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an incredible encouragement to my being in some basement all alone, they Nightlife—Cutting wife. are treated to great speakers, food, and entertainment. It is all done with the Edge Programming From its onset, the Nightlife program finest Hashkafa, sensitivity, and caring has been blessed with tremendous for people. Thank you, and know that By: Moshe Rubashkin others made endless phone calls and you have restored my faith in people.” sent multiple emails to recruit girls, set t started with a meeting between up cutting-edge décor Nightlife has opened up a whole new myself, Yosef Kanofsky, Director and lounge layouts, way of approaching and engaging young ofI YAM, and Rochel Leah Shapiro, prepared exotic food adults in the warmest way. We are very program coordinator of Bayis Yehudi designs, and worked happy to be starting the program again Institute of Training (BYIT). She on multi-level public- for the year—the first event was this past came in carrying a stellar reputation ity. Plans were made Monday. The regular schedule will be and many recommendations from to bring in top speak- Motzei Shabbos, Monday, and Thursday CHJCC staff and other community ers. No stone was left success beyond all of our expectations. nights. In addition, we are adding events members who knew her work. She unturned. The name “Nightlife” was very contro- for young, married women 1-2 times a explained to me the schedule of versial in my eyes, but Sury Ciment and month, and we are planning to have a BYIT for the summer. One of their Moshe Rubashkin While in Brazil fund- Rochel Leah Shapiro felt very strongly monthly speaker for middle-aged couples classes was already taking place in my raising for camp scholarships (Baruch that the name would carry a certain home. I asked her if she was interested Hashem, we had tremendous Hatzlacha), mystique and attraction in the eyes of in creating a program on a totally dif- I got a call from Sury Ciment. She the girls. ferent level: Sunday through Thursday, informed me that my wife had seen state-of-the-art programs for post high a flyer for Nightlife advertising our The program started on July 4th. The school girls. The pro- home as the location and had theme of the night was “America is nisht gram’s goal would be to not heard anything about it. anderish”, bringing meaning to the spirit engage these girls in an I told Mrs. Ciment not to of the day. All the food on the table was inspiring and positive worry—everything will be displayed in red, white, and blue with atmosphere. I offered taken care of. American flags. Around 15-18 (girls) addressing important issues such as par- my house as the loca- came that first evening. This number enting, communication, and others. tion. When she asked When I returned, I spoke to grew and grew as the program started to what the budget was, I my wife and pointed out that earn a reputation. Some nights brought We are also looking to create a program answered, “There is no we are living through worse more than 100 girls through the doors. for bochurim based on the Nightlife budget.” She looked at times than our parents and The program ran for nine weeks. Evalu- model and spirit. Boys that didn’t go me in disbelief. When grandparents did when they ations were distributed to the girls at the on Shlichus after Zal or haven’t found she saw that I was seri- suffered terribly in Samar- end of the summer, and the feedback was their place within the walls of Yeshiva ous, she put a team kand and Tashkent. There is awesome. We have enclosed a sample of are looking for something to be a part together and really got a total meltdown happening some of the responses (see next page). of. We want to create an atmosphere to work. with our youth and young of warmth and support for them so that couples. There isn’t a family I think the success of the program they will not have to look outside of the Under the close guidance of Sury Ciment, out there that doesn’t need brochos. We over the summer was encapsulated community for meaning and personal the Founder and Director of BYIT, agreed that we weren’t going to be there by a conversation I had with a Shliach growth. a division of Taharas HaMishpacha for the summer and that by opening up during the summer. He called me and International (THI), Rochel Leah our house, we would draw down brochos told me the following: “Instead of my We are including in this issue a beautiful Shapiro created a phenomenal program. for the Rebbe’s neighborhood and for daughters coming home from work and article written by Mimi Notik about They brought in some very talented our family. Later Nightlife over the summer that was young women to work on several fronts. in the summer she May it be His will, as it is the theme of the year, Expand to the west, emailed to all the Shluchim to encourage Devorah Leah Popack was instrumental received a beauti- east, north and south Uforatzo Yomo vokedmo tzofono vonegbo, their daughters and friends to enroll in as an assistant to Rochel Leah, helping ful brocha from the leading to a heritage without limitations, so it should also be in these the program. I think it really captures with ideas, layout, and everything under Rebbe in his Igros [Lubavitch] activities, the theme of Uforatzo etc. the feel of the program. We look forward the sun. She also designed all the printed Kodesh where the Praised is their share everyone who is active in this, which is also a to reporting more good news about materials. Chana Lewis headed all mar- Rebbe is thanking channel to draw down an increase in the blessings from Hashem in Nightlife and other programs. keting and photography efforts. Brocha a woman for open- all that is needed for oneself and their family. Friedman and Tzivia Lehrer created the ing up her home to I got a call Friday morning from Sury food presentation with all of its style and N’shei Chabad in With Blessings for an excellent success, and in particular to all who Ciment how she was overwhelmed class from conception to production. K’far Chabad. The have participated until now and surely they will increase, in order to putting this whole project together. She These dedicated staff members and Rebbe gave many be blessed with multiples of good in soul and body. wrote in to the Rebbe and got a beauti- beautiful brochos Waiting for good tidings in the above mentioned. ful answer (see insert). I would like to for opening the thank the Rebbe for all the beautiful Newspaper house, and such a Rebbe’s signature Community brochos that have made Nightlife the clear answer was 290 Kingston Avenue, success it is. I would also like to thank Brooklyn, NY 11225 my wife for opening up our home to the 718 771 9000 Some of the Upcoming community for such a beautiful program Published & edited weekly by the Vaad Hakohol of Crown Heights. Nightlife Events: and other programs. Finally, I would like Motzei Shabbos, Nov.24 ~ Yud Daled Kislev Event to thank the staff of BYIT and Nightlife, Moshe Rubashkin, Chairman in particular Sury Ciment, Chaya Sara Dr. Tzvi (Harvey) Lang, Vice Chairman Monday, November 26 ~ JLI Rabbi Plotkin, Secretary Zarchi, Kraindy Klein, and Rochel Leah All material in this paper has been copyrighted. It is the Thursday, November 29 ~ Yud Tes Kislev Event Shapiro, as well as Rivka Shur from the exculive property of this newspaper, unless otherwise CHJCC. attributed., and cannot be reproduced without the consent Monday, December 3 ~ JLI of the publisher. Thursday, December 5 ~ 2nd light event Composition responsibility: This newspaper will not be liable for errors appearing in advertising, beyond the cost of the space occupied by the error. Advertiser assumes responsibility for errors in telephone orders. All adver- Do not miss any of our super evenings; tisement designed and prepared by the CHCommunity Newspaper are the property of the newspaper and cannot Come socialize, meet new friends, be reproduced without the consent of the publisher we are waiting for you... November 23, 2007crOWN heights 

Nightlife: Out of the box, but in The Heights

