initiator On all is speech bestowed: good sense on few. That in your speech Nor a repeater You should have precaution: Of what another person > Spread not vain talk lest thou be thought its spring; Do not speak too much, Before you argues; Silence ne’er harms but speech may’trouble bring. And think beforehand And do not use reprimands, Of what you would say, Or tell lies of another > Him who is smooth in speech, but false in heart, For the word that is said Or slander anyone: In his own coin repay, with art for art. Never comes back again, So that there is no one Just like the arrow Of whom you would suddenly > Deem soft cajoling speech an empty cheat; That goes and does not return. Say an ugly word. Truth naked is, but flatt’ry cloaks deceit. > For him who has eloquence, > And do not be so sure > Talk little at thy feasts lest men esteem A little sense is enough, That even a harsh word Thee wordy, though thou fain wouldst witty seem. If through folly he does not spoil it. That hurst another person His speech should be smooth, May issue from your mouth, And watch that it be not harsh For too much confidence In the sound or the ordering, Acts against good usage; For you cannot make for the people And watch against speaking folly A more grievous annoyance. Of one who is a long way off.
07 WiLLiAm cAXton The Booke of Curtesye John rUSSeLL The Boke of Nuture
> And whan ye speke / loke men in the face > Vnderstonde therfore or than ye speke > Crye, ue yet speake, with to lowd voyce > Aduise well what thou speakest, friend, With sobre chere / and goodly semblaunce Prynte in your mynde / clerly the sentence whereas thou doest walke, to whome, where, how, and whan; Caste not your eye a syde / in other place Who that vsith / a mannes tale to breke For lyght-witted or dronken, sure, So shalt thou get thee perfyte loue, For that is a token of wantoun inconsiace Letteth vncurteysly / alle the audyence men will name thee in talke. and proue a wittye man: Whiche wil appeyre your name & disauance And hurteth hym self / for lack of science Think or thou speake; for feare of yre The wise ma saith who hath these thigis thre He may not gyue answere conuenyente > Haue audyence when thou speakest, take good heede at the least; Is not lyke a good man for to be That herith not fynally / what is mente speake with authoritye, By they speeche men will perceyue Else if thou speake of wisedomes lore, thee to be man or beast. > And yet in auenture / yf the caas require > And one thing / I warne you specyally little will it auayle thee. Ye may speke / but ye muste thenne percaas To womanhede / take awe alweye Pronounce they speeche distinctly, > A man that sayth little shall perceiue Seue codicons obserue / as ye may now hyre And them to serue / loke ye haue an eye see thou marke well they worde, by the speeche of another: Auyse you wel / what ye saye / & in what place And theire comandementis that ye obeye It is good hearing of a Chylde: Be thou stil and see, the more shalt thou Of whom / & to whom in your mynde copace Plesant wordes I auyse you to them seye be ware wyth whome ye borde. perceyue in another; How ye shal speke / & whan take good hede And in alle wyse / do ye your diligence Gouerne thou well thy tongue, and let This concelith the wise man withoute drede To do them plesure / and reuerence > When thou shalt speake to any man, thy wordes not mayster thee. role not to fast thyne eye, > Whan ye sitte therfore at your repaste > It is fayr / for to be comyncatyf Gase thou not to and fro as one > Better to speake little for profyt, Annoye ye noman presente nor absente In maters vnto purpose acordyng that voyde of curtesye, then much for thy payne: But speke ye fewe / for yf ye make waste So that a wyght seme excers yf For a mans countenaunce ofte tymes, It is pleasure to spend and speak, Of large langage / for sothe ye must be shent For trusteth wel / it is a tedyous thyng discloseth still his though: but harde to call agayne. And whan ye speke / speke ye with good etet For to here a chylde / multeplye talkyng His lookes with his speeche, trust thou me, Of maters acordyng vnto plesance Yf it be not to the purpose applyed will judge him good or nought. But nothig / that may cause men greuance And also with / goodly termys alyed
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BALDASSAre cAStiGLione The Book of the Courtier GioVAnni DeLLA cASA Il Galateo
> But it would be too long and tedious to recount all the faults that may be committed in our > In speach a ma may fault many wayes. And first in the matter it selfe that is in talke, which manner of conversation. Hence as regards what I desire in the Courtier... that he should be may not be vayne or filthye... And a man must warely foresee, that thematter bee suche, of such sort as never to be without something to say that is good and well suited to those with asnoneof the company may blushe to heare it, or receaue any shame by the tale. whom he is speaking, and that he should know how to refresh the minds of his hearers with a certain sweetness, and by his amusing witticisms and pleasantries to move them cleverly > The voyce would be neither hoarse nor shrill. Knd, when you laugh and sporte in any sorte: to mirth and laughter, so that without ever becoming tedious or producing satiety, he may give you must not crye out and criche like the Pullye of a well: nor yet speake in your yawning... pleasure continually. is an yll noyse to heare a man rayse his voyce highe, lyke to a common Cryer. And yet I would not haue him speake so lowe and softly, that he that harkens, shall not heare him. > So whoever has to prepare himself for conversation with many, must needs be guided by his own judgment, and distinguishing the differences between one man and another, must daily change > And if you speake not so slowe, as if you were vnlustie: norso hasty, as if you were hugrie... his style and method according to the character of the person with whom he has to converse. Likewise, if you pronounce youre woords and your sillables with a certale grace & sweetnes... Neyther must you mumble them nor supp them vp, as if they were glued & pasted together one > Hence in our mode of life and conversation, it is a very safe thing to govern ourselves with a to another. certain decorous discretion, which in truth is a very great and very strong shield against envy, which we ought to avoid as much as possible. Moreover I wish our Courtier to guard against > ...prickles & stinges of Complaint, Anger and Choler. So that, suche as vse them selues to getting the name of a liar or a boaster... Therefore in his talk let him always take care not to go speake suche churlishe and fumishe woordes, are taken for sharpe and sower fellowes: & men beyond the probable, and also not to tell too often those truths that have the look of falsehood. doe asmuche shunne their acquaintace : as to thrust them selues vppon thornes and thistles.
> Others, at the beginning of a friendship... swear the first day they speak with him that there > But, as ouer muche babble makes a ma weary : so doth ouer muche Silence procure as greate is no one in the world whom they love more than him, and that they would gladly die to do him disliking... So that, It is good maner for a man to speake, and likewise to hold his peace, as it service, and like things beyond reason... they come to be esteemed liars and silly flatterers. comes to his turne, and occasion requires.
> Our wordes... Must be so plaine, that Words would all the companie may easily vnderstand them: and withall, for sounde and sense they must be apt and sweete.
> ...You shall neuer speake, before you haue first considered & laide the plot in your minde what it is you haue to saie.
> Likewise it is vnsauourie, to talke of things out of tyme, not fitting the place and company.
> For, A man should not bring another mannes faithe and honestie in question and doubte.
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Antoine De coUrtin Nouveau TraitéTraicté de de la la Civilité Civilité LorD cheSterFieLD Advice to his Son
> ...for we must not only have a good Fancy, and a pleasant Wit, but our Wit must be present > When you are in company, talk often, but never long. and just, to give it a proper application... But we are to think before-hand what we are to say, and when we do speak, to bring forth something that is new, smart, or sublime, answerable > Inform yourself of the characters and situations of the company, before you give way to what to the Quality of the Person to whom we speak, and not impertinent to our Subject. your imagination may prompt you to say.
> Our next consideration ought to be of our Subject matter, which is infinite... > Tell stories very seldom, and, absolutely, never but where they are apt, and very short.
> The Vice or Debauchery of another, should never be the Subject of publick talk; not of your > There is nothing so brutally shocking, nor so little forgiven, as a seeming inattention to the Friend, because you love him, nor of your Foe, because he is so; for this will be construed the person who is speaking to you. Hatred to the one, and Partiality to the other... Every Mans Fault should be every Mans Secret; for he that divulgeth it, is a scandal to them that hear him. > It is considered as the height of ill-manners to interrupt any person while speaking, by speaking yourself, or calling off the attention of the company to any new subject. > If in Company a question be put, to which every one has liberty to reply, when it comes to your turn, you must bow to the principal person first, and then to all that are present; and > Take, rather than give, the subject of the company you are in. If you have parts you will shew having so done, you may give your Opinion, especially if it be modest and short. them, more or less upon every subject: and if you have not, you had better talk sillily upon a subject of other people’s, than of your own choosing. > Neither are you to interrupt any man in his Narration, out of an opinion you can do it better; for that is a sign of great Arrogance and Vanity, and is disobliging to every body... > When you oppose or contradict any person’s assertion or opinion, let your manner, your air, your terms, and your tone of voice be soft and gentle, and that easily and naturally, not affectedly. > It is no less disobliging to sleep, to remove to a farther distance, to cough or yawn when any in the Company is speaking. > Avoid, as much as you can, in mixed companies, argumentative, polemical conversations.
> For let a Man be never so humble, if he be stupid and insensible, he will never pass for > Upon all occasions avoid speaking of yourself if it be possible. modest or civil, nor be fit for the Conversation of Persons of Quality. > Always look people in the face when you speak to them. > Compliments on both sides... a Compliment ought not to be forc’d, but arise naturally from some Hint in the Discourse. > Private scandal should never be received nor retailed willingly.
> But notwithstanding their opinion, great caution is to be taken, left that Affectation and false > Never talk of your own or other people’s domestic affairs. Gloss infect and invenom, not only our Stile, but our Minds. > Always adapt your conversation to the people you are conversing with.
13 chArLeS WiLLiAm DAy Etiquette & the Usages of Society eLiZA LeSLie The Behavior Book
> Many men of talent forget that the object of conversation is to entertain and amuse, and > As out of nothing, nothing can come, to be a good conversationist, you must have a well-stored that society, to be agreeable, must never be made the arena of dispute... It requires so much mind, originality of ideas, and a retentive memory... Your talk must flow as if spontaneously; tact and good-breeding to sustain an argument, however logical and correct the arguer may one subject suggesting another, none being dwelt upon too long. Anecdotes may be introduced be, that an avoidance of it will gain him more popularity than a triumph over his adversary with much effect. They should be short, and related in such words as will give them the most could accomplish. point... Brevity is the soul of wit, and wit is the soul of anecdote. And where wit is wanting, humour is an excellent substitute. Every body likes to laugh, or ought to. > Wit elicits wit; and when such brilliant materials meet, they form the flint and steel of conversation; appreciation is the tinder, which, though not bright in itself, receives and > To be a perfect conversationist, a good voice is indispensable—a voice that is clear, distinct, cherishes the scintillations as they fall. Who has not felt his intellect expand with the and silver-toned. If you find that you have a habit of speaking too low, “reform it altogether.” assurance of having what he says understood ? Appreciation certainly is a talent. It is a bad one; and will render your talk unintelligible.
> Never “talk at people”—it is in the worst possible taste, as it is taking an unfair advantage > On the other hand, the measure of society is much lessened by the habit in which many of them; if there be any thing you dislike, “out with it boldly,” and give them an opportunity persons indulge, of placing themselves always in the opposition, controverting every opinion, of explaining, or of defending themselves,—or else be silent. and doubting every fact.
> Avoid a loud tone of voice in conversation, or a “horse laugh:” both are exceedingly vulgar. > Unless he first refers to it himself, never talk to a gentleman concerning his profession; at least do not question him about it... Generally speaking, it is injudicious for ladies to attempt > Be very careful how you “show off” in strange company, unless you be thoroughly conversant arguing with gentlemen on political or financial topics. with your subject... For instance—never talk largely of the “Opera,”—“Pasta, Grisi, Lablache,” &c., on the strength of having been there once or twice only. > It is very unmannerly when a person begins to relate a circumstance or an anecdote, to stop them short by saying, “you have heard it before.” > There are but few things that display worse taste than the introduction of professional topics in general conversation, especially if there be ladies present; the minds of those men must be > No person of good feelings, good manners, or true refinement, will entertain their friends miserably ill-stored, who cannot find other subjects for conversation than their own professions. with minute descriptions of sickening horrors... Unless you are speaking to a physician, and are interested in a patient he is attending, refrain in conversation from entering into the > ...people should be careful not to introduce topics that have only a local interest... particulars of revolting diseases.
> Long stories should always be avoided, as, however well told, they interrupt general > Tale-bearing always leads to lying. She who begins with the first of these vices, soon arrives conversation, and leave the impression that the narrator thought the circle dull, and at the second. consequently endeavored to amuse it. > A plainspoken woman is always to be dreaded.
15 mAry eLiZABeth SherWooD Manners & Social Usages emiLy poSt Etiquette: The Blue Book of Social Usage
> ...if one has no inspiration in regard to small-talk, would seem to be this; try to consider what > Ideal conversation should be a matter of equal give and take, but too often it is all “take.” subject would most interest the person next to you. > There is a simple rule, by which if one is a voluble chatterer (to be a good talker necessitates > It is a good plan for a shy young person, who has no confidence in her own powers of a good mind) one can at least refrain from being a pest or a bore. And the rule is merely, to conversation, to fortify herself with several topics of general interest, such as the last new stop and think. novel, the last opera, the best and newest gallery of pictures, or the flower in fashion; and to invent a formula, if words are wanting in her organization, as to how these subjects should be > “Try to do and say those things only which will be agreeable to others.” introduced and handled. > Try not to repeat yourself; either by telling the same story again and again or by going back > After a first introduction there is, no doubt, some difficulty in starting a conversation. The over details of your narrative that seemed especially to interest or amuse your hearer. weather, the newspaper, the last accident, the little dog, the bric-à-brac, the love of horses, etc., are good and unfailing resources... Gossip may promote small-talk among those who are > Be careful not to let amiable discussion turn into contradiction and argument. The tactful very intimate and who live in a narrow circle... Scandal ruins conversation, and should never person keeps his prejudices to himself. be included even in a definition of small-talk. > The joy of joys is the person of light but unmalicious humor. > ...nothing should be said which can hurt any one’s feelings politics, religion, and the stock market being generally ruled out... Nor are matters of too private a nature, such as one’s health, > In speaking about other people, one says “Mrs.,” “Miss” or “Mr.” as the case may be... It is or one’s servants, or one’s disappointments, still less one’s good deeds, to be talked about. also effrontery for a younger person to call an older by her or his first name, without being asked to do so. > When a person really qualified to discuss artists, or literary people, or artistic points, talks sensibly and in a chatty, easy way about them, it is the perfection of conversation; but when > Don’t dilate on ills, misfortune, or other unpleasantnesses. one wholly and utterly incompetent to do so lays down the law on such subjects he or she becomes a bore. > Don’t pretend to know more than you do. To say you have read a book and then seemingly to understand nothing of what you have read, proves you a half-wit. > The sound of one’s own voice is generally very sweet in one’s own ears; let every lady try to cultivate a pleasant voice for those of other people, and also an agreeable and accurate > Remember also that the sympathetic (not apathetic) listener is the delight of delights. The pronunciation. person who looks glad to see you, who is seemingly eager for your news, or enthralled with your conversation; who looks at you with a kindling of the face, and gives you spontaneous > The merest trifle generally suffices to start the flow of small-talk, and the person who can use and undivided attention, is the one to whom the palm for the art of conversation would this agreeable weapon of society is always popular and very much courted. undoubtedly be awarded.
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> :05 > :35 DIANE WHORTON EDWARD HEROLD Various Twitter Posts MySpace Forum Posts & Various Twitter Posts
> :10 > :40 ADAM WOODALL ROBERT HEATH Blogger Blog Posts & Various Forum Postings WordPress Blog Posts
> :15 > :45 ANNETTE CHATHAM AMANDA SEALS MySpace Wall Posts to Sarah MySpace Wall Posts to Jessie
> :20 JACOB HALSEY > :50 MARY SMITHERMAN WordPress Blog Posts & Various Twitter Posts Blogger Blog Posts & Various twitter Posts > :25 VERA RAYNER > :55 KELLY TATUM Various Facebook Statuses MySpace Wall Posts to Steven
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> :00 > :30 NATHAN MCCURRY JONATHAN RICHARDS Facebook Wall-to-Wall with Vickie Young WordPress Blog Posts & Various Twitter Posts
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> :10 > :40 STEVEN PERRON ADAM WILLIAMS MySpace Blog Posts & Various Twitter Posts Blogger Blog Posts
> :15 > :45 WALTER BLACKMAN OLIVIA SILVA MySpace Wall Posts to Fred & Various MySpace Blog Posts MySpace Wall Posts to Ben
> :20 JULIA CHAPMAN > :50 GEORGE BARNES WordPress Blog Posts & Various Twitter Posts Various Twitter Posts > :25 KATIE PATTERSON > :55 BETH DAVIES MySpace Wall Posts to Henry My Space Wall Posts to Andrew & WordPress Blog Posts
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To him Current mood: loved Category: Romance and Relationships
I keep thinking of how much I love talking to you How good you look when you smile How much I love your laugh I daydream about you off on, Replaying pieces of our conversations, Laughing at funny things, That s you say or do I ve memorized your face that way that you look at me, I catch myself smiling at what I imagine I wonder what will happen the ne t time We are together, even thought neither of us know what the future holds, I know one thing for sure You make me happy, I m so happy I meet you
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four books copied from earlier versions, wide use in noble homes to train young aristocrats, basic manners
Bible begins being assembled E The Booke of Urbanitie
only associate with those of your status, doff your cap or Sumerians create cuneiform, the the lord be with you hood, and bow low to superiors earliest known system of writing the lord bless thee shalom peace A T C first discussion of table manners The Boke of Nurture Egyptian hieroglyphs develop Phoenician alphabet develops as a descendant do not be greedy, hosts be liberal with meat and food, shortly after cuneiform of Egyptian hieroglyphs, becomes one of the writing letters is common, but don t put yourself above your guests, speech is the trial most widely used writing systems most communication is oral one of the earliest writings on civility all children, even if nobility, of men wisdom of silence, scold and warn babblers, should be servants to their lord aleph o do not tell secrets or boast, women shouldn t walk fast, sit with legs beth house avoid superiors, avoid drunks, gadders gossipers , kneel on one knee, palm to palm hands to crossed, ride a horse astride, or display a roving eye, women should be lord, lord covers hands with his own less articulate then men, women should be charming, decorative, and promiscuous people, and women who control money bow refers to bowing the knees, only touch easy to manage, don t eat bread before the first dish is served, don t speak with your mouth full, don t take the choicest pieces first, some The Babees’ Book emphasis on speech, think before the knee fully to the ground for royalty or T I P free socializing indoors formal distance outdoors speaking or don t speak at all Soc AteS nobility, doff the hat while bowing LAto women curtsy, like men s bow, e cept on both knees with feet together, doff the hood Greek alphabet develops from A StotLe all children, even if nobility, Phoenician alphabet should be servants to their lord α alpha marriages are arranged first manners book β beta parents should teach by e ample, avoid offending superiors, flatter a superior by laughing at his okes, do write about conduct Ecclesiasticus relegated sir, god you keep Se o e DAL Sm Stans Puer ad Mensam to the Apocrypha sir, ye be welcome not boast wealth, hold one s tongue speech is the most respect elders, AnD Kn G t ooD Canterbury Tales in these greetings, sir can be replaced by ye lady, difficult craft, speak only after careful reflection, show lead by e ample D C your wife and friends affection and care, always have ye damoiselle, fellow, or friend knight is a symbol of aggressive masculinity, chivalric o G n o Do nG t e At a gracious manner and happy disposition code invented to make knights keep their word, pledge men bow and women curtsy, doff the hat or hood to love, honor, and obey un uestioning obedience strip captives naked to show their sub ugation, nakedness talks of manners, Latin alphabet develops as a a kiss is used as a greeting between all, handclasp Hebrew household St G eet nG eSt onS LeAD mA AGe o G n eD cAt on S t nG becomes a form of obeisance, over time it is restricted to chivalry concealed a code of debased immorality, illicit mentions Cato descendant of Greek alphabet is not a common form of greeting, it is used as a manuals start to become to con e SAt on only upper body and eventually ust the hat kneel and bow to superiors love was encouraged and often re uired, a knight s encountering a stranger, suspicion and starts as pairing system, man picks whoever he education spread through oral traditions such as visitings originated to pay homage to the Strong pledge or honor common in Jewish homes A D M F obligation as a lover was to his lady, not his wife curiosity leads humans to ask each other these greetings lead to more uestions and wants, courtship is brief and rude, many of the stories, legends, folklore, rituals, and songs Man , the Wise Man , the king, etc , to give Ma ims of Cato still taught in monasteries, B c ce o uestions, precursor to how do you do answers which results in conversation first marriages were by capture of women from gifts in order to win approval, evolves into the monk enlarges the manuscript neighboring tribes ceremonial visit to superiors D O when visiting neighboring tribes, yell or build a fire Documenti d’Amore to warn people of arivall, shows one is not trying to sneak up, precusor to visiting cards still focus on holding one s tongue, couple s consent to marry is important concern with art of letter writing e o e W t nG only upper class boys are educated, don t speak without thinking, one is to the Roman Catholic church spurns many works on proper clasp knees of superiors honor and conduct AnDS AKe o G n education only to become a scribe udged by what they say, don t speak form and composition draw symbols and pictures on cave Disticha Catonis continues to be elegant behavior, defer empty hand to show unarmed, clasp hands too much, don t uarrel or lie rewritten, copied, and translated, to ladies, help women walls, precursor to pictographic writing first postal system Book of the Knight of La Tour-Landry so neither can uickly grab their weapon Ma ims of Cato disperses across Europe with everything Persian ueen, Atossa, possibly the e tending the right hand, or weapon hand, first to write a letter on paper becomes a sign of goodwill common sense advice ceremonial visits: vassals must women are either daughters of father, greeting: be well human messengers on foot visit suzerians, who must visit do s and dont s for women, eyes on the or wives of husband, not individuals farewell: be strong and horseback are common ground, women should be completely women are taught to obey men and lords, who must visit the king to submissive to their husband a kiss of welcome, clasp right hand their only function in life is to marry pay homage and respect first to print courtesy books in friendship or to pledge honor and bear children, women are sub ects e o eAn nceS S t to their husbands, poor women work in conStAnt no Le D nG c SADeS Il Tesoretto fields doing manual labor with men, Byzantine influence, Judeo Christian ethics influence only other options are to be a maid, servant, or nun court life grows in sophistication and cermony education for specific trades, education path Aristotle teaches that Le Menagier de Paris determined by father s position, highest level words bind souls together superior born are esteemed women are inferior, no real of education is in ethics and morality higher, avoid superiors, status, property of husbands as bureaucracy grows and kingdoms heed what you say The Booke of Curtesye D E R e pand, the importance of letters as a means of communication rises household manual, good servants now men sometimes have the letter writing is still confined to political are vital, watch for fleas, guard option to choose their wife and ecclesiastical discourse only knighthood is corrupt, outright young girls, wife must be patient, brigandry, many oin crusades and care for husband first printed Egypt is acception to other ancient schools are cheap enough for even sending letters is e pensive and unreliable, for adventure and loot courtesy book civilizations, women have e ual poor to attend, only boys go to school must hire a messenger to carry it rights with men reorganization of Hebrew law, section of the Talmud Amon L LL devoted to manners and conduct, very specific rules education mostly T O C respect for elders is law, give your right side in deference in monasteries to superiors, treat women with utmost tenderness, break The Order of Chivalry off bread, don t lick fingers or belch, do not gulp wine, don t eat food that causes bad breath, , cover your mouth protect the order of chivalry from when yawning disgrace, do not commit petty crime printed translation, revives the old ideals of chivalry
women still controlled by parents until face to the ground in front of superiors, married, then controlled by husband, Book of Good Manners bow and kiss the bow and clasp their knees or feet first duty is housewife, peasant women hand of the emperor still work in the fields with men
printed translation, a virtuous life leads to salvation, maintain virginity a kiss is the usual greeting between everyone as a sign of friendship e tend right hand as pledge of honor and friendship Governing of a Family en enDo SeS wealthy boys attend school, poor neW LeA n nG Roman postal service arises still learn to read and write brings Renaissance to England, learning eat with family, women no longer ust for scribes and clerics should teach their servants, dog for a burglar alarm
courtship involves talking , then walking , then keeping company Dialogue on Civil Life men give women gifts or love tokens more choice in marriage, but with parental consent
don t punish children physically, revoke priviledges
modesty declines slightly when men begin to pad their codpieces
G teo S mAn
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Kn G t
e Sto Anc ent m DDLe AGeS eA L moDe n
c AD
four books copied from earlier versions, wide use in noble homes to train young aristocrats, basic manners
Bible begins being assembled E The Booke of Urbanitie
