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Santa Clara County BDSM Scene Web Sites: (Details of All Events Can Be Found on One Or Both of These Sites) • – Bay Area BDSM Event Calendar Santa Clara County BDSM Scene Web sites: (details of all events can be found on one or both of these sites) • www.erobay.com – Bay Area BDSM Event Calendar. • www.fetlife.com – Facebook for kinky people. 408/669 Area Code – Fetlife group for South Bay specific information. • www.smodyssey.com/resources - These pages and more! Local Organizations: • SCCLA (Santa Clara County Leather Association) - sccleather.org - San Jose • smOdyssey – smodyssey.com – San Jose • MAsT (Masters and slaves Together) Santa Clara County - https://fetlife.com/groups/1174 - San Jose • South Bay TNG (The Next Generation) [18-35] – https://fetlife.com/groups/1079 – San Jose Munches/Socials: • Every Wednesday - “Palo Alto” Munch - www.themunch.org – Denny’s downtown Sunnyvale • Every Thursday – Renegades Wet Munch (no food, 21+, newbie social 1st Thursday) – San Jose • Every Friday – The Friday Night Munch – Denny’s El Camino Real at Lawrence Expressway – Santa Clara • 1st Sunday – Provert’s Munch – Denny’s North 1st St, San Jose • 1st and 3rd Sunday – South Bay TNG Caffeine Munch [18-35] – San Jose • 1st Monday – smOdyssey Munch – Denny’s North 1st St, San Jose • 1st Tuesday – Suits, Heals and Scotch – San Jose • 1st Friday – SCCLA Bar Schmooze – Renegades, San Jose • 2nd Tuesday – South Bay Munch – Holder’s Country Inn, Cupertino • 3rd Sunday – Mos Eisley Brunch (Star Wars theme) – 7 Stars Bar and Grill, San Jose • 3rd Monday – Stampede Animal Role Play Munch – Santa Clara • 3rd Saturday – BBW and Their Admirers – Milpitas • 4th Tuesday – Cigar and Boots Social – Renegades, San Jose • 5th Monday – Silicon Valley FemDom/masculine sub Munch – San Jose Discussion Groups: • 1st Sunday – MasT SCC open meeting – Holder’s Country Inn, Cupertino • 2nd Sunday – smOdyssey Cover to Cover – a Literary Discussion Group – Denny’s North 1st St, San Jose • 2nd Sunday – smOdyssey D/s Discussion Group – Denny’s North 1st St, San Jose Classes/Practice Groups: • Last Thursday – smOdyssey Education Series – San Jose Annual Events: • April - IMsL (International Ms Leather) – www.imsl.org – San Jose • November – Dark Odyssey: Surrender – darkodyssey.com – San Jose Send additions corrections to SteveV on Fetlife Revised 2/9/2020 Greater Bay Area BDSM Scene (Outside Santa Clara County) Web sites: (details of all events can be found on one or both of these sites) • www.erobay.com – Bay Area BDSM Event Calendar. • www.fetlife.com – Facebook for kinky people. 408/669 Area Code – Fetlife group for South Bay specific information. Organizations: • Society of Janus – www.soj.org - San Francisco • Exiles (Women only) – www.theexiles.org – San Francisco • Alameda County Leather Corps – www.aclcweb.org - Hayward • SFGoL (San Francisco Girls of Leather) – sfgol.org – San Francisco • The 15 Association - the15association.org - San Francisco • Santa Cruz Kink on the Beach - https://fetlife.com/groups/4724 - Santa Cruz • Queer Sphere – queersphere.net – San Jose, Oakland Local Dungeons: • Power Exchange (sex club w/dungeon) – powerexchange.com – San Francisco • SF Citadel – sfcitadel.com – San Francisco • Black Thorn - - Oakland • Catalyst (formerly Alchemy) –- San Francisco Community Hangouts: • Wicked Grounds (kink friendly cafe) – wickedgrounds.com – San Francisco Wicked Grounds hosts many events not mentioned on this page – check out their calendar! Munches/Socials: (There are far too many to fit them all here! See the Erobay calendar!) • Every Wednesday – Bondage A Go Go - bondage-a-go-go.com - San Francisco • 1st Monday – Greeters Munch – Santa Cruz • 1st Saturday – SF Citadel Newbies Munch -San Francisco • 2nd Monday – Berkeley Munch – Berkeley • 2nd Tuesday – Stampede Munch – San Francisco • 2nd Thursday – Monterey Peninsula Munch - Monterey • 2nd Friday – Queer Sphere East Bay Happy Hour - Oakland • 2nd Saturday – Society of Janus Munch – San Francisco • 3rd Tuesday – SFGoL Munch – San Francisco • 3rd Tuesday – Moss Landing Munch – Moss Landing • 3rd Tuesday – Peninsula Happy Hour – Redwood City • Last Tuesday – Concord Munch -Concord Discussion Groups: • 3rd Monday – SF D/s Discussion Group - https://fetlife.com/groups/109300 - San Francisco • 4th Wednesday - Leatherman’s Discussion Group – www.sfldg.org – San Fransisco Classes/Practice Groups: • 1st Monday – Peer Rope Workshop – San Francisco • 2nd and 4th Sunday - Grizzly’s Bullwhips by the Bay (sfwhips.com) – San Fransciso Annual Events: • 2nd Saturday, April, August, December – SM Flea Market – SF Citadel, San Francisco • May – Northwest Leather Celebration – northwestleathercelebration.com - Sacramento • July – Up Your Alley – folsomstreetevents.com – San Francisco • September – Folsom Street Fair – folsomstreetevents.com – San Francisco Send additions corrections to SteveV on Fetlife Revised 2/9/2020 .
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