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Marija 10 The Tarnished Angel Trajkovska also tells her story of serving the refugees in this area. "The Church in Harmony" is a good story 11 . Through the Shadow of Death . to read aloud to your husband; you both will laugh and cry at the reality it portrays. 12 The Aqua Velvet Coat The holiday season is always extra busy. Take counsel from Ben and Mary Maxson and control the 14 Is There a Christmas Tradition in Your time tyrant so you can enjoy the blessing of your Family Closet? family, who are the most precious people you will ever influence. Let Jesus lift the weights that Margaret 15 Down the Road with the Refugees Nathaniel tells us about. He is waiting to help you. May Jesus surround you and your family in His 16 God Never Fails sweet love and care as we remember His birth on earth 2,000 years ago. An Interview with Milena Brechelmacher 18 Maranatha! 21 Shepherdess International News Texts credited to NIV are from the Holy Bible, New International Version. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984, International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishers. Bible texts credited to TEV are from the Good News Bible—Old Testament: Copyright © American Bible Society 1976; New Testament: Copyright ©American Bible Society 1966, 1971, 1976. Shepherdess International Journal is a Secretary: Euro-Asia Division quarterly resource especially for pastors' Annabelle Kendall Olga Murga /Nancy Wilson wives. It is produced by Shepherdess Inter-American Division International, an entity of the General Journal Layout and Design: To be appointed Conference of Seventh-day Adventists Regina Hayden North American Division Ministerial Association. Franci McClure Shepherdess South American Division Editorial Office: 12501 Old Columbia Division Coordinators: Vasti S. Viana Pike, Silver Spring, MD 20904-6600 South Pacific Division Kay Winter Office telephone: (301) 680-6513 Africa-Indian Ocean Division Southern Asia Division Fax (301) 680-6502 Leola Whaley Margaret Nathaniel Printed in the U.S.A. Asia Pacific Division Trans-European Division Linda Koh Gaya Currie Coordinator: Eastern Africa Division Middle East Union Sharon Cress Angeline Musvosvi Joyce Neergaard Euro-Africa Division Southern African Union SI Journal Editor: Gudrun Mager Lillian Chalale Sharon Cress 2 Shepherdess International Journal, Fourth Quarter 1995 61/11d y husband is reasons why people go into the cvdtd&&7 never home! All ministry, and each person has a he can think about different view of what "being in c9eaocovzit is his ministry and his church." the ministry" means. "I never have time for my family. The pressures of what Facing reality everybody wants me to do are just It must be remembered that too much." pastoral ministry is not just a job These typical statements are or a career. It is a calling and as a mere reflection of a kind of such, creates greater commit- pressure and pain that is experi- ment and dedication than a enced in pastoral ministry. "The mere job. It is imperative not to all consuming 'ministry' seems to lose sight of the role God plays control our lifestyle, our home, and in this calling. our future." Is there a way of It is true, ministry is a never resolving this conflict? Following finished task. Pastors may have are a few suggestions that might to learn that some things on the help balance the lives of those ministry "to do" list may never involved with the ministry. get done. That is all right! As difficult as it is to admit, The problem each person in ministry is driven Some of the factors that shape by his or her own compulsions. and sometimes create problems Previous life experiences have for a minister and his family are: shaped the way a person deals 1. Pastoral ministry is a job with ministry demands. that is never finished. There is Pastoral ministry is usually a always one more person to see, team ministry. One level of that one more thing to do. team is that of a pastor and 2. The demands on a pastoral spouse. But there is another level couple's time are endless and that is often forgotten. The continual. ministry team is bigger than the 3. Ministers and their families pastoral home—it includes each Ben and Mary Maxson work at the General Conference. He is the director of the have to deal with a variety of member of the church. Stewardship Department, and she is the people, all of whom have dif- editorial secretary for the Adventist fering expectations of the pastoral Looking for a solution Review. Ben enjoys golfing and computer. Mary likes crafts, cooking, and music. They family. One of the most important ways are both avid readers. 4. There are a variety of for a pastor to resolve the pressures Shepherdess International Journal, Fourth Quarter 1995 3 associated with the ministry is to These boundaries need to understand his own compulsions. be worked out together as a Our Pastor One's perfectionist tendencies, family. They should include need for acceptance or compet- such things as: Never Stops itive drives often compel him to Author Unknown do that which no one else expects ' regular time off him to do. Often times, these compulsions drive the pastor to personal devotional time ccasionally even do another's job. someone will Once it is understood what 1k4t134 normal weekly schedule 0 say, "Our pastor tips the balance, the pastor needs never stops to visit in our to look at the problem in the light tzty, family time home." If the pastor never of the gospel. Knowing that God stops at your home, you accepts us because of Christ and not ttet, vacations probably should thank because of our performance is the God. It means death has not beginning of healing for our compul- tay4 office hours struck, that no serious sive tendencies. illness has laid you low, or The next step in finding a average hours per week that the surgeon's knife had solution is to clarify or identify the not been necessary, or that values of a pastoral team. What is Obviously, all the above must you have had no serious important to us as individuals, be flexible and will vary with family problem or that you families, and spiritual leaders in circumstances. However, clearly are not a spiritually delin- God's church? defined para- quent member. As a rule, The third step in finding a meters form your pastor does not have solution is to work together in the founda- time for "social calls." It is establishing tion for con- not that he would not enjoy priorities. Each trolling the endless doing so, it is simply a pastoral couple demands of ministry. matter of priorities . will have their own putting first things first. unique list and Conclusion Your pastor does not have order of priorities.0 bv io us /y, It is unrealistic to expect a 40- time to do everything he one's relationship with God must be at hour week in pastoral ministry. would like to do. However, the top of those priorities. Church members are asked to you may be sure of this: It is amazing to discover how give of their time over and above your pastor is willing to often other areas fall into line their 40-50 hours of work. Can we come to the hospital or your more easily once room has been expect to do any less? My think- home, the jail, the street made for God. Maintaining a ing has been that I work the first corner, or anywhere at any spiritual walk with God makes it 50 hours a week for my salary and hour of the day, or night easier to deal with the pressures the other 10 or 15 as my "service." when he is needed. Call of pastoral life. It also helps the However, to average 80-90 or him if you need him. pastor and his family relate to more hours a week is probably Otherwise he will not know others in a less stressful way. downright sinful and certainly of your need until it is too Once values are clarified and nothing to be bragging about. late. For the moment, thank priorities are established, the God does not expect that kind of God you have not needed parameters or boundaries of the sacrifice and usually those kind him. One day you will need ministry need to be negotiated. If of hours are the result of our own him and he will be there those limits are not clearly compulsions.