only associate with those of your status, doff your cap or Sumerians create cuneiform, the the lord be with you hood, and bow low to superiors earliest known system of writing the lord bless thee shalom peace A T C first discussion of table manners The Boke of Nurture Egyptian hieroglyphs develop Phoenician alphabet develops as a descendant do not be greedy, hosts be liberal with meat and food, shortly after cuneiform of Egyptian hieroglyphs, becomes one of the writing letters is common, but don t put yourself above your guests, speech is the trial most widely used writing systems most communication is oral one of the earliest writings on civility all children, even if nobility, of men wisdom of silence, scold and warn babblers, should be servants to their lord aleph o do not tell secrets or boast, women shouldn t walk fast, sit with legs beth house avoid superiors, avoid drunks, gadders gossipers , kneel on one knee, palm to palm hands to crossed, ride a horse astride, or display a roving eye, women should be lord, lord covers hands with his own less articulate then men, women should be charming, decorative, and promiscuous people, and women who control money bow refers to bowing the knees, only touch easy to manage, don t eat bread before the first dish is served, don t speak with your mouth full, don t take the choicest pieces first, some The Babees’ Book emphasis on speech, think before the knee fully to the ground for royalty or T I P free socializing indoors formal distance outdoors speaking or don t speak at all Soc AteS nobility, doff the hat while bowing LAto women curtsy, like men s bow, e cept on both knees with feet together, doff the hood Greek alphabet develops from A StotLe all children, even if nobility, Phoenician alphabet should be servants to their lord α alpha marriages are arranged first manners book β beta parents should teach by e ample, avoid offending superiors, flatter a superior by laughing at his okes, do write about conduct Ecclesiasticus relegated sir, god you keep Se o e DAL Sm Stans Puer ad Mensam to the Apocrypha sir, ye be welcome not boast wealth, hold one s tongue speech is the most respect elders, AnD Kn G t ooD Canterbury Tales in these greetings, sir can be replaced by ye lady, difficult craft, speak only after careful reflection, show lead by e ample D C your wife and friends affection and care, always have ye damoiselle, fellow, or friend knight is a symbol of aggressive masculinity, chivalric o G n o Do nG t e At a gracious manner and happy disposition code invented to make knights keep their word, pledge men bow and women curtsy, doff the hat or hood to love, honor, and obey un uestioning obedience strip captives naked to show their sub ugation, nakedness talks of manners, Latin alphabet develops as a a kiss is used as a greeting between all, handclasp Hebrew household St G eet nG eSt onS LeAD mA AGe o G n eD cAt on S t nG becomes a form of obeisance, over time it is restricted to chivalry concealed a code of debased immorality, illicit mentions Cato descendant of Greek alphabet is not a common form of greeting, it is used as a manuals start to become to con e SAt on only upper body and eventually ust the hat kneel and bow to superiors love was encouraged and often re uired, a knight s encountering a stranger, suspicion and starts as pairing system, man picks whoever he education spread through oral traditions such as visitings originated to pay homage to the Strong pledge or honor common in Jewish homes A D M F obligation as a lover was to his lady, not his wife curiosity leads humans to ask each other these greetings lead to more uestions and wants, courtship is brief and rude, many of the stories, legends, folklore, rituals, and songs Man , the Wise Man , the king, etc , to give Ma ims of Cato still taught in monasteries, B c ce o uestions, precursor to how do you do answers which results in conversation first marriages were by capture of women from gifts in order to win approval, evolves into the monk enlarges the manuscript neighboring tribes ceremonial visit to superiors D O when visiting neighboring tribes, yell or build a fire Documenti d’Amore to warn people of arivall, shows one is not trying to sneak up, precusor to visiting cards still focus on holding one s tongue, couple s consent to marry is important concern with art of letter writing e o e W t nG only upper class boys are educated, don t speak without thinking, one is to the Roman Catholic church spurns many works on proper clasp knees of superiors honor and conduct AnDS AKe o G n education only to become a scribe udged by what they say, don t speak form and composition draw symbols and pictures on cave Disticha Catonis continues to be elegant behavior, defer empty hand to show unarmed, clasp hands too much, don t uarrel or lie rewritten, copied, and translated, to ladies, help women walls, precursor to pictographic writing first postal system Book of the Knight of La Tour-Landry so neither can uickly grab their weapon Ma ims of Cato disperses across Europe with everything Persian ueen, Atossa, possibly the e tending the right hand, or weapon hand, first to write a letter on paper becomes a sign of goodwill common sense advice ceremonial visits: vassals must women are either daughters of father, greeting: be well human messengers on foot visit suzerians, who must visit do s and dont s for women, eyes on the or wives of husband, not individuals farewell: be strong and horseback are common ground, women should be completely women are taught to obey men and lords, who must visit the king to submissive to their husband a kiss of welcome, clasp right hand their only function in life is to marry pay homage and respect first to print courtesy books in friendship or to pledge honor and bear children, women are sub ects e o eAn nceS S t to their husbands, poor women work in conStAnt no Le D nG c SADeS Il Tesoretto fields doing manual labor with men, Byzantine influence, Judeo Christian ethics influence only other options are to be a maid, servant, or nun court life grows in sophistication and cermony education for specific trades, education path Aristotle teaches that Le Menagier de Paris determined by father s position, highest level words bind souls together superior born are esteemed women are inferior, no real of education is in ethics and morality higher, avoid superiors, status, property of husbands as bureaucracy grows and kingdoms heed what you say The Booke of Curtesye D E R e pand, the importance of letters as a means of communication rises household manual, good servants now men sometimes have the letter writing is still confined to political are vital, watch for fleas, guard option to choose their wife and ecclesiastical discourse only knighthood is corrupt, outright young girls, wife must be patient, brigandry, many oin crusades and care for husband first printed Egypt is acception to other ancient schools are cheap enough for even sending letters is e pensive and unreliable, for adventure and loot courtesy book civilizations, women have e ual poor to attend, only boys go to school must hire a messenger to carry it rights with men reorganization of Hebrew law, section of the Talmud Amon L LL devoted to manners and conduct, very specific rules education mostly T O C respect for elders is law, give your right side in deference in monasteries to superiors, treat women with utmost tenderness, break The Order of Chivalry off bread, don t lick fingers or belch, do not gulp wine, don t eat food that causes bad breath, , cover your mouth protect the order of chivalry from when yawning disgrace, do not commit petty crime printed translation, revives the old ideals of chivalry
women still controlled by parents until face to the ground in front of superiors, married, then controlled by husband, Book of Good Manners bow and kiss the bow and clasp their knees or feet first duty is housewife, peasant women hand of the emperor still work in the fields with men
printed translation, a virtuous life leads to salvation, maintain virginity a kiss is the usual greeting between everyone as a sign of friendship e tend right hand as pledge of honor and friendship Governing of a Family en enDo SeS wealthy boys attend school, poor neW LeA n nG Roman postal service arises still learn to read and write brings Renaissance to England, learning eat with family, women no longer ust for scribes and clerics should teach their servants, dog for a burglar alarm
courtship involves talking , then walking , then keeping company Dialogue on Civil Life men give women gifts or love tokens more choice in marriage, but with parental consent
don t punish children physically, revoke priviledges
modesty declines slightly when men begin to pad their codpieces
G teo S mAn co t e GentLemAn mAnne S co teS et ette
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conform manners to your company, marriage is not the sole ob ect of society, men shouldn t enter flirtations, only two results: feel compelled to marry or be disgraced, don t kiss in wedding ceremony, married couples shouldn t dance together, they see each other enough in private Ame cAn mAnne S t neW LoW hastily gobbled meal becomes a Martine’s Handbook of Etiquette symbol of Americans, chewing I G tobacco and spitting rampant Encylopedia of Etiquette among men four books copied from earlier versions, wide use in noble homes to train young American ladies wear too rich and e pensive clothes in the street, bad taste, learn to be silent aristocrats, basic manners language of the Gibson before you attempt to speak, never praise absent girl, the feminine ideal ladies in the company of other ladies Bible begins first book to divide manners into categories The House-Keepers Guide being assembled The Booke of Urbanitie advice is a gift of kindness and friendship, dress in The Faerie Queen women lead assault on behavior, different what is suitable for your position, age, and city, men eti uette books published E should not adorn themselves like a lady, don t smell bad revise European rules to suit American needs and sees potential of eti uette books or be perfumed like a lady, don t scratch or spit at table, one of earliest behavior The Habits of Good Society attitudes, socially ine perienced are eager to act nice sit in a seemly way, don t pick teeth with fingers epic poem, revives ideal books for servants George III and wife Charlotte steer e treme shifts in role and image of women, sells old copies of Holt s Encylopedia of Eti uette combined only associate with those of like English, books used to avoid embarassment of chivalric perfection L’Honeste Homme English court back to propriety no longer frail and demure, class of young with advertising campaign by Lillian Eichler your status, doff your cap or ma or themes: conversation, visiting, help, romance, working women emerges hood, and bow low to superiors advertising campaign is really succesfull, but book is outdated Sumerians create cuneiform, the the lord be with you no social mi ing at balls, ball and appearance man s dimensions can be seen as soon as they earliest known system of writing the lord bless thee stewards guard against it, eti uette five women lead the way with similar te ts speak, don t talk too much, don t talk about shalom peace combination of books written to guide ignorant people The Courtiers Calling things you have little e perience in Castiglione and from embarrassment A T C Du Refuge ADAm et e first discussion of table manners children more liberated, English The Gentleman’s Academie R G D em L oLt The Boke of Nurture criticize as saucy monsters please superiors,laugh at his okes, avoid constantly chattering, think before you let him win at games, courtier s most speak, say only what is agreeable to others, E E dating rules and e pectations Egyptian hieroglyphs develop Phoenician alphabet develops as a descendant do not be greedy, hosts be liberal with meat and food, valuable asset: amiable disposition, humor is important, don t only talk about deteriorate, replaced by hanging shortly after cuneiform of Egyptian hieroglyphs, becomes one of the writing letters is common, but don t put yourself above your guests, speech is the trial divided gentlemen into four it can disarm enemies at court oneself, use proper titles such as Mr and Mrs out and hooking up most widely used writing systems ALe AnDe n cc oLeS most communication is oral one of the earliest writings on civility all children, even if nobility, manners and nine sorts first glimpses of ultramodesty, deference Lo D c eSte eLD speak in a clear and distinct tone, don t argue one s of men wisdom of silence, scold and warn babblers, should be servants to their lord to superiors, social stratification, ladies opinions, don t monopolize the conversation, allow aleph o do not tell secrets or boast, women shouldn t walk fast, sit with legs T C A D M W most Americans spurn English formalities resold by elson Doubleday greet with kiss on lips to e uals and others to speak, don t e aggerate and tell tales, talk E U S beth house kneel on one knee, palm to palm hands to crossed, ride a horse astride, or display a roving eye, women should be writings on conduct are as undemocratic in a land of e uality avoid superiors, avoid drunks, gadders gossipers , cheek to inferiors about many sub ects, not ust one lord, lord covers hands with his own less articulate then men, women should be charming, decorative, and virtually absent English condemn American manners promiscuous people, and women who control money bow refers to bowing the knees, only touch easy to manage, don t eat bread before the first dish is served, don t speak with your mouth full, don t take the choicest pieces first, some The Babees’ Book eAD A te S o t further decline in female modesty, emphasis on speech, think before the knee fully to the ground for royalty or Brief and Pleasant Discourse first guide for seeking a wife, avoid women writes many letters to his son, Phillip T I P free socializing indoors formal distance outdoors of Duties in Marriage introduction of hot pants and mini skirts, speaking or don t speak at all nobility, doff the hat while bowing with wandering eyes or a co uettish gait, cent c L t how do you do Soc AteS humanistic idea translated to the more period of ultramodesty, high point of inappropriate L LL An e c Le hat and gloves no longer worn in the day, you are foolish to choose a beauty how are you women curtsy, like men s bow, e cept on Louis IV measures human worth cynical, materialistic society first book to teach rules of eti uette words with word replacements such as rooster for LAto parental advice books widely popular, post made available The Lovers Letter Writer both knees with feet together, doff the hood cock, chicken bosom instead of breast, and table limb hand shake upon introduction Greek alphabet develops from A StotLe all children, even if nobility, realistic attitudes for society to the public in manners and decorum filled with importance of charming manners, no longer inside information, for respectable Phoenician alphabet should be servants to their lord husband obey wife and wife people who wish be be ac uainted with the instead of leg, do not show ankles men lift hat be as well with his mind as with his sword flatter women, flatter people behind their United States Postal obey husband, women have usages of the Best Society α alpha backs to people you know will repeat it Service established eti uette advertising campaign marriages are arranged first manners book souls and wit like men β beta e amples for every type of letter dating becomes less ritualized perfect courtier: urbane, attractive, rela ed, well educated, parents should teach by e ample, avoid offending pertaining to courting and marriage write about conduct Ecclesiasticus relegated sir, god you keep Stans Puer ad Mensam superiors, flatter a superior by laughing at his okes, do Se o e DAL Sm well read, versatile in the arts, a sportsman, a dancer, a Etiquette to the Apocrypha sir, ye be welcome your very humble servant Louis IV held the art of conversation above all other accomplishments not boast wealth, hold one s tongue speech is the most respect elders, AnD Kn G t ooD Canterbury Tales in these greetings, sir can be replaced by ye lady, conversationalist, and a wise statesman difficult craft, speak only after careful reflection, show lead by e ample D C bow changes from taking the leg back to taking the leg conversation no longer deals with preoccupations of the priviledged elite your wife and friends affection and care, always have ye damoiselle, fellow, or friend knight is a symbol of aggressive masculinity, chivalric forward, bending the upper body, two forms of bow: e treme principle of playfulness, goal was to please others, playful teasing is a skill, Master of Ceremonies in Bath, his reforms are the talk of England o G n o Do nG t e At a gracious manner and happy disposition code invented to make knights keep their word, pledge forward inclination, and slighter bow in passing salutation T C G The Rudiments of Genteel Behavior men bow and women curtsy, doff the hat or hood un uestioning obedience Henry VIII establishes Royal conversation is an art, small talk is a social grace allow others to shine, flattery is essential, encouragement to e press oneself, but women s roles are th edition printed to love, honor, and obey talks of manners, strip captives naked to show their sub ugation, nakedness Mail with the new position, Institucion of a Gentleman The Lady’s Guide to Perfect Gentility completely re defined Latin alphabet develops as a a kiss is used as a greeting between all, handclasp Hebrew household curtsy still consists of bending the knees, two forms of curtsy: not complete sincerity at court, good conversation educates, don t discuss private mi country families with aristocracy in public, assemblies: play first eti uette book to deal St G eet nG eSt onS LeAD mA AGe o G n eD cAt on S t nG becomes a form of obeisance, over time it is restricted to chivalry concealed a code of debased immorality, illicit mentions Cato Master of Posts M S U descendant of Greek alphabet is not a common form of greeting, it is used as a manuals start to become greeting persons of uality, and passing salutation or domestic matters, religion, or politics, games and dance, strict code of polite behavior, no aprons or swords with premarital se and to con e SAt on only upper body and eventually ust the hat kneel and bow to superiors love was encouraged and often re uired, a knight s people start to spend more and e plosion in social personal letters make up of online Americans aged encountering a stranger, suspicion and starts as pairing system, man picks whoever he education spread through oral traditions such as visitings originated to pay homage to the Strong pledge or honor common in Jewish homes not carrying a sword becomes a sign of a gentleman, cuts down on women s liberation A D M F obligation as a lover was to his lady, not his wife still kiss the hand to be really effective: looks, gestures, and facial e pression become an art as well satire of vulgarities more time on the internet networking popularity less than of mail 4 belong to a social network curiosity leads humans to ask each other these greetings lead to more uestions and wants, courtship is brief and rude, many of the stories, legends, folklore, rituals, and songs Man , the Wise Man , the king, etc , to give Ma ims of Cato still taught in monasteries, irrational duels B c ce o handled by the post office uestions, precursor to how do you do answers which results in conversation first marriages were by capture of women from gifts in order to win approval, evolves into the monk enlarges the manuscript three types of gentlemen: modest and measured gait, never look L LL An e c Le neighboring tribes ceremonial visit to superiors reference book of the th century Englishman around, ladies should never show ankles, D O gentle gentle, gentle ungentle entrenched gentry , gather dress discreetly in one hand to keep when visiting neighboring tribes, yell or build a fire and ungentle gentle not through lineage, true nobility: performance, not birth however tradesmen E Documenti d’Amore from dragging the pavement e tremely detailed eti uette book Am AnDe Lt to warn people of arivall, shows one is not trying through knowledge, labor, and industry can not be gentlemen , concentrate on how to think, not L C A S Americans can learn what to do in all social situations to sneak up, precusor to visiting cards still focus on holding one s tongue, couple s consent to marry is important concern with art of letter writing gentlemen are coarse boys and girls go to petty schools to behave, learning is greatest pleasure in life: poetry, music, ceremonious visit is important for T C E e o e W t nG only upper class boys are educated, don t speak without thinking, one is to the Roman Catholic church spurns many works on proper and ill mannered, learn reading and writing, boys also drawing, painting, fishing, fighting, care of books, personal social advancement women should be: servant trainers, housekeepers, wives, mothers, clasp knees of superiors honor and conduct D t mA t n dating web sites arise four out of five teens AnDS AKe o G n education only to become a scribe udged by what they say, don t speak form and composition gambling is rampant go to grammar school to learn latin geometry, and cosmography A Present for an Appentice conversationalists, beautifully dressed, piano players, charitable, draw symbols and pictures on cave Disticha Catonis continues to be elegant behavior, defer under Louis IV the visiting card writes her own book backed with carry a wireless device too much, don t uarrel or lie have good taste and good manners, and more, do not introduce empty hand to show unarmed, clasp hands walls, precursor to pictographic writing rewritten, copied, and translated, to ladies, help women Book of the Knight of La Tour-Landry becomes an established fashion, it comes advertising campaign, still outdated Etiquette first postal system two people who happen to be in your house at the same time, so neither can uickly grab their weapon disperses across Europe with everything Ma ims of Cato into general use, leave a calling card if N T C an updated guide to manners to appeal Persian ueen, Atossa, possibly the converse in the home, but upon leaving cease to know each other e tending the right hand, or weapon hand, the host is absent to a younger audience than Emily Post s first to write a letter on paper Ste Ano G A o condescending book starts an advice column as Miss Manners, becomes a sign of goodwill common sense advice ceremonial visits: vassals must for the middle class she responds to eti uette uestions and women are either daughters of father, greeting: be well human messengers on foot visit suzerians, who must visit do s and dont s for women, eyes on the T Y L F th edition published T C C more romantic freedom, love becomes more writes short essays on certain problems or wives of husband, not individuals farewell: be strong and horseback are common lords, who must visit the king to ground, women should be completely most important influence on manners, women are taught to obey men and important in marriages trained servants in short supply, they pay homage and respect submissive to their husband on average, american adults spend a kiss of welcome, clasp right hand their only function in life is to marry Grobianus c A D A t WA te demand high wages and more privileges e o eAn nceS S t first to print courtesy books courtship involved viewing from a distance, personification of the new eti uette almost 4 hours a day online in friendship or to pledge honor and bear children, women are sub ects new focus on importance of conversational first step toward eti uette books walking out, gift giving, and love letters to their husbands, poor women work in conStAnt no Le D nG c SADeS ability, all good ualities don t matter if you T E G Manners and Tone of Good Society Il Tesoretto do not be haughty of birth, be skillful at English manners lag behind French: precise details: how to fold a note paper, correct way to serve yourself fields doing manual labor with men, are a terrible conversationalist Grobianus Chesterfield s letters are published by mA on A LAnD Byzantine influence, Judeo Christian ethics influence conversation, be warry what you say, good stubborn, political turbulence, upper an olive, classes more defined, proper salutations for each, never turn only other options are to be a maid, satire of gross English conduct, farting, Traicté de la Cour housekeeping is a merit, not a disgrace, never play the now opinionated and intelligent conversations servants are a necessity, don t waste time on class swear an use crude language, back on superiors, hawking and spitting are unacceptable Il Galateo servant, or nun court life grows in sophistication and cermony belching, stinking, and peeing in public his son s widow co uette, never oin in rude plays with men, stop appraising E E education for specific trades, education path Aristotle teaches that Le Menagier de Paris allowed, although bound by codes of deference, social calls, leave romance out of marriage, gambling still rampant bows and curtsies become an art, everything ceremonious visits: only for congratulations, condolence, and in uiries one another, women should not encourage a proposal and then determined by father s position, highest level words bind souls together superior born are esteemed one can still respect own values even when do not pick an ugly or a beautiful wife everyone needs a vocation, recreation is well considered and e act do not mi social classes,leaving cards is women are inferior, no real higher, avoid superiors, in moderation, don t drink e cessively to ill health ceremonious visits are important for social and personal translated and reissued refuse it, stop misusing superlatives such as glorious, one of the most important social customs, of education is in ethics and morality as bureaucracy grows and kingdoms talking to superiors courtesy visits grow in strip away idealistic pretense status, property of husbands heed what you say or visit whore houses, don t spend advancement use calling cards raise hat and bow, three types of bows: slendid, awful, and monstrous to replace very to form or enlarge ac uaintance circle e pand, the importance of letters as a The Booke of Curtesye social importance, they to get ahead, an honest man still being printed ridiculous sums on appearance, avoid greeting, leaving, and passing wide appeal, guides those who have moved D E R means of communication rises become a social duty cannot please the court as a manners guide E T S U household manual, good servants women who paint their face up in society, to prevent embarrassment now men sometimes have the curtsy is the same as the th century letter writing is still confined to political are vital, watch for fleas, guard option to choose their wife when women don t thank men for their and ecclesiastical discourse only knighthood is corrupt, outright young girls, wife must be patient, the bow and curtsy now have proper angles and feet An Estimate of the Manners and Principles of the Times courtesy, they forget their traditional brigandry, many oin crusades and care for husband first printed placement, the way it is done can be more or less polite, Egypt is acception to other ancient schools are cheap enough for even sending letters is e pensive and unreliable, courtesy book courtesy, study those you wish to emulate for adventure and loot bow on left foot because left foot is on the side of the heart, The Civile Conversation c A D ALLeSt ee Good Form in England civilizations, women have e ual poor to attend, only boys go to school must hire a messenger to carry it e ASm S Essay on Conversation Amon L LL reverence from the heart nD St AL e oL t on rights with men reorganization of Hebrew law, section of the Talmud T G C cAt e ne SeDGW cK devoted to manners and conduct, very specific rules D C M P men doff their hat in honor and reverence for one another, the letter writing is commonplace unnatural reversal of the se es: LAceS Women At t e education mostly T O C way it is doffed shows whether the doffer is well bred or not vulgar women, effeminate men, cente o Soc AL L e respect for elders is law, give your right side in deference in monasteries English translation, M M praise charms and rewards scorn for pampered young men includes speech guidance, or a person to drop an h to superiors, treat women with utmost tenderness, break the hand kiss is fashionable, kiss hand during bow or curtsy, admired by Shakespeare men less involved, battle to enter society, women slowly Post sees the need for a sensible book with straight forward answers, salvation The Order of Chivalry of brilliant conversation of England is worse than bad form, don t be ostentatious, use off bread, don t lick fingers or belch, do not gulp wine, do not actually put mouth on hand gentlemen distinguished by fortunate birth gain more rights, their place is still in the home proper precedential treatment for the upper class and solution for those uncertain don t eat food that causes bad breath, , cover your mouth manners and education for and god, share wealth, you have everything protect the order of chivalry from when yawning youth, rules for hygiene but not permanently disgrace, do not commit petty crime women s roles finally really start to traditional birth right and silver or pewter evolve, they can now be more involved spoons according to station is absolute nonsense, greatest personal enrichment lies in mastering the techni ue of genuine courtesy printed translation, revives in commerce, some women begin to you may all handle silver spoons if you will, the old ideals of chivalry first salon at Hotel Rambouillet Ar't asleepe husband? speak out for women s rights anyone can rise in respectibility speak plainly so everyone can understand o n t SLe social visits reach a new e treme, daily rounds of social People who ridicule eti uette as a mass of trivial and arbitrary conventions, nobles, literary people, and brilliant women AGmonDeS Am eSe and don t use old fashioned language, The Scholemaster visits, huge desire to climb social ladder, do so with calling meet to practice the art of conversation P P e tremely troublesome to those who practise them and insupportable to everybody don t speak in a hoarse, shrill, or loud eL A et montAG cards, leave them at higher up household, if a personal call The Bazar Book of Decorum huge preoccupation with eti uette books voice, avoid unpleasant words marriage is about love, understanding, is returned one has succeeded The Boke Named The Governour else, seem to forget the long, slow progress of social intercourse in the upward women still controlled by parents until and mutual respect, choose a wife on new concern of decaying manners, eti uette writers face to the ground in front of superiors, Book of Good Manners The Ladies Calling types of cards: intimate friends, which are morning married, then controlled by husband, love, marry an e ual in social class, blame women: invading business, athletics, new climb of man from the primeval state Conventions were