By Mimi Notik munity “feel like they own their own target audience, but she felt the idea went stamp Nightlife events with a pricey space in Crown Heights.” against the goal of harboring unity. As fee. Referring to Nightlife’s sought-after dmit it. The trendy graphics caught it turns out, her refusal was warranted. lecturers, Rina Meckler says, “You come your attention. You saw it from afar, But no matter what the declared goal, Girls of every age, background, and here and it’s not typical learning, but andA came closer to see what it was about. Nightlife is surpassing not only the initial social bent have walked through the something that people would pay a lot And when you did, the headline trapped vision, but everyone’s expectations. doors to discover a common identity for.” Nightlife also offers “5th night on- your curiosity. and experience the ultimate meshing of the-house!” cards, with a free entry after Since its inception in July, Nightlife has Crown Heights singles. four nights of participation. Nightlife? experienced tremendous success. Over 400 girls have been through the doors to Perhaps it’s possible because of what This coming month, Nightlife has Yea, you were a little surprised, very enjoy outstanding lectures and fun semi- many call, “a chilled out environment.” announced programs that include self intrigued, and even a little excited. nars appealing to an array of interests. defense (Krav-Maga, to be specific), a Taught by well-researched professionals, Says one girl, “Here, when someone drumming circle, spa-night, and more. Then you saw the small print and courses have included jewelry design, asks you what you do, you don’t have Sunday nights are devoted to enter- gasped. voice training, food decorating, sushi- to act like you’re busy. You can just say, tainment - featuring an open mic and making, makeup, and more. ‘nothing’ and it’s totally fine.” Jewish Jazz live jazz – while Mondays “What? In Crown Heights?!” and Thursdays will feature captivating During lively voice lessons with Kineret, Nightlife seems to have established a speakers, with new additions; Sara Esther With Nightlife’s out-of-the-box events girls (both singers and non-singers alike) refined and stylish presence that sur- Crispe, Esther Piekarski, Rabbi Shlomo and a lounge area fit for Park Slope, it’s no learned new techniques, and laughed prised many girls. Aside for the debonair Jaffe, and Rivka Slonim, to name a few. wonder that the many nightly attendees their way through giving each other décor, the food is always plentiful, fresh, are also surprised. Standing amidst the advice. presented with marked originality, and The full Nightlife picture points to lounge candles, plants, coffee stand, chic what one girl calls, “beyond delicious.” something very revolutionary. Seeing the floor pillows and luxurious furniture, it’s A night with Chana Weisberg gave all the Along with the actual programs, many void that Nightlife has filled for so many not hard to feel like you’ve traveled to an right answers to our common questions details – including colorful tablecloths thus far, people have been asking about out-of-town locale. on G-d’s ways – as she eloquently painted and a fun stand-up chalkboard – all come making a version for boys, and mothers a picture of how everything that happens together to create a vibe that feels like are constantly asking if they can join. But alas, while being at Nightlife might is part of the past, present, and future. the perfect medium between trendy and make you say, “Uh, I don’t think we’re sophisticated. So what makes this nightlife different in Kansas anymore,” you’ll find the On Tisha B’Av, close to 90 girls showed from all other nightlifes? enormous room when you descend a up to Nightlife and heard Eicha by “Everything is done with class,” says Ita spiral staircase in a home not very far candlelight – an incredible alternative Friedman. Is it the trendy set-up? Social opportuni- away – but right on President Street. to the usual experience. ties? The topics addressed by lecturers? Recently, a captivating lecture by Rabbi The delectable food? With each aspect Chairman of the Crown Heights Jewish Perhaps the most astonishing thing Shea Hecht was followed by a wine- given careful attention, it’s hard to Community Council, Rabbi Moshe about Nightlife is the variety of girls that tasting. Guided by professional wine decide. Rubashkin, is Nightlife’s visionary and attend. While many might wonder, “Is connoisseurs, girls tried out different host. Fully sponsored by The CHJCC, this going to be my crowd?” there really wines, each accented by five correspond- But one thing’s for sure: Rubashkin has teamed up with BYIT (a is no way to label the group that arrives ing courses of fancy hors d’oeuvres. project of THI) to make the unbeliev- to Nightlife events. If you’re a single girl living in the hood, able happen: a cool hang out spot and It was the first night for Rochelle Oliver, you’ve got plans tonight. sophisticated programs for single ladies “The programs attract every type of and she was pleasantly surprised. ‘This living in Crown Heights. person,” says Mushkee Wolf, a Crown is certainly on the edge,” she said with Be sure to visit www.CHnightlife.word- Heights resident. a smile. press.com for up-to-date professional To program coordinator Rochel Leah pictures and recap of events! • Shapiro, the stated goal is to make the When brainstorming for the project, The good news is that the up-scale vibe abundance of single girls in the com- Shapiro was encouraged to pinpoint a and professional programming doesn’t [email protected]

Samples taken from some of the 100 Nightlife Summer 2007 Evaltion Forms completed by participants at the end of the summer: One word to describe Nightlife: “Happening!” First impression: “Elegant and beautifully done. Classy.” “At first I was nervous to meet everyone and I didn’t know what to expect but once I went, I felt comfortable, that’s just the nature of nightlife.” “After hearing all my friends rave about it I had to see it for myself. So I made some time and I was hooked.” What keeps girls coming back? “It was created in a classy way.” “The fact that it doesn’t cost much at all, and there are so many different things going on so you can always gain something.” How did Nightlife enhanced your summer? “I am so appreciative because I need to keep myself occupied to stay happy.” “Great company, creative program- ming.” “Added excitement. It really gave me various events to look forward to throughout the summer.” “It gives girls a Jewish, healthy atmosphere to hang out in and to express themselves in a way they never knew they could.” “It has given me a new way of expanding my knowledge of different pursuits, plus broadening my knowledge of yiddishkeit.” “Met new friends, gave us somewhere to go.” What is your message to the Sponsor? “More than anything, nightlife opened a new social spectrum, and I really learned to appreciate many people from various walks of life.” “You are keeping me in the right place. I am glad to have met the girls here, and now I have a support group when I feel like ‘going out” at night.” “Everything is appreciated and has enriched the lives of the girls who attend.” “I am so inspired. I enjoy it so much that I turn down other exciting things in other places to come to a nightlife event…I appreciate and hope it continues…” “They should come see for themselves what it has accomplished; Girls coming out of their shells, making new friends, learning new talents, and just being happy.” “Thank you for allowing such an amazing program to take place! It made my summer more fun, educational and inspiring, and I’d love to carry that through for the whole year.” “Was done in the classiest way; top speakers, and activities. Nothing was spared to make this a real top quality, high standard program.” What do you say about the girls who attend? “All different types, comfortable and friendly.” “It attracts girls of all ages and personalities. There is definitely a night for everyone.” “They’re all different but come together to enjoy the same things.” “Nice mix of people.” Why you think nightlife has been so successful? “Because it was as necessary to living as having a job is to existence.” •  CROWN HEIGHTS November 23, 2007 Our Heroes

