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Like Dragons Did They Fight __________________ The Sons of Helaman A Synergy of Eternal Principles and Accurate Science for Personal Self-Mastery By Maurice W. Harker, CMHC With Lucas J. Reynolds Revised February 2017 Like Dragons Did They Fight © 2017 Maurice W. Harker, CMHC All rights reserved Printed in the United States of America ISBN 978-1-105-94797-1 No portion of this book may be reproduced in any form without written permission from: Life Changing Services, Inc. 1371 North 1075 West, Ste. 5 Farmington, Utah 84025 1-877-HERO-877 This work is not an official publication of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and has no implied endorsement. The views expressed herein are the responsibility of the author and do not necessarily represent the position of the Church. Visit us at www.lifechangingservices.org “But they fought for their lives, and for their wives, and for their children; therefore they exerted themselves and like dragons did they fight.” Mosiah 20:11 Testimonials “As a priesthood leader I have referred members to a number of different mental health professionals. For the past several years I have narrowed the number of those professionals to primarily one: Maurice Harker. His research and understanding of sexual addiction is better than any other therapist I have ever met. His methods and counseling (including the Sons of Helaman youth groups) are superior to any I’ve experienced. His success rates at helping people overcome addiction and transgression have been remarkable. I can’t give a high enough recommendation for Maurice Harker as a counselor and therapist.” --President Thomas V. Beard, Stake President, Kaysville Crestwood Stake “I am glad that I found the Sons of Helaman program. It’s made me the man I have become today. I am now home from a mission and I am temple worthy; I like who I have become. I know that anyone who follows what they have learned in this program will succeed. The Sons of Helaman gave me the knowledge that Satan is real and he is doing his best to ruin my life. Also, and more importantly, God became real to me as well as my Savior Jesus Christ—I know they exist. I know they love and care about me and who I become in this life.” --C. F., Graduate of the Sons of Helaman Program “First, I would like to say that this problem truly is a fight, and it will take time to overcome, but the rewards are so worth it. Becoming free will change your life and the lives of those around you for the best. Through this program and the guidance of your peers, you will discover strength in yourself and deeper faith in the Lord. I wish you well, and hope for the best.” --Chris, Graduate of the Sons of Helaman Program “I find the Sons of Helaman program to be a remarkably effective treatment for young men struggling with pornography addiction. Maurice Harker has discovered a powerful key - that adolescent & young adult males respond best when they are in a TEAM environment, and as members of a team they often find the courage to confront & overcome these powerful temptations. They learn that they are bigger than the Temptation after all!” --Larry Lewis, CMHC, author of Receive Ye One Another Acknowledgements First, I want to thank my wife. She has been the primary impetus of my inspiration and insight. She has been a guiding light to me. She has been my most accurate sounding board. She has been patient with me as I have taken time from our family to complete these writings. I would not have grown into the man I am today without her. When I write, I tend to dive deep into a topic, and then I jump randomly to a completely unrelated topic. Lucas Reynolds has saved the day by reading through hundreds of clips of my writings and bringing the relevant pieces together into a cohesive narrative. He has also sat in on many Sons of Helaman group sessions and has written up many pieces to fill in the gaps. He is very insightful and is an excellent student. My friend and associate, Aneladee Milne, has not only successfully and pleasantly pressured me into completing this book, but she has also orchestrated events behind the scenes to help facilitate the practicalities of getting the book published. She has taken the load off my shoulders in many other areas of my practice, thus allowing me time and mental space to write. I wish to thank Lisa Peterson and Connie Jorgensen for their editing skills. It appears I am like every other author who does not see the errors in his own writings. I thank her for eliminating all the embarrassing flaws in my writing. For the 2017 edition, Karen Broadhead, the leader of our Mothers Who Know branch of service, has added some important elements for parents. Several young men have courageously added descriptions of concepts they have found to be very valuable. Most wanted their full names printed because they are proud of what they have learned, but we chose to publish just their first names for client confidentiality purposes. Finally, I want to thank the young warriors with whom I have learned so much as we have stood, and continue to stand, shoulder-to-shoulder these many years learning and fighting as we go. I am so deeply edified by their strong spirits. They have inspired me to work and teach and learn and write. I just pray the information found in this book will give back not only to them, but also to all the warriors to come. Maurice W. Harker Author's Note I have put my heart and soul into the information you areDear Reader, about to read. The agony I have felt for those who have become slaves to addiction has driven me to provide effective information and services. In this, the 2017 edition of Like Dragons Did They Fight, we made a special effort to make the content more gender neutral and broadened the scope to apply to those who may not be struggling with addiction, but would like to better understand how to use the same principles for self- mastery. Some sections are still specifically directed toward young men, but you are welcome to expand the application to yourself. In addition to our Sons of Helaman training system, we now have Men of Moroni for adult men and Daughters of Light for women of all ages. If you just want to work on self-mastery and are not experiencing an addiction, look into our Eternal Warriors program. For mothers who aren’t sure how to help, look into the free Mothers Who Know service. If you are a woman who has been traumatized by the sexual misbehaviors of your husband, you will want to look into our free therapeutic group, W-O-R-T-H: Women of Rebirth – Therapeutic Healing. All details of these and many other services can be found at www.LifeChangingServices.org. So many people have expressed to us they have found great treasures of joy in learning how to identify Satanic attacks and respond with skill and success as taught by the principles in this book. I never dreamed it would serve so many people. Over 10,000 copies have sold so far. We hope many more will be served with this new edition. Don’t hesitate to contact us and tell us your story! Before I proceed, I will add a quick disclaimer: I have spent my professional career simplifying complex psychological concepts so they are easily understood by the layman, especially teenagers. The concepts behind what you are about to read are scientifically sound. I write this book for those who are in pain and would like to experience the joy of self-mastery. Most of the principles you read here can be validated in either LDS doctrine as found in scriptures and conference talks, or psychology research and/or text books. Some of the principles here are from my own insights, observations and revelations over the past 25 years. These principles are not new. They have been available forever, for all to discover. Many have found them to be of great value as they try to understand the bridge between spiritual and scientific concepts. As with other literature intended to inspire, I will not be able to provide scientific proof of all you read. To gain maximum value from what you are about to read, carefully ponder the principles with a mind open to both sharp scientific concepts and spiritual manifestation. As many others before you have experienced, I am confident you will find these prin- ciples resonate with your soul. If applied diligently, they will lead to amazing improve- ments in your happiness, confidence and self-mastery.1 - ciples I will now share with you. I hope you feel equally I felt inspired as I discovered the amazing prin inspiredYour Devoted as you Servant, read them. Enjoy your reading. Maurice W. Harker Table of Contents Part I: The Problem 1 Chapter 1: The Pain 3 Chapter 2: The Attack 7 Chapter 3: A Parable Why Are They Losing Battles 11 Chapter 4: The Satanic Spin 19 Chapter 5: Chemical Scale 33 Part II: The Solution 39 Chapter 6: Warrior Chemistry 41 Chapter 7: The Counter Attack 56 Part III: The Battle Plan 6 1 Chapter 8: The Team Process 63 Chapter 9: The Training 73 Analyzing Lost Battles 1 05 Chapter 10: What Went Wrong 1 19 Chapter 11: Graduation 133 Chapter 12: Prevention 140 Parent’s Appendix 149 Bishop’s Appendix 1 79 Suggested Reading 189 Resources 195 1 PART 1 The Problem 2 3 Chapter 1 The Pain decent self-discipline in almost a You have tried everything.