established from the first bow and clasp their knees or feet bow and kiss the teach children at home, recommends boys and girls from well off families go to visits, and ceremonious calls, which are late afternoon first duty is housewife, peasant women dowry is all important mostly Chesterfield s advice, seem friendly to your self sacrifice in the name of decorum, do liberties, young girls put on mannish airs and hand of the emperor The Courtier, social accomplishments school, girls still learn accomplishments visits with heavy protocol, these are for formal repayment SA A ALe still work in the fields with men enemies, act unaware of improper conversation, not be outspoken, don t use ridiculous word clothes, use slang, disrespect parents and superiors to regulate the rights of the individual and the tribe They were and are the rules radically advanced for educating are important: dancing, music, rather than academics of a previous call, congratulations, condolences, or thanks bring salons to England never say belly, breast, tail, ass, etc , show respect replacements such as rooster for cock, table children, use toys and pictures, cultivate self defense is the most manly art duties of wives to husbands, first is for recent entertainment books include ruthless self appraisal, good of the game of life and must be followed if we would play the game printed translation, a virtuous life courtesy visits for congratulations, obedience, second is to be e tremely tender, for ma esty and titles limb for leg, chicken bosom for breast impression, appraise social situations correctly, their talents, teachers should be gentle bourgeoisie instantly follows suit and leads to salvation, maintain virginity condolences, or to prevent people from do not put duties on household staff keep a strict record of all ceremonial visits to keep the make the most of little opportunities develops an elegant and courteous a kiss is the usual greeting between forgetting about oneself balance and reveal when one has been slighted editor for Godey s Lady s Book, an Emily Post becomes a synonym for eti uette manner of conversation everyone as a sign of friendship e tend right hand as pledge influential magazine for American taste, of honor and friendship visits develop into more informal friendly meetings, do not repress children s natural oy but ceremonious visits are still customary for George II keeps a mistress: keeping marriage, birth, or mourning, e cessive formalities becomes an open feature of upper class English start to become unfashionable Governing of a Family Hints on Common Politeness en enDo SeS social life, especially gambling, is the entire bow and curtsy disappear society becomes e travagant, lavish balls, wealthy career of many gentlemen, superficial pleasures, e cept for formal occasions wealthy boys attend school, poor neW LeA n nG L D A c LD scatter money for show, women overdress, Roman postal service arises still learn to read and write French influence English, conversation frivolity, and debauchery lady bows slightly to gentleman, brings Renaissance to England, learning takes on a new certain polish and finesse intense social competition, everyone wants to be eat with family, women he lifts hat don t use words such as hain t, his nt, no longer ust for scribes and clerics able to look down on someone, new craze for should teach their servants, hadn t, or ought, impolite to laugh at hand shake is accepted greeting eti uette, eti uette instruction enters the classroom dog for a burglar alarm own okes, monopolize conversation, or abolitionist and women s rights activist, interrupt others, don t spit on carpet or T N E undue an iety and foolish e citement out window, don t comb hair at table surrounding marriage, mothers should parental control in marriage stop e aggerating its importance is disappearing courtship involves talking , then education is necessary to be help only work for heavy em oSt walking , then keeping company more than in brides are considered a gentleman wages and light duties E pregnant on their wedding day revised edition, reflects new era, use cordial Dialogue on Civil Life men give women gifts or love tokens spread of democratic ideas leads to growth of public education handclasp, formal bow is loosing its prestige, more choice in marriage, but with but still includes old ways, parental consent The Young Man’s Guide has been reprinted times don t punish children physically, revoke priviledges afternoon social life of calling T do not treat women like playthings or no longer a sponteous gesture, calling cards are vital, children, seek their good will by uiet chaperon implemented, sits in parlor when charge modesty declines slightly when men and unostentatious attentions receives gentlemen and accompanies her to events begin to pad their codpieces mA eL A et S e WooD
M S U don t remind hosts of their less affluent beginnings or your own, do not make ac uaintance with strangers unless certain of their The Pocket Letter Writer respectability, avoid speaking to women in showy attire, painted face, rise of women s suffrage movement or white kid gloves, do not be outspoken or speak plainly, misuse of reissued dating becomes highly ritualized, the letter h will reveal whether someone is truly nobility, do not going steady arises attempt to argue with gentlemen about politics or finances, do not use slang, includes appopriate behavior while shopping e amples of all types of letters, including cryptogram letters with hidden messages decline in eti uette books old standards crumbling under the impact of the automobile, prohibition, postwar euphoria, and movies co tS e oL t on bobbed hair, shorter skirts, no corsets, chaperons go away, ceremonious visit on decline, prohibition results romantic marriage is part of the American dream, husband strict courting formalities, always under in period of defiant la ness is woman s choice, American husband s attitude is different: supervision of parents or chaperon, almost reverence instead of possessive all courting takes place in the girl s home, marriage proposals are fre uently written eti uette books cover courting and engagement in minute detail
dating arises, boys start to ask girls out, not about finding a mate, but having fun
women dress to outdo each other, shopping for finery becomes a pasttime
prohibition results in defiance, radical drop in female modesty proper rules for visting, a stay more than a week, included in all eti uette books rule one: make known upon arrival how many days you will stay, never complain to the mistress, only to a chambermaid, guest should leave a parting gratuity with each domestic, do not gossip about host after visit ceremonious calls are nearly obsolete, as well as the use of calling cards
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conform manners to your company, marriage is not the sole ob ect of society, men shouldn t enter flirtations, only two results: feel compelled to marry or be disgraced, don t kiss in wedding ceremony, married couples shouldn t dance together, they see each other enough in private Ame cAn mAnne S t neW LoW hastily gobbled meal becomes a Martine’s Handbook of Etiquette symbol of Americans, chewing I G tobacco and spitting rampant Encylopedia of Etiquette among men four books copied from earlier versions, wide use in noble homes to train young American ladies wear too rich and e pensive clothes in the street, bad taste, learn to be silent aristocrats, basic manners language of the Gibson before you attempt to speak, never praise absent girl, the feminine ideal ladies in the company of other ladies first book to divide manners into categories The House-Keepers Guide
The Booke of Urbanitie advice is a gift of kindness and friendship, dress in The Faerie Queen women lead assault on behavior, different what is suitable for your position, age, and city, men eti uette books published should not adorn themselves like a lady, don t smell bad revise European rules to suit American needs and sees potential of eti uette books or be perfumed like a lady, don t scratch or spit at table, one of earliest behavior The Habits of Good Society attitudes, socially ine perienced are eager to act nice sit in a seemly way, don t pick teeth with fingers epic poem, revives ideal books for servants George III and wife Charlotte steer e treme shifts in role and image of women, sells old copies of Holt s Encylopedia of Eti uette combined only associate with those of like English, books used to avoid embarassment of chivalric perfection L’Honeste Homme English court back to propriety no longer frail and demure, class of young with advertising campaign by Lillian Eichler your status, doff your cap or ma or themes: conversation, visiting, help, romance, working women emerges hood, and bow low to superiors advertising campaign is really succesfull, but book is outdated no social mi ing at balls, ball and appearance stewards guard against it, eti uette man s dimensions can be seen as soon as they five women lead the way with similar te ts speak, don t talk too much, don t talk about combination of books written to guide ignorant people The Courtiers Calling things you have little e perience in Castiglione and from embarrassment Du Refuge ADAm et e children more liberated, English The Gentleman’s Academie em L oLt R G D criticize as saucy monsters The Boke of Nurture please superiors,laugh at his okes, avoid constantly chattering, think before you let him win at games, courtier s most speak, say only what is agreeable to others, E E dating rules and e pectations valuable asset: amiable disposition, humor is important, don t only talk about deteriorate, replaced by hanging divided gentlemen into four ALe AnDe n cc oLeS it can disarm enemies at court oneself, use proper titles such as Mr and Mrs out and hooking up all children, even if nobility, manners and nine sorts first glimpses of ultramodesty, deference Lo D c eSte eLD speak in a clear and distinct tone, don t argue one s should be servants to their lord to superiors, social stratification, ladies opinions, don t monopolize the conversation, allow T C A D M W most Americans spurn English formalities resold by elson Doubleday greet with kiss on lips to e uals and others to speak, don t e aggerate and tell tales, talk E U S writings on conduct are as undemocratic in a land of e uality virtually absent cheek to inferiors about many sub ects, not ust one English condemn American manners The Babees’ Book eAD A te S o t further decline in female modesty, Brief and Pleasant Discourse first guide for seeking a wife, avoid women writes many letters to his son, Phillip of Duties in Marriage introduction of hot pants and mini skirts, with wandering eyes or a co uettish gait, cent c L t how do you do humanistic idea translated to the more period of ultramodesty, high point of inappropriate L LL An e c Le hat and gloves no longer worn in the day, you are foolish to choose a beauty how are you Louis IV measures human worth cynical, materialistic society first book to teach rules of eti uette words with word replacements such as rooster for parental advice books widely popular, post made available The Lovers Letter Writer cock, chicken bosom instead of breast, and table limb hand shake upon introduction all children, even if nobility, realistic attitudes for society to the public in manners and decorum filled with importance of charming manners, no longer inside information, for respectable husband obey wife and wife instead of leg, do not show ankles should be servants to their lord be as well with his mind as with his sword flatter women, flatter people behind their people who wish be be ac uainted with the men lift hat obey husband, women have United States Postal backs to people you know will repeat it usages of the Best Society eti uette advertising campaign souls and wit like men Service established e amples for every type of letter dating becomes less ritualized perfect courtier: urbane, attractive, rela ed, well educated, pertaining to courting and marriage Stans Puer ad Mensam well read, versatile in the arts, a sportsman, a dancer, a Etiquette your very humble servant Louis IV held the art of conversation above all other accomplishments conversationalist, and a wise statesman bow changes from taking the leg back to taking the leg conversation no longer deals with preoccupations of the priviledged elite forward, bending the upper body, two forms of bow: e treme principle of playfulness, goal was to please others, playful teasing is a skill, Master of Ceremonies in Bath, his reforms are the talk of England forward inclination, and slighter bow in passing salutation T C G The Rudiments of Genteel Behavior un uestioning obedience Henry VIII establishes Royal conversation is an art, small talk is a social grace allow others to shine, flattery is essential, encouragement to e press oneself, but women s roles are th edition printed Mail with the new position, completely re defined Institucion of a Gentleman curtsy still consists of bending the knees, two forms of curtsy: not complete sincerity at court, good conversation educates, don t discuss private mi country families with aristocracy in public, assemblies: play The Lady’s Guide to Perfect Gentility first eti uette book to deal Master of Posts M S U greeting persons of uality, and passing salutation or domestic matters, religion, or politics, games and dance, strict code of polite behavior, no aprons or swords with premarital se and not carrying a sword becomes a sign of a gentleman, cuts down on people start to spend more and e plosion in social personal letters make up of online Americans aged still kiss the hand to be really effective: looks, gestures, and facial e pression become an art as well satire of vulgarities women s liberation irrational duels more time on the internet networking popularity less than of mail 4 belong to a social network three types of gentlemen: modest and measured gait, never look L LL An e c Le handled by the post office reference book of the th century Englishman around, ladies should never show ankles, gentle gentle, gentle ungentle entrenched gentry , gather dress discreetly in one hand to keep and ungentle gentle not through lineage, true nobility: performance, not birth however tradesmen E from dragging the pavement e tremely detailed eti uette book Am AnDe Lt through knowledge, labor, and industry can not be gentlemen , concentrate on how to think, not L C A S Americans can learn what to do in all social situations gentlemen are coarse boys and girls go to petty schools to behave, learning is greatest pleasure in life: poetry, music, ceremonious visit is important for T C E and ill mannered, learn reading and writing, boys also drawing, painting, fishing, fighting, care of books, personal social advancement women should be: servant trainers, housekeepers, wives, mothers, D t mA t n dating web sites arise four out of five teens gambling is rampant go to grammar school to learn latin geometry, and cosmography A Present for an Appentice conversationalists, beautifully dressed, piano players, charitable, under Louis IV the visiting card writes her own book backed with carry a wireless device have good taste and good manners, and more, do not introduce becomes an established fashion, it comes advertising campaign, still outdated Etiquette two people who happen to be in your house at the same time, into general use, leave a calling card if N T C converse in the home, but upon leaving cease to know each other an updated guide to manners to appeal the host is absent to a younger audience than Emily Post s Ste Ano G A o condescending book starts an advice column as Miss Manners, for the middle class she responds to eti uette uestions and th edition published T Y L F writes short essays on certain problems T C C more romantic freedom, love becomes more most important influence on manners, important in marriages trained servants in short supply, they on average, american adults spend Grobianus c A D A t WA te demand high wages and more privileges first to print courtesy books courtship involved viewing from a distance, personification of the new eti uette almost 4 hours a day online new focus on importance of conversational first step toward eti uette books walking out, gift giving, and love letters ability, all good ualities don t matter if you T E G Manners and Tone of Good Society do not be haughty of birth, be skillful at English manners lag behind French: precise details: how to fold a note paper, correct way to serve yourself are a terrible conversationalist Grobianus Chesterfield s letters are published by mA on A LAnD conversation, be warry what you say, good stubborn, political turbulence, upper an olive, classes more defined, proper salutations for each, never turn satire of gross English conduct, farting, Traicté de la Cour housekeeping is a merit, not a disgrace, never play the now opinionated and intelligent conversations servants are a necessity, don t waste time on class swear an use crude language, back on superiors, hawking and spitting are unacceptable Il Galateo belching, stinking, and peeing in public his son s widow co uette, never oin in rude plays with men, stop appraising E E allowed, although bound by codes of deference, social calls, leave romance out of marriage, gambling still rampant bows and curtsies become an art, everything ceremonious visits: only for congratulations, condolence, and in uiries one another, women should not encourage a proposal and then one can still respect own values even when do not pick an ugly or a beautiful wife everyone needs a vocation, recreation is well considered and e act do not mi social classes,leaving cards is in moderation, don t drink e cessively to ill health ceremonious visits are important for social and personal translated and reissued refuse it, stop misusing superlatives such as glorious, one of the most important social customs, talking to superiors courtesy visits grow in strip away idealistic pretense or visit whore houses, don t spend advancement use calling cards raise hat and bow, three types of bows: slendid, awful, and monstrous to replace very to form or enlarge ac uaintance circle The Booke of Curtesye social importance, they to get ahead, an honest man still being printed ridiculous sums on appearance, avoid greeting, leaving, and passing wide appeal, guides those who have moved become a social duty cannot please the court as a manners guide E T S U women who paint their face up in society, to prevent embarrassment curtsy is the same as the th century when women don t thank men for their the bow and curtsy now have proper angles and feet An Estimate of the Manners and Principles of the Times courtesy, they forget their traditional first printed placement, the way it is done can be more or less polite, courtesy book courtesy, study those you wish to emulate bow on left foot because left foot is on the side of the heart, The Civile Conversation c A D ALLeSt ee Good Form in England e ASm S Essay on Conversation reverence from the heart nD St AL e oL t on T G C D C M P men doff their hat in honor and reverence for one another, the letter writing is commonplace unnatural reversal of the se es: LAceS Women At t e cAt e ne SeDGW cK way it is doffed shows whether the doffer is well bred or not vulgar women, effeminate men, English translation, cente o Soc AL L e M M praise charms and rewards scorn for pampered young men includes speech guidance, or a person to drop an h the hand kiss is fashionable, kiss hand during bow or curtsy, admired by Shakespeare men less involved, battle to enter society, women slowly Post sees the need for a sensible book with straight forward answers, salvation The Order of Chivalry of brilliant conversation of England is worse than bad form, don t be ostentatious, use do not actually put mouth on hand gentlemen distinguished by fortunate birth gain more rights, their place is still in the home proper precedential treatment for the upper class and solution for those uncertain manners and education for and god, share wealth, you have everything youth, rules for hygiene but not permanently women s roles finally really start to traditional birth right and silver or pewter evolve, they can now be more involved spoons according to station is absolute nonsense, greatest personal enrichment lies in mastering the techni ue of genuine courtesy printed translation, revives in commerce, some women begin to you may all handle silver spoons if you will, the old ideals of chivalry first salon at Hotel Rambouillet Ar't asleepe husband? speak out for women s rights anyone can rise in respectibility speak plainly so everyone can understand o n t SLe social visits reach a new e treme, daily rounds of social People who ridicule eti uette as a mass of trivial and arbitrary conventions, nobles, literary people, and brilliant women AGmonDeS Am eSe and don t use old fashioned language, The Scholemaster visits, huge desire to climb social ladder, do so with calling meet to practice the art of conversation P P e tremely troublesome to those who practise them and insupportable to everybody don t speak in a hoarse, shrill, or loud eL A et montAG cards, leave them at higher up household, if a personal call The Bazar Book of Decorum huge preoccupation with eti uette books voice, avoid unpleasant words marriage is about love, understanding, is returned one has succeeded The Boke Named The Governour else, seem to forget the long, slow progress of social intercourse in the upward and mutual respect, choose a wife on new concern of decaying manners, eti uette writers Book of Good Manners The Ladies Calling types of cards: intimate friends, which are morning love, marry an e ual in social class, blame women: invading business, athletics, new climb of man from the primeval state Conventions were established from the first teach children at home, recommends boys and girls from well off families go to visits, and ceremonious calls, which are late afternoon dowry is all important mostly Chesterfield s advice, seem friendly to your self sacrifice in the name of decorum, do liberties, young girls put on mannish airs and The Courtier, social accomplishments school, girls still learn accomplishments visits with heavy protocol, these are for formal repayment SA A ALe enemies, act unaware of improper conversation, not be outspoken, don t use ridiculous word clothes, use slang, disrespect parents and superiors to regulate the rights of the individual and the tribe They were and are the rules radically advanced for educating are important: dancing, music, rather than academics of a previous call, congratulations, condolences, or thanks bring salons to England never say belly, breast, tail, ass, etc , show respect replacements such as rooster for cock, table children, use toys and pictures, cultivate self defense is the most manly art duties of wives to husbands, first is for recent entertainment books include ruthless self appraisal, good of the game of life and must be followed if we would play the game printed translation, a virtuous life courtesy visits for congratulations, obedience, second is to be e tremely tender, for ma esty and titles limb for leg, chicken bosom for breast impression, appraise social situations correctly, their talents, teachers should be gentle bourgeoisie instantly follows suit and leads to salvation, maintain virginity condolences, or to prevent people from do not put duties on household staff keep a strict record of all ceremonial visits to keep the make the most of little opportunities develops an elegant and courteous forgetting about oneself balance and reveal when one has been slighted editor for Godey s Lady s Book, an Emily Post becomes a synonym for eti uette manner of conversation influential magazine for American taste, visits develop into more informal friendly meetings, do not repress children s natural oy but ceremonious visits are still customary for George II keeps a mistress: keeping marriage, birth, or mourning, e cessive formalities becomes an open feature of upper class English start to become unfashionable Hints on Common Politeness en enDo SeS social life, especially gambling, is the entire bow and curtsy disappear society becomes e travagant, lavish balls, wealthy career of many gentlemen, superficial pleasures, e cept for formal occasions neW LeA n nG L D A c LD scatter money for show, women overdress, French influence English, conversation frivolity, and debauchery lady bows slightly to gentleman, brings Renaissance to England, learning takes on a new certain polish and finesse intense social competition, everyone wants to be he lifts hat don t use words such as hain t, his nt, no longer ust for scribes and clerics able to look down on someone, new craze for hadn t, or ought, impolite to laugh at hand shake is accepted greeting eti uette, eti uette instruction enters the classroom own okes, monopolize conversation, or abolitionist and women s rights activist, interrupt others, don t spit on carpet or T N E undue an iety and foolish e citement out window, don t comb hair at table surrounding marriage, mothers should parental control in marriage stop e aggerating its importance is disappearing courtship involves talking , then education is necessary to be help only work for heavy em oSt walking , then keeping company more than in brides are considered a gentleman wages and light duties E pregnant on their wedding day men give women gifts or love tokens spread of democratic ideas leads revised edition, reflects new era, use cordial to growth of public education handclasp, formal bow is loosing its prestige, more choice in marriage, but with but still includes old ways, parental consent The Young Man’s Guide has been reprinted times afternoon social life of calling T do not treat women like playthings or no longer a sponteous gesture, calling cards are vital, children, seek their good will by uiet chaperon implemented, sits in parlor when charge modesty declines slightly when men and unostentatious attentions receives gentlemen and accompanies her to events begin to pad their codpieces mA eL A et S e WooD
M S U don t remind hosts of their less affluent beginnings or your own, do not make ac uaintance with strangers unless certain of their The Pocket Letter Writer respectability, avoid speaking to women in showy attire, painted face, rise of women s suffrage movement or white kid gloves, do not be outspoken or speak plainly, misuse of reissued dating becomes highly ritualized, the letter h will reveal whether someone is truly nobility, do not going steady arises attempt to argue with gentlemen about politics or finances, do not use slang, includes appopriate behavior while shopping e amples of all types of letters, including cryptogram letters with hidden messages
decline in eti uette books old standards crumbling under the impact of the automobile, prohibition, postwar euphoria, and movies co tS e oL t on bobbed hair, shorter skirts, no corsets, chaperons go away, ceremonious visit on decline, prohibition results romantic marriage is part of the American dream, husband strict courting formalities, always under in period of defiant la ness is woman s choice, American husband s attitude is different: supervision of parents or chaperon, almost reverence instead of possessive all courting takes place in the girl s home, marriage proposals are fre uently written eti uette books cover courting and engagement in minute detail
dating arises, boys start to ask girls out, not about finding a mate, but having fun
women dress to outdo each other, shopping for finery becomes a pasttime
prohibition results in defiance, radical drop in female modesty proper rules for visting, a stay more than a week, included in all eti uette books rule one: make known upon arrival how many days you will stay, never complain to the mistress, only to a chambermaid, guest should leave a parting gratuity with each domestic, do not gossip about host after visit ceremonious calls are nearly obsolete, as well as the use of calling cards
Americans use the word help instead of servant, many look down on domestic service as worse than ab ect poverty, many women become seamstresses instead, help shortage co t e GentLemAn co teS et ette
m DDLe AGeS eA L moDe n moDe n oSt moDe n
The Illustrated Manners Book
conform manners to your company, marriage is not the sole ob ect of society, men shouldn t enter flirtations, only two results: feel compelled to marry or be disgraced, don t kiss in wedding ceremony, married couples shouldn t dance together, they see each other enough in private Ame cAn mAnne S t neW LoW hastily gobbled meal becomes a Martine’s Handbook of Etiquette symbol of Americans, chewing I G tobacco and spitting rampant Encylopedia of Etiquette among men four books copied from earlier versions, wide use in noble homes to train young American ladies wear too rich and e pensive clothes in the street, bad taste, learn to be silent aristocrats, basic manners language of the Gibson before you attempt to speak, never praise absent girl, the feminine ideal ladies in the company of other ladies first book to divide manners into categories The House-Keepers Guide