could not be helped medically, he need some at public Farbrengens, the Rebbe only visit the patient and declare him would make mention of Dr. Seligson. The Rebbe’s Doctor well. The Rebbe would then do his When an individual asked the Rebbe part. who he should turn to with his medical problems, the Rebbe pointed to Dr. In another incident, in 1972 (5732) the Seligson saying, “If there is someone piece of cake at the farbrengen before Reb Avrohom HaRofe - Dr. Seligson family of a woman who suffered from who preoccupied his G-dly soul with Hakofos to give to his father. The Rebbe heart problems wrote on her behalf to the the Shulchan Aruch and his natural soul then stood up from his place, turned to ur Sages tell us (Tractate Shekalim Rebbe asking for a Brocho and advice. with medicine, what more do we need?” Dr. Seligson, and gave him wine and a chapter 5) that there were people The Rebbe advised them to consult with To Rabbi Dr. Nissan Mindel, the Rebbe piece of cake as well saying, “When the whoO were responsible for certain daily Dr. Twersky who would refer people to once said, “When other physicians use Kohanim eat (of the sacrifice), the owner functions in the Bais Hamikdosh. The specialists. The top cardiologist that strong medicines, Dr. Seligson manages of the offering is forgiven. In the same Mishna gives us the names of those who he sent her to told the woman that she and cures with an aspirin. way, you should eat the cake, and the required surgery in order to survive more than six months. The woman wrote to ❝ the Rebbe saying that she did not want Indeed, patients with surgery and asked for the Rebbe’s advice serious illnesses were and Brocho. The Rebbe advised her to consult Dr. Seligson. referred by the Rebbe to When the family members approached Dr. Seligson and often on Dr. Seligson, he asked them the precise wording of the Rebbe’s response: “Did those occasions, he would the Rebbe say “Rofeh Yedid” (a doctor, a friend) or “Dr. Seligson?” The family prescribe solutions which answered that the Rebbe had stated “Dr. Seligson”. Upon hearing this, Dr. seemed inappropriate to Seligson immediately gave his opinion, “There is no need for surgery”. Faced the severity of the illness. with two conflicting opinions, the family He would tell patients to asked Dr. Seligson to discuss the matter with the cardiologist. He did not wish eat an orange or complete to do so. The family was insistent, so he agreed. The conversation between them a particular section of the lasted about 10 minutes. Dr. Seligson Shulchan Aruch.❞ The Rebbe is Mesader Kiddushin at Dr. & Mrs Zeligson’s wedding then told the family, “He has his opinion, and I have mine [there is no need for held these positions. The Rebbe asks one who is sick will recover.” The Rebbe In one yechidus, Mrs. Seligson was surgery]”. The family again wrote to the (Likutei Sichos vol.22 pg. 147) how is continued, “Know that you are a great discussing the difficulty of her husband’s Rebbe regarding Dr. Seligson’s opinion. it possible that for 420 years, over the doctor and although others do not think schedule. In those pre-Hatzolo days, Dr. The Rebbe gave his Brocho. The woman course of many different generations, so, the fact is you are. If other doctors do Seligson handled all emergencies, day chose not to have surgery, and her pass- all the appointed people had the same not agree with me [my directive in curing and night, as well as treating the entire ing eighteen years later was unrelated to personal name? The Rebbe explains that the patient], you should side with me, community. The Rebbe responded, cardiac issues. the name they had was actually the title and I will have a medical authority that “Did you know that your husband is of their specific function. supports my position.” Indeed, patients a Lamed-vovnik?” (one of the hidden On different occasions over the years, with serious illnesses were referred by the tzaddikim in every The Chabad Rebbe’im, beginning Rebbe to Dr. Seligson and often on those generation). with the Alter Rebbe, were served by occasions, he would prescribe solutions physicians who shared the same personal which seemed inappropriate to the sever- Dr. Seligson was name. A number of Rebbe’im had per- ity of the illness. He would tell patients born in Cracow, sonal physicians called Reb Avrohom to eat an orange or complete a particular Poland, a fifth gener- Horofe. For the Rebbe that was Dr. section of the Shulchan Aruch. ation descendent of Seligson, his personal physician. He the Alter Rebbe. His treated the Crown Heights community An incident which occurred in 1973 father, Reb Michoel and had additional patients in other (5734) is told in the name of the late Aharon, was a dedi- neighborhoods. Dr. Seligson was also Rabbi Leibel Raskin, A’H, Shliach to cated Chossid of the means through which the Rebbe Morocco. Rabbi Raskin’s young son was the Rebbe Rashab drew down blessings of health for those critically injured during the preparations and the Frierdiker who needed it. for Hakofos in 770. Attempts to revive Rebbe. Lubavitch him were unsuccessful. Rabbi Raskin archival records ❝A number of Rebbe’im approached Rabbi Hodokov, the Rebbe’s find mention of him had personal physicians secretary, asking for a Brocho from the in a request from Rebbe. The Rebbe was inaccessible, the Rebbe Rashab called Reb Avrohom and Rabbi Hodokov could not enter the to organize com- Horofe. For the Rebbe Rebbe’s room. Hearing how severe the munal meetings. that was Dr. Seligson, his situation was, he finally agreed to do so. In the early 1930’s, ❞ The Rebbe said that Dr. Seligson should on the Frierdiker personal physician. be informed. Dr. Seligson saw the child Rebbe instructions, During one of the early years of the and said that everything would work out a chassidus shiur Rebbe’s N’sius, throughout the winter, and that he would recover completely. He was begun in Reb Dr. Seligson spent every Friday night in then entered the Rebbe’s room for a few Michoel Aharon’s the Rebbe’s room. For approximately an moments to brief the Rebbe about the home. Rabbi Ment- hour and a half he discussed medicine boy. A short while later, Rabbi Raskin’s lik, later the dean of and specific patients with the Rebbe. son regained consciousness. the Yeshiva at 770, gave the shiur on On Simchas Torah 1957 (5718), Rabbi Dr. Seligson later told Rabbi Raskin that Shabbos mornings S.Z.G. was stricken with pneumonia. the Rebbe had once told him that if he and Reb Michoel on The Rebbe gave Rabbi S.Z.G.’s son a as a physician concluded that a patient Dr. Seligson other occasions. November 23, 2007crOWN heights 

Lithuania, where the legendary Japanese give them Vitamin B and thereby saved patients. Before his wedding, someone Consul Chiune Sugi-Hara was issuing many lives. inquired about Dr. Seligson’s Torah Japanese transit visas to Jews against knowledge, and the Rebbe responded, his own government’s instructions. In Dr. Seligson was a particularly devoted “If he would be amongst them [Litv- the short window of opportunity that physician to his patients, fellow refugees. ishe circles], he would be revered as a existed before he was recalled in disgrace, The Joint Distribution Committee would Gaon”. Over the years, Dr. Seligson’s Sugi-Hara issued thousands of visas. issue special rations of vitamins for knowledge in Torah was discovered Dr. Seligson was one of the fortunate children. Dr. Seligson would walk a long by people whom he would engage in recipients of the precious documents distance every morning in torn shoes to a Torah conversation. Dr. Seligson that would enable him to travel through deliver the vitamins to one particular wrote comments on the Tanya, filling Japan to any country allowing Jews safe child. Many such stories were shared by the margins of the pages with writing. entry. his patients in later years. The Rebbe asked Dr. Seligson for his Tanya, and today it is archived in the Dr. Seligson traveled through Vladi- The Frierdiker Rebbe requested that Rebbe’s library. In similar fashion, he vostok to Kobe Japan, where he met efforts should be made on Dr. Seligson’s wrote comments on the Chumash and 6 Tishrei, 5743, The Rebbe, Dr. Seligson with the bochurim of the Lubavitcher behalf to procure him a visa to the U.S., on tractates of the Talmud. Yeshiva. Also attempting to escape the and in 1947, Dr. Seligson reached the There were twenty physicians special- Nazis were entire yeshivos such as Mir United States with Hashem’s help. In Dr. Seligson was married on the izing in different areas of medicine in Dr. and Chachmei Lublin. Since the United order to practice medicine in the United 5th lichtel of Chanukah in 1951 in Seligson’s maternal family. Dr. Seligson States would not accept anyone of Ger- States, he needed to take all the medical Manhattan. The Rebbe came to the himself chose to study medicine out of man or Polish descent, they were all sent exams which would entitle him to a Kabbolas Ponim, spoke a Sicha and a desire to help people. He studied in by the Japanese to Shanghai. Dr. Seligson medical license. After Paris and Strasbourg and received his and the twenty-nine bochurim of the successfully