The Booke of Urbanitie advice is a gift of kindness and friendship, dress in The Faerie Queen women lead assault on behavior, different what is suitable for your position, age, and city, men eti uette books published should not adorn themselves like a lady, don t smell bad revise European rules to suit American needs and sees potential of eti uette books or be perfumed like a lady, don t scratch or spit at table, one of earliest behavior The Habits of Good Society attitudes, socially ine perienced are eager to act nice sit in a seemly way, don t pick teeth with fingers epic poem, revives ideal books for servants George III and wife Charlotte steer e treme shifts in role and image of women, sells old copies of Holt s Encylopedia of Eti uette combined only associate with those of like English, books used to avoid embarassment of chivalric perfection L’Honeste Homme English court back to propriety no longer frail and demure, class of young with advertising campaign by Lillian Eichler your status, doff your cap or ma or themes: conversation, visiting, help, romance, working women emerges hood, and bow low to superiors advertising campaign is really succesfull, but book is outdated no social mi ing at balls, ball and appearance stewards guard against it, eti uette man s dimensions can be seen as soon as they five women lead the way with similar te ts speak, don t talk too much, don t talk about combination of books written to guide ignorant people The Courtiers Calling things you have little e perience in Castiglione and from embarrassment Du Refuge ADAm et e children more liberated, English The Gentleman’s Academie em L oLt R G D criticize as saucy monsters The Boke of Nurture please superiors,laugh at his okes, avoid constantly chattering, think before you let him win at games, courtier s most speak, say only what is agreeable to others, E E dating rules and e pectations valuable asset: amiable disposition, humor is important, don t only talk about deteriorate, replaced by hanging divided gentlemen into four ALe AnDe n cc oLeS it can disarm enemies at court oneself, use proper titles such as Mr and Mrs out and hooking up all children, even if nobility, manners and nine sorts first glimpses of ultramodesty, deference Lo D c eSte eLD speak in a clear and distinct tone, don t argue one s should be servants to their lord to superiors, social stratification, ladies opinions, don t monopolize the conversation, allow T C A D M W most Americans spurn English formalities resold by elson Doubleday greet with kiss on lips to e uals and others to speak, don t e aggerate and tell tales, talk E U S writings on conduct are as undemocratic in a land of e uality virtually absent cheek to inferiors about many sub ects, not ust one English condemn American manners The Babees’ Book eAD A te S o t further decline in female modesty, Brief and Pleasant Discourse first guide for seeking a wife, avoid women writes many letters to his son, Phillip of Duties in Marriage introduction of hot pants and mini skirts, with wandering eyes or a co uettish gait, cent c L t how do you do humanistic idea translated to the more period of ultramodesty, high point of inappropriate L LL An e c Le hat and gloves no longer worn in the day, you are foolish to choose a beauty how are you Louis IV measures human worth cynical, materialistic society first book to teach rules of eti uette words with word replacements such as rooster for parental advice books widely popular, post made available The Lovers Letter Writer cock, chicken bosom instead of breast, and table limb hand shake upon introduction all children, even if nobility, realistic attitudes for society to the public in manners and decorum filled with importance of charming manners, no longer inside information, for respectable husband obey wife and wife instead of leg, do not show ankles should be servants to their lord be as well with his mind as with his sword flatter women, flatter people behind their people who wish be be ac uainted with the men lift hat obey husband, women have United States Postal backs to people you know will repeat it usages of the Best Society eti uette advertising campaign souls and wit like men Service established e amples for every type of letter dating becomes less ritualized perfect courtier: urbane, attractive, rela ed, well educated, pertaining to courting and marriage Stans Puer ad Mensam well read, versatile in the arts, a sportsman, a dancer, a Etiquette your very humble servant Louis IV held the art of conversation above all other accomplishments conversationalist, and a wise statesman bow changes from taking the leg back to taking the leg conversation no longer deals with preoccupations of the priviledged elite forward, bending the upper body, two forms of bow: e treme principle of playfulness, goal was to please others, playful teasing is a skill, Master of Ceremonies in Bath, his reforms are the talk of England forward inclination, and slighter bow in passing salutation T C G The Rudiments of Genteel Behavior un uestioning obedience Henry VIII establishes Royal conversation is an art, small talk is a social grace allow others to shine, flattery is essential, encouragement to e press oneself, but women s roles are th edition printed Mail with the new position, completely re defined Institucion of a Gentleman curtsy still consists of bending the knees, two forms of curtsy: not complete sincerity at court, good conversation educates, don t discuss private mi country families with aristocracy in public, assemblies: play The Lady’s Guide to Perfect Gentility first eti uette book to deal Master of Posts M S U greeting persons of uality, and passing salutation or domestic matters, religion, or politics, games and dance, strict code of polite behavior, no aprons or swords with premarital se and not carrying a sword becomes a sign of a gentleman, cuts down on people start to spend more and e plosion in social personal letters make up of online Americans aged still kiss the hand to be really effective: looks, gestures, and facial e pression become an art as well satire of vulgarities women s liberation irrational duels more time on the internet networking popularity less than of mail 4 belong to a social network three types of gentlemen: modest and measured gait, never look L LL An e c Le handled by the post office reference book of the th century Englishman around, ladies should never show ankles, gentle gentle, gentle ungentle entrenched gentry , gather dress discreetly in one hand to keep and ungentle gentle not through lineage, true nobility: performance, not birth however tradesmen E from dragging the pavement e tremely detailed eti uette book Am AnDe Lt through knowledge, labor, and industry can not be gentlemen , concentrate on how to think, not L C A S Americans can learn what to do in all social situations gentlemen are coarse boys and girls go to petty schools to behave, learning is greatest pleasure in life: poetry, music, ceremonious visit is important for T C E and ill mannered, learn reading and writing, boys also drawing, painting, fishing, fighting, care of books, personal social advancement women should be: servant trainers, housekeepers, wives, mothers, D t mA t n dating web sites arise four out of five teens gambling is rampant go to grammar school to learn latin geometry, and cosmography A Present for an Appentice conversationalists, beautifully dressed, piano players, charitable, under Louis IV the visiting card writes her own book backed with carry a wireless device have good taste and good manners, and more, do not introduce becomes an established fashion, it comes advertising campaign, still outdated Etiquette two people who happen to be in your house at the same time, into general use, leave a calling card if N T C converse in the home, but upon leaving cease to know each other an updated guide to manners to appeal the host is absent to a younger audience than Emily Post s Ste Ano G A o condescending book starts an advice column as Miss Manners, for the middle class she responds to eti uette uestions and th edition published T Y L F writes short essays on certain problems T C C more romantic freedom, love becomes more most important influence on manners, important in marriages trained servants in short supply, they on average, american adults spend Grobianus c A D A t WA te demand high wages and more privileges first to print courtesy books courtship involved viewing from a distance, personification of the new eti uette almost 4 hours a day online new focus on importance of conversational first step toward eti uette books walking out, gift giving, and love letters ability, all good ualities don t matter if you T E G Manners and Tone of Good Society do not be haughty of birth, be skillful at English manners lag behind French: precise details: how to fold a note paper, correct way to serve yourself are a terrible conversationalist Grobianus Chesterfield s letters are published by mA on A LAnD conversation, be warry what you say, good stubborn, political turbulence, upper an olive, classes more defined, proper salutations for each, never turn satire of gross English conduct, farting, Traicté de la Cour housekeeping is a merit, not a disgrace, never play the now opinionated and intelligent conversations servants are a necessity, don t waste time on class swear an use crude language, back on superiors, hawking and spitting are unacceptable Il Galateo belching, stinking, and peeing in public his son s widow co uette, never oin in rude plays with men, stop appraising E E allowed, although bound by codes of deference, social calls, leave romance out of marriage, gambling still rampant bows and curtsies become an art, everything ceremonious visits: only for congratulations, condolence, and in uiries one another, women should not encourage a proposal and then one can still respect own values even when do not pick an ugly or a beautiful wife everyone needs a vocation, recreation is well considered and e act do not mi social classes,leaving cards is in moderation, don t drink e cessively to ill health ceremonious visits are important for social and personal translated and reissued refuse it, stop misusing superlatives such as glorious, one of the most important social customs, talking to superiors courtesy visits grow in strip away idealistic pretense or visit whore houses, don t spend advancement use calling cards raise hat and bow, three types of bows: slendid, awful, and monstrous to replace very to form or enlarge ac uaintance circle The Booke of Curtesye social importance, they to get ahead, an honest man still being printed ridiculous sums on appearance, avoid greeting, leaving, and passing wide appeal, guides those who have moved become a social duty cannot please the court as a manners guide E T S U women who paint their face up in society, to prevent embarrassment curtsy is the same as the th century when women don t thank men for their the bow and curtsy now have proper angles and feet An Estimate of the Manners and Principles of the Times courtesy, they forget their traditional first printed placement, the way it is done can be more or less polite, courtesy book courtesy, study those you wish to emulate bow on left foot because left foot is on the side of the heart, The Civile Conversation c A D ALLeSt ee Good Form in England e ASm S Essay on Conversation reverence from the heart nD St AL e oL t on T G C D C M P men doff their hat in honor and reverence for one another, the letter writing is commonplace unnatural reversal of the se es: LAceS Women At t e cAt e ne SeDGW cK way it is doffed shows whether the doffer is well bred or not vulgar women, effeminate men, English translation, cente o Soc AL L e M M praise charms and rewards scorn for pampered young men includes speech guidance, or a person to drop an h the hand kiss is fashionable, kiss hand during bow or curtsy, admired by Shakespeare men less involved, battle to enter society, women slowly Post sees the need for a sensible book with straight forward answers, salvation The Order of Chivalry of brilliant conversation of England is worse than bad form, don t be ostentatious, use do not actually put mouth on hand gentlemen distinguished by fortunate birth gain more rights, their place is still in the home proper precedential treatment for the upper class and solution for those uncertain manners and education for and god, share wealth, you have everything youth, rules for hygiene but not permanently women s roles finally really start to traditional birth right and silver or pewter evolve, they can now be more involved spoons according to station is absolute nonsense, greatest personal enrichment lies in mastering the techni ue of genuine courtesy printed translation, revives in commerce, some women begin to you may all handle silver spoons if you will, the old ideals of chivalry first salon at Hotel Rambouillet Ar't asleepe husband? speak out for women s rights anyone can rise in respectibility speak plainly so everyone can understand o n t SLe social visits reach a new e treme, daily rounds of social People who ridicule eti uette as a mass of trivial and arbitrary conventions, nobles, literary people, and brilliant women AGmonDeS Am eSe and don t use old fashioned language, The Scholemaster visits, huge desire to climb social ladder, do so with calling meet to practice the art of conversation P P e tremely troublesome to those who practise them and insupportable to everybody don t speak in a hoarse, shrill, or loud eL A et montAG cards, leave them at higher up household, if a personal call The Bazar Book of Decorum huge preoccupation with eti uette books voice, avoid unpleasant words marriage is about love, understanding, is returned one has succeeded The Boke Named The Governour else, seem to forget the long, slow progress of social intercourse in the upward and mutual respect, choose a wife on new concern of decaying manners, eti uette writers Book of Good Manners The Ladies Calling types of cards: intimate friends, which are morning love, marry an e ual in social class, blame women: invading business, athletics, new climb of man from the primeval state Conventions were established from the first teach children at home, recommends boys and girls from well off families go to visits, and ceremonious calls, which are late afternoon dowry is all important mostly Chesterfield s advice, seem friendly to your self sacrifice in the name of decorum, do liberties, young girls put on mannish airs and The Courtier, social accomplishments school, girls still learn accomplishments visits with heavy protocol, these are for formal repayment SA A ALe enemies, act unaware of improper conversation, not be outspoken, don t use ridiculous word clothes, use slang, disrespect parents and superiors to regulate the rights of the individual and the tribe They were and are the rules radically advanced for educating are important: dancing, music, rather than academics of a previous call, congratulations, condolences, or thanks bring salons to England never say belly, breast, tail, ass, etc , show respect replacements such as rooster for cock, table children, use toys and pictures, cultivate self defense is the most manly art duties of wives to husbands, first is for recent entertainment books include ruthless self appraisal, good of the game of life and must be followed if we would play the game printed translation, a virtuous life courtesy visits for congratulations, obedience, second is to be e tremely tender, for ma esty and titles limb for leg, chicken bosom for breast impression, appraise social situations correctly, their talents, teachers should be gentle bourgeoisie instantly follows suit and leads to salvation, maintain virginity condolences, or to prevent people from do not put duties on household staff keep a strict record of all ceremonial visits to keep the make the most of little opportunities develops an elegant and courteous forgetting about oneself balance and reveal when one has been slighted editor for Godey s Lady s Book, an Emily Post becomes a synonym for eti uette manner of conversation influential magazine for American taste, visits develop into more informal friendly meetings, do not repress children s natural oy but ceremonious visits are still customary for George II keeps a mistress: keeping marriage, birth, or mourning, e cessive formalities becomes an open feature of upper class English start to become unfashionable Hints on Common Politeness en enDo SeS social life, especially gambling, is the entire bow and curtsy disappear society becomes e travagant, lavish balls, wealthy career of many gentlemen, superficial pleasures, e cept for formal occasions neW LeA n nG L D A c LD scatter money for show, women overdress, French influence English, conversation frivolity, and debauchery lady bows slightly to gentleman, brings Renaissance to England, learning takes on a new certain polish and finesse intense social competition, everyone wants to be he lifts hat don t use words such as hain t, his nt, no longer ust for scribes and clerics able to look down on someone, new craze for hadn t, or ought, impolite to laugh at hand shake is accepted greeting eti uette, eti uette instruction enters the classroom own okes, monopolize conversation, or abolitionist and women s rights activist, interrupt others, don t spit on carpet or T N E undue an iety and foolish e citement out window, don t comb hair at table surrounding marriage, mothers should parental control in marriage stop e aggerating its importance is disappearing courtship involves talking , then education is necessary to be help only work for heavy em oSt walking , then keeping company more than in brides are considered a gentleman wages and light duties E pregnant on their wedding day men give women gifts or love tokens spread of democratic ideas leads revised edition, reflects new era, use cordial to growth of public education handclasp, formal bow is loosing its prestige, more choice in marriage, but with but still includes old ways, parental consent The Young Man’s Guide has been reprinted times afternoon social life of calling T do not treat women like playthings or no longer a sponteous gesture, calling cards are vital, children, seek their good will by uiet chaperon implemented, sits in parlor when charge modesty declines slightly when men and unostentatious attentions receives gentlemen and accompanies her to events begin to pad their codpieces mA eL A et S e WooD
M S U don t remind hosts of their less affluent beginnings or your own, do not make ac uaintance with strangers unless certain of their The Pocket Letter Writer respectability, avoid speaking to women in showy attire, painted face, rise of women s suffrage movement or white kid gloves, do not be outspoken or speak plainly, misuse of reissued dating becomes highly ritualized, the letter h will reveal whether someone is truly nobility, do not going steady arises attempt to argue with gentlemen about politics or finances, do not use slang, includes appopriate behavior while shopping e amples of all types of letters, including cryptogram letters with hidden messages
decline in eti uette books old standards crumbling under the impact of the automobile, prohibition, postwar euphoria, and movies co tS e oL t on bobbed hair, shorter skirts, no corsets, chaperons go away, ceremonious visit on decline, prohibition results romantic marriage is part of the American dream, husband strict courting formalities, always under in period of defiant la ness is woman s choice, American husband s attitude is different: supervision of parents or chaperon, almost reverence instead of possessive all courting takes place in the girl s home, marriage proposals are fre uently written eti uette books cover courting and engagement in minute detail
dating arises, boys start to ask girls out, not about finding a mate, but having fun women dress to outdo each other, shopping for finery becomes a pasttime
prohibition results in defiance, radical drop in female modesty proper rules for visting, a stay more than a week, included in all eti uette books rule one: make known upon arrival how many days you will stay, never complain to the mistress, only to a chambermaid, guest should leave a parting gratuity with each domestic, do not gossip about host after visit ceremonious calls are nearly obsolete, as well as the use of calling cards
Americans use the word help instead of servant, many look down on domestic service as worse than ab ect poverty, many women become seamstresses instead, help shortage co t e GentLemAn co teS et ette
m DDLe AGeS eA L moDe n moDe n oSt moDe n
The Illustrated Manners Book
conform manners to your company, marriage is not the sole ob ect of society, men shouldn t enter flirtations, only two results: feel compelled to marry or be disgraced, don t kiss in wedding ceremony, married couples shouldn t dance together, they see each other enough in private Ame cAn mAnne S t neW LoW hastily gobbled meal becomes a Martine’s Handbook of Etiquette symbol of Americans, chewing I G tobacco and spitting rampant Encylopedia of Etiquette among men four books copied from earlier versions, wide use in noble homes to train young American ladies wear too rich and e pensive clothes in the street, bad taste, learn to be silent aristocrats, basic manners language of the Gibson before you attempt to speak, never praise absent girl, the feminine ideal ladies in the company of other ladies first book to divide manners into categories The House-Keepers Guide
The Booke of Urbanitie advice is a gift of kindness and friendship, dress in The Faerie Queen women lead assault on behavior, different what is suitable for your position, age, and city, men eti uette books published should not adorn themselves like a lady, don t smell bad revise European rules to suit American needs and sees potential of eti uette books or be perfumed like a lady, don t scratch or spit at table, one of earliest behavior The Habits of Good Society attitudes, socially ine perienced are eager to act nice sit in a seemly way, don t pick teeth with fingers epic poem, revives ideal books for servants George III and wife Charlotte steer e treme shifts in role and image of women, sells old copies of Holt s Encylopedia of Eti uette combined only associate with those of like English, books used to avoid embarassment of chivalric perfection L’Honeste Homme English court back to propriety no longer frail and demure, class of young with advertising campaign by Lillian Eichler your status, doff your cap or ma or themes: conversation, visiting, help, romance, working women emerges hood, and bow low to superiors advertising campaign is really succesfull, but book is outdated no social mi ing at balls, ball and appearance stewards guard against it, eti uette man s dimensions can be seen as soon as they five women lead the way with similar te ts speak, don t talk too much, don t talk about combination of books written to guide ignorant people The Courtiers Calling things you have little e perience in Castiglione and from embarrassment Du Refuge ADAm et e children more liberated, English The Gentleman’s Academie em L oLt R G D criticize as saucy monsters The Boke of Nurture please superiors,laugh at his okes, avoid constantly chattering, think before you let him win at games, courtier s most speak, say only what is agreeable to others, E E dating rules and e pectations valuable asset: amiable disposition, humor is important, don t only talk about deteriorate, replaced by hanging divided gentlemen into four ALe AnDe n cc oLeS it can disarm enemies at court oneself, use proper titles such as Mr and Mrs out and hooking up all children, even if nobility, manners and nine sorts first glimpses of ultramodesty, deference Lo D c eSte eLD speak in a clear and distinct tone, don t argue one s should be servants to their lord to superiors, social stratification, ladies opinions, don t monopolize the conversation, allow T C A D M W most Americans spurn English formalities resold by elson Doubleday greet with kiss on lips to e uals and others to speak, don t e aggerate and tell tales, talk E U S writings on conduct are as undemocratic in a land of e uality virtually absent cheek to inferiors about many sub ects, not ust one English condemn American manners The Babees’ Book eAD A te S o t further decline in female modesty, Brief and Pleasant Discourse first guide for seeking a wife, avoid women writes many letters to his son, Phillip of Duties in Marriage introduction of hot pants and mini skirts, with wandering eyes or a co uettish gait, cent c L t how do you do humanistic idea translated to the more period of ultramodesty, high point of inappropriate L LL An e c Le hat and gloves no longer worn in the day, you are foolish to choose a beauty how are you Louis IV measures human worth cynical, materialistic society first book to teach rules of eti uette words with word replacements such as rooster for parental advice books widely popular, post made available The Lovers Letter Writer cock, chicken bosom instead of breast, and table limb hand shake upon introduction all children, even if nobility, realistic attitudes for society to the public in manners and decorum filled with importance of charming manners, no longer inside information, for respectable husband obey wife and wife instead of leg, do not show ankles should be servants to their lord be as well with his mind as with his sword flatter women, flatter people behind their people who wish be be ac uainted with the men lift hat obey husband, women have United States Postal backs to people you know will repeat it usages of the Best Society eti uette advertising campaign souls and wit like men Service established e amples for every type of letter dating becomes less ritualized perfect courtier: urbane, attractive, rela ed, well educated, pertaining to courting and marriage Stans Puer ad Mensam well read, versatile in the arts, a sportsman, a dancer, a Etiquette your very humble servant Louis IV held the art of conversation above all other accomplishments conversationalist, and a wise statesman bow changes from taking the leg back to taking the leg conversation no longer deals with preoccupations of the priviledged elite forward, bending the upper body, two forms of bow: e treme principle of playfulness, goal was to please others, playful teasing is a skill, Master of Ceremonies in Bath, his reforms are the talk of England forward inclination, and slighter bow in passing salutation T C G The Rudiments of Genteel Behavior un uestioning obedience Henry VIII establishes Royal conversation is an art, small talk is a social grace allow others to shine, flattery is essential, encouragement to e press oneself, but women s roles are th edition printed Mail with the new position, completely re defined Institucion of a Gentleman curtsy still consists of bending the knees, two forms of curtsy: not complete sincerity at court, good conversation educates, don t discuss private mi country families with aristocracy in public, assemblies: play The Lady’s Guide to Perfect Gentility first eti uette book to deal Master of Posts M S U greeting persons of uality, and passing salutation or domestic matters, religion, or politics, games and dance, strict code of polite behavior, no aprons or swords with premarital se and not carrying a sword becomes a sign of a gentleman, cuts down on people start to spend more and e plosion in social personal letters make up of online Americans aged still kiss the hand to be really effective: looks, gestures, and facial e pression become an art as well satire of vulgarities women s liberation irrational duels more time on the internet networking popularity less than of mail 4 belong to a social network three types of gentlemen: modest and measured gait, never look L LL An e c Le handled by the post office reference book of the th century Englishman around, ladies should never show ankles, gentle gentle, gentle ungentle entrenched gentry , gather dress discreetly in one hand to keep and ungentle gentle not through lineage, true nobility: performance, not birth however tradesmen E from dragging the pavement e tremely detailed eti uette book Am AnDe Lt through knowledge, labor, and industry can not be gentlemen , concentrate on how to think, not L C A S Americans can learn what to do in all social situations gentlemen are coarse boys and girls go to petty schools to behave, learning is greatest pleasure in life: poetry, music, ceremonious visit is important for T C E and ill mannered, learn reading and writing, boys also drawing, painting, fishing, fighting, care of books, personal social advancement women should be: servant trainers, housekeepers, wives, mothers, D t mA t n dating web sites arise four out of five teens gambling is rampant go to grammar school to learn latin geometry, and cosmography A Present for an Appentice conversationalists, beautifully dressed, piano players, charitable, under Louis IV the visiting card writes her own book backed with carry a wireless device have good taste and good manners, and more, do not introduce becomes an established fashion, it comes advertising campaign, still outdated Etiquette two people who happen to be in your house at the same time, into general use, leave a calling card if N T C converse in the home, but upon leaving cease to know each other an updated guide to manners to appeal the host is absent to a younger audience than Emily Post s Ste Ano G A o condescending book starts an advice column as Miss Manners, for the middle class she responds to eti uette uestions and th edition published T Y L F writes short essays on certain problems T C C more romantic freedom, love becomes more most important influence on manners, important in marriages trained servants in short supply, they on average, american adults spend Grobianus c A D A t WA te demand high wages and more privileges first to print courtesy books courtship involved viewing from a distance, personification of the new eti uette almost 4 hours a day online new focus on importance of conversational first step toward eti uette books walking out, gift giving, and love letters ability, all good ualities don t matter if you T E G Manners and Tone of Good Society do not be haughty of birth, be skillful at English manners lag behind French: precise details: how to fold a note paper, correct way to serve yourself are a terrible conversationalist Grobianus Chesterfield s letters are published by mA on A LAnD conversation, be warry what you say, good stubborn, political turbulence, upper an olive, classes more defined, proper salutations for each, never turn satire of gross English conduct, farting, Traicté de la Cour housekeeping is a merit, not a disgrace, never play the now opinionated and intelligent conversations servants are a necessity, don t waste time on class swear an use crude language, back on superiors, hawking and spitting are unacceptable Il Galateo belching, stinking, and peeing in public his son s widow co uette, never oin in rude plays with men, stop appraising E E allowed, although bound by codes of deference, social calls, leave romance out of marriage, gambling still rampant bows and curtsies become an art, everything ceremonious visits: only for congratulations, condolence, and in uiries one another, women should not encourage a proposal and then one can still respect own values even when do not pick an ugly or a beautiful wife everyone needs a vocation, recreation is well considered and e act do not mi social classes,leaving cards is in moderation, don t drink e cessively to ill health ceremonious visits are important for social and personal translated and reissued refuse it, stop misusing superlatives such as glorious, one of the most important social customs, talking to superiors courtesy visits grow in strip away idealistic pretense or visit whore houses, don t spend advancement use calling cards raise hat and bow, three types of bows: slendid, awful, and monstrous to replace very to form or enlarge ac uaintance circle The Booke of Curtesye social importance, they to get ahead, an honest man still being printed ridiculous sums on appearance, avoid greeting, leaving, and passing wide appeal, guides those who have moved become a social duty cannot please the court as a manners guide E T S U women who paint their face up in society, to prevent embarrassment curtsy is the same as the th century when women don t thank men for their the bow and curtsy now have proper angles and feet An Estimate of the Manners and Principles of the Times courtesy, they forget their traditional first printed placement, the way it is done can be more or less polite, courtesy book courtesy, study those you wish to emulate bow on left foot because left foot is on the side of the heart, The Civile Conversation c A D ALLeSt ee Good Form in England e ASm S Essay on Conversation reverence from the heart nD St AL e oL t on T G C D C M P men doff their hat in honor and reverence for one another, the letter writing is commonplace unnatural reversal of the se es: LAceS Women At t e cAt e ne SeDGW cK way it is doffed shows whether the doffer is well bred or not vulgar women, effeminate men, English translation, cente o Soc AL L e M M praise charms and rewards scorn for pampered young men includes speech guidance, or a person to drop an h the hand kiss is fashionable, kiss hand during bow or curtsy, admired by Shakespeare men less involved, battle to enter society, women slowly Post sees the need for a sensible book with straight forward answers, salvation The Order of Chivalry of brilliant conversation of England is worse than bad form, don t be ostentatious, use do not actually put mouth on hand gentlemen distinguished by fortunate birth gain more rights, their place is still in the home proper precedential treatment for the upper class and solution for those uncertain manners and education for and god, share wealth, you have everything youth, rules for hygiene but not permanently women s roles finally really start to traditional birth right and silver or pewter evolve, they can now be more involved spoons according to station is absolute nonsense, greatest personal enrichment lies in mastering the techni ue of genuine courtesy printed translation, revives in commerce, some women begin to you may all handle silver spoons if you will, the old ideals of chivalry first salon at Hotel Rambouillet Ar't asleepe husband? speak out for women s rights anyone can rise in respectibility speak plainly so everyone can understand o n t SLe social visits reach a new e treme, daily rounds of social People who ridicule eti uette as a mass of trivial and arbitrary conventions, nobles, literary people, and brilliant women AGmonDeS Am eSe and don t use old fashioned language, The Scholemaster visits, huge desire to climb social ladder, do so with calling meet to practice the art of conversation P P e tremely troublesome to those who practise them and insupportable to everybody don t speak in a hoarse, shrill, or loud eL A et montAG cards, leave them at higher up household, if a personal call The Bazar Book of Decorum huge preoccupation with eti uette books voice, avoid unpleasant words marriage is about love, understanding, is returned one has succeeded else, seem to forget the long, slow progress of social intercourse in the upward The Boke Named The Governour new concern of decaying manners, eti uette writers and mutual respect, choose a wife on The Ladies Calling Book of Good Manners types of cards: intimate friends, which are morning love, marry an e ual in social class, blame women: invading business, athletics, new climb of man from the primeval state Conventions were established from the first teach children at home, recommends boys and girls from well off families go to visits, and ceremonious calls, which are late afternoon dowry is all important mostly Chesterfield s advice, seem friendly to your self sacrifice in the name of decorum, do liberties, young girls put on mannish airs and The Courtier, social accomplishments school, girls still learn accomplishments visits with heavy protocol, these are for formal repayment SA A ALe enemies, act unaware of improper conversation, not be outspoken, don t use ridiculous word clothes, use slang, disrespect parents and superiors to regulate the rights of the individual and the tribe They were and are the rules radically advanced for educating are important: dancing, music, rather than academics of a previous call, congratulations, condolences, or thanks bring salons to England never say belly, breast, tail, ass, etc , show respect replacements such as rooster for cock, table children, use toys and pictures, cultivate self defense is the most manly art duties of wives to husbands, first is for recent entertainment books include ruthless self appraisal, good of the game of life and must be followed if we would play the game printed translation, a virtuous life courtesy visits for congratulations, obedience, second is to be e tremely tender, for ma esty and titles limb for leg, chicken bosom for breast impression, appraise social situations correctly, their talents, teachers should be gentle bourgeoisie instantly follows suit and leads to salvation, maintain virginity condolences, or to prevent people from do not put duties on household staff keep a strict record of all ceremonial visits to keep the make the most of little opportunities develops an elegant and courteous forgetting about oneself balance and reveal when one has been slighted editor for Godey s Lady s Book, an Emily Post becomes a synonym for eti uette manner of conversation influential magazine for American taste, visits develop into more informal friendly meetings, do not repress children s natural oy but ceremonious visits are still customary for George II keeps a mistress: keeping marriage, birth, or mourning, e cessive formalities becomes an open feature of upper class English start to become unfashionable Hints on Common Politeness en enDo SeS social life, especially gambling, is the entire bow and curtsy disappear society becomes e travagant, lavish balls, wealthy career of many gentlemen, superficial pleasures, e cept for formal occasions neW LeA n nG L D A c LD scatter money for show, women overdress, French influence English, conversation frivolity, and debauchery lady bows slightly to gentleman, brings Renaissance to England, learning takes on a new certain polish and finesse intense social competition, everyone wants to be he lifts hat don t use words such as hain t, his nt, no longer ust for scribes and clerics able to look down on someone, new craze for hadn t, or ought, impolite to laugh at hand shake is accepted greeting eti uette, eti uette instruction enters the classroom own okes, monopolize conversation, or abolitionist and women s rights activist, interrupt others, don t spit on carpet or T N E undue an iety and foolish e citement out window, don t comb hair at table surrounding marriage, mothers should parental control in marriage stop e aggerating its importance is disappearing courtship involves talking , then education is necessary to be help only work for heavy em oSt walking , then keeping company more than in brides are considered a gentleman wages and light duties E pregnant on their wedding day men give women gifts or love tokens spread of democratic ideas leads revised edition, reflects new era, use cordial to growth of public education handclasp, formal bow is loosing its prestige, more choice in marriage, but with but still includes old ways, parental consent The Young Man’s Guide has been reprinted times afternoon social life of calling T do not treat women like playthings or no longer a sponteous gesture, calling cards are vital, children, seek their good will by uiet chaperon implemented, sits in parlor when charge modesty declines slightly when men and unostentatious attentions receives gentlemen and accompanies her to events begin to pad their codpieces mA eL A et S e WooD
M S U don t remind hosts of their less affluent beginnings or your own, do not make ac uaintance with strangers unless certain of their The Pocket Letter Writer respectability, avoid speaking to women in showy attire, painted face, rise of women s suffrage movement or white kid gloves, do not be outspoken or speak plainly, misuse of reissued dating becomes highly ritualized, the letter h will reveal whether someone is truly nobility, do not going steady arises attempt to argue with gentlemen about politics or finances, do not use slang, includes appopriate behavior while shopping e amples of all types of letters, including cryptogram letters with hidden messages
decline in eti uette books old standards crumbling under the impact of the automobile, prohibition, postwar euphoria, and movies co tS e oL t on bobbed hair, shorter skirts, no corsets, chaperons go away, ceremonious visit on decline, prohibition results romantic marriage is part of the American dream, husband strict courting formalities, always under in period of defiant la ness is woman s choice, American husband s attitude is different: supervision of parents or chaperon, almost reverence instead of possessive all courting takes place in the girl s home, marriage proposals are fre uently written eti uette books cover courting and engagement in minute detail
dating arises, boys start to ask girls out, not about finding a mate, but having fun women dress to outdo each other, shopping for finery becomes a pasttime
prohibition results in defiance, radical drop in female modesty proper rules for visting, a stay more than a week, included in all eti uette books rule one: make known upon arrival how many days you will stay, never complain to the mistress, only to a chambermaid, guest should leave a parting gratuity with each domestic, do not gossip about host after visit ceremonious calls are nearly obsolete, as well as the use of calling cards
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conform manners to your company, marriage is not the sole ob ect of society, men shouldn t enter flirtations, only two results: feel compelled to marry or be disgraced, don t kiss in wedding ceremony, married couples shouldn t dance together, they see each other enough in private Ame cAn mAnne S t neW LoW hastily gobbled meal becomes a Martine’s Handbook of Etiquette symbol of Americans, chewing I G tobacco and spitting rampant Encylopedia of Etiquette among men four books copied from earlier versions, wide use in noble homes to train young American ladies wear too rich and e pensive clothes in the street, bad taste, learn to be silent aristocrats, basic manners language of the Gibson before you attempt to speak, never praise absent girl, the feminine ideal ladies in the company of other ladies first book to divide manners into categories The House-Keepers Guide
The Booke of Urbanitie advice is a gift of kindness and friendship, dress in The Faerie Queen women lead assault on behavior, different what is suitable for your position, age, and city, men eti uette books published should not adorn themselves like a lady, don t smell bad revise European rules to suit American needs and sees potential of eti uette books or be perfumed like a lady, don t scratch or spit at table, one of earliest behavior The Habits of Good Society attitudes, socially ine perienced are eager to act nice sit in a seemly way, don t pick teeth with fingers epic poem, revives ideal books for servants George III and wife Charlotte steer e treme shifts in role and image of women, sells old copies of Holt s Encylopedia of Eti uette combined only associate with those of like English, books used to avoid embarassment of chivalric perfection L’Honeste Homme English court back to propriety no longer frail and demure, class of young with advertising campaign by Lillian Eichler your status, doff your cap or ma or themes: conversation, visiting, help, romance, working women emerges hood, and bow low to superiors advertising campaign is really succesfull, but book is outdated no social mi ing at balls, ball and appearance stewards guard against it, eti uette man s dimensions can be seen as soon as they five women lead the way with similar te ts speak, don t talk too much, don t talk about combination of books written to guide ignorant people The Courtiers Calling things you have little e perience in Castiglione and from embarrassment Du Refuge ADAm et e children more liberated, English The Gentleman’s Academie em L oLt R G D criticize as saucy monsters The Boke of Nurture please superiors,laugh at his okes, avoid constantly chattering, think before you let him win at games, courtier s most speak, say only what is agreeable to others, E E dating rules and e pectations valuable asset: amiable disposition, humor is important, don t only talk about deteriorate, replaced by hanging divided gentlemen into four ALe AnDe n cc oLeS it can disarm enemies at court oneself, use proper titles such as Mr and Mrs out and hooking up all children, even if nobility, manners and nine sorts first glimpses of ultramodesty, deference Lo D c eSte eLD speak in a clear and distinct tone, don t argue one s should be servants to their lord to superiors, social stratification, ladies opinions, don t monopolize the conversation, allow T C A D M W most Americans spurn English formalities resold by elson Doubleday greet with kiss on lips to e uals and others to speak, don t e aggerate and tell tales, talk E U S writings on conduct are as undemocratic in a land of e uality virtually absent cheek to inferiors about many sub ects, not ust one English condemn American manners The Babees’ Book eAD A te S o t further decline in female modesty, Brief and Pleasant Discourse first guide for seeking a wife, avoid women writes many letters to his son, Phillip of Duties in Marriage introduction of hot pants and mini skirts, with wandering eyes or a co uettish gait, cent c L t how do you do humanistic idea translated to the more period of ultramodesty, high point of inappropriate L LL An e c Le hat and gloves no longer worn in the day, you are foolish to choose a beauty how are you Louis IV measures human worth cynical, materialistic society first book to teach rules of eti uette words with word replacements such as rooster for parental advice books widely popular, post made available The Lovers Letter Writer cock, chicken bosom instead of breast, and table limb hand shake upon introduction all children, even if nobility, realistic attitudes for society to the public in manners and decorum filled with importance of charming manners, no longer inside information, for respectable husband obey wife and wife instead of leg, do not show ankles should be servants to their lord be as well with his mind as with his sword flatter women, flatter people behind their people who wish be be ac uainted with the men lift hat obey husband, women have United States Postal backs to people you know will repeat it usages of the Best Society eti uette advertising campaign souls and wit like men Service established e amples for every type of letter dating becomes less ritualized perfect courtier: urbane, attractive, rela ed, well educated, pertaining to courting and marriage Stans Puer ad Mensam well read, versatile in the arts, a sportsman, a dancer, a Etiquette your very humble servant Louis IV held the art of conversation above all other accomplishments conversationalist, and a wise statesman bow changes from taking the leg back to taking the leg conversation no longer deals with preoccupations of the priviledged elite forward, bending the upper body, two forms of bow: e treme principle of playfulness, goal was to please others, playful teasing is a skill, Master of Ceremonies in Bath, his reforms are the talk of England forward inclination, and slighter bow in passing salutation T C G The Rudiments of Genteel Behavior un uestioning obedience Henry VIII establishes Royal conversation is an art, small talk is a social grace allow others to shine, flattery is essential, encouragement to e press oneself, but women s roles are th edition printed Mail with the new position, completely re defined Institucion of a Gentleman curtsy still consists of bending the knees, two forms of curtsy: not complete sincerity at court, good conversation educates, don t discuss private mi country families with aristocracy in public, assemblies: play The Lady’s Guide to Perfect Gentility first eti uette book to deal Master of Posts M S U greeting persons of uality, and passing salutation or domestic matters, religion, or politics, games and dance, strict code of polite behavior, no aprons or swords with premarital se and not carrying a sword becomes a sign of a gentleman, cuts down on people start to spend more and e plosion in social personal letters make up of online Americans aged still kiss the hand to be really effective: looks, gestures, and facial e pression become an art as well satire of vulgarities women s liberation irrational duels more time on the internet networking popularity less than of mail 4 belong to a social network three types of gentlemen: modest and measured gait, never look L LL An e c Le handled by the post office reference book of the th century Englishman around, ladies should never show ankles, gentle gentle, gentle ungentle entrenched gentry , gather dress discreetly in one hand to keep and ungentle gentle not through lineage, true nobility: performance, not birth however tradesmen E from dragging the pavement e tremely detailed eti uette book Am AnDe Lt through knowledge, labor, and industry can not be gentlemen , concentrate on how to think, not L C A S Americans can learn what to do in all social situations gentlemen are coarse boys and girls go to petty schools to behave, learning is greatest pleasure in life: poetry, music, ceremonious visit is important for T C E and ill mannered, learn reading and writing, boys also drawing, painting, fishing, fighting, care of books, personal social advancement women should be: servant trainers, housekeepers, wives, mothers, D t mA t n dating web sites arise four out of five teens gambling is rampant go to grammar school to learn latin geometry, and cosmography A Present for an Appentice conversationalists, beautifully dressed, piano players, charitable, under Louis IV the visiting card writes her own book backed with carry a wireless device have good taste and good manners, and more, do not introduce becomes an established fashion, it comes advertising campaign, still outdated Etiquette two people who happen to be in your house at the same time, into general use, leave a calling card if N T C converse in the home, but upon leaving cease to know each other an updated guide to manners to appeal the host is absent to a younger audience than Emily Post s Ste Ano G A o condescending book starts an advice column as Miss Manners, for the middle class she responds to eti uette uestions and th edition published T Y L F writes short essays on certain problems T C C more romantic freedom, love becomes more most important influence on manners, important in marriages trained servants in short supply, they on average, american adults spend Grobianus c A D A t WA te demand high wages and more privileges first to print courtesy books courtship involved viewing from a distance, personification of the new eti uette almost 4 hours a day online new focus on importance of conversational first step toward eti uette books walking out, gift giving, and love letters ability, all good ualities don t matter if you T E G Manners and Tone of Good Society do not be haughty of birth, be skillful at English manners lag behind French: precise details: how to fold a note paper, correct way to serve yourself are a terrible conversationalist Grobianus Chesterfield s letters are published by mA on A LAnD conversation, be warry what you say, good stubborn, political turbulence, upper an olive, classes more defined, proper salutations for each, never turn satire of gross English conduct, farting, Traicté de la Cour housekeeping is a merit, not a disgrace, never play the now opinionated and intelligent conversations servants are a necessity, don t waste time on class swear an use crude language, back on superiors, hawking and spitting are unacceptable Il Galateo belching, stinking, and peeing in public his son s widow co uette, never oin in rude plays with men, stop appraising E E allowed, although bound by codes of deference, social calls, leave romance out of marriage, gambling still rampant bows and curtsies become an art, everything ceremonious visits: only for congratulations, condolence, and in uiries one another, women should not encourage a proposal and then one can still respect own values even when do not pick an ugly or a beautiful wife everyone needs a vocation, recreation is well considered and e act do not mi social classes,leaving cards is in moderation, don t drink e cessively to ill health ceremonious visits are important for social and personal translated and reissued refuse it, stop misusing superlatives such as glorious, one of the most important social customs, talking to superiors courtesy visits grow in strip away idealistic pretense or visit whore houses, don t spend advancement use calling cards raise hat and bow, three types of bows: slendid, awful, and monstrous to replace very to form or enlarge ac uaintance circle The Booke of Curtesye social importance, they to get ahead, an honest man still being printed ridiculous sums on appearance, avoid greeting, leaving, and passing wide appeal, guides those who have moved become a social duty cannot please the court as a manners guide E T S U women who paint their face up in society, to prevent embarrassment curtsy is the same as the th century when women don t thank men for their the bow and curtsy now have proper angles and feet An Estimate of the Manners and Principles of the Times courtesy, they forget their traditional first printed placement, the way it is done can be more or less polite, courtesy book courtesy, study those you wish to emulate bow on left foot because left foot is on the side of the heart, The Civile Conversation c A D ALLeSt ee Good Form in England e ASm S Essay on Conversation reverence from the heart nD St AL e oL t on T G C D C M P men doff their hat in honor and reverence for one another, the letter writing is commonplace unnatural reversal of the se es: LAceS Women At t e cAt e ne SeDGW cK way it is doffed shows whether the doffer is well bred or not vulgar women, effeminate men, English translation, cente o Soc AL L e M M praise charms and rewards scorn for pampered young men includes speech guidance, or a person to drop an h the hand kiss is fashionable, kiss hand during bow or curtsy, admired by Shakespeare men less involved, battle to enter society, women slowly Post sees the need for a sensible book with straight forward answers, salvation The Order of Chivalry of brilliant conversation of England is worse than bad form, don t be ostentatious, use do not actually put mouth on hand gentlemen distinguished by fortunate birth gain more rights, their place is still in the home proper precedential treatment for the upper class and solution for those uncertain manners and education for and god, share wealth, you have everything youth, rules for hygiene but not permanently women s roles finally really start to traditional birth right and silver or pewter evolve, they can now be more involved spoons according to station is absolute nonsense, greatest personal enrichment lies in mastering the techni ue of genuine courtesy printed translation, revives in commerce, some women begin to you may all handle silver spoons if you will, the old ideals of chivalry first salon at Hotel Rambouillet Ar't asleepe husband? speak out for women s rights anyone can rise in respectibility speak plainly so everyone can understand o n t SLe social visits reach a new e treme, daily rounds of social People who ridicule eti uette as a mass of trivial and arbitrary conventions, nobles, literary people, and brilliant women AGmonDeS Am eSe and don t use old fashioned language, The Scholemaster visits, huge desire to climb social ladder, do so with calling meet to practice the art of conversation P P e tremely troublesome to those who practise them and insupportable to everybody don t speak in a hoarse, shrill, or loud eL A et montAG cards, leave them at higher up household, if a personal call The Bazar Book of Decorum huge preoccupation with eti uette books voice, avoid unpleasant words marriage is about love, understanding, is returned one has succeeded else, seem to forget the long, slow progress of social intercourse in the upward The Boke Named The Governour new concern of decaying manners, eti uette writers and mutual respect, choose a wife on The Ladies Calling Book of Good Manners types of cards: intimate friends, which are morning love, marry an e ual in social class, blame women: invading business, athletics, new climb of man from the primeval state Conventions were established from the first teach children at home, recommends boys and girls from well off families go to visits, and ceremonious calls, which are late afternoon dowry is all important mostly Chesterfield s advice, seem friendly to your self sacrifice in the name of decorum, do liberties, young girls put on mannish airs and The Courtier, social accomplishments school, girls still learn accomplishments visits with heavy protocol, these are for formal repayment SA A ALe enemies, act unaware of improper conversation, not be outspoken, don t use ridiculous word clothes, use slang, disrespect parents and superiors to regulate the rights of the individual and the tribe They were and are the rules radically advanced for educating are important: dancing, music, rather than academics of a previous call, congratulations, condolences, or thanks bring salons to England never say belly, breast, tail, ass, etc , show respect replacements such as rooster for cock, table children, use toys and pictures, cultivate self defense is the most manly art duties of wives to husbands, first is for recent entertainment books include ruthless self appraisal, good of the game of life and must be followed if we would play the game printed translation, a virtuous life courtesy visits for congratulations, obedience, second is to be e tremely tender, for ma esty and titles limb for leg, chicken bosom for breast impression, appraise social situations correctly, their talents, teachers should be gentle bourgeoisie instantly follows suit and leads to salvation, maintain virginity condolences, or to prevent people from do not put duties on household staff keep a strict record of all ceremonial visits to keep the make the most of little opportunities develops an elegant and courteous forgetting about oneself balance and reveal when one has been slighted editor for Godey s Lady s Book, an Emily Post becomes a synonym for eti uette manner of conversation influential magazine for American taste, visits develop into more informal friendly meetings, do not repress children s natural oy but ceremonious visits are still customary for George II keeps a mistress: keeping marriage, birth, or mourning, e cessive formalities becomes an open feature of upper class English start to become unfashionable Hints on Common Politeness en enDo SeS social life, especially gambling, is the entire bow and curtsy disappear society becomes e travagant, lavish balls, wealthy career of many gentlemen, superficial pleasures, e cept for formal occasions neW LeA n nG L D A c LD scatter money for show, women overdress, French influence English, conversation frivolity, and debauchery lady bows slightly to gentleman, brings Renaissance to England, learning takes on a new certain polish and finesse intense social competition, everyone wants to be he lifts hat don t use words such as hain t, his nt, no longer ust for scribes and clerics able to look down on someone, new craze for hadn t, or ought, impolite to laugh at hand shake is accepted greeting eti uette, eti uette instruction enters the classroom own okes, monopolize conversation, or abolitionist and women s rights activist, interrupt others, don t spit on carpet or T N E undue an iety and foolish e citement out window, don t comb hair at table surrounding marriage, mothers should parental control in marriage stop e aggerating its importance is disappearing courtship involves talking , then education is necessary to be help only work for heavy em oSt walking , then keeping company more than in brides are considered a gentleman wages and light duties E pregnant on their wedding day men give women gifts or love tokens spread of democratic ideas leads revised edition, reflects new era, use cordial to growth of public education handclasp, formal bow is loosing its prestige, more choice in marriage, but with but still includes old ways, parental consent The Young Man’s Guide has been reprinted times afternoon social life of calling T do not treat women like playthings or no longer a sponteous gesture, calling cards are vital, children, seek their good will by uiet chaperon implemented, sits in parlor when charge modesty declines slightly when men and unostentatious attentions receives gentlemen and accompanies her to events begin to pad their codpieces mA eL A et S e WooD
M S U don t remind hosts of their less affluent beginnings or your own, do not make ac uaintance with strangers unless certain of their The Pocket Letter Writer respectability, avoid speaking to women in showy attire, painted face, rise of women s suffrage movement or white kid gloves, do not be outspoken or speak plainly, misuse of reissued dating becomes highly ritualized, the letter h will reveal whether someone is truly nobility, do not going steady arises attempt to argue with gentlemen about politics or finances, do not use slang, includes appopriate behavior while shopping e amples of all types of letters, including cryptogram letters with hidden messages
decline in eti uette books old standards crumbling under the impact of the automobile, prohibition, postwar euphoria, and movies co tS e oL t on bobbed hair, shorter skirts, no corsets, chaperons go away, ceremonious visit on decline, prohibition results romantic marriage is part of the American dream, husband strict courting formalities, always under in period of defiant la ness is woman s choice, American husband s attitude is different: supervision of parents or chaperon, almost reverence instead of possessive all courting takes place in the girl s home, marriage proposals are fre uently written eti uette books cover courting and engagement in minute detail