receiving diploma from the University of Vilna. Lubavitcher Yeshiva remained there for his medical license, When he completed his medical studies, the duration of the war. Dr. Seligson notified he worked on his doctorate in Vienna, the Frierdiker Rebbe doing research in endocrinology and Dr. Seligson was the physician for all of the good news. In hypertension. At that time, Dr. Selig- of the yeshivos and treated the Jew- his letter, the Rebbe son was a pioneer in his field. Similar ish residents in the Shanghai Ghetto. blessed him with much research was also being conducted by Amongst his patients were Buddhists success, a good shi- the illustrious scientist Dr. Cushing who who would respectfully wait until he duch, and concluded invited Dr. Seligson to work with him in finished davening. Conditions in the with the unusual ❝ Dr. Seligson met Shanghai Ghetto were poor, and all expression “M’chabdo um’vorcho” (the one a Japanese physician that respects and and asked him if there blesses him). was anything new in Dr. Seligson became endocrinology. The one of the Frierdiker Japanese doctor showed Rebbe’s physicians. The Rebbe would Dr. Seligson getting Lekach from the Rebbe Dr. Seligson his own article frequently call on him to evaluate his in the American Medical father-in-law’s health. Dr. Seligson was then was Msader Kidushim. In the ❞ present on the morning of Yud Shvat course of the next forty years, Dr. Association Journal. 5710 (1950). Chassidim comment that Seligson dedicated his life to his at the Frierdiker Rebbe’s histalkus, there patients. He could have a full waiting Boston. An interesting event took place was a Kohen (Reb SB Eichorn), a Levi room but would sit with a patient and during World War II. Dr. Seligson met a (Reb Shmuel Levitin), and a Yisroel (Dr. spend as much time as needed. Finding Japanese physician and asked him if there Seligson). out a patient’s background, he would was anything new in endocrinology. The offer medical as well as psychological Japanese doctor showed Dr. Seligson his Dr. Seligson merited to serve as the advice. Dr. Seligson was known to be own article in the American Medical water had to be boiled. An outbreak of personal physician of the Rebbe, the an excellent diagnostician and the Association Journal. beriberi caused additional suffering for Rebbetzin Chaya Mushka, the Reb- Rebbe considered him, “One of the the yeshiva bochurim who were in great betzin Chana, the Rebbe’s mother, and greatest doctors we have today”. Some In 1933, as an established physician, pain. Dr. Seligson researched this disease the Rebbetzin Nechama Dina. When people would visit specialists in Man- Dr. Seligson returned home and began and discovered that the problem resulted the Rebbe suffered a heart attack in late hattan, pay a hefty fee, leave with an working at the Cracow Jewish Hospital. from a lack of vitamin B. To get a supply 1977, on numerous occasions the Rebbe unsatisfactory solution, and then come He remained there until the outbreak of Vitamin B during wartime was not an instructed Dr. Weiss, who led the medi- to Dr. Seligson. He would diagnose of WWII, at which time his parents easy task, and Dr. Seligson instructed all cal team to consult with Dr. Seligson. their problem, prescribe a remedy and urged him to flee Poland. He ran to the students to eat special foods that will When the Rebbe was asked who would charge a few dollars. Although unwell monitor his medical care (after the heart at times, his first priority was always attack), he chose to continue with Dr. his patients. Nothing would stop him Seligson as his physician. from grabbing his medical bag and running to a patient as soon as he A very private person, Dr. Seligson did received a call. not share any information with anyone regarding his many visits with the Rebbe Yehi Zichro Boruch! May his memory and the Rebbe’s family members. Once, serve as a merit for good health, and a suggestion was made that Dr. Seligson a complete and speedy recovery for should ride with the Rebbe from his all who are ill in the Lubavitch com- house back to 770. The Rebbe com- munity worldwide, and the ultimate mented, “I would prefer that you travel Geula, together with the Rebbe leading separately, in order that people should us, when “The ones who are resting not know you are coming from me.” in the dust will awaken and rejoice” and Dr. Seligson will be amongst Dr. Seligson studied Torah three to four them. • hours a night after a full day of seeing At the Wedding  CROWN HEIGHTS November 23, 2007 CHJCC

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n Motzei Shabbos Parshas Vayeitzei, Heap Othe YAM JAM was held at ALIYA. The YAM JAM has been going on for more than five years—that’s more than 50 YAM JAMs! he HEAP outreach program will What happens depends on the crowd, but on begin in our office iy”h in the begin- any given night you may be treated to very ningT of December. At that time we will loud Guitar “Shredding” of Jewish songs, Rabbi give you the outreach day and the list “Dude” singing his beatnick Chassidic poems, of documents needed to apply for this folk nigunim, Charlie doing his thing, and all assistance. sorts of other unique performances from our Any one who wants to apply now can apply at the HEAP office located at 98 Flatbush Ave. They are open daily 9:00am youth and adults. We are taking advantage of to 4:00pm. Take the commercial heavy East New York Avenue the 2 or 3 train to put up the amps one notch under deafening to Atlantic Ave- levels. The guys like it. or other talents, please come forward. Youth nue. and walk The YAM JAM has a long and beautiful history, of Crown Heights—the YAM JAM meets the to 98 Flatbush but now we are building the future. If you have motzei Shabbos of Kiddush Levana. For more Avenue.• any creative, musical, comic, performance arts information, call (718) 774-3999. November 23, 2007crOWN heights 

precinct to see if anyone can use them. Bobby handles all Sergeant We were told yes, and someone will come the street closings by shortly to pick it up. I worked in Presi- for Shabbos, Yomim Letters Robert Tovim, and Torah ❝ Processions. He Troise What do you expect Security Cameras when you open the door to helps coordinate all By Batia Brandel the different ser- What kind of “unwanted” things are the police? ❞ vices that the police people concerned about? t does not come as a big surprise that provide for our dent St. basement office of the CHJCC at Driving while on the phone? Sergeant Robert Troise, Bobby as he community during the time. When the bell rung, we asked knownI to many residents of our com- Simchas Beis HaShoeiva. He organizes Not buckling up? who it was and were told “police”. We munity, is the first to be profiled in our all the Tahaluchas. He is always there buzzed them in. What do you expect Teens walking out of “OUR” stores with newly established newspaper. for our community. when you open the door to the police? cigarettes? Not what we saw, that’s for sure. The first time I met Bobby was in 1992 Sergeant Robert Troise joined the New Inappropriate behavior? and it was a meeting that legends are York City Police Department in January In walks a young, good-looking man Dumping trash? made of. 1986. He was promoted to Sergeant in with a pony tail, open shirt with multiple August 1998. When I started working You are afraid of a camera? Why? The chains dangling on his neck and earrings I w a s j u s t with Bobby, his son Michael was 4 years Abishter “also” sees this! in his ear. My immediate reaction was starting to old. Now he is a sophomore studying oh, I don’t know - “call the police!” but If the cameras are installed, they will work with Criminal Justice at The Citadel Military it lasted maybe just a minute after the the precinct College in Charleston, SC. His daughter 1) reduce crime initial shock wore off. a n d n o t Danielle was 8, and he was worried that 2) make us think twice before acting familiar with she was spending too much time talking Shortly after this first meeting, Bobby improperly the culture. on the phone. Today, Danielle is 23 now became the Crime Prevention officer. Photo Credits: Menachem Kozlovsky and is in a Graduate Program studying I’m all for the cameras! My block first! Sergeant Robert Troise Working with Bobby was and is always Psychology at West Chester University Coming from Russia, I remembered a pleasure. He is one of those people who Let’s hope this moment is the last of in PA. Bobby is happily married to his the feeling associated with Russian