dating arises, boys start to ask girls out, not about finding a mate, but having fun
women dress to outdo each other, shopping for finery becomes a pasttime
prohibition results in defiance, radical drop in female modesty proper rules for visting, a stay more than a week, included in all eti uette books rule one: make known upon arrival how many days you will stay, never complain to the mistress, only to a chambermaid, guest should leave a parting gratuity with each domestic, do not gossip about host after visit ceremonious calls are nearly obsolete, as well as the use of calling cards
Americans use the word help instead of servant, many look down on domestic service as worse than ab ect poverty, many women become seamstresses instead, help shortage G teo S mAn co t e GentLemAn mAnne S co teS et ette
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conform manners to your company, marriage is not the sole ob ect of society, men shouldn t enter flirtations, only two results: feel compelled to marry or be disgraced, don t kiss in wedding ceremony, married couples shouldn t dance together, they see each other enough in private Ame cAn mAnne S t neW LoW hastily gobbled meal becomes a Martine’s Handbook of Etiquette symbol of Americans, chewing I G tobacco and spitting rampant Encylopedia of Etiquette among men four books copied from earlier versions, wide use in noble homes to train young American ladies wear too rich and e pensive clothes in the street, bad taste, learn to be silent aristocrats, basic manners language of the Gibson before you attempt to speak, never praise absent girl, the feminine ideal ladies in the company of other ladies Bible begins first book to divide manners into categories The House-Keepers Guide being assembled The Booke of Urbanitie advice is a gift of kindness and friendship, dress in The Faerie Queen women lead assault on behavior, different what is suitable for your position, age, and city, men eti uette books published E should not adorn themselves like a lady, don t smell bad revise European rules to suit American needs and sees potential of eti uette books or be perfumed like a lady, don t scratch or spit at table, one of earliest behavior The Habits of Good Society attitudes, socially ine perienced are eager to act nice sit in a seemly way, don t pick teeth with fingers epic poem, revives ideal books for servants George III and wife Charlotte steer e treme shifts in role and image of women, sells old copies of Holt s Encylopedia of Eti uette combined only associate with those of like English, books used to avoid embarassment of chivalric perfection L’Honeste Homme English court back to propriety no longer frail and demure, class of young with advertising campaign by Lillian Eichler your status, doff your cap or ma or themes: conversation, visiting, help, romance, working women emerges hood, and bow low to superiors advertising campaign is really succesfull, but book is outdated Sumerians create cuneiform, the the lord be with you no social mi ing at balls, ball and appearance man s dimensions can be seen as soon as they earliest known system of writing the lord bless thee stewards guard against it, eti uette five women lead the way with similar te ts speak, don t talk too much, don t talk about shalom peace combination of books written to guide ignorant people The Courtiers Calling things you have little e perience in Castiglione and from embarrassment A T C Du Refuge ADAm et e first discussion of table manners children more liberated, English The Gentleman’s Academie R G D em L oLt The Boke of Nurture criticize as saucy monsters please superiors,laugh at his okes, avoid constantly chattering, think before you let him win at games, courtier s most speak, say only what is agreeable to others, E E dating rules and e pectations Egyptian hieroglyphs develop Phoenician alphabet develops as a descendant do not be greedy, hosts be liberal with meat and food, valuable asset: amiable disposition, humor is important, don t only talk about deteriorate, replaced by hanging shortly after cuneiform of Egyptian hieroglyphs, becomes one of the writing letters is common, but don t put yourself above your guests, speech is the trial divided gentlemen into four it can disarm enemies at court oneself, use proper titles such as Mr and Mrs out and hooking up most widely used writing systems ALe AnDe n cc oLeS most communication is oral one of the earliest writings on civility all children, even if nobility, manners and nine sorts first glimpses of ultramodesty, deference Lo D c eSte eLD speak in a clear and distinct tone, don t argue one s of men wisdom of silence, scold and warn babblers, should be servants to their lord to superiors, social stratification, ladies opinions, don t monopolize the conversation, allow aleph o do not tell secrets or boast, women shouldn t walk fast, sit with legs T C A D M W most Americans spurn English formalities resold by elson Doubleday greet with kiss on lips to e uals and others to speak, don t e aggerate and tell tales, talk E U S beth house kneel on one knee, palm to palm hands to crossed, ride a horse astride, or display a roving eye, women should be writings on conduct are as undemocratic in a land of e uality avoid superiors, avoid drunks, gadders gossipers , cheek to inferiors about many sub ects, not ust one lord, lord covers hands with his own less articulate then men, women should be charming, decorative, and virtually absent English condemn American manners promiscuous people, and women who control money bow refers to bowing the knees, only touch easy to manage, don t eat bread before the first dish is served, don t speak with your mouth full, don t take the choicest pieces first, some The Babees’ Book eAD A te S o t further decline in female modesty, emphasis on speech, think before the knee fully to the ground for royalty or Brief and Pleasant Discourse first guide for seeking a wife, avoid women writes many letters to his son, Phillip T I P free socializing indoors formal distance outdoors of Duties in Marriage introduction of hot pants and mini skirts, speaking or don t speak at all nobility, doff the hat while bowing with wandering eyes or a co uettish gait, cent c L t how do you do Soc AteS humanistic idea translated to the more period of ultramodesty, high point of inappropriate L LL An e c Le hat and gloves no longer worn in the day, you are foolish to choose a beauty how are you women curtsy, like men s bow, e cept on Louis IV measures human worth cynical, materialistic society first book to teach rules of eti uette words with word replacements such as rooster for LAto parental advice books widely popular, post made available The Lovers Letter Writer both knees with feet together, doff the hood cock, chicken bosom instead of breast, and table limb hand shake upon introduction Greek alphabet develops from A StotLe all children, even if nobility, realistic attitudes for society to the public in manners and decorum filled with importance of charming manners, no longer inside information, for respectable Phoenician alphabet should be servants to their lord husband obey wife and wife people who wish be be ac uainted with the instead of leg, do not show ankles men lift hat be as well with his mind as with his sword flatter women, flatter people behind their United States Postal obey husband, women have usages of the Best Society α alpha backs to people you know will repeat it Service established eti uette advertising campaign marriages are arranged first manners book souls and wit like men β beta e amples for every type of letter dating becomes less ritualized perfect courtier: urbane, attractive, rela ed, well educated, parents should teach by e ample, avoid offending pertaining to courting and marriage write about conduct Ecclesiasticus relegated sir, god you keep Stans Puer ad Mensam superiors, flatter a superior by laughing at his okes, do Se o e DAL Sm well read, versatile in the arts, a sportsman, a dancer, a Etiquette to the Apocrypha sir, ye be welcome your very humble servant Louis IV held the art of conversation above all other accomplishments not boast wealth, hold one s tongue speech is the most respect elders, AnD Kn G t ooD Canterbury Tales in these greetings, sir can be replaced by ye lady, conversationalist, and a wise statesman difficult craft, speak only after careful reflection, show lead by e ample D C bow changes from taking the leg back to taking the leg conversation no longer deals with preoccupations of the priviledged elite your wife and friends affection and care, always have ye damoiselle, fellow, or friend knight is a symbol of aggressive masculinity, chivalric forward, bending the upper body, two forms of bow: e treme principle of playfulness, goal was to please others, playful teasing is a skill, Master of Ceremonies in Bath, his reforms are the talk of England o G n o Do nG t e At a gracious manner and happy disposition code invented to make knights keep their word, pledge forward inclination, and slighter bow in passing salutation T C G The Rudiments of Genteel Behavior men bow and women curtsy, doff the hat or hood un uestioning obedience Henry VIII establishes Royal conversation is an art, small talk is a social grace allow others to shine, flattery is essential, encouragement to e press oneself, but women s roles are th edition printed to love, honor, and obey talks of manners, strip captives naked to show their sub ugation, nakedness Mail with the new position, Institucion of a Gentleman The Lady’s Guide to Perfect Gentility completely re defined Latin alphabet develops as a a kiss is used as a greeting between all, handclasp Hebrew household curtsy still consists of bending the knees, two forms of curtsy: not complete sincerity at court, good conversation educates, don t discuss private mi country families with aristocracy in public, assemblies: play first eti uette book to deal St G eet nG eSt onS LeAD mA AGe o G n eD cAt on S t nG becomes a form of obeisance, over time it is restricted to chivalry concealed a code of debased immorality, illicit mentions Cato Master of Posts M S U descendant of Greek alphabet is not a common form of greeting, it is used as a manuals start to become greeting persons of uality, and passing salutation or domestic matters, religion, or politics, games and dance, strict code of polite behavior, no aprons or swords with premarital se and to con e SAt on only upper body and eventually ust the hat kneel and bow to superiors love was encouraged and often re uired, a knight s people start to spend more and e plosion in social personal letters make up of online Americans aged encountering a stranger, suspicion and starts as pairing system, man picks whoever he education spread through oral traditions such as visitings originated to pay homage to the Strong pledge or honor common in Jewish homes not carrying a sword becomes a sign of a gentleman, cuts down on women s liberation A D M F obligation as a lover was to his lady, not his wife still kiss the hand to be really effective: looks, gestures, and facial e pression become an art as well satire of vulgarities more time on the internet networking popularity less than of mail 4 belong to a social network curiosity leads humans to ask each other these greetings lead to more uestions and wants, courtship is brief and rude, many of the stories, legends, folklore, rituals, and songs Man , the Wise Man , the king, etc , to give Ma ims of Cato still taught in monasteries, irrational duels B c ce o handled by the post office uestions, precursor to how do you do answers which results in conversation first marriages were by capture of women from gifts in order to win approval, evolves into the monk enlarges the manuscript three types of gentlemen: modest and measured gait, never look L LL An e c Le neighboring tribes ceremonial visit to superiors reference book of the th century Englishman around, ladies should never show ankles, D O gentle gentle, gentle ungentle entrenched gentry , gather dress discreetly in one hand to keep when visiting neighboring tribes, yell or build a fire and ungentle gentle not through lineage, true nobility: performance, not birth however tradesmen E Documenti d’Amore from dragging the pavement e tremely detailed eti uette book Am AnDe Lt to warn people of arivall, shows one is not trying through knowledge, labor, and industry can not be gentlemen , concentrate on how to think, not L C A S Americans can learn what to do in all social situations to sneak up, precusor to visiting cards still focus on holding one s tongue, couple s consent to marry is important concern with art of letter writing gentlemen are coarse boys and girls go to petty schools to behave, learning is greatest pleasure in life: poetry, music, ceremonious visit is important for T C E e o e W t nG only upper class boys are educated, don t speak without thinking, one is to the Roman Catholic church spurns many works on proper and ill mannered, learn reading and writing, boys also drawing, painting, fishing, fighting, care of books, personal social advancement women should be: servant trainers, housekeepers, wives, mothers, clasp knees of superiors honor and conduct D t mA t n dating web sites arise four out of five teens AnDS AKe o G n education only to become a scribe udged by what they say, don t speak form and composition gambling is rampant go to grammar school to learn latin geometry, and cosmography A Present for an Appentice conversationalists, beautifully dressed, piano players, charitable, draw symbols and pictures on cave Disticha Catonis continues to be elegant behavior, defer under Louis IV the visiting card writes her own book backed with carry a wireless device too much, don t uarrel or lie have good taste and good manners, and more, do not introduce empty hand to show unarmed, clasp hands walls, precursor to pictographic writing rewritten, copied, and translated, to ladies, help women Book of the Knight of La Tour-Landry becomes an established fashion, it comes advertising campaign, still outdated Etiquette first postal system two people who happen to be in your house at the same time, so neither can uickly grab their weapon disperses across Europe with everything Ma ims of Cato into general use, leave a calling card if N T C an updated guide to manners to appeal Persian ueen, Atossa, possibly the converse in the home, but upon leaving cease to know each other e tending the right hand, or weapon hand, the host is absent to a younger audience than Emily Post s first to write a letter on paper Ste Ano G A o condescending book starts an advice column as Miss Manners, becomes a sign of goodwill common sense advice ceremonial visits: vassals must for the middle class she responds to eti uette uestions and women are either daughters of father, greeting: be well human messengers on foot visit suzerians, who must visit do s and dont s for women, eyes on the T Y L F th edition published T C C more romantic freedom, love becomes more writes short essays on certain problems or wives of husband, not individuals farewell: be strong and horseback are common lords, who must visit the king to ground, women should be completely most important influence on manners, women are taught to obey men and important in marriages trained servants in short supply, they pay homage and respect submissive to their husband on average, american adults spend a kiss of welcome, clasp right hand their only function in life is to marry Grobianus c A D A t WA te demand high wages and more privileges e o eAn nceS S t first to print courtesy books courtship involved viewing from a distance, personification of the new eti uette almost 4 hours a day online in friendship or to pledge honor and bear children, women are sub ects new focus on importance of conversational first step toward eti uette books walking out, gift giving, and love letters to their husbands, poor women work in conStAnt no Le D nG c SADeS ability, all good ualities don t matter if you T E G Manners and Tone of Good Society Il Tesoretto do not be haughty of birth, be skillful at English manners lag behind French: precise details: how to fold a note paper, correct way to serve yourself fields doing manual labor with men, are a terrible conversationalist Grobianus Chesterfield s letters are published by mA on A LAnD Byzantine influence, Judeo Christian ethics influence conversation, be warry what you say, good stubborn, political turbulence, upper an olive, classes more defined, proper salutations for each, never turn only other options are to be a maid, satire of gross English conduct, farting, Traicté de la Cour housekeeping is a merit, not a disgrace, never play the now opinionated and intelligent conversations servants are a necessity, don t waste time on class swear an use crude language, back on superiors, hawking and spitting are unacceptable Il Galateo servant, or nun court life grows in sophistication and cermony belching, stinking, and peeing in public his son s widow co uette, never oin in rude plays with men, stop appraising E E education for specific trades, education path Aristotle teaches that Le Menagier de Paris allowed, although bound by codes of deference, social calls, leave romance out of marriage, gambling still rampant bows and curtsies become an art, everything ceremonious visits: only for congratulations, condolence, and in uiries one another, women should not encourage a proposal and then determined by father s position, highest level words bind souls together superior born are esteemed one can still respect own values even when do not pick an ugly or a beautiful wife everyone needs a vocation, recreation is well considered and e act do not mi social classes,leaving cards is women are inferior, no real higher, avoid superiors, in moderation, don t drink e cessively to ill health ceremonious visits are important for social and personal translated and reissued refuse it, stop misusing superlatives such as glorious, one of the most important social customs, of education is in ethics and morality as bureaucracy grows and kingdoms talking to superiors courtesy visits grow in strip away idealistic pretense status, property of husbands heed what you say or visit whore houses, don t spend advancement use calling cards raise hat and bow, three types of bows: slendid, awful, and monstrous to replace very to form or enlarge ac uaintance circle e pand, the importance of letters as a The Booke of Curtesye social importance, they to get ahead, an honest man still being printed ridiculous sums on appearance, avoid greeting, leaving, and passing wide appeal, guides those who have moved D E R means of communication rises become a social duty cannot please the court as a manners guide E T S U household manual, good servants women who paint their face up in society, to prevent embarrassment now men sometimes have the curtsy is the same as the th century letter writing is still confined to political are vital, watch for fleas, guard option to choose their wife when women don t thank men for their and ecclesiastical discourse only knighthood is corrupt, outright young girls, wife must be patient, the bow and curtsy now have proper angles and feet An Estimate of the Manners and Principles of the Times courtesy, they forget their traditional brigandry, many oin crusades and care for husband first printed placement, the way it is done can be more or less polite, Egypt is acception to other ancient schools are cheap enough for even sending letters is e pensive and unreliable, courtesy book courtesy, study those you wish to emulate for adventure and loot bow on left foot because left foot is on the side of the heart, The Civile Conversation c A D ALLeSt ee Good Form in England civilizations, women have e ual poor to attend, only boys go to school must hire a messenger to carry it e ASm S Essay on Conversation Amon L LL reverence from the heart nD St AL e oL t on rights with men reorganization of Hebrew law, section of the Talmud T G C cAt e ne SeDGW cK devoted to manners and conduct, very specific rules D C M P men doff their hat in honor and reverence for one another, the letter writing is commonplace unnatural reversal of the se es: LAceS Women At t e education mostly T O C way it is doffed shows whether the doffer is well bred or not vulgar women, effeminate men, cente o Soc AL L e respect for elders is law, give your right side in deference in monasteries English translation, M M praise charms and rewards scorn for pampered young men includes speech guidance, or a person to drop an h to superiors, treat women with utmost tenderness, break the hand kiss is fashionable, kiss hand during bow or curtsy, admired by Shakespeare men less involved, battle to enter society, women slowly Post sees the need for a sensible book with straight forward answers, salvation The Order of Chivalry of brilliant conversation of England is worse than bad form, don t be ostentatious, use off bread, don t lick fingers or belch, do not gulp wine, do not actually put mouth on hand gentlemen distinguished by fortunate birth gain more rights, their place is still in the home proper precedential treatment for the upper class and solution for those uncertain don t eat food that causes bad breath, , cover your mouth manners and education for and god, share wealth, you have everything protect the order of chivalry from when yawning youth, rules for hygiene but not permanently disgrace, do not commit petty crime women s roles finally really start to traditional birth right and silver or pewter evolve, they can now be more involved spoons according to station is absolute nonsense, greatest personal enrichment lies in mastering the techni ue of genuine courtesy printed translation, revives in commerce, some women begin to you may all handle silver spoons if you will, the old ideals of chivalry first salon at Hotel Rambouillet Ar't asleepe husband? speak out for women s rights anyone can rise in respectibility speak plainly so everyone can understand o n t SLe social visits reach a new e treme, daily rounds of social People who ridicule eti uette as a mass of trivial and arbitrary conventions, nobles, literary people, and brilliant women AGmonDeS Am eSe and don t use old fashioned language, The Scholemaster visits, huge desire to climb social ladder, do so with calling meet to practice the art of conversation P P e tremely troublesome to those who practise them and insupportable to everybody don t speak in a hoarse, shrill, or loud eL A et montAG cards, leave them at higher up household, if a personal call The Bazar Book of Decorum huge preoccupation with eti uette books voice, avoid unpleasant words marriage is about love, understanding, is returned one has succeeded else, seem to forget the long, slow progress of social intercourse in the upward women still controlled by parents until The Boke Named The Governour new concern of decaying manners, eti uette writers and mutual respect, choose a wife on The Ladies Calling face to the ground in front of superiors, Book of Good Manners types of cards: intimate friends, which are morning married, then controlled by husband, love, marry an e ual in social class, blame women: invading business, athletics, new climb of man from the primeval state Conventions were established from the first bow and clasp their knees or feet bow and kiss the teach children at home, recommends boys and girls from well off families go to visits, and ceremonious calls, which are late afternoon first duty is housewife, peasant women dowry is all important mostly Chesterfield s advice, seem friendly to your self sacrifice in the name of decorum, do liberties, young girls put on mannish airs and hand of the emperor The Courtier, social accomplishments school, girls still learn accomplishments visits with heavy protocol, these are for formal repayment SA A ALe still work in the fields with men enemies, act unaware of improper conversation, not be outspoken, don t use ridiculous word clothes, use slang, disrespect parents and superiors to regulate the rights of the individual and the tribe They were and are the rules radically advanced for educating are important: dancing, music, rather than academics of a previous call, congratulations, condolences, or thanks bring salons to England never say belly, breast, tail, ass, etc , show respect replacements such as rooster for cock, table children, use toys and pictures, cultivate self defense is the most manly art duties of wives to husbands, first is for recent entertainment books include ruthless self appraisal, good of the game of life and must be followed if we would play the game printed translation, a virtuous life courtesy visits for congratulations, obedience, second is to be e tremely tender, for ma esty and titles limb for leg, chicken bosom for breast impression, appraise social situations correctly, their talents, teachers should be gentle bourgeoisie instantly follows suit and leads to salvation, maintain virginity condolences, or to prevent people from do not put duties on household staff keep a strict record of all ceremonial visits to keep the make the most of little opportunities develops an elegant and courteous a kiss is the usual greeting between forgetting about oneself balance and reveal when one has been slighted editor for Godey s Lady s Book, an Emily Post becomes a synonym for eti uette manner of conversation everyone as a sign of friendship e tend right hand as pledge influential magazine for American taste, of honor and friendship visits develop into more informal friendly meetings, do not repress children s natural oy but ceremonious visits are still customary for George II keeps a mistress: keeping marriage, birth, or mourning, e cessive formalities becomes an open feature of upper class English start to become unfashionable Governing of a Family Hints on Common Politeness en enDo SeS social life, especially gambling, is the entire bow and curtsy disappear society becomes e travagant, lavish balls, wealthy career of many gentlemen, superficial pleasures, e cept for formal occasions wealthy boys attend school, poor neW LeA n nG L D A c LD scatter money for show, women overdress, Roman postal service arises still learn to read and write French influence English, conversation frivolity, and debauchery lady bows slightly to gentleman, brings Renaissance to England, learning takes on a new certain polish and finesse intense social competition, everyone wants to be eat with family, women he lifts hat don t use words such as hain t, his nt, no longer ust for scribes and clerics able to look down on someone, new craze for should teach their servants, hadn t, or ought, impolite to laugh at hand shake is accepted greeting eti uette, eti uette instruction enters the classroom dog for a burglar alarm own okes, monopolize conversation, or abolitionist and women s rights activist, interrupt others, don t spit on carpet or T N E undue an iety and foolish e citement out window, don t comb hair at table surrounding marriage, mothers should parental control in marriage stop e aggerating its importance is disappearing courtship involves talking , then education is necessary to be help only work for heavy em oSt walking , then keeping company more than in brides are considered a gentleman wages and light duties E pregnant on their wedding day revised edition, reflects new era, use cordial Dialogue on Civil Life men give women gifts or love tokens spread of democratic ideas leads to growth of public education handclasp, formal bow is loosing its prestige, more choice in marriage, but with but still includes old ways, parental consent The Young Man’s Guide has been reprinted times don t punish children physically, revoke priviledges afternoon social life of calling T do not treat women like playthings or no longer a sponteous gesture, calling cards are vital, children, seek their good will by uiet chaperon implemented, sits in parlor when charge modesty declines slightly when men and unostentatious attentions receives gentlemen and accompanies her to events begin to pad their codpieces mA eL A et S e WooD
M S U don t remind hosts of their less affluent beginnings or your own, do not make ac uaintance with strangers unless certain of their The Pocket Letter Writer respectability, avoid speaking to women in showy attire, painted face, rise of women s suffrage movement or white kid gloves, do not be outspoken or speak plainly, misuse of reissued dating becomes highly ritualized, the letter h will reveal whether someone is truly nobility, do not going steady arises attempt to argue with gentlemen about politics or finances, do not use slang, includes appopriate behavior while shopping e amples of all types of letters, including cryptogram letters with hidden messages decline in eti uette books old standards crumbling under the impact of the automobile, prohibition, postwar euphoria, and movies co tS e oL t on bobbed hair, shorter skirts, no corsets, chaperons go away, ceremonious visit on decline, prohibition results romantic marriage is part of the American dream, husband strict courting formalities, always under in period of defiant la ness is woman s choice, American husband s attitude is different: supervision of parents or chaperon, almost reverence instead of possessive all courting takes place in the girl s home, marriage proposals are fre uently written eti uette books cover courting and engagement in minute detail
dating arises, boys start to ask girls out, not about finding a mate, but having fun
women dress to outdo each other, shopping for finery becomes a pasttime
prohibition results in defiance, radical drop in female modesty proper rules for visting, a stay more than a week, included in all eti uette books rule one: make known upon arrival how many days you will stay, never complain to the mistress, only to a chambermaid, guest should leave a parting gratuity with each domestic, do not gossip about host after visit ceremonious calls are nearly obsolete, as well as the use of calling cards