says what he means and actually means Galus, and as you read this it is Geula wife Debbie for 26 years. milizia officers, milizioner--stay as far what he says. He can be counted on to already! away as possible. I did not know what give his honest opinion be that a personal The Crown Heights Community is Moshiach Now! to expect. matter or a work related one. His work fortunate to have Sergeant Robert Troise ethic is very high and he is a very good Mazal Zirkind part of the 71st Precinct Community We got some drinks in the food pantry problem solver. Affairs •. that we could not use, and I called the Parents should be parents of Iran in 2002, when Israel captured the Rabbi Hecht’s article in Nov. 16 Crown 4000 ton Karine-A ship that was trans- Heights newspaper was right on the porting 50 tons of Iranian manufactured Terrorist Togetherness nose. weapons. The weapons were purchased by the Palestinian Authority from Iran Parents should be parents and not for use against Israel. buddies. If parents do their job, then By Yehudit Barsky in Lebanon – and, despite the group’s friendship will generally follow. Sunni radical roots, Iran has provided Iran’s funding of terrorist organizations o the dismay of many in the Western safe haven to a number of its top leaders Teenagers should be able to respect their is not restricted to Lebanon and the world, Lebanon was Terror Central since the 9/11 attacks. Two of the most parents, even recognizing their foibles. Palestinian Authority. Recently, Iranian inT the 1970s and 1980s. The lack of a prominent Al-Qa’ida leaders reported to intelligence forces are reported to have Parents must draw a line that should not central government during the Lebanese be in Iran are Saif Al-Adel and Saad Bin provided support to Sunni terrorist be crossed. The Torah gives us very spe- Ladin, the son of Osama Bin Ladin. organizations in Iraq that are attacking cific guidelines on how a parent should Iraqi civilians and fighting against U.S. be treated. Let us follow manufacturer’s Iran’s support for both Sunni and Shi’a forces in that country. Major General directions. terrorists has been evident since the Michael Barbero, deputy director for 1980s. Similarly, Rebbi’s and Hanhaga should regional operations of the U.S. Joint not try to “act like the boys” (or girls) and Chiefs of Staff, stated, “We are seeing Within extremist Palestinian circles, Iran then get insulted or upset when the girls some indicators of Iranian support to the helped create and continues to fund the (or boys) do not give the proper respect. Sunni extremist groups in Iraq, which Palestinian Islamic Jihad, a radical Sunni The Rebbis, or Morah’s just brought the is a development.” Barbero continued, Palestinian terrorist organization that disrespect on themselves by their too “Detainees in American custody have adopted the ideology of Iran’s Ayatollah familiar behavior. indicated that Iranian intelligence civil war made Lebanon a very attractive Khomeini. A similar relationship has operatives have given support to Sunni Keep up the good work, let us see a news- place for terrorist organizations to oper- developed between Iran and the radical insurgents and then we’ve discovered paper full of “toichen” (solid content)and ate. Terrorists from across the globe set Sunni Palestinian terror organization some munitions in Baghdad neighbor- not “toful” fluff. up training camps and a place to meet Hamas. While Hamas was established hoods which are largely Sunni that were their contacts with funding from coun- by the extremist Sunni Muslim Brother- Reizel Gottesman, manufactured in Iran.” tries that provided financial support, hood movement in the late 1980s, it has Brooklyn including the former Soviet Union, Syria, come to rely on Iran for financial support. Given the Iranian regime’s history of Libya and Saddam Hussein’s Iraq. Ter- Following Hamas’ win in the Palestin- supporting terrorist organizations that rorist organizations across the political ian elections last year, Iran pledged $50 cross the spectrum between Sunnis and spectrum established their headquarters million to Hamas. Shi’a, Iran has become the nexus between and safe houses there. Sunni and Shi’a terror organizations. It Using Hezbollah as a conduit, Iran also has achieved a unique form of radical Although the era of those terror orga- has funded the Palestinian Sunni Al-Aqsa Sunni-Shi’a cooperation, a terrorist nizations has come to an end, today Martyrs Brigades terror organization. togetherness. Lebanon is plagued with a different The Brigades are part of the Palestinian generation of terror organizations. Chief Authority’s Fatah organization that is Yehudit Barsky is director of the among them is Hezbollah, the Lebanese led by Palestinian Authority President American Jewish Committee’s Divi- Shi’i terror organization spawned by the Mahmoud Abbas. The Palestinian sion on Middle East and International radical Shi’a regime in Iran. Interestingly, Authority itself was exposed as a client Terrorism. • Al-Qa’ida also maintains a presence  CROWN HEIGHTS November 23, 2007 Our Teens

Rabbi Hecht, is chairman of the board of the National Com- mittee for the Furtherance of Jewish Education (NCFJE), WE ARE THE continuing the tradition of social services management and outreach that began with his father, the Rabbi Jacob J. Hecht DAUGHTERS OF THE KING! A’H. He is a Rabbi and activist in the Jewish community, focusing on family crisis intervention, guiding and advising troubled youth and their families, marriage counseling, and By Perel Chava bas Raizel Mirel youthful enthusiasm, and she was right drugs and cults counseling and consultations. He can be for a while…. reached at [email protected]. • rowing up in the 50’s, I enjoyed a safe, secure environment. My Fast forward to the mid 1970’s. I am Rabbi Shea Hecht: mother,G obm, could let me play outside expecting my second bracha and have for hours without worrying about me. A just received the mail. My husband, who policeman was your friend. The crossing was at that time serving as the only frum 19 Minutes a Day to a Better Child guard became part of your extended Chaplain in the US Air Force stationed family. The shul was the focus of your in the UK, was on the Rebbe’s mailing life. The Rov, a trusted friend. list. ccording to a study done by the parents are home with their children Office for National Statistics, a – be it primary time or secondary We knew what was expected of ourselves I sat down to read the famous “(Pres.) typicalA working parent spends just 19 time – parents should be focused on in terms of our avodas Hashem, but we Eisenhower Sicha.” My life was forever minutes a day interacting with their chil- their children. This means listening to went about our business with modest changed by the time I got to the end of dren. Statistics show that parents spend your child and making sure that there comportment. We needed to bring credit reading it. another 16 minutes a day while doing a is physical contact between parent to Hashem for all of the good that came “secondary activity,” which means that and child – such as hugging. A parent our way, and we turned to Him for His The Rebbe had been asked what, in his the parent and child are occupied with a who concentrates on what their child help, when times were challenging. opinion, was the preferred mode of hair different matter altogether, such as shop- is saying is bound to hear things that covering for women. He explained that if ping or eating, decreasing the quality of are important. The special mitzvot of women were done one were a guest in the White House and the time spent together. with quiet dignity. In fact, I never ques- President Eisenhower entered the room, ❝With so little time tioned why Mommie went to a monthly a married woman would feel much more What shocked me about this study is how to communicate with yeshiva meeting. It wasn’t until I was a put together if she was wearing a sheitel. much time parents and children spend kallah myself that she told me where her A sheitel, the Rebbe continued, covers all together. I have heard principals,teachers, their parent each day, it “meetings” were held. of the hair, while a scarf or hat can only youth directors, and counselors speak is a shame to use those cover a portion of it. In such an austere about the children whose parents don’t precious moments on The accepted minhag in our circle was gathering, a woman would more than give them enough time. I myself have that a married woman covered her hair likely feel self-conscious, and she would heard from children who pass through criticism.