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only associate with those of your status, doff your cap or Sumerians create cuneiform, the the lord be with you hood, and bow low to superiors earliest known system of writing the lord bless thee shalom peace A T C first discussion of table manners The Boke of Nurture Egyptian hieroglyphs develop Phoenician alphabet develops as a descendant do not be greedy, hosts be liberal with meat and food, shortly after cuneiform of Egyptian hieroglyphs, becomes one of the writing letters is common, but don t put yourself above your guests, speech is the trial most widely used writing systems most communication is oral one of the earliest writings on civility all children, even if nobility, of men wisdom of silence, scold and warn babblers, should be servants to their lord aleph o do not tell secrets or boast, women shouldn t walk fast, sit with legs beth house avoid superiors, avoid drunks, gadders gossipers , kneel on one knee, palm to palm hands to crossed, ride a horse astride, or display a roving eye, women should be lord, lord covers hands with his own less articulate then men, women should be charming, decorative, and promiscuous people, and women who control money bow refers to bowing the knees, only touch easy to manage, don t eat bread before the first dish is served, don t speak with your mouth full, don t take the choicest pieces first, some The Babees’ Book emphasis on speech, think before the knee fully to the ground for royalty or T I P free socializing indoors formal distance outdoors speaking or don t speak at all Soc AteS nobility, doff the hat while bowing LAto women curtsy, like men s bow, e cept on both knees with feet together, doff the hood Greek alphabet develops from A StotLe all children, even if nobility, Phoenician alphabet should be servants to their lord α alpha marriages are arranged first manners book β beta parents should teach by e ample, avoid offending superiors, flatter a superior by laughing at his okes, do write about conduct Ecclesiasticus relegated sir, god you keep Se o e DAL Sm Stans Puer ad Mensam to the Apocrypha sir, ye be welcome not boast wealth, hold one s tongue speech is the most respect elders, AnD Kn G t ooD Canterbury Tales in these greetings, sir can be replaced by ye lady, difficult craft, speak only after careful reflection, show lead by e ample D C your wife and friends affection and care, always have ye damoiselle, fellow, or friend knight is a symbol of aggressive masculinity, chivalric o G n o Do nG t e At a gracious manner and happy disposition code invented to make knights keep their word, pledge men bow and women curtsy, doff the hat or hood to love, honor, and obey un uestioning obedience strip captives naked to show their sub ugation, nakedness talks of manners, Latin alphabet develops as a a kiss is used as a greeting between all, handclasp Hebrew household St G eet nG eSt onS LeAD mA AGe o G n eD cAt on S t nG becomes a form of obeisance, over time it is restricted to chivalry concealed a code of debased immorality, illicit mentions Cato descendant of Greek alphabet is not a common form of greeting, it is used as a manuals start to become to con e SAt on only upper body and eventually ust the hat kneel and bow to superiors love was encouraged and often re uired, a knight s encountering a stranger, suspicion and starts as pairing system, man picks whoever he education spread through oral traditions such as visitings originated to pay homage to the Strong pledge or honor common in Jewish homes A D M F obligation as a lover was to his lady, not his wife curiosity leads humans to ask each other these greetings lead to more uestions and wants, courtship is brief and rude, many of the stories, legends, folklore, rituals, and songs Man , the Wise Man , the king, etc , to give Ma ims of Cato still taught in monasteries, B c ce o uestions, precursor to how do you do answers which results in conversation first marriages were by capture of women from gifts in order to win approval, evolves into the monk enlarges the manuscript neighboring tribes ceremonial visit to superiors D O when visiting neighboring tribes, yell or build a fire Documenti d’Amore to warn people of arivall, shows one is not trying to sneak up, precusor to visiting cards still focus on holding one s tongue, couple s consent to marry is important concern with art of letter writing e o e W t nG only upper class boys are educated, don t speak without thinking, one is to the Roman Catholic church spurns many works on proper clasp knees of superiors honor and conduct AnDS AKe o G n education only to become a scribe udged by what they say, don t speak form and composition draw symbols and pictures on cave Disticha Catonis continues to be elegant behavior, defer empty hand to show unarmed, clasp hands too much, don t uarrel or lie rewritten, copied, and translated, to ladies, help women walls, precursor to pictographic writing first postal system Book of the Knight of La Tour-Landry so neither can uickly grab their weapon Ma ims of Cato disperses across Europe with everything Persian ueen, Atossa, possibly the e tending the right hand, or weapon hand, first to write a letter on paper becomes a sign of goodwill common sense advice ceremonial visits: vassals must women are either daughters of father, greeting: be well human messengers on foot visit suzerians, who must visit do s and dont s for women, eyes on the or wives of husband, not individuals farewell: be strong and horseback are common ground, women should be completely women are taught to obey men and lords, who must visit the king to submissive to their husband a kiss of welcome, clasp right hand their only function in life is to marry pay homage and respect first to print courtesy books in friendship or to pledge honor and bear children, women are sub ects e o eAn nceS S t to their husbands, poor women work in conStAnt no Le D nG c SADeS Il Tesoretto fields doing manual labor with men, Byzantine influence, Judeo Christian ethics influence only other options are to be a maid, servant, or nun court life grows in sophistication and cermony education for specific trades, education path Aristotle teaches that Le Menagier de Paris determined by father s position, highest level words bind souls together superior born are esteemed women are inferior, no real of education is in ethics and morality higher, avoid superiors, status, property of husbands as bureaucracy grows and kingdoms heed what you say The Booke of Curtesye D E R e pand, the importance of letters as a means of communication rises household manual, good servants now men sometimes have the letter writing is still confined to political are vital, watch for fleas, guard option to choose their wife and ecclesiastical discourse only knighthood is corrupt, outright young girls, wife must be patient, brigandry, many oin crusades and care for husband first printed Egypt is acception to other ancient schools are cheap enough for even sending letters is e pensive and unreliable, for adventure and loot courtesy book civilizations, women have e ual poor to attend, only boys go to school must hire a messenger to carry it rights with men reorganization of Hebrew law, section of the Talmud Amon L LL devoted to manners and conduct, very specific rules education mostly T O C respect for elders is law, give your right side in deference in monasteries to superiors, treat women with utmost tenderness, break The Order of Chivalry off bread, don t lick fingers or belch, do not gulp wine, don t eat food that causes bad breath, , cover your mouth protect the order of chivalry from when yawning disgrace, do not commit petty crime printed translation, revives the old ideals of chivalry
women still controlled by parents until face to the ground in front of superiors, married, then controlled by husband, Book of Good Manners bow and kiss the bow and clasp their knees or feet first duty is housewife, peasant women hand of the emperor still work in the fields with men
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only associate with those of your status, doff your cap or Sumerians create cuneiform, the the lord be with you hood, and bow low to superiors earliest known system of writing the lord bless thee shalom peace A T C first discussion of table manners The Boke of Nurture Egyptian hieroglyphs develop Phoenician alphabet develops as a descendant do not be greedy, hosts be liberal with meat and food, shortly after cuneiform of Egyptian hieroglyphs, becomes one of the writing letters is common, but don t put yourself above your guests, speech is the trial most widely used writing systems most communication is oral one of the earliest writings on civility all children, even if nobility, of men wisdom of silence, scold and warn babblers, should be servants to their lord aleph o do not tell secrets or boast, women shouldn t walk fast, sit with legs beth house avoid superiors, avoid drunks, gadders gossipers , kneel on one knee, palm to palm hands to crossed, ride a horse astride, or display a roving eye, women should be lord, lord covers hands with his own less articulate then men, women should be charming, decorative, and promiscuous people, and women who control money bow refers to bowing the knees, only touch easy to manage, don t eat bread before the first dish is served, don t speak with your mouth full, don t take the choicest pieces first, some The Babees’ Book emphasis on speech, think before the knee fully to the ground for royalty or T I P free socializing indoors formal distance outdoors speaking or don t speak at all Soc AteS nobility, doff the hat while bowing LAto women curtsy, like men s bow, e cept on both knees with feet together, doff the hood Greek alphabet develops from A StotLe all children, even if nobility, Phoenician alphabet should be servants to their lord α alpha marriages are arranged first manners book β beta parents should teach by e ample, avoid offending superiors, flatter a superior by laughing at his okes, do write about conduct Ecclesiasticus relegated sir, god you keep Se o e DAL Sm Stans Puer ad Mensam to the Apocrypha sir, ye be welcome not boast wealth, hold one s tongue speech is the most respect elders, AnD Kn G t ooD Canterbury Tales in these greetings, sir can be replaced by ye lady, difficult craft, speak only after careful reflection, show lead by e ample D C your wife and friends affection and care, always have ye damoiselle, fellow, or friend knight is a symbol of aggressive masculinity, chivalric o G n o Do nG t e At a gracious manner and happy disposition code invented to make knights keep their word, pledge men bow and women curtsy, doff the hat or hood to love, honor, and obey un uestioning obedience strip captives naked to show their sub ugation, nakedness talks of manners, Latin alphabet develops as a a kiss is used as a greeting between all, handclasp Hebrew household St G eet nG eSt onS LeAD mA AGe o G n eD cAt on S t nG becomes a form of obeisance, over time it is restricted to chivalry concealed a code of debased immorality, illicit mentions Cato descendant of Greek alphabet is not a common form of greeting, it is used as a manuals start to become to con e SAt on only upper body and eventually ust the hat kneel and bow to superiors love was encouraged and often re uired, a knight s encountering a stranger, suspicion and starts as pairing system, man picks whoever he education spread through oral traditions such as visitings originated to pay homage to the Strong pledge or honor common in Jewish homes A D M F obligation as a lover was to his lady, not his wife curiosity leads humans to ask each other these greetings lead to more uestions and wants, courtship is brief and rude, many of the stories, legends, folklore, rituals, and songs Man , the Wise Man , the king, etc , to give Ma ims of Cato still taught in monasteries, B c ce o uestions, precursor to how do you do answers which results in conversation first marriages were by capture of women from gifts in order to win approval, evolves into the monk enlarges the manuscript neighboring tribes ceremonial visit to superiors D O when visiting neighboring tribes, yell or build a fire Documenti d’Amore to warn people of arivall, shows one is not trying to sneak up, precusor to visiting cards still focus on holding one s tongue, couple s consent to marry is important concern with art of letter writing e o e W t nG only upper class boys are educated, don t speak without thinking, one is to the Roman Catholic church spurns many works on proper clasp knees of superiors honor and conduct AnDS AKe o G n education only to become a scribe udged by what they say, don t speak form and composition draw symbols and pictures on cave Disticha Catonis continues to be elegant behavior, defer empty hand to show unarmed, clasp hands too much, don t uarrel or lie rewritten, copied, and translated, to ladies, help women walls, precursor to pictographic writing first postal system Book of the Knight of La Tour-Landry so neither can uickly grab their weapon Ma ims of Cato disperses across Europe with everything Persian ueen, Atossa, possibly the e tending the right hand, or weapon hand, first to write a letter on paper becomes a sign of goodwill common sense advice ceremonial visits: vassals must women are either daughters of father, greeting: be well human messengers on foot visit suzerians, who must visit do s and dont s for women, eyes on the or wives of husband, not individuals farewell: be strong and horseback are common ground, women should be completely women are taught to obey men and lords, who must visit the king to submissive to their husband a kiss of welcome, clasp right hand their only function in life is to marry pay homage and respect first to print courtesy books in friendship or to pledge honor and bear children, women are sub ects e o eAn nceS S t to their husbands, poor women work in conStAnt no Le D nG c SADeS Il Tesoretto fields doing manual labor with men, Byzantine influence, Judeo Christian ethics influence only other options are to be a maid, servant, or nun court life grows in sophistication and cermony education for specific trades, education path Aristotle teaches that Le Menagier de Paris determined by father s position, highest level words bind souls together superior born are esteemed women are inferior, no real of education is in ethics and morality higher, avoid superiors, status, property of husbands as bureaucracy grows and kingdoms heed what you say The Booke of Curtesye D E R e pand, the importance of letters as a means of communication rises household manual, good servants now men sometimes have the letter writing is still confined to political are vital, watch for fleas, guard option to choose their wife and ecclesiastical discourse only knighthood is corrupt, outright young girls, wife must be patient, brigandry, many oin crusades and care for husband first printed Egypt is acception to other ancient schools are cheap enough for even sending letters is e pensive and unreliable, for adventure and loot courtesy book civilizations, women have e ual poor to attend, only boys go to school must hire a messenger to carry it rights with men reorganization of Hebrew law, section of the Talmud Amon L LL devoted to manners and conduct, very specific rules education mostly T O C respect for elders is law, give your right side in deference in monasteries to superiors, treat women with utmost tenderness, break The Order of Chivalry off bread, don t lick fingers or belch, do not gulp wine, don t eat food that causes bad breath, , cover your mouth protect the order of chivalry from when yawning disgrace, do not commit petty crime printed translation, revives the old ideals of chivalry
women still controlled by parents until face to the ground in front of superiors, married, then controlled by husband, Book of Good Manners bow and kiss the bow and clasp their knees or feet first duty is housewife, peasant women hand of the emperor still work in the fields with men
printed translation, a virtuous life leads to salvation, maintain virginity a kiss is the usual greeting between everyone as a sign of friendship e tend right hand as pledge of honor and friendship Governing of a Family en enDo SeS wealthy boys attend school, poor neW LeA n nG Roman postal service arises still learn to read and write brings Renaissance to England, learning eat with family, women no longer ust for scribes and clerics should teach their servants, dog for a burglar alarm
courtship involves talking , then walking , then keeping company Dialogue on Civil Life men give women gifts or love tokens more choice in marriage, but with parental consent
don t punish children physically, revoke priviledges
modesty declines slightly when men begin to pad their codpieces
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conform manners to your company, marriage is not the sole ob ect of society, men shouldn t enter flirtations, only two results: feel compelled to marry or be disgraced, don t kiss in wedding ceremony, married couples shouldn t dance together, they see each other enough in private Ame cAn mAnne S t neW LoW hastily gobbled meal becomes a Martine’s Handbook of Etiquette symbol of Americans, chewing I G tobacco and spitting rampant Encylopedia of Etiquette among men four books copied from earlier versions, wide use in noble homes to train young American ladies wear too rich and e pensive clothes in the street, bad taste, learn to be silent aristocrats, basic manners language of the Gibson before you attempt to speak, never praise absent girl, the feminine ideal ladies in the company of other ladies first book to divide manners into categories The House-Keepers Guide
The Booke of Urbanitie advice is a gift of kindness and friendship, dress in The Faerie Queen women lead assault on behavior, different what is suitable for your position, age, and city, men eti uette books published should not adorn themselves like a lady, don t smell bad revise European rules to suit American needs and sees potential of eti uette books or be perfumed like a lady, don t scratch or spit at table, one of earliest behavior The Habits of Good Society attitudes, socially ine perienced are eager to act nice sit in a seemly way, don t pick teeth with fingers epic poem, revives ideal books for servants George III and wife Charlotte steer e treme shifts in role and image of women, sells old copies of Holt s Encylopedia of Eti uette combined only associate with those of like English, books used to avoid embarassment of chivalric perfection L’Honeste Homme English court back to propriety no longer frail and demure, class of young with advertising campaign by Lillian Eichler your status, doff your cap or ma or themes: conversation, visiting, help, romance, working women emerges hood, and bow low to superiors advertising campaign is really succesfull, but book is outdated no social mi ing at balls, ball and appearance stewards guard against it, eti uette man s dimensions can be seen as soon as they five women lead the way with similar te ts speak, don t talk too much, don t talk about combination of books written to guide ignorant people The Courtiers Calling things you have little e perience in Castiglione and from embarrassment Du Refuge ADAm et e children more liberated, English The Gentleman’s Academie em L oLt R G D criticize as saucy monsters The Boke of Nurture please superiors,laugh at his okes, avoid constantly chattering, think before you let him win at games, courtier s most speak, say only what is agreeable to others, E E dating rules and e pectations valuable asset: amiable disposition, humor is important, don t only talk about deteriorate, replaced by hanging divided gentlemen into four ALe AnDe n cc oLeS it can disarm enemies at court oneself, use proper titles such as Mr and Mrs out and hooking up all children, even if nobility, manners and nine sorts first glimpses of ultramodesty, deference Lo D c eSte eLD speak in a clear and distinct tone, don t argue one s should be servants to their lord to superiors, social stratification, ladies opinions, don t monopolize the conversation, allow T C A D M W most Americans spurn English formalities resold by elson Doubleday greet with kiss on lips to e uals and others to speak, don t e aggerate and tell tales, talk E U S writings on conduct are as undemocratic in a land of e uality virtually absent cheek to inferiors about many sub ects, not ust one English condemn American manners The Babees’ Book eAD A te S o t further decline in female modesty, Brief and Pleasant Discourse first guide for seeking a wife, avoid women writes many letters to his son, Phillip of Duties in Marriage introduction of hot pants and mini skirts, with wandering eyes or a co uettish gait, cent c L t how do you do humanistic idea translated to the more period of ultramodesty, high point of inappropriate L LL An e c Le hat and gloves no longer worn in the day, you are foolish to choose a beauty how are you Louis IV measures human worth cynical, materialistic society first book to teach rules of eti uette words with word replacements such as rooster for parental advice books widely popular, post made available The Lovers Letter Writer cock, chicken bosom instead of breast, and table limb hand shake upon introduction all children, even if nobility, realistic attitudes for society to the public in manners and decorum filled with importance of charming manners, no longer inside information, for respectable husband obey wife and wife instead of leg, do not show ankles should be servants to their lord be as well with his mind as with his sword flatter women, flatter people behind their people who wish be be ac uainted with the men lift hat obey husband, women have United States Postal backs to people you know will repeat it usages of the Best Society eti uette advertising campaign souls and wit like men Service established e amples for every type of letter dating becomes less ritualized perfect courtier: urbane, attractive, rela ed, well educated, pertaining to courting and marriage Stans Puer ad Mensam well read, versatile in the arts, a sportsman, a dancer, a Etiquette your very humble servant Louis IV held the art of conversation above all other accomplishments conversationalist, and a wise statesman bow changes from taking the leg back to taking the leg conversation no longer deals with preoccupations of the priviledged elite forward, bending the upper body, two forms of bow: e treme principle of playfulness, goal was to please others, playful teasing is a skill, Master of Ceremonies in Bath, his reforms are the talk of England forward inclination, and slighter bow in passing salutation T C G The Rudiments of Genteel Behavior un uestioning obedience Henry VIII establishes Royal conversation is an art, small talk is a social grace allow others to shine, flattery is essential, encouragement to e press oneself, but women s roles are th edition printed Mail with the new position, completely re defined Institucion of a Gentleman curtsy still consists of bending the knees, two forms of curtsy: not complete sincerity at court, good conversation educates, don t discuss private mi country families with aristocracy in public, assemblies: play The Lady’s Guide to Perfect Gentility first eti uette book to deal Master of Posts M S U greeting persons of uality, and passing salutation or domestic matters, religion, or politics, games and dance, strict code of polite behavior, no aprons or swords with premarital se and not carrying a sword becomes a sign of a gentleman, cuts down on people start to spend more and e plosion in social personal letters make up of online Americans aged still kiss the hand to be really effective: looks, gestures, and facial e pression become an art as well satire of vulgarities women s liberation irrational duels more time on the internet networking popularity less than of mail 4 belong to a social network three types of gentlemen: modest and measured gait, never look L LL An e c Le handled by the post office reference book of the th century Englishman around, ladies should never show ankles, gentle gentle, gentle ungentle entrenched gentry , gather dress discreetly in one hand to keep and ungentle gentle not through lineage, true nobility: performance, not birth however tradesmen E from dragging the pavement e tremely detailed eti uette book Am AnDe Lt through knowledge, labor, and industry can not be gentlemen , concentrate on how to think, not L C A S Americans can learn what to do in all social situations gentlemen are coarse boys and girls go to petty schools to behave, learning is greatest pleasure in life: poetry, music, ceremonious visit is important for T C E and ill mannered, learn reading and writing, boys also drawing, painting, fishing, fighting, care of books, personal social advancement women should be: servant trainers, housekeepers, wives, mothers, D t mA t n dating web sites arise four out of five teens gambling is rampant go to grammar school to learn latin geometry, and cosmography A Present for an Appentice conversationalists, beautifully dressed, piano players, charitable, under Louis IV the visiting card writes her own book backed with carry a wireless device have good taste and good manners, and more, do not introduce becomes an established fashion, it comes advertising campaign, still outdated Etiquette two people who happen to be in your house at the same time, into general use, leave a calling card if N T C converse in the home, but upon leaving cease to know each other an updated guide to manners to appeal the host is absent to a younger audience than Emily Post s Ste Ano G A o condescending book starts an advice column as Miss Manners, for the middle class she responds to eti uette uestions and th edition published T Y L F writes short essays on certain problems T C C more romantic freedom, love becomes more most important influence on manners, important in marriages trained servants in short supply, they on average, american adults spend Grobianus c A D A t WA te demand high wages and more privileges first to print courtesy books courtship involved viewing from a distance, personification of the new eti uette almost 4 hours a day online new focus on importance of conversational first step toward eti uette books walking out, gift giving, and love letters ability, all good ualities don t matter if you T E G Manners and Tone of Good Society do not be haughty of birth, be skillful at English manners lag behind French: precise details: how to fold a note paper, correct way to serve yourself are a terrible conversationalist Grobianus Chesterfield s letters are published by mA on A LAnD conversation, be warry what you say, good stubborn, political turbulence, upper an olive, classes more defined, proper salutations for each, never turn satire of gross English conduct, farting, Traicté de la Cour housekeeping is a merit, not a disgrace, never play the now opinionated and intelligent conversations servants are a necessity, don t waste time on class swear an use crude language, back on superiors, hawking and spitting are unacceptable Il Galateo belching, stinking, and peeing in public his son s widow co uette, never oin in rude plays with men, stop appraising E E allowed, although bound by codes of deference, social calls, leave romance out of marriage, gambling still rampant bows and curtsies become an art, everything ceremonious visits: only for congratulations, condolence, and in uiries one another, women should not encourage a proposal and then one can still respect own values even when do not pick an ugly or a beautiful wife everyone needs a vocation, recreation is well considered and e act do not mi social classes,leaving cards is in moderation, don t drink e cessively to ill health ceremonious visits are important for social and personal translated and reissued refuse it, stop misusing superlatives such as glorious, one of the most important social customs, talking to superiors courtesy visits grow in strip away idealistic pretense or visit whore houses, don t spend advancement use calling cards raise hat and bow, three types of bows: slendid, awful, and monstrous to replace very to form or enlarge ac uaintance circle The Booke of Curtesye social importance, they to get ahead, an honest man still being printed ridiculous sums on appearance, avoid greeting, leaving, and passing wide appeal, guides those who have moved become a social duty cannot please the court as a manners guide E T S U women who paint their face up in society, to prevent embarrassment curtsy is the same as the th century when women don t thank men for their the bow and curtsy now have proper angles and feet An Estimate of the Manners and Principles of the Times courtesy, they forget their traditional first printed placement, the way it is done can be more or less polite, courtesy book courtesy, study those you wish to emulate bow on left foot because left foot is on the side of the heart, The Civile Conversation c A D ALLeSt ee Good Form in England e ASm S Essay on Conversation reverence from the heart nD St AL e oL t on T G C D C M P men doff their hat in honor and reverence for one another, the letter writing is commonplace unnatural reversal of the se es: LAceS Women At t e cAt e ne SeDGW cK way it is doffed shows whether the doffer is well bred or not vulgar women, effeminate men, English translation, cente o Soc AL L e M M praise charms and rewards scorn for pampered young men includes speech guidance, or a person to drop an h the hand kiss is fashionable, kiss hand during bow or curtsy, admired by Shakespeare men less involved, battle to enter society, women slowly Post sees the need for a sensible book with straight forward answers, salvation The Order of Chivalry of brilliant conversation of England is worse than bad form, don t be ostentatious, use do not actually put mouth on hand gentlemen distinguished by fortunate birth gain more rights, their place is still in the home proper precedential treatment for the upper class and solution for those uncertain manners and education for and god, share wealth, you have everything youth, rules for hygiene but not permanently women s roles finally really start to traditional birth right and silver or pewter evolve, they can now be more involved spoons according to station is absolute nonsense, greatest personal enrichment lies in mastering the techni ue of genuine courtesy printed translation, revives in commerce, some women begin to you may all handle silver spoons if you will, the old ideals of chivalry first salon at Hotel Rambouillet Ar't asleepe husband? speak out for women s rights anyone can rise in respectibility speak plainly so everyone can understand o n t SLe social visits reach a new e treme, daily rounds of social People