❞ when making a bracha, davenning and push her head covering around, further my office that they feel their parents therefore, when going to shul. A hat was exposing her hair in the process. don’t have time for them. The numbers of the accepted mode of hair covering. I Studies show that parents who listen latch-key and at-risk children who speak never questioned this until I was eight Yet here is to their children when they are young about how little time their parents give years old. the state- and keep the lines of communication them is also testimony to the fact that ment that open are more likely to have open children think that they are lacking in I was a guest at the home of the Rebbetzin changed communication with their children parental attention. I somehow assumed Esther Ita Margolin, zt’l, shlucha of the m y l i f e when they are teenagers. the amount of time that parents spend Frierdike Rebbe, zy’a. I went to yeshiva forever: with their children must be much less with her girls and therefore was invited Lastly, make sure that all communica- than 19 minutes a day. to their weekly Shabbos party. Covering tion with our children is loving and the whole positive. Even though there may be Truthfully, we must take into account I had full run of their apartment and head pro- issues that need to be discussed with that our time is divided between all our ended up in the Rebbetzin’s bedroom tects the our children, perhaps the weekend, children which brings the bottom line where I saw a human hair sheitel on a family. when there is less pressure, is a better down to less than 19 minutes per child stand on her bureau. I did notice that the time to take up “issues.” Certainly for many parents. Nonetheless, parents Rebbetzin covered all of her hair in the I had been told by 3 doctors that I would with a just few minutes a day with can use this study as a springboard to house at all times, but a wig? Although never have children if I insisted on keep- each child, a parent must stay away think of ways to make the most produc- I was quite young, I did figure out that ing the antiquated Family Purity Laws. from criticism. With so little time to tive use of whatever time they do have the purchase of a human hair wig must It was only with the brachas and the communicate with their parent each with their children. be very important to my hostess and very eiytzas of Rav Moshe Feinstein,,zt’l, as day, it is a shame to use those precious expensive too. This was in the 1950’s well as the brachas of the Rebbe, that I moments on criticism. before synthetics. I asked her several had children at all. ❝I somehow assumed questions and came away with the Additionally, communication with distinct impression that I wasn’t being What wouldn’t I do to protect my pre- the amount of time that other members of our household, given the whole story at home. cious family? parents spend with their including and maybe especially our spouse, should be positive and calm. I I could not wait for motzei Shabbat when It is such a simple inyan today. There children must be much less can’t imagine the tension of a child who Daddy, obm., would pick me up. is a price-range to fit every budget and than 19 minutes a day.❞ is home for a short break over a long gemachim to help those who need the day and comes home to a nervous and My interrogation of Mommie began as assistance in order to carry out this one tense house with squabbling adults. Parents can use three tips to accomplish soon as I got home: request of the Rebbe. this goal: If we have 19 minutes a day to try and “Mommie what are we?” The Rebbe gave over his whole life for create a better child our time would be First, parents can make sure to be home us. This is a simple action that not only well spent building and strengthening more hours when their children are at “We are Modern Orthodox. Is that okay proclaims our pride in being the “Daugh- our relationship with positive and home. It doesn’t really matter which with you?” ters of the King”, but insures protection loving communication. The ones who parent is home when the children are, but for our loved ones too. gain the most from this are our families it should be at least one. It isn’t always “No!” I vehemently answered. “I want to – especially our children. easy to juggle a schedule so that this is be Orthodox, because that is the best!” Is there really any further need for possible, but the dividends are definitely discussion on this topic? worth it. To her credit, Mommie didn’t press the issue figuring that I would get over my Second, during the little bit of time that  CROWN HEIGHTS November 23, 2007 Shiduchim

yield any of his convictions or change Vedibarta Bam ~ Marriage the mode of his life in order to ingratiate the second, also the third, and also all himself in the eyes of Eisav. the droves that followed” (Ibid. 32:20). Vayishlach- Yaakov ordered every succeeding genera- This thought is stressed in Rashi’s com- tion of his descendants to emulate his ment on the phrase “min haba beyado” example. Jews may have bowed down in By Rabbi Moshe Bogomilsky kitchen and Shabbat table, but they — “from what had come into his hand.” Poland to the rude poretz and in Russia have drifted from that kind of life. To He states that it refers to “precious stones to an officer of the army and the police. ntil now the both of you lived a justify their succumbing to the Eisav and pearls which a person binds in a They may have had to give their hard- sheltered life. You spent most of ethic, they refer to our Parshah, Vay- bundle and carries in his hand.” Another earned possessions to the vicious Eisavs yourU time studying in Torah institutions ishlach, and say in a convincing tone interpretation is that he gave “min hachu- of other times and places. They yielded, and had very little to do with our big, that even Yaakov made concessions lin — of the profane and unconsecrated however, on everything that came under challenging, and sometimes even hostile and yielded to Eisav when he had to things” (32:14). Yaakov did not hesitate the heading of chullin — profane mate- These are people who deal and live with him. It was Eisav to give money, jewels and cattle as a price rial. But when the same vicious people who dominated the scene, and it was for Eisav’s goodwill. He parted with ordered them to give consider the religious Yaakov who went out of his way to things that pass from hand to hand, items up kadashim — that Jew to be antiquated and appease his brother Eisav. that belong to one person today and to which is holy and another the next day. “Here are my sheep sacred, to violate maintain that he must These quasi talmudei chachamim and my camels,” Yaakov said, “Take my the Shabbat, or eat adjust to their conception — scholars — are of course referring jewels and my precious stones. They are non-kosher food, of the proper lifestyle. to the pasuk “And he took of that what chullin — profane — items that can be they would permit had come into his hand a present for replaced. But my heart and my brain, my themselves to be world. With your entry into marriage, Eisav his brother. For he said: I will neshamah and my faith are sacred to me, incarcerated or flogged (even to death) you will have before you, two paths of and I will not part from them until the rather than comply. When the kadashim life. On one hand, with G‑d’s help, you they recall their father’s very end of my life.” — sacred matters — were involved, the will start building a beautiful home, venerable appearance seeming yielding Jews surprised their one which will and their mother’s kosher Yaakov instructed his people “If Eisav enemies with outstanding courage and hopefully be should confront you with the question heroism. l’sheim ulet- kitchen and Shabbat ‘lemi atah, ve’anah teileich, ulemi eileh i feret — a table, lefanecha’ — ‘to whom do you belong, What a picture the full knowledge of the prominent what is your destination and to whom text reveals! What a difference there was and resplen- appease him with the present that do all these belong?’ your answer shall between the true meaning of the story dent home goes before me, and afterwards I will be ‘Le’avdecha leYaakov minchah hi of Yaakov and Eisav, and the way some — and simul- see his face; perhaps he will receive me sheluchah le’esav’ — ‘Your servant’s people erroneously see it! taneously, kindly” (32:14, 21). Yaakov’s, it is a gift sent to Eisav.’ Tell on the other Eisav, ‘even though we worked hard My dear Chatan and Kallah, you have hand, you will There is a well-known quote “A little and earned it honestly, we are willing been taught what are the kadashim encounter the big world, which means learning is a dangerous thing.” Had to give it to you if that will satisfy your — holy — and what are the chullin having to deal with the Eisavs of society. they taken the time and trouble to demands.’ But as to the question ‘lemi — profane — in Jewish life. Never mix These are people who consider the reli- consider our Parshah, they would have atah’ — ‘to whom do you belong’ — and up the priorities. Don’t sell the kadashim gious Jew to be antiquated and maintain reached the very opposite conclusion, ‘ve’anah teileich’ — ‘what is your goal in — spiritual values — for the sake of that he must adjust to their conception and would see in it an indictment life,’ make it very clear that you — your acquiring the chullin — material suc- of the proper lifestyle. of their conduct as a Jew. Certainly, heart and your soul — belong to no cess. Resolve to shield and protect our Yaakov was willing to give something one but to Yaakov, and your ultimate kadashim — the cherished and sacred Unfortunately, many of these Jews were to Eisav! But what? He send Eisav destination to follow him in the return treasures of K’lal Yisrael — and G‑d will at one time nice little Yaakovs. They talk rams and goats and camels — mate- to your ancient home.” bless you not only spiritually but also nostalgically about their frum parents, rial things which the Patriarch had with material abundance.• and they recall their father’s venerable earned with the labor of his hands and This legacy was not limited to one appearance and their mother’s kosher the sweat of his brow. But he did not generation: “And so he commanded also

By our example, we show our kids how So, if we want our children to be ready Finding A Needle husband and wife should act towards for the Chuppa, if we want to teach them each other. We show them the respect how to have a happy marriage, we must in a Haystack that should exist between husband and show them how. wife, and we show them in the daily We all want that our boys should grow By; Sarah Junik child is different, and therefore, our give and take how to behave to one up to be masmidim. We all want them experiences with each one will seem to another. to be the best bochrim in their Yeshivah, hazal tell us that all beginnings are be uncharted territory. We cannot say: “Do as I say and not as to be able to learn, to be able to “shtaig” difficult. Sometimes the hardest Your previous know-how may even hin- I do.” That will not work. If the father etc. In Lubavitch, we want them to go partC is to actually start. If we can improve der progress as you try to reenact earlier does not go to shul everyday, how can on Mivtzoim. We want them to join in your chances to start on the right foot scenarios. Therefore, let us approach he expect his son to do so? If a mother farbrengens and be more chassidish. and be successful in this endeavor, it will the shidduch for each child as if it is does not show respect to her husband, be well worth the effort. May these pages If they see their fathers doing the best the first time. Any previous experience how are the children supposed to? give you the impetus necessary to reach they can, davening with a minyan, set- we have should be used exclusively as a the beautiful conclusion of the blessing There is a story that of a 3 year old in ting aside time to learn, trying to fit in reference. of the Lubavitcher Rebbe: “Mazal Tov! Israel who used to go around the house mivtzoim in their busy lives, they will May their home be an everlasting edifice After a Bris, the father of the infant and motioning with his hands as if he was grow up to make us more proud than we on the foundation of Torah and Mitzvos the Mohel finish a Tefilah with the words: putting on Tefillin and kissing his Shel can imagine. But if we expect them to do and their life blessed with happiness in “…and raise him to Torah, Chupa and Rosh and Shel Yad. People who saw it all these things because they should, but all things.” Maasim Tovim.” mentioned what a wonder child he is, we, ourselves, are too busy to make time how holy! They started bringing him for it, our message goes a bit astray. • Even if this is not your first foray into the When do our preparations for chuppa Kvitlach, asking for brochos etc. Then field it is still a bewildering and perplex- start? When our children are infants; someone went to a Godol and told him ing journey especially when the advice when we raise them with the right mid- the story of this wonder child. The Godol you receive is so contradictory that you dos and with the right hashkofos; when said: “Wonder’ shmonder. Tell the child’s feel as if you received no advice at all. we raise them with Torah and Maasim father to stop davening at home and to Tovim. Then we are also preparing them It is important to keep in mind that each daven with a minyan!!” for the Chuppa. 10 CROWN HEIGHTS November 23, 2007 Parshas Vayishlach

peace. If necessary, I will make conces- Vedibarta sions and grant some of your wishes. Arab diplomat comes to Crown However, I want you to know that I Bam lived with Lavan and frequently had to Heights negotiate with him. I was always patient and let him have his way. One hundred By: Rabbi Moshe Bogomilsky times he changed his agreement with ohamed Karmoune, the Moroccan me regarding my salary (31:41), and I consul in New York, visited the always gave in and never argued. But CrownM Heights section of Brooklyn, there was one place where I did not give N.Y., this week to pay his respects to the up one inch: my observance of Torah family of Rabbi Shlomo Matusof, who and mitzvot. “I am therefore informing passed away during the International you that I am easy to deal with, but if Conference of Chabad-Lubavitch Emis- you are expecting me to compromise on saries. In the visit, the diplomat gave ❝ credit to Chabad-Lubavitch as a major I am easy to deal with, but contributor to the country’s educational Canada, told the consul general. “Some Thus shall you say to my lord, to Eisav: system and the maintaining of Jewish of the villages were rundown and had no ‘Thus said your ser vant Yaakov: I have if you are expecting me to life in North Africa. access to them by paved roads. So he used sojourned“ with Lavan.’ ” (32:5) compromise on Torah and to take a donkey and travel from town to “Between my diplomatic missions, I’ve town just to make sure Jewish children QUESTION: Rashi comments: “The mitzvot, then there can be no heard about the Chabad activities in got a proper education.” ❞ correspond (גרתי) ’letters of ‘garti discussion between us. Morocco,” said Karmoune. “I would numerically to 613, that is, ‘with Lavan Torah and mitzvot, then there can be no really like to preserve the connec- Upon hearing this, his brother from but ,(גרתי) the wicked I sojourned discussion between us.” tion, because we all know what great Madison, Wis., Rabbi Yona Matusof, Commandments I (תרי”ג) ”the 613 educational work you’ve done and your added: “I was lately in a visit to Israel observed, and I did not learn from his Rescue contribution to my country.” visiting a former student of father and he“ ”הצילני נא מיד אחי מיד עשו“ evil deeds.’ ” Rashi’s words, “I did not me, I pray, from the hand of my brother, showed me a photo of father riding on a learn from his evil deeds,” are seemingly from the hand of Eisav.” (32:12) donkey during one of these visits.” redundant. If he observed 613 mitzvot, ❝Some of the villages were is it not obvious that Lavan had no influ- QUESTION: Yaakov’s only brother was rundown, so he used to To this, Karmoune responded: “I want ence over him? Eisav; why did he specify “The hand of take a donkey and travel you to know that the Moroccan govern- my brother, the hand of Eisav”? ment sees you not only as an integral ANSWER: Yaakov was not expressing from town to town just to part of our past, but also our present and satisfaction for not learning from Lavan’s ANSWER: Yaakov had two fears; physi- future. You are men of Morocco and part evil deeds. On the contrary, he was make sure Jewish children cal and spiritual. Firstly, if Eisav and his of the Jewish community, which is bear- ex¬pressing his dissatisfaction and frus- got a proper education.❞ army attacked him, he might be overpow- ing the fruit of your father’s activities.” tration. Yaakov sent a message to Eisav: ered and killed. Secondly, if he became “I lived in the home of Lavan for twenty Accompanied by Maurice Perez, vice friendly with him, Eisav would be a bad The consul general spoke to Matusof’s years, during which I observed how president of the Moroccan Netivot Yis- influence on Yaakov’s family. Therefore, widow, Pessia Matusof about her part- enthusiastically he performed his sins. rael community in Brooklyn, Karmoune he prayed, “Rescue me from the hand of nership in her husband’s efforts. They Though I fulfilled 613 mitzvot, I did not praised the late Matusof, who died at my brother,” that he should not harm even reviewed some historic photos of apply his level of excitement to my Torah the age of 91 after decades spent as a them spiritually, through becoming a community events. and mitzvot.” Yaakov Lubavitch emissary to Morocco. “brother” and good humbly said: “If only I friend of the family. Despite Matusof’s warm relationship would have performed Matusof, a Russian native, was dis- Also, he prayed that with Morocco’s royal family, particularly mitzvot with the excite- patched to Morocco in 1950 by the the vicious “hand” the late King Hassan II, they had dif- ment and vigor with Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem of Eisav should not ficulty finding a photo of the two men which he performed Mendel Schneerson, of righteous mem- attack and, G d for- together. his sins!” ory, to shepherd the Jewish community bid, physically harm in North Africa. He arrived one year later the family. “Rabbi Shlomo was a simple man,” The Chiddushei HaRim and eagerly established a vast network of explained Rabbi Lazer Avtzon, a nephew (first Rebbe of Ger) once said concerning yeshivas that counted some 70 branches, The Gemara (Berachot 30b) says that who spent two years in Morocco. “He missionaries: “If we were to work for the many in remote villages. when one is in the midst of prayer, even acted like a soldier of the Rebbe. He had emet (spreading Torah and Yiddishkeit) if the king greets him and inquires about a mission and he stuck to it. All his life with an emet (sincerity), like they work “I heard that our father used to often his wellbeing or even if a snake is wound he escaped honor and fame, so we don’t for the sheker (falsehood) with an emet, travel to the various yeshivas,” Rabbi round his heel, he should not interrupt have many photos of him.” we would experience immense success.” Menachem Matusof, executive direc- his prayers. In view of the abovemen- (tor of Chabad-Lubavitch of Alberta, (Courtesy of Chabad.org (הרב מאיר ז”ל שאפירא מלובלין) tioned, this halachah can be explained metaphorically. Throughout the long galut (exile), the Jewish people are לעשו כה אמר עבדך יעקב עם לבן גרתי“ confronted with basically two types of Thus shall you say“ ”כה תאמרון לאדני experiences: Sometimes we experience a to my lord, to Eisav: ‘Thus said your seemingly benevolent government which servant Yaakov: I have sojourned with expresses interest in our welfare and Lavan.’ ” (32:5) grants us equal rights. In other instances, governments encircle the Jewish people QUESTION: Yaakov sent a message to like a snake. We are oppressed, herded Eisav that even though he dwelled with into ghettos, and suffer from the many the wicked Lavan, he observed the 613 restrictions placed upon us. Our wise mitzvot (Rashi). Why did Yaakov think sages are teaching us that, regardless that his observance of Torah and mitzvot how the situation appears, we should would make an impression on Eisav? not disrupt our prayers. At all times we must continue to pray to Hashem that ANSWER: Usually, when two sides He liberate us from galut immediately. are trying to reach an agreement it is אבי הרב שמואל פסח ז”ל באגאמילסקי) necessary for each one to yield a little. (מצאתי בכתבי Yaakov’s message to Eisav was, “I am From R to L: Morris Peretz, Maroccan Consul, Rabbi Lezer Avtzon and long time shlucha, eager to negotiate with you and to make Mrs Pessia Matusof, this week in Crown Heights. Photo Credit: Eli Kahn November 23, 2007crOWN heights 11

Perspectives

By Sarah Balkany What if we do not possess the skills and be one who knows how to dig for pearls at the door of a busy young mother or talents needed to reveal the treasures or polish gems, but works at baking elderly neighbor. Offer to run an errand ife is short. Life beckons with oppor- that lie buried within? What if there are bread. Though baking bread is a most while doing yours. If you can’t leave your tunities. Life demands more from no treasures to be found? Perhaps we necessary craft and occupation, this house, welcome others to your home or us.L More effort! stand to lose more than we are capable person is considered to have committed daven privately for their welfare. The of gaining. a “sin” (deficiency). key is in the doing. Remember, the word More meaning! More purpose! We may “motion” is in the word “emotion.” The be graced and privileged to be busy with I am reminded of a powerful mes- There are two approaches to any goal, Rambam’s teaching that every action can many good deeds, yet our inner stirrings sage that my father, sheyichye, tried to a direct one and an indirect one. Life tip the scales for good helps us cherish refuse to be stilled. We feel the tugging impress upon me years ago. A simple six experience has proven many a time that the Mitzvos and their essential value from the very core of our being. Why? cylinder car can ride smoothly with six the indirect one often has greater success and power. Where is the satisfaction that is supposed cylinders, but an eight cylinder car won’t with fewer pitfalls. One can be busy with to accompany achievement? Where is function with only six cylinders. In other self-development, yet no matter how What is creativity? The ability to see the inner calm we thought to be gained words, if we are capable of more, more is developed and refined, one is left with the extraordinary in the ordinary. A when weobtained that which we pur- expected of us. The emptiness we try to a “self,” an impediment to true Avodas new “birth” takes place each time sued? Why do we still feel lack and want dismiss and ignore can be an indication Hashem. we view something with a different despite all the altruistic activities? that there is much more within that is perspective. A change in light, place, not expressed without. Consider an alternative way: Instead and time casts new dimensions, not We, the children of Hashem are called of asking ourselves, “What can I do?” only in photographs, but in real people “Eretz Chafetz”. We are like the desired Many people approach the path of self- ( be it with a capital I or little I, its still and real life situations. They mold and land filled with treasures waiting to be realization with great focus, reflection an I)--Ask yourself what has to be done shape us to a point we don’t recognize unearthed. Within us is a G-dly soul, and activity on their talents, interests to correct the situation and plunge in to ourselves. We are the light! “Neiros literally part of Hashem--“Chelek and concerns. One should definitely make it happen? Commit yourself, rally L’hair.” The time is now! The place is Eloka Mimal Mamosh”--the boundless, “unwrap” the gifts that Hakodesh Boruch your friends. Together, not only will you here! We can, and we must illuminate limitless part of ourselves that seeks to Hu has graciously given us. We are have made an amazing difference, you the world. Moreover, when we kindle be connected to the source. Its call must certainly responsible to develop that will have summoned deep strengths ourselves and ignite others, we realize be answered. which we were privileged to receive and and abilities that you never were aware our mission and hasten the revelation of are accountable for all our talents and of. Continue despite the challenges and Moshiach now! With the lights turned The mystery of life can be an adventure, resources. When we recite the “Shema” before long you will be living in a flow of on, the darkness will give way to the an expansive experience that we should twice each day we affirm our resolve to wonder and surprise. You will be totally pervading truth inherent in the world be eager to start. Yet we hesitate. We are commit everything we possess to Avodas animated because every facet of your –“HASHEM HU HA’ELOKIM.” We not sure where to begin, which direction Hashem “B’chol M’odecha.” It is written being is engaged in a greater need. 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