who ridicule eti uette as a mass of trivial and arbitrary conventions, nobles, literary people, and brilliant women AGmonDeS Am eSe and don t use old fashioned language, The Scholemaster visits, huge desire to climb social ladder, do so with calling meet to practice the art of conversation P P e tremely troublesome to those who practise them and insupportable to everybody don t speak in a hoarse, shrill, or loud eL A et montAG cards, leave them at higher up household, if a personal call The Bazar Book of Decorum huge preoccupation with eti uette books voice, avoid unpleasant words marriage is about love, understanding, is returned one has succeeded The Boke Named The Governour else, seem to forget the long, slow progress of social intercourse in the upward and mutual respect, choose a wife on new concern of decaying manners, eti uette writers Book of Good Manners The Ladies Calling types of cards: intimate friends, which are morning love, marry an e ual in social class, blame women: invading business, athletics, new climb of man from the primeval state Conventions were established from the first teach children at home, recommends boys and girls from well off families go to visits, and ceremonious calls, which are late afternoon dowry is all important mostly Chesterfield s advice, seem friendly to your self sacrifice in the name of decorum, do liberties, young girls put on mannish airs and The Courtier, social accomplishments school, girls still learn accomplishments visits with heavy protocol, these are for formal repayment SA A ALe enemies, act unaware of improper conversation, not be outspoken, don t use ridiculous word clothes, use slang, disrespect parents and superiors to regulate the rights of the individual and the tribe They were and are the rules radically advanced for educating are important: dancing, music, rather than academics of a previous call, congratulations, condolences, or thanks bring salons to England never say belly, breast, tail, ass, etc , show respect replacements such as rooster for cock, table children, use toys and pictures, cultivate self defense is the most manly art duties of wives to husbands, first is for recent entertainment books include ruthless self appraisal, good of the game of life and must be followed if we would play the game printed translation, a virtuous life courtesy visits for congratulations, obedience, second is to be e tremely tender, for ma esty and titles limb for leg, chicken bosom for breast impression, appraise social situations correctly, their talents, teachers should be gentle bourgeoisie instantly follows suit and leads to salvation, maintain virginity condolences, or to prevent people from do not put duties on household staff keep a strict record of all ceremonial visits to keep the make the most of little opportunities develops an elegant and courteous forgetting about oneself balance and reveal when one has been slighted editor for Godey s Lady s Book, an Emily Post becomes a synonym for eti uette manner of conversation influential magazine for American taste, visits develop into more informal friendly meetings, do not repress children s natural oy but ceremonious visits are still customary for George II keeps a mistress: keeping marriage, birth, or mourning, e cessive formalities becomes an open feature of upper class English start to become unfashionable Hints on Common Politeness en enDo SeS social life, especially gambling, is the entire bow and curtsy disappear society becomes e travagant, lavish balls, wealthy career of many gentlemen, superficial pleasures, e cept for formal occasions neW LeA n nG L D A c LD scatter money for show, women overdress, French influence English, conversation frivolity, and debauchery lady bows slightly to gentleman, brings Renaissance to England, learning takes on a new certain polish and finesse intense social competition, everyone wants to be he lifts hat don t use words such as hain t, his nt, no longer ust for scribes and clerics able to look down on someone, new craze for hadn t, or ought, impolite to laugh at hand shake is accepted greeting eti uette, eti uette instruction enters the classroom own okes, monopolize conversation, or abolitionist and women s rights activist, interrupt others, don t spit on carpet or T N E undue an iety and foolish e citement out window, don t comb hair at table surrounding marriage, mothers should parental control in marriage stop e aggerating its importance is disappearing courtship involves talking , then education is necessary to be help only work for heavy em oSt walking , then keeping company more than in brides are considered a gentleman wages and light duties E pregnant on their wedding day men give women gifts or love tokens spread of democratic ideas leads revised edition, reflects new era, use cordial to growth of public education handclasp, formal bow is loosing its prestige, more choice in marriage, but with but still includes old ways, parental consent The Young Man’s Guide has been reprinted times afternoon social life of calling T do not treat women like playthings or no longer a sponteous gesture, calling cards are vital, children, seek their good will by uiet chaperon implemented, sits in parlor when charge modesty declines slightly when men and unostentatious attentions receives gentlemen and accompanies her to events begin to pad their codpieces mA eL A et S e WooD
M S U don t remind hosts of their less affluent beginnings or your own, do not make ac uaintance with strangers unless certain of their The Pocket Letter Writer respectability, avoid speaking to women in showy attire, painted face, rise of women s suffrage movement or white kid gloves, do not be outspoken or speak plainly, misuse of reissued dating becomes highly ritualized, the letter h will reveal whether someone is truly nobility, do not going steady arises attempt to argue with gentlemen about politics or finances, do not use slang, includes appopriate behavior while shopping e amples of all types of letters, including cryptogram letters with hidden messages
decline in eti uette books old standards crumbling under the impact of the automobile, prohibition, postwar euphoria, and movies co tS e oL t on bobbed hair, shorter skirts, no corsets, chaperons go away, ceremonious visit on decline, prohibition results romantic marriage is part of the American dream, husband strict courting formalities, always under in period of defiant la ness is woman s choice, American husband s attitude is different: supervision of parents or chaperon, almost reverence instead of possessive all courting takes place in the girl s home, marriage proposals are fre uently written eti uette books cover courting and engagement in minute detail
dating arises, boys start to ask girls out, not about finding a mate, but having fun
women dress to outdo each other, shopping for finery becomes a pasttime
prohibition results in defiance, radical drop in female modesty proper rules for visting, a stay more than a week, included in all eti uette books rule one: make known upon arrival how many days you will stay, never complain to the mistress, only to a chambermaid, guest should leave a parting gratuity with each domestic, do not gossip about host after visit ceremonious calls are nearly obsolete, as well as the use of calling cards
Americans use the word help instead of servant, many look down on domestic service as worse than ab ect poverty, many women become seamstresses instead, help shortage co t e GentLemAn co teS et ette
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conform manners to your company, marriage is not the sole ob ect of society, men shouldn t enter flirtations, only two results: feel compelled to marry or be disgraced, don t kiss in wedding ceremony, married couples shouldn t dance together, they see each other enough in private Ame cAn mAnne S t neW LoW hastily gobbled meal becomes a Martine’s Handbook of Etiquette symbol of Americans, chewing I G tobacco and spitting rampant Encylopedia of Etiquette among men four books copied from earlier versions, wide use in noble homes to train young American ladies wear too rich and e pensive clothes in the street, bad taste, learn to be silent aristocrats, basic manners language of the Gibson before you attempt to speak, never praise absent girl, the feminine ideal ladies in the company of other ladies first book to divide manners into categories The House-Keepers Guide
The Booke of Urbanitie advice is a gift of kindness and friendship, dress in The Faerie Queen women lead assault on behavior, different what is suitable for your position, age, and city, men eti uette books published should not adorn themselves like a lady, don t smell bad revise European rules to suit American needs and sees potential of eti uette books or be perfumed like a lady, don t scratch or spit at table, one of earliest behavior The Habits of Good Society attitudes, socially ine perienced are eager to act nice sit in a seemly way, don t pick teeth with fingers epic poem, revives ideal books for servants George III and wife Charlotte steer e treme shifts in role and image of women, sells old copies of Holt s Encylopedia of Eti uette combined only associate with those of like English, books used to avoid embarassment of chivalric perfection L’Honeste Homme English court back to propriety no longer frail and demure, class of young with advertising campaign by Lillian Eichler your status, doff your cap or ma or themes: conversation, visiting, help, romance, working women emerges hood, and bow low to superiors advertising campaign is really succesfull, but book is outdated no social mi ing at balls, ball and appearance stewards guard against it, eti uette man s dimensions can be seen as soon as they five women lead the way with similar te ts speak, don t talk too much, don t talk about combination of books written to guide ignorant people The Courtiers Calling things you have little e perience in Castiglione and from embarrassment Du Refuge ADAm et e children more liberated, English The Gentleman’s Academie em L oLt R G D criticize as saucy monsters The Boke of Nurture please superiors,laugh at his okes, avoid constantly chattering, think before you let him win at games, courtier s most speak, say only what is agreeable to others, E E dating rules and e pectations valuable asset: amiable disposition, humor is important, don t only talk about deteriorate, replaced by hanging divided gentlemen into four ALe AnDe n cc oLeS it can disarm enemies at court oneself, use proper titles such as Mr and Mrs out and hooking up all children, even if nobility, manners and nine sorts first glimpses of ultramodesty, deference Lo D c eSte eLD speak in a clear and distinct tone, don t argue one s should be servants to their lord to superiors, social stratification, ladies opinions, don t monopolize the conversation, allow T C A D M W most Americans spurn English formalities resold by elson Doubleday greet with kiss on lips to e uals and others to speak, don t e aggerate and tell tales, talk E U S writings on conduct are as undemocratic in a land of e uality virtually absent cheek to inferiors about many sub ects, not ust one English condemn American manners The Babees’ Book eAD A te S o t further decline in female modesty, Brief and Pleasant Discourse first guide for seeking a wife, avoid women writes many letters to his son, Phillip of Duties in Marriage introduction of hot pants and mini skirts, with wandering eyes or a co uettish gait, cent c L t how do you do humanistic idea translated to the more period of ultramodesty, high point of inappropriate L LL An e c Le hat and gloves no longer worn in the day, you are foolish to choose a beauty how are you Louis IV measures human worth cynical, materialistic society first book to teach rules of eti uette words with word replacements such as rooster for parental advice books widely popular, post made available The Lovers Letter Writer cock, chicken bosom instead of breast, and table limb hand shake upon introduction all children, even if nobility, realistic attitudes for society to the public in manners and decorum filled with importance of charming manners, no longer inside information, for respectable husband obey wife and wife instead of leg, do not show ankles should be servants to their lord be as well with his mind as with his sword flatter women, flatter people behind their people who wish be be ac uainted with the men lift hat obey husband, women have United States Postal backs to people you know will repeat it usages of the Best Society eti uette advertising campaign souls and wit like men Service established e amples for every type of letter dating becomes less ritualized perfect courtier: urbane, attractive, rela ed, well educated, pertaining to courting and marriage Stans Puer ad Mensam well read, versatile in the arts, a sportsman, a dancer, a Etiquette your very humble servant Louis IV held the art of conversation above all other accomplishments conversationalist, and a wise statesman bow changes from taking the leg back to taking the leg conversation no longer deals with preoccupations of the priviledged elite forward, bending the upper body, two forms of bow: e treme principle of playfulness, goal was to please others, playful teasing is a skill, Master of Ceremonies in Bath, his reforms are the talk of England forward inclination, and slighter bow in passing salutation T C G The Rudiments of Genteel Behavior un uestioning obedience Henry VIII establishes Royal conversation is an art, small talk is a social grace allow others to shine, flattery is essential, encouragement to e press oneself, but women s roles are th edition printed Mail with the new position, completely re defined Institucion of a Gentleman curtsy still consists of bending the knees, two forms of curtsy: not complete sincerity at court, good conversation educates, don t discuss private mi country families with aristocracy in public, assemblies: play The Lady’s Guide to Perfect Gentility first eti uette book to deal Master of Posts M S U greeting persons of uality, and passing salutation or domestic matters, religion, or politics, games and dance, strict code of polite behavior, no aprons or swords with premarital se and not carrying a sword becomes a sign of a gentleman, cuts down on people start to spend more and e plosion in social personal letters make up of online Americans aged still kiss the hand to be really effective: looks, gestures, and facial e pression become an art as well satire of vulgarities women s liberation irrational duels more time on the internet networking popularity less than of mail 4 belong to a social network three types of gentlemen: modest and measured gait, never look L LL An e c Le handled by the post office reference book of the th century Englishman around, ladies should never show ankles, gentle gentle, gentle ungentle entrenched gentry , gather dress discreetly in one hand to keep and ungentle gentle not through lineage, true nobility: performance, not birth however tradesmen E from dragging the pavement e tremely detailed eti uette book Am AnDe Lt through knowledge, labor, and industry can not be gentlemen , concentrate on how to think, not L C A S Americans can learn what to do in all social situations gentlemen are coarse boys and girls go to petty schools to behave, learning is greatest pleasure in life: poetry, music, ceremonious visit is important for T C E and ill mannered, learn reading and writing, boys also drawing, painting, fishing, fighting, care of books, personal social advancement women should be: servant trainers, housekeepers, wives, mothers, D t mA t n dating web sites arise four out of five teens gambling is rampant go to grammar school to learn latin geometry, and cosmography A Present for an Appentice conversationalists, beautifully dressed, piano players, charitable, under Louis IV the visiting card writes her own book backed with carry a wireless device have good taste and good manners, and more, do not introduce becomes an established fashion, it comes advertising campaign, still outdated Etiquette two people who happen to be in your house at the same time, into general use, leave a calling card if N T C converse in the home, but upon leaving cease to know each other an updated guide to manners to appeal the host is absent to a younger audience than Emily Post s Ste Ano G A o condescending book starts an advice column as Miss Manners, for the middle class she responds to eti uette uestions and th edition published T Y L F writes short essays on certain problems T C C more romantic freedom, love becomes more most important influence on manners, important in marriages trained servants in short supply, they on average, american adults spend Grobianus c A D A t WA te demand high wages and more privileges first to print courtesy books courtship involved viewing from a distance, personification of the new eti uette almost 4 hours a day online new focus on importance of conversational first step toward eti uette books walking out, gift giving, and love letters ability, all good ualities don t matter if you T E G Manners and Tone of Good Society do not be haughty of birth, be skillful at English manners lag behind French: precise details: how to fold a note paper, correct way to serve yourself are a terrible conversationalist Grobianus Chesterfield s letters are published by mA on A LAnD conversation, be warry what you say, good stubborn, political turbulence, upper an olive, classes more defined, proper salutations for each, never turn satire of gross English conduct, farting, Traicté de la Cour housekeeping is a merit, not a disgrace, never play the now opinionated and intelligent conversations servants are a necessity, don t waste time on class swear an use crude language, back on superiors, hawking and spitting are unacceptable Il Galateo belching, stinking, and peeing in public his son s widow co uette, never oin in rude plays with men, stop appraising E E allowed, although bound by codes of deference, social calls, leave romance out of marriage, gambling still rampant bows and curtsies become an art, everything ceremonious visits: only for congratulations, condolence, and in uiries one another, women should not encourage a proposal and then one can still respect own values even when do not pick an ugly or a beautiful wife everyone needs a vocation, recreation is well considered and e act do not mi social classes,leaving cards is in moderation, don t drink e cessively to ill health ceremonious visits are important for social and personal translated and reissued refuse it, stop misusing superlatives such as glorious, one of the most important social customs, talking to superiors courtesy visits grow in strip away idealistic pretense or visit whore houses, don t spend advancement use calling cards raise hat and bow, three types of bows: slendid, awful, and monstrous to replace very to form or enlarge ac uaintance circle The Booke of Curtesye social importance, they to get ahead, an honest man still being printed ridiculous sums on appearance, avoid greeting, leaving, and passing wide appeal, guides those who have moved become a social duty cannot please the court as a manners guide E T S U women who paint their face up in society, to prevent embarrassment curtsy is the same as the th century when women don t thank men for their the bow and curtsy now have proper angles and feet An Estimate of the Manners and Principles of the Times courtesy, they forget their traditional first printed placement, the way it is done can be more or less polite, courtesy book courtesy, study those you wish to emulate bow on left foot because left foot is on the side of the heart, The Civile Conversation c A D ALLeSt ee Good Form in England e ASm S Essay on Conversation reverence from the heart nD St AL e oL t on T G C D C M P men doff their hat in honor and reverence for one another, the letter writing is commonplace unnatural reversal of the se es: LAceS Women At t e cAt e ne SeDGW cK way it is doffed shows whether the doffer is well bred or not vulgar women, effeminate men, English translation, cente o Soc AL L e M M praise charms and rewards scorn for pampered young men includes speech guidance, or a person to drop an h the hand kiss is fashionable, kiss hand during bow or curtsy, admired by Shakespeare men less involved, battle to enter society, women slowly Post sees the need for a sensible book with straight forward answers, salvation The Order of Chivalry of brilliant conversation of England is worse than bad form, don t be ostentatious, use do not actually put mouth on hand gentlemen distinguished by fortunate birth gain more rights, their place is still in the home proper precedential treatment for the upper class and solution for those uncertain manners and education for and god, share wealth, you have everything youth, rules for hygiene but not permanently women s roles finally really start to traditional birth right and silver or pewter evolve, they can now be more involved spoons according to station is absolute nonsense, greatest personal enrichment lies in mastering the techni ue of genuine courtesy printed translation, revives in commerce, some women begin to you may all handle silver spoons if you will, the old ideals of chivalry first salon at Hotel Rambouillet Ar't asleepe husband? speak out for women s rights anyone can rise in respectibility speak plainly so everyone can understand o n t SLe social visits reach a new e treme, daily rounds of social People who ridicule eti uette as a mass of trivial and arbitrary conventions, nobles, literary people, and brilliant women AGmonDeS Am eSe and don t use old fashioned language, The Scholemaster visits, huge desire to climb social ladder, do so with calling meet to practice the art of conversation P P e tremely troublesome to those who practise them and insupportable to everybody don t speak in a hoarse, shrill, or loud eL A et montAG cards, leave them at higher up household, if a personal call The Bazar Book of Decorum huge preoccupation with eti uette books voice, avoid unpleasant words marriage is about love, understanding, is returned one has succeeded The Boke Named The Governour else, seem to forget the long, slow progress of social intercourse in the upward and mutual respect, choose a wife on new concern of decaying manners, eti uette writers Book of Good Manners The Ladies Calling types of cards: intimate friends, which are morning love, marry an e ual in social class, blame women: invading business, athletics, new climb of man from the primeval state Conventions were established from the first teach children at home, recommends boys and girls from well off families go to visits, and ceremonious calls, which are late afternoon dowry is all important mostly Chesterfield s advice, seem friendly to your self sacrifice in the name of decorum, do liberties, young girls put on mannish airs and The Courtier, social accomplishments school, girls still learn accomplishments visits with heavy protocol, these are for formal repayment SA A ALe enemies, act unaware of improper conversation, not be outspoken, don t use ridiculous word clothes, use slang, disrespect parents and superiors to regulate the rights of the individual and the tribe They were and are the rules radically advanced for educating are important: dancing, music, rather than academics of a previous call, congratulations, condolences, or thanks bring salons to England never say belly, breast, tail, ass, etc , show respect replacements such as rooster for cock, table children, use toys and pictures, cultivate self defense is the most manly art duties of wives to husbands, first is for recent entertainment books include ruthless self appraisal, good of the game of life and must be followed if we would play the game printed translation, a virtuous life courtesy visits for congratulations, obedience, second is to be e tremely tender, for ma esty and titles limb for leg, chicken bosom for breast impression, appraise social situations correctly, their talents, teachers should be gentle bourgeoisie instantly follows suit and leads to salvation, maintain virginity condolences, or to prevent people from do not put duties on household staff keep a strict record of all ceremonial visits to keep the make the most of little opportunities develops an elegant and courteous forgetting about oneself balance and reveal when one has been slighted editor for Godey s Lady s Book, an Emily Post becomes a synonym for eti uette manner of conversation influential magazine for American taste, visits develop into more informal friendly meetings, do not repress children s natural oy but ceremonious visits are still customary for George II keeps a mistress: keeping marriage, birth, or mourning, e cessive formalities becomes an open feature of upper class English start to become unfashionable Hints on Common Politeness en enDo SeS social life, especially gambling, is the entire bow and curtsy disappear society becomes e travagant, lavish balls, wealthy career of many gentlemen, superficial pleasures, e cept for formal occasions neW LeA n nG L D A c LD scatter money for show, women overdress, French influence English, conversation frivolity, and debauchery lady bows slightly to gentleman, brings Renaissance to England, learning takes on a new certain polish and finesse intense social competition, everyone wants to be he lifts hat don t use words such as hain t, his nt, no longer ust for scribes and clerics able to look down on someone, new craze for hadn t, or ought, impolite to laugh at hand shake is accepted greeting eti uette, eti uette instruction enters the classroom own okes, monopolize conversation, or abolitionist and women s rights activist, interrupt others, don t spit on carpet or T N E undue an iety and foolish e citement out window, don t comb hair at table surrounding marriage, mothers should parental control in marriage stop e aggerating its importance is disappearing courtship involves talking , then education is necessary to be help only work for heavy em oSt walking , then keeping company more than in brides are considered a gentleman wages and light duties E pregnant on their wedding day men give women gifts or love tokens spread of democratic ideas leads revised edition, reflects new era, use cordial to growth of public education handclasp, formal bow is loosing its prestige, more choice in marriage, but with but still includes old ways, parental consent The Young Man’s Guide has been reprinted times afternoon social life of calling T do not treat women like playthings or no longer a sponteous gesture, calling cards are vital, children, seek their good will by uiet chaperon implemented, sits in parlor when charge modesty declines slightly when men and unostentatious attentions receives gentlemen and accompanies her to events begin to pad their codpieces mA eL A et S e WooD
M S U don t remind hosts of their less affluent beginnings or your own, do not make ac uaintance with strangers unless certain of their The Pocket Letter Writer respectability, avoid speaking to women in showy attire, painted face, rise of women s suffrage movement or white kid gloves, do not be outspoken or speak plainly, misuse of reissued dating becomes highly ritualized, the letter h will reveal whether someone is truly nobility, do not going steady arises attempt to argue with gentlemen about politics or finances, do not use slang, includes appopriate behavior while shopping e amples of all types of letters, including cryptogram letters with hidden messages
decline in eti uette books old standards crumbling under the impact of the automobile, prohibition, postwar euphoria, and movies co tS e oL t on bobbed hair, shorter skirts, no corsets, chaperons go away, ceremonious visit on decline, prohibition results romantic marriage is part of the American dream, husband strict courting formalities, always under in period of defiant la ness is woman s choice, American husband s attitude is different: supervision of parents or chaperon, almost reverence instead of possessive all courting takes place in the girl s home, marriage proposals are fre uently written eti uette books cover courting and engagement in minute detail
dating arises, boys start to ask girls out, not about finding a mate, but having fun
women dress to outdo each other, shopping for finery becomes a pasttime
prohibition results in defiance, radical drop in female modesty proper rules for visting, a stay more than a week, included in all eti uette books rule one: make known upon arrival how many days you will stay, never complain to the mistress, only to a chambermaid, guest should leave a parting gratuity with each domestic, do not gossip about host after visit ceremonious calls are nearly obsolete, as well as the use of calling cards
Americans use the word help instead of servant, many look down on domestic service as worse than ab ect poverty, many women become seamstresses instead, help shortage Patterns of Behavior
STYLE GUIDE & EVENT MANUAL
designed & assembled by: Whitney Hayden PATTERNS OF BEHAVIOR
INTRODUCTION
Hello. You are probably reading this because you have decided to organize the event, Patterns of Behavior. This event was designed to shine a light on social technology’s influence on our behavior by bringing people’s online public information into an real physical setting.
The event combines the history of our social behavior with our current patterns of behavior. The history serves as a strong contrast to the current situation. By presenting the history of our behavior, the viewers can begin to understand why we are where we are. It allows them to contrast the modesty of the past with this exposure they are currently experiencing. Or they might simultaneously examine the social hierarchy that dominated the past and appreciate the freedom they now have to express themselves. Judging from this experience, they might decided they are expressing too much.
By putting this information in a public setting, the participants become aware of privacy, information disclosure, and artificiality. Someone might think: “I wish this wasn’t on the wall, it doesn’t really represent who I am.” or “I refuse to read this conversation aloud, it makes me sound like a b–i–t–c–h.” In the end the goal is for them to walk away questioning whether or not these modes of behavior are really “appropriate.”
CONTENTS
Initial Prep–Work 02
Design & Layout 06 Style Guide 08
Production